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This has already been thoroughly researched:

http://www.laddertheory.com/

Maybe he finally figured out that the part of the ladder theory he occupies means he will never get the nookie.

Actually, what you said has already been summed up in the so called ladder theory.

I read this years ago, and it still holds true today. In fact it has probably held true ever since most marriages are no longer arranged, and will continue to do so for many years.

Ladder Theory

Here is my favorite illustration http://www.laddertheory.com/

I like that article. Reminds me of the Ladder Theory.

Two words: Ladder Theory.

It has already been formulated

I'm not going to pull any punches, & be VERY blunt, especially for the women's sake reading this!

Heck, it's just purely based on my own life experience (22 years of it in the white collar world, & a bit over 15 or so in IS/IT/MIS & I'm nearly 41 now)

So here goes:

So, it's better when you sleep your way to the top (OR rather, TRY to) via say, mgt. OR marketing people?

They are, after all, the ones with the MOST pull & cash in companies typically.

Those guys? Hell, I don't knock 'em - some DO get there after spending time in the trenches, usually MANY years of it @ a particular company!

However, for a more realistic viewpoint? Well, ever see the film "American Psycho"??

Especially how & when the main character got his job, is how a great deal of that type do... e.g. -> the '50 VP's in a company sending emails to one another' ala the quote by the great fictional character, Gordon Gecko, in the film "Wall Street"... & it's NOT b.s.!

It really goes on & especially at the WAY high levels in many a firm. That's right - There's a LARGE % that got their via connections & the fact their Dad is a top stockholder, if not a member of the board of directors! Reality flash... not! Anyone that's spent enough time in corporate america realizes it's not.

(Nepotism laws (b.s. they are usually), notwithstanding. BUT, I do see a GOOD CHUNK of them using their position to (being blunt about it) get laid by women on the job - AND THEY GET PLENTY OF TAKERS!)

So, that "ladder theory":

http://www.laddertheory.com/attractiondeconstruct. htm

Yes, it's true.

Now, before you women stop reading here? Don't give up on me yet here, I don't 'hate' you for it if you try to practice that ladder theory!

I figure you're only trying your best, with what you've apparently got left @ the point you're investing time & your body into it.

I really DO try to think of it from a woman's point of view by all means!

Hey - she's out looking to better her own life, those of her kids!

(That's if she comes already preset with them, BIG blocking point as I am sure the women reading this with kids who try this route nearly always run into - not many men want to raise another guy's kids, it's NOT our nature... & yes, nature plays HUGE parts in this, read on)...

However, sooner or later?

Those looks of yours fade & you have to actually get her act together & learn marketable skills, if you doesn't snag some chump... & yes, any guy that falls for this IS a chump imo.

Take it or leave it.

See, I've personally always thought of women like monkeys in trees (a LOT like this ladder theory) - they don't let go of 1 branch, until they FIRMLY have ahold of another, higher up the tree, & better set up.

It's REALITY/LIFE, not b.s. & politically correct candy coated toppings. I hate that crap personally.

(And, please: Don't even TRY to tell us that women do NOT do that sleep their way to the top, ok?? It WON'T wash! We've ALL seen it plenty of times)

In fact, I've just seen it WAY too many times here myself & in various spots over time... makes me laugh really, especially when they get dumped! It's their OWN faults.

Have I seen women leave guys like that? Sure... & they impress me a hell of a lot more than ones that 'hang on for dear life (and dollars potential)', by all means.

(women that sleep their way to the top? Heh, man... it really makes me tend to personally ascribe to this OLD saying - "the most honest woman you'll EVER meet is a prostitute: At least she's being up-front it's gonna cost ya!"))

So, let's say you're NOT "one of those kinds of girls"!

(of which imo, 90% of you fall into that category, since it still is a "man's world", & you're just out looking for your own best interests & 'selling' the one ticket you've ALL

uh-huh. Never heard of the Ladder Theory, have you? read it here then tell us what you think off all the guys hitting on you!

Every man should read up on Ladder Theory.

This is how the hot chicks end up with jerks.

I would like to call attention to the operative part of your assertion: hot chicks frequently do end up with jerks.

Now that you know this, why not exploit it? Stop wishing for an imaginary world where females suddenly become rational about this.

Nothing revolutionary here, but I would like to cite several illustrations:

• The Deacon Effect
• Ladder Theory

Even better: over time, you can phase out the asshole factor you use to attract the females in the first place. Eventually, one can be their kind, self-depreciating self around the female.

Just not at first.

Think of it as a positive bait-and-switch. Hell, or disagree with me and don't use this approach... it just means more "hot chicks" for me and those like me.

My Bad...

I have to say, I was able to easily make good friends with quite a few nice girls in my dorm by offering my services to hook up their computers and get them working. It's a combination of being dorky and just being a nice person that really impresses people, I think.

You must be familiar with the ladder theory! (http://www.laddertheory.com/)

You need to check out Fast Seduction.

Yeah, it's horrible, flame away, but it works like you wouldn't believe. Good insights into the female mind. I played around with it as an experiment many years ago to help get my people and relationship skills up. It's actually sickening how well it works. 3 second rule is gold in all walks of life. And for gods sakes, get some new clothes and get a haircut and shave. $150 worth of weights and 45 minutes a week will change your appearance forever, and it MATTERS in interviews.

The feynman stuff is as true as EVER. You don't buy a chick anything. You should be trying to get her to buy YOU stuff. Now there's a challenge.

Treating social interaction as a grand experiment is a lot of fun, you might learn something, and maybe get some, too. :)

Along the same and more depressing lines, check out the Ladder Theory of male/female relationships. It's amusing, but has a ring of truth to it.

Good luck!

*ahem* "On her good side"

I know you're new here, so I'll tell you now..

that will *NEVER* get you on her "good side"!! See this for reference. It is a bible. :)

Dude, you need to read Ladder Theory. It would have helped you understand early in the relationship how you would have no chance to ever score with her. It's nothing against you, it's just a matter of how she perceived you, that's all.