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Any Suggestions For a Meaningful Geeky Wedding Band?
mbutala writes "I am getting close to popping the question, and I've been racking my brain for an idea for a cool and unique wedding band. I've been thinking of contacting a company that can (possibly) fabricate a ring from pure Iridium (Ir) or a nearly pure alloy. It is the most corrosion-resistant metal known — it cannot be dissolved in aqua regia like gold or platinum. Iridium is extremely rare on Earth, and the high concentration of it at the K-T boundary in the Earth's crust is what suggests a meteor took out the dinosaurs. I am positive that the symbolism of the permanence of Iridium, the reminder that we are star-stuff, and the fact that the ring would be one-of-a-kind would really strike a chord with my girlfriend. It's a really geeky idea, so I thought I would run it past you all — what do you think? Any other ideas?"
My advice: Don't get too fancy. Titanium makes a dandy wedding band for a bunch of reasons:
1. It's inexpensive. My ring ran something like $99, so I can afford to have a backup living in my filing cabinet in case I ever lose this one (people lose their rings all the time -- ask that one beach volleyball player from the Olympics this year). Also, if my fingers get fatter in my old age, I can replace the ring for cheap. Overspending? Not geeky.
2. It's hard enough that it'll shatter before it deforms. Most ring-related injuries are a result of the ring bending into the finger. That's bad. My ring won't deform easily and will probably shatter before deforming, so I have a better chance of keeping my finger than someone with a gold wedding band. Inability to hit the "S" key due to a missing finger? Not geeky.
3. It can be cut off. Hospitals can cut off a 6-4 titanium band, so if I ever injur my finger badly enough that it swells up I can, again, keep my finger and continue hitting the "S" key freely. See #2.
4. It's light. I hardly know I have it on. This may or may not be a good thing, depending on what sort of person you are. It's also completely hypoallergenic, which I understand is different than simply nonreactive. Not having your ring cause you weird skin issues? Geeky.
5. It's geeky. Go rent The Abyss if you have to. While I haven't stopped any hydraulic doors with mine, it is in perfect shape after four fantastic years. The finish gets a little scuffed, but it's still in perfect shape despite some significant abuse. You want geeky? I have "Don't Panic" inscribed in the inside of mine (and "Panic" inscribed in the backup ring I mentioned in #1). Sound advice, that.
I understand the drive to be unique, but take it from me (I moonlight as a wedding photographer): Weddings are already stupid-expensive. You should get immediately out of the habit of overspending when cheaper and perfectly satisfactory alternatives exist. As for your other point: *all* rings are starstuff -- gold, platinum, titanium, whatever -- so your last point there is complete hyperbole. Again, not excessively geeky.
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Our wedding bands themselves are not too metallurgically unusual (though the construction involves a difficult inlay made from palladium-gold alloy). However, my wife's diamond is extra geeky! It's an artificial blue diamond - a natural white diamond subjected to massive gamma irradiation in an industrial nuclear reactor or particle accelerator. The irradiation disturbs the crystal lattice and produces color centers in the diamond, causing a blue-green hue. She loves it, and tells the story to every geek she meets.
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what about depleted uranium?
it's super dense....and extremely long half-life (weakly radioactive...according to wiki)
My brother recently proposed to his girlfriend by doing the following: (caption from his photo follows, which I do not have permission to post)
"Optical microscopy image of the engagement device under white light. The bare Si/SiO2 substrate appears violet while the metal (chrome/gold) artwork appears yellow. The artwork was patterned using electron beam lithography and metalized using thermal evaporation. The artwork was created using QCad, a linux-compatible free software alternative to AutoCAD."
The image was the 2 of them sitting out in the wilderness watching the Perseid meteor shower and can just barely be seen with the unaided eye. He proposed while the 2 of them were out watching it, and it was also what they did for one of their very first dates. He took her out to the same spot as on their earlier date, then gave her the device, which I hear is going to be mounted in some kind of clear polymer and mounted on a ring or necklace.
I will most definitely have a high geekiness standard to live up to when I propose or am proposed to.
Do what I did - get the exact replica of the ring used in the Lord of the Rings movies: http://www.jenshansen.com/thering.aspx Pricey, but so worth it for having the exact same ring as the movies. Can't get any geekier than that!
Geeky, to me, means original(eccentric) and thorough(obsessive). If you want original and thorough, no commercial jeweller is going to be that for you as well as you can be that for yourself.
A DIY ring is cheap without being Cheap, guaranteed unique, and as geeky as you make it.
As a hobbyist jeweller, I can attest that wedding bands are easy to make. I'm going to marry my fiancee in Spring 2009 (your autumn, northern hemisphericans) with a home-made mokume-gane band. (google it. Mokume is Nifty)
My dad has a platinum wedding band.
After he'd been wearing it a couple decades, one day he slipped and started to fall in a parking lot. His hand was resting on the top of a metal fence post, and as it slipped off, the metal rod clamped to the post (that held a run of chain-link fence to it) found its way between his finger and the ring.
The ring was well fitted, so when the steel was deflected inwards by the stronger platinum, gravity caused the steel to slice him to the bone. Then he was hanging by one damaged finger with his full weight held by the steel rod inside the ring.
If you calculate the strength of your wife's finger joint relative to her weight (and she's not barsoomian or emaciated or something) you'll see that the next thing that happens is the finger pops right off. Luckily for my dad, he is quite strong, so he grabbed the chain-link with his other hand and only got his finger stretched to un-natural length.
The doctors fixed it, so it wasn't as bad as getting your silk tie caught in a generator, but it was still a real wake-up call. Unbreakable ring on breakable finger has a very bad failure mode.
Get her a really nice soft metal ring with a beautiful design. High-carat gold is really much redder than the common stuff - it's noticeably prettier - and you can always inlay it with something that's not a continuous band.
FYI, Iridium is the most common hardening agent in Platinum for jewelry.
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What about having it shaped as a Mobius strip? It would be easy, as long as it twists near the stone setting (a twist on the main band would be uncomfortable), and the 2 sides being one is kind of symbolic.
My parents wedding band was a mobius strip. I always thought that was cool.
Physics is like sex: sure, it may give some practical results, but that's not why we do it.
My dad had his wedding ring tattooed on and it worked out rather well. Wearing a normal ring is both dangerous and inconvenient for most people who work with their hands. Among all the normal things like getting the ring crushed, the finger swelling, needing to take it off for other hand injuries people often miss such wonderful things as electrical arcing across the ring (I've seen this happen to a titanium watch, melted a few of the links right into the guy's wrist) or it holding nasty chemicals you might be working with close to your skin instead of getting washed off or evaporating quickly.
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Titanium is nice and all, but TUNGSTEN is where it's at.
AFAICT Iridium isn't the stuff you'd want juwelery of. It's to brittle and not very pretty. I suggest Titanium or monocrystallic Titanium - the stuff they make jet fighter turbine shovels out of. It's titanium with the entire piece being on crystaline structure. It costs quite a bit extra to get it that way, but it's even tougher than a normal piece of titanium.
However, you should check if it can be cut with regular rescue tools in an emergency, as somebody here allready pointed out.
All those material things aside - it's the love. If you get yourself and her a stainless steel ring with a synthetic diamond for 200 bucks, but are there for her when times are rough - that's worth quite a bit more imho. And a stainless steel ring can be cool aswell.
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Okay I am a self confessed Geek chick and I did receive a uniquely geeky wedding band. It was a 1000 year old bronze roman ring from an archaeological site in the middle east. Let me stress that it was Legally exported and purchased aboveboard online @ http://medievalwares.com/zt/index.php?main_page=index&cPath=65. I am certain if you google you could find other similar sites as well.
Or, if you and your fiancee are truly computer geeks, you could use the electromagnet out of a mini hard-drive. It should be just the right size. ;)
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I did that with the engagement ring. Not that great an idea, in my case. Not saying it was outright disastrous, but she would have preferred old style.
Just something to keep in mind.
Good point. I'm on my 2nd ring, now. Started as a size 7 (piano hands) but now my fingers are a size 9, seven years later.
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Get a tattoo of a band.
One of the local news anchors in LA had that done. I give it credit for being uncommon (by no means unique), but not something I'd ever do. It sure as hell shows as a sign of permanence though!
Back in 2003 I asked a similar question - the thought of wearing a piece of jewelry which served no practical purpose was alien to me so I tried to come up with some Ideas on how to make something ornamental like a wedding ring semi-useful.
In the end we got plain wedding bands and then got some awesome designs carved into them.
5 years later I'm proud and happily married (with 2 kids too!) - so don't think too hard, because what really matters is that you want to share this with someone special.
I went for a titanium wedding band. I first read about a bike frame builder who made one from offcuts. A good titanium bike frame might be $2000. The ring cost us $300 for about 1000th as much material.
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Perhaps (if she has a friend that is tactful) see if her friend knows if she'd like it. Having a second person close to her say it is a great idea probably would be good to make sure. She may have discussed more about marriages with her friend (especially if you can find one that she was involved in, as chances are they talked for months about whether they liked the shoes, or the dress etc etc). Anyways extra points for creativity I think it is a great idea, hopefully she's open to it. Good luck :-)
About the loupe: My parents have a jewellery store and I know a thing or two about diamonds and customers. When people run around with loupes they are: 1) people you describe trying to look knowledgeable 2) geologists/competitors 3)pawn shop people.
How do we distuinguish 2&3 from 1: the way people look trough the loupe! In the diamond business, you look trough a lot of diamonds, and you that with both your eyes open, because it is fatiguing to keep one eye closed the whole time. Most one-timers don't know this, and clench their one eye shut, instantly giving us the signal that this person does not really know anything about diamonds.
Ah, good to know that it may not be possible to do it onsite, good info, thanks! I remember the observation that something that would bend or distort a titanium ring would propably do horrible things to your hands if you didn't have that ring on in the first place. Regarding ERs, an article I read spoke of high speed saws (similar to a dremmel) that could cut through these rings. Snopes is one among many sites that dispel this rumor.
While I'm at it, I screwed up the link for Moissanite . There's also the link for the company that produces Moissanite, however I really don't want to link to a flash only site... But JC Penney and some other local shops sell it (and have it to view in person). To the submitter, whichever center stone you choose, go for the beauty and durability. Even Sapphire (and Ruby), carbon coated Cubic Zirconia, Sythetic Diamonds can make for a great wedding ring center stone. By the way, you can find synthetic diamonds in yellow, blue, red, and white. If you just Google for "Synthetic Diamond" you should get mostly good hits.
Oh and make sure that Iridium is scratch resistant (or choose a finish that would better mask future wear and tear). Again in my quest for the perfect ring, I was dissuaded from going with platinum due to this one fact (and one very passionate jeweler who had the old platinum rings to prove it!).
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Just go with a traditionally beautiful ring and do the inscription inside the band in binary :)
Well, my ex husband totally ignored my expressed preference in the engagement and wedding ring, and this after he asked me. I should have taken that as a warning, since the 24 years of the marriage were pretty miserable; he turned out to be totally self-centered, and freely admitted that he'd lied frequently during our engagement to fool me into thinking he gave two pins about me or how I felt about anything. He told me flat out that he just wanted to have exclusive sexual rights to me. The fact that I call him "my ex husband" should give you a clue as to how I finally dealt with the situation, after patiently giving him all those years to figure out that I was more than an appendage to his penis.
If you have a wife or a girlfriend, she has my sympathy. With that kind of attitude (not to mention the abusive mouth), I seriously doubt that you do, or will have for very long.
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The metal is treated to a folding type process, not unlike samurai swords. The metal develops a cool wood like grain if different color metals are used.
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I went for a titanium wedding band. I first read about a bike frame builder who made one from offcuts. A good titanium bike frame might be $2000. The ring cost us $300 for about 1000th as much material.
When we were looking for rings the jeweler showed me his and he had it made out of Tungsten. He mentioned that it was one of the hardest materials next to diamonds. It was heavy too! I was thinking Titanium as well but he said it would scratch fairly easily and couldn't be polished like Gold or Silver. Is this the case as you have found it to be? I would dig a Ti band as I'm a serious mnt. bike racer. P.S. a nice Ti frame can run as much as $5000.00 or more!
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Submitter shouldn't be a pussy and just do what this dedicated couple did!
Their love is now marked for ever and no more "sizing" issues either!
I tried a titanium ring. I didn't like the lightness of it, but the bigger problem was that it was horribly scratched all over after only one year of careful wearing. I decided to get a tungsten ring which I've worn for two and a half years now and it doesn't have a single scratch. It's also gorgeous and very heavy... you can feel the weight of responsibility.
I did a similar thing, however mine was free! I went down to our machine shop and got a hunk of scrap titanium out of the scrap pile. I made two rings on the lathe exactly sized to our fingers. She likes the one of a kind factor. I liked the nerd factor of making it myself (and the fact that it was free minus an afternoon of my time at the machine shop). Plus it's cool having a ring with tool marks in it and not a standard shiny one like everyone else has.
Why get married at all ?
This isn't a troll, I'm really interested in having the discussion with someone who chose a small 15-minute in-jeans ceremony. Because, I consider myself to be married, yet legally my wife and I are common-law. We've been living happily together for 10 years, have 2 wonderful daughters and don't need a ring or a legal document to make us secure in our relationship. I don't see the point in a huge ceremony but I don't see the point in a small vegas 15 minute wedding either. So just out of personal interest, what did marriage do for you and your husband that living common law would not ?
Actually, I'd sort of like to ask about this... serious question here...
I got a ring when I was 12 years old from my dying grandmother (she gave rings to all her grandchildren, as she knew she didn't have long left). I put it on, and it fit well on my middle finger. Well, now it's 17 years later, and the ring is still on the same finger. Of course, my hands are much larger than when I was that age. There's no pain, no discomfort, and it's definitely not having any negative effects on the bloodflow, however it is now completely impossible for me to remove the ring - it is much smaller than the finger's joint.
I don't particular want to remove it, but should I ever get married, I'll want to wear a wedding band of course, and having two rings on the same hand on fingers that are beside each other would probably be a little annoying. The ring can probably be cut quite easily (it's gold), but I think my finger will probably be quite deformed underneath it.
In the case of a ring being removed after so long, does the finger ever regain a "normal" shape? (maybe not a question you can answer)
Also, given this case, is my ring MORE likely than others to be a problem in the case of an accident that causes damage/swelling etc? (probably a question you're more qualified to answer)
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The most important part of a marriage is the vows and the witnesses. The "in love" feelings will come and go. When they go, you need a determination to see it through regardless. For people who honor their word, solemn vows before a crowd of witnesses accomplishes that. Maybe you've made a promise to yourself to stick it out. Why not make it public? Maybe you have some private conditions under which you would give yourself permission to bail out?
The expense of a wedding can be a symbol of the degree to which the bride is "cherished". Some Christian pro-family speaker (whose name I've forgotten) tells an insightful (though likely legendary) story of an African girl who was considered the ugly duckling and despised. While most girls fetched a bride price of 4 or 5 cows, her father set hers at 1 cow in the hopes of at least getting rid of her. A man came courting (with much gossip), and ultimately paid a bride price of 10 cows. The villagers were astonished. Even more astonishing, the girl looked radiant at the ceremony. They couldn't believe their eyes. Over the years, the girl gained confidence and the inner beauty that lasts - in large part because her husband continued to demonstrate how greatly he valued her.
consider that it might need to be cut if there is a small accident. I looked at something similar in the past, we were thinking of Titanium, but on the advice of a firefighter and an ER nurse, we went with gold instead. The reason, gold can be cut and repaired quite easily, where as a very hard material like titanium (in our case) would be quite difficult to cut and could result in irreparable injury to the finger.
Do something unique with the gold, make it have some interesting patterns or shapes, but keep the metal soft enough to deal with possible accidents (the other idea we were given was to have hairline cuts fused with gold or similar material, like that it could be cut if needed.)
You were lucky.. I was in the hospital recently and because we hadn't yet setup a medical power of attorney, my wife had to fight in court for guardianship to have any say over my medical treatment.... Needless to say, after rehab, the first thing we did was set that up...