I don't really remember the date, but I remember the day I learned that I was going to be a father. I spent about ten minutes saying "OH MY GOD.OH MY GOD.OH MY GOD" over and over again in my head. When I finally calmed down, I took her out to Red Lobster and was all smiles afterwards.
I know a lot of people who have different priorities in life. They find their fulfillment through the things they do themselves. Parents, at least the good ones, get theirs through helping their children to grow. I recognize many of my own flaws and I hope that I'm able to guide my children into being better people than I am. I hope that I can help them avoid some of the mistakes that I made. It might be another 10-15 years before I can afford to take the family on a vacation to Hawaii whereas my childless friends could do that next year, but I wouldn't change it for the world.
If you don't think you should have children, you're probably right.
Me, I was pretty much born to be a father. I love fatherhood. It's not for everyone and it's better that you know this before you make a child than after.
I'm a member of a racial minority that works in technology.
The idea of some kind of minority outreach or affirmative action, if you will, is offensive to me. It belittles and draws into question, my accomplishments. I worked hard to get where I am. Let it be about merit, not political correctness.
Because the guys who do well on the athletic field are better at punching people they don't like than the guys from the chess club. At least, that's how it was when I was in school.
I was a member of the chess club and by the end of Jr high school I was pretty good at punching and kicking people. Once you show that you're willing to do it and capable of doing it, people stop pushing you. I think it's often a good idea to get children into martial arts. Teach them to be humble and to walk away whenever possible but when they have no choice about it, make sure they understand that you will support them for defending themselves.
I was on the wrong end of an ass kicking a time or two, because of small minds who resented my intellect. Know what happened? I hit a growth spurt and began to give ass kickings back. The funny thing is that I was then regarded as a behavioral problem.
After kicking a few asses, I didn't have to fight much any more.
The moral of this story is that the nerd to whom you're being an asshole is smart enough to figure out how to cripple you with a sweat sock full of loose change.
Now, I'm a reasonably well paid professional and the others are cooking my french fries.
I'm being honest, I'm a lifelong conservative Republican.
You would most likely consider me to be an extremist.
My problem with Romney wasn't his alleged conservatism, it was his transparent phoniness. He didn't believe any of the things he was saying. I can't support a man like that.
If Palin had run, I would have supported her. Not necessarily because I agree with her on everything, but because I believe that she truly believes in her principles. I can respect a person with whom I have a sincere disagreement, but I can't respect someone who pretends to care about my issues.
I'm a Republican who didn't vote for Romney. I know it's anecdotal and not scientific, but I'm hearing this from a lot of conservatives.
It's not that he had to run so hard to the right and then pretend to be a centrist, it's because he has had no concrete principles that he won't compromise. He's pro-"choice", then he's pro-life, then he's pro-"choice" and then finally he's pro life. He's pro-gun, then he's anti-gun, then he's pro-gun again. We couldn't trust him. As much as I don't like the fact that Obama was re-elected, it would have been worse for both the country as a whole and the Republican party if Romney had won.
Republican turnout was down versus 2008, primarily because we didn't care enough to turn out to support him.
That is the only thing that should be taken into consideration. As long as it was between consenting adults, an affair is between him, the 'afairee' and his family. As long as it doesn't effect one's job performance its really nobody's business.
Having an affair opens him up to blackmail. He's compromised and shouldn't be heading an intelligence agency.
This isn't overreaching morality. This isn't butting into his private life. This is maintaining national security.
If you have ever taken your computer to be repaired by a shop, if you have nude picture of yourself on your hard drive, I can guarantee with about 99% certainty that they looked at them.
I find it amusing that these guys are being prosecuted for doing something that nearly everyone in that business does.
The self-importantce and "my shit doesn't stink, but everyone else's does" just bleeds from your posts.
Oh, my shit stinks too. I'm just not willing to go along with the charade that Lovecraft's shit was somehow less stinky because he had a vivid imagination.
Martin Luther King's assassination was long after HP Lovecraft died. HP Lovecraft lived in a different world than you do where it wasn't so obvious that racism was bad. Indeed, in most places it was *required.*
So then, he wasn't such a visionary after all. Right? He was only an average thinker for his day...
You risk bankruptcy and lifetime financial ruination. The rest of us with expenses to cover and children to provide for will continue to live in the real world.
Those are not excuses, they are statements of fact, just like his racist views are facts. A minor point, but it was a cultural racism, not a biological one, he was never concerned with "stock" as you put it. He married a Jew because she was "well assimilated" to the New England ideal. Personally I was glad to learn that he moved beyond his upbringing and experiences in New York/Brooklyn and moderated his views before his early death. There are plenty of other figures throughout history that did great things and never considered if their racist views were wrong, including if I'm not mistaken a few of the Founding Fathers. - HEX
Yes. The founding fathers either owned slaves themselves or were tolerant of slavery. I view them with similar disdain.
Many people are born into racist families and when they are old enough to discover the world for themselves, they become disabused of the notions that their parents held.
Lovecraft was 22 years old when he penned this gem.
When, long ago, the gods created Earth In Jove’s fair image Man was shaped at birth. The beasts for lesser parts were next designed; Yet were they too remote from humankind. To fill the gap, and join the rest to Man, Th’Olympian host conceiv’d a clever plan. A beast they wrought, in semi-human figure, Filled it with vice, and called the thing a Nigger.
There is a difference between the ignorance born of unfamiliarity and race hatred. Lovecraft practiced the latter. Lovecraft lived in a time of northern migration of a lot of blacks who sought to escape the crushing racism of the south. So I can surmise that he encountered some black people who fit the stereotypes that were common in his day but to accept such as the norm is akin to meeting one stingy Jew and operating as if they're all Shylock.
Lovecraft was a piece of shit racist. I don't care how many people enjoy his writing.
Doesn't matter where McCain was born. His parents were citizens, he's a citizen.
That's the thing that pisses me off the most about those idiot birthers. It doesn't matter if Obama was born in Hawaii, Nairobi or on the moon. His mother was a citizen, he's a citizen.
HP Lovecraft was a product of his times, and he recanted these views before his death. He also married a Jewish woman, although at the time he did so he still had some strong feelings against immigrants. There are a few really good documentaries on him that go into this aspect of his life.
Also, he's a huge influence on my own work, the Maniac Loveseat series I do especially. - HEX
That's an excuse. There were many men of his time who did not subscribe to that brand of virulent racism. Marrying a jew doesn't change what he was, according to his own world view, mixing with jewish stock would have improved his own offspring.
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I don't really remember the date, but I remember the day I learned that I was going to be a father. I spent about ten minutes saying "OH MY GOD.OH MY GOD.OH MY GOD" over and over again in my head. When I finally calmed down, I took her out to Red Lobster and was all smiles afterwards.
I know a lot of people who have different priorities in life. They find their fulfillment through the things they do themselves. Parents, at least the good ones, get theirs through helping their children to grow. I recognize many of my own flaws and I hope that I'm able to guide my children into being better people than I am. I hope that I can help them avoid some of the mistakes that I made. It might be another 10-15 years before I can afford to take the family on a vacation to Hawaii whereas my childless friends could do that next year, but I wouldn't change it for the world.
LK
If you don't think you should have children, you're probably right.
Me, I was pretty much born to be a father. I love fatherhood. It's not for everyone and it's better that you know this before you make a child than after.
LK
No, you can't. Cities have sovereign immunity. In other words, they are immune to the consequences of the stupid bullshit that they do.
LK
Four years ago, five months before she was born, I saw my daughter yawn in a 4D sonogram.
LK
True. Pedantic but true.
LK
abandoning the 4.x tree and revamping the 3.5 tree. I'm using Trinity KDE because I can't stand 4.x.
LK
I'm a member of a racial minority that works in technology.
The idea of some kind of minority outreach or affirmative action, if you will, is offensive to me. It belittles and draws into question, my accomplishments. I worked hard to get where I am. Let it be about merit, not political correctness.
LK
Because the guys who do well on the athletic field are better at punching people they don't like than the guys from the chess club. At least, that's how it was when I was in school.
I was a member of the chess club and by the end of Jr high school I was pretty good at punching and kicking people. Once you show that you're willing to do it and capable of doing it, people stop pushing you. I think it's often a good idea to get children into martial arts. Teach them to be humble and to walk away whenever possible but when they have no choice about it, make sure they understand that you will support them for defending themselves.
LK
I was on the wrong end of an ass kicking a time or two, because of small minds who resented my intellect. Know what happened? I hit a growth spurt and began to give ass kickings back. The funny thing is that I was then regarded as a behavioral problem.
After kicking a few asses, I didn't have to fight much any more.
The moral of this story is that the nerd to whom you're being an asshole is smart enough to figure out how to cripple you with a sweat sock full of loose change.
Now, I'm a reasonably well paid professional and the others are cooking my french fries.
LK
In short order it will be Human with brown skin = terrorist
As a person with brown skin, I don't like where this is heading.
LK
Thank you.
I'm being honest, I'm a lifelong conservative Republican.
You would most likely consider me to be an extremist.
My problem with Romney wasn't his alleged conservatism, it was his transparent phoniness. He didn't believe any of the things he was saying. I can't support a man like that.
If Palin had run, I would have supported her. Not necessarily because I agree with her on everything, but because I believe that she truly believes in her principles. I can respect a person with whom I have a sincere disagreement, but I can't respect someone who pretends to care about my issues.
LK
I'm a Republican who didn't vote for Romney. I know it's anecdotal and not scientific, but I'm hearing this from a lot of conservatives.
It's not that he had to run so hard to the right and then pretend to be a centrist, it's because he has had no concrete principles that he won't compromise. He's pro-"choice", then he's pro-life, then he's pro-"choice" and then finally he's pro life. He's pro-gun, then he's anti-gun, then he's pro-gun again. We couldn't trust him. As much as I don't like the fact that Obama was re-elected, it would have been worse for both the country as a whole and the Republican party if Romney had won.
Republican turnout was down versus 2008, primarily because we didn't care enough to turn out to support him.
LK
That is the only thing that should be taken into consideration. As long as it was between consenting adults, an affair is between him, the 'afairee' and his family. As long as it doesn't effect one's job performance its really nobody's business.
Having an affair opens him up to blackmail. He's compromised and shouldn't be heading an intelligence agency.
This isn't overreaching morality. This isn't butting into his private life. This is maintaining national security.
LK
Along with the anti-vaccine nutters?
Clearly using real HIV viruses must be very risky and dangerous
You go first. If you're still healthy in 20 years, maybe I'll try it.
LK
You sound like an expert on the subject.
If you have ever taken your computer to be repaired by a shop, if you have nude picture of yourself on your hard drive, I can guarantee with about 99% certainty that they looked at them.
I find it amusing that these guys are being prosecuted for doing something that nearly everyone in that business does.
LK
I am a non-conformist. I am certain that I would have examined every societal convention and decided for myself how I felt about it.
It is entirely possible that I would have been shunned. I need no one's approval other than my own.
I'm also 100% positive that I wouldn't have shared Lovecraft's views on race, namely because I am a member of a racial minority.
LK
The self-importantce and "my shit doesn't stink, but everyone else's does" just bleeds from your posts.
Oh, my shit stinks too. I'm just not willing to go along with the charade that Lovecraft's shit was somehow less stinky because he had a vivid imagination.
Martin Luther King's assassination was long after HP Lovecraft died. HP Lovecraft lived in a different world than you do where it wasn't so obvious that racism was bad. Indeed, in most places it was *required.*
So then, he wasn't such a visionary after all. Right? He was only an average thinker for his day...
LK
So in your opinion, if someone is bad in one area, they are all bad, and they cannot redeem themselves ever?
Not quite. But if someone is bad enough in one area, it takes more for redemption than writing some interesting stories.
LK
You risk bankruptcy and lifetime financial ruination. The rest of us with expenses to cover and children to provide for will continue to live in the real world.
LK
Those are not excuses, they are statements of fact, just like his racist views are facts. A minor point, but it was a cultural racism, not a biological one, he was never concerned with "stock" as you put it. He married a Jew because she was "well assimilated" to the New England ideal. Personally I was glad to learn that he moved beyond his upbringing and experiences in New York/Brooklyn and moderated his views before his early death. There are plenty of other figures throughout history that did great things and never considered if their racist views were wrong, including if I'm not mistaken a few of the Founding Fathers. - HEX
Yes. The founding fathers either owned slaves themselves or were tolerant of slavery. I view them with similar disdain.
LK
Many people are born into racist families and when they are old enough to discover the world for themselves, they become disabused of the notions that their parents held.
Lovecraft was 22 years old when he penned this gem.
In Jove’s fair image Man was shaped at birth.
The beasts for lesser parts were next designed;
Yet were they too remote from humankind.
To fill the gap, and join the rest to Man,
Th’Olympian host conceiv’d a clever plan.
A beast they wrought, in semi-human figure,
Filled it with vice, and called the thing a Nigger.
There is a difference between the ignorance born of unfamiliarity and race hatred. Lovecraft practiced the latter. Lovecraft lived in a time of northern migration of a lot of blacks who sought to escape the crushing racism of the south. So I can surmise that he encountered some black people who fit the stereotypes that were common in his day but to accept such as the norm is akin to meeting one stingy Jew and operating as if they're all Shylock.
Lovecraft was a piece of shit racist. I don't care how many people enjoy his writing.
LK
Doesn't matter where McCain was born. His parents were citizens, he's a citizen.
That's the thing that pisses me off the most about those idiot birthers. It doesn't matter if Obama was born in Hawaii, Nairobi or on the moon. His mother was a citizen, he's a citizen.
LK
HP Lovecraft was a product of his times, and he recanted these views before his death. He also married a Jewish woman, although at the time he did so he still had some strong feelings against immigrants. There are a few really good documentaries on him that go into this aspect of his life.
Also, he's a huge influence on my own work, the Maniac Loveseat series I do especially. - HEX
That's an excuse. There were many men of his time who did not subscribe to that brand of virulent racism. Marrying a jew doesn't change what he was, according to his own world view, mixing with jewish stock would have improved his own offspring.
LK
Unless a good friend or business associate is using this insecure host, don't say a word.
Take your business elsewhere. Tell them why you're leaving. Don't tell anyone else.
You'd be exposing yourself to a lot of liability.
LK