To be fair, one of the three Amazon reviewers admits being a friend on the author's. One can only assume the other two are as well. I wonder if they even read the book as both reviews read like back page blurb and mention opening minds...
Also found the review impossible to read to the end - though after reading the disclaimer about the author being a mate of his I had my pinch of salt setting on full.
No I think the rep was deserved. I had the misfortune of being handed a Vista laptop when it was fairly newly released and it was slow and buggy. I couldn't shut it down, and there was some weird thing when you deleted files and it would randomly delete the parent folder. It improved with the service packs, and a complete rebuild, but it was never a happy experience. I have now rebuilt the same laptop with 7 and it's better in every conceivable way.
The person is dead. They don't care anymore about Facebook. Let them fade, remember the good times you shared, and move forward. Honoring someone's memory doesn't mean canonizing them. If that person was the only thing keeping a group of people connected, then their absence means that the group should drift apart and move on - that's how humans should work.
Once upon a time people all lived in the same village all their lives and could visit the local cemetary to lay flowers and remember. Now many of us live a long way from people we care about. My friend died on the other side of the world and for me her facebook page is the only memorial I can visit. Dead people don't care about stones or urns or trees or park benches with plaques either - all that stuff is as a comfort for the living and I don't see why a facebook memorial page should be anything different.
I have a dead facebook friend. I like still seeing her face there and I've even posted on her wall when I'm thinking about her. I'm not the only one to have done that - her husband has, and other friends too. After facebook suggested to me the other day that I "reconnect with her" I'm thinking this is a very good idea. I don't want her page to disappear, but I don't want her popping up in random fb suggestions either.
I lost a good friend to Scientology in highschool. Her parents were in it and after they moved into this weird converted hotel where all the scientologists lived together my friend ended up dropping out of school to devote her life to them.
Before this happened she told me lots of things that maybe she wouldn't have said later. She was very clear that they had only become a "church" for tax reasons - she consdiered it a very sensible move.
I'm hoping this will change. Yes IT has been perceived as a young person's game but that is just going to have to change as more of us stick around and resist going into management. One of the things I've always really liked about IT is that it's about getting the job done - and as it stands people will accept just about anyone when something needs to be done.
I should know. As a female techie I've endured enough surprised looks over the years, but I've never been shown the door. The best one was when I turned up at a navy base 7 months pregnant to sort something out with a server, and had to ask the guy to move the rack (it was on wheels) because I couldn't fit behind it!
Is it possible that what you need is not actually to leave IT entirely, but to do something different in IT? After 15 years in IT, and having taken some time off for my second baby, I thought I was over it, but then I got into a whole new technical area that excited me again. I learnt lots of new skills, brushed up my CV, moved from internal IT staff to a consultancy firm. I'm now 3 years down the line from that time and I'm loving being a techie more than ever. I've had friends who've left IT and eventually regretted it.
Yeah I also understood they did better than us because of the Maori being fighters - but more because the arriving whiteys realised they couldn't just walk all over the natives and had better cut some deals. In Australia we just hunted them down, poisoned their flour, etc etc
Seriously though, this is a real concern. I for one value my anonymity. If I had to take responsibility for everything I wrote, I'd hardly write anything at all. And wouldn't humanity be the poorer for that!
Sorry - humanity would be poorer if you had to take responsibility for your own actions? Isn't that what adults are supposed to do??
I found the skank case pretty bizarre, particularly since no-one was even reading that woman's petty little blog, but I also think trolls who hide behind anonymity to say hurtful things they'd never have the courage to say in person are despicable little weasels who should be held up to public ridicule. I've seen some pretty vicious attacks, including anonymous posts on a board and emails to a friend who had lost a baby in a drowning accident, basically saying she was a murderer and had no right to get pregnant again. Really - do people like that deserve protection?
This interests me because I've seen the same thing in the last couple of days. Normally the only reason anyone registers on my blog is to post a comment. I have my settings so I have to approve the first comment and after that they're good to go - so it was odd to see a couple of registrations with no comment approval coming straight after.
Now I've gone to check... they're all gmail accounts. *suspicious*
But what are points. On the BBC website IQ test I scored higher than my husband - but he's wayyy smarter than me in lots of ways, like knowing loads about history and politics and understanding how these things fit together. So what if I can kick his ass on IT amd maths?
I think that is a very interesting proposition. I don't know how your going to get that suggestion to these researchers, but I would like to see the results of that memory test. My guess is that men will actually do better in the presence of women.
I also think they'd do better in the presence of the woman and other men - bring out that competitive spirit.
Also interestingly - a woman on the pill has less chance of making the correct chemical compatability choice. The pill mimics pregnancy and during pregnancy a woman is more attracted to genetically similar people (ie family members who will look after her). I've read the fact that so many couples meet while she's on the pill cited as a possible factor in the rise of infertility.
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It is EASILY felt with ones finger in the upper wall of the vagina, as a slightly more dense, raised portion.
That's the cervix! And I don't like anyone touching that.
To be fair, one of the three Amazon reviewers admits being a friend on the author's. One can only assume the other two are as well. I wonder if they even read the book as both reviews read like back page blurb and mention opening minds...
Also found the review impossible to read to the end - though after reading the disclaimer about the author being a mate of his I had my pinch of salt setting on full.
No I think the rep was deserved. I had the misfortune of being handed a Vista laptop when it was fairly newly released and it was slow and buggy. I couldn't shut it down, and there was some weird thing when you deleted files and it would randomly delete the parent folder. It improved with the service packs, and a complete rebuild, but it was never a happy experience. I have now rebuilt the same laptop with 7 and it's better in every conceivable way.
That so-called study is a fine example of lying with statistics - see debunking here http://www.stubbornmule.net/2009/09/baby-bounce/
The person is dead. They don't care anymore about Facebook. Let them fade, remember the good times you shared, and move forward. Honoring someone's memory doesn't mean canonizing them. If that person was the only thing keeping a group of people connected, then their absence means that the group should drift apart and move on - that's how humans should work.
Once upon a time people all lived in the same village all their lives and could visit the local cemetary to lay flowers and remember. Now many of us live a long way from people we care about. My friend died on the other side of the world and for me her facebook page is the only memorial I can visit. Dead people don't care about stones or urns or trees or park benches with plaques either - all that stuff is as a comfort for the living and I don't see why a facebook memorial page should be anything different.
I have a dead facebook friend. I like still seeing her face there and I've even posted on her wall when I'm thinking about her. I'm not the only one to have done that - her husband has, and other friends too. After facebook suggested to me the other day that I "reconnect with her" I'm thinking this is a very good idea. I don't want her page to disappear, but I don't want her popping up in random fb suggestions either.
Say what you like about Oedipus, he loved his mother...
Great, now I've got that Tom Lehrer song in my head...
Before this happened she told me lots of things that maybe she wouldn't have said later. She was very clear that they had only become a "church" for tax reasons - she consdiered it a very sensible move.
I'm hoping this will change. Yes IT has been perceived as a young person's game but that is just going to have to change as more of us stick around and resist going into management. One of the things I've always really liked about IT is that it's about getting the job done - and as it stands people will accept just about anyone when something needs to be done.
I should know. As a female techie I've endured enough surprised looks over the years, but I've never been shown the door. The best one was when I turned up at a navy base 7 months pregnant to sort something out with a server, and had to ask the guy to move the rack (it was on wheels) because I couldn't fit behind it!
Is it possible that what you need is not actually to leave IT entirely, but to do something different in IT? After 15 years in IT, and having taken some time off for my second baby, I thought I was over it, but then I got into a whole new technical area that excited me again. I learnt lots of new skills, brushed up my CV, moved from internal IT staff to a consultancy firm. I'm now 3 years down the line from that time and I'm loving being a techie more than ever. I've had friends who've left IT and eventually regretted it.
Also there is a good chance she would not have been wearing it in bed anyway.
I'm still not entirely convinced by his arguments about how high a temp you need to burn cardboard. Seriously - 258C??
Don't make me imagine what you might be imagining >
..after it catches on fire ..
Still cool?
Yeah I also understood they did better than us because of the Maori being fighters - but more because the arriving whiteys realised they couldn't just walk all over the natives and had better cut some deals. In Australia we just hunted them down, poisoned their flour, etc etc
Firefox 3.5 very stable here - but then I make a point of keeping plugins to a minimum. I'm evening running it on shitsta (not my choice).
My irony detector was obviously set too low - ta for that.
Seriously though, this is a real concern. I for one value my anonymity. If I had to take responsibility for everything I wrote, I'd hardly write anything at all. And wouldn't humanity be the poorer for that!
Sorry - humanity would be poorer if you had to take responsibility for your own actions? Isn't that what adults are supposed to do??
I found the skank case pretty bizarre, particularly since no-one was even reading that woman's petty little blog, but I also think trolls who hide behind anonymity to say hurtful things they'd never have the courage to say in person are despicable little weasels who should be held up to public ridicule. I've seen some pretty vicious attacks, including anonymous posts on a board and emails to a friend who had lost a baby in a drowning accident, basically saying she was a murderer and had no right to get pregnant again. Really - do people like that deserve protection?
This interests me because I've seen the same thing in the last couple of days. Normally the only reason anyone registers on my blog is to post a comment. I have my settings so I have to approve the first comment and after that they're good to go - so it was odd to see a couple of registrations with no comment approval coming straight after.
Now I've gone to check... they're all gmail accounts. *suspicious*
But what are points. On the BBC website IQ test I scored higher than my husband - but he's wayyy smarter than me in lots of ways, like knowing loads about history and politics and understanding how these things fit together. So what if I can kick his ass on IT amd maths?
I think that is a very interesting proposition. I don't know how your going to get that suggestion to these researchers, but I would like to see the results of that memory test. My guess is that men will actually do better in the presence of women.
I also think they'd do better in the presence of the woman and other men - bring out that competitive spirit.
Also interestingly - a woman on the pill has less chance of making the correct chemical compatability choice. The pill mimics pregnancy and during pregnancy a woman is more attracted to genetically similar people (ie family members who will look after her). I've read the fact that so many couples meet while she's on the pill cited as a possible factor in the rise of infertility.
Woah woah woah.. wife? INSTALLING?
I must have forgotten that I'm a wife when I was installing that email server today...
My point is the word should have been "negligible". ;)
Yes we female techies form a negligible presence - but we never like to be neglected.
Carol