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In Booming Job Market, Workers Are 'Ghosting' Their Employers (washingtonpost.com)

A notorious millennial dating practice is starting to creep into the workplace: ghosting. Employers are noticing with increasing frequency that workers are leaving their jobs by simply not showing up and cutting off contact with their companies [Editor's note: the link may be paywalled; syndicated source]. From a report: "A number of contacts said that they had been 'ghosted,' a situation in which a worker stops coming to work without notice and then is impossible to contact," the Federal Reserve Bank of Chicago noted in December's Beige Book, which tracks employment trends. National data on economic "ghosting" is lacking. The term, which usually applies to dating, first surfaced in 2016 on Dictionary.com. But companies across the country say silent exits are on the rise. Analysts blame America's increasingly tight labor market. Job openings have surpassed the number of seekers for eight straight months, and the unemployment rate has clung to a 49-year low of 3.7 percent since September. Janitors, baristas, welders, accountants, engineers -- they're all in demand, said Michael Hicks, a labor economist at Ball State University in Indiana. More people may opt to skip tough conversations and slide right into the next thing.

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  1. Well, what's good for the goose is good.... by froggyjojodaddy · · Score: 4, Insightful

    ... is good for the gander

    If your company is going to lay you off, it's not like they give you a whole lot of notice in most cases. You turn up for work, bright and eyed and bushy tailed, only to find a Manager and HR type waiting to give you some really bad news

    Sure, most places have severance, but it's not like they take your feelings into consideration so if employees are just up and leaving, that's behavior the corporation does all the time

    1. Re:Well, what's good for the goose is good.... by t0qer · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Have mod points, but I want some of this action today.

      >Sure, most places have severance, but it's not like they take your feelings into consideration so if employees are just up and leaving, that's behavior the corporation does all the time

      Oh I've had worse than that. Once worked for an IT outsourcing firm that was $20 in gas away from my house. Super early in my career, wasn't being paid much (I think $36k@year in 1998 or so)

      They *could* have just let me go over the phone and mailed a check. I KNEW they were letting me go, and I even said several times, "If you're calling me into the office to let me go, just do it over the phone, no reason to call me in"

      "No t0qer it isn't that, just stop by!" the owner said in a cheery voice. Came in, was fired. I raged out on my way out, flipping over chairs and spat on the owners car on my way out.

  2. at will employment goes both ways! by Joe_Dragon · · Score: 4, Insightful

    at will employment goes both ways!

    Fuck you bill I'm not working weekends after being told at 4:55 PM on Friday and go fuck your self and put that in the TPS report.

  3. Omg by Impy+the+Impiuos+Imp · · Score: 4, Funny

    Isn't this what your emergency contact is for? So they can contact your dad or brother and tell them you've dropped off the face of the earth, go to his house to see if he's dead in front of the computer, pantsdown.

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    1. Re:Omg by Nidi62 · · Score: 3, Interesting

      Isn't this what your emergency contact is for? So they can contact your dad or brother and tell them you've dropped off the face of the earth, go to his house to see if he's dead in front of the computer, pantsdown.

      I actually know someone this (similar) situation happened to. Guy didn't show up for work and no one could contact him which was out of his character. They send someone to check at his house and find him dead on the floor of a heart attack. Nice guy too.

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    2. Re:Omg by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Funny

      He really did ghost his employer.

  4. Burning bridges is not good for the resume by Lucas123 · · Score: 5, Informative

    While you may feel like a boss by not giving a notice to your former employer, there's a strong possibility it will come back to bite you in the arse when it's time for references.

  5. Burning Bridges by Only+Time+Will+Tell · · Score: 5, Insightful

    I'd be hesitant about using this practice, especially in small markets where everyone knows each other. Our college placement office had a story of a student who accepted an offer from a company but continued to go on interviews afterward. They got another offer, but the partners of the two companies (accounting firms) talked to each other and found out what happened and both rescinded their offers. If you get a reputation of being unreliable and leaving without any contact, it may haunt you in the next downturn. Two weeks isn't much time to stick it out, and if you have an immediate offer, at least tell the previous employer why (and probably expect to not work there again).

  6. Sorry, but no by SuperKendall · · Score: 5, Insightful

    If your company is going to lay you off, it's not like they give you a whole lot of notice in most cases.

    Do you WANT more companies to do that?

    If not why escalate like that?

    Telling other people you plan to leave, is just basic human decency.

    There is nothing good about either side giving the other one no warning about actions like this.

    Besides, the equivalent to what YOU are talking about it not a company laying you off unexpectedly. It's more like if you kept coming to work and after two weeks you just got no paycheck, and the company said "we fired you but dd not tell you".

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    1. Re:Sorry, but no by Darinbob · · Score: 3, Funny

      "We, uh, we fixed the glitch so he won't be receiving a paycheck anymore so it'll just work itself out naturally. We always like to avoid conrontation whenever possible. The problem is solved from your end."

    2. Re:Sorry, but no by garcia · · Score: 3, Interesting

      I recently went to a competitor. I knew theyâ(TM)d walk me out the door ceremoniously. I saved myself the embarrassment and the company the assholishness and just resigned off-site and walked away.

      My team was ready with the news and knew what to do do nothing terrible happened but why should I submit myself to the horseshit just so we can all pretend weâ(TM)re all playing nice?

    3. Re:Sorry, but no by SuperKendall · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Telling other people you plan to ${ fire | lay off | downsize } them is just basic human decency.

      Yes, and most companies I have been at do that, or at least give a decent severance to anyone let go.

      So your point was????

      Gee, that makes me wonder what kind of relationship employees have who just stop showing up.

      It doesn't make me wonder at all. Those employees are assholes, plain and simple. It doesn't matter what the company is like, you do what you do because of who YOU ARE, not because of who THEY ARE.

      If the company are an asshole and you think you are just being an asshole back by leaving without saying anything - guess what, you are BOTH assholes.

      Don't be an asshole. it will be remembered, forever, by all non-assholes that work there.

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    4. Re:Sorry, but no by sjames · · Score: 3, Insightful

      On the other hand, plenty of 38 hr/week "part-time" employees have gotten the old you're not fired, you just didn't get any hours this week and we don't think you'll get any next week either treatment.

  7. That reasoning creates a race to the bottom by Solandri · · Score: 5, Insightful

    If everyone adopts your reasoning, employees will quit without giving notice. Employers will let employees go without severance or adequate notice.

    For the best outcome, everyone has to be considerate of each other. Employers have to give employees adequate notice, and provide severance to help carry the ex-employee through while they find another job. Employees have to give their employers adequate notice, and wrap up their projects and help train their replacement employee before they leave.

    Also, being a jerk to a company you work at just because another company screwed you over, is no different from a company being a jerk to an employee just because another employee screwed them over. Again, that sort of behavior just creates a race to the bottom, and is in fact the basis of all discrimination. Retribution needs to target the company or individual who wronged you, not someone else who just happens to belong to the same class, type, race, gender, etc.

    1. Re:That reasoning creates a race to the bottom by dirk · · Score: 4, Insightful

      While I agree in theory with what you are saying, as the article says, this is a new thing for workers to ghost employers. In the past, most people have given notice and it is still not uncommon for companies to lay off/fire people without notice or severance. So the idea that people giving notice will make employers act better has been tried and failed. The fact is, companies can and do fire people without notice or severance, so why should employees not "fire" the companies in the same way?If a company is unhappy with you they just cut you off, if you are unhappy with your employer, you should be able to do the same.

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  8. Repost by apoc.famine · · Score: 5, Informative

    Has anything changed from 6 months ago when we saw this story?

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    1. Re:Repost by Nidi62 · · Score: 5, Funny

      Has anything changed from 6 months ago when we saw this story?

      They had hired someone to make sure the mods never posted dupes, but they stopped showing up for work.

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  9. ANYONE by PortHaven · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Who in the recent decade of depression saw numerous companies a) let workers go with little to no warning and no compensation or b) witnessed the extremely common scenario where an employee informs their employer they are taking a new job, gives their two weeks notice, and are immediately escorted out the building and left with no job for two weeks.

    Companies keep trying to pull shit on employees. I don't think these greedy CEO's realize that there are consequences for their policies. If employers fail to respect 2 weeks notice, than they cannot expect their employees to do so. If corporations find every loophole and means to pay their employees less regardless of the effect on their employees. Than employers can't complain when those same folks keep jumping jobs for more money - if YOU make it ALL about money, than expect it to be all about MONEY.

    1. Re:ANYONE by TomBauserman · · Score: 3, Interesting

      If you give two weeks notice. Then these companies want to do an exit interview to figure out why you're leaving and make you feel guilty for leaving because you're not showing showing dedication to company and team spirit. Fuck them.

    2. Re: ANYONE by reanjr · · Score: 4, Insightful

      So just say, "I quit". No need to passively aggressively disappear, leading people on a social media chase to see if you're just dealing with a family emergency, or got hit by a car or whatever.

    3. Re:ANYONE by ShanghaiBill · · Score: 4, Interesting

      Then these companies want to do an exit interview to figure out why you're leaving and make you feel guilty

      I have never heard of an exit interview trying to make anyone feel guilty. If they are going to try to convince you to stay, that would happen before the exit interview.

      I have quit a few jobs. Each time I gave them a several page document that explained what I saw as the problems in their company and what I thought they should do to fix things. In at least one instance, many of my suggestions were implemented, and several of my ex-coworkers thanked me for writing the document, which management had circulated around the company.

      Try to be part of the solution, instead of just a whiner.

    4. Re:ANYONE by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Insightful

      THIS

      Twice in my life I have given 2 weeks notice at the end of a day.
      Twice in my life I was 'fired' the next morning.
      The assholes actually made me drive all the way into work, get in through the door, and THEN fired me with no pay for the lost time.

      Never again.
      Business (and the laws they buy) now reaps what it sows.

    5. Re:ANYONE by ShanghaiBill · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Why would you give sound, actionable, FREE advice to your shitty ex-employer.

      Because they actually weren't that shitty. They were trying to do the right thing, but just failing at it.

      There are plenty of people that need to learn to do their jobs better, but they are not malicious or uncaring, just incompetent.

      In Hollywood movies, bad things happen because evil people make them happen. Real life is rarely like that.

    6. Re:ANYONE by R3d+M3rcury · · Score: 3, Informative

      I've worked for companies that have given notice to employees that their jobs will be discontinued in n months. Re-orgs and the like. And I've never had a company escort me out on the day I turned in my two-week notice (at least without paying me).

      You're right--I've had days when I've come into work and I was laid off. Not a great day, granted. But at least they told me. Yes, the boss came into the conference room and said we were laid off, turned the meeting over to the HR person and walked out.

      Ghosting is sort of the equivalent of showing up at the front door and finding the company is no longer there. Or, worse yet, not telling you you're fired and hoping you'll just figure it out.

    7. Re:ANYONE by uncqual · · Score: 3, Interesting

      The WARN act in California only applies to layoffs/closures/relocations of more than some number/percentage of workers. It does not apply, for example, to individual "for cause" which is commonly used to get around the WARN acts - suddenly workers who have been getting good performance reviews for years, without warning, are told that their performance isn't good enough and they are being let go.Of course, this happens in waves that look suspiciously like layoffs by another name.

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    8. Re:ANYONE by ShanghaiBill · · Score: 4, Interesting

      You are naive. No company cares about you, they only care about money. If you provide ANYTHING to a company, you should demand payment for it.

      I have over 30 years of experience in tech, mostly in Silicon Valley, but also a few years working for defense contractors in northern Virginia, and several years in East Asia (China and Japan). I am not naive.

      During that time I have formed many deep friendships with managers, and with people I managed. The people at the companies I worked for certainly seemed to care about me, about my family, and about my professional development. Nearly everyone I have worked with has been decent and constructive.

      I have also met a few cynical shitheads who contribute nothing, and often get themselves into toxic situations that confirm their world view. You sound like one of these.

    9. Re:ANYONE by jpaine619 · · Score: 4, Insightful

      You are naive. No company cares about you, they only care about money. If you provide ANYTHING to a company, you should demand payment for it.

      How shitty of an employee are you? Most people (80%) are employed by small businesses. That's a statistical fact. I.e Most people aren't employed by someone they've never met. Most people work with their boss, or at least see him/her on a daily basis. i.e. they tend to build positive working relationships with their employer.

      If you're going through life thinking that your employer doesn't give a fuck, maybe you're right. Maybe they don't. But have you considered the possibility that you're choosing to work for shit companies or that you're just a shit lousy employee?

      What's the common element at the shit companies you've worked for? Is it you?

      It sounds to me that you are like the idiot on his 6th marriage complaining about how ALL women are assholes... One common element... YOURSELF.

    10. Re:ANYONE by Enigma2175 · · Score: 3, Informative

      Most people (80%) are employed by small businesses. That's a statistical fact.

      Are you just making up numbers? Just calling it a fact doesn't make it a fact. The Small Business Administration says that small businesses represent 49.2% of employment and 42.9% of payrolls. Do you have a source for your 80% number? It seems like the SBA would have pretty good statistics on something like that.

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  10. Back in the 1990s... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 4, Interesting

    Back in the 1990s, if you didn't switch employers every two or so years, you were considered someone who wasn't willing to "grow".
    After the dot.bomb crash, you were a job hopper.
    I never screwed over an employer - a couple screwed me over, though. But sticking to the high ground pays off. Future employers will realize they were dicks to you - some were ALSO screwed over - RIGHT fellow IBM'ers?!

    Follow the Golden Rule as Confucius wrote over 3,000 years ago, and it'll work out in the end.
    Yeah, there are some assholes out there who think you should sell your soul to your employer; but most? Nope.
    Give two weeks notice - if it's that horrible that you have to leave immediately, consult a labor attorney and then listen to his advice.

    Been through this shit and many asshole employers (And mostly great ones), and let me tell you, we workers are ALWAYS at a disadvantage.

  11. Re:Who would do this? by jellomizer · · Score: 4, Insightful

    <Platitudes>
    Try not to burn your bridges after you cross them. Because the grass only seems greener from the other side.
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    While there is an employment shortage, this isn't a long term issue, and the market will move from an employees market back to an employers market. So if that great new job you got turns sour (because they gave you too much more then what you are actually worth, because of employee scarcity) You may be out of a job, and the company that seemed to suck so much, may still have a spot for you, because its conservative investments meant such a turn in the market didn't hurt them as much.

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  12. Re:Who would do this? by Marxist+Hacker+42 · · Score: 3, Interesting

    Given that I've never even seen the same employer under 100 employees advertise the same job twice, it's pretty hard NOT to end up burning bridges, but this ghosting seems to take it to a whole new level.

    Although, for a salaried employee with automatic deposit whose manager isn't paying much attention, it could be a profitable move, as you'd likely get a couple of pay periods out before they notice your job isn't being done.

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  13. Re:100% by jellomizer · · Score: 5, Insightful

    I don't think people forget this at all. If you are professional, you want to leave with a good impression with the company. For good references, good relations with your fellow employees who may be hiring managers in the future, and if things go south, there may be an other company to get hired again with.

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  14. Re:Who would do this? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Given that I've never even seen the same employer under 100 employees advertise the same job twice, it's pretty hard NOT to end up burning bridges, but this ghosting seems to take it to a whole new level.

    I think you are confused. Leaving a job doesn't have to result in burned bridges. It is possible to leave a job without burning bridges.

  15. Re:Who would do this? by jellomizer · · Score: 3, Interesting

    Leaving a job doesn't burn the bridge. However most of the time people will not reapply back to the same company, unless it is large enough (over 100 employees) where there is a better position for them, because of their job growth withing that period of time in the middle.

    2 out of 3 employers that I have worked for are out of business/sold merged to a different company. While I joke that I probably should had left better documents, most of the time the reason those companies had those issue was due leadership deciding to retire.

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  16. And miss out on cake? by martinX · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Why leave like that? You miss out on cake, and sincere heartfelt wishes from your fellow employees, as well as earnest conversations about “we must catch up some time soon”.

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  17. Re:Who would do this? by slack_justyb · · Score: 3, Informative

    Or that new job you're trying to land might try calling your old position and find out you ghosted them when you left. Then the new company will be less likely to hire you.

    Okay maybe this is me, but it's completely normal to ask the people interviewing you to hold off on contacting your current employer until a written offer is made. I've never had a company that I went to work for that didn't honor that. What the hell kind of shitty jobs are you thinking folks are going to apply to, because if they trust you that little walking in the door, it's probably best to just walk away anyway.

    Additionally, right to work states. Being in a right to work state means the employer or the employee may terminate the position at any time for any reason or no reason at all. So you literally have States that promote ghosting as being completely normal.

  18. Re: At will employment by ErichTheRed · · Score: 4, Informative

    > You think that shit does not get around?

    It's very easy for a young employee to think that the industry is just an endless field of hot-swappable engineers and developers. Especially in certain markets (SF, Seattle, etc.) I hear there are thousands of nearly-identical openings. Never forget that it's very possible for that list of thousands to go down to a couple hundred, right after a massive tech company dumps 50,000 engineers onto the street in one shot (HP/HPE/CSC is a perfect example, or the mass firings at Microsoft.)

    People talk. The industry is smaller than you think. If you're in any sort of specialty that makes you less hot-swappable, the talent pool and list of employers gets smaller. Companies have no-hire lists and acting like a jerk either on your way in or out is a good way to get on them.

  19. Re:100% by DaFallus · · Score: 4, Interesting

    I don't think people forget this at all. If you are professional, you want to leave with a good impression with the company. For good references, good relations with your fellow employees who may be hiring managers in the future, and if things go south, there may be an other company to get hired again with.

    The main reason you give two weeks notice is so that people have time for knowledge transfer and your co-workers can make arrangements to pick up your workload. Even if you and all of your coworkers hate your managers and company, if you ever actually did any work and then disappeared, your coworkers are going to be scrambling to pick up the pieces and cursing your name. If your intention is to screw over your coworkers there are probably better ways to do so because they're just going to blame everything on you after you disappeared anyway because its not like you'll be around to defend yourself.

    The majority of the time it is in your best interest to play nice. Sadly, that isn't always reciprocated. One time I left a job I hated for a new opportunity with a big fortune 500. 9 months later I was laid off because my new employer was constantly playing musical chairs at the executive level so every month priorities would change and entire departments would get cut to the bone. I tried crawling back to my old job, but I guess my old boss was so offended when I quit that she never returned any of my calls.

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  20. Good by WillAffleckUW · · Score: 4, Informative

    The companies deserve it.

    In the 1944-1974 period, the split between capital and labor was 50:50 (you kept half of the profit from productivity gains from your work).

    In the 1974-2018 period, the split between capital and labor was 90:10 (you get 10 cents of the extra dollar profit your employer "earned" from your work). Frequently that was less than increased costs of living for employees.

    Ghost away!

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