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Son Sues Mother Over Facebook Posts
Most kids hate having their parents join in on a discussion on Facebook, but one 16-year-old in Arkansas hates it so much he has filed suit against his mother, charging her with harassment. From the article: "An Arkadelphia mother is charged with harassment for making entries on her son's Facebook page. Denise New's 16-year-old son filed charges against her last month and requested a no-contact order after he claims she posted slanderous entries about him on the social networking site. New says she was just trying to monitor what he was posting." Seems like he could just unfriend her.
The real question I have is how someone from Arkadelphia learned to get on Facebook in the first place, much less two of them.
RTFA, his grandparents have custodial rights, not his mother.
I suppose simply unfriending her would not be feasible. (Maybe she'd take away his computer if he tried or punish him or something)
There are clear and easy alternatives. Delete her posts after she makes them, or even better, use Facebook privacy controls to remove her ability to comment on his posts. I'm kinda surprised he didn't put her on Limited Profile, like everyone else seems to do. That's the best because people don't always realize they're being shut out of something.
Bah, missed that part. Stupid job, distracting me from what's important.
"Have you ever thought about just turning off the TV, sitting down with your kids, and hitting them?"
The kid's grandparents have custody. But more importantly, there is never a good reason to write any human being off as 'trash.' Never. Not even Hitler. If we just wrote him off as 'trash' we would never understand how he came to exist. We human beings have empathy for a reason.
- None can love freedom heartily, but good men; the rest love not freedom, but license. -- John Milton
You really should read the articles before posting comments. The mother didn't have custody. If she hacked, that's not just a tort, that's a crime. Possibly federal, if they are in different states.
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So at first I felt like the kid was overreacting. Parents (or those in loco parentis, which I'll get to in a moment) have a legitimate need-to-know when it comes to what's going on in their kids' lives.
However, according to the article, this kid's mom doesn't have custody. The grandparents do, and so this doesn't seem to be due to divorce or other "ordinary" situations that would cause a parent to lose custody of their own kids. In other words, something is seriously messed up here, and so while the fact that this is a mother/son thing is good for grabbing ratings, it's not really all that relevant to the matter at hand.
Moral of the story: RTFA.
One word: Arkansas.
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Now, I don't use Facebook (or any similar site), but can't he just block her?
/b/tard attack, they'll get bored and go away if you ignore it long enough. Welcome to the internet, thar'be trolls here.
Since when have people become so helpless online that they cry for help every time somebody does something they don't like? You can TAKE YOURSELF OF OF ANY SITUATION ONLINE.
This is why I have no tolerance for anyone using the term cyber-bullying. Even if you have a full-on
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so you're point is moot.
I don't think that word means what you think it means.
You said, "Either the kid's worthless or the mom is" Very few people are truly worthless, and if they are, we as a society need to figure out if we let them down in some way. We would all be better off if everyone were happy, well adjusted, and could contribute to society, don't you think? Or do you think that all the less worthwhile people should just die already to make more room for the rest of us?
- None can love freedom heartily, but good men; the rest love not freedom, but license. -- John Milton
I heard a story a few days where Parents lost custody of their kid because, "They were teaching the child that the government can not be trusted."
Because prisonplanet and infowars are news websites of great repute. Oh wait...
According to the article; she isn't his costodian, and she didn't just post on his wall; she stole his password and posted to his wall as him. So identity theft much? Computer crime much?
The fact that a Judge granted the restraining order against a women on behalf of a 16yo male(son) also should be a good indication of the situation.
Do parents "really" have any power over their kids today? I mean, if they whack them...the kid can call child services on them. Heck, if kid really wants to fsck their parents, just claim something sexual....and the parent is then pretty much branded for life, even if they did nothing wrong but try to discipline their child.
A child that realizes this power and is willing to wield it....what could a parent really do?
Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.........
I mean, if they whack them...the kid can call child services on them.
That doesn't mean child services will do anything about it. It's legal here in New York State (hardly a bastion of cultural conservatism) to hit your kids:
35.10 Justification; use of physical force generally. The use of physical force upon another person which would otherwise constitute an offense is justifiable and not criminal under any of the following circumstances:
1. A parent, guardian or other person entrusted with the care and supervision of a person under the age of twenty-one or an incompetent person, and a teacher or other person entrusted with the care and supervision of a person under the age of twenty-one for a special purpose, may use physical force, but not deadly physical force, upon such person when and to the extent that he reasonably believes it necessary to maintain discipline or to promote the welfare of such person.
I want peace on earth and goodwill toward man.
We are the United States Government! We don't do that sort of thing.
Yup, thats the danger of working from home. Have to double check that I have pants on before I go out to lunch.
"Have you ever thought about just turning off the TV, sitting down with your kids, and hitting them?"
I think you underestimate how much you have to beat a kid to get child services on you. Not even after my mother had my 12 year old brother drive her home from the bar (because she was drunk), then beat him so badly he was in the hospital for 3 days would the courts award my father custody. It took all of that plus a few failed drug tests before she finally gave up custody of him. Who knows what the courts would have decided, but it takes a hell of a lot to get your child taken away from you. A whole hell of a lot.
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I heard a story a few days where Parents lost custody of their kid because, "They were teaching the child that the government can not be trusted."
Citation?
I want peace on earth and goodwill toward man.
We are the United States Government! We don't do that sort of thing.
Half of the comments on that article are by Ms. New herself. Obviously she hasn't hired a lawyer yet, because the first thing a lawyer would do is tell her to STFU... she isn't making herself look like any more fit a parent by showing her ass in public in all these postings... and they're probably admissible in court as evidence that she is continuing to harass and slander her son!
I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
And look at you now. You don't even have a name...
Just wanted to note that someone, possibly the mother, is posting numerous comments demonstrating that she is both illiterate and batshit crazy in the comments section. This isn't helping your case any, Ms. New!
I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
Facebook is a really lame site. If he cares so much about her posts then just close the facebook account. You want to update your friends call them, talk to them. Facebook is the reason people are becoming anti social. For thousands of years people got along with out facebook and I bet we can get along again by just doing face to face or call to call social networking.
On the other hand, she shouldn't post on his wall but the simple solution is post on her wall, if she did steal his password he can change his password. So I don't see why he's making such a massive problem out of this. If he thought about a solution he could have this cleared up in 1 second.
Or do you think that all the less worthwhile people should just die already to make more room for the rest of us?
Yes. And I work for a human services agency. Come work here and see what some people are capable of and then get back to me about how "very few people are truly worthless". I can find nothing redeeming in the individual that would put her drug habit and boyfriend ahead of her kids. I can find nothing redeeming in the individual that prostituted her 11 year old out to repay a drug debt. I can find nothing redeeming in the individual that uses lame ass excuses like "I can't afford gas" (particularly when my agency GIVES THEM GAS MONEY) to avoid having to see their kids.
I want peace on earth and goodwill toward man.
We are the United States Government! We don't do that sort of thing.
You said, "Either the kid's worthless or the mom is" Very few people are truly worthless, and if they are, we as a society need to figure out if we let them down in some way.
Society isn't to blame for a person's mistakes, or a person's actions. Some successful people have risen from being poor and destitute, others have had life handed to them on a silver platter and threw it all away. We make choices, our own choices, and no one is to blame but us for the choices we make. Society isn't responsible for why this teen feels the urge to sue his mother - society has simply shown that it's possible... the individual is making it his own choice to sue. Others have felt the urge to communicate with their parents and work out a resolution to stop them from doing these things - was he not given the ability to talk with her? To Unfriend her? To mark his profile as private? These are HIS choices - not ours.
Very few people are held in a position where they HAVE to smoke, drink, do drugs, steal - maybe peer pressure pushes them to doing things once, but it's up to them to either stop or continue doing so. The choice is ultimately theirs. The choice this individual made, in this instance for this issue, was to sue.
Don't blame "Society" for his mistakes... "We" didn't let him down. He did it all by himself.
Haven't you ever noticed before that men tend to wear facial hair designed to resemble a woman's pubic patch, while women tend to wear hairstyles shaped like the head of a penis? Sort of a Freudian indicator of what their thinking of, I guess.
I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
Well if ABC, CBS, NBC, CNN, et cetera are censoring the news by ignoring these stories, then you have to turn to alternate sources.
Do you have any proof that the story you referred to is being censored by those news outlets? Do you have any citation to any public records to show that this incident actually happened? I've read the story both on infowars and prisonplanet and neither of them have any details. They make vague claims about a "couple in texas" that had their kid taken away. Considering these websites long track record of posting bullshit and phoney stories, you'd have to be a nutjob to believe it.
Umm, left out the part about the illegal drugs being found in their residence and the fact that their anti-government views were but ONE of the claims levied against them.
Mind you, I don't think marijuana should be illegal but it rather changes your story when you discover that the parents were arrested on drug charges before CPS got involved. You shouldn't have left that detail out.
I want peace on earth and goodwill toward man.
We are the United States Government! We don't do that sort of thing.
If a child's willing to go that far, it's probably a safe bet that their family's already pretty fucked up.
If he is emancipated from his mom, are they still considered brother and sister?
If you are not allowed to question your government then the government has answered your question.
The mom is NOT the custodial parent... did you RTFA?
I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
Democrats have pledged to work with RIAA and MPAA to protect the TV/movie industry's productions.
I hate to break it to you but the RIAA and MPAA also have republicans on their side. You remember that little law called the DMCA? Do you know from which party came the congressman who introduced the bill? The republican party. Do you know the current political affiliation of the current RIAA president? Republican again. If you think the Republicans aren't just as much in the pockets of the RIAA and MPAA you're even more dumb then you come across now.
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- None can love freedom heartily, but good men; the rest love not freedom, but license. -- John Milton
This is slashdot, it is perfectly acceptable to do just that. In fact, it's implied.
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Ignoring made-up stuff by nutjobs seems a legitimate role for news organisations.
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All depends on the state you're living in. In Florida it's completely legal to physically discipline your child.
Fla. Stat. Ann. 39.01(2), (30)(f), (45) (West, WESTLAW through End of 2003 Reg. Sess.)
Corporal discipline of a child by a parent, legal custodian, or caregiver for disciplinary purposes does not in itself constitute abuse when it does not result in harm to the child.
You just can't beat them till you leave bruises or welts. If you use a wide enough paddle, this won't happen because of the surface area. My parents used to use a cut down boat oar. Hurt like a mofo, but never left marks.
I wonder if there is any correlation between states that have outlawed physically disciplining minors & instances of youth offenders?
There is a war going on for your mind.
A) Working for a lawyer doesn't make you correct. It's bad logic. You are correct, but tossing on where you work is irrelevant.
B) A 16 year old doesn't know a correct legal term, so what? It makes him ignorant not an idiot.
C) YOU are an idiot and here is why:
Had you READ the article you should have noted "His mother doesn't not have custodial rights.". Don't they teach you to read after 2 years of working for a lawyer?
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Then why haven't those stories been reported on Fox News? Or are they also now a bastion of the Democratic party as well?
There is a war going on for your mind.
Fox News is probably conspiring with the Reptilians and the Illuminati to make sure you aren't seeing the story.
Stop worrying about who's "to blame" for things and instead concentrate on identifying causal relationships and you may find yourself better able to reach useful conclusions. Fault is irrelevant, concentrate on cause and effect and you'll be more likely to come up with practical actions to affect outcomes.
Don't blame "Society" for his mistakes... "We" didn't let him down. He did it all by himself.
Nature versus nurture, my friend.
It is easy to blame them when they're despicable people. But your emotional satisfaction doesn't obviate the observation that different situations can lead to different results under otherwise similar circumstances.
They had their loser-nature beaten into them by circumstance
I honestly could care less. I've met people that have survived far worse than the "parents" of the kids my agency works with. None of them are putting cigarettes out on their kids or prostituting them out for money and/or drugs. Circumstance only goes so far as a rationalization for bad behavior and there comes a point when the individual needs to be held accountable for his or her choices.
Most of the real sociopathic parasites on the ass of society are CEOs or board members of Fortune 500 companies, not sad children of broken families.
Umm, at what point have I said that the children are parasites? I believe I was reserving my bile for their so-called parents.
I want peace on earth and goodwill toward man.
We are the United States Government! We don't do that sort of thing.
I'd deal with them by denying access to the computer at my house and grounding them unless they deleted their account permanently or cleaned it up.
"Uh, hi, DFS? I know this guy who tortures his kid by denying all access to her friends. He's making her a social pariah because he's a total psycho. I wouldn't be surprised if he makes her strip naked in front of him to make sure she isn't hiding a cell phone. The address is..."
Stop being so selfish, and let someone called to this line of work have your position.
I didn't say I was direct care. I'm the IT person at my particular agency. You couldn't pay me enough to work in a direct care role. If I did work in such a role I would have been arrested a long time ago for beating the shit out of some "parent" that abused one of my clients.
I want peace on earth and goodwill toward man.
We are the United States Government! We don't do that sort of thing.
No, that would probably rise to the level of deadly force:
"Deadly physical force" means physical force which, under the circumstances in which it is used, is readily capable of causing death or other serious physical injury.
I want peace on earth and goodwill toward man.
We are the United States Government! We don't do that sort of thing.
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Really? That's just sad.
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You confuse cynicism with a lack of passion. I care greatly for the clients that we service. I just think that the people who fucked them up badly enough to require our services aren't deserving of any further consideration from civilized society.
Also, fuck you. I'll work wherever the hell I feel like, thank you very much.
I want peace on earth and goodwill toward man.
We are the United States Government! We don't do that sort of thing.
You also contradicted the subject of your post in the first sentence.
(I do realize that you were more imprecise than you were wrong...)
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Congratulations on doing exactly what you chastised the poster for; making an assertion and then providing no proof.
What the fuck are you talking about? The sole citation for his claim is a story that has little to no actual facts, such as the names of this couple or the name of the city and county that the incident supposedly happened in, that can be used to verify the incident. Nor can you find any public records to back up the claims in the story. Lastly, Alex Jones has been well-known for making up stories that routinely turn out to be false. I'm not sure what part of anything I've stated is an assertion without proof. My statements come from actually having read the story.
Bravo on being modded insightful for such obvious hypocrisy.
Bravo for being an idiot.
Haven't you ever noticed before that men tend to wear facial hair designed to resemble a woman's pubic patch...
If her pubic patch looks like my facial hair, she needs to shave her inner thighs.
Why, without your clothes, you're naked, Miss Dudley!
It takes a hell of a lot to get your child taken away from you if you are female. If the situation were reversed, the father would have lost custody in an instant.
Isn't pride a sin?
Nerd rage is the funniest rage.
It takes a hell of a lot to get your child taken away from you if you are female. If the situation were reversed, the father would have lost custody in an instant.
plus alimony, plus child support, plus jail time, plus...
"Educate the mind but never at the expense of the soul."~Blessed Basil Moreau
The place I see "racism" is in the very idea of the assumption that anyone from the south deserves to be denigrated and disrespected automatically, as if there are no ignorant people or bigots from elsewhere.
What you describe is bigotry and prejudice, not racism. Clearly there are bigots elsewhere as evidenced by the post you are complaining about (which if you think about it is beautifully ironic). Having visited the rural south of the US for the first time a couple of weeks ago I found the people extremely polite and friendly and the countryside was beautiful. So if some of your fellow citizens don't appreciate that just be thankful that it will probably help you stay that way.