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Programming Until Retirement?

DataDragon asks: "Here's the situation- I'm a now 30something computer programmer in Silicon Valley working for one of the local billion+ dollar tech companies. I'm unhappy with my present job, but am thankful that I've got one. Although I pride myself on having written over a million lines of code in my career, with nearly 15 commercial software products under my belt (8 of them were my own concepts from start-to-finish). I've had carpal tunnel for 6 years now, my skillset looks like it came from a 3 year old magazine, and I didn't make good on stock options. Since settling down in a quiet place somewhere and having a family sounds like a great idea to myself and my bride-to-be, I was wondering: instead of all the buzz I always get like Google's 'Do you <insert technology task> in your sleep?' job opportunities I've read about, are there any employers that would rather have a person who: wants to put in an honest day's work; get to know the job and the people well; and a desire to ultimately be a mentor for the company processes, instead of a here-today-gone-tomorrow programmer, who is interested in actually working there until retirement age?"

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  1. Thank you for your service by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Funny

    You have now outlasted your usefulness to the state. Please report to your nearest execution chamber.

    1. Re:Thank you for your service by freemacmini · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Well you have to make a choice. Are you going to be a programmer or are you going to be a manager. Just because you are a good programmer that does not mean you will make a good manager and vice versa. It's good that you are looking at alternatives though. In this economy I don't think you are expected to stay a programmer all your life. People expect forward progress on your resume and your managers are expecting some sort of an initive. Finally you might have to leave your company. In may companies the chances of upward movement depend on turnover and unless you expect people above you to be retiring or quitting soon you should start looking for other opportunities.

    2. Re:Thank you for your service by freemacmini · · Score: 4, Interesting

      " In other words, he should scrap what he knows or find a new intriguing way to convert it in management abilities ?" In a nutshell yes. It may not be fair but people are not interested in hiring 30+ or 40+ programmers. At that age you are expected to be in management of some sort.

    3. Re:Thank you for your service by iocat · · Score: 5, Insightful

      I definitely call bullsh*t on this. We're always looking for coders with 20+ years of experience. Some people burn out, but some people are still into coding, or want to get back into it after a management stint. They are awesome. They have made and seen tons of mistakes, so they can help newer guys (informally if not formally). Plus they tend to work as hard or harder than most people. Having a more stable outside work social life also means less drama in the office. You definitely need a good mix of people -- if it's all gnarled verterans, they just sit around telling war stories -- but you'd be crazy to dismiss someone becuase they've got Altair experience on their resume. (In fact, we're interviewing someone w/ Altair experience on their resume next week, and I'm extremely stoked about it.)

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    4. Re:Thank you for your service by dsplat · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Management does not necessarily mean giving up anything technical. Team leaders who have good technical skills and can handle project management are incredibly valuable.

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  2. Carpal Tunnel? by GreyWolf3000 · · Score: 4, Interesting

    Switch to dvorak!

    Being a programmer, you probably want one of the layouts tweaked for programming (that put braces and stuff in easy locations).

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    1. Re:Carpal Tunnel? by RGTAsheron · · Score: 5, Informative

      I'll back GreyWolf on that one. I've been programming for a while and had carpal tunnel. I switched and about a month later no longer had any pain :) Takes about 3 days to switch if you use it alot. Also if you change the keys around while your learning it makes it alot easier.

  3. Oblig. Logan's Run quip here: by jemnery · · Score: 5, Funny

    We've got a runner!

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  5. Yes plenty of those employees by drgonzo59 · · Score: 4, Funny

    ...Just gotta move to India

    1. Re:Yes plenty of those employees by Schmendr1ck · · Score: 5, Informative
      I'll second that. I live in Orlando Florida and make a very nice living as a 40-hour-a-week programmer/technical lead. I work on military simulation projects for the Department of Defense, and many of them require me to have a security clearance.

      The good: My company values its employees, deathmarches are rare, there is no danger that my work will be outsourced to India or Russia, salary and benefits are fantastic, and the work can be technically challenging.

      The bad: The work isn't always technically challenging, you have to play The Game (but then, where don't you?), and eventually you will reach a point where you must take on some management responsibilities. However, if you work it correctly, you can rise as a technical lead, software architect, or some other position which is mostly technical with only a dash of paper-shuffling required.

      I used to be a game developer. The work was incredibly fun, but the hours were backbreaking and the paychecks were irregular, if they came at all. As a mid-30s programmer with a wife, two kids, a mortgage and a car payment to worry about, I am willing to take some less exciting work in exchange for a company that treats me like a human being, pays me every two weeks without fail, and will gladly employ me until retirement if I so choose.

  6. Irony by Alric · · Score: 4, Insightful

    All of the software shops I've worked at or been involved with NEED a person in the role you seek, but none of them wants to pay the salary requisite to get a skilled veteran.

    I wish you luck.

    1. Re:Irony by TrekCycling · · Score: 5, Interesting

      One thing to consider is to lower your expenses. My wife and I were in quite the cherry position about a year ago. over $130,000 a year in salary combined, both of us younger than 28, buying our first house and then I was laid off.

      Our first step? Sell the house. Then start paying off all our debts. We may not "own" a house now (I put that in quotes because we wouldn't have owned it for 30 years), but our expenses are relatively fixed, in the process of moving into an apartment we downsized and simplified our life considerably. And now, if I get the opportunity I can take a job like the above AND take the reduced salary. Because even though we knew money wouldn't buy happiness before, now we're putting this principle to practice and organizing our life such that we don't need that much money to live on. Our debts are getting paid off and we're happy, and that's what matters.

      Do we have HDTV? Not anymore. Do we have a house? Not anymore. Do we have more than 1 computer? Not anymore. But our life is simple. We relax much more. We owe much less and our stress has been halved, both on our bodies and on our minds. Something to think about for those stressing about salaries not being commensurate with skills. Money isn't everything.

  7. Work for a small niche company by jred · · Score: 4, Interesting

    My company writes a specific software app for the banking industry. There isn't a single programmer under 30, few (other than the boss) works more than 45 hours a week, and most have been there 5 years or more.

    It's not all that interesting, but it's a decent job. Just don't expect the megabucks.

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    1. Re:Work for a small niche company by hrieke · · Score: 4, Interesting

      I'll expand on this a bit:
      Work in dull fields of business: Banking, Insurance, and the like.
      They're dull because of the government regulations that they have to follow, but in return you usually get a good deal out of it: job security, decent pay & vacation, and fairly good co-workers.
      I work in health insurance. I started with _7_ weeks a year vacation time, plus a fairly hands off boss. Never been so productive in my life nor have I ever had a better job (good work too).

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  8. Try something new by Stevyn · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Have you considered starting your own company? Since you seem to be capable and understand that a good employee is vital to a company's overall success beyond each quarter, maybe you could do well if you did things yourself. You also may have a nest egg if you chose to sell the company as you retire.

    I think more people should consider starting their own company since small businesses have always been a staple of the American economy.

    That's just my 2 cents, so take it with a grain of sand I guess.

    1. Re:Try something new by Lando · · Score: 4, Informative

      Starting your own business sounds great for someone that has never started their own business... However starting your own business is a pretty big gamble... Sure people succeed in creating their own businesses, but look at the statistics...

      Most entrepreneurs fair starting at least 3 times before starting a successful business. A new business also costs money. It is typically recommended that you have enough money to support the business completely for the first 6 months without making a dime, and again there is no guarentee of success.

      I mention it because it seems that people are flippently responding to start a business... It's a long hard road to start a business.

      Furthermore, look at his requirements as I see them at least.

      Work 9-5 programming
      Steady work/job security

      Working your own business, programming becomes the least of your skills. For example off the top of my head here are some of the requirements you need to run your own business.

      Contract law - Always nice to know what your are agreeing to when you start a job.

      Financing - Most people cannot afford to start their own businesses without outside help.. At the least you need to borrow from friends and family (something I actually recommend against since if the business fails your depleting their nestegg as well as yours) to borrowing from banks.

      Business Management - Always good and probably the skill I recognised as the most needed during my own attempts to run a small business. You need to know the basics of business how to incorporate, how to manage employee's, how to determine what to charge...

      Need to work more than 40 hours a week, small business owners in general tend to work a lot more than 40 hours a week, especially when they are first trying to get the company off the ground... This may very with proper financing, but still you'll likely end up working for more than 40 a week.

      And though not really a knowledge requirement as a small business you must constantly seek work. Try to get customers paying a service fee so that you have regular income from month to month rather than requiring new contracts as each finishes...

      These requirements are for a computer oriented business, if he were to go into another type of business he would have to learn about that type of business...

      So lets review his requirements...

      40 hours week --- Nope note likely
      programming --- Not likely, running the business will take a majority of his time
      Steady work --- Not likely, small business has to constantly seek work and anytime there is a fluctuation in the economy you may face a slowdown in work.
      Job Security --- See steady work...

      So as I see it, starting his own business requires none of his requirements.

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    2. Re:Try something new by Dingbat2005 · · Score: 5, Interesting
      I dissagree with the sentiment that it is difficult and costly to start a business - in our industry, startup costs are much lower than in any other industry especially if you start with a Home-Office IT/programming related type of business.

      Furthermore ... Job Security is a sham. Any reader of /. would've noticed by now the recurring topic of Offshoring and all the "it happened to me too" postings that are usually generated by these postings.

      The important thing is to start small / part-time and to learn as much as you can about how to start a business (and all that entails) before going full bore.

      The statement that most entrepreneurs fail 2 or 3 times before making it is true - I've been there myself, however if you never try in the first place, that's much more of a waste of potential than anything.

      All the reasons you state for NOT starting a business are valid - to a point. However the rewards are often worth it.

      1) Starting a business (as a Corporation or LLC) has alot of tax advantages. As the original poster and many replies stated - the higher your revenues as an employee, the more the government tears into you. Running a corporation gives you access to financial tools that reduce your tax burden (deductions, deferments, etc ...). You get to declare expenses.

      2) You can then redirect the money you save back into the business or other investments. Usually the only time you have to pay big taxes on that money is at the point where you derive big income from it. Even then - you pay less taxes on Capital Gains than you do on normal salaried income.

      YES - it's risky to start a business. But it's worth it when it works out.

      If you don't want to take any chances, then there's another road to follow ...

      It's called "Voluntary Simplicity". There's a book that everybody should read called "Your money or your life" http://tinyurl.com/4qrlb that to a certain extent has changed my life quite a bit.

      Basically - the whole premise of the book is to reduce your expenses as much as possible, get rid of debt and try to live within your means and better yet, reduce your lifestyle so that you can live within smaller means - when you make more money than it costs you to live - that's when things get really interesting.

      There's another notion that people should have ingrained in them ... pay yourself first. Always automatically put aside a certain amount of money (preferably some place that will give you good interest on the money). The money you put aside from the getgo isn't money you'll be tempted to spend later on.

      In any event ... whatever works for you.

  9. Do what you enjoy by Ars-Fartsica · · Score: 4, Informative

    If you like programming, keep doing it as long as you can. If you don't like programming, stop immediately and do something you like. This applies to any field. On your deathbed you are not going to be worried about stock options, you are going to wonder if you wasted your life or not.

  10. "Management" used as a solution by many by vladd_rom · · Score: 4, Informative

    As people grow wiser and more experienced inside a company, they tend to move upwards towards mentoring/management-like activities.

    Probably because their experience with coding makes them more suitable for taking decisions regarding project lead and also more suitable for giving answers to questions (in order to avoid repeating the same mistakes over and over again).

    I've noticed that most companies do this - use their internal pool of experienced programmers in order to push them into mentoring/management positions, instead of throwing the management openings at the public and accepting CVs for it.

    On one side, it's a good practice, because only those with previous experience inside the company will have access to those places, and by the time they get there they should know the process inside out. On the other hand, not throwing those positions towards the public makes them lose a full range of potential employees.

  11. Work for a bigger company. by SteveX · · Score: 4, Interesting

    Larger companies generally have more process and more overhead, but they also have more people who are in it for the long haul, and thus aren't working overtime every day.

    There's always periods where you need to put in time, but in a small company those are the norm; in a big company (I'm talking 10k or more people here) it's more normal to work something close to a regular work day.

    Think IBM, government, HP, Kodak..
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  12. Alternative jobs. by srothroc · · Score: 4, Interesting

    You might consider looking for a job at a college or University - the smaller ones in the suburbs often offer a very nice family atmosphere and stable job. I think you would be surprised how far your experience would go in a situation like that; they need people who have skills and who can also communicate well with non-techies - i.e., students and the people who deal with the students. If you have database and/or PHP/ASP skills, you could try to join a web-development team for an academic institution; if not, you could learn them or find another software/technology-based position to apply for at one. I highly recommend it, though - if not for the atmosphere and stability, but also for the free courses. Many institutions allow employees to take courses for free, something that's definitely worth looking into if you're interested in learning. Good luck!

  13. Government/Education by stdin · · Score: 5, Insightful

    I'm a 30something programmer myself. I have worked for several tech companies in NorCal (startups that went nowhere), and after an 8 month stint of being unemployed I landed a programming job (mostly Perl no less) at a local CSU. Now I'm happy, I get lots of "perks" (Conferences, Training, etc.), and nobody busts my nuts when I "only" work 8 hours a day. I have good benefits, a good retirement & job stability (unless Schwartznegger screws me), and I work with good people who appreciate my work.

  14. Re:FFS! by trotski · · Score: 4, Funny

    You really don't want to damage your wrists. if you are a programmer.

    Especially after you've been married for a few years.

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  15. Are you focused on the tech, or the biz? by John+Murdoch · · Score: 4, Insightful

    The short answer to your question is, "yes." There are companies that want experience, leadership, and mentoring skills. There are companies that want experienced leadership to guide and direct younger minds (and younger wrists) in developing software. And no, Virginia, those companies are not all moving their jobs to India.

    Focus on the technology, or on the business?
    Programmers I've worked with over the years have tended to follow one of two tracks: focus on the technology, or focus on the business. If you focus on the technology, your skills are portable: the risk you take, however, is that your portable skills may be supplanted by a newer, better-marketed technology. (Case in point: Powersoft's PowerBuilder, which was all the rage ten years ago, and has all but disappeared from the marketplace.) To adopt a focus-on-the-technology view, you're committing to a permanent learning curve--and to constantly having to evaluate which of the new technologies are most likely to be worth pursuing.

    Your question sounds to me like you're looking for the other tack: focusing on the business. In that role you're still working with the technology--but you're focused on how to improve the business. You're more technologically-agnostic: you know more about the specifics of the business than any particular tool.

    The key: find a company that views you as an asset, not a cost
    If you've been doing contract work, you're focused on the technology. And you've probably worked for a number of companies that view you as just another piece of meat to put in front of a computer to type code. To them, you're an expense. Far, far better is to find a company that views information technology as an asset--that says "if we do what we do better, smarter, faster, we have a competitive advantage." Those companies will, in turn, challenge you to do more, learn more, and offer more.

    Where I work...
    I work in Engineering, not in Information Systems--developing new products. The company very definitely wants me to do more, much more, of what I'm doing. From an accounting standpoint my work is booked as a depreciable asset--not as a line item on the expense ledger. I'm 46--while I still do quite a bit of coding (and I'm at work now, coding Transact-SQL for a big project), a lot of my day is spent teaching, coaching, and encouraging young programmers.

    Want a gig like mine?
    Some thoughts:

    • Avoid publicly-traded companies (#1): an executive suite change can turn a tech-focused corporation into yet another SAP zombie. Layoffs will soon follow.
    • Avoid publicly-traded companies (#2): If the executive suite geniuses make a mistake, stock analysts will demand a "rebound." Which means layoffs will soon follow.
    • Look for companies for whom the technology is central, not peripheral, to what they do: for example, this former client provides data services to small credit unions. Money they spend on programmers and technology is an investment in their product, not an expense to be avoided. And in the event that the company is acquired by somebody else, you're part of the product that they're acquiring.
    • Look for companies that are focused on growth. They will also always be focused on looking into future technologies--which makes it easy to stay focused on new technology as well.
    • Even if you focus on the business, focus on the technology! We live in a changing world, that changes at an ever-faster pace. Very few companies existing in 2005 will be here in 2025--and you're probably not going to retire until 2030 or later. Do not get so focused on the company that you lose sight of the technology--nothing is so agonizing as seeing senior IT guys from a now-bankrupt steel company begging for jobs; and having nothing to show on a resume except having coded in COBOL fifteen years ago.

    Is this just a young man's game?
    I think you'll see

  16. Try the Federal Government by briancnorton · · Score: 4, Informative

    The federal government works on amazingly diverse and exciting software development projects, and they are looking for people EXACTLY like you. You can make a lot more than normal GS-payscale people, and get to work on incredibly interesting and unique projects. I'm sure that Military and intelligence agencies do some REALLY neat stuff, and you could be a part of it. You also get a real feeling of serving your country. The benefits are REALLY good, and if you plan right, you can make out quite well in retirement.

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  17. get out, get out by DuctTape · · Score: 4, Interesting
    Not having read any of the other comments, and I hope that I'm not sounding too cynical here, but I think that you have outlived your usefulness and you need to leave the profession.

    I believe that most companies think that they can hire any codemonkey out of college to do what you can do (but their's will need massive rework/refactoring) in 10x the time, even though they're only 1/2 to 1/3 the cost. Plus the older you get, the more time you're going to want to spend with your family (you did manange to pick up one of those along the way, didn't you?), and then there's other outside interests, like neighborhood associations and other civic and church (or Cthulhu) functions. Oh yeah, the older you get, the more time you're going to need for medical visits, and there's a health club in your future where you'll injure yourself once or twice a year.

    And do you really want to continue working in software? Especially with the hours and working conditions? You have to face it, one cannot easily estimate how long software takes to get done (and I'll address that later), and since developers are some of the most optimistic people in the world, you'll invariably end up staying late about 1/3 to 1/2 of the time, especially if a PHB takes everybody's estimates and cuts them by a third, 'cuz he knows you can do it!

    Unless you can find yourself one of the few jobs open at a big software shop like IBM where they have people that hopefully do a good job at estimating effort (and I had a buddy there that they didn't, and he had to essentially work 1 year of 60-hour weeks), you'll end up working at a small coding shop where they'll have to make optimistic projections to get the contract, and hence you're working late... again! And if you work at a place where software isn't the main product, you'll have clueless PHBs that are unable to figure out that software indeed *does* take that long to do, and why aren't you coding yet??!?

    The folks that I know that are older and are making it in software have made names for themselves, have written one or more books, attend OOPSLA where they're presenters or panelists, or are otherwise looked upon as gurus. The rest of them are scraping along, waiting for the axe to fall... again. The true failures I know are those that don't want to update their skill set, or have truly vertical knowledge and are unable/unwilling to move to where their market is.

    Unless a young person I know has true passion for software, and is willing to do the Software Engineering thing, which they used to not emphasize enough in undergrad, I tell them to find something else to do since unless they trip on the pot o' gold (and I know a guy that's been doing MS Access programming from home on a government contract for the past 10+ years that has been pulling in six figures the entire time), they're not going to make it on less-than-passion.

    Now, where do you go from here? Hmmm... that's a really good question. As soon as I know, I'll let you in on it.

    DT

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  18. Try govt. research labs by DoofusOfDeath · · Score: 5, Insightful

    I've worked commercial and academic. All of those were fun and interesting, but some (mostly commercial) demanded long hours. That late-night work never resulted in the promised recognition.

    Now I work for a govt. research lab. Although money is sometimes tight, and the paperwork is sometimes a pain in the butt, there are some really nice things about it:

    - The pay is good (not mind blowing, but quite good).
    - I work with some of the smartest people I've ever worked with. Almost everyone has a master's degree, and a good fraction have their PhDs.
    - The job stability is pretty good (although no guarantees)
    - Because of the stability, I can feel free to dedicate my efforts to learning the problem domain, rather than staying abreast of each new glitzy programming language. I.e., I can focus on my current job rather than always focusing on being sellable in case I'm laid off.
    - If you land the right job, you get the sense that you're work actually goes to help people, rather than just line the pockets of some rich sociopathological CEO. That's a nice feeling.

    Maybe the most important thing is the regular hours. If you're planning on having kids, it's great for them to expect you home every night for dinner and for you to actually show up. Kids thrive with that kind of stability and with your actually being around when they're awake. They only have one childhood - don't miss it. A slightly more exciting career isn't worth it.

  19. what luck! by daft_one · · Score: 5, Funny

    I've just started my own hitman business, and could really use the work! Right now, my equipment is limited to a fairly sharp pencil, but I'm quite good with it!

  20. 32 years and still with the same firm. by akc · · Score: 5, Insightful

    I think it depends on what sort of company you are with

    I joined my current employer straight from university in 1972. At the time it was a small software development company, writing bespoke software for customers on a paid basis. They key to a long career in the same firm is to continue to re-invent yourself as the experience kicks in, and the industry changes, and to hope that the company continues to be a success and grows. For it is only the ability to take on more responsibility that allows the company to pay you more for the experience you have gained.

    For the first 6 months I didn't really do any programming, more learning how the business worked (how to write proposals to customers! - when I started I didn't even know what a proposal was). Then I got an assignment at the space centre in Germany for a year, and when I came back I was seen as someone with a little experience. So then, not only did I program (I became the expert in RSX-11M on PDP 11s) but I was also expected to supervise others.

    From there - right until the late 1980s, I combined technical work (not just programming, but as I got more experience I designed more and more complex systems) with project and eventually line management. The more senior I got, the less the technical work involved detail and the more it became strategic.

    Some times this would combine with management responsibility for people (and profit) at other times I was setting technical policy for senior management (I was responsibly for getting networked PCs on to peoples desks in those early days of the PC).

    At the beginning of the 1990s, the ability for our company to win projects in which you wrote a bespoke solution for a customer started to decline, and the new business was more about buying in products and configuring them to meet business requirements. So again, my career and my skill sets had to migrate. This time, it was more about understanding the business needs of the customer and being to select and propose the correct solution. So now my career became a combination of consultancy and pre-sales support. I still had to have a technical knowledge of what was possible, but it was now a long time since I had written serious amounts of software as a programmer, and the knowledge of how business operates and how IT can help it became more important.

    And the type of business is changing again, and as it does so does my role. Business Process Outsourcing (possibly offshore) is where the real volume of business is now. My role therfore is to identify, on a worldwide basis, and in my specific business oriented field (IT necessary to allow competitive electricity and gas markets to work), where the market is spending money, and how our company can bring its experience to win business in the BPO area. I am then called upon to both present these issues to potential customers to help win business, but to also present in public forums (conferences, magazine articles etc) these ideas and why they are sound.

    Each of these steps has been a step away from pure programming. Some steps have been scary (its very nerve racking having to present in public in front of a large audience), but ultimately the fact that you have met the challenge is very rewarding. And so today, I am far removed from the original career. But I am still with the same company, in the IT business, its just that I have changed with the times.

    I have described my career, and I am not alone in the company of having people who have been around for a long time and continue to do (to a greater or lesser degree) technical (from an IT sense) sort of work (there are even more who have migrated into pure management). I don't think any of them do serious programming (although sometimes someone will write a small proof of concept or a quick demonstration for a customer), but somehow there careers have migrated to being the "liaison" between the business world and the technical world. I think all of them would say that its a rewarding type of role.

  21. Re:Easier said... by sacrilicious · · Score: 4, Interesting
    I can't just pick up and move somewhere and hope I'll find work. And the labor market is ovesupplied everywhere, so nobody will even look at a nonlocal resume.

    I experienced the same desire to leave the Silicon Valley coupled with wondering how to do it. I sorta started wanting to leave back in '99... the bust hadn't set in, and paychecks were huge, but I was freaked out by the crash I knew was coming. Then I had a kid, and suddenly I was going deeper into debt every month. Couldn't possibly afford to have another kid there, couldn't even really afford the one I had. No chance of buying a house I wanted. We were one missed paycheck away from not knowing what the hell would happen to us, a scary prospect when working in high tech. Considered moving to the east coast near family, but didn't get a single nibble on the resume as the bust was in full bloom.

    My chance to leave came in an unexpected way. The small company I worked for was acquired by a huge company, and this huge company had a fairly liberal work-from-home policy. I inquired and was told I could work from anywhere I cared to move. Coincidentally enough, my wife's company was simultaneously acquired by a huge company, also with a superb work-from-home policy. We knew we had to take the opportunity, and burned rubber moving to a cheaper state. One with a reasonable job market, and WAY better housing prices and cost of living prices.

    It's been a dream come true. The culture here is much more focused on family. We've had our second kid. We're paying off our debt at a radical clip. We live in a house so nice that we couldn't have even afforded to rent one like it in The Valley. We can now afford to have either one of us lose our jobs for over a year and we'd be fine. And the likelihood is that we'd eventually find worthy replacements for our jobs.

    I feel that we got very lucky, but I do think that in our experience lies the potential seed of a way out for someone like yourself: you could seek work at one of these huge companies (IBM, Oracle, HP, etc) with a particular eye open for prospectively working from home, either right away or perhaps after some amount of time on a project. It may take some time, but the good thing about such an approach is that there's no "cliff" of risk - unlike moving somewhere and hoping you pick up a job right away.

    Best of luck.

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