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US Youth Have Serious Mental Health Issues

Ant writes "Google News carries a Canadian Press report that 'a new study has found that five times as many high school and college students in the United States are dealing with anxiety and other mental health issues than youth of the same age who were studied in the Great Depression era. ... Pulling together the data for the study was no small task. Led by [San Diego State University psychology professor Jean Twenge], researchers at five universities analyzed the responses of 77,576 high school or college students who, from 1938 through 2007, took the Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory, or MMPI. The results will be published in a future issue of the Clinical Psychology Review. Overall, an average of five times as many students in 2007 surpassed thresholds in one or more mental health categories, compared with those who did so in 1938. A few individual categories increased at an even greater rate — with six times as many scoring high in two areas: 'hypomania,' a measure of anxiety and unrealistic optimism (from 5 per cent of students in 1938 to 31 per cent in 2007), and depression (from 1 per cent to 6 per cent).'"

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  1. In the words of the great Ken Titus... by elrous0 · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Stop being a bunch of wussies!

    Seriously, kids today have to wear helmets just to ride a bike, have some pediatrician putting them on powerful Autism medication if they don't start talking at just the right time, are diagnosed with Asperger's the second they show the least bit of shyness, are taught by teachers who scream "AHDHD--Drug him up!" the first time they act out in class, and come home to parents who think that a child molester is hanging out on ever street corner just waiting to kidnap their kid. *They're* not the ones who are screwed up, it's the adults around them that are screwed up.

    JUST LET THEM BE KIDS, for Christ sake! Stop acting like there is something wrong with them because they're not perfect, or act differently than you expect, or make stupid mistakes. That's what makes them kids. Stop cocooning them like they're delicate eggs who will crack at the slightest risk or challenge. And, above all, stop drugging them up. A kid shouldn't be taking medication for anything less than a serious physical problem. You don't give a kid powerful psychotropic drugs just because they're rebellious or shy. They'll have plenty of time to dope themselves into a stupor and cry at a psychologist's office when they're adults.

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    1. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Profane+MuthaFucka · · Score: 2, Insightful

      That's what I said when the doctor said my boy had cancer! Stop coddling him, or he's going to grow up soft and spoiled. What if he were grown up and had cancer? He's going to have a family to feed, and trust me, they need to eat. They won't take an excuse like "I've got cancer and that's why I can't work" when they need their dinner on the table and a roof over their head.

      Kids seriously need to man up these days.

      Alrighty, enough sarcasm. Why is it that there's always at least one guy in every crowd without any empathy, but with plenty of (wrong) answers?

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    2. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by elrous0 · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Drugging your kid up and treating him like a piece of delicate porcelain isn't empathy--it's just shitty parenting.

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    3. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by jez9999 · · Score: 2, Funny

      You don't give a kid powerful psychotropic drugs just because they're rebellious or shy.

      Perhaps that's part of the problem. More LSD!!

    4. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by jgtg32a · · Score: 3, Informative

      This
       
      But I'll take it one step further, and then these kids hit college and are out on their own and they don't have anyone to fall back on for support. That's when the problems start to set in.

    5. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by fredma123 · · Score: 5, Insightful

      I agree. If Parents would just stop worrying and let us make mistakes, things would be a lot better for us. We learn by making mistakes, not by parents trying to prevent every little thing from happening. It's a bit cold outside. So what? I'm not going to die.

    6. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Vanderhoth · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Maybe you should have read his post a little closer. Personally I'd consider Cancer a Major Physical condition and I agree with the OP that kids are way over medicated. Beyond that "kids today" are way to well informed, constantly being bombarded with school shootings, people being blown up and all the craziness in the world. IMHO the OP is also correct that too many parents are over protective and won't allow their children to have the opportunity to make mistakes that could lead to physical harm, which teaches them valuable lessons about life and acceptable social behaviors. I remember being seriously hurt falling out of a tree when I was young, I learned a valuable lesson pain hurts and it, along with things that cause it, should be avoided.

      I also have several friends who have kids where each kid is diagnosed with some kind of mental disability or disorder. The one that makes me laugh the most is a little girl that's "shy" and was diagnosed as Autistic. She was on medication for it and after two years a psychiatrist told her parents the medication was effective and there daughter was becoming much more "normal" in her development later her parents found out that out she had been spitting the pills out, throwing them away and hiding them in a compartment of her jewelry box.

    7. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Ah, the obligatory, "I see things in black and white AC". They're popular in Slashdot.

      I don't think the OP was saying ADHD doesn't exist. He was referring to the massive amount of misdiagnosed children on medication in this world. I'm my experience, most children on ADHD medication don't need the medication, they are acting out for other reasons that the parent don't want to deal with.

    8. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by lxs · · Score: 5, Insightful

      ADHD is aneurodevelopmental disorder.

      Yes it is. It is also very rare and extremely overdiagnosed. As is the case with Aspergers and clinical depression, this trivializes the condition and ultimately hurts those who do have a real problem.

    9. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by KalAl · · Score: 3, Insightful
      elrous0:

      A kid shouldn't be taking medication for anything less than a serious physical problem.

      Profane MuthaFucka:

      That's what I said when the doctor said my boy had cancer!

      Sounds like a serious physical problem.

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    10. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by dyingtolive · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Damn straight. Save the good psychotropics for the rest of us that actually WANT them.

      Seriously though, the world is much smaller than it used to be. Eighty years ago, you'd have found kids largely unaffected (at least knowledgeably) by corrupt politicians, overbearing advertising, and media scares. Nowadays, with the fear that gets put into kids, it's sort of a wonder they aren't filled with more disorders. "Hey kids, SARS is going to KILL you, and if it doesn't, then Avian flu/mad cow/swine flu/zombie flu will! Better come get our vaccine." "We're going to sell you sex, but then 30 seconds later, you'll see a PSA talking about how if you hold hands with a member of the opposite sex, you'll get AIDS and die. Buy Trojan Condoms!" "This stuff must be making you pretty stressed huh? Stay away from drugs, they'll kill you the first time you use them, 100% guaranteed." The kids aren't even presented with the opportunity to be kids and enjoy being oblivious and immersed in their imaginations where they belong due to the fact that they have to be taught at a young age to treat everything with skepticism based on the fact that absolutely everything and everyone is looking to milk money from them. The youth is the cash cow of the media and industry, and with the ubiquity of tv, radio, and in-store advertising, it's impossible to shield them from it. You can always turn your kid into a shut-in, but that causes just as many issues in other ways. I remember growing up and meeting kids like that who were "released into the wild" at the high school age, and they had the social skills of a pile of bricks. Of course, I also remember riding a bike without a helmet, being a kid, and also later sex, occasional drugs, alcohol, and good times.

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    11. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by JWW · · Score: 4, Informative

      This would have been in the '70s, so I have no clue how common bike helmets were then, but the point still remains.

      No one wore bike helmets in the 70's. In my experience, bike helmets really came into favor in the 90's.

    12. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Z00L00K · · Score: 2, Interesting

      For some reason - even though we live tighter and tighter together in the society of today we also have more pronounced problems with isolation and problems when it comes to mental issues.

      Much of this seems to originate from the scare of child predators and other things. And letting the kids take themselves to school is out of the question due to the car traffic of today.

      This means that even going a block or two is a bad idea for kids today - there may be an accident. There can be kids who don't know crap about the blocks half a mile away from home since to get there they must be driven by car.

      The few lucky kids living in rural parts may still be able to grab a fishing pole and get out of sight for a while. And if they have friends "nearby" they may actually go out and explore their neighborhood and find out what nature has to offer.

      But parents today has to pamper their kids or they will be bad parents. And both parents has to work long hours to keep up the living standard in areas where the cost of living is extreme. So when they are at home the "quality time" is short and intense.

      Add to that the fact that many children's programs on TV contains a lot of violence and action mixed with crap beauty contests and whatever that makes the kids feel like they aren't good enough. And nobody cares until there is a tit flash or other naked skin that's considered indecent - then it's all panic. But ask - how many kids do really care about a naked tit? To kids things that go bang are sexier.

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    13. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Runaway1956 · · Score: 4, Interesting

      You saved me from making this rant. I would have modded you up, but hey, look at your score already!!

      Yeah, if I were drugged up and pressured to conform, I'd probably be fighting several mental illnesses. Of, to put it more simply, I'd be stark raving crazy.

      Ages ago, I came home from the Navy, and visited with one of my old buddy's sisters. She had a kid in preschool already (I was two years older, and not even married yet) and was giving him his dose of Dilantin. I asked why. The answer was "Without it, he just runs and screams all day!" I asked, "Have you forgotten the way your brothers and I ran and screamed from one end of the county to the other? If we weren't audibly raising hell, our parents came looking for us, because they KNEW we were doing something WRONG!"

      Everyone wants a baby, but no one wants a kid these days.

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    14. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by dosius · · Score: 4, Interesting

      Yes it is. It is also very rare and extremely overdiagnosed. As is the case with Aspergers and clinical depression, this trivializes the condition and ultimately hurts those who do have a real problem.

      QFT, as someone who was actually diagnosed with and is a veritable textbook case for Asperger's can attest. Too many people act like jackasses and lean on the crutch "oh, I've got Asperger's", no, you don't have Asperger's disorder, you have Asshole disorder. I have Asperger's, and the few people who know me IRL say I'm a really nice person, just...a bit kooky.

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    15. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by TrisexualPuppy · · Score: 4, Interesting

      They tried to tell me my son needed Ritalin and that he had ADHD because he acted up in class and wouldn’t pay attention. I took him home, busted his little butt and things were fine from then on.

      This is a pet peeve of mine. While there are kids that really do need help, too often the system just wants to put a label on the kid and shove a pill down his throat instead od dealing with what is really going on. I had a stepson that was on all that ADHD krud. When we got custody the first thing I did was take him to a new doctor and then started disciplining him when he needed it. He was fine and still is. It is so much easier to not have to deal with a situation, lets just make a generation of zombies and forget about them.

    16. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by RetiredMidn · · Score: 2, Informative

      The teachers wanted to drug me up.

      I'd like to know where these teachers are. My wife teaches first grade in a Massachusetts suburb, and, following school policy, none of the teachers in her acquaintance would dream of suggesting a diagnosis, let alone a treatment. If asked by a parent (and she occasionally is), she suggests that the question be directed to her family doctor.

    17. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Runaway1956 · · Score: 3, Informative

      For the record - is ADHD a brand new ailment in the history of mankind? Or, do you think maybe some really famous people had it, and were never diagnosed? I propose that ADHD was common throughout man's history, and that it has served man well. ADHD is not the problem, the problem are the parents and teaches who can't cope with an active child.

      For starters, you might examine the lives of some military heroes. Start with Stephen Decatur. There was an ADHD if ever one existed!

      Why conform, when the conformists are so fucked up?

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    18. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by RockoTDF · · Score: 4, Interesting

      Was this doctor a pediatrician/general practitioner, someone in the education system, or a psychiatrist? I have noticed a trend (albeit anecdotal) of complaints about children on meds being targeted at doctors without proper behavioral/mental health training.

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    19. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by pcolaman · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Agreed. There is being tough and then there is just being stupid. There is a huge difference between "just rub some dirt in it, you'll be fine" and "Oh my god, he split his head open and is going to be fucking jacked up the rest of his life, assuming he lives through the surgeries."

    20. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Nutria · · Score: 4, Funny

      busted his little butt

      You Evil, Evil Man!

      Everyone knows that corporal punishment permanently scars children for life.

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    21. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by RockoTDF · · Score: 2, Informative

      It's called Rugby, dude.

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    22. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by lorenlal · · Score: 4, Funny

      Everyone knows that corporal punishment permanently scars children for life.

      Only if you can get a good crack with the belt.

    23. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by V50 · · Score: 5, Interesting

      Are you one of those people who refuse to wear a seatbelt?

    24. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by dougisfunny · · Score: 5, Funny

      Why conform, when the conformists are so fucked up?

      Because everyone else is doing it. Duh.

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    25. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Hijacked+Public · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Do you honestly think the extremely minor inconvenience of wearing a helmet outweighs the significantly reduced chance of serious injury, brain damage and death?

      Yes.

      Sort of anyway. The problem is that often, and maybe even in the case of bicycle helmets, the actual dangers are grossly overblown. You have people thinking that peddling a few meters on a bike without a helmet is some huge risk when, statistically, it isn't. Here is Marco Pantani in the Tour in 2002, no helmet. I'm guessing he is well aware of the risk.

      Everywhere you look there are similar fractions of a percent chance of getting hurt that you'll need to guard against. So the bike helmet, in this instance, is just a convenient scapegoat.

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    26. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Vanderhoth · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Sarcasm aside, the world has always been a crazy place, and to say that kids today have to deal with terrorism and all that is really no different from past generations.

      not really what I'm saying, I wasn't clear. It's not that kids have to deal with craziness past generations didn't have to, it's that they hear more about the craziness and it seems much closer. I remember during 9/11 standing in line at Canadian Tire while the planes were flying into the trade centers. I thought it was a movie trailer until I got home and my neighbor pulled me aside. If that sort of thing had of happened when my Dad was my age he might not have herd of it at all, but I can't say for sure because 1) that was a pretty big event and 2) I didn't grow up in that time. I commonly hear the phase "Are things really getting worse in the world, or do we just hear more about the bad things?"

    27. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by apoc.famine · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Do you honestly think the extremely minor inconvenience of wearing a helmet outweighs the significantly reduced chance of serious injury, brain damage and death?

      Yep. It's totally worth it. Ballpark estimate of the number of bike riders in the US: 80,000,000. Ballpark estimate of the number of serious injuries to bike riders: 30,000. (Both based on some quasi-legitimate internet stats.) That's roughly a 0.04% chance of being hospitalized for a serious injury due to bike riding. That's 4/10,000 riders. 90% of those are hit by cars, as well.
       
      If you can get your kid riding somewhere where they aren't likely to be hit by a car, fuck a helmet. If you're riding on busy streets, wear one. Panicking about a freak accident that happened to the friend of your mother is really a major issue in the US today. Just as important an anecdote, my mother did NOT have a friend who died after riding their bike into a pole.
       
      There are plenty of pretty important things to worry about in the world. If we worry every last unlikely thing, we become neurotic, overprotective, and totally unable to function. That's what the parent poster was saying.
       
      When I rode ATVs and snowmobiles, I wore a helmet. When I rode in cars, I wore a seatbelt. Those are places where you're far, far more likely to get hurt than riding a bike. It's hard (not impossible, but hard) to kill yourself doing 20 mph on a bike. If you're around cars, wear a helmet. If you're not, don't. Pick up some scars, get some stitches, cry washing gravel out of road rash, and live life.
       
      You're far more likely to come out of that emotionally healthy than if you are treated like a precious china cup all your life. If that's how you grow up, at the first nick or crack, you're broken.

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    28. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Obel · · Score: 2, Funny

      So if you haven't got aspergers you've got haemmorhoids? Is that what you're saying?

    29. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by ortholattice · · Score: 3, Interesting

      ..teachers who scream "AHDHD--Drug him up!" the first time they act out in class...

      (emphasis mine)

      I see even you have been sucked into the psychobabble. :) When I was a kid it was called "acting up" i.e. misbehaving. Now, its called "acting out", as if any misbehavior at all is caused by deep-rooted emotional problems that are too painful for the child to express directly. So the child "acts them out" indirectly through inappropriate behavior. Often it is accompanied by a subtle suggestion of past abuse or neglect to guilt out the parents.

    30. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by z80kid · · Score: 3, Interesting
      > but that one about the bike helmet just outright seemed silly.

      And hence, you miss the OP's point entirely.

      Each individual restriction has some benefit, and may have even saved some people some misery. And each one may make sense - depending on how much you value freedom vs safety.

      As a kid, I had a pocket knife and a bb gun (later a .22). I worked for local farmers and rode (on the public road) on top of hay wagons and in the backs of pickup trucks. My folks let me wander off some pretty long distances without them. Much of what I did as a kid would not be allowed today for safety reasons. And that has probably saved somebody some grief, or maybe even their life.

      But if I'd grown up in the same situation today, I imagine I'd probably have spent all day with the TV and Playstation. I'd have been safe, but out of my mind with boredom.

    31. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by pitje · · Score: 2, Informative

      ah, Marco Pantani, the now dead cyclist.
      Granted, he didn't die in a cycling accident, but getting your safety advice from what a professional cyclist in a race wears is just plain stupid.

    32. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by TrisexualPuppy · · Score: 5, Insightful

      He saw a children's clinical psychologist, someone trained in these things. She deals with problem children of the worst kind every day, and my stepson was quasi-normal. She came out of the session and said that absolutely nothing was wrong physically with him but that he had too may distractions, e.g. was a spoiled brat.

      What REALLY gets me is that these people think that they can get away with purchasing things to fix the problem when kids require a LOT of TIME and ENERGY. Something that you have to work for. The stepson issue was one of those things that you don't want to come across, but I knew that if I didn't step in, who would? We got him into athletics, and he has a 3.9/4.0 GPA at an esteemed private school now. A little discipline from the sports (in moderation!) along with success in academia and a good social life (youth group and other "real" social life) make quite a good balance for a kid.

    33. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by cynical+kane · · Score: 3, Insightful

      You're comparing a fit, adult professional cyclist to a fragile uncoordinated child? And suggesting they take the same safety measures?

    34. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by RockoTDF · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Another thing about sports is energy. Kids can pay attention if they aren't always full of energy and ready to jump around. I wouldn't be surprised if there was a correlation between schools without recess anymore and ADHD cases.

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    35. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by RockoTDF · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Speaking of diagnoses, the next DSM (handbook of mental disorders used by practitioners) may have Asperger's removed due to overdiagnosis. It is quite controversial in both psychology and psychiatry, because despite being an abused label it still exists. Other posters have mentioned how overdiagnosis hurts them, and this is probably the most shining example. Doctors are now expected to just say "He's different" or "She's full blown autistic", yet they know that Autism is a spectrum and that everyone is on it to some extent

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    36. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by russotto · · Score: 2, Informative

      And keep in mind that university in the USA is far more structured than in other countries. You have far more supervised tutorial time and it's a lot more like high school. Elsewhere, lectures attendance is not enforced, you're expected to be able to motivate yourself to turn up, and if you don't then you either learn by yourself or you fail. They're places where you can acquire an education, not places where lecturers try to spoon feed you with one.

      Eh? I went to a large state university and lecture attendance was not required nor was there much tutorial time. IIRC the only class where attendance mattered were the discussion sessions for a philosophy class, which makes some sense because you were supposed to be learning how to discuss...

    37. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by CapnStank · · Score: 3, Insightful

      I completely agree; how many kids these days can say they have scars from falling off their bike? Know the pain of a leather belt because they stole someone else's toy/candy/dignity?

      I'm the evil old man (well, 22 isn't old) when I tell a kid to learn some manners after he/she just told me to ST*F*U even though their parents are right there and they're like 6 years old. Parents need to take responsibility and learn that a child is a 20+ year commitment and if you're not willing to invest in the first place you should just keep it in your pants.

    38. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by AP31R0N · · Score: 5, Interesting

      Mod parent down for grossly exaggerating. Cases of over diagnosis/treatment are rare in the real world. Any doctor worth a damn will only medicate kids with a real problem. i think you're reacting to something that isn't as real as you think it is. We have a tendency to hear/think about negative things far more than positive. You won't hear about the 10 kids whose lives radically improved after being treated, only about the 1 kid that was misdiagnosed. If that rare misdiagnosis twists your panties you're going to think about it every time the matter appears (and ignore pounds of case files about proper treatment).

      Some kids DO have these conditions. Some kids will cope, others will spend their lives struggling. Our prisons are packed with people who have these conditions and weren't diagnosed or treated. My own life could have been radically different if i had been diagnosed. i went to school under people who "think" like you do. So i was "undisciplined and lazy". With treatment i could have earned the grades to go to college with scholarships instead of doing four years in the USAF followed by borrowing $30K.

      Much of this cavalier attitude you're showing comes from ignorance backed by a religious belief that humans are meat occupied by spirits. That all we do is a matter of choice and will. When the reality is that we're only meat. With the addition or removal of this or that chemical we can make a person more or less violent, attentive, horny or whatever. We can herd the cats in people heads to help them deal with a world that doesn't care if someone keeps changing the channel in their head. Consciousness can only do so much.

      i'd love to be as disciplined and awesome as you are, but my brain works like a radio in scan mode. Ever few seconds the channel changes without any input from me. Without medication sleep i get about 4 hours of sleep per day because the noise will not stop. But the rest of the world is like you, they don't get it, and they don't give a shit. They don't care that i'm reliving conversations from 15 years ago while they are talking to me. All they care about is that i forgot what they said. If only i could be as attentive and perfect as you!

      As for helmets... brain injuries are often permanent and life altering. It is a risk that just isn't worth taking. A helmet is tiny thing to require. Do you wear your seatbelt or are you so tough that you could just walk it off after slamming your head into a windshield at 50 MPH? Wow, you are so cool.

      i will agree with you that some parents are over protective and paranoid with regards to kidnapping and molesters and the like. i was allowed to range far and wide as a kid. i didn't have to go far to encounter a molester, he was right next door which is more typical than the "guy in the van". Kids should be allowed a long enough leash to learn how to handle themselves.

      On the matter of cocooning and protecting them from challenge, i agree. Giving kids challenges and allowing them to make decisions is usually great for their development. As long as some responsible adult is there to make sure it's not TOO stupid.

      The third sentence from the end highlights your ignorance with a search light and flashing neon arrows. You say that they shouldn't be taking medication for anything less than a physical problem. ADD, ADHD, Aspergers and the like ARE PHYSICAL PROBLEMS. Your brain is part of your body. Those conditions are as physical as diabetes.

      The last sentence makes me wonder if you're trolling. It's so unhinged that it seems like satire or concern trolling.

      Become less ignorant:
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    39. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by atomic777 · · Score: 3, Interesting

      If ever there was a post i wish i could mod up...

      I believe we are seeing a large-scale, mental health version of the tragedy of the commons that has gone completely unregulated and will likely end even worse than the unregulated financial mess we're dealing with now. An ever-escalating war for the ever-decreasing attention span our mush-like minds still have left.

      Media and advertising companies have incentives to continue to use ever more intrusive tactics to get access to our minds, and now the analytical tools to optimize those tactics. When I lived in LA, i was amazed that in some areas around hollywood I found it actually dangerous to drive, because every now and then BOOM, there's a 100ft tall poster of basically a naked woman advertising some brand of jeans or whatever. Equally potent for men and women -- the jeans you need to wear if you want the guys to want you, ladies, and to the men, a mental cue: this is what you should want.

    40. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by TheVelvetFlamebait · · Score: 2, Funny

      Yeah. Fucking doctors and scientists brainwashing parents and kids. If they just thought for themselves, I'm sure they could figure out what's happening to their kids better than some overweight ivory tower intellectual with a piece of paper saying he's better than me, and that he gets to call me stupid in front of all my friends, and make that totally cute girl laugh at me. Jerk.

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    41. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by The+Spoonman · · Score: 3, Interesting

      Stop being a bunch of wussies!

      I see someone just finished their copy of How To Win Friends and Influence People.

      Seriously, kids today have to wear helmets just to ride a bike

      Bicycle helmets reduce the severity of head injuries in an accident by 88%, so what's your point?

      have some pediatrician putting them on powerful Autism medication if they don't start talking at just the right time

      My daughter is 20 months old. Her "best friend" is the same age. My daughter has a huge vocabulary already, her friend doesn't speak at all. The friend was taken to her pediatrician, who FIRST tested to make sure she wasn't deaf. She was then sent to a child psychologist to determine her mental facilities. At that point, she was put into a speech therapy program where she has been taught sign language in order to communicate. That, BTW, is the standard protocol used when a child hasn't started speaking at an appropriate time. Is it true that some pediatricians will resort to medicinal treatments first? Sure, but they are the extreme exception not the norm. Your statement is blatent fear-mongering with no factual basis.

      are diagnosed with Asperger's the second they show the least bit of shyness

      Pure bullshit.

      are taught by teachers who scream "AHDHD--Drug him up!" the first time they act out in class

      You must be a farmer, 'cause you're just full of bullshit. First of all, ADHD (you'd think someone who wants to come off as intelligent would have no problem spelling an ACRONYM!) is a very real issue. As someone who has it, my first response to ADHD deniers is to tell you to fuck off. My second is to lambaste you for stupid statements like the above. Teachers have no say in if a child is placed on drugs. Teachers will refer students who are consistently poor performers, not those who simply "act out" once. They're then tested to ensure there are no underlying impediments to learning and if there are, they're treated. I'll break out the important point you're choosing to overlook:

      Medicinal treatments for learning disorders are prescribed so that all children, regardless of ability, are given the chance to learn the same as those who do not have the disability.

      and come home to parents who think that a child molester is hanging out on ever street corner just waiting to kidnap their kid. *They're* not the ones who are screwed up, it's the adults around them that are screwed up.

      On this, we can agree that the chance of a child being kidnapped is less than their chance of being killed in a terrorist attack (which is fairly close to nil itself). That being said, the percentage of parents who spend any real mental effort worrying about such things is even smaller. Yes, as a parent, I've used the resources on the Internet to find out what kinds of sex offenders are close by, but don't check regularly.

      JUST LET THEM BE KIDS, for Christ sake! Stop acting like there is something wrong with them because they're not perfect, or act differently than you expect, or make stupid mistakes.

      The problem, dear dimwit, is that you have made up a world in which all parents spend all of their time doting on their children and completely missed the point of the article that these same children ARE dealing with significant issues. Your desire to simply ignore the problem in the hopes it will go away is the ignorant position.

      BTW, forgot to ask the obvious question: how many kids do you have? I have a feeling it won't be a positive number. People will inane opinions like yours never have kids.

      A kid shouldn't be taking medication for anything less than a serious physical problem.

      Because of ignorant dimwits like you spreading bullshit like this, the kids in the article are suffering with issues that can easily be treated both by talk therapy and medicine. Your whole point is "parents are ignorant and don't know how to raise their kids", but really it's you who has absolutely no idea what they're talking about.

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    42. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by The+Spoonman · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Fantastic, your stepson had been misdiagnosed by the first doctor and didn't have ADHD. That doesn't mean the disorder doesn't exist and that some children need to be treated medically for it. As someone who has it, I can tell you first hand that all of the "discipline", "sports" and "activities" do nothing to treat kids who really do have ADHD.

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    43. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Stop the stimulants, clean up your diet, go out and exercise.
      Problem solved.
      ADHD is something Big Pharma made up to sell drugs.

    44. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by xandroid · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Also, the roads on the Tour are closed. I wear a helmet when I ride my bicycle because I don't trust the moron drivers of America to not hit me with their vehicles.

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    45. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Reziac · · Score: 2, Interesting

      This reminds me of a study a while back that concluded that kids actually do NOT get a "sugar high". And on thinking about that...

      Adults eat 3 times a day. But that's not often enough for kids. By the time the next meal rolls around they've run out of fuel and are dragging. Give 'em sugar and that fuel is replenished (remember, everything in your body ultimately runs on sugar), and they rebound to the merely NORMAL kid energy level, which is a LOT more than most modern adults think. (At least, now that we're all supposed to be full-time couch potatoes and never go outdoors.)

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    46. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Xabraxas · · Score: 2, Insightful

      They tried to tell me my son needed Ritalin and that he had ADHD because he acted up in class and wouldn't pay attention. I took him home, busted his little butt and things were fine from then on.

      So you traded medication for physical abuse? It may work well while he is a child but he's probably going to need those meds when he's older now.

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    47. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Xabraxas · · Score: 3, Insightful

      If so, I gotta disagree, in fact I think many of the discipline problems we see today in kids is because we've "spared the rod" so to speak.

      As someone who grew up in a time when it was ok to be hit as a child I gotta disagree with you. Of everyone I grew up with the most stable and well adjusted of my friends were the ones who were not hit as children. I would have agreed with you when I was an adolescent because I was hit when I was a child and I thought I was fine for the longest time. As it turns out childhood abuse and neglect can rear its head much later in life. My personal opinion now is that if you have to hit a child to discipline them then you lack real parenting and problem solving skills. Resorting to violence is just a symptom of these deficiencies.

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    48. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by shutdown+-p+now · · Score: 3, Informative

      Yet for some odd reason we rode our bikes and are still alive.

      Not all of you; only those who lived to brag about it. GGP told his anecdote of someone who did not.

      I would expect that vast majority didn't have any problems, naturally (I rode my bike without a helmet since I was... 5 I think?.. for as long as I was still living in my country, where it's legal; everyone else did, too, and I don't recall anyone hurt in a way that a helmet would prevent).

      But there's always a chance, and it might just be you who draws the unlucky ticket next... and if a helmet helps with that, then why not?

    49. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by cayenne8 · · Score: 2, Informative
      "I would have agreed with you when I was an adolescent because I was hit when I was a child and I thought I was fine for the longest time. As it turns out childhood abuse and neglect can rear its head much later in life."

      There is a difference between corporal punishment, and childhood abuse/neglect!!

      They are not the same. I got spanked growing up, most everyone I know did. Everyone of them is well adjusted, and successful in life and in family.

      Sure, different kids respond to different things...not everyone needs to be spanked, some not as often, some not at all....some until they get the message that it is wrong to do certain things and that there are consequences for actions.

      I got spanked. I was NEVER beat or abused though. I know now even from speaking with my parents...my spankings were sometimes held off for a short time from my infraction till punishment was given. I found out later, it was to give my parents time to cool off, and not be angry when spanking me...so that it was punishment, and not anything more with emotion behind it. There is a difference.

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    50. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Omestes · · Score: 2, Informative

      I'm not a big fan of corporal punishment, though I can see its uses. My dad, from time to time reddened my butt when I was being a little terror, and while these aren't among my fondest childhood memories, I don't see then rising up in a couple years and causing me neurosis either. Sure, my childhood wasn't as rod ridden as my dad's, who managed to wear out a couple of his dad's belts, but then again my dad is also doing rather well mental health wise (a bit of a workaholic, but I attribute that to growing up very poor, and very Irish).

      When I breed, I probably won't whoop my children, though. Not because of any humanistic, or "inner child scaring" reason, though, but because it isn't psychologically effective as a conditioning technique. Punishment must be linked to the dead punished both in time, and in method in order to stick in the brain. Most of the time spanking don't do this ("just wait until your father gets home!"), so it isn't effective most of the time. Also, often, corporal punishment goes over-board and serves more to vent the anger of the parents, than to correct the behavior of the child. A rap on the knuckles is just as strong a negative reinforcer than a large welt on the ass, but one is much more satisfying to an angry parent.

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    51. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Informative

      I know this will simply be ignored by all the whiners (and the sycophants who constantly mod them up) who still think ADHD doesn't exist, but as every legitimate ADHD researcher will quickly point out, there is a real difference between a rambunctious, highly active child who can sit down and be quiet after a quick smack on the ass, and an ADHD child who CAN'T sit still and pay attention for more than 10 seconds no matter how much you discipline them. There is a laboratory-measurable biological difference between normal and ADHD brains. It's not easy to actually measure it in every individual because it requires, if I remember correctly, an fMRI type test which of course is very expensive. However, I don't believe ADHD is over-diagnosed nearly as much as most of you think it is. The diagnostic procedures have been highly refined over the years and are very accurate now. Besides that, any competent doctor knows that the powerful stimulants (mostly various forms of amphetamines) used to treat ADHD are extremely dangerous for non-ADHD brains and even mildly dangerous for real ADHD brains if not dosed properly. Of course, there are incompetent doctors all over the place, so it's not unheard of for any particular medical condition to be misdiagnosed.

      Be that as it may, every idiot here who is pretending to be a psychologist and claiming that ADHD doesn't exist because any child that runs around like mad and screams ALL DAY LONG every day of his life is "just being a kid" is doing a grave disservice to all the people in the world who are actually ADHD. For many people it is a very debilitating life-long neurological condition. Unfortunately people like you folks who think you know everything only change your tune once you're finally faced with a child of your own whom everyone believes is mentally retarded after he goes through grade school failing to learn anything. Throughout history the typical response to such "lazy" or "bad" children was to beat them daily and send them to bed without supper, etc. What no one ever realized until this century was that the biological differences in the brain make it nearly impossible for ADHD people to change their behavior. The sort of discipline that modifies the behavior of normal children simply has no effect in most ADHD cases due to the peculiar neurology of the ADHD brain. In fact, the ADHD brain often thrives on the excitement (adrenalin, a natural stimulant) of being surrounded by angry people who are continually trying to force them to conform in various ways, mostly involving physical and verbal abuse.

      All of you who are berating the medical/educational establishment for "drugging the youth of America" need to just shut the hell up. You don't know as much as you think you do, and a good portion of you who use anecdotes from your own childhood to explain how certain behavior is normal, well, guess what? A lot of you are probably undiagnosed ADHD people who just happened to come from a strongly structured parenting environment that allowed you to compensate and survive a childhood with mild-to-medium ADHD. You still have ADHD, you just learned how to cope by compensating for your weaknesses and focusing on your strengths, and living in a structured environment that was exactly what your ADHD brain needed. Your individual success in life doesn't make you correct in thinking that ADHD is highly over-diagnosed or doesn't exist or isn't highly debilitating in other ADHD individuals. If anything, the clinical evidence based on all the established, statistically significant medical research done over the last century indicates that ADHD is still severely under-diagnosed, especially outside the U.S.

      Yes, there are many possible reasons for a child to have difficulty learning or paying attention in class. Yes, there are many children who are highly active and loud without being ADHD. Yes, there is far too much coddling of children and a lack of discipline in modern society, especially in America. But even with all that being true, ADHD is a real neurological condition

    52. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by turbidostato · · Score: 2, Interesting

      "I'm not going to put words in your mouth"

      But you seem to do it quite good.

      "but if you are also of the belief"

      He isn't.

      "that depressed people need to cheer up and autistic kids just need a slap upside the head"

      He don't think so. Instead, he does think (and so do I) that most children diagnosed autistic, depressed or hiperactive are not but just children in all his glory diversity and/or without enough careness.

      I also have my own opinions about why a doctor would tend to diagnose something to belong to his discipline (for a man with a hammer...) or why pharmas would prefer 30% of global population consuming their pills instad of only 1% or why overburdened/careless parents would prefer to cope with their children by means of pills instead of their own energy and/or why they prefer to hear that any misconduct from their breed is not their fault but some illness out of their control.

    53. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Locke2005 · · Score: 2, Interesting

      We learn by making mistakes Well, those that survive do, anyway...

      I think the problem you're hinting at is that with smaller and smaller families, kids are no longer considered expendable.

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    54. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Arthur+Grumbine · · Score: 2, Insightful

      But there's always a chance, and it might just be you who draws the unlucky ticket next... and if a helmet helps with that, then why not?

      Because you are creating a culture of fear of any harm instead of accepting a certain degree of risk (yes, even of death!) as a part of living a full and satisfying life. There are risks in almost every activity of life (driving a car, walking on a sidewalk, hiking, swimming) that could be partially mitigated with greater safety equipment (floaties for swimming, football pads for a walk down the street) or abstaining from the activity altogether.

      The key is to not be caught up in the fear caused by anecdotes and evaluate the risk with proper perspective. A 3-year-old who has just learned the basics of swimming may have 25% likelihood of drowning when unwatched in the pool for more than a couple minutes, a 12-year-old with 9 years swimming experience may have 0.00001% likelihood of drowning when left unwatched for a couple minutes. I know parents who have that "might be you who draws the unlucky ticket next" mentality regarding their 12-year-olds swimming - and have made them wear floaties their entire life. These kids have an irrational fear about the dangers of water/swimming that decreases their enjoyment of the activity. I would argue that this decrease in enjoyment due to incorrectly perceived risk is true for many kids of parents who do not have the ability to properly assess risk vs. enjoyment.

      And yes, for every 1 million 12-year-olds whose parents make them wear floaties every time they swim - one of them is saved from a tragic death. The other 999,999 have, for their entire life, lost a great deal of happiness and enjoyment they would have had with a rational awareness of the risks of swimming.

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    55. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Profane+MuthaFucka · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Taking your idea to the next level:

      Children have lived through wars and turned out fine. Therefore, children should be raised in war zones?

      Where does this stop? Should we disregard the research which demonstrates actual harm in harmful practices? Should a parent with a well-adjusted and well-behaved child ignore their lyin' eyes and start beating the child?

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    56. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by An+Onerous+Coward · · Score: 2, Informative

      It never ends, kid. I'm in my mid-thirties, and mom still gets after me when she thinks I'm not dressed warmly enough. :)

      There are a lot of things that we can blame it on, but parents today are just more hyperaware of potential dangers (real or imagined) that their kids face.

      I once attended a lecture by Jared Diamond, where he talked about a tribe he studied. The kids there were free to make mistakes. He would often see eighteen month old babies playing with big, scary looking knives, right next to the fire. Every adult had a few burn scars to show for it, but actual deaths were astonishingly rare.

      Read anything you can by Diamond, by the way.

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    57. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by An+Onerous+Coward · · Score: 2, Interesting

      My understanding is that the emotional trauma of a punishment has a lot to do with the culture in which it happens. In a culture where spanking is the norm, a kid who gets spanked has received the standard, culturally approved punishment, and is therefore still in the good graces of the culture. In a culture where it is almost unheard of, being the recipient of a spanking is a sign that you have done something exceptionally awful, and therefore that your place within the society was at risk.

      At least, that was my interpretation of something Jared Diamond once tried to say. It kind of makes sense. My family didn't spank, as a rule. That's probably why I remember vividly every one of the exceptions to that rule.

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    58. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Profane+MuthaFucka · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Yes, it's more than a bit far, its absurd.

      It was an illustration, through the use of absurdity, of the fallacious logic of the post I was responding to.

      Just because children can have good outcomes from a specific situation doesn't mean that situation is a desirable one. There may be other situations which may be better, or worse, than the situation argued for.

      The detrimental effects may indeed have been overstated, but the beneficial effects may also be overstated. How do you compare them?

      You compare them through multiple studies which in the past have indicated fairly conclusively that a nonviolent upbringing is better than a violent upbringing, and that less violent upbringing is better than a more violent upbringing. That last part is why lightly abused children generally fare much better than heavily abused children. It's not a black-and-white situation.

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    59. Re:In the words of the great Ken Titus... by Profane+MuthaFucka · · Score: 2, Insightful

      That the problem is a lack of spanking seems like a false attribution. The data backs me up on that one.

      That the problem is proper treatment for brain disorders/mental illnesses/behavioral problems/etc. seems like a false attribution. The data backs me up on that one too.

      The theory that kids are not facing quite enough of the consequences of their actions might not be a false attribution.

      Unlike some of the brainiacs in this thread, I know that blurting out some wild-eyed half-political theory about "kids these days", declaring it to be the true answer, is actually pretty stupid, so I will be happy to wait for the data to come in.

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  2. And? by FredFredrickson · · Score: 5, Informative

    I'd say a majority of adults I've met don't exactly lead healthy balanced lives either. Most of the stress and anxiety that I see in people I meet is due to their inability to deal with issues and conflicts in their every day lives in a logically and emotionally balanced way (intentionality).

    A lot of people spend their entire lives without ever understanding the idea of being intentional, instead of a victim to what appears to be a random array of emotions.

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    1. Re:And? by Reziac · · Score: 2, Interesting

      Maybe not. Have you ever watched how other animals deal with each other? They hit, bite, kick, scratch, and generally knock each other around, both for fun and to discipline an underling. And they don't wind up "scarred for life" by it. Why are humans so fragile??

      I think the truth is that we're NOT, and that a certain level of interpersonal violence is actually normal, simply because we're animals, and that's how animals instinctively behave.

      Hell, watch how children discipline one another when there's no adult intervention -- one hits, the other hits back; the first learns that there are direct consequences to being a jerk, and the 2nd learns that it's okay to defend yourself. But if an adult intervenes, the first kid fails to receive the lesson (other than "don't let 'em see you do it"), and the 2nd learns to be a victim. This is a recipe for creating bullies and wimps, but it won't lead to normally-adjusted kids who figure out that you can only go so far before you reap consequences.

      Until less than a century ago, this is how most kids grew up. Then we started overprotecting all the kids just like some pampered royalty had been, and now what? We have a generation of spoiled brats and victims, and now we're seeing the consequences of these maladjusted children raising children.

      As to violence that goes too far and kills someone -- all species engage in a certain amount of culling behaviour, and human children are no different. A child that is "odd" or sub-normal will get picked on by other kids, because instinct says "cull the weakling". But now we rescue those weaklings, because it's not PC to let anyone be maltreated. While this benefits those weaklings, what is it doing to our society and our gene pool, over the long term?? Nothing good, I suspect.

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    2. Re:And? by mcgrew · · Score: 2, Interesting

      Have you ever watched how other animals deal with each other? They hit, bite, kick, scratch, and generally knock each other around, both for fun and to discipline an underling.

      A mother cat will discipline her kitten by slapping it on the head. Kittens play similarly, as do adult cats. But they don't kill, maim, or seriously hurt their offspring unless they're mentally unbalanced, just like humans. I'm not one of those who is against corporal punishment so long as it's done right; spanking with a hand is good parenting, beating with a belt is not.

      Children don't discipline each other -- they fight, just as violent adults do. I won't forget the 7th grade when I was bullied by a kid taller and heavier than me, until he crossed the line and hit me. I beat the holy hell out of him. I got a swat for my troubles, he got eighteen swats. And I got respect from the other kids after that.

      A child that is "odd" or sub-normal will get picked on by other kids, because instinct says "cull the weakling".

      Unlike other species, we're supposed to have the intellect to overcome our instincts. If we didn't, rape would be the primary means of copulation.

      it's not PC to let anyone be maltreated.

      PC or not I don't like to see anyone get mistreated. And the only thing I care about the human gene pool is that my genes are passed on. We are at the stage of controlling our own evolution, and on the cusp of being able to engineer undesirable traits out.

  3. Things were harder back then by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    With myself (sample size of one) I find that I have a near constant level of neurosis (which does thankfully decline overall as I get older). When things are going badly in some area, I can direct my dwelling towards real anxieties that actually exist. Dealing with relationship, earning a buck, dealing with family etc. When everything is going well I find some new unrealistic area to direct those anxieties.

    I suspect in the good old days, people were too busy trying to feed themselves to worry about needless shit. In this age of relative abundance and leisure time, we have much more time to devote to our neurotic navel gazing. And our self survey results reflect that.

  4. Children haven't changed much in Thirty Years! by TropoJoe · · Score: 2, Informative

    Related to Hypomania the children of the great depression certainly were not very optimistic about anything. The numbers of course are skewed by the time frame of the studies. I'm sure the numbers wouldn't be that remarkably different from the mid 80's if not even improved to a degree.

    1. Re:Children haven't changed much in Thirty Years! by Zantac69 · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I dunno...I think there is a huge difference even in the past 20 years. I was born in 1974 and was told that basically not everyone is a winner - there are some losers, the world needs astronauts and ditch diggers, we cant all drive a hot rod camaro - sometimes you have to have the brown LTD that smokes a little when it starts up. It conditioned to me the inevitable failures that I would have in life and I did not overreact. Life sucks, get a helmet.

      Kids these days (hell, my 17 year old cousin is like this) are told that EVERYONE is a winner and a unique and beautiful snowflake, that everyone can be whatever they want to be, and that we all can have whatever we want. These kids have no exposure to failure...and have a meltdown when they meet it for the first time.

      My wife and I have had this discussion (and its gone interesting since she is Swedish and was not raised around corporal punishment - while I got whippings if I deserved it) and we are going to raise our kids to not bullshit them about the reality of life. That there is always going to be someone better at them at something - but that its ok. Life goes on and there is no reason to freak if you get a B- when you did your best, get picked last at kick ball because you dont run as fast as some of the other kids, or the girl/boy of you have been having wet dreams about is not interested in you.

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    2. Re:Children haven't changed much in Thirty Years! by IndustrialComplex · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Life goes on and there is no reason to freak if you get a B- when you did your best

      You know who whines about their best.

      In all seriousness though, it's very easy to make the statement "This is how we will raise our kids" and point fingers at parents who have even the slightest difficulty raising their children. I think that is unfair. If there was some magic formula that you could follow and end up with perfect children and no problems, we would have figured it out millenia ago. Reality is never so simple that you can say with any confidence that you will raise your children the 'correct' way, as there are so many things that can cause things to go off the rails.

      Even if I had 100% of my time to devote to my children, there is no guarantee that they will turn out the way we expect them to, and while bad parenting may be the root cause for a lot of issues that we see in children, it isn't some blame catch-all for every problem we see.

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  5. "Unrealistic Optimism" by ruiner13 · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Well, what do they expect when they remove all competition from a kid's life? I've seen parents that refuse to let their kids participate in anything competitive, for fear that if they should lose their child's dreams will be permanently shattered. All this leads to is the kid thinking they really can do anything, when the actual fact is that everyone has limitations in some form, and in a competitive world, sometimes you lose. I assume this is what generates the majority of this "unrealistic optimism". Coddling children and not allowing them to experience real situations will not prepare them for the real world.

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    1. Re:"Unrealistic Optimism" by Asadullah+Ahmad · · Score: 2, Funny

      with six times as many scoring high in two areas: 'hypomania,' a measure of anxiety and unrealistic optimism

      Wait a minute, does that mean Facebook groups like "I just study before the exam day.." are not meant as a joke?

    2. Re:"Unrealistic Optimism" by Thelasko · · Score: 4, Interesting

      While searching for a job, I've discovered that many companies desire this "unrealistic optimism." A recruiter I was using sent me a list of questions the company was going to ask me, and "mistakenly" included the correct answers. Questions like, "How important is it for you to be the best?" have answers listed as, "Very important to be the best, not just 'do my best.'" Another question asks, "Are you a perfectionist?" and then lists, "must say yes," as the correct answer.

      I think kids have such "unrealistic optimism" because it's desired in today's society. Unfortunately for me, I found college to be a very humbling experience, and I fear these kids will too.

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  6. The Criticisms as Outlined in the Article by eldavojohn · · Score: 5, Interesting
    Before you hop all over this like we love to, keep in mind that the article does a pretty good job of representing the skeptical side of this study:

    Though the study, released Monday, does not provide a definitive correlation, Twenge and mental health professionals speculate that a popular culture increasingly focused on the external - from wealth to looks and status - has contributed to the uptick in mental health issues.

    And also:

    The study is not without its skeptics, among them Richard Shadick, a psychologist who directs the counsellingcentre at Pace University in New York. He says, for instance, that the sample data weren't necessarily representative of all college students. (Many who answered the MMPI questionnaire were students in introductory psychology courses at four-year institutions.)

    I have a cute anecdote about a friend who graduated with a psychology degree and left her job as an assistant to become a grade school teacher because most of the psychologists at the Manhattan practice had more psychological problems than their patients.

    Emphasis mine. Now, another interesting thing about Jean Twenge is that the books she writes aren't universally accepted by her peers:

    "Generation Me" inspired a slew of articles in the popular press with headlines like "It’s all about me," "Superflagilistic, Extra Egotistic" and "Big Babies: Think the Boomers are self-absorbed? Wait until you meet their kids."

    Ms. Twenge is working on another book with W. Keith Campbell of the University of Georgia, this one tentatively called "The Narcissism Epidemic."

    However, some scholars argue that a spike in selfishness among young people is, like the story of Narcissus, a myth.

    "It’s like a cottage industry of putting them down and complaining about them and whining about why they don’t grow up," said Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, a developmental psychologist, referring to young Americans. Mr. Arnett, the author of "Emerging Adulthood: The Winding Road From the Late Teens through the Twenties" (2004, Oxford University Press), has written a critique of Ms. Twenge’s book, which is to be published in the American Journal of Psychology.

    Granted you could claim that this is just one example of two camps infighting in a field that plagues even physics and hard sciences but I think it's important to realize that this study might be a little self serving. Personally I share two concerns. The first being similar to Shadick's in that I'm not sure how these two studies were normalized samples and the second questioning if we have any idea what the 'norm' is for these 'diseases.' How subjective is this test and would a variance of 1% to 6% for depression be unrealistic if we knew that it's been as high as 10% at other points in time between 1938 and 2007?

    The curmudgeon in me wants to chalk this up to kids having it too good these days. No polio to worry about, no eight hour shifts to support the family and more information swarming them. A lot of today's youth have the luxury of being diagnosed with hypomania. Now I know that there are serious cases of depression and always have been ... but sometimes I encounter a youth who says, "My boyfriend just broke up with me and now I sit in my room and listen to depressing music." And they (or their over protective parents) think they need medication for that. They don't. Sounds to me like they need to be picking rock and bailing hay to help take their mind off that. We're overmedicated as it is. If Ms. Twenge continues to push this idea it might just get worse. How many people read news of this study and though "maybe my kid needs to see a psychologist for depression?" It's hard to look past this and assume the motives for this study are pure.

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    1. Re:The Criticisms as Outlined in the Article by mcgrew · · Score: 4, Insightful

      In a psychology class I took in college, the instructor said "there isn't a psychologist alive that doesn't have another psychologist calling him a gold plated liar."

      I suspect many if not most psycologists study psychology to find an answer to their own mental health problems.

    2. Re:The Criticisms as Outlined in the Article by jafac · · Score: 2, Interesting

      I think it's really mostly just a matter of opinion, or point-of-view.

      The most toxic attitude I see most people having, is this horrid irrational fear that they're a selfish person, or too self-centered or not good enough, not likeable enough, don't pay enough attention to other people's "moods" or "signals", don't fulfill our partner's "wants" and "needs" - - - and then they madly scramble around trying to make other people happy, because they believe that is the key to their own happiness. And every religion - on the SURFACE, preaches this crap too. And it's complete bullshit.

      Do what they tell you in the pre-flight safety briefing. In case of sudden loss of cabin pressure, put your own damn oxygen mask on FIRST. THEN help the person next to you (if they need it). Because if you try to help the other person, and fail, then you both fucking DIE.

      I mean, there's this email thing. If we don't check our email enough, we're terrified we're going to miss someone's important email, and offend someone, miss an important opportunity. TV? If we miss that one episode of Glee, then tomorrow at work, when everyone's talking about it, you're going to be standing there like a dork. Excluded. Ostracized. Like those nerds in glee club back in high school. Money? Hey, let's all talk about the car we bought last year. And of course - it LOOKS like selfishness, but it's not. It's people - in sheer terror of that inner-critic, telling them they're not a good-enough person. The disease is anti-selfishness. It's overcompensation for a perceived weakness, that for most people, just isn't there.

      And our culture reinforces it, it's a closed feedback loop. Because it sells stuff. And keeps people employed. And keeps us prosperous. So we can maybe get that Lexus with the leather seats next year, instead of cloth. So our peers will like us. Because that's what the commercial implies.

      Depression?

      It has nothing to do with drugs, or bicycle helmets, or being selfish, or not trusting God, or not contemplating one's navel, or not thinking positively, or having parents who were narcissistic (except in the capacity that they're too damn ashamed to face their own imaginary demons to be authentic with their kids, and modeling that emotional authenticity for them). Is it neurotransmitters? Or is overactive neurotransmitter reuptake another symptom?

      What's the solution?

      There is no solution. We, as a culture, self-destruct. (hopefully). That's the path most of us are on, as individuals.

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  7. TFA backs up parent.... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Insightful

    FTFA:

    Experts say such high expectations are a recipe for disappointment. Meanwhile, they also note some well-meaning but overprotective parents have left their children with few real-world coping skills, whether that means doing their own budget or confronting professors on their own.

    So by bringing up our kids like wusses, we're creating wusses. That's not to say we need to go back to beating them "spare the rod spoil the child" BS, but giving them healthy limits and letting them screw up and pay the consequences.

    That's were modern parents fail: they're either too strict and pushy or they're overly permissive and rescue the kid whenever they screw-up - even if it means getting them out of jail.

    The above, of course, is in general. There are some wonderful parents out there.

    1. Re:TFA backs up parent.... by DuckDodgers · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Time outs, and losing privileges. For most of our meals we give the kids a choice between two or three (reasonably) healthy things, and they pick what we cook. When they misbehave, my wife and I pick. Normally the kids get to watch one movie a day, two when we're especially busy. Most times they pick the film. When they misbehave, they watch nothing or I pick something I want to see. Likewise you can take away toys, trips to the park, favorite items of clothing, and so forth. When they act like a baby, they're forced to take extra two hour naps just like a baby. If the child won't sit still and be quiet for their time out, three minutes are added (more if the kid is older) and I physically pin them down.

      It works just fine. My wife and I don't hit our kids, except for the very young ones who understand nothing else. They behave better than I did at their age, and my parents whacked my behind with a wooden spoon or a paddle all of the time.

      Or to look at it another way, watch a dog trainer. Some of the best ones out there don't need to hit the dogs at all. My dog is a big Rottweiler mix, and I've never had to hit him. If he gets in trouble, I just yell at him to get into his crate, and he walks in on his own. I lock the door, and he's stuck in there for an hour.

      It's normal to get very defensive when the discipline techniques your own parents used are criticized. I was a big defender of spanking for years. But just because you didn't grow up with anxiety problems, depression, or alcoholism doesn't change the fact that statistically, kids who are hit are more likely to grow up with those problems.

  8. American youth have it easy. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    American youth today have it very easy.

    When I grew up in Hungary in the 1950s, life was somewhat difficult. My family was lucky, as my father was a supervisor at a washing machine factory, and my mother was lucky to have a job as a seamstress. We at least had food, and did not go hungry like so many of our neighbors!

    We had one neighbor, Piotr, who had several children. One of them died just after birth, and another drowned. His three remaining children grew to be adults. But when they were young, old Piotr did not have enough food to feed his entire family! He would provide the best nourishment to his children and wife, while during tough times he would eat grass, paper and sawdust.

    But let me tell you, what the children ate was not so good compared to today's food! The bread, it was almost always stale. So it was used in horrid stews of left over meat and dirty water. On rare occasion there was chocolate (maybe once or twice a year). There were no Coca Colas! There were no potato chips! There were no McDonalds or Burger Kings!

    When you have not any food, then social pressures become quite irrelevant. Success becomes defined by the meager foodstuffs in your pantry, not by the newness of your cellular telephone or the shine of your gold ganger jewelery or the brand name shirt with a stupid logo on it.

    1. Re:American youth have it easy. by FooAtWFU · · Score: 2, Interesting
      I don't know about sawdust, but whenever I'd complain, my mother would point out that at least I'm not eating Crisco sandwiches. (Not that she ever got quite to that point, but other kids at her school did).

      Take that, Mr. Standard-Of-Living.

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    2. Re:American youth have it easy. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 4, Interesting

      This isn't funny, it's probably true. My father went through the Hungarian revolution, and he has stories of the entire family of 5 splitting one egg for a meal. He has a thing about cleaning off plates. He still (literally!) licks his plate clean at home.

    3. Re:American youth have it easy. by tehcyder · · Score: 4, Funny

      There were no Coca Colas! There were no potato chips! There were no McDonalds or Burger Kings!

      So it wasn't all bad then.

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    4. Re:American youth have it easy. by rev_sanchez · · Score: 3, Funny

      Wow, that place was aptly named.

      Now that China has over 24 million more men than women because of the One Child Per Family program they should follow that example and name their country Horny. Chile should give that name up to Canada and spell it Chilly. North Korea should hencforth be known as Korazy.

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    5. Re:American youth have it easy. by Jodka · · Score: 2, Funny

      When I grew up in Hungary... life was somewhat difficult...Piotr did not have enough food to feed his entire family! He would provide the best nourishment to his children and wife, while during tough times he would eat grass, paper and sawdust....

      So is that why they named it "Hungary"?

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    6. Re:American youth have it easy. by timeOday · · Score: 5, Insightful

      American youth today have it very easy.

      That's why findings like this are so interesting. Maybe having it easy and being happy aren't synonymous after all?

    7. Re:American youth have it easy. by Nadaka · · Score: 5, Insightful

      You are right, social pressure means nothing when you are barely surviving.

      I had it a "little easier" growing up in the America in the 80s, at least in terms of food. My father would hunt anything in season, and poach anything out of season so we had meat. My family would go out in the fields after the combine harvesters and gather the vegetables that were missed. My family would buy cheap hogs feed at the farm store and mill it for bread. We had food, even if it was green beans for breakfast, green beans and bread for lunch, green beans and antelope for dinner for six months strait. And that was the good part. After my parents divorced (my father was a brutal, violent sociopath) I got to live on "welfare" while my mother struggled to get an education. I was served inedible food at school, red grease on a slice of bread and a scoop of grey spoiled vegetables. The foodstamp budget had to be split 5 ways, so I got at most one decent meal a day at home.

      Kids today get emo and suicidal because they have been given everything, never had to earn anything, never been hungry, never had anything real to fear, never been punished for their behavior and are bored with having to much entertainment. I wouldn't wish my childhood on my worst enemy, but from what I see for other people, completely pampering children is at least as destructive as the brutal abuse, crushing poverty and neglect that I endured.

    8. Re:American youth have it easy. by Zarf · · Score: 4, Insightful

      American youth today have it very easy.

      In America we have obese kids with rickets because they are starving for nutrients while gorging on cheap processed food. Some Americans have it easy. Some are dying from false-wisdom and false-plenty.

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    9. Re:American youth have it easy. by MobyDisk · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Agent Smith:

      Did you know that the first Matrix was designed to be a perfect human world? Where none suffered, where everyone would be happy. It was a disaster. No one would accept the program. Entire crops were lost...I believe that, as a species, human beings define their reality through suffering and misery. The perfect world was a dream that your primitive cerebrum kept trying to wake up from

    10. Re:American youth have it easy. by Culture20 · · Score: 3, Informative

      He said he ate glass, ergo it was a joke.

      "during tough times he would eat grass , paper and sawdust."
      grass will provide some vitamins and fill you up, but you can't digest it very well at all, so I bet it was cooked or stewed. Paper and sawdust (and mud) are often eaten as filling, and the mud can provide needed nutrients like iron. Your ID isn't very new; you should know these things.

    11. Re:American youth have it easy. by colmore · · Score: 2, Insightful

      I know you may find this hard to believe, but just because you and the people you know are more successful than the people you knew when you were a kid, doesn't mean that tens of millions don't still live in dire poverty.

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    12. Re:American youth have it easy. by ElectricTurtle · · Score: 3, Insightful

      I am sure the millions of people who died of starvation in the USSR would be rather wryly amused by your personal anecdote. Anecdotes and personal experience do not by themselves make for a good historical record.

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    13. Re:American youth have it easy. by Abstrackt · · Score: 2, Insightful

      American youth today have it very easy.

      That's why findings like this are so interesting. Maybe having it easy and being happy aren't synonymous after all?

      The problem is that easy is subjective. If you have nothing to compare it to, easy doesn't register as "easy", it registers as "normal". If you've encountered a large problem, others seem smaller by comparison. If you only ever encounter small problems they seem larger than they are.

      My leg was crushed in an accident; I never appreciated being able to walk until I couldn't because up to that point, it was normal. Now I have a hard time seeing people drive to the store instead of walking across the street when they're in the mood for a snack. I imagine having experienced starvation or homelessness would cause the same effect hearing people complain about the doneness of their steak or the color of the paint in their house.

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    14. Re:American youth have it easy. by blahplusplus · · Score: 4, Insightful

      "Kids today get emo and suicidal because they have been given everything"

      No kids to day get emo and suicidal because the demands on them are OVERWHELMING, in our hyper competitive world the pressure on them is unreal, while they are not perfect or any better then previous generations, they feel they exist in a world of mutual hostility and financial insecurity. Not only that but most kids get the message at home "go to university to find a securejob or you will be poor!"

      So kids go to university rack up a bunch of debt, figure out that job security is rare, and they may not have the lifestyle their parents had and have to work longer hours for less pay with lots of debt and in shitty long hours work culture.

      You'd have to be out of your effin mind to say kids have it easy today.

  9. Greater Knowledge by V50 · · Score: 2, Insightful

    This reminds me of some comments I've seen old people make. That things were better in the '50s because people didn't have "these problems" with mental health, minorities and whatnot. And how they act as if homosexuality was something invented in the '80s or '90s to shock and offend them. Forgetting or course that many of the mental health problems existed but were classified as demonic possession or something stupid, and people were generally less likely to seek assistance because of both societal disapproval, and lack of knowledge on their part. Also, obviously, so called "problems" like homosexuality have existed forever, it's only in recent decades that society has become tolerant enough that some people are no longer hiding it.

    I didn't read the article and am in no way commenting on it. The writeup and headline just reminded me of my grandmother's husband.

  10. Actual Data or Trendy Teen? by geekmux · · Score: 2, Interesting

    I know that this data spanned several decades, but one has to wonder what the impact of "teen angst", complete with its own social class (Jock, Geek, "Emo") has now, against a survey like this?

    Yes, large amounts of data through several decades is nice, but when it's now "popular" to act like a Tim Burton character or a "death for true love" torn "Vampire", I can't help but take this data with a grain of salt.

  11. Re:Too much input by Zarf · · Score: 3, Insightful

    People are suffering from information and media overload...no down time for the brain. The whole GIGO business.

    Suffering? Suffering? I'm enjoying it!

    But seriously, I think humanity is going to have to find a new way to live. All our new technologies change the rules that our bodies and minds are adapted for. Either that or these technologies can't be sustained. We are fast approaching either total environmental burn-out or a new era of abundance... perhaps both at the same time. We are drowning in information, pollution, and choice. Most of human history has been a battle against starvation followed by a battle against ignorance followed by a battle for individual liberty.

    It was easier to eliminate information scarcity. Water, food, power supply will be harder to fix. Abundance of each of these unleashes new problems. Abundance does not equate with quality.

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  12. Information Anxiety is the new ADD. by ProppaT · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Welcome to the year 2000 (er, 2010) and meet your new friend Information Anxiety. I'm 30 years old and I feel it. I constantly feel like I need to keep up with news, this and that, hobbies and interests that are fueled by easy access to information on the internet, social networking, friends, internet friends, real life friends that I only really see on the internet these days. Now compound all of that into a teenager's mind along with high school pressures, school work, trying to find themselves, hormones and being awkward, the opposite sex (or even harder yet, maybe the same sex), etc.

    100 years ago, our main concerns were food, shelter, and family. These are second thoughts for many these days. I recently quit social networking for half a year and it was one of the best things I've ever done for myself.

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  13. How does this make you FEEL? by JRHelgeson · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Let's see; when you give kids a trophy for just showing up to the game, and high school kids make 'A' grades for minimal effort... kids today are conditioned to believe that life is easy, and they are 'super-duper'. This is the post accomplishment era we live in. Their actual test scores are among the lowest of civilized nations, yet their confidence levels are among the highest. What does this tell us? They don't know anything but they FEEL really good about it. This is what we get when the school system focuses on the importance of feeling rather than the importance of achieving. When kids discover that the real world doesn't care how you FEEL, it is rather anxiety inducing. The employer stance has necessarily become one of: I DON'T CARE how you feel, can you do the job or not?" Pay is based upon accomplishment and achievement, not on feelings.

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  14. What about Europe and Asia? by simp · · Score: 4, Informative

    Does anybody have the numbers for EU and Asia? For some reason I'm not seeing the same stories here in the EU. Personally I think that in the US there is a real drive to get everybody who shows a bit of a problem directly on heavy medication instead of dealing with it while they grow up.

  15. Or maybe it's just diagnosed more by dkleinsc · · Score: 5, Insightful

    When poorer kids in the 1930's started having problems in school, they were labeled as "stupid" or "lazy", given D's and F's, and that was it. Now, a school counselor is brought in and a much more specific and medically accurate label for their problem and recommend a treatment for them.

    For wealthier kids, it seems to be partially a way of ensuring that their kid does well in school and other activities. A lot of these parents are going to start thinking something is medically wrong if the kid's grades start slipping into the B-/C range, and will find a counselor who will tell them just that and create a treatment. A diagnosed mental illness can turn a C student into a B+/A student due to extra time on exams, special help on projects, and so forth, as well as drugs that improve concentration (among other things).

    The upside of this pattern is that more kids who do have real mental illnesses are getting treated properly and are able to handle their schoolwork better, rather than being simply dismissed as bad students. The downside is that you now have a large population of kids (and adults for that matter) who are wandering around drugged and a much narrower understanding of what behavior is "normal" enough to be *not* indicative of a mental illness.

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  16. Re:unrealistic optimism? by mcgrew · · Score: 3, Informative

    How about 1959 when I started grade school. We were two itchy trigger fingers away from nuclear anhaillation. Terrorists? Pshaw, those of us who had "duck and cover" drills don't worry about terrorists. Nuclear war with thousands upon thousands of warheads going off is REAL terror.

  17. yes, sir... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    The title should have read:

    US Adults Have Serious Mental Health Issues and Poor Parenting Skills

  18. Every generation thinks the kids are nuts by SlappyBastard · · Score: 2, Insightful

    We just now have entire industries backed by science to prove it! Haha!

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  19. previous generations by circletimessquare · · Score: 3, Insightful

    dealt with things like world war i, world war ii, the bubonic plague, the american revolution... etc.

    all with less media resources, lower quality nutrition (we don't have lower quality nutrition these days, we have TOO MUCH nutrition), a worse set of ideologies, lower socioeconomic status, etc.

    whatever stresses today's youth are going through, its fucking easy in comparison stresses previous generations have faced

    get over it, grow the fuck up. sorry you're daily video game hours or facebook/ twitter diddling hours has been reduced. i think you'll find the ability to deal somewhere deep in your rich bounty of character. pffffffft

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    1. Re:previous generations by geoffrobinson · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I have wondered if less "real" problems (such as not having to struggle to sustain your existence) manifests itself in more depression, anxiety, etc.

      When you are busy just surviving you have less time to dwell on your problems.

      Just a theory. Not that mental issues didn't exist in the past.

      I know from my own experience and of some close to me, when you are sitting around thinking and are prone to these issues that's not a good thing.

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  20. Re:Too much input by goltzc · · Score: 5, Insightful

    I couldn't agree more. Whenever I have moved to a new apartment/house there is always a 1-3 week period where I have no cable or internet. After I would get home from work my wife and I would pretty much make dinner read a book and go to bed. It was absolutely amazing how our stress levels went down and how much more recharged we were waking up after calm evenings like that.

    Now of course like most people, once my cable and internet showed up, my tv was always on, I was checking my email and working in the evenings. Long story short, I think the mind really does need some time to relax.

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  21. Re:unrealistic optimism by jgtg32a · · Score: 5, Insightful

    I don't think so, to me the "unrealistic optimism" speaks more to the sense of "entitlement" that people seem to have these days. Which is in contrast to what the "American Dream" was to me "Yes anything is possible but there will be a lot of work"

  22. You get what you pay for. by argStyopa · · Score: 4, Insightful

    I'd agree, although the excessive narcissism is probably the more significant root cause.

    Since the 1960s (Surprised? No.) the emphasis on social promotion, 'feeling good about yourself', rewards for non-achievement, and a slippery sort of moral relativism all have combined to leave our children emotionally retarded, and frankly incapable of dealing with reality.

    Ontogeny recapitulates phylogeny, and evolution is fucking painful. Deadly, in fact. Remove the pain from growing up, and you end up with emotionally undeveloped people, with no ability to cope with hardship, no capacity to comprehend the shitty things life is going to inevitably hand them, and (seemingly) very little resilience to survive.

    Go back and read Generation X. His book describes the glimmerings of the future. I'm 42 - a real GenX'er (turned 13 in 1980, graduated from college in 1990), and I see the beginnings of it in myself and my demographic. Lack of ambition, ennui, a juvenile inability to focus, as well as a difficulty being happy with much of anything. I'd attribute it in myself to a lack of hardship and challenge, and believe me it's a bastard to cope with on a day to day basis.

    And yes, I'm aware that I'm essentially yelling "Get off my lawn!" but when I look at teens today, it's terrifying how basically ignorant they are, and how amazingly short their attention spans are. They have a facility with electronics that amazes me, and I thought myself a fairly gadget-oriented guy. I regard them as "ignorant" because they don't know basic facts of geography, history, or culture - but then if one is permanently connected (as this twittering generation pretty much assumes) does one really need to store facts in their wetware? I think its necessary to have a basis of knowledge to understand the things going on around us, and to be usefully participatory adults, but then I'm old, I guess.

    Oh, by the way, ROCK THE VOTE!! Ha ha ha /cry. And we thought we're screwed already....

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    1. Re:You get what you pay for. by 386spart · · Score: 2, Insightful

      I've been thinking along the same lines. It is a generalisation of course every fate is different, but I think many people growing up today in the western world seem less happy, more cynical and depressed, unable to focus etc. Basically the symptoms you describe.
      I also agree it's related to having it too easy when they (we) were young. Many were born into a high standard of living and nothing was hard until they moved out of their parents home. Life was good then suddenly gets dramatically worse (Not bad, in any objective way of measuring it, but worse than they are used to.)

      Compare this to their parents, who grew up from the 40s to the 80s. From the hardships of life in the 40s to the luxury of the 80s they managed to increase their quality of life little by little throughout their entire lives ending up with houses, fine cars, big salaries and stable employment. To see this progress year by year is motivating and makes people happy.

      People today often struggle to reach the same standard they had when they were living at home, let alone seeing some consistent improvement. They are fighting to get "back to even", basically. You work for years in order to pay down on a house half the size of the one you grew up in, if you can even dream of affording a house at all. You save for years to go to some exotic place you already visited several times with your parents. Having a stable job in the area where you grew up and all your childhood friends still live is a fantasy, most of your co-workers are basically strangers and so on. All the things the world has to offer - you did most of them already and watched the rest in Cinemascope. The experiences are clichés before you even get there.

      There are other factors as well of course, general lack of honest interaction with people, information overload, companies so large that you become anonymous, etc etc, but I think this is a big part of it. Simply put, there are many more rich people having to deal with becoming poorer today than it used to be. People are reaching goals lower than their expectations. This has always been depressing, so a certain percentage of people will be depressed by it, for a while.

  23. Meta-diagnoses by jones_supa · · Score: 2, Interesting

    Autism ... Asperger's ... "AHDHD--Drug him up!"

    The stuff I quoted - today we have these what I call "meta-diagnoses". Some people might actually medically suffer from these, but they are also slapped around negligently with the basic message "something's wrong in you". It's increasingly hard to distinguish whether they really mean anything or not.

    Same thing with the anti-depressants which are distributed like candy. Of course now that we've begun to call mental illness a "disease" it works great for the pharmaceutical companies to sell their crap. Medication for a disease, right. But mostly it's just a wrecked mental state, how can you call that disease?

  24. "Orchid Children" by RevWaldo · · Score: 4, Interesting

    An interesting article from The Atlantic discusses a new view of children with genetic dispositions to "flawed" personality traits, such as ADHD. Much of it is based on a long-term study of a captive colony of rhesus monkeys.

    In the barest of nutshells: while many children are like dandelions, and could survive and even prosper in any environment (poor, lousy parents, bad schools, etc.), others are like orchids. Raised in the wrong environment they become screw-ups. Raised in the right environment they thrive, and the traits that are considered flaws become strengths, even allowing them success beyond their dandelion brethren.

    A good read even if you think they're wrong. One nice takeaway from the rhesus monkey study: in the long run, bullies never win.

  25. Just maybe... by shrtcircuit · · Score: 2, Informative

    Perhaps if parents took the time to PARENT, got their kids off the venti mocha-latte-quad-shot-whipped-lookatmeI'msocool drinks, made them put down the cell phones and television, and taught them how to live like real actual people in the real actual world, this wouldn't be an issue.

    No shit they have unrealistic optimism! In a world where you can't fail, where it's everyone else's responsibility to prop you up and deal with your shit, you are probably the most optimistic motherfucker on the planet! The problem is once it becomes everyone else's responsibility, it becomes nobody's responsibility, and we're left with a bunch of dysfunctional retards sitting there whining because mommy and daddy can't give them their lattes and tell them it's going to be OK.

    These kids don't have anxiety, they have a lack of understanding of life. They're freaked out over what is quite honestly stupid, piddly things because they're not allowed to experience failure anymore. The answer, according to a bunch of "experts", is to drug them up so they stop caring about it and go back to being irrelevant little twats.

  26. Please die quickly. by FatSean · · Score: 4, Interesting

    If you want more hardship in your life, go find it. Go join the army or something.

    I consider my 'laziness' to be an adult realization that the 'go go go work till you drop' culture in this country is poisonous.

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  27. Hypomania and mania are not "happy" by quintin3265 · · Score: 5, Insightful

    A lot of people here seem to be of the opinion that mental illness is something that is simply being overdiagnosed; people can "get over it," that medications are evil, and that kids should be kids. Obviously, these people have never been mentally ill.

    Sure, it is true that today's kids' lives are nothing like the brutal, short, backbreaking existences that were lived by our predecessors, who in 1850 worked over 60 hours a week and barely managed to stay alive for 30 or 40 years. On the other hand, if you've ever had a manic or hypomanic episode, you will know that mania is not a positive state of mind. Mania is one of the worst possible states of existing, only barely better than death and far worse than depression. Imagine not being able to keep a thought in your head for more than 1 second at a time. Imagine how, one day you can go from being considered for a promotion at your office to being fired a month later because you can no longer comprehend programming concepts or remember what was going on a few minutes ago. Imagine it becoming impossible to function with people because you have lost the ability to determine what is the appropriate thing to say in social situations, and so as a result you say nothing.

    Most importantly of all, imagine that nobody believes that anything is wrong, that doctor after doctor can't come up with any diagnosis for years, and when you try to get help for yourself people hang up on you because you can't follow the conversation to understand what's being talked about. Imagine that sometimes you are so unable to think that you have trouble determining whether someone is speaking to you or not. Imagine that the rest of the world just keeps going on while you see no reason to keep living through such hell if nobody can figure out what's wrong with you. So you just sit in front of the TV night after night while the images go by too fast to process. Mania is perhaps the most depressing thing that one can experience. This explanation of mania being a sense of extreme well-being is wrong and needs to be better communicated in the mainstream sources, who tend to simplify these diseases as some kind of "excess happiness." There is no happiness in mania.

    Of course there is an increase in the incidence of these diseases among people living today. In the past, why would someone want to continue living if their new life was as a stupid and uncontrollable shell of their former selves? The only solution back then was suicide. While suicide is not a good choice today because there are many treatments available, it may be shocking to hear that death certainly would be better than living like that with no hope for a cure. Is it so far-fetched to say that the diseases were less widespread because people culled themselves?

    Stating that kids should go off drugs because of the "evil pharmaceutical companies" is naive. The scientific literature does not adequately describe these diseases, and probably never could. Everyone has felt pain, so it's easy to describe the treatment for a headache. But while there are some very smart people here, those who are not ill are simply not able to comprehend what mental illness really is, and should not be offering comments about whether suffers should undergo treatment.

  28. Yeah, right... by gillbates · · Score: 4, Interesting

    Pay is based on accomplishment and achievements...

    No, it is not.

    My investment banker counterpart earns about twice what an engineer does, and does even less work. True, the world does not care about your feelings, but the salary you receive is largely dependent on:

    1. The position you work (or career field), and
    2. How well you can sell yourself to your employer.

    The first is usually a matter of education, the second, largely a matter of confidence.

    One thing that negotiating a higher salary has taught me is that companies will always attempt to hire at the lowest possible salary. Being able to do a job 10 times better than the other guy doesn't mean a thing (wrt salary) if you don't exhibit confidence during the interview. Confidence goes a long way toward convincing an employer that you are worth more than the average guy.

    I realize people *should* be paid in proportion to their ability and work ethic, but that's not how the real world works.

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  29. Re:unrealistic optimism? by Maltheus · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Funny, I graduated in '91 and never felt that way at all back then. The Japan fears were over by the late 80s, computers were just starting to come on the scene in a big way. And given that I going to school for computers (which would never be outsourced like those lousy manufacturing jobs), I felt that my future was relatively secure. Twenty years later, I'm thinking it would be wise to have a healthy supply of food in hand, just in case of a sudden dollar collapse, and I'm taking side jobs to keep my options open. Make no mistake, we're not out of this by a long shot and the next 10 years will be substantially worse than the previous 10. Wait until our debt has grown so large that the world simply can't afford to keep buying it up anymore. That's when the real fireworks will start and you won't have to wait long to see it. The 90s were a freakin' golden age by comparison.

  30. Re:Stop projecting.... by vlm · · Score: 3, Funny

    atheistic fanaticism

    What is that? A "deafening silence" when teaching your kids about "creation science" or is it some other combination of oxymorons?

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  31. Re:Therapies other than drugs exist by Runaway1956 · · Score: 2, Insightful

    "able to read what the teacher is writing on the whiteboard."

    How 'bout a touch of humor and nostalgia mixed together? When I was in school, we had blackboards. Mostly, they really were black - but sometimes they were a dark green, or a dark blue. But, we wrote on those blackboards with chalk - not some newfangled dry-wipe markers.

    Anyway - at some point, I remember learning that we no longer had "blackboards", but "chalkboards". "Huh?" says I. "It's the same old blackboard it's always been!"

    But, no, with the civil rights movement, it was somehow derogatory toward black PEOPLE to notice that a black BOARD was black.

    Oh-key - here's the humor. I'm gonna sue people for calling a white board a white board.

    I'm not even really white, but most people assume I'm white when they meet me, so that's close enough for my discrimination lawsuit!

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  32. skewed measure; biased sample by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Informative

    As a recently licensed psychologist, I have this to offer:

    First, the study primarily used the MMPI (and presumably the MMPI-2) as its basis for symptom measurement. Any reasonable clinical psychologist would not use a single measure to outline a person's psychological profile. To do so would be unethical at best. Secondly, the MMPI-2 (and its precursor) has its share of validity questions. So the MMPI(-2) does not exactly provide the most accurate representation of symptom measurement. Another nitpicky detail: the MMPI-2 has not been validated for use with individuals under the age of 18. Thus the people represented are not exactly children any more.

    Second, the study used a sample that consisted primarily of college students. Now if it had used a wider sample, including those from families who cannot afford to send their children to college, I would expect that the range and severity of psychological problems would be more pronounced. I work in a clinic that works primarily with children and families in an urban area where there are chronic concerns of unemployment, community violence, and child maltreatment (i.e., sexual abuse, physical abuse, exposure to domestic violence, neglect). Granted, this is an entirely different population than what the study addressed, but the notion of telling kids that they don't have problems and should stop being wussies shows a notion of that speaker being trapped inside his/her own bubble and not realizing a much broader world where someone can have a completely different life than him/herself.

  33. Some really desolate lawns by Angst+Badger · · Score: 5, Interesting

    One of the things I find most annoying about Slashdot is the knee-jerk reflex some people have to respond to any unflattering comparison of the present day to some time in the past with, "Get off my lawn!" Yet strangely, when such mockery is genuinely appropriate in response to most of the comments here, it's nowhere to be seen.

    I don't know what parallel universe most of the commenters are coming from -- whether most of them are childless or just get their version of reality from FOX News, I don't know -- but the environment in which my teenager finds herself is highly competitive, not remotely cocooning or coddling, and in many ways significantly more stressful than the one I grew up in. And I don't have her on any medication.

    The thing that strikes me about today's kids is how obsessively schedule-driven they are. My daughter never seems to actually stop thinking about school or what she has to do next, and most of her friends are the same way. I suspect that this is at least partly responsible for the level of anxiety and depression in kids today. Far from lacking competition and discipline, the environment in which they move seems to have a surfeit of it, at least compared to my teenage experience in the 1980's, which was notoriously manic in its time but seems comparatively relaxed today.

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    1. Re:Some really desolate lawns by FoolishOwl · · Score: 2, Insightful

      I agree, generally. I'm writing this while taking a break from going over my stepson's high school applications. The applications for high schools are more complex and difficult than the applications for colleges I remember in the late 80s.

      Another thing that's concerned me for some time is the near-complete absence of a positive vision of the future. Such a vision can help one overcome any tribulation; the absence of one can make any tribulation seem crushing. In the late 1930s, there were many such visions in play: the democratic republic were still a new idea in much of the world; that science could lead rapidly and directly to practical improvements in daily life was a new phenomenon; the labor movement was broadening its base and establishing its legitimacy; the several varieties of socialism were attracting mass followings; and, hideous as most now recognize it to be, fascism and totalitarianism were seen as visions for a future.

      Now, most visions of the future seem to be nothing more than the belief that if we overcome various threats, to the global environment in particular, we may continue to live as we do now, except maybe with better web browsers. Even radicals seem to have very circumscribed visions of what may be accomplished. So, the kids I meet seem to look forward to individual prosperity, or to helping forestall various potential crises, and that's it. It's not much to lean on in times of trouble.

  34. Re:I blame women by vlm · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Seriously though, I'd like to see what type of lifestyle changes people think contributed to this.

    Culture of fear.

    I grew up in the cold war and its very politically correct and proper to say we were all scared shitless about nuclear war, but lets me honest here, most of us never cared about it, or only thought about it for about 2 hours per decade, like while watching the movie "the day after" or being indoctrinated about it in school. I suppose children living on a missile base or in D.C. might have had a different outlook, but I'd say I'm pretty much correct on average. Remember you only hear the LOUD ones whom claim they cared, not the majority.

    Now all "news" is nothing but terrorism. Be scared of this, be scared of that. All adults are out to molest all children. Everything causes cancer. Anyone you don't know is a criminal, and all family members are merely latent abusers. All "dual use" inanimate objects like guns, knives, etc, are inherently in and of themselves evil like its in their chemical makeup. If you don't understand it (and our education system will make certain of that) you must fear it. The TV says, that all forms of childhood recreation (other than watching TV, suspiciously) are too dangerous for kids. Ask for a slogan and you'll hear the words that we're not supposed to be cowards, look at the actions which are all the opposite.

    Add in some strange cultural values about entertainment (violence is great, sex is evil) mix that with most peoples actual lifestyles (vaguely pacifist, sex all the time)...

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  35. What a useless comparison by ActusReus · · Score: 3, Informative

    You can't compare "polls" or "studies" from the 1930's to 2010 because definitions and attitudes have changed so dramatically during that timeframe. For Christ's sake... LABATOMIES were still a standard and mainstream mental health practice at that time! Today pretty much anyone who's down in the dumps would say they feel "depressed", and anyone who is high-strung would say they experience "anxiety". Eighty years ago, however, they would simply say they feel "sad", or "nervous". It would be far less likely for them to REPORT such common feelings, and far less likely for the medical butchers of the time to label it as mental illness unless it were truly asylum-worthy.

    It's preposterous to say that depression and anxiety are more prevalent today than during the Great Depression, and the worst war the planet has ever known. The only thing more prevalent today is our willingness to label those states of mind as such.

  36. Re:Stop projecting.... by mikael_j · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Atheist: someone who denies the existence of god

    I noticed a couple of things, first off you didn't write "a god", you wrote "god" in a way that implies that you assume there is a specific god.

    Secondly, an atheist is generally considered "one who believes that there is no deity" (from my dictionary and from what I can tell most dictionaries seem to agree with that definition) which would basically make fanatic atheism some form of fanatic disbelief.

    /Mikael

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  37. SImple: Move Out of the United States by cenc · · Score: 5, Interesting

    I am serious. I left the United States in my early 20's for good, and all my mental health problems started going away. I am happy, healthy, less stressed, sleeping good, eating proper food, more successful, and most importantly less paranoid about every little frigen thing around me. It has take years however to repair the damage caused by living in the U.S., but I continue to see it in Americans that leave the United States for good all the time vs. those that are just on vacation. They go through a decompression process that progressively that typically takes at least a couple of years for them to "normalize" when they are adults. When kids move out before the teenage years are over, they are well adjusted, happy, more engaged in the World around them.

    American culture is really really one of the sickest cultures I have seen anywhere in the World, and most of the damage is done in the teenage years. Any parent that sends their kids to a U.S. school, should be arrested for child abuse.

  38. Re:Therapies other than drugs exist by Cyrus20 · · Score: 2, Funny

    dry erase board then if you will

  39. Overpopulation by Chemisor · · Score: 2, Insightful

    > Old Piotr did not have enough food to feed his entire family!

    Gee, I wonder why. Maybe having five children when he couldn't even afford to feed himself had something to do with that. The poor with a brood of children have no one to blame for their poverty except their penises.

  40. A modest counterpoint: help the needy by jonaskoelker · · Score: 2, Interesting

    I think you good a good point. I think I have a good counterpoint. I also think the best point is somewhere in between: figuring out where your point applies, where mine applies, and where some compromise or alternative applies.

    Stop being a bunch of wussies!

    Agreed---to the extent that this is the right solution. Some people need to stop being wussies.

    A kid shouldn't be taking medication for anything less than a serious physical problem. You don't give a kid powerful psychotropic drugs just because they're rebellious or shy.

    That's an interesting opinion. Is that based on any evidence regarding the safety and effectiveness of the "null" treatment plan? Does it depend on what the psychiatric diagnosis is?

    In any case, on to what I think people may want to think about:

    Some people really need help!

    It may very well be that people are being overdiagnosed. But some people are being diagnosed correctly.

    Imagine being bullied every day; each day someone makes fun of you for no reason. They criticize your clothing, your hair, your way of speech, anything, everything. Nobody helps you, even when you cry for help. Nobody comes and talks to you. Nobody tries to be your friend.

    Might you start to get the impression that nobody likes you? Or that nobody will ever like you? Nobody will ever love you?

    Will that make you shy away from trying to make friends? From asking girls out on a date? Will your subsequent loneliness and lack of affection, love and sex throw you into a depression? Will it make you commit suicide?

    If there's a person in this situation, do you think they deserve help? If they could be made less shy, could be taught to approach people and say "Hi, I see you're into ${interest} too. Want to hang out and ${interest} some time?" or "Would you go out with me?" (and have someone answer yes), and that makes said person happy and have a normal (if modest) social and romantic life, isn't that an improvement?

    Granted, just because someone calls you ugly and you feel unhappy about it for a few days doesn't mean you should be doped up and talk to a shrink. But if you get into a negative spiral, you should be pulled out.

    They'll have plenty of time to dope themselves into a stupor and cry at a psychologist's office when they're adults.

    Why not intervene early? If you have poor social skills which causes rejection which causes fewer opportunities to practice your social skills which causes poor social skills---and so forth in a negative spiral---wouldn't you want to be pulled out of it sooner rather than later?

    For those who really need help, what you're suggesting is postponing treatment until the condition has worsened and the patient has suffered a very unhappy childhood and adolescence.

    You don't want that to happen to anyone, do you?

  41. Wag the dog by jvonk · · Score: 3, Funny

    Bullshit. "Big Pharma" doesn't make up disorders. They make drugs and then test which disorders they might be able to target.

    ...and then popularize the disorders that are matches.

    "Do you have P.A.D.? Nearly eleventy billion Americans have this potentially deadly disorder. Why have you never heard of this before? We at the *cough*bristolmeyerssquibb*cough* P.A.D. Coalition are trying to get the word out about P.A.D. now that we found that Plavix can be used to treat it! Call your doctor *now*... you may already be dying of something no one has ever heard of before last year!"

    That pretty much summarizes the TV commercial I saw last week. Wag the dog, indeed.

  42. Same test used in 1938? by binaryartist · · Score: 2, Interesting

    I dont know if anyone wondered whether a test used 1938 would be relevant in 2010? For eg: If a kid was question about being gay in 1938 and if he thought that being gay was OK, he would have been judged abnormal...I would guess? This question does not make much sense in the world today

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  43. Lack of limits are the problem by Roger+W+Moore · · Score: 2, Interesting

    Kids today get emo and suicidal because they have been given everything

    I strongly disagree. I was extremely fortunate and had an excellent childhood. Certainly I never wanted for the essentials and had plenty of toys, games etc. However, growing up the the UK of the 70's and 80's, I also had limits. If I messed around at school I got into trouble with the teachers, if I got unruly at home I got into trouble with my parents. The problem I see today is that kids actions have no real consequences: somehow it is never their fault its a "syndrome" or a mental health problem or whatever.

    If your actions never have consequences then is it any wonder people lose the will to live and develop mental health issues? After all life is all about interacting with society and changing things. Of course having consequences also means that sometimes you are wrongly punished: someone will lie about what you did, you won't be believed etc. but, while you obviously want to minimize this (so no crazy "zero tolerance" policies), I really believe that this is a good thing in the end because it gives kids a practical lesson in WHY they need to behave e.g. make sure that you behave honestly so that people will believe you when it really matters, always treat people fairly because it makes you really mad when you are not treated fairly etc. The problem is that nowadays this is hard to implement because kids parents call in the lawyers and you end up with judges applying laws intended to deal with adult crimes and not with kids misbehaving at school or in public.

  44. Re:Therapies other than drugs exist by An+Onerous+Coward · · Score: 2, Informative

    Yes there is.

    The first time hate crime legislation was tested in the Supreme Court, the legislation was being used against a group of black men who beat up a white teenager. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wisconsin_v._Mitchell

    Something I wrote elsewhere:

    Hate crimes legislation does not say "the punishment for X is greater if the victim is (black, gay, disabled, atheist, etc.)" Laws like that have been passed, but are invariably struck down as unconstitutional.

    What the legislation says is that, if a person was targeted for having a certain religious viewpoint (regardless of what that viewpoint may be), or for their orientation (again, regardless of what it might be). Hate crime laws protect gay and straight, Mormon, Jew, and atheist equally. It's not a message that one group is more valuable than another, but a simple recognition that differences exist, hatreds and biases exist, and we there are certain ways that we cannot react to those feelings.

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  45. Re:American youth have it easy - even though... by Sabriel · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Consider that the Piotr in question was apparently an impoverished resident of 1950s Hungary (i.e. just-post-WW2 europe, near to poland and austria)... and that of his five offspring, which one cannot assume he had simultaneously, one died in infancy and another drowned in childhood. Consider also the links between subsistence living, mortality and birth rates, etcetera. Do I need to explain further?