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Dead? Hope You Left Someone Your Passwords

A reader writes "Looks like if you die, Yahoo won't grant access to family members. I know I've enjoyed reading my grandfather's letters from WWII, this could be a huge loss of history if other ISP's have the same policy." MJK points out that Slashdot has explored the notion of what happens to your data after you die.

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  1. Is this something you'd really want? by Rorschach1 · · Score: 5, Insightful

    My family members are welcome to keep all the emails I've sent them. But my personal mail? That'd incriminate way too many people still living...

    1. Re:Is this something you'd really want? by DeathFlame · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Exactly.

      Do I really want my parents seeing emails I've sent my girlfriend [or if you find that hard to believe... some 60 year old man posing as a girl]

      Knowing what I've written, I'm pretty sure I'm happy that they don't get to access such files when I die. Do you want to read erotic messages your parents send to each other?

    2. Re:Is this something you'd really want? by kenthorvath · · Score: 4, Insightful
      Do you want to read erotic messages your parents send to each other?

      Are you mature enough to understand that every person has a sexual side and recognize the beauty of such relationships? If so, then stumbling upon such correspondences can pose no permanent harm to you. You may even discover something that gives you insight into the inner workings of a dearly departed. Something that they had not the strength to disclose to you in life, or perhaps that they did not think worth mentioning.

      Those whom we truly love we will understand and accept for who they are/were. Learning about their private side can only help us to celebrate their life.

      I do understand the concern over the effect that such matters may have over the living (affairs, partners in crime, etc...), however criminal matters should likely be resolved anyway - regardless of one's relationship status of the criminal - and personal matters such as an affair can be treated delicately at the discretion of the loved ones who are discovering them.

    3. Re:Is this something you'd really want? by AviLazar · · Score: 5, Funny

      Thats touching, but two things come to mind

      1) Hey hot stuff, I am gonna ride you all night long like a dog in heat

      2) Yes my wonderful lover. Our 30 year relationship, cheating on my husband has been great. He doesn't even realize that my child is really yours.

      While this is worst case scenario - man it would definitly be throwing salt on the wound.

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    4. Re:Is this something you'd really want? by drunkenbatman · · Score: 4, Interesting

      When my significant other died, it would have meant all the world for her (much) younger sister to have access to her yahoo account, for two reasons:

      1. things happened suddenly, and suddenly everything left behind by that person was now precious. everything. imagine you're slipping over a cliff, and desperately grabbing at any sort of purchase you can find. it's sort of like that.

      2. she associated that SN with her sister, which they would talk on and email often because her family was in australia. the idea of somehow seeing it in use by someone else was... not sure how to explain this, except it wouldn't be something one would want to experience. yes you can take the person off your messenger, and you can block the list... but it's just the idea.

      I have to admit that I spent hours and hours late at night trying to guess her password, and some other things after yahoo said no, but will also admit i was one of many things I was doing to try to keep my mind busy and off of everything else.

      I do recognize that there is a right to privacy, and that aspects of things might not be healthy... but it doesn't work that way when you're going through it. Your world is upside down, and what is rational and what isn't doesn't really matter. Yes, not having it isn't the end of the world... but seeing one more piece of that person just slip away into the ether, while possibly romantic to a 16 year old, is just a horrid thing to contemplate.

      When you're living your life in your mid-20s, you don't think about throwing your yahoo password in your will for your significant other... or often a will at all. This isn't something I expect a typical slashdotter to understand, it's just how it is... I'll leave it at that, as I'm finding myself way outside of my comfort zone at the moment.

  2. so by ch-chuck · · Score: 5, Insightful

    don't keep anything you want to pass on stored on Yahoo! Next problem?

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    1. Re:so by SuperBigGulp · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Um, I think a little sensitivity is called for. The deceased account holder was killed in (I believe) Iraq and was probably too busy doing other things to archive his email to non-volatile storage. And even if he did have time, he was in a f* ing war zone...What in Iraq is not volatile? If you did find something, wouldn't you want to encrypt it somehow in case it was lost or stolen? What would you do with that password/key?

      Maybe wills should include language defining how this type of information should be handled, but for now it seems like Yahoo should step and do the right thing.

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    2. Re:so by Marxist+Hacker+42 · · Score: 4, Insightful

      An extension- since you never know when any given online service is going to go belly up, NEVER use one exclusively for everything. Keep local copies of anything important (what did you THINK that 80 GB hard drive was for, your music collection?) and multiple copies of anything you put online that you want to keep.

      Not even slashdot is forever, folks.

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    3. Re:so by GlassHeart · · Score: 4, Insightful
      it seems like Yahoo should step and do the right thing.

      What's the right thing?

    4. Re:so by Jim_Maryland · · Score: 5, Insightful
      A possible solution would be to change the authentication process a bit. Just throwing out this idea sort of quickly...

      User creates an account

      User defines a secondary password

      Secondary password is only valid for authentication after 6 months (or some other reasonable time period) of inactivity (presumably death)

      Something like this would hopefully allow for accounts to be secure until a person dies while allowing access after a defined period of time. I guess the flaws could be that most ISPs don't necessarily keep accounts active after a couple months non-payment or after a "X" days of inactivity. ISP's could offer some protection like this for an addition fee if a person really wanted to leave access after they depart the world.

  3. another reason by Frymaster · · Score: 4, Funny

    yet another reason to make your passwords the names of your children!

    1. Re:another reason by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Funny

      Yes, yes. Whenever he complains, this is what I tell my son 6o11uM.

  4. Just to be safe... by loteck · · Score: 5, Funny
    you can all go ahead and list your passwords under this thread, so that your family can come back and find them when you bite the dust.

    This is slashdot, you can trust us.

    1. Re:Just to be safe... by starsong · · Score: 5, Funny

      That's a really great idea! I'll try this. In the meantime, here's a couple of things that have worked for me:

      1) DON'T POST ALL YOUR PASSWORDS ON SLASHDOT. :)

  5. I take it with me ... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    My data is my data, and unless I stated otherwise in my will, it dies with me.

    Also, if my relatives would have something to see in my email, I would let them read it.
    After all the reason you use the yahoo mail is privacy.
    Why should my privacy die with me ? (sounds funny, though)

  6. I have to agree with Yahoo by NotQuiteReal · · Score: 4, Insightful
    Especially with Yahoo - and other free accounts. I'd hate to go thru my loved one's free email account and see all the "Welcome to Spanky's Love Goat - your login is..."

    I think keeping the contents private is prudent.

    It is up to you to archive your emails and other e-stuff in a a spot that it can be found, if indeed you really want it found after you are "gone".

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  7. pr0n by GoofyBoy · · Score: 5, Funny

    When I die, I wouldn't want any one to find my pr0n. Someone needs to create encrypted mpeg/divx.

    Or maybe I should request that I be buried with it to take to the afterlife. "Please bury me with the harddrive with the folder name 'Stuff'".

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    1. Re:pr0n by lcde · · Score: 5, Funny

      When I die, I wouldn't want any one to find my pr0n. Someone needs to create encrypted mpeg/divx.

      all the passwords would be cracked in no time because they have to be easy enough to type with one hand.

      HAHAH uh.

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  8. That's what your will is for by FunWithHeadlines · · Score: 4, Interesting
    I've long thought that it makes sense now to have a rider attached to your will listing your various online personas and accounts, along with passwords, and instructions about notifying your online communities of your demise. Play in a fantasy sports league? Might be nice to let the commish know you won't be getting back to him on that trade offer. You're the talk of a discussion board? Might be nice to let your old friends know that you died but thought enough of them to have them notified of your death.

    Plus think of the flaming possibilities. You could instruct your surviving loved ones to flame as much as you want, knowing full well no one can touch you in return (unless you believe you are experiencing literal flaming after death, but that's just the risk flamers take).

    Seriously, put it in your will if it's important enough.

    1. Re:That's what your will is for by identity0 · · Score: 5, Funny

      Hi, this is identity0's son. Dad passed away last night, and he wrote in his will to tell you that you're a frickin' moron. Your idea will never work.

      Have a nice day, sir.

  9. I had no idea... by krbvroc1 · · Score: 5, Funny

    Grandma: Oh my god, how many emails about viagra did he have?
    Ohhh, I better contact this poor Mr. Mbutu and see if I can help him out. I didn't realize pop had friends in Nigeria.
    Look at all these money making schemes? How come I never saw any of this money?
    Oh dear, I had no idea pop was into asian porn...
    My my, it looks like pop was corresponding with someone about Vicodin.

    Perhaps its better he died...

  10. Re:it's a good thing the data is locked away by Cynikal · · Score: 4, Funny

    hehe i agree, i can just imagine my tombstone reading "R.I.P -1 troll"

  11. How do you know she died? by tgd · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Did he provide a copy of the death certificate? How do you know who it was or wasn't?

    What you did was wrong, and if it wasn't illegal, it should be.

    If you didn't want it on your concience, you should've passed the call up the chain of command to someone with more integrity.

  12. Re:DMS by 99BottlesOfBeerInMyF · · Score: 4, Interesting

    how do you tell it that you're dead when you're, well, dead?

    I wrote a little program called dead man switch years ago, for just this purpose (and to teach myself Java). I imagine this is someone else's though since I only gave mine to a few friends. Mine just required that you log in to the server once every [variable] days. If you failed to log in it would optionally send a warning e-mail and then it would mail out a predefined message to a predefined address. I planned to expand it to include setting up accounts and storing files encrypted, but never got to it. I figured all those movies where people say, "If I die my computer will automatically send the files to the police" would be more true to life if there was such an app lying around to make it easy. (cron, yes, I know)

    My guess is that like my program, and like a real dead man switch, it takes a conscious effort to keep the switch from being tripped.

  13. This is true. by bannerman · · Score: 4, Interesting

    When my best friend died in a tragic hiking accident, I spent about 30 hours trying to hack his hotmail account for his family- after they found out that Hotmail was not going to give it up for us. I never did get in.

    I've been heavily into the MMORPG scene over the last few years, and some of my closest friends are folks that I don't have any other contact with. If one of them was to get hit by a bus, I'd never know what happened. That would be odd. I suppose that from my side of the monitor it would be exactly the same as if they had suddenly quit playing the game and never contacted me again. That's an odd concept.

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  14. Yahoo is doing the right thing by netmask · · Score: 5, Insightful

    I support Yahoo's stance in this matter. While he's dead and really doesn't have a care in the world, because nothing about him besides a pile of flesh exists..

    Out of respect, what if there were things he never wanted them to know? What if he was gay and having an internet relationship with some man, and his parents were anti-gay? They would then be left thinking they never knew their own son, and all of this crap.

    If you want people to have access to that sort of thing, leave them access. Put your passwords in a safe or something if you MUST write them down.

    Yahoo and others should not be giving access to an individuals person email, dead or alive. I don't care if the family presents a death certificate or not. You should have a reasonable expectation of privacy and deceny even after death. Let your personal life die with you.

  15. Re:Try the "Secret Question" by 3terrabyte · · Score: 4, Funny

    And that's the moment when danheskett and taustin figured out they were friends in RL. "Dude, you're on /.!"

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  16. Re:Suggestion by sharp-bang · · Score: 4, Funny

    My password is my cat's name (x6>B8e@7w_4). I rename it every 30 days.

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  17. Re:it's a good thing the data is locked away by sconeu · · Score: 4, Funny

    Nah, your tombstone would read: "Netcraft confirms it, Cynikal is dead".

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  18. Email should be considered property by jay2003 · · Score: 5, Insightful

    The email or other electronic records are property just as paper letters are. By default, you don't have privacy in death as your paper letters are inherited by someone unless you leave provisions in your will for them to be destroyed. If you are a famous person, your person letters are likely valuable property.

    I don't see why email should be considered any different. Yahoo's position really is that your email is not personal property. They "own" in the sense of controlling the property while it's on their servers. I don't think Yahoo's objection is really about privacy. They don't want your email to be considered property because they could then be sued when they accidently lose it, not to mention the administrative costs of dealing with probate transfers. If this was really about privacy, they could give make the disposition at death user controllable when the account is created.

    I doubt this issue will be fully decided by the courts until some famous author dies and the only copy of their unpublished work in on some server somewhere and worth a lot money. Then the family will sue for access to the valuable property which they've rightly inherited through the will and the courts will be forced to decide whether ISPs can destroy property on somebody's death.

  19. Re:Good idea! by gphinch · · Score: 4, Funny

    That's amazing, I have the same combination on my luggage!

    Prepare to open the shield, and change the combination on my luggage!

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  20. Re:My sister died this past summer by MKalus · · Score: 4, Insightful
    This situation needs to be changed-when someone dies, those who are left behind have every right to access whatever they can, including their email. Everything left behind, no matter how minor, becomes invaluable in holding onto the memories of them.


    I am not sure I agree with this. If I really want people to have access to things I will make sure they can.

    A company like Yahoo cannot simply relinquish the login info just because you would like to have access to.

    It might be your desire to know everything about that person, but in essence it is their call to make sure that you have access to it. Put it in their will or find another way, but you don't have a (legal, and moral is debatable) right to see those informations.

    Yes, it sucks to lose someone and it is understandable that you want to have as much as you can, but at the end of the day shouldn't you respect the way they have lived, secrets and all?
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