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Online Dating Advice?
frankgod asks: "I'm a 25/M/US geek who managed to get through school with my singleness intact. I plan on staying single for a while into the future, but I am considering online dating in addition to other methods of meeting local women for casual dating. Any advice on particular sites and tweaking profiles or search results? I've looked at eHarmony , Lavalife (sparse local results) and Match.com (seems to be best of the bunch.)"
HA! It is bad enough when people ask for legal advice on slashdot, but now they are asking for dating advice?
What would be the IANAL equivalent? IASAV (still a virgin)?
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you seem to make it seem like an accomplishment.
/. should be nominated for the nobel prize.
sorry to break it to you buddy
you're an ametur in a crowd of professionals. if that's an accomplishment, all of
and let's not turn this into a 200-reply thread about marriage. it seems to happen a lot whenever the issue is raised.
-- If you try to fail and succeed, which have you done? - Uli's moose
Read the ladder theory first
"The ladder theory is a theory of adult male/female interaction.
It has its basis in many years of sociological field testing.
It was first conceptualized in 1994 in Exeter, CA.
My acknowledgements to Jared Whitson for his role in formalizing the theory"
They forgot to put the Monty Python foot icon on this story. /. for advice on getting laid? What, are you new here?
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Seriously though, who put you up to this? Shouldn't you have waited till late March to submit this?
Arrogance is Confidence which lacks integrity. -- me
Seriously.
... however ...
... take my advice: jerk off alone [or with friends], buy a hooker every now and then, but don't, don't, don't, get your heart wrapped up in a girl. No matter how strong you are going into the relationship, you will NOT be able to maintain it, and you'll ultimately become a slave to the vagina.
[no pun intended]
It's virtually impossible to find a girl that will put up with a man that does what he want's when he wants (translation: online gaming, working late, etc).
In the beginning, ALL WOMEN are very considerate and "understanding" of your work/play habits. However, as the relationship [inevitably] matures (aka, after the first 6 months), they will begin to pull in the reigns. I've gone into every relationship I've had thinking, "I'm not going to let this one be like the last one; I'm going to call the shots, and do what I want to do; and when I want to do it.".
However, here's the cold hard reality: I will be probably be married within 12 months and my freedom(s) will be gone forever.
Seriously, much like many other geeks, I'm not sure how I let things get to this point. You enter a relationship knowing exactly how things are going to happen, however, within a few months you find yourself fighting tooth and nail just to have a few hours for goofing-off, gaming, etc. My girl gives me plenty of space, and I love her more than anything on the planet - I wouldn't change it for anything...
Disclaimer: Sweetie, if you're reading this, I'm just kidding. hehe.
Don't think that a small group of dedicated individuals can't change the world. It's the only thing that ever has.
They won't match a Buddist with a 7th Day Adventist...
Why not? Both tend towards vegetarianism. :)
Here ya go, http://www.meet-an-inmate.com/. Some of those chicks are cute! At least they were before they went in! Some are getting out in a few months, wait outside the gate with a bouquet of roses and she'll be yours forever. Or at least until your computer gets pawned for crack.
Seriously. They offered me a refund saying they couldn't help me.
Relationships are too important to be taken seriously.
Daniel
Carpe Diem
Even if she's only a 5 or 6, she may have friends who are a 8,9 or a 10 that you can meet later on if you stay friends. Work out your moves on the low stress situation with the 5 or 6 so that when it really counts, you'll be ok.
:(
I actually dont feel that 10 year olds are mature enough for me
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Why not? Both tend towards vegetarianism. :)
In addition, those I've met from both groups tend to be pretty thoughtful, honest, respectful, and are used to being outside the mainstream without a burning need to disengage from or denigrate the mainstream. It wouldn't be my first matchmakery choice, but I could see them getting along.
On the other hand, I'd pay good money to see the dating adventures of a Jehovah's Witness and a Hare Krishna.
Or perhaps those 30-somethings are marrying women you find ugly for a reason. Maybe they divorced that good looking woman after finding out there is more to a woman than her looks. Just maybe :)
While I think the methodology and concept behind eHarmony is solid, the execution needs a lot of work. Instead, you'd probably be better off in DreamMates or American Singles.
American Singles???
"Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms, and Explosives" should be a convenience store, not a government agency.
You've got to warn everyone and tell them! Women is made of people! You've got to tell them! Women is people!
Ask Charlton Heston.
I cannot advocate this strategy enough. Surely you will gain the adoration of many 9's when they discover your clever ruse with the 5.
Also be sure and make public your ratings to women around you, nothing says classy quite like it.
Sacré-bleu! Where is me mama?