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Some Geek Guides for Dating
An anonymous reader sends in this: "In honor of upcoming V-day, here are some geek guides for help in finding your geeky match: Guy's Guide to Geek Girls,
Girl's Guide to Geek Guys, advice from a she-geek, Engineer Your Love Life and Bart's Dating Guide for Geeks.
And for those of you who are absolutely hopeless, well, there is always Coincidence Designs... It's not too late, so good luck!" Another reader has some good news: "An article in Discover magazine reports on research done by scientists at the University of Toronto about how males attract mates. The cited article claims that when males are young, the show offs are actually the ones who are least likely to succeed later on. This causes a "revenge of the nerds effect:" the football players burn out but the nerds become sexy!" And if all else fails, you can try a Valentine's Day Form Letter.
Google and review sites are ll that I need to direct me towards my true love...
PC Hardware
:)~
Here's another article in honor of Valentine's Day - A guide on how to get your Valentine hooked on gaming!
http://www.gametab.com/features/valentines.1/
oh, wait, that's the other holiday.
A feeling of having made the same mistake before: Deja Foobar
Get yourself a subscription to The Spice Channel and a 12 pack. It's about as close as you need to get. I know what I'm talking about here, I'm married and it's Valentine's Day and I'm going to go broke before the day is over.
Just wait for Arbor Day, and "the Geeks Guide to Getting Some Fresh Air."
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I'm having a hard time imagining a worse article
What about tomorrows duplicate of it?
Maybe it was Slashdotted by all the girls out there trying to figure out how to snag that geek in their life ...
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Back to dreaming
>Google cache of the Girl's Guide to Geek guys
Yeah, like a girl's guide to geek guys is going to get slashdotted.
http://www.neystadt.org/john/humor/Girls-Guide-To- Geek-Guys.htm"
I am so creative, look at my cry for attention in my sig.
And for those of you who are absolutely hopeless, well, there is always Coincidence Designs...
I've already gotten 12 emails from gals today who want to meet me at their website and make hot love to me! I don't need any guides to dating...I'm a chic magnet!
Roses are red
Violets are blue
All my base
Are belong to you.
__________
[Big Brick Wall]
REMEMBER THEIR NAME.
Comment forecast: Bits of genius surrounded by a sea of mediocrity.
Bah, humbug. You lot can go on with your foolish optimism, your hopeful enthusiasm, and your boundless love... I have BETTER things to do this Valentine's Day! Like:
- Trying not to weep openly in public
- Trying not to think about all the great sex my ex-girlfriends must be having right now
- Stockpiling cheap hooch, 'cause once you get started, it can be tough to find the booze store when you need more
- Finding a comfortable, out-of-the-way gutter
- Maybe looking into that heroin addiction idea I've been kicking around
- Harshly silencing those dopey "friends" who always want to "help," as if I have some kind of "problem"
- Pondering a little private self-love, if you know what I mean, but realizing my self-loathing will just shoot me down, anyway
Yes, that's the glorious Valentine's Day I've got planned so far... anyone else have ideas?
So if i meet a nice girl, and Im a little shy i leave her flowers with a note. but do i sign the note 'your secret admirer' or 'an anonymous coward'?
R = P / M
where R is the romantic level, P is price, and M is mass. This seems to work in some cases: when flowers are the same mass, the ones that cost more are more romantic. Ditto for wine. Diamonds are light and pricey, and thus even more romantic than flowers. However, RAM, no matter what the bus speed, has not been found to be romantic. This has led some to propose the formula:
R = P / (M * U)
where U is utility - thus, the more useful it is, the less romantic it is. Mathemeticians are still applying this formula in the field, looking for counter-examples and debating the consequences.
These are the two very different goals that guys have when meeting women. Many (most?) "geek" guys are more interested in having a relationship. A good one may include the other part anyway. ;-) Most "normal" guys are more interested in getting laid, with as many women as possible. In most cases, these two goals are mutually exclusive. So, you face a choice.
If you want to get laid as much as possible, follow the advice of the Tom Leykis radio show. Be a jerk. Don't call her back. Tell her you'll call on Monday, then don't call til Thursday. Don't spend money on her -- make her pay (say you forgot your wallet, etc). Don't be available when she wants to go out, make her think you have more important things (or women) to do than her. For the type of woman who will screw anything that moves, this will only make her want you more. Go out on a Sunday, Monday, Tuesday. Don't go out on Friday or Saturday unless it's a guaranteed lay - remember you want her thinking you're doing something even more fun without her.
This stuff works, as long as you're willing to do hot chicks who've done dozens (if not hundreds) of other guys before you. A great little trick they've been talking about on the show lately is to make up fake ATM receipts with large account balances. This should be easy for the geeks - just scan your receipt, edit in gimp to give yourself a 6 figure balance, and print. Crumple it up a little to make it nice and believable. Then talk to some hot chick, tell her you have to go to some important meeting but give her your phone number and write it on that ATM receipt. She will call and you will get laid.
Now, let's face it. Many of us geeks are nice guys and just don't have the balls to do stuff like the above. We don't get laid by chicks like that - not because of our looks, but because we treat them nicely (oh, he's so nice -- and boring!!). But for many of us (myself included), that's ok - we'd rather run nothing but Windows 2.0 than have anything to do with those brainless dopey chicks who put out on command. I mean, come on -- ewww! Do you know what (or how many different... 'things') have been in that? No thank you! Have some self respect, lady!
For those of us in this group, we want a real relationship, with a lady who has a brain. I'm proud to say that I found one, without being a jerk, and ended up marrying her. I'm totally shy and awkward, with no confidence in social situations. So what worked? Personals.
Many people still look at personal ads with a stigma -- "Oh, he couldn't get a date so he had to resort to THAT! What a loser!" But screw them. It's practically the perfect way to find the right person, not just someone who's ok. Find out about the other person before wasting time or investing a lot of emotion into it. Search, wait, and hold out for that perfect gal (or guy).
Personally, I used Yahoo! Personals, about 4 years ago, back when it was still free. I responded to about 2 ads a week - some went as far as phone calls, some even went to a dinner date after several emails and phone calls. None went farther because none of these women felt "right." I never felt totally comfortable. That's ok, though. Nobody needs to be in a rush for this stuff!
Finally I posted my own ad and got 2 responses. One was thousands of miles away looking for a penpal. Ok, whatever. The other started emailing back and forth and then we started calling each other. The first night we talked for 4 hours on the phone. I never do that, much less with someone I've only emailed for a week. Needless to say, it was a sign that she was "the one." I felt totally comfortable on our first date (SW Episode 1 -- the movie sucked but the date rocked!). We just belonged together. 3 years later we were married.
So, you see, I am a big proponent of personals if you want to find that special someone. It worked beautifully for me, though that's no guarantee for anyone else. Relationships are a lot of work, no doubt about that - but what you get out of it is much more than you put in (and much more satisfying on all levels than the guys above who are just getting laid with a bunch of skanks -- but hey, if that's your thing, great! Have fun!).
Unfortunately most of the sites now require payment. That sucks but totally understandable. I don't know if I would have met my wife if one (or both) of us had had to pay. There's no guarantee that you'll get anything out of any one ad, so it's a crapshoot, with pretty poor odds. For geeks, though, I can recommend Peer2Peer which is made only for geeks. I believe it's still free, but it's been some time since I looked at it.
Anyway, good luck, be smart, and have fun -- whether you choose option #1 or #2, they're both ok as long as it's right for you!
2.Dinner & drinks
3.Entertainment (club, movie)
4.Foreplay
5.Sex
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> If you get past 5, and she makes you breakfast in the morning, you've found the perfect woman.
But you haven't truly won unless you get 6) ...profit!!!
Also, it means you have to actually be prepared to go and talk to women you've never met, out of the blue. That scares a lot of men off.
If you want a long, drawn-out romantic relationship with a women where you might get a whiff of her snatch after 6 months of present-buying and supplication, or you want to stand about and hope a woman seduces you every few years or so (i.e. you get 'lucky' ever so often), or you want to die a sad loser who was too scared to take control of his own life, then there's nothing for you here.
However, if you want to turn yourself from a shag-less loser into someone who can shag any woman, anywhere. (And before someone comes in to say that you'll only be able to get sluts, that's bullshit. Any woman can be seduced by these methods, intelligent, decent, attractive women. All women like sex, all women like being seduced.)
If you're a complete seduction newbie, I'd recomment reading this: http://fastseduction.com/guide/. It tells you the basics of getting laid, including the following main ideas:
Of course, most of this is just basic common sense and psychology, but this site puts it into words. The hardest parts are a) Having the balls, b) Shattering your illusions.
So instead of sitting behind your computer whining on a Friday night, go out. Approach a hundred women, get rejected a hundred times, and enjoy it. Go back and do it the next night. Don't be the loser who stands in the corner all shy, hoping a woman will come to him. Be the man who goes and talks to the women, who seduces them. Be the man who has whichever women he wants lying naked on his bed. It's not too late, you CAN change. Do it.