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Don't Dismiss Online Relationships As Fantasy

Columnist Regina Lynn has a look at how online relationships seem to be blurring the lines between fantasy and reality. "The common thread among these stories is that people get deeply involved in online relationships and make decisions about their real lives. Calling any of these online relationships 'fantasy' dismisses the impact they have on the people involved and on those closest to them... I have yet to encounter anything that challenges my core belief: Relationships are real wherever they form."

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  1. All relationships are a fantasy by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Funny

    I'm a nerd, remember?

    1. Re:All relationships are a fantasy by antek9 · · Score: 4, Funny

      I think you're absolutely spot on there. I myself have met some outstandingly nice people online, not just nerds and other people trapped in basements, no, real people! Quite some of my acquaintances are actually rather successful businessmen, most of them from Nigeria, who have become real close friends over the course of the last year. Actually, I'm planning to meet some of them next week, for the first time. It's gonna be a blast! They also told me a lot about some exciting business opportunities, which I'm eager to try.

      As you can see, the Internets (yes! all of them) are not for losers only any longer. Friendship is possible!

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      Infinity in the Palm of your Hand / And Eternity in an Hour.
    2. Re:All relationships are a fantasy by Mister+Whirly · · Score: 2, Funny

      "What about intimacy through roleplay, which ends up developing into an amazing physical experience when you finally meet the person?"

      What about the perceived intimacy, that is completely voided when meeting in person and the hot 20 year old girl turns out to be a fat, ugly 40 year old man??

      The internet - where men are men, women are men, and children are undercover FBI agents.

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      "But this one goes to 11!"
  2. Who says online relationships are not real? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Funny

    They are real alright. People just get mocked for trusting someone whom they have never seen, smelled or heard, who has only given them words. Lip-service isn't what you want to go for in a relation.

    1. Re:Who says online relationships are not real? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Funny

      Lip-service isn't what you want to go for in a relation.

      True, I prefer the whole mouth.

    2. Re:Who says online relationships are not real? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Funny

      Oh my, I do have a girlfriend. Never knew I did till now.

  3. reminds me of the time by loafula · · Score: 5, Funny

    i found out my beautiful elf princess was really a 56 year old man

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    1. Re:reminds me of the time by SCHecklerX · · Score: 2, Funny

      And if she was only 13, it was Chris Hansen.

  4. Re:Real? by nacturation · · Score: 3, Funny

    But meeting the person in real life can be a disaster. "I don't care if you have a speech impediment. There's no way Bubba can be mispronounced as Betty."
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  5. Real? - of course by The+-e**(i*pi) · · Score: 4, Funny

    I have had many meaningful conversations with my best online buddy Elisa. She wont agree to meet in the real world though.

    1. Re:Real? - of course by UbuntuDupe · · Score: 4, Funny

      How does it feel that she wont agree to meet in the real world though?

    2. Re:Real? - of course by jollyreaper · · Score: 2, Funny

      I have had many meaningful conversations with my best online buddy Elisa. She wont agree to meet in the real world though. What?! That two-timing bitch!
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    3. Re:Real? - of course by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Funny

      We were discussing you, not me.

  6. Re:Happily Everquest After by daeg · · Score: 2, Funny

    If only honorable knights could show up at every wedding and slay half the family. It'd be a quick, guilt-free way to get rid of that pesky Mother-in-Law that seriously won't stop coming by unannounced ten times a week who manages to break in through your locks despite them being changed and having a deadbolt added and calling your significant other 15 times a day to make sure you're not beating them and are providing enough food and making sure you really do plan to buy a house despite you being in college only to have her chase you down cursing you with things you didn't know full blooded Native Americans still believed in when you decide the relationship just isn't like it used to be.

    What.. me? Bitter? Oh no. Not at all.

  7. It's posts like this by Toreo+asesino · · Score: 2, Funny

    ...that makes you wish /. had "+1 OMG Say it's not so" moderation points.

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  8. It's okay, nothing wierd going on.. by e2d2 · · Score: 3, Funny

    That's what I tell myself when I catch two elves in the basement of Goldshire Inn behind the Kegs, coming out smoking long bottom leaf with a creepy smiles on their blushed faces.

    EVERYTHING OKAY. Proceed with life

  9. Re:Real? by Lord+Apathy · · Score: 4, Funny

    The last online GF I tried to meet offline turned out to be a cop in drag.

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    Supporting World Peace Through Nuclear Pacification

  10. Re:Friendship can be real. by Cro+Magnon · · Score: 2, Funny

    True. Very few game-characters snore.

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  11. I had a similar problem by Mothra+the+III · · Score: 5, Funny

    I had been getting computer advise from someone who I thought was a fat, balding, middle-aged dude working from his moms basement, wearing a Yoda t-shirt and eating hot pockets. It turns out this person was really a ho, horny supermodel who was cruising the internet to find victims to satisfy her lusts and to spend her millions of dollars. You never get over that kind of betrayal

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  12. Re:uh, what is everquest? by morari · · Score: 2, Funny

    so the guy made a bloody raiding party on a wedding. in reality, that's front page horrible news. in everquest, it seems to me to be par for the course I don't know, I think it'd still be pretty funny, even in reality. C'mon, a tribe of barbarians and warlocks and what-not sack an unsuspecting wedding? Hilarious!
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    "He who can destroy a thing, controls a thing." --Paul Atreides, Dune
  13. Re:Let me sum it up what it did mean by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Funny

    What do you mean? He WAS the bride..

  14. You're lucky! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Funny

    Mine turned out to be Chris Hansen and he told me to "have a seat over there..." :(

  15. I disagree completely! by corifornia · · Score: 2, Funny

    I had a really close friend I made on Ultima online. He was pretty cool, I talked to him on IRC all the time, we quested together . . . but then he showed up in game with a bugged +100HP helmet, so I killed him and took it. Then I put on all his gear and killed him again when he resurrected. Needless to say, our 'relationship' ended. I dont think I would have done that to a real friend... hmm...

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  16. Note to mods: by raehl · · Score: 4, Funny

    That's +1 Informative

  17. ELIZA by RoaldFalcon · · Score: 3, Funny

    I used to chat online with someone named ELIZA. She was always very attentive to everything I said. She wanted to know everything about me and my parents. You can't tell me that wasn't real!

  18. Re:living in the real world by InvisibleSoul · · Score: 2, Funny

    There's a simple test for that. Ask the lady to describe herself. If she says: "Well, I have big tits!" it's a dude.


    What's more troubling is if you ask a gentleman to describe himself, and he says: "Well, I have big tits!"