Gah!!! I hate when people say "you have to change". It implies that you have to become someone that you're not or not be the "real you". So don't think that you're doomed because you want to remain true to yourself.
Should you try to be more outwardly attractive? To increase your chances of finding someone then....yes. Should you try to be more sociable? To increase your chances of finding someone then....yes! How do you do these things? Well...they're skills just like learning how to program in C++ or learning how TCP/IP works. Just because you're learning new skills that may make you seem like you're a different person doesn't make you a different person.
So...try out some contact lenses, iron that shirt, go to a night class (not just to learn the subject but more importantly to immerse yourself in a new social experience), or even...dare I say...go to the bar (by yourself). Going to the bar is great for constantly new social experiences. And don't be afraid of making mistakes 'cuz you're going to. Did you stop when you're latest program didn't work? No....you debugged it...learned from it...and kept going. So keep going!
Finally.....learn, experiment, experience. That's what life's about.
Becoming more outwardly attractive
Am I the only that thinks that perhaps the programmers of the world can spend their energies doing something a little...um...i dunno...um...productive?
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Gah!!! I hate when people say "you have to change". It implies that you have to become someone that you're not or not be the "real you". So don't think that you're doomed because you want to remain true to yourself. Should you try to be more outwardly attractive? To increase your chances of finding someone then....yes. Should you try to be more sociable? To increase your chances of finding someone then....yes! How do you do these things? Well...they're skills just like learning how to program in C++ or learning how TCP/IP works. Just because you're learning new skills that may make you seem like you're a different person doesn't make you a different person. So...try out some contact lenses, iron that shirt, go to a night class (not just to learn the subject but more importantly to immerse yourself in a new social experience), or even...dare I say...go to the bar (by yourself). Going to the bar is great for constantly new social experiences. And don't be afraid of making mistakes 'cuz you're going to. Did you stop when you're latest program didn't work? No....you debugged it...learned from it...and kept going. So keep going! Finally.....learn, experiment, experience. That's what life's about. Becoming more outwardly attractive
That is just about the dumbest thing I've ever seen.
Am I the only that thinks that perhaps the programmers of the world can spend their energies doing something a little...um...i dunno...um...productive?
A-men brother/sister!