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An Evidence-Based Approach To Online Dating
HughPickens.com writes Rachel Nuwer writes in the NYT that Dr. Sameer Chaudhry's online dating persona was garnering no response from the women he reached out to so he synthesized 86 literature studies on the subject of online dating in the fields of psychology, sociology, and computer, behavioral, and neurocognitive sciences.in hopes of improving his odds. As it turns out, success begins with picking a user name. While men are drawn to names linked to physical traits (e.g., Cutie), the researchers found, women prefer ones that indicate intelligence (e.g., Cultured). Both sexes respond well to playful names (e.g. Fun2bwith) and shy away from ones with negative connotations (e.g., Bugg). User names that begin with letters from the first half of the alphabet do better than those from the latter half. "As human beings, we have a tendency to give things at the top of a pile more value," says Khan. As for your profile photo, pick a photo with a genuine smile, one that crinkles the eyes, and with a slight head tilt (it's linked to attractiveness). And if you're looking for a male partner, go for that photo of you in siren red—a color that enhances men's attraction to women. "For those attracted to browse into the profile, a description of personal traits increased likeability when it: showed who the dater was and what they were looking for in a 70:30 ratio; stayed close to reality; and employed simple language with humor added. Invitations were most successful in obtaining a response from the potential date when they: were short personalized messages addressing a trait in their profile; rhymed with their screen name or headline message; and extended genuine compliments." And finally, don't wait too long before arranging a face to face meeting.
"...after first improving ourselves."
This.
This. This. This.
If you put all the free time you have not-dating toward this, you'll suddenly see all your free time disappear in the most wonderful ways.
I perfunctorily looked at TFA, and it doesn't mention height at all. This is ridiculous, and any man with even the most basic experience with online dating knows that height is perhaps the most important number in your online profile. The higher that number is, the more likely one is to receive invitations from women. I actually made an experiment, once, where I created to fake profiles that were almost identical, except for height, and the profile that had a height 10 cm larger than the other, got about 40 TIMES more contact requests (175 cm vs. 190 cm).
"The agriculture ministry is not in charge of Gundam" - Japanese ministry official.
Women are generally bad news in the long term.
This doesn't mean they are not useful for sex, but they can
and will RUIN your life financially if you buy into the whole
"get married, have kids," routine. Why ? Because the divorce
rate is skyrocketing and you will end up paying child support
and alimony while you get to visit your kids a few times a
month.
Marriage is for chumps and suckers. Ask any divorced man whether
he would do the same thing he did in the past, knowing what he knows
now. You'd better be ready for a strong dose of reality if he decides to
give you an honest answer.
Marriage is a con game perpetrated by women on men. Smart men don't
fall into the trap.
captcha = families ( you've got to be fucking kidding me, you Slashfucks )
I am diagnosed autistic, balding, stack shelves for a living, have a huge comics web site and my favorite topic is tax reform. But I am also 6 foot 6. So I was never short of dates on OKCupid.
(All of that is true BTW)
And I am currently engaged to the most wonderful woman in the world, thanks to the aforementioned site: She is beautiful, sexy, intelligent, capable, funny, incredibly kind, etc. and was only single because people found her own height intimidating (she is north of 6 foot). She replied to my initial contact specifically because of my height. Since then we found other things in common, but not until the 2nd or 3rd email.
So is height one of the top reasons for dating? HELL YES.
Yeah, probably.... :-(
Honestly, when I think about it, and considering the 50+% divorce rate and the huge number of children raised in broken homes and by single parents, it seems like our society's model for creating and building relationships is utterly broken.