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Feeling Bad About Feeling Bad Can Make You Feel Worse (berkeley.edu)
An anonymous reader writes: Pressure to feel upbeat can make you feel downbeat, while embracing your darker moods can actually make you feel better in the long run, according to new UC Berkeley research. "We found that people who habitually accept their negative emotions experience fewer negative emotions, which adds up to better psychological health," said study senior author Iris Mauss, an associate professor of psychology at UC Berkeley. At this point, researchers can only speculate on why accepting your joyless emotions can defuse them, like dark clouds passing swiftly in front of the sun and out of sight. "Maybe if you have an accepting attitude toward negative emotions, you're not giving them as much attention," Mauss said. "And perhaps, if you're constantly judging your emotions, the negativity can pile up."
This is why I suck at competitive Starcraft. No meta-game. But at least have a scientifically-validated excuse to tell wifey next time I disappoint her by not feeling disappointed about disappointing her, "hey! I got no meta-feelings!"
I find it easier to be upbeat in the face of negativity while pissing of my trolls at the same time.
If you should be a happy camper, and you're not and your boss / friends / family are expecting you to be a happy camper, of course you are going to feel worse than if you are allowed to be honest about how you are feeling.
this has been obvious for decades. Centuries, even. Keep a stiff upper lip and soldier on instead of emoting.
Thanks, 1970s, for fucking something else up!
"I don't know, therefore Aliens" Wafflebox1
It's not about honesty, it's about indirection. You create distance between the negative feeling and yourself if you can say "I wish I didn't feel like that" rather than "I hate myself for feeling that." Also, if you can joke about the problem without feeling like you're berating yourself, you can relieve stress, and stress beyond a certain level becomes a mind-killer.
It has been common knowledge for sever thousand years. Research something useful.
Seems par for the course
Gently reply
The positive side is that one side won not because they were good at winning, but because their opponent made a blunder.
That just makes it easier for the opponent in the end. See you in 2020 or sooner, comrade.
Feeling worse about feeling worse can make you feel bad
That's why I stay away from FB: It's impossible to be happy all the time... why is this even some kind of goal? Sad or dull moments make the happy ones more poignant.
love is just extroverted narcissism
Feeling Bad About Feeling Bad About Feeling Bad Can Make You Feel Worse
You're stuck in your urban bubble again. Same way the "Black Lives Matter" protesters in Charlottesville were all white.
What would we do without science?!
Does feeling bad about feeling worse because you're feeling bad about feeling bad also make you feel worse? This sounds like a vicious cycle in a way, so where's the bottom? Is it being goth and trying to embrace beauty in pain or something like that, and if so is the cure worse than the disease?
They should all just be euthanized. Seriously. A drain on humanity, people with defective brains.
Oh great, another thing I am doing wrong. I suck :(.
Feeling bad about feeling good? Does that make you feel better?
Taking guns away from the 99% gives the 1% 100% of the power.
The Slashdot title alone is cringe because no shit Sherlock. The paper is claiming if someone has gotten over a negative thing then they have less negativity than someone who hasn't. A toddler could tell you more of anything means more of anything, including more negative means more negativity. Also, what the hell is this doing on Slashdot, there is nothing at all technology related.
Feeling Bad About Feeling Bad Can Make You Feel Worse
Am I the only one who read that sentence and let fly a clearly audible: DUUUUUHHHHH!!!! ???
In a Joint Statement today, the Ric Romero Institute and Capitain Obvious indicated that they agree wholeheartedly with the results from UC Berkley about feeling bad about feeling bad makes you feeling worse.
The institute will dedicate more funds to research the subject, searching for a Joint study with Berkley, while Capitain Obvious will use his public opinion powers to raise awarenes about the subject, specialy amongst people who suffer from depression (yours truly included), who know nothing abut this strange effect.
News at eleven...
*** Suerte a todos y Feliz dia!
Actually, the President and VP would be Pence and Ryan. Will you continue to weep at this revelation?
There is an entire genre of music devoted to "feeling bad". Western music also has a mode for this kind of thing--it's called the minor key. Country-western has lots of "My Woman Ran Off with my Best Friend's Truck" songs, too. These guys need to get out more.
His ignorance covered the whole earth like a blanket, and there was hardly a hole in it anywhere. - Mark Twain
and answer from the heart.
I've had a lot of personal horror in my life. Here's what I've found works for me:
I PRETEND to be happy and upbeat when I don't feel that way. And you know what? The act of my smiling and speaking a certain way actually *DOES* improve my overall mood. Hell -- just SMILING changes my mood -- even when there's nothing for me to smile about.
Just because there's a lot of crap in my life I wouldn't wish upon anyone doesn't mean I need to let it slip in to my interactions with a world that for the most part wouldn't give a rip -- or would care too much an attempt a level of intimacy I don't want from strangers or casual acquaintances or co-workers.
Recent findings brought to you by the Captain Obvious Research Institute.
We suffer more in our imagination than in reality. - Seneca
I'd watch that type of language regarding assassination
Feeling good about feeling bad makes you like feeling bad and thus makes you feel bad.
Feeling bad about feeling good makes you avoid feeling good and therefore makes you feel bad.
Feeling bad about feeling bad is good but you're feeling bad because feeling bad about feeling bad implies you're feeling bad at least once in the chain of events.
Now I feel bad about feeling bad about feeling bad!
Can feeling good about feeling good make you feel even better?
Right now I'm feeling better than a Walker County inmate with a brand new jar of peanut butter.
(google it for the joke)
I'm wondering if the study started before or after the movie Inside Out was released. SPOILER: The main child character, Riley, was about to run away, but when her emotions (Joy and Sadness) allowed Sadness to express herself, then she cried and was able to express herself.
Very good movie, much better than "Herman's Head" was.
"Who are you?" "No one of consequence." "I must know." "Get used to disappointment."
Go fuck yourself.
Now I feel better.
Sharing is caring.
I enjoy shitting in my pants.
"Pickle Rick" changed my life.
Dude, I know it seems like a good idea at the time (and it is kinda fun) but don't post comments after drinking a 5th of distilled alcohol.
Government has no right to act against such speech without proof of motive *and* means. To prosecute someone because they reject their leader is a violation of the Constitution and would piss off a lot of otherwise harmless members of the public.
YES! The size of the hands is the most important thing about the POTUS! Bring back race biology... You friggin Nazi....
I see you've read Atlas Shrugged.
When someone is depressed, don't tell them to count their blessings or focus on the good things. "See? You have so much to be happy about."
The reaction this elicits is: "You're right. These are all good things... so why am I not happy?"
"Slow down, Cowboy! It has been 3 years, 7 months and 26 days since you last successfully posted a comment."
"But President Pussy-grabber isn't giving me any choice but to oppose him in any way possible"
You're right, it's better to support "Presidential Candidate 'My husband sticks cigars in pussies'".
Why don't you just block "SOROS" with your magic HOSTS file?
"Slicing into a cut made by a knife that's bleeding, with a knife, can make the cut bleed more."
Now, where can I get my multi-million-dollar funding to get a research project done to prove that?
If you study mindfulness, you learn that resisting negative feelings is like forcing your will against them, but they do exist so you can not just will them away. It's tempting because you don't like the situation, and want to eliminate it, or let it never happen again to us. But adding negativity to negativity is throwing fuel on the fire, resisting reality doesn't make the reality go away.
Accepting it allows you to move on. Bad things do happen unfortunately. If we can learn to make the best of it, or at least stop feeling worse, then overall we will feel better. It doesn't feel like the thing we want to so at the time, but it will make the next step in our life easier to not make things worse right now.
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DidnÂt yall see the pixar movie "inside out". thats bassically the plot-