Thank you for this post. I know everyone around here instantly jumps to the defense of the person conceived to be wronged, but the simple fact is the social services worker made a judgement call that there was a non-trivial chance that the porn came from the man himself. I can actually see this being the case.
Anyone who has lurked 4chan in the past (poor, poor souls) will know of a similar phenomenon. The people who are in such a hurry to push the report button are usually the ones slamming f5 on the thread and hoping their report makes them look like a good guy instead of a pervert.
Thank you! This is exactly the information I was looking for on my specific problem. I was hoping to spark some discussion is why I steered away from getting into the technical details of my own issues, but I will definitely be referencing this post when I get home.
Hi! Thanks for the reply. To put some perspective - I've been troubleshooting this particular issue for ~1.5 months and have done the traceroute to make sure it is their issue and not mine. The 3rd hop hits one of their centers in a major city near me and that is the turning point.
I didn't include this in the original story as I figured it was far to specific to my case.
I realize this is taking your statement and nitpicking - so I am sorry for that. However, it's not the FBI or NSA who goes looking for pirated movies, songs, porn, whatever. It's the ICE. And, yes, they are a scary organization.
Not in a week. In my time using the dating services.
I realize I'm setting a double standard here - there is an implied *I* went too fast in there as well. Hell, it might even be what I was looking for at the time.
Easy sex != good sex. Believe it or not, there are a lot of women (and I assume men, though I wasn't searching for those) on dating sites who really are just looking for someone to hook up with. They aren't the ones with fake pictures. I'll go ahead and explain my methodology for online dating since so many people responded with "wtf I wish that's how it worked".
1) Contact everyone within 100 miles that you think might actually be worth talking to. You don't have to "love at first sight". Women on these sites get solicited *ALL THE TIME* so remember that you aren't unique and saying "Sup" isn't enough. 2) Talk to the girls with "real" pictures and profiles. 3) Be real to yourself. Stats say you aren't the top 5%. Don't expect the top 5% of females to find you attractive. 4) Text message. Don't keep that crap on the site. Them having to come to the site to read your emails means they are reading all those other solicitations as well. 5) Talk to single moms. These sites bread-and-butter is single parents who don't have time to go out. Deal with it. If you want to go to a free site you should at least entertain the idea that the people on it will have children. 6) Ask questions. Most people can't stand to leave a question unanswered. "Sup, you look pretty" won't get a reply. "Is that a doberman in that picture?" will. 7) Deal with the fact that these are real people. You aren't shopping in a magazine. Expect the average person on these sites to look like the average person in real life. The ones that are super hot in pictures are getting 500 emails a day.
To facebook dating: Add friends-of-friends that are attractive (to you) and have a status of single. You don't have to know them. Make small talk. Post things like "Going to the bar tonight, anyone up for paying half the fare?".
I realize you're joking, but let me throw some anecdotal evidence around.
I got divorced 2 years ago. A few months after that I decided I would try the dating scene. Hooked up a few times at the bar, went on some dates with friends-of-friends, the works. Decided to try online dating, because my life is busy and I thought it would increase my chances of finding someone who had free time similar to mine (weekdays, not weekends):
eHarmony: Too expensive. I can go to the bar for what I would spend to meet someone on there. I did fill out the free profile. eVow: 3 dates from here, 2 ended in sex on the first night. "Long-term" my ass plentyoffish: 4 dates from here - 2 ended in sex on the first night. 2 lasted 6+months (including my current girlfriend) facebook: 3 dates - all ended in sex within the first week
I'm hardly a "playboy" at 215lbs 6'1 and an average build. But, I have to think you are right that the people on the "cheap" sites are looking for hookups and not investing in long term.
I had an experience very similar a few months back. Ex wife signed up for some garbage, gave my number, and the charges showed up on my bill. Fixing it was about a half hour of getting customer service on the line (Centurylink) and the end result was blocking all 3rd party charges and all fee charges in general (so, no 900 numbers for instance).
I only say this to add one thing: The people at customer service were *AWESOME*. She actually got on the line with the third party company and (while I listened) demanded that they refund the money that had went out the previous month that I had missed. This lady really went to bat for me, and even went so far as to apply some discounts to my account to offset the time I had to wait online (something like ~$40 over a year).
I know, incoming mod downs for actually being happy with customer support, but damn. I see so many of these replies where everyone claims these people are the scum of the Earth. Fact is, the last few months every customer support person I've had to deal with (and it's been a few: Centurylink, DirecTV, AT&T) have gone above and beyond to make sure I was happy when I got off the call. Try it sometime instead of sitting around bitching about it on the internet.
Forget video conferencing. Nothing of note to share. But, one of the more useful things I've seen come about from communications is desktop sharing. Things like Webex and M$ Communicator that let me show my desktop to hundreds of other people. Now, I have the power to let everyone see that exact piece of code I was talking about without having to haul my laptop over to a projector and get everyone in a room.
Why build a robot for a ton of money, have someone to program and run the robot, pay for upkeep on the robot, etc when you could just pay some college student $10 to play on his PSP until a tape needs flipped? It's a matter of money. And, just a poor example at any rate. These people who were socially engineered were probably people at the help line, who's job is a bit more complex than flipping tapes. They still aren't exactly the highest hitters in the workpool, but they are given the ability to reset and hand out passwords, which gets you a lot close to the data.
Because it isn't exactly hard to sit on your ass all day and occasionally walk over to a tape deck, pull one out, and put a new one in. Not exactly a job that requires a ton of college education. And, as we all know, you pay for the work that's done, not the security that is expected of the worker.
A direct competitor for Epsilon and I can say that everyone in our business (Epsilon included) has security measures in place to stop these kinds of things. Problem is, everyone at these types of companies are people. We might have millions invested in keeping data safe, but when you pay someone $10/hr to flip tapes in the data warehouse, you're still taking a risk that person might be doing something stupid in the interim.
The simple fact is, data warehousing happens because it is cost efficient for companies to pay us to do it. That cost savings is seen by the consumer in the rates being knocked down for services. Why do you think you can get insurance so cheap?
(well, here goes my karma...)
I had tick fever when I was in college and had some wicked hallucinations/dreams. I was a heavy MMO player, and I still remember the dreams of the fsking gnomes and their fancy engineering. It was AWESOME.
Something the submitter forgets to mention is WHAT he just graduated from. If he just graduated high school, good luck landing an entry level "programming" job. There are too many 3+years experience people flooding the job market right now. I'm working with a mid sized company (6,000 employees) and we haven't hired a green hand in 2 years.
If you just graduated from college, do what most intelligent people do and get an internship. It's experience, most of them pay at least more than McDonalds, and it gets your foot in the door.
I've recently started ranting on this to a few of my friends, but it seems like the people who really enjoyed UO T2A were the same people who really enjoy MOBA (massively online battle arena) games like Defense Of The Ancients of League of Legends. It's not about the resource gathering or the roleplaying, it was about the small scale (5v5 or so) fights.
And, sorry, but I have to disagree with your disagreement. My wife goes to strip clubs with me. We've been married 4 great years now.
The simple fact is, no two people are the same. We can give all the advice you want, but when it comes down to it, you have to live within each others boundaries. For me, that means paying more attention to her than I do other things. For you, it means making sure she isn't jealous.
I switched to a non-cafeine diet about 3 years ago. It sucked for about 2 weeks, after that I had the same energy as before, but when I really need it I can slam an energy drink and get wired to the rim.
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Thank you for this post. I know everyone around here instantly jumps to the defense of the person conceived to be wronged, but the simple fact is the social services worker made a judgement call that there was a non-trivial chance that the porn came from the man himself. I can actually see this being the case.
Anyone who has lurked 4chan in the past (poor, poor souls) will know of a similar phenomenon. The people who are in such a hurry to push the report button are usually the ones slamming f5 on the thread and hoping their report makes them look like a good guy instead of a pervert.
Thank you! This is exactly the information I was looking for on my specific problem. I was hoping to spark some discussion is why I steered away from getting into the technical details of my own issues, but I will definitely be referencing this post when I get home.
Hi! Thanks for the reply. To put some perspective - I've been troubleshooting this particular issue for ~1.5 months and have done the traceroute to make sure it is their issue and not mine. The 3rd hop hits one of their centers in a major city near me and that is the turning point.
I didn't include this in the original story as I figured it was far to specific to my case.
I realize this is taking your statement and nitpicking - so I am sorry for that. However, it's not the FBI or NSA who goes looking for pirated movies, songs, porn, whatever. It's the ICE. And, yes, they are a scary organization.
Not in a week. In my time using the dating services.
I realize I'm setting a double standard here - there is an implied *I* went too fast in there as well. Hell, it might even be what I was looking for at the time.
I live in a town of 3k people. I feel you, but it's making the effort that counts. Confidence will take you so far in this world.
Easy sex != good sex. Believe it or not, there are a lot of women (and I assume men, though I wasn't searching for those) on dating sites who really are just looking for someone to hook up with. They aren't the ones with fake pictures. I'll go ahead and explain my methodology for online dating since so many people responded with "wtf I wish that's how it worked".
1) Contact everyone within 100 miles that you think might actually be worth talking to. You don't have to "love at first sight". Women on these sites get solicited *ALL THE TIME* so remember that you aren't unique and saying "Sup" isn't enough.
2) Talk to the girls with "real" pictures and profiles.
3) Be real to yourself. Stats say you aren't the top 5%. Don't expect the top 5% of females to find you attractive.
4) Text message. Don't keep that crap on the site. Them having to come to the site to read your emails means they are reading all those other solicitations as well.
5) Talk to single moms. These sites bread-and-butter is single parents who don't have time to go out. Deal with it. If you want to go to a free site you should at least entertain the idea that the people on it will have children.
6) Ask questions. Most people can't stand to leave a question unanswered. "Sup, you look pretty" won't get a reply. "Is that a doberman in that picture?" will.
7) Deal with the fact that these are real people. You aren't shopping in a magazine. Expect the average person on these sites to look like the average person in real life. The ones that are super hot in pictures are getting 500 emails a day.
To facebook dating: Add friends-of-friends that are attractive (to you) and have a status of single. You don't have to know them. Make small talk. Post things like "Going to the bar tonight, anyone up for paying half the fare?".
I realize you're joking, but let me throw some anecdotal evidence around.
I got divorced 2 years ago. A few months after that I decided I would try the dating scene. Hooked up a few times at the bar, went on some dates with friends-of-friends, the works. Decided to try online dating, because my life is busy and I thought it would increase my chances of finding someone who had free time similar to mine (weekdays, not weekends):
eHarmony: Too expensive. I can go to the bar for what I would spend to meet someone on there. I did fill out the free profile.
eVow: 3 dates from here, 2 ended in sex on the first night. "Long-term" my ass
plentyoffish: 4 dates from here - 2 ended in sex on the first night. 2 lasted 6+months (including my current girlfriend)
facebook: 3 dates - all ended in sex within the first week
I'm hardly a "playboy" at 215lbs 6'1 and an average build. But, I have to think you are right that the people on the "cheap" sites are looking for hookups and not investing in long term.
I had an experience very similar a few months back. Ex wife signed up for some garbage, gave my number, and the charges showed up on my bill. Fixing it was about a half hour of getting customer service on the line (Centurylink) and the end result was blocking all 3rd party charges and all fee charges in general (so, no 900 numbers for instance).
I only say this to add one thing: The people at customer service were *AWESOME*. She actually got on the line with the third party company and (while I listened) demanded that they refund the money that had went out the previous month that I had missed. This lady really went to bat for me, and even went so far as to apply some discounts to my account to offset the time I had to wait online (something like ~$40 over a year).
I know, incoming mod downs for actually being happy with customer support, but damn. I see so many of these replies where everyone claims these people are the scum of the Earth. Fact is, the last few months every customer support person I've had to deal with (and it's been a few: Centurylink, DirecTV, AT&T) have gone above and beyond to make sure I was happy when I got off the call. Try it sometime instead of sitting around bitching about it on the internet.
Bah, posted ANON.
Forget video conferencing. Nothing of note to share. But, one of the more useful things I've seen come about from communications is desktop sharing. Things like Webex and M$ Communicator that let me show my desktop to hundreds of other people. Now, I have the power to let everyone see that exact piece of code I was talking about without having to haul my laptop over to a projector and get everyone in a room.
Why build a robot for a ton of money, have someone to program and run the robot, pay for upkeep on the robot, etc when you could just pay some college student $10 to play on his PSP until a tape needs flipped? It's a matter of money. And, just a poor example at any rate. These people who were socially engineered were probably people at the help line, who's job is a bit more complex than flipping tapes. They still aren't exactly the highest hitters in the workpool, but they are given the ability to reset and hand out passwords, which gets you a lot close to the data.
Because it isn't exactly hard to sit on your ass all day and occasionally walk over to a tape deck, pull one out, and put a new one in. Not exactly a job that requires a ton of college education. And, as we all know, you pay for the work that's done, not the security that is expected of the worker.
A direct competitor for Epsilon and I can say that everyone in our business (Epsilon included) has security measures in place to stop these kinds of things. Problem is, everyone at these types of companies are people. We might have millions invested in keeping data safe, but when you pay someone $10/hr to flip tapes in the data warehouse, you're still taking a risk that person might be doing something stupid in the interim. The simple fact is, data warehousing happens because it is cost efficient for companies to pay us to do it. That cost savings is seen by the consumer in the rates being knocked down for services. Why do you think you can get insurance so cheap? (well, here goes my karma...)
I had tick fever when I was in college and had some wicked hallucinations/dreams. I was a heavy MMO player, and I still remember the dreams of the fsking gnomes and their fancy engineering. It was AWESOME.
I'm going to have to try this broken link technique to get double rep...
Something the submitter forgets to mention is WHAT he just graduated from. If he just graduated high school, good luck landing an entry level "programming" job. There are too many 3+years experience people flooding the job market right now. I'm working with a mid sized company (6,000 employees) and we haven't hired a green hand in 2 years. If you just graduated from college, do what most intelligent people do and get an internship. It's experience, most of them pay at least more than McDonalds, and it gets your foot in the door.
I've recently started ranting on this to a few of my friends, but it seems like the people who really enjoyed UO T2A were the same people who really enjoy MOBA (massively online battle arena) games like Defense Of The Ancients of League of Legends. It's not about the resource gathering or the roleplaying, it was about the small scale (5v5 or so) fights.
Ah, I remember when I was a teenager and thought everything I did was important, too.
Never underestimate the bandwidth of a station wagon full of tapes hurtling down the highway. -Andrew S. Tanenbaum
Except one thing, EMACS SUCKS!!!
And, sorry, but I have to disagree with your disagreement. My wife goes to strip clubs with me. We've been married 4 great years now.
The simple fact is, no two people are the same. We can give all the advice you want, but when it comes down to it, you have to live within each others boundaries. For me, that means paying more attention to her than I do other things. For you, it means making sure she isn't jealous.
Pirate Bayian Slip?
This.
I switched to a non-cafeine diet about 3 years ago. It sucked for about 2 weeks, after that I had the same energy as before, but when I really need it I can slam an energy drink and get wired to the rim.
It also makes Jager Bombs damn fun.
Yep. Just don't do it on Bahumut or he won't drop the Esper (I never understood that).
Man, I need to go play that game again.