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Has Anyone Made an Artificial Diamond Ring?

DiamondRingThing asks: "I know that diamond engagement rings are a recent fabrication, and the two months salary required to obtain one is ridiculous. Diamonds are pretty however, and evil never keeps a good hacker down. I'd like to be able to give a diamond to my girlfriend that I know was forged just for her, without any blood on it, and without giving any money to DeBeers. That's why I won't buy an artificial diamond from a jeweler, as I suspect the cartel is involved at that level. Does anybody know anyone that has made their own diamond to set in a ring? How's the cost, and the quality? Thanks in advance."

117 comments

  1. Making your own diamond? by TripMaster+Monkey · · Score: 3, Funny


    Does anybody know anyone that has made their own diamond to set in a ring?

    Sure...Superman used to do this all the time.

    I think Vulcan did this quite a bit too.

    ^_^

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    1. Re:Making your own diamond? by rossifer · · Score: 1

      Make your own diamond? Not going to happen. Make your own diamond ring? Design your own ring around a less-bothersome stone? Definitely. I wouldn't wait around for synthetic gem-quality diamonds, though. If you want to minimize your interaction with DeBeers, go to a jeweler who will buy an estate ring and then use the jem in the ring you want.

      Or do something like what I did for my fiance. She got double lasik surgery (with wavefront) and a very moderately priced ring with small garnets and diamonds (our birthstones). There's no real

      Regards,
      Ross

  2. An interesting article at wired.com by waynegoode · · Score: 4, Interesting
    I read an interesting article a few years ago at wired.com about the state of the "artificial diamond" industry. It is a bit long and from 2003, but it is very interesting.

    From the article:

    De Beers executive drove directly to Claridge's, and the two men sat down in the tearoom to the strains of a piano and violin duet. De Beers refuses to comment on the meeting--or about anything for this story--but Clarke says he simply placed his diamonds on the table. "When I told him that we planned to set up a factory to mass-produce these, he turned white," the General recalls.

    1. Re:An interesting article at wired.com by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Informative

      Is that guy dead now? ;)

      Seriously, there are several places now that can produce perfect diamonds that can not be distingished from the real thing. In fact, the only way to tell comes from the fact that they are so perfect (too bad if you happen to have a real diamond that is perfect).

      As for making one yourself, no, I don't think so. The process needs some heavy duty equipment. If it were possible for regular person to do it then we would see all kinds of how-tos on the 'Net.

    2. Re:An interesting article at wired.com by the+morgawr · · Score: 3, Informative

      It' POSSIBLE to do it. You need some expensive equipment and a three phase hook up but you COULD do it.

      Were I going to attempt it I'd do something like the following (now there is a HOWTO on the net...):

      *Buy very small perfect diamond
      *Buy LPCVD machine
      *Buy various carbon based gasses
      *Use DOE to tweak the tuning (my bet is that you need some combination of CH4 and CCl4 and a really high temp setting with the pressure at 1/1000000 ATM; even then it's probably going to be really slow)
      *Grow small diamond into larger diamond
      *Buy cutting tools
      *Separate the larger diamond into smaller ones
      *Repeate grow + separate until CVD machine is full
      *Harvest diamonds

      Est Cost: $85,000

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    3. Re:An interesting article at wired.com by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Informative

      Actually, there's exactly one place. Apollo Diamonds.

      http://www.wired.com/wired/archive/11.09/diamond.h tml

      http://www.apollodiamond.com/

    4. Re:An interesting article at wired.com by hrieke · · Score: 1

      http://www.apollodiamond.com/

      They'll custom make a jem for you and your wife.
      I have no idea how much it will cost, but honestly to screw over deBeers, it would be worth it.

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  3. Artificial diamonds by mknewman · · Score: 2, Informative

    See this excellent article in Wired a while back: http://www.wired.com/wired/archive/11.09/diamond.h tml

  4. Warning by malakai · · Score: 4, Funny

    Further discussion on this topic and slashdot will feel the power and wrath of De Beers.

    Prepare for 503 errors if you continue to discuss alternatives to natural diamonds.

    You have been warned.

    -De Beers NOC

    1. Re:Warning by austad · · Score: 1

      I shit you not, I just got a 503 when trying to reply to another post in this article.

      Damn you DeBeers!!

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    2. Re:Warning by HTL2001 · · Score: 1

      its been doing that all day for me, I thougt it was just the admins here at school getting smart

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    3. Re:Warning by andy753421 · · Score: 1

      All day huh? De Beers must have a subscription to see that far into the future...

    4. Re:Warning by fbjon · · Score: 1

      Ok, you bring DeBeers, and we'll have apartheid!

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    5. Re:Warning by Sentry21 · · Score: 1

      Dude, seriously... I clicked on the 'reply to this' link to make some pseudo-witty comment, and I got a 503 error. I'm scared. :(

    6. Re:Warning by chivo243 · · Score: 1

      It was Jobs fault damn it! I too received the 503!

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    7. Re:Warning by RevDobbs · · Score: 1

      Worst. Pun. Ever.

  5. There aren't gem quality lab-created diamonds by obrienb · · Score: 1

    Last time I checked, a couple of months ago, lab created diamonds are still not up to gem quality. Unless you're looking for a convincing substitute, you really don't have a choice.

    1. Re:There aren't gem quality lab-created diamonds by jezmund · · Score: 1

      Yeah, if by "not up to gem quality" you mean "not flawed enough". From the Wired article:

      When we meet the next morning in the lobby of the High Council, Van Royen looks tired. He admits to staying up almost all night scrutinizing the stones. "I think I can identify it," he says hopefully. "It's too perfect to be natural. Things in nature, they have flaws. The growth structure of this diamond is flawless."

      Of course, I don't know that you can actually buy these anywhere, but it's pretty cool nonetheless!

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    2. Re:There aren't gem quality lab-created diamonds by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You must not have looked very hard. There are artificial diamonds that can be made as large, if not larger than natural diamonds and are almost indistinguishable from natural diamonds. The only difference is that the crystal structure is practically perfect and these artificial diamonds glow under a black light. Personally, I think that's a feature, not a flaw. But anyway, there are also some new techniques that create artificial diamonds that don't even have this quality. In fact, that's partly why the diamond cartel is demanding that all diamonds be laser enscribed with logos and serials numbers.

  6. Lifegem by BrookHarty · · Score: 2, Informative

    Theres always Lifegem

    1. Re:Lifegem by Brahgam · · Score: 1

      The only problem is that he wanted to give his girlfriend a diamond forged just for her, not from her.Well, unless he forged it from his own mother. That way she would be really happy.

    2. Re:Lifegem by ZosX · · Score: 1

      In case you all were wondering I cannot seem to find anything in google about lifegem being a scam. It DOES seem that the owner tried to get the diamonds certified and released such information in a press release, but the certification company distanced themselves. From a few news stories, it seems that they do indeed make diamonds, but according to at least one funeral director they are not exactly a perfect diamond. Considering the source material, I don't think that this tidbit would suprise anyone. The only actual pictures are from news articles that show very small diamonds with a lot of colour. Most of the pictures that show any closeups of the diamonds on the webpage are actually renderings, so it does appear that they don't really want people to know that it isn't exactly a perfect process. Very cool if they really do what they say they do and the market potential is HUUUUUGE.
      I couldn't find out if they had patented the process, but I really cannot see how they couldn't have. Perhaps the patent is still pending or something.

      There you go. Googling for lifegem will give you a very small amount of information. I'm to lazy to post links. You can dig if you're any more interested than that.

  7. Diamonds are a cartel's best friend... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    A good rule of thumb is two years' salary, sir.

    1. Re:Diamonds are a cartel's best friend... by LocoMan · · Score: 1

      One temporary solution would be to take a week of unpaid vacation from your work and then buy the diamong ring in that week... you can pay anything you want and still feel good about yourself since for that week your salary is practically nothing.. ;)

  8. Rethink the strategy here by duffbeer703 · · Score: 0

    If your future wife doesn't care about the diamond, get something else. Manufacturing diamonds isn't something that you can do.

    My wife was cool about my objections to diamonds, so I get a really nice sapphire and put it on a very unique setting.

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    1. Re:Rethink the strategy here by srmalloy · · Score: 2, Interesting
      If your future wife doesn't care about the diamond, get something else. Manufacturing diamonds isn't something that you can do.

      Find a company like Jamming Gems, which sell synthetic gemstones, and you can get a much better cost than for natural stones. For example, you can get a 20mm x 15mm oval synthetic alexandrite for $14.99 -- a stone which, if natural, would be worth over $20,000. By spending less on the stone(s), you can have a more impressive ring made, and get a custom setting, so you're not just buying one of a thousand identical rings.

    2. Re:Rethink the strategy here by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Sure you can. If you have about 10 grand sitting around, and access to machine tools you might be able to build a Chemical Vapor Deposition set up. Or cruise university/industrial auctions. It would take a long long time to get something gem quality.

    3. Re:Rethink the strategy here by duffbeer703 · · Score: 0, Flamebait

      That's what I said, asshat.

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    4. Re:Rethink the strategy here by bill_mcgonigle · · Score: 1

      For example, you can get a 20mm x 15mm oval synthetic alexandrite for $14.99 -- a stone which, if natural, would be worth over $20,000.

      Looks like that's the imitation Alexandrite -the color change doesn't get the range that real Alexandrite should. For that you need to get the real chrysoberyl Alexandrite - they have a 6mm round for $25. They claim it's identical to natural Alexandrite.

      If it really matches Alexandrite grading (~emerald to rasberry color shift from daylight to incandescent) and it's fairly pure (should be if it's lab grown) you're looking at a 100X cost savings multiplier - that's a $2500 rock.

      Thanks for the tip - I ordered one to see if it's not too good to be true. If it passes muster I'm going to be a really popular guy when my wife's birthday swings around in a few weeks.

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    5. Re:Rethink the strategy here by HeelToe · · Score: 1

      I'd be interested in hearing the outcome of this.

      Post a journal entry when you come to a decision about whether it's worth it?

    6. Re:Rethink the strategy here by bill_mcgonigle · · Score: 1

      Sure - feel free to e-mail me a nag if(when) I forget to do so.

      I'll have it this week or next. WAF test is June 30th.

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  9. Make it yourself? by fm6 · · Score: 1
    Does anybody know anyone that has made their own diamond to set in a ring?
    This is a joke right? You're trolling or something? If I knew how to make precious gems in my garage, I certainly wouldn't share the secret on Slashdot!
  10. Canadian Diamonds by lbmouse · · Score: 1

    They are not artificial, but Sirius Diamonds of Canada is one source where you can stay away from DeBeers and other diamond cartels.

  11. Not necessarily cheaper by Zerth · · Score: 1

    I was recently looking this up and most diamond "growers" are focusing on the lucrative colored diamonds, which are much cheaper than dug-up colored diamonds of similar quality but are about as expensive as a white/clear diamond of similar quality.

    Silly cheap gem-quality white diamonds aren't really here yet, but if she wanted a blue or yellow diamond the size of her thumb, she can:)

  12. What color do you want? by vrimj · · Score: 1

    If your looking for clear your only choice is http://www.apollodiamond.com/ they don't make it clear where you can buy their diamonds and I have not been able to find a source. If you can deal with color- yello blue or pink then you can use Gemesis http://www.gemesis.com/ You can buy loose gemesis stones online from http://www.diamondscultured.com/ and get it monuted by a local jewler.

  13. Buy a Canadian Diamond! by CohibaVancouver · · Score: 2, Informative
    without any blood on it, and without giving any money to Debeers

    Just buy her a Canadian diamond...

    http://www.cbc.ca/news/background/diamonds/

    1. Re:Buy a Canadian Diamond! by stienman · · Score: 1

      Canadian diamonds are controlled by DeBeers.

      If you are looking for more resources for canadian diamonds, check out this Google Answers question, which is essentially the same as yours.

      If you are serious about getting Debeers-free diamonds, well, good luck. Read up on them and you'll understand why, but know that those who claim to be selling you a non-DeBeers diamond may be selling you a story. However, most people are simply looking for (and willing to purchase) a story - a good feeling - so perhaps that's all you really need. There is no way you'll ever easily be sure the diamond you buy is real, artificial, fake, bloody, or monopoly controlled because you have to rely on other's expertise to assess these things.

      -Adam

    2. Re:Buy a Canadian Diamond! by twistedcubic · · Score: 1


      Canadian diamonds are controlled by DeBeers.

      Evidence?

    3. Re:Buy a Canadian Diamond! by CohibaVancouver · · Score: 3, Informative
      Canadian diamonds are controlled by DeBeers

      Not really - Please cite your source.

      Although their fingers are in there a little, their participation is minimal. If you're looking for "clean diamonds", Canada is the way to to go:

      Canada's current production comes from two mines: the Ekati Mine, owned by BHP-Billiton (80%), Chuck Fipke (10%) and Stewart Blusson (10%), has over 100 kimberlite pipes on its property, of which eight are considered economically viable and will likely be mined. The projected mine life for Ekati is 21 years (including the past five years of production,) and is expected to produce a gross value of approximately $9.5 billion (C).

      During its initial three years of operation, BHP Diamonds Inc. (now BHP Billiton Diamonds Inc.) sold 35% of its production to the De Beers Diamond Trading Company (DTC). That contract ended in 2002 and BHP-Billiton markets most of its all Canadian production on the open market.

      source: http://www.ainc-inac.gc.ca/ps/nap/diamin/dianarr_e .html

    4. Re:Buy a Canadian Diamond! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0
      The story of how the Ekati Mine came to be is fascinating. Look for a book called Barren Lands by Kevin Krajick-- it costs only three or four bucks used.

      I agree that DeBeers has minimal involvement with the Ekati Mine. The book tells about how DeBeers was in a race with Chuck Fipke to find the kimberlite pipes in Canada, and lost.

    5. Re:Buy a Canadian Diamond! by the_greywolf · · Score: 2, Interesting

      DeBeers owns the world's dimaond mines, and controls all distribution of the diamonds extracted. they specifically control the (abundant!) supply to create an image of rarity.

      this was all talked about in Wired Magazine a year or so ago - with a great deal of talk about artifical diamonds from various companies - including one group that builds /sheets/ of diamonds for $0.05/kt.

      this is well-known fact among many jewelers. where it's documented, i have no idea.

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    6. Re:Buy a Canadian Diamond! by Richard_at_work · · Score: 1

      They control the vast majority of Diamond mines, but they dont control them all. Canadian diamond mines are not owned or controlled by De Beers in any way, and you can buy from them with confidence.

  14. Canadian Diamonds by g1zmo · · Score: 3, Informative

    If your conscience is bothered as much as mine is by the horror stories of the diamond-mining industry, there are always the Canadian alternatives.

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  15. Try this: by sporktoast · · Score: 1

    Right here stands a man
    With the power to make a diamond with his bare hands.

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  16. Pawn shop by lawpoop · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Diamonds purchased from a jeweler are overpriced because you're getting it from a cartel. I recommend getting a ring from a pawn shop; the price of that diamond will be closer to an actual market value of that gem. The cost will be considerably lower than that from a jeweler, and you are getting the exact same type of rock.

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    1. Re:Pawn shop by afabbro · · Score: 1
      Except of course there is the stigma of buying a pawn shop diamond...you're buying someone else's heartbreak, it's "used", etc.

      I'm not saying I agree with these sentiments, but if you ask the average woman in the US if she wants a "new" diamond or a larger pawn shop diamond, I'm betting "new" wins 100% of the time.

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    2. Re:Pawn shop by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Except of course there is the stigma of buying a pawn shop diamond...you're buying someone else's heartbreak, it's "used", etc.

      You're lucky if it's from someone's heartbreak, unless you count the heartbreak of having your ring stolen.

    3. Re:Pawn shop by Planesdragon · · Score: 2, Insightful

      I'm not saying I agree with these sentiments, but if you ask the average woman in the US if she wants a "new" diamond or a larger pawn shop diamond, I'm betting "new" wins 100% of the time.

      I wager if you put the two rings in front of the "average woman", she'll go for the bigger one. Especially if you get it appraised first, so she can compare the cost difference.

      FWIW, though, any women worth marrying is either smart enough to see through the whole deBeers scam on her own, or trusts you enough when you say "it's a criminal organization that wants to rip you off; if you really want a diamond, how about we not pay the inflated price for one?"

    4. Re:Pawn shop by TimButterfield · · Score: 1

      If you are worried about the "new/used" stigma, you can always buy the ring at the pawn shop and have a jeweler remount the stone in a different "new" setting.

      Or, you can just skip the stone altogether as my wife and I did. We recently celebrated our 20th anniversary and replaced our aged and dulled wedding bands with new two-tone tungsten and gold wedding bands. Neither of us missed paying for the stone. Besides, she doesn't really like diamonds anyway.

      If you don't know what she likes yet, it may be helpful to do some window shopping and browse through some jewelry stores looking at various watches, rings, bracelets, etc. to see what type of jewelry she likes and get a feel for whether having the rock up front is really that big of a deal to her. It would be a shame to spend the money only to find out that it did not matter.

    5. Re:Pawn shop by aminorex · · Score: 1

      Unless she's Paris Hilton -- in which case you've got bigger problems than diamonds, you poor sucker.

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    6. Re:Pawn shop by Planesdragon · · Score: 1

      You say that as if Paris were a woman worth marrying.

    7. Re:Pawn shop by RevAaron · · Score: 1

      ...but if you ask the average woman in the US if she wants a "new" diamond or a larger pawn shop diamond, I'm betting "new" wins 100% of the time.

      thank the lawd some of us have uncommon women. what other kind of woman sits with you in bed, each on a laptop, the whole morning?

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    8. Re:Pawn shop by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Wow, sounds like you're living a teenage fantasy of having a guy next to you... I don't know what kind of life sitting in bed with a laptop the whole morning is, but the last thing I'd want in that case would be a woman who thinks just like me... Yuck.

    9. Re:Pawn shop by RevAaron · · Score: 1

      Wow, sounds like you're living a teenage fantasy of having a guy next to you... I don't know what kind of life sitting in bed with a laptop the whole morning is, but the last thing I'd want in that case would be a woman who thinks just like me... Yuck.

      I could make a comment about how sexist it is to have the backwards idea that only men should be computer neds... but it's obvious (at least to everyone else), so I'll spare it.

      Call me nuts, but I'm the kind of fellow who likes a woman who has similar interests. At least here in the US, a lot of guys are interested in girlfriends and wives who are that first and foremost. I'd rather have someone who is my friend, my best friend. Sure, a lot of guys have girtlfriends with whom they never do anything- other than when they're forced to do something they don't like or perhaps on a very ritualized, compartmentalized "date." The sort of thing they bitch about to their guy friends about having to do.

      To me, that sounds kind of like bullshit.

      I'd rather have a woman who does things I like to do. We computer-nerd-out together. We play videogames together. We watch movies together. We take walks together. We hike and camp together. We garden together. We go to concerts together. We have overlapping groups of friends. Et cetera, et cetera. Sure, there have to be differences between folks or else you get bored. And we do things apart as well. But it sounds like a silly idea to marry someone who's most important feature is that she'll put out, the rest being incompatible and irrelevant.

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    10. Re:Pawn shop by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      So I'll take it that you are still single, right ???

  17. down with da beers by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    If you buy any sort of 'diamond' you perpetuate the myth.
    Think different - not that Apple is anymore.

  18. You MUST be joking! by bhima · · Score: 3, Funny
    Man there's just so much wrong with this idea!

    One: It would cheaper to buy a 3rd world nation from which to mine the diamond, or perhaps fund your very own coup, than to build the lab required for such an undertaking.

    Two: The ridiculous outlay in cash is "proof that you truly love her" and without this she will have troubles interacting with her friends who, to a girl, have been subjected to the same brain washing and with her parents who partook in the brain washing.

    Three: Buying blood diamonds has little impact on the goings on in Africa, it's an extremely fucked up place and the few dozen land mines bought from from the money from your diamond is nothing compared to mountains of small arms and land mines the G8 is selling to the various wacko revolutionaries and wacko tyrants or just the wacko white farmers, On CREDIT.

    Three: While it is admittedly difficult to find a women worth spending your life with who doesn't want some ridiculus gem on her finger in the US, this is not so much the case elsewhere in the world.

    Food for thought: How long does a diamond last? How long does a human last? How long does the average marriage last? Now considering these facts why isn't the used diamond market absolutely flooded? Where the hell did they go? OK My Mum had some from my Grannies that she gave to my sisters but come on, where are the rest?

    My take on this... I fought a lot with my ex about this before we were married and she, of course, brought it up when we getting a divorce. Actually I'm pretty sure she still holds the comment "Do you realize how many land mines were planted in Africa with the money from that ring" comment, I made in front of our parents, against me. That was a sign I should have never married that women to begin with and should of held out for the fantastic Girlfriend I have now. I just pray that my daughter doesn't start to exhibit the same wacko tendencies...

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    1. Re:You MUST be joking! by np_bernstein · · Score: 3, Insightful


      Food for thought: How long does a diamond last? How long does a human last? How long does the average marriage last? Now considering these facts why isn't the used diamond market absolutely flooded? Where the hell did they go? OK My Mum had some from my Grannies that she gave to my sisters but come on, where are the rest?


      Graveyards. They're a sentimental item and something most people would want their grandmothers/parents buried with.

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    2. Re:You MUST be joking! by bhima · · Score: 1

      Excelent mining potential, I'll have business plans drawn up!

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    3. Re:You MUST be joking! by StarsAreAlsoFire · · Score: 1

      Drawing up plans for that business sounds about as smart as starting a power trading company and recording all your phone calls... um.....

      But it does sound lucrative ;~)

    4. Re:You MUST be joking! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      come on. grave robbing is so old economy it's not even funny.

    5. Re:You MUST be joking! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      (Light bulb goes on) So That's why they mine them! I always wondered how diamonds get in the earth. SO miners just mine graveyards and that;s how they get new diamonds. But how come they only mine in africa? I would think that america or europe might have more fertile soil. I know, I am kidding

  19. Why not rethink this "man-buys-woman" routine by lpq · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Why don't you talk it over with your fiance and find a set of matching rings that you both can afford -- then spend excess cash on a honey-moon or house downpayment.

    Do you want an equal partnership or are you looking to 'buy' a wife? Might I suggest that 'buy'ing such a wife sets a poor precedent for the future of the relationship.

    If one of you doesn't make as much as the other, fine: figure out a proportional payment based on your take-home and find a pair based on that sum.

    Wasting so much money on a rock in this day and age when marriages are often not "forever" seems a bit dated -- and being a woman, I certainly wouldn't want the feeling of indebtedness that might come from such an unequal exchange. It would feel like a wrong power & relationship dynamic.

    You also might find she likes other gemstones better than the "vanilla" standard white diamond.

    I don't think artificial diamonds of superb color/clarity are quite yet ready for "prime time". Have read they have made small ones, but they are quite a bit away from larger ones and mass production.

    Might also think of whether or not you want the bride's father to pay for the wedding (another tradition, taking the place of the dowry), or maybe pool resources w/your parents toward a honeymoon (or house downpayment).

    At least with the money for a house downpayment -- you will both own a house together. Studies have shown a positive correlation between, both joint ownership of property and joint finances and longer marriages.

    All this presumes you are a "mere", mortal man. If you are Bill Gates or
    some multi-billionaire, well... nevermind. :-)

    1. Re:Why not rethink this "man-buys-woman" routine by Analise · · Score: 1

      You also might find she likes other gemstones better than the "vanilla" standard white diamond.

      I'd be one of those females who likes other gemstones over the diamond.

      I'm also not a yellow gold kind of girl either.

      So my point, to the original poster? Have you talked this over with your girlfriend to see what she'd prefer?

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    2. Re:Why not rethink this "man-buys-woman" routine by vrimj · · Score: 1

      I gave my beloved two choices- no rings at all or we both get gold tattos around the proper finger. He choice the ring free option.

    3. Re:Why not rethink this "man-buys-woman" routine by stienman · · Score: 2, Insightful


      I believe that's the practical half of your brain speaking.

      My wife is very frugal and practical, which made the gift of the ring that much more special and romantic.

      Perhaps you are the kind of person that either doesn't enjoy wearing fine jewelry, or it makes no emotional difference to you whether what you are wearing is real or fake, valuable, or cheap.

      My (very) limited experience is that there is an emotional boost for women wearing jewelry that compliments them and highlights their attractiveness. There is a distinct difference, I've observed, in how a woman acts if she knows she's wearing exceptionally valuable jewelry compared to wearing pretty and attractive jewelry that is not costly.

      Furthermore, gifted expensive jewelry can actually make some women more independant. I pay 2 months salary. Assuming the item keeps up with inflation, then she can sell it for perhaps 1 to 2 months worth of living expenses should she ever find the need to do so.

      And lastly, there's always the Johnny Lingo effect.

      -Adam

    4. Re:Why not rethink this "man-buys-woman" routine by rewt66 · · Score: 1
      Look, if you get a "feeling of indebtedness" from him buying you a diamond ring, your relationship is in big trouble - a lot bigger trouble than just what kind of rings to get.

      If you're going into a marriage with feelings of "who owes who", then don't go into it! Don't get married! If you don't have enough trust in him to trust that he won't hold over your head how much he paid, then you don't have enough trust to marry the guy.

      And if you are going to feel that way, even if he never mentions it again, then you probably aren't ready for marriage. You're viewing the relationship in terms of power dynamics, and that's not how a good marriage operates.

      Bottom line: If this is how you feel, don't say "I do." Cancel the engagement. (A broken engagement is much less painful than either a rotten marriage or a divorce.)

    5. Re:Why not rethink this "man-buys-woman" routine by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      "I'd be one of those females who likes other gemstones over the diamond."

      I bet you haven't been near of an above a carat brilliant faceted diamond on a white-gold grasp-free mount ever.

      Please note that I am not talking about a Elizabeth Taylor-like gem; a carat is about a little rice grain, but I'm still to find the woman that, no matter how much did they say to prefer zaphyrus, ruby, emeralds or any other gem, didn't make their inner legs lemon juice at the sight of a pretty not, necessarily too big, good quality "white" diamond on a pretty clear mount.

    6. Re:Why not rethink this "man-buys-woman" routine by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0
      and being a woman, I certainly wouldn't want the feeling of indebtedness that might come from such an unequal exchange. It would feel like a wrong power & relationship dynamic.

      If you'd like, you can pay me. I prefer cash over the feeling of unequalness.

    7. Re:Why not rethink this "man-buys-woman" routine by Keebler71 · · Score: 1
      Do you want an equal partnership or are you looking to 'buy' a wife?

      I think the real issue is fighting 300 million years of evolution. Evolutionarily speaking, females want a powerful mate. Since in civilized society, butting heads like rams doesn't go over too well, modern women have adapted by preferring to select mates who are powerful economically. That ring on her finger is the equivalent of an enormous set of ram's horns on your head. Personally, I'd rather buy the ring.

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      "It takes considerable knowledge just to realize the extent of your own ignorance." - Thomas Sowell
    8. Re:Why not rethink this "man-buys-woman" routine by nurb432 · · Score: 1

      But that is how it works. You buy her.

      Not too long ago you had to pay her parents as well. Be glad we are now civilized.

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    9. Re:Why not rethink this "man-buys-woman" routine by stanmann · · Score: 1

      My Fiancee(now wife) and I discussed this at length before she allowed me to buy her a ring very much like This. Neither of us likes large diamonds and Yellow gold is also something we prefer against ... So after much looking and a good bit of shopping we found a ring which matched our price and design needs.

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    10. Re:Why not rethink this "man-buys-woman" routine by RevAaron · · Score: 1

      Personally, I'd rather buy the ring.

      Me? I'd rather stage a revolution, put in place a crude Stanlinist regime, with me as head of Politburo and as General Secretary. Then I need to buy no ring! MUHAUHA!

      --

      Working toward a usable PDA environment in the spirit of Newton OS: Dynapad
    11. Re:Why not rethink this "man-buys-woman" routine by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Furthermore, gifted expensive jewelry can actually make some women more independant. I pay 2 months salary. Assuming the item keeps up with inflation, then she can sell it for perhaps 1 to 2 months worth of living expenses should she ever find the need to do so.

      Well, DeBeers tries very hard to ensure that a secondary market for individuals to sell diamonds doesn't exist. If a free market existed, the price would crash when people realized that diamonds aren't that rare.

      So good luck trying to sell it. I doubt you'd get 30% of what you paid.

      My wife is very frugal and practical, which made the gift of the ring that much more special and romantic.

      Also funny. In its reseach, DeBeers finds that they are much less successful selling to couples than to men who shop alone. Not because the woman doesn't want to have an expensive gift, and not because the man doesn't want to pay.

      They find the woman often says, "Ten grand for this? I could do so much with ten grand to buy useful things, or invest it in something that appreciates instead of depreciates."

      So DeBeers prefers that you don't shop together.

    12. Re:Why not rethink this "man-buys-woman" routine by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Not too long ago you had to pay her parents as well. Be glad we are now civilized.

      In some countries, the parents PAY YOU to take her off their hands.

    13. Re:Why not rethink this "man-buys-woman" routine by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Your problem honey, and I say that with all due animosity.

      Plenty of women get their men to buy them rings as an indication of empowerment in their relationship, not solidarity or beholdenment. It's something that can be done, not must be done. Rings nowdays have multiple meanings between partners, most more complex than your Neanderthal scenario.

      If your psyche is that strained and fragiel that you think marriage is temporary, or you don't want to be beholden to someone because they bought that rock, you may want to reconsider your decision to enter into marriage and stay with a domestic relationship.

      Furthermore, maybe you forget the stories of how a wedding ring is really that of domestic bondage? But you seem to have no objection to rings in general.

      Funny thing about that downpayment on a home--how is that any different than buying a ring? In fact, it's a weaker financial proposition. Even if in a joint name, the house is usually 50/50 in a divorce. A ring, on the other hand, is understood by tradition not to be necessarily given back at all.

      I also call bunk on the positive correlation studies you claim. Most studies show a positive correlation when the overall marriage has positive financial health, but it is NOT tied to joint ownership, but rather that is an outcome, not causal. iow. joint ownership is a result; usually there is a lopsideness in the financial earnings between partners in such relationships.

      btw, why do you think there is a rise in the right hand diamond for women? Because jewelry is multifaceted in its symbolism. The right hand diamond ring indicates independence, a personal strength born out in financial well-being, of a woman. You speak down to that as well? May you lack confidence in yourself, but don't pass your own image off as the norm, because it sure damn well isn't.

  20. Croonchy Stars boxes! by saintp · · Score: 1
    Did anyone else eat the Swedish Chef's Croonchy Stars cereal? On the back of the box it had a suggestion to bury the box as deep as possible for about a million years, after which time the heat and pressure of the earth will have turned the carbon in the box into a diamond. I even found a picture (low-res, unfortunately) of the back of the box here -- I can just make out the heading "Amaze your mom! Turn this box into a REAL DIAMOND!"

    Anyhow, just a suggestion. You probably wanted it a little sooner, eh?

    1. Re:Croonchy Stars boxes! by damsa · · Score: 1

      Next ask slashdot. Has any one know of any that invented a time machine and went back in time to create a real diamond wedding ring? I especially don't want to make sure it's not a time machine created by Chevron as I don't want blood on my hands.

  21. Moissanite by mopslik · · Score: 3, Informative

    Moissanite.

    My wife likes the sparkle, especially under standard indoor lighting. It really is more colourful and brighter than a diamond, but only costs a fraction of the price. Maybe one third the price, around here.

    Of course, if your gal is one of those "but it's not a DIAAAAAMOND!" girls, you're SOL.

    1. Re:Moissanite by BridgeBum · · Score: 2, Informative

      I second this. I was about to post the same thing myself. I recently got engaged, and a moissanite ring from Landau is what I got my fiancee. She loves it. It's beautiful, with more 'fire' than most diamonds and cost a fraction of a diamond ring. In fact, that was actually a selling point with my gf. She feels less nervous about wearing a ring that cost ~ $1000 on her finger all the time than one worth a considerable hunk of change.

      If your girl is interested in oooos and aaaaaahs, a moissanite ring is definitely worth considering.

      --
      My UID is the product of 2 primes.
    2. Re:Moissanite by stereo_Barryo · · Score: 2, Informative

      I'll third that. My wife found the company and pushed for the gem. She is very happy with it and, therefore, so am I. Better than a diamond, cheaper and morally cleaner.

  22. Source of artificial diamonds by Krieger · · Score: 1

    Why in the world would you want to pay thousands for a rock? Especially since you can get a real diamond (though manufactured).

    I read the article on Wired and then saw an ad for the following company, www.diamond-essence.com , who sells manufactured diamonds. As a random example they have a ring with a 5kt diamond, and other smaller diamonds for a total of 7.5kts. Total price?

    $249

    DeBeers price? via Kay jewelers

    1ct solitaire!

    Wait for it!

    $6499!!!!

    Hell of a difference. See other posts for the morality of diamond mines and monopolies...

    1. Re:Source of artificial diamonds by iamsure · · Score: 2, Informative

      Hate to burst your bubble, but diamond-essence sells *cubic zirconia*. Its buried, but they explain it.

      Which explains why its so cheap. Cubic zirconia is NOT the same as a manufactured/artificial diamond.

    2. Re:Source of artificial diamonds by solitarian · · Score: 1

      Diamond Essence are Cubic Zirconia, not synthetic diamonds.

  23. Why is it called an ARTIFICIAL diamond? by mnmn · · Score: 1

    Whats so artificial about it? It may not be a 'natural' diamond, but artificial? Like combining sodium and chlorine or burning hydrogen in the lab produces artificial salt or water.

    You can manufacture diamonds and swear its real. The gold part, now that would be tough. Although many girls like silver colors and will settle for silver or other shinly substitute. If it is bling bling enough, they'll accept it as proof of your love. Just dont tell her the price.

    I think DeBeers crushes all possibilities of manufacturing such diamonds legally in western countries. Thats why I'm interested in this business; I can make an upstart in my native Afghanistan. At least Central and South Asia could break free of the monopoly, no matter what any law says.

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    "Give orange me give eat orange me eat orange give me eat orange give me you." -Nim Chimpsky
  24. Diamond cost digs your grave by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Actually, the tradition is supposed to be 3 months' salary.

    Anyway, expensive diamond rings just help to demonstate that you are worth coughing up 50% of your assests in a divorce. I never thought I would be divorced, but it happened. (Fortunately we had a completely amicable division of property and money.) This is just a friendly warning that marriage could cost you your ass these days.

    Best wishes in your life together!

    1. Re:Diamond cost digs your grave by greywire · · Score: 1

      3 months pay?

      I dont know about the rest of you (or how much you make in a month) but there's no F'ing way I would put a $9000 ring on wife's finger (and she wouldnt have it, either).

      Who in the world besides movie stars and former enron employees would spend that much on a ring?

      We are happy with our silver cladaghs (the irish ring mentioned earlier)... sheesh!

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      -- Senior Software Engineer, Attorney appearance services, locallawyerapp.com.
  25. Better than diamond - Moissanite by log0n · · Score: 1

    google it

    My fiance's engagement ring is 2/3 moissanite (3 stones, the center is diamond). It's better looking than diamond side by side, costs less, and has a more interesting background than diamond (outer space vs. hot air). While she's not a /. uber-nerd (she detests my love of this site), the uniqueness of the gem falls right in line with her personality.

    And 2 months salary (it's actually turning into 3 months now) is BS. If a girl only loves you because of how much she thinks you can spend on her, you better find a new girl cuz you didn't land a keeper.

  26. Breach of Contract by wonkavader · · Score: 2, Insightful

    I'm not a feminist. I like traditional roles. I like being the guy and there being a difference between the sexes, but engagement rings just piss me off.

    The diamond engagement ring is a modern concept -- 1880's, thank you very much De Beers. But it sits on the chattel, economical arrangement ideas.

    Engagement rings are expensive because they come from a tradition of viewing women as property, and men as providers, not partners. You're putting a down payment on her so as to keep her from marrying someone else, and to prove that you're successful. She wears it to prove to her friends that her husband is successful.

    Wedding rings are great. They're generally cheap and function as symbols to two people binding to one another. Engagement rings are about materialism, conspicuous consumption, and investment in a woman as property via a down payment that you lose if you breach the contract.

    If you MUST prove to her you're affluent, something's horribly wrong in your relationship. If you just want to prove it, stop for a second and think "why?" -- is it confidence issue for yourself, or are you just allowing the weight of history and our avaricious, hungry, capitalist society to put desires in your head?

    If you really both want something to put on her finger to say "I am owned, even though I'm not yet married" to outsiders (and there's real comfort in that for both parties, I know), consider one of those Irish friendship rings, then she can box it away when she gets the real, mutual icon of the final attachment, instead of looking at it as so expensive she needs to wear it.

    1. Re:Breach of Contract by damsa · · Score: 1

      I like the idea of an engagement car or engagement suitcase or engagement Powerbook. But the problem with those things is that it doesn't last forever. Diamonds I guess do. But I guess the nice thing about an engagement ring is the resell value if the man chooses to call off the wedding. Wait, there is no resale value. hmm.

    2. Re:Breach of Contract by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Engagement rings are expensive because they come from a tradition of viewing women as property,

      Bull. Engagement rings are expensive because they normally have diamonds, and DeBeers et al try very hard to restrict the diamond supply to keep prices up.

      DeBeers tries (with some success) to prevent new diamond supplies from entering the wholesale and retail sector, and tries very hard to prevent a secondary market where individuals could sell their diamonds.

      Diamonds aren't that rare, so if a free market existed, the price would crash.

      Ultimately, you're buying something that you (and others) think looks nice. There's nothing wrong with that, people buy nice clothes, nice cars, nice furniture, nice houses all the time. But be aware of what you are buying.

      If you MUST prove to her you're affluent, something's horribly wrong in your relationship.

      Me, I just carry around my monthly statement from my stock broker :)

  27. Buy Moissanite if your girl doesn't mind... by Slashdot+Junky · · Score: 1

    Buy Moissanite if your girl doesn't mind. It had been selling for 1/10 of the cost of a comparible Diamond. My wife actually suggested it for her rings. Most Diamond detectors report Moissanite stones as diamond. My wife rings are very nice looking and didn't cost me two months salary.

    http://www.moissanite.com/education_video.cfm

    Later,
    -Slashdot Junky

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    1. Re:Buy Moissanite if your girl doesn't mind... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      bullshit. Moissanite is even easier to id than cubic zirconium. all the jewellers now have newer thermal equipment and besides that fact if you're relatively sharp eyed you could spot it without any help, though it helps to have a polariscope as the refractive index difference is someting like 0.2 higher than that of the best that nature produces. just rotate the sucker and look for the funky sparkle. that said diamonds are over priced, a fact we all know, and if your woman values that more than an extra mortgage payment then run rabbit run. or get a prenup which will force her to return the rock when things fail...

    2. Re:Buy Moissanite if your girl doesn't mind... by Slashdot+Junky · · Score: 1

      My statement regarding detectors not knowing the difference between moissanite and diamond was true 2.5 years ago when the rings were bought and a couple of tests since then have yielded the same result. Only the trained eye and those you tell will know the difference.

      -Slashdot Junky

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      Landfill Mining Co.
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    3. Re:Buy Moissanite if your girl doesn't mind... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      no. no. and ahhmm no.

      new thermal equipment is more than capable of identifying moissanite in the blink of an eye. what you need to do is get up to date aboout something called "new" technology. or, you could produce documented evidence about this "fact"...

  28. If you're going through the effort... by toybuilder · · Score: 1

    ...make sure you spend time on learning about the traditional 4C's of diamond quality: cut, clarity, color, and carat. (5C's if you add "Cost". Heh.)

    The main point of a gem is to be bright (brilliance) and sparkly (fire)... And to achieve that, you want to maximize the light "gathering" tendencies of the gem.

    Clarity, color and carat are fairly well explained, but it seems cut is not always correctly understood. "Cut" does not mean "shape". Instead, it is the quality of how the diamond was cut -- the sub-qualities to cut include its symmetry and polish, and its geometry.

    Personally, a well cut stone can be more sparkly and brilliant than a much larger poorly cut stone, even if the color/clarity of the two stones are similar. In fact, the better cut stone can be more brilliant and appear whiter, even if it is slightly inferior in color.

    There's much talk about "hearts and arrows" among the diamond connoiseurs. What it basically boils down to is that H&A diamonds are proportioned such that they maximize light reflections through much more precise alignment of the light paths (by more careful arrangement of the facets).

    It's the opposite problem of adding "noise" into ray-traced images that look too perfect... The H&A polishers work harder to take away the "noise"... You're trying to minimize light loss through alignment errors!

    Of course, at the end of the day, you just have to look at enough stones to start telling them apart. If you want to escape cheap, go with "ignorance is bliss"... More you study, the more expensive it gets... I ended up spending a month of research to learn about diamonds, and it was quite fun, but ultimately very expensive. (And people do think it's a bit odd when you use a toilet paper roll to study a diamond... But it works!)

    1. Re:If you're going through the effort... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Please, don't read too much and go for the real... sometimes.

      I bet you have not ever been near a brilliant in your whole life.

      "the sub-qualities to cut include its symmetry and polish, and its geometry."

      I am sorry to inform you we are talkinga bout diamonds crystals here. What the hell are you talking about "polish" qualities?

    2. Re:If you're going through the effort... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      sorry. I confused "diamonds" and "sausages". That's what happens when you talk out your ass after a keilbosa fest.

  29. Scam? by nurb432 · · Score: 1

    They dont even look real, more like cheap 3D...

    Cool concept if they are legit..

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  30. average US marriage lasts 4 years by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I know a lawyer who advised his recently engaged daughter to only plan for five years of marriage. Most people thought this was tacky, but I thought it was genius

  31. Re: x months of salary by bonezed · · Score: 1

    such brilliant marketing by DeBeers etc

    back when I was a kid I remember it being 1 month of pay

    also, what ever happened to those Russkies who were making cheap diamonds by the truck load? I bet they were bought/forced out.

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  32. go to Canada, eh? by viva_fourier · · Score: 1

    I bought my wife a Canadian diamond by finding a dealer through Sirius Diamonds and there's another brand called Ekati... it worked out pretty well since she was born in Ontario(and for those of you brought up on US High School history, that's part of Canada)

    You can read up on them, but they're mined up in the Northwest Territories and are only cut/sold as ideal cuts, high clarity, light color -- all that good stuff. I didn't break the bank either, (although I admit I didn't buy into that DeBeer's 2 months wages propaganda). They sent it across the border in a fedex envelope labeled "Carbon Sample" in order to null out any customs fees. Go canucks!

    To sum up: my wife loves it, they're guilt free, and they put a neat little polar bear laser enscription into the girdle. oh yeah!

    --
    and now back to the fallout shelter...
    1. Re:go to Canada, eh? by GagnierA · · Score: 1

      Just a quick comment about this. Being a Canadian myself (Windsor, Ontario actually), don't let viva's response fool you into thinking that Canadian diamonds are the best alternative (and most cost effective route) to your little "dilemma".

      Even though they may mark the package to save you any duties fees or extra taxes, they can still be quite costly...depending on the karat size you're looking for, of course. You may be able to find a smaller diamond at a decent price, but due to the fact that Canadian diamonds aren't "mass produced" like some of the more reputable names in the feild, you'll tend to pay a little extra for the better cuts.

      That's not to say that the Canadian diamonds are a rip off, but the dealers will tend to treat them as a rarity depending on who you choose to buy from. Because of that supply factor, on the same note, the quality is usually higher than that of your generic "over-the-counter" diamond which will also factor into the price.

      But heck, don't let any of that deter you from looking...you're bound to find a good deal, but don't go into it thinking that you'll be saving hundreds of dollars. Of course, you'll save a little because of the exchange rate between our two countries (even though our dollar is steadily rising on a daily basis), but at best you'll be happy if you find something good at a $75 face price savings. The diamond market is pretty much the same in every country though...

      Good luck in your search :)

    2. Re:go to Canada, eh? by viva_fourier · · Score: 1

      Well, I wasn't trying to "fool" him into getting a Canadian diamond, I was simply illustrating the route that I took.

      I do agree with the Windsor-poster that the dealers are leveraging off of the artificial price inflation that DeBeer's has created. I had researched the prices pretty hardcore and the one I ended up with was right on par (CCCC and price) with the bluenile.com selection. So, not necessarily a ripoff, unless you consider all natural diamonds to be so...

      I guess, if one is looking for value for the size and wants a unique bending of the light with the look of a diamond, maybe that moissanite is a good way to go.

      As for the whole bloodless diamond concern, I believe that there is an effort underway to circumvent the inclusion of blood diamond in the wholesale supply...

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      and now back to the fallout shelter...
  33. Its not used, its an antique... by aethera · · Score: 1

    My wife and I wrestled with this one for a while, and finally settled on purchasing an old stone in a new setting (old settings can suffer from too much metal fatigue for proper sizing, or break more easily). Its an "Old European Cut" stone, which is really cool. Its a cut no one makes any more, and rather than reflecting the light shone onto/into it in pure white like all modern cuts, the natural imperfections in the hand cut stone cause it to refract the light into a rainbow of colors. It was also far, far cheaper. We considered Moissanite and even cubic zirconium, but frequently grow tired of explaining our political and philosophical views to relatives. When they asked if I really had managed to afford a real diamon, we could truthfully say yes and leave it at that.

  34. Lab created diamonds by squisher · · Score: 1

    My wife very much likes betterthandiamonds.com, where you can get artificial diamonds called "Asha". She did a lot of research on the subject and really only experts can tell the difference and they even come with a guarantee (non-tranferable though, I didn't like that) that they will not get scratched. So you get a very beautiful looking stone for a fraction of the price.

    Hope that helps and the obligatory comment that I have no connection to the above mentioned company but did like their product.

  35. Learn diamonds, and learn to negotiate by mbstone · · Score: 2, Informative
    Nobody here has talked about the importance of knowing how to negotiate, whether it be over a diamond engagement ring, or anything else of importance. Your typical kid diamond buyer takes his SO to the local mall jewelry store. He has no knowledge of the grades (color, and clarity) of diamonds and the differences in value that they represent; he has never heard of the grading services GIA and EGL; and, most importantly, by bringing the SO he lets the sales rep play to her heartstrings and his sense of guilt. Many mall jewelers don't even tell you the grade of the diamonds they sell, nor do they have independently-graded diamonds for sale (or they offer diamonds graded by some no-name agency you never heard of).

    First of all, this would be a good time to invest in a seminar on how to negotiate (e.g. Karrass Negotiation Seminars). This will help you in your marriage, just as much as in material things like buying a diamond ring or a car or getting the highest possible starting pay rate.

    Second, you need to learn about how to buy diamonds, go to google.com and type in, "Diamond Buying FAQ".

  36. Alternative by miyako · · Score: 1

    I've seen a lot of posts talking about how growing your own diamond is not really reasonable, so I would like to suggest an alternative.
    What about, instead of creating the diamon, create the ring itself. I've seen companies on the net (can't remember any names off hand but you should be able to google) that will create jewelry based off 3D models. Then you could create the ring, and get her input on it. If you don't want to pay for the diamond because of cost, or because of ethical reasons, then look at alternative gems.
    Personally, I've always preferred Rubies.

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  37. greenKarat by fred+ugly · · Score: 2, Interesting

    if you don't mind it being pink, blue, or yellow, you can get something at greenKarat

  38. DeBeers has succeeded! by iq+in+binary · · Score: 2, Interesting

    To this day it is still the biggest misconception in the industry that artificial diamonds are inferior in quality.

    NEWS FLASH:

    Those flaws are made on purpose, to keep DeBeers from absolutely destroying the market by flooding his entire stock onto it.

    "Natural" artificial diamonds are perfect. That's right, PERFECT. No flaws, exceptional clarity. They are that way inherently so. Would someone who is actually involved in the bort industry please elaborate? Artificial diamonds are HEAVILY used in the machining industry, read: EVERYTHING that has to do with shaping metal or similarly hard materials. Bort diamond has no flaws, it's just not white or yellow, doesn't have to be.

    The process in which diamonds are "grown" inherently produces sheer slabs of perfect cubic carbon, no imperfections. The artifical diamonds you see on the market are engineered to have flaws, as agreed upon by DeBeers and the manufacturers capable of producing artificial white, yellow, blue or red diamond. I have a sneaky suspicion this misconception will carry for a LONG time.

    Ever seen a lab diamond? As in a diamond created for scientific purposes? PERFECT in every manner. They have to be, same as industrial diamond, those flaws mean structural instability; which is unacceptable for use such as high-polish grinding. DeBeers has managed to assert so much control in the industry that those that have even tried to do so for resale purposes are quickly crushed.....or just disappear completely.

    The diamond/jewelry industry is ugly, very ugly. It is corrupt, bloody and very arrogant. Having never seen a conviction by law or even pursued by vigilante organizations known to exist in Asia or Africa, they will continue to be for a very long time. Here's something I bet you don't know, diamond bank gaurds--who just so happen to be unaffiliated with any law enforcement or government organization--have been known to carry FN Five-seveN's and H&K MP7's...without a Class C or equivalent license. These arms just happen to be illegal enough to get your average guy to disappear, having been designed for either clandestine operations or condition black urban ops (read: punch through anything, and accurately; with extreme concealability). When I say disappear, I don't mean dead, I mean gone. In Guantanamo Bay for the next 500 years.

    Do what I plan on doing, make the ring yourself, it's not really that hard. A couple specialized Dremel bits, a 1"X3/4" piece of gold stock and a sizeable gem aside from a diamond that would accentuate your love's eyes, and go to town. Bench lathes are cheap, couple hundred bucks, as are the tools they use, you could make yourself a ring that any woman that would complain about would have to be crazy--one of a kind and hand made--for HALF the price of even a cheap ring. Oh, and you'd learn a marketable skill in the process. Who know's you might just have fun and use that same bench lathe for other projects. I know I would.

    What comes from the heart? Blood, sweat and tears. Why not put that into your wedding ring? If you do it right, there'll be all three :-P

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    Of all the Universal Constants, here's one I know: Nice guys finish last ;)
  39. natural = made by nature by davidwr · · Score: 1

    Sure, the end product is essentially the same, but nothing says "I love you forever" than a gem that took thousands or millions - or at least longer than your marraige will last - of years to produce.

    I predict within 20 years the only way to tell a manufactured diamond from a made-by-God one will be by a certificate of origin, possibly backed by a laser engraving.

    Ironically, the desire to avoid "conflict diamonds" will do more to drive certificates of origin and laser engraving than the fear of man-made diamonds, at least in the short term.

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  40. Find a family member to give you a diamond. Duh. by Kymermosst · · Score: 1

    I used a diamond from my great grandmother's ring. No more money to the cartel, it was a special stone, and my wife likes it just fine. (Yes, she knows where I got it... she thinks heirloom stones are cool and wants it to go on to a great granddaughter someday.)

    I had the diamond set in a custom engagement ring, and we had our jeweler make two additional bands that were affixed to each side of the engagement ring for the wedding.

    Why dream up a complicated, expensive solution like manufacturing your own diamond, when you can have a simple solution?

    Of course, the moment I read this story I figured that the submitter was either having a good laugh for a good troll or just too out of touch with reality for their own good.

    Other solutions that other people have suggested: Get a Canadian stone (no blood), or get one from a pawn shop.

    My addendum: If you get one from a pawn shop, do *not* give her the ring from the pawn shop. Have the stone set into a new custom ring. It'll be special that way. Get the stone appraised by a certified gemologist. Finally, she doesn't need to know it's not a "new" diamond. But she'd better be sure the ring as a package is "new".

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  41. Those are Cubic Zirconia dude... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Read the FAQ, nuff said

  42. diamond not from the cartel: kill a bunch of rats! by damicha · · Score: 1
    here is your solution:
    http://www.brunners.com/life_gem.htm

    if you don't want to wait for a death to occur naturally:
    you need about 2 pounds of unprocessed (i.e. carbon left in) cremation ashes:

    two dozen rats, orthwo to three dogs,po
    8 cats, or
    100 miles worth of roadkill

    NO kartell involved
    No blood
    Fresh from the oven, no middlemen at all! Count anywhere between 5k$ to 11k$ for the stone (1/2 carat to 1 carat).

    There are other sites. I think most of them have it done in Switzerland.

    mike

  43. I've seen 'em by scorp1us · · Score: 1

    They are yellow like crazy. Easily spotted, though they pass the tests. The color is a very dyhydrated urine-yellow color, not like the light hues of natural diamonds.

    You can make one in a microwave oven by dropping the pressure and feeding in methane (natural gas) an reaching a temurature fo 1800deg C. After placing a dialond seed, several weeks later you should have additional deposits.

    Your options for a clear diamond come only from nature at this time.

    I do recommend hanging out in NYC's diamond district. Take some body guards (I am serious, people will mug you after seeing you in the transaction) and cash, and you can get a wholesale (reasonable) price from an independant Jewish vendor on the street. It sounds shady, but these diamond brokers operate off of trust themselves.

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  44. The problem is... by merlin_jim · · Score: 1

    That atmospheric pressure is the exact WRONG kind of environment to be growing diamonds.

    The basic CVD setup for diamond is alcohol and hydrogen vapors flowing over a filament and then onto a sample deposition plate.

    Take a tank of alcohol and bubble hydrogen through it. You can get H2 from a gas supply company, or any acid-metal reaction. You'll want a valve to control the ratio. The Carbon-Hydrogen ratio should be quite low (about 10%?) to give a good controlled growth rate. The slower, more controlled the growth rate, the better and larger the end product.

    Research shows that a certain amount of water vapor may be desirable. I've heard therefore that Sake and Burbon are actually pretty good to use for this. I would use just straight ethanol if I were attempting, however.

    Pipe this from the top through a verticle pyrex tube. In the middle mount a tungsten filament. This you'll want to get to 2400 degrees centigrade by running a current through it (through a rheostat)... I've heard that a good way to check is to view it through exposed daytime film; it'll start showing through the film at the right temperature. A few millimeters beneath that mount a small plate as a growth medium. You can either vent the outgassing or burn it. Of course this technique requires an oxygen free environment so don't just leave the bottom open; force it through a tube of equal or lesser diameter as your feed tube.

    extremely low pressures or extremely high pressures are very good for making better diamond from this process. If you're going high pressure try stainless steel for your containment vessel. Low pressure only requires thick enough glass to stand near-vacuum.

    Use inert materials for everything. The process is basically to start with a seed plate (silicon or molybdenum are both good candidates for diamond growth)... grow VERY slowly at first until you get a good seed crystal. Then you replace the seed plate with an inert piece of glass with any seed crystals in it. You'll get mostly carbon dust unless you can tune everything properly (the dust contains a large number of microscopic diamonds and actually shows up on xray crystallography as diamond)

    Ideas for tuning to get gem-quality diamonds (some of these from the original researchers some from me)

    The process works by taking the OOH out of the alcohol (-COOH) and combining it with the raw H2 to make water. The carbon becomes free radicals and crystallize quickly. The process doesn't yield gem quality diamonds because the crystallization happens so quickly that it has numerous nucleation sites and therefore yields many microscopic crystals instead of one large crystal.

    1. Decrease the thermal gradient between the sample and the filament. (no I have no idea how to do this. if *I* were designing from scratch I would put a smaller secondary filament under the sample)
    2. Play with flow rates. A high flow rate accompanied by a low temperature may encourage better crystal growth. Same thing with a low flow rate and high temperature.
    3. Try ionizing the flow. The extra repulsion between radicals should keep them seperated longer and provide better nucleation targets. For that matter putting an opposite charge under your samples might help as well. Of course, diamond is an insulator so that might actually be counterproductive by providing nucleation sites apart from the seed itself. Maybe using a pulsed ionic spray on the seed will help?
    4. Increase potential energy in the seed. Light abrasion with diamond grit sandpaper provides more potential energy for nucleation. This is similar in idea to ionizing, in that it electrochemically roughens the surface.

    I played around with this stuff 10 years ago in high school. It might be worthwhile to set up a new experiment now that I've written this hahaha.

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