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Study Shows Males Commonly Mistake Sexual Intent

seattle-pk writes "Males are apparently clueless when it comes to interpreting sexual intent from females, according to a recent study (PDF) from Indiana University's Department of Psychological and Brain Sciences. Men were found commonly to perceive more sexual intent in women's behavior than women were intending to convey. (A campus survey showed that 68% of college females had an experience where a male mistook signs of friendliness for affection.) However, the study also shows that men were quite likely to misperceive sexual interest as friendliness. 'Rather than seeing the world through sex-colored glasses, men seemed just to have blurry vision of sorts, overall,' according to the article. If you're a male who ever mistook the meaning of a barista's smile, looks like you're not alone."

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  1. From the No Duh Dept. by Tablizer · · Score: 5, Funny

    Is this from the same study group that found males like beer?

    "She slapped me, that means she wants my bod!"

    1. Re:From the No Duh Dept. by MrNaz · · Score: 5, Funny

      Nothing says "I Love You" like a restraining order.

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    2. Re:From the No Duh Dept. by foniksonik · · Score: 5, Funny

      Actually sometimes it does. In high school there was a girl who ran up to me tried to steal my pepsi and when I wouldn't give it to her she slapped me.

      I found out weeks later that she was actually trying to tell me she liked me???? in high school... I thought that kind of thing was left behind in grade school... who knew?

      So yes, sometimes a girl slapping you really does mean she wants your bod.

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    3. Re:From the No Duh Dept. by MrNaz · · Score: 2, Funny

      Getting a quote wrong and then urging me to "Remember this" is kinda ironic.

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    4. Re:From the No Duh Dept. by IKILLEDTROTSKY · · Score: 2, Funny

      I had a similar thing happen when i offered to let a girl go in front of me in line. I just told her it was obvious she wanted my bod and she obviously was offended to cover up the fact the she was getting wet just talking to me.

    5. Re:From the No Duh Dept. by Zero_Independent · · Score: 1, Funny

      I can't believe somebody just alluded to Calvinball. The girls are inconsistent with the rules, because there are no rules. They all act independently. Duh.

      I guess I'm supposed to feel bad that men can not interpret sexual intent correctly. Really? Does correctly gauging females' sexual intent really matter? Does anything that females want matter? The answer is of course, no. The only thing that matters is what I want. I will interpret everything in whatever way is most convenient for me.

    6. Re:From the No Duh Dept. by Wiseman1024 · · Score: 2, Funny

      You've typed two spaces between "man" and "geek".

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    7. Re:From the No Duh Dept. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Funny

      Hi, can you tell the difference between chloroform and acetone?

  2. wrong by spoop · · Score: 5, Funny

    women have blurry behavior

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    1. Re:wrong by MisterSchmoo · · Score: 5, Funny

      Didn't you watch "When Harry Met Sally" we want to bang the ugly ones too.

    2. Re:wrong by bounty_hunter.poland · · Score: 5, Funny

      We do?! Ye gods, i didn't know!

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    3. Re:wrong by AlecLyons · · Score: 5, Funny

      Didn't you watch "When Harry Met Sally"

      No.

    4. Re:wrong by rve · · Score: 5, Funny

      ... whereas women can overlook ugly and stupid, as long as he's rich?

      Ug!

    5. Re:wrong by Cylix · · Score: 2, Funny

      And now you know and knowing is half the battle. G.I. Hoe!

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    6. Re:wrong by cayenne8 · · Score: 4, Funny
      "Didn't you watch "When Harry Met Sally" we want to bang the ugly ones too."

      Of course....that's where the old joke came from...

      "What do fat girls and mopeds have in common?

      --They're both fun to ride, but, you don't want your friends to see you on either one of them..."

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    7. Re:wrong by cayenne8 · · Score: 2, Funny
      "Or rather, men and women just use somewhat different codes. There need not to be anything blurry on either side."

      Well, with men, it is pretty easy. If a man is talking to a woman, hell...if he even is LOOKING at her, he is interested in having sex with her. Very simple.

      Women? Who the hell knows. Some are nice in that they are pretty upfront about sexual interest...but they are in the small minority.

      I guess it is hard for some guys, because there are NO subtle signs a man wants a women for sex...because any women we pay attention to, we want sex with. For some reason, women don't seem to want it quite as badly...otherwise, they'd not be so damned coy trying to send subtle signals, which are completely lost on males. If a woman is sexually interested in a guy....just grab his dick and kiss him....he'll understand that as a clear sign. And again....girls, if he is talking to you...he is interested. We're not gonna waste our time talking to women we are not interested in taking to bed.

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    8. Re:wrong by nizo · · Score: 5, Funny

      See here is the problem: women give ambiguous signals, while men don't. But wait: men are the ones with the problem. For those of us men who are married, is this starting to sound at all familiar???

    9. Re:wrong by Foobar+of+Borg · · Score: 3, Funny

      Believe it or not, I would not marry her. Hell, I would hardly be able to be in the same room with her for any length of time, especially if she actually spoke.
      No kidding. Apart from being rich, she looks and acts like trailer park trash. The people who think she is hot are probably also the ones who think Ann Coulter is hot. Ye Gods! What is the world coming to?
    10. Re:wrong by ubuwalker31 · · Score: 4, Funny

      Yes, Yes, YES, YES!

    11. Re:wrong by mfnickster · · Score: 3, Funny

      You missed the obvious conclusion:

      In order to interpret the results, these researchers must know which signs indicate sexual interest in females!

      ...and they're not telling. :-P

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    12. Re:wrong by cayenne8 · · Score: 4, Funny
      "Well, I don't know about you, but I'm getting old. After a few hours of sex, I'm kinda bored with it and I want to do something else."

      Well, you know the definition of an eternity don't you? It is that unbearable period of time between when you cum and she leaves....

      :-)

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    13. Re:wrong by BorgCopyeditor · · Score: 3, Funny

      I want to do something else. Like, say, start some sort of communication. I mean, in a relationship I'd expect a bit of that, too.

      Pervert.

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    14. Re:wrong by Cid+Highwind · · Score: 5, Funny

      The people who think she is hot are probably also the ones who think Ann Coulter is hot.

      Well, he wouldn't be bad-looking if he would just quit wearing all that makeup and get a haircut...

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    15. Re:wrong by CSMatt · · Score: 2, Funny

      So women...just be blatant and save everyone the trouble. ;p Save your breath. There are no women on Slashdot.
    16. Re:wrong by Eli+Gottlieb · · Score: 5, Funny

      I'll have what he's having!

    17. Re:wrong by Alsee · · Score: 2, Funny

      no idea how to get from "Hi" to "Let's fuck."

      Well duuuh!

      It's "Nice shoes."

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  3. thanks by ionix5891 · · Score: 4, Funny

    thanks for posting this info on /. we need all the education about the opposite sex that we need (never mind the mothers whose basements we hermits live in)

    1. Re:thanks by gomiam · · Score: 4, Funny

      Hey, I think your mother tried to hit on me.

      Are you sure there was any on involved?

  4. Evolution by Detritus · · Score: 5, Funny

    Things sure were simpler when we were monkeys.

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    1. Re:Evolution by Tablizer · · Score: 5, Funny

      Things sure were simpler when we were monkeys.

      Putting one in the Whitehouse certainly didn't simplify things.

      -1 Political Troll

    2. Re:Evolution by rishistar · · Score: 5, Funny

      Yeah - I'm still waiting for a woman to fling her faeces at me as a clear sign of her sexual intent.

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    3. Re:Evolution by JohnSearle · · Score: 5, Funny

      Yeah - I'm still waiting for a woman to fling her faeces at me as a clear sign of her sexual intent.
      That's what it means! Damn... All those missed opportunities.

      - John
    4. Re:Evolution by Dachannien · · Score: 2, Funny

      Putting one in the Whitehouse certainly didn't simplify things. Sniff. I miss the 1990s, when sexual intentions in the White House were so easy to discern.
  5. Humor? by carpe_noctem · · Score: 5, Funny

    Why's this story in the "Humor" section? What's so funny about a 30-year old virgin?

    Oh, wait..... HAW, HAW!

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    1. Re:Humor? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 4, Funny

      It's always good when a man can laugh at himself! ;-)

  6. Great... by baboo_jackal · · Score: 1, Funny

    What a wonderful example of our tax dollars at work.

  7. Women often conflate the two themselves by GodfatherofSoul · · Score: 2, Funny

    Anyone who's dated or flirted has dealt with women (I'm sure it works both ways) who feign sexual interest to achieve another outcome, or feigned disinterested friendliness when the opposite is true. I consider myself an expert as I've misread women in just about any way possible.

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  8. Question for the love experts by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Funny

    Does a restraining order mean she's playing hard to get?

  9. Re:Genetic link? by spasticfraggle · · Score: 3, Funny

    Never been married?

    The main reason I had a third child with my wife was the prospect of 18 months without PMS!

  10. Re:So what it's saying is ... by Digestromath · · Score: 5, Funny
    We spent significant resources developing a verbal language, and it's about damn time women started using it.

    Begin with simple statements:

    Put down the 20 sided dice and come have a drink with me.

    Your guild can raid without you for a night, lets go see a movie.

    We can make out while your program compiles.

    I know you enjoy moderating that silly Slashdot forum, but we could be having sex right now!

  11. Re:Hogwash... by donscarletti · · Score: 5, Funny

    We're MEN... We need CLEAR signals.
    If you're trying to address the world's female population right now then I am afraid that you have your soapbox parked in the wrong forum.
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  12. Re:So what it's saying is ... by bounty_hunter.poland · · Score: 3, Funny

    I know you enjoy moderating that silly Slashdot forum, but we could be having sex right now! ...and now I cried.
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  13. Re:Hogwash... by bounty_hunter.poland · · Score: 5, Funny

    If you're trying to address the world's female population right now then I am afraid that you have your soapbox parked in the wrong forum.
    The are women on the internet! There are women on Slashdot! They just use manly nicknames, so we won't try to flirt with them all the time.

    ~amanda99: I'm really pissed with Microsoft pushing OOXML standarization!
    ~The-Man: Oh, you're so pretty when you're angry.
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  14. It gets even worse on the flip side by eclectro · · Score: 2, Funny

    Years later I realized that a couple of women were hitting on me and being the idiot nerd that I am, I didn't "get it." DOH!!!

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  15. Re:Or, on the other hand... by TapeCutter · · Score: 3, Funny

    "It's that men from Mars, women from Venus thingy."

    Actually they are both from Earth, but that bit of trivia is best kept to oneself if you want to gey laid.

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  16. Re:So what it's saying is ... by laejoh · · Score: 2, Funny

    You forgot: let me put on my robe and wizard hat!

  17. Re:Genetic link? by Himring · · Score: 2, Funny

    I've always wondered why my line, "are you ovulating?" never worked like I thought it would....

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  18. Re:Research on Campus by Anne+Thwacks · · Score: 4, Funny
    Students are probably not a representative sample of anything.

    Au cointraire, mon frere, students are very representative of people who lie on questionares about sex

    This study is not worth the e-paper its not written on. That goes for almost all other questinaires about sex too.

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  19. Re:Or, on the other hand... by VoidCrow · · Score: 5, Funny

    Speaking entirely subjectively, my own sexual intent, as a woman, is like a ratchet with a very large reset button, with a mischievous monkey in attendance. The monkey keeps on pressing the reset button at random intervals. A man can interest me, and things can go very well right up until he says or does entirely the wrong thing (and don't ask me to define 'the wrong thing'). At this point, I completely lose interest and go back to being a nun. This is essentially why the man needs to spank the monkey.

  20. Re:Hogwash... by Harald+Paulsen · · Score: 2, Funny

    They have talking realdolls now?

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  21. Re:Or, on the other hand... by ATMAvatar · · Score: 4, Funny

    In conclusion, we're all idiots.

    Obviously. You should be asking her to play Mario Kart.

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  22. Re:Hogwash... by thewiz · · Score: 2, Funny

    Thanks!
    I've always wondered what my wife meant by, "You, me, sex, NOW!"

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  23. Oblig John Prine by Bayoudegradeable · · Score: 5, Funny

    Always marry an ugly girl, that's the only kind. She'll never ever leave you, and if she does you won't mind. Let's not forget, ugly girls need lovin', too! But then again, discussing sex with women on slashdot is like discussing Ubuntu with your grandmother... neither party knows what the hell is going on...

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    1. Re:Oblig John Prine by sammy+baby · · Score: 5, Funny

      I frequently study this "sex" business courtesy of the internet.


      Exactly. I have high hopes of settling down one day, once I can find a pair of nice girls who don't mind sharing a cup.
  24. Re:Or, on the other hand... by Opportunist · · Score: 4, Funny

    What? Playing Smash Bros drunk? What an idiotic idea! When you're drunk, your hand-eye coordination suffers. I mean, would you want to lose in Smash Bros? TO A GIRL?

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  25. Re:Hogwash... by TheVelvetFlamebait · · Score: 2, Funny

    That's right! He should make this speech at all the pr0n forums! I've always had a little trouble interpreting the sexual intentions of the women there.

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  26. Re:Smalltalk is the answer. by BotnetZombie · · Score: 2, Funny

    Way too much info to be remembered. Much simpler:
    1. Pretend to agree with whatever nonsense she says
    2. Don't give up before the goods are delivered
    3. Goto 1

  27. Re:Smalltalk is the answer. by theGreyMuppet · · Score: 2, Funny

    Maybe your advice is the best in the world but, goddamnit, I'm _not_ gonna take any how-to-score-with-chicks advice from /. !!

  28. Re:Hogwash... by Hal_Porter · · Score: 3, Funny

    Don't you think that women sending ambiguous signals is a barrier to stop stupid men breeding? Now I'm sure people are going to pipe up at this point and say they are good at programming and math and so on. But as the bumper stickers says "If you're so smart why ain't you rich?". And in any case numeric skills are one kind of intelligence. Social skills are another. If you can't pass the social intelligence test, no kids for you, unless you have the numeric skills to make an load of money. I'm skeptical that men have that option these days though, since most women make enough money to support themselves independently.

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  29. Re:Or, on the other hand... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Funny

    "I mean, would you want to lose in Smash Bros? TO A GIRL?"

    If I got laid afterwards, YES.

  30. The One With The Free Porn, se4ep17 by stupidflanders · · Score: 2, Funny

    Chandler: I was just at the bank and there was this really hot teller, and she didn't ask me to go do it with her in the vault!
    Joey: Same kind of thing happened to me! Woman pizza-delivery guy comes over, gives me the pizza, takes the money, and leaves!
    Chandler: What? No, "Nice apartment, I bet the bedrooms are huge?"
    Joey: No! Nothing!
    Chandler: You know what? We have to turn off the porn.
  31. Re:Or, on the other hand... by Anonymous+Psychopath · · Score: 3, Funny

    A women, who was a colleague, once sat on my lap and fed me my dinner... at a company function. Yet she had absolutely no sexual intention of any kind. Seven years after that event I finally got a date, and we're now married, so I was able to ask about the incident. She told me she didn't really know what she was thinking about, that she didn't find me particularly interesting at the time, and she didn't understand why her behavior was "taken out of context".

    Huh???

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  32. Re:Or, on the other hand... by wtansill · · Score: 2, Funny

    So women, if you don't want to send a message that your interested, quit flirting. If you are interested, go ahead and be forward.
    Well said sir! "Get lost!" and "Let's go back to my place and fuck like rabbits" are completely unambiguous to even the most clueless. Ladies, be clear!
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  33. go ahead. blame the user. by snsh · · Score: 5, Funny

    This is another case of blaming the user for confusing interfaces,
    and another case of blaming hardware for a software problem.

  34. Re:Or, on the other hand... by bdrasin · · Score: 2, Funny

    Are you hitting on me?

  35. Re:Or, on the other hand... by Opportunist · · Score: 2, Funny

    Don't do that, it will haunt you forever. You will feel so cheap afterwards, like a whore, like you traded your dignity for some cheap sex. I still can't play DDR without ... I mean, a friend of mine still can't play DDR...

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  36. Re:Or, on the other hand... by evil_aar0n · · Score: 2, Funny

    > When people from different cultures are communicating they may be extra careful to avoid ambiguity.

    When we were in second grade - let's just say, "quite a while ago," and leave it at that - dating was initiated by writing a note to another person you liked along the lines of, "Do you love me? Yes No" The recipient circled one, gave the note back, and that was it: you were a couple. Or not. (I'm getting off topic, but there was this one girl who had this annoying habit of writing, "maybe." Grr...)

    I think we could use something along those lines, today. You see a guy / girl you think you might like, and hand them a note saying: "Would you like to [have sex | develop a long-term relationship | hop in a large tub filled with whipped cream and Jell-O]? Yes No" They'd circle one, hand it back, and bada-bing, you'd know right away where you stood with that person.

    It would certainly resolve some of the ambiguity. Unless they wrote "maybe."

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  37. Re:Or, on the other hand... by beav007 · · Score: 2, Funny

    Would you rather have every woman you ever slept with *fake it* out of *sympathy*?
    Slashdot poll #52245a
    Would you rather:
    a) A woman who is honest about her lack of feelings for you
    b) A sympathy bone.

    0.3% Voted (a)
    63.8% Voted (b)
    8.4% asked if there was any other kind
    3.2% commented that RealDolls don't have feelings
    and
    24.3% complained about the lack of CowboyNeil option.