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Ask Slashdot: Have You Ever 'Ghosted' an Employer? (linkedin.com)

"Suddenly, calls and texts went unreturned," writes LinkedIn's editor at large, describing a recruiter who suddenly discovered the candidate she'd wanted to hire failed to respond to 12 messages, including emails like "Please let me know that you have not been kidnapped by aliens. I'm worried about you," and even a snail-mailed greeting card. Recruiters complain that prospective employees are now borrowing a practice from dating -- and "ghosting" recruiters and employers to let them know that they're not interested.

"Candidates agree to job interviews and fail to show up, never saying more. Some accept jobs, only to not appear for the first day of work, no reason given, of course. Instead of formally quitting, enduring a potentially awkward conversation with a manager, some employees leave and never return. Bosses realize they've quit only after a series of unsuccessful attempts to reach them.... Meredith Jones, an Indianapolis-based director of human resources for a national restaurant operator, now overbooks interviews, knowing up to 50 percent of candidates for entry-level roles likely won't show up."

Long-time Slashdot reader NormalVisual writes, "It'd be interesting to hear Slashdotters' experience with this." Have you ever ghosted a potential employer, or perhaps more relevant, have you ever been ghosted by a potential employer during the hiring process? Do you feel it's unprofessional, or simple justice for the behavior of some companies when the balance of power was more on their side?
Inc. magazine blames the low unemployment rate and "the effects technology have had on the communication style of younger generations." But leave your own thoughts in the comments.

Does ghosting show a lack of professionalism, or is it simple payback for the way corporations treated job-seekers in the past? And have you ever "ghosted" an employer?

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  1. unprofessional, but turnabout? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    I don't condone this behavior at all. It's unprofessional and disrespectful. If you make a commitment to show up for an interview or accept a job, you should be there. But through the eyes of my child who is attempting to enter the workforce, being rejected with no feedback at all is frustrating. I don't expect every employer to spend hours coaching rejected applicants, but a simple statement of why would go a long way. I can understand the rational of a prospective employee that's been through application after application with no responses or rejections that just say, "no". Very few are giving the overwhelming number of applicants that courtesy, why should it be returned?

    It's wrong on both sides. Everybody needs to step up and communicate better.

    1. Re:unprofessional, but turnabout? by Hognoxious · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Some of them don't even let you know that you didn't get it, let alone why.

      Turnabout's fair play.

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      Confucius say, "Find worm in apple - bad. Find half a worm - worse."
    2. Re:unprofessional, but turnabout? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Ummm...no.

      The employers you are ghosting are the ones who hired you, and presumably treated you right. The employers who are ghosting you are the ones who DID NOT HIRE YOU.

      You are punishing person B because person A pissed you off.

      The fact that one person (or company, or whatever) has not treated you right does not give you license to be a dick to everyone.

  2. Don't be sour, dear recruiter by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    It's only what you've been doing to your merchandise for ages.

    My sent email box contains literally hundreds of emails to just about that many recruiters that at best completely ignored me. At best because they might also add me to their "database" and have their spambot send me things that are usually completely unrelated to what I'm interested in, every half year or so. That's how I know I'm at the bottom of their barrel and will never ever get a decent offer from them. So I report those emails as spam. Because, a little respect would be nice. But I've never had any from recruiters. Plenty of abuse, though. Down to spending time and effort on a phone interview only to learn that the advertised job didn't actually exist. They kept on advertising that nonexistent job of course.

    No sympathy for recruiters finding the chickens are coming home to roost.

  3. Maybe it'll send a message to employers.. by jmdevince · · Score: 5, Insightful

    For a long time it's been perfectly professional and okay for a potential employer to just 'ghost' potential canidates. They'll never return a phone call or email if they're not interested in you or if they change their mind halfway through the interview process because they found a better canidate. You have to practically harass them to know what's going on. This is super common in the tech world. But when a potential employee does it? "That's unprofessional." - Bullshit i say. This isn't the '80s anymore where skilled laborers are interchangeable.

  4. With regards to the main questions by turbidostato · · Score: 5, Insightful

    "Does ghosting show a lack of professionalism, or is it simple payback for the way corporations treated job-seekers in the past?"

    Yes to both.

    Next question?

    1. Re: With regards to the main questions by reanjr · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Unless that retail store is successful and cares about their people; then they will tell obnoxious customers to fuck off.

      The issue is that HR doesn't know the first thing about working with anything but a captive and abused labor pool. When they have to deal with labor that can afford self respect, HR doesn't have a fucking clue how to pivot from unprofessional asshole to engaged sycophant.

  5. Re: No, but I donâ(TM)t work at McDonalds ei by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Do this and word *will* get around. People know each other, and even if you don't list someone as a reference, they may get asked anyway.

    I had one employee ghost me. She just stopped coming into the office. Did outstanding work, been with us for a while. But she took a sudden three day unplanned/unannounced absence, then a few weeks later another few days sudden/unplanned absence. We talked, she said they were vacations, sorry, thought I'd told you. Then a month later, she didn't come into work. No reply to emails or voicemails. Ghosted.

    We sent a letter to terminate her, saying we assumed by not showing up for a week and a half, she had resigned.

    And six months later, I get a call from someone I used to work with, long ago, at a different org. He was somewhere new too. He had an applicant who listed my org on their resume, didn't list me as a reference but wanted to know what I knew about her. Same employee.

    She didn't get the job.

  6. Re:That's the American employee for you... by 110010001000 · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Oh you hire blue collar truck drivers. Hate to break it to you, but you have no "authority" in any real sense of the word. You just want cheap labor. Makes sense.

  7. Might wind up with the Police at your home by archer,+the · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Over the years, I've heard of several people "ghosting" their employers. However, in these cases, it was because they had passed away at home, and they lived alone. Since the employer doesn't know why the employee has stopped coming in, they call the police for a wellness check. The police arrive and find the person has passed on.

    Long story short, don't ghost, or you may be treated is if you might have become one.

  8. Don't hate the player, hate the game. by mark_reh · · Score: 4, Insightful

    One of the rules I live by is that everyone deserves respect until they demonstrate otherwise.

    If you're going to insult me with a shit contract that's guaranteed to screw me when we part ways, why would you expect anything from me but contempt?

  9. Re: No, but I donâ(TM)t work at McDonalds eit by Calydor · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Get the mark into a position where they're eager to jump at anything, then go, "Damn, the company hired someone else, but I do have THIS job lined up!" which is about half the pay, but if you've already made moves that require you to have SOME kind of employment it'll suddenly sound much more attractive.

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  10. Re: No, but I donâ(TM)t work at McDonalds eit by Fish+(David+Trout) · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Yours is the second post mentioning advertising non existent jobs? Wtf? Can you explain why they would do this?

    There are lots of reasons:

    You're forgetting what is probably the most common that started years ago:

    0. To fulfill the legal requirement that no qualified American could be found thereby allowing them to legally hire the foreigner they already decided to hire even before the position was advertised:

    Most job interviews these days are no so much to determine whether you're qualified for the position or not, but rather to determine a legally valid reason to disqualify you for the position so that they can legally hire the foreigner they already decided to hire long ago!

    Today's job market sucks. :(

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    "Fish" (David B. Trout)