Slashdot Mirror


58% of Silicon Valley Tech Workers Delayed Having Kids Because of Housing Costs (chicagotribune.com)

An anonymous reader quotes the Mercury News: Though some residents blame the area's highly paid tech workers for driving up the cost of housing, data increasingly shows that these days, even tech workers feel squeezed by the Bay Area's scorching prices. Fifty-eight percent of tech workers surveyed recently said they have delayed starting a family due to the rising cost of living, according to a poll that included employees from Apple, Uber, Google, LinkedIn, Facebook, Lyft, and other Bay Area companies.

The recently released poll, was conducted by Blind, an online social network designed to let people share anonymous opinions about their workplaces. Blind surveyed 8,284 tech workers from all over the world, with a large focus on the Bay Area and Seattle. Blind spokeswoman Curie Kim said the findings were "really surprising. In the Bay Area, tech employees are known to make one of the highest salaries in the nation," she said, "but if these people also feel that they can't afford housing and they can't start a family because of the rising cost of living, who can....?"

The average base salary for a software engineer at Apple is $121,083 a year, the article notes, yet the company also had the largest percentage of surveyed tech employees who said they'd been force to delay starting their families -- 69%.

"Anywhere else in the country, we'd be successful people who owned a home and didn't worry about anything," said one 34-year-old in a two-income family. "But here, that's not the case." While her husband helps Verizon deploy smart devices with IoT technology, they're raising two daughters in a rented Palo Alto apartment, "only to experience a $500 rent increase over two years."

97 of 209 comments (clear)

  1. Tech companies don't care by Kohath · · Score: 4, Insightful

    If tech companies cared about families, they would locate more jobs outside Silicon Valley.

    1. Re: Tech companies don't care by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Informative

      I would jump at the chance to move back to the midwest and pay $200k for a 5 bedroom, 3000 square ft. house on 2 acres of land. But despite my work being almost entirely remote, my boss has a hardon for daily face to face meetings and won't allow "telecommuting."
      So I'm stuck making $150k in CA and paying $40k a year in rent because I can't afford paying $1millon for an entry level home. After taxes I clear about $35k and support a family of 4, so my actual cashflow is about the same as a minimum wage worker because they get housing, day care, and food for free.
      Blue states suck ass, they're doing their best to eliminate the middle class.

    2. Re:Tech companies don't care by serviscope_minor · · Score: 3, Insightful

      If tech companies cared about families, they would locate more jobs outside Silicon Valley.

      Probably not. I'm not a SV resident, but I'm a londoner for possibly many of the same reasons. It's much easier to attract people for jobs when there are lots of alternatives available, the person's spouse can easily get or keep their job and they don't have to move. I'm in London because my spouse has a career here. We kind of settled on that because we knew it would be easier for us to both get good jobs than just about anywhere else.

      I'm guessing SV is pretty similar in that regard.

      --
      SJW n. One who posts facts.
    3. Re:Tech companies don't care by Octorian · · Score: 4, Informative

      While that might be true, in extreme cases, I often feel like they're not even trying.

      Before I lived in Silicon Valley, I was basically invisible to tech companies. Their recruiters didn't even acknowledge that I existed, and I never felt like I had many job opportunities. It was rare that I'd even get a response to a resume send-out.

      The moment I moved to Silicon Valley, updating my address, the barrage began. Recruiters started constantly trying to get in touch with me, and its never let up. The simple fact that I'm already living here makes me 10x more desirable to them.

    4. Re: Tech companies don't care by SeaFox · · Score: 1

      I would jump at the chance to move back to the midwest and pay $200k for a 5 bedroom, 3000 square ft. house on 2 acres of land. But despite my work being almost entirely remote, my boss has a hardon for daily face to face meetings and won't allow "telecommuting."

      1) LOL. Houses aren't that cheap anymore, even in the Midwest. I'd estimate you're going to pay $350k at least for that setup now. Btw, remember that area with this kind of cheap housing are normally in areas with crappy internet offerings. Keep that mind if you plan on telecommuting.

      2) If your boss is such a douchebag and you're so skilled, why don't you change jobs to someone who does allow telecommuting?

    5. Re: Tech companies don't care by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      Even in Sweden or France, if you make 150K you are clearing more than $35K after taxes. Online calculators for California take home pay peg you around $99K with no deductions, if you're single.

      As for min wage workers in CA getting free housing, day care and food, dream on.

      You clearly find this hard to believe, but you're far, far better off than those on minimum wage.

      It is dangerous that so many Americans are so out of touch with reality. You collectively have enormous wealth and education, and it cannot last with this volume of ignorance.

    6. Re: Tech companies don't care by guruevi · · Score: 2, Interesting

      I'm not necessarily Midwest but I just got a 200k double-family house (separate in-law living space).

      Sure it needs some work and I don't make CA-level money but my commute is either 0 (from home) or less than 30 minutes to just about any amenity.

      I gave up the 120k+ contracting/high pressure IT life for a low(er) level managerial gig. Sure I don't touch everything I do anymore, and I sometimes miss the soldering iron in one hand and "Learning Python/ObjC and NodeJS for 8Mhz Microprocessors" books in the other but then I catch myself laughing at myself.

      The most stress I got is yelling at people up the chain to do their jobs and the town building inspector for the renovations I'm doing on the weekend. At least I'm not on a plane on Saturday or trying to catch a cab in Belize at 8pm at night.

      --
      Custom electronics and digital signage for your business: www.evcircuits.com
    7. Re: Tech companies don't care by guruevi · · Score: 1

      I'm not necessarily Midwest but I just got a 200k double-family house (separate in-law living space).

      Sure it needs some work and I don't make CA-level money but my commute is either 0 (from home) or less than 30 minutes to just about any amenity.

      I gave up the 120k+ contracting/high pressure IT life for a low(er) level managerial gig. Sure I don't touch everything I do anymore, and I sometimes miss the soldering iron in one hand and "Learning Python/ObjC and NodeJS for 8Mhz Microprocessors" books in the other but then I catch myself laughing at myself.

      The most stress I got is yelling at people up the chain to do their jobs and the town building inspector for the renovations I'm doing on the weekend.

      --
      Custom electronics and digital signage for your business: www.evcircuits.com
    8. Re: Tech companies don't care by kenh · · Score: 1

      So I'm stuck making $150k in CA and paying $40k a year in rent because I can't afford paying $1millon for an entry level home. After taxes I clear about $35k and support a family of 4, so my actual cashflow is about the same as a minimum wage worker because they get housing, day care, and food for free.

      Wait a minute, you left out something - what are you paying in income taxes? Seems like half your paycheck went to taxes ($40K in rent, $35K left over from $150K income).

      --
      Ken
    9. Re:Tech companies don't care by geggam · · Score: 3, Interesting

      Having just left the Bay area I can confirm there is a huge difference in hiring outside the Bay. The speed you get hired in the Bay is usually 1 week or less. A full day interview session after the initial phone screen and typically before I get home ( thanks bay area traffic ) I would have an offer.

      Outside the bay area people ask so many questions before the phone screen. Take 3 weeks to decide to interview you. Then another couple weeks to move forward.

      I found a remote gig for a bay area company faster than any outside the Bay area company finished interviewing.

    10. Re:Tech companies don't care by AmiMoJo · · Score: 2

      I don't get full day interviews. My work history and experience is the most important thing and we can go over than in an hour. I'm not a graduate so all the other silly tests just tell me they don't know what they are doing and I probably don't want to work there.

      --
      const int one = 65536; (Silvermoon, Texture.cs)
      SJW, n: "Someone I don't like, and by the way I'm a fuckwit" - AC
    11. Re:Tech companies don't care by jpaine619 · · Score: 1

      You don't think coal mining is a skilled trade? I'd like to see you do it, asshole... Hehe.... Ah.. Nothing points someone out as a conceited asshole faster than that person being derogatory to the working class.

      In just about any type of an emergency situation, I'd rather be standing next to a blue collar worker than some useless fucking code monkey who's skills will be worth shit-all for anything practical.

    12. Re: Tech companies don't care by jpaine619 · · Score: 1

      Zillow disagrees...

      4,000 sq ft. for $269K (and it even has a pool)

      https://www.zillow.com/homes/f...

    13. Re: Tech companies don't care by elrous0 · · Score: 1

      And if you're talking east TN, don't forget Chattanooga--the city that pioneered 1 Gbps municipal broadband for just $70/month back when everyone else was still paying over $100/month for an "extreme" 6 Mbps.

      --
      SJW: Someone who has run out of real oppression, and has to fake it.
    14. Re:Tech companies don't care by swillden · · Score: 1

      I don't get full day interviews. My work history and experience is the most important thing and we can go over than in an hour.

      Your work history and experience are nearly irrelevant, because it's too hard to confirm that they're actually true. It's easy to check that you worked the places you claim, moderately difficult to verify that you had the titles you claim and completely impossible to determine whether you did the things you say you did. I used to think that it was possible to discuss the details of someones work to ascertain whether it was really theirs, but it's too easy for people who were really carried by their teammates to describe in detail the things that others did. Since they were present, they are knowledgeable, but that doesn't mean they could have done it.

      I'm not a graduate so all the other silly tests just tell me they don't know what they are doing and I probably don't want to work there.

      At least at most of the upper tier tech companies, the "silly tests" are comprised of asking you to design solutions to problems then code your solutions, explaining along the way the various tradeoffs you considered, what the time and space characteristics of your solutions would be, what testing approaches you would use, etc. This is extremely difficult to fake. It also wouldn't take all day to do once, but there's a chance you may get a problem that for whatever reason you find particularly difficult, or an interviewer you just can't communicate with, even though you're good. So the solution to that is to have you repeat the process a few times with different people, then get feedback from all of them and discard outliers. This adds up to an all-day interview.

      It's a lousy process with all sorts of problems but it's like democracy: the worst possible system, except for all of the others we've tried.

      --
      Note to ACs: I usually delete AC replies without reading them. If you want to talk to me, log in.
    15. Re: Tech companies don't care by jedidiah · · Score: 1

      > 1) LOL. Houses aren't that cheap anymore, even in the Midwest.

      Sure they are. They certainly are com pared to California.

      Outside of California, the options are diverse enough that you don't have to make yourself house poor. You can live in a cheaper neighborhood or buy a smaller house.

      You also have a very real possibility of having your house COMPLETELY PAID OFF. Mine is. My 2nd is and I'm working on getting #3 paid off.

      You sound like you are trying to convince YOURSELF much more than the rest of us.

      --
      A Pirate and a Puritan look the same on a balance sheet.
    16. Re: Tech companies don't care by jedidiah · · Score: 2

      > As for min wage workers in CA getting free housing, day care and food, dream on.

      So you've never heard of Section 8 or Food Stamps? It's a minor scandal that's well reported in the news media that poorly paid Amazon and Walmart employees are on partial public assistance.

      Bernie Sanders is even making noises about a punitive tax directed squarely at Amazon over this. HELL, it was posted HERE.

      This stuff is no great secret.

      --
      A Pirate and a Puritan look the same on a balance sheet.
    17. Re: Tech companies don't care by jedidiah · · Score: 1

      You don't need to be a Republican to think people are BIG FAT CHUMPS in California for putting up with those real estate prices and those insane health insurance rates.

      That's why I fled in the other direction.

      I would still vote Democrat if they handn't turned into socialists.

      Hysterically complaining about who is in government while at the same time pining to give that same government a monopoly on your cancer treatment is insane beyond description.

      --
      A Pirate and a Puritan look the same on a balance sheet.
    18. Re:Tech companies don't care by AmiMoJo · · Score: 1

      The verification part is when they ask you about those projects and you can answer questions about them in some detail.

      --
      const int one = 65536; (Silvermoon, Texture.cs)
      SJW, n: "Someone I don't like, and by the way I'm a fuckwit" - AC
    19. Re:Tech companies don't care by swillden · · Score: 1

      You didn't read all of the first paragraph of my post. I explained why that doesn't work.

      --
      Note to ACs: I usually delete AC replies without reading them. If you want to talk to me, log in.
    20. Re:Tech companies don't care by david-bo · · Score: 1

      Think having children will make you happy?

      https://thepsychologist.bps.or...

      BPS = The British Psychological Society.

    21. Re:Tech companies don't care by kaatochacha · · Score: 1

      I'm guessing you're one of those bitter childless tech workers, Probably in your case a mixture of lack of pay AND inability to attract anything that breathes.

  2. So, move somewhere else by El+Cubano · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Anywhere else in the country, we'd be successful people who owned a home and didn't worry about anything,

    The solution is obvious: move somewhere else.

    There are plenty of tech all across the "flyover states." Garmin is in Oklahoma, Boeing is in Kansas (along with a number of other aviation companies), Motorola and T.I. are in Austin, NASA is in Houston, 3M and Target are in Minnesota, etc.

    You will probably earn a little bit less, but the cost of living will be much lower and the quality of life will almost certainly be much higher. Especially if less commuting and less traffic are appealing and if you want to be able to afford to have one parent work only part time or even not even be employed in order to parent full-time.

    1. Re:So, move somewhere else by WhoBeDaPlaya · · Score: 2

      Correction : TI proper is in Dallas (on Greenville Ave) Other semicon companies in Dallas - Maxim Integrated, ON Semiconductor, Qorvo, and a few more. As for Austin, everyone's there (Intel, AMD, Broadcom/Avago, etc.)

    2. Re: So, move somewhere else by datavirtue · · Score: 1

      Don't forget the Natti. Tech is super hot here and the only chance of it letting up is if the fed gets let out of its cage again and starts fucking with interest rates in the name of "cooling off wage inflation."

      Accumulation of data is creating a new industry that is spread evenly across every sector and company. For once every company needs people with real skills: a combination of software dev, data analysis, and the ability to learn a business. Good times.

      --
      I object to power without constructive purpose. --Spock
    3. Re:So, move somewhere else by grep+-v+'.*'+* · · Score: 1, Flamebait

      The solution is obvious: move somewhere else. There are plenty of tech all across the "flyover states."

      Good God, don't encourage them; Keep your SJWs there. I just read on slashdot earlier today a smug guy laughing that "Everyone is moving out of CA? SURE they are."

      If I hold a door open for a lady and she starts screaming about it, I'll slug her because she certainly ISN'T a lady. To quote my mom: "I'll give you something to scream about."

      --
      If the universe is someone's simulation -- does that mean the stars are just stuck pixels?
    4. Re:So, move somewhere else by drsquare · · Score: 1

      Does it really make sense to move to a place where there's only one good job in the city or the state? In SV you can walk out a job in the morning and have another one by lunch time. In the flyover states if your one-company town becomes a no company town you're fucked. You can't even sell your house because the local market collapses.

      A little bit less pay? It's a lot more than that. Plus the lesser amenities, no options for eating out other than chains and diners, no stores other than Walmart, the racism, homophobia, religion, worse education results, no great colleges etc.

    5. Re:So, move somewhere else by thegarbz · · Score: 1

      The solution is obvious: move somewhere else.

      The single variable solution is obvious. The multi-variable solution is far less so. When you move somewhere else are you going to be moving into a place where tech companies are falling over each other to recruit? Are you going to be getting the same money or will your new living place come with a new $60000 average yearly income instead of what you had?

      You will probably earn a little bit less, but the cost of living will be much lower and the quality of life will almost certainly be much higher.

      Probably is an understatement, and the quality of life can be a huge overstatement. Quality of life is determined exclusively by those people living it. Personally I couldn't think of anything worse than living outside of a major city.

    6. Re:So, move somewhere else by fluffernutter · · Score: 2

      Some people live to work, others work to live. Kudos to you if you can find happiness there, but I have found people are a lot happier in places where they are not all competing to pay for a small plot of land. Personally I don't like crowds and so I find sporting events and concerts not worth the trouble. There are restaurants everywhere. Perhaps the racism is less because I am in Canada, but I can't believe every small place in the US is that bad. I chose a place to live where I can have a large private treed lot yet I can drive to major stores in 10 minutes. I'm only going to live once, so I want to live in surroundings that relax me rather than make me feel I am part of the rat race.

      --
      Laws are rules for the court, but merely a bottom bar to hit for life. Think beyond laws in your actions always.
    7. Re:So, move somewhere else by fluffernutter · · Score: 1

      I might add, it is also nice living somewhere you can sent your kids downtown alone and not really have to worry about anything happening.

      --
      Laws are rules for the court, but merely a bottom bar to hit for life. Think beyond laws in your actions always.
    8. Re:So, move somewhere else by jpaine619 · · Score: 1

      Spot on... And it's only going to get worse... The people fleeing this state (CA) are mostly conservative so the concentration of liberals is getting even worse.. Eventually CA will be like Greece.

      We're fucking broke and our retarded Governor wants to put satellites into orbit.. Not sure how the fuck we're supposed to afford that.. I suppose another campaign about how the rich need to pay up is in order...

    9. Re:So, move somewhere else by drsquare · · Score: 1

      Small town kids don't go anywhere alone, they're driven everywhere, that's why they're all fat. And a lot of these small towns don't even have a downtown, just lots of parking lots and strip malls.

  3. Cry me a river by jawtheshark · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Cry me a river. There are decent tech jobs elsewhere.

    --
    Ahhh...the great dumpster continuum. Many a free computer will be found there. -- sowth (748135)
    1. Re:Cry me a river by thegarbz · · Score: 1

      Cry me a river. There are decent tech jobs elsewhere.

      But are there? Basic economic theory dictates there are not, at least not without considerable downsides.

    2. Re:Cry me a river by jawtheshark · · Score: 1

      Well, then perhaps basic economic theory is too basic to explain this.

      --
      Ahhh...the great dumpster continuum. Many a free computer will be found there. -- sowth (748135)
    3. Re:Cry me a river by thegarbz · · Score: 1

      Not judging by the plenty of other comments in this section from people who have lived in an out of the bay area regarding how easily they found work and relative pay grades.

    4. Re:Cry me a river by jawtheshark · · Score: 1

      Perhaps their expectations were out of line? You have to realize that "having a good life" is not necessary equivalent to the lifestyle in Silicon Valley. You also need to realize thar you probably won't be working in a startup type company with a startup type culture. Put water in your wine, if your goal is to live nicely and raise a family.

      --
      Ahhh...the great dumpster continuum. Many a free computer will be found there. -- sowth (748135)
    5. Re:Cry me a river by cthulhu11 · · Score: 1

      ... if you don't mind having to have your food flown in, and not having educational opportunities for any kids you might have.

    6. Re:Cry me a river by thegarbz · · Score: 1

      Perhaps their expectations were out of line?

      So what you're saying is there's an economic downside to not being in the bay area? At least you agree with my original point which was: downsides to not living in the bay area.

    7. Re:Cry me a river by jawtheshark · · Score: 1
      Yes, but it does mean that if you want to live in the Bay Area, you need to accept the restrictions that come with it. Just like when you choose to go work outside the Bay Area, you need to accept the restrictions that come with that.

      So, if you choose to live in the Bay Area, but also want to advantages of not living in the Bay Area... yes, you can totally cry me a river.

      Make a choice, stand right for your choice.

      --
      Ahhh...the great dumpster continuum. Many a free computer will be found there. -- sowth (748135)
  4. This is not news at all by HotNeedleOfInquiry · · Score: 1

    I started working in Bay Area tech in the 70's. Most tech workers, myself and my ex-wife included delayed having kids until we had a house and established career, which was in our early-to-mid 30's.

    --
    "Eve of Destruction", it's not just for old hippies anymore...
  5. BS by kenh · · Score: 1

    "Anywhere else in the country, we'd be successful people who owned a home and didn't worry about anything," said one 34-year-old in a two-income family. "But here, that's not the case." While her husband helps Verizon deploy smart devices with IoT technology, they're raising two daughters in a rented Palo Alto apartment, "only to experience a $500 rent increase over two years."

    BS. Anywhere else in the country you'd make 25-40% less - you have to go to SF to get your 6 figure salary, that salary doesn't follow you to MS when you change jobs and move to MS.

    --
    Ken
    1. Re:BS by DontBeAMoran · · Score: 1

      A six figures salary, eh? Is that in binary?

      --
      #DeleteFacebook
    2. Re: BS by kenh · · Score: 1

      Six-figure jobs are everywhere, but it doesn't take 'mad skilz' to make over $100K in Silicon Valley. It *does* take great skills to make that much elsewhere.

      I contend the person complaining (who, by the way didn't defer their family, since they are a parent of 2 at 34) is a mid-level grunt with a big paycheck, not a world-class programmer that can command a quarter million dollar pay check.

      --
      Ken
    3. Re:BS by nehumanuscrede · · Score: 3, Interesting

      Not really a big deal unless the only reason you need a " six figure salary " is for bragging rights.

      Lemme break it down..

      You need to make $160k in San Francisco to enjoy the same purchasing power as you would have in Houston, TX at only ~$80k
      ( Pick any Salary Calculator online to see the results for yourself )

      Here are a few reasons why:

      Groceries 31% less
      Housing 71% less
      Utilities 4% less
      Transportation 28% less
      Health Care 27% less

      If someone is truly concerned about raising a family, why would they choose to live in one of THE most expensive places in the US ?
      ( We can't have a child darling ! We pay $5k a month in rent ! :| )

      Basically, one needs to choose between their ego and their family.
      The fact this article even exists tells me all I need to know about what choice they've made.

      Protip - You can't have your cake and eat it too. With the exception of the extremely wealthy, most folks will need to choose one or the other.

    4. Re:BS by drsquare · · Score: 1

      Because 1, you want equity in a million dollar house not a 200k house, 2, you don't want to raise a family in a giant, city-wide parking lot, 3. you don't want to eat out exclusively at diners and fast food chains, 4. you don't want to have to drive everywhere, and raise fat children.

    5. Re:BS by Ryanrule · · Score: 1

      Houston is a fucking hole though. It’s cheap for a reason.

    6. Re:BS by cthulhu11 · · Score: 1

      You mean you don't like the literal swampy weather, and cockroaches the size of your head?

    7. Re:BS by Not-a-Neg · · Score: 1

      I got the company I worked for in Sunnyvale to pay the moving expenses for me to relocate to a field office in Illinois and kept my original salary while getting to enjoy half the cost of living.

      --
      -==- Buy a Mac and leave me alone!
  6. A $500 rent increase over two years? by DontBeAMoran · · Score: 1

    Don't you guys have laws that limits the rent increase to a percentage of the current rent?

    Unless the limit is around 10% and they're paying $5000 per month for a freakin' apartment... are they?

    --
    #DeleteFacebook
    1. Re:A $500 rent increase over two years? by b0s0z0ku · · Score: 1

      I think San Francisco rent stabilization is only for the current occupant. Once you move, the apartment "resets" to current market rent.

  7. it's a free country by ooloorie · · Score: 1

    "Anywhere else in the country, we'd be successful people who owned a home and didn't worry about anything," said one 34-year-old in a two-income family. "But here, that's not the case."

    Well, then move. It's a free country.

    And maybe if Apple values you enough, you can even continue working for them.

  8. Tech companies might like to move by Streetlight · · Score: 1

    There are plenty of places in the country that would likely be very nice to live where the cost of living is reasonable. The company could pay employees less giving the employee more income after expenses. The company could actually make more money as a result.

    --
    In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act. George Orwell
  9. Re:new york by b0s0z0ku · · Score: 1

    Nah, just think like a recent immigrant to get ahead in NYC. Buy a house in Queens or a nicer part of the Bronx. No co-op fees, relatively low property taxes. Plan on sending your kids to SUNY or CUNY, no college slush fund needed, since it's cheap even compared to Midwestern public universities. Public schools are fine if you're not in a horrible area.

  10. Why run to the Midwest or Texas? by b0s0z0ku · · Score: 1

    Move to San Diego. $300k gets you a nice 2-bedroom or 2.5 bedroom condo. Not a palace, but enough to raise a family comfortably. Low energy (HVAC) costs due to favorable climate. Good cultural diversity, nice beaches, well-paying biotech, tech, and engineering jobs. And it's amazing that you can be in another country in an hour or two, depending where in SD Co you live.

  11. Re: Doubt it by b0s0z0ku · · Score: 1

    That's what group living/co-family/poly-family situations are for. Spend your 70s and 80s in a commune... :D

  12. Work elsewhere by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2

    There are plenty of good paying tech jobs outside of SV.

  13. Re:Stress and long working hours also play a big r by b0s0z0ku · · Score: 1

    Third option: become a miser in things that you don't enjoy, and splurge on things you do. e.g. 10 year old car, modest home in a working-class area, laptop bought off of EBay ... but ... enough money saved to take a nice backpacking trip somewhere interesting every year.

  14. Re:Red states are shitholes, let's face it. by DontBeAMoran · · Score: 1

    Well, this explains why he thinks an iPad is a computer.

    And I really wish that was sarcasm.

    --
    #DeleteFacebook
  15. Re:Red states are shitholes, let's face it. by b0s0z0ku · · Score: 1

    And it really shows -- he's gutting everything that's good and customer-friendly about Apple's personal computing line. (i.e. MacOS hardware, not iOS hardware)

  16. Re:I delayed having kid because of islamic take ov by DontBeAMoran · · Score: 1

    The islamic version of the movie idiocracy?

    --
    #DeleteFacebook
  17. Re:Lol, inbred backwoods faggot whines about CA by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

    Ah, San Francisco, how I long to be there: the smell of human excrement everywhere, used needles and condoms, campers in the great outdoors all across the city, and the smug feeling of superiority any techie gets when stepping over passed out drug addicts!

  18. Re: Doubt it by LynnwoodRooster · · Score: 1

    I plan to die like my grandpa, on a road trip across the US, and peacefully in his sleep.

    Not screaming in terror like the people in his car.

    --
    Browsing at +1 - no ACs, I ignore their posts. So refreshing!
  19. Moving is harder than you think by rsilvergun · · Score: 3, Interesting

    especially if you're going to up and move to a 'flyover' state you've never been to. Plus living in a big city isn't just about the amenities, it's about having ready access to work when you're job goes away (which they seem to do a lot these days). Buddy of mine moved to a small city for a nice job, worked it for a few years, bought a house, put down roots and then the whole thing got shipped overseas. He got trapped. He couldn't make enough money to get out, nobody would buy his home (thanks, housing bubble burst) and he ended up in a succession of dead end jobs.

    I lost track of him when I did the opposite and moved to a bigger city for the more stable working conditions. If I hadn't I couldn't afford my kid's college expenses. I'd prefer to go back to the small city I came from but there's no work there to speak of. At the end of the day workers go where the jobs are. And one or two employers isn't enough.

    --
    Hi! I make Firefox Plug-ins. Check 'em out @ https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/youtube-mp3-podcaster/
  20. Re:Red states are shitholes, let's face it. by Streetlight · · Score: 2

    I wansn't going to mention it, but I live in Colorado Springs and I wouldn't describe it the way you do as a red state. There are some high tech companies here and more are moving or developing in the region. Right now, we have an eight year Democratic governor, though a new one will be elected this November, and was blue in the last election. There are many other great places along the Front Range that are just as nice including Fort Collins, metro Denver and any place in between. If one is interested in outdoor activities this would be the place for you. Our state income tax rate is a fixed 4.63% rate on taxable income. We own a 3-bed house (unfinished basement), 2,800 sq. feet, with an estimated value of ~$400k and property taxes are ~$1,500. Schools are quite good, but depend a bit an where you live. The climate is that of a high desert (air conditioning useful in the summer) which means low humidity, cool nights, some snow in the winter. I could go on, but it's a great place to live. Transportation with traffic is becoming a problem as the Front Range grows; the powers that be know this but are finding solutions difficult to come up with.

    My city has a vacant piece of land, ~25,000 acres, that's ready for mixed development that could be quite attractive for placing a high tech operation. Energy is fairly cheap and solar is being developed because we have 320 days of sunshine.

    I'm not too interested in getting too many new folks to move here, so was reluctant in touting our advantages and creating more congestion. I'm sure other folks could chime in about the advantages their location has.

    --
    In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act. George Orwell
  21. Re: Doubt it by ranton · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Same but 42 and 40, plus weâ(TM)re millionaires a couple times over with all the money we saved not having kids, and our lives are a hell of a lot more fun than our friends with kids.

    Fun is quite subjective. Your life is probably more fun to you than theirs would be. But fun isn't the same to everyone. I for instance don't like vacations, so I would never trade places with a childless couple constantly taking vacations around the world.

    Fun is also a very shallow way to measure a life. I prefer to strive for meaningful and purposeful experiences, rather than simply pursuing happiness. Having kids is certainly not the only way to find purpose, building your own company or becoming a top performer in your chosen profession are other great ways to lead a meaningful life. Having kids is one of the easiest way for your life to have meaning, though, which is one reason it is so common. That and the fact sex is so much fun.

    --
    -- All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing. -- Edmund Burke
  22. Re:Doubt it by ranton · · Score: 1

    Well that is dumb ... if everyone delayed having kids till they had better financial situation then we would have a near zero birthrate

    Considering how expensive having kids is today, it's borderline insane to not delay having kids until your financial situation is in order. In my mid-20's I was making about a third of what I was making in my mid-30's when I had my first child. Not only that, but my wife and I were able to get youthful things like partying and traveling out of our system before settling down.

    Accidents happen, but choosing to have kids in your 20's is a lifestyle choice I would never recommend.

    --
    -- All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing. -- Edmund Burke
  23. Better to have kids early by CQDX · · Score: 1

    Have them while you still live in a crappy apartment. If you wait until you can afford that 2 million dollar home with nice furniture they're just going to ruin it anyway. Kids are messy and break things.

    1. Re:Better to have kids early by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      Have them while you are still too young to really grasp the realities of:

      1) You will be giving up basically everything you like, including sleep, for them for years.
      2) They will dominate your spending even long after they stop dominating your time. And still they will require a lot of your time.
      3) They are really disgusting, and they bring home diseases and keep you sick all the time. That combined with the lack of sleep and the stress really takes its toll on your health.
      4) The spouse of your dreams...yeah...reality sets in quick. You realize that you jumped in too quickly, and should have shopped around longer for a better match. The attraction vanishes and you are both mostly just focus on mundane issues, and kids, all the time.
      5) Then comes divorce. If you are the male, you can kiss most of your money goodbye, including most of your income for the next 18 years. Accept this gracefully or see the inside of a jail cell. If you are the female, you will learn right away that the money just covers the bare necessities, and you still have to work if you want anything nice (which doesn't matter because you probably have the kids most of the time, and they dominate your life). Also, nobody wants to date you now that you are a single mom.

      If you survive all that, you get bragging rights. You get to feel like your life meant something (even though this really just a deference...if your kids are so meaningful in-and-of themselves, then why weren't you so meaningful in-and-of yourself, given that you were a kid once too? Does your value as a person vanish when you grow up or something? Sheesh).

      If you wait too long, you will realize that romance is not all it is cut out to be, and that there is quite a lot of self-actualization that you want to jump in to while you are still young and able. You will get too accustomed to your kidless life, and each time the issue comes up you will have some perfectly reasonable excuse to put breeding off. And then you are too old, but that's ok, because there are billions of people on this planet and that number keeps rising at ridiculous rates...the world really doesn't need more kids.

  24. Re:I delayed having kid because of islamic take ov by ranton · · Score: 1

    Who want their kid to grow up in the middle of a race war? (Yeah, I am Swedish) Maybe in fifteen years when the dust settles.

    If you are Swedish you are on the winning side of any race wars I know of. Unless perhaps you are a Laplander, but considering you are worried about an Islamic takeover I doubt that is what you were referring to.

    --
    -- All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing. -- Edmund Burke
  25. Re: I delayed having kid because of islamic take o by datavirtue · · Score: 1

    Typical flawed reasoning of someone who doesn't have kids. Delaying having children is a major fuck up. The last thing you want to be doing at 50 is dealing with serious family issues. If you are going to have kids just kick em out and get it started. Dragging ass because of the world shows the flawed reasoning of someone who feels they can control the world and thier child's fate. Lmao. Nurture can be good but nature always wins. Your kids are going to be who they are going to be regardless of anything you do. Keep them alive and set a good example...the only thing that works.

    --
    I object to power without constructive purpose. --Spock
  26. Re: Doubt it by _Sharp'r_ · · Score: 1

    "but if these people also feel that they can't afford housing and they can't start a family because of the rising cost of living, who can....?"

    The other few billion people who don't feel the need to live in Palo Alto or anywhere nearby?

    --
    The party of stupid and the party of evil get together and do something both stupid and evil, then call it bipartisan.
  27. What else is there to say? by King_TJ · · Score: 1

    The information stated is no surprise at all. We all know the cost of living out on the west coast has gotten insane. Tech companies desperately want to hold onto that clout of having an HQ in the heart of Silicon Valley, but it's only doable as long as young, singles want to work there so badly, they'll take what amounts to these massive pay cuts due to high housing costs and more.

    Even on the other side of the country, you deal with the same struggle to some extent in the DC metro area and anyplace around NYC.

    These may be places where you can find employment with high profile companies -- but they're poor choices for raising families. You have to figure out what you want and live in a sensible area to suit you.

    I was born and raised in the midwest, in St. Louis, Missouri -- and although I left for a DC area tech job, that was only doable for us because we found a small town with much more "down to earth" housing prices. It means I have an hour or so commute to and from work, but it's also a job where I can work from home some days. As the job has evolved with time, they opened a couple of additional offices in this area and another one changed location in DC a couple of times. So trying to strategically rent or buy property "close to work" would have been a mistake anyway. I do know that St. Louis has recently made some real effort towards creating new tech jobs -- so that might be a really good place for someone to consider, if they want to work in tech but raise a family too. It's very much a family-friendly city, with so many things to do that have no admission cost (a world class zoo and many great museums, for example).

  28. This is what's wrong with society by dave562 · · Score: 1

    The people who are going to be responsible parents look at their lives, their jobs, their finances and they thoughtfully consider whether or not they can afford to have children, and whether or not they can provide that child a good life.

    On the other hand, all too many people 'accidently' have kids and don't seem to care about the consequences because they know that the social services safety net is there for them. And at the extreme end of the spectrum, you have mothers living in poverty who are literally using additional children as a way to 'earn' more income in the form of welfare payments. Thankfully, those situations are the exception to the rule, but they do happen.

  29. It's not going to improve anytime soon by Allen+Akin · · Score: 2

    Tech companies are driving unmeetable (for now) demand for new office space. As a result, lease rates are about 56% higher (last time I checked) per sq ft for offices than for Peninsula-area rental housing. You can see why financiers and developers prefer to build offices rather than housing.

    It's fashionable in some circles to blame the jobs/housing imbalance on zoning restrictions, but that doesn't seem to be consistent with the ground truth. There are many millions of square feet of new development going on right now, and in many cases these are mixed-use projects with the freedom to build lots more housing, but the mix is overwhelmingly dominated by offices because of the difference in rates of return.

    Construction costs are also a factor. Land is expensive and in short supply, of course, but high-rise construction is also expensive. High-rise flats are about 2.8 times as expensive as row houses for equivalent units, and therefore likely to be expensive to lease and not as likely to be profitable for the developers. They're surprisingly candid about this problem; for example, see https://www.mercurynews.com/2018/05/01/construction-costs-could-limit-where-san-jose-homes-are-built-google-adobe-diridon/ "Construction expenses have pressured developers severely enough that new market-rate apartments are profitable in no more than two districts in San Jose... Even worse, downtown San Jose — seen as a cornerstone of the city’s economy — is one of the sections where development of new housing is unlikely to produce profits for developers..."

    Transportation is arguably more important than housing, but it's received little attention so far. The road network is saturated now at enough times and places that additional housing wouldn't always be viable in those places. The population distribution makes rail systems unusable in much of the Peninsula.

    If the occasional Marxist analysis doesn't bother you, or if you can put it aside temporarily, chapters 5 through 7 of Richard Walker's "Pictures of a Gone City" offer a tremendous amount of useful data on the situation.

    Silicon Valley arose in part because of conscious decisions to distribute strategic industries geographically. (See Margaret O'Mara's "Cities of Knowledge" for a good synopsis.) Silicon Valley is hyper-expensive, earthquake-prone, water-poor, transportation-poor, and at risk from sea-level rise. Learning from past experience and distributing some of the growth elsewhere might be a smart move.

  30. obligatory - Idiocracy movie beginning by mrflash818 · · Score: 1

    obligatory - Idiocracy movie beginning

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?...

    --
    Uh, Linux geek since 1999.
  31. Re:Doubt it by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Insightful

    That fact is caused by society and it's unhealthy biologically..

  32. Re:Stress and long working hours also play a big r by djinn6 · · Score: 1

    Backpacking is not exactly a splurging kind of hobby though. I spent maybe $500 on my last trip, most of it on gas and a nice pair of boots.

  33. Population control by SirMasterboy · · Score: 1

    With how overpopulated the earth is becoming, isn't fewer people having children a good thing?

    And isn't people waiting until they are more financial stable to have children also a good thing for society?

    1. Re:Population control by jpaine619 · · Score: 1

      Yeah, but the fact is that the poor have the most children.. If you can't/won't spend $1 on a condom and you can't be bothered to flip her over... heh..

  34. Re: Doubt it by q_e_t · · Score: 1

    You will have no body to take care of you when you're old and infirm, and without grandkids your golden years will be empty and pointless. Especially if/when one of you dies.

    We are unlikely to be short of labour in that time scale as many do want to have children, and the dependency ratio in many western nations is expected to start declining from about 15 years hence. Even then, there are robots and digital assistants being developed to help with life in later years. In terms of grandchildren being required to make life fulfilled in later years, these days families are often spread so the contact time between grandparent and grandchild is often not that great anyway, so it's probably better to keep active, and seek other arrangements (such as the elderly commune concept, although something more mixed might make sense).

  35. Re: Doubt it by q_e_t · · Score: 1

    I am not a big vacation taker, and don't have children, but I find plenty to keep myself busy, so not having kids is not a problem. I have dogs, which are very much like children, but without the expense of school uniforms. I was about to say "and without the expense of ballet classes, etc" but the dogs get agility classes, but that's a form of exercise for me too, whereas a child would not want their parents jogging around the dance studio.

  36. Most clever people delay having kids! by TJHook3r · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Seen the film Idiocracy? Thing is, when you're smart you start to look at implications of decisions. By any measure, having kids is not a solid investment and will likely impact your career and life choices considerably... if you're going to do it you may as well wait until career is off the ground and enjoyed some travelling, partying, multiple partners... If you're not smart you have kids in your teens and let someone else pay for it.

  37. Let me try to explain by Interfacer · · Score: 1, Insightful

    First, I am not saying you are wrong in not having kids. If you don't want them, you should definitely not have them. And second, you are right: you probably have a lot more fun than my and my wife. And probably have more sex as well. You probably eat out more, travel more, see movies more, and generally do more of the things typically classified as fun.

    But when my youngest daughter brings a pile of her favorite stuffed animals down and snuggles up to me with them, to watch terminator 2 together, or when my oldest daughter comes into my workshop because she wants to forge a firepoker with me (I am a part time smith)... those moments are better than anything I ever did that would be considered classical fun. Those moments are why I love my kids more than anything in the world. That feeling is better than anything I ever experienced as fun before I had kids.

  38. The cruel logic of natural selection by Applehu+Akbar · · Score: 1

    When Silicon Valley got its start, the high developer/engineer salaries it created allowed nerds to mate and marry for the first time. With the bidding up of California housing, the same forces are now preventing them from having children.

    Enjoy your future of lawyers and politicians.

    1. Re:The cruel logic of natural selection by Not-a-Neg · · Score: 1

      My Electrical Engineer father got married thanks to drunken parties at college, not his salary. In fact, his income was largely unreliable in the early days of Silicon Valley due to all of the start-ups that failed. Although, maybe that aspect hasn't changed much. Kids were what held the marriage together, not income. The thing that convinced my Mom to pursue a relationship with my Dad over all the other frat-boys was his ability to hold onto something without dropping it while drunk.

      Unlike the movies, fraternities always kept a few engineering students around to keep their average GPA up to avoid being shutdown or kicked off campus.

      --
      -==- Buy a Mac and leave me alone!
  39. Re:Doubt it by jpaine619 · · Score: 2
    No, that's what educated & responsible people do.. We plan our children. We don't bring children into the world that we cannot afford to properly take care of.

    Afford can be time and/or money.. Children require both.

    Some days I think the movie Idiocracy was a documentary. Then people, like you, come along and prove it.

    You're pretty much proving the right's view that welfare/social services encourages people to have children they cannot afford.. I mean, why fucking wait if you can force someone else to pay for your spawn, right?

  40. Re: Doubt it by jpaine619 · · Score: 1

    He stated that he and his wife are multi-millionaires, asshole... You don't think the rich can afford to have caretakers?

    I am of the personal opinion that having kids is life enriching, but also realize that might not be true for everyone. Your statement borders on religious.. Everyone must feel the way you do, etc..

  41. Re: Silicon Valley's problem is caused by socialis by jpaine619 · · Score: 1

    I'd like to know how you think socialism can succeed without the rich to fund it... Ahh.. there's the problem.. Socialism only works until you bleed everyone dry.. Venezuela is what happens when you have socialism..

  42. Different cultures have different expectations by Paul+Fernhout · · Score: 2

    In other older societies (especially hunter/gatherers), raising children is more a responsibility of the extended family, village, and tribe. Expectations for what people need to provide a child also differ. Also, increasingly workers in US society don't get a fair share of their contribution to production (compared to other societies). So, this notion of "cant afford children" is culturally relative.

    See also the book "Our Babies, Ourselves" by an anthropologist.

    --
    A 21st century issue: the irony of technologies of abundance in the hands of those still thinking in terms of scarcity.
    1. Re:Different cultures have different expectations by kaatochacha · · Score: 1

      I am unable to locate that author, "An Anthropologist". Perhaps you meant Anne Anthropologist?

    2. Re:Different cultures have different expectations by Paul+Fernhout · · Score: 1

      LOL. Her name is Meredith F. Small:
      https://www.amazon.com/Our-Bab...

      --
      A 21st century issue: the irony of technologies of abundance in the hands of those still thinking in terms of scarcity.
  43. Re:Doubt it by jedidiah · · Score: 1

    This is pretty much what you have in Europe for the same reasons.

    It's that "utopian socialism" that leftists in America pine for so much.

    The difference between communism and democratic socialism is the size of the dinky apartment you get to share with your parents.

    --
    A Pirate and a Puritan look the same on a balance sheet.
  44. Re:Doubt it by jedidiah · · Score: 1

    Having kids in your 30's is highly dangerous for the mother and dramatically increases the odds of birth defects.

    --
    A Pirate and a Puritan look the same on a balance sheet.
  45. Re:Lol, inbred backwoods faggot whines about CA by jedidiah · · Score: 1

    > GOP backwoods faggots deserve their coal mine lifestyle,

    Sure. Anyone that doesn't buy into the California Kool-Aid is a Republican. The only alternatives are "Carbon Creek" and San Jose.

    It's this kind of deranged nonsense that gets you Trump.

    Keep on stumping hard for the stupid Cheeto.

    --
    A Pirate and a Puritan look the same on a balance sheet.
  46. As low as that? by RockDoctor · · Score: 1

    Since between 20 and 30% of people will never have children, that means that only 1-2% of "Silicon Valley Tech Workers" have such high incomes, or such lack of consideration of realities that they don't consider housing costs before disabling their contraception devices.

    --
    Birds are not dinosaur descendants;birds are dinosaurs, for all useful meanings of "birds", "are" and "dinosaurs"
  47. Re:Red states are shitholes, let's face it. by kaatochacha · · Score: 1

    So, for you:
    Blue State= enlightened cultured citizens
    Red State= bumbling morons

    I didn't' even vote for the that chump in the last election, but I can clearly see why he got elected.