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Irish Gov't Seeks To Rein In Cyber Bullying

An anonymous reader points out a story on the Irish Times that says "the Irish government is looking for ways to combat 'cyber-bullying' after data indicated that a significant percentage of young children are subjected to this kind of abuse via their mobile phone and popular social network accounts. The industry has been asked to come up with solutions for this problem and a government office is due to publish a guide on the issue in the near future. Surely this is a problem faced by children in all developed countries these days." Add "for the children" to the list of reasons to track the Web-site habits of mobile web users in Ireland.

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  1. Just plain bullying by bigtomrodney · · Score: 5, Insightful

    As an Irish person I'm glad that something is being done about bullying. I was bullied at school a lot and when not being beaten was subject to horrendous psychological bullying.

    The main point here though is that so-called "Cyber-bullying" is just bullying. Various organisations have been sensationalising this issue by prefixing [i]cyber[/i] and pretending it's a new issue. What about when I was receiving phone calls at all hours? Was that cyber-bullying? It was just called bullying in my day.

    I really think that this whole issue is doing more to harm the reputation of the internet/computers/phones than it is to resolve the larger issue of bullying. All I expect to see from this is a large set of draconian yet ineffective restrictions placed around communication media and this is something that disgusts me for a lot of reasons.

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    1. Re:Just plain bullying by bigtomrodney · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Apologies for replying to myself but my first post doesn't read back the way I intended it to.

      I would like something to be done about bullying as a whole, but I suspect that when implemented under the banner of cyber-bullying it will completely miss the point and will likely be doomed to failure. The emphasis on the 'cyber' aspect tells me it'll be cheap and ineffective technological measure when we could be using this opportunity to tackle bullying in the wider scheme.

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    2. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Insightful

      You want a fix to bullying go after the parents who raise their children to be a bully, and to the parents that don't teach their children how to cope with being bullied. Both are important if you cant learn to stick up for yourself as you are growing up god forbid when it comes time to step into the real deal where people are cut-throat just put a nicer face on it.

    3. Re:Just plain bullying by Chrisje · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I can't agree more. On the risk of sounding jaded/damaged, I have the following comments:

      As someone that got bullied in the Netherlands I can vouch for the fact that the solution shouldn't come from outside. After many years of psychological and physical bullying (I still have a skull fracture scar to show for it), I decided to fight back at the age of 13. I did this in such a way that I immediately got left alone for the rest of my school years.

      Take the biggest bully. Hurt him. A lot. Publicly. Even if you end up on the losing end of the fight at large, it's over. People might think you're a psycho, but it beats being bullied. Turning to a mobile operator to "prevent" bullying is sheer nonsense. The wankers will always find a way. It's not an Irish problem and it's not a problem of technology. It's about me sending my kid to self defense classes as soon as he's old enough.

      I've found that those that excel at violence really don't need to use it.

    4. Re:Just plain bullying by gargletheape · · Score: 1

      As an Irish person I'm glad that something is being done about bullying. I was bullied at school a lot and when not being beaten was subject to horrendous psychological bullying.

      It's Irish Evil, I tell ya! http://www.qwantz.com/archive/000816.html

    5. Re:Just plain bullying by bigtomrodney · · Score: 5, Insightful

      and to the parents that don't teach their children how to cope with being bullied.

      Bollocks . When mob mentality comes into it, you see how well you stand up against 15-20 people. It's starts with the leader of the cool gang, then it's the cool gang and then it's the people siding with the rest of them to keep on the good side.

      It's amazing how one or two bad apples can turn the tables. It is not the Hollywood image of one bigger kid pushing people around - far from it. The big kids, much like bigger dogs, have nothing to prove.

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    6. Re:Just plain bullying by Bearhouse · · Score: 1

      Sadly, you are probably correct. However, this problem has been around for a very long time, so it's not probable that anything new will be found for 'traditional' bullying.

      However, new technologies raise new opportunities, and concerns, and thus require new responses.

      I believe there was a case recently where some poor child committed suicide after being persecuted online. So, yes, I think they should do something specfic about this.

      Having said that, as a parent I recognise that the best thing to do is to keep a close and protective eye on your kids. If technology could help me with that, (a warning SMS / email that your kid is geting lost of IMs or mails with bad keywords), then I'd go for that.

      Can't see that kind of thing getting past privacy concerns, though...

    7. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      "bad words" wtf the fuck crack are you on, i'd want an sms if my kid wasn't learning how to swear properly.

    8. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Watching your child too closely can generate some Catch 22 situations. The most relevent one here would be not only the local bullies marking the kid as a target for bullying, but also others who aren't normally the bullying type deciding to pick on them just because they view you as an overprotective parent.

    9. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Who said its a hollywood style bullying? You learn or you suffer its true for anything in life. Learn to adapt or go extinct etc... If you prepare your children for life they should not be in that situation in the first place and if they do find themselves in it they should have the skills to deal with it.

      There are always going to be people that try to assert themselves by being a bully to someone be it physical or mental.

    10. Re:Just plain bullying by the_womble · · Score: 1

      it'll be cheap and ineffective technological measure

      Its cheap, and effective: effective in convincing the voters (and themselves) that the government is "doing something".

      Also, the Irish government is probably happy to announce anything that will distract attention from the economic problems they will have if Obama cracks down on American companies using transfer pricing to move profits to low tax countries.

    11. Re:Just plain bullying by VoidCrow · · Score: 3, Interesting

      I second that bollocks. However, three or four of our bullies were built like Biffa Bacon, one of them used an air-pistol to bushwhack other kids on the way to the sweet shop, and they were the main culprits in a group of 15-20 people. Kids who showed obvious transgender behaviour were basically permenent toast. Geeks frequently got hassled. None of the big kids who *weren't* bullies got picked on.

      This is a *basic* problem. In adult life, sociopaths end up running countries, religions, and/or large amoral corporations. I'm guessing but willing to bet that a significant percentage of school bullies are sociopaths. Until we can reliably diagnose this and correct the tendency, we will continue to have a problem. Half-assed attempts to monitor and censor the web in a supposed attempt to combat this are just equal epic fail.

    12. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Advice doesn't get any worse than this.

      If your advice gets followed, the "victim" as you see things ends up in juvenile detention, and then in prison, where he'll never get out and will probably be not just bullied, but regularly raped.

      Another writer above had it right: Send kids to self-defense courses as soon as they are old enough. THREE YEARS OLD is the most effective age for kids to start learning self defense. (There are lots of successful Taekwon-Do and Karate courses for kids that age.. and starting at that age makes it inherent and automatic as a response mechanism, and no "bad habits" have to be "unlearned.")

      Once kids HAVE the ability to defend themselves (this actually goes for adults too) they will find they pretty much never have to use it.

      I was bullied horribly as a child, even though I am a "born alpha male." I was targeted by bullies specifically because I was an alpha personality, but I was small.. and without any skills for defense nor offence. I was not able to successfully combat the bullying. I tried. I hit people. I bashed their skulls against walls. I threw furniture at them. I stabbed them with pencils. I did this whether I was being bullied by other students, or by teachers, which happened occasionally.

      If I had done these things in the world of today, rather than the world of 25-35 years ago, I would have ended up in prison instead of being repeatedly suspended from school.

      The bullying stopped for me when I finally matured.. at age 17.. I grew about 9 inches in the space of a year and filled out, and people no longer wanted to run the risk of my retaliation because I had become larger than they were. I suddently towered several inches over the heads of most of the bullies.

      If I had known how to properly combat them by age 5-6, I wouldn't have had 12 years of bullying all through primary and secondary school, and would have grown up a much different person.

      Now if someone tries to bully me, I stand right in their face. I don't have to DO anything other than face them down.. the confidence from having studied Taekwon-Do in my early 30's allows me to stand toe-to-toe with pretty much anyone.

      It boils down to having the confidence that stems from KNOWING that you can defend yourself if necessary.. actually defending yourself is generally not required.

    13. Re:Just plain bullying by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 1

      The best solution for a bully is a month on hospital. Serious. At best, death by cruel manners. We cannot allow a bully to be free on a normal society, he needs to be jauled.

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    14. Re:Just plain bullying by smithsan · · Score: 2, Informative

      Cyber bullying has existed for quite a while, it is only coming to attention recently because the media is picking up on it.Cyber bullying is worse than physical or verbal bullying because it is not done face to face, so bullies don't feel sorry for their victims. --------- smithsan DUI News Blog

    15. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Have you ever heard of "blaming the victim"? It is what you do.

      What advice would you give to someone who was the victim of, for example, a rape? To fight back? Is that nature as well?

      We are people, and we are, or should be above, nature and impulses.

      Posting anonymous because I do not want to undo my moderation of you

    16. Re:Just plain bullying by Shadow_139 · · Score: 1

      It is not the schools, government or ISP responsibility. It is full up to the parents inform and watch over there kids usage of any technology. This includes TV, Internet, Phone, etc. I just hoping the fecking Irish gov to not rush in an US Patriot Act/Nazi style Surveillance laws with out any planning,foresight or research into what can go wrong because of this report and the shooting of Shane Geogregan.

    17. Re:Just plain bullying by theaveng · · Score: 5, Insightful

      The solution is to stop raising a bunch of rude brats. The parents/teachers need to tell teenagers, "You have the body of an adult (reproduction, et cetera), and now it's time to start acting like one. Abuse of your peers will Not be tolerated." The bullying messages and phone calls are just a symptom, and treating the symptom is not going to cure the disease. You need to go directly to the source and teach teens to act with manners & that insulting other people is Not acceptable.

      I too was bullied as a kid, not with internet but with verbal abuse, which led me to keep quiet so nobody noticed me. I never "escaped" that verbal abuse until I found myself in college with an adviser who refused to tolerate such behavior from his students. That's what we need today, but starting at age 13. If we can teach teens about adult behaviors like sex, then surely we can teach them manners too.

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    18. Re:Just plain bullying by theaveng · · Score: 1

      If there are any adult nearby who observe this behavior, then they should step-in and break-up the clique. And lecture them in detention about why they are adults (capable of reproduction, et cetera), and they should be acting like adults, not insulting their peers.

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    19. Re:Just plain bullying by PinkyDead · · Score: 1

      My kids are in school in Ireland as we speak, and as a parent I have come across a number of incidents where bullying was an issue and in every case the problems were dealt with very effectively under the existing guidelines by the school.

      I only point this out, because it appears from your posting that you are suggesting that there is no framework in Ireland for dealing with this and this cyber-bullying measure is the first one - that's not true.

      Now, my kids are in primary school - and I do have concerns about their move to secondary school. However, I believe that the structures that are in place in the primary schools are instilling values that didn't exist before and will probably move with them as they progress forward.

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    20. Re:Just plain bullying by theaveng · · Score: 1

      P.S.

      When my mom was a U.S. high school girl in the 1940s, she had to take classes in Etiquette. I don't know why U.S. schools stop teaching such things, but it's time to start doing it again. It's not enough to just recite numbers and dates. A citizen must also know how to interact with one's peers without degrading them.

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    21. Re:Just plain bullying by jonaskoelker · · Score: 4, Interesting

      if you cant learn to stick up for yourself as you are growing up god forbid when it comes time to step into the real deal where people are cut-throat just put a nicer face on it.

      Let's have a Skinnerian look on this: rewarded behavior is repeated, punished behavior is not. Behavior that elicits no response, either good or bad, is not repeated, but that's learned slower.

      To make bullying stop, you either have to not respond at all, or to punish the bullies. How could you punish them? Beat them up? I've done that a few times, doesn't work; plus, you get punished for it when people tell on you. Call them names? They don't care. Break their stuff? They'll enact their revenge. They're always better armed than you, because there are more of them. When ever you try standing up for yourself, they tread on you some more, and the "justice" system treads on you as well.

      Then you can do nothing. That makes you an easy target, and it means you effectively don't mind them calling you names, punching your lunch out of your hands and onto the floor, breaking your stuff and being violent towards you.

      You're saying that people should either fight an unwinnable war, or let themselves be conquered without offering any resistance. Right?

    22. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You come at it with the fact that you lost already in your head. No wonder none of the things you listed worked for you. The bully might be the root of the problem, but you and others like you are the ones that feed them. Do you really want to teach your children not to stick up for themselves since it wont do any good etc etc?

      Of course growing up you mind people calling you names. Learn to be better at coming back at them or dont get involved. They beat you up either fight back or get a friend thats meaner than them. There are so many different ways to deal with different situations. As an adult you should know that there are some ways better than others. You learn this as you experience the cause and affect of what you and others around you do/experience.

    23. Re:Just plain bullying by redscare2k4 · · Score: 2, Informative

      The best way to fight that kind of mob bulling IMO:

      You pick the weakest of that mob. There's always that kind of guy that becomes a bully just to avoid being the victim instead, but that it's not physically strong. Find him when he's alone and beat the crap out of him. No mercy, no remorse. Beat him to a bloody pulp.

      When the rest of the pack see that you're not a wimp and that if pushed too far you will stand your ground, they'll leave you alone. It's not a pretty advice, to pick on the weak. But the world is not a pretty place neither.

    24. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Take the biggest bully. Hurt him. A lot. Publicly. Even if you end up on the losing end of the fight at large, it's over. People might think you're a psycho, but it beats being bullied.

      This is not pretty advice, but it is good advice.

      When I was in middle school I was bullied up until the second day of 8th grade. I used to get beaten up, etc. after every gym class, after school -- the usual stuff.

      One day, I just thought fuck it. In the locker room after gym, my usual tormenters encircled me. I picked the closest one who was about my size and launched myself at him. I tackled him, and proceeded to beat the living shit out of him. I stopped shortly after drawing blood. Nobody attacked me. The rest of the kids looked at me like I was goddamn freak of nature, and edged away from me for the next couple days -- it was pretty uncomfortable for all involved, but you know what? I never got so much as taunted again.

    25. Re:Just plain bullying by blind+biker · · Score: 1

      I agree with this and all the other posts in this thread you wrote. Sometimes people who were bullied are reluctant to talk about it. You are, I think, corageous to be so open about it - I know I still feel it's hard to talk about this kind of experience.

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    26. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Make it prettier, beat the leader instead.

      Usually there's one standing in front making the trouble supported by a bunch of other fellows behind him. In younger days I learned to kick 'em in the nuts real hard soon and unexpected. No way the other wusses are going to do anything if their stupid nazi leader is laying on the ground crying!

      Yes they thought I was crazy but at least they left me allone.

    27. Re:Just plain bullying by aproposofwhat · · Score: 1

      I agree 100%

      When faced with a gang, you either run like hell, or if you can't, you take out the biggest threat first.

      That's not always the biggest thug - it could be the little clever bastard that directs things.

      Nobody has ever tried to bully me more than once - even in adult life I am quite prepared to stand up to bullying, and make sure I do it in public, where everyone can see what's going on and the bully gets humiliated in front of their peers.

      Cyber-bullying is a different matter - by its very nature it is more private (text harrassment, posts to social networking sites, etc.), so what needs to be looked at is how to bring the bullies to public account.

      Not being a prolific user of that sort of thing, I don't have an answer, but I'm sure there is one.

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    28. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Yes. but something needs to be done. I personally believe that a parent should be responsible and that I should be able to go over and beat the shit out of a parent who's child is bullying without legal repercussions. Of coure that is the 3rd strike. 4th strike I get to beat the shit out of the kid legally and without repercussions. Honestly these kids need to be beaten and beaten a LOT.

      I remember my bully from gradeschool/jr high. I ended when I went nuts and gave him a concussion. he was 3X my size and far stronger but when you have pure anger/rage you can easily overpower some dumb ass weightlifter. I broke his ribs, arm and cracked his skull, and then went after his friends. All of the football team was afraid of me from then on, I never had a bullying problem because even the burn-out potheads knew I was going to rip their heads off ans shit down their neck. This is the only thing kids understand, if I do this I'll get severely beaten.

      Beat your children and fix society. I should have beaten mine far more.

    29. Re:Just plain bullying by aproposofwhat · · Score: 1

      The only way to deal with bullies is to fight back.

      So you might get punished for it?

      Great - take your punishment, but remember that if you've done it right (beat the living crap out of the head bully, for example), nobody is going to want to fuck with you.

      Make sure that people know that there's a cost involved in pushing you around, and they'll back off - be prepared to pay the price in punishment from authority, and it's cheaper in the long run.

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    30. Re:Just plain bullying by Lumpy · · Score: 1

      When mob mentality comes into it, you see how well you stand up against 15-20 people.

      1 handgun will disperse an angry mob of 20 very fast.

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    31. Re:Just plain bullying by redscare2k4 · · Score: 1

      My initial assumption was that you're unable to beat the big bully (or at least harm him enough to make him reconsider his actions). But if you can face him, please be my guest and make him a new face :D

    32. Re:Just plain bullying by HungryHobo · · Score: 2, Insightful

      If someone start senting your child death threats written on postcards there's already a system. Email and texts are no different.New tech doesn't always need new rules.

    33. Re:Just plain bullying by El+Torico · · Score: 1

      Bollocks . When mob mentality comes into it, you see how well you stand up against 15-20 people. It's starts with the leader of the cool gang, then it's the cool gang and then it's the people siding with the rest of them to keep on the good side.

      Sounds like politics.

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    34. Re:Just plain bullying by characterZer0 · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Oh please. Adults act exactly the same way.

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    35. Re:Just plain bullying by HungryHobo · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Disproportionate retaliation works great.
      I remember a few grades below me there was one of those overgrown douche-wads who tended to push round the others because he could. Well one day he went after a weedy little guy who happened to have balls like church bells.
      The ambulance took the dickhead away with a 5 inch strip of skin missing from the side of his face and since the teachers heard the full story all the little guy got was a few detentions.
      Big guy stopped hassling others and nobody ever fucked with the little guy every again.

      We also had a case where a gang of 8 guys attacked some of my friends, I'll give the full story if anyone wants but it ended with a mob or 70 chasing them across the quad. We had plenty of fights at our school but gangs of tough guys attacking individuals simply wasn't tolerated by the students themselves.

      School is basically like prison with less rape and more monotonous labour.

    36. Re:Just plain bullying by HungryHobo · · Score: 1

      Hah!
      Like they feel sorry in person.
      total bullshit.

    37. Re:Just plain bullying by HungryHobo · · Score: 1

      And this will make a difference how? last time I checked assholes tend not to listen.

    38. Re:Just plain bullying by Jaysyn · · Score: 1

      I agree, we should start arming 13 year-olds immediately. Won't someone think of the Children!

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    39. Re:Just plain bullying by umghhh · · Score: 1

      So what you say we should pump them with tranquilizers or what? I can agree that recognizing who is doing it may help but it can only do this much. I suppose there are many things that one can do - supervising the youth is one thing. The other is supporting youngsters in organizing themselves. That comes handy later too when it comes to fighting pricks in high offices. Of course that can deteriorate into gang fight but that is why you should educate people into thinking global about this and to teach them to respect others, ethics etc.

      I guess not all can be prevented anyway but at least we can try this way.

    40. Re:Just plain bullying by Cro+Magnon · · Score: 1

      Hah!
      Like they feel sorry in person.
      total bullshit.

      The guy that bullied me in person was sorry afterwards. I made sure of that.

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    41. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      "The emphasis on the 'cyber' aspect tells me it'll be cheap and ineffective technological measure when we could be using this opportunity to tackle bullying in the wider scheme."

      That seems to imply that there is a way to tackle bullying in the wider scheme, which strikes me as unduly optimistic. Bullying is normal behaviour for juvenile Homo sapiens, and if anyone knows of a society or a period in history where this is not/has not been the case then please feel free to correct me.

    42. Re:Just plain bullying by Inda · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Most people miss the point of "beating them up". Squaring up to someone and punching them on the nose and ending up on the floor grappling is not the answer. Premeditated violence is.

      It has to be back-of-the-head violence, in their sleep violence, weaponised violence, scarring violence.

      Sad, I know.

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    43. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Oh no they are NOT better armed. It just depends if you take -or not- a violent, in the adult sense of violent, approach to the bullying. From the mob, I picked one, and used enough vicious and unusual force to make the whole bunch think twice about beating up the crazy one. Read : after being put on the ground and kicked a few times, I latched my teeth to a part of his ankle and tore up a bit of it. Of course they came back. I just did the same thing, except a bit more hardcore (fingers up the nose and *pull*, nice sound), plus I stalked one and beat him over the head. Well, more like all over his face. With a big schoolbook, for added enraged-nerd-turned-loose image.

      Of course I add some quite serious problem in my school after that. Of course doing quite a lot of sports outside schools helped me do that (judo is great for learning to endure, but it strangely seemed unethical to use armlocks or other stuff in school). Yet, they did not came back.

    44. Re:Just plain bullying by halcyon1234 · · Score: 1

      Various organisations have been sensationalising this issue by prefixing cyber and pretending it's a new issue.

      Here-here. It always makes me shudder on how ineptly this "new type" of bullying is handled. Rather that trying to prevent it, I say it should be allowed to happen, and then handled using conventional, existing laws

      If you put all your effort into preventing "cyber" bullying, you're missing out on the greatest gift those bullies can give you: Immutable, public and permanent evidence of their wrong doing.

      In Toronto and the surrounding regions, there were a few incidents of idiots bullying some poor kid, then posting video footage of themselves on YouTube doing so. They were, obviously, caught and punished. Unrelated to the act, they had posted the video while at school. The reaction of the school board? Put in highly inefficient filtering software that prevents anyone from accessing 'dangerous websites' like YouTube, because they might use them to cyber bully while at school.

      The effect was threefold:

      1. It made the teachers' lives hell, because so many of the websites they use were blocked (such as YouTube's plethora of educational videos, the WHMIS (Workplace Hazardous Materials Information System, ie "here's the government mandated documentation on how not to hurt yourself while using Very Dangerous Things in everyday life", and others)
      2. It didn't make a lick of difference to the students, since they all just fired up a proxy or two
      3. Most damaging in my opinion: it works to prevent stupid criminals from self-incriminating themselves!

      You see, I'm of the opinion that if someone wants to cyberbully by posting video of themselves doing it on YouTube, then they should be allowed to. Because then it makes it infinitely more easier to use that evidence to punish them. I'm willing to be a disproportional number of us here on /. were bullied as kids. And I'm also sure that at one point or another parents/authorities were involved. And I'm willing to bet that more than once you were told by the parent "My little Neilson's an angel and would never do that!" or by the principal "It's just your word against his and I can't do anything. Besides I really don't believe you".

      Now imagine how different those meetings would be if you could plunk down concrete evidence of the bullying, kindly provided by the bully himself. I believe a "O RLY?" would be in order.

      So while cyberbullying is wrong, anything that can be constituted as "cyber"bullying is already covered by one or my laws. Preventing the cyber-part of it only removes a valuable weapon to wield in defense. So please think of the children and let the bullies back onto YouTube!

    45. Re:Just plain bullying by mdwh2 · · Score: 1

      I believe there was a case recently where some poor child committed suicide after being persecuted online. So, yes, I think they should do something specfic about this.

      Whilst an adult impersonating a child in order to trick them is certainly unethical, it's a huge leap to suggest that this caused someone to commit suicide. Consider, supposing the events had been for real: there really was a boy who then dumped her (IIRC what she pretended was something like that) - would it make sense to say that the boy dumping her caused her to kill herself?

    46. Re:Just plain bullying by secretcurse · · Score: 1

      http://www.theonion.com/content/node/29036
      The Onion ran a story about a kid who took matters into his own hands...

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    47. Re:Just plain bullying by Doc+Ruby · · Score: 1

      My wife is Irish, we visit for several weeks every year. I can see the widespread practice of bullying among Irish children - feeding aggression among adults, who also bully children, perpetuating the cycle.

      If Irish people could break the cycle by stopping adults from bullying children (and each other), the "cyberbullying" would disappear, too.

      Online expressions are just a reflection of the in-person character of the people. Rehab the characters, and the reflections will follow suit. Treat only the symptom of the disease, its online (and other media) expressions, and you push the disease into other modes of expression that will cause even more, unexpected damage.

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    48. Re:Just plain bullying by WK2 · · Score: 1

      Traditional bullies never felt sorry for their victims either. But cyber-bullying certainly lowers the bar for the lack of self-esteem required.

      What really makes cyber-bullying worse than regular bullying, is that the victim can't identify their attackers.

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    49. Re:Just plain bullying by easyTree · · Score: 0, Troll

      This is a *basic* problem. In adult life, sociopaths end up running countries, religions, and/or large amoral corporations.

      Soo true. You only need to overhear a 'private' conversation between two company directors to see how utterly lacking they are in the type of wisdom needed by someone in such a position of power.

    50. Re:Just plain bullying by TehZorroness · · Score: 1

      School is basically like prison with less rape...

      Less, but not zero... hehe.

    51. Re:Just plain bullying by Toll_Free · · Score: 1

      The whole you are glad something is being done scares me.

      When I was a kid, I got bullied, too. To the point of being put in the hospital, twice.

      I didn't learn about the legal system, I learned about a fucking 2X4 piece of wood.

      After that, no more bullying problems.

      The problem with kids, and this solution, is it breeds pussies. For lack of better terms.

      We have kids KILLING THEMSELVES today because someone talked "smack" about them. Honestly, are you THAT F U C K I N G mentally weak, that someone who says your a piece of shit actually causes you to KILL yourself?

      Seriously, folks. The problem here isn't the bullies, the bullying, or anything else. It's the problem of people insisting that their children not do anything, insisting that their children just "run to law enforcement" for EVERYTHING. It's a total ration of shit, enforcing in your children that it's up to EVERYONE else to solve their problems.

      People, you need to grow up, and stop with all this "bullying" crap. We've brought up an entire generation of people incapable of serious thought, people that think it's up to the entire WORLD to PROTECT them, no matter what, and a generation of people with a general sense of entitlement.

      Yeah, this is a good thing, sheesh!

      Cybe Bullying. What a crock of fucking political shit. Grow up, grow a pair, and take care of your personal (that's the key word here) problems for yourself. The self respect YOU get, and the general respect the rest of society gives you will go MILES farther than any law will.

      Not to mention, hitting a kid upside the head with a 2X4 that has kicked your ass a couple times really gets the message across. I NEVER had a problem again, for 5 more years of school. Yes, violence sucks, but for some, it's all they understand.

      --Toll_Free

    52. Re:Just plain bullying by Toll_Free · · Score: 2, Interesting

      You can't teach manners. Manners are something you learn by watching others you respect.

      Bullys typically have respect for no one, they are taught out of fear. Teaching one out of fear means they won't learn by typical methods, because they are always being scared of something.

      Typically, a bully has a father that's an asshole. Typically. Or no father at all, and a mother who is a whore. Either way, a simple 2X4 upside the bully's head will work wonders. It DID for me in 7th grade.

      --Toll_Free

    53. Re:Just plain bullying by Toll_Free · · Score: 1

      I'm sorry, would you like to come back to earth, where the rest of us live?

      Bullies feel bad. The only bully I knew that felt bad was the one I hit upside his head as hard as I could with a piece of wood.

      Also got me out of being fucked with by people with IQ's smaller than their dick size.

      Grow a pair, grow up, and learn to deal with your problems, instead of thinking it's everyone elses problems to deal with.

      That's what got the world into the mess it's in now, nobody takes responsibility for themselves or their actions. Hence we have a bunch of idiots running around in larger proportion than before.

      Cyber bullying. Find out where they live, and go fuck them up. GOOD. Then there is no more problem. Relying on Mommy and Daddy to protect you doesn't work anymore, because Mommy and Daddy are trying VERY hard to keep the Hummer and the Escalade, the three quarter million dollar home and send Johnny to college. All making 14 dollars an hour.

      --Toll_Free

    54. Re:Just plain bullying by mea37 · · Score: 1

      "I believe there was a case recently where some poor child committed suicide after being persecuted online. So, yes, I think they should do something specfic about this."

      Two thigns:

      First, people have committed suicide after being bullied since before there was an Internet. Such cases illustrate serious problems, but those problems are not technology-related. The "cyber" prefix really is just media technophobia at work.

      Second, there's more than one problem in play when bullying leads to suicide. The obvious problem is that the bully thought such activities were somehow acceptable. This is even more troubling in the case you cite, for the fact that several key bullying acts were committed by an alleged adult.

      As inexcusable as that is, bullying does not explain a suicide all by itself. Nothing happens in a vacuum. What must have been the circumstances in this girl's life, that she was vulnerable to this attack? What were the other emotional pressures? Was there a lack of support in her life that led her to pin the entire value of her life to this faked relationship? Was there a lack of guidance that allowed her to get this close to someone before knowing enough to verify his existance?

      Comfortable as it is to find one event and one person to blame for a tragedy, suicide isn't that simple.

    55. Re:Just plain bullying by bgackle · · Score: 1

      Trench coats. Firearms. Lots of media coverage. Tragic, perhaps, but if it happened more the net change might be for the better.

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    56. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I think a better solution would be to put on a mask, then grab one of them in private and throw a sack-party. Potato-bag their head from behind and pull it closed, beat the shit out of them(use a tool if you can't hit very hard). After they're softened up, take some photos while they're bloody and groggy and spread the pictures out anonymously through internet/e-mail/phones, whatever. Counter-cyberbullying.

      This way you don't have to get into a risky face-to-face confrontation when already outnumbered by a mob.

    57. Re:Just plain bullying by Hubbell · · Score: 1

      The opening of Ender's Game is a better way, and it worked for me in HS around middle of junior year when I finally got sick of the 'just ignore them' bullshit I had been taught over and over. If a group of kids started talking shit or one pushed me, I went face to face with the biggest one or the one who I knew was the 'leader,' the one with the most respect of the others, and shoved him into a locker or just shoved him. Told him, either shut the fuck up and start walking, or do something, cause if he didn't take option one I would put him down. Even though I was smaller than any of them, the mere thought of having to actually fight or get legitimately physical ended the confrontations. After doing that about a half dozen times, noone fucked with me again.

    58. Re:Just plain bullying by Belial6 · · Score: 1

      While I don't totally disagree with you, the problem with the "Teach them to fight" solution is that the bullies not only tend to get the same kind of training, but the ones who's parents encourage their bullying tend to get a lot more of the training.

    59. Re:Just plain bullying by easyTree · · Score: 1

      You need to go directly to the source..

      Indeed. I'm guessing that in many cases the parents are at fault in some way (they themselves are assholes / going through divorce / etc).

    60. Re:Just plain bullying by Robocoastie · · Score: 1

      Good point bigtomrodney. It reminds me of the all the panic over online credit card use. I used to respond to people like this: "hmm so you trust the unshaven overweight fella in the gas station who could have a camera snapping pics of your card as he swipes it over an online JCPenny.com computer that has no feelings or motives?" Every time the response I got was that they never considered that and then thought differently. I don't mean to sound like I'm playing "blame the victim" here, what I am trying to do is point out the responsibility of self defense. I honestly wonder (which means I'm looking to hear some answers from people here) why kids let the 'net and their peers be so important to them in the first place. The only answer I can think of that can be proven is they are too lazy. Remember the phrase "Idleness is the devil's business"? That seems to come into play here. A school athlete or even music and drama student doesn't have the time for this kind of thing to bother them or be bullied by anyone in the first place. Contrary to hollywood likes to show serious bullies are not found in athletic programs because bullies tend to have lousy grades which gets them booted from athletics in the first place. Oh some of them act like jerks once in a while but that's a far cry different than a bully. If any of them did act that way you have a recourse through the coach and the practice field. In essence bullies are losers so the best way to avoid a bully is not be a loser as well. Be involved in activities wether it be school affiliated ones, a martial arts or dance school, or volunteer at the local nursing home. Being active and non-idle reduces the time and chances to be bullied! Why is this not emphasized more? Instead the emphasis we see is on enforcement against bullies which is as useless as the overall fight against drugs. Oh sure the sting operation leading to a pushers arrest one day might maybe prolong one users life for one day but the overall effect is miniscule. But the programs to keep people from becoming users in the first place has proven to have large long term effects yet it gets the less emphasis and funding. See the correlation? Your thoughts? Rob

    61. Re:Just plain bullying by stupkid · · Score: 1

      I agree with you BigTom. I got bullied and my parents enrolled me into Jujitsu classes. Shortly there after I began putting kids that wanted to get violent into pressure holds, etc. Then my parents started getting phone calls from other parents about how I was beating up on their child. I can only imagine how things would have been in these times.

      While I think that everyone can benefit from martial arts training. The opinion of "Just deal with bullying or beat them up!" is no real solution. The ideal would be for parents to not allow their children to bully others and to correct them when they see that kind of behavior starting. A solution that I don't see legislation helping.

    62. Re:Just plain bullying by jswigart · · Score: 1

      This advice is just plain stupid. I'm all for standing up for yourself, but the way you are painting it is that you really have to fuck the guy up, which may well be deserved, but it's still very poor advice. What punishment are they likely to get for such an attack? Thrown out of school that's what. Congrats your advice has got him expelled. So jump the bully in an alley and do it you might say? That's fantastically lame advice too. Not only is it extremely risky, but the intended message you are attempting to send the other bullies is likely to be lost.

      Bullies more often tread on the edge of what authority figures will enforce. Psychological abuse, knocking shit out of your hands, getting in your face. Often they rarely actually beat the kids up, just harass them constantly in ways that many teachers just won't do much about beyond telling them to knock it off if caught. Retaliating with an attack with the intent to jack them up is going to put your kid firmly in a much more clear bracket of trouble than what the bully is in.

    63. Re:Just plain bullying by Hal_Porter · · Score: 1

      You could chemically castrate them. Oh, wahh, civil liberties and so on. But face it, it would work. Actually it sort of makes you wonder what would happen if we had drugs to regulate testosterone. My guess is you could do a sort of chemical castration lite on kids that bully and reverse it later.

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    64. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Full story please!

    65. Re:Just plain bullying by geekoid · · Score: 1

      Sure, if you want to live with violence determining who you are.

      People tried to bully my, but I always used my mind and wit to get the better of them and avoid harm.

      More people should be trained to use there mind and wit, and less people should resort to violence. And added benefit is that it will do you a lot more good in the real world.

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    66. Re:Just plain bullying by geekoid · · Score: 1

      "The solution is to stop raising a bunch of rude brats. "

      haha.

      Bullying begins WAY before the teen age years. It stems from establishing dominance i.e. it is human nature.

      Your solution needs to be implemented from birth, enforced by the education system.

      Of course, you don't believe in the education system so I may be shouting in the wind.

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    67. Re:Just plain bullying by easyTree · · Score: 1

      Wow. I'm amazed at level level of specialization amongst trolls these days. Someone who specifically trolls jocks. Back in my day, trolls were multi-skilled.

    68. Re:Just plain bullying by geekoid · · Score: 2, Interesting

      "rewarded behavior is repeated, punished behavior is not"

      Haha, oh how 1950.
      You can't really just say that with out following up on what punishment and reward is.
      There are people that go into prison many times because that is the reward, to them.

      There is another option:
      Intelligent resistance. Use your head, use social skills, learn to understand what the real goal is, and when you have won.
      There are ways to destroy someone utterly.
      Give some false information to the college they hope to get into, plant some weed in their locker and tip off the principle, all kind of things you can do to destroy them. Just be smart about it.

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    69. Re:Just plain bullying by easyTree · · Score: 1

      lol, jocktroll replies to himself. so lame..

    70. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You can just give free lessons in wrist-cutting.

      An HERO FOR YOU ALLL

    71. Re:Just plain bullying by coolsnowmen · · Score: 1

      Not of they also all have handguns, then you have just upped the ante.

      Ever read the Butter Battle Book (Seuss)?

    72. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Someone who specifically trolls jocks.

      JockTroll is a jock who trolls. He does not troll jocks.

      And no, JockTroll was not responding to his own post. I was responding to his post, and I am not JockTroll. He doesn't need to respond to his own posts, because they stand alone, and if someone doesn't agree, well, fuck them.

    73. Re:Just plain bullying by OrangeTide · · Score: 1

      When mob mentality comes into it, you see how well you stand up against 15-20 people.

      Agreed. What is even more difficult is the way girls bully each other. It's not something a girl can really stand up to. It tends to be psychological. And on those rare occasions that it turns physical, most young girls are not used to getting beaten up or having to deal with violence, they are way out of their element and it only makes the trauma worse.

      I'm not saying boys have it easy. But I think we need to recognize that in our western culture, boys and girls form groups differently and behave differently and even bully differently.

      (when I was a kid if someone was bullying and their parents found out they'd get their ass paddled)

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      “Common sense is not so common.” — Voltaire
    74. Re:Just plain bullying by Captain+Sarcastic · · Score: 1

      ... A solution that I don't see legislation helping.

      This is probably the most cogent explanation of the problem.

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    75. Re:Just plain bullying by PachmanP · · Score: 1

      When my mom was a U.S. high school girl in the 1940s, she had to take classes in Etiquette. I don't know why U.S. schools stop teaching such things, but it's time to start doing it again. It's not enough to just recite numbers and dates. A citizen must also know how to interact with one's peers without degrading them.

      --
      The government is not your daddy...

      Quite interesting. (I'd call it ironic but I'm not quite sure it is appropriate and I don't want the irony nazis coming after me)

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    76. Re:Just plain bullying by PitaBred · · Score: 1

      Just don't do that shit indiscriminately, and make sure there's a good reason for it. That's the only line between a sociopath(bully) and someone protecting themselves ;)

    77. Re:Just plain bullying by PitaBred · · Score: 1

      I'm sorry, suicide is a personal choice. If your family and friends don't help or notice anything is wrong, there are many more things fucked up with you than a bully on the Internet. There's no need for a special law because some girl killed herself because her family didn't give her the ability to cope with douchebags, or were too wrapped up in themselves to notice something was wrong with her. It's a sad event, but there's nothing illegal about it. EVERY online site has a way to block people you don't want to hear from... if she didn't use that, that's her fault.

    78. Re:Just plain bullying by Atrox666 · · Score: 1

      Bullying is only half the problem.
      It's the people that defend bullies that are just as bad and seen as "reasonable" or "civilized".
      Look at all the Zero tolerance policies in schools that treat a person exercising their inherent right to defend themselves like some kind of criminal.
      As far as I'm concerned if someone puts your well being at risk then they've forfeit their own.
      The fact is that the government doesn't want to encourage people to stand up for themselves against bullies because they know they'd be swinging from a rope pretty fast if real justice got a foothold.

      A lot of it comes down to animalistic instinct. Alpha males in our society are still highly rewarded with more women and money rather than being quarantined like the disease they are. Until we cure this tendancy in our culture we'll never rise above being stupid naked apes.

    79. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Dittos. Took on the 'leader' of 3 that hassled me one day. It was totally unprovoked - on that particular day - as his two buddies weren't with him and he was leaving me alone. This was before the age of reason - about 7, 8 tops. I think my brain just said, 'now or never'. It worked as those three people never bothered me again.

    80. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      When I got bullied in high school, one day I snapped and pinned the leader against the classroom wall. The one thing that I'll remember from that moment is the absolute look of fear in his eyes as he'd just realized that the ones who usually supported him were backing away from us and the very quiet guy had somehow managed to punch most of the air out of his body. I promised him then and there that if he so much as looked at me in the wrong way from that moment on, I would repay him for everything when he was alone.

      While in general I don't take pride in violence and in my entire life have only resorted to it twice, looking back at that moment it had to be done. Bullies are not invincible, and while not usually easily intimidated when they are singled out they realize how vulnerable they are.

      The most striking thing of all perhaps was the silence after I let him go. No retaliation, no name-calling, nothing... Everybody took their seats, and an eerie unnatural calm swept through that classroom, which is something you don't expect from a bunch of overactive 15 year olds.

      It's needless to say that a lot of people avoided me after that, but that bothered me much less than bullying. But nobody ever bothered me again for the rest of my high school career.

      Yes, bullies can be awful. I've been there, and I tried a lot of things before resorting to violence, including all of what you mention : calling them names, breaking their stuff, getting outside help (teacher, parents) and eventually trying to ignore it (which only makes it worse). In the end, the only thing that made it stop was punching the fucker who riled them on in the diaphragm, pushing, shoving, punching him through 3 meters of classroom as he tried regaining his breath, pinning him against the wall and threatening him like a goddamn psychopath.

      I believe I enjoyed it too much back then, even when I didn't know if was going to last, and in retrospect while I'm not proud of it it was the right choice.

    81. Re:Just plain bullying by rho · · Score: 1

      The solution is to stop raising a bunch of rude brats. The parents/teachers need to tell teenagers, "You have the body of an adult (reproduction, et cetera), and now it's time to start acting like one. Abuse of your peers will Not be tolerated."

      Why not coordinate your hodgepodge coterie of goths, KAWAIIS! and nerds over SMS to beat the shit out of the bullies one at a time? It seems both a direct and effective evolutionary response to unsocial behavior.

      IMO we don't read nearly enough sensational AP stories about jocks fagslapped to their death.

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    82. Re:Just plain bullying by rho · · Score: 1

      Having been an adult for a while now, I can safely say that, no, adults don't act that way.

      I suspect either A) you hang around shitty adults, or B) there's something wrong with you.

      This "bullying" meme is really catching on to Slashdot nerds. Why is that?

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    83. Re:Just plain bullying by rho · · Score: 1

      This explains why terrorism is not only tolerated but encouraged but many cultures around the world.

      Congratulations, champ!

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      Potato chips are a by-yourself food.
    84. Re:Just plain bullying by Chrisje · · Score: 1

      I don't agree. Look at the development and history. Two of my bullies were misfits. One came from a family with a father who had loose hands if you catch my drift. And an alcohol problem. They also had a dog that tried to fuck anything in site, including humans. I don't know if that's relevant though. :-D His sister, whom I know well and liked a lot, committed suicide at the age of 17 because of the family situation. The other was a real mean kid who came from a broken and troubled home, but with strong religious undertones. So you have major problems *and* repression in unholy matrimony.

      These kids proceeded to never go anywhere in their life either. The mean kid still lives in my home town (I still hope to run into him one day as he's the asshole who gave me the skull fracture) and he's never gone anywhere or done anything in particular. My point is this: They never got "more training". Or any training for that matter. They had negligent parents and a bad situation at home and that's why they were total asshats at school. Because they could and because they were pissed off or, more likely, sad about things.

      To cut a long story short: I pity the fools. And I am angry at their parents. Now this is just my experience, but at the end of the day it wouldn't surprise me if this story was common. Because I believe a bully is normally a dog who got beaten too much and now bites.

    85. Re:Just plain bullying by characterZer0 · · Score: 1

      Not exactly the same way. Adults learn to be subtle, to ensure plausible deniability, to employ double-talk, and to cover their asses.

      Kids call it bullying. Adults call it politics.

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    86. Re:Just plain bullying by Walter+Carver · · Score: 1

      Tell me the story, I wanna read it. Like a lot of people here, I was bullied at the school.

    87. Re:Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      If anything, adults are only WORSE -- they've had so much more time to practise and hone their skills.

  2. The problem with cyber-bullying in Ireland is... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Irish kids are taught NOTHING about manners, and manners are what lead to common-decency.

    The writer says, "Surely this is a problem faced by children in all developed countries these days." I would think that it's actually worse here because people seem to become more and more rude in real-life with every passing second.. and the (falsely) perceived anonymity of "hiding behind" a social networking engine or a mobile phone tends to exacerbate the issue.
    Another part of the problem is that most Irish kids are shuttled to and from school in big feckin' SUV's [which should be banned in this country anyway..especially UK-made Range Rovers], and rarely actually socialise with other kids outside of school. This lack of socialisation isolates kids from seeing the pain inflicted by their actions. If they don't see the pain caused, then they have no empathy for the "victim." Here as in the U.S. children are almost completely isolated from adults in the name of "keeping them safe from perverts" and never learn any social skills from adults either.

    In true American style, the Irish, instead of addressing the problems being generated by people, want to enact idiotic, ineffectual regulations and monitor the tools these people use. This approach will not work.

    Why are the people in charge always so fucking stupid and clueless?

  3. Well.. by Shivinski · · Score: 0

    ..I personally think they should bring bullies back...might help get all us geeks out the house...
    *hides in basement*

  4. Re:The problem with cyber-bullying in Ireland is.. by codeButcher · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Why are the people in charge always so fucking stupid and clueless?

    Perhaps because the people who put them in charge (being a democracy and all that) are even more stupid and clueless? After all, half of the population have below-average IQs.

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  5. Marketing Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Funny

    Various organisations have been sensationalising this issue by prefixing cyber and pretending it's a new issue.

    Paradigm shift. Next maybe comes eBullying, iBullying, meta-bullying, cloud-bullying,,,,,? Kind of like patenting thousands of years old business practices done on a computer.

    1. Re:Marketing Just plain bullying by moteyalpha · · Score: 1

      Well I think that the government should be the one stop shop for bullying as it makes sense and it allows everybody to be treated as criminals. It would lead to a consistent quality control of abuse and interference. Is bombing and laying waste to entire countries considered geo-bullying.

    2. Re:Marketing Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Various organisations have been sensationalising this issue by prefixing cyber and pretending it's a new issue.

      So, does this mean all the cyber-sex I've done is, in fact, real sex? Can I tell my friends?

    3. Re:Marketing Just plain bullying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      If that's true then I suspect most of us lost our virginity to a Playboy playmate model around the age of 7.

    4. Re:Marketing Just plain bullying by easyTree · · Score: 1

      Do as they say, not as they do (or else) [tm]

  6. Re:The problem with cyber-bullying in Ireland is.. by rolfwind · · Score: 1

    Half the people have under median IQs you mean.

    Not average. For an extreme example, 9 people have 96, 97, 98, 99, 100, 101, 102, 103, 104 IQ respectively and #10 has 150. The average IQ in that room would be 105, and 9 out of 10 would have below average IQ.

  7. This is a realworld issue, no need for the cyber by rolfwind · · Score: 1, Redundant

    tag. This isn't like paedophiles preying on targets, using the internet as the means of finding their victims in hopes of targeting them in real life.

    This is the opposite. The bully already knows his victims, and uses the internet just as another avenue to further that bullying.

    I don't know a definite answer, but attaching cyber to it seems nothing but a way to get people's fears up to pass stupid laws.

  8. TattleText(TM) by EdIII · · Score: 3, Funny

    Well since filtering and heuristic analysis is probably impossible, I suggest TattleText(TM). The poor child can simply forward the offending text to a central authority. The central authority can then call the bully's mom.

    Problem Solved.

    1. Re:TattleText(TM) by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The poor child can simply forward the offending text to a central authority. The central authority can then call the bully's mom.

      Problem Solved.

      Unless of course it's a case of the mother being more sadistic than her child, as in the case of the Myspace Suicide Mom.

  9. ok im irish by ionix5891 · · Score: 0

    but i dont like this turn of events

    i dont like the idea of "nanny" government spying on citizens

    they cant play the terrorist card like they do US because they would get laughed at (we have terrorists here who don't hide in caves and behave like the mafia)

    so they turn around and play "will someone think of the children" card

    now i understand that bullying is a big issue in schools, but the parents of the offenders should be punished not all mobile phone users

  10. I used to be bullied by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Funny

    It stopped when I was legally able to drive. Nothing concentrates the mind of someone who beat you up in the playground as much as seeing you accelerate towards them and swerve away at the last second later in the day.

    1. Re:I used to be bullied by Kelbear · · Score: 1

      It's like prison, tell your kid on their first day of school, "Go in there, find the biggest kid in the cafeteria and kick his ass through his teeth." /sarcasm.

    2. Re:I used to be bullied by witherstaff · · Score: 1

      Oh hey, you watched this past season of Weeds too?

  11. You keep using this word.... by PinkyDead · · Score: 1

    The GP would be correct if the population was evenly distributed. This is not likely in a population of 10, but is probable in a population of 5,000,000.

    (This obviously doesn't apply in Cork, where they're all thick.)

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    1. Re:You keep using this word.... by naglep · · Score: 1

      Back to the pale with you, Jackeen!! Not all Cork people are thick, like.

    2. Re:You keep using this word.... by PinkyDead · · Score: 1

      Sorry, I didn't understand a word of that.

      Maybe you could take the potato out of your mouth!

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  12. Re:This is a realworld issue, no need for the cybe by Chrisq · · Score: 1

    This is true, any law that can be bypassed by using the mail instead of email is pretty stupid.

  13. Re:The problem with cyber-bullying in Ireland is.. by Dr_Barnowl · · Score: 3, Informative

    Yes, that would be true for that particular sample, but the IQ of a population is defined in terms of the distribution of intelligence - and 100 is defined as the median intelligence. Since intelligence follows a normal distribution, median coincides with mean (average), and half the people have below average IQ.

    Your sample represents a skewed distribution, but if we take your numbers to be the score an arbitrary intelligence test used to rate IQ, the median score is 123. So to have a 100 IQ, you'd have to score 123, placing the lower 9 in your group firmly under the wire.

  14. Learn a lesson from America by MikeRT · · Score: 5, Insightful

    The main reason we have a lot of bullying is that we have policies that don't allow students to ever confront bullies and use force to defend themselves when attacked. If a student punches a bully in the face for trying to do some sort of nasty physical bullying, like locking them in a locker, they can get suspended/expelled and arrested.

    Let the victims of bullies stand up for themselves. It used to work in this country. When my dad was bullied at an early age back in the 1950s, he and the bully got into a fight and the bully got beaten up. The principle not only didn't care about the harm done to the bully, but hauled him into his office and called his parents to let him know that he had gotten beaten up by a kid who he had severely bullied. Back then the courts would have laughed any lawsuit over that out of court and would have probably awarded legal fees to my grandmother if she had to hire a lawyer to defend my dad.

    The solution to bullying isn't "education," it's letting them get subjected to the consequences of their actions. I would consider it poetic justice if in a modern incident like what happened to my dad, the kid not only beat up the bully, but posted the video to Youtube for the whole world to mock the shit out of the bully.

    Don't give me that "oh they're hurting on the inside" argument for treating them like a wounded animal, instead of a predator. Most people choose to not become like those who hurt them. Those that do choose that path shouldn't be shown any particular mercy by society or the legal system when their victims put them harshly in their place.

    1. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The main reason we have a lot of bullying is that we have policies that don't allow students to ever confront bullies and use force to defend themselves when attacked. If a student punches a bully in the face for trying to do some sort of nasty physical bullying, like locking them in a locker, they can get suspended/expelled and arrested.

      Well in Ireland, you just have to make sure your child is under 14, then your child can beat the crap of the bully with no worries as the Gardai won't touch them

    2. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Andr+T. · · Score: 1

      When my dad was bullied at an early age back in the 1950s, he and the bully got into a fight and the bully got beaten up.

      I agree with most of what you said, but you have to face the fact that many (if not most) of the children that are bullied are wannabe nerds with low or no athletic advantage over the bullys. There are many cases where the school has to take some kind of measure because the kid can't stand up for himself.

      This makes me think of all those comedies where the nerds beat the *blip* out of the bullys in the end. But, infortunately, this doesn't always happen in real life.

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      Any life is made up of a single moment, the moment in which a man finds out, once and for all, who he is.

    3. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Andr+T. · · Score: 1

      Sorry, misspelled unfortunately.

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      Any life is made up of a single moment, the moment in which a man finds out, once and for all, who he is.

    4. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Kokuyo · · Score: 3, Interesting

      I agree. I was bullied a lot during school and it stopped when I actually threw the guy on the teachers desk. Sure, during the next break I got some but the fact that I didn't run away actually did the rest. Never had a problem again.

      Bullying is just to easy. The consequences are minor and the work involved is negligible. Since you can't do anything about the work it takes, change something about the consequences.

      What I never understood was that often teachers took the side of the bully. I always assumed that probably the parents of those kids weren't much better and the teachers were just afraid.

      I, for one, will teach my kids that when someone tries to bully them they have to retaliate decisively, brutally and make sure everyone knows that crossing them means physical damage.

      School is like the world during the cold war. You need to demonstrate your power just enough so you never have to actually use it.

    5. Re:Learn a lesson from America by westlake · · Score: 1
      The main reason we have a lot of bullying is that we have policies that don't allow students to ever confront bullies and use force to defend themselves when attacked. If a student punches a bully in the face for trying to do some sort of nasty physical bullying, like locking them in a locker, they can get suspended/expelled and arrested.
      .

      Real-world examples seem in order here.

      Because in searching Google they are mighty hard to find.

      The arrest of the victim, one suspects, is most likely to happen when he responds with a gun and not with his fists. When he strikes back later - and lethally.

      To encourage this cycle of action and reaction is in no healthy or productive of a solution.

    6. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Interesting

      Wow, what a terribly bad idea.

      Most kids get bullied because they're weaker than the bully else the bully wouldn't usually have the balls to bully them in the first place.

      Your plan sounds like a sure fire way to get weaker kids starting a fight they can't win and getting even more seriously beat up or in the absolute minority cases where the bully is weaker than the person he's bullying claiming that it's him that's the victim and the real victim getting in trouble for it.

      This absolutely wouldn't work unless the person dealing the punishment was someone in a position where they clearly could give the bully a response they deserve like a teacher. Even then this does nothing to ensure the teacher is giving the right kids their punishment and opens the door for adults that just like beating kids for the sake of it to get away with it. Whilst bullying wasn't an issue I can think of numerous occasions where at school I got blamed for someone else pratting about or view versa because the teacher didn't really realise what was going on.

      Bullies are all to often popular kids too so it's not like you can even rely on consensus amongst students.

      Of course, when the kids really do snap because of bullies, i.e. Columbine and Virginia tech. they're suddenly referred to as phsycopaths too. Whilst I don't suggest the victims of these tragedies deserved to die I do think perhaps one of the better ways of dealing with bullies is not to call these kids crazy phsycopaths but to call them what they were- normal kids that'd just been pushed that step too far. Calling them psycopaths means other kids will think "Oh they were just a bunch of fringe nutcases, that'll never happen here", call them what they were and kids might think "Hmm, I really don't wanna bully this kid to the point where he comes in and guns me and all my friends down".

      It's a problem that's larger than just school though, I recall a recent BBC article that suggesed 1 in 4 people in the UK have been victim to workplace bullying, and I'm not convinced that bringing kids up to deck their boss is necessarily the best idea here either. In my experience bullies get their just desserts in the end either way, a kid that bullied me in school (albeit mildly, nothing I ever gave much of a damn about but enough for me to hate him) is now in prison for robbery. An old boss who refused me leave once or twice when he was in a mood and told me "You're never getting a promotion or any training whilst you're under me" just because he was a dick is stuck in the same old job where he's been turned down for promotions that have been handed to outsiders 3 times now whilst I've moved on elsewhere and am getting paid more but still see him regularly enough to be able to rub that fact in his face.

      Finally, some people are lifes natural victims, I think we could do as well to teach these people a bit about bucking up their attitude, appearance or whatever to get themselves out of this rut than deal with the people bullying them because people like this will only go on to be bullied by the next if you deal with the current.

    7. Re:Learn a lesson from America by houghi · · Score: 1

      I once beat up a bully and the school decided to call the police. Nobody ever bullied me again, so I would say it was worth it. I would do it again.

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      Don't fight for your country, if your country does not fight for you.
    8. Re:Learn a lesson from America by redscare2k4 · · Score: 2, Interesting

      If you're too weak to even harm the big bully, pick one of the weakest bullies (those that are always around the big bad guy) and beat him. Hard. Bloody. The rest will take the hint that even if they can beat you, it's going to cost them a broken lip at the very least. Then they'll leave you alone.

    9. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Interesting

      Your Father was apparently bullied *ONCE* and stood up to the bully. That's not what this is about.

      This is about the kids who do not have it within their power to fend off bullies, and end up being systematically abused for years, or even their entire lifetime.

      Your Dad's solution was correct:.confront the bully, preferably in a very public way, and force them to feel what it's like to be humiliated, or at least make them fear that they will face retaliation instead of complacency if they target you.

      For most who are bullied, fighting back is not possible because they have never been given the tools necessary to do so. Those tools are knowledge: Knowlege of self-defence, knowledge of "what do to" when you receive a bullying text message.. which again is simply standing up for yourself, right in the bully's face.

      Your suggestion that the bullied beat up the bully and "post the video to YouTube".. uhm.. DUH.. that is BECOMING the bully. That doesn't solve the problem.. it makes the bully angry, and makes him want revenge, potentially escalating the violence rather than ending it.

      Putting a bully in some kind of painful wristlock in front of a crowd, and warning him that you won't hold back next time, is all you need to do. The level of violence cannot exceed that of defence. It's when that occurs, that the bullied becomes the bully.

      The saddest thing of all in relation to bullying, is that almost all of the most serious bullies, at least where I grew up in the U.S., become police officers so that they can bully people as much as they want, and hide behind a badge to do it.

    10. Re:Learn a lesson from America by TheJasper · · Score: 1

      Thank you very much! I was bullied in school and believe me I spent quite some time visiting with the principal, vice principal...I regret nothing of the violence I used to teach bullies to leave me alone. Except a few cases where I overreacted but kids will be kids.
      I actually had a brilliant principal when I was in elementary school. She never approved of fighting but she treated it as an issue with two sides and made sure to know both sides. Pity more people don't use that approach.

    11. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      ...or you'll just get an even more serious kicking from them all and possibly end up in hospital.

      Great idea.

    12. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Cro+Magnon · · Score: 1

      Most of the bullies I faced in school were bigger than I was, but that didn't mean I couldn't hurt them. Bullies go for the easy targets. If you prove you're not an easy target, he won't mess with you, even if he COULD beat you.

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      Slow down, cowboy! It has been 4 hours since you last posted. You must wait another few hours.
    13. Re:Learn a lesson from America by HungryHobo · · Score: 1

      You assume you have to win. If you break a bullies nose every single time he gives you shit then how long is it going to keep up even if you get hurt worse?
      The fucking "curl up into a ball" shit only makes things worse.

      Worst of all is school policies where you aren't allowed hit back even when attacked. all you may do if you want to avoid suspension is wrap your arms around your head and hope the kicking stops soon.

    14. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Jaysyn · · Score: 1

      "I, for one, will teach my kids that when someone tries to bully them they have to retaliate decisively, brutally and make sure everyone knows that crossing them means physical damage."

      It's fucking retarded, but this will get you *arrested* at my old high school.

      That's right, fight = both participants get arrested. If some kid jumps you in the hall & you proceed to defend yourself in any fashion that is considered a fight. Society, this is what your retarded "zero-tolerance" law have wrought, you stupid fucks.

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      There is a war going on for your mind.
    15. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Jaysyn · · Score: 1

      If you are a participant in a fight at the high school I graduated from, you will be arrested & your parents will pick you up from jail later that day. Assault charges will be filed. It doesn't matter who started it or for what reason.

      I've seen people I know put in the back of a squad car after being jumped walking to class & not running away.

      It's a public high school in Florida in case you are wondering.

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      There is a war going on for your mind.
    16. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Andr+T. · · Score: 1
      I have a friend who had a 'Magic the Gathering' store. He told me that once there was a boy in his store that was being harassed by other two boys, smaller than him.

      The bigger boy then came to my friend and said: 'Can you help me? They'll beat my ass as soon as I leave your store'. My friend laughed and said: 'You're bigger, go there and beat up the shit out of them.'.

      The boy looked at my friend's face, almost crying, and said: 'Yeah, but... I'm a pathetic loser and they'll beat me even if I'm bigger.'.

      I guess guys like this should be protected. Or we could just leave them to be beaten because they deserve it.

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      Any life is made up of a single moment, the moment in which a man finds out, once and for all, who he is.

    17. Re:Learn a lesson from America by HungryHobo · · Score: 1

      read the comment below yours.

    18. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Andr+T. · · Score: 1

      School is like the world during the cold war.

      In Soviet Russia, the cold war is like school.

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      Any life is made up of a single moment, the moment in which a man finds out, once and for all, who he is.

    19. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Andr+T. · · Score: 1

      Except a few cases where I overreacted but kids will be kids.

      Kids will be kids? I lost an eye!!!!

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      Any life is made up of a single moment, the moment in which a man finds out, once and for all, who he is.

    20. Re:Learn a lesson from America by TheJasper · · Score: 1

      Well, that is obviously going to far however even that can happen accidentally. Hell, I actually almost killed myself at least once. You could lose an eye in friendly play. Saying you lost an eye doesn't say how bad the bullying was. I'm not saying you're situation wasn't awful, but two kids playing with sticks as swords can poke an eye out.

      Kids will fight that is a fact. It can't be stopped. I'm not saying not to pull them apart, I'm saying it;s less serious than 2 adult fighting

      I was never a bully, but if you are bullied and react physically, especially if that is your only recourse, then you will make a mistake. That is kids being kids. If a bully deliberately pokes your eye out then its juvenile hall time (except that that will probably make him even more of a criminal but that's another discussion).

      I fought plenty as a kid. Against bullies mostly. I haven't fought at all since high school. I grew up. Does me having fought make me a bad person? If so you can write of 90% of the male population. not ver realistic. It's the people taking childish habits into the adult world that are a danger.

    21. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Andr+T. · · Score: 1

      I was just trying to be funny. FAIL. Of course.

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      Any life is made up of a single moment, the moment in which a man finds out, once and for all, who he is.

    22. Re:Learn a lesson from America by residieu · · Score: 1

      Was that why I never go bullied in school, because I was an actual nerd not just a wannabe?

    23. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Toll_Free · · Score: 1

      My school had that policy.

      When I hit the bully in the head with a 2x4 piece of wood, they wanted to haul me in for a friggin military tribunal it seemed.

      At that point, my mother brought in my 2 instances of being put in the hospital and copies of the NUMEROUS letters she had sent to the principal and school board.

      That pretty much closed it up. They decided it wouldn't be worth it to go to court and be shown for the incompetent fucks the school admins and board actually where.

      You want to stop being bullied, stand up for yourself. Don't want to stand up for yourself, get used to it, because life and human beings are cruel.

      Waaah, Mommy, Johnny called me a luser on myspace.

      --Toll_Free

    24. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Toll_Free · · Score: 1

      They tried that way with me, after hitting someone in the head with a piece of wood.

      My mother brought in the letters she had written to the school and the board. That pretty much closed that problem. The incompetents that buried their head in the sand decided it was easier to deal with a bully firsthand, than have some lunatic mother bully them around.

      Incidentally, I was never bullied again. News of the attack on my went from school to school within the district, and when we moved, it was known I wasn't particularly muscular or large, but you fucked with me, you would end up in the hospital. Period.

      Life is that way. Iron man, the statement is made "is it better to be respected, or feared..? I say, why not both"... Simple sentence, simple statement, and SO much truth in it.

      Give a bully what he gives back, and you get left alone. Period. It's a time proven fact, and no amount of psychological bullshit can hide or paint over that fact.

      --Toll_Free

    25. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Toll_Free · · Score: 1

      Man, this post should be modded +10 He Gets It.

      Seriously. Putting the video of beating a kid up on utube is over the top. It not only makes you a bully, but sets you up legally as you are now premeditated.

      All you have to do is kick the living fuck out of one of the bullies once. Even if you get the crap beat outta you, you will gain the RESPECT of those bullying you (respect and fear have a fine line. Typically, those that bully others don't understand or want to recognize that fact). Once you have respect, others leave you alone.

      Simple fact, and one that carries over to LOTS in life later on.

      It's amazing, what a little self respect can do.

    26. Re:Learn a lesson from America by TheJasper · · Score: 1

      Well...I am also doing battle with databases so perhaps my head is just a little to literal at the moment ;)

    27. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Oh, I agree with you 100% but this isn't the school pressing charges, this is the school's resource officer arresting you after the fact. The school doesn't have the option on whether or not this arrest occurs. You will be charged with assault at the very least & in front of a judge before anyone decides whether you should actually be there or not.

      Just another example of the evolving police state in the USA.

    28. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Jaysyn · · Score: 1

      That shouldn't have been posted Anon, must have mis-tabbed while posting.

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      There is a war going on for your mind.
    29. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Andr+T. · · Score: 1

      You only get to be a real nerd after you understand why String Theory is lame. I was not aware of that in High School.

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      Any life is made up of a single moment, the moment in which a man finds out, once and for all, who he is.

    30. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Just+Some+Guy · · Score: 1

      I, for one, will teach my kids that when someone tries to bully them they have to retaliate decisively, brutally and make sure everyone knows that crossing them means physical damage.

      Yep. I taught my son how to make a proper fist, and how to swing with his whole body. I also taught him to aim for the nose. If he hits it'll hurt like crazy. If he misses, he'll catch an eye or mouth and it'll hurt like crazy. Finally, I taught him that he will never get in trouble with me for defending himself or his siblings.

      This came up exactly one time, and he took my advice. His teacher told me what happened and I explained that he was following my instructions. She nodded and said that the bully had been a problem kid and she was surprised it took this long.

      --
      Dewey, what part of this looks like authorities should be involved?
    31. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Belial6 · · Score: 1

      What I never understood was that often teachers took the side of the bully. I always assumed that probably the parents of those kids weren't much better and the teachers were just afraid.

      That is a big part of the problem that usually gets ignored. It is common for teachers to side with the bully. This comes from all sorts of reasons.

      • Sometimes the the teachers think that it's good for the student to learn how to deal with bullies themselves.
      • Sometimes it is that the teachers don't like 'nerds' for whatever reason.
      • Sometimes the teachers were bullies when they were kids.
      • Sometimes the teachers were picked on by bullies as kids and now enjoy seeing someone else get it.
      • Sometimes the teacher is just a sick bastard that likes to see people getting hurt
      • Sometimes the teacher believes in a cast system, and thus believes it is the natural order of things for the bully to pick on the weak
      • Sometimes the teacher is just lazy and doesn't feel protecting the weak is worth the effort
      • Sometimes the teacher is afraid of what the bully will do to them if they get involved.
      • Sometimes the teacher sees the bully as an authority figure, and thus becomes a follower

      People throw around the title of "Teacher" or "Principal" and forget that we are talking about people. That is all they are. So, the same kinds of attitudes you see from people who are not teachers will also be reflected in the portion of the population whose jobs have them working in schools. If you have ever heard someone (and I know you have) that kids should learn to deal with bullies themselves, you can be guaranteed that there are teachers who believe the same thing. The same goes for whatever else you hear people saying.

      People forgetting that teachers are not some special kind of person, and that they are just regular people just makes the problem worse, because it makes them think the school is some kind of fairy tail land.

    32. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Belial6 · · Score: 1

      Putting a bully in some kind of painful wristlock in front of a crowd, and warning him that you won't hold back next time, is all you need to do. The level of violence cannot exceed that of defence. It's when that occurs, that the bullied becomes the bully.

      This is terrible advice, and just helps to promote MORE bullying. It is no different than telling someone "Hey, if your ever in a gun fight, you shouldn't shoot the guy. It's only OK to shoot the gun out of his hand."

      Only using violence that does not exceed that of defense requires super human skills at fighting. If a bully knows that his options are to win or tie, and that he has no chance of being seriously hurt, you not only encourage the traditional bullies, but you also start inviting other kids that wouldn't normally take the risk, but see this as a golden opportunity to look tough without the risk of injury.

    33. Re:Learn a lesson from America by PitaBred · · Score: 1

      What I found was that I actually stood up for some of my classmates that were being bullied. I was kinda in the middle ground, wasn't bullied much after middle school, and I thought it was just the right thing to do.

      Teach your kid right from wrong... even if he's not bullied, he may help other people. The only way to get it to stop is if people stop standing for this shit happening, and speak out against the bully even if they aren't the target.

    34. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Philip+Shaw · · Score: 1

      A swift kick in the gonads is going to be more painful for the target, and even the weediest little runt is able to do it, especially if the target is not expecting it.

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      "A fanatic is one who can't change his mind and won't change the subject."- Winston Churchill
    35. Re:Learn a lesson from America by Philip+Shaw · · Score: 1

      In most jurisdictions, retaliating within a certain limited time is considered /prima facie/ to be self -defence (in my own, it is 30s IIRC). They can still get you on a public order charge, but that is less severe.

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      "A fanatic is one who can't change his mind and won't change the subject."- Winston Churchill
  15. "Industry"? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    The industry has been asked to come up with solutions for this problem

    "Industry"? Holy Ted Stevens Batman. There's a big clue that the Irish government doesn't know what it's doing - they think modern telecommunications is something corporate and centralized like the Water Board or Television. The worst part is they might get some outfit keen for contracts & power-grab to sell them some snake-oil, rather than tell them what idiots they are as iiNet of Australia has done.
    http://yro.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/11/11/1329222

  16. Beat the bullies up. by tjstork · · Score: 0

    There's nothing that helps a victim and a bully than the bully getting the shit kicked out of him. Bullies pick on people because they enjoy it, and until you make that enjoyment sting, they will keep right on doing it. I don't care how big the bully is, and how small you are, there is always a stick or something that you can use to level the odds.

    Sometimes, a pretzel can do the trick!

    I remember this one kid used to pick on me and always take my lunch or lunch money, and I got fed up with it. So I stuffed a pretzel full of x-acto blades and offered that up. I got into a mountain of trouble and heard that sorry song and dance about how we should accept bullies and be like ghandi and the bully was pissed...

    but the bully never took my lunch money money again.

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    This is my sig.
  17. with an iron fist by teazen · · Score: 5, Funny

    Ah... my shoddy mastery of the English language made me read the headline as 'Irish government seeks to reign in cyber bullying', which to me seems to be a much more attainable goal.

    1. Re:with an iron fist by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Cool.. as the originator of the post, I can confirm for you that the subject title was supplied by our beloved slashdot moderator. But, heck! the message still gets thru.

    2. Re:with an iron fist by genner · · Score: 1

      Ah... my shoddy mastery of the English language made me read the headline as 'Irish government seeks to reign in cyber bullying', which to me seems to be a much more attainable goal.

      No it's not. My govermnet holds that postion with an iron fist. USA! USA!

  18. Here is the issue by rfc1394 · · Score: 3, Insightful

    If the same behavior - one kid bullying another or saying unkind things - was occurring in a non-electronic medium, we usually would consider it the sort of thing where it's a matter for the kids to settle among themselves, or at most, by the kid's parent talking to the bully or the parent, which then usually stopped it. But now, we're going to add the ISP, school authorities, police and courts into the mix and create a tempest in a teapot.

    The most someone can do electronically is say things; they can't strike you, or hurt you, or do anything to you unless you accept their comments about you as valid. Kids have had nasty cliques against other kids for dozens of centuries. We need to allow kids to learn to toughen up a bit, if we coddle them too much, they won't get through the real world, and when something comes along that mummy and daddy can't protect them against, they're going to be in a lot worse trouble.

    You want to do something against physical threats, fine. You want to do something against extortion ("give me your lunch money or else"), that's something that should be taken care of. But if you're going to treat mere communication of meanness or cruelty as more serious than mere taunts in the absence of an actual threat of violence, then what you're effectively doing is treating words the same as actions. A dangerous path that ends up usually producing stupid overreactions, as a number of incidents here on Slashdot have been reported, where some kid is given an assignment to write a story or some report, but does so in an edgy or unconventional way, is considered a criminal or terrorist and is treated that way for doing nothing more than doing his classwork as he was asked to do it.

    I remember one I did. We were asked to give a report in class on how to do something. Well, having read once how too many people cut their wrists the wrong way, I decided to be edgy and unconventional, and write a report on the correct way of how to commit suicide by slitting your wrists. When I stood up to read it, the kids in the class thought it was great, and the teacher even pointed out I drew in examples of how to correctly position the wrist so you cut the vein properly. (Most people bend the wrist inward; that's wrong, you should bend the wrist so it is pushed outward.) And that's all that happened (other than I think I got an A for being thorough). The teacher understood it was simply a student doing a report he knew would be different in order to have fun in class, not some "cry for help" of a depressed kid who was planning to kill himself.

    Today, if some kid had done the same thing, I suspect that instead of taking it as the joke it was, he probably would have been called to the principal's office and maybe gotten detention for it, or possibly have to go see a shrink before being allowed to go back to school.

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    1. Re:Here is the issue by $RANDOMLUSER · · Score: 1

      If the same behavior - one kid bullying another or saying unkind things - was occurring in a non-electronic medium, we usually would consider it the sort of thing where it's a matter for the kids to settle among themselves, or at most, by the kid's parent talking to the bully or the parent, which then usually stopped it. But now, we're going to add the ISP, school authorities, police and courts into the mix and create a tempest in a teapot.

      Brilliant. That's exactly the problem. Well said.
      Leaving it alone is the best thing for it.


      And it's "Down, not Across" (the official motto/catchphrase of alt.sysadmin.recovery).

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      No folly is more costly than the folly of intolerant idealism. - Winston Churchill
    2. Re:Here is the issue by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      by the kid's parent talking to the bully or the parent, which then usually stopped it.

      What planet did you grow up on? You obviously don't know jack shit about bullies.
      Telling mommy & daddy, or a teacher, or the police for that matter, just escalates the bullying to a higher level and makes is much worse.. it does not "usually stop it."

  19. How long by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    It began with the banning of "hate speech".

    Cyber bullying is the next of many small steps toward outlawing political criticism by citizens.

    1. Re:How long by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      It began with the banning of "hate speech". Cyber bullying is the next of many small steps toward outlawing political criticism by citizens.

      Why do you say that? Are you a queer commie atheist or just a yard-monkey who knows no better?

  20. Re:The problem with cyber-bullying in Ireland is.. by KenMcM · · Score: 1

    "Average" can be used to refer to either the mean or the median. More often than not, however, it us used to mean "the mean". If you want to be more specific, you can use "median" or "mean" rather than "average". Seems the GP decided not to.

  21. I think the previous one is backward by rfc1394 · · Score: 2, Interesting

    Most people bend the wrist inward; that's wrong, you should bend the wrist so it is pushed outward.

    It's been so long since I've done the report, that I think I wrote it backward in the example above, most people bend their wrist forward which pushes the vein inside and makes the suicide attempt less likely to be effective, you're supposed to bend your hand so the hand leans down so the wrist is bent inward, allowing better access to the veins to be cut.

    I mean, I wouldn't want someone trying to commit suicide to use the original example wrong, have it fail to work and then sue me for giving them bad advice! :)

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  22. Re:The problem with cyber-bullying in Ireland is.. by codeButcher · · Score: 1

    Thank you.

    Not that I'm normally mean or anything, but what's the use of a subtly insulting joke if those it insults, don't understand what the terms that one employs mean? That's as good a reason as any to use the more generally understood and colloquial term.

    And then there are some that thought that post was all about statistics.... >:->

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  23. Are there no harassment laws existing? by rfc1394 · · Score: 2, Interesting

    The article mentioned how someone bullying someone else by causing their phone to ring "all hours of the day and night."

    We have laws in the U.S., at least, that make it illegal to harass someone without a legitimate purpose of communication, by either excessively calling them or otherwise disturbing them for the purpose of making them upset. If they have this, then the victim of someone being called at all hours already has legal protections to stop this sort of thing if it's occurring, and no new laws are needed. If they don't, then perhaps this is what should have been done.

    In fact, I like the way they're written here. If you call me, and use foul language to insult me, I can have you arrested for harassing me. On the other hand, if you call me, and irritate me so badly that I curse you out and insult you with the most degrading and harshest profanity I can think of, you can't do anything to me. Which makes sense: I didn't call you, you called me; if you disturb me, then you have to put up with my response to you. If you hadn't called me and bugged me, you would never have gotten the insult in the first place.

    These are just attempts to grease the skids for more draconian restrictions on the Internet, using the boiling frog analogy. You can't drop a frog in boiling water, he'll jump out, but gradually increase the temperature and he'll sit there and allow himself to be boiled to death, or so the analogy goes. Make a huge grab for people's rights and they will squawk; nibble away in little pieces and they'll never notice until they're all gone, and by then it's too late, unless the "canary in the coal mine" starts screaming Chicken Little style at the beginning and refuses to allow even the first bite. (Talk about mixed metaphors!)

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    1. Re:Are there no harassment laws existing? by TheJasper · · Score: 2, Interesting

      Real world laws shouldn't be brought into the playground. At that point you are beyond simple childrens fights and in the adult realm. I'm not saying it isn't ever necessary but it's an extreme measure.
      There are real world rules and playground rules. On the playground you should be able to get into fights, even bad fights, without immediately being a criminal. Children have to learn. Bring lawyers into it and you give more power to the bullies because they are the ones who will be actively trying to use and abuse those laws.

  24. Re:The problem with cyber-bullying in Ireland is.. by VoidCrow · · Score: 1

    > manners are what lead to common-decency.

    Untrue. Manners can be a way to express common decency, but there's nothing to stop a bright and manipulative asshole using them.

    > t's actually worse here because people seem to become more and more rude in real-life with every passing second.. and the (falsely) perceived anonymity of "hiding behind" a social networking engine or a mobile phone tends to exacerbate the issue.

    Also untrue. Vicious discussion on a social networking engine can wise you up to the rampant trollage and desensitise you to the things people say. It's possible to develop an immune system. It's different for different people.

    > This lack of socialisation isolates kids from seeing the pain inflicted by their actions. If they don't see the pain caused, then they have no empathy for the "victim."

    If they have no empathy, do they care about the pain, even when they perceive it? And what about sadism? Cats are sadistic - it's part of a cat's nature. Can't it also be part of human nature? After all, there's plenty of evidence to suggest that it might be. I think you harbour an implicit assumption that people have a better nature. I'd say *some* people, maybe most, have a better nature. And then again, every so often, you encounter a werewolf.

  25. Learn a lesson from Germany by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I you read the German law correctly I think technically you are allowed to punch the bully. Few people understand that, but to defend against a current attack on your honor, you are covered by self defense.

  26. How to stop cyber bullying. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Its really easy actually.

    Step 1. Walk away from the computer.

    Problem solved.

    I enjoy "trolling" or whatever you want to call it on IRC. And all the people that get "trolled" desrve it. Why, because they sit there and argue back nonsensical bullshit. If you really have a problem with someone online its really simple to solve it. Close the window and ignore the person.

    1. Re:How to stop cyber bullying. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You are an idiot hurrhurrhurr.

      Really, you need a life if you enjoy trolling. Just like slashdot nerds need lives instead of commenting about others trolling.

  27. Ironic you've posted anonymously by fantomas · · Score: 2, Interesting

    It's ironic the person who says bullying doesn't exist and you should learn to deal with it hasn't got the courage to post with even a slashdot identity, but as anonymous coward.

    Suggests they are too scared to stand by their posting, are frightened of being bullied?

    1. Re:Ironic you've posted anonymously by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Whats it matter on a forum what your handle is? I know I set a /. account up ages ago but for the life of me I dont remember nor care about remembering what it is. I can post just fine w/o it and it doesnt make something said any less valid. Whats funny is I never said bullying does not exist and you yourself have proved that point quite well with your attempt and being a big bad bully by trying to put someone down because they dont login.

  28. Re:The problem with cyber-bullying in Ireland is.. by ObsessiveMathsFreak · · Score: 1

    Irish kids are taught NOTHING about manners, and manners are what lead to common-decency.

    Here! Who the fuck do you think you are spouting that kind of shite! I was raised to sit up straight, and be polite, and peel me spuds before aeatin' 'em. I'm as polite and well mannered a Irishman as ever you'd meet. So feck off with yourself!

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  29. The great enabler by jandersen · · Score: 2, Interesting

    Bullying is bullying, whether it happens by means of computers or not, and it is never a pretty sight. The thing about computers and the internet is that they enable people to have a far longer reach and a greater impact; and it doesn't just enable "the good guys", unfortunately. So when they talk about cyberbullying, it isn't just some lame excuse for imposing new censorship, there is actually a very real problem. In the days before the internet, bullying in the school at least stopped when you got home; but now it is on your telephone and on the internet, and with the use of simple scripts you can make it go on non-stop without any effort at all.

    And the other thing about doing things on the internet is that it is more anonymous - it is so much easier to be cruel to a person you don't have to watch, unless, of course, you get a kick out of seeing others in pain, and it is a lot easier to avoid getting caught. At least right up to the point where some kid chooses to end their life, which is a problem on the increase.

    I don't think the schools or service providers can do anything about the problem on their own. It is something that requires the whole of the community to work together against it; and that is yet another thing the internet has has an influence on: there isn't a lot of community feeling left. On the up-side, however, the internet could potentially be used to mobilize the community against this kind of thing.

    People keep droning on about the nanny state and how everything would be better if the government just stayed out of everything; but how would that be better, when nobody in the community are willing to get off their soft arses and solve the problems? We get a nanny state because we, with our inaction and unwillingness to take part in a community, ask for it. I think it is verging on the contemptible to whine and complain about state interference when people don't even try to do it better themselves.

    1. Re:The great enabler by HungryHobo · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Bullying is bullying, whether it happens by means of computers or not, and it is never a pretty sight. The thing about computers and the internet is that they enable people to have a far longer reach and a greater impact;

      Greater impact?
      Your ability to ignore jackasses is much greater on the internet.
      On chat? put em on your ignore list.
      Emailing you? block list.
      Saying things about you on a message board? same as if they're saying something about you in the newspaper.

       

      it isn't just some lame excuse for imposing new censorship,

      yes it is

      there is actually a very real problem. In the days before the internet, bullying in the school at least stopped when you got home;

      HAH!
      they could call you, they could mail you letters, they could hang around outside your house, they could mess with you in any number of ways.

      but now it is on your telephone and on the internet, and with the use of simple scripts you can make it go on non-stop without any effort at all.

      When was the last time you came across a bully who could code and used it to bully people?
      Be realistic.
      standard harassment laws apply.

      And the other thing about doing things on the internet is that it is more anonymous - it is so much easier to be cruel to a person you don't have to watch,unless, of course, you get a kick out of seeing others in pain, and it is a lot easier to avoid getting caught.

      Thing is the kick is in seeing them in pain. It's only easier to avoid getting caught if you actually try to be anon which most bullies don't do.
      I could mail you death threats every morning and be very hard to trace. Existing laws already cover this.

      At least right up to the point where some kid chooses to end their life, which is a problem on the increase.

      Boo fucking hoo.
      Kids kill themselves already when they get treated like crap in real life. this is no different and harrasment laws already apply.

      I don't think the schools or service providers can do anything about the problem on their own. It is something that requires the whole of the community to work together against it; and that is yet another thing the internet has has an influence on: there isn't a lot of community feeling left.

      Hah!
      Read back some of the slashdot comments from after columbine when the weirdos around the world got treated even worse than before, I saw more talk of how people various communities online became the only thing they had. The internet is all about communities of various types. It was built by the weirdos and nerds as the sort of place to suit them.

      On the up-side, however, the internet could potentially be used to mobilize the community against this kind of thing.

      true

      People keep droning on about the nanny state and how everything would be better if the government just stayed out of everything; but how would that be better, when nobody in the community are willing to get off their soft arses and solve the problems? We get a nanny state because we, with our inaction and unwillingness to take part in a community, ask for it. I think it is verging on the contemptible to whine and complain about state interference when people don't even try to do it better themselves.

      then go down to your local school and patrol around stopping the smaller kids being beaten up! it can start with you!

    2. Re:The great enabler by HungryHobo · · Score: 1

      *" of how people relied on various communities " not "of how people various communities "

    3. Re:The great enabler by jandersen · · Score: 1

      I am not going to go into every little thing you write and refute them; you don't seem to be the kind of person that would try to consider things calmly and rationally.

      When was the last time you came across a bully who could code and used it to bully people?

      I don't know - can you code? Seriously, though, bullying isn't just reserved for those who are weak of mind; and anyway, writing a few lines in a scripting language isn't exactly rocket science. All it takes to be a bully is that you derive satisfaction from doing it; it could be as simple as having found out that being rude and making sure to hurt other people makes you feel "assertive". It is probably only a small minority that are psychopaths, to whom it is "fun" to cause pain.

      Boo fucking hoo.
      Kids kill themselves already when they get treated like crap in real life. this is no different and harrasment laws already apply.

      So sympathetic.

      then go down to your local school and patrol around stopping the smaller kids being beaten up! it can start with you!

      Oh, but I do. Or did, when I had children of school age. But one person can only do so much; and anyway, playing vigilante is not exactly something that works. It is important that people in the community work together - they have to see this as a problem that they could and should do something about. The attitude that you put on display is a very big part of why this is a problem at all; you don't care, presumably because you think that you don't need the support of people around you. That's where you are wrong, however; you just haven't realized.

      All in all, you seem extremely defensive, it's almost as if you are afraid I might be right. Otherwise I think you would have noticed that I don't actually say that I think we should introduce yet another piece of special legislation; the law can't stop bullying, but the authorities could do a lot to enable initiatives on a grassroot level, which would be able to turn this trend around.

    4. Re:The great enabler by HungryHobo · · Score: 1

      I am not going to go into every little thing you write and refute them;

      You should try it.
      I find it to be a good way of judging an argument, if I can take every single point from a post and refute it easily then that whole person's argument is a piece of crap.
      If on the other hand I can't refute them and can only pick 2 or 3 minor side points then it forces me to really look at their points and consider them.
      give it a shot! it's fun!

      you don't seem to be the kind of person that would try to consider things calmly and rationally.

      wow, I can see you know everything about me already, I'm quite capable of being calm and rational it just saves time to point and shout "bullshit" when people are talking bullshit. If I talk too slowly and too calmly people get bored listening.

      I don't know - can you code?

      Certainly. And that puts me in a tiny percentage of the population who not only has the capacity to but has also spent the time and effort so there's going to be more of the "quite nerdy" guys rather than the jocks in that group.

      Seriously, though, bullying isn't just reserved for those who are weak of mind;

      certainly but it is more common. people strong of mind normally find other hobbies or get elected where they can bully entire countries.

      and anyway, writing a few lines in a scripting language isn't exactly rocket science.

      it's not but there's an old story.
      A man calls an maintenance man because his dryer is broken. So he arrives, takes one look at it, pulls out a hammer and gives it an almighty whack. The dryer starts working perfectly.
      The maintenance man hands over a bill for 100 dollars for "repairs".
      The customer objects since "all you did was hit it with a hammer"
      The maintenance man nods, takes back the bill, writes for a second and hands it back reading
      "hitting it with a hammer- $10"
      "knowing where to hit it- $90"

      it's perfectly true to say that writing an annoying script is easy but you have to know a lot more before you know what to do to do it easily.

      All it takes to be a bully is that you derive satisfaction from doing it; it could be as simple as having found out that being rude and making sure to hurt other people makes you feel "assertive". It is probably only a small minority that are psychopaths, to whom it is "fun" to cause pain.

      So trolls are bullies now?
      Or people who don't roll over and agree with you right away?
      or people who don't pretend you're right to make you feel better?

      So sympathetic.

      I've worked on my apathy for years. It's the only defence when people start pouring out the "won't someone please think of the children" crap and the little sob stories to push whatever crazy argument they have on the basis that they're used to people they're talking to face to face getting embarrassed talking to them at that point.

      The attitude that you put on display is a very big part of why this is a problem at all;

      subtle how you imply I cause kids to kill themselves.

      you don't care, presumably because you think that you don't need the support of people around you. That's where you are wrong, however; you just haven't realized.

      nah, I have plenty of support and it's been much use. I just know that no problems in my life like that have ever been fixed by the touchy feely be-nice-to-everyone crowd which you sound like. Standing up for myself rather than relying on various authority figures always turned out to be the much much better choice.

      All in all, you seem extremely defensive, it's almost as if you are afraid I might be right.

      Haven't hit a point of yours which has been hard to refute yet so I'm not too worried. Or is this the game where if I say "nah, you're talking crap

  30. Re:The problem with cyber-bullying in Ireland is.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    You're not a child of today's Ireland.. if you WERE raised etc... It's YOUR generation's kids that are not learning any manners... and both the beginning of your first and the end of your second sentence kind of prove my point anyhow.

  31. Hey kids by Spatial · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Use the damn block/ignore button!

    1. Re:Hey kids by WK2 · · Score: 1

      It seems pretty unlikely that their is a button to prevent people from writing negative stuff about you on the internet, and then sending the links to all of your peers.

      I find it more likely that you don't know what bullying is (which I suppose is a good thing. hint: spam is not the same thing), and didn't read the article, and barely understood the summary. But that didn't stop you from posting. I do that too.

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    2. Re:Hey kids by AceofSpades19 · · Score: 1

      I know eh?, its not like you can't turn the damn device off or anything either.I have never understood cyber bullying because unlike in real life, there is a giant ignore button and/or you can leave the website on which this is happening. What a frightening new concept!

    3. Re:Hey kids by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Seriously.

    4. Re:Hey kids by Philip+Shaw · · Score: 1

      When this sort of thing gets proposed in .AU, it is does include flaming, griefing, and trolling.
      People writing negative things about you would very likely be covered by existing libel/slander/defamation laws.

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  32. Re:The problem with cyber-bullying in Ireland is.. by Lumpy · · Score: 1

    Irish kids are taught NOTHING about manners, and manners are what lead to common-decency.

    American kids are taught NOTHING about manners, and manners are what lead to common-decency.

    British kids are taught NOTHING about manners, and manners are what lead to common-decency.

    German kids are taught NOTHING about manners, and manners are what lead to common-decency.

    French kids are taught NOTHING about manners, and manners are what lead to common-decency.

    ALL kids are taught NOTHING about manners, and manners are what lead to common-decency.

    Honestly it's a problem of parenting, it has existed for 75,000,000 years when Ugh bullied Snoo near the bubbling tar pits. Most parents don't care to force their kids to be polite and have manners let along teach them respect. Most of these parents tailgate the cars in front of them and break the law at will teaching the kids that you only act civilized when you have to.

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  33. "child porn" excuse has failed, and now this ? by unity100 · · Score: 1

    what the governments are doing to prevent bullying in schools ? what CAN they do ?

    little. since most of the kids wont inform anyone that they are bullied, out of shame.

    same goes for internet. internet is no different than 'real' life.

    seems like another bullshitty excuse to try censorship.

    1. Re:"child porn" excuse has failed, and now this ? by geekoid · · Score: 1

      "
      little. since most of the kids wont inform anyone that they are bullied, out of shame. "

      Actually, I find that it's out of uselessness.

      No one takes action against the bully, ever.

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  34. How are they really gonna do this? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Send them all to the University of Notre Dame to become Fighting Irish fans... less bullying, more drinking; especially for those younger ones! Yeah, you 5+ kids out there! Stop cyberbullying and start doing jagerbombs!

  35. Re:The problem with cyber-bullying in Ireland is.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I think you'll find Oregon is not in Ireland. Please keep this woman's idiocy out of discussions of Irish voters' questionable choices in politicians.

  36. Re:This is a realworld issue, no need for the cybe by redxxx · · Score: 1

    Umm... most other forms of harassment are already illegal(enforcement aside). They want a law about cyber-bullying because it is the loophole in the current law.

    They want to fix the type of problem you describe, by creating a new law to govern the new medium.

    You've got it backwards.

  37. That's true... by MikeRT · · Score: 1

    But one of the things you need to remember is that in many cases a predator will back away from prey that turns savage and violent when cornered.

    Another thing... if a nerdy victim of bullying strikes first, they'll often get the upperhand against a more athletic opponent; the human body is nowhere near as immune to physical harm and the psychological shock from it as the movies present. I scared the ever loving shit out of a bully in school by suddenly grabbing him by the shirt and slamming him full force into a wall. You know what he knew could happen if he tried to punch me, then? I could have pulled him forward a little bit and slammed his head hard into a very hard surface, possibly giving him a concussion. A move that lasted a few seconds, caused him to leave me alone permanently after that.

    My advice to any high school age nerd who is bullied is very simple:

    1) Get more protein in your diet.
    2) Find access to a place where you can quietly do strength training, starting out modestly at first. This will take you about 20 minutes a day, 3 days a week.
    3) Be firm in dealing with others.

    1. Re:That's true... by Belial6 · · Score: 1

      Of course that advice works exactly the same for the bully that want's to improve his bullying skills.

  38. Re:The problem with cyber-bullying in Ireland is.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    "Median" is an average.

    So is "mean" and "mode".

    GP was right, and you're being pendantically wrong.

  39. Re:Gangs vs. BigGuys by TaoPhoenix · · Score: 1

    Are there regional specialties to bullying?

    I never had real trouble with gangs. In my youth it was always the scary Lone Wolf. Built like a Coal Loader and psychotic to boot. My best defenses were always playing the clown and doing his homework.

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  40. encyclopediadramatica.com should be banned :p by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Of course encyclopediadramatica.com is the youtube of bullying online. If this site and others (portalofevil.com for example) didn't exist, would have reduce coordination of getting the media and other trolls to pay attention to them.

    On the other hand, sites like http://www.somethingawful.com/ call more legitimacy to cyberbullying by disguising it as satire. The colbert report for the internet.

    But all forums, including slashdot's comments have some form of internet bullying going on. The line only gets drawn when physical or emotional harm befalls someone using the internet does the media pick up on it.

    On the flip side, bad parenting if parents have no idea what is going on, and honestly, how often do parents ever keep on top of technology anyway?

    What about 'adult children' and not just autistic ones, I also mean the ones that have bad sense of entitlement (1 in 3 humans maybe) that causes distress for the rest of us that may in fact cause the bullying in the first place.

    if you don't like someone, don't go whine about it on the internet in public, you might not like it when a louder whiner comes along and steals your spotlight.

  41. Bullying by TehZorroness · · Score: 1

    A bunch of people used to always give me a really hard time until they realized I'm the most chill person on earth

  42. I'm not sure I agree with this by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Interesting

    Parent says:

    "

    All these stories of geeks being bullied in high school via the internet is rather pathetic.

    The idea that someone is traumatized by not being able to visit facebook properly and they get bad texts makes you seem so soft that I don't know when to begin.

    Bullying is when you fear for your safety. When the big kid(s) push you against a wall and threaten to beat your sorry ass. Although a soft geek may be loathe to admit it, there's a lot to be said for growing a set of balls and physically confronting someone.

    Might as well confront the person sending you bad messages because if they were actually tough kids, they would threaten you with a beat-down to your face.

    But I fear most of you are so spineless that you won't even get it. Bullying is something that is as old as man (and even older). Primates establish a pecking order. If you're being picked on, you get in the other person's face, even at the risk of taking a beatdown yourself. Fear is far worse than the reality of getting punched in the face. Although like I said, the idea that someone who is into sending you "bad" messages could deliver a beatdown is pretty small.

    Learning self-defense skills is vitally important in this world. Always was, always will be."

    I'm not sure I agree with this, although I see the logic.

  43. Toughen up by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Here's my solution. Tell those kids to toughen up and be a man (but I'm your daughter!). Then kick those bullies square in the nards.

  44. Re:The problem with cyber-bullying in Ireland is.. by Toll_Free · · Score: 1

    In true American style?

    Remember, anonymous asshole, we came from your country to escape the persecution your pretty much talking about now.

    So, anon ass, seems Irish and English bullying have been going on longer than whats that? AMERICA HAS BEEN IN EXISTANCE?

    Stop with the veiled assinine attempts at throwing stones. Yes, it's a major problem, but it's not a problem for legislation, it's a problem for people to grow a pair of nads and actually take some personal responsibility.

    In true American style, you coward, fuck you.

    --Toll_Free

  45. Problem solved, back in the 80s. by Toll_Free · · Score: 1

    Didn't pretty much ALL of us watch Back to the Future?

    Didn't we see how to deal with Biff?

    Fuck him up while he's trying to rape the girl you love. At that point, the entire future changes, music taste changes, and the bonus is, you get a time machine.

    So, nerds, get some balls!

    wait, I beat up a bully in jr high school.. WTF is MY time machine.

    DOC!!!!

    --Toll_Free

  46. Sticks and stones may break my bones by geekoid · · Score: 1

    but something something something.

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  47. Just call it terrorism by gelfling · · Score: 1

    Here in North Carolina if you make a public threat and more than one person hears it, it's considered to be terrorism. So why not extend that to online. Make a threat or insult online and it's terrorism. A straight up felony. We really don't need the quaint 18th Century notions of free speech. The risk of offending or scaring someone is just too high.

  48. Re:The problem with cyber-bullying in Ireland is.. by geekoid · · Score: 1

    "and half the people have below average IQ."

    sigh, no that doesn't follow.

    Don't let a comedian lack of mathematical skill fool you.

    The Gaussian distribution(aka normal distribution) you describe is used for probability, not average.
    In that case the sampling size can impact where the distribution occurs giving you a nice pretty bell curve.
    In reality, if you measured everybody and did an average, half of all people would not be below average. Probable 90% of everybody would be below average.

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  49. It's not so simple by TheMidnight · · Score: 0

    I was reading a lot of the earlier posts about bullying and how to deal with it. As someone who was bullied past high school and well into college, let me make a couple of points that seem to be true across the Western world about it:

    1. The bully never gets in trouble. No matter who you tell, be it a teacher, parent, administrator or even the police, the bully never gets in trouble. If he does it's minor. Bullying is a rarely-enforced, low priority offense, even in this day where the victim may go ape-shit and shoot the bully plus ten or fifteen innocent kids because some drooling mongoloid of a principal wouldn't shut the bully up.

    2. If you retaliate, the punishment is the maximum possible. The few times I snapped and beat the crap out of the bullies, even when I didn't do it in front of anyone else, their word against mine was enough to get me in deep trouble when the told someone. The consequences were dire for someone who hoped to get into a good college, I was told. Suspension, expulsion, jail. Low grades. A criminal record wouldn't allow me into college, I was told. I even got alternative school (nearly expelled) when I retaliated my senior year in high school. The bully got nothing--see point 1. I was told it was either my future or ignoring them...I chose ignoring them. I'm successful career-wise, but I'm a wreck socially. Which one was worth more?

    3. Existing rules and laws are insufficient, as are all proposed methods for dealing with it. Yes, the best way 30 years ago was to confront and fight. Even if you lost, the respect was there. Nowadays, we're never going back to that time, so the only way to deal with bullying is to punish bullies as harshly as they deserve. Push a kid on the playground? Three day suspension, no questions asked. Post a video of yourself beating up a kid? Suspension and criminal charges. What should the victim do? Defend themselves if necessary, then tell an administration that will come down like fire and brimstone on the bully. If the victim isn't allowed to stand up for himself due to points 1 and 2, then point 1 has to become null and void.

    4. The most important thing when you're being bullied is to have some support mechanism. If you're a loner nerd like I was, you don't have a lot of peer options. Friends are best, but parents, clergy, teachers, even God (if you believe in Him) can be a support network...just have someone you can always rely on when all other lights go out. But if you're a victim of bullying and one of the more unpopular kids, and the administration doesn't care about bullying, and your parents side with the school that you're bringing it on yourself, then you need something...I chose God. I think the ones who have nothing, who don't believe in anything and don't rely on anyone, and who are just a bit too psycho, are the ones who end up shooting, because there's no other way in their minds to shut people up. The ones who don't shoot others sometimes kill themselves.

    Anyway, that's my rant on bullying. I'm 24, it's been years since I've been bullied, and I'm still shedding scars. Those of you who say man up and take it, it's not so easy. If you're a small, weak kid, with no one who is really coming up to bat with you against overwhelming authority and peers, it's not enough to say "ignore it" or "take it" or "defend yourself." There's too much to lose by doing all three of those. If you ignore it, it only gets worse. If you take it, you snap, or you bottle it up and while you may be "manly" you'll be dysfunctional as hell. If you defend yourself, you get in far worse trouble than you bargained for (unless you're lucky). The solution is to stop it. Have effective anti-bullying laws and rules. Hell, start a war on bullying. The point is, do something. I wish I could now, but I wouldn't know where to start.

    1. Re:It's not so simple by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      1. The bully never gets in trouble. No matter who you tell, be it a teacher, parent, administrator or even the police, the bully never gets in trouble. If he does it's minor.

      Bullshit. The bully gets in the same sort of penalization that you get for retaliating. The problem is that he doesn't care. Someone that looks at second shift at the 7-11 as a career move doesn't care much about being suspended or not being able to get into a good college.

      Now, the real answer to bullying is to get your posse together. Help some people with their homework. I mean, approach them and make an offer. Don't wait for them to beat it out of you. Actually be NICE, and try to make them feel better about themselves, even though they may not be as smart as you. The next time the bully roles around, you won't be standing alone.

  50. Problem is... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Problem is, there are a lot of cutters in high school. Not people who cut school, but people who cut their wrists--and some are doing it for attention, but others aren't. That kind of report is interesting, and I'm not saying the knowledge of how to do it should be unavailable--but I don't think it should be pushed to an entire class.

  51. Adina's Deck by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    For those of you who don't think it's a big deal, check out AdinasDeck.com it's a program my kids loved. The first episode is about cyber bullying and it's really made them think twice.

  52. Important distinctions by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Bollocks . When mob mentality comes into it, you see how well you stand up against 15-20 people. It's starts with the leader of the cool gang, then it's the cool gang and then it's the people siding with the rest of them to keep on the good side.

    There are important distinctions being lost here.

    Standing up against a bully does work in many cases. If the bully really doesn't have the attitude where he's committed to overcoming a target who puts up a determined resistance, then things can go really bad for him; these are the cases from which the "stand up to bullies" mantra comes. But if the "bully" has a truly criminal mindset, and is committed to have his way at all costs, you better stay the fuck away.

    But those cases are all about a lone bully. The mob introduces a bunch of other issues. The results of standing up to the bully in the mob can range from having his "buddies" laugh at him for getting his ass kicked for taking on more than he could handle, to your death from being stomped by all of them. Are the guys along mostly to gape vicariously at the bully doing something they would never do? Or are they there to do stuff they wouldn't dare do otherwise? There are way too many variables.

  53. Bullying = Casteism in India by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Parents in India covertly brainwash their kids to bully other children as per the Caste hierarchies.
    And publicly "pretend" every one is equal.

  54. Suck it up! by nimmersatt · · Score: 1

    I used to be bullied a lot when I was kid and I seriously hated every day I had to go to school because of that. However, what do nerds do whenever evil villains try to prevail? They seek revenge! I got my revenge and it felt good. I even got in trouble with my school but I knew that school policy wasn't going to help me so I didn't really care. To eliminate my bully-problem for the rest of my school had a much higher priority. I ask every kid who is being bullied in school, on the playground, at home or on the net to suck it up and fight back! Use your mind, cook something up, face your problem and make an impact. I know it sounds primitive but it works. This is surely not an issue for a government to take care of.

  55. Nature vs Nay by Everlife · · Score: 1

    It's called life people. It's part of us, just like it is in many simian groups. It's our social programming, there is a psychological and scientific reason for every aspect of bullying. If you don't like it, take it up with good old Mother Nature, it was all her idea. It's like getting mad at Killer Whales for playing with their food before they kill and eat it(seals). Life isn't a walk in the park, so learn to adapt.

  56. Also known as Casteism in India by mahadiga · · Score: 1

    Castes are a form of socio-economic collusion in India since 12th century. Hinduism's caste system is a religious-based system of separating groups and keeping one class (the Brahmins) over everyone else.
    In America there is no system in place today that forces people to remain separate or keeps one class subservient to another. If you were born the son of a street sweeper, but excelled, you could become a doctor or lawyer or some celebrity or entrepreneur - and at the same time you would be fully accepted by your peers.
    Not so in India. The caste system freezes everyone in place. It is extremely difficult - almost impossible - for someone from the lowest caste to rise in education and social status.
    A Dalit would never be allowed to marry into one of the higher castes and would never be accepted as an equal. And for a Dalit to make it into medical school or become a member of high society in India is very rare indeed. Only by escaping from the grasp of Hinduism do they have much of a chance....
    And as of today only 1% of marriages in India are Inter-Caste or Inter-Religious.

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    I'd like to buy homeland for our 10 million people. http://twitter.com/mahadiga