For a start, you can finally completely integrate HTML, SVG, video, audio, graphics, and any other supported XML language. Which means this stuff is no separate box on your page anymore. These are great examples of what this allows: http://people.mozilla.com/~prouget/demos/ Think about putting real HTML text in an SVG shape, and clip video with another SVG shape, transform it all with javascript, style even the video with CSS, play a sound when you click the video, and then draw some MathML over an image with a moving filter inside a third shape.
Of course, that you *can* do it, does not mean that you should. But it is nice to be able to not be limited in your expression, when you want do get to a specific legitimate goal.
I think this level of integration is how it always should have been, and the whole nsplugin integration is just plain wrong. I wonder why it works this way. Why not give an in-memory canvas to the nsplugin, instead of a hardware surface, and then render the content of the canvas like any other animated image, when it is marked as modified.
That was obvious to me since the beginning of the existence (even of the term), of what we in Germany call "Klickibunti". (Could be translated as "colory clickablys". I'm open for suggestions.;)
And while a call my self a pro gamer, I love Kongregate. Those games have no ultra-realistic graphics, no real stories, etc. So they have to concentrate on good gameplay / mechanics, and then give it nice aesthetics. They can also explore new ideas rather quickly, without a 3-5 year development cycle.
But as usual, xkcd has said it better already: http://xkcd.com/484/ It's really true. And this is, where a big part of the future of (casual) gaming lies. At least in my eyes.
P.S.: I hope I make sense. I just woke up and my brain has only just started booting. Which makes my sentences somewhat strangely structured. Especially these foreign language capabilities.
I agree. That beachball is just as horrible as that apple with the bite.;P
On a more serious note: I use is on Linux, so I can't comment about the Mac UI integration. But I think UI integration really is very important. I often hear of development teams neglecting the Mac. But every time I had to develop for the Mac, I found testing it to be very frustrating, because the whole system is so not-made-for real power usage like development. (At least for me.) Maybe that's a part of the issue...
The funny thing is, that when you walk both extremes, you end up with them coming back together again. And the result is the Haskell type system: Incredibly strong/hard, yet you usually do not have to specify type signatures (or even think much about them).
But I agree that I still miss something like Delphi/JBuilder/NetBeans for JavaScript+(X)HTML+CSS+DOM+(PHP/Java/Haskell/etc.)+SQL. One very impressive approach was HAppS: The Haskell application server. The idea is, to replace that huge stack of languages/services/layers by as little of them as possible, integrating all of them. Everything server-side is in there. No need for Apache, a database server, etc. Now we only need to integrate the front-end / client-side into it too.;)
How can you say that you understand the depths of the language, and yet in the same paragraph ask for the implementation of "real classes and inheritance"?
I understand that most people think that this is how it should be. But it's off the point.
JavaScript is a prototype-based language. Prototypes replace classes, and basing something on a prototype replaces inheritance. I find it quite ingenious, because it merges two concept (classes and inheritance) into one more complete concept. In my eyes it gives you more than pure classes, because you can have complex instance data for "initialization", and even modify the base object after instantiation to influence all the children. Plus many other cool things. All with just one single concept. Very elegant!
I maybe agree with real namespaces. And I thing JavaScript 2.0 has them. But, coming from Haskell, I found no big need for namespaces. Because of the feature of closures. Which also are essentially implicit namespaces everywhere. But the ability to make them explicit certainly is an idea.
I agree that when you use hacked libraries from others who also did not understand the implications of meddling with base objects, that you can get in messy situations. But I think I remember a function to check if the object is what you expect it to be.
We really need some new (old) languages for web programming.:D
The problem is, that it is just commonly assumed, that logic would be the highest form of intelligence, and that the emotional intelligence -- the one that women are really good at -- would be "lower" or somehow primitive.
So even women who call themselves "emancipated" really just run behind male ideals of intellectualism and engineer jobs, etc.
Who states that they are better? Seriously. Who came up with the stupid idea, that people skills, ability to sense emotions, and especially the ability to raise children well, would be bad things? I don't even think that there is a more important skill than the ability to raise and understand children. And that this is not the most respected job in the world really is a shame.
So... appreciate your female skills. Your "illogical" emotional brain is a strength. Work with it, instead of suppressing it. Aren't those "illogical" things often also those that feel the best? What do you think why they feel the best? Not because they are inherently wrong, for sure! Allow yourself to just let the hormones reign. Cry like crazy, get angry, laugh, love, hate, play all your emotions. Only by allowing them, can you relieve that "hell".
And don't let anyone tell you that because you are starting fights for no reason, then after them suddenly are happy, you are crazy, or something like that. You are not. It's girl style. It's good. You are even allowed to call it fun! And if a male friend really understands your needs, you both can handle it without hurting your relationship. You can also even improve it.
Or as a web-economy business plan: 1. Find out who you *really* are. 2. Accept and love that one. 3. Be yourself. (That real you.) Don't bend yourself for others. 4.... 5. PROFIT!;) (Notice how all interactions with others, and your own life, start to improve.)
So you assume that you know enough of my knowledge, to judge if I really understand women, from reading my two comments? Really? I think that could have come trough better, no?:)
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I have the strong feeling, that your definition of "understanding" always shifts deeper, when someone comes up with a deeper explanation of the inner workings. No?;) Ok, if not, then I'll try to define "understanding" from your comment. Again, correct me if I'm wrong.
Perhaps the best method would be, to define a point on the scale that goes from no understanding to defining it down to the effects of an all-encompassing world formula. What would be a realistic point here? Most likely the one, that helps you to never have misunderstandings with women again. (Driving the car flawlessly.) Or the one, that enables you to perfectly think like a woman. (My guess on what your definition of "really understanding" is.)
Well, I guess we can agree, that my comments showed, that I'm pretty clear about the former.
Now about the latter: What would define the perfect understanding of female thought? How about being able to flawlessly predict her reactions to everything? Including complex and long-term results. Right?
But does it have to be 100% flawless and perfect? Not really, right? We're only human. So a specific level should be enough to state that we really are able to do something. Ok, then you can be the judge on this: I have many female and male friends, that ask me when they have personal or relationship problems. (I like helping people, because their success is a bit my own success. Just like with children.) The girls often wonder, why I understand them so well, while their boyfriend doesn't. And men tell me that I was right with how they would react. But I also often get into situations, where I say something about what will happen in the future. And they insist that they are not going to act like that. Yet afterwards, we talk about it. And I was, according to them, better at predicting them, than they were themselves.:)
I must say, that I think that I can actually feel like a girl. Maybe because I am not ashamed by it because I do care so much, what everybody thinks. I know that I am still a manly man. Maybe even more so, because of the strength that it gives me.
Of course you can freely dispute everything I said. Because it's only words. And because we could only finally settle it, when you would watch me act, and see for yourself, how good or bad my predictions are. Or you can just continue to define that I'm outside of your definition of "real understanding". (Just please then also provide that definition.:)
I think it would help you, to also use near-complete knowledge, instead of rejecting it because it's not perfect.:)
There is no such thing as "higher" coping skills. Intellectualization is most often seen as a "higher, one. But for healing purposes, it's nothing other than repression... the worst kind of "coping" (because it's no coping at all).
But I think we can agree, that some coping skills are the best, and often, religion is far from being the best one.:)
So which one is the best one? Well... whatever works the best, to get to your goals, no? If that -- in someone's situation -- happens to be religion, that's how it is, isn't it?
The problems arise, if you artificially limit your coping abilities. Either by only ever using some. Or by never ever using some. No?:)
Exactly. That's why all this "Mistery method"-based pickup "techniques" by definition are doomed to fail.
You can't play something. You have to *be* it. Of course that's also the catch.;)
About the "unethical" stuff: Of course power always gives you the ability to do unethical stuff. But do you want someone to love/like/respect you because you manipulated her, or because he/she really loves/likes/respects you? You will notice that the former just never really can make you happy. It feels fake. As I clearly stated in my comment, I couldn't do such things. My "soul" just rejects it, because it goes against my most basic motivations of doing something good to both of us. When I approach women, I do it with the question "How can I make this fun and something good and valuable for both of us.". How could someone ever reject that?:D
Because you created the wrong feeling of course. Come here, and I will literally open a girl with that exact sentence. I'll even bet two expensive cocktails on it!:)
Right. I saw it, and I always loved the Elise. You can't get more fun per dollar with any other car. It fits in every parking space, looks very cool, has an insane acceleration, gets around the corners like a dream, and still is pretty cheap for such a sports car. The only thing lacking, is comfort. The perfect second car, if you got a bit more money to spend. Or my first car. Because I'm a MAN.;)
I did the same in pretty much every game. I have to kill every monster, collect every powerup, and do everything possible. And I can tell you the causes of this with a very nice example. (I have forgotten the details, so I will fill in my own.)
There is an old movie, where there is a imminent nuclear explosion. And the women in the household, just starts to clean everything in the house to total perfection. Because her mind can't stand the "chaos". She feels the extreme urge to order that chaos. So instead of running to a bomb shelter, she dies ironing shirts in the living room.
Find out what gave you the urge.
I have a well-proven method to find it: When you are doing the "landscape raping", stop for some seconds, and concentrate on the bad feeling that that gives you. Try to do as much as possible to strengthen that feeling. (Create congruence.) Like adding other things to the situation (or removing them). Jump right in the middle of the feeling. And get it to the absolute maximum. Yes, it will hurt. and your subconscious will fight it tooth and nail. Which is why it's much easier, when you have someone who can keep you on that path, while not bringing in his own (possibly twisted) influences. Also it means that you have to be in an environment, where you can really act out the stuff. It must be OK, even if you flip out, destroy half the room, do "perverse" things, or cry like a baby. (Shame is the natural enemy here.) This usually re-activates old (=weak) neural associative pathways, that once were created when the original source of the problem happened. Which means those old things suddenly pop up and reappear in your mind. Now beware that more often than not, there are many steps to re-activate, and the first thing is usually not the original source. Which means that you can only be sure to have reached the real source, when after a long time, you still don't get to a next step. Which is unrealistic, because it takes very long. But prepare for your first "final source" to not actually be the final one, and having to do the whole thing even deeper, when you find out that it's still not really solved. (These intermediate "sources" usually are re-traumatizations that added something to it. Often they also are *partial* "final sources", because there is more than one final cause.) Anyway... when you have reached that final source/cause, you usually see a huge range of things in your life, that are very twisted, and have nothing to do with how you thing it would make sense to react. WRITE THEM ALL DOWN! (In a tree-like mind-map. I recommend paper, or the FreeMind mind-mapping software [open-source]) This again is a process where you have to scrape the bottom of the barrel for those "twisted" things. To really get them all. Once you have that map of your not-so-rose-colored glasses, you can start to re-train yourself. Which means that every time you get to such a situation, you (usually) automatically notice that what you would do now, is something that makes no actual sense, but only in the context of that "twist". So you do what you *actually* think makes sense. This again is a hard process, because you fight against age-old habits. So reward yourself generously, get as much mental strength / love from your loved ones as possible, and just expect it to hurt to fight it, until you are over the top of the mountain (a more accurate description than "out of the woods"). And don't let this stop you.:) It will take time to re-train yourself. And the stronger the new impressions, the more you learn, and thereby the faster it goes. But keep your personal balance between "too hard" and "too easy", to keep the acceleration at a maximum. It's no help when you get completely off the "road" because you were too fast. Allright. Good luck. And try it with a professional, if needed. (Just beware that most professionals actually can *also* get to a level where it's too much for them. They are only human, even if they are trained to stand it. But that is their fault, and you do not have to take this into consideration. If needed, find a better/stronger/stabler one. After all, you're paying for it.)
I also used to make levels for Doom 1. And I achieved my goal, to make the door stand in the middle. The trick was to fill the room with so many monsters (1024), that time literally slowed down and came to a grinding halt. The door never reached the top. After one hour, I hit reset.
Oh yeah, I still know IDDQD, IDKFA, and even IDSPISPOPD by heart. And that you should not try them in Mechwarrior.;)
I used to make the city completely empty. And I mean empty. I couldn't even find a car to drive around anymore. It was just one big pile of burning police cars and dead cops in one place, and the rest was empty. I had to walk around the whole city to check.
But the old GTA games also had a nice bug, that punished very stupid users. A friend of my brother installed GTA to C:\. Yes, that's right. To the root directory. Guess what happened when he uninstalled it. Whoops! ^^
First a god is one way to cope with the fact, that we never can know where it all comes from. (The big bang and there being no time before it, is another more realistic one.) Of course they are all by definition unable to answer that question. But better than to get crazy, right?
Second, the "get crazy" part: If you ever read something about what we used to call neurosis or schizophrenia: It is basically the "art" of twisting the world so it's OK to you, even when it's not. You for example state, that it was OK that you got raped, because you really did bad things to your father when you were young. And then go to do way too much good, to make up for it, afterwards. Or you run onto the highway because you think you can control the world. And then when you get hit, you later insist that you wanted it that way.
Religion basically is a light form of schizophrenia. Which is bad and good. (In psychology, if something is a disease, depends on your/their view of "bad".) It basically helps people cope with bad lives, horrible things, wars, poverty, and the everyday frustration. They can blame it on a higher power, or on their own fault to live by the rules of that power. So while I am far from being religious, I can totally understand people who are, and their needs for it. It's a useful tool for a desperate situation.
Where it gets bad, is when people want to profit from those people, by acting as if they were a mediator between them and their higher power. While essentially taking over their will and life. It's the biggest and one of the most evil scams -- off the backs of them. But hey, people strive for the reproduction of their genes, and of their ideas. It's called evolution. And mother nature is really a bitch.
Oh, I forgot: Of course I meant "how it feels for her"! Which means you have to listen to your emotional brain. Something that goes a bit against the stereotype of the cool western male, but in the end will make you a more manly man. (Protip: You still don't have to actually show all of those emotions. ^^)
You don't. I do. In fact I changed from your point of view to being able to not only understand how women think but sometimes even play on their motivations like on a piano. Nice side effect: Works on men too!:) But of course, any unfair manipulation is completely out of question. Analog to "white hat hacking".
But for you I have one single rule that you have to burn into your brain like your life would depend on it: It's not important what you say, but how you say it. Or more general, how it feels.
This works while flirting, in every day communication, when arguing, when she asks if she looks fat, in creating a situation that will make her hot, etc, etc, etc. You can walk up to a girl, and literally say the biggest crap. If it creates the right feeling in her, it will work. That's why pickup lines are completely use- and pointless.
Politicians and especially advertisers are professionals in this too. Because it works on the more "basic" emotional brain. (Which really is not "simpler" than logic, but just another kind of intelligence.)
Never forgetting that single thing will help you more than any stupid relationship-help book. (Ok, I guess most of these include this nowadays.)
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For a start, you can finally completely integrate HTML, SVG, video, audio, graphics, and any other supported XML language.
Which means this stuff is no separate box on your page anymore. These are great examples of what this allows: http://people.mozilla.com/~prouget/demos/
Think about putting real HTML text in an SVG shape, and clip video with another SVG shape, transform it all with javascript, style even the video with CSS, play a sound when you click the video, and then draw some MathML over an image with a moving filter inside a third shape.
Of course, that you *can* do it, does not mean that you should. But it is nice to be able to not be limited in your expression, when you want do get to a specific legitimate goal.
I think this level of integration is how it always should have been, and the whole nsplugin integration is just plain wrong.
I wonder why it works this way. Why not give an in-memory canvas to the nsplugin, instead of a hardware surface, and then render the content of the canvas like any other animated image, when it is marked as modified.
I meant "(even before the term)".
That was obvious to me since the beginning of the existence (even of the term), of what we in Germany call "Klickibunti". (Could be translated as "colory clickablys". I'm open for suggestions. ;)
Until someone hooks up another battery to the non-volatile storage chip. :P
I recommend saying such "nice" things on the phone or in-person. ;)
But if you hate her so much, I wonder why you still try to contact her?
Fine. I'll go outside...
As you might know, many people just want to play small games in-between things, not invest too much time, etc. And for those people, Flash games are perfect.
According to the German IT/telco industry association "Bitkom", 73% of all online-players from 14 years upwards prefer games in the browser.
And while a call my self a pro gamer, I love Kongregate. Those games have no ultra-realistic graphics, no real stories, etc. So they have to concentrate on good gameplay / mechanics, and then give it nice aesthetics. They can also explore new ideas rather quickly, without a 3-5 year development cycle.
But as usual, xkcd has said it better already: http://xkcd.com/484/
It's really true.
And this is, where a big part of the future of (casual) gaming lies. At least in my eyes.
P.S.: I hope I make sense. I just woke up and my brain has only just started booting. Which makes my sentences somewhat strangely structured. Especially these foreign language capabilities.
What's stopping you from hooking a quiet netbook with a remote control (and perhaps a TV receiver) to it?
Seriously. Buy the largest TV or display that you can connect to PCs. Then buy a small quiet laptop and hook a programmable remote control onto it.
Now all you need is the software. Which there is a big choice of. You can also build whatever you want.
It's cheap, and the recording/time-shifting features are integrated.
I agree. That beachball is just as horrible as that apple with the bite. ;P
On a more serious note: I use is on Linux, so I can't comment about the Mac UI integration. But I think UI integration really is very important. I often hear of development teams neglecting the Mac. But every time I had to develop for the Mac, I found testing it to be very frustrating, because the whole system is so not-made-for real power usage like development. (At least for me.)
Maybe that's a part of the issue...
The funny thing is, that when you walk both extremes, you end up with them coming back together again. And the result is the Haskell type system: Incredibly strong/hard, yet you usually do not have to specify type signatures (or even think much about them).
But I agree that I still miss something like Delphi/JBuilder/NetBeans for JavaScript+(X)HTML+CSS+DOM+(PHP/Java/Haskell/etc.)+SQL. ;)
One very impressive approach was HAppS: The Haskell application server. The idea is, to replace that huge stack of languages/services/layers by as little of them as possible, integrating all of them. Everything server-side is in there. No need for Apache, a database server, etc.
Now we only need to integrate the front-end / client-side into it too.
How can you say that you understand the depths of the language, and yet in the same paragraph ask for the implementation of "real classes and inheritance"?
I understand that most people think that this is how it should be. But it's off the point.
JavaScript is a prototype-based language. Prototypes replace classes, and basing something on a prototype replaces inheritance.
I find it quite ingenious, because it merges two concept (classes and inheritance) into one more complete concept. In my eyes it gives you more than pure classes, because you can have complex instance data for "initialization", and even modify the base object after instantiation to influence all the children. Plus many other cool things. All with just one single concept.
Very elegant!
I maybe agree with real namespaces. And I thing JavaScript 2.0 has them. But, coming from Haskell, I found no big need for namespaces. Because of the feature of closures. Which also are essentially implicit namespaces everywhere. But the ability to make them explicit certainly is an idea.
I agree that when you use hacked libraries from others who also did not understand the implications of meddling with base objects, that you can get in messy situations. But I think I remember a function to check if the object is what you expect it to be.
We really need some new (old) languages for web programming. :D
The problem is, that it is just commonly assumed, that logic would be the highest form of intelligence, and that the emotional intelligence -- the one that women are really good at -- would be "lower" or somehow primitive.
So even women who call themselves "emancipated" really just run behind male ideals of intellectualism and engineer jobs, etc.
Who states that they are better? Seriously. Who came up with the stupid idea, that people skills, ability to sense emotions, and especially the ability to raise children well, would be bad things? I don't even think that there is a more important skill than the ability to raise and understand children. And that this is not the most respected job in the world really is a shame.
So... appreciate your female skills. Your "illogical" emotional brain is a strength. Work with it, instead of suppressing it. Aren't those "illogical" things often also those that feel the best?
What do you think why they feel the best? Not because they are inherently wrong, for sure!
Allow yourself to just let the hormones reign. Cry like crazy, get angry, laugh, love, hate, play all your emotions. Only by allowing them, can you relieve that "hell".
And don't let anyone tell you that because you are starting fights for no reason, then after them suddenly are happy, you are crazy, or something like that. You are not. It's girl style. It's good. You are even allowed to call it fun! And if a male friend really understands your needs, you both can handle it without hurting your relationship. You can also even improve it.
Or as a web-economy business plan: ... ;) (Notice how all interactions with others, and your own life, start to improve.)
1. Find out who you *really* are.
2. Accept and love that one.
3. Be yourself. (That real you.) Don't bend yourself for others.
4.
5. PROFIT!
So you assume that you know enough of my knowledge, to judge if I really understand women, from reading my two comments? :)
Really?
I think that could have come trough better, no?
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I have the strong feeling, that your definition of "understanding" always shifts deeper, when someone comes up with a deeper explanation of the inner workings. No? ;)
Ok, if not, then I'll try to define "understanding" from your comment. Again, correct me if I'm wrong.
Perhaps the best method would be, to define a point on the scale that goes from no understanding to defining it down to the effects of an all-encompassing world formula.
What would be a realistic point here?
Most likely the one, that helps you to never have misunderstandings with women again. (Driving the car flawlessly.)
Or the one, that enables you to perfectly think like a woman. (My guess on what your definition of "really understanding" is.)
Well, I guess we can agree, that my comments showed, that I'm pretty clear about the former.
Now about the latter: What would define the perfect understanding of female thought?
How about being able to flawlessly predict her reactions to everything? Including complex and long-term results.
Right?
But does it have to be 100% flawless and perfect? Not really, right? We're only human. So a specific level should be enough to state that we really are able to do something. :)
Ok, then you can be the judge on this:
I have many female and male friends, that ask me when they have personal or relationship problems. (I like helping people, because their success is a bit my own success. Just like with children.)
The girls often wonder, why I understand them so well, while their boyfriend doesn't. And men tell me that I was right with how they would react.
But I also often get into situations, where I say something about what will happen in the future. And they insist that they are not going to act like that.
Yet afterwards, we talk about it. And I was, according to them, better at predicting them, than they were themselves.
I must say, that I think that I can actually feel like a girl. Maybe because I am not ashamed by it because I do care so much, what everybody thinks. I know that I am still a manly man. Maybe even more so, because of the strength that it gives me.
Of course you can freely dispute everything I said. Because it's only words. And because we could only finally settle it, when you would watch me act, and see for yourself, how good or bad my predictions are. Or you can just continue to define that I'm outside of your definition of "real understanding". (Just please then also provide that definition. :)
I think it would help you, to also use near-complete knowledge, instead of rejecting it because it's not perfect. :)
There is no such thing as "higher" coping skills. Intellectualization is most often seen as a "higher, one. But for healing purposes, it's nothing other than repression... the worst kind of "coping" (because it's no coping at all).
But I think we can agree, that some coping skills are the best, and often, religion is far from being the best one. :)
So which one is the best one?
Well... whatever works the best, to get to your goals, no?
If that -- in someone's situation -- happens to be religion, that's how it is, isn't it?
The problems arise, if you artificially limit your coping abilities. Either by only ever using some. Or by never ever using some. :)
No?
Exactly. That's why all this "Mistery method"-based pickup "techniques" by definition are doomed to fail.
You can't play something. You have to *be* it. Of course that's also the catch. ;)
About the "unethical" stuff: Of course power always gives you the ability to do unethical stuff. But do you want someone to love/like/respect you because you manipulated her, or because he/she really loves/likes/respects you? You will notice that the former just never really can make you happy. It feels fake. :D
As I clearly stated in my comment, I couldn't do such things. My "soul" just rejects it, because it goes against my most basic motivations of doing something good to both of us.
When I approach women, I do it with the question "How can I make this fun and something good and valuable for both of us.". How could someone ever reject that?
Because you created the wrong feeling of course. Come here, and I will literally open a girl with that exact sentence. I'll even bet two expensive cocktails on it! :)
But isn't Konqueror THE Qt WebKit browser?
By the way: Why wasn't it in the list, while Opera was?
Right. I saw it, and I always loved the Elise. You can't get more fun per dollar with any other car. It fits in every parking space, looks very cool, has an insane acceleration, gets around the corners like a dream, and still is pretty cheap for such a sports car. The only thing lacking, is comfort. The perfect second car, if you got a bit more money to spend. Or my first car. Because I'm a MAN. ;)
I did the same in pretty much every game. I have to kill every monster, collect every powerup, and do everything possible. And I can tell you the causes of this with a very nice example. (I have forgotten the details, so I will fill in my own.)
There is an old movie, where there is a imminent nuclear explosion. And the women in the household, just starts to clean everything in the house to total perfection. Because her mind can't stand the "chaos". She feels the extreme urge to order that chaos. So instead of running to a bomb shelter, she dies ironing shirts in the living room.
Find out what gave you the urge.
I have a well-proven method to find it: When you are doing the "landscape raping", stop for some seconds, and concentrate on the bad feeling that that gives you. Try to do as much as possible to strengthen that feeling. (Create congruence.) Like adding other things to the situation (or removing them). Jump right in the middle of the feeling. And get it to the absolute maximum. :)
Yes, it will hurt. and your subconscious will fight it tooth and nail. Which is why it's much easier, when you have someone who can keep you on that path, while not bringing in his own (possibly twisted) influences. Also it means that you have to be in an environment, where you can really act out the stuff. It must be OK, even if you flip out, destroy half the room, do "perverse" things, or cry like a baby. (Shame is the natural enemy here.)
This usually re-activates old (=weak) neural associative pathways, that once were created when the original source of the problem happened. Which means those old things suddenly pop up and reappear in your mind.
Now beware that more often than not, there are many steps to re-activate, and the first thing is usually not the original source. Which means that you can only be sure to have reached the real source, when after a long time, you still don't get to a next step. Which is unrealistic, because it takes very long. But prepare for your first "final source" to not actually be the final one, and having to do the whole thing even deeper, when you find out that it's still not really solved. (These intermediate "sources" usually are re-traumatizations that added something to it. Often they also are *partial* "final sources", because there is more than one final cause.)
Anyway... when you have reached that final source/cause, you usually see a huge range of things in your life, that are very twisted, and have nothing to do with how you thing it would make sense to react. WRITE THEM ALL DOWN! (In a tree-like mind-map. I recommend paper, or the FreeMind mind-mapping software [open-source]) This again is a process where you have to scrape the bottom of the barrel for those "twisted" things. To really get them all.
Once you have that map of your not-so-rose-colored glasses, you can start to re-train yourself. Which means that every time you get to such a situation, you (usually) automatically notice that what you would do now, is something that makes no actual sense, but only in the context of that "twist". So you do what you *actually* think makes sense.
This again is a hard process, because you fight against age-old habits. So reward yourself generously, get as much mental strength / love from your loved ones as possible, and just expect it to hurt to fight it, until you are over the top of the mountain (a more accurate description than "out of the woods"). And don't let this stop you.
It will take time to re-train yourself. And the stronger the new impressions, the more you learn, and thereby the faster it goes. But keep your personal balance between "too hard" and "too easy", to keep the acceleration at a maximum. It's no help when you get completely off the "road" because you were too fast.
Allright. Good luck. And try it with a professional, if needed. (Just beware that most professionals actually can *also* get to a level where it's too much for them. They are only human, even if they are trained to stand it. But that is their fault, and you do not have to take this into consideration. If needed, find a better/stronger/stabler one. After all, you're paying for it.)
I also used to make levels for Doom 1.
And I achieved my goal, to make the door stand in the middle.
The trick was to fill the room with so many monsters (1024), that time literally slowed down and came to a grinding halt. The door never reached the top. After one hour, I hit reset.
Oh yeah, I still know IDDQD, IDKFA, and even IDSPISPOPD by heart. And that you should not try them in Mechwarrior. ;)
I used to make the city completely empty. And I mean empty. I couldn't even find a car to drive around anymore. It was just one big pile of burning police cars and dead cops in one place, and the rest was empty. I had to walk around the whole city to check.
But the old GTA games also had a nice bug, that punished very stupid users. A friend of my brother installed GTA to C:\. Yes, that's right. To the root directory.
Guess what happened when he uninstalled it.
Whoops! ^^
That's for old "nature" religions.
Nowadays religion is basically two things:
First a god is one way to cope with the fact, that we never can know where it all comes from. (The big bang and there being no time before it, is another more realistic one.) Of course they are all by definition unable to answer that question. But better than to get crazy, right?
Second, the "get crazy" part: If you ever read something about what we used to call neurosis or schizophrenia: It is basically the "art" of twisting the world so it's OK to you, even when it's not. You for example state, that it was OK that you got raped, because you really did bad things to your father when you were young. And then go to do way too much good, to make up for it, afterwards. Or you run onto the highway because you think you can control the world. And then when you get hit, you later insist that you wanted it that way.
Religion basically is a light form of schizophrenia. Which is bad and good. (In psychology, if something is a disease, depends on your/their view of "bad".)
It basically helps people cope with bad lives, horrible things, wars, poverty, and the everyday frustration. They can blame it on a higher power, or on their own fault to live by the rules of that power. So while I am far from being religious, I can totally understand people who are, and their needs for it. It's a useful tool for a desperate situation.
Where it gets bad, is when people want to profit from those people, by acting as if they were a mediator between them and their higher power. While essentially taking over their will and life. It's the biggest and one of the most evil scams -- off the backs of them.
But hey, people strive for the reproduction of their genes, and of their ideas. It's called evolution. And mother nature is really a bitch.
No. It's really just you.
Yes, I'll get off your lawn now! ^^
But welcome to the 21st century.
Oh, I forgot: Of course I meant "how it feels for her"! Which means you have to listen to your emotional brain. Something that goes a bit against the stereotype of the cool western male, but in the end will make you a more manly man. (Protip: You still don't have to actually show all of those emotions. ^^)
You don't. I do. In fact I changed from your point of view to being able to not only understand how women think but sometimes even play on their motivations like on a piano. Nice side effect: Works on men too! :) But of course, any unfair manipulation is completely out of question. Analog to "white hat hacking".
But for you I have one single rule that you have to burn into your brain like your life would depend on it:
It's not important what you say, but how you say it. Or more general, how it feels.
This works while flirting, in every day communication, when arguing, when she asks if she looks fat, in creating a situation that will make her hot, etc, etc, etc.
You can walk up to a girl, and literally say the biggest crap. If it creates the right feeling in her, it will work.
That's why pickup lines are completely use- and pointless.
Politicians and especially advertisers are professionals in this too. Because it works on the more "basic" emotional brain. (Which really is not "simpler" than logic, but just another kind of intelligence.)
Never forgetting that single thing will help you more than any stupid relationship-help book. (Ok, I guess most of these include this nowadays.)