We must be misunderstanding each other. I thought that you had said that women should be responsible for not getting themselves in a situation where a rape could occur (ie: by not being alone with someone stronger than they are).
But now you bring up this false date rape thing, which I can't really comment on, not knowing the situation.
I can't say that women should not be alone with someone stronger than they are. I trust my male friends, all of whom are stronger than I am, even the ones who are about my size, enough to be alone with them on a very regular basis. I know that friends are not the same as a nearly-unknown stranger with whom a person might have been drinking or with whom a person might be on a date, but to say that women shouldn't be alone with someone stronger than they are at all seems unfair to all involved, including the stronger man whom you seem to be painting as a rapist, otherwise why would the woman need to be afraid?
I didn't say that women should behave however they want and expect that there are not consequences of their actions. I said that I think that laying the blame for rape on the shoulders of the men who commit them is completely fair and completely rational.
You didn't mention this, but do you understand a little bit better now about why a woman would not want to go through a rape trial?
Rape is an act of violence by a man on a woman, but you're going to put the responsibility of that not happening on the woman? I really fail to see how that works.
Don't misunderstand me; I don't walk across Manhattan at 3 in the morning wearing a halter top and a miniskirt, but to imply that a woman is supposed to know all dangerous situations and avoid them is just wrong.
I can't profess to know how the female psyche works.
Do you have any idea how defenses are structured in rape cases? Do you know that the defense attempts to paint the victim as a whore who is willing to spread her legs for anyone, thus why would she say no to this guy? Do you realize how often that works?
In Italy about ten years ago (I think) there was a case where a man was found innocent of rape because the jeans that were in vogue at the time were so tight, the judge determined that they could not have been removed without the victim's help. (See also: OJ Simpson's recent brilliant statements about this case and what is and is not possible to do without consent.)
Wait, you can't understand the female psyche, but you can claim that my response that men should be responsible for, gosh, imagine this, NOT RAPING PEOPLE is a typical female response? How about it's a typical human response?
That's why athletes will continue to get away with this shit; they're treated like they're better than everyone else, even when they act just as awfully and cowardly as the next rapist.
Do you have any idea of the trouble it is to "cry rape" when it isn't? Do you know how victims are treated? Do you know how many rapes are not reported each year because women are afraid of being treated like they did something wrong?
Because that's bullshit. Honest to God rape versus date rape? Are you fucking kidding? Just because I go to dinner with a guy and make out on his couch afterwards doesn't mean I owe him a goddamn thing. Whether or not he paid for dinner.
It's not women who should be worried about being in bad situations, even though that is the reality. It's men who should be taught that they don't get to take whatever they want, and to respect a woman when she says no. That seems pretty simple to me.
On the Kobe note, do you honestly think he is going to get into serious trouble, even if it is proven that he did rape her? Mike Tyson went to jail for raping a woman and was applauded and welcomed back with open arms by many fans. Then he bit the ear of a man who intentionally walked into a boxing right to fight him and these same people went absolutely apeshit and called for him to be banned from boxing. What? The ear of a professional boxer is worth more than that which is most precious to a woman?
That's the message that is sent, though. Which is why athletes will continue to get away with this shit; they're treated like they're better than everyone else, even when they act just as awfully and cowardly as the next guy.
Actually it's my understanding that it's a lot easier to control a few cells a month with hormones than it is to control a few million a shot with hormones.
That's why barrier methods work, sort of, and why hormonal methods for guys are going to be a pretty distant thing.
So I should put up with people who spend millions of dollars on a pill that makes it possible for Bob Dole to get an erection again, but I should sit quietly and not complain that I can't even have sex within a fucking marriage without worrying that I'm going to end up pregnant (which, by the way, is not such a fun event, speaking of hormones)?
You find for me a method of birth control that doesn't fuck up my skin (allergic to spermicide), fuck up my body (hormones make me crazy), or fuck up my mind, and then we'll talk about how unfortunate it is for guys who are forced to pay for babies they didn't want to have.
Yeah, because it's the job of "feminists" (who is this amorphous group whom you lump together?) to make sure that non-deadbeat dads aren't fucked over along with the jerks who actually do screw their children over.
Am I the only dork who keeps her computer box? It doesn't contain the precious iBook-fitting styrofoam stuff anymore, just books and papers and computer-related crap, but the serial number is very clearly written on that.
I suppose this is one of those times when it's good that I've had to send my iBook back to Apple a couple of times (display, the dreaded logic board); my serial number is available when I log in to my Repair Status page.
So you think you know a situation that you obviously know nothing about, based on this guy not knowing anything about the situation?
I'm so fucking sick of people dismissing rape claims because there are those who cry wolf.
(And here's a fucking novel idea - how about guys treat girls with respect and not as pieces of meat? Or how about girls get taught to respect themselves and not GO to frat parties and get trashed while wearing as little as possible?)
I started in 1996, so I have more street cred. So there.
(I really hate it when people behave that way, like I am so great because I knew this band before they were popular. Isn't it better that the band is popular?)
((And besides, my archives dating back to 1996 are really terribly embarrassing. I was fifteen, for christ's sake.))
Man, I'll apologize for the heavy sarcasm in advance, but since 1999? You're so old school. My god, how have you managed to maintain a website SO LONG?
Gaah. I've turned into a crochety old man who talks about how he did everything before everyone else. Or, god forbid, a hipster who does the same.
Actually what he found was the lost treasure of Atlantis. I believe it was hidden in some caves in a very dusty part of the world, it's been years since I've seen it.
And everybody thought that the treasure was gold, so Very Bad Men were trying to find it. Turns out they used a form of punch card computers (no, really, with tin punch cards. Imagine how heavy THAT program would be) to conceal the treasure under a pool of water and lava. That treasure was... wait for it... KNOWLEDGE.
Of course, the Very Bad Man got pissed when it was just "useless scrolls" (his phrase, I remember it clearly) and destroyed a bunch of them. Then MacGyver (spelling, guys, let's keep up here) used a homemade rocket thing to shoot a bucket out of the hole in the ceiling of the giant room they were in to get him and the girl out. There was a girl, right?
And the planets were aligned, which is why they could get in to begin with.
Which is why I said that it might be too much work. See, right up there, where I wasn't being a jerk, but just providing information that I wasn't sure you had?
Having to hunt for a window IS a productivity waster, but it can be done. I'll agree that having multiple text files would be hard to distinguish in Expose, but since I switched from Windows 2 years ago, I am much more likely to Apple+Tab my way to something I want to work on.
I'm actually sort of miffed that they have that new translucent window that shows you what you're tabbing to. I liked it better when it was by the order of the programs in the Dock. That was at least consistent.
It might be annoying, and too much work, but you know that if you put your mouse over one of the zoomed-out windows, it will tell you what the title of the window is.
Yeah, but we don't have the years and years of oral history that preceded the actual putting words down on paper (or rocks, you know, whatever).
As one example, some of the Gospels are determined to have been written hundreds of years after Jesus died. Let's say a hundred, to be precise and hypothetical. Can you accurately write down a conversation that happened between your great-great-grandfather and a friend of his, even if it was told to you over and over again? Can you say that the conversation you wrote down would be exactly like the one that actually happened?
20 good local stations in Paris? Are you kidding? One of my favorite things about that city is the amazing fullness of the radio dial. You can go from one end of the dial to the other with very little dead space in between, certainly not much if you are tuning on the analog dial.
And why does not understanding a language mean you can't listen to music broadcast in that language?
What did the parent mention that 1st and 2nd gen iPods cannot do? I can make Smart Playlists and transfer them to my 1st gen 5GB iPod.
I even suspect that they update on the fly, that is, that a playlist featuring all songs that don't have an album listed (any single I download or rip) will pull the songs from the iPod's singles, including any I manually add, and not from the desktop.
Insightful? They sell their old shows through Audible.com. Of course they aren't going to offer their shows for free in.mp3 or.ogg or whatever else format; that would screw Audible pretty heartily.
You can get around it now with an audio hijacking application, but at least it isn't exactly easy, and you can only do it at the speed at which the show plays.
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We must be misunderstanding each other. I thought that you had said that women should be responsible for not getting themselves in a situation where a rape could occur (ie: by not being alone with someone stronger than they are).
But now you bring up this false date rape thing, which I can't really comment on, not knowing the situation.
I can't say that women should not be alone with someone stronger than they are. I trust my male friends, all of whom are stronger than I am, even the ones who are about my size, enough to be alone with them on a very regular basis. I know that friends are not the same as a nearly-unknown stranger with whom a person might have been drinking or with whom a person might be on a date, but to say that women shouldn't be alone with someone stronger than they are at all seems unfair to all involved, including the stronger man whom you seem to be painting as a rapist, otherwise why would the woman need to be afraid?
I didn't say that women should behave however they want and expect that there are not consequences of their actions. I said that I think that laying the blame for rape on the shoulders of the men who commit them is completely fair and completely rational.
You didn't mention this, but do you understand a little bit better now about why a woman would not want to go through a rape trial?
Don't misunderstand me; I don't walk across Manhattan at 3 in the morning wearing a halter top and a miniskirt, but to imply that a woman is supposed to know all dangerous situations and avoid them is just wrong.
I can't profess to know how the female psyche works.
Do you have any idea how defenses are structured in rape cases? Do you know that the defense attempts to paint the victim as a whore who is willing to spread her legs for anyone, thus why would she say no to this guy? Do you realize how often that works?
In Italy about ten years ago (I think) there was a case where a man was found innocent of rape because the jeans that were in vogue at the time were so tight, the judge determined that they could not have been removed without the victim's help. (See also: OJ Simpson's recent brilliant statements about this case and what is and is not possible to do without consent.)
Wait, you can't understand the female psyche, but you can claim that my response that men should be responsible for, gosh, imagine this, NOT RAPING PEOPLE is a typical female response? How about it's a typical human response?
That's why athletes will continue to get away with this shit; they're treated like they're better than everyone else, even when they act just as awfully and cowardly as the next rapist.
Do you have any idea of the trouble it is to "cry rape" when it isn't? Do you know how victims are treated? Do you know how many rapes are not reported each year because women are afraid of being treated like they did something wrong?
Because that's bullshit. Honest to God rape versus date rape? Are you fucking kidding? Just because I go to dinner with a guy and make out on his couch afterwards doesn't mean I owe him a goddamn thing. Whether or not he paid for dinner.
It's not women who should be worried about being in bad situations, even though that is the reality. It's men who should be taught that they don't get to take whatever they want, and to respect a woman when she says no. That seems pretty simple to me.
On the Kobe note, do you honestly think he is going to get into serious trouble, even if it is proven that he did rape her? Mike Tyson went to jail for raping a woman and was applauded and welcomed back with open arms by many fans. Then he bit the ear of a man who intentionally walked into a boxing right to fight him and these same people went absolutely apeshit and called for him to be banned from boxing. What? The ear of a professional boxer is worth more than that which is most precious to a woman?
That's the message that is sent, though. Which is why athletes will continue to get away with this shit; they're treated like they're better than everyone else, even when they act just as awfully and cowardly as the next guy.
Hasn't anybody with mod points seen that? Geez. It made me laugh, dude.
Parking a Smart car in Paris is only annoying compared to trying to park a full-sized (for example) Mercedes sedan.
I mean, I can't even imagine how great those little things are.
Right, it renders html and images unless you're smart enough to turn them off in all messages.
Is that possible in OE anymore? (Not being snide, actually asking a question.)
Actually it's my understanding that it's a lot easier to control a few cells a month with hormones than it is to control a few million a shot with hormones.
That's why barrier methods work, sort of, and why hormonal methods for guys are going to be a pretty distant thing.
So I should put up with people who spend millions of dollars on a pill that makes it possible for Bob Dole to get an erection again, but I should sit quietly and not complain that I can't even have sex within a fucking marriage without worrying that I'm going to end up pregnant (which, by the way, is not such a fun event, speaking of hormones)?
Try again.
You find for me a method of birth control that doesn't fuck up my skin (allergic to spermicide), fuck up my body (hormones make me crazy), or fuck up my mind, and then we'll talk about how unfortunate it is for guys who are forced to pay for babies they didn't want to have.
Yeah, because it's the job of "feminists" (who is this amorphous group whom you lump together?) to make sure that non-deadbeat dads aren't fucked over along with the jerks who actually do screw their children over.
Right. How does that work, exactly?
Yup. They'll be going under any day now.
Am I the only dork who keeps her computer box? It doesn't contain the precious iBook-fitting styrofoam stuff anymore, just books and papers and computer-related crap, but the serial number is very clearly written on that.
I suppose this is one of those times when it's good that I've had to send my iBook back to Apple a couple of times (display, the dreaded logic board); my serial number is available when I log in to my Repair Status page.
So you think you know a situation that you obviously know nothing about, based on this guy not knowing anything about the situation?
I'm so fucking sick of people dismissing rape claims because there are those who cry wolf.
(And here's a fucking novel idea - how about guys treat girls with respect and not as pieces of meat? Or how about girls get taught to respect themselves and not GO to frat parties and get trashed while wearing as little as possible?)
Ugh.
I started in 1996, so I have more street cred. So there.
(I really hate it when people behave that way, like I am so great because I knew this band before they were popular. Isn't it better that the band is popular?)
((And besides, my archives dating back to 1996 are really terribly embarrassing. I was fifteen, for christ's sake.))
Man, I'll apologize for the heavy sarcasm in advance, but since 1999? You're so old school. My god, how have you managed to maintain a website SO LONG?
Gaah. I've turned into a crochety old man who talks about how he did everything before everyone else. Or, god forbid, a hipster who does the same.
Actually what he found was the lost treasure of Atlantis. I believe it was hidden in some caves in a very dusty part of the world, it's been years since I've seen it.
And everybody thought that the treasure was gold, so Very Bad Men were trying to find it. Turns out they used a form of punch card computers (no, really, with tin punch cards. Imagine how heavy THAT program would be) to conceal the treasure under a pool of water and lava. That treasure was... wait for it... KNOWLEDGE.
Of course, the Very Bad Man got pissed when it was just "useless scrolls" (his phrase, I remember it clearly) and destroyed a bunch of them. Then MacGyver (spelling, guys, let's keep up here) used a homemade rocket thing to shoot a bucket out of the hole in the ceiling of the giant room they were in to get him and the girl out. There was a girl, right?
And the planets were aligned, which is why they could get in to begin with.
Man, that was a great movie.
Which is why I said that it might be too much work. See, right up there, where I wasn't being a jerk, but just providing information that I wasn't sure you had?
Having to hunt for a window IS a productivity waster, but it can be done. I'll agree that having multiple text files would be hard to distinguish in Expose, but since I switched from Windows 2 years ago, I am much more likely to Apple+Tab my way to something I want to work on.
I'm actually sort of miffed that they have that new translucent window that shows you what you're tabbing to. I liked it better when it was by the order of the programs in the Dock. That was at least consistent.
It might be annoying, and too much work, but you know that if you put your mouse over one of the zoomed-out windows, it will tell you what the title of the window is.
Yeah, but we don't have the years and years of oral history that preceded the actual putting words down on paper (or rocks, you know, whatever).
As one example, some of the Gospels are determined to have been written hundreds of years after Jesus died. Let's say a hundred, to be precise and hypothetical. Can you accurately write down a conversation that happened between your great-great-grandfather and a friend of his, even if it was told to you over and over again? Can you say that the conversation you wrote down would be exactly like the one that actually happened?
20 good local stations in Paris? Are you kidding? One of my favorite things about that city is the amazing fullness of the radio dial. You can go from one end of the dial to the other with very little dead space in between, certainly not much if you are tuning on the analog dial.
And why does not understanding a language mean you can't listen to music broadcast in that language?
(I'm not trying to attack, I'm seriously asking.)
What did the parent mention that 1st and 2nd gen iPods cannot do? I can make Smart Playlists and transfer them to my 1st gen 5GB iPod.
I even suspect that they update on the fly, that is, that a playlist featuring all songs that don't have an album listed (any single I download or rip) will pull the songs from the iPod's singles, including any I manually add, and not from the desktop.
If that made sense.
Just because the author might not like variety doesn't necessarily mean that the author dislikes taste.
The author might eat Boo Berries each morning for breakfast, but as long as it's ALWAYS Boo Berries, it's not variety.
Just a thought. I like the idea of same underwear, though. Do you mean the same pair, or the same style?
It's sad that that bit of information made my day, isn't it.
Insightful? They sell their old shows through Audible.com. Of course they aren't going to offer their shows for free in .mp3 or .ogg or whatever else format; that would screw Audible pretty heartily.
You can get around it now with an audio hijacking application, but at least it isn't exactly easy, and you can only do it at the speed at which the show plays.