If anybody ever gave me an ultimatum requiring me to drop everything, abandon my livlihood and move hundreds of miles away, I'd be out the door before nightfall.
It may not be that simple. From the facts presented, we don't really know how much she has sacrificed for him. Marriages is, as you say, a two way street. We don't know who has been doing the lion's share of the taking up to this point.
He needs to look in the mirror and ask himself (a) whether she's worth it, and (b) the effect that such a move would have on the "ballance sheet". Not that I advocate keeping score, but your gut should tell you whether she's entitled to having it her way this time.
My wife and I (both techies) spent the dot com boom days in NYC and we had all the work we could handle. Though there is much that I loved and still love about NYC, I really had to get myself and my son to a more rural setting. So my wife reluctantly followed me to a rural New Hampshire town (population under 2,000) in 2002. We had saved enough to get by for about a year.
After a few months, she found a job as a DBA about a 30-minute drive away (better than a Manhattan commute) and I've secured enough freelance contracts to keep us comfortable. We're not doing as well as the boom days, but we're making about double our pre-dot com incomes and I suspect we'd be doing no better had we stayed in the city.
All of my contracts so far have come directly or indirectly from contacts I made in the city. I have clients in NYC, France, California, and Brazil, but not one in New Hampshire.
I don't know what to offer by way of advice. I followed my wife to the city many years ago for love, and when I couldn't stand it any more, she followed me to the woods also for love. We didn't have a specific plan when we came here; I had faith that it would work out, and she had faith in me (most of the time:). There certainly was the prospect that I'd be washing dishes or plowing driveways -- I was prepared for that, but it didn't come to it in my case. Still I think you should be prepared for it and ask yourself whether she's worth it.
My wife and I are very different from each other. I can't really explain what makes us compatible. There's a wide gulf in culture, interest, experience, and opinion between us. By rights we should have split years ago, but somehow the differences keep it interesting rather than get in the way.
My wife and I have run a tech consultancy business together for about five years. She does database work and I do just about everything else. The key to avoiding conflict has been for each of us to let the other manage his/her own client relationships. (More recently, she has a regular job and just helps out occasionally.)
I think an arrangement in which one of us reported to the other would not work nearly as well.
As an OT asside, we met as students when she was working on her second masters degree in an Engineering field and I was in my seventh year as a sociology undergrad. Little did we suspect that we would some day be running a business together! The.com bubble made for strange career paths. But lest you think I'm a jonny-come-lately to tech, I feel compelled to add that I've been programming since I was 12. I didn't major in CS for the same reason I didn't take English as a second language.
The problem with arguing with a dead man is that he is no longer capable of changing his mind. None of us truly knows what Professor Tolkien would have thought of the movies had he lived to see them in their own historical context.
I was at 42nd and Sixth Ave, and I found AIM to be the most reliable means of communicating with my friends. Second was my cell phone. My POTS phone was worthless.
I'm sure someone will correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe that the US does not require publication any more. To receive copyright protection, a creative work must be fixed on a permanent medium (including computer disk).
If I had the resources to survey users about SiteFinder-like services, here's what I'd ask:
When you enter an incorrect domain, would you prefer a 404 error, or a web site with possible alternatives?
If you answered "yes" to question 1, would you prefer for this service to appear all the time, or only when your incorrectly typed domain ends in ".net" or ".com"?
If you answered "yes" to question 1, would you like to be able to set a preference in your browser that allows you to choose among alternative competing search sites, or would you prefer to be forced to use a particular site not of your choosing?
I've never tried this, but I once heard that it's possible to create an SSH tunnel for port 21, FTP's control port. The data is actually transmitted in the clear over other ports, but the protocol-related transmissions take place over the encrypted port. I'm not sure how this would work; since the tunneling would mask the client's orgin to the server, I would expect problems negotiating the data ports.
In his article "Linux's Hit Men", author Daniel Lyons suggests that the Free Software Foundation is somehow wrong to insist that Cisco abide by the license that accompanied the software that they are distributing in some of their routers. He even implies a sinister motive to the FSF's "quiet" handling of the case, as though he would prefer to see them loudly castigating Cisco. In his haste to defend the prerogatives of big business, he neglects to take cognizance of the social contract which makes business transactions possible: in our society, we expect contracts, licenses, and the law to be obeyed.
Under copyright law, you are not permitted to make copies of another person's work. Period. The General Public License grants others the right to make copies of work distributed under the GPL with the proviso that any derivatives works must also be released under the GPL, with the source code made available to all comers. If you don't accept the GPL, then copyright law controls, and you may not make a copy.
Such a provision may well be unpalatable to Cisco, but if that's the case, they should not have used GPL'ed code. Cisco is reaping large profits from the volunteer work of thousands of coders, and all they ask is that Cisco share the their improvements.
Mr. Lyons either misconstrues the GPL, or else he believes that the copyrighted code of small-time volunteer programmers is somehow unworthy of enforcement.
The parent is not a faithful reproduction of the original article. The mostly correct, the poster has seen fit to insert references to certain recurrent off-topic themes which, if made more explicit, would certainly earn him a -1 moderation within seconds.
...is to give business. Look for opportunities refer business to your clients or anyone else. If you have a chance to bid on a large contract, consider subcontracting or partnering for the services that are outside your core skills. (I generally do this with the graphic design work when I have a web site contract.)
I've gotten some excellent referals from people and business who have received referals from me in the past, including one relationship that ultimately led to six figures in follow-on contracts.
A while ago IIRC you cancelled plans to demonstrate a technology which would have run afowel of the DMCA in defference to the wishes of your then-employer HP. Now that you are no longer with HP, do you plan to go ahead with it?
I'm not trying to goad you on, mind you. Breaking the law is a serious business and if you have reconsidered, I certainly won't think any less of you.
Yeah, that's a good point, but when someone else owns the server, you have to comply with their terms of service which often limit what you can do or say.
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While I don't disagree with you, comments like this make me sad. It's too bad that Internet publishing has become an experts-only club. Much of the early optimism about the Internet (especially the web) centered around empowering ordinary people to get their message out without having to own a printing press.
An excellent book discussing some of the isomorphisms between computers and biology is Godel, Escher, Bach: An Eternal Golden Braid by Douglas Hofstadter. I can't recommend it highly enough.
What happens when two users who both subscribe to such a challenge-response system try to communicate for the first time? User A sends a message to user B. User B's server replies with a challenge. User A's server replies to user B's challenge with a challenge. Maybe the systems are intelligent enough to avoid loops, but I don't see how the message will eventually get through to the intended recipient.
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If anybody ever gave me an ultimatum requiring me to drop everything, abandon my livlihood and move hundreds of miles away, I'd be out the door before nightfall.
It may not be that simple. From the facts presented, we don't really know how much she has sacrificed for him. Marriages is, as you say, a two way street. We don't know who has been doing the lion's share of the taking up to this point.
He needs to look in the mirror and ask himself (a) whether she's worth it, and (b) the effect that such a move would have on the "ballance sheet". Not that I advocate keeping score, but your gut should tell you whether she's entitled to having it her way this time.
My wife and I (both techies) spent the dot com boom days in NYC and we had all the work we could handle. Though there is much that I loved and still love about NYC, I really had to get myself and my son to a more rural setting. So my wife reluctantly followed me to a rural New Hampshire town (population under 2,000) in 2002. We had saved enough to get by for about a year.
:). There certainly was the prospect that I'd be washing dishes or plowing driveways -- I was prepared for that, but it didn't come to it in my case. Still I think you should be prepared for it and ask yourself whether she's worth it.
After a few months, she found a job as a DBA about a 30-minute drive away (better than a Manhattan commute) and I've secured enough freelance contracts to keep us comfortable. We're not doing as well as the boom days, but we're making about double our pre-dot com incomes and I suspect we'd be doing no better had we stayed in the city.
All of my contracts so far have come directly or indirectly from contacts I made in the city. I have clients in NYC, France, California, and Brazil, but not one in New Hampshire.
I don't know what to offer by way of advice. I followed my wife to the city many years ago for love, and when I couldn't stand it any more, she followed me to the woods also for love. We didn't have a specific plan when we came here; I had faith that it would work out, and she had faith in me (most of the time
My wife and I are very different from each other. I can't really explain what makes us compatible. There's a wide gulf in culture, interest, experience, and opinion between us. By rights we should have split years ago, but somehow the differences keep it interesting rather than get in the way.
My wife and I have run a tech consultancy business together for about five years. She does database work and I do just about everything else. The key to avoiding conflict has been for each of us to let the other manage his/her own client relationships. (More recently, she has a regular job and just helps out occasionally.)
.com bubble made for strange career paths. But lest you think I'm a jonny-come-lately to tech, I feel compelled to add that I've been programming since I was 12. I didn't major in CS for the same reason I didn't take English as a second language.
I think an arrangement in which one of us reported to the other would not work nearly as well.
As an OT asside, we met as students when she was working on her second masters degree in an Engineering field and I was in my seventh year as a sociology undergrad. Little did we suspect that we would some day be running a business together! The
The problem with arguing with a dead man is that he is no longer capable of changing his mind. None of us truly knows what Professor Tolkien would have thought of the movies had he lived to see them in their own historical context.
I was at 42nd and Sixth Ave, and I found AIM to be the most reliable means of communicating with my friends. Second was my cell phone. My POTS phone was worthless.
I can't RTFA since it's /.ed, but aren't we talking about the same files that Linus previously claimed to have written himself?
You don't need everyone on the planet, just enough so that you can start filtering or bouncing mail from non SPF domains.
I'm sure someone will correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe that the US does not require publication any more. To receive copyright protection, a creative work must be fixed on a permanent medium (including computer disk).
I've never tried this, but I once heard that it's possible to create an SSH tunnel for port 21, FTP's control port. The data is actually transmitted in the clear over other ports, but the protocol-related transmissions take place over the encrypted port. I'm not sure how this would work; since the tunneling would mask the client's orgin to the server, I would expect problems negotiating the data ports.
You're right. I could have been clearer about that.
...that Bruce Perens cracked this weeks ago.
The parent is not a faithful reproduction of the original article. The mostly correct, the poster has seen fit to insert references to certain recurrent off-topic themes which, if made more explicit, would certainly earn him a -1 moderation within seconds.
...is to give business. Look for opportunities refer business to your clients or anyone else. If you have a chance to bid on a large contract, consider subcontracting or partnering for the services that are outside your core skills. (I generally do this with the graphic design work when I have a web site contract.)
I've gotten some excellent referals from people and business who have received referals from me in the past, including one relationship that ultimately led to six figures in follow-on contracts.
This is my favorite book ever, but I would not hold it out as a general-purpose math tutorial.
Gratner claims to be unbiased, OSDN doesn't.
...you insensitive clod!
Bruce,
A while ago IIRC you cancelled plans to demonstrate a technology which would have run afowel of the DMCA in defference to the wishes of your then-employer HP. Now that you are no longer with HP, do you plan to go ahead with it?
I'm not trying to goad you on, mind you. Breaking the law is a serious business and if you have reconsidered, I certainly won't think any less of you.
Yeah, that's a good point, but when someone else owns the server, you have to comply with their terms of service which often limit what you can do or say.
While I don't disagree with you, comments like this make me sad. It's too bad that Internet publishing has become an experts-only club. Much of the early optimism about the Internet (especially the web) centered around empowering ordinary people to get their message out without having to own a printing press.
the defendant, being presumed innocent, is privy to all the claims being brought against them as well as all evidence to support those claims.
You mean presumed "not liable". This is a civel case, not a criminal case.
The same is not true in reverse -- IBM can bring out evidence to counter SCO without SCO's lawyers having ever seen it before...
No. In a civil case, the discovery rules allow either party to examine the other's records.
An excellent book discussing some of the isomorphisms between computers and biology is Godel, Escher, Bach: An Eternal Golden Braid by Douglas Hofstadter. I can't recommend it highly enough.
What happens when two users who both subscribe to such a challenge-response system try to communicate for the first time? User A sends a message to user B. User B's server replies with a challenge. User A's server replies to user B's challenge with a challenge. Maybe the systems are intelligent enough to avoid loops, but I don't see how the message will eventually get through to the intended recipient.