I, too, prefer to text over calling for quick messages. But, in the (rare) instances when I feel the need to text while driving, I just pull off the road. At the very least, I wait until I'm at a stop light-- and if the light changes before I can send the message, I toss my phone to the side and proceed to the next place I can pull over. What could possibly be so urgent that it needs to be sent while the vehicle is in motion?
If you are a bit aloof, and difficult...they for the most part won't leave you alone. Speaking as a chick who is generally pretty aloof, this applies to guys as well. I tend to be somewhat apathetic and/or emotionally detached when meeting new people, and I've run into guys who think I'm playing "hard to get" or pursue me just for the "thrill of the hunt." Telling some guys politely that I'm not interested just made them try harder.
Rejection can be a pretty big blow to the ego, and (in my theory) some people are so insecure or narcissistic that they become somewhat obsessive trying to avoid or repair that blow. Also, people in general seem to have a tendency to want what they can't have, to the point where they feel they'll get some sort of emotional gratification out of obtaining the unobtainable.
Additionally, there seems to be no differentiation made between wireless APs of the same name. When I go to visit my parents connect my laptop to their AP, creatively named "wireless". My upstairs neighbor has given their WAP the same name, so if I neglect to remove "wireless" from my list of preferred networks once I return home, my laptop will auto connect to my neighbor's network.
I quit eHarmony because after 3 months I hadn't gotten past the 4 or so initial "send canned questions to each other" steps with anyone. I can't blame people for losing interest-- interviewing for Google felt warmer and less clinical. I really didn't want to keep paying $30/month or whatever on the small chance that I would finally get to actual one-on-one communication with someone and actually like that person enough to go on a date with him.
Any "geek" woman should be able to find *A* date. I do understand the important qualifier that large swaths of hopeful guys will simply not be your type.
As a wise geek saying goes-- "The odds are good, but the goods are odd. "
I get annoyed when people say "just go out and meet someone" like it's so incredibly easy. Some of us do socialize, quite a lot, in the real world, and yet all our preferred-sex friends are either with someone already or engaged or what-have-you.
Well said. I have a pretty large group of friends, and get out quite a bit. However, all of my friends, and their friends' friends, are engaged or already married. Despite generalized "wisdom" from xkcd cartoons about dating pools growing until middle age, I find that most everyone I meet is already in a serious relationship. Instead of hunting for the rare single guy (with whom I might not even be compatible) in an ocean of couples, I've decided to make my life a lot easier by looking in places where I know the men I meet will be single.
I guess my mind is trying to wrap around this seeming contradiction. Or am I being overly optimistic in assuming the people writing you have bothered to read your nerdy profile?
That's correct. A lot of people on these sites seem to go on auto-pilot and message any quasi-attractive guy/gal they see, then decide later if that person's personality and interests align with their own.
Not that I blame them-- online dating is an inherently visual medium-- but it does worsen the SNR of my inbox quite a bit.
Having used Match, eHarmony, and Yahoo! personals in the past, I'd have to say that OKCupid! (un: aloriainspring) is the best of the bunch. It doesn't hurt that it's free, either.
As a female on these dating sites (zomg I know,) I can attest to the fact that I get more messages than I can go through in a reasonable amount, which makes singling out the people I'd like to talk to pretty difficult. I've even gotten some hurt messages to the tune of "I messaged you twice last week and you never responded, you could at least say no thanks."
One simple way of solving this problem is allowing users to set some simple filters to restrict who can send messages directly. If you want to hear from everyone, great. I, for one, don't really want to date someone who lives four hours away from me who is older than my father. Just putting those messages in another folder would be a great help.
It would also be great if there was a higher demand for girl nerds (outside of Slashdot, that is.)
Here's an idea. Instead of targeting women, why not target the public in general? I'm a nerdy chick (info. assurance,) and I've met many men and women alike who still think being into "nerdy" things means you fall into the typical negative nerd stereotype. Try showing ALL people that scientists, mathematicians, and engineers don't all sit in their parents' basements eating doritos and obsessing over their interest to the point of having no social life.
Perhaps the gender ratio would be more balanced if the population in general believed that a person can be a techie and still be "cool".
I managed to keep my nano scratch free by storing it in a zip lock bag until the case I ordered arrived. Once I got my case, I wiped the nano with an eyeglasses cloth... the cloth left extremely fine, yet noticeable scratches whereever I wiped.
Now, I honestly couldn't care less if my nano has scratches, since it's in a case in my back pocket most of the day and it still does what it is supposed to do. I certainly don't feel like this is a lawsuit-worthy problem, but I can understand why people are upset. When people pay $250 (not a trivial amount of money for most people) for a product that claims to be pocketable, they certainly don't expect to see visible dings and scratches after a week. The glossy black plastic on my year old cell phone looks less scratched than some of my friends' nanos, and I can't say any of them have been abusive to their new toys.
Has any of./'s coffee nerds had a chance to try this stuff? The concept sounds kind of gross to me-- I can't imagine reheated coffee tasting all that great-- but I'd buy a couple for "emergencies" if they found some way to make it good. Can anybody comment on the taste?
Probably not, but I threw this togeather in about twenty minutes (using the premade GarageBand loops) as a joke to horrify my hardcore NIN-fan buddies.
My sincerest apologies to Trent Reznor for distroying his song.:(
If they all come at once, it's relatively easy to notice that there is strong support for an issue - you've been dealing with people who care about it all day.
True, if the phone calls are few and far between.
If the phones are ringing off the hooks for days, then maybe the congressperson might take notice, but wouldn't a single day of calls be forgotten after weeks of relative silence? I'd think a steady stream of daily calls would be much more memorable, and much less likely leave a negative impression. Remember that the person answering the phone is probably some underpaid staff, and as another poster said, it's bad idea to piss off the congressperson's staff.
Wouldn't it be better to spread it out over a long period of time, otherwise they will know it is an organised compaign and will just disregard the calls?
I agree; Correct me if I have a fundamental misunderstanding of how calling a politican works, but if 1,000 people call Mr./Ms. Senator in a day, whoever records these types of calls will probably end up becoming annoyed/overloaded/whatever and is likely to dismiss the high volume... If the 1,000 calls are made over, say, a few months' time, wouldn't it be more likely that each call is recorded and reported?
Well, just think... I know not everyone here on/. is an American, but if we can take a server down, we're very likely to get somebody in Congress's attention.
Well, you don't want to do that with your code, either, because it works just about as well.
FWIW, at my workplace the coder who plans out and properly design his projects before starting is an AMAZING cook, while the guy who hacks togeather proof of concept code has trouble microwaving popcorn...
So what is it about traditional recipes that confuses people?
The fact that they have to read the whole thing through before proceeding. Most people want to just jump in and get it done as quickly and painlessly as possible...and then they get to the second to last step and realize they need a special pan or to marinate for a day and a half.
I wasn't insulted by the comment, because like you I didn't see anything direct. Honestly, though, it does get a bit tiring hearing the "all women like to cook," "chicks are crazy," "girls are illogical," etc, etc stuff all the time. I'm the only girl doing IT stuff in a military lab, so I try not to let the generalizations get to me.. but damnit, I can't cook, I don't like jewelry, and yes, I do want to play Doom 3 during lunch, not shop for shoes!!;)
If it's any consolation, I'm not originally from New Jersey. I spent the first 13 years of my life in Long Island, NY; the next 5 in Portland, Maine, my college years in Manhattan and Brookyn, and the past two months in New Jersey. Besides, I don't think I can officially consider myself from New Jersey until I see a significant decline in my driving skills...
It isn't just boy geeks who have the tendency to go "EEP!" and retreat to the warm glow of their computer when a member of the opposite sex talks to them!
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I, too, prefer to text over calling for quick messages. But, in the (rare) instances when I feel the need to text while driving, I just pull off the road. At the very least, I wait until I'm at a stop light-- and if the light changes before I can send the message, I toss my phone to the side and proceed to the next place I can pull over. What could possibly be so urgent that it needs to be sent while the vehicle is in motion?
Rejection can be a pretty big blow to the ego, and (in my theory) some people are so insecure or narcissistic that they become somewhat obsessive trying to avoid or repair that blow. Also, people in general seem to have a tendency to want what they can't have, to the point where they feel they'll get some sort of emotional gratification out of obtaining the unobtainable.
Additionally, there seems to be no differentiation made between wireless APs of the same name. When I go to visit my parents connect my laptop to their AP, creatively named "wireless". My upstairs neighbor has given their WAP the same name, so if I neglect to remove "wireless" from my list of preferred networks once I return home, my laptop will auto connect to my neighbor's network.
I quit eHarmony because after 3 months I hadn't gotten past the 4 or so initial "send canned questions to each other" steps with anyone. I can't blame people for losing interest-- interviewing for Google felt warmer and less clinical. I really didn't want to keep paying $30/month or whatever on the small chance that I would finally get to actual one-on-one communication with someone and actually like that person enough to go on a date with him.
As a wise geek saying goes-- "The odds are good, but the goods are odd. "
Hey, Richard Stallman needs love too.
Well said. I have a pretty large group of friends, and get out quite a bit. However, all of my friends, and their friends' friends, are engaged or already married. Despite generalized "wisdom" from xkcd cartoons about dating pools growing until middle age, I find that most everyone I meet is already in a serious relationship. Instead of hunting for the rare single guy (with whom I might not even be compatible) in an ocean of couples, I've decided to make my life a lot easier by looking in places where I know the men I meet will be single.
That's correct. A lot of people on these sites seem to go on auto-pilot and message any quasi-attractive guy/gal they see, then decide later if that person's personality and interests align with their own.
Not that I blame them-- online dating is an inherently visual medium-- but it does worsen the SNR of my inbox quite a bit.
Oh, I'm open to any type of guy, not just nerds. I was just trying to say that being a nerd seems to be a turn-off for a lot of people.
Having used Match, eHarmony, and Yahoo! personals in the past, I'd have to say that OKCupid! (un: aloriainspring) is the best of the bunch. It doesn't hurt that it's free, either. As a female on these dating sites (zomg I know,) I can attest to the fact that I get more messages than I can go through in a reasonable amount, which makes singling out the people I'd like to talk to pretty difficult. I've even gotten some hurt messages to the tune of "I messaged you twice last week and you never responded, you could at least say no thanks." One simple way of solving this problem is allowing users to set some simple filters to restrict who can send messages directly. If you want to hear from everyone, great. I, for one, don't really want to date someone who lives four hours away from me who is older than my father. Just putting those messages in another folder would be a great help. It would also be great if there was a higher demand for girl nerds (outside of Slashdot, that is.)
Won't that make for a joyous Cinco De Mayo!
Here's an idea. Instead of targeting women, why not target the public in general? I'm a nerdy chick (info. assurance,) and I've met many men and women alike who still think being into "nerdy" things means you fall into the typical negative nerd stereotype. Try showing ALL people that scientists, mathematicians, and engineers don't all sit in their parents' basements eating doritos and obsessing over their interest to the point of having no social life.
Perhaps the gender ratio would be more balanced if the population in general believed that a person can be a techie and still be "cool".
Now, I honestly couldn't care less if my nano has scratches, since it's in a case in my back pocket most of the day and it still does what it is supposed to do. I certainly don't feel like this is a lawsuit-worthy problem, but I can understand why people are upset. When people pay $250 (not a trivial amount of money for most people) for a product that claims to be pocketable, they certainly don't expect to see visible dings and scratches after a week. The glossy black plastic on my year old cell phone looks less scratched than some of my friends' nanos, and I can't say any of them have been abusive to their new toys.
Has any of ./'s coffee nerds had a chance to try this stuff? The concept sounds kind of gross to me-- I can't imagine reheated coffee tasting all that great-- but I'd buy a couple for "emergencies" if they found some way to make it good. Can anybody comment on the taste?
Hahahaha! That's great! ...in a horrifying kind of way
:D
Then I've accomplished my goal!! Thanks!
Probably not, but I threw this togeather in about twenty minutes (using the premade GarageBand loops) as a joke to horrify my hardcore NIN-fan buddies.
:(
My sincerest apologies to Trent Reznor for distroying his song.
(BTW: Any female H2G2 fans here? I'm looking for a girlfriend!)
Yes.
If they all come at once, it's relatively easy to notice that there is strong support for an issue - you've been dealing with people who care about it all day.
True, if the phone calls are few and far between. If the phones are ringing off the hooks for days, then maybe the congressperson might take notice, but wouldn't a single day of calls be forgotten after weeks of relative silence? I'd think a steady stream of daily calls would be much more memorable, and much less likely leave a negative impression. Remember that the person answering the phone is probably some underpaid staff, and as another poster said, it's bad idea to piss off the congressperson's staff.
Wouldn't it be better to spread it out over a long period of time, otherwise they will know it is an organised compaign and will just disregard the calls?
I agree; Correct me if I have a fundamental misunderstanding of how calling a politican works, but if 1,000 people call Mr./Ms. Senator in a day, whoever records these types of calls will probably end up becoming annoyed/overloaded/whatever and is likely to dismiss the high volume... If the 1,000 calls are made over, say, a few months' time, wouldn't it be more likely that each call is recorded and reported?
A chance to slashdot congress!
/. is an American, but if we can take a server down, we're very likely to get somebody in Congress's attention.
Well, just think... I know not everyone here on
Well, you don't want to do that with your code, either, because it works just about as well.
FWIW, at my workplace the coder who plans out and properly design his projects before starting is an AMAZING cook, while the guy who hacks togeather proof of concept code has trouble microwaving popcorn...
So what is it about traditional recipes that confuses people?
The fact that they have to read the whole thing through before proceeding. Most people want to just jump in and get it done as quickly and painlessly as possible...and then they get to the second to last step and realize they need a special pan or to marinate for a day and a half.
I wasn't insulted by the comment, because like you I didn't see anything direct. Honestly, though, it does get a bit tiring hearing the "all women like to cook," "chicks are crazy," "girls are illogical," etc, etc stuff all the time. I'm the only girl doing IT stuff in a military lab, so I try not to let the generalizations get to me.. but damnit, I can't cook, I don't like jewelry, and yes, I do want to play Doom 3 during lunch, not shop for shoes!! ;)
If it's any consolation, I'm not originally from New Jersey. I spent the first 13 years of my life in Long Island, NY; the next 5 in Portland, Maine, my college years in Manhattan and Brookyn, and the past two months in New Jersey. Besides, I don't think I can officially consider myself from New Jersey until I see a significant decline in my driving skills...
It isn't just boy geeks who have the tendency to go "EEP!" and retreat to the warm glow of their computer when a member of the opposite sex talks to them!