California Family Fights For Privacy, Relief From Cyber-Harassment
theodp writes "Just days after his daughter Nikki's death in a devastating car crash, real-estate agent Christos Catsouras clicked open an e-mail that appeared to be a property listing. Onto his screen popped his daughter's bloodied face, captioned with the words 'Woohoo Daddy! Hey daddy, I'm still alive.' Now he and his wife are attempting to stop strangers from displaying the grisly images of their daughter — an effort that has transformed Nikki's death into a case about privacy, cyber-harassment and image control. The images of Nikki, including one of her nearly-decapitated head drooping out the shattered car window, were taken as a routine part of a fatal accident response and went viral after being leaked by two CHP dispatchers. 'Putting these photos on the Internet,' says the family's attorney, 'was akin to placing them in every mailbox in the world.'"
The family filed a formal complaint about the photos' release, and three months later, they received a letter of apology from the California Highway Patrol. An investigation had revealed that the images, taken as a routine part of a fatal accident response, had been leaked by two CHP dispatchers: Thomas O'Donnell, 39, and Aaron Reich, 30. O'Donnell, a 19-year CHP veteran, had been suspended for 25 days without pay. Reich quit soon after -- for unrelated reasons, says his lawyer. Both men declined requests for comment, but Jon Schlueter, Reich's attorney, says his client sent the images to relatives and friends to warn them of the dangers of the road. "It was a cautionary tale," Schlueter says. "Any young person that sees these photos and is goaded into driving more cautiously or less recklessly -- that's a public service."
If that does not satisfy you, I'm not sure what will. Sue your police department for large sums of money but it won't take the pictures off the internet.
Today the entire family is in therapy, and they've taken out a second mortgage to cover the costs of their legal battle.
Your life up until this accident has sounded fairly idyllic and easy. Apparently this has been a very rude wake up call. Your daughter took your hundred thousand dollar car for a 100mph tirade through town with cocaine in her system. We all do stupid things, some more stupid than others. She made a series of very serious mistakes and luckily no one else was killed or badly hurt.
If you do not put this behind you, it will consume you and your lives and her mistakes will end up ruining not just her life but yours. Mourn her, celebrate her life, remember her but in the end move on.
In my opinion, it would be more heroic of you not to spend a second mortgage suing your police department but instead using that money to create awareness of hazardous driving, starting a college fund in her name, donating that money to charity in her name or doing something less destructive with it in her name. Right now, the public's memory of your daughter is for the wrong reasons and you're just exacerbating the situation. Be above that. Change things for the better and remember her fondly, not as a never ending court case.
My work here is dung.
I would just call it harassment. If somebody keeps on getting prank calls on the telephone, it's still called harassment.
I don't want to see these photos, and the parents and family shouldn't ever have to see them either.
The officers and department should probably be punished in some way to avoid this sort of behavior again. I am almost certain there is a policy against releasing accident photos in such a casual way.
As for stopping the spread on the internet, it's too late. It's probably already in the wayback machine and google images cache. At this point the best we can do is make a firefox plug-in that detects the image and censors it. Then install the plug-in on the family's computers.
“Common sense is not so common.” — Voltaire
Take a random Joe like myself, who hasn't heard of Nikki Catsouras: now I'm aware of the existence of grisly photos of this unlucky young woman. Some of these random Joes will likely be interested in seeing those photos in spite of the family's wishes. And thus the number of people who saw the pics has increased.
Unfortunately, their only practicaly recourse is just not to look at those pics. I, who has not heard of this woman or her accident before, have not seen the photos, ever, so it is possible to avoid seeing them.
"The agriculture ministry is not in charge of Gundam" - Japanese ministry official.
And that's just the start.
I am so entirely baffle as to why people would want to view this sort of photo, let alone send such an email. I'm ashamed to be the same species.
I remember this too. It was passed around last year because of how graphic the accident was, and as a cynical tale of poetic justice to the stereotypical spoiled daughter totaling daddy's Porsche (which is why it went viral, and with help from 'chan). The accident tore her family apart and everyone can sympathize with how much emotional trauma is and will be caused because of the accident. What limited a lot of the empathy from people was the fact that she was speeding in her dad's sports car and died a totally frivolous death. Sending her father crash site pictures with captions for ***** and giggles is so fundamentally flawed. * * * Anyone else read the part where they blamed the tumor on daughter doing coke? "It turned out to be benign, but 8-year-old Nikki had to undergo intensive radiation, and doctors told her parents the effects of that treatment on her young brain might show up someday--perhaps by causing changes in her judgment, or impulse control. Her family believes that's why, the summer before the accident, Nikki tried cocaine and ended up in the hospital in a cocaine-induced psychosis. She used cocaine again the night before the accident, her family says. Lesli and Christos discussed checking her into a hospital, but decided against it: she was to visit a psychiatrist the next day, a specialist on brain disorders. So they let her sleep it off, and the next day, the three of them ate lunch together."
But now they somehow made me aware of it... and the morbid fascination of it made me look those up.
Keep in mind, not for the faint of heart: Photo
Yes, horrible: But keep in mind that this was due to her own fault, and I can't think of a better picture that makes other people aware not to fuck around with a car... all high on cocaine.
-MILDLY IMPORTANT-
If you do go to that website be warned, it does contain the images mentioned but also a video. THIS VIDEO IS A VIRUS. It didn't run very well in WINE but some people have less secure nonfree operating systems.
tl;dr
If you go to her name dot net the video is a virus.
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Is it not a little ironic that they are all long dead?
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Don't let your coked up daughter steal your sports car and go on a joyride if you don't want people to remind you that you're a terrible parent every day for the rest of your life.
You know there's tons of this shit on the internet. Look up Dead-Chan. Go to fucking Liveleak. What makes these people any more different than anyone else? Catsouras is wealthy.
Fuck all what happens to people like you and me. Get a fucking thick skin and learn how to internet, faggot. And it's pretty gay to argue that whatever he does will trickle down to the rest of the proletariat because nobody is going to care in the end.
I am astonished with this situation.
I wish there were something i could do to fix this injustice.
We may be geeks or whatever but this is beyond the pale and as black as Dick Cheneys heart.
I'm here for the experience, not the Hyperbole.
There are whole industries based on helping us laugh and yuk it up at the expense of other human beings. Like the Romans packing the Coliseum to watch people fight to the death or be eaten by wild animals we as a race revel in the misery of others. All of the so called 'reality shows' out there allow you to look in on many aspects of misery and discomfort of other people. Marry a Millionaire, The Bachelor, even your game shows are there not so you can see someone win but so you can see lots of someones lose and lose miserably. Let's get that close up of the woman who debased herself for weeks chasing after 100 thousand dollars and who puts her future in the hands of some good looking bachelor fellow and who just lost, the tears streaming down her perfectly done make up job are priceless. The latest internet sensation is a woman who came onstage and everyone was already laughing at her and her awkward, less than attractive ways. Nobody was there to hope that Susan Boyle could sing, they were there to make fun of her and most of the contestants on those shows are there for us to laugh at and even when it gets to the few good singers those of you who watch are hoping to see someone fail more than you're hoping that everyone does well. We love the misery and we love to wallow in it. On the internet isn't the main reason for the website 'The Smoking Gun' so we can see people debased and brought low so we can laugh at them? Every week with the cooperation of Police all around the United States they find the mug shots of people at their lowest point and collect the ugliest, the prettiest and the most absurd photos they can find so we can all laugh at them. We're not told that the attractive woman whose picture becomes internet fodder was arrested after fighting with her boyfriend, mother or for not having her Driver's License when stopped for going five miles over the speed limit. No, we get to laugh and guffaw and make jokes like 'bath her and bring her to my tent' for our own amusement. Meanwhile, there she is, forever on the internet because the dignity of human beings isn't our concern and it certainly isn't the concern of the people who get those mugshots and post them for all to laugh at. Human dignity isn't high no the list of things that Police concern themselves with as witnessed by the weekly mugshot review from The Smoking Gun and posted at Fark. But the Police are only a reflection of the rest of society they come from and the posting of grisly car accident photos is a reflection on us. There should be privacy rules and laws against that since common decency isn't one of the more common attributes of people if it ever was except in our best, most rose colored visions of ourselves.
Enjoy your Karma, after all you earned it. Feel your Karma Joe, feel it burn.
We give members of the police, fire department, IRS, etc. authority over us, and grant them special access to our personal affairs to allow them to do their jobs.
When these people abuse their authority, or misuse this special access, they're not just betraying their organization, they're betraying all of society. As such, this shouldn't be just an internal disciplinary matter: it should be a crime.
IANAL: is there in fact a criminal charge that can be laid on these guys, something specific to their role as public officials?
I'm not sure how well this would work, but it seems like it would be worth a shot. Next time someone wants to get pictures off of the internet, it would be interesting to see what would happen if they sent a story in to /. (or some other similar and large site) something like this:
Hello, my name is x. Pictures a, b, and c are circulating on the internet, and because of d are causing me enormous emotional grief...(further explanation)...I'm asking you please, if you know any kindness, not to circulate these pictures. Thank you.
Now obviously there are completely amoral places on the internet that are going to do whatever the hell they want, but it seems to me like a significant portion of the internet would react positively to such a plea.
They should find the people who emailed him and shoot the fuckers. They've obviously got serious mental issues so society would be a far better place without them.
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You Can't Fight the Internet by eldavojohn (898314)
To the Catsouras family, I am deeply sorry for your loss, but your score to settle is not with the nebulous force of users that are the internet
Firstly, it is beyond discussion that the actions described ("Hello daddy, I am still alive") are serious harassment.
Secondly, it is beyond discussion that in every other area of life, serious harassment is a criminal act that leads to punishment. Although Slashdotters like to imagine themselves living in the world of 'Complete Freedom Of Speech Except Of Course Yelling Fire In A Crowded Theatre', someone who went up to the house of these parents and put printed copies of the image with the caption "Hello daddy, I am still alive" through their letterbox would beyond any doubt be prosecuted. It may not rank on top of the priority list, but if it happens repeatedly, checking the photos for fingerprints, and installing a security camera, would be minimum. And if those responsible were caught, they would be punished.
It is surprising and even shocking that just because communication is now done electronically, "you just can't fight" online harassment, and the "score is not to settle with the nebulous force of users that is the internet". Both of these arguments could be made in a discussion about REAL-LIFE harassment ('the score is not to settle with the nebulous mass of people that is the American populace'), and have failed. Because obviously, they weren't good enough to make real-life harassment legal.
Hence, why the defeatist attitude to punishing an act that is illegal and extremely frowned upon in every other situation but on the internet?
Every visit http://www.stileproject.com/ ? It's full of death, accident, and medical photos. It's interesting. If you've ever wondered what happens, for example, when a motorcycle loses against an 18-wheeler, you can see for yourself.
It's plain old curiosity.
Everyone is fascinated with images of mortality, for in them they see their own possible demise.
A work that expires before its copyright never enters the public domain and thus enjoys eternal copyright protection.
When you're spamming your memes and running around like fucktards in your Guy Fawkes masks, remember that this is the other face of your beloved Anonymous.
... and I'm not feeling too good either!
I am not an American so I don't really know much about law in the USA but can't the family sue the two CHP dispatcher dipshits who posted the images in the first place? I mean why go after the police department, the state or any other entity when all that is saying is "w00t! I work for an entity that will protect my ass when I fuck up". Fuck the police and state I would want to ruin the lives of the two dipshits.
Seems like a like of instant dislike for the family because they were rich, she was 18, and she was driving a porsche at 100 mph on cocaine. In fact, she was mentally ill, so factor that into your judgements.
...Streisand Effect.
For once, I actually feel sorry for the family, and would much rather the images never made it out. However, the consequences of having an Internet capable of silencing something like this, once it's out, are unacceptable.
Don't thank God, thank a doctor!
hay these family should lighten up ok? after all the people who emailed them their daughter's bloody death photos were only in it for the LULZ. amirite? amirite? the dead pools closed! amirite? yeah...............
i like my freedom over easy with a side of home fries
Ok the harassment needs to stop. It's bad enough that this family lost a loved one but the harassment brings the emotional trauma of losing a child to a new level I for one think that the family should go after the CHP dispatchers and the PD that leaked the them. What they do with the proceeds is up to them. Personally If I lost one of my children and something such as this happened there would be no end to the wrath I would rain down upon the perpetrators of this and the entity that allowed this to happen. To the family, very sorry about your loss I can not fathom what you are going through
no matter how good it is, it is human nature always wants to make things better
I don't believe the story that the guy got an email with the pictures, but it does make the story more sensational!
More likely he googled his daughters name, or someone told him they were on the net.
Him being a real estate agent, and the spam for a real estate listing sounds contrived.
All the crap emails I get are sales pitches or rip-offs, I've never received shock picture spam. Is this type of spam actually common?
Try, just try turning off some titilating bit of gossip. Can't be done.
The daughter's picture will keep coming up for years. Eventually it will be forgotten, but not any time soon. And the more they try to suppress it, the longer it will last.
Every parent's nightmare, I'm sure. But welcome to the new Internet world.
1. The family let their drug affected daughter drive a car. Family don't let family drive drunk, not even the day after.
2. The cops use a digital camera. That sounds like something that give a very high risk for leaking photos, as well as evidence that is easy to tamper with.
Okey, one extra
3. Some ass hat email the family with photos.
Seiously, we should show these pictures in every drivers ed class. Giving children lethal weapons and letting them loose upon the world has consequences. Building a society where people think it is reasonable for an 18 year old to be driving around at night after partying is also part of the problem. But most importantly, if you do something fatally stupid in public, there are consequences for both you and for the ones you leave behind. Maybe we as a society need to confront the grim reality much more often. I for one have already lost too many family members to auto-accidents, and expect to lose many more before my time's up. We shouldn't hide the consequences of our choices, we should be forced to acknowledge them and live with them. And that goes for everyone.
Many of us probably saw a movie much like that when we were taking the driver's ed class back in high school. For me, that would be about 1969 or 1970, when I was in driver's ed class, in Southern California. They showed us a movie that consisted almost entirely of color video of the most horrific accidents they could. Showing that to us, was an attempt to discourage us from driving recklessly. Do they still show that movie or something similar in driver's ed class? If I remember correctly, I think they said something about having permission from the accident victims relatives, to use the footage.
Just before showing the movie, the teacher warned us that several students had nearly passed out while watching the movie in his other classes. He said that anyone who could not handle the sight of blood should leave. I did not expect to have any problems, but was surprised when I did almost pass out when walking to my next class. Many years later, I also discovered that I was someone who would passed out while attempting to donate blood.
I am not sure if seeing the movie actually discouraged anyone from driving recklessly or not. During the next year or two afterwards, several students were killed or injured. Several of them were either driving drunk, speeding or not wearing their seat belts. One was ridding a motorcyle at the time. One student was killed by being run over twice by a car.
Showing disturbing images of car wrecks HAS been part of official programs to serve as a wake-up call to drivers. Especially (would-be) drunk drivers have been shown the results of drink driving in graphic detail.
So, it has been deemed that the public HAS a need to know. There is no need for me, a civilian to see the results of the recent dutch aircrash. There is a need for pilots who think they can land on autopilot when vital instruments are broken to see the results.
The officers involved claim they used the pictures to warn others of the dangers of the girl's behaviour. Stupid perhaps, but not without official precedent.
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You may solo them, I prefer them in a group.
I know reading TFA is hard, but the Catsouras' aren't suing 'teh intarwebs', the sites hosting the pictures, nor even those who sent them the images. They ARE suing the CHP and trying to establish precedent that has been already set in other states, extending privacy to the dead and preventing public servants from spreading such things as happened with their daughter.
If they were trying to restrict anonymity online, free speech of said websites, etc, then sure - flame the motherfuckers. But it looks like they're simply trying to force California and it's workforce to show the same respect for the dead that is observed in other states.
If I have missed something from TFA please correct my understanding.
Oh, and to those who painted a picture of Nikki as a spoiled brat, or someone who got what she deserved: You've obviously never lived with nor loved someone who has had a brain injury. Either that or you simply don't give a shit.
What exactly is the crime? Worse, think VERY carefully about what the consequences of it becoming a crime could be.
NO MORE OUTSIDE INVESTIGATION OF ACCIDENTS!
Take another famous series of "snuff" pictures, the JFK shooting. How many times have these been shown as part of "investigations" into the shooting? Would you really want a world in which such images become secret and can therefor not be examined outside the legal authorities?
While it might seem easy to say, "there ought to be a law" what people forget to think about is what the end result would be. Would every image taken of an accident suddenly be secret? What does that mean? All TV's on black during the 9/11 attacks, all recordings confiscated because they showed people dying?
Be careful what you wish for, you might get it.
MMO Quests are like orgasms:
You may solo them, I prefer them in a group.
Yes, they still show these videos.
I am not sure if seeing the movie actually discouraged anyone from driving recklessly or not.
Probably not.
To the Catsouras family, I am deeply sorry for your loss, but your score to settle is not with the nebulous force of users that are the internet but with the Orange County Police Department.
We are each responsible for our own actions.
"I found it on the Internet" does not excuse the geek's voyeurism.
It is does not excuse transforming photos of a real death into your own schlock images of horror.
You are the pornographer.
His enabler. His client. Whatever you chose to call it.
Photoshop. The Internet.
These are your tools and your responsibility.
To hide among some great nebulous mass of users is cowardly.
It is corrupting.
It demands a response.
The law always comes to Deadwood. Remember that.
I think the video you're referring to is Signal 30.
Where does the school board find them and why do they keep sending them to ME?
It's all about perspective.
From where you sit, I'm sure you think you are right. And to some degree, you are. But one day you will experience the other side of the coin, (assuming you have a soul), and then you will know a larger part of the story of life.
That's how it works. It's all about learning, and the world is one giant school.
-FL
How the fuck do you know what their lives were like? And who the fuck are you to pass judgment in any case?
I piss off bigots.
So not only has this family suffered through this tragedy, but now they're being exploited by people who want to censor the Internet as the poster child for new censorship laws. I only wonder how long it took for these people to find the "perfect case" to hold up in whatever new assault they're planning on the Internet.
Liberty in your lifetime
I have a rather... unique take on this. In my line of work, I necessarily see awful things - a 7 year old girl who died from a neck wound after running through a plate-glass window, and a 9 year old boy who died of a heart attack while playing basketball. Bloody car crashes (though nothing this gruesome) and a woman who was underwater for a few days before anyone realized...
But I digress. Yes, I looked at these pictures and - though they are gruesome - I was not ill affected. It's because I see this stuff all the time, in real life.
As a society, we are too sheltered. When our ancestors were ripped apart by a mountain lion, their friends didn't go and bitch about it... this is life and it sucks.
I'm just happy she didn't injure anyone else on her way down. It seems like it's always the drunk/high ones who walk away, and the sober family of 5 coming home from dinner who doesn't...
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Just because the internet exists, doesn't give you the right to be a sick fuck.
Correct. The right to be a sick fuck is an inalienable human right, whether the internet exists or not. Maybe you don't like it, but freedom isn't about suppressing what you don't like.
Acting like a sick fuck is, in and of itself, perfectly legal.
It also doesn't make being a sick fuck consequence free.
Correct. There are social consequences to acting upon your 'sick fuck' inclinations. But there are no legal consequences. At least, not until acting on your inclinations results in you breaking a law. Then, and only then, are there legal consequences.
This is a pretty good picture of what people are capable of. Perhaps the people who did the harassment are simply the type are are "angry at rich people"? Many people who have never had $100,000 cars to give to their children probably feel some resentment of those who do. And how squeaky clean is this family to begin with? Perhaps the wicked deeds of the father were bad enough that someone feels this is poetic justice in some way? These things quite often start with a cause of one sort or another.
Whatever the case, I doubt the "whole story" is what we are seeing here now.
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Is it not a little ironic that they are all long dead?
Screenshots, or it didn't happen
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My daughter has no head. How does she drive?
Terrible!
But her actions could have been devastating to another family as well.
Yes they could have but they were not in this case nor are her family responsible for her actions to this degree. So how does this excuse causing distress to her remaining family? If you park illegally you might delay an ambulance causing someone to die. Does that mean people have the right to start harassing you? What level of probability is enough? There is a reason we have laws with prescribed penalties for breaking them. It is not a perfect system but mob justice is no justice at all.
However I agree with your second point that just because there are some who abuse societies freedoms that is not an excuse to strip those freedoms fro the rest of us.
I suspect that there are those who believe the internet should be consequence-free even though most of the rest of the world historically has been full of consequences. Why the internet should be the exception is what the debate should be about.
An interesting story about the right to privacy which this forum upholds when it comes to themselves. And how when it's an accessible entity using technology to violate it, the indignation and legal advice comes to the fore. But when it's an unaccountable and inaccessible entity then it's "tough luck, sucks to be you". I think one will find the mores and advice change as more of the "tough luck" crowd themselves are struck by the same untouchable tool. Free speech meet free responsibility.
With the results of Dale Earnhardt senior's death.
Normally in Florida, the results of an autopsy are public records. They changed the law so his could be sealed.
Maybe they should move to Florida.
I bet they would take this far more seriously and actually PASS some sort of privacy law. If this had happened to a politicians or high profile family. While everyone here makes good points, you fail in noticing just who the rules change for. And that should be even more disturbing than the useless image of a dead person.
I'm all for educating our kids to they don't kill themselves prematurely (and maybe show them what smoking does to a pair of good lungs as well), but such pictures should not be used without permission of the family.
They have to deal with the grief from her death already, which takes can years on its own. Adding what those sick idiots did isn't helping - releasing those images should have been their decision.
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Even if you don't want them to.
When I create something while on the job, my employer owns all rights to it. If I decide to email it to my brother-in-law because I think he might learn something from it, my employer would be perfectly within their rights to fire me. This is all made extremely clear in a short, easy-to-read employee manual. Apparently, the police in this instance are not subject to such a simple control. They should be. They took the taxpayers' property and used it for their private ends. Totally unacceptable.
Clearly, we as a society do not want to prohibit distribution of photos simply on the basis that they make some people extremely uncomfortable, and I would not have a problem with a passer-by who happened to take a photo of the accident scene selling it. The victim here, even if she were to have survived, clearly had no expectation of privacy since the accident was in a public place.
If I was as rich as the parents in this seem to be, I'd remember that revenge is a dish best served cold, and would not make any more of a public fuss about this. There will be plenty of time to devise a perfectly legal and appropriately devastating response to this, should they decide those responsible need to be reminded of what they have done.
And yes there is a certain amount of morbid gawking that goes along with it. I'm not entirely sure that I could phase that in a more positive way. Perhaps they only way some people can cope with this sort of thing is to grow contemptuous of it. Which can only happen with repeated contact and to some extent ridicule.
This isn't an attack on the internet anymore than a libel suit is an attack on the printed page.
The family has been abused by the actions of the CHP members and by those who deliberately sent deceptive and abusive email to the family.
The family has every right, and every obligation, to seek legal action -- civil and criminal -- against their abusers.
Using the internet as a communications tool does not absolve anyone of resonsibility for their behavior.
-- Slashdot: When Public Access TV Says "No"
The people from the CHP, and those on 4chan and whatever that are spreading these pictures are assholes adding insult to injury, no doubt.
Certainly, living people in the family are being punished for something in which they had none or minimal culpability...
The car-crash event itself is certainly painful enough to deliver any punishment that may or may not be needed; likely more than 'necessary'; it doesn't seem to make sense to add any more. This is a "punishment-fit-crime" issue that I've certainly seen manifested on a (thankly!) smaller scale
I wonder if there's anything more than class-warfare/class-resentment behind the reactions to the Catsourases.
There's likely some schadenfreude in seeing bad things happen to well-off people. I'm not saying that this is right, I'm just saying that's the way it is.
I'd guess that the main other source for this phenomenon is some sort of deep-seated desire/instinct to see people be hit with the consequences of their bad decisions.
Sentimentality and kindness certainly have their place, but they can also lead to us being too easy on people making bad decisions who realized the consequences of said decisions.
However, I'm disinclined to think that the hammer always needs to drop on people for moderate lapses that *happened* to have serious consequences
If sufficiently bad decisions were responsible, I can see how that leads to a lesser desire to show sympathy...
Personally, I'm tempted to think "reduced but not absent sympathy/whatever"...
Damn, I seem to find that *everything* is a gray area...
I listen to both RIAA and non-RIAA stuff if I like the music, tangential business/politics nonwithstanding.
This family has a cause of action against the CHP dispatchers and their employer for intentional infliction of emotional distress. It should be straightforward to establish before a jury that they know, or should have known, that release of the pix would inevitably lead to the results described.
The images of Nikki, including one of her nearly-decapitated head...
Nearly-headless Nikki?
/shamelessness
I bet Nikki was a good fuck. One less fine pussy in this world.
I seriously hope they do. E-mailing these pictures to her family? That is the dickest move of all dick moving time.
I can't believe people could find humour in sending these pictures to her father. If by some miracle I could run into the person who sent this email, it would make me sincerely happy to viciously beat this person into the ground. This just makes me so angry..
ehn?
trolling or serious?
to be frank she was unidentifiable from the picture. second it was in a public place. and well yes people had little sympathy, she was a rich girl who drove recklessly in daddys expensive car. shows what happens when you go face first into concrete. not the censored actress has a bloody nose/scratched forehead you get from media/tv/movies. images like this do have educational value.
Isn't sending these photos a sort of cyberstalking? Persistent harassment via the internet is no more legal than it is via the telephone network. I suspect, btw, that the people defending the practice here are also the ones doing it. There may be very few individuals involved, perhaps even only one.
She effed herself up big time. Unfortunately... http://topcat29.files.wordpress.com/2008/12/what-has-been-seencannot-be-un-seen.jpg
I'm disappointed that so many people on here are blaming the dead girl for this, when of course the blame justly lies with the people who leaked information to which they had privileged access.
You can understand the ugly realities of war without viewing pictures like that.
Then why are people noticeably more upset about a tragedy when they see photos of the victims? Could it be because they couldn't really understand it on a personal level until then?
Whatever it is though, if it wakes them up it's generally a good thing.
Besides why do you get upset at those who dropped the bombs? Was it their fault?
Um, the trigger is under your finger, whose 'fault' do you think pulling it would be? Mine?
You seem to have a real problem understanding blame/fault.
"You know Sarah, you really are ugly" or "You're fat Bob. And stupid and lazy to boot"? Or should a husband tell his wife, "You know what? That dress actually does make you look fat"?
People don't want to know all the ugly truth. No, it is not always better or more beautiful than a pleasing lie. Sometimes knowing nothing but the pleasing lie is what allows people to continue living.
Which of those facts, if told to someone who didn't know them, wouldn't be in their best interests to know?
I'm sure Sarah would love to know she was considered ugly. Not just random drive-by but "Your teeth are so big that you look silly when you smile and people laugh behind your back." She could avoid smiling that widely and might actually look better.
Ditto with Bob. I'm sure he'd be embarrassed if he had tried to squeeze into a size M shirt which didn't fit, then proceeded to lumber his 300 pounds over to complain and found out the sad truth from the clerk in front of a bunch of people who laughed. If you'd told him this last week when he complained that a bag of cheese-doodles doesn't feed the average fellow, he'd be a lot better off. Similarly learning about motivational and intellectual challenges he might finally abandon his father's dreams of decades of med school and go tend bar like he always wanted.
And most of all, your wife REALLY WANTS TO KNOW if that dress makes her look fat! Why the fuck did you think she asks? If she knew that she never would have bought it! It's up to you how to break it to her that it's not the dress... but even that she'd be happier knowing.
The dispatchers should not have sent the pics to anyone, not matter the pretense. Don't most high school kids already get a class where they show bloody accidents to try and scare them into driving carefully?
If the pics then just were put up somewhere, then who cares? The parents probably wouldn't even know. But some jackass(es) had to shove it in their face. Probably one of the worst things about the internet- even if you try to avoid something, someone can jack it into your space somehow. Why not just deliver the girl's head to the front door?
As for the lawsuits and everything else, I don't much care.
Even if the girl was a coked up idiot, and they were awful parents, there is no need to make it worse on the parents.
Now you all can laugh at me for being naive.
Vote monkeys into Congress. They are cheaper and more trustworthy.
Parents may have been to lax. obviously they had money.
Daughter might have been easily influenced. Cocaine, fast cars and youth is never a good mix.
Police officers who leaked the pictures. They simply should have known better.
Person who sent the e-mail, typical scum. This borders on hate mail and should be treated as such.
after hearing and reading about this incident, i have a responsibility to myself to rise above this potentially disturbing material. in fact, i need to give myself a break and would love to let this girl's parents know that not everybody wants to look at a picture of tragic carnage to feel good about themselves. i would say, 'the people that joyride their perversions this way are sick and have to live with this burden. also, when they deny their existing mental illness, then they verify a whole separate level of illness and, therefore, are completely fucked.' personally, if i were these parents, i would feel a sense of gratitude that deranged perverts exist in this world and that my beloved daughter is safe from them. God rest Her soul.
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The biggest problem isn't whether pics like this should or shouldn't be publicized; it's that when they ARE, there are callous, evil and cruel bastards that think it's funny to send e-mails to the parents of their dead daughter with a (un)funny caption. That made me sick to read--that someone would actually do that disheartens me and bums me out. That's the worst part of the net; the internet-toughs that throw the N-word around on youtube when they'd never say it to the person's face, all the way to people mocking the dead. Whether or not this girl fugged herself up and got killed because of her own dumb behavior doesn't matter. The parents don't need that shit. I myself lost two children (not my own) that I loved, one of them being in my infant/toddler class from the age of 3 months old. He was almost four, his sister eleven when they died in a fatal car accident, one of the worst my town has ever seen. I don't know what I'd do if I got an e-mail that showed off his face all busted-up, or his body sawed in half as it was. I was lucky enough not to have seen the damage. It was bad enough seeing his sister in the hospital, who'd gone through the back windshield, right before they took her off of life support. Okay, I'm turning into Ms. McWordy here, but it's something that hits close to home. There's nothing we can do about the cruelty of people online who think they're the shit doing stuff like this, but maybe NOT posting the images where everyone can see them isn't the worst idea. Besides a bunch of high schoolers going to the auditorium for a "What NOT to do after the prom" seminar can be exposed to this as a precaution--wtf does anyone else need to see this for? Morbid curiosity, that's it. People fighting for the right to see it aren't doing it for educational purposes. They either get off on blood and gore or find it funny.
You want to know how to help your kids? LEAVE THEM THE F*&K ALONE. --George Carlin
>Everyone certainly is not fascinated with such images. I don't know where you get "facts" like that from.
I get them from the school of Life Experience.
For example, watching miles of cars slow down to look at an accident even though there is no obstruction to traffic. The onlookers that gather at any accident scene. Lots of people like to bitch about rubbernecking, but my experience is most people do it anyway. I believe that people are, as a general rule, fascinated with such things.
I think many people are just ashamed to admit it.
A work that expires before its copyright never enters the public domain and thus enjoys eternal copyright protection.
>That some people are fascinated with those pictures is fairly self-evident.
>However, most of us are grossed out and feel the pain of empathy for the
>victims and their families. These are not pleasant feelings, and we try not to seek them out.
I guess it's possible that the miles of cars I see stacking up to gawk at car accidents is really caused by a few folks, but I doubt it. I believe most people are fascinated by death on some level.
There's a reason behind the meme, "It was like a train wreck; I couldn't help but watch it."
Most people can't help it.
A work that expires before its copyright never enters the public domain and thus enjoys eternal copyright protection.
I will no longer defend the human race at the Consortium of Galactic Civilizations.
Sorry, but radiation therapy doesn't lead to "loss of impulse control" -- that's just something the parents say.
Well, technically it could if the frontal lobe was affected.
Brain surgery is hard, and lesion of the remaining brain region around the tumor is possible.
Radiation therapy is complex and although all precaution are taken against it, destruction of the healthy region around the tumor's former site can happen.
If the tumor was somewhere in the frontal lobe, there's still a probability that some permanent damage of the frontal lobe resulted from the treatment and that she got an altered personality as a result.
Now go ask other doctors with better knowledge in neuro-anatomy and psychiatry to tell you the exact region of the frontal lobe you'd have to hurt in order to exhibit this peculiar behaviour problems.
OTOH, adolescence is also associated with an increase in risk taking. The stupid things the poor girl did may also be simply the result of a normal teen-age person doing stupid things like all other teens, and the parent just feel the need to find a rational reason for it.
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First,
This tale is extremely sad. I feel complete sympathy for the family. They should never have to see the photos if they so choose. But, towards the end of the article... it seems that they are implying that others should not be able to see them either.... and I can't completely agree with that. I am sorry, I know. To be tormented online is atrocious. But, I just can't see it as completely justified to not want a single other soul to be able to learn from this with a graphic warning. That is how the family should react. By, saying... fine you want to look...look! Learn from this tragedy. That is how it should be approached. You may find that people will not want to look so much then.
Do yourself a favor and stop being GravityDouche!