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Russia Bans Pornhub, YouPorn - Tells Citizens To Meet Someone In Real Life (arstechnica.com)
Russia has blocked two of the biggest porn websites. The Russian state watchdog Roskomnadzor, which oversees internet in the country, announced that it was blockeing Pornhub and YouPorn. When a Russian citizen asked on Twitter about an alternative, it replied; "as an alternative you can meet someone in real life,". From a report: The regulator dropped the banhammer on Tuesday, applying rules which had previously been imposed by two separate regional courts. Any Russian citizen visiting PornHub or YouPorn is now redirected to a simple message telling them that the sites have been blocked "by decision of public authorities." Sexually explicit material isn't illegal in the country, but according to the BBC's Vitaliy Shevchenko, the law confusingly appears to ban "the illegal production, dissemination, and advertisement of pornographic materials and objects."
No dates, no nagging, no money spent on dates, no diseases.... Poor russians will have to use proxies I guess.
Good thing for those Russian officials that PornHub was the only naughty picture site on the entire internet....
Just cruising through this digital world at 33 1/3 rpm...
Paying a real prostitute for sex will benefit Russia economy instead of sending your money to overseas porn sites. Russian fellows, remember to use protection.
To hack into Bill Clintons porn stash
As Pornhub is also used for non-porn videos because no one else is willing to show them. So those dangerous subversive ideas would be blocked.
Bigger companies like YouTube the government and negotiate with and get whatever they feel like blocked. But having a high ranking minister talking to the CEO of a Porn company will not be good politically.
If something is so important that you feel the need to post it on the internet... It probably isn't that important.
I dunno man, herpes seems a lot sadder than a lonely fap every now and again ...
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Russian State Watchdog to Citizens: "We invented vodka for a reason. Go outside and get laid!"
Thanks for sharing your sincerely felt non-troll opinion. It's really interesting. In Russia, Dear Leader Putin does what He likes, and in this case, he doesn't like PornHub. Boo, PornHub!
I do not want your cheap brainburning drugs. They are useless for work. And I am a working man today.
a thick-thighed horse-hung Brazilian tranny and take her out for coffee?
I, like many non-USians, find it really fucking bizarre how Americans react to a nipple versus how they react to someone getting their head hacked off. The former, BAD, the latter, meh. Facebook's policy is a case in point.
I do not want your cheap brainburning drugs. They are useless for work. And I am a working man today.
Well then what the fuck are you doing here?
I do not want your cheap brainburning drugs. They are useless for work. And I am a working man today.
But what about other entertainment? Watching people kill each other is sad too. Go meet someone real and kill them.
How can I believe you when you tell me what I don't want to hear?
You know the source domain of a link is shown after the link, right?
I do not want your cheap brainburning drugs. They are useless for work. And I am a working man today.
did you notice the story in not about the USA?
There are plenty of people in Russia and the rest of the world who are unable to 'meet someone else' regardless of time/money/effort involved. The fat, the ugly, the smelly, the severely anxious, the obviously crazy, the unwittingly creepy, etc. You think if having actual sex was attainable (never mind affordable or remotely worth the effort) that porn would even exist? It's where people go when they can't get any real action. Sure, for some it's just fap fodder because they struck out at the bar or their booty calls were busy. For others, it's all the sex life they have.
I expect violence in Russia to increase shortly.
And the rest of porn sites? Why are these two singled out? What's the sense of banning just two?
Rome taught me patience and assiduous application to detail. Virtues which temper the boldness of great, general views.
Those aren't the only two choices...
#DeleteChrome
I met one, and she's fun, but every once in a while, about once a month, she needs a break for a few days. I find that's a good time to get to know the wonderful world of internet again.
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I like that Russian citizens are tweeting their government internet watchdog asking for porn site recommendations. And getting a snarky answer. That's hilarious to me.
Porn is the only answer to the question "What do you do if no woman wants to meet YOU?"
SJW: Someone who has run out of real oppression, and has to fake it.
Yeah. I did. I mentioned Putin in an earlier comment. What's your point? You think the person I'm replying to is Russian, do you?
I do not want your cheap brainburning drugs. They are useless for work. And I am a working man today.
Do you think the people watching porn wouldn't prefer a real woman if they had the OPTION? Some of us would love to meet a real woman, have sex, fall in love, etc. The problem is that no real woman wants to meet, have sex, or fall in love with *US*.
SJW: Someone who has run out of real oppression, and has to fake it.
Man, them circles are HUGE. And that line-thin waist, GOT DAM!
The article is kind of useless, it doesn't say what technology is being used to block websites.
This article is a little better. The government keeps a central database of websites that should be blocked (or sometimes just individual pages, from what I understand).
Each ISP (or network operator) is required to download the database of blocked pages, and get updates every day. Many of the ISPs don't have real filtering capability, so they just block the website at the IP level. If they don't block the content (and some don't), then they get a fine.
"First they came for the slanderers and i said nothing."
> What the ugly and/or poor men should do?
Obviously you're joking, but your comment reminded me of something. If you're ugly, broke, and can write quicksort in at least two languages, you can get laid all the time. I'm ugly, I was broke. I couldn't get girls.
Then I learned *how* to meet women. I RTFM about what really attracts most women, not just in the first 10 seconds but in conversation. I was amazed to find that I could *learn* how to get dates, that my face and my bank weren't the crucial factors. If you can learn how to write quicksort, you can learn how to get dates. I dated a *lot* of women, until I found my one-in-a-million.
One day I may finish writing my book "Dating for Nerds" or whatever I call it.
"Fapping to someone else having sex is the ultimate sadness."
I can well imagine that there are worse things. At least in this situation you know your sex drive works.
Still waiting on Serviscope_minor to wake up to fucking reality and realize that Jessica Price isn't going to fuck him.
I'm married, happy, and watch porn with my SO. As for what the fuck I'm doing here, I'm here laughing at your specific type while I'm waiting on my next VoIP consultation to happen.
What the fuck are YOU doing here? Probably being lonely and mad at others who have a life.
Still waiting on Serviscope_minor to wake up to fucking reality and realize that Jessica Price isn't going to fuck him.
Banning is useless. The offensive material will just move elsewhere. Vaya con dios PornHub. Viva RedTube!!!
Buncha fucking jerkoffs!!! Don't shoot your own wad in your eye.
My first program:
Hell Segmentation fault
Wait, What?
There's a manual?
File under 'M' for 'Manic ranting'
So they're becoming more like the UK. How awful!
All the women seem to be fighting over a handful of rich good-looking guys. I don't think there are any left for us fat poor guys.
The worst part about being fat and poor is that wonderful moment when you think a woman is actually interested (finally! horray!) and you ask her out, only to find out she was just being friendly. I bet that never happens to George Clooney.
SJW: Someone who has run out of real oppression, and has to fake it.
http://pikabu.ru/story/eshche_... :D
The image says: "Come on over - it still works in Belarus". About the most epic thing to come out of Belarus in recent memory...
You first.
SJW: Someone who has run out of real oppression, and has to fake it.
A lack of sex drive would actually be better for many: You can stop caring about it, and get on with productive things.
The worst is the single person: You have a deep instinct lodged in your brain, always whispering to go seek a mate, sometimes screaming "GO GET LAID NOW!" It distracts you, it frustrates you, it makes focusing on anything else a challenge, and you can never escape it. You can at least quiet it for a while with porn and masturbation, but it will always return.
Soon everyone in the country will know how to bypass the blocks.
"Just go out and meet someone"
First of all, I have a strong suspicion that "just going out and meeting someone" would be considered a far worse option by my wife than porn watching, just sayin'.
Second, even if I were single, there's no equivalence there. If I go out and meet someone... and by meet someone I mean find someone attractive and stare at them while publicly masturbating, as one might hypothetically do with porn, that's going to be A) probably unsatisfying for me B) almost certainly more than a little bit awkward for them, and C) illegal in most places.
Meeting people and romance and love and actual sex and all that fun stuff is great, but that's not what porn is about. It's like saying "I'm hungry, and you've taken away all the food." "Well, why don't you go out and buy a jacket?" Sure clothing and food fall in the same general category of "necessities", but that doesn't make them interchangeable.
Pound! Bang! Bin! Bash! is this a shell script or a Batman comic?
In Soviet Russia, porn bans you!
"A plan fiendishly clever in its intricacies"- Homer Simpson
But what about other entertainment? Watching people kill each other is sad too. Go meet someone real and kill them.
Been there, done that, got the bloody gloves to prove it. Too damn bad they don't fit no more.
- OJ Simson.
If you think I voted for Trump because of this post, you're wrong. I voted for Dr. Jill Stein of the Green Party. Again.
Like so many things, the primary reason is historical. I guess you have never heard of the Puritans? They were very strict about individual piety and they violently persecuted other non-Puritan Christians. While the Puritans are long gone, they still have a cultural legacy in the United States to this day.
If you see a movie scene that shows a guy's head being hacked off, do you believe it really happened?
If you see a movie scene that shows a guy sucking a woman't breast, do you believe it really happened?
I agree that Americans are prudes, but don't pretend the two situations are the same.
If you think I voted for Trump because of this post, you're wrong. I voted for Dr. Jill Stein of the Green Party. Again.
Vodka is a Polish invention
You have two other options.
1) Improve yourself.
2) Lower your standards/expectations.
I strongly recommend a lot of #1, and probably at least a little of #2. The internet discovered #1 about 20 years ago, then refined and weaponized it, so there is plenty of self-help material available.
See that "Preview" button?
I think it's unlikely that no woman in the entire world would want you. Some people really are insufferable, but it's a very small minority.
The real problem is that finding someone who wants you is hard. Dating sites are terrible for most guys, because the male/female ratio is extremely high and thus women have the pick of the most physically attractive and wealthy guys.
It's also about having realistic expectations. We would all love to date an insanely hot engineer who can hold a great conversation, but waiting for her will lead to a life of loneliness. No one is perfect, least of all you, so be prepared to be realistic and tolerant of a few flaws.
It helps if you relax and try not to worry about it.
const int one = 65536; (Silvermoon, Texture.cs)
SJW, n: "Someone I don't like, and by the way I'm a fuckwit" - AC
I was reading a forum post about prostitution some time ago and a woman who was for prohibition essentially said (not with these words of course) that if men could get sex from prostitutes they would put less effort in seducing proper women. Yeah, you read it right, she was against prositution because it hurt her chances of meeting her blue prince.
If you think about it, it's the same reason (some) women talk badly about other women that they think give out sex too easily. i.e.: without a sufficient commitment (financial, sentimental, etc.) from the man they're having sex with.
The trick is to be friendly and supportive first, so she gets to know you. Dating someone you know is not an asshat is quite attractive, for a start, but there's even more to it than that.
You know how when you see a character in a TV show week after week and start to find them attractive, but then years later catch a rerun and can't seem to recall what you liked about them? Familiarity and getting to know them and their story is attractive, even if they are not stunningly good looking or your normal "type".
const int one = 65536; (Silvermoon, Texture.cs)
SJW, n: "Someone I don't like, and by the way I'm a fuckwit" - AC
I'm afraid that "meeting someone" doesn't necessarily mean you're going to get laid. And I say that as someone with tons of experience being in dating situations where I was essentially "friend-zoned" -- I'm not a bad person, I'm not a slob, I don't smell bad, nothing is wrong with me physically.
However, that said, I am self-deprecating. And because I'm not a typical alpha male, women are able to smell the desperation apparently.
Let's face it -- woman have sex to "keep their man", so he won't wander off and find someone else. In my situation, the women are well-aware that I won't wander off, so they have no problem dating me, but never actually doing anything beyond having dinner and going to the movies.
So, Russia can go stick it. Men are still going to need porn and prostitutes, because majority of the female population isn't necessarily into them.
If telephones are outlawed, then only outlaws will have telephones.
Is that what your wife says to you when you want to watch?
Il n'y a pas de Planet B.
The problem is that no real woman wants to meet, have sex, or fall in love with *US*.
I call lazy BS. Porn usage is a complex subject, but the bottom line is usually the following, IMO: Porn is easy (and mostly free). Relationships are hard (and usually expensive).
Take a chance, bro. Going through the growing pains of a relationship is more than worth it to have a mate you can love in every way.
I'm willing to bet Russia is trying to manage it's fertility rate. It was as low as 1.59 children per woman in 2012, closer to 1.75 recently. 1.59 is rather low in terms of maintaining your population.
Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms should be the name of a store, not a government agency.
I met one, and she's fun, but every once in a while, about once a month, she needs a break for a few days.
You should meet her sister during those few days.
"That's the way to do it" - Punch
They blocked .001% of the available porn! What shall those poor Russians do!?
Dating sites are terrible for most guys, because the male/female ratio is extremely high and thus women have the pick of the most physically attractive and wealthy guys.
Fortunately, I've not had to use a dating site ever because I married the right woman early in my adulthood! However, I have 2 stats for you. 1 is disheartening, the other may be encouraging.
First, disheartening for all those guys not have sex. 20% of all guys have 80% of all the sex.
Now the encouraging statistic. Men might out-number women in your age bracket; however, I read an article not too long ago that said that once you hit late-thirties, men get more success than women from dating apps. The reason for this is 2 fold. 1) Women are more likely to date older men than men dating older women- so age works in your advantage. 2) Women are more interested in finding a man as they age.
So yeah, 20's and 30's you have a lot more competition- numbers work in favour of the ladies... By the time you're in your 40's the girls will be fighting over you!
"That's the way to do it" - Punch
Or get a dog. One that doesn't have a temper or sharp teeth.
"That's the way to do it" - Punch
The male Russian life expectancy is actually around 64. It dipped mid 90s but has rebounded up to 64.7.
Watching explicit acts online makes me want to perform explicit acts with the Mrs MORE not LESS.
"That's the way to do it" - Punch
Maybe. I think, rather, he's merely worried about one of his home-videos appearing there and him not looking as "manly" as the fellows in the other videos. He's worried he's too short.
Solution! They can just order one of those mail-order Russian Brides! They'd save a ton on shipping! ;-)
You offer good advice if the goal is to be friendzoned.
By the time you're in your 40's the girls will be fighting over you!
As someone in his 40's, I can assure you that that is NOT the case.
SJW: Someone who has run out of real oppression, and has to fake it.
I can assure you that I'm looking for a real relationship, not some porn slut to "cater to my every sexual craving." But being poor and unattractive, I can't find either. Apparently, I'm to women what garlic is to vampires. Again, not a problem George Clooney has to deal with, I'm sure.
SJW: Someone who has run out of real oppression, and has to fake it.
Neither is an actual option, merely a distant chance for an option.
Porn, on the other hand, is available.
"It's such a fine line between stupid and clever" -- David St. Hubbins, Spinal Tap
Paying some glorified prostitute to come over and let me fuck her and buy her jewelry until she can get her green card and leave me isn't exactly my idea of a relationship. And anyway, I'm poor so even that's not an option.
SJW: Someone who has run out of real oppression, and has to fake it.
Preface: I am married and reasonably happily.
Women are incongruent with men in most cases, once you get past the hormone stage of needing a sexual partner. You can see this in the divorce rates and marriage rates.
The overoptimism in the article about divorce rates is counteracted by the much lower marriage rates in younger cohorts of the population. With that said, a lot of people are living together without doing the marriage thing, which is fine, and not captured in the statistics. But I have two takeways. First, people aren't pairing up as consistently as in the past, by a relatively large number. Second, the very reason people aren't marrying (or pairing up) is that they want to be free to move on when they think it is time - ie, not making a lifelong commitment.
Women have to blame something for this, for the idea of having a lifelong partner is an ingrained female desire. Just anecdotally, I have a lot of sisters and two daughters - every one of them wants a long term relationship with a man with the same passion a geek has for his geekery. And they're not finding as many takers now as in the 80s, just a bunch of guys wanting a quick fuck. Porn is one place women could lay the blame, though I don't think that is correct. They are switching cause and effect. The porn is a substitute to take care of the hormonal desires. The reason men don't want to pair up with them long term is that it isn't seen as a value proposition.
Examining why having a wife isn't considered a value proposition for most men is going to turn up some interesting data. I don't think there is a silver bullet here, but the tendency over the last fifty years for the law to favor women in _all_ disputes relating to marriage probably didn't help. Another issue is that having children isn't considered a value proposition, either, and that was a significant justification for marriage in the past.
HBI's Law: Frequency of calling others Nazis is directly correlated with the likelihood of the accuser being Communist.
and ukrainian virgins eager to have sex with porn watchers, I am sure these men will have a good time. /s
Sounds like a "honey badger". They are women who buy into the red-pill philosophy that women have a sexual market value, and prostitution devalues their vaginas. Since a women's only value is her sexual market value (everything else, like child barring ability and cooking skill stems from that) they often oppose anything that makes them less desirable as sexual servants for red-pill men.
const int one = 65536; (Silvermoon, Texture.cs)
SJW, n: "Someone I don't like, and by the way I'm a fuckwit" - AC
Jeez, if they had banned porn AND video games I would be a doctor right now. Probably. Never underestimate the human brain's capacity for slacking off :)
Being an "Escort Wagon", I can presume what other options you're talking about...
For many years, a very prominent, high-traffic billboard in downtown Houston had a picture of an attractive girl in evening-wear and in large print "Need an Escort?" In smaller print it had "or a Taurus? Come to this Ford dealership!". It was a landmark, in more ways than one.
Socialism: a lie told by totalitarians and believed by fools.
Come on over and blow me!
Hey, it was THEIR idea, not mine!
We used to have a Bill of Rights. Now, with the rights gone, all we have left is the bill.
OK, I don't claim to understand any MRA terminology, but the red pill was the one that allowed you to escape the matrix, right? So those playing the normal dating game are the blue pills, and those who say "fuck that, it's not worth the drama" are the red pills, no?
Socialism: a lie told by totalitarians and believed by fools.
Well, you could still meet men, but that's something Russia is also not happy about, there just ain't no pleasing the Russkies.
We used to have a Bill of Rights. Now, with the rights gone, all we have left is the bill.
Plus what will happen to all those horny Russian women who are desperate to meet me?
Calling someone a "hater" only means you can not rationally rebut their argument.
Try man man, works for me
I thought it was invented by a little old lady in Leningrad.
And there arent any problems that come from a large population segment of frustrated people. Keep feeling entitled.
Don't waste your money. Damned things always show up dead in the box.
I totally agree. I did what Amijojo suggested for years, and I had a lot of girl-friends (friends who were girls).
Later, I started spending about 25 seconds on friendly before switching to flirty, than curious, then busy but curious. That worked. *I* am nothing special, but I eventually found an *approach* which really works.
The basic pattern is:
Friendly: make a joke or two.
Curious: Ask about her, some special jewelry she's wearing or whatever. Note *be* curious, don't *pretend* to be curious. Ask how her day is going and actually listen to the answer. From there find something you'd wouldn't mind listening to her talk about for 5 minutes - maybe you find out she's writing a dissertation or a book. That could be interesting.
Busy: Glance at your watch, tell an incoming caller you'll call them back, or even better get interrupted by a passerby (or two) saying hi.
Busy but curious: "I have to get going because some people are waiting on me, but I'd really like to talk to you some more. I'd like to hear more about (topic you discovered). This is a pretty busy week for me, but I think I can get away for an hour at lunch, maybe Wednesday or Thursday. Do you have an hour to grab some lunch later this week?"
The wording of the last bit is quoted because there are a lot of aspects to why those exact words are chosen, in that order. I stated twice that the proposed lunch is an hour, she's not committing to a long evening of a potentially bad date. Also, I only have an hour; I'm a bust man, with important things going on. Busy enough that I have to leave now, I'm breaking off the conversation. That is, there's no worry that I'll become an annoyance whom she'll have trouble getting rid of - if she's not interested, there are other people already waiting for me, probably because those other people like being around me, because I'm a likable guy.
Is this a bit manipulative? Maybe, though I do try to actually mean what I say, to be interested in what she says as opposed to being fake, pretending. Some guys use their money to attract women, other guys use their muscles, I used my brain. If that's bad, so be it.
I'd think quite the opposite. If these people actually go outside and try to meet people, they'll be buying new clothes to look nice and buying things like food, clothes, flowers, and gifts for their new boyfriends and girlfriends.
Think of the long term possibilities as well! Once they get someone preggers, now you're going to be spending even bigger money on baby food, clothes, and toys. They might even buy bigger houses and minivans as well.
It's almost like Putin and Co. just invented the "stop playing with yourself" economic stimulus plan! Low birthrate nations like Norway should be taking notes!
I agree. It is simply not true (as someone turning 40)
russians do that all the time, don't they
Porn kills ones ability to love.
Fapping to someone else having sex is the ultimate sadness. Russia is right. Go meet a real human.
Somehow, Russia is a more religious and moral country than the West these days
That sounds a lot harder than playing Quake in your parents basement.
Laws are rules for the court, but merely a bottom bar to hit for life. Think beyond laws in your actions always.
I don't think there are any left for us fat poor guys.
Reading between the lines, it sounds like you're not entirely happy with yourself here. It's very difficult to get someone to like you if you don't like yourself. Possibly the first step is to temporarily put dating on the back burner and concentrate on improving things for you and only you, not for potentially someone else.
SJW n. One who posts facts.
A fair amount of it is actually more generic. It's not so much what attracts women but what makes you the kind of person that other people want to spend time with.
SJW n. One who posts facts.
...YouPorn watches...um...no. Not anymore.
Sorry. Never mind. Damn.
I've calculated my velocity with such exquisite precision that I have no idea where I am.
Sounds like someone majored in 'gender studies' rather than STEM. Any regrets?
They have stopped reproducing, and the government is desperately seeking ways of improving the birth rate.
Maybe you should lift weights? Maybe you should dress better? Maybe you should improve your social skills/charisma?
All of the above will improve your ability to attract women. Two of those three will probably involve some real suffering (physical or mental) on your part, but the results are worth it. I know because I worked through the same process myself about 6-7 years ago. If you recognize that you are unsatisfactory in your current state......change your state.
The 'real woman' and anti-porn bits are common feminist diatribes.
You're confusing it with The Snowden Sleeper Cell plan.
lucm, indeed.
I'm married, happy, and watch porn with my SO.
Wow, I haven't been on StackOverflow for awhile, looks like it has changed a lot.
lucm, indeed.
If you're ugly, broke, and can write quicksort in at least two languages, you can get laid all the time.
Does your quicksort/conversation formula works for people who are into midget pegging, shemale femdom and public Asian groping? If not I'll stick with pornhub for now.
lucm, indeed.
> Reading between the lines, it sounds like you're not entirely happy with yourself here. It's very difficult to get someone to like you if you don't like yourself.
Absolutely. Actually he's a pretty cool guy, he's funny and has some good common sense. If he was reminded of *that* just before he struck up a conversation with a lady, his tone and manner might convey that, reading between the lines she might get the impression that he's a an interesting, fun guy to talk to. If he's thinking "I'm fat, ugly, and women don't like me", that'll also come through. Whether he says it or not, she'll hear it loud and clear - and probably believe it.
I've started perusing Doctor Nerd Love and he seems to have pretty logical advice. Are you familiar with the site? Would you say your experiences and advice match his?
'He who has to break a thing to find out what it is, has left the path of wisdom.' -- Gandalf to Saruman
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I RTFM about what really attracts most women, not just in the first 10 seconds but in conversation.
What conversation? The most "conversation" I get from most women* is them saying like "Fuck off". Takes less than 10 seconds. I've always been well off and not even ugly; I just don't look like Brad Pitt, and you cannot very well walk around with a flag on your hat saying how much you earn. I never had a conversation with a girl my own age until I was 25, not counting the "fuck offs".
* Only exceptions are ones I've met via dating clubs. When you meet them by arrangement in meatspace they are in a somewhat "captive" situation so they converse at least for a while.
Okay, so whatever you used to do in the first ten seconds approach didn't work. Four suggestions for the first ten seconds:
Make a joke. Not a wholly inappropriate joke.
In a store, ask "is that a good ice cream?", or whatever she's buying. (Though buying ice cream at or other frozen desserts at night tends to correlate with being receptive to converstation).
If she's not alone, initially include the less attractive lady or the male member of group in the first 10 seconds. When saying hi to a pair of ladies, it would be rude to ignore one. For a group, you want the male's tacit approval to strike up a converstation with the ladies of the group.
I wasn't familiar with doctornerdlove, but I was curious what you were talking about so I just read two of his posts. I was generally nodding in agreement with those two.
The first one I read was his post about being nervous that you'll be awkward, a self-fullfilling prophecy:
http://www.doctornerdlove.com/...
I don't disgaree with what he says; I will add a specific instruction, a process, for how to avoid it. Whenever I was in line, at the grocery store or whatever, I would make conversation with whomever was behind me, in front of me, and the cashier. 90% of the time it wasn't a lady I was attracted to. Maybe it's a grandma 30 years older than me, maybe a couple of frat guys, firefighters getting groceries for the fire station, whatever. There was much less nervousness complimenting granny's necklace or joking around with frat guys than the same approach with an attractive lady. After 30 days of talking to six people per day, I had struck up conversations with 180 strangers. This was fun in itself; waiting in line is less boring when grandma is telling you about the time she met Elvis. Eventually I was in line behind a lady who looked mildly attractive, and I did exactly the same thing I had done 180 times before. What's there to be nervous about - I do this all day, every day.
The only difference when she's attractive is the closing line, and I know I won't be awkward with that because I know ahead of time exactly what I'll say "I have to get going, but I'd really like to continue this conversation. This week is pretty busy for me, but I think I can take an hour to go to lunch Wednesday or Thursday. Are you free for a quick lunch later this week?"
* After going to lunch with over 100 women, I chose the best one and married her, so I don't flirt much anymore. Now I occassionally apply the principles in other ways.
The problem arises (no pun) if watching a lot of porn makes a man prefer a real, super hot, young, extremely sexual woman.
Mod this up
I think it's unlikely that no woman in the entire world would want you....The real problem is that finding someone who wants you is hard.
Exactly, it's a communication problem. Like the tragedy of the commons, it is the arse-hats who foul up the system, like scam dating websites, double-talking jocks, gold-digging women etc.
We would all love to date an insanely hot engineer who can hold a great conversation
Stop when you said "engineer", by which I assume you meant an intelligent high-ish earner. Drop that requirement and the field is much wider. I got on best with working-class girls who were somewhat dimmer than most - those self-aware of this compensate by trying harder to be attractive and sexy, and tend to be impressed by a guy much better off and from outside their own social plane. More intelligent girls tend to have tedious issues like advocating vegetarianism or Esparanto, while "duller" girls will be happy to go along with whatever their guy wants.
I never expected or wanted an intellectual sparring partner.
Not the only. For example, you can join ISIS on hopes of getting some sex slaves of your own. There are some theories that polygamy (so fewer available females), combined with harsh attitudes towards porn and homosexuality, is what drives a lot of extremist recruiting among young males in Islamic countries.
There are plenty of real women who want to have sex with you. The problem is that you consider them subpar and unacceptable as a mate, because they're not pretty enough. And then, ironically, whine that the women who you want to have sex with you, consider you subpar and unacceptable as a mate.
Like women who don't sleep around, men who show 'maturity' (ie they don't sleep around either) are considered desirable.
I am not convinced of this in the sense which you mean it.
A philandering son is advantageous and more likely to be produced by a philandering father. The woman's general strategy then is to *marry* the non-philanderer who will support her and her children while philandering herself.
She *knows* the maternity of her children but the father cannot be so sure. This shows up with maternal grandparents being more generous than paternal grandparents.
What shorts this all out is medical tests which can reveal to the father whether the children are actually his. Women should be fighting against allowing paternity tests if they want to hold these advantages. In some cases the law already does this.
Now you know why they are so eager to marry Americans.
APK likes to ask for responses to the same things over and over. Maybe he just likes the responses?