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How Facebook Can Out Your Most Personal Secrets

McGruber writes "The Wall Street Journal is reporting that Facebook revealed the sexual preferences of users despite those users have chosen 'privacy lock-down' settings on Facebook. The article describes two students who were casualties of a privacy loophole on Facebook—the fact that anyone can be added to a group by a friend without their approval. As a result, the two lost control over their secrets, even though both students were sophisticated users who had attempted to use Facebook's privacy settings to shield some of their activities from their parents. Facebook spokesman Andrew Noyes responded with a statement blaming the users: 'Our hearts go out to these young people. Their unfortunate experience reminds us that we must continue our work to empower and educate users about our robust privacy controls.'"

467 comments

  1. Truly horrible. by noh8rz9 · · Score: 5, Insightful

    this is a tragedy... I'm truly sorry for the students who were violated. No snark from me today...

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    1. Re:Truly horrible. by agm · · Score: 2, Insightful

      What's truly horrible is how this girls father acted. Threatening your own child because they have a preference you don't agree with? What a barbarian. What's the bet he believes in invisible friends?

    2. Re:Truly horrible. by quasius · · Score: 4, Insightful

      If you can figure out what's wrong with responding to an article about a rape with "what's the bet he's black?," you can figure out what's wrong with your post. If you cannot, you're probably a bigot.

    3. Re:Truly horrible. by jhoegl · · Score: 5, Informative

      Dont put personal shit on the internet, ever.
      unless you are ok with it getting out, because that is inevitable.

    4. Re:Truly horrible. by DarwinSurvivor · · Score: 5, Interesting

      Not all religious people are bigots (my personal experience is that very few actually are), however I have yet to meet a bigot who WASN'T religious, thus in my opinion the GP's statement appears to be fairly valid. Want proof? Just look at the list of organizations that supported proposition 8 in California.

    5. Re:Truly horrible. by bipbop · · Score: 1

      You can't see how believing in re-re-re-re-interpretations of ancient mythology is unlike being black?

    6. Re:Truly horrible. by bipbop · · Score: 1, Funny

      It's a good operating assumption. If you assume that is true, you won't get burned as often. However, it's not actually true.

    7. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0, Troll

      Your race is an accident of birth. Hence, judging someone by it is immoral, and making presumptions about it based on stereotypes is, at best, rude.

      Your religious beliefs are your choice. Judging someone on the basis of their deliberate choices is both reasonable and fair.

      Of course, there is a high correlation between being born into a religious culture and adopting that culture's beliefs. Although it remains wrong to blame someone for the culture they were born into, it is part of adult responsibility to choose enlightened, ethical behavior, where necessary, in favor of the myths and imaginary authorities you were told about as a child. Certainly there is a lot of gray area here and it is often best to give people the benefit of the doubt and err on the side of tolerance. But the original topic was bigotry against gay people, which in any case is pretty far removed from beliefs about the universe and divinity, so fuck that asshole and whatever god he believes in too.

    8. Re:Truly horrible. by hawguy · · Score: 1

      If you can figure out what's wrong with responding to an article about a rape with "what's the bet he's black?," you can figure out what's wrong with your post. If you cannot, you're probably a bigot.

      In what way is one's racial background equivalent to the social groups one hangs out with?

    9. Re:Truly horrible. by quasius · · Score: 1

      The point is that "religious" is no more a monolithic term you can make specific assumptions based on than "black."

    10. Re:Truly horrible. by hawguy · · Score: 4, Insightful

      It's a good operating assumption. If you assume that is true, you won't get burned as often. However, it's not actually true.

      And not a reasonable option for most of us. My employer has an internet portal with HR and payroll information. My credit cards all have online portals with my purchase information. The same with banks, utility companies, etc. Public records (property taxes, etc) are increasingly available online. Few people abstain from all personal discussions in email.

      There's a vast amount of personal information online, much of it put there by 3rd parties we don't have control over, and we all rely on loose privacy regulations to keep it private. Your bank, utilities, etc may already be selling your account information to data aggregators.

    11. Re:Truly horrible. by bipbop · · Score: 1

      That's not a very good point. Sure, it's true, but it has nothing to do with what they originally said.

      There's a difference between making a statement about the odds of something being true and claiming something is always true. I do believe it's more likely that the father is religious than not. This can be true, and yet not imply anything about the set of all religious people (as indeed it does not).

    12. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You must have read a different article from the one I read. All this one contained was something about the secret coming out and the girl crying on the couch of a friend.

    13. Re:Truly horrible. by milkmage · · Score: 2

      what is the logical assumption regarding race for someone in the NAACP? or the Asian Students Coalition?
      yes, there are always exceptions, but it's logical to assume (and NOT racist) that members of said group have a common ancestry.

      google "Black Students Union" and look at the images.

    14. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      But there's a huge difference between a bank or credit card site designed specifically so that ONLY you can log into it, and a social site designed specifically to gather your personal data and sell it to others.

      Also, your bank and credit card sites are the only online way to interact with those entities. There are many other non-privacy-violating ways to interact with your friends online.

    15. Re:Truly horrible. by sberge · · Score: 1, Flamebait

      You don't get to choose the color of your skin, which is why you don't mock people for it. If you believe in invisible friends, however, that's your choice, and in this century you must expect some mockery to come with it.

    16. Re:Truly horrible. by Lisias · · Score: 1

      The attitude is not bad by itself. What do you would do if your kid started to sell heavy drugs or any other kind of felony?

      The attitude towards the sexual preference of his daughter is horrible.

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    17. Re:Truly horrible. by AK+Marc · · Score: 5, Insightful

      What, Black people are holding public demonstrations with signs "un-raped white women are going to hell"?

      One group was wrongly associated with a "bad" act. The other purposefully and deliberately associated themselves with a "bad" act, and continues to spend millions to support that association. I don't see the correlation. What, you believe in an invisible friend, but don't like being lumped with the others that claim to believe in the same imaginary friend?

    18. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Ahhh I see good escuse for bigotry

    19. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Um... The American Atheist Association is comprised almost *entirely* of bigots.

      Citation needed.

    20. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Im sorry for anyone using facepalm. I was smart enough not to join in the first place. I AM NOT A PRODUCT.

    21. Re:Truly horrible. by The+Good+Reverend · · Score: 4, Informative

      What, exactly, is the "American Atheist Association"? No such organization exists. If you're going to make up accusations, at least make them up about a group that isn't imaginary.

    22. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0, Funny

      The Gay Niggers Association of America is pretty bigoted

    23. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Cool story, bro.

    24. Re:Truly horrible. by agm · · Score: 4, Insightful

      How is a sexual preference at all comparable to a felony crime? Or any crime for that matter?

    25. Re:Truly horrible. by vux984 · · Score: 5, Informative
    26. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0
    27. Re:Truly horrible. by The+Good+Reverend · · Score: 3, Interesting

      I assume the same, though his rogue capitalization and blatant lies made me wonder if he actually meant some other group.

      Disclaimer: I am a former state director for American Atheists. They're weird folks, but they're not institutionally bigots in any way, even toward the religious.

    28. Re:Truly horrible. by alexgieg · · Score: 1

      Not all religious people are bigots (my personal experience is that very few actually are), however I have yet to meet a bigot who WASN'T religious

      Haven't talked to many campus liberals, have you? Here's an exchange I had back when I was majoring in Philosophy, circa 2007:

      Liberal 'friend': "Sorry, Alexander, but I don't want to discuss about anything political with you anymore. I don't want to talk to someone who defines himself as a libertarian."

      Me: "... okay."

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    29. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Isn't affirmative action bigoty built into law?
      I didn't realize liberalism was considerd a religion, but if you say so.

    30. Re:Truly horrible. by HapSlappy_2222 · · Score: 3, Insightful

      The GP's point was that keeping an eye on your kids for illegal behavior is a good thing. I give my kids appropriate levels of privacy given their age and proven responsibility level, so I agree with that.

      The GP also said that the father's attitude toward his child's sexual preference was horrible.

      The only reason the two are comparable is that both items can be discovered by monitoring your kids' Facebook profiles, and the GP knew that as well as you or I do.

    31. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I don't see a problem with that. I don't want to talk with Libertarians because it's always been a waste of time in the past with no reason to believe anything will change in the future. Libertarianism is rather extreme and tends to ignore human nature to a shocking degree.

    32. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Homosexuality is a preference?

    33. Re:Truly horrible. by Pseudonym · · Score: 1

      I do believe it's more likely that the father is religious than not.

      Of course it is. It's more likely that any given person in the United States is religious than not. What I don't get is the post hoc.

      (Before you answer, it might help to know that I live in a country whose leader is atheist, and also against same-sex marriage.)

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    34. Re:Truly horrible. by afgam28 · · Score: 2

      Well, if he's allowed to have invisible friends then surely it's OK for him to have imaginary enemies as well? :P

    35. Re:Truly horrible. by Kazoo+the+Clown · · Score: 1

      For those who have chosen to deny their own innate homosexuality it is. For those of us who feel they couldn't willingly choose to be homosexual if our life depended on it, it's clearly not.

    36. Re:Truly horrible. by fluffernutter · · Score: 1

      While we are talking about bank sites, and I would also take care on how I access them. I love my smartphone but I would never use it to access a bank site. the tech is too new and not yet proven. I only use a Windows client with anti virus or a Linux based machine.

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    37. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I think someone probably told him a different name for the organization AAA as a prank, and he didn't pick up on it.

    38. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      My observation... The more socially acceptable it becomes, the more homosexuals their seems to be. So in the last 30-50 years, a steadily growing percentage of the population in some countries and cultures are born with the natural tendency towards homosexuality? Is the percentage the same but that many people were confused and hiding their whole lives? Did some people experiment with homosexuality but go on to be 100% heterosexual after the experimentation phase? Did society change and now that experimentation phase is no longer just an experiment but considered normal and just continues on? I have no idea...

      Another point. If you are a homosexual, why do you care what others think and say about it? Those that mind, don't matter...Those that matter, don't mind. Live your life how you want to live it and don't give a fuck about those that don't like it.

    39. Re:Truly horrible. by nedlohs · · Score: 5, Insightful

      How is that treating you with hatred or intolerance? It's being closed minded, yes (which I guess is technically the definition of bigoted but we usually use it to mean a more aggresive subset). Though not knowing the person involved it could also be that he'd been bored to tears to many times by the same old libertarian arguments and simply didn't want to talk politics about them anymore.

      Did he threaten you with violence? Did he demand you renounce those opinions/beliefs?

      There are people I know with whom I disagree strongly on some issue, that we've decided not to discuss that particular issue doesn't make either of us bigoted. Sometimes it just isn't worth spending energy when you know neither is going to convince the other and it'll be an unpleasant waste of time.

    40. Re:Truly horrible. by bmo · · Score: 1

      >Liberal 'friend': "Sorry, Alexander, but I don't want to discuss about anything political with you anymore. I don't want to talk to someone who defines himself as a libertarian."

      That's just being smart and that's not bigotry.

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    41. Re:Truly horrible. by GreyWolf3000 · · Score: 1

      So what you're really saying is something more like, "you know, I've met Muslims that weren't terrorists, but at the same time, it seems like all terrorists who want to destroy the US happen to be Muslim."

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    42. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      He may be thinking of the Allied Atheist Alliance (south park).

    43. Re:Truly horrible. by tqk · · Score: 0

      Libertarianism is rather extreme and tends to ignore human nature to a shocking degree.

      Please, educate yourself: Libertarianism. If you don't think typical "Liberals" and "Conservatives" ignore human nature to a shocking degree, you must live in a cave.

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    44. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You should read the actual source article. The problem is these users DIDN'T put their personal shit on the internet. Their friends did, and Facebook let them.

    45. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      So all I need to do to make it "bad" to be an athiest is:

      1. Say I'm an athiest
      2. Do horrible things to other people and deliberately associate myself with those acts
      3. ????
      4. Profit

      Then perhaps it will be ok for other people to lump you together with myself and other such luminaries as Stalin, Mao, and other people who claim not to believe in invisible friends.

    46. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      > institutionally bigots

      Using a microtome to slice your distinctions.

    47. Re:Truly horrible. by The+Good+Reverend · · Score: 1

      It's a national group with thousands of members, and has existed for a number of decades. Of course there are bigots in it - just like any other group with similar size and history.

    48. Re:Truly horrible. by wvmarle · · Score: 1

      To some people having the wrong sexual preference is worse than murder.

    49. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      It's a good operating assumption. If you assume that is true, you won't get burned as often. However, it's not actually true.

      And not a reasonable option for most of us. My employer has an internet portal with HR and payroll information. My credit cards all have online portals with my purchase information. The same with banks, utility companies, etc. Public records (property taxes, etc) are increasingly available online. Few people abstain from all personal discussions in email.

      There's a vast amount of personal information online, much of it put there by 3rd parties we don't have control over, and we all rely on loose privacy regulations to keep it private. Your bank, utilities, etc may already be selling your account information to data aggregators.

      OK, I guess that you can't help it. Go ahead and put all of your personal stuff online.

    50. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I don't want to talk with Libertarians because it's always been a waste of time in the past

      That applies to nearly everyone on topics that seem even semi-important.

    51. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Another point. If you are a homosexual, why do you care what others think and say about it?

      Because some of those "others" want homosexuality to be illegal; punishable by incarceration, castration, institutionalisation, or death. If such views go unchallenged, their sway in the halls of power increase.

    52. Re:Truly horrible. by agm · · Score: 1

      The "attitiude" I was referring to was not the fact hat the father found something out about their child on Facebook. The attitude I see as a problem is that the father has an issue with their child being homosexual, and would threaten to kick them out unless they recent. Seriously, that's pretty primitive prejudiced thinking.

    53. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I can introduce you to quite a few.

    54. Re:Truly horrible. by Solandri · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Actually, my experience has been that most religious bigots aren't actually religious. They are bigots first and foremost, or rather psychotic or borderline psychotic and just want to be able to hate and do bad things to other people. They will latch onto whatever convenient excuse they can come up with to justify their behavior, such as citing specific parts of religious texts out of context while ignoring the parts which contradict their behavior. e.g. abusive husbands citing the Bible verse telling wives to obey their husbands, while completely unaware of the very next verse which tells husbands to love their wives. Even in the complete absence of organized religion (e.g. Communist China), you still see widespread bigotry in the form of prejudice based on what region of the country someone comes from.

      My current hypothesis is that there's just something about human nature which makes us want to feel superior to others. That can manifest itself as being religiously moral (e.g. judging others by values they don't believe in), adhering to science and atheism (e.g. the constant bashing of religion on slashdot), coming from a more "sophisticated" cultural background (e.g. characterization of Southerners as backwards uneducated "trailer trash"), high school cliques (the stereotypical jocks vs nerds), belief in conspiracy theories ("how can you be so naive as to believe the government"), and even gossip ("I know something you don't know" and presumably that makes me superior). My guess as to the mechanism behind it is that people don't have enough time (nor interest) to join every social group there is. Consequently they try to seek self-affirmation of the groups they belong to (even when there wasn't a choice, such as what region of the country you come from). If your group is better than others, then obviously you made a better choice or were luckier at birth and thus are a superior human being.

    55. Re:Truly horrible. by silentcoder · · Score: 1

      >Dont put personal shit on the internet, ever.
      unless you are ok with it getting out, because that is inevitable.

      Did you even read the summary - let alone the article ?
      She didn't put "personal shit" on the internet. She joined a group in meat-space that shared her interests. They added her to their facebook group, which she had no say in (because facebook allows you to add people to groups without checking with them first) - and her father saw that addition to the group.
      She was outed on facebook by what OTHER people did online, in relation to what she did in real life.
      Effectively - she never put this personal information on facebook - other people put it there without her knowledge or consent (and it must be said: without any ill intentions).

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    56. Re:Truly horrible. by rtb61 · · Score: 1

      OK Lesson 1: Face book is not real, it is make believe anything put on there is for fun and shit stirring not because it's true.

      Lesson 2: If you think I had any real secrets that I would be stupid enough to put them on Face book. Everyone knows Face book is busted ass when it comes to security, they sell everything about you to the highest bidder.

      Lesson 3: If you are silly enough to use Face book purposefully put bullshit in their, the more miss-information the better. Don't have a middle name, add one it or more. Humorously exaggerate, allude to all sorts of associations ie claim to be a member of 'Anonymous' the more the merrier.

      Lesson 4: Red neck type technophobes are notoriously obtuse when it comes to satire, use it with caution.

      Lesson 5: Not matter what people say, no matter how many people want to communicate with you via that channel, just don't bloody use Face book, it's bad, really, really bad and the most innocent crap is going to hang around your neck for the rest of your life, like a burning tyre. Please don't use Face book.

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    57. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      What use are privacy controls when Facebook disregards them? That should be a criminal offence!

      I've disabled EVERY DAMN email-notification, yet FB keeps reminding me per email and adds new "controls" enabled by default.
      Despite having disabled EVERY auto-post on my profile, Timeline yet publishes everything I've done since starting FB, even if I have disabled them before!
      I've not authorized tags and have deleted all my tags, yet somehow I find pictures with my tag on it.
      I've now deleted all my posts, and much of what I contributed around FB. Took me 5 hours and still there are tons of material left out there. Doesn't matter. FB will just publish everything when they decide to, regardless of my wishes and efforts.

      And that is just the tip of the iceberg. I have no controls what people might say about me on FB. It's a ticking timebomb alright.

      FUCK FB!

    58. Re:Truly horrible. by Kjella · · Score: 1

      My guess as to the mechanism behind it is that people don't have enough time (nor interest) to join every social group there is.

      Many groups are as much defined by who they're not as who they are, so they're mutually exclusive even when you do have choices. And even if they aren't events still conflict so you have to prioritize what people you hang out with.

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    59. Re:Truly horrible. by Chrisq · · Score: 2

      Well, if he's allowed to have invisible friends then surely it's OK for him to have imaginary enemies as well? :P

      I don't have any problem with that. Its when people with invisible friends have real enemies for imaginary reasons that I have a problem.

    60. Re:Truly horrible. by Chrisq · · Score: 2

      If you can figure out what's wrong with responding to an article about a rape with "what's the bet he's black?," you can figure out what's wrong with your post. If you cannot, you're probably a bigot.

      In what way is one's racial background equivalent to the social groups one hangs out with?

      A lot of people make this mistake. A number of times I have been called a racist for objecting to Islamic terrorism, and by people who might be surprised at my race too!

    61. Re:Truly horrible. by Chrisq · · Score: 1

      How is a sexual preference at all comparable to a felony crime? Or any crime for that matter?

      Try asking that if you live in an Islamic country.

    62. Re:Truly horrible. by Chrisq · · Score: 1

      I AM NOT A PRODUCT.

      Well if you were and your private information was leaked then you might be a CROSS PRODUCT

    63. Re:Truly horrible. by AmiMoJo · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Actually, my experience has been that most religious bigots aren't actually religious.

      The No True Scotsman argument? The frequency with which it is invoked in cases like this merits its renaming to the "No True Believer" argument IMHO.

      abusive husbands citing the Bible verse telling wives to obey their husbands, while completely unaware of the very next verse which tells husbands to love their wives.

      The Bible is terrible for being extremely vague when it really counts. "Love" your wife? So it's okay to beat her if it's for her own good, to help her become a good wife? Strangely the "obey" bit is quite clear, probably unrelated to it being written by a man I imagine.

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    64. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      They were on Facebook; I think we can be pretty sure they weren't black.

    65. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      In the south, several sexual acts (gay or straight, even among consenting married adults) are still felonies. Such was the case in SC until 2003.

      South Carolina's sodomy laws, which made "buggery" a felony punishable by five years in prison or a $500 fine, were invalidated by the 2003 U.S. Supreme Court decision in Lawrence v. Texas.[1]

    66. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Read the definition of bigot and go to any gay pride parade or protest. If you're honest about it you'll find plenty of bigots who aren't religious.

    67. Re:Truly horrible. by History's+Coming+To · · Score: 1

      "Black" implies a person has a skin colour towards the darker end of the spectrum. "Religious" implies the person subscribes to a religion, a doctrinal belief system, of which most include obligatory views on sexual behaviour. The point stands as far as I'm concerned.

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    68. Re:Truly horrible. by fatphil · · Score: 1

      Those who chose to deny their own innate homosexuality are still homosexual. Their preference is irrelevant.

      Then again, I don't like an absolute black/white view. I believe that for a significant proportion of the population there is some element of preference. OK, for the majority of those it is an extremely strong preference, and going against that preference would be surprising. But not impossible. (I do know several people who I would say are clearly more gay than straight, and at least one of them is now happier than he's ever been now he's in a straight marriage. (There's a larger pool of potential partners to chose from, it's not that surprising.))

      For an analogy. I'm right handed in almost all aspects of my life, except I am ambidextrous when it comes to knife/fork usage. I have a weak preference for them one way round but that's more current habit than anything absolute. I could cut either way quite happily, I just happen to have chosen to use one particular way presently.

      Some people read way outside the lines when I make comments like this, and think that I'm saying that every body has some fraction of the opposite sexuality in them, and everyone therefore has a choice to make. I'm not saying that at all. I just don't think that these absolutes are 100% of the population, which is what the naysayers against "homosexuality is a choice" are effectively asserting. There's no way I'd even raise my argument in the company of your average "homosexuality is a choice" absolutists. I believe they are incredibly wrong. At least the naysayers against them are mostly right, but not quite right in corner cases. (I'm not saying anything radical, this is all supported by Kinsey.)

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    69. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I feel sorry for Romeo and Juliet... I would have hoped some parents would have learned from this story by now...

    70. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Really? And how are those extremeist movements going? Do you really think there is a threat of any of that happening? Pure FUD there.

      Reply to another comment..
      Are homosexuals getting beat on daily? Where is this? I'm sure it makes the news a lot more but browse your local crime blotter for a while; A lot of people are getting beatup every day and it has nothing to do with being a homosexual.

    71. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Why is it disgusting, and what makes you think it is "correctable ... behaviour"?

    72. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      ....Your bank, utilities, etc may already be selling your account information to data aggregators.

      ....Your bank, utilities, etc ARE already selling your account information to data aggregators.

      FTFY

    73. Re:Truly horrible. by Kazoo+the+Clown · · Score: 3, Insightful

      All I'm saying is, someone who is homosexual but does not recognize that fact may find the argument that it is a choice reasonable in a way that someone who has recognized that their gender attraction is not so flexible does not. Perhaps you are trying to argue that everyones gender attraction is mutable? Essentially, that everyone is inherently bi-sexual? I would say that for some it is most certainly mutable, but in others it is less so if at all.

    74. Re:Truly horrible. by hawguy · · Score: 2

      what is the logical assumption regarding race for someone in the NAACP? or the Asian Students Coalition?
      yes, there are always exceptions, but it's logical to assume (and NOT racist) that members of said group have a common ancestry.

      google "Black Students Union" and look at the images.

      You're going the other way -- you're starting with social groups and inferring race from that. But that's not my point. I was responding to this comment:

      If you can figure out what's wrong with responding to an article about a rape with "what's the bet he's black?," you can figure out what's wrong with your post

      My point is that inferring behavior due to race is not valid (since one doesn't choose their own racial background), but inferring behavior due to social group membership is more valid. If someone doesn't believe in their social group's ideals, they probably aren't going to remain a member.

      You inferred someone's racial background by looking at the social groups they hang out with... Which is entirely different than seeing that someone is anti-gay and guessing that he is a member of a group that is very public and vocal about their anti-gay stance. Which is also not the same as seeing someone commit a crime and inferring his race.

    75. Re:Truly horrible. by ai4px · · Score: 1
      Cool... I see the O.P.'s point. Now all we need to do is to pass a law that says homosexuality is against the law and then it'll be cool to keep an oppressive thumb on our kids.

      Personally, can't see why drugs are illegal (controlled). If you want to OD and kill yourself, fine, do so at your own peril. We have laws to protect my property from theft, so don't steal my stuff to pay for your "hobby". I know I'm on a tangent here, but we need to spend less effort protecting people from themselves.

    76. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Based on people I know, most bigots are atheists. And they are totally intolerant of everyone with a different point of view.

    77. Re:Truly horrible. by operagost · · Score: 1

      however I have yet to meet a bigot who WASN'T religious

      Apparently you missed the obvious evidence that the GP poster "agm" is the bigot you are looking for.

      What a barbarian. What's the bet he believes in invisible friends?

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    78. Re:Truly horrible. by al0ha · · Score: 1

      People that respond in such a mannger are almost always hiding a dark secret from themselves, it's over compensation for a truth about himself that he can't face. What that is? Who knows.

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    79. Re:Truly horrible. by operagost · · Score: 1

      It's not the "no true Scotsman" argument any more than pointing out the fact that most atheists are peaceful doesn't mean Stalin couldn't possibly have been an atheist.

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    80. Re:Truly horrible. by Khashishi · · Score: 1

      Clearly you've never been on a school playground. People don't need religion to be bigoted with regards to gays, mexicans, whites, blacks, yellows, poor kids, rich kids... anyone who isn't like themselves..

    81. Re:Truly horrible. by agm · · Score: 1

      Atheism is a 'religion' - the only ones who are not are the agnostics.

      Athiesm is about a *lack* of belief. Agnosticism is about knowledge, not belief.

      Atheism is as much a religion as "bald" is a hair colour.

    82. Re:Truly horrible. by agm · · Score: 1

      Try asking that if you live in an Islamic country.

      Hence my initial comment "what's the bet he believe in invisible friends".

    83. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      this is a tragedy... I'm truly sorry for the students who were violated. No snark from me today...

      You are blaming the wrong event. The problem is not the leak of information from interaction between individual and group facebook pages.

      The problem is a society that made her fearful of this information leaking out in the first place. Ideally, this would be as newsworthy as if her shoe size became public knowledge without her explicit approval.

    84. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0
      My favorite example of that fallacy.

      No True Scottsman lives outside of Scotland and has no Scottish heritage.

      Obviously a false statement because of the "No True Scottsman" fallacy, therefore people who don't live in Scotland and have no Scottish heritage must be Scotsmen.

    85. Re:Truly horrible. by jonadab · · Score: 1

      It's obvious that you didn't read it. You're repeating things that other people have said, which are very obviously incompatible with the actual text. You're not alone, of course, far from it. The ratio of people who cite it or comment on it to people who have actually read it is higher for this passage than perhaps any other thing ever written in the history of human language.

      The passage is in fact not vague at all in anything resembling the way you suggest. Anyone who tells you that it is vague is lying or has not read the passage. The text is actually rather unequivocal and uncompromising: a husband is to treat his wife's needs and desires as more important than his own, to look out for her in preference to himself, and to sacrifice himself for her if necessary. Really. It says that. Look it up.

      Additionally, the word "obey" (more often translated "submit") is used for both sides of the relationship. The very first time it is used in the passage, it says "submit to _one another_" (allelon -- sorry about the transliteration, but Slashcode does not allow actual Greek). The relationship is mutual. Yes, the male and female sides of the relationship are described in different words, but the basic principle of placing the other person before yourself is consistent for both, and if anything the wording there is more detailed and uncompromising when it speaks of how the husband is to behave.

      Yes, the passage has been _misused_ and _misapplied_ to justify a lot of stuff, but that's just people doing whatever they want and making excuses, as usual. The passage itself is clear, if you actually read it.

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    86. Re:Truly horrible. by Golddess · · Score: 1

      Implying that the majority of rapists are black is not the same thing as implying that the majority of black people are rapists. Likewise, implying that the majority of people who are against homosexuality believe in an Invisible Sky Daddy is not the same thing as implying that the majority of people who believe in an Invisible Sky Daddy are against homosexuality.

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    87. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The No True Scotsman argument? The frequency with which it is invoked in cases like this merits its renaming to the "No True Believer" argument IMHO.

      The pedantry on Slashdot knows no bounds. Would it make you feel any better if he simply called them "hypocrites," given that, by definition, they are not living by their stated beliefs?

    88. Re:Truly horrible. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Where in the world do you get the idea that the Bible ever permits wife-beating? Reference please. You have apparently never read it, yet somehow feel qualified to expound upon its "vagueness."

    89. Re:Truly horrible. by SpanglerIsAGod · · Score: 1

      I agree that we need to spend less effort on protecting people from themselves in general, but one of the primary purposes of being a parent is to protect your children from themselves. There comes a point where you have to stop doing that and not all parents are good at doing that, but it is a parents job to do it for part of their children life.

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    90. Re:Truly horrible. by hawguy · · Score: 1

      It's a good operating assumption. If you assume that is true, you won't get burned as often. However, it's not actually true.

      And not a reasonable option for most of us. My employer has an internet portal with HR and payroll information. My credit cards all have online portals with my purchase information. The same with banks, utility companies, etc. Public records (property taxes, etc) are increasingly available online. Few people abstain from all personal discussions in email.

      There's a vast amount of personal information online, much of it put there by 3rd parties we don't have control over, and we all rely on loose privacy regulations to keep it private. Your bank, utilities, etc may already be selling your account information to data aggregators.

      OK, I guess that you can't help it. Go ahead and put all of your personal stuff online.

      Once all of my banking, public records, and emails are online, what is left? I'm sure my credit card company already knows if I'm straight or gay, how often I brush my teeth, and when and where I go for vacation.

    91. Re:Truly horrible. by vux984 · · Score: 1

      They're weird folks, but they're not institutionally bigots in any way, even toward the religious.

      I disagree.

      If a Jew walks up to a Muslim and says "Islam is really stupid, your prophet is false and and it were real its ignorant and hatemongering; but that's all beside the point because the whole thing is completely made up and wrong. Come Join our Temple!"

      I'd call that a pretty bigoted message.

      Its also pretty much what the American Atheist's put on their billboards; that amounts to institutionalized bigotry if you ask me.

    92. Re:Truly horrible. by randyleepublic · · Score: 1

      How is recognizing the destructive influence of religion on a person's rationality bigotry?

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    93. Re:Truly horrible. by The+Good+Reverend · · Score: 1

      I guess it comes down to different people's different interpretations of the word "bigotry". Neither American Atheists nor any major freethought/atheist group in the US is trying to take rights away from anyone, they want things like removing religion from publicly funded institutions (schools, courtrooms, etc) and to stop oppression of the non-religious.

      For me, removing Christian prayer from a public school football game isn't bigotry at all, but a Christian group trying to deny gays the right to marry most certainly is. I can understand that others see this differently. I don't even think your example is bigotry; it's just a poorly-thought out approach and rude.

    94. Re:Truly horrible. by fatphil · · Score: 1

      I think we're in pretty much complete agreement. I added my final paragraph above in order to try to make unnecessary some of the final questions you raise, but apparently I failed at that. I'm not sure quite what I should reword though.

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    95. Re:Truly horrible. by vux984 · · Score: 1

      I guess it comes down to different people's different interpretations of the word "bigotry"

      I'm going with the dictionary defined by Merriam-Webster as "a person obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices."

      Neither American Atheists nor any major freethought/atheist group in the US is trying to take rights away from anyone, they want things like removing religion from publicly funded institutions (schools, courtrooms, etc) and to stop oppression of the non-religious.

      Yes, but are they "obstinately and intolerantly devoted to their own prejudice and option" ?

      A sign that says:

      Christianity:
      Sadistic God; Useless Savior
      30,000+ versions of "Truth"
      Pomotes Hate, Calls it "Love"
      Atheism:
      Simply Reasonable
      Join American Atheists
      https://atheists.org/sites/default/files/20120813FallBillboardsChristianity.jpg

      Argue semantics all you like but that anything but an open minded message of tolerance. It doesn't promote the separation of church and state. It doesn't try to stop oppression of the non-religious. It just says: "Hey christians -- you're whole religion is just ignorant hypocrisy."

      Who, but a bigot, would want to put that on a billboard?

    96. Re:Truly horrible. by DarwinSurvivor · · Score: 1

      Bullying (making fun of people to elevate your social status) is not in and of itself bigotry, especially when performed by children who are usually to young to have developed biggoted opinions.

    97. Re:Truly horrible. by dcw3 · · Score: 1

      >Liberal 'friend': "Sorry, Alexander, but I don't want to discuss about anything political with you anymore. I don't want to talk to someone who defines himself as a libertarian."

      That's just being smart and that's not bigotry.

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      And this is just being smart assed. And your response indicates you're one of the bigots. Please read http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bigotry

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    98. Re:Truly horrible. by minchazo · · Score: 1

      But the original topic was bigotry against gay people, which in any case is pretty far removed from beliefs about the universe and divinity, so fuck that asshole and whatever god he believes in too.

      Amen! Preach on, my brother!

    99. Re:Truly horrible. by netwarerip · · Score: 1

      Crap, I wish I knew this before I started giving them $75 a year for free roadside assistance! Bastards!!

    100. Re:Truly horrible. by HapSlappy_2222 · · Score: 1

      Huh? Why would we pass a law that says homosexuality is against the law? Only a true bigot would think that in this day and age. Also: keeping an eye on what your kids are up to isn't an "oppressive thumb" - it's good parenting. My kids get loads of freedom, but they're still kids, and I've established a relationship where they know I'm keeping up on what's going on in their lives. Usually by them telling me, but sometimes just because I'm interested in their lives.

      I agree with you about the drugs thing, but I want to be clear that neither I nor the OP think homosexuality is a sin. If you truly do see the point, good, and I apologize for misreading your "homosexuality against the law" comment, but if not, re-read these posts without your assumptions and you'll hopefully figure it out.

    101. Re:Truly horrible. by HapSlappy_2222 · · Score: 1

      It's always your job to protect your kids from themselves, even if you're 80 and they're 60. People will always make mistakes, and having someone around to help mitigate the damage and increase the experience gained from a mistake is a good thing.

      It's more that it's a sliding scale as the child (adult or not) gain more experience. It actually works the other way, too, since as a child becomes an adult, they gain experience their parents never had. That's love, and that's family.

    102. Re:Truly horrible. by SpanglerIsAGod · · Score: 1

      I think you make a reasonable point. Really I think it would be nice if society did this as a whole. I think it would be cool if more people got involved in helping each other in general, instead of just watching someone else do something stupid speak up.

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  2. Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Maxo-Texas · · Score: 4, Informative

    Privacy concerns part of it.

    Requiring that I provide a legitimate phone number for each of my farmville bot accounts was most of it. But farmville was the main reason I was logging on in the first place. I would have never given them any legitimate information after the first half dozen privacy dumps.

    Plus- it just sucked the way they kept colliding and smashing up different groups of friends and different groups of relatives and causing me grief in my personal life.

    So I cut them loose. And haven't missed them since.

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    1. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by fredgiblet · · Score: 1

      I moved Facebook exclusively to Firefox, I use Chrome as my primary browser. This has cut down how much time I spend on FB (which wasn't much to begin with) and makes it a lot harder for FB to track me.

      That beign said, while this is tragic what it boils down to is that you should never post anything on the internet that you aren't ready and willing to own.

    2. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by ColaMan · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Robust privacy controls', my arse.

      I've been added to several,er, 'fairly extreme view' groups without my confirmation/consent. It's a damn nuisance, and I unsubscribe from them as soon as I notice.

      But generally I just seem to spend my hour or two a week on facebook turning off all the 'texas hold-em' and other crappy 'OMG!'-type apps so they don't clutter my news feed. I need a checkbox that I can tick that says, 'I only care about what my friends actually post, please discard all application-generated posts'.

      Somehow I don't think that one will be turning up any time soon.....

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    3. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Informative

      Not using Facebook is no protection. People can still post stuff about you on the Internet. They can tag you in photos, put you in groups, add you to mailing lists, etc. On Facebook or anywhere. All without your knowledge.

      It has always been this way. The Internet just made it easier and Facebook makes it more public and accesible to the general population of morons.

    4. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I have had 9 separate facebook accounts that I know of. The reason is that I never use facebook but people think, "well that is just because he doesn't want to go to the trouble of setting it up." So they set one up for me and then send me the link. At first, I would delete them, but then I just stopped caring. One of my other friends, who is the strong social contract type, flags any he sees as being a fake account as a part of his duty as a facebook user.

    5. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by QuasiSteve · · Score: 5, Informative

      I'm about to chew out one of the "don't post it if you don't want it known" commenters, hit refresh to see if somebody else already did, and got distracted by you post.

      As much as I dislike facebook, you seem to be unaware of its workings (when they work and don't 'accidentally' break, etc.).

      Only friends can add you to a group (unless school group, etc.). If you're being added to 'fairly extreme view' groups, then I guess you have 'fairly extreme view' facebook 'friends'. If you'd rather not be part of those groups, you may wish to review the status of that 'friendship'. If you value the 'friendship' but would prefer that you don't get added to any groups, there was (is?) a trick: join meaningless groups to hit the group limit, then ignore everything from those groups. When you want to join a group, drop one of those groups and join up. Down side: if one of those groups becomes meaningful, you may become associated with those.

      For applications, you can actually ignore the application. Upper right corner of the application's post, hit ignore.

      Alternatively, go to your account settings, privacy, edit settings, 'applications and websites', disable platform applications.

      Until it 'accidentally' breaks. Or facebook makes another change for the benefit of their users, then waits to see if the criticism is bad enough to reverse the change (at which point the damage is already done), or take their losses from the vocal few leave the change intact because it's a net positive.

    6. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      People can still post stuff about you on the Internet. They can tag you in photos, put you in groups, add you to mailing lists, etc.

      Well, yes, but for most people it seems reasonable to assume that your friends will act with your interests in mind, and thus, not "tag you in photos, add you to mailing lists, etc". Certainly none of the people I call friends have EVER done that to me. If people are doing that to you, I'd argue they are not actually your friends. Friendship usually implies some level of mutual respect.

    7. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You "bot" for FarmVille..? I think you deserve to be outted.

    8. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The point is anybody can do it, not just your friends. It could well be your enemies or someone you don't even know.

    9. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Lisias · · Score: 5, Insightful

      f you're being added to 'fairly extreme view' groups, then I guess you have 'fairly extreme view' facebook 'friends'. If you'd rather not be part of those groups, you may wish to review the status of that 'friendship'.

      I strongly disagree. I have religious friends, I have gay friends, I have some few extreme guys as friends.

      These groups does not mix up, but these people are my friends nevertheless.

      If all your "friends" think as you, act as you and looks as you, this is not friendship. This is narcissism.

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    10. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by knorthern+knight · · Score: 4, Interesting

      > I've been added to several,er, 'fairly extreme view' groups without my confirmation/consent.

      Mark Zuckerberg was added to NAMBLA without his consent. http://www.forbes.com/sites/andygreenberg/2010/10/07/mark-zuckerberg-joins-the-north-american-man-boy-love-association-and-other-adventures-in-facebook-groups/

      > Though some have questioned Calacanis's story, Facebook's own FAQ
      > confirms that anyone can be added to a group without his or her consent:
      > "Can I prevent people from adding me to a new group?" is answered by
      > "The functionality of approving a group membership is not available."

      It's one thing to join a private gay web forum, but with "Facebook" and "private" do not belong in the same sentence. I'm retired, so my right-of-centre views (Canadian "right wing" === USA "mushy middle") won't be able to hurt any potential career. But for anybody who needs a job to pay bills and put food on the table, Facebook is a timebomb waiting to go off.

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    11. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Already exists - it's called Google+ & it's circles. :)))

    12. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by noh8rz9 · · Score: 0

      bahahaha "I'm concerned about my privacy, so I use Chrome." don't you know it's like a palantir? you get google's eye of sauron right in your house.

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    13. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Only friends can add you to a group (unless school group, etc.). If you're being added to 'fairly extreme view' groups, then I guess you have 'fairly extreme view' facebook 'friends'. If you'd rather not be part of those groups, you may wish to review the status of that 'friendship'.

      What if that friend is your opinionated in-law (who is at loggerheads with your wacky uncle)? Given how entangled relationship networks can get, if you start reviewing the status of your 'friendships', you may quickly find yourself in some sticky situations.

    14. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by erp_consultant · · Score: 1

      Yes, this is how Facebook operates and it's very insidious. If you dig deep enough you can find the correct privacy control but FB has shown time and again that their so called 'controls' either don't work properly or are abused. And every time it's the same response - 'oops, I guess we messed up...we'll get it right this time'. Now that they are a publicly traded company I only expect that the increased pressure to generate profits will only accelerate this sort of behavior. They will sell your personal information to anyone that is willing to pay for it. Zuck - I wouldn't trust that slimy little bastard as far as I could spit.

    15. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Additionally, you can block invites from certain people (not sure if it affects groups, but it definitely affects apps).

    16. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Well said.

    17. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by ColaMan · · Score: 1

      As another has posted, they are my friends and yes, they have views that differ from mine. They are still my friends, I just wish they didn't bulk-add all their friends to their groups!

      , there was (is?) a trick: join meaningless groups to hit the group limit
      Should I have to know these tricks? Or should facebook just have a little notification that says, "join this group? Y/N"

      And I did have a go at disabling platform apps. Unless I got the wrong setting, I still got the usual "OMG!Ican'tbelieveIcanseewholooksatmyprofile!" spam-o-rama.
      I regularly hit the ignore button on the most atrocious of app-spam.

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    18. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by MrEdofCourse · · Score: 1

      But for anybody who needs a job to pay bills and put food on the table, Facebook is a timebomb waiting to go off.

      You make it sound like you can get a (real) job without having a Facebook profile for the HR department to approve.

    19. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by silentcoder · · Score: 1

      >I've been added to several,er, 'fairly extreme view' groups without my confirmation/consent.

      For friends to add you to such groups, they must already be members themselves.... sounds to me like you need new friends. Ones who don't hold views you consider "fairly extreme" perhaps ?

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    20. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by ArsenneLupin · · Score: 1

      I strongly disagree. I have religious friends, I have gay friends, I have some few extreme guys as friends.

      Did you ever consider staying friends with these people in real life, but not on facebook?

      And with "these people", I don't mean all religious friends, all gay friends, and all friends with extreme views, but only those that would add you to groups without your consent...

    21. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by nosferatu1001 · · Score: 1

      I just did...maybe the US will catch up to more civilised parts of the world at some point

    22. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Well that explains the feeling I've been having that my career is imaginary...

    23. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      f you're being added to 'fairly extreme view' groups, then I guess you have 'fairly extreme view' facebook 'friends'. If you'd rather not be part of those groups, you may wish to review the status of that 'friendship'.

      I strongly disagree. I have religious friends, I have gay friends, I have some few extreme guys as friends.

      These groups does not mix up, but these people are my friends nevertheless.

      If all your "friends" think as you, act as you and looks as you, this is not friendship. This is narcissism.

      I think you're confusing friends and 'friends'.

    24. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      So your advise is to only have friends which share your opinions and political views exactly? How you've been modded +4 Informative is beyond my comprehension.

    25. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by QuasiSteve · · Score: 1

      Should I have to know these tricks? Or should facebook just have a little notification that says, "join this group? Y/N"

      Oh, don't get me wrong - I firmly believe that facebook is in the wrong here and should always require that individuals approve of any action. This includes others posting on your timeline, any apps sending spam, the group memberships mentioned here, etc. I do not believe that you should have known about these tricks (which may very well stop working and are a kludge in the first place).

      I was merely pointing out that there are some 'solutions' available.

      My question with regard to your friends was seated in the 'extreme views' context. As another poster suggested, I'm not saying that you should only have friends that think and do as you do. That would be horribly boring. But there's 'extreme views' you disagree with and then there's 'differing views' you disagree with.

      If I had a friend whose 'differing view' was that they believed that anybody who doesn't believe in God will burn for eternity in hell and wanted to include me in a group that advocates as much, I'd probably just shake my head and remove myself from the group.
      If, on the other hand, I had a friend whose 'extreme view' turns out to be that they believe every non-Caucasian should be gassed/deported, I'd stare in disbelief and promptly 'un-friend' them.. not just on facebook, but in real life, too. I don't care how great of a person they would be, I simply can't accept a - in this case - racist as being a 'friend'.
      Perhaps that makes me intolerant of racists - so be it :)

      I don't know what the differing and/or extreme views of your friends are, hence the suggestion that perhaps you should review their 'friend' status. If after that review you don't feel the strong urge to 'un-friend' them, then all you can do (aside from the aforementioned tricks) is ask them not to add you to (any further) groups. They may forget, and you may have to remove yourself from a group again. Them's the breaks until facebook decides to see the light.

    26. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I hope I've done one better. I've made it a point to never join Facebook. This doesn't prevent someone from pretending to be me, but I won't touch them with a 16-digit IP address.

    27. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by QuasiSteve · · Score: 1

      I have a great mix of friends, too - and they certainly don't think and act as I do.

      I think there may be a difference in definition of 'extreme views', though. The OP in a reply already changed it to 'views that differ' - but that's rather different from 'extreme views' that they'd disagree with.

      Just to repeat what I said there...
      If one of my friends' 'differing' view were that anybody who doesn't believe in God will burn for eternity in Hell - oh well.
      If one of my 'friends' 'extreme' view were that non-Caucasians must be killed... well, I certainly couldn't see them as a 'friend'.. not on facebook, and not in real life.

      Now obviously in your case there's at least the religious vs gay friends, and some of one may be intolerant of the other. I don't see this as 'extreme', though.

    28. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      If GP has "friends" who are doing things to him that he doesn't like, that's reason enough to unfriend those "friends".

      You took that idea and expanded it into "GP should only have friends who think like he does", which is not the idea at all. You were damn insulting ("This is narcissism") too. I see nothing in GP post that deserved this snide attitude.

      Rather than immediately unfriending, GP could contact those "friends" and say "please don't add me to any more groups". If they continue after the request, THEN unfriend them.

      It seems surprising that Facebook doesn't have a way to say "get my approval before adding me to any groups" or "don't let anyone else add me to any groups". Since those options are not on the table, the only thing left is "if someone is adding me to groups, I will unfriend that person".

    29. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by robsku · · Score: 1

      I strongly disagree. I have religious friends, I have gay friends, I have some few extreme guys as friends.

      Did you ever consider staying friends with these people in real life, but not on facebook?

      And with "these people", I don't mean all religious friends, all gay friends, and all friends with extreme views, but only those that would add you to groups without your consent...

      ...it's a bit hard to know who those would be before they do it...

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    30. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by ArsenneLupin · · Score: 1

      ...it's a bit hard to know who those would be before they do it...

      True enough. But once they do it, you know it. And hopefully you remove them from your facebook friend lists by then. And despite Murphy, usually their first blunder will be big enough to be eye-opening, yet small enough not to be life-changing...

    31. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Lisias · · Score: 1

      I didn't understood as you did.

      I taked what I quoted:

      f you're being added to 'fairly extreme view' groups, then I guess you have 'fairly extreme view' facebook 'friends'. If you'd rather not be part of those groups, you may wish to review the status of that 'friendship'.

      So, it appears to me that the GP says that if a friend includes you in a group you strongly disagrees with, you should unfriend the guys.

      What I strongly disagree. I would unfriend them if they repeatly do it to me against my will.I don't take offense being associated to a gay group by a gay friend - after all, he's a friend of mine and can think of me as a supporter or something like that.

      And being a friend of mine, I just need to explain that I'm a friend of his/her, not his/her cause.

      Of course if he/she insists on doing that, my reaction will be different. But he/she would not be a true friend neither, so unfriend him/her would not be a problem.

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    32. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by Lisias · · Score: 1

      If all your "friends" think as you, act as you and looks as you, this is not friendship. This is narcissism.

      You took that idea and expanded it into "GP should only have friends who think like he does", which is not the idea at all. You were damn insulting ("This is narcissism") too. I see nothing in GP post that deserved this snide attitude.

      "Or you are a spin doctor, or you can't read English for saying that". This is insulting.

      "You're a narcissist for thinking this way," This is insulting.

      "If you killed Kenny, you're a bastard" is not insulting, unless, of course, you had killed Kenny. :-)

      It appears to me that by insinuating I'm being offensive, you're, effectively, stating the GP as narcissistic. It was my intention to give him the benefit of the doubt - it's not impossible that he/she intended to mean what you said after.

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    33. Re:Stopped using facebook 8 months ago by robsku · · Score: 1

      Or in case of accident, that is the one adding you to group doing it with good intentions and you know him/her to be reasonable to understand why it was bad you can just have a talk with him/her... that's how things are resolved in real life too...

      However the problem remains, and there is little reason to expect average user to understand it if not heard of it before that facebook, which even though anyone with half brain understands to be doing this for money gained harvesting your information, is so arrogant that it actually would not fix an issue such as this - even after accidents like this. And they are assholes for it, they should not be used, but most don't really understand this issue that well and as said: they are assholes, they are doing wrong here, and it is an issue no matter how one puts it.

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  3. Privacy is the new oil by roidzrus · · Score: 2

    Privacy will soon be the most sought-after world commodity, and unfortunately we can't get in the middle east.

    1. Re:Privacy is the new oil by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You cannpt get it that easily in the West either. There is exactly one country left that upheld human rights and democracy, and that has been under continuous propaganda assault by the US (multiple reasons - one is distraction from the role that Wall Street played in creating yet another global economic crisis, another one is because that nation was so stable it drew in all the capital Wall Street wanted its hands on to waste).

      These days, every time I hear the words "terrorist" or "tax avoidance" I know I'm being lied to.

    2. Re:Privacy is the new oil by tooyoung · · Score: 2

      It is always interesting to see the difference in comments regarding privacy when reading Facebook and Google stories. When discussing Facebook, it seems that our privacy is being assaulted and it is a massive concern. On the recent Google privacy stories, the most common comments that I see are about how great targeted advertising is and there is no concern about companies collecting information.

    3. Re:Privacy is the new oil by TheRaven64 · · Score: 1

      Probably because Google is more potential evil at this point. They harvest and correlate a huge amount of data, but they don't seem to do much with it - they aren't even providing relevant adverts. Facebook, on the other hand, has a long and established track record of abusing any information that it manages to acquire and a mission statement of monetising absolutely anything it can.

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    4. Re:Privacy is the new oil by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Are you kidding?

      If you believe that "the most common comments ... are about how great targeted advertising is and there is no concern about companies collecting information." than you clearly aren't reading very carefully.

    5. Re:Privacy is the new oil by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      It is always interesting to see the difference in comments regarding privacy when reading Facebook and Google stories. When discussing Facebook, it seems that our privacy is being assaulted and it is a massive concern. On the recent Google privacy stories, the most common comments that I see are about how great targeted advertising is and there is no concern about companies collecting information.

      Not that I agree with your premise but, the difference is that Google leaks your private information to corporations full of people who (probably) don't care about you as an individual while Facebook leaks your private information to everybody you know.

  4. Privacy "loophole" on Facebook? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I'm shocked!

          - Malory, f, 27

    1. Re:Privacy "loophole" on Facebook? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'm shocked!

      - Malory, f, 27

      me too! lets start a pillow fight!

      - Gemma, (pretend) f, 21

  5. "... revealed the sexual preferences of users" by Penurious+Penguin · · Score: 5, Funny

    That they like to be f*cked by corporate champions?
    Well I could've told you that.

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    1. Re:"... revealed the sexual preferences of users" by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Too True.

    2. Re:"... revealed the sexual preferences of users" by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      There are more appropriate websites for talking about your fantasies, you know.

  6. Better title by cheesecake23 · · Score: 5, Interesting

    I preferred the title given to the Facebook spokesman in the summary originally written by the submitter:

    Facebook spokesprick Andrew Noyes responded with a statement blaming the users ...

    1. Re:Better title by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      This.
      Was very disappointed when I saw your comment and then realized it had been changed.

    2. Re:Better title by TheGratefulNet · · Score: 1

      even BETTER title:

      "you're holding it wrong"

      (sorry...)

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  7. Facebook Management is Correct by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Facebook spokesman Andrew Noyes responded with a statement blaming the users: 'Our hearts go out to these young people. Their unfortunate experience reminds us that we must continue our work to empower and educate users about our robust privacy controls.'"

    Facebook management is correct: it is the students fault for not better understanding "privacy" on Facebook.

    If these students were intelligent they would have never signed up with Facebook in the first place. It's their own fault. Doing what everybody else does just encourages stupidity.

    1. Re:Facebook Management is Correct by Wandering+Voice · · Score: 1

      I have to agree with A. Coward, Facebook has been synonymous with privacy conflicts since it opened its registration to the general public. That people willingly share personal information, which may have serious effect on their lives, even legally, is beyond me. As the Facebook spokesperson said, the failure is on the user and that Facebook's robust privacy controls have worked as intended.

      I believe this is a true case of 'It's not a bug, it's a feature', in that while it may affect users negatively, those who are mining Facebook's databases, their customers, are getting more of the information they seek.

  8. Re:Ignorance is not a defense by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

    Just curious, do you expect your bank to publish your SSN online too, just because you posted it on their public website to open your account?
     
    RTFA/RTFS, if you are wondering what this has to do with the topic at hand.

  9. Robust, huh? by Quinn_Inuit · · Score: 4, Insightful

    I wonder how fast they'll fix this issue after major political figures start getting added to "Gay Studs" and "Scouting for Sex" groups?

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    1. Re:Robust, huh? by sjukfan · · Score: 1

      I was just toying with the idea of adding all my friends to Cottaging United or similar group.

    2. Re:Robust, huh? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Funny

      I wonder how fast they'll fix this issue after major political figures start getting added to "Gay Studs" and "Scouting for Sex" groups?

      Most of the Republicans are in those groups already.

    3. Re:Robust, huh? by amiga3D · · Score: 1

      I gotta admit that's amusing.

    4. Re:Robust, huh? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Sounds like a job for /b/. Who's telling them?

    5. Re:Robust, huh? by ArsenneLupin · · Score: 1
      *Woosh*

      I think grand parent intended to joke that these Republicans willingly are in those groups already...

    6. Re:Robust, huh? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      If the parent had said Democrats, would it have been modded Funny, or Troll?

  10. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Informative

    It's not that one of them "handed it over" it's that she got added to a group (Queer Chorus, a choir group she had recently joined) whose name alone exposed what she was hiding from her father (among others).

  11. A bank doesn't have a TOS that specifically by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    ... tells you that everything you post on the FREE service is PUBLIC.

    1. Re:A bank doesn't have a TOS that specifically by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Facebook doesnt either.

  12. Not Gay by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Not using facebook nor using iDevices == Not Gay
    Offcourse it also means no interaction with other humans.

    1. Re:Not Gay by yacc143 · · Score: 1

      Actually, FB is not that much quality interaction.

    2. Re:Not Gay by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Nonsense. There are plenty of Republican politicians who don't use Facebook or iDevices.

  13. Plausible deniability by mpeskett · · Score: 5, Interesting

    Maybe I'm missing something, but if the loophole here is that you can be added to a group without your involvement or active consent, then surely that gives you an out when your ignorant homophobe of a father sees that you're associated with a queer choir group - say it was a case of mistaken identity or a prank or a troll or anything else you like.

    That said, I don't think it's a non-issue when group membership can leak actual or apparent private information; ought to be a simple fix to make it ask before you're added to any group and then the whole problem goes away without anyone getting interrogated about groups they're attached to. The existence of potential deniability doesn't remove the issue, just provides at least some way of coping with problems casued until it's actually fixed.

    1. Re:Plausible deniability by BradleyUffner · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Maybe I'm missing something, but if the loophole here is that you can be added to a group without your involvement or active consent, then surely that gives you an out when your ignorant homophobe of a father sees that you're associated with a queer choir group - say it was a case of mistaken identity or a prank or a troll or anything else you like.

      That said, I don't think it's a non-issue when group membership can leak actual or apparent private information; ought to be a simple fix to make it ask before you're added to any group and then the whole problem goes away without anyone getting interrogated about groups they're attached to. The existence of potential deniability doesn't remove the issue, just provides at least some way of coping with problems casued until it's actually fixed.

      Ignorant homophobes don't often require much proof.

    2. Re:Plausible deniability by 1u3hr · · Score: 2

      say it was a case of mistaken identity or a prank or a troll or anything else you like.

      It's one thing to not tell your parents something, it's quite another to directly lie to them. Besides, it would probably be pretty easy to verify the facts, e.g. look at the gay group's site, see picture of your daughter at an event.

    3. Re:Plausible deniability by ArsenneLupin · · Score: 1

      Maybe I'm missing something, but if the loophole here is that you can be added to a group without your involvement or active consent, then surely that gives you an out when your ignorant homophobe of a father sees that you're associated with a queer choir group - say it was a case of mistaken identity or a prank or a troll or anything else you like.

      Still awkward. Some LGBT people are in a situation where they consider coming out, but are not yet ready for it now. For them, the most comfortable situation is not to lie about it, but simply avoid the conversation.

      Your solution would force them to lie, and make their later coming out (once they feel they are ready) more awkward.

      O, and group memberships are just one way how such info can leak. Other ways are invitations to gay events (when you browse the event, you can see all invitees, even if they didn't accept to join yet), photo tags in obviously gay contexts, or lots of gay friends.

    4. Re:Plausible deniability by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      It's one thing to not tell your parents something, it's quite another to directly lie to them.

      On top of that, she'd need to lie about who she is, which sucks.

      As an aside, dear old dad may have known full well that his princess was gay, but having it posted where others could see it might have been more embarrassment than he could bear.

      Facebook is applying the same rules to all affinity groups, whether it's "I love Target, Unilever, and anyone else who will give me coupons!" or "My sexual orientation could get me crucified on a fencepost!" That's crap, it's irresponsible, and they need to fix it.

  14. Thi Just In From The Dept. Of No Shit Sherlock... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    If you tell someone your secret, it can get out.

    If you tell Facebook your secret, it's not a secret anymore and you're a moron for thinking it would be.

    Did it really take this long for The Journal to figure this out?

  15. Hey, PR drone, read this! by girlintraining · · Score: 5, Insightful

    'Our hearts go out to these young people. Their unfortunate experience reminds us that we must continue our work to empower and educate users about our robust privacy controls.'"

    How about instead of giving them some false sympathies deep fried and battered in guilt, served with a side of buzzwords, you put your money where your mouth is? You people don't have a heart to speak of, so it's not going out anywhere -- so why not send them something you actually value, like the cash you earned in extra publicity and selling of their personal data after you outed them?

    Your entire business model is built on invasive marketing, selling people's personal data to the highest bidder, and despite numerous high-profile security and privacy failings, including pictures that don't get deleted off servers and remain publicly accessible for years after they've been pulled from user profiles and indefinate storage of all data ever submitted to facebook, even after it has been deleted and the profile removed, you people still have the gumption to say you have "robust" privacy controls? Screw you. Give the kids some money, then maybe I'll believe you actually give a damn.

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    1. Re:Hey, PR drone, read this! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Even if they do as you suggest, it won't be an indication that Facebook cares about privacy. Rather, it will indicate that Facebook cares about bad publicity and how it will affect their bottom line. It would just be a cost of doing business.

      If privacy was a concern, they would, oh, stop doing all the bad things you mentioned and give their users some privacy.

    2. Re:Hey, PR drone, read this! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Facebook privacy will bust at anytime. Meanwhile Timeline gets more and more nonlinear and more and more unreadable, plus stories in places like maps don't propagate to Timeline.

      Facebook: if it's not broken, break it, then panic with PR speak after the bugs introduced are exploited and exposed in the press.

      Meanwhile, LinkedIn keeps trying to be like Facebook but somehow doesn't have all these sloppy coding bugs. So how well is that XP manifesto pair programming really working? Apparently, not so well.

    3. Re:Hey, PR drone, read this! by AngryNick · · Score: 1

      'Our hearts go out to these young people. Their unfortunate experience reminds us that we must continue our work to empower and educate users about our robust privacy controls.'"

      So where, exactly, is the setting that allows me to prevent others from adding me to a group without my permission (or prevent it from appearing to others)? I can't seem to find it under "security settings", "privacy settings"...or is it on the "account settings" or "basic info" pages? Perhaps I'm just not looking in the right place?

  16. This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by NixieBunny · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Sexual orientation is becoming less important, especially to the younger generation. Unfortunately, there are still people, even parents, to whom it matters. Those people are the problem, not Facebook. Facebook is just one more avenue for a person's orientation to be revealed.

    The best defense against your parents finding out about your sexual orientation from someone else will always be to tell them yourself, from whatever distance is safe.

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    1. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

      you're missing the point if you believe sexual orientation is the core of this story

    2. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      Sexual orientation is becoming less important, especially to the younger generation. Unfortunately, there are still people, even parents, to whom it matters. Those people are the problem, not Facebook. Facebook is just one more avenue for a person's orientation to be revealed.

      The best defense against your parents finding out about your sexual orientation from someone else will always be to tell them yourself, from whatever distance is safe.

      Unless of course, you happen to live in a middle eastern (or other) country where such things are highly illegal, admitting that may very well result in your death.

    3. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by Dogtanian · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Sexual orientation is becoming less important, especially to the younger generation.

      Try telling that to someone who lives in a country where being gay can still get you killed, such as present-day Iraq, Pakistan or Jamaica.

      As far as I'm concerned, it's far preferable (and I'd argue, desirable) that people like this girl get their fingers prominently burned so that people realise the dangers of organising one's life (and secrets) via Facebook.

      While it could be argued that this wasn't directly Facebook's fault, and that social networking will never be risk-free when it comes to information sharing, it's a fact that Facebook have always paid lip service to privacy, while clearly holding it in contempt.

      If they really cared, they could have made the privacy settings far simpler and more manageable, and would not have changed their behaviour without notice (as they've done in the past) to expose previously private information.

      They make play of "helping" users manage the privacy complexities that are an (intentional) result of their policies. Most of us know how insincere this is, but I'm quite sure a lot of people out there *do* believe this.

      So, as I said, better- and indeed a good thing- that people like this girl prominently suffer unpleasant- but not fatal- consequences and serve as an example to others. Particularly those to who a similar mistake *could* be fatal.

      The best defense against your parents finding out about your sexual orientation from someone else will always be to tell them yourself, from whatever distance is safe.

      That's not always practical if the "safe" distance is in another country.

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    4. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by amiga3D · · Score: 4, Interesting

      I have to wonder about parents who haven't figured out their child is gay. I guess maybe some don't want to believe it so choose to be blind. My daughter dated, well...went out with a guy that I pretty much figured was harmless, at least to her, off the mark. I told her he was sweet and she just looked at me and I knew she knew and they were just friends. His parents however went bonkers when upon going off to college he came out of the closet in a big, big way. I still don't get how they missed it.

    5. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by b4dc0d3r · · Score: 2

      Try telling that to someone who lives in a country where being gay can still get you killed, such as present-day Iraq, Pakistan or Jamaica.

      Surely you recognise the word "becoming", and the distinction between the younger generation, who do not control the laws, and the elders who do? GP post is dead-on:

      Sexual orientation is becoming less important, especially to the younger generation.

      That's not always practical if the "safe" distance is in another country.

      If a defense is impossible, you have to fall back on the next best defense. That doesn't change the best defense. The best defense against your parents finding out about your sexual orientation from someone else will always be to tell them yourself, from whatever distance is safe.

      Facebook is social networking, and people have to realize that their socializations will be revealed. Socializing in public will reveal these sorts of things unintentionally, online or in person. Facebook's position is the only sane one in this case, since people do need to be educated about this sort of thing. Facebook shirks that duty while acknowledging it, since their business model depends on you revealing this information, at least to FB if not to your friends.

      And soon it won't matter. Not soon enough, but tolerance is growing in general.

    6. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'm glad some people still have standards when it comes to homosexuality. I and many other people find it to be very disturbing.

    7. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by Dogtanian · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Surely you recognise the word "becoming"

      Yes, I do. Iraq has "become" a significantly more dangerous place for homosexuals in the past few years. It's grossly blinkered to assume that the rest of the world has all followed the United States and Europe, and it's also dangerously naive to assume that the direction of public opinion couldn't change.

      If a defense is impossible, you have to fall back on the next best defense. That doesn't change the best defense. The best defense against your parents finding out about your sexual orientation from someone else will always be to tell them yourself, from whatever distance is safe.

      That's an idiotic comeback. If you live in a country where people are prepared to kill members of their own family over "honour" (translation; face-saving murder) and such things, then telling one's parents about such things isn't the "best defense".

      Yeah, it'd be nice if everyone could tell their parents about such things, and it'd be nice if we all had a pony. Meanwhile, some people have to live in shitholes where a mentally-backward Christian girl in her early teens is threatened with her life because she allegedly burned a koran- though it's just as likely a witchhunt incited by religious leaders- or another teenage girl is shot for speaking up in favour of education for her peers.

      Facebook is social networking, and people have to realize that their socializations will be revealed.

      The risk will always exist. Facebook's behaviour is comptemptible because they pay lip service to mitigating it while (as you agree) intentionally undermining privacy and making things worse than they need be for their own self-interest.

      Facebook's position is the only sane one in this case, since people do need to be educated about this sort of thing.

      I'm not sure what you're trying to say here. Is it that- given that Facebook are intentionally undermining privacy, because their business model depends on it- they should educate people about the privacy controls anyway.

      While this might technically make logical sense at some level, it's absolutely fucked up. Nor does it take into account the fact that Facebook aren't being open- that is, they try to give the impression they care about privacy and giving people the tools to manage it, when they're not open about the fact they're really doing the complete opposite.

      And soon it won't matter. Not soon enough, but tolerance is growing in general.

      Indeed, and (for example) Jamaican society tolerates the burning and killing of gay men, so we should all encourage people there to come out to their parents.

      When they're dead, it'll comfort them to know that tolerance is growing in general.

      Maybe in 50 years time, things will be better there, but it takes a peculiarly tolerance-spoiled type of insensitivity to assume that this makes it okay for everyone around the world to have their secrets revealed today.

      Frankly, I don't think we'll ever live in a world where we won't have the need- and shouldn't have the right- to some level of privacy. If Facebook wants to undermine our privacy while weasel-ishly pretending to do the opposite, I'm quite happy for people's attention to be drawn to this.

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    8. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by betterunixthanunix · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Sexual orientation is becoming less important, especially to the younger generation

      You are hanging out with too many hipsters. Try hanging out with some working class youth before making these sorts of comments. Fear and hatred of homosexuals is still very much alive, even among the younger generation.

      Those people are the problem, not Facebook. Facebook is just one more avenue for a person's orientation to be revealed.

      Meanwhile, in reality, there are people whose homosexuality is a closely guarded secret that only their closest friends know about, because they fear being harassed or even disowned by their families.

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    9. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by betterunixthanunix · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I have to wonder about parents who haven't figured out their child is gay.

      Here is some insight: a large number of people believe that homosexuality is something that a person chooses, and that like all "sinful behaviors," that choice is motivated by a lack of Christianity in a person's life. For many people, the concept of their children -- who come to church every week, who do not watch television, who threw away the condoms their school gave them, and so forth -- being gay is beyond the scope of possibility. They firmly believe that their children are no more likely to be gay than to rob an elderly woman to get money for heroin.

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    10. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      It's an axiom that those who are homosexual choose to homosexual. It's not genetic, no matter what pseudo-science may try to present as supposed genetic evidence.

      Simply put, an axiom cannot be disproved. So it's not a belief, it's already accepted as true it is their own choice to be gay, just as a person chooses to be heterosexual.

    11. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by marka63 · · Score: 2

      It's 100% Facebook's fault. They are the ones that designed the system to not require confirmed opt in before telling the world that you are in a group.
      This was a foreseeable consequence of that design decision.

    12. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by amiga3D · · Score: 1

      But all behavior is choice isn't it? I might feel drawn to have sex with a 12 year old girl but to do so would be my choice. In fact most child predators literally can not stop what they feel, only how they react to it. Now before you start to foam at the mouth I do not equate homosexuality between two consenting adults to pedophilia. I only use it as an example of another type of deviant sexual behavior. Human sexuality is a strange and complex thing. Some people like to be tied up, some to be pissed on, some play games where they dress up, it's a weird world. I'm pretty ambivalent about it all but I think everyone of course chooses what they do based on their desires. I don't condemn people for their choices, at least as long as they don't hurt another, but I don't see any reason to accept abnormal behavior as normal either. I live and let live but I really don't understand homosexuality and see no reason to try to. It's not part of my world. The only thing that bothers me is this constant drive by some people to declare it normal and accepted behavior. It's not any more normal than people that like to be whipped or shit on. As long as I am not involved it's really irrelevant though. I neither accept or reject it.

    13. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by amiga3D · · Score: 2

      I don't agree. I think it's plain that people can be born to have sexual desires for the same sex just as some people are born blind or without arms or legs. A person born with this condition would of course be less likely to act out their desires in a restrictive culture. In a more liberal environment they could obviously be more free to indulge their desires.

    14. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      How do you define `homosexual'? Is it what you feel or how you act on those feelings. If a man who finds that every time he falls in love it is with another man chooses to fight those feelings, even tries to shut them out of his awareness completely, and not start a relationship or have sex with other men, do you call him homosexual or not?

      If it is about the act then the question whether or not homosexuality is genetic is about as useful as the question whether or not driving a car is genetic. Would this man who fights his feelings ever have done so in a society that has no problem with homosexuality? Probably not, how he acts is determined by culture or religion rather than by genetics. If you want to discuss the genetic basis of homosexuality focus on how people feel.

      And that is not a choice. Assuming for the moment you're a man, do you get up in the morning and decide that today you will fancy fat women with a strong personality, because yesterday you chose to fancy skinny women who are shy? And in the subway you see one of those women you chose to fancy today and you are smitten, while the skinny shy women next to her doesn't invoke any feelings, but yesterday you would have had strong feelings for her? Do you have this kind of control over whom you fancy? For me, everyone I know, and in every story I ever heard or read about falling in love, it was not a choice. If you happen to fall in love with people of your own sex it's not a choice either.

      But it may not be genetic, no gene has been found that codes for homosexuality as far as I'm aware. And I suspect homo- and heterosexuality are just extremes on a bisexual scale. There are neurobiologists (not pseudo-scientists I think) who see it as a consequence of influences during early fetal development. That would mean that a child's future sexual orientation is not genetic but nevertheless determined before birth. Fun fact: the more older brothers a man has the more likely he is to be homosexual. Sons of the same mother, that is, they don't have to be raised together for the effect to occur, and step- or adopted brothers don't increase the likelyhood. That points to a biological explanation, a prenatal factor, and a possible explanation is that the mother's immune system responds to succeeding male fetuses and influences how they develop. You can read about it here and here.

    15. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by Alioth · · Score: 2

      I don't agree. You don't just choose one day to be sexually attracted to either the same, opposite sex (or perhaps both), you just are attracted to whatever your innate attraction is. Being gay is no more a learned behaviour than being straight.

      There's now very good evidence that a great deal of your sexual preference is genetic in nature, and most of the remainder is environmental biological (important: not social) occurences during development.

      Indeed there was a recent episode of "Redes" (a science programme on Spanish TV) that covered the role that genes have in personality development including sexual orientation. The version of the programme with the interviews in English is here: http://www.rtve.es/alacarta/videos/redes/redes-genes-regulan-personalidad/1539751/ (unfortunately if you don't speak Spanish, the explanatory segments aren't translated) if you want to learn more.

    16. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by silentcoder · · Score: 1

      > It's not any more normal than people that like to be whipped or shit on

      For that statement to be true you first have to define "normal". Pretty much the entire rest of your post is about all the reasons why this, basically, impossible.
      You can't have "abnormal" without some a conclusive line of what is "normal" - and when it comes to human behavior, the only thing you can say with any certainty is that there is NO normal.

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    17. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by dkleinsc · · Score: 1

      The interesting question is what's "deviant" versus "normal", because the researchers who've looked into this stuff have made it pretty clear that acts that were once considered "deviant" are actually quite common. When you look at what religious authorities and the like have approved of, the only choices that seem to be universally acceptable (for those not part of a religious clergy that demands celibacy) is:
      1. You can have sex only with exactly one person over the course of your lifetime
      2. ... of the opposite sex
      3. ... from the same social, religious, cultural, racial, etc background as you
      4. ... at least 16 years old (this age has varied a bit, going as low as 14 and as high as 22)
      5. ... after you've gone through some sort of wedding ceremony
      6. ... with the approval of the woman's father (or if her father is dead, her uncle, brother, or some other male relative who's taken over the role)
      7. ... not using birth control to prevent pregnancy
      8. ... in the missionary position
      9. ... and no concern whatsoever with whether the woman had an orgasm.

      No society in human history has ever gotten even close to the point where this was universal. The Puritans did everything they could to make that happen, and there were still lots of babies born less than 9 months after the wedding, couples eloping, and lots of adultery. Everything else has been considered deviance at some point in human history, but even the risk of being killed if caught doesn't stop people from having different kinds of sex.

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    18. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by Slashdot+Parent · · Score: 1

      The best defense against your parents finding out about your sexual orientation from someone else will always be to tell them yourself, from whatever distance is safe.

      Dude. She's still in college, presumably still being supported by her parents. She knows her parents better than you do, and as crazy as it sounds, parents have cut off support from their children for coming out. She clearly saw that as a risk, hence not coming out to them.

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    19. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by Slashdot+Parent · · Score: 1

      I guess maybe some don't want to believe it so choose to be blind.

      I think that's a lot of it, but also, some people are very good at staying in the closet.

      A fraternity brother of mine, I had always suspected was gay. But he kept hooking up with and dating chicks, so who's going to go up to him and say, "Dude, are you gay?" I just assumed he was Metrosexual, as the kids used to say. Well, his sophomore year he kind of disappeared from social activities, and then his junior year, he came back but out of the closet this time. Seemed much happier being true to himself.

      But that's beside the point. The point is, if a gay guy wants to hide behind a wall of pussy, I think that's a pretty effective way to conceal his sexual orientation. It's not all willful blindness.

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    20. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I don't agree. You don't just choose one day to be sexually attracted to either the same, opposite sex (or perhaps both), you just are attracted to whatever your innate attraction is.

      The grandparent doesn't agree either - they we're pointing out that *others* view things this way.

    21. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by fatphil · · Score: 1

      "I don't see any reason to accept abnormal behavior as normal either. I live and let live but I really don't understand homosexuality and see no reason to try to. It's not part of my world."

      How are you defining "normal" and "abnormal"? Homosexuality is everywhere in your world. If you can name a species of common higher animal where homosexual behaviour has never been recorded, then I'll name several where it has. You will run out of examples before I will. Homosexuality is completely normal in situations where species are no longer under great pressure to survive. There's no need to fuck just for offspring any more, non-generative fucking's a perfectly good use of time and energy too now.

      The strongest definition for "abnormal" you can really justify is "not as popular as the stuff I call 'normal'". But by that standard, playing chess isn't normal. Playing the piano isn't normal. Posting on slashdot isn't normal. Braiding your hair isn't normal. Eating at Wendy's isn't normal. All these things are to you "abnormal", and almost nothing is normal. Is your world made out of ticky-tacky?

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    22. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by amiga3D · · Score: 1

      I think that normal is what most people do. That is always the baseline. I really believe sex is a built in drive meant to cause procreation and I fail to see where homosexuality brings procreation about. In modern society though sex is used as recreation thanks to cheap and easy birth control. A drive meant to bond couples and bring about children basically. Leaving out any moral or religious argument which here on slashdot is anathema anyway, from a strictly darwinistic standpoint I see no "survival of the species" reason for homosexuality and if it were genetic I find it hard to understand why it would not have long ago been bred out of the human race. As I say it's not a really important issue with me but I've always kind of wondered how such a pointless trait would be a useful feature from a darwinistic standpoint. Heterosexual=Children and passing on one's genetic material and Homosexuality=No Children and no passing of one's genetic material.

    23. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by amiga3D · · Score: 1

      Ah, you missed the point really. I didn't say choose to be attracted but rather to choose how you react to that attraction. I knew one guy who lived a heterosexual lifestyle, raised children and when they were grown left his wife to be with a male lover. I do note that the guy was the husband in that relationship also. I know his son pretty well and he's generally not very close to his father, they speak but that's about it. That's one case, another man I know was in a homosexual relationship while a young adult, college years and shortly after college when he suddenly fell in love with a woman and married her. He now has 4 grown children and really seems happy as he is now. As I said before, human sexuality is complex. I don't know that I buy the genetic argument, at least not fully. All the studies I've seen are inconclusive at best, too many people who show the "trait" are straight and too many who don't show the trait are homosexuals. There is, in my view, a lot more to it than genetics.

    24. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by fatphil · · Score: 1

      > I really believe sex is a built in drive meant to cause procreation and I fail to see where homosexuality brings procreation about.

      So all contraception, including the rhythm method, is as wrong as homosexuality?
      And having sex once per weeks guarantees that at least 3/4 of your fucks are as wrong as as homosexuality?
      And having sex after the menopause is as wrong as homosexuality?
      And masturbation is as wrong as homosexuality?
      And blow jobs, and hand jobs are as wrong as homosexuality?
      And deciding to not have sex, but just have a cuddle, is as bad as homosexuality?

      None of the above cause children and the passing of onees genes, you must judge them all to be equivalent to homosexuality using the criteria you yourself present.

      > Leaving out any [...] religious argument

      WTF? You are channelling the dead popes, and I claim my 5 UKP.

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    25. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by robsku · · Score: 1

      I don't agree. You don't just choose one day to be sexually attracted to either the same, opposite sex (or perhaps both), you just are attracted to whatever your innate attraction is. Being gay is no more a learned behaviour than being straight.

      Yeah, so you can act or not act on your sexual orientation, hell you can even fake to others (and often yourself) that you're sexual orientation is something else, what you don't get to choose is your sexual orientation. That's what you are saying here - and I agree, but it seems that you're trying to use these words to claim that because you can choose to not act on it means that your sexual orientation is a choice.

      It's a logical fallacy.

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    26. Re:This issue is slowly becoming a non-issue by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'm in my 30s, MTF trans (though I haven't transitioned since I don't think I can pass and can't bear the idea of constantly being on display to be mocked), lesbian (female stuck in a male body and attracted to females) and largely in the closet... I've known since the time I was 3. I just finally told my mom a couple months ago and my dad will never be able to know. I'm very skilled at hiding it from people since, from an early age, I knew my survival depended on it. That said, once you do know, you can see the obvious cracks in the persona I let people think I am. I spent a long time trying to fool myself too, though looking back, my feeble efforts were laughable. About a dozen people know all together and none of them could have ever guessed it prior to my having told them.

      Some people are very easy to spot... others are very adept at hiding it from everyone, sometimes even themselves. I wouldn't be too quick to judge others, which is exactly what you're doing.

  17. informative by Faisal+Rehman · · Score: 0

    this is informative but facebook success is because it is viral and viral needs to be voilating privacy and user's right

  18. Can't read? by NixieBunny · · Score: 4, Insightful

    The person didn't reveal the information themselves. Facebook allowed someone else to do so. That's the whole point of the article.

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    1. Re:Can't read? by Doubting+Sapien · · Score: 1

      Can't read indeed. The article (most of it, anyway) is behind a pay wall. Care to do a cut and paste for us?

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  19. Advertisements by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I don't have anything marked under "interested in", and I get a lot of gay related ads. I'm not sure what other items on my (also very restricted) profile cause this (liking Torchwood and equality campaigns?). I can't open Facebook on a campus computer without risking someone seeing some crazy ad. The worst thus far was one for HIV positive online dating. That one was wrong on oh-so-many levels. Something should be done about the evasiveness of these advertisements too.

  20. Read the TOS by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    ... IT DOES (just not with the exact words).

    1. Re:Read the TOS by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      It does not. I did read the TOS. It does not say that directly or indirectly.

  21. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by LinuxIsGarbage · · Score: 5, Interesting

    At first I thought it was "Interest in" becoming public information. If that was the case the easy solution is to leave it empty, but it wasn't.

    The "loophole" allowed someone to add them to "Queer Chorus" discussion group.

    I laugh at the talking head that talked about "robust privacy controls". I locked up my account so that no one except friends can see anything. Or so I thought. Sometime recently (changeover to timeline?) all new posts started becoming public, and I had to re-lock it down. As I notice searching people on Facebook, it seems there's lots of people who previously intended to keep their profile private now have public timelines. These sure are robust controls!

    My heart goes out to these students and their intolerant environment.

  22. Got a problem with it? Don't use it. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    We all know about how much facebook can know about you, it starts with what you tell them. Your facebook page isn't really yours but a profile of yourself which you volunteer information. It's basically a wiki with your information, and this is CLEARLY stated in the TOS/PP. You don't really own anything that's on facebook, facebook owns that information which is why they can rightfully sell your personal info, gather it, and make assumptions. The free market is a brilliant thing, but there aren't many brilliant people in this world. They should have by now, learned to read what they get themselves into (it's not small / fine print) and blatantly obvious. You can also control a lot of the privacy settings. I don't care much about facebook but I do think that people is the problem, not facebook, just as Google is not the problem, people are. If you have information to hide, write in a diary because the internet is the last place where your information is safe.

    1. Re:Got a problem with it? Don't use it. by Sique · · Score: 1

      You either didn't read the article or you didn't get the point of it. It was nothing she posted or put in her profile on Facebook, that outed her to her parents. So none of your points is valid in this case.

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    2. Re:Got a problem with it? Don't use it. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      At least the GP's premise is correct: If these people hadn't used Facebook, then they would not have "joined" the queer chior. It would have then required a much more far fetched set of circumstances for Facebook to be involved in the great out-your-daughter's-secret-sexual-preferences plot. Like someone commenting in such a way that her father could see about the [offline] joining of the queer chior. Remembering, all the while, that the "victim" isn't on Facebook, so couldn't possibly take part, making the whole thing that much more malicious, which is an entirely different problem.

  23. Rubbish! by bogaboga · · Score: 3, Interesting

    "Their unfortunate experience reminds us that we must continue our work to empower and educate users about our robust privacy controls."

    To this statement I say: Rubbish!

    It's just standard boilerplate rhetoric. It's sad, sad indeed. But can one please remind me of what I am losing by intentionally refusing to join Facebook?

    I should add that even without Facebook, I am doing pretty good so far. What am I missing?

    1. Re:Rubbish! by jones_supa · · Score: 1

      I should add that even without Facebook, I am doing pretty good so far. What am I missing?

      An easy way to contact pretty much anyone in your vicinity.

    2. Re:Rubbish! by TheGratefulNet · · Score: 4, Insightful

      in reverse, though, also works: anyone that can *only* get to me by FB, I won't want contacting me.

      not kidding, not being snarky. its an excellent filter, not being on FB.

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    3. Re:Rubbish! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      An easy way to contact pretty much anyone in your vicinity.

      Shouting seems to work fairly well

    4. Re:Rubbish! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I should add that even without Facebook, I am doing pretty good so far. What am I missing?

      An easy way to contact pretty much anyone in your vicinity.

      Yeah, for what price?

    5. Re:Rubbish! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      I have a phone. That works just fine. There is no point to facebook, other than vanity, being passive aggressive or hugely socially awkward. All of which are personality FLAWS. Facebook is a crutch to allow a fucked up generation of people continue being fucked up and feel "normal". Facebook is a disease. If you find it useful, you are sick. You just don't know it because you are surrounded by other sick people.

    6. Re:Rubbish! by vlueboy · · Score: 1

      If a long lost friend gives you a call right now after 15 years of NOT trying to reach you, it is creepy because he founds you in the moderate obscurity of a phonebook. Compare to a personal visit from a neighbor who suddenly knocks on your door after years of being invisible to you --this is really creepy in US suburbs where you never see people on the streets. In both cases, expect the worst and try to figure out their intentions.

      Since websites allow people to join whenever they feel like joining, you cannot expect the network effect to immediately push all your would-be callers to reach out to you at joining time. THEN, it seems Facebook has unwritten protocol about relaxing the creep factor mentioned above. You have the choice to reject long lost friends who are trying to reconnect, if that's not your cup of tea for certain people.

      Now, here is the issue: in the pre-facebook world, you were limited by phonebook availability for your location, as well as the fact that many people's names are initialed rather than printed wholly, so there is a LOT of guessing even if your name is unique. Online phone and email lookup tools did not solve the problem, once they took these listings online. Also, some places ask you to pay money to provide a phone listing anyway, which again veers into the creepy / stalker-ish side of the matter again.

      Voluntary registries like classmates.com just do not have the appeal and critical mass or trust that Facebook acquired. Even in the myspace days, aliases were common and I'm sure non-technical people did not expect to be bothered with searching.
      Facebook changed the expectation. You and I refuse to join, but it is a pain that unlike 20 years ago, non-members can verify that so-and-so is a member via the public search tool, but that there is zero way to leave a quick "hey, dude, I remember something funny you said once, and wanted a quick one-time ring to let you know you were sooo right. hope your life turned out OK."

      To be able to even do that, even if you don't really care to continue communicating with the person, we're forced to deal with
      1) privacy issues
      2) the expectation of a non-transient re-connect. The cat is out of the bag, so where does the friendship go from here.

      I am now contemplating sharing pictures of an event I went to, since recording CDR's with 100 photos is no longer considered good form. Facebook, Picasa (or whatever google offers that won't require joining Plus) and Flickr seem to fill that hole nicely, but I would just love to host my own site and email people an access password.

    7. Re:Rubbish! by green1 · · Score: 1

      I agree fully. Anyone I actually want to interact with me will email me, text me, call me, ring my doorbell, talk to me at an event we're both at, or similar. Facebook solves a problem that doesn't exist for me. I've never seen any need to be on Facebook because I'm not interested in seeing posts from people that I wouldn't talk to otherwise.

    8. Re:Rubbish! by b4dc0d3r · · Score: 2

      I was interested in finding people from school, which is a bit difficult when people have unlisted mobile numbers and have moved to different cities. Facebook made it simple to find all but the one person I really wanted to find. That's a pretty good percentage, and had I persisted I could have gone through the friends-of-friends route.

      I caught up with where people are, talked to the ones I wanted to talk to, filtered out the ones who found me. Then torched my account and haven't been back.

      They can't e-mail or call if they don't know your number, and they can't stop by if they don't know that you moved.

      It is especially good for situations like people off to college in different cities or states, keeping in touch with people from high school. I was writing letters in 1993, since my younger friends didn't have e-mail. With something like Facebook I could have made fewer trips home, keep in touch with friends from time to time, and maintain contact at university.

      There are numerous other scenarios in which something like Facebook is a good solution.

      Farmville is not one. Friending people you don't really want to talk to is not one. Leaving details which let people piece together things you want kept secret is not one. Having all of your friends available so you can talk in person or on the phone in real-time is not one.

      Some people work odd hours, and staying in touch by leaving status updates so the group knows what everyone else is doing, or planning, is quite convenient.

      I plan to hop on every 5 years to see who is alive, dead, married, divorced, moved, or suddenly rich and/or partially famous. And then slowly burn the account so it doesn't even resemble me, and let it go dormant.

    9. Re:Rubbish! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      An easy way to contact pretty much anyone in your vicinity.

      Somehow, I've been able to do that for decades before Facebook existed, and I'm still able to do it now without using Facebook.

      Try again.

    10. Re:Rubbish! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Is facepalm still making "shadow accounts" just in case the person ever does join facebook? I wonder what groups I belong to having never signed up.

    11. Re:Rubbish! by cubicle · · Score: 1

      I quit Facebook when they changed there terms of service that said I could not sell a product with the word book in it. I should almost thank Facebook for being a bunch of corporate dorks. I have a life, I meet with real friends, and I am not wasting time playing those crappy games. For those of you that are using Facebook, have you not learned? The real genius is bogaboga who was smart enough not to join in the first place.

      As far as looking up old friends on Facebook, I would rather cultivate new meaningful relationships than try and relive the past.

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    12. Re:Rubbish! by robot5x · · Score: 1

      I agree with you completely, BUT the point is that 1 billion people (ok in reality it's much less, but a LOT) think FB is great and use it to record minute aspects of their daily lives. What people on /. think of it is kind of irrelevant - it is massively popular and we have to deal with that. It is fast becoming the repository of modern human existence whether we like it or not.

      this makes it even more imperative that FB fixes its security issues. Its users go on there to 'socialise', and I personally believe that for those people who choose to use it, it should be much easier to set valid and meaningful security/sharing permissions. FB is so blatantly not genuinely giving a shit about any of these issues, that ignorance really is a defence in this case.

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    13. Re:Rubbish! by Zouden · · Score: 1

      So you're benefiting from other people sharing information on Facebook without actually sharing anything yourself? How about you just don't use it at all?

      "I hate the idea of other people using my code and I refuse to use github except to download the occasional package".

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    14. Re:Rubbish! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That's why I use it for. Find people, get a phone number and de-activate account.

    15. Re:Rubbish! by tepples · · Score: 1

      I would just love to host my own site and email people an access password.

      Which incidentally is not that hard. As long as you aren't worried about people Firesheeping the e-mailed access password, you can get a domain and shared hosting for less than $5 a month.

  24. Again and again by SuperTechnoNerd · · Score: 3, Insightful

    I am getting tired of people seemingly surprised when facebook does something not in their best interest - especially privacy wise...

    That's what they are in business for. To get and aggregate as much info about you as possible. Security, loopholes, and privacy are secondary. In fact privacy is a dirty word in facebook land. If you give you secrets and info on face book and think only the people you want to know - know, Your nuts. You have told the world. If you want privacy, then don't join the facebook privacy abomination. It's funny that people (like my aunt) think face book is doing this out of the goodness of their hearts, bringing people together,.. Nothing is further from the truth..

    Don't try to un-friend me since i'm not there.. ever..

    1. Re:Again and again by Kittenman · · Score: 1

      I am getting tired of people seemingly surprised when facebook does something not in their best interest - especially privacy wise... .

      Totally agree. Facebook is to privacy what Attila the Hun is to ... [insert suitable noun here].

      Having said that, my heart bleeds for the girl caught - but telling Facebook anything personal is like telling a gossiping friend.

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    2. Re:Again and again by Sique · · Score: 4, Informative

      She didn't tell Facebook anything related to her sexual preferences. And she still got outed. That's the whole point of the article.

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    3. Re:Again and again by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Your nuts. You have told the world.

      God damnit! I thought I set those pictures to share only with my girlfriend!

    4. Re:Again and again by robot5x · · Score: 1

      people (like my aunt) think face book is doing this out of the goodness of their hearts, bringing people together,..

      Yes! this is exactly the problem. I find it bewildering that in these days where people are on the lookout for internet 'predators' and we hear stories every day about 'cyber crime' that sites like FB are somehow presumed to be entirely altruistic. How the hell did they manage to do this?

      Whenever I try and converse with someone about how it's basically a huge market research scam they look at me like I just shit on their head.

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    5. Re:Again and again by Serious+Callers+Only · · Score: 1

      She did friend the coordinator of the Queer Chorus group, as well as her dad. That coordinator then added her as a member of the discussion group.

      I think Facebook was in the wrong here (as usual), but having a Facebook account was, in all seriousness, her first mistake. Trusting a company like that with your identity is not a good idea, and there are plenty of other sharing services for simple sharing of photos etc. If she must join it, she definitely should not have added her dad to a site intended for sharing your life when his opinions on her lifestyle were likely to be so vitriolic.

      Facebook wants to make your entire life public, if you are not comfortable with that, you should get off the service now before it is too late.

    6. Re:Again and again by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      She got outed by someone else, in a way that a 3rd party was able to see it.

    7. Re:Again and again by Dachannien · · Score: 1

      But you don't have to get added to a group against your will for that to happen. The group-adder in this case could have instead posted a cheerful "We were glad to have you at the Queer Chorus last night!" to the outed person's wall/timeline (or even as a comment to a post if the person has wall posts set to self only), and the same damage would have been done.

  25. This is just an exemplar by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I'm sure you have interesting little foibles that you might not want revealed to all and sundry, despite using privacy settings correctly. Don't be such a sanctimonious prick. It could be you next time!

  26. Nice by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    You'd think Slashdot wouldn't make users visit the HuffPo for a link to the entire article, but you'd think wrong.

    1. Re:Nice by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      slashdot nerds love lesbo muff they can't ever have, what can we say?

  27. Blaming users is a bad stance. by MartinSchou · · Score: 5, Insightful

    If one user gets it wrong - sure, that's a dumb user.
    Ten? Yeah.
    100? Probably still that, considering how many users FaceBook has.

    But they should really take a clue from Coursera - in Daphne Koller's TED talk on Coursera she touches on something very similar, namely students having misconceptions on a subject, and how they instead sort of blame the course material, and help correct the students' misconceptions.

    This, by the way, is something we see entirely too little of in many types of development.

    Not just software - the Stockholm Metro system has automatic gates that open and close to let you through, if you have a valid electronic ticket. And people get hit by those gates and in some cases hurt or stuck.

    The company's response? Educate the users on how to use a fucking automatic door!

    Honestly, when I read that, I felt like hitting the spokes person in the face and telling him that he obviously needs to be educated in the use of my fist.

  28. You're holding it wrong.... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    ...seems to have become the default corporate answer.
    Never mind that their "privacy controls" model is completely broken, obviously the user needs to be "empowered" and "educated".

  29. Just say NO! by jenningsthecat · · Score: 4, Informative

    It's too bad this happened, but perhaps it will convince some people to simply not use Facebook. Facebook's habit of raping users' privacy shouldn't be a surprise to anyone who uses a computer - they've done it many times, and it's been big news.

    Users don't pay Facebook any money, so they have no reasonable expectation of ANY standard of privacy, service, or redress, and Facebook has no 'duty of care' obligations. So it's really quite simple - don't use Facebook, and if you DO insist on using it, then A), don't post anything from which your secrets might even be deduced, and B), prepare to suffer the consequences when, (not if), your secrets are revealed.

    It's been said before, and it bears repeating: when you aren't paying for a service, then YOU ARE THE PRODUCT. If you don't want to be treated as a product, don't use the service.

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    1. Re:Just say NO! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      How naive, do you think for example your isp wouldn't sell your usage data and links you visit, and all other information about you if they could get away with it?

      Paying for tv here too, and you still get ads. Either way you're the product.

    2. Re:Just say NO! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      If you bothered to read the entire summary or article, you might have noticed that she didn't put anything on Facebook about it. Someone else added them to a group without her permission.

    3. Re:Just say NO! by Teckla · · Score: 2

      It's too bad this happened, but perhaps it will convince some people to simply not use Facebook. Facebook's habit of raping users' privacy shouldn't be a surprise to anyone who uses a computer - they've done it many times, and it's been big news.

      Facebook is evil to the core. They've had countless "oops, I did it again" moments. Zuckerberg himself considers Facebook users idiots for trusting him. They raped investors with their IPO. They continue to "oops" and it has very serious consequences on a lot of people's lives.

      Nobody should be using Facebook.

      Nobody.

    4. Re:Just say NO! by jenningsthecat · · Score: 4, Insightful

      If you bothered to read the entire summary or article,

      ...which I did...

      you might have noticed that she didn't put anything on Facebook about it. Someone else added them to a group without her permission.

      My point exactly. Just being a Facebook user, and having 'friends', can and often does leave one's privacy open to violation, regardless of whatever precautions one takes. So the safest policy is 'just don't go there'.

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    5. Re:Just say NO! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I agree that I should have no expectation of privacy when Facebook manages advertising to me through their service, but the real issue isn't that. It's that they don't protect the privacy of their users from other users who might find something out that is privileged information. Selling me services because I make it known to Facebook that I'm gay is different from telling all my friends that I'm gay and that I'm looking for gay hookups with other like-minded gay people. Facebook really only needs to protect people from the latter situation, because nobody gives a shit about the former.

    6. Re:Just say NO! by Serious+Callers+Only · · Score: 1

      How naive, do you think for example your isp wouldn't sell your usage data and links you visit, and all other information about you if they could get away with it?

      Good thing the ISP can't get away with it then isn't it? If they do it without the permission of their users, they could be sued.

      There's a big difference between opting in to having your private information made public, and your social graph used as a product, and having private information used illegally.

  30. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by xaxa · · Score: 1

    My heart goes out to these students and their intolerant environment.

    I don't want to pay to read the article, but I wonder why she added her father at all. It seems a very high risk to trust a company with such a crap reputation.

  31. Ignorance IS a defence by jopsen · · Score: 1

    In a world a complicated as it is today Ignorance is a defence.
    When it comes to online banking or credit card security, ignorance is my only defence. The system are closed, I can verify anything, and even if I could the systems are so overly complicated that it would take me weeks.

    Ignorance is a defence, and when you fail to live up to your users expectations, it's a security break or fraud (if intentional). And that's regardless of what legal bullshit the users agreed to.
    Sure, courts aren't always good at acknowledging this. But outside the US it actually happens...

    1. Re:Ignorance IS a defence by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      If ignorance is your defense, you will spend your life as a victim.

    2. Re:Ignorance IS a defence by jopsen · · Score: 1

      If ignorance is your defense, you will spend your life as a victim.

      True, I'm a victim of greedy banks... I'm a victim of targeted ads... Like it or not we're all victims on shady business practices. Paypals evil EULA, etc...

      So choose your battles and fight those worthy of your time. If you decide to fight every new EULA before it's a problem to you, you'll have nothing else to do.
      So ignore EULAs, user agreements, because at the end of the day, courts will likely find that it's unreasonable to expect anything but ignorance from you. So EULAs and bad privacy policies are void.

  32. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Blue+Stone · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Those "robust security policies" are nothing but paper walls, that can be slid back or removed entirely at the whim of your host, whose house you're visiting.

    And your esteemed and generous host is a businessman who's stated quite clearly that your privacy is for sale for his own profit, and that you are a complete fool for trusting him.

    Maybe at some point in the future, people will wise up and stop visiting.

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  33. The word of the day is: "spokesprick". by 0m3gaMan · · Score: 2

    "Facebook spokesprick Andrew Noyes responded with a statement blaming the users..."

    Well played. Sry it got modded to oblivion.

  34. Whatchu talkin' bout Willis? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    /. editors actually editing a post before publishing to homepage?

  35. It's Simple... by krisamico · · Score: 1, Troll

    ... If you want something to be a secret, don't tell anybody, least of all a relational database!

    1. Re:It's Simple... by yotto · · Score: 1, Troll

      Yes exactly! Why on EARTH are people sharing information on the Internet that they want to keep secret?

      I feel bad for these kids whose parents are from the 19th century American South but come on, if you're that worried about it don't broadcast it to the world.

      Would you talk about it at a big dinner with your family and friends? No? Then don't mention it on line!

  36. Full text without subscription by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Can be easily found with a google search for When the Most Personal Secrets Get Outed on Facebook scribd (I didn't link directly to the copypasta'd article because of copyright, I did not post the content to scribd, just googled so I could read the damn thing, yadda yadda yadda)

    1. Re:Full text without subscription by cultiv8 · · Score: 1

      For fuck's sake, I'll fucking link to it. http://www.scribd.com/doc/109883662/When-the-Most-Personal-Secrets-Get-Outed-on-Facebook-From-WSJ-October-12-2012-Issue

      And for shits and giggles: C0 CE FE 84 C2 27 F7 5B D0 7A 7E B8 46 50 9F 93 B2 38 E7 70 DA CB 9F F4 A3 88 F8 12 48 2B E2 1B

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  37. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    In essence, Facebook is defaulting to permit when they should be defaulting to deny.

  38. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by zippthorne · · Score: 3, Interesting

    They are robust for facebook's purpose. They are robust against your attempts to use them to secure your privacy!

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  39. That's why I never started using Facebook by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    But the problem these persons got don't have to do with facebook but more with sharing information with others which might get to the wrong people eventually. Facebook was the willing assistent, though.

    I think it's just incredibly lousy of people threatening family members because of sexual preference. It's lousy to harass other people as well, but family is even worse.

    cb

  40. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    "Robust" or just overly complicated and obtuse. While I can appreciate what FB might be trying to accomplish, I sometimes wonder they fail to consider the diverse audience they are working with. At the same time, I also understand that FB is in the business of collecting data -- data mining and information mangling (can someone say Google?). It's in their best interest to encourage you contribute as much as possible for their analytics (and who knows where that goes or who else is behind it). Until there are some laws and standards set in to place to which they must adhere, I fear this is just going to get worse.

  41. to empower and educate users by NotPeteMcCabe · · Score: 2

    Facebook asked me "to empower and educate users about our robust privacy controls." That's a great idea. Let me educate you: Facebook has no privacy controls whatsoever. Everything you ever post to Facebook will be exposed for money. That didn't take so long. I think we should all do as Facebook says and educate as many people as possible.

  42. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Our security controls at fb are robust enough to f.k the fb user in his/her group ass w/o his/her concent I.e. in a robust way

  43. Privacy on the Internet by verbatim · · Score: 1, Funny

    The things I post on the Internet are not private?

    Oh, shii....

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  44. Un-Surprisingly by p0p0 · · Score: 1

    Kind of low of Facebook to turn it around and somehow blame the users for their incompetence.
    Roy from I.T. Crowd said it best: "People. What a bunch of bastards."

  45. He then went back by Fnord666 · · Score: 2

    That night, Ms. Duncan's father left vitriolic messages on her phone, demanding she renounce same-sex relationships,

    He then went back to spanking his monkey to the lesbian porn DVD he had been watching before all of this happened.

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  46. It isn't a secret if anyone else knows. by thesandtiger · · Score: 1

    A secret known by more than one person is not a secret.

    I have had "friends" spill the beans about various things I would rather have kept secret in my life and it didn't require Facebook or any other technology to facilitate it. When I was in college we didn't actually have Facebook (we barely had the net and then just for the comp sci/engineering departments) and yet people still outed other people or blabbed shit they shouldn't have that wasn't their place to do things.

    The problem is thoughtless assholes, not shitty privacy functionality.

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  47. "you should never post"? Get a clue. by QuasiSteve · · Score: 5, Insightful

    "you should never post". Get a clue - it may not be you doing the posting.

    Here's the problem. They didn't post. They, in fact, used what little privacy controls they had to shield off any posts and activities that would let on their sexual orientation to friends and the public at large.

    Who did post, was the then-president of a choir group called Queer Chorus. He added these two individuals to their facebook group. He did so while the group was set public (an 'open' group).
    facebook, in turn, notified all the 'friends' of these two individuals that they had joined the group, because that's just how facebook - in all its "privacy? what privacy?" ways - works.

    The only time these two individuals ever did anything related to the chain of events was when they friended, or accepted a friend request, from this choir group in the first place. If you're saying that they shouldn't have done that unless they were 'ready and willing' to own, that's fine.

    I suppose if they had never befriended the choir on facebook only dealt with them in person, and the then-president had merely mentioned them in passing in a wall post and somebody who knew them had stumbled on that, and posted about it publicly, then they should simply not have dealt with the choir in person.

    Maybe you believe that if they weren't 'ready and willing' to own to being gay, they should just have kept up appearances of being straight through all aspects of life.

    Rather dangerously close to an "if you have nothing to hide"-argument, I'd say.

    Personally, while I agree that anything you post online should be considered a matter of public record, just like picking your nose from the sanctity of your home doesn't mean people won't talk about it the next day if they happened to look through your windows. But then, I have curtains, and I feel that I can reasonably expect that nobody is going to peer through a small slit in those curtains - just as I feel that I should be able to reasonably expect that if I set facebook settings to hide practically everything about me, that they then don't betray that effort by opening up another vector to third parties that is public by design. Naive in both cases, perhaps, but I certainly wouldn't say that it boils down to blaming the users. It's just not that simple.

    1. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      The only reason this is an issue is because it happened on Facebook. If she was attending a local LGBT support group and one of the members called her and accidentally let out that she was gay on her parents answering machine, it would be a non-issue. Ridiculous and completely inappropriate, but it wouldn't be news at all.

      I hate Facebook and don't use it, but the blunder here was made by the people who ran the groups, not the company.

      If you don't want your private business to be public, don't put your private business in a public forum. I don't feel bad for anybody who lacks the common sense to know that posting things on Facebook is most definitely not private and never has been.

    2. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      And to take it one step further, even if these people weren't on FB at all they could have ended up in public photos taken by someone who was at the same event. I rather doubt they cared that Joe Schmoe in Neverland, USA found out they were gay, but mainly that people they knew found out, and with networks of friends and friends of friends, that sort of thing should be expected to happen more and more often.

      They shouldn't be punished for who they are or ANYTHING they do with other consenting adults, but they can't expect to be able to hide anything forever. Things can go from secret to public, but not the other way around. They may have to cut out people from their life. It isn't fair, but many things in life aren't, and learning that is part of growing up.

      The best thing we can do it make sure people like this know that even if someone people won't accept them, there are people who explicitly will.

    3. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by s.petry · · Score: 5, Informative

      Huh?

      The only time these two individuals ever did anything related to the chain of events was when they friended, or accepted a friend request, from this choir group in the first place. If you're saying that they shouldn't have done that unless they were 'ready and willing' to own, that's fine.

      Look, I'm not sure you realize how it works. If someone sends you an invite to a group, you are added to the group. There is no "friending" involved, and there is no control by the recipient of the invite to the group.

      How do I know that? Well a few weeks ago, someone sent me an invite to a group. I received the email, but had no interest. In fact I replied to the person's personal email and said "thanks, but no thanks. I don't Facebook, I log in to my account maybe 1 time a week to see the page and what relatives were up to. Two days later, I happened to log in to facebook, and low and behold I'm being spammed by this group on my wall. I never agreed, never "friended" anyone, I was simply notified that I was invited. Magically I'm in that group without any action on my part, and had to remove myself from the group without ever joining.

      These teens had the same thing happen. This is a Facebook security issue and has nothing to do with those two teens. In fact, I hope it opens up a nice fat class action case against them and marks the piece of shit that is facebook.

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      -The wise argue that there are few absolutes, the fool argues that there are no probabilities.

    4. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Get a clue - it may not be you doing the posting

      If someone else can make associations for you, that means that you lose control of your privacy simply by signing up for Facebook.

      There is only one conclusion: If you value your privacy, you must not use Facebook.

    5. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by BeanThere · · Score: 1

      The only time these two individuals ever did anything related to the chain of events was when they friended, or accepted a friend request, from this choir group in the first place. If you're saying that they shouldn't have done that unless they were 'ready and willing' to own, that's fine.

      Lol, you don't even know what the central point of the article is, but that doesn't stop you from blowing massive amounts of hot air. This isn't how it works - you don't have to "accept" these requests, in fact, you don't even get informed that you're being added to the group - you just quietly and automatically become a member of the group when a friend adds you. You might only even notice it months later when you go edit your 'groups'. And you can't even turn it off.

    6. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by CodeBuster · · Score: 1

      There is no "friending" involved, and there is no control by the recipient of the invite to the group.

      According to TFA, the person who created the group was already a friend of the two students in question. They had set their privacy preferences to hide those friends from certain other friends in their network, namely their parents. However, when their new friend setup this "Queer Choir" group, he set it's status as a "public" group to be in his own words "loud and proud". Unfortunately for him, he didn't realize that Facebook announces membership in new public groups to ALL friends, regardless of any other "privacy" settings. This combined with the fact that any friend can add you to a group, you can leave after being added but you cannot prevent the initial add (Facebook pushing those limits again), combined to produce the aforementioned "outing" of the students' sexual preferences to their parents. This is a perfect example of why people should NOT trust Facebook and in fact should refuse to use it. Facebook is always pushing the privacy envelope and playing fast and loose with personal information. Unless you're completely comfortable living a public life with no secrets, you shouldn't use Facebook. The existence of "privacy settings" merely creates an illusion of control and a false sense of security. It's another case of "bitten in the arse by Facebook" and how did Zukerberg refer to some of the first users of Facebook again? I believe that the word he chose was "dumbshits". Maybe he was right.

    7. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Is that how it works? We recently created several groups in school and added people, but I don't recall a single one ever being "announced" and the ones who hadn't yet actually joined showed up as "invited" rather than "added."

    8. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by Jiro · · Score: 1

      The only reason this is an issue is because it happened on Facebook. If she was attending a local LGBT support group and one of the members called her and accidentally let out that she was gay on her parents answering machine, it would be a non-issue.

      If a member of the support group called her on her answering machine it would be the member's fault because an answering machine has a well known user interface and everyone knows or should know that if you leave a message on one other people may hear it.

      Facebook's user interface is set up to encourage data mining by Facebook, and p[art of the process of doing this is to make it insanely difficult for users to handle privacy, to the point where the user interface is really at fault for the mistake and not the individual person using it, even though the person technically could have done something different.

    9. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Don't people realize that "liking" something, joining groups, becoming friends, commenting, etc. on Facebook has consequences.

      Facebook is designed to encourage users to reveal their personalities online, and it generates revenue by selling these personality preferences to marketers.

      Unfortunately for these young men, Facebook is not designed to protect your privacy. Privacy is an afterthought to FB, and it conflicts with the fundamental mission of the organization. This is why the security configuration is so complicated, and difficult to setup for even "sophisticated" users.

      The choice to use FB is a choice to "out" your preferences.When you realize that, you can safely use FB and other social networking sites.

    10. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by TheRaven64 · · Score: 1

      The problem is that the choir decided to publicise its membership list without the consent of the members. In the EU, that would put them in direct violation of the Data Protection Directive. The secondary problem is that this happens automatically as a result of using Facebook for intragroup communication. The tertiary problem is that, in spite of this, a lot of groups believe that using Facebook for this is a sane idea.

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    11. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      "you should never post". Get a clue - it may not be you doing the posting.

      Here's the problem. They didn't post. They, in fact, used what little privacy controls they had to shield off any posts and activities that would let on their sexual orientation to friends and the public at large.

      Who did post, was the then-president of a choir group called Queer Chorus. He added these two individuals to their facebook group. He did so while the group was set public (an 'open' group).

      Maybe I'm being dense, I've never used Facebook so I don't really know how this stuff works, but doesn't that mean anyone can add anyone else to any group and have it show up on their profile?

      If, for a joke, I add Pat Robertson to the Satanist Choir Facebook Group, will it pop up in all his friends' inboxes that he's joined?

    12. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Hmm.. maybe a number of rabidly anti-gay congresscritters have good singing voices...

      lol, the captcha was "straight"

    13. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by QuasiSteve · · Score: 1

      Lol, you don't even know what the central point of the article is, but that doesn't stop you from blowing massive amounts of hot air. This isn't how it works - you don't have to "accept" these requests, in fact, you don't even get informed that you're being added to the group

      If you're going to reply to me and quote me, at least take a moment to actually read what you're quoting.

      I wasn't talking about accepting being added to the group. I was talking about accepting the 'friend' thing (either you friend somebody and they have to accept, or they friend you and you have to accept). Only 'friends' can add you to a group to begin with.

      Thus as far as the GP's rant about "you shouldn't post" goes, that would be the only activity that would even remotely come close - after all, if they weren't 'friends' with the choir, then that choir couldn't have added them to the group.

    14. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by QuasiSteve · · Score: 2

      We recently created several groups in school and added

      There is a separate group handling for schools.

      https://www.facebook.com/about/groups/schools
      http://www.facebook.com/help/?faq=162550990475119

      It's basically intended to let people join a school group without explicitly having to become 'friends' with the group controller.

      I don't know if that applies to the case you're referring to, though.

    15. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by s.petry · · Score: 1

      Sounds like we agree. The root issue, is that you are joined to a group without your knowledge. That is such a blatant security hole, it can not possibly be accidental. Seriously, nobody is 'that' ignorant. Even if it was one dumb ass coder, don't you think that the team implementing "groups" would have had someone that realized the security problem?

      This is a choice by Facebook which once again screws over users (I won't use the term customers, since facebook also has numerous government agencies as customers). As I mentioned earlier, I really hope this one brings up a class action law suit and makes those two teens a good sum of money. Can't remove the harm done, but should make their lives easier for a while at least. I also hope it becomes very public, and people start abandoning the piece of shit site. Unfortunately, media will be paid not to discuss the issue and if there is a class action law suit it will be settled out of court so that people are kept in the dark.

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    16. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by Samizdata · · Score: 1

      I wouldn't know. I can't read past the first few paragraphs of TFA. I'm thinking there should not be paywalled articles accepted.

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    17. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by SpanglerIsAGod · · Score: 1

      As long as Pat Robertson was your friend on facebook you could do this. And if Pat Robertson has a facebook account, there is probably some staff auto-adding everyone who sends a friend request. Your idea sounds fun.

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    18. Re:"you should never post"? Get a clue. by CodeBuster · · Score: 1

      The root issue, is that you are joined to a group without your knowledge. That is such a blatant security hole, it can not possibly be accidental.

      From what I understand this isn't a security hole, but rather a deliberate design decision made by Facebook to "nudge" more people into group memberships. It's absolutely in keeping with the general contempt and lack of respect that Facebook has for user privacy and privacy in general. They say that they "care" about privacy, but their actions consistently demonstrate otherwise.

      Even if it was one dumb ass coder, don't you think that the team implementing "groups" would have had someone that realized the security problem?

      The people who work at Facebook are likely "true believers" in the mission of Facebook, which is to bring about the end of privacy as we know it. Indeed, they celebrate this destruction of privacy as a social good. They may lament the results in this case, outing a gay child to a hostile parent, but that doesn't change their belief in either the mission or the core principles as outlined by Zuckerberg on numerous occasions.

      This is a choice by Facebook which once again screws over users

      Yes. Precisely that.

      I really hope this one brings up a class action law suit and makes those two teens a good sum of money.

      I asked that question elsewhere in this discussion before looking into the matter a bit more for myself. Unfortunately, due to Section 230 of the Communications Decency Act of 1996, it's now extremely difficult to hold Facebook liable for any such actions. Indeed, the courts have taken a very broad view of this particular safe harbor when it comes to libel or defamation torts against ISPs or Internet forum operators for the actions of their users. This means that Facebook is practically immune from responsibility for anything that others say about you on Facebook. It may not even matter if you can prove negligence on the part of Facebook because the precedents are so strong. So if you sue Facebook they will simply file a motion to dismiss with prejudice, citing those precedents. It's very likely that such a motion will be granted and you will simply end up paying Facebook's attorney fees for your trouble.

  48. Learn from the WSJ... by The123king · · Score: 1

    Put a paywall in front of every article in your Facebook timeline. Only the nosiest will ever know....

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  49. own fault by Tom · · Score: 0

    Don't give information you want to keep secret to a public social networking site. There, problem solved. You don't need "privacy controls" if you stop telling every friggin' site on the Internet the most intimate details of your life.

    Three can keep a secret if two of them are dead. They don't say that for nothing. If you give your secrets to someone else, they are not within your control anymore, period.

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    1. Re:own fault by afgam28 · · Score: 1

      That's a bit unfair. She didn't put any information onto Facebook; her queer choir group president accidentally outed her by adding her to a group.

      This could be either the president's fault, for carelessly exposing private information, or Facebook's fault, for not providing an easy enough way to control what interactions are public/private. Or maybe her dad's fault for being such a bigot. But anyway, whoever's fault it is, it's certainly not her fault.

    2. Re:own fault by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'm confused how adding her to the group was 'outing.'

      Anyone friends with anyone can add them to anything they're a member of; I ended up in a ton of really bizarre groups because my "friends" have a sense of humor. I went "i guess someone hacked my account?" to my parents, then carefully deleted the ones that were uncomfortable to them. worked great and no follow up questions.

      (One of my friends told me to "Always remember, deny deny deny" about political positions, and i think it applies to FB accounts too, maybe.)

    3. Re:own fault by Tom · · Score: 1

      That's a rather simplified view you have there, isn't it?

      Go on, add me to half a dozen gay groups. Nobody I know would consider that an outing. Add me to an Islamist group and a vegan one. People would wonder. None of them would believe I converted. There must be more information in the system for these new pieces of data to be considered reliable.

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  50. subject by Legion303 · · Score: 2

    "robust privacy controls"

    laughing...too hard...make coherent...post...hang on a sec

    1. Re:subject by idontgno · · Score: 1

      No, it's a perfectly meaningful and appropriate phrase in this context.

      If a Facebook user attempts to have some privacy, Facebook robustly controls the attempt to minimize damage to its data mining and other core capabilities. Nothing as trivial as a user's misguided desire to keep secrets can be allowed to interfere with Facebook's mandate to spill all beans to the highest bidder.

      In other words, parse "privacy control" the same way that a sailor parses "damage control": try to prevent it from happening, and limit it if it does.

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  51. This is why I dont use Facebook by jonwil · · Score: 1

    I dont want to expose my personal details in ways that I may not be aware of (because of what someone else did, because of what Facebook did, because of what hackers did etc)

  52. 3rd Party by DrYak · · Score: 5, Informative

    If you tell Facebook your secret, it's not a secret anymore and you're a moron for thinking it would be.

    The problem isn't what they told to Facebook. The problems is that the girls got added to some queer-themed group. group-adding on facebook doesn't require user confirmation nor anything.
    A 3rd party just clicked on a group button while the girls were online, and their homophobic parents saw "Girl1 and Girl2 joined group 'lesbian chorus singers' " and freaked out. Without the girls ever needing to do anything, they didn't even need to write their preferences into their profile, and in fact their account could even have been dormant.

    The biggest problem is not only that clueless users could mess their own privacy online, but morons can mess other people's privacy as well (and in a few cases including privacy of people who aren't even on facebook themselves).

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    1. Re:3rd Party by AK+Marc · · Score: 2

      This was a large problem for my wife. My mother in law is evil. My wife wants nothing to do with her mother (just an example, she killed my wife's cat and put an illegal lien on my house because we were moving and taking her grandson far away, and yes, it sabotaged a sale in progress). But my wife talks to her sisters. But if she posts on her sister's wall, or vice versa, then her mother can see some non-public information. For example, wife posts "I went to XXX today" Her sister, friends with her mother, posts "sounds like fun" then MIL can now read the original "private" post. There exists no way (well, didn't last I checked) to "block" a person or group of people. My wife has enemies, real ones. And she wants to be able to share information with some people without it getting inappropriately seen by others.

    2. Re:3rd Party by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Of course this problem has existed since people first met other people. The add-anyone-to-a-group "feature" in Facebook is indeed stupid, but third parties are always able to out your secrets if they have them, even without Facebook.

    3. Re:3rd Party by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That doesn't work at all if it's posted "Friends Only" instead of "Friends of Friends". You can't even "Share" such posts.

      That is, until the next time Facebook decides to reset privacy permissions or break privacy completely for a day or whatever.

    4. Re:3rd Party by CodeBuster · · Score: 1

      and in a few cases including privacy of people who aren't even on facebook themselves

      That could be a legally actionable offense, especially here in California which has strict rules and stiff penalties for impersonation of another person online. Perhaps an attorney out there can comment, but if someone doesn't join Facebook and someone else either impersonates them or takes actions on Facebook which defame them in public, would they have a case? Couldn't they sue both Facebook and the user(s) in question for defamation of character and win a judgement? Facebook has offices and assets here in California so doesn't that make them even more vulnerable to such a lawsuit?

    5. Re:3rd Party by BradleyUffner · · Score: 4, Informative

      This was a large problem for my wife. My mother in law is evil. My wife wants nothing to do with her mother (just an example, she killed my wife's cat and put an illegal lien on my house because we were moving and taking her grandson far away, and yes, it sabotaged a sale in progress). But my wife talks to her sisters. But if she posts on her sister's wall, or vice versa, then her mother can see some non-public information. For example, wife posts "I went to XXX today" Her sister, friends with her mother, posts "sounds like fun" then MIL can now read the original "private" post. There exists no way (well, didn't last I checked) to "block" a person or group of people. My wife has enemies, real ones. And she wants to be able to share information with some people without it getting inappropriately seen by others.

      You should tell your wife about this thing I heard of called "Email". It's apparently pretty new, not many people know about it.

    6. Re:3rd Party by AK+Marc · · Score: 2

      It's horribly inefficient at getting the same photo to 10 people, and has no controls to prevent the recipients from forwarding it. It's no better than Facebook.

    7. Re:3rd Party by Serious+Callers+Only · · Score: 2

      Emailing a photo doesn't waste any more bits than uploading it to facebook. You send it once, it is downloaded multiple times - as long as your mail client or you resize it to a reasonable size before sending, it's not an issue. It's no less efficient and if your only argument for using facebook is sharing photos, there are plenty of other sites for doing that without the baggage of Facebook. You can then easily email the people *you* want to see it. That is as much control as you'll ever have over who sees an image - any controls you put in place can be subverted easily by her sisters if they wish.

      Trusting Facebook to provide privacy in a case like this is madness given their well known default to making all information public.

    8. Re:3rd Party by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      But a forwarded email is an explicit act that would require a sister to send it to MIL, knowing full well the "relationship". The former is an implicit result of Facebook's lack of controls coupled with a passive status (set long ago, and not undone without estranging the sister) of MIL being a friend.

      There's a difference between "no longer 100% private" and "automagically forwarded to my freind-of-friend enemies."

    9. Re:3rd Party by Anderu67 · · Score: 2

      Check again, I know the block option has been there since at least 2 years ago when I used it.

    10. Re:3rd Party by damienl451 · · Score: 1

      Facebook is broken and should add a setting that don't let people add you to groups without your consent. I'm a coder and I didn't know that it was possible, so it's a good bet that the average user is even more clueless.

      However, in this case, Facebook seems to have acted only as a catalyst. Living a double life is hard, Facebook or no Facebook. If you want to live as an openly gay person in Austin, to the extent that you are singing in a lesbian choir, it's gonna be very, very hard to make sure that no-one hears about it Newton, NC. All it takes is someone posting a video on Youtube and someone else recognizing you, or someone who enjoyed your performance writing about you on their blog and your family googling your name. What makes me think that their secret would have been revealed sooner or later is that, unless their families already suspected something, they wouldn't have reacted the way they did. If someone added me to, say, a radical Communist or fundie Muslim group, I wouldn't get a worried call from my family asking me if I've gone radical. They'd just think that someone messed up or that there must be a good reason. Likewise, being included in a 'queer' themed group shouldn't make your family leave bigoted messages on your voice-mail unless they're already suspecting something. For all we know, you could have a gay friend who sings in that choir whom you're trying to convince of the truth of Christianity. But, no, they immediately assume that you must be gay yourself? The man in the story had already told his mother that he was gay. How long would it have taken for his father to find out?

      Bottom line: if your dad is a jerk and a bigot, and you happen to be gay, you're in trouble Facebook or not.

    11. Re:3rd Party by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Your wife needs to set her timeline and posts to friends only and not post on others' timelines since the visibility of others' timelines is controlled by other users. If someone makes a post and limits the visibility to friends only (not friends of friends or public) then it doesn't matter who comments on it the visibility will stay limited. Commenting doesn't change the visibility, it just makes the the fact that it was visible all along more obvious.

    12. Re:3rd Party by AK+Marc · · Score: 1

      The incident in question happened beyond that period, and well before the "timeline" change others have indicated fixed this.

    13. Re:3rd Party by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Or they can click the link in the Privacy Settings labeled "Blocked People and Apps"

    14. Re:3rd Party by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Actually it wastes a lot of bits, as binary data in email gets encoded in base64, and sent as text. Horribly inefficient.

    15. Re:3rd Party by dcw3 · · Score: 1

      It's horribly inefficient at getting the same photo to 10 people, and has no controls to prevent the recipients from forwarding it. It's no better than Facebook.

      If you're sending stuff to the same group of ten friends, it takes no longer to make a mailing list then it does to add those people as FB friends. That's hardly "horribly inefficient", and prevents your content from being "tagged".

      As for preventing forwarding items, if they have access to the photo on FB, does FB prevent them from copying and pasting it somewhere?...I'm not certain, but don't think so.

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  53. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by QuasiSteve · · Score: 2

    I don't want to pay to read the article

    Pay to read? What strange things are you encountering? I didn't see any paywall.

    but I wonder why she added her father at all.

    She helped him set up his facebook account.

    You know how that goes.. you set it up for them.. get asked if you're on facebook, tell them that you are and log in to show it to them, and oh my gosh they never saw those pictures of the newborn/dog/car/whatever, how can they get them, well by adding as a friend of course they'll see them pop up in their facebook account automatically and hey presto.
    What? Would you be so heartless as to deny your parents photos of their grandchildren/your dog/car (okay, car's not a good example - deal with it)? Why would you not want to be facebook friends with your parents?
    The pressure can be overwhelming.
    ( Anecdotal - not personal, just seen it happen. Didn't have any trouble with it, but they did cut down on posting 'meme' pictures right after that. )

  54. Not just Facebook. by tpstigers · · Score: 1

    There is no privacy on the internet. None.

    Why do so many people find this so hard to understand?

    1. Re:Not just Facebook. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Farcebook is arguably worse, as it actually encourages you to part with not just your information, but that of your friends too.

      Friends don't let friends use Facebook!

      Simple as.

  55. Re:Thi Just In From The Dept. Of No Shit Sherlock. by Sique · · Score: 1

    Not read the article?

    Actually, she didn't need to post anything about her sexual preferences on Facebook. But someone of her friend added her to a Queer Choir group, which then showed up in her profile, visible to all her friends, including her parents.

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  56. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Sir_Sri · · Score: 1

    Those seem to be separate issues.

    I could start mailing you flyers for the KKK, but that doesn't mean you're a member or a supporter. If you get asked about it you just say 'ya, this crazy guy I know keeps sending them to me, I asked to stop but I can't do anything about it'.

    Don't get me wrong, it's a problem that you can be added to a group without your consent, but it's about on the level of being able to get unsolicited mail - because everyone else is in the same boat.

    The timeline stuff becoming public thing is stranger. But then, it's facebook, don't post anything on facebook you wouldn't want to be public. The 'settings' are irrelevant. Treat it as your public blog website with your name and photo on the top.

  57. File this under.. by Guru80 · · Score: 1

    No fucking shit...facebook and privacy have no business going in the same sentence together.

    1. Re:File this under.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Facebook's answer to privacy is like putting all the foxes in the henhouse and promising nothing bad will come from it.

  58. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by ShanghaiBill · · Score: 4, Insightful

    The pressure can be overwhelming.

    Simple solution: Keep more than one Facebook account. I have one for friends, another for family, another for work, and a fourth for people I don't like very much, which I also use for testing plugins and FB apps.

  59. A narcissist and desperate attention-seeker fail. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    The kinds of people who have accounts with these outfits don't care if everyone knows every little thing about them and their lives, because it's the whole point of having an account with these outfits. Celebrity is its own reward, so sacrificing your privacy to that end is actually no sacrifice at all.

  60. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by crath · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Internet 101: anything you post will eventually become public; if you you want to keep it a secret, don't post it in the first place. The fact that these two individuals thought that they could mantain two different public personas and keep one of them a secret is simply a testement to their ignorance.

  61. I keep hoping... by aklinux · · Score: 1

    Facebook's stock will finish tanking and they just go away.

    1. Re:I keep hoping... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Just like MySpace, I can't wait for a similar fate to happen to Facefuck.

  62. Oxymoron by aNonnyMouseCowered · · Score: 1

    "As a result, the two lost control over their secrets, even though both students were sophisticated users who had attempted to use Facebook's privacy settings to shield some of their activities from their parents."

    "Sophisticated" and "Facebook" don't go together, unless you're an information-harvesting bot.

  63. Hanging out on Facebook is like living in a dorm.. by alanshot · · Score: 2

    Keeping info private on Facebook is like living in a dorm with no locks on the doors that go from the hallway to the rooms, and you are only allowed to lock or unlock your own windows.

                You can bar your dorm room window, wall it up with bricks, etc. But every so often an RA comes around and quietly unlocks it again without saying anything. On top of that, your lazy neighbors dont bother locking THEIR windows. EVER.

            What happens is eventually some prick climbs through either your window you THOUGHT was locked, or even worse, your neighbor's window. Next thing you know your "stuff" is missing because the burglar just went from the neighbor's unlocked window, through his room, and through your interior door.

    Dont like it? then move out of the dorm. thats the only answer to security. Sure you dont get a cool place to hang out with your freinds, keep in touch, etc. but your "stuff" is safe.

  64. And I'm suspicious since I don't have a FB account by WOOFYGOOFY · · Score: 1

    Yeah and according to various pundits, I'm suspicious because I have the foresight, circumspection and enough emotional development to resist peer pressure to refuse to turn over the most intimate personal details of my personal life to perfect strangers who's STATED and ONLY motivation is to make a buck off me by selling those same details to other perfect strangers all the while displaying a reckless disregard for whatever real life ramifications doing so may have on me.

    Yeah. Right.

  65. Two comments: by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    1. 'Our hearts go out to these young people. Their unfortunate experience reminds us that we must continue our work to empower and educate users about our robust privacy controls.'"

    Um, so Facebook is trying to blame those users for not knowing about their privacy controls, when those users DID know about them and it was a Facebook bug that exposed their information???

    2. If those users didn't want anyone to know their sexual prefs, why bother to fill it out on Facebook?

  66. Privacy is not hard (when we have PCs) by betterunixthanunix · · Score: 1

    One of the nice things about having a PC is that you can set your privacy level as you see fit. If you do not want to be on Facebook, you can...not be on Facebook. If you want to encrypt your email such that your email provider cannot read it, that's within your power. You can even browse the web anonymously if you want.

    Now, all bets are off when you lose control of your computing. How would you like a cell phone that required a Facebook account to use?

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    1. Re:Privacy is not hard (when we have PCs) by roidzrus · · Score: 2

      Privacy will be sacrificed in the interest of convenience.

  67. Easy Solution.... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Someone needs to add the candidates (Obama, Romney, Ryan) to The Westboro Baptist Church supporters groups. Then add them to the KKK and neo nazi groups. Then add Romney and Ryan to the Pro Abortion groups and the pro Gay Rights and Gay Marriage groups. Then we will see some VERY quick changes to how that works WRT not being able to approve groups.... :-)

  68. Definition Required by Press2ToContinue · · Score: 0

    ..."both students were sophisticated users" Please define "sophisticated Facebook user"... I'm at a loss...

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  69. Only if... by meta-monkey · · Score: 1

    FaceBook can only out your most personal secrets if you tell it your most personal secrets. I recommend keeping your most personal secrets to yourself and using FaceBook for its intended purpose: seeing who from high school got fat.

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    1. Re:Only if... by Kazoo+the+Clown · · Score: 1

      Read the freakin' article. Facebook can out your most personal secrets if you tell them to your personal FRIENDS (in person, not on FB) and those FRIENDS later post it on FB. That's true even if you DON'T EVEN HAVE a FB account.

      Anyone with a FB account, whether a friend or not, could doctor up a photo of you that makes it look like you're doing something unsavory and post it to FB tagged with your name on it. A prospective employer could search on your name, find the photo, recognize it as you, think that it's a real and undoctored photo, and you may never know why you were turned down for the job. And this is true even if you don't have a FB account. If you do have a FB account, there's at least some chance you'll get notified you were tagged in the photo and can remove the identifier...

    2. Re:Only if... by swillden · · Score: 1

      FaceBook can only out your most personal secrets if you tell it your most personal secrets.

      Or if your friends tell it your most personal secrets.

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    3. Re:Only if... by meta-monkey · · Score: 1

      How is that different from any other aspect of life in which dicks spread rumors about people?

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    4. Re:Only if... by Kazoo+the+Clown · · Score: 1

      In this case, the rumor spreading is automated, and is findable via search engines all over the world. A dick that writes your phone # on a bathroom wall reaches a limited audience.

    5. Re:Only if... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      How is that different from any other aspect of life in which dicks spread rumors about people?

      You're not very bright, are you?

      Bad made up stuff or private stuff about you on Facebook = *All* potential employers *anywhere in the world* nearly certain to see it = Possibly no job anywhere.

      Dicks spreading rumours = very small likelihood that some *local* employer might hear them = Small chance that you may not get *one particular local job*.

      See the difference?

      You're like the idiots who say there's no difference between a policeman manually noting your presence in a given area on one occasion, and CCTV with face recognition tracking everyone's movements all the time.

  70. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Dekker3D · · Score: 5, Insightful

    But their joining that choir wasn't online.. it wasn't posted by them. The only thing they did wrong was either pursueing their interests by joining the choir or being like everybody else by having a Facebook account. Since science has taught us that everyone who doesn't use Facebook is a horrible murderer-to-be, the latter can't be ruled out-... so they weren't supposed to join that choir?

  71. Empower and educate users by Yvanhoe · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Tell them to not use facebook.

    Seriously, your privacy is in the hands of your friends of friends. Can anyone guarantee that all his friends of friends are "sophisticated" users?

    No matter how hard you try, people with a camera will take shots of you and tag you or will talk about you. No settings will save you from that (I believe you can now deactivate tagging of your name, right?)

    Facebook privacy model is broken. Quite possibly by design. If you want privacy about tour friends, your opinions, your sexuality, DO. NOT. USE. FACEBOOK.

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  72. Again, I must ask you all: by kheldan · · Score: 1

    Why are you still using Facebook?

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    1. Re:Again, I must ask you all: by Kazoo+the+Clown · · Score: 3, Informative

      Not using FB doesn't fix the problem, because anyone can post anything to Facebook about anyone. Better you DO have a FB account, as at least there is some chance you'll get notified when someone chooses to post something undesirable (to you) about you. If you don't have a FB account, you won't even know that there's a doctored photo of you having sex with a donkey posted with your name on it.

    2. Re:Again, I must ask you all: by Serious+Callers+Only · · Score: 2

      No, better you don't.

      People can post compromising pics to any website, not just FB. Having an account there just leaves you open to crap like this, now and in the future, not having an account means you can safely ignore the doctored donkey pics, and if someone asks you about them, tell them you have no idea what they are talking about, and that they're probably someone's crude idea of a joke.

      Being on FB just exposes you more, not less.

  73. It is not about what you do by betterunixthanunix · · Score: 5, Insightful

    This is not just about what you do online, it is about what you and all the people you associate with do online. I am not on Facebook, yet Facebook still manages to collect information about me (and spread it around): people "tag" me in photos, sometimes people invite me to join Facebook, and people might mention me in messages they send to each other on Facebook (including public messages). So despite the fact that I have no Facebook account, at least part of my personal life is being collected by that system.

    That is the point of TFA. These people did not announce their sexual orientation on Facebook, someone else did, without their permission.

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    1. Re:It is not about what you do by fatphil · · Score: 1

      > People can't tag you in photos if they aren't friends with you.

      Total bullshit. All of my friends know that I do not want my face on facebook, and I definitely don't want my real name associated with my face.

      And yet it's happened.

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    2. Re:It is not about what you do by fatphil · · Score: 2

      The someone else, of course, is not Facebook. Facebook is merely the medium which enables others to propagate information about you against your will.

      Facebook is merely the toilet wall.

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    3. Re:It is not about what you do by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Thats not a 'tagging'...it is you friends putting your name under the photo.

      It has NOTHING to do with Facebook. It has to do with your friends. But the paranoid will always blame the tool, not the idiots.

    4. Re:It is not about what you do by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      And giving Facebook a fake birth-date is rendered pretty useless when one day you suddenly get "HAPPY BIRTHDAY!" messages from half of your friend list. You can even get it down to the year with a comments like "Woohoo! Looks who's 40!" or that "Son, nineteen years ago I met my best friend" crap...

  74. TFA by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    One evening last fall, the president of the Queer Chorus, a choir group she had recently joined, inadvertently exposed Ms. Duncan's sexuality to her nearly 200 Facebook friends, including her father, by adding her to a Facebook Inc. discussion group. That night, Ms. Duncan's father left vitriolic messages on her phone, demanding she renounce same-sex relationships, she says, and threatening to sever family ties.

    The 22-year-old cried all night on a friend's couch. "I felt like someone had hit me in the stomach with a bat," she says.

    Soon, she learned that another choir member, Taylor McCormick, had been outed the very same way, upsetting his world as well.

    The president of the chorus, a student organization at the University of Texas campus here, had added Ms. Duncan and Mr. McCormick to the choir's Facebook group. The president didn't know the software would automatically tell their Facebook friends that they were now members of the chorus.

    The two students were casualties of a privacy loophole on Facebook—the fact that anyone can be added to a group by a friend without their approval. As a result, the two lost control over their secrets, even though both were sophisticated users who had attempted to use Facebook's privacy settings to shield some of their activities from their parents.

    "Our hearts go out to these young people," says Facebook spokesman Andrew Noyes. "Their unfortunate experience reminds us that we must continue our work to empower and educate users about our robust privacy controls."

    In the era of social networks like Facebook and Google Inc.'s Google+, companies that catalog people's activities for a profit routinely share, store and broadcast everyday details of people's lives. This creates a challenge for individuals navigating the personal-data economy: how to keep anything private in an era when it is difficult to predict where your information will end up.

    Many people have been stung by accidentally revealing secrets online that were easier kept in the past. In Quebec, Canada, in 2009, Nathalie Blanchard lost her disability-insurance benefits for depression after she posted photos on Facebook showing her having fun at the beach and at a nightclub with male exotic dancers. After seeing the photos, her insurer, Manulife Financial, hired a private investigator and asked a doctor to re-evaluate her diagnosis, according to Ms. Blanchard's lawyer.

    Ms. Blanchard didn't realize her photos were visible to the public, according to the lawyer, who added that depressed people often try to disguise their illness to family and friends. Ms. Blanchard sued to have her benefits reinstated. The matter was settled out of court.

    A Manulife spokeswoman declined to discuss the case, saying "we would not deny or terminate a valid claim solely based on information published on websites such as Facebook."

    Losing control online is more than a technology problem—it's a sociological turning point. For much of human history, personal information spread slowly, person-to-person if at all.

    The Facebook era, however, makes it possible to disclose private matters to wide populations, intentionally or not. Personal worlds that previously could be partitioned—work, family, friendships, matters of sexuality—become harder to keep apart. One solution, staying off Facebook, has become harder to do as it reaches a billion people around the world.

    Facebook is committed to the principle of one identity for its users. It has shut down accounts of people who use pseudonyms and multiple accounts, including those of dissidents and protesters in China and Egypt. The company says its commitment to "real names" makes the site safer for users. It is also at the core of the service they sell to advertisers, namely, access to the real you.

    Closeted gays and lesbians face particular challenges in controlling their images online, given that friends, family and enemies have the ability to expose them.

    In Austin, Ms. Duncan and Mr. McCormick, 2

  75. Screw me over once, shame on you ... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    They don't care to keep secrets, they want to use every last bit
    of your info to make money.

    Screw me over twice, shame on ME.

    Those who are too young to know better than to use Facebook can and should be
    excused for becoming victims. Those who are old enough to know better deserve
    no sympathy whatsoever.

    Facebook is for sheep. Facebook is for idiots. Facebook is owned by a greedy twit who thinks
    the users are idiots who walked into his barn of their own free will to be milked. And what is very
    sad is that for the most part he is correct.

    If you use Facebook you deserve what you get.

    Now, I wonder how much Slashdot gets for publishing articles about Facebook ?

    Hmmmm ?

    After all, as Hollywood people know well, there is no such thing as bad publicity.

  76. If a "service" is free, you are the product by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    The real issue is that people in my generation, lets say 20-30 years of age, are too trusting of big tech firms like Goog, AAPL and FB, and not skeptical and cynical enough! My parents (and my grandparents to a greater extent) have a great cynicism of this stuff, they use it and are tech savvy, but they don't trust the companies that run it, that is a key difference, sadly too many young people trust these companies. previous generations understand that there is no such thing as a free lunch, my generation has come of age in a world ful of ad supported "freebees" so we don't really have the same concept of the no free lunch principal.

    I do feel empathy for them, it did cause pain and all, and that sucks, but I do not have any sympathy for them as they set themselves up for us.

    Telegraph, Telephone, Telephasebook!

  77. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by fluffernutter · · Score: 4, Insightful

    I do not have a Facebook account, therefore your assertion that everyone has a Facebook account is false. I do not have an account because I cannot be bothered to jump through privacy setting hoops to keep control of information that is mine in the first place. Nothing you put on the Internet is private; put nothing there that you would not announce to a room of friends, family, and coworkers, and future employers. I can never think of anything that I would want to say to all these people at once, so I don't use Facebook.

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  78. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by TranquilVoid · · Score: 2, Interesting

    There is a privacy setting so you can't be added to groups without your permission which undercuts the claim that they were 'sophisticated users'. To be fair I think Facebook set this to false by default when they added the feature.

    This is half a social problem, there are no 'robust privacy controls' for that. The girl was exposed by her friend essentially tagging her as gay. A similar thing could happen if one of her friend's mispoke while at her house in hearing of her father. Perhaps then we could blame the lock on the loungeroom door?

  79. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

    Facebook resets your privacy controls on a regular basis it seems. Can't imagine why. Only on purpose...

  80. If you use Facebook by sproketboy · · Score: 1

    You're not sophisticated.

  81. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by postbigbang · · Score: 1

    Cause and effect didn't work in either your analogy, or the facts of what happened.

    It's also not on the order of spam, which is far blinder on a good day, and a "blindfolded shotgun" on a bad day.

    For these individuals, something quite ghastly happened. See what happens if/when you get added to a group that you don't want to be identified with for whatever reasons. A false accusation is tough enough to deny and stand-down from, let alone one that you didn't want revealed because it puts you into an awkward position that's untenable. Got Cancer? Here, let's tell your insurance company.

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  82. RTFA by BeanThere · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Read The Fucking Article - she didn't put the information on there, someone else did (and Facebook's extremely poor privacy controls allowed it). That was kind of the point:

    ... the president of the Queer Chorus, a choir group she had recently joined, inadvertently exposed Ms. Duncan's sexuality to her nearly 200 Facebook friends, including her father, by adding her to a Facebook Inc. discussion group

    Do you understand what this is about? Facebook allows other people to add you to groups - in other words, your 'friends' can basically edit an aspect of your profile. It's bizarrely stupid, and has been a common complaint for a long time, and this wouldn't have happened if Facebook didn't do this, but Facebook defends this practice.

    1. Re:RTFA by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Read The Fucking Article - she didn't put the information on there, someone else did (and Facebook's extremely poor privacy controls allowed it). That was kind of the point:

      ... the president of the Queer Chorus, a choir group she had recently joined, inadvertently exposed Ms. Duncan's sexuality to her nearly 200 Facebook friends, including her father, by adding her to a Facebook Inc. discussion group

      Do you understand what this is about? Facebook allows other people to add you to groups - in other words, your 'friends' can basically edit an aspect of your profile. It's bizarrely stupid, and has been a common complaint for a long time, and this wouldn't have happened if Facebook didn't do this, but Facebook defends this practice.

      And I can create a group called "BeanThere is a child-raping Communist" and invite you to it, that doesn't mean you're either a child rapist or a communist. I could also just go on a discussion group and say you are. I agree that it's rather stupid that there's no way to force groups to wait for approval before being joined or posting on your timeline, but it's even dumber to assume that joining the "Queer Chorus" means you're actually gay, or to assume that because someone was invited to a group that it was actually a welcome invitation. I could sign up all my Liberal friends to the "Support Romney" group, or invite all my Conservative friends to the "Support Obama" group, but that doesn't mean anything about their political views... it just makes me a troll.

    2. Re:RTFA by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      the president of the Queer Chorus, a choir group she had recently joined, inadvertently exposed Ms. Duncan's sexuality to her nearly 200 Facebook friends

      Well, those queers should stick to the apple mac. Running a facebook group is a bit hard for them

    3. Re:RTFA by AngryNick · · Score: 1

      I'd love to RTFA, but it requires a login. Mirror please?

    4. Re:RTFA by Dinghy · · Score: 2

      Facebook allows other people to add you to groups - in other words, your 'friends' can basically edit an aspect of your profile. It's bizarrely stupid, and has been a common complaint for a long time, and this wouldn't have happened if Facebook didn't do this, but Facebook defends this practice.

      To be honest, the same effect would result if one of her friends posted "Hey, what's it like being a lesbian?" on her wall. I don't see anyone advocating a way to prevent that from happening.

      The easier lesson from all this is that if you're going to try to keep secrets, but be active on social media, eventually you're going to get burned.

    5. Re:RTFA by mpeskett · · Score: 1

      To be honest, the same effect would result if one of her friends posted "Hey, what's it like being a lesbian?" on her wall. I don't see anyone advocating a way to prevent that from happening.

      You can decide not to allow your friends to post on your wall. It likely wouldn't occur to you that you need to do so in the name of keeping some specific secret, but you can, in theory, control who is allowed to post there. There's not even a theoretical option to prevent people adding you to groups.

  83. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Funny

    And the fourth one has more friends than the other three combined, right?

  84. Blame the users. by cykros · · Score: 1

    Facebook's privacy policies basically amount to "you only have as much privacy on our site as we feel like giving you". Anyone who still chooses to use the site after that and is surprised by a privacy breach clearly does need to go back and get educated on how privacy on Facebook works.

    On the other hand, this is a matter of other people who know secrets essentially posting them online. This is nothing new.

  85. He didn't say everyone has a facebook account by SmallFurryCreature · · Score: 1

    He said you are a murderer to be. Me too! If only there was some website we could use to keep in contact, maybe share a list of future victims and tips on keep people alive for a long lone time.

    Here is my list:

    1. Dekker3D

    2. Everyone else

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    1. Re:He didn't say everyone has a facebook account by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      Man am I glad to find you guys because I am in the same boat. I have no FB account, a little whore tied up in my second bed room and I could use some advice.

      I added you guys to @KeepEmFreshLonger so we can exchange ideas on how to maximize playtime before their little batteries run out.
      Hope to see you soon.

  86. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by theshowmecanuck · · Score: 1

    Robust security policies are nothing by glory holes that facebook can strap your ass to, to allow unknown entities to sodomize you without being seen. They are there to protect facebook, not you. They use the term 'robust security policies' openly knowing that the general public actually believes that it refers to how facebook protects them, when it means nothing of the sort.

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  87. PR Fail by caspy7 · · Score: 1

    It's clear that thought went into the spokeman's statement.
    Isn't it anyone's job to make sure it doesn't make him sound like a complete douche nozzle?
    People kind of doubt the sincerity of your compassion when you immediately turn around and implicitly blame the victims for bringing it on themselves.

    1. Re:PR Fail by FoolishOwl · · Score: 2

      It's Facebook. What else are they going to say? "We're terribly sorry, but our business model depends upon selling third parties your personal information, so we have no intention of actually respecting anyone's privacy, and our privacy settings are fraudulent"?

  88. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by TranquilVoid · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Correction: only friends can add you to groups but you cannot stop them, only leave when you receive the notification. I thought I saw this setting somewhere but it's either gone or more likely I confused it with another setting.

    I guess this system does a lot to encourage group membership. In the same way people wouldn't bother joining they won't bother leaving. Hence Facebook gains a valuable/insidious source of user data typing.

  89. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I'm not a murderer, honest!

  90. The core problem with Facebook... by QuietLagoon · · Score: 3, Insightful
    The core problem with Facebook is that you have to rely upon the sanity and judgement of your Facebook friends to protect your privacy.

    .
    Choose your Facebook friends wisely.

    1. Re:The core problem with Facebook... by sarbonn · · Score: 2

      The problem with "choose your Facebook friends wisely" is that not everyone uses Facebook as a friend matcher. I'm a writer who accepts a lot of invites from people because they've read one of my books and are interested in learning more about me. This means that I have a LOT of people as "friends" who I don't know. And for awhile, I was fine with that. This was before Facebook turned into a shrill for trying to make money in any way possible (because their original model wasn't working). What has emerged is a business model that allows anyone of those "fans", which I've discovered can also be nefarious marketers rather than fans, who bombard my feed through all sorts of ridiculous methods (each one new in a whack a mole process that gets really frustrating). I keep changing my privacy settings to try to "fix" this, only to have Facebook change those settings with some new role out that's supposed to "enhance" my experience by basically rescinding all of my previous privacy desires so I have to now find where they've hidden the secret buttons to turn it off again (keeping in mind, it's now located in a completely different area I've never heard of before). What this has done has made people like me start to think that perhaps Facebook ISN'T the best way to maintain a marketing presence for writing. This would bother me less if Facebook didn't go through a lot of manifestations to promote the ability to publicize your works on its system.

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    2. Re:The core problem with Facebook... by sciencewhiz · · Score: 1

      You should have a public figure (eg) fan account.

  91. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by X0563511 · · Score: 1

    If you are hiding it, you SHOULDN'T have joined such a group.

    If you don't want to hide, then why were you hiding it?

    You can't hide things from only some people, these days. Take it to your grave, or it will become "general knowledge."

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  92. Re:Thi Just In From The Dept. Of No Shit Sherlock. by TranquilVoid · · Score: 1

    I think the AC's point still stands. She told the choir she was gay by joining. They could have set up their own choir web page listing the members and her father could have found it with a Google search on his daughter.

    The mundane story is that the internet makes communication more effective. It's somewhat a lame move by Facebook to prioritise their information gathering over controls most users probably want, but the easy propagation of information is modern reality and not the responsibility of Facebook. When it comes to things like governments trying to control file sharing through technological means the general consensus is against it. Here it's not even the government but a private business. Perhaps here the solution is also for society to naturally adapt.

  93. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    I do not have a Facebook account

    Do you have any friends that use Facebook on their smartphone? Uploaded photos and tagged you? Mentioned you in a wall post? If so, then Facebook already has an account for you, you just haven't set a password on it yet.

    IOW, Facebook has enough users that they can identify gaps in the social graph corresponding to people who don't use Facebook. It's naive to think they don't do anything with this information.

  94. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by toutankh · · Score: 4, Interesting

    If your employer types your name in a search engine, is he only going to find the account for colleagues? I'm not on Facebook so I have no idea, but I'm wondering, aren't you required to use your real identity?
    Also, is it not annoying to log in four times every day?

  95. This isn't a FB problem by Barlo_Mung_42 · · Score: 1

    This is an education problem. People need to learn not to post anything to the internet that they don't want everyone to read. Privacy doesn't really exist.

  96. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 4, Insightful

    That doesn't sound simple. Sounds like a PITA. Also a violation of the TOS.

  97. In a nutshell by shiftless · · Score: 0

    This is why Facebook is evil and must be completely, and utterly destroyed, through a war of attrition.

    Challenge accepted.

  98. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by shiftless · · Score: 1

    There is a privacy setting so you can't be added to groups without your permission which undercuts the claim that they were 'sophisticated users'. To be fair I think Facebook set this to false by default when they added the feature.

    This is exactly the problem. These geeks are always swapping shit around and changing things. Every time I go into the Privacy settings menu it's different somehow, and guaranteed if I look hard enough I will find some option that I do NOT want enabled, but which has been added in the interim and given a default setting which leaves the info wide open to everyone.

  99. What's the solution? by robot5x · · Score: 1

    OK I'm an optimist, humor me......

    if the evidence of FB's proactive privacy mismanagement is so overwhelming, what is the solution? is there one?

    They obviously have no incentive to clean up their disgraceful neglect, and users apparently refuse to believe that FB is anything but a benevolent hook-up place.

    I'd like to believe that informed people can make some kind of change here - but what??

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  100. They care cause they get beaten & killed over by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Regularly.

    So like, maybe get a clue?

  101. Mind your own business! by xenobyte · · Score: 1

    The person mentioned in TFA is 22 year old Bobbi Duncan... That means she's a grown woman and her father has absolutely nothing to say about how she lives her life, including her sexual preferences.

    Why does he even care?
    Why does he check her profile for things like that?

    He's clearly a pervert and needs to be outed as such. Perhaps we should start a campaign...

    Also, why does she care? - If her father is that prejudiced and retarded in his world view, lose him. Tell him - quite publicly - that if he doesn't approve, he should keep his mouth shut or go fuck himself. That will of course not improve family relations but it will show that she means business and that she is not going to take any bullshit from such narrow-minded people.

    If he was any kind of man and father, he'd be concerned wth her happiness and well-being, not her sexual preferences and similar. He's obviously also a bad father.

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    1. Re:Mind your own business! by Jiro · · Score: 3, Interesting

      When someone adds you to a group, Facebook automatically notifies all your friends, with no way to turn that off. He received the automatic notification--he didn't need to check anyone's profile to find it.

    2. Re:Mind your own business! by damienl451 · · Score: 1

      You obviously didn't get the memo that a woman's sexuality is something to be controlled by men? That she has to go from being under the authority of her father, to being under the authority of her husband, who will each in turn be in charge of her sexuality?

      If you want to be shocked, read up on "purity balls", where fathers pledge that they will be "the authority and protector" of their daughter's virginity, and daughters "pledge their purity" to their father. Are they common? No. But the very fact that they can exist in 21st century America is shocking. And the same noxious ideology is also peddled in diluted forms in the culture. Haven't you noticed that, in more conservative art forms (think: country music, conservative "family values" movies, etc.), marriage is always about "asking for her hand" (sub-text: her father has control over her sexuality and her person, and must relinquish it for it to be a "good" wedding)? What about "giving away the bridge" (who, apparently, is not autonomous enough to give herself away)? Patriarchy is alive and well in America.

  102. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by AliasMarlowe · · Score: 5, Insightful

    There is a privacy setting so you can't be added to groups without your permission which undercuts the claim that they were 'sophisticated users'. To be fair I think Facebook set this to false by default when they added the feature.

    And you have to be a Facebook user to apply that setting. And then you must repeatedly find and re-apply it when Facebook rearranges its privacy settings and resets them to default (usually undesirable) values. Even a brief period with the setting the wrong way could be disastrous, if the tagging (and consequent promulgation of the tagging) occur during that time.

    Those of us who are not Facebook users can apparently be added/tagged/whatever entirely without permission. For all I know, I've been named and tagged in all sorts of photos/groups in malicious ways. That's a nasty problem for some folks, which will likely remain unresolved until it is regulated in some way. By avoiding and actively denying decent self-regulation, Facebook is almost demanding that its actions be limited by legislation. I have no idea what happens to tags or suchlike applied to Facebook users who subsequently renounce/cancel their Facebook accounts. Potentially yet another divisive issue.

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  103. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by zblack_eagle · · Score: 4, Insightful

    If you are hiding it, you SHOULDN'T have joined such a group.

    Of course I haven't RTFA, but from the summary:

    ...a privacy loophole on Facebook—the fact that anyone can be added to a group by a friend without their approval.

    So they didn't join the group; a 'friend' added them

  104. So, you are weak to peer pressure by SmallFurryCreature · · Score: 1

    Whatever happened to, "just say no".

    If your friends jumped of a bridge, would you?

    Facebook is a privacy nightmare, always has been always will be. Its entire setup is to share your data with others. Not just advertisers but other users. That is its role. It is like saying something into a megaphone and then being surprised others can hear it.

    What is its role again? Friend Finder? That is not the role of email. An email service allows to people who know each other already to communicate. Facebook allows you to find people you don't know (or rather that facebook doesn't know you might know or not) and the only way to do that is by sharing data of people who don't know you, with you.

    THAT is the privacy hole right there and if you signup to facebook, you signed up to that huge drainage hole of privacy.

    People that got things to hide shouldn't join facebook, end of story. And when you are in the closet, you don't join Queer Choirs. Why do you think gays don't want to be forced to stay in the closet? Because they don't want to constantly have to hide their true selfs from everyone and always be afraid of being found out.

    Sadly bigoted fathers and others will always be there but sooner or later things would have come out. Or were the girls planning to marry a guy just to keep up appearances? Can't stay in the closet forever.

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    1. Re:So, you are weak to peer pressure by xaxa · · Score: 1

      And when you are in the closet, you don't join Queer Choirs.

      They didn't, that's the whole point. The owner of the Queer Chorus group added the two individuals, and they didn't have to confirm, they were added immediately and a notification to everyone -- bigoted fathers included -- was produced. It's not mentioned in the article, but there is a photograph of a choir -- it looks like there was probably already a photograph of them (again, most likely put there by someone else) so denying the association wouldn't have worked in this case.

      Sadly bigoted fathers and others will always be there but sooner or later things would have come out. Or were the girls planning to marry a guy just to keep up appearances? Can't stay in the closet forever.

      (One is a man.) Probably they were trying to keep a decent relationship with their parents until they were financially independent and/or didn't have to see them at holiday times.

      Also, it can be difficult to do certain real-life things without Facebook. The events functionality is very useful (although reliant on most people you need to use it having a Facebook account). You can make an event, invite people, show a map, accept RSVPs (and see them all in one place), change the time / cancel the event, and there can be a discussion between the attendees (e.g. I'm driving from X, anyone want a lift?).

      One could still participate in events with a completely private, maximum privacy profile.

  105. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by asdf7890 · · Score: 2

    I think he was meaning that they should not have joined the real-world group, an action that resulted in them being added by one of their contacts to the facebook group about the real world group.

    The problem is people can associate you with things on fb and other people will believe it without question. In this case it was something true that people did not want announced at this time, in other cases it could be something fictitious but potentially damaging if people who see it do not see it for the lie/joke/what-ever that it is ("asdf is a member of I Fucking Love Rape Porn"). In the case of true information that people are being careful about distributing, like in this case, fb privacy issues are potentially affecting their real life choices not just online behaviour.

    "If you don't want it know, don't post it" doesn't work when others can effectively post "it" to all your contacts for you. The obvious technical solution is for fb to verify all/em> links to you (in comments and responses, additions to groups, ...) like they do when you are tagged in an image - though that may be clunky for many users so they'd just turn it off and still be exposed to the problem.

  106. Expecting Facebook to protect your privacy by Jafafa+Hots · · Score: 1

    is like expecting McDonald's to protect the lives of beef cattle.

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  107. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by aepervius · · Score: 5, Funny

    Simple solution : don't have friend either . :-P

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  108. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by xaxa · · Score: 1

    I don't want to pay to read the article

    Pay to read? What strange things are you encountering? I didn't see any paywall.

    Perhaps because I'm in the UK? i see this: http://imgur.com/bsrqq

    I had Facebook while at university, but just didn't use it if my parents were around.

  109. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Chrisq · · Score: 2

    I do not have a Facebook account, therefore your assertion that everyone has a Facebook account is false. I do not have an account because I cannot be bothered to jump through privacy setting hoops to keep control of information that is mine in the first place.

    An alternative is to have multiple accounts for different interest groups. Set them all so only friends can view information and the only way that they can know it belongs to you is if you accept a request. If someone requests the "wrong" one reject it with an "I don't know you" and they will probably mention it in email. I have not done this but I think it would be feasible.

  110. Plausible Deniability by Chrisq · · Score: 1

    When I was at Uni I knew a number of jokers who would have signed people up to all sorts. It was pre-Facebook days but I remember getting signed up at my parents address to things ranging from "the Watch Tower" to "Latex interest group". Surely she could have said something like "I'll kill that , I'm going to find a way to sign them up to the "friends of westboro" group - and nobody would be the wiser

  111. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by rvw · · Score: 3, Interesting

    I do not have a Facebook account, therefore your assertion that everyone has a Facebook account is false.

    Do you browse the net and see those facebook like buttons now and then? Whenever you see such a button, facebook registers your IP-address and knows what website you were viewing. Only if you use addons like Ghostery you can avoid this, but many people don't know that.

    You may not have a facebook account, but facebook is certainly trying to monitor what you do online. If you ever do register, they will soon enough be able to link you to that older data.

  112. Our hearts go out... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Facebook spokesman Andrew Noyes responded with a statement blaming the users: 'Our hearts go out to these young people...'

    OK, I'm willing to do the cutting; who's willing to do the packing?

  113. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by DrXym · · Score: 2
    I think the primary issue is Facebook is a social network with a vested interest in mining the crap out of personal information and therefore it is in their interest to throw all the privacy settings as wide as they can go so people can connect. Thus they design their user interface and default settings in a way to bury options which control the flow of information. Not just for existing features but new features too. So people think they've locked down their account, a new feature turns up and suddenly they're not private any more.

    The simple answer I would have thought is a simple master switch which says "for new features I want the default behaviour to be" - default / private / disabled. It shouldn't be hard to implement but unless someone like the EU were to force such a thing (and likely it would only cover the EU), I don't see Facebook ever volunteering to do it.

  114. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    "There is a privacy setting so you can't be added to groups without your permission "

    So somebody else can be added to the group, that person will spill his guts.

  115. Needed dialogue by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

    It's terrible that people have to suffer just because they have a sexual preference. Unfortunately Facebook is built like a parasite, people adding you to groups, tagging your picture etc.

    It's too bad that we have to have more cases like these to really start enforcing how a company like facebook can manipulate our information.

    This is why I believe the only real alternative is for every person to have their own "wall" on their own microserver which allows them to control everything & has very restrictive policies set by default. De-centralized and strictly under the user's control.

    This way there is no giant egg basket that everyone wants a piece of.

    Facebook? I'm over it.

  116. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Or you could just convince everyone to jump to Google+
    these security issues happen ALL THE TIME with facebook. Facebook has been violating users privacy, not handling pricacy issues, and releasing private informaiton, not to mention owning the rights to all your images posted since its inception.

    Anyone with half a brain who is interested in this can search Facebook Privacy.. and see instances of their gross negligence.

    The issue here is simple.. people use it. You feel pressured into using it.. you use it.
    you know youre not safe, but you do it any way.. why? because you're not strong enough to bring them to a different network.
    I made the jump to G+ as soon as it was available (I was lucky enough to get an early invite)
    the privacy control is brilliant by default, I have my friends, family, coworkers and everyone in the one account and never worry about the wrong information going to the wrong people.

  117. NoScript filtered a potential cross-site scripting by dgharmon · · Score: 1

    NoScript filtered a potential cross-site scripting attempt from [http://online.wsj.com]

    [NoScript InjectionChecker] JavaScript Injection in coalesced:///site/4454ret=html&limit=10&r=65017&phint=serverDomain=online.wsj.com ..

    [NoScript XSS] Sanitized suspicious request. Original URL [http://tags.bluekai.com/site/4454?ret=html&limit= ..

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  118. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Captain.Abrecan · · Score: 0

    Every time I do this, all the accounts get banned. I am glad you are having better luck with it though

  119. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by guyniraxn · · Score: 1

    It's a lot easier to use one account and the filter controls that have been there for years. I have certain friends who are otherwise cool but can get very sensitive about certain types of jokes so I might make a post visible to everyone but them. My sister sincerely believes that criticizing me with zero cleverness, wit, or irony is a valid form of humor and that everyone else gets it so I hide certain things from her too. Only takes a couple seconds and no one knows anything is being hidden.

  120. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by History's+Coming+To · · Score: 1

    Indeed. "both students were sophisticated users who had attempted to use Facebook's privacy settings to shield some of their activities from their parents" - I'm sorry, but sophisticated users either don't use Facebook or accept that there will probably be a breach of their privacy at some point, trying to find a middle ground is just being naive.

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  121. Done and Done by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I mean done... reallly.

  122. No Facebooks use of my data is against my TOS by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    There I am ensuring that facebook is consistent with my TOS.

  123. but her clueless friends and family might not by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    have use... or sadly even know about e-mail!

  124. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by thePowerOfGrayskull · · Score: 1

    And four Facebook accounts is somehow a "simple" solution? It's not even a reasonable solution, never mind a simple one.

  125. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by parkinglot777 · · Score: 2

    If you have a setting that not allow search for your account, google won't show your account in the search. Also, facebook won't show your account in the list either unless you are a friend of the person who is doing the search.

    @GP, even though multiple-account may help solving the issue, it is breaking the TOS of facebook. Right now they are not enforcing it, but it doesn't mean it is the right thing to do. If one wants to be on the Internet, the one should accept and prepare for any consequence. Internet has no privacy.

  126. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by pixelpusher220 · · Score: 3, Interesting

    Given that this 'loophole' has existed for years - hell someone once added Zuckerberg to the NAMBLA group linky - and hasn't been fixed I'd say it's pretty much a feature at this point.

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  127. Limit what you share. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Facebook can publish 0% of the things I never type into Facebook in the first place.

  128. Not all who self-identify with a faith practice it by tepples · · Score: 1

    What, you believe in an invisible friend, but don't like being lumped with the others that claim to believe in the same imaginary friend?

    I believe in an invisible Creator but don't like being lumped in with people who claim to believe in the same invisible Creator but have made a habit of refusing to do what he says. As his son said: "Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven." --Matthew 7:21, NIV.

  129. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by mrchaotica · · Score: 3, Insightful

    it is breaking the TOS of facebook

    Facebook breaks my terms of service too, so we're even!

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  130. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by ai4px · · Score: 1
    This is exactly why I left facebook. I got damned tired of setting my privacy settings only to find they were open again. After the 3rd or 4th time, it was no accident. Heck they don't even tell you they've made a change that you might want to renew, they just do it. I have to laugh as I continue to hear about people's privacy settings being lowered and private information exposed.

    I just gave up and took my ball home.

  131. Spotify requires a Facebook account by tepples · · Score: 1

    I should add that even without Facebook, I am doing pretty good so far. What am I missing?

    You are missing Spotify and other Facebook-exclusive applications.

    1. Re:Spotify requires a Facebook account by bogaboga · · Score: 1

      Spotify and other Facebook-exclusive applications are not my cup-of-tea, so I am glad I'm not a subscriber. I also do not see a reason why I'd want to be one.

  132. Duopoly by tepples · · Score: 1

    Good thing the ISP can't get away with it then isn't it? If they do it without the permission of their users, they could be sued.

    The ISP would win such a lawsuit as soon as its counsel shows the judge out the signed terms of service in which the customer granted such permission. If both broadband ISPs that serve your area require such permission in order to begin service, good luck with your dial-up.

  133. Spotify requires Facebook by tepples · · Score: 1

    perhaps it will convince some people to simply not use Facebook

    That or just remove all friends and keep only those parts of the account that are absolutely needed in order to use Spotify and other web applications that require Facebook Connect.

  134. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by QuasiSteve · · Score: 1

    That's strange.. I'm from NL, didn't get it. Maybe AdBlock Plus is having an additional beneficial side-effect there..

  135. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by DirtyLiar · · Score: 1

    Internet 101: anything you post will eventually become public

    Which is why, even though I have a Facebook page, there is almost nothing in it.

    I haven't even put my birthday in it. Only a few interests and where I went to school. It's not even hooked to my main email account. (Which helps me spot spam!)

    And when Google suggested that I use my real name on YouTube instead of the username I chose, I turned that down too. If I wanted to use my real name, I would have, and in fact I do sometimes.

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    THINK! It's patriotic

  136. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by OpiumEd · · Score: 0

    It would be nice if all old people with insane religious beliefs would likewise avoid Facebook or have too hard of a time figuring out how to use it. That's the real issue here: there are too many "old" people with bigoted religious beliefs that unfortunately figure out how to get on Facebook.

  137. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by radaghast · · Score: 1

    Not having a facebook account could be just as risky for your privacy. Say one of your friends took a photo of you which you'd rather not have publicly broadcast say in a stripclub or whatever. He could put that photo on facebook, and you'd never be wise to it because you don't have a facebook account from which to view it. Then years down the road you're getting a divorce or something, and your wife's lawyer digs that photo up and finds evidence you cheated on her, so on.

  138. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by DirtyLiar · · Score: 1

    Lies!

    I saw it!

    Well, videotaped it anyway.

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    THINK! It's patriotic

  139. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by OpiumEd · · Score: 1

    The real problem has to do with religion. Get rid of religion and you won't have this issue.

  140. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by fluffernutter · · Score: 1

    It would be much easier for the lawyer to find that picture if I were on Facebook, because it would be tagged to my account. If I were on Facebook I would have to make it my business to be aware of what links to me and confront people who put my pictures there which is another situation I don't want to get into. I have encountered people in my workplace who would do anything for an edge with the boss, including befriending someone who can see my less sanitized pictures. Anyone who does not understand the danger of Facebook clearly has not been in this situation.

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    Laws are rules for the court, but merely a bottom bar to hit for life. Think beyond laws in your actions always.
  141. Diaspora / Google+ by tjonnyc999 · · Score: 1

    ...and this, kids, is YET ANOTHER good reason to get the hell out of Facebook.

    My personal farewell to Facebook came about 2 years ago, when they took group discussions public - including already posted discussions.

    It's one thing to criticize various government figures in the privacy of a 20-member group, it's another thing altogether to have your real name + various tirades publicly posted - and forever Googlecached - for anyone to find. Thanks a lot, Facebook, for potentially damaging my chances for sensitive employment and/or government positions.

    Google+, Diaspora, LinkedIn, whatever. Not going back to Facebook.

  142. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by xaxa · · Score: 1

    Opening it in a private tab still shows the paywall.

    I worked out how to get round it though: Google search the URL, and the Google HTTP referrer means WSJ shows the full article.

  143. Glad I saw this article.... by MLease · · Score: 1

    I was just considering caving in to the relentless "get on Facebook" drumbeat I've been hearing from friends, relatives and people I do business with.

    This article showed me why being on Facebook AT FUCKING ALL is a VERY BAD IDEA!

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    I'm sorry; I don't know what I was thinking!
    1. Re:Glad I saw this article.... by SpanglerIsAGod · · Score: 1

      Not being on Facebook is an equally bad idea because then you can't block tags of you in pictures or do something about what others post about you. It's a mess no matter what you do.

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      War doesn't show who is right - just who is left.
  144. New facebook slogan by WaffleMonster · · Score: 1

    "The only winning move is not to play"

    1. Re:New facebook slogan by Kittenman · · Score: 1

      "The only winning move is not to play"

      Wargames? I'm here for you....

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      "The greatest lesson in life is to know that even fools are right sometimes" - Winston Churchill
  145. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Not if I have facebook.com/fbcdn/www. variants in my /etc/hosts it doesn't.

  146. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by helix2301 · · Score: 1

    I tell everyone if you don't want people to know it don't put it on the internet. Once posted on the internet in any form of media it can never be erased.

  147. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    "anything you post will eventually become public" Um. She didn't post it.

  148. Re:don't have friend either by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I use this solution.

  149. Re:Hanging out on Facebook is like living in a dor by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Ya. Pretty much. I don't know why so many people here get so worked up about it. If you don't like it leave, I did. FWIW it's probably not a good idea to hide stuff from your parents, or your kids, wife, best friend etc. If it is a good idea to hide stuff from somebody that close to you, you um, need to put some distance between the two of you.

  150. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Some information, ya sure. How much of it? Well let's guess:
    -how many/who my friends are? -If most of my friends are on FB, and post stuff about me (they probably don't) or tag me in pictures (not very often like never) then yes. In my case no probably not.
    -how many siblings I have? -probably not. People can list their siblings, but mine aren't that stupid and most people are too lazy anyways.
    -who my parents are? -probably not. They don't have accounts and probably don't even know what it is.
    -what my hobbies are? -almost definitely not. Facebook probably isn't dumb enough to assume my interests are the same as my friends and any pictures I'm tagged in by them would be... incidental. So if I'm tagged in a picture skiing or at a location - maybe I only went once, how the hell are they supposed to know?
    -what music, books, movies, games I like? -almost definitely not. There is almost no way for them to glean this information with any degree of accuracy. See above. Again even if I was tagged in something, it's just not very much information to go off of.
    -my DOB? Nope.
    -my address? Nope.
    -my sex? If I was tagged in a picture, ya probably.
    -my sexual orientation? Nope. ...
    So FB knows I'm a white dude with [x] color hair. Ya, I feel so violated.

    You get the picture. This all depends on whether your friends are narcissistic socialites that are more interested in using their smartphones as megaphones, in which case you probably deserve it and you would fit right in on that site anyways...

  151. A thing called discretion... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    That there can be any legitimate debate about to whom one's sexual preferences are revealed once one posts them on a social media site designed for sharing personal information throttles my imagination.

    There's this thing we had in my day called discretion. Apparently the kids think Facebook is now responsible for it.

    1. Re:A thing called discretion... by MLease · · Score: 1

      You didn't read TFA, did you? She didn't post her own sexual orientation on Facebook. She had everything locked down as much as possible. What happened was that the owner of an open group (the "Queer Choir" group) added her to that group. Since it was open, notifications of her addition to that group were broadcast to ALL OF HER FRIENDS. She had nothing to do with it, her only mistake was letting the group leader know that she was on Facebook, and he took care of the rest for her. To be fair, he was a newbie and didn't know better. But Facebook should NOT automatically broadcast information like that to each of her friends. She should be allowed to control what information goes out, and she tried within the limits Facebook offered her, but was thwarted by that loophole.

      -Mike

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      I'm sorry; I don't know what I was thinking!
  152. Well.... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Hooray for frictionless sharing.
     
    Amazes me that the hipster groupthink has Google as the prime agent of privacy betrayal, not FB.

  153. Re:IF YOU HAND THEM OVER IT WILL TAKE THEM !! by Sir_Sri · · Score: 1

    Got Cancer? Here, let's tell your insurance company.

    If there is a situation where you need to rely on an insurance company for healthcare you should move.

    Also, if people ask about why you're added to a group, make a group, Sir_sri's group of involuntary membership. And add people to it. Demonstration is key. There is enough 'being gay is funny' and gay as pejorative that you can always tell people your friends are assholes, or drunk, or both.

  154. Re:Naivete by Lisias · · Score: 1

    I don't agree with your arguments, but I don't agree with the moderation you got neither.

    I'm not a boy. I'm a 42 year old fucking bastard that cannot sustain living with people like me. :-)

    I'm already have enough of me on my life. Having friends (and some of them are truely friends) helps me to be a better person.

    I can just hope to do the same for them, however I'm not sure.

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    Lisias@Earth.SolarSystem.OrionArm.MilkyWay.Local.Virgo.Universe.org