So you think the world was a better place *with* Saddam?
The world would just be the same.
Maybe it will take a WMD attack for the people used to comfy life in the first world to realize that there are lot of nasty folks out there who wish us ill.
A lot of people don't even care about "us" (whatever us is) as they have enough problems of their own. Maybe you should stop being so self centred for a change.
I really don't give a crap if there is a direct relationship between 9/11 and Iraq or not.
And so does the US foreign policy and that is why everybody does not agree with it.
The entire Middle East and other parts of Asia are in need of massive reforms, I am glad to see it finally happening. You can't have a safe neighbourhood if you refuse to lock up the criminals.
Says the biggest Bully of the all. Let's not forget for a moment that a lot of those criminals were best buddies with the US for the longest time, if they not even have to thank the US for their rise to power in the first place.
Some might argue that "reforming" the Middle East will invite more terrorist attacks on the U.S., but strangely, this has not happened.
Yet It hasn't happened yet. You make the mistake to think that it's already over. For most people it only just started.
My theory is the reason that there haven't been any more attacks on the U.S. is because al Qaeda's initial little plan to persuade the U.S. to withdraw its troops from the Middle East backfired enormously.
Yet so far I still haven't seen the Al-Qaeda proof. It is interresting though that the people who pull the trigger right now keep insisting that they do exist, are that bad.... I guess I am wrong in asking for proof?
There are more U.S. troops in the Middle East now than ever (well, except during Gulf War: Part I), and two countries have fallen. Just imagine what the U.S. will do if it takes a WMD attack on its soil. I suspect that the "kid gloves" might come off.
/me thinks that you have been successfully brainwashed. You seem to think as black and white as your leader and it doesn't even occure to you that whoever caused the attacks on the WTC has gotten exactly what they wanted: An aggressive US that is threatening people who already felt betrayed and threatened by the US. If someone has nothing to loose they usually don't care if they surive. Most of those countries (and their individuals) have nothing to loose. Can you say the same about yourself? Your way of life? The US as a whole?
Iraq is a wakeup call that the U.S. will actually crack some skulls.
If countries dare to use the Euro instead of the US Dollar. You think I am dreaming? Iraq changed from USD to Euro a couple of months ago, Iran is threatening it and North Korea has already done this.
In fact the only way your way of life is as good as it is is because of the USD. Don't believe me? You might want to read this then.
In my former life I had a couple of File / DHCP / DC on NT 4 that easily got over 100 days uptime under windows NT 4. The only reason they came down was:
1. Service Packs. 2. Power failure.
So yes, Windows apparantly can run that long. On the other hand my iBook, Linux and Sun boxes regularly outdo that at home.
I guess the problem he has is the serial mouse on Port one. I wouldn't be surprised if YAST2 thought it was a mouse, but for what reason that thing waited for a response for over 90 minutes is beyond me.
I had similar problems in old versions of Windows (when I still used windows) during modem installation.
F.A. Porsche might have the same name as the car manufacturer, but AFAIK he has absolutly nothing to do with the design of the cars.
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Don't you mean D/A (also known as a DAC or digital to analog converter)? The data on the CD is already in digital (D) format and needs to be converted to an analog (A) signal for your speakers. I don't see any place for an analog to digital converter in a CD player.
What I meant was that instead of doing the D/A conversion in the CD player it is done in the processor outside / in the pre-amp.
This might just be my EE bias, but my understanding of the definition of the term amplifier is that it refers to an analog defice. Sending digital signals (two values signals, usually V+ and V- or V+ and 0) to an amplifier doesn't do anything, since the amplitude of the signal doesn't carry the information (the information is carried in the pattern of high and low signals: 0V,+5V,0V,+5V,+5V has the same meaning as +3V,+20V,+3V,+20V,+20V).
You are correct, I meant processor / pre-amp. Should have made that clearer.
I suppose, if you wanted to run you digital signal over a very long cable, you might feed it through an amplifier to get sufficient current and voltage to get to the other end, but it won't change the amplitude of the output sound one whit (or Watt, for that matter). More likely, however, you would re-encode the digital data in a format that could detect and correct multi-bit errors (using a Hamming code, for instance, though I'd bet that data on CDs is already encoded in just such a way).
As I said, I phrased it wrong. The idea was to get a digital readout of the CD and do the D/A conversion in the external processor. They are usually of better quality than the onces in the CD player.
Then of course there is this friend of mine who insists that the analog signal degrades too much on it's way from the CD Player to the pre-amp;)
Yeah I know that most people are base "fed" I don't get it.
When I got my system it was like someone opened my ears for the first time and ever since then it just makes me sick to listen to the "boom boxes" that are out there.
Interrestingly enough, even in the high end section there is a clear difference between the North American and European market.
European speakers tend to be a bit more balanced while North American ones tend to emphasize a bit more on the bass (though they are still a lot less intrusive than Sony and Co.).
The problem with a lot of systems these days is more than just the speakser and the amp. The A/D converter (when playing CDs) has quite a huge impact.
I own a 30K System (yes, that's a lot of money) and come to realize that most AD converters in consumer grade CD Players are just horrible.
My solution so far has been to connect a DVD player and use the Digital out and feed it directly into the A/D converter of my pre-amp / process (Acurus ACT-3). The sound quality is extreme.
Same goes for MP3s. If you have a bad encoder or a crappy soundcard it WILL sound a lot worse than a CD.
I had the chance to listen to some of the Super CDs and I must say they sound amazing, the only problem with them is that right now you cannot get a digital out on the players (they are afraid someone is making high grade copies of the CDs) so you have to rely on the internal A/D convert to get the sound out. I doubt that it will take off, most of the people I know do not want to feed the amp with an analog signal if possible.
Bose IS crap soundwise, they pumpt tons of bass into the sound in order to "fill the room" and drown out anything else.
The Cubes are pouplar with a lot of people because they are "neat" but there is only so much sound you can squeeze out of a small can. Turn the sub off on your Bose and tell me again how well it sounds.
Don't believe me? Go to a high end store in your area and listen to some speakers that cost the same as the Bose (and if you're "lucky" they sell Bose as well) and compare them. You'll be amazed, unless of course you belong to the group of people who think that all you need is bass.
It's just that on MP3s I (depending on the music) still hear the compression at 160, 192+ sounds good.
If their compression would offer higher bit rates it might not deter me as much, but right now when I can listen to "The Dark Side of the Moon" with my rip and then compare it to the download it just sounds bad.
I just did some "listening" in the store (I can't buy anyways right now they don't sell up here in Canada) and I compared the sound samples to some of the stuff I have on my iBook right now.
The result? The files sound flatter, not really all that bad but if you can directly compare it it is almost shocking.
So sorry Apple. As much as I like you and my iPod I will not fill it up with your service for the forseeable future unless something really is changing in regards to the quality (Not talking about the DRM right now).
The United States IS the teeth of the U.N. without the U.S. the U.N. has no teeth. We have shown that against Russian technology, we can litterally take destroy an entire modern army into mush within 90 days (not talking about iraqi freedom). The only countries with as modern equipment are the European countries, and the thing is, they will always take a diplomatic solutiion before going to war, and it doesnt even need to be to there advantage, because you can stall them..
Here is where I see a little problem.
Yes, the UN has not teeth of it's own but there is no other way for her to get them but by using other countries armies. And here is why:
The UN is not a state. It cannot have it's own people and it's own army. If it would try to have it's own army where would it be based? Where would the people in the army come from? This could only work if the UN became some kind of "World Government" and that would also mean that countries like the US would need to give up some of their powers, what are the chances to this?
Furthermore, unlike the US Europe had been devastated by war, and I think this is why Europe rather looks for a Diplomatic solution these days than a war solution. Of course there are always financial interrests at stake as well but I think Europe as a whole (maybe because of the way the European Union is created) is a lot better "Integrated" in the world than the US is.
And the United Nations does not seem to really enforce its legislation. As for "enforcement" power, the United States has more Enforcement Power than the United Nations, simply because you would never get the United Nations to agree on anything.
True, for now. Don't forget for the USA it always seems like there never is any thought about tomorrow, it always seems that the only thing they see is the present. The reality is though that the past 10 years are nothing compared to everything that has already happened to everything that will happen. The UN might have a crisis, but a lot of countries outside the US see the UN still as the way to go. Give it another 10 years and the cards will most likely change. China could (if they would be interrested) easily provide military power, so can Europe if they make a commitment. To write the UN off now because of a lack of teeth besides the US is a bit early in my opinion.
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The problem is not the 40% rule. There is a lot off excellent Canadian artists. The problem only is as posted later in the article that they are not "mainstream" enough or that the record labels don't push them enough.
It's about the money.
Of all the countries I have lived in I have never been in a place where music seems to be such an integral part than in Canada (okay, Ontario, to be precise I have lived in Toronto and Waterloo, but I have visited other cities and there it seems to be the same way).
Nope you're wrong, it's (this time) not the content law but simply the law of the almighty (advertising) dollar.
At the large Music chains the latest Linkin Park disc "Meteora(Special Edition)" is approx $26.99 sale price since it was just released (observed this past weekend at Stawberries, Sam Goody, and HMV) At Best Buy it was $19.99 a bit better... At Newbury Comics $16.99 a $10 discount! Which by the way is still $3.00 less than the majors are charging for the standard edition of the disc.
Which HMV? I bought it in Toronto and there the Special Edition was 19.99 and that was true for all the stores I went to.
Maybe I am just lucky but the CD prices in Canada don't seem to be too bad. New releases are usually between 12.99 and 16.99 with SE's for 19.99. And lately some artists (Holly McNarland for example) are available for 9.99.
Now down south I realize that the discs are a lot more expensive.
Most people in their daily lives aren't directly affected by it (or not to their knowledge at least).
Most of the places that bump into the DMCA right now are the academics. Why? Because they are a bit ahead of the curve, the idea to undstand things is integral to them. Most people though are just consuming the final product, as such they won't be affected for a while.
Wait a bit longer until the product Johnny wants to buy (or an update to a Software he is using) can't be had anymore because the developer wasn't allowed to incorporate the functionality because of the DMCA.
Of course by then the question is if the masses will still care (I bet not).
Das Problem ist ja wirklich das die meiste "Kunst" heutzutage ein Produkt ist.
Frueher hat natuelrich auch der Koenig oder was auch immer den Kuenstler bezahlt (z. B. Mozart) aber am ende wurde keiner darin gehindert in der Kneipfe seine eigene Musik aufzufuehren.
Es wundert mich ehrlich gesagt das noch keiner auf die Idee gekommen ist eine Zwangsabgabe auf Musikinstrumente einzufuehren, immerhin spielen die ja alle die selben Noten.
IMO ist das ganze einfach eine Vortsetzung des Gedankens der Industrie.
In den meisten Faellen zahlen Kuenstler ja auch fuer die Produktion ihrer Alben. D.h. wenn deine neue Band ein Album aufnimmt mag die Plattenfirma das zwar zunaechst Finanzieren, die holen sich das Geld aber wieder.
Anstatt jetzt halt zu Warten bis Du mit deinen Urlaubsfotos Geld verdienen moechtests geht man gleich schonmal davon aus und nimmt dich in die Finanzielle Verantwortung fuer dein Potentizial.
Now parent's on the otherhand aren't at all perfect. Thus some children really are oppressed, over-protected, and some even left to fend for themselves. Other times they're wrong and the feelings of oppression are actually guilt or shame for being held accountable.
Having been one who had to fend for himself I would say that this sucks in large parts, but on the other hand it also put me in a situation in which I at least realized what my responsiblities are, and that my actions have consequences.
At the same time though a middle ground would have been better, out of different reasons.
Yes, it is your responsiblity as a partent to be responsible for your kids, you should also know everything that might endager the child, but the over protection that a lot of parents these days seem to have is just scary from my POV. But then I came from the other end of the spectrum and maybe I am over sensitive to this.
It is in the child's best interest to be watched like a hawk watching a mouse.
Oh, careful here Buster.
The problem with this is that if the parents are constantly there and watching without giving the kids some responsibility they will grow up to be big kids.
Or differently. As a parent you should do what's best for your kids and that is to teach them to be responsible for their actions, understand it and not to be the one who gives final responsiblity.
It might be a strange concept to understand for a lot of people, but good parenting (in my amateur opinion) like good managment is about giving people as much independence as possible and provide guidance, not to run their lifes.
Of course the younger they are the more guidance they need but a high school student should be far enough ahead to take at least some responsiblity themselves, to check on them every night just gives the wrong message.
School is one of those dangerous lessons. Without a proper education you can seriously mess up your future. Mess that up through trial and error and you may not get the chance again.
And doing homework and checking on the kid everynight helps how?
If you force the kid to do the homework they will do it, but will they learn something? If they have a close call then they might see the reason for the homework.
Okay, I adsmit it, I never did any homework, when I got called up in class to present mine I just pulled it out of air and made it up on the fly, but still, I think kids will do their homework / assignments more if you can make clear to them why it is a goo idea instead of forcing them to do it.
Trust has to be built up. In this case, if the parents routinely check up on you and your story always is the same as what they get from the school, then the trust will be in your honesty.
That logic is IMO flawed. If you cannot trust your own kid on the onset than that speaks volumes about your own opinion about your parenting skills. Apparantly you don't believe that you did a good job that you can trust your kids. And in reverse the kids will see the constant checking as an expression of your distrust in their abilities. They will not see it as something they have to earn, after all the parents at least should believe in their own kids.
Put a few hours a day into studying if you need to and they will start to trust your study habits.
I have a way better idea. Instead of shoving the whole thing off onto the school why don't you get involved in your kids homework, see what they are doing, help them with their homework and thus show interrest in their lives and what they are doing. Show that you as the parent are actually valuing the idea of school and that even though you are busy you are willing to take the time out to work with them. This will work most likely way better than to hover over them and don't let them use the computer until they are done with their homework.
If the homework is perceived as punishment, at best, they will only do what they have to do to pass. If they consider homework something that is part of their daily routine they will probably do more, and if they like homework (or to study) then they will do more.
It's all about "selling" it and selling it with a stick usually isn't the best way.
Be it consultant or fulltime I usually put my opinon of a solution in writing if I don't agree with it. I also explain why I consider it a bad solution and offer (if possible) an alternative solution.
If the client then decides to go ahead with the original plan regardless of my opinion that is fine with me, in the end it just means I'll most likely come back later to fix things, but because it's "on the record" chances are slim to none that they can put the blame on me.
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This is one thing that disturbs me to no end as well.
For some reason Quicktime doesn't play it back correctly, yet any other play (VCL) works just fine, what is it with Quicktime and Audio anyways?
M.
Care to back that up? Where is CDMA better than GSM?
I had a Nextel, a TDMA phone with Rogers and GSM (in Europe and in Canada) and I take the GSM any day.
SonyEricsson T68i and my iBook and thanks to GPRS I get my email anywhere.
Oh okay, now it makes sense.
Yes, I agree.
What are you trying to say? You're loosing me here.
How single user is a machine these days?
I mean really, does everyone in the family have their own PC? Or do you share it?
I think if the latter is the case, multiple user accounts make sense.
M.
The world would just be the same.
A lot of people don't even care about "us" (whatever us is) as they have enough problems of their own. Maybe you should stop being so self centred for a change.
And so does the US foreign policy and that is why everybody does not agree with it.
Says the biggest Bully of the all. Let's not forget for a moment that a lot of those criminals were best buddies with the US for the longest time, if they not even have to thank the US for their rise to power in the first place.
Yet It hasn't happened yet. You make the mistake to think that it's already over. For most people it only just started.
Yet so far I still haven't seen the Al-Qaeda proof. It is interresting though that the people who pull the trigger right now keep insisting that they do exist, are that bad.... I guess I am wrong in asking for proof?
If countries dare to use the Euro instead of the US Dollar. You think I am dreaming? Iraq changed from USD to Euro a couple of months ago, Iran is threatening it and North Korea has already done this.
In fact the only way your way of life is as good as it is is because of the USD. Don't believe me? You might want to read this then.
In my former life I had a couple of File / DHCP / DC on NT 4 that easily got over 100 days uptime under windows NT 4. The only reason they came down was:
1. Service Packs.
2. Power failure.
So yes, Windows apparantly can run that long. On the other hand my iBook, Linux and Sun boxes regularly outdo that at home.
M.
Well,
I guess the problem he has is the serial mouse on Port one. I wouldn't be surprised if YAST2 thought it was a mouse, but for what reason that thing waited for a response for over 90 minutes is beyond me.
I had similar problems in old versions of Windows (when I still used windows) during modem installation.
F.A. Porsche might have the same name as the car manufacturer, but AFAIK he has absolutly nothing to do with the design of the cars.
Don't you mean D/A (also known as a DAC or digital to analog converter)? The data on the CD is already in digital (D) format and needs to be converted to an analog (A) signal for your speakers. I don't see any place for an analog to digital converter in a CD player.
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What I meant was that instead of doing the D/A conversion in the CD player it is done in the processor outside / in the pre-amp.
This might just be my EE bias, but my understanding of the definition of the term amplifier is that it refers to an analog defice. Sending digital signals (two values signals, usually V+ and V- or V+ and 0) to an amplifier doesn't do anything, since the amplitude of the signal doesn't carry the information (the information is carried in the pattern of high and low signals: 0V,+5V,0V,+5V,+5V has the same meaning as +3V,+20V,+3V,+20V,+20V).
You are correct, I meant processor / pre-amp. Should have made that clearer.
I suppose, if you wanted to run you digital signal over a very long cable, you might feed it through an amplifier to get sufficient current and voltage to get to the other end, but it won't change the amplitude of the output sound one whit (or Watt, for that matter). More likely, however, you would re-encode the digital data in a format that could detect and correct multi-bit errors (using a Hamming code, for instance, though I'd bet that data on CDs is already encoded in just such a way).
As I said, I phrased it wrong. The idea was to get a digital readout of the CD and do the D/A conversion in the external processor. They are usually of better quality than the onces in the CD player.
Then of course there is this friend of mine who insists that the analog signal degrades too much on it's way from the CD Player to the pre-amp
Yeah I know that most people are base "fed" I don't get it.
When I got my system it was like someone opened my ears for the first time and ever since then it just makes me sick to listen to the "boom boxes" that are out there.
Interrestingly enough, even in the high end section there is a clear difference between the North American and European market.
European speakers tend to be a bit more balanced while North American ones tend to emphasize a bit more on the bass (though they are still a lot less intrusive than Sony and Co.).
M.
The problem with a lot of systems these days is more than just the speakser and the amp. The A/D converter (when playing CDs) has quite a huge impact.
I own a 30K System (yes, that's a lot of money) and come to realize that most AD converters in consumer grade CD Players are just horrible.
My solution so far has been to connect a DVD player and use the Digital out and feed it directly into the A/D converter of my pre-amp / process (Acurus ACT-3). The sound quality is extreme.
Same goes for MP3s. If you have a bad encoder or a crappy soundcard it WILL sound a lot worse than a CD.
I had the chance to listen to some of the Super CDs and I must say they sound amazing, the only problem with them is that right now you cannot get a digital out on the players (they are afraid someone is making high grade copies of the CDs) so you have to rely on the internal A/D convert to get the sound out. I doubt that it will take off, most of the people I know do not want to feed the amp with an analog signal if possible.
Just my 2 cents.
Have you ever HEARD a good speakter????
Bose IS crap soundwise, they pumpt tons of bass into the sound in order to "fill the room" and drown out anything else.
The Cubes are pouplar with a lot of people because they are "neat" but there is only so much sound you can squeeze out of a small can. Turn the sub off on your Bose and tell me again how well it sounds.
Don't believe me? Go to a high end store in your area and listen to some speakers that cost the same as the Bose (and if you're "lucky" they sell Bose as well) and compare them. You'll be amazed, unless of course you belong to the group of people who think that all you need is bass.
Nope, isn't active.
It's just that on MP3s I (depending on the music) still hear the compression at 160, 192+ sounds good.
If their compression would offer higher bit rates it might not deter me as much, but right now when I can listen to "The Dark Side of the Moon" with my rip and then compare it to the download it just sounds bad.
I just did some "listening" in the store (I can't buy anyways right now they don't sell up here in Canada) and I compared the sound samples to some of the stuff I have on my iBook right now.
The result? The files sound flatter, not really all that bad but if you can directly compare it it is almost shocking.
So sorry Apple. As much as I like you and my iPod I will not fill it up with your service for the forseeable future unless something really is changing in regards to the quality (Not talking about the DRM right now).
M.
Here is where I see a little problem.
Yes, the UN has not teeth of it's own but there is no other way for her to get them but by using other countries armies. And here is why:
The UN is not a state. It cannot have it's own people and it's own army. If it would try to have it's own army where would it be based? Where would the people in the army come from? This could only work if the UN became some kind of "World Government" and that would also mean that countries like the US would need to give up some of their powers, what are the chances to this?
Furthermore, unlike the US Europe had been devastated by war, and I think this is why Europe rather looks for a Diplomatic solution these days than a war solution. Of course there are always financial interrests at stake as well but I think Europe as a whole (maybe because of the way the European Union is created) is a lot better "Integrated" in the world than the US is.
True, for now. Don't forget for the USA it always seems like there never is any thought about tomorrow, it always seems that the only thing they see is the present. The reality is though that the past 10 years are nothing compared to everything that has already happened to everything that will happen. The UN might have a crisis, but a lot of countries outside the US see the UN still as the way to go. Give it another 10 years and the cards will most likely change. China could (if they would be interrested) easily provide military power, so can Europe if they make a commitment. To write the UN off now because of a lack of teeth besides the US is a bit early in my opinion.
The problem is not the 40% rule. There is a lot off excellent Canadian artists. The problem only is as posted later in the article that they are not "mainstream" enough or that the record labels don't push them enough.
It's about the money.
Of all the countries I have lived in I have never been in a place where music seems to be such an integral part than in Canada (okay, Ontario, to be precise I have lived in Toronto and Waterloo, but I have visited other cities and there it seems to be the same way).
Nope you're wrong, it's (this time) not the content law but simply the law of the almighty (advertising) dollar.
At the large Music chains the latest Linkin Park disc "Meteora(Special Edition)" is approx $26.99 sale price since it was just released (observed this past weekend at Stawberries, Sam Goody, and HMV)
At Best Buy it was $19.99 a bit better...
At Newbury Comics $16.99 a $10 discount! Which by the way is still $3.00 less than the majors are charging for the standard edition of the disc.
Which HMV? I bought it in Toronto and there the Special Edition was 19.99 and that was true for all the stores I went to.
Maybe I am just lucky but the CD prices in Canada don't seem to be too bad. New releases are usually between 12.99 and 16.99 with SE's for 19.99. And lately some artists (Holly McNarland for example) are available for 9.99.
Now down south I realize that the discs are a lot more expensive.
Not anytime soon.
Most people in their daily lives aren't directly affected by it (or not to their knowledge at least).
Most of the places that bump into the DMCA right now are the academics. Why? Because they are a bit ahead of the curve, the idea to undstand things is integral to them. Most people though are just consuming the final product, as such they won't be affected for a while.
Wait a bit longer until the product Johnny wants to buy (or an update to a Software he is using) can't be had anymore because the developer wasn't allowed to incorporate the functionality because of the DMCA.
Of course by then the question is if the masses will still care (I bet not).
M.
Darum war's in Anfuehrungszeichen.
Das Problem ist ja wirklich das die meiste "Kunst" heutzutage ein Produkt ist.
Frueher hat natuelrich auch der Koenig oder was auch immer den Kuenstler bezahlt (z. B. Mozart) aber am ende wurde keiner darin gehindert in der Kneipfe seine eigene Musik aufzufuehren.
Es wundert mich ehrlich gesagt das noch keiner auf die Idee gekommen ist eine Zwangsabgabe auf Musikinstrumente einzufuehren, immerhin spielen die ja alle die selben Noten.
IMO ist das ganze einfach eine Vortsetzung des Gedankens der Industrie.
In den meisten Faellen zahlen Kuenstler ja auch fuer die Produktion ihrer Alben. D.h. wenn deine neue Band ein Album aufnimmt mag die Plattenfirma das zwar zunaechst Finanzieren, die holen sich das Geld aber wieder.
Anstatt jetzt halt zu Warten bis Du mit deinen Urlaubsfotos Geld verdienen moechtests geht man gleich schonmal davon aus und nimmt dich in die Finanzielle Verantwortung fuer dein Potentizial.
Schoene neue Welt.
Die Frage ist doch eher ob das Kopieren einer CD ein Recht oder Privileg ist?
Die Industrie scheint zu denken das es ein Privileg ist, das Individum (sprich Kunde) das es sein Recht ist.
Ich denke beide liegen Falsch, die Entscheidung sollte beim Kuenstler liegen. Immerhin ist es deren "Baby".
Now parent's on the otherhand aren't at all perfect. Thus some children really are oppressed, over-protected, and some even left to fend for themselves. Other times they're wrong and the feelings of oppression are actually guilt or shame for being held accountable.
Having been one who had to fend for himself I would say that this sucks in large parts, but on the other hand it also put me in a situation in which I at least realized what my responsiblities are, and that my actions have consequences.
At the same time though a middle ground would have been better, out of different reasons.
Yes, it is your responsiblity as a partent to be responsible for your kids, you should also know everything that might endager the child, but the over protection that a lot of parents these days seem to have is just scary from my POV. But then I came from the other end of the spectrum and maybe I am over sensitive to this.
It is in the child's best interest to be watched like a hawk watching a mouse.
Oh, careful here Buster.
The problem with this is that if the parents are constantly there and watching without giving the kids some responsibility they will grow up to be big kids.
Or differently. As a parent you should do what's best for your kids and that is to teach them to be responsible for their actions, understand it and not to be the one who gives final responsiblity.
It might be a strange concept to understand for a lot of people, but good parenting (in my amateur opinion) like good managment is about giving people as much independence as possible and provide guidance, not to run their lifes.
Of course the younger they are the more guidance they need but a high school student should be far enough ahead to take at least some responsiblity themselves, to check on them every night just gives the wrong message.
School is one of those dangerous lessons. Without a proper education you can seriously mess up your future. Mess that up through trial and error and you may not get the chance again.
And doing homework and checking on the kid everynight helps how?
If you force the kid to do the homework they will do it, but will they learn something? If they have a close call then they might see the reason for the homework.
Okay, I adsmit it, I never did any homework, when I got called up in class to present mine I just pulled it out of air and made it up on the fly, but still, I think kids will do their homework / assignments more if you can make clear to them why it is a goo idea instead of forcing them to do it.
Trust has to be built up. In this case, if the parents routinely check up on you and your story always is the same as what they get from the school, then the trust will be in your honesty.
That logic is IMO flawed. If you cannot trust your own kid on the onset than that speaks volumes about your own opinion about your parenting skills. Apparantly you don't believe that you did a good job that you can trust your kids. And in reverse the kids will see the constant checking as an expression of your distrust in their abilities. They will not see it as something they have to earn, after all the parents at least should believe in their own kids.
Put a few hours a day into studying if you need to and they will start to trust your study habits.
I have a way better idea. Instead of shoving the whole thing off onto the school why don't you get involved in your kids homework, see what they are doing, help them with their homework and thus show interrest in their lives and what they are doing. Show that you as the parent are actually valuing the idea of school and that even though you are busy you are willing to take the time out to work with them. This will work most likely way better than to hover over them and don't let them use the computer until they are done with their homework.
If the homework is perceived as punishment, at best, they will only do what they have to do to pass. If they consider homework something that is part of their daily routine they will probably do more, and if they like homework (or to study) then they will do more.
It's all about "selling" it and selling it with a stick usually isn't the best way.
Just my 2 cents of course.
Be it consultant or fulltime I usually put my opinon of a solution in writing if I don't agree with it. I also explain why I consider it a bad solution and offer (if possible) an alternative solution.
If the client then decides to go ahead with the original plan regardless of my opinion that is fine with me, in the end it just means I'll most likely come back later to fix things, but because it's "on the record" chances are slim to none that they can put the blame on me.
So it's self preservation with an ethical twist.
M.