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Any Suggestions For a Meaningful Geeky Wedding Band?
mbutala writes "I am getting close to popping the question, and I've been racking my brain for an idea for a cool and unique wedding band. I've been thinking of contacting a company that can (possibly) fabricate a ring from pure Iridium (Ir) or a nearly pure alloy. It is the most corrosion-resistant metal known — it cannot be dissolved in aqua regia like gold or platinum. Iridium is extremely rare on Earth, and the high concentration of it at the K-T boundary in the Earth's crust is what suggests a meteor took out the dinosaurs. I am positive that the symbolism of the permanence of Iridium, the reminder that we are star-stuff, and the fact that the ring would be one-of-a-kind would really strike a chord with my girlfriend. It's a really geeky idea, so I thought I would run it past you all — what do you think? Any other ideas?"
Just don't make the mistake of thining that any part of the wedding process (past the proposal) is about you :)
The short answer is "whatever she wants".
G.
I agree. My wife was so pleased that we did something different, well a little different, titanium. You might consider asking her in a very vague/hypothecal sort of way if she were to some day consider being married if she feels strongly about what sort of ring she would like or could she be pleased if someone might just surprise her. I think some girls like to be surprised and like being a little unique, but others would stomp on you if you gave them something other than what they have wanted all their fecund life.
If she's a geek, she's reading this. You probably shouldn't be posting such a question on Slashdot. Not to mention that this sort of thing comes from the heart. Do yourself a favor and disregard everything here. Go with what your gut tells you, not ours.
What day is it? Could you please tell me?
Why don't you nerds read an MSDS on the material of choice before making yourself a guinea pig.
All I'll add to that, is if he's found a girl who will value his imagination, willingness to put all that effort, throught and dilligence in, more than she values waving some diamonds with no intrinsic value at her friends and having them wave their own back (sometimes with a concealed snide reference to it not being worth as much their diamonds), then he should under no circumstances ever let this girl go. She's more valuable than any precious metal or gemstone.
Good luck to the submitter!
Aide-toi, le Ciel t'aidera - Jeanne D'Arc.
It's not what it was made of that made it important -- it's was how it was processed. If it was a block of silicon, it would be like the difference between a 4-core CPU die, and a solar cell block of the same size.
Sometimes boldness is in fashion. Sometimes only the brave will be bold.
If you people are seriously marrying women with the intention of being doormats your entire lives, you will be a miserable, pathetic wretch long before she ruins you in the divorce.
Any marriage based on "yes dear, yes dear" over and over again is an eternity in HELL. If you care even an ounce about yourself, you won't do turn into "that guy".
Girls are girls first, and geeks second. I would say that even the geekiest girls have dreamed of traditional weddings, and would much rather have tradition over trends and geekiness.
Just my $0.02. Do come back and tell us how it went.
It's far bigger then all the others....
Weddings and wedding magazines are porn for the average girl (and her mother).
No sig today...
It sounds like you're buying a wedding band as an engagement ring (which I've not come across before, yet noone seems to have mentioned it).If your wife-to-be is going to wear any other ring alongside this one then you need to consider the relative hardness. With gold the higher carat value the softer.
Also, if you've got a bad memory (like me) you might consider having the date of your wedding inscribed inside the band ... if your memory is really bad then get your wife's name put in there too. http://dot-jewellery.co.uk/commissions.php?c=emboss sounds like a nice way to do this, or something similar.
I'd probably have gone for a Mobius strip if I was rich enough to commission a ring.
Lastly, this is your gift to her .. I don't think you need to choose exactly what she would choose for herself. But, do remember the idea is for her to wear it for the rest of her life.
Bingo. Most guys marry ranting and raving self centered bitches. Good god, if she is not your absolute best friend first and the woman you adore with all your heart second, your marriage will either be a living hell or not last long. (Note you both better be very closely sexually matched as well. If you like it a LOT and she does not, you will NOT be happy in a short few months when she stops putting out.)
My wife is my absolute best friend. we do everything together because we want to. many of our married friends are freaked out about it but then I see them in very unstable and unhealthy relationships. (One has his wife lying to him all the time)
If she is not your best friend, YOU DO NOT MARRY HER.
Do not look at laser with remaining good eye.
Well, what's the story. My wedding ring is Tungsten as well (I also highly recommend it) and would like to know. -Grey
Tungsten was originally known as Wolfram, hence the W, Wolfram because it came from wolframite ore. Wolfram meaning "wolf's foam," so called because the mineral consumed a large amount of tin in its extraction.
"There are no facts, only interpretations." --Friedrich Nietzsche.
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Avoid (natural) rubies as well. The vast majority (90+%) come from Burma and enrich a regime that is happy to shoot Buddhist monks to stay in power. Again, synthetics are just fine.
"Seven Deadly Sins? I thought it was a to-do list!"
iridium is made of unhealthy diets and poor exercise?
If you are getting married soon don't spend money on extremely expensive symbols of your affection. Save your money for real things like children. In these uncertain times when we live on the edge of great change, you should put aside money for emergencies, financial reversals, and unforeseen circumstances.
Blowing a huge sum of money on what is basically a symbolic gesture will seem insane if five years from now you are married, lose your job for some reason that is not your fault, and have a child that develops a medical problem that is not covered by ever-shrinking medical insurance. Marriage is the time when people affirm to their spouses that they will stop doing insane things. If you have the money now for an rare-metal ring, then invest it in conservative Euro-denominated stocks. Give this to your new wife instead. Believe me, she will appreciate it more than an ring that costs five figures now but will only bring four figures in an emergency sale.
Good God, before I got married I heard from dudes like you all the time. I'm in my late twenties, been married for 3 years (dating prior to that for an additional 4) and I consider myself happily married.
Marriage is what you make of it and who you marry. I see 40-50 yr old single schleps all the time and certainly would rather be married. If you're that bad off, you should get a divorce and find a better chick.
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I agree if it's an occasional few months because of circumstances beyond your control. But I think that Lumpy was talking about women who like sex a lot less than you and an ensuing lifetime of sexual unsatisfaction. That would be a bad thing that could have been avoided.