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Need a Friend? Rent One Online

crimeandpunishment writes "Housewives, college students, and others are working for a website that charges users an hourly rate for their companionship. No, it's not an escort service — at least it's not one 'with benefits.' It's a site called rentafriend.com, that's trying to carve out a niche in the 'everything's available online' business world. The seven-month-old site, patterned after hugely successful sites in Asia, has nearly 2,000 members who pay either a monthly or yearly fee to check out the pictures and profiles of more than 160,000 potential pals." I thought Craigslist had already cornered the market on renting a friend for an hour or two.

134 comments

  1. Another one ? by daveime · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Or you could simply add a bunch of random people of Facebook and see how many accept your friend request.

    1. Re:Another one ? by Chrisq · · Score: 2, Funny

      Or you could simply add a bunch of random people of Facebook and see how many accept your friend request.

      Communist!

    2. Re:Another one ? by Lumpy · · Score: 3, Funny

      That would be via Chat Roulette!

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    3. Re:Another one ? by cjb658 · · Score: 3, Funny

      1. Find a picture of a hot chick on the internet and make that your Facebook picture.
      2. Send out thousands of friend requests.
      3. Profit!

    4. Re:Another one ? by kenj0418 · · Score: 1

      I wonder if they will help you move, or give you a ride to the airport. Might be worth it to avoid annoying your actual friends. (Assuming they're cheaper than a cab or movers)

    5. Re:Another one ? by cyberzephyr · · Score: 1

      You forgot there are a lot of gay folks out there!

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    6. Re:Another one ? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Who will just assume that you're a fag hag and accept the friend request anyways....

    7. Re:Another one ? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      it was YOU .No0o0o0o0o0o0o0. I still think u people are really spies. Think about it. A government agent sees that you're supporting
      truth sites and suddenly wants to "follow" you on Twitter. Muhahahahahah, you're all being followed! You know the old saying "keep your friends close but your enemies closer."
      It's crazy

      "Hello H. Truman. A. Hitler sent you a friendship request on Douchebook. Do you want to accept?"

  2. I guess my "friends" weren't lying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 4, Funny

    And my mom was paying them.

    1. Re:I guess my "friends" weren't lying by whitedsepdivine · · Score: 1

      Your mom was paying me also for the benifits part.

    2. Re:I guess my "friends" weren't lying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      And you're not paying your spelling teacher enough.

    3. Re:I guess my "friends" weren't lying by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Remember Spot? Your first dog. Yeah him. Do you remember how Spot was always so happy to see you? You do? Good.

      OK, now think back...

      Do you remember how your mom used to tie something around your neck before you went out in the back yard?

      That was a pork chop.

    4. Re:I guess my "friends" weren't lying by Anarki2004 · · Score: 1

      Looks like you might need to pay your grammar teacher a bit more, buddy.

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  3. Server load by XPeter · · Score: 1

    Since Slashdotters have no friends, and we get close to 5 million visitors monthly around here, I can tell they'll be cashing in on some money.

    16/f/Cali for me please?

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    1. Re:Server load by the_wishbone · · Score: 1

      Sure, why don't you have a seat right over here...

  4. So how is this different form an escort service? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Rule 34?

  5. Ewww. by Securityemo · · Score: 1

    Is it just me, or is this creepy beyond belief?

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    1. Re:Ewww. by mossy+the+mole · · Score: 2, Funny

      Is it just me, or is this creepy beyond belief?

      It's not just you.

    2. Re:Ewww. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Is it just me, or is this creepy beyond belief?

      It's not just you.

      It's just you both...

    3. Re:Ewww. by CastrTroy · · Score: 2, Interesting

      I don't know, kind of creapy, but cheaper than a therapist (I'm assuming didn't look at pricing). And probably better for your social life than complaining to your actual friends all the time. I wonder how many people just use this thing as a sounding board to talk out their problems. I don't think anybody really needs to pay for friends on the internet. There's tons of forums and chat channels on just about any topic you can think of. However, most of these places, as in real life, people will start to ignore you if you complain too much. But I wonder if having a person who is paid to sit there and listen to your ranting would be helpful to people, and would accomplish a large amount of what therapists are paid to do.

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    4. Re:Ewww. by vlm · · Score: 4, Funny

      Creepy is what the 4chan crowd are going to do to these poor people, and then post screen caps for LOLs. I hope they're well paid for what they're probably about to go thru.

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    5. Re:Ewww. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I wonder how many people just use this thing as a sounding board to talk out their problems.

      But I wonder if having a person who is paid to sit there and listen to your ranting would be helpful to people, and would accomplish a large amount of what therapists are paid to do.

      You seem to be confused... therapists ALREADY ARE paid to sit there and listen to your ranting.

    6. Re:Ewww. by Conchobair · · Score: 3, Funny

      Those two should be friends.

    7. Re:Ewww. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Shoe on head, NAOW!

      Hangs head in shame.

    8. Re:Ewww. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Those two should be friends.

      With this service, they would've found eachother more easily and could've fud'd together over a coffee and start a bromanche bitching about manthings...

      In the end, they would have to admit this was a good idea, while they mandate and hold hands in public in a common hate-protest based on personal combined fear and stare down homophobes who "don't understand".

      The single man-tear they shed, holding their manhands, wouldn't be understood by female nor homophobe (or very feminate men). But those, real men, would understand...

    9. Re:Ewww. by Fuseboy · · Score: 3, Informative

      This sounds weird, but it's not that surprising - the pinnacle of the service economy is selling specialized conversation, isn't it? :-)

      What I'm really curious is what sort of policies and worker-support practices will emerge in this industry. Without something, it's going to get messy, and quickly.

      A therapist who is just listening to you vent is providing a bare minimum sort of service; the real goods happen when they start to challenge you (however subtly) to be more aware of the patterns you're enacting over and over again. Equally importantly are the boundaries that are set - therapists (AAMFT therapists, at any rate) are required to get regular supervision, a sort of meta-therapy.. which is intended as a safeguard in case the therapist gets triggered by the client in some way (e.g. idealizing them, becoming overly invested in their 'progress', irritated by the way the client reminds them of themselves ten years ago or their alcoholic aunt, etc.)

      Painful as it is, one of the ways friends help one another is by not putting up with certain behavior - he talks shit all the time, he's always stoned, or whatever it is. Will rent-a-friends have the option of ditching a client? If not, will they just become anxious witnesses, providing support to people who would otherwise realize how intolerable they've become?

    10. Re:Ewww. by Syberz · · Score: 1

      Ranting aside, I can see some potential here. If you're new in town you can rent a friend to show you around. At 20-30$/hour it's cheaper than a tour guide.

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    11. Re:Ewww. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      It's not hard for you, sure.

      To start a conversation with a stranger, you need to find a subject that the both of you are able and willing to talk about. To do that, you need to gather the available evidence about what this stranger might be familiar with. You can probably talk about the place you are standing in, whether that's a bar or a city or a country. You can probably talk about the food you are eating, the drinks you are imbibing, and that sports game going that the TVs are showing.

      If you can get this stranger interested in those things, you can exchange comments about them for a while. During that time, it is likely that this stranger will drop some other hints about things they are interested in. Noticing when this has happened is something of a trick. If they've complained about the traffic they had to drive through to get here, does that mean they find traffic interesting, or that they enjoy complaining, or that they drive around this town a lot (so they would know that this traffic is unusual) and might want to talk about the places they drive through? There isn't any very reliable way to tell, so you just guess, and talk for a while on that assumption.

      Keep doing that long enough and you're bound to find something they're genuinely interested in eventually. But for some people, none of the steps in this procedure are easy. All of them require some thought and planning; even if it's just ten seconds of thought, that's often enough time for the conversation to go somewhere else entirely.

      If you find this process easy, it's probably because you've practiced it all your life, and are therefore skilled at it. Many people aren't. Possibly because of some learning disability, possibly because they've spent most of their lives in social situations where the topic of conversation was mediated somehow (clubs and student groups), or possibly because they've been treated badly in social situations and not given much incentive to learn how to use them.

      So it makes perfect sense to me that some people would want to hire someone to talk to them. It's much easier to learn how to manage social conversations if you can ask people to slow down, and if you're free to stop the conversation and analyze what has happened in it. Doing that with a random stranger in a bar will likely result in embarassment and confusion. Doing it with someone you've paid to help you is just another part of that business transaction.

    12. Re:Ewww. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Numfar! Do the dance of shame.

      Yes, I see potential for this service.

  6. how is this not tagged slashvertisement yet? by Kral_Blbec · · Score: 1

    n/m

  7. You know I hate to ask..... by ciderVisor · · Score: 1

    ....but are 'friends' electric?

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    1. Re:You know I hate to ask..... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      My wife has an electric 'friend'.......so I think the answer to your question is.....yes?

    2. Re:You know I hate to ask..... by hoggoth · · Score: 1

      The Texas Republican party has just passed it's new party platform that makes that toy a FELONY.

      http://www.boingboing.net/2010/06/26/texas-gop-comes-out.html#comment-819136

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  8. I'm supposed to put a title here. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    So in a way you can rent a "Friend with Benefit", in the proper sense of the term.

  9. Counselling by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Informative

    This service isn't anything to do with being "friends". It's essentially a counselling service where anyone can volunteer to be a paid listener, and people who need someone to either talk to or simply to be there so they can overcome their social issues of going somewhere alone can pay them.

    I actually think it's a good idea *if* the people on both sides of the transaction are being honest about what they want out of it.

    1. Re:Counselling by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      agreed. if the "rented" friend has his/her own issues similar to those that the rentee has (and is trying to overcome or mitigate), such a rental may only exacerbate the problem. telling upfront what you want and what you'd like to avoid would probably minimize the risks.

    2. Re:Counselling by Reziac · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Yes, exactly, and per the application, it also includes helper, gofer, and all around dogsbody -- pretty much anything that requires a warm body. I can see this as very useful for short-term employment for specialties of every sort, sometimes building to long-term employment. Frex, one "friend" could be the shopper for a dozen housebound people, make some money at it, and make the housebounds' lives easier (and more interesting, as they could see new faces whenever they wished).

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  10. Only mine's broke down... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    And now I've no-one to love =(

  11. This is just beyond lame. by qoncept · · Score: 2, Insightful

    I'm no social butterfly, but when I'm alone out of town I have no problem going to a bar and finding random people to talk to. It's not hard, people. Beer helps.

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    1. Re:This is just beyond lame. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Funny

      Then you wake up in a bathtub full of ice noticing a stitch where the kidney should be.

    2. Re:This is just beyond lame. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

      I'm no social butterfly, but when I'm alone out of town I have no problem going to a bar and finding random people to talk to. It's not hard, people. Beer helps.

      Congratulations.
      You can turn in your geek card at the door.

      BTW - if you haven't figured it out yet, not everyone feels comfortable talking to random strangers, and some of us are unable to pour enough booze into our system to get rid of our inhibitions before we pass out.

    3. Re:This is just beyond lame. by darjen · · Score: 1

      this may or may not be a surprise, but some people don't like going to bars.

    4. Re:This is just beyond lame. by DNS-and-BIND · · Score: 1, Troll

      Please stop perpetuating negative stereotypes. Guess what? *shock* *horror* There are actual people out there who do NOT fit the self-perpetuating "aspie" stereotype and who heartily enjoy the company of others, INCLUDING the company of strangers. Some of them even read Slashdot!

      For the crime of being an unsmiling prick nerd, your ability to revoke others' geek cards has been revoked. Your loss of privileges will be updated the next time your geek card syncs with the cloud.

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    5. Re:This is just beyond lame. by dkleinsc · · Score: 1

      not everyone feels comfortable talking to random strangers

      But if you pay that random stranger, that makes the situation much better!

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    6. Re:This is just beyond lame. by Lumpy · · Score: 1

      who heartily enjoy the company of others, INCLUDING the company of strangers. Some of them even read Slashdot!

      I actually like them Strange.... I see out the wierdows to talk to.

      One of my favorite friends is a Thumbless short bald guy that is a Neo-anarchist anti Corperation Multiple PHD holding out of work professor that loves a good debate/argument about nearly anything. I can blow 12 hours talking to him and drinking scotch. although by the time we finish a 1/2 a bottle the conversation get's really wierd.

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    7. Re:This is just beyond lame. by Lumpy · · Score: 1

      Only because I'm cheap. Only the truely insane is happy paying the prices bars charge. Plus you dont got here for conversation... you cant hear the person setting next to you over the grunge punk band that has only a drummer and a bass guitar.

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    8. Re:This is just beyond lame. by MBGMorden · · Score: 1

      It's not hard, people. Beer helps.

      Depends on the person. I like to drink my fair share, but I typically drink more around my existing friends. Around strangers, I actually get MORE reserved as I drink more. Deep down I keep remembering that "I'm drunk, and drunk people do stupid things.", and it turns into a weird compulsion to do and say as little as possible when drunk so as no appear . . . drunk.

      Weird I know, but different people act differently when drunk. Some people get funny, some people get angry, some grow bold, some become quieter.

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    9. Re:This is just beyond lame. by Snarf+You · · Score: 2, Funny

      Beer helps with that too.

    10. Re:This is just beyond lame. by misexistentialist · · Score: 1

      You are paying for those friends in the surcharge added to the drinks. Paying directly for the friend based on background, interests, and looks is much more reliable than the random selection you will find in a bar. Of course too much control over the process also has its disadvantages.

    11. Re:This is just beyond lame. by BobMcD · · Score: 1

      Plus you dont got here for conversation...

      No, you go there because other people seeking hookups are going there as well. This is also why you're paying more for their drinks - because your contemporaries are doing likewise, and you don't want to stand out in a negative way.

    12. Re:This is just beyond lame. by Late+Adopter · · Score: 2, Informative

      Depends on the town. I'm in Washington, DC and I despise the bar scene. But every now and then I travel to Chicago and it is a genuine joy to open conversations with random strangers (not for hookups). Maybe the people are friendly there, or the music's quieter, or I'm more bashful about making a bad impression where I live. But my friends agree, DC bars are for nights out with large groups, and that's about it.

    13. Re:This is just beyond lame. by Abstrackt · · Score: 1

      BTW - if you haven't figured it out yet, not everyone feels comfortable talking to random strangers, and some of us are unable to pour enough booze into our system to get rid of our inhibitions before we pass out.

      Please stop perpetuating negative stereotypes. Guess what? *shock* *horror* There are actual people out there who do NOT fit the self-perpetuating "aspie" stereotype and who heartily enjoy the company of others, INCLUDING the company of strangers. Some of them even read Slashdot!

      For the crime of being an unsmiling prick nerd, your ability to revoke others' geek cards has been revoked. Your loss of privileges will be updated the next time your geek card syncs with the cloud.

      What AC said doesn't sound like a stereotype to me. Key phrases to support my hypothesis include "not everyone" and "some of us", indicating a subset of a larger group. It's true that not every geek's an introvert but I believe the ACs point was that not everyone is an extrovert either. Ironically, I think you come across as far more of a prick than the AC you're calling out.

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    14. Re:This is just beyond lame. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I have to say you're far more social butterfly than me at least.

      I find it uncomfortable to strike up conversations with people I don't know. And I don't drink because of the possibility of loss of self control. One thing I would never want to do is lose self control.

      Hell, I feel uncomfortable writing e-mails, making phone calls, or even talking to people I know sometimes. I keep myself incredibly tightly tied up and can only use things like AC to post because I fear what would happen if I even let a hint of who I really am tinge the identity I've built up.

      I don't desire to open up in the least to anyone because by opening up I make myself vulnerable. I've got very few friends, but I'm fine with it.

    15. Re:This is just beyond lame. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      some of us are unable to pour enough booze into our system to get rid of our inhibitions before we pass out.

      No, that just means you haven't practiced enough. It takes me well until the evening to get sober the next day.

    16. Re:This is just beyond lame. by xmvince · · Score: 1

      LOL Try mixing a little bit of weed with it then :)

  12. People laugh at stuff like this by elrous0 · · Score: 3, Insightful

    But when you reach a certain age, it becomes harder and harder to meet new friends. I used to have tons of them, but then I moved to a new city and have almost none here. And if you're too old for the clubs, don't have a family, and aren't religious or a sports fan--you're pretty much SOL in many places. I can see where something like this would be appealing.

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    1. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by Datamonstar · · Score: 2, Insightful

      There's always thing like pen & paper gaming or LAN parties ant the like. Us geeks have our get-togethers and meet-n-greets just like everyone else.

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    2. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by Securityemo · · Score: 2, Interesting

      If you have actually no interests that can be spun in a social manner, then I think you're either pretty rare or living in the wrong place. My grandpa is a ranking member of the OddFellows, and I think that most of the appeal of the "club" is the ability for older people in your situation to have a social life. Most members seems to be engineers, school teachers, middle-class businessmen, people like that.

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    3. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by mackil · · Score: 2, Insightful

      I've found that a great way to plug-in somewhere in a new community is to volunteer. Give blood, give out water at the local fun-run, participate in community events. It's cheaper, works great and its good for the soul.

    4. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by twistedsymphony · · Score: 1

      Do you not have any hobbies?

      I don't live anywhere near any of my highschool or college friends. I don't drink, nor have I ever been one to go out to clubs and bars. I get along with my co-workers but most of them have very little in common with me socially. I do love building and working on my own cars and I found a forum online for people in my area that drive my make and model car. I've made a lot of great friends though this club.

      Similarly I've made a lot of friend by seeking out other local clubs for the other hobbies of mine.

      My grandmother moved out of her home state to be closer to some family that had moved away, she joined a local singing group and made lots of friends though that.

      It's easy to find like minded individual in your area.. you just have to look in the right places.

    5. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Shouldn't everyone on /. be able to get into Mensa? I thought everyone who posted on here was a genius.

    6. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by L4t3r4lu5 · · Score: 1

      If you have a hobby, there is a group for it.

      Look for one.

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    7. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      How do you meet people to go to a LAN party? Semi-serious question!

    8. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by jimmydigital · · Score: 2, Funny

      Good idea... but I have only so much blood to give... plus.. I'm using most of it.  What I could do though is give other people's blood.. that would be much better and would represent my giving nature. Call it the redistribution of blood if you will.  This sounds like a great way to meet new and interesting people.. if only for a short time. Luckily other people's blood is a near infinite resource.. what could possibly go wrong.

      You know what they say... it's all parties and lap dances until you run out of other people's money.. err.. blood.

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    9. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by Gunnut1124 · · Score: 3, Informative

      Dude, Meetup.com
      Find something you ARE into and goto the meetups. Atheist? Tons of atheist meetups on there. Star Trek fan? They have monthly viewing parties in my area. Do you like to cook/eat? They have a million dinner clubs... Seriously there is something for everyone.

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    10. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by DittoBox · · Score: 1

      Do you have a social hobby? Golfing? Photography? Hiking? Motorsports? Cycling? Maybe you own a type of car that has an owners club (MINI, Volkswagen etc.).

      There's a local group for just about anything.

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    11. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by Lumpy · · Score: 1

      You are not trying unless you moved to Salt lake city....

      Into gaming? Find the local gaming shops and ask about tournaments and start playing.

      Into computers? User groups.

      Into RC planes? find that group at hobby shops.

      Etc... If you try you can find like interest people. Join the Rotary club, Masons if you like the illuminati (joking), Toastmasters, etc......

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    12. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by Red+Flayer · · Score: 2, Insightful

      And if you're too old for the clubs, don't have a family, and aren't religious or a sports fan--you're pretty much SOL in many places.

      Well, there's always the local LUG. Might be worth a shot for some people -- at least you've got one interest in common.

      Lots of hobby groups exist and meet regularly. RC Planes, Gaming clubs, S&M enthusiasts... If you've got an interest, I guarantee there's a club for it *somewhere*.

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    13. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by neonKow · · Score: 1

      You meet people through work, volunteering, hobbies, and through day to day interaction like at the coffee shop where you work freelance too many hours to have time for volunteering, hobbies, clubs, families, religion, or sports.

      Honestly, people are compatible with far more people than they know. If you can't find someone you can get along with and confide in in a new city, you are not doing yourself a favor by pre-selecting who you meet based on interests on an online profile.

    14. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by AnAdventurer · · Score: 1

      Right there with you, only it seems all my friends moved out of this town (which all of us moved to). It seems I live in a city of transients, with friends who are transients. Which you expect from the city that I live in and from going to boarding skoool. This is not the best thought out post, no coffee yet.

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    15. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by Digital+Pizza · · Score: 1

      Right on the Oddfellows home page (http://www.ioof.org) they mention belief in a "Supreme Being" as a tenet, which throws them out as a candidate for the grandparent poster's non-religious example person. Every club I've seen so far that wasn't dedicated to a specific hobby was religious in nature.

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    16. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      well, have you tried D&D?

    17. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by Securityemo · · Score: 1

      That's true. On the other hand, that's about as far as it goes. I'm not sure, but the freemasons have the same thing - ranking back to the time where a secret society that didn't openly support the church would risk being abolished. On the third hand, a lodge in the kind of town the grandparent poster seems to live in might have a larger religious constituent, and thus most likely take the "morality from the almighty" tenets as seriously as the organizations moral tenets themselves? (Which they, at least in the lodge here, they take quite seriously; i know about at least one member that was kicked out for dishonest business practices.)

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    18. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by mrlsd · · Score: 0

      Well, I can't really recommend Mensa. I found that most of the members weren't particularly interesting after they started repeating their party pieces. They liked playing games, both on and off paper, whereas I prefer to do something more useful with my life (plus I'm not very good at the games they played ;-)

      Their attitude towards intelligence was disappointing. They appeared to believe that a high IQ is both necessary and sufficient to do well, in much the same way that an immature teenager thinks he knows how to drive because he has a car with a big engine.

    19. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by dollarwizard · · Score: 1

      But when you reach a certain age, it becomes harder and harder to meet new friends. I used to have tons of them, but then I moved to a new city and have almost none here. And if you're too old for the clubs, don't have a family, and aren't religious or a sports fan--you're pretty much SOL in many places

      You should go to meetup.com. Seriously, check it out. There's lots of opportunities there to meet new friends.

    20. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by spinkham · · Score: 1

      PShaw. meetup.com is your friend. If you live in a place of any decent size, there's tons of groups out there for your interests.
      Like bicycling, software development, sushi, model aircraft, computer security, robotics, anime, knitting, etc? There's probably a meetup group in your area. All of those I've looked at or attented in my own town, and there's tons more out there.

      Also, toastmasters and volenteering are always good ways to meet people.

      If you can't find any groups that interest you, why not not learn a new skill on your own or at the local community college, and start your own group? It's easier then you think.

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      Blessed are the pessimists, for they have made backups.
    21. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Bowling.

    22. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by BobMcD · · Score: 2, Funny

      There's always thing like pen & paper gaming or LAN parties ant the like. Us geeks have our get-togethers and meet-n-greets just like everyone else.

      You missed the 'of a certain age' part. No one wants to be 'that old dude' on the RPG scene.

    23. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Double-check your spelling on this one. You don't want to end up at meatup.com

    24. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by merockstar · · Score: 1

      You touch upon an important point.

      Our cities need more venues for socialization other than praise jesus, how about them brownies/cavs/indians, and "how many people can we cram into a small space! WOOH!" don't they?

      I for one would love for there to be something like a bar, except for potheads.

    25. Re:People laugh at stuff like this by rleibman · · Score: 1

      Meetup... seriously, there's tons of groups for all kinds of interests.

  13. Travel by boristdog · · Score: 1

    I've often thought a service like this would be great for travelers.

    I'm married and have lots of friends, but many times I've traveled to new places by myself and had no freaking idea what to do or where to eat (and I hate generic chain restaurant food), so it would be worth $30-$40 for someone to show you around for a couple of hours.

    1. Re:Travel by vlm · · Score: 2, Insightful

      o it would be worth $30-$40 for someone to show you around for a couple of hours.

      In vegas, I'm told the cab drivers perform this function. Seriously.

      And, on the internet, theres a wiki for everything:

      http://wikitravel.org/en/Main_Page

      --
      "Science flies us to the moon. Religion flies us into buildings." - Victor Stenger
    2. Re:Travel by twistedsymphony · · Score: 1

      next time, before you travel. See if there is an episode of Man vs Food for the city you're traveling too and watch that before you leave.

    3. Re:Travel by neonKow · · Score: 1

      Couch surf.

    4. Re:Travel by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That is what guidebooks are for! Look up the nearest 3 michelin starred restaurant and you're good to go :-)

  14. Couchsurfing ? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    From the description given on the page, all the services provided by this website are offered by the couchsurfing community, for free.

  15. who needs a friend by roman_mir · · Score: 1

    Who needs a friend for money when you can have a lively conversation on /. for free? It's almost the same thing without possibility of physical contact, and how is that not a plus?

    1. Re:who needs a friend by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Your definition of friendship is entertaining, but not surprising. What a loser you are! :D

    2. Re:who needs a friend by roman_mir · · Score: 1

      when did /. turn into such a bunch of humorless idiots?

  16. One question. by cacba · · Score: 2, Funny

    Do they come with a car and is it cheaper than movers?

    1. Re:One question. by Harvey+Manfrenjenson · · Score: 0

      I know you're kidding-- but I think the answers are "yes" and "quite possibly, but not by much".

      From the article, it sounds like many of their American clients are looking for hired help rather than companionship. One guy hired a "friend" to help him rent a car and do online research for him. Another hired a "friend" to visit her mother in a nursing home while she was away. Etc.

      If all the clients wanted was someone to hang out with, you wouldn't need a fee-for-service model-- just a matchmaking service to connect them with each other. And we already have plenty of websites like that.

  17. Are they hiring? by oodaloop · · Score: 1

    I'll be someone's friend for money. I'm really interesting and have many divers...why is everyone laughing?

    --
    Tic-Tac-Toe, Global Thermonuclear War, and relationships all have the same winning move.
    1. Re:Are they hiring? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Funny

      Probably because you have many divers. How many divers do you need? Where do you keep them? What do you feed them? How do you deal with police nosing around for missing divers?

  18. Tiny Toon Adventures by DaMattster · · Score: 1

    Anyone remember this cartoon show? There was an episode where Buster Bunny was working for Acme Rent-a-Friend. While it was funny, it also made for good social commentary. It seemed to hint that people will go at great lengths to make money, so much so that they will prey on people's basic need for companionship.

  19. Xbox Live anyone? by Rude+Turnip · · Score: 1

    Or, just pay $30 a year for Xbox Live and talk to all sorts of random people while playing games. Don't like the group you're chatting with? Just leave the game and pick another one...a never-ending supply of disposable friends!

    1. Re:Xbox Live anyone? by AtomicOrange · · Score: 1

      Perhaps it's just me, but everytime I've played on XBox online games it's typically a bunch of barely teenage boys that are just obnoxious. They're disposable alright, or am I disposable as they PWN me?

      Never the less, social interaction is very possible on online gaming. I've played a MUD for the last 10 years now that I've made several internet friendships that stemmed from it. It's all about common interests.

      --
      "What is there a tank on the boat? WHY IS THERE A TANK ON THE BOAT?!?" L4D2
  20. Turing? by Crashspeeder · · Score: 2, Interesting

    Assuming this is strictly online (I can't be bothered with reading TFA) then it sounds like a very clever scam or an awesome Turing competition with unwitting participants.

    1. Re:Turing? by Maarx · · Score: 1

      Assuming this is strictly online (I can't be bothered with reading TFA) then it sounds like a very clever scam or an awesome Turing competition with unwitting participants.

      Every now and then I read a /. post that genuinely makes me go "Holy crap, I hadn't even considered that."

      This is one of them. Mod parent up, please.

  21. Typical Approach by interval1066 · · Score: 0, Redundant

    In a consume-oriented society. Need a friend? Just rent one.

    --
    Python: 'And then suddenly you have a language which says "we're all stuck with whatever the whiniest coder wants".'
  22. Now in 21 convenient locations! by mattcsn · · Score: 1
  23. Friends with Benefits? by fataugie · · Score: 3, Funny

    Like what..Medical? Long Term Disability?

    --

    WTF? Over?

  24. Quite the opposite, actually by Moraelin · · Score: 1

    Actually, I find nothing to laugh about there.

    The thing is, it seems to be a common ailment. I see people all the time who are that desperate for social interaction that they'll try to chat up the cashier at the supermarket or the teller at the bank... with a long line forming behind them. Typically old people too. You can see a select few really desperate at it, too.

    What I really don't get is why doesn't someone make a club of sorts for that. There are literally thousands of old people who'd like to talk to someone, in any given town. Can't someone, maybe even one of them, organize something? Doesn't even have to involve any fancy or expensive stuff. I'm thinking even something like "let's all go to the river and chat".

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    A polar bear is a cartesian bear after a coordinate transform.
    1. Re:Quite the opposite, actually by misexistentialist · · Score: 1

      Most places have a "senior center"

    2. Re:Quite the opposite, actually by Vegeta99 · · Score: 1

      Wait, say what? That's just some people's nature, dude. I was a social services major, and resident director of the apartment complex I lived at. I just like to talk. It brightens both of our days, and oh, she's got my coffee and cigarettes waiting for me in the morning. I have no intentions of being friends with the woman, but shit, I have to see her every day, might as well be friendly.

    3. Re:Quite the opposite, actually by Moraelin · · Score: 1

      Dude, I'm not talking about a couple of friendly remarks while she scans your goods, or wishing her a nice weekend. I'm talking about for example someone who was holding out a 1 hour queue at the bank (monday and pension day, see) after being basically told goodbye, trying to strike a conversation.

      That's not being friendly, that's being antisocial. There was a long line of us missing work to solve some real problem at the bank, and someone is basically wasting the time of every single person in that line to try to start a conversation with the teller. That's not just being the bandit archetype (her gain was at the expense of other people's loss), it's the dumb or particularly antisocial kind of bandit who causes a big loss for a small gain. Those few minutes of conversation she got, well, multiply that by two dozen people behind her in the line.

      If anyone does that to be friendly and social, well, they can start being social and friendly towards those people behind them, and getting the fuck out of the way. Making those wait isn't friendly, it's being an antisocial prick.

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      A polar bear is a cartesian bear after a coordinate transform.
    4. Re:Quite the opposite, actually by Vegeta99 · · Score: 1

      OK, I'll agree with that sentiment. That's just plain annoying, and trust me, I deal with it on a daily basis - that one kid that thinks your just supercalifragilisticexpialidocious cool 'cuz you took his rent check AND told him he had a package at the same time when you really didn't - they drive me nuts.

      But I think it's OK to recognize the "strangers" in your life and be nice to them. That lady at the convenience store that has my coffee and cigs ready for me every morning? I have no clue what her name is. I know she has kids my age, and she drives a Neon the same color as my girlfriend's. She knows I drive a Jetta just because I bring it there every morning, and that I'm gonna buy $35 in Premium gas once a week. She has no clue what my name is, either. But hell, we're both happy to see each other in the morning and shoot the shit for that thirty seconds it takes for the transaction.

      And you're right, it's antisocial. I'll get a tour group of like 20+ people coming up from freshman orientation, and there's always one mom or dad that needs to sit and chat about their little beloved kiddie going off to the not-so-real world. Then, I have 15 people standing in the model apartment rolling their eyes at me. All I want to do is stop for a second, wave to the others, and say, "Thanks for stopping by, see ya in August!" and that ONE antisocial mommy who thinks her kid is the king of the world just can't shut the fuck up for ten seconds. So I feeel ya

  25. Damn straight by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I read the suggestions of others here and all I can say is "Do you think we haven't tried and failed at these methods?" Either you're not as old as we are, or you're a damn-sight more social than you realize.

    There's a reason why males unmarried by 45 tend to die alone. They have better chances at the 6 pick lotto.

  26. Why joking? by Kupfernigk · · Score: 3, Funny

    We in the Illuminati are actually getting pretty pissed off just meeting the same of crowd of Hidden Masters, Temple Measurers, Rosicrucians, and members of the Tres. If you're into illumination, secret world domination, and communication with superior beings, post your email and we'll get in touch. Provided of course that you can prove you're female, a virgin, aged between 18 and 21, and have no pesky living close relatives. Oh shit did I really write that?

    --
    From scarped cliff or quarried stone she cries "A thousand types are gone, I care for nothing, no not one."
    1. Re:Why joking? by Larryish · · Score: 1

      No, you didn't write that.

      One of our reptilian overlords channeled his evil scaliness through your keyboard.

      Just ask David Icke. :D

    2. Re:Why joking? by IICV · · Score: 1

      Provided of course that you can prove you're female, a virgin, aged between 18 and 21, fnord and have no pesky living close relatives. fnord Oh shit did I really write that?

      It's okay, I've covered for you.

  27. Makes perfect sense if you remember why u pay by iamacat · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Like in the case of the other by-the-hour service, you don't pay people to be friends with you, you pay them to go away. Real friendships are a lot of work that not everyone is willing to invest in every instance. Imagine that you have a family and a busy job, but you are away on a business function for two weeks. Wouldn't you want someone to show you around town without having to talk about work or promising to call later? I know most slashdot readers are not in this position, but wouldn't you want to earn enough pocket money to buy a new laptop while spending time with successful professionals that you seek to emulate?

    1. Re:Makes perfect sense if you remember why u pay by Locke2005 · · Score: 1

      Like in the case of the other by-the-hour service... Lawyers?

      --
      I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
  28. They abuse the word "friend"... by neonKow · · Score: 1
    ...the same way Apple abuses "Genius," and that's probably the creepiest thing about the site.

    "People e-mail me all the time about it. Is it legal? Is it really platonic? There's no 100 percent way to be sure, but we have zero tolerance if a friend says they were solicited. There's no second chance," Rosenbaum said.

  29. Not allowed to drink beer by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Insightful

    My mother doesn't permit me to drink beer because it's against her freaking religion, and I have to do whatever my mother says (even though I'm in my late 30's! Please kill me.) It doesn't matter anyway because bars are "bad" and people who go to bars are "evil, dirty people".

    Long story short, I have no way to meet people because all the things people do to meet people are somehow "bad" by her standards, so I never learned how.

    I'm going to go back to my corner and wait for death to come.

    1. Re:Not allowed to drink beer by gknoy · · Score: 3, Insightful

      My mother doesn't permit me to drink beer because it's against her freaking religion, and I have to do whatever my mother says (even though I'm in my late 30's! Please kill me.)

      I originally moderated you up, but I think it's important to say: Move out! Get a job (I know, not always easy, especially now), and move out on your own. Your personal wellbeing and self esteem will likely be much improved. You don't need to go out and live a life of debauchery, but you can sit there a few times a year and say, "you know, I think I'll have beer|scotch|brownies".

      The exception would be if you're living the life of Bertie Wooster, and have to behave in order to get a massive inheritance. In that case... who knows. =) I'm genuinely curious why you feel you have to follow your mother's restrictive lifestyle. Part of being a mature adult is respecting that not everyone feels the same way you do.

      On the flip side, if you've never had booze or been to a bar, you may find that you don't enjoy them when you DO try it. There's no harm in that -- but then you'll avoid them by choice, not because you feel you are kept from them by someone else.

  30. Then I seriously don't get the problem by Moraelin · · Score: 1

    Then I suddenly don't understand the problem any more. In fact I'm thoroughly confused.

    I see people for whom loneliness in the old age is a very serious problem. I see them desperate enough for human interaction to wait in a line for a human teller instead of using the ATM in the hall and then desperately try to chat up the teller. And you can occasionally hear one complain about how lonely he/she is, how everyone abandoned her, daughter doesn't call often enough, nobody else ever wants to talk to him/her, etc.

    Now you're telling me there _are_ senior centers for just that.

    Umm... So why don't these people use them, then? I must be missing something very obvious there.

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    A polar bear is a cartesian bear after a coordinate transform.
    1. Re:Then I seriously don't get the problem by BobMcD · · Score: 1

      Umm... So why don't these people use them, then? I must be missing something very obvious there.

      You've overlooked the conversational polarity. Everyone in the 'senior center' crowd wants to conduct 'positively charged' conversations. 'My' problems, 'my' grandkids, etc, etc, etc. They're looking for a listener, even if just a polite one, any 'negatively charged' individual will do. Anyway, the positive-positive conversations tend to be non-starters.

    2. Re:Then I seriously don't get the problem by misexistentialist · · Score: 1

      When your spouse and friends of decades are dead and your children who relied on you for decades are living separate lives I suspect that loneliness is pretty much inescapable. There is a lot of time when you are not working, and physical and financial limitations add to the misery. Senior centers might help for some, but old people are usually bad company--complaining and childishly seeking attention, for example. Live together, then die alone...

  31. Huh? by Moraelin · · Score: 2, Interesting

    I read the suggestions of others here and all I can say is "Do you think we haven't tried and failed at these methods?" Either you're not as old as we are, or you're a damn-sight more social than you realize.

    There's a reason why males unmarried by 45 tend to die alone. They have better chances at the 6 pick lotto.

    Dude, I'm an aspie. I have about as much savvy and finesse for social occasions as my cat has for scuba diving.

    But what's being proposed here doesn't boil down to "go pick up a super-model in a bar", nor even something as radical as finding someone you can live with all day long for a marriage, but basically to "there must be other people at your age and with the same interests." Since you tried and failed, exactly what _was_ the problem? No, seriously, I'm curious.

    As I've been saying before, there are literally thousands of retired seniors in any town worth that name. Some hundreds to thousands of them profess being terminally lonely and badly in need to talk to someone. The OP even basically proposes to pay for someone to talk to.

    Exactly what _is_ the great impediment that prevents all this pool of people who badly want to talk to someone, from talking to each other?

    I mean, really. You want to talk to someone. They want to talk to someone. Some even desperately. I'm obviously missing something, because to me it sounds like the problem is its own solution. Surely if you're that badly in need of social interaction, you can tolerate another willing interlocutor for an hour or two even if their personality isn't exactly bride/groom class. What _is_ preventing it?

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    A polar bear is a cartesian bear after a coordinate transform.
    1. Re:Huh? by elrous0 · · Score: 1

      It's very difficult in real life to just walk up to someone out of the blue and strike up a conversation without being thought of as some kind of weirdo. Hot women and handsome guys in romantic comedies can get away with that kind of stuff. But try that on most people in RL and they'll think there is something wrong with you.

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      SJW: Someone who has run out of real oppression, and has to fake it.
    2. Re:Huh? by BobMcD · · Score: 2, Interesting

      Dude, I'm an aspie...I mean, really. You want to talk to someone. They want to talk to someone. Some even desperately. I'm obviously missing something, because to me it sounds like the problem is its own solution. Surely if you're that badly in need of social interaction, you can tolerate another willing interlocutor for an hour or two even if their personality isn't exactly bride/groom class. What _is_ preventing it?

      My understanding of the spectrum disorders, from learning to care for my son, is that you folks don't necessarily perceive and/or feel things the same way most other people do. If you'd agree with that, then chances are your confusion comes from your condition. They might likely fear the pain of rejection and/or disappointment MORE than they are suffering under the desperation of being alone. Because if they try and fail, they're alone and desperate and unable to fix it. Trying would remove their hope, should they fail.

      From what I understand, you'd be blessed to never have to grapple with these kinds of absurd doubts that the rest of us are ruled by...

      And if I've assumed incorrectly, I apologize in advance.

    3. Re:Huh? by Moraelin · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Basically it just means being completely oblivious to any body language clues or cues, much in the same someone colour-blind might not even be aware that someone dyed their hair blue. It's a mixed blessing. On one hand it is the obvious handicap, on the other hand for example I see some people fall for the most blatantly bogus sales pitches and can only assume that some body signal was giving them confidence there.

      It doesn't really mean anything else, though. You can still be an aspie extrovert (oy vey) or introvert (count your blessings) for example.

      It _does_ have a very high co-morbidity rate with, well, practically any other mental condition or syndrome in the DSM. So someone could be aspie + ADHD, another one could be aspie + sociopath, yet another aspie + OCPD (seems a popular combination, actually), and so on. So YMMV and conclusions from observing one may not match another one, since you may be observing the other part actually, rather than the aspie part.

      It does lead to perceiving stuff differently, in as much as missing you're missing a whole information channel from the input. Which can lead to some wildly inadequate remarks at times. But otherwise basically, if you prick us, we still bleed, same as anyone else. Being told to fuck off still hurts like it hurts anyone else, for example. And expecting rejection is, far as I can tell, still expecting rejection. I'm certainly not immune to that. Just not being able to tell when I said something that offended, didn't mean I didn't notice some kids avoided me in school, for example. If anything, for a long while it just made it seem even more unfair for lack of a logical reason why they're avoiding me or trying to basically chase me off.

      But the point I was getting at was more like "don't tell _me_ I don't know about problems with finding an audience."

      Though the flip side is that even as an aspie you _can_ learn to function adequately in society by, basically, just learning what you're expected to do and what not to do. And some honest introspection helps too. E.g., one thing I had to learn the hard way was that people like it when you agree with them. ELIZA mode ftw. E.g., that a conversation is not a monologue. People want their turn to be listened to. E.g., that when someone complains about some problem, they want sympathy, not a logical solution. (Obviously I'm ignoring that one for the purpose and scope of this thread.) E.g., what makes people laugh. (Laughter I do 'sense'.) Etc.

      Basically if even I can learn when to offer a shoulder to cry on, I find it hard to believe that someone else -- regardless of age -- would be totally and utterly incapable of holding a conversation with anyone else. I honestly have a problem imagining a room full of people who are desperate enough to even try to chat up the cashier, yet are incapable of talking to each other. Surely you can find someone there who you can tolerate to listen to about her children or such, for a limited time. Maybe it's my limited imagination, though.

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      A polar bear is a cartesian bear after a coordinate transform.
    4. Re:Huh? by BobMcD · · Score: 1

      It does lead to perceiving stuff differently, in as much as missing you're missing a whole information channel from the input. Which can lead to some wildly inadequate remarks at times. But otherwise basically, if you prick us, we still bleed, same as anyone else. Being told to fuck off still hurts like it hurts anyone else, for example. And expecting rejection is, far as I can tell, still expecting rejection. I'm certainly not immune to that. Just not being able to tell when I said something that offended, didn't mean I didn't notice some kids avoided me in school, for example. If anything, for a long while it just made it seem even more unfair for lack of a logical reason why they're avoiding me or trying to basically chase me off.

      Now tell me if I'm being nit-picky here, but you seem to have phrased the difference in exactly what I was referring to:

      me - fearing rejection

      you - expecting rejection

      Expecting it is one thing. You probably will not get that job you applied for, and it will suck to have to keep looking. Fear, however, is more along the lines of thinking they're all going to have a great laugh at your expense, right in front of you.

      By your colorblind example, it follows that the experience in general wouldn't be as painful, at least in the moment. You might not perceive the cues that you were failing miserably, nor suffer the panic of trying to fix it and seeing that fail as well.

      It isn't so much finding the audience for success as it is finding one to avoid horrible emotional suffering.

      Maybe I'm not explaining myself well, but that was essentially what I was driving at...

    5. Re:Huh? by Moraelin · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Well, my phrasing obviously sucked, and it does create the semantic difference you correctly identified. But basically I don't expect failure every single time, or, you know, I wouldn't even try anything ever. But I think everyone is aware that there is the possibility of failure, and specificially the possibility of rejection, and one may have various degrees of anxiety or fight-or-flight reaction or whatever apropriate. I can't speak for all aspies, of course, but I've certainly been affraid that something could go wrong before. It doesn't look to me like it comes with some inherent immunity to fear.

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      A polar bear is a cartesian bear after a coordinate transform.
  32. And just to add... by Moraelin · · Score: 1

    I also wanted to add that there are sites and MMOs and IRC channels for just about any interest group imaginable, if that's more tolerable for you than in-person dealing with another lonely senior or your set of interests is particularly under-represented in your area. If you can label your hobby or fetish in less than 50 characters, chances are there's at least one IRC channel and one newsgroup/mailing list about it. Or you can organize a casual player guild on the MMO of your choice, or whatever.

    So, seriously, if someone is on the internet and capable of posting a complaint about how lonely they are, why wouldn't they be there?

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    A polar bear is a cartesian bear after a coordinate transform.
  33. Rental sisters by TheLink · · Score: 1
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  34. Just what I need! by Locke2005 · · Score: 1

    How much do I have to pay these people to lose PvP deathmatches against me?

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    I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
  35. The Famous Mensa Test by jeko · · Score: 1

    1. Are you smart enough to get in?

    2. Are you smart enough to quit?

    Bonus: Are you smart enough to take one look at the group of self-absorbed wankers and run like Hell?

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    He put his boots up on the table and made a face. "The sig," he smirked. "You can waste your life in search of the sig."
  36. See also: Rent a Friend (2000) by Tinctorius · · Score: 1
  37. Thanks by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I'm busy. My old friends are busy too. Family life is great but I must censor myself constantly. So if I want an anonymous companion to chit-chat with for an hour I am a creepy lowlife? Great. Thanks. Enjoy that ulcer, Buddy. You earned it.