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frankgod asks: "I'm a 25/M/US geek who managed to get through school with my singleness intact. I plan on staying single for a while into the future, but I am considering online dating in addition to other methods of meeting local women for casual dating. Any advice on particular sites and tweaking profiles or search results? I've looked at eHarmony , Lavalife (sparse local results) and Match.com (seems to be best of the bunch.)"
Here's an important thing to know, from someone who has had women friends from many nations. For some reason for which I have only partly adequate theories, women in the United States are going through a very bad period in the last decades. They are often unbelievably unhappy, far more unhappy than can be explained by their obvious individual circumstances.
So, if you meet a woman and she gives you a hard time, consider the source. If she is a generally unhappy woman, then you cannot be the cause, because you just met her.
Somehow, Mexican, black, and Jewish women in the U.S. seem to have been affected by the cultural breakdown in the United States more than the average Caucasian woman. But for all of them the breakdown is, generally, but not always, quite severe.
Most people in the U.S. are not aware of the social breakdown in their country, because they have never known anything else. It would take several books to show how severe the breakdown is, so I will offer just a little evidence that is appropriate since we will be voting soon:
Symptom of social breakdown: The U.S. government is heavily influenced by alcoholism. The United States has been having a difficult time getting qualified people to run for president.
First, here is some initial information about alcoholism:
1) The first thing you should know is that alcoholics are often extremely likable in some settings. That doesn't mean that all likable people are alcoholics, of course. It does mean that many people who don't have experience with the effects of alcoholism are deceived when they think that alcholism-influenced people are likable. The likability is just an act. 2) The personality disorders of being an alcoholic do not stop if the alcoholic stops drinking. "Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic". 3) The third valuable insight is that often the non-drinking children of alcholics have some of the disorders of alcoholics.
It is also valuable to know that alcoholics and ACOAs often share severe disorders: 1) They are usually chronic liars. 2) They usually have a very strong anger problem. 3) They are often unable to analyze, because their inner conflict is so great that they cannot think clearly. 4) Usually they don't read, so they are often poorly educated about many issues that matter. 5) Usually they involve themselves with inappropriate sexuality. 6) They are often violent. 7) They often use other drugs. Alcoholics often use cocaine, because that reduces the negative effects of drinking, so that they can drink more.
You can do your own research into alcoholism by contacting an Alcoholics Anonymous chapter or ACOA chapter in your city.
Ronald Reagan: He was an ACOA, a child of a severe alcoholic. Effect on the the country: He caused the U.S. government to borrow money so that his administration would look good. The U.S. government went far more heavily into debt during his presidency; the government borrowed $4.5 trillion. Some of the money went to weapons makers in California, Reagan's home state. Symptoms: Likability. Chronic liar. Read only very simple western novels. Called his wife "Mommy".
Comment: Most people in the U.S. have little experience with alcoholism, still do not see the signs, and think Ronald Reagan was a great president.
George H.W. Bush, the father of the present president: An ACOA, a child of a severe, physically abusive, alcoholic, his father Preston Bush. Effect on the country: Continued the borrowing of Ronald Reagan. It is not only borrowing money that is destructive; most of the corruption is directing that money to those who want corruption in government. Did you get some of the money that was borrowed? Only if you were rich or powerful, or both. Symptoms: Chronic liar. Very weak man. Expected his wife, Barbara, to look and act like his mother. Often could not express himself well, showing the extreme disorganization in his mind. Had little understanding of government policy, and little a
Please don't be intimidated by someone with unspecified objections. Consider everything in the light of your own experiences and your own extensive investigation.
If you have never read the books about the Bush family and Bush administration, I suggest you do so. If you read the books, you will see that the corruption is far worse than you are being told.
You cannot develop an accurate opinion by listening to the innuendo from media employees who would lose their jobs if they seemed to indicate a preference for one candidate over another. Remember, the media exists to make money. Unfortunately, we don't have directly supported media, only ad supported media, and advertisers, understandably, are careful not to alienate anyone.
One matter that needs to be corrected in my comment above: Preston Bush, George W. Bush's grandfather, was a man with genuine political ability. Yes, he was an alcoholic who was threatening toward his children, but he also often served well in the Senate.
I recommend a new book, The Family: The Real Story of the Bush Dynasty. Don't expect any author to be perfect. However, this book is an excellent overview of the Bush family. Here is a quote which supports my statement about the chronic lying of George Herbert Walker Bush and his son George W. Bush:
"The official family tree provided by the Bush archivists does not include the two mentally retarded daughters of John M. Walker, and lists only two of James Smith Bush's wives, not all four of them; one of Ray Walker's two wives is omitted, and George Herbert Walker III is listed with only two, instead of three, wives."
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Before, Saddam was killing. Now, the U.S. Gov. is killing and destabilizing, and you pay. Improvement?