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When The Other Woman Is An Xbox
MTV's Game News service has a report on a an anti-gaming college club started by a group of disgruntled gamer SOs. From the article: "Jaci and Jake, who both attend Kansas State University, are a modern couple dealing with a modern issue. One of them is a gamer; the other is not. Theirs is not an unusual plight. For decades gamers and non-gamers in love have struggled to find harmony. At Kansas State the frustration is rampant. Like most college campuses, it is a place where the release of Halo 2 last year was the best of times and the worst of times. And while there is such a thing as couples in which both people are into games -- and while there are sometimes boyfriends who are the non-gamers -- the most frequent complaint involves game-crazy guys leaving their girlfriends out in the Xbox-free cold."
Meeting a gamer wasn't something I was specifically looking for but it's worked out great.
"Armed forces abroad are of little value unless there is prudent counsel at home" - Cicero
It never ceases to amaze me how many people pick a partner seemingly at random and are then surprised when they're not all that compatible. Or is it just that the only selection criterion is "Must answer 'Yes' to 'Will you go on a date with me?'"?
How is this new and different when compared to golf?
If it wasn't the xbox, it'd be work.
It seems that in the mind of many a women, you should be able to remain successful, productive, bring in an impressive income, receive promotions, buy a nice house, car, vacations, raise children and all the other things that women you may hook up with, date, or even marry would want out of a guy and would want to be able to brag to their family and friends about . . . while not actually focusing yourself on your work.
You should make time for the other person, certainly, but chicks need to understand that you only got where you are through hard work and that all the things of yours which she enjoys came at a price. Both monitarily and in personal sacrifices of various kinds.
If you can't respect the fact that, as a man, work and career and achievment are a very large part of my existance and want me to sabotage that to spend even more time with you at, say, the risk of you hooking up with some unemployed loser or the pool boy who don't have the responsibilities and can give you the time while I give you the money and house and nice cars and fancy dinners, then you might as well step-off from the get-go.
So how does the XBOX (or cars or any other hobby) fit into this? Because when you work hard, you need to relax, too. You need time alone to decompress and enjoy yourself and being suffocated by another human being every free second you have is not always the most relaxing thing. Likewise, your mate needs to understand that fact in addition to the "I have a career" fact.
If she can't, it's time to start looking for a better breed of women and start thinking with your head when you choose the next one.
Sex sometimes ISN'T better than gaming.
Maybe when you're 15 and it's still amazing that you're having sex, but I'm 30. I've had all kinds of sex. I've been married and divorced. I've had several girlfriends over the years.
When I'm having a good run at CS and I have an 80/23 kill/death ratio, I'd rather keep playing for a while. Sex is something you can have anytime, a good gaming session needs to be enjoyed when it happens.
LK
"Hi. This is my friend, Jack Shit, and you don't know him." - Lord Kano
Dude, I've done it while playing Halo 2 on-line.
Because as another poster says down below...when you are older (I'm 37) sex isn't some sort of mind-blowing, my whole reality is changing kind of thing.
Don't get me wrong...my wife and I do have some very good sex. But like most couples, we also have our share of quickies, and relatively inconsequential sex. The type of thing you do just to blow of steam or whatever.
So, we've had sex while I played a game.
It was fun.
Sex should be fun.
No reason to lie.
One or two issues there. Just tiny ones, maybe.
This is something I know all too well. I married a non-gamer and Halo 2 is the source of 90% of our fights.
I type this message with a dislocated finger (no joke) from punching the wall in frustration after a fight last night.
For some reason, non-gamers just can't seem to grasp the concept that gaming is something we do to RELAX... and it's not relaxing to have someone constantly bothering us about our hobbies.
The year is 2005 and video games are a legitimate pastime, and have been for years =)
What you're missing here is that gamers are the new jerks. And we all know a woman can't possibly leave a jerk.
"Who is the Journal of Quantum Physics going to believe?" --Stephen Hawking
If you are married and do not like your husband's video game habits, then you are a fool. If your husband is at home playing computer games, good. He's not out drinking or whoring. He's not gambling away the money he makes. He's not committing crimes. He's not hurting anyone. He's relaxing in a safe manner.
Instead of watching football or baseball, he's playing video games. He's surfing on the internet playing games with friends, not fantasy football. There is zero difference between watching games and playing games (except for the fact that playing games makes you smarter), just how some of society perceives it.
Next time you read about a girlfriend angry that her boyfriend plays video games, pay her the same attention you would any whiny complaining stupid person.
Hoist Number One and Number Six.