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Playing Games While Not Ruining Your Relationship?
Silicon Mike asks: "A nice sized group of us here at work recently picked up City of Heroes, and started playing together. While all of us were gamers to some extent, now we're all pretty addicted and want to play together online all the time. The problem some of us are running into is that our significant others aren't too happy with us gaming all the time. Other then the two obvious solutions (quit playing or dump the significant other) I'm wondering how other people have deal with it? I tried installing Zoo Tycoon on my other computer and saying 'Look honey, cute bears' but she just didn't bite."
but if you have to ask this question, members of the opposite sex will probably appreciate it if you just stay the hell away. Women (I'm assuming this question is being asked by a guy) want and need lots of affection. Plants need water and sunlight. Women need (at the extreme minimum) food, compliments, conversation, touching/sex, and the occasional pair of shoes. If you aren't willing to provide these, then your relationship will resemble a plant left in a dry basement for a few months.
That's not saying that you can't have time with your friends, but RPGing and relationships just don't mix (unless she RPGs too).
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I play games all the time, my wife has no problem with it. She knew when we met that I was into collecting and playing video games. Just like I knew she was into collecting shoes.
Of course I never say "I'm not going to your sisters wedding with you, I'm waiting for a Black Dragon to spawn so I can get more experience points!"
But I sit in my room playing whatever game I'm into, she sits in the living room watching reruns of shitty sitcoms. We meet in the bedroom. It's win-win.
You're just married to a bitch. It really is that simple.
Just remind her that plenty of guys prefer to get drunk and beat their wives in their downtime. She may see it different then.
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Sick of these poseur "geeks" with significant others. Any true geek would never give up the latest and greatest system for a girl.
My experience has been that most women want to control everything. They can waste time/money doing 'their thing', and you can't say anything about it. But when the tables are turned, you can't do the same.
You have to be giving and attentive without necessarily expecting or getting the same in return.
It's such a lousy double standard. Seems to me that most women want equality, but with that should be the concept of giving some of their time for your interests as well as vice-versa.
Long story short; you won't change her, but she'll try like hell to change you. Personally, someone like that isn't worth being in a relationship with.
My experience has been that most women want to control everything. They can waste time/money doing 'their thing', and you can't say anything about it. But when the tables are turned, you can't do the same.
My experience has been that most ACs like to post unrealistic stereotypes under the guise of insightful commentary.
I find it hard to believe that one sex is more selfish than the other by any objective measure. If that has been your experience, remember the despair.com poster: the only consistent feature of all your dissatisfying relationships is you.