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Why Do Videogames Struggle With Sex?

brumgrunt writes "Why do videogames still treat sex in such a two dimensional way? Why do they snigger at it, or treat it as a reward? Den Of Geek has been taking a look." I always figured it was some combination of games being made by our inner adolescent, marketed to the outer ones, and getting banned whenever they take sex seriously.

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  1. Not just with video games, but in general by devxo · · Score: 5, Interesting

    In videogames, even ones that handle the subject deftly, sex is almost always a reward. Take the Mass Effect series, for example. Here, you can indulge in interspecies sexual relations, if you see fit, but to get to the point where a character is willing to bump uglies with you, you have to have followed the correct series of dialogue prompts. There's a veneer of freedom, but the relationship you're creating with the character you want to sleep with is a shallow one. Fail to perform one action, or choose incorrectly on one dialogue tree, and they'll lose interest in you. Sex becomes an achievement, a notch on the bedpost of your high score table, instead of being the physical expression of an emotional connection between two consenting individuals.

    Not just with video games, but in general Well, it looks like the author thinks sex must only be some kind of expression of true love. What he is writing here is directly what happens in real life - you choose your words or actions badly and even one bad choice ends up to you not having sex with the girl. This seems to be more of a problem with the way US thinks about sex, while we here in Europe can just have it casually and not make a big deal out of it. Sure it might be shallow relationship, but so what, sex is fun, feels good and there really isn't any reason not to enjoy it.

    I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing. When you ask about it from someone who believes in god, the only responses usually are something like "because god said so", "that's just how it is" or "it's a special thing between a man and a woman". No actual answer. Sure, sex feels great with a person you love. But so does many other things, and you can also just have sex that feels physically great with no bigger emotions. It's nice to be close to someone, feel their skin and feel how you're inside them. Be it with love or not.

    1. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0, Offtopic

      I'm guessing religions made it a "bad thing" for when you do it outside their "blessing" (outside of marriage etc etc) and probably a part of the whole cult thing.

    2. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Stenchwarrior · · Score: 3, Informative

      This seems to be more of a problem with the way US thinks about sex, while we here in Europe can just have it casually and not make a big deal out of it. Sure it might be shallow relationship, but so what, sex is fun, feels good and there really isn't any reason not to enjoy it.

      I assure you, there's no shortage of casual and shallow sex here in the US.

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    3. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by tnk1 · · Score: 5, Insightful

      More like its difficult to portray sex as being at all interesting in a video game. Violence has blood and gore and explosions, and explosions of violence and gore. Not to mention laser beams, occasionally attached to sharks or giant robots.

      Sex is at least two naked people getting it on. Watching it for a short time can be pretty compelling, but you're not likely to get very much good game play out of it.

      Consider sex in movies. They all seem to have it to a certain degree, but honestly, if you give the sex anything more than a few scenes, the movie tends to turn into crap.

    4. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by girlintraining · · Score: 5, Insightful

      What he is writing here is directly what happens in real life - you choose your words or actions badly and even one bad choice ends up to you not having sex with the girl.

      If I walked up to a guy and said "Nice shoes, wanna fuck?" -- there's a chance he'll say yes, despite this being one of the worst ways to go about it. As to actions, many hollywood movies have been made (How to lose a guy in 7 days, anyone?) about how sometimes doing everything wrong still leads to the desired outcome. The truth is... Sex happens because we have hormones and chemicals and stuff in our brains (and *cough* elsewhere) and sometimes they're the ones doing the talking -- and what comes out of our mouth is totally irrelevant. As to love or no love, emotional attachment or not... Being that you're not a woman, you don't have some extra chemicals besides the ones I mentioned above working against you. It's near impossible for a woman past a certain age to have sex and not develop an emotional attachment. Ever wonder why we want to cuddle or be clingy after sex (or octopus you during climax?) -- BRAIN CHEMICALS! Believe me, if we could shut it off, or take a pill to let us have no strings attached sex like guys, the world would be a far sluttier place. I'm totally serious about this... don't laugh.

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    5. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by morari · · Score: 2

      I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing.

      Control. Why else?

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    6. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      >> This seems to be more of a problem with the way US thinks about sex, while we here in Europe can just have it casually and not make a big deal out of it.

      In the US the sequence is:

      No (That dress doesn't make your ass look fat)
      Yes (I love you)
      What woman? (That woman's got great legs doesn't she, honey?)

      In France, apparently you revese the answers.

    7. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Conspiracy_Of_Doves · · Score: 1

      The problem is that in the US is there is also no shortage of making a big deal out of casual sex.

    8. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by clorkster · · Score: 3, Insightful
      God intended marriage to emulate the relationship between Jesus Christ and the church. A sacrificial love where one holds the other higher than themselves. It is difficult to even scratch the surface of the image of Christ if intimacy, trust, and selflessness are not a priority. I think a lot of the conversation about marriage is fundamentally flawed between religious conservatives and those who would see equality amongst all who explore the realms of love. Christian marriage is fundamentally based upon a vow before God to be selfless and seek to know His Son more every day of your life through selflessly loving another. Legal marriage is not Christ-centered in any way (all questions of gender aside), so it's sort of hard to speak about two different things with the same word and expect much progress. Being one, I blame Christians for this break down in dialog.

      It's nice to be close to someone, feel their skin and feel how you're inside them. Be it with love or not.

      Agreed. It is. However it's beautiful to know beyond any shadow of a doubt that someone loves you.

    9. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by killmenow · · Score: 1

      Yeah but most of the making a big deal out of it comes from the people who aren't having much of it.

    10. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'll also add that one really shouldn't expect most people to have genuine romantic feelings for a video game character. They're not in any way intelligent or even sentient or human, why should they trigger responses designed to form longer-term bonds primarily useful for child-raising? Yea, I'm sure it happens for a small subset of people, anyways, but for most it just doesn't work.

      For video game sex to be of any "use", they essentially have to be some sort of erotic story or pornography without any requirement for actual romantic feelings. You know, for the same reason why video cassettes with naked women also generally aren't designed to simulate real relationships.

      And then yes, there are the rating systems. Computer games as almost all software is designed for the masses, most economic if sold as many times as possible. They often don't take things to levels perceived as "extreme" because if they did, they'd limit their audience much, both by national laws and rating agencies, and by actual customer interests and morals etc.
       

    11. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by strength_of_10_men · · Score: 1
      From TFA:

      First up, lock up your daughters, sons and dependants, because we're going to talk about sex.

      If that doesn't say it all about the US's attitude writ large in the author's article.

      If you can't objectively discuss sex without hiding it as a dirty topic from "innocent ears", then he's just answered his own musings in this article.

      But really, are video games really any different from any other form of entertainment in general? Just take a look at your newstands, TV, and movie theaters and tell me if video games treat sex all that differently

    12. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by darkpixel2k · · Score: 1

      I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing.

      Control. Why else?

      Right.

      And none of them can tell me where in the Bible it says "No sex before marriage", just like none of them can tell me where it says a priest (*cough*catholics*cough*) must absolve me of my sins.

      I always use the desert island example. If I was stranded on a desert island, could I still be 'saved'? If I'm stranded on a desert island with a girl, could we get 'married'?

      The Biblical answer is 'yes', but the 'religious' answer is 'no' because they want you to go to their churches, tithe money, hear their interpretation, etc...

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    13. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by killmenow · · Score: 5, Funny

      I don't believe you. Mostly because you purport to be a female on slashdot.

      "That's a joke, son! A joke I say!" - Foghorn Leghorn

    14. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by SilentStaid · · Score: 1

      Well sir, I would say to you that the average Slashdot reader is experiencing the shortage...

      Couldn't resist. /ducks

    15. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Straterra · · Score: 2

      No, only one in training.

    16. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      or pron. Which sells. I'm told.

    17. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by dorre · · Score: 2

      Dont know why you are modded down but yes. I kind of agree. It is an important part of mind control. If you control your followers sex life, you can also control them.

      This however only a part of the answer. I think before condoms sex should certainly be mostly between two lovers. A lot of random unprotected sex leads to a lot random sex diseases and relatively unwanted children. I would think.

      I think the sex-regulation by religions might also have a third reason. Jealous males killing their neighbors. No seriously. Some people have always been killed because they had sex with someone they shouldnt have.
      Whether you like it or not, religions have usually striven to lessen the impact of random violence in society. At least the founders of the religions have usually been quite against violence. It is usually the followers that are the problem ;)

    18. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Stenchwarrior · · Score: 1

      What he is writing here is directly what happens in real life - you choose your words or actions badly and even one bad choice ends up to you not having sex with the girl.

      As to love or no love, emotional attachment or not... Being that you're not a woman, you don't have some extra chemicals besides the ones I mentioned above working against you. It's near impossible for a woman past a certain age to have sex and not develop an emotional attachment. Ever wonder why we want to cuddle or be clingy after sex (or octopus you during climax?) -- BRAIN CHEMICALS! Believe me, if we could shut it off, or take a pill to let us have no strings attached sex like guys, the world would be a far sluttier place. I'm totally serious about this... don't laugh.

      This is off topic, but a great topic none the less. I've known plenty of women who were totally fine with a physical relationship (at least that's what they said) but the majority would say they fall into the category you describe and really want more. For a long time scientists thought that women were mostly monogamous while men were inherently the opposite. They attributed these assumptions to the nurturing, demure character of women and hunter-gatherer and conquering nature of men. Recent studies have shown this not to be the case, however; women are just as likely to cheat as men. I'm sure for every study that support this there's a study to contradict, but it's not quite as widely accepted as it was in the days of Freud.

      So yes, women may like to be clingy after sex, but after the euphoria of orgasm wears off, it seems they are at least fantasize about multiple partners just as much as men. I don't think you were arguing that point though, were you?

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    19. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by operagost · · Score: 1

      The venereal disease, unwanted pregnancies and emotional distress may have something to do with that.

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    20. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by girlintraining · · Score: 0

      couldja at least LOOK at my profile? Ngggghhh...

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    21. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Conspiracy_Of_Doves · · Score: 2, Funny

      Seriously? You mean like all the right-wing congressmen who were cheating on their wives? Usually with congressional pages or guys in the restroom.

    22. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by ElectricTurtle · · Score: 1

      Emotional bonding is not a simple byproduct of hormones and neurotransmitters released during and after intercourse. If that were true, every female prostitute would be madly in love with however many clients she has; however much of the time the opposite is the case. Be careful of placebo effects and self-fulfilling prophecies. Long before there was any study of oxytocin there has been in many societies a conflation of sexual attraction and love and cause and effect relationships between the two. Neither love nor sex automatically proceeds from the other, whether by physiological or metaphysical impetuses.

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    23. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by operagost · · Score: 1

      The Bible proscribes fornication several times. Obviously, if you were alone on a desert island you could only have a monogamous relationship or remain celibate.

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    24. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      and you can also just have sex that feels physically great with no bigger emotions

      That's simply not true, and if you act like it is, you pay a price. It's like taking bipolar meds - you won't feel down, but you won't feel up either. You become a zombie. A robot.

      Life is supposed to have its ups and downs. This is the heartbeat of humanity. If you flat-line it, you might as well be a rock or a vegetable.

    25. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by xaxa · · Score: 1

      But really, are video games really any different from any other form of entertainment in general? Just take a look at your newstands, TV, and movie theaters and tell me if video games treat sex all that differently

      I am not/was not really aware there were normal/mainstream games including sex. I don't play games very often though, but I'd expect to hear about it when people are discussing them.

      I know movies have sex -- both as the main point of the film (porn) and as incidental to the story (everything else). My nearest newsstand includes newspapers with a Page 3 and magazines of semi-naked people and sex tips available to anyone.

    26. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by operagost · · Score: 1

      If that doesn't say it all about the US's attitude writ large in the author's article.

      No, it says it all about the writer's opinion of the portrayal of sex in the media and his affinity for hyperbole.

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    27. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by flyneye · · Score: 1

      I wouldn't say Christian religion makes sex look like a bad thing. I'd say some denominations of Christiandom believe it is, some don't.
      On one extreme you have the Shakers, who swear off even married sex , on the other are modern non denominational churches who believe God gave us sex to both enjoy and procreate. Plenty of latitude there. I suppose though are the endless complaints about denominations with more stringent belief systems, which naturally take up more conversation/thinking/news time and make all Christianity look bad. The same could be said of any faith I suppose.

                Sex is treated as is in games because the only other thing left to do is make sex the game itself. Does anyone really need/want a game that amounts to high tech "put the round peg in the round hole"? Anyone need practice? Maybe it could be part of sex ed for lazy ass public schools.
                  There just isn't enough scenario to make Sex the main course of a video game without making it as storyline boring as a pr0n film.
              Can you imagine the canned music it would use? Jeez!

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    28. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by 93+Escort+Wagon · · Score: 4, Insightful

      This seems to be more of a problem with the way US thinks about sex, while we here in Europe can just have it casually and not make a big deal out of it.

      I also admire how you Europeans have mastered that whole arrogance thing.

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    29. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Straterra · · Score: 1

      I have. That was just an attempt at humor.

    30. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by pscottdv · · Score: 1

      I don't know what church you went to as a kid, but they sound seriously messed up.

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    31. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by slashdottedjoe · · Score: 1

      Mostly religion tries to limit sex to married couples for the need to support a wife and child is very important to society. Those concepts were driven by the lack of birth control and the fact the average family struggled enough without having small armies of moms needing welfare.

      Birth control helps when people use it. Too many do not. The result is many women needing welfare, effectively demanding charity to support their mistakes. Free love is fine, but you must be willing and able to pay when the baby comes along.

      The other issue with sex is disease, we have not really done too well with that. HPV for example is virtually impossible to prevent spreading and seems to lead to all types of cancers. Being conservative with your body could save your life.

      As Europe has single payer health care, many there may not worry about STDs. When their loose lifestyle gets them cancer, they get to make everybody else pay to cure them.

      Religions tended to inform people that they need to take care of themselves and not be a burden on society. We do not need such foolishness today! /s

      Personally, I am areligious, but hold libertarian ideals. So, I still feel I need to try my best not to be a burden to others. Running around impregnating every woman who will let me is not exactly responsible behavior towards them, myself or society.

    32. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by ElectricTurtle · · Score: 1

      And none of them can tell me where in the Bible it says "No sex before marriage"

      1 Corinthians 7 mentions it several times, nor is that the only place. While it's true that most Catholic ritual has no Biblical basis, the restrictions on sexual contact are quite clear.

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    33. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by pscottdv · · Score: 1

      I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing.

      Control. Why else?

      Or... because for most of the history of mankind, single moms had no means to support their children and no reliable means to have sex without making babies.

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    34. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by darkpixel2k · · Score: 1

      The Bible proscribes fornication several times. Obviously, if you were alone on a desert island you could only have a monogamous relationship or remain celibate.

      So is marriage a function of the church? If it is, you're a 'sinner'. If it's not, what makes you married?
      Sex is marriage. Remember Mary the prostitute? Jesus said 'You have many husbands'.

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    35. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      one really shouldn't expect most people to have genuine romantic feelings for a video game character.

      And yet when I played Mass Effect 2 I genuinely got aroused by Tali ( Liz Sroka ). Romantic feelings? Possibly but definitely aroused. I don't know if it is Liz Sroka's voice or the fact that the character has a great profile but you cannot see underneath but there were times I had to stop the game just to...um...cool off.

    36. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      As Europe has single payer health care,

      (eyeroll)

      Yes, "Europe" is a single entity with a single system.

      Meanwhile, in the real world only dimly perceived by the Slashdot Brain Trust, each EU nation has its own system, and some of them have both public and private segments.

    37. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by darkpixel2k · · Score: 1

      I don't know what church you went to as a kid, but they sound seriously messed up.

      ...and your astonishing lack of an argument proves what?

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    38. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Conspiracy_Of_Doves · · Score: 1

      Which they have in other countries that don't make a big deal about casual sex. They also don't make a big deal out of condoms.

    39. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by darkpixel2k · · Score: 1

      And none of them can tell me where in the Bible it says "No sex before marriage"

      1 Corinthians 7 mentions it several times, nor is that the only place. While it's true that most Catholic ritual has no Biblical basis, the restrictions on sexual contact are quite clear.

      It's plain as day--it says that you need a wife to avoid fornication. Where does the Bible tell you how you get a wife? I have never once seen a scripture that says "Go find a priest, he will marry you, and you have avoided fornication." Sex is marriage.

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    40. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Bemopolis · · Score: 1, Troll

      As opposed to the immaculate efficiency of warfare, which has never spread disease, broken up families, or caused anyone an iota of emotional consequences. Because if it did, we wouldn't make so many games about them, would we?

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    41. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Bemopolis · · Score: 1

      ecause for most of the history of mankind, single moms had no means to support their children and no reliable means to have sex without making babies.

      And your last point explains why religions preach against non-vaginal sex. So the OP is correct.

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    42. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by girlintraining · · Score: 1

      Emotional bonding is not a simple byproduct of hormones and neurotransmitters released during and after intercourse.

      Yes, it is.

      If that were true, every female prostitute would be madly in love with however many clients she has; however much of the time the opposite is the case

      Your body is a complex ecosystem with a large variety of internal and external events occurring, with no one system, chemical, or interaction in control. It is best viewed in terms of pressures, relationships, etc. There is no statement that can be made about the human body that is true for every human -- but a statement can be true for the majority, or the vast majority.

      Be careful of placebo effects and self-fulfilling prophecies.

      I'd be more concerned with doing your research, personally. Five seconds of google could have turned up what I've presented to you.

      Neither love nor sex automatically proceeds from the other, whether by physiological or metaphysical impetuses.

      Again, just because something doesn't happen 100% of the time, doesn't mean there isn't a strong link between two variables.

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    43. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by MakinBacon · · Score: 1

      Are you kidding? Jesus said that that merely wanting to have sex with a woman counts as adultery (see Matthew 5:27). Like usury, divorce and the difficulties of getting rich men into heaven, fornication seems to be one of those things that Americans condone even though a lot of them like to insist this is a Christian nation.

      Colossians 3:5

      Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: for which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience:

      1 Corinthians 5:7

      But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.

      There's other ones too, but I'm too lazy to find them.

      As for the hypothetical desert island, I would think that you could call your relationship a marriage. I'm pretty sure the Bible never says anything about needing a priest, or any of the other religious amenities that modern Christians associate with marriage.

    44. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Ironhandx · · Score: 2

      I'll give you 10:1 odds that he's french or italian.

      Go go stereoypes.

    45. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by BrianRoach · · Score: 4, Insightful

      If I walked up to a guy and said "Nice shoes, wanna fuck?" -- there's a chance he'll say yes, despite this being one of the worst ways to go about it.

      If you're even remotely attractive (Lets say, shy of disfigured), I'd say there's a very good chance. If the gender roles are reversed, there's a very good chance of getting slapped. I don't know if that's societal or biological, but I suspect it's societal.

      Women decide when/if sex happens. Us men have to figure out what conditions have to be met in order for that to occur. The video game treatment, while simplified greatly, works along the same lines.

    46. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by HeckRuler · · Score: 1

      1. Marriage is bigger then Christianity (and the jewish/christian/muslim monotheistic god in general). It existed before Christianity, and in other ethnic backgrounds. It's a species thing and is bigger and older then any one religion.
      2. The whole "sacrificial" thing where "one holds the other higher then themselves" doesn't really jive with that whole equality thing that went down about a century ago. Women are people too, and my wife is my equal. We both wear the pants.
      3. You can't make everything be some form of "seek to know His Son more every day of your life through [fill in the blank]". That sort of behavior borders on an obsessive compulsive disorder. Some people need religion, and that's ok, but take it in moderation. Too much and you OD.

    47. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Quiet_Desperation · · Score: 1

      and what comes out of our mouth is totally irrelevant.

      However, what goes in... [WARNING! INTERNET KILL SWITCH ACTIVATED. POST TERMINATED.]

    48. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Ironhandx · · Score: 1

      As long as you're not a total troll or cow and make it clear that you're serious about that statement, and the guys not gay ofc, theres a 90% chance you'll get a yes out of that. The other 10% are in relationships and actually faithful.

    49. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Max+Romantschuk · · Score: 1

      There is nothing like no strings attached sex for either of the sexes. It's always emotional on some level. But like you say it's easier to find men capable of casual sex than women. But emotions always build up in the long run... Despite whoever trying to tell themselves whatever.

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    50. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Quiet_Desperation · · Score: 1

      Who are these "Europe" and "US" entities you speak about as if they were individuals and not vast, diverse populations? :-) Sorry. Just speaking as someone who spent 12 years in the California BDSM scene where every type of sex known to humanity was experienced, much of it quite casually.

      I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing.

      Go ask St. Augustine. He actually thought sex *within* marriage was bad, but a necessary evil. Yeesh.

    51. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by phantomfive · · Score: 5, Insightful

      I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing.

      Historically, sex out of wedlock HAS been a very bad thing. Venereal diseases, unwanted pregnancies, death and sickness (really....the list of famous people who died of venereal disease at a young age is surprisingly long). Of course that's not really a problem anymore, but that's only been true for the last 60 years or so. For the thousands of years before that, religion was right on in their recommendations. Religion moves slowly to deal with new developments, especially on relatively minor issues (seriously....pick up any holy book and count the number of paragraphs talking about sex. It's a small proportion. Usually significantly less than 1%).

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    52. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by BancBoy · · Score: 2

      This seems to be more of a problem with the way US thinks about sex, while we here in Europe can just have it casually and not make a big deal out of it.

      I also admire how you Europeans have mastered that whole arrogance thing.

      As an American, I can assure you that we are closing the arrogance gap as fast as we possibly can manage!

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    53. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by MakinBacon · · Score: 1

      To be totally fair, it would have been necessary in an ancient civilization where birth control is nonexistant and a significant portion of the population is too stupid to know that sex makes babies. Otherwise, Israel would have had an epidemic of single mothers.

      Alot of religious laws may seem like some sort of megalomaniac ruler's attempt at looking important by controlling people when you look at them today, but when you put them in a historical context, you realize that there was a time when they were absolutely necessary to hold a society together.

    54. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Wooky_linuxer · · Score: 1

      I believe you. Basically women want to able to know they'll have someone by their side in case they get pregnant, while men just would like to impregnate as many women as possible. Even if both fully know that won't gonna happen due to birth control techniques, but we ACT like that.

      That said, there are a fair amount of women that act more like the average men - as you said, sluttier. Society (including men with the exact same behaviour) usually despise them. I'd say, if we as a society didn't look down on slutty women, there would be a lot more of them.

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    55. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Locke2005 · · Score: 5, Funny

      Wait... can't sex have blood and explosions too???

      Or am I doing it wrong?

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    56. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Locke2005 · · Score: 5, Funny

      I assure you, there's no shortage of casual and shallow sex here in the US.

      The anecdotal evidence on that is conflicting. I have had a very difficult time finding a supply of casual and shallow sex here in the US, whereas my wife doesn't seem to have any problem coming by it...

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    57. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Locke2005 · · Score: 2

      Oxytocin (the "bonding hormone") is produced by both men and women during sex. Contrary to popular belief, guys get attached to the person they're fucking too.

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    58. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Nadaka · · Score: 1

      It is bad because the only pleasure you are supposed to have in life is the adoration of jesus. All other pleasure is decadent sin. The early church wanted to end sex and the human species as a whole, a complete human genocide. Eventually they figured out that they didn't have the numbers to convert or kill the entire human race at the time, so they gave in and permitted it only within the confines of an approved marriage and only for the purpose of procreating more christians.

    59. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by h4rm0ny · · Score: 2

      You missed an important corollary to controlling people's sex life, which is that failing to control it can still be effective so long as they feel guilty about it. But really, control of sex is a fundamental requirement of patriarchy whether in a religious context or not. Status amongst males is heavily controlled by a woman's choice of mate. Don't think so? If a king has to watch the girl(s) he fancies preferring to go have sex with some handsome young baron, then his status over that baron is greatly diminished. And you can translate that to pretty much any scenario. A woman's sexual freedom is the great obliterator of male status. So if you (as a male) want to put control of social status in your own hands, you're almost obliged to curtail female sexual freedom.

      I reckon the neo-pagans have a nice idea with their one-year or seven-year handfasting. Less of the eternal binding of marriage, but without the lack of protection or commitment of purely casual sex. And if at the end of that time people want to renew, then that's fine too. But it removes the expectation that they must.

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    60. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      But so does many other things, and you can also just have sex that feels physically great with no bigger emotions. It's nice to be close to someone, feel their skin and feel how you're inside them. Be it with love or not.

      boner achieved

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    61. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Actually sex is not a shallow thing as it may have some long term consequences lasting for generations. And it is a kind a stimuli that make you act unreasonably, and in the same spirit greed and ego are marked as sins as well. Like sex, despite some shallow appeal, they all may put you in serious problems. And as it is cannot be self-controlled it is much more straight forward to ban them.

    62. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by phantomfive · · Score: 1

      And none of them can tell me where in the Bible it says "No sex before marriage",

      Is your point to show something about the bible, or about your friends? A quick search for 'fornication' showed Acts 15:29, Acts 21:25, 1 Corinthians 6:18, Matthew 5:28 is worth considering, and many others. Suggestion: don't listen to your friends when it comes to religion.

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    63. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Sex is like pizza. Even when it's not that good, it's still worth having.

    64. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      Seriously? You mean like all the right-wing congressmen who were cheating on their wives? Usually with congressional pages or guys in the restroom.

      Yeah, that's it. Just the right wingers. And it's usually with men in a restroom.

    65. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Stenchwarrior · · Score: 1

      I LOLed...really!

      On the other hand....that sucks and I hope you're kidding.

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    66. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by creat3d · · Score: 1

      If this happenned under Bush...

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    67. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by h4rm0ny · · Score: 3, Informative

      Slashdot's own marketing data which they pass on to potential advertisers, says that around a third of the membership of Slashdot is female, if iirc. Can we please just let the lonely teenager in the basement stereotype die at last? Most /. are doing well financially and are above their mid-twenties and probably partnered.

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    68. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by fermion · · Score: 0
      Agree with you broadly, but must add two things. First, since g-d is the almighty, it is hard and even maybe sacrilegious to actually attribute any particular intent. It is like telling other what one's spouse believes without consulting said spouse. While some may feel that this is appropriate behavior for the male, as the dominant figure, in a marriage, in the relationship with the almighty humans are certainly not the dominant figure and therefore should only talk about what we think, and not attribute our selfish desires to the almighty.

      That said the church has absolutely dropped the ball on the mariage thing. For example, Newt Gringrich's well documented abandonment of his family, as well as his continuing adultery, has been blessed by evangelical and catholic churches. This is unacceptable. Just because the civil society does not function on religious, or sharia, law does not mean that the church should not feel such a duty.

      Nevertheless, it traditional that one's faith is god should be matched by one's faith in the marriage to another, and that faith is the basis of love. One thing that always confused me is that games exist not only to escape reality, but also to role play common social interactions in a safer environment. We learn many of our common methods of interaction through game play practice, so the question is why don't games allow us to do this. The answer, I believe, is that sex has never been quite as taboo as we want to believe. I suspect that there has always been a lot of practice going on, and the safety is provided by innate venerability of the participants, and the knowledge of the society as a whole that we may officially want to delay sex until marriage, this is seldom possible and probably unhealthy for a civilization that requires a fair amount of reproduction to survive.

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    69. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by sglewis100 · · Score: 1

      Sex is marriage. Remember Mary the prostitute? Jesus said 'You have many husbands'.

      His actual words were "The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you have now is not your husband." (John 4:18 NIV)

    70. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by phantomfive · · Score: 1

      Oh, and my question is this (forgot to ask in my original post), what video game HAS treated sex seriously? I can't think of any.

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    71. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by h4rm0ny · · Score: 2

      If you're even remotely attractive (Lets say, shy of disfigured), I'd say there's a very good chance. If the gender roles are reversed, there's a very good chance of getting slapped. I don't know if that's societal or biological, but I suspect it's societal.

      There's a biological basis. A woman is seldom physically intimidating / threatening a male who she is sexually propositioning. The opposite is very often the case. Consider that men are predominently larger and stronger than women. Consider also that a man can't easliy be forced to have sexual intercourse against his will by a woman because he wont get hard if he isn't turned on. But a woman can be forced.

      A stranger coming up to you and saying they "want to fuck you" is quite different when it is someone smaller than you who requires your cooperation, rather than someone larger and more powerful, who doesn't.

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    72. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by ElectricTurtle · · Score: 3, Insightful

      You're not very observant are ye? I mentioned oxytocin by name in my original post. I'm already thoroughly familiar (at a layperson's level) with what you're talking about. If you want to pretend, contrary to evidence, that emotional bonding is some simple static procedure akin to "push oxytocin button receive love", that's your prerogative. Just make sure that when a stack of books falls on you about the psychological dimensions of emotional attachment and sexuality you close your eyes lest some of that non-deterministic knowledge poison your lopsided, exclusionary viewpoint.

      Humans are much more than their physical contents, and I say that without any allusion to superstitious nonsense like 'souls' or what-have-you. If you cannot account for the social constructions and archetypes that both create and reflect the shared experiences between people, you will never be able to understand the broader motivations individuals have emotionally, with regard to sex or anything else.

      What happens in a human brain physically may be reducible to a "simple" electro-chemical interaction, but that does not resolve at a stroke what each iteration means in concert over time.

      To return to the subject, go talk to somebody who routinely has sex for money. Barring that, read some autobiographical work of somebody like that. You'll find your "sex leads AUTOMATICALLY to emotional attachment" theory sorely tested by those realities. Hormones only go so far in adjusting conscious experiences. That's why I spoke of self-fulfilling prophecies and placebo effects. If you already have a developing or latent emotional attachment, an oxytocin release will probably increase it significantly. If you already view a person negatively, either individually or as a class, an oxytocin release is probably not enough to change that already surfaced conscious position. When a person has a concrete idea, some vague, hormone-driven feeling is generally not enough to immediately reverse it.

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    73. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by vadim_t · · Score: 4, Insightful

      If I walked up to a guy and said "Nice shoes, wanna fuck?" -- there's a chance he'll say yes, despite this being one of the worst ways to go about it

      Were somebody to try that on me, I'd start looking for the first convenient excuse to get away as quickly as possible, or just plain run like hell.

      That's because I'd start wondering, why would somebody do that?

      One reason I can imagine is "look at me, I'm shameless enough to go and ask that to a random guy", which is done for the sake of amusing or impressing somebody else, and so almost certainly not a serious offer.

      The other is that the one asking is crazy, high or drunk. Which very likely leads to problems later, because that would be statutory rape.

      A much less likely one is some kind of drama, like "I'm angry at my boyfriend, so I'm going to screw with the first guy I come across". I highly suspect that this is inexistent in reality and only exists in bad movies.

      Either way I can't imagine a single reason for asking such a question that wouldn't lead to complications later. And IMO, if you ever ask it and somebody replies affirmatively, run like hell, because you just found somebody without the slightest bit of common sense.

    74. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by sglewis100 · · Score: 1

      What on earth are you talking about? Read 1 Col 7, as an earlier poster mention. Or just about anything in Song of Songs. It's not even exclusively a Christian teaching, most of the rules governing sex are carried over from Judaism. And who is the "they" that didn't have the numbers to convert or kill the entire human race? My church came from the reformation, and saw it's founders martyred to prevent just such a thing as you are referring to.

    75. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      If this is the case then no wonder the divorce rates are soaring. If we are supposed to emulate Jesus Christ and the church then every married person is an adulterer and sinner, that is unless of course you believe Jesus did marry another human being...

    76. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Asic+Eng · · Score: 1

      I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing.

      Well sex is an excellent way to transmit diseases, unfortunately. Also sex frequently leads to offspring, and raising that offspring places considerable burden on the female of the species. Some kind of social framework is needed to help them accomplish that task and ideally to survive childbirth. Sure men usually love their children, but in a promiscuous society the chance that the woman's child is also theirs is low, so they wouldn't feel a big attachment to the child.

      Religion is one way to regulate societies, and as societies compete for resources, the less successful societies are eliminated. This means societies (and thus also their ordering instruments - like their political structures and their religions) are shaped through an evolutionary process. Today we are left with those religions which enabled less technologically advanced societies to maintain their organizational structure at some time in the past.

      Technological advances have made some of the religious rules redundant - these rules could be compared e.g. to a human appendix. Once they probably served an important function, today they are either useless or even dangerous. (For example: my own appendix almost killed me when I was 16.) Today you might have some people who encourage conflict in the middle east because they believe that to accelerate the second coming, or something equally insane. Dangerous as such faith is today, it allowed to form a fighting force to counter Islamic expansion into Europe, and similar faith once allowed the Arabs to defeat the crusaders. Neither faith would still be around if it hadn't been useful at some point.

    77. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      no, there is some pizza not worth having.

    78. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Exactly. Sex is marriage, biblically; "marriage is a sacrament" is pure control-grab by the Roman church, and (sometimes in a weaker form) most others as well.

      But that doesn't mean "sex before marriage" (fornication) isn't a real thing with real prohibitions, just that it's less "sex before marriage" per se and more "fraudulently entering a marriage contract while refusing to acknowledge the obligations". That's the fundamental distinction between fornication (entering a contract you don't intend to keep -- rectifiable simply by enforcing the contract) and adultery (not only breaking a contract you've made, but simultaneously entering a mutually incompatible contract with another -- hence the stoning penalty) under Mosaic law.

      (Linguistics note: Hebrew, the language of (most of) the Old Testament, is generally much less precise than Greek of the New Testament. Fornication vs. adultery is always precisely according to the above distinction in the NT, but there's significantly less clarity in the OT because more shades of meaning were left to the translator's inferences.)

    79. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      But there's a societal basis even in your so-called biological basis, because otherwise it would make no rational sense for a smaller, weaker creature to slap a larger, stronger one.

    80. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by sorak · · Score: 1

      Apparently he hasn't seen very many movies either (this is where I thought you were going). In most movies, the love interest is just a reward for the main character. They meet, she doesn't like him, he eventually says and does the right things, they go out, they get in a fight, and then, in the movie climax (no pun intended), he defeats the bad guy and she flies crotch-first into his arms.

    81. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by ElectricTurtle · · Score: 1

      You're contradicting yourself. If sex is marriage, then what is the sin of fornication? Whither adultery if sex is marriage? The Bible never unequivocally proscribes polygamy. The patriarchs had tons of wives and concubines, and even the early church didn't go much further than saying monogamy was required for deacons/bishops. Is every sexual contact a marriage? What does that mean legally and ethically?

      The only thing that makes less sense than the Bible on this matter is your interpretation.

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    82. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by volkram · · Score: 1

      Luckily you can be a Christian and still sin. So Christian nation it still may be.

    83. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by blair1q · · Score: 1

      I assure you, there's no shortage of casual and shallow sex here in the US.

      p<<0.5 for that hypothesis on /.

    84. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by CharlyFoxtrot · · Score: 2

      Lighten up. It's a caricature used for comic effect. It's funny precisely because the stereotype is not (or no longer) true for most of us.

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    85. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Dang, I was excited for some other trans presence here. I guess you're in a minority too though :)

    86. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      There's also evidence that the REASON women cheat is different than the reason that men cheat.... so even if they both do it, doesn't make it the same thing.

    87. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 4, Funny

      This seems to be more of a problem with the way US thinks about arrogance, while we here in Europe can just have it casually and not make a big deal out of it.

    88. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by LordNacho · · Score: 2

      Women decide when/if sex happens. Us men have to figure out what conditions have to be met in order for that to occur.

      Eh, not so sure about this one. I used to think so, back before I got to know women, but now I think it's just a con. Especially if you're in a relationship, as a guy you're offered more than you can do with (you think you can do it every 15 mins for the whole day when you're 18. You can't by the time you're 30).

      And why would this be? Well, for one, once you've gotten with a girl, all the mentioned hormones and that kick in. You somehow become the only good supplier of a rather intoxicating drug.

      Another reason is my own pseudo-scientific musing on evolution. Getting pregnant, back in the Savannah, was a pretty dangerous condition. (Actually, even now, in unfortunate places.) So why on earth would a woman want to do it? Well, even then the biological drive means you have to do it with someone, so there had to be a base level of horniness. Now, the environment is more conducive to safe birth/childrearing, so womens' hornometers are off the scale. Combine it recent inventions such as the pill, and living away from your family, and it means women get laid more. And guys as well.

      One thing to bear in mind as a though is that people have more choice. We're not living in a place with 4 people/sq Km anymore. That leaves a lot of people wanking, and a group who are doing it like rabbits.

    89. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by roman_mir · · Score: 1

      what the heck is a 'girl'?

    90. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by LordNacho · · Score: 1

      I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing.

      Control. Why else?

      Property, to be more specific. Once you settle and start having more possessions than you can carry (ie inequality), you need to be able to assign inheritance and privilege to the next generation. Hard to do in a bukkake/swinger society.

    91. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      ... Venereal diseases, unwanted pregnancies, death and sickness

      Of course that's not really a problem anymore.

      Boy, are you wrong there.

      http://www.avert.org/std-statistics-uk.htm

    92. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      If marriage is a life-long bond between two people on both an emotional and a physical level, were any of them "husbands" in God's eyes? You could, in fact, as easily argue that all of them were, or that none of them were.

      She was living according to the false premise that a man she had sex with and a "husband" were not tautologically identical, and it therefore led to a logical discontinuity, a contradiction, which Jesus was subtly highlighting: the meaning of the word "husband".

      I am, of course, now speculating, but she likely considered the man she was with to be not much different than any of the previous "husbands"... and it's also not very likely that she herself would have called any of them her "husbands".

      Incidentally, I wonder whether he meant that she'd been with six men, or with five. I'm rather inclined to think it was five.

    93. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Belial6 · · Score: 1

      At least that is what women tell themselves to feel better about the fact that male/female relations have been prostitution since the dawn of time, and the conflict that having two cultural and biological forces working against each other have not yet been dealt with.

    94. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Until women turn 30. Then they wake up one morning and realize that this biological clock thing is running and it becomes a sellers market.

    95. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Completely agree, but it's not like all the problems are gone. You can catch HIV from oral sex. Oral cancer is seen more frequently in the more sexually active (because it's caused by HPV) and is about 50% fatal. Though there is a vaccine now. An unwanted pregnancy is not likely to see you ostracised from society but it might cost you a good proportion of your income for a child you never see. And so on.

      Be careful out there!

    96. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Krater76 · · Score: 1

      Believe me, if we could shut it off, or take a pill to let us have no strings attached sex like guys, the world would be a far sluttier place.

      Actually, I think that kill switch is called a wedding ring.

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    97. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Moryath · · Score: 1

      Why do they have to be naked?

      Sex is perfectly possible while (mostly) clothed.

    98. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Hylandr · · Score: 2

      Because when you can control a persons sex-life, You can control them.

      This has long been known, and exploited by more groups than I can name, both ancient and modern.

      - Dan.

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    99. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by CharlyFoxtrot · · Score: 1

      The books you are quoting there are letters by Peter, the first bishop (and pope) and so essentially the Church. They are church documents, instructions by Peter's church to his followers, included into the first bible a couple of hundred years later because they were determined to be doctrine by the same church that issued them.

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    100. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Jason+Levine · · Score: 1

      When I was in college, my father suggested I use that approach (walk up to them, ask them to sleep with me) on women. I told him that 1) No woman would say yes to a random stranger walking up and asking for sex and 2) If a woman did say yes, I wouldn't want to sleep with her because chances are she had every STD known to man!

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    101. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by squidflakes · · Score: 4, Funny

      (or octopus you during climax?)

      My god, is this something I can request? I, personally, would LOVE to be octopused during climax. Do... do I get to specify the species, or is that something that comes up during dating? Would I come off as shallow if I told a girl about my favorite species and asked if she could provide it? Should I just accept that while I may want to be Giant Pacific Octopused (E. dofleini) during climax, the girl I'm with may only have, or be able to, Red Octopus (O. Reubescens) me; or god forbid Blue Ringed Octopus (H. lunulata) me.

      What if I meet a girl that likes to cuttlefish?

    102. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      If I walked up to a guy and said "Nice shoes, wanna fuck?" -- there's a chance he'll say yes, despite this being one of the worst ways to go about it.

      Wait, what? Do you have any evidence for that being true? I know that this it the common cliché of males in today's western societies, but you know how reliable clichés are.

      Unless, of course, you want to get technical and say that you only said there was "a chance" without specifying how big it was. :P But I think you meant "a very good chance" (say, more than 0.8?), and I also think you're just repeating the above cliché.

      Please don't do that.

    103. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by CharlyFoxtrot · · Score: 1

      To be totally fair, it would have been necessary in an ancient civilization where birth control is nonexistant and a significant portion of the population is too stupid to know that sex makes babies. Otherwise, Israel would have had an epidemic of single mothers.

      Maybe that's why they had a history of people turning up claiming to be virgin births ?

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    104. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Xugumad · · Score: 1

      It's about 20 years too late to be funny, though...

    105. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Risen888 · · Score: 1

      Consider also that a man can't easliy be forced to have sexual intercourse against his will by a woman because he wont get hard if he isn't turned on.

      This is untrue.

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    106. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by gewalker · · Score: 1

      The Bible does not define any ritual needed for marriage. Biblically speaking, nothing would preclude the desert island marriage. I could certainly consider such a marriage approved by God, as far as approved by man, what laws were you responsible to while on the island. Contrary to Catholic doctrine, marriage is not a "church ordinance", rather is is approved by God.

      As to "sex is marriage", what a silly statement, were this true, it would be impossible to commit fornication as sex itself establishes the marriage.

      As to "Go find a priest" statement, it is true, no command to find a priest to perform a marriage ceremony, but get married to avoid fornication is the clear meaning of 1 Cor 7:1-2.

    107. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      "So what, sex is fun, feels good and there really isn't any reason not to enjoy it."

      It's called child support.

    108. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Historically, sex out of wedlock HAS been a very bad thing. Venereal diseases, unwanted pregnancies, death and sickness (really....the list of famous people who died of venereal disease at a young age is surprisingly long). Of course that's not really a problem anymore, but that's only been true for the last 60 years or so. For the thousands of years before that, religion was right on in their recommendations. Religion moves slowly to deal with new developments, especially on relatively minor issues (seriously....pick up any holy book and count the number of paragraphs talking about sex. It's a small proportion. Usually significantly less than 1%).

      It's orders of magnitude less about hygiene than it is about property rights and inheritance rights. All those "begats" have everything to do with who owns the goats and the wimmin. There was no way to disprove that a woman's child is, in fact, hers, but there's no accurate way to prove if a man's child is, in fact, his until very recently with genetic testing. Societal structures having supernatural consequences had to be elaborately constructed to ensure a provider's supposed offspring were indeed his. It's also only very recently that, religious or not, we as culture placed any value beyond that of property on said offspring.

    109. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Risen888 · · Score: 1

      Not the OP, but I assume (and certainly fucking hope) that they meant to say something "This doesn't need to be a problem anymore." I mean, maybe they're stupid, but that would be pretty over the top.

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    110. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      No, that's just a faulty English translation. The Greek has no such connotation.

    111. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by scot4875 · · Score: 2

      The right wingers are typically the ones who run on a platform of "moral superiority." They'd damn well better hold themselves to a higher standard.

      Funny thing is, they don't, and their voting base doesn't seem to notice.

      --Jeremy

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    112. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Absolutely beautiful and exactly on. I wish I had a set of mod points to mod you up.

    113. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      God intended marriage to emulate the relationship between Jesus Christ and the church.

      Given by how long marriage pre-dates Christianity, I very much doubt that.

      Marriage is, and always has been, (just like religion itself), of HUMAN creation. It is a social CONTRACT. It may be, that at one time, it was intended purely for the support and raising of children etc., but that has long since changed, (whether people LIKE it or not!) - (even if it can be argued that it would still be a good idea). (This is why GBLT people now wish to gain the benefits of marriage, because it has become a more general social contract - otherwise, what's the point? - it's just discriminating because we can).

    114. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by houghi · · Score: 1

      Not only were they right on. It worked just as great as the war on drugs.

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    115. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Nadaka · · Score: 1

      I don't need to pick and choose bible verses to find contradictions to anything, its a self contradictory work.

      I am talking about what happened in the first few centuries of Christianity, some of it before the gospel was written.

      Like it or not, Christianity began as an apocalyptic death cult and to some degree continues to be one even now. The protestants are not immune to this.

      I am not an outsider speaking from a perspective of ignorance. I was once a christian, a deacons son. Then I read the entire bible; every book, every verse, every word. Then I was able to recognize the dissonance in what I had been taught. I was taught hate and violence masqueraded as love and justice. The whole thing was a hypocrisy and farce. I have witnessed and experience first hand the vile darkness of "good christians". I have seen the dull side of an axe against my brothers head, I have felt a preachers fingers around my throat, I have seen my family broken and bleeding. I have seen worse than that. And I was raised to be the same. All in the name of your god.

      I reject that, I reject it all. I am a good and moral person, not because I was raised as a christian, it is in spite of it. I stand defiant and proud against you and blaspheme. I don't care if you are not like that, I don't care if you think yourself a good person. Open your eyes to what is happening now (the KKK, Uganda, fundamentalists, etc), read your entire damned bible (genesis to revelations), study the history of your church. Wake up.

    116. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by SuricouRaven · · Score: 1

      "I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing."

      It made sense at the time. This was back before the invention of (reliable) contraception. If you had sex back then, you *would* produce a child, and probably in quite a short time too. But you can't just go around breeding at random - it takes a family to provide the support and resources to care for a child until they are independant. It also really screws up the social order if there are children of unknown fathers around. These religious rules had their origin at a time when countries were ruled by heritary monarchs, preserving the family line was critical, and inheriting the family plot of land the only thing to keep many people from starvation. Then there is a very possessive attitude towards females, for no man wants to be unknowingly paying for the raising of another man's child. All this leads to a taboo against casual sex, and that in turn leads to taboos against things that would tempt people towards that sex.

      The problem is that the rules, practical as they were, were not justified by practicality. Instead they were presented and regarded as some form of divine decree, or a moral code written into the nature of the universe. So they remain in effect even many years after the reason passed.

    117. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by SuricouRaven · · Score: 1

      "or take a pill to let us have no strings attached sex like guys"

      And several readers set out to become research biologists.

      It's actually not that implausible. Formation of the emotional bond depends in large part on oxytocin. It probably wouldn't be too hard to inhibit that. The difficult part would be doing so without terrible side-effects, as it's a multi-function hormone.

    118. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      "I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing"

      Please stop confusing "religions" with the few primitive, emotionally unbalanced middle-eastern religions that you personally know, which are branches of one family. It's like saying Linux is insecure because Windows 95 and 98 are -- what you say reveals more about your ignorance than about the facts.

      Have you seriously never seen an eastern temple with people making love on the walls? Not all religions are the same. Christianity vs. Buddhism, Islam vs. Hinduism, Judaism vs. Taoism... they're AT LEAST as different as the fundamental differences in Linux and Windows. Until you understand the spectrum of spiritual beliefs, don't tar them with all with one brush. Some of them really do have a lot to offer. And, by the way, all have SOMETHING to offer.

    119. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by SuricouRaven · · Score: 1

      It can be done. Suction, drugs... there are ways to force an erection. But it's not something that can be easily done as a casual crime - a woman couldn't just drag a man into an alley and rape him. It would take planning.

    120. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by BitZtream · · Score: 1

      I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing.

      Population control and preventing the spread of disease.

      Most things relating to religion are actually means of keeping the populous doing the right thing for civilization as a whole rather than spiraling out of control.

      You want to deter baby making if you have a limited supply of resources and population growth would result in starvation.

      Rather than making people understand that if they impregnate a bunch of women due to casual sex the village is going to starve, you convince them that God doesn't want them to do so.

      Now ... we have birth control, that changes things considerably, but because people don't really understand that religion was just another control mechanism they don't realize that you can accomplish the same thing with a pill.

      Most laws relating to food in Judaism are for the same reason, it was unhealthy to consume those foods during ancient times and things like that.

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    121. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by balbus000 · · Score: 1

      Closing the gap? Pft, most of us Americans never fell behind :-P

    122. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by BitZtream · · Score: 1

      'girl in training' sounds to me more like a guy trying to become a girl.

      I'm pretty sure that 'out of the box' girls know how to be girls so no training would be required. One can then only assume that 'girlintraining' was previously or is currently not a girl, but is looking to become one at some point in the future.

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    123. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by ThatsNotPudding · · Score: 1

      Us men have to figure out what conditions have to be met in order for that to occur.

      I've found wearing a suit of $100 bills meets the condition.

    124. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Chelloveck · · Score: 4, Funny

      I was in the grocery store checkout lane last night, and I saw a Cosmo with the headline, "50 WAYS TO SEDUCE A MAN". Look, ladies, if you get past the second one, he's just not interested.

      "Would you like to—"
      "Yes!"

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    125. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      If sex is marriage, then what is the sin of fornication? Whither adultery if sex is marriage?

      Fornication is trivializing the relationship between you and the person you're having sex with by acting as if doing it doesn't make you "married". Adultery is trivializing the relationship between you and a person you are (or will be) "married to" by having sex with someone else and acting as if doing that doesn't make you "married" to them too, as if "marriage" meant nothing more to you than simply being a word on a worthless piece of paper that you have with some of your sexual partners and not others.

      There's not much difference between them, really.

    126. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Okay, which prankster decided to release a sociologist in here?

    127. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The war on drugs is a success for every person who stays off meth as a resut.

      For the rest of us, maybe not.

    128. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by dkleinsc · · Score: 1

      Actually, the primary issue was most definitely not VD. The real issue with sex out of wedlock was that in a society where the most important fact about you was who your father was, any sex out of wedlock threw that paternity into question.

      For societies that didn't really care about who your father was, it wasn't an issue. For example, in Norse society it was not uncommon for a male guest to be offered the chance to sleep with the mistress of the house, and a lot of that had to do with men's social standing depending on who's butt you could kick rather than who your daddy was. Similarly, from what we can tell of Irish myth, they really didn't care who the biological dad was, and sex out of wedlock was common.

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    129. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      or octopus you during climax

      I'm totally serious about this... don't laugh.

      I was ok for the rest of it, I really was - but I couldn't resist the laugh there. I've never heard it described quite that way - but it's both accurate and an amusing mental image. (Posting anon to avoid undoing mods - ~thePowerOfGrayskull)

    130. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by makubesu · · Score: 1

      Not a problem anymore? Have you seen the statistics on STDs? The tech is there, but it's still a problem as long as people are total morons.

    131. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by MobileTatsu-NJG · · Score: 1

      The problem is that in the US is there is also no shortage of making a big deal out of casual sex.

      Correction: There's no shortage of making a bunch of noise about casual sex in the US.

      Be careful about making generalizations with over 300 million people.

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    132. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Homr+Zodyssey · · Score: 1

      While I don't completely agree with slashdottedjoe's politics, it should be pointed out that he was responding to devxo's comments which painted Europe with one big brush.

      This seems to be more of a problem with the way US thinks about sex, while we here in Europe can just have it casually and not make a big deal out of it.

      I find it hard to believe that all of Europe holds the same view, and I'm sure that the entire U.S. does not see sex in the same way.

    133. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Given by how long marriage pre-dates Christianity

      Are you implying that God wasn't capable of designing marriage prior to some people calling themselves a certain word? As I remember it, God made a man and a woman and told them to have babies, and you can't go back much farther than that.

    134. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Archangel+Michael · · Score: 1

      Us men have to figure out what conditions have to be met in order for that to occur.

      And why men make better coders. /ducks!

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    135. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Homr+Zodyssey · · Score: 2

      Most notably, women... :oD

    136. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Chris+Mattern · · Score: 1

      Very true, but an even more overriding biological consideration is that it's the woman who gets pregnant. That makes sex much more of a commitment for the woman--not saying the man can't be committed, but the woman *has* to be, or at least had to be before birth control, which on a evolutionary timescale, or even a societal one, just happened yesterday.

    137. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by dmbasso · · Score: 2

      Sex is perfectly possible while (mostly) clothed.

      Possible, but not as much enjoyable. Maximizing skin contact increases the pleasure.

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    138. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Archangel+Michael · · Score: 1

      Actually, in the bible, you were married when you had sex, because sex was the "Marriage". How many guys would screw the first girl that put out, if that meant they were married to her for life? How many of you are glad you're not married to the first girl you nailed? (also goes to girls too).

      And this is one of the reasons why Government should not decided who can or cannot be married. It is no business between government and the two getting married. If two gay people want to get married, great. But likewise government should not mandate any laws on how (or how not) to treat people who are married compared to individuals.

      I just wish our society was consistent with regards to separation of church and state, which would include marriages (IMHO).

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    139. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      "and what comes out of our mouth is totally irrelevant"

      Rubbish. Otherwise the 'PUA' community wouldn't exist.

    140. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Tuan121 · · Score: 1

      For the thousands of years before that, religion was right on in their recommendations.

      *BUZZ* Incorrect. By that logic, me stating that you shouldn't stick your hand in an active lawnmower because it does not appease God is a valid statement.

      While I might be right, the reason behind it is unsubstantial.

    141. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by http · · Score: 1
      You ask,

      I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing.

      ...and the simplified answer is, people growing up in societies where pleasure is a normal component of everyday life don't feel like organizing an army to aggressively expand the borders of their nations. Refer: Body Pleasure and the Origins of Violence.

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    142. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by sglewis100 · · Score: 1

      I am talking about what happened in the first few centuries of Christianity, some of it before the gospel was written.

      The gospel is older than you think. Much of the books now present in the New Testament have been dated to the latter part of 1st century A.D., some of the later epistles being older than the Gospel, and possibly dating to 50-60 A.D. in some cases. Prior to that, Church doctrine was fairly well established, even early on, although much of it passed on in the Jewish tradition of oral teachings.

      Like it or not, Christianity began as an apocalyptic death cult and to some degree continues to be one even now. The protestants are not immune to this.

      I am not an outsider speaking from a perspective of ignorance. I was once a christian, a deacons son. Then I read the entire bible; every book, every verse, every word. Then I was able to recognize the dissonance in what I had been taught. I was taught hate and violence masqueraded as love and justice. The whole thing was a hypocrisy and farce. I have witnessed and experience first hand the vile darkness of "good christians". I have seen the dull side of an axe against my brothers head, I have felt a preachers fingers around my throat, I have seen my family broken and bleeding. I have seen worse than that. And I was raised to be the same. All in the name of your god.

      I reject that, I reject it all. I am a good and moral person, not because I was raised as a christian, it is in spite of it. I stand defiant and proud against you and blaspheme. I don't care if you are not like that, I don't care if you think yourself a good person. Open your eyes to what is happening now (the KKK, Uganda, fundamentalists, etc), read your entire damned bible (genesis to revelations), study the history of your church. Wake up.

      If you were taught something contrary to the Gospel, then you were taught incorrectly. I don't dispute that many, many people teach many, many horrible things... quite often in the name of Christianity. On a side note, why would you assume I haven't read every word of the Bible? I certainly did before becoming a Christian (not born one, but born again), and I have since then as well. And yes, I am VERY aware of the history of my church, thank you. I realize as a people we profess to be sinful and imperfect by nature, but I am also aware just how far many of us have fallen. You seem to have been surrounded with some terrible people. The Gospel still rings true, even if you were exposed to a false teaching by false Christians.

      That there's garbage in the world is not a reason for me to lay down my system of beliefs. It's more the reason to strive to the ideals promoted by Christ, and hope to awaken lost souls, even those already claiming to be saved.

      Furthermore, if you have been threatened with an axe, or had a preacher choke or threaten to choke you, that's really not quite the same Christianity I've been exposed to. In fact, it's not Christian at all. I'm terribly sorry if you were surrounded by violence and abuse in the name of our Lord, but that's not the way my religion operates, just the way people operate in the false name of my religion.

    143. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by NoSig · · Score: 2, Interesting

      Rape is not a common thing and is a non-issue for normal, balanced people of both sexes. Men are much, much more at risk in the nightlife than women are - from other men. Physical risk of being coerced has just got nothing to do with why women have different wishes on sex. If you are honest you'll realize that woman-on-man violence is much more common than the other way around. One main effect that is actually real is that almost all men desire young women physically while women want same-age partners. This means that young women experience tremendous demand from men so they can afford to be very picky. This gives them excellent training for playing games on men without investing any real effort so that they are skilled at forcing situations of them being in control even when they get older and are not as much in demand.

    144. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by mewshi_nya · · Score: 2

      And, don't forget the whole patriarchy of the Bible. The whole Bible portrays women as property and temptresses. If you "humble" a woman by raping her, she is forced to marry you (presumably because no other man would want a woman who isn't a virgin); if a woman has sex with someone other than her husband, he can get a divorce (but not the other way around). Women were commonly bought and sold as wives/servants (at roughly half the price of a man, at that). Women are usually blamed for the "fall of man". God outright says "Kill all the men, and rape the women as you see fit."

      The Bible's admonitions of sex outside of marriage have nothing to do with trying to keep men pure -- in fact, it is rarely mentioned as to whether a male in the Bible is a virgin or not, as the society didn't really care if a man slept with 40 women before he got married (a double standard which endures even to today, as a women who sleeps with even one man before her wedding is often called a slut or a harlot or what-have-you, while a man who sleeps with dozens of women is revered). The prohibition of sex has everything to do with keeping a man's "future property" clean and virginal. That's all it really is.

      Also, I think my post goes hand-in-hand with its sibling post.

    145. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      >>Women decide when/if sex happens.

      Men decide, too. Consent is a two way street. It just turns out you have to have both parties agreeing to sex - anything else is rape.

    146. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by NoSig · · Score: 1

      You taught us well.

    147. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by xaxa · · Score: 2

      A much less likely one is some kind of drama, like "I'm angry at my boyfriend, so I'm going to screw with the first guy I come across". I highly suspect that this is inexistent in reality and only exists in bad movies.

      The question was asked to me. I'd gone to a nightclub (Electric Ballroom, Camden, London) with some old friends. To compensate for the music I wasn't enjoying I drank more than usual. (At some point all but one of the friends left without me, probably because I'd wandered off to a different room.)

      I was pretty drunk, standing at the side of the dancefloor, and a girl wandered up to me and said something like "you're hot, kiss me", so I did. She then wanted to go to the bar, and got me to buy her a drink. We returned to the dancefloor for about two minutes before she wanted another drink. I hesitated; she ran off to some other guy, then went to the bar and bought back two beers while I waited for my brain to catch up. She gave one beer to me, and downed the other herself. I then realised something funny was going on. She ran off again after a few minutes, and I noticed the remaining friend and went over to him. After about 10 minutes we decided to leave.

      I asked for a glass of tap water and drank it. Then the girl appears at my side and grabs my arm, accompanied by two bouncers. She's clearly even more drunk than before. The bouncers are trying to talk to me, but it's too loud to hear. I gesture, and everyone follows me to the entrance hallway (which is quiet). A bouncer explains that the girl hit a barman who refused to serve her and that they want her to leave, and that she's banned. I say I don't even know her name. They ask to see her ID, she hands over a passport. She's still tightly holding my arm. The passport picture clearly isn't hers, and that plus the better light of the hallway makes me realise she's probably 16, possibly younger. Someone takes the passport into the office to photocopy/scan it. This infuriates the girl, who shouts at the nearest bouncer. The girl tries to hit the bouncer, but can't as I hold her back. The bouncer pushes the girl hard against the wall. I'm dragged into the wall since I'm still in her grip. I shout out, and another bouncer comes over. She pulls away the first bouncer, then shoves the girl herself. I fall over into a corner, the girl is still holding onto me, so she falls onto me. The rugby-player-sized bouncer pins the girl against the wall by her neck while the other screams in her face. Their manager appears, and they both stand up and step away. (I weigh 55kg, the girl was a head-height shorter than me, and stick-thin.)

      I say I'll leave with the girl (I no longer trust the staff, and I don't think she should leave alone). The passport is returned, someone fetches my coat, and I leave. Once outside the girl tries to run in front of a bus, but I grab her. I try and get to my phone to call the police (concerned for her safety and lacking any other ideas of what to do), but I can't reach the pocket while she's pulling. I continue to restrain her, hoping she'll calm down. Eventually she becomes coherent and says she wants to go home, and would I take her to the station. I explain that there aren't any trains at 3:45 on Sunday morning, but I'll find the bus or call a taxi. She's tells me where she lives, she's travelled about 100 miles to get here. She asks me to call various people on her phone, including her "boyfriend" who is apparently in the club, but no one answers.

      A passer-by stops and says "'Anne'? What the fuck are you doing in London?". A friend! Thank fuck. The friend is on her way home, and says 'Anne' can stay at her place. 'Anne' tells the friend to fuck off. She fucks off. Damn. Thankfully, she appears five minutes later with a taxi, and they leave. My friend appears, and we leave.

      I wrote to owner of the nightclub the next day, and sent a copy of the letter to the police. The police just kept a record, presumably the girl didn't complain as they never contacted me. She was u

    148. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by mewshi_nya · · Score: 2

      Those are purely modern problems; women with illegitimate children, in Bible times, were pretty much expected to live in poverty for their "sins".

      If it was really about preventing diseases or a plethora of pregnancies, infidelity perpetrated by a husband would have been grounds for divorce. As it was, only infidelity by the wife was proper grounds.

      The prohibition of sex is more about keeping a man's "property" clean, pure, and virginal, rather than any altruistic societal ideals. If it was about actually preventing unwanted children and disease, rape victims would not have been forced by decree to marry their attacker, men would have been stoned to death for not being virgins on their wedding nights (which was expected for a woman who wasn't a virgin on her wedding night), et cetera.

    149. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by ifiwereasculptor · · Score: 2

      Yeah. Like maybe two bottles of beer.

    150. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Risen888 · · Score: 1

      Wrong. Manual stimulation can force an erection in an unaroused man.

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    151. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Women decide when/if sex happens. Us men have to figure out what conditions have to be met in order for that to occur. The video game treatment, while simplified greatly, works along the same lines.

      It's simply supply demand. Generally guys want it more often than girls.
      I never wanted it more than my girlfriends and it has always been me who decides the when/if.

    152. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by ifiwereasculptor · · Score: 1

      As long as you're not a total troll or cow and make it clear that you're serious about that statement, and the guys not gay ofc, theres a 90% chance you'll get a yes out of that. The other 10% are impotent or unconscious.

      FTFY.

    153. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by tm2b · · Score: 1

      It's near impossible for a woman past a certain age to have sex and not develop an emotional attachment.

      That is highly variable. There are many women who don't experience this, just as there are many women who do - our culture of slut shaming punishes women who don't, though you can certainly find them and talk to them yourself in various alternate sexuality groups.

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    154. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by ifiwereasculptor · · Score: 1

      If I walked up to a guy and said "Nice shoes, wanna fuck?" -- there's a chance he'll say yes, despite this being one of the worst ways to go about it

      Were somebody to try that on me, I'd start looking for the first convenient excuse to get away as quickly as possible, or just plain run like hell.

      That's because I'd start wondering, why would somebody do that?

      Dude, she told you already. "Nice shoes". You know women dig that.

    155. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by gknoy · · Score: 1

      I propose the funding of some medical research ... :)

    156. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by mdielmann · · Score: 1

      Meaning some people took it seriously and didn't have to suffer the admittedly uncommon negative consequences?

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    157. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Schadrach · · Score: 2

      Hey look, we might have an actual example of someone being effected by the evil pornographic content in Bulletstorm leading to increased risk of sexual violence! =p

    158. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'm a guy and develop an emotional attachment to all women I fuck, too. So don't say that's exclusive to women. Usually ends up with me feeling closer to the woman than she does me, because she's a slut that's incapable of developing an emotional connection. I am arguing against you saying the opposite is true. Women are the sexual aggressors and have no problem with "no-strings attached" sex. Men are the ones that don't have that advantage you attribute us with.

    159. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by gknoy · · Score: 1

      The combination of your nickname and that post was tremendously funny. :) Hats off to you, sir.

    160. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Uh, incurable STDs, an unwanted pregnancies are still a big problem. Just because you don't die from an STD nowadays (in some countries anyway) doesn't mean that you're going to want to have to take pills or injections for the rest of your life - not to mention limit your sex partners to other people who already have the same disease. There are certainly ways to prevent pregnancy now, and bravo for that, but sometimes they do fail and if you're an unmarried couple not wanting a child or a family then you're still left with an uncomfortable choice. Religion moves slowly because the problems it addresses generally do not change.

    161. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by syousef · · Score: 1

      If I walked up to a guy and said "Nice shoes, wanna fuck?" -- there's a chance he'll say yes, despite this being one of the worst ways to go about it.

      If you're even remotely attractive (Lets say, shy of disfigured), I'd say there's a very good chance. If the gender roles are reversed, there's a very good chance of getting slapped. I don't know if that's societal or biological, but I suspect it's societal.

      It's not societal. Women have traditionally had the most to lose. Birth control is a relatively new invention and if you're female having some unattached and emotionally uninvested idiot leave you having to raise a child on your own makes your chance of survival and the child's much lower. Sure things changed with birth control, but that doesn't undo all the evolutionary pressure before that point. Even today if her birth control fails, while the woman is less likely to starve to death or be eaten by wild animals the years raising your child on her own without financial or physical won't be much fun.

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    162. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by pscottdv · · Score: 1

      ...and your astonishing lack of an argument proves what?

      It wasn't astonishing or an attempt to prove anything. It was an observation.

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    163. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by SuricouRaven · · Score: 1

      I assumed that said unaroused man would also be very scared, which would render it more difficult. Plus he'd need to be restrained - the woman would need both arms just to hold him, and I imagine it'd be rather hard to both stimulate a man and keep him from escaping without the aid of some rope.

      It'd be easier just to get him drunk.

    164. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by LanMan04 · · Score: 1

      . Especially if you're in a relationship, as a guy you're offered more than you can do with

      I take it you're not married. Or have kids.

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    165. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by mdielmann · · Score: 3, Interesting

      And what do you do when there's no obvious connection between a certain act and it's consequence? How would you explain to someone about covering your mouth when you sneeze if you couldn't explain microbes and the germ theory? The common one is, "It's gross," which is a societal conformity response, much like what religions use to promote their edicts ("You'll go to hell!").

      It's been known for a very long time that St. John's Wort has anti-depressant properties, rivaling modern pharmaceuticals. I guess they were fools to believe it too, since they had little means to determine why.

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    166. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Moryath · · Score: 1

      That's just YOUR kink.

    167. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I assumed that said unaroused man would also be very scared, which would render it more difficult. Plus he'd need to be restrained - the woman would need both arms just to hold him, and I imagine it'd be rather hard to both stimulate a man and keep him from escaping without the aid of some rope.

      Yeah, that sounds nearly impossible. Especially the part about using rope. Women aren't smart enough to use rope.

      It'd be easier just to get him drunk.

      Rape isn't about having sex. It's about making someone else have sex against their will.

    168. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Shotgun · · Score: 1

      Sex happens because we have hormones and chemicals and stuff in our brains

      And because the guy has a nice car or other trappings of money. But I'm sure you just left that out for the sake of brevity.

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    169. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by psithurism · · Score: 1

      Until women turn 30. Then they wake up one morning and realize that this biological clock thing is running and it becomes a sellers market.

      Uh, I don't think that's the sex your looking for. Word of warning: if a woman sells you sex because her biological clock tells her to, it's going to take 20+years to pay off that debt.

    170. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Cid+Highwind · · Score: 1

      They're the mythical "other gender" of humans. Some laughably backward ancient societies believed that humans, like other mammals, reproduced sexually, often within a long-term pair mating of one male and one "fe-male" human.

      Supposedly girls still live in the Big Blue Room, but as far as modern geography knows the BBR is itself a myth or an allegory of some sort. Girls are sort of in the same category as Bigfoot and the Loch Ness Monster; they probably don't exist, but it's impossible to prove a negative, so there's no swaying the believers...

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    171. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by squidflakes · · Score: 2

      Believe it or not, fear will also cause an erection.

    172. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      But what did Lord Krishna intend?

    173. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Nadaka · · Score: 1

      I assume you have never read the whole bible because most of the remotely sympathetic Christians that I have known never have. It is impossible for a rational non psychopathic person to read and understand the whole bible and believe that is both true and a valid basis for a good and moral religion.

      You can say "but they are not the real Christians" all you want. History shows different, they have been the real Christians far longer than the kind that you believe in has existed. You want to pick and choose the tiny nuggets of good out of the cesspool of filth and lies that is the bible, go ahead. Some people think I have done the same, they are wrong. I forged my morality on reason alone.

      The bible is neither true nor a valid basis for a good and moral religion. Faith is the lock that holds fast the chains of ignorance that imprisons your mind. I am an atheist, I believe in no god, no heaven and no hell. I do not need to be a subservient plaything to a god either wicked or benign. I do not need to fear eternal punishment or desire eternal bliss. I am good for none of these reasons. I am good because it is right and just, because it matters, because I want the world to be a better place.

    174. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by AgentSmith · · Score: 1

      men would have been stoned to death for not being virgins on their wedding nights

      Without using any medical tools, how do you expect to biologically prove that a man is a virgin?
      Reasonably easy to detect with women, although sometimes historically done in very creepy and inappropriate ways.

      I'm not invalidating any part of your argument, but that does explain why men couldn't be stoned for being non-virginal aside from the norms of a patriarchal society.

    175. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by randizzle3000 · · Score: 1

      If this happenned under Bush...

      ...then it wouldn't be congressmen with GUYS in the bathroom!

    176. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I also admire how you Europeans have mastered that whole arrogance thing.

      It is only natural that you admire us.

    177. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Risen888 · · Score: 1

      I assumed that said unaroused man would also be very scared, which would render it more difficult.

      You would be incorrect.

      Plus he'd need to be restrained - the woman would need both arms just to hold him, and I imagine it'd be rather hard to both stimulate a man and keep him from escaping without the aid of some rope.

      It'd be easier just to get him drunk.

      I was talking about your erroneous assumptions about human anatomy, not your sexist worldview.

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    178. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by sglewis100 · · Score: 1

      I assume you have never read the whole bible because most of the remotely sympathetic Christians that I have known never have. It is impossible for a rational non psychopathic person to read and understand the whole bible and believe that is both true and a valid basis for a good and moral religion.

      You can say "but they are not the real Christians" all you want. History shows different, they have been the real Christians far longer than the kind that you believe in has existed. You want to pick and choose the tiny nuggets of good out of the cesspool of filth and lies that is the bible, go ahead. Some people think I have done the same, they are wrong. I forged my morality on reason alone.

      The bible is neither true nor a valid basis for a good and moral religion. Faith is the lock that holds fast the chains of ignorance that imprisons your mind. I am an atheist, I believe in no god, no heaven and no hell. I do not need to be a subservient plaything to a god either wicked or benign. I do not need to fear eternal punishment or desire eternal bliss. I am good for none of these reasons. I am good because it is right and just, because it matters, because I want the world to be a better place.

      It's easy to talk to an atheist. It's comparably harder to talk to someone who layers on bitterness, anger, and false statements. Combining that with doing it via Slashdot comments makes it darn near impossible. For the record (again), yes, I have read the whole Bible. Not everyone believes it impossible for rational people to read and understand, and believe that it's both true and moral. The only thing we agree on, is that there are a bunch of lousy people, and many use the name of my religion to perpetuate their evil.

    179. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Creepy · · Score: 1

      Any extremist considers themselves morally superior, and left wing is no better than right (Al Franken is as full of himself as Rush Limbaugh).

      Personally, I think the problem is the ESRB
      Sex (from ESRB in the late 1990s, but I doubt much has changed):
      1) showing a female nipple is an automatic M
      2) showing sexual parts is an automatic AO
      3) sex is an automatic M (under the covers and infrequent or suggested)

      Violence (from what I've observed - the commercial game I worked on didn't really have any violence per-se):
      1) Violence without gore is a Teen (or less)
      2) Violence with gore is an M
      3) Violence with extreme gore and disturbing psychological behavior can get an AO

      I've seen more nudity in a G rated movie than some M rated games.

      So why do games reward you for sex? Because it is so taboo that it in itself has become a reward. Actually there are some exceptions - Fallout for instance, where it is part of the world. I missed the funny speech popups/conversations from 2 when 3 came out though (that was partially restored with New Vegas, but only as a female with Benny). Also Max Payne 2 (the cinematic part like the shower scene is part of the plot and not really a reward).

      It isn't just a US problem, but the US seems to have to "clean it up" more, like Atari's cleaning of the Witcher (which was sex=reward since you collect cards and try to get them all...).

    180. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by creat3d · · Score: 1

      I was joking, since everything now is a good occasion to use the "if this happened under [one side]'s rule, the [other side] media would've had a field day!"

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    181. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by cyberfunkr · · Score: 1

      I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing.

      Historically, sex out of wedlock HAS been a very bad thing. Venereal diseases, unwanted pregnancies, death and sickness (really....the list of famous people who died of venereal disease at a young age is surprisingly long). Of course that's not really a problem anymore, but that's only been true for the last 60 years or so. For the thousands of years before that, religion was right on in their recommendations. Religion moves slowly to deal with new developments, especially on relatively minor issues (seriously....pick up any holy book and count the number of paragraphs talking about sex. It's a small proportion. Usually significantly less than 1%).

      There are two main factors to religion's stand on sex (and by religion I mean the more popular choices in America; not every single religion).

      First and foremost, to all the religions that have a stigma on sex, the only purpose of sex is to make babies to perpetuate the religion and moreso, perpetuate the coffers. You have a baby, they get a future tither. That's why the bible talks about "spilling seed" as a bad thing; you're wasting their future money.

      Second, they only want you to perform in the least satisfactory way. Because if sex is fun, guilt-free, and felt good, you'd do it all the time. If you're going to do it all the time, you're going to take steps to prevent having children (pills, condoms, cut, etc). Since you're only doing it occasionally and it's not that exciting of a position, you'll want to get the most out of it. Plus, as the parent mentioned, too much of a good thing can cause death. Too much death and no one is around to perpetuate the religion.

    182. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by mewshi_nya · · Score: 1

      Actually, the standard "test" for virginity was the presence of a hymen. Yes, that's terribly accurate, when the hymen can be absent for any of a number of non-sexual reasons.

    183. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by 517714 · · Score: 1

      Nice shoes == Gay. She's a psycho.

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    184. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by randizzle3000 · · Score: 1

      Aw crap I thought you were setting up a joke, "under Bush". NM.

    185. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Hylandr · · Score: 1

      Touche !

      - Dan.

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    186. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I disagree.

      You're extrapolating your behaviour onto everyone else. For guys who actually get put in that position (i.e. sports stars) , most of them turn it down, most of the time. For example, although Tiger Woods was sleeping with 8 women, he had probably turned down 500.

    187. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by GauteL · · Score: 2

      "Of course that's not really a problem anymore"

      In an otherwise good argument, I think you forgot a few continents when making this statement. But don't let me derail you by "well, actually"-ing you. In nature, casual sex is a mixed blessing. For a man, in good times it is the best way of increasing your chances of having surviving offspring, something which is less relevant in bad times when single mothers and their child are unlikely to survive. For women, having to carry the child for 9 months and being left with it afterwards, this is clearly not such a good deal. So "unwanted pregnancies" has often been more of a problem for the woman than the man. For both, I fully agree with you on the threat of VDs, which is still a massive issue across the world, even in the West.

      However, it is a fair while since the best way of stopping VDs was to tell people to abstain. That was never all that successful anyway.

    188. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by dmbasso · · Score: 1

      While I agree that, for instance, the thrill of fucking in a pub or shopping center's bathroom (where you'd have to be mostly clothed) adds a whole new dimension to the experience, you can't deny that the tactile stimuli is important. In fact, direct sensory stimulation requires less brain processing than context interpretation, and is much more effective for normal males (by 'normal' I mean 'no anxiety issues'). For females the importance of context varies much more than for males, often being greater than sensory stimulation.

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    189. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by 517714 · · Score: 1

      What media has treated sex seriously? Hollywood and even independent and international movie makers rarely approach the subject with any particular grace Magazines are completely vile; whether its Penthouse or Cosmopolitan. Books don't seem to do much better. Video games have had far fewer shots at getting it right, although I doubt they will ever stray from the women as objects model since all characters in a game are objects.

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    190. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Schadrach · · Score: 1

      ...and this is the reason that the whole "civil union" concept was so brilliant, but only if used not as a gay equivalent to, but as a wholesale replacement for marriage in the legal sense.

      Like it or not, "marriage" confers legal status and benefits. Separating the legal and religious concepts as far from each other as possible seems entirely reasonable as a step towards ending the whole "gay marriage" debate, however. You know, that way they can receive the legal status and benefits of being "unioned" in the same manner that straight couples would (also for being "unioned") while still being able to tell the religious types "Look, they have the same *legal* status, but if your church doesn't recognize their union then you can still claim that they aren't *really* married, OK?"

      And yes, this would require a clearly spelled out "conscientious objector" clause wherein it is spelled out in black and white that no religious organization can be compelled to perform any kind of ritual for any couple under any circumstances, just to make it blatantly clear that this isn't something that's going to be pushed on *your* church in any way, since doing so would be a violation of your 1st Amendment religious freedoms just as much as preventing them from being "unioned" in the first place on religious grounds would be.

    191. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      You seem to have the strange misconception that the hymen is something that either is there or isn't there.

    192. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Consider also that a man can't easliy be forced to have sexual intercourse against his will by a woman because he wont get hard if he isn't turned on

      Ever have to take a piss in the morning, really really bad, and have to wait until your morning wood went down?

      Yah, it's like that, except the toilet bowl wasn't stroking your cock.

    193. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Schadrach · · Score: 1

      You are wrong on #2, probably because you are assuming it as a unidirectional thing where one holds the other higher than themselves and the other doesn't. Think of it more as "*each* holds the other higher than themselves" and reparse that.

    194. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Taibhsear · · Score: 1

      Historically, sex out of wedlock HAS been a very bad thing. Venereal diseases, unwanted pregnancies, death and sickness

      Yeah, because none of those things have ever happened to married couples...

    195. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Casual sex with random people is fun and harmless. 12% of the people in Africa approve this message.

    196. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by martin-boundary · · Score: 1
      Archangel Michael: "Hi there, let me debug you baby!"

      *slap*

      Nope, didn't work.

    197. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Read Song of Solomon once.

      Admittedly it is about his wife, but it is very much about sex, and definitely is in the 'pro' camp.

    198. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      1 in 6 women are raped in their lifetimes. (The number is more like 1 in 30 for men.) Not a common thing, huh? Great to know. Just fucking great.

    199. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The "clinginess" of USian women are not caused of an abundance of clinginess-hormones in all women, all over the world, it is because USian women lack self confidence, being valued by society and, usually, strong economic independence. I'm Swedish, based on a limited experience in fucking a few US raised women, I would say that while US women often show a lot of confidence, it is just for show, when it matters they become faint and in a constant need of approval (the (faked) confidence and signs of self initiative that made them sexually attractive to me in the first place, disappear the moment it comes to actual sex, it is an instant turn off and at the same time you don't want to make their self confidence issues worse by turning them down). Clinginess after sex is often just a need of approval because of bad confidence: am I attractive? do you think I'm a slut(*) now? et.c. Swedish women with the same lack of confidence (a minority) behave the same and they are also as confusing and not-fun to fuck as the generic US woman: you can never be sure if they really like something, what they want you to do, if they really like you, or are just being obnoxiously obedient and try to do things and behave like they think will please you because of their self confidence issues (like most Swedish males, I hate mindlessly obedient women).

      When it comes to one-sided emotional attachment after sex, I think it is fairly equally distributed among Swedish men and women. Unless being a total sociopath, most people have certainly experienced it some time or another. Of course, as a male with mostly male friend, I mostly hear about the heartache of other men, so solely based on hearsay, I could have said that it is more common among Swedish men then women. Even if you don't need constant approval, sometimes strong feelings happens and sometimes they are one sided, then it is easy to become "clingy", whether you are a man or a woman don't matter. Somewhat related, different people is different in the need of cuddling, that is a personality trait, I don't think there is any difference between men and women as a whole (but in some macho cultures, men may have been taught that liking cuddles show lack of masculinity).

      The problem may become worse because US males in general seem to lack confidence just as well [thats the reason, I theorise, that all USians are so very loud] and fuck just about anything that move in an attempt to boost their ego. While Swedish men practise try-before-you-buy (finding the women for a long term partnership(**)) and use sex as a mean to learn to know women we find interesting (not always sexually), and don't look down on people that have sex just for fun (this is not as common behaviour as foreigners think it is in Sweden), most Swedish men would not fuck someone that they don't feel/think has some interesting qualities, besides the vagina.

      And the pick-up phrase: "Nice shoes, wanna fuck?", actually work better on women then men. In my youth, some of my friends (men and women) tried out the most stupid pick-ups we could think of, the same one was used by all the people in the group during the same night (evaluating the outcome afterwards, yes some of them become statisticians and behaviour scientists when they grew up). That kind of pick-ups work incredibly well on young (Swedish) women, especially if you choose a target that look weak of mind (I never felt the need to target the weak, so not for me), but such pick-ups don't work at all on any young (Swedish) men (but one homosexual male friend succeeded to get laid with the phrase "nice ass" and "you have the most incredible eyes" worked well with both sexes, but I think it was the intense eye contact that made it work).

      (*) As a Swede, I will never really understand how a woman who agreed to have sex with a man can be deemed more sluttish then the man, because of that same action. It just make no sense.

      (**) Swedes usually don't marry until the second child, it is seen as a necessary "legal" matter by most, not a matter of ro

    200. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Thank you for leaving your comment. I was going to post a response to that question, but you summed it up quite nicely.
      I would like to add that the Religious aspect of belief also gets in the way of developing a Relationship with God. God didn't create the diverse religions that we have, man did simply by misinterpreting what God says.
      So in the example above: "stranded on an island," yes you could get married, but you have to realize that you are making a covenant involving that person and God; promising Him that you will do everything you can to be selfless and push yourself and your spouse into a closer relationship with God.

    201. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by PCM2 · · Score: 1

      If you are honest you'll realize that woman-on-man violence is much more common than the other way around. One main effect that is actually real is that almost all men desire young women physically while women want same-age partners.

      Wow, that's a whoooollle lotta generalization to support your own assumptions. I assume you've called a few rape crisis centers and family counseling practices to get the statistics to back it all up?

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    202. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by RockoTDF · · Score: 1

      Or sexual health, abortion, and a number of other things along these lines.

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    203. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Consider also that a man can't easliy be forced to have sexual intercourse against his will by a woman because he wont get hard if he isn't turned on. But a woman can be forced.

      Look, I know you assume these things because this is what you've heard, but pushing this line of reasoning hurts men who really have been raped, because of people like you who think that if they were hard, it was consensual on his part.

      Penises are not entirely under our control. Getting an erection is not a conscious thought 95% of the time. If a man hasn't had a recent orgasm (or two), manual stimulation is likely to make him erect regardless of if he'd like to be.

      Woman on man sexual abuse happens, and attitudes like the parent's prevent justice from being done.

    204. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Nadaka · · Score: 1

      I have not said one false thing here.

      Mainstream Christianity really did believe in zero reproduction at one time, some Christians still pray every single day that the human race be wiped out.
      It really did believe that the only pleasure should be the contemplation of god at one time, and still do to a lesser degree that varies from sect to sect.
      The bible really is full of god, his representatives and followers actively participated in and promoted murder, genocide, rape, slavery, hatred, fear, lies, etc.

      I really believe that the world would be a better place if good people realized just how screwed up Christianity is and decided to disassociate themselves from it and find something more rational and less corrupt to believe in.

    205. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by gblfxt · · Score: 1

      Holy Books are a matter of interpretation. They could be interpreted as sex manuals, but people interpret the text differently.

    206. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Slashdot+Parent · · Score: 1

      When I was in college, my father suggested I use that approach (walk up to them, ask them to sleep with me) on women. I told him that 1) No woman would say yes to a random stranger walking up and asking for sex and 2) If a woman did say yes, I wouldn't want to sleep with her because chances are she had every STD known to man!

      You're probably right on the STD point (always use a condom!), but I have to agree with your father on the asking for sex point. Sure, the answer will usually be, "no". But I bet the answer will be yes a nontrivial percentage of the time.

      Remember, there are all kinds of women out there. Women who are: drunk, depressed, angry at their boyfriend, horny, trying to impress someone, stressed, etc. There are all kinds of reasons the answer might be yes. Your job is just to ask the requisite number of women. If you can handle a bit of rejection (it's not like you're emotionally invested in these women; all you've done is ask them one question), you can get laid.

      In fact, a friend of mine tried the "nice shoes, wanna fuck" approach in college. Well, it was "nice button, wanna fuck" (she was wearing a weird glow-in-the-dark button). Her answer: "Let's dance for a few songs first."

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    207. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by deadweight · · Score: 1

      No shit. If you have your pick of hundreds, you don't have time to screw them all.

    208. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The problem with sex is, if the correct precautions are not taken, it leads to the creation of a whole new human being that will need financial and emotional support, feeding, educating etc.

      The other problem is, if done wrong or inappropriately can lead to a lifetime of pain, suffering and emotional trauma.

      The other problem with it is that society doesn't approve of things that render adult human beings less than fully in control of themselves, for example drug prohibition and the negative attitude towards alcohol.

      The other problem is that there are a bunch of backward people who view it as a means for one person to dominate another... etc.

    209. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      most religions don't actually make sex look like a bad thing. they try to make casual, shallow sex look like a bad thing. why? http://www.cdc.gov/std/stats/

    210. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Posted earlier, just wanted to back up what I was saying: Myths about Sexual Abuse on Males

    211. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by operagost · · Score: 2

      Red herring. Both sex and violence are big deals, and no one said otherwise. Do try to make logical arguments. Oh yeah, we're on slashdot.

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    212. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by operagost · · Score: 1

      Sex is not marriage. In fact, the betrothal period of Jesus's time was considered marriage before a wedding, if you will. It took up to a year for the husband to prepare for the wedding. That being said, I don't think that a loving couple on a desert island have anything to worry about, for the reasons I stated.

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    213. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      See former President Bill Clinton and remember the infamous line I did not have sexual relations with that woman, Miss Lewinsky? Who was "right" back then based on whether a blow job can be called "sex"?

      Moral: "Sex" is sex ... is sex. Even if it is "not" sex.

    214. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by LordNacho · · Score: 1

      I am married, actually. No kids yet.

    215. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by NoSig · · Score: 1

      Have you ever seen a man attack a women physically even once? I lose count of the number of times I've seen it the other way around and I doubt your experience is different. It's just that we don't classify women-on-man violence as violence. A slap is the typical example - it's violence when a man does it and not violence when a woman does it. Violence from both genders is directed at men far more than at women. The reason you are confused on this issue is that violence against women is considered to be a more serious matter than violence against men, so the discussion is always about violence against women even though it's much rarer. Here's a great example of that:
      http://www.highbeam.com/doc/1G1-13906762.html
      This story makes it out to be a travesty that women are now more than half as likely to be assaulted as a man is. It carefully avoids the fact that men are still more at risk than women. I can't be bothered to find the real data on this as I forgot the url, but here's something for you to read: (the numbers in there are too low because men don't report when they are abused) http://www.oregoncounseling.org/Handouts/DomesticViolenceMen.htm

      As for men wanting young women and women preferring same age partners, I don't know what rock you must have been living under to not know that, but here's some data:
      http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/

    216. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      the real problem isn't the sex, it's the christians

    217. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by argStyopa · · Score: 1

      FWIW I'd point out that as much as Americans have an 'issue' about sex (which is happening everywhere right now, and something that (self-evidently) has been part of humanity forever), Euros seem to have just as much a hang up about violence (which is happening everywhere right now, and something that has been part of humanity forever).

      Granted we all hope sex happens, and the sane ones hope violence doesn't, but in either case, ignorance can kill you. Arguably, familiarity with violence may more immediately benefit your survivability if confronted with it unexpectedly.

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    218. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by BrianRoach · · Score: 1

      Women decide when/if sex happens. Us men have to figure out what conditions have to be met in order for that to occur.

      Eh, not so sure about this one.

      The "conditions" may well be very easy to achieve once in a relationship, but if the woman is still pissed because you didn't take the trash out last night after you said you would and now the bin is going to be overflowing by trash day next week ... you ain't having sex. The "condition" was that you did what you said you were going to do.

      (Can you tell I'm married?)

    219. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      "...Ever wonder why we want to cuddle or be clingy after sex..."

      In over 30 years I haven't met anyone of you who do, before or after sex. That goes for emotional attachments too. Normal dialogue is like talking to a brick wall especially with the younger set.

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    220. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by tater86 · · Score: 1

      I'm guessing his actual words wouldn't have been in english.

    221. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by HeckRuler · · Score: 1

      I'm only assuming it's unidirectional from the overwhelming amount of data lending itself to that assumption. You know, based on prior Christian dogma.
      But hey, you may be right. That may be what he meant to imply. I don't know. And you don't know. Please don't assume you know. Because MAN OH MAN if there's one thing that everyone has their own little view on, it's religion.
      So it's not that I'm wrong, so much as I could be wrong.

    222. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Velex · · Score: 1

      It gets even more weird. A lot of male to female transsexuals require the extensive training our society provides to cissexuals to be their assigned gender (male) and find that being a woman requires very little "training."

      The contempt you show in your post for a male to female transsexual desiring the training that's openly available to cissexual girls is disturbing as is the assertion that "out of the box" girls know anything innately.

      One does not "try" to become a girl. One is born that way, irregardless of what some stupid doctor says based on the presence or absence of a phallus. If one is forced to undergo testosterone because some doctor was an idiot and one isn't old enough to be legally able to fight for one's rights, then it's up to the individual to decide what to do about the fact that she remains a girl yet having been forced to wear masculine features.

      Make sense? Good. Thank you.

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    223. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by icebraining · · Score: 1

      As Europe has single payer health care, many there may not worry about STDs. When their loose lifestyle gets them cancer, they get to make everybody else pay to cure them.

      For crying out loud.

      First, nobody is more willing to get cancer just because they don't have to pay for it, that's just moronic.

      Second, cancer isn't an STD. AIDS, for example, has to cure regardless of whether you have to pay for it or not.

      Third, if we talk about about diseases like Lung cancer or diabetes linked with obesity - two linked closely with "loose lifestyles", US citizens have a much greater risk of suffering from them:

      The tables are reversed when comparing the diabetes death risk for men in their 70s, a risk highly related to lifestyle choices and obesity. Fifteen European countries (including Greece, the United Kingdom, Norway, Germany and France) have lower risks than Iowa, the U.S. state with the lowest risk. (...)
      42 U.S. states have a higher lung cancer risk than Iceland, the European country with the highest risk.

    224. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Thing+1 · · Score: 1

      Thought I warned you not to marry my ex.

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    225. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Thing+1 · · Score: 1

      Believe me, if we could shut it off, or take a pill to let us have no strings attached sex like guys, the world would be a far sluttier place. I'm totally serious about this... don't laugh.

      You're right, of course; you're wired to "protect the infant" (the circle over the plus), while we're wired to "make lots of infants" and "seek the outside/unknown" (the circle with the arrow, pointing outwards).

      The other part to my response is a cautionary tale: lack of symmetry is generally a disease predictor. One of my eyes doesn't work right, from birth. It was a developmental disorder, not genetic or "dis-ease" (apart from my lack of ease at depth perception). However: lack of symmetry is also something that both sexes select against when choosing a mate. Sure, I've been married, and have dated enough for this lifetime, but I know that I will always have an uphill battle to fight, even after corrective surgery (especially now a decade later when it's starting to turn back, because my brain really wants it there because it does have some peripheral vision, and my brain wants to put what little vision it has towards the front, since I'm from a predator species).

      Anyway, nice shoes. :)

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    226. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Thing+1 · · Score: 1

      There's a biological basis.

      The other aspect to the biological basis: a male makes a mistake (i.e., gets her pregnant), no big deal, move on. A female makes a mistake, it is a big deal, she's got a burden for the next 18 years. (Sure, DNA testing makes the man more culpable these days, but the above is how it is for all non-human species, well, apart from the specific duration.)

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    227. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by trawg · · Score: 1

      Reading the rest of the comments, it seems this is more a statement of fact than mere "European arrogance" - most people have commented on the weird attitude US has towards sex in mainstream media. I'll admit it certainly was my first thought as well; I just came back from a conference in the US and as always was amazed by the amount of violence on television, combined with the fact that anything remotely sexual in movies (like boobs) were cut out, along with almost ANY swearing at all.

      Given that the US is probably the biggest single market for video games this is completely unsurprising to the rest of us. I hardly think its arrogance to point that out, but if you are going to persist you'll have to paint me with the same brush as an Australian.

      As an aside, here in Australia sex + violence in video games is almost a sure-fire way to have your game refused classification (meaning it can't be sold) - it's why GTA3 was RC when it came out - because you could kill prostitutes after having sex with them.

    228. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Thing+1 · · Score: 1

      Jason's response nailed it, as the reason you didn't list: she could just be spreading AIDS.

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    229. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by phantomfive · · Score: 1

      *boringest* sex manual ever

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    230. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Thing+1 · · Score: 1

      Sex is marriage. Remember Mary the prostitute? Jesus said 'You have many husbands'.

      His actual words were "The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you have now is not your husband." (John 4:18 NIV)

      His actual words were, "Look at my noodly appendages dangling all over your face and clitoris!" But the translators, as often, bungled it.

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    231. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Thing+1 · · Score: 1

      God intended marriage to emulate the relationship between Jesus Christ and the church.

      What, that one member would crucify another? (On second thought...)

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    232. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Thing+1 · · Score: 1

      We both wear the pants.

      Yes, and our break-up was mutual.

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    233. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by phantomfive · · Score: 1

      That's why the bible talks about "spilling seed" as a bad thing;

      You really think that's why the bible talks about 'spilling seed' as a bad thing? Have you actually read that part?

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    234. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Thing+1 · · Score: 1

      Rather than making people understand that if they impregnate a bunch of women due to casual sex the village is going to starve, you convince them that God doesn't want them to do so.

      Interesting! Sounds a lot like daylight savings time: instead of convincing the schools to change their hours (and the jobs to accommodate), they instead start messing with a constant (time). Similarly, if they had chosen to educate people perhaps we wouldn't be in the Middle East Wars right now.

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    235. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by froggymana · · Score: 1

      And they probably aren't always wearing pants! ZING!

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    236. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by darkpixel2k · · Score: 1

      As to "sex is marriage", what a silly statement, were this true, it would be impossible to commit fornication as sex itself establishes the marriage.

      Fornication is having sex with a woman and pretending it doesn't make you married. Adultery is having sex with a woman who is already married to (had sex with) someone else.

      As to "Go find a priest" statement, it is true, no command to find a priest to perform a marriage ceremony, but get married to avoid fornication is the clear meaning of 1 Cor 7:1-2.

      Hardly. It is a command to marry a woman rather than commit the act of fornication.

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    237. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by drsmithy · · Score: 1

      I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing.

      Same reason they frown on things like drinking - they're fun.

      The point of a religion is to exert control by making them the gatekeepers of the fun, to the point of telling you that you'll be damned for eternity if you have anything more than Officiall Approved Fun(tm).

    238. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I don't think it was a very bad thing for the individuals concerned. For the males, certainly not. For the females, pregnancy if the genitor did not stick around was a hard time (and still is, somewhat), but besides that...not so much, venereal disease are not inherently worse than other disease, and, as other, are usually really bad for a short time after major population shuffling (the old disease of some population become the new killer of a new population that had no previous contact).
      For society, as an organised, hierarchical, entity with codified competition and hereditary societal advantages...yes, uncodified sex it has been (and still) is a very disruptive thing.
      The pregnancy risk for female has vanished. But the societal organisation still can not accomodate unregulated sex. It is changing, so the codes of acceptable sex have changed too. Imho, sexual behavior regulation and societal organisation are extremely linked, if one change a lot, the other will change a lot too. We still not have reached equilibrium from contraceptive revolution.
      Other really disruptive change may come: either woman having the same (or superior) average earning as man (something that is really close to completion in northern europe) or good-enough sexbots/virtual reality sex (something that is much more speculative) will again change the society in which it happen: a lot of economy is more or less directly linked to sexual competition...

    239. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I would be surprised to hear that the chances are all that good. I'd expect less than a tenth, and be shocked at anything over a quarter. Guys aren't quite so willing to sleep with anything that moves. An unknown sex-seeking woman will either be avoided or sought depending on the crowd, but I'd expect more of the former. Now, when it's someone the man is actually familiar with on some level, I expect the rate to increase a good amount - but also the slap rate in the reversed situation to go down.

    240. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by PCM2 · · Score: 1

      Have you ever seen a man attack a women physically even once?

      Uhhhh... OK, wow. Just plain wow. You talk about "what rock you must have been living under" and you ask a question like this? My advice to you is to work security at a bar for one week. Be the guy whose job is to prevent men from physically assaulting women -- like I have done -- and then come back and talk.

      As for the second article you cite, let me just quote the first sentence: "Very little in known about the actual number of men who are in a domestic relationship in which they are abused or treated violently by women." You may have heard the phrase "the plural of anecdote is not data"? Yeah, well, the admission of having no data is not data, either.

      As for men wanting young women and women preferring same age partners, I don't know what rock you must have been living under to not know that, but here's some data:

      From the very story you cite: "Except in their early to mid-twenties, when they apparently want nothing to do with younger guys (i.e. guys who are still in school?), women show an admirable openness to both reasonably younger and reasonably older men." In other words, relationships happen between all sorts of people -- mostly, though, between the kind of people who don't let their own prejudices get in the way of meeting people. You dig? Cuz honestly, pal, if you actually have any interest in getting laid at all, you really need to work on your hangups. It sounds like you've had some bad experiences and have maybe suffered some abuse yourself -- I'm sorry about that, but you really shouldn't use that as a guide for the rest of the way the world works, because your worldview just does not jibe with any world that I've lived in.

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    241. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      haha .. my wife got that same mag in the mail recently and told me about the headline earlier today. I asked her to begin testing them on me but she refused. Yep, 'tis the married life for sure.

    242. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Funny story:

      A friend was in an infamous club when some girl stuck her hand in his trousers and asked "What are you going to do now?"

      "Take a shower!"

    243. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Vectormatic · · Score: 1

      i have no clue what "to octopus" means in this context (nor am i willing to google it while behind the work internet connection), but my word, you make it sound awesomely kinky

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    244. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Vectormatic · · Score: 1

      Cap'n, the hypocrisy meter, she canna take any more!

      (honestly, a (presumed) american telling a european off for arrogance?)

      Disclaimer, us dutchies are probably one of the least nationally arrogant people around, i personally dont give a flying fuck about our country or claiming that we are better, because in a lot of ways we arent (including not being arrogant enough)

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    245. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by h4rm0ny · · Score: 1

      Boo!

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    246. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by h4rm0ny · · Score: 1

      Have you ever seen a man attack a women physically even once?

      Yes. More than once. And if you'll allow me to include instances of my friends being attacked / beaten by a man, that rises higher. Both men and women become victims of domestic abuse. A Home Office survey a couple of years ago in the UK showed that males were about six percent less likely than females to be victims. Note that the Home Office crime survey is very well respected and not based on reported crimes to the police (reported crime statistics get skewed in the case of crimes where the victim is ashamed of the crime).

      Your views are seriously detached from real life.

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    247. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Jason+Levine · · Score: 1

      I guess I wasn't the cliche college student who was just looking to get laid. I was looking for an actual relationship. To get an actual relationship you can't just avoid emotional entanglement while casually asking every woman you see if she wants to have sex. You need to invest emotionally into the woman you are approaching and be prepared to do things other than sleep with her.

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    248. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by sglewis100 · · Score: 1

      You don't have to guess, considering the well over 1,000 years it took for the early English translations to appear. I cannot get it to paste right, but just to humor you I did look up the original Koine Greek for the passage. That's also almost certainly not the language he spoke to the Samaritan woman (it was probably Hebrew), but it's the language John used to record the Gospel. I realize your comment was no doubt meant as humor, but in case others are reading this thinking that it totally debunks the quote offered previously.

    249. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by NoSig · · Score: 1

      You didn't understand the OKCupid link at all and you dismissed the other link because you don't like it, so you aren't very interesting to have a discussion with. I'm hoping for you that you did understand it but you just refuse to process it because it challenges what you believe - then there is hope for you. Your conception of security as being specifically about protecting women, not men, only means you are making my point while attempting to disagree with me - always embarrassing but then what you wrote about the OKCupid link shows you don't really mind that. I can recognize that starving eventually leads to dying without me having hangups about food - it doesn't make me mad at food or mean I have bad experiences with food. It does mean I make sure to have food available. In the same way recognizing facts don't make me mad at women. It just makes me aware that there are crazy women out there and that I don't want them - you can have them if you don't have any standards, it's OK. It's sad that you think that recognizing facts requires having bad experiences or forgoing sex, but I'm not really here to help you with your issues. I really liked the tone of your post, so I wrote one for you too. This certainly isn't a waste of time.

    250. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by NoSig · · Score: 1

      Taking your own numbers at face value my view on that particular matter is 7% inaccurate, yet you wish to conclude that that is "seriously detached from real life". More like my views are seriously detached from how you like to view the world. Violence in general is more a problem for men than women, yet we are more concerned about violence against women. It's true whether or not you wish to accept it.

    251. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Coren22 · · Score: 1

      If you aren't kidding, I feel for you, I went through that with my ex, and it hurts to have the lies and misstrust that comes of it.

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    252. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Sex is not marriage.

      Sex is the final step. That's why the night after the wedding is referred to as the "consummation" of their marriage. Yeah, everyone knows what they're doing. They're having sex. Sex completes the marriage.

    253. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That's what she said.

    254. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Try reading the Song of Songs.

      Unfortunately if you're hoping for a book where they jump in bed together right at the beginning and have sex for five chapters, you'll probably be disappointed.

    255. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by mcvos · · Score: 1

      Even if he's aroused, that doesn't mean he's agreed to have sex. Men do get raped, and they tend to be even more embarrassed about reporting it than women.

    256. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Coren22 · · Score: 1

      That he wasn't arguing and instead pointing out that your beliefs about churches are a little strange. Try talking to a religious scholar about your questions, most often they can point out where most of these things come from. I do however agree totally about the absolution of sins, specifically, Jesus came to teach us to talk directly to God about our sins, there is actually a interaction where he teaches his disciples to do this. I don't know where the Catholic church came up with the reconciliation sacrament, and have always had issues with it. Not having read the historical evidence of it, I would postulate that it came during the time of indulgences when the church would charge money for sins committed, and therefore it would hinder their money stream to allow you to be forgiven directly by God.

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    257. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by mcvos · · Score: 1

      Not every guy is so desperate that he'll jump into bed with anyone, you know.

    258. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by starfishsystems · · Score: 1

      Best example of "high-maintenance relationship" I've heard all year!

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    259. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by mcvos · · Score: 1

      Mutual monogamy is an excellent protection against venereal diseases. Pregnancy tends to be less of a problem with a stable family to take care of the child. Sickness and death happens to everybody, though.

    260. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Risen888 · · Score: 1

      We are agreeing. I was using the word "unaroused," but should have said "nonconsenting." Sorry for the confusion.

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    261. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Christianity is the same (until you add in crap like throwing the first stone and the good samaritan which weren't even written until hundreds of years after the time of the fictional Jesus

      I need read no further. Anyone who doesn't admit that Jesus was a real historical figure is simply a liar, nothing more. You may disagree about what he did or said, but the fact that he lived is conclusive.

      P.S. I did notice your sig, though.

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    262. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      As a Christian, I don't think sex is bad at all, and in general this is not what churches teach. What they do teach is that sex is meant to be part of a committed relationship, and that this is actually better (in the sense that the sex is more enjoyable.) The idea that casual sex with random strangers is somehow noble and enlightened seems like the product of a rather childish, unrealistic, self-centeredness. When I look at people around me, the ones that are the happiest at 40 or 50 or 60 years are those who had only one or two sexual partners, to whom they were faithful. So, to add to "God said so" I can say that experience teaches us that it is so.
      I speculate that there is a physiological, biochemical factor in sexual relations which enhances the relationship; casual sex breaks that facility, makes the relationships less meaningful and harder to maintain.

    263. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I don't know if that's societal or biological, but I suspect it's societal.

      Dufus, the parent post just said it is biological.

    264. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by eriqk · · Score: 1

      Believe me, if we could shut it off, or take a pill to let us have no strings attached sex like guys, the world would be a far sluttier place.

      There is always soma, delicious soma. Half a gramme for a half-holiday, a gramme for a week-end, two grammes for a trip to the gorgeous East, three for a dark eternity on the moon.

    265. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by NoSig · · Score: 1

      I'm guessing you got 1 in 6 from Wikipedia which references http://www.ccasa.org/statistics.cfm. That page also says 1/7 women have been raped by their husbands. In that case husbands rape 98% of all women who have been raped (1/6-1/7). Do you believe that?

      I'm prepared to grant that certain smaller groups of women may be much more at risk than other groups, and for women in those groups the risk of rape is a very real problem.

    266. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by PCM2 · · Score: 1

      Your conception of security as being specifically about protecting women, not men

      Obviously security is supposed to protect men, but that wasn't the point of the discussion. You asked whether I've ever seen a man physically assault a woman "even once," and the answer is yes, I have seen it many times. And your question is asinine, anyway. Whether or not I've seen a man assault a woman proves nothing, because all the data shows that most women are assaulted by their partners, family members, or other people who are known to them, and it usually happens behind closed doors. I'm talking about widely recognized facts, now, not your own opinion. I do recognize that men are often assaulted by women, and that it probably happens more than anybody realizes, but your claim that it happens more often to men than it does to women is not only unfounded, but at best terribly naïve and at worst, self-serving and misogynistic.

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    267. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by PCM2 · · Score: 1

      Oh, and if it's links you want, here are some facts on that for you. From the article, which represents the best data gathered by the CDC and the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control:

      Each year, women experience about 4.8 million intimate partner related physical assaults and rapes. Men are the victims of about 2.9 million intimate partner related physical assaults.
      IPV resulted in 2,340 deaths in 2007. Of these deaths, 70% were females and 30% were males.

      In other words, men are about half as much at risk of being assaulted by their intimate partners as women. (Note, however, that this figure also includes men whose parters are themselves men.) What's more, in cases where intimate partner violence is actually life-threatening -- as opposed to your slap in the face example -- the victim is far more likely to be female.

      Next up, from the National Institute of Justice:

      NCVS found that about 85 percent of victimizations by intimate partners in 1998 were against women ... The studies that find that women abuse men equally or even more than men abuse women are based on data compiled through the Conflict Tactics Scale (CTS), a survey tool developed in the 1970s. CTS may not be appropriate for intimate partner violence research because it does not measure control, coercion, or the motives for conflict tactics; it also leaves out sexual assault and violence by ex-spouses or partners and does not determine who initiated the violence ... A review of the research found that violence is instrumental in maintaining control and that more than 90 percent of "systematic, persistent, and injurious" violence is perpetrated by men.

      Emphasis in the original. And frankly, I'm going to go with legitimate studies from justice sources before I trust your theory about who prefers their partners to be a certain age -- a theory, I might add, that strikes me as coming from someone of limited life experience.

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    268. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by NoSig · · Score: 1

      I agree that men on average do more physical damage to women when they do attack women. This is one of the main reasons that there is the idea that the attacks are almost exclusively man-on-woman: a woman slapping a man around just simply isn't counted as violence. I think that's because women have less upper body strength than men and they are also more savvy about how to use violence without losing social standing (but I don't really know if that is the reason from data) - they know that if they refrain from causing physical injury, they are exceedingly unlikely to ever have trouble over it. "He must have had it coming." The maximum penalty that there is any probability of them facing is the man cutting off the connection. This is not true for men. Because the stakes are so much lower for women, that means that a larger group of women are prepared to engage in it casually. So if we think that purely physical discomfort and injury are the only things that matter in violence, then yes, woman-on-man spouse violence is a lesser concern.

      I doubt you really disagree: imagine a man hitting a woman in a public park, and imagine a woman hitting a man in a public park. Now imagine the typical reaction from men and women who pass by and see it. The difference in reaction is not apparent from a crime statistic and it plays a part in warping what gets reported and what is seen as rising to the level of a crime.

    269. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by NoSig · · Score: 1

      That's because you shifted the discussion to the kind of violence that the police get involved in. If we do that, then yes - more man-on-woman violent crime gets reported. In the same way, if we shift the discussion to giving birth, then I'm sure you'd agree women are more guilty of it than men, but that's not much of an argument. I'm surprised it took this long for the misogynist label to be brought out. It's usually the first card played in any questioning of mens' problems involving women as aggressors. Obviously everything I say must be wrong if I can be accused of saying something about women that can be seen as bad.

    270. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by tater86 · · Score: 1

      The humor, in my opinion, is in arguing subtleties of of language to support a position when the language in question has been through several layers of translation. More so when the quote wasn't written down for years. Even more so when the person who may (or may not) have written it wasn't present (John 4:8, his disciples were gone).

    271. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by sglewis100 · · Score: 1

      This isn't about subtleties of language. The original Greek is very clear, as are the many English translations commonly in use today. The original commenter just misquoted the Bible. And no, it wasn't written down for years. That's quite common, the Jewish people off the time had very well established oral teaching traditions. There's tons of room for debate, but this particular passage was quite clear. And regardless of your thoughts of Jesus, if you accept there was a person named Jesus and that he had many things to say, this is quite in line with his teachings.

    272. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That was the most misogynist post I've ever seen rated +3 interesting.

    273. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Either way I can't imagine a single reason for asking such a question that wouldn't lead to complications later. And IMO, if you ever ask it and somebody replies affirmatively, run like hell, because you just found somebody without the slightest bit of common sense. ...and a whole lot of diseases

    274. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'd say your sociological explanation is lacking compared to the biological factors (whatever they may be). Just look at anonymous sex sites like the casual encounters part of craigslist. I have no experience of that particular site other than best of craigslist but I've no reason to believe it's any different. What you would see is a 50/50 or even an overabundance of women since it's not socially stigmatized for men to try or succed to pick up women in social settings. This of course requires women to be as horny or as interested in sex as men are. What you do find is about ten men to every woman and the women that are there barely even reads their messages. I took an evening and sent about 40 messages all of them fairly substatial and all of them to females with preferences that i met or potentially met. Half didn't even open the message. About ten performed the onerous task of looking at my profile and maybe three answered in any way. If you propose that there are social reasons as in external social factors that inhibit female sexuality you really need to explain away the lopsidedness of anonymous sexual contact sites.

      My opinion is this: women aren't as sexually interested as men. Women are much more picky than men. This is mostly biological perhaps with a teensy part of internal "social" pressure to conform regardless of exterior factors like anonymity.

    275. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by slashdottedjoe · · Score: 1

      I thought the EU was one happy family! /s

    276. Re:Not just with video games, but in general by slashdottedjoe · · Score: 1

      The whole point is HPV is not without risks and being a whore makes little sense, if you really care about yourself, your mate or your society.

  2. Fantasy Escapism by Sonny+Yatsen · · Score: 5, Insightful

    I always figured that videogames treat sex two dimensionally because much of video games cater to fantasy escapism as its main draw. It's really no different from any other fantasy escapism outlet. If you look at high fantasy books of the last couple of decades, you'll see the exact same amount of treatment of sex and impossibly proportioned women. Same thing with comic books. On the women's side, it's no different from romance novels (with the impossibly built shirtless men on the covers), soap operas (although to a lesser degree) and all sorts of other similar stuff. They appeal to the idea in us of the quick cathartic thrill that we can fantasize ourselves into, and very few people fantasize about marriage, children and getting a mortgage.

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    1. Re:Fantasy Escapism by Kosi · · Score: 1

      OK, it's SciFi, not fantasy, but I like the view on sex in some of Heinlein's books like "Stranger in a Strange Land".

    2. Re:Fantasy Escapism by Sonny+Yatsen · · Score: 1

      Well, I don't mean fantasy as in elves or magic or whatnot. I mean genres that lends itself to allowing the reader or viewer or player to fantasize themselves into the position of the protagonist or protagonists.

      Although that was a pretty outstanding book.

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    3. Re:Fantasy Escapism by Darinbob · · Score: 1

      Not a surprise that sex is seen as two dimensional as part of fantasy escapism. That's exactly how video games treat violence! Ie, find a power up and you're all better, you kill hundreds or thousands of enemies in the course of a game, there's either no blood or there's over the top gore, and it's generally seen as the one and only way to solve the problems the games present.

    4. Re:Fantasy Escapism by martin-boundary · · Score: 1
      I always figured it's two dimensional because the developers have a golfing background.

      Interviewer: "It says here the last game you programmed was a golf simulator. Great, you can code the sex scene in our upcoming game."

    5. Re:Fantasy Escapism by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      "and very few people fantasize about marriage, children and getting a mortgage"

      Women fantasize about this kind of thing ALL THE TIME.

      The popularity of "Say Yes To The Dress", "Bridezillas", and "Platinum Weddings", not to mention the myriad baby shows, speak volumes to this. Women have their lives scripted out in their minds, and marriage and children are non-negotiable steps in the plot. For them, dating is basically a casting call, seeking to fill a character in the script in their heads.

  3. Sex is a reward by coinreturn · · Score: 1

    or treat it as a reward?

    Because that's how evolution works.

    1. Re:Sex is a reward by digitalsushi · · Score: 1

      evolution wise, offspring are the reward. sex is the work.

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    2. Re:Sex is a reward by lisaparratt · · Score: 5, Funny

      Orgasm's the reward - offspring are the dirty trick.

    3. Re:Sex is a reward by SilentStaid · · Score: 2

      That's illegal in most states.

    4. Re:Sex is a reward by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That's exactly backwards.

    5. Re:Sex is a reward by HeckRuler · · Score: 1

      That's right, work it baby!

    6. Re:Sex is a reward by Hatta · · Score: 1

      Why is this modded Funny and not Insightful?

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    7. Re:Sex is a reward by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      the genes are the ones rewarded with more copies of themselves

    8. Re:Sex is a reward by FlopEJoe · · Score: 1

      evolution wise, offspring are the reward. sex is the work.

      You're doing it wrong.

    9. Re:Sex is a reward by digitalsushi · · Score: 1

      oh my gosh that's hilaaaarious. gonna have to steal that one for tonight at the bar, the buddies are gonna shoot beer out their noses!

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    10. Re:Sex is a reward by tompaulco · · Score: 1

      I'll gladly do the work and let you reap the reward.

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    11. Re:Sex is a reward by gangien · · Score: 1

      "It's never the right time to have kids, but it's always the right time for screwing. God's not a dumbshit. He knows how it works." ~ shitmydadsays

    12. Re:Sex is a reward by digitalsushi · · Score: 1

      would you trade your progeny for a few jollies?

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  4. Best description by Voyager529 · · Score: 1

    This video is about the best description of the problem I've seen. If you can't read the fine article, watch the fine video.

    1. Re:Best description by Elbereth · · Score: 1

      That video requires you to log in to YouTube. Got a link that doesn't require an account to view the video?

  5. Laisure Suit Larry by yorugua · · Score: 1, Informative
    1. Re:Laisure Suit Larry by MillionthMonkey · · Score: 1

      You're referring to the 403 Forbidden, right?

    2. Re:Laisure Suit Larry by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      No, you're referring to slashdot.org.

    3. Re:Laisure Suit Larry by yorugua · · Score: 1

      It is still available on my browser. Got the image from here: http://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3322650&userid=0&perpage=40&pagenumber=2

      right after the "Holding his breath and doing his very best to imagine that the hooker is someone that looks marginally better and smells a whole hell of a lot nicer, Larry dives in. "

    4. Re:Laisure Suit Larry by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      "She may not look like much, but think of the muscles in that leg!"

      Leisure Suit Larry owned.

    5. Re:Laisure Suit Larry by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Try visiting that link without a referer, e.g. by just appending a "?" to the end.

    6. Re:Laisure Suit Larry by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Just reload and it won't be forbidden because of the referer header disappearing.

    7. Re:Laisure Suit Larry by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Oh OK, got it.

      Wow this brings back memories of childhood... and I thought VGA was fucked.

    8. Re:Laisure Suit Larry by Archangel+Michael · · Score: 1

      lol

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    9. Re:Laisure Suit Larry by Yvan256 · · Score: 1

      Replying to remove a mistake due to the stupid "apply on select" moderation pull-down menu...

    10. Re:Laisure Suit Larry by Thing+1 · · Score: 1

      LOL indoor clothes line, with no fan.

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  6. After Leisure Suit Larry... by robmiracle · · Score: 1

    there isn't much more can be done..... But on a serious note. Games still live in a 2D space. I'm not talking about 3D type games but the environment. It isn't real. Our minds know it and there is little anyone can do to get past the fact that it's not real.

  7. Because...gamedevlopers, by Silpher · · Score: 2

    Do not want you to know there's this much better game in town :p

  8. because they're video GAMES by pezpunk · · Score: 5, Insightful

    it's not like video games treat murder or money or physics or politics with reverence, respect, or precision either. why should a game be expected to treat sex as somehow immune from gamification? if it's included, it *should* be simplified in function and integrated into the gaming framework, just like every other complex human thing that gets reduced to either a goal, task, tool, or reward in a game.

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    1. Re:because they're video GAMES by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      Exactly.

      'I just had my car stolen and was really offended on how immaturely Grand Theft Auto treats this traumatic event'... WTF.

      It's an f-ing game dude.

    2. Re:because they're video GAMES by Locke2005 · · Score: 2

      "I just had one of my hos beaten and robbed and was really offended by how immaturely Grand Theft Auto treats this traumatic event..."

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    3. Re:because they're video GAMES by rwv · · Score: 1

      just like every other complex human thing that gets reduced to either a goal, task, tool, or reward in a game.

      I wondered if making sex into a punishment in video games would change any of the perceptions/conclusion of TFA.

      What do you want to do? Go north.
      You are felated by a grue.

      What do you want to do? Kill grue.
      The grue evades your strike and mounts you from behind.

    4. Re:because they're video GAMES by LordNacho · · Score: 1

      Actually, I think there IS something about sex that makes it different in a game. When you're playing GTA, you get a buzz from murdering people and jacking their cars. It's fun because you're getting away with something you're not really supposed to be doing, and which you probably don't actually want to do.

      With sex, getting laid in WoW just reminds you that you're not doing it in real life, and that you want to do. Alternatively, if you ARE getting laid in real life, you aren't going to sit down and play VirtualShag, are you? (And if you really are jacking people and killing them, you're so cool there's no doubt you're getting laid. I digress...)

    5. Re:because they're video GAMES by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Bitch don't you run around here tellin me
      The fuzz is on one corner and the FBI is on the other.
      You better get me some money if you gotta trick with yo brother!
      You always complain about workin in the rain
      Bitch, this game ain't for no muthafuckin lame!
      You run round here talkin bout the block is hot,
      Bitch, you better get me some money if you gotta trick with some cop!
      Cause I'll hound and I'll clown,
      And I'll kick a bitch in the ass fast,
      Knock her through that muthafuckin glass,
      Cause the bitch ain't got no class,
      And she come in talkin trash,
      About she ain't got no muthafuckin cash!"

      -- Dangerous Dan

    6. Re:because they're video GAMES by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      This. Some posts should be possible to mod up until they are the official reply, kind of like

      +1000000 'nuff said.

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    7. Re:because they're video GAMES by TheSpoom · · Score: 1

      The grue takes CRITICAL GENITAL DAMAGE attempting to mount you!
      > Thank my lucky stars I am wearing full plate mail.

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  9. Exception to the rule? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

    Fahrenheit. (aka Indigo Prophecy)

    Sex was in the game... but not really as a reward... just part of the narrative.

    1. Re:Exception to the rule? by NoZart · · Score: 1

      In Heavy Rain it was included in such a way that you felt it coming (not a pun) a few minutes before - just like in RL

  10. Easy by Spad · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Because any game that treats sex "properly" is going to end up with an AO rating in the US because of the absurd level of puritanical outrage about boobies, which means Walmart and the like won't stock it, so it won't sell as many copies and most publishers won't want to touch it.

    Personally, I'd welcome deeper relationship modelling in games, especially RPGs, but I know it's unlikely to happen as long as people are so scared of AO ratings and their impact on US sales. A simple solution is to stick it on the PC, slap an 18 rating on it and sell it primarily in the UK/Europe; job done.

    1. Re:Easy by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Because any game that treats sex "properly" is going to end up

      If video games treated sex properly female players would have vibrating joy sticks? Men have a different problem and the devices necessary for controlling the game boggle the mind. For example parsing an erection, or lack of in a suction based controller poses some very interesting difficulties for game and hardware developers.

    2. Re:Easy by Risen888 · · Score: 1

      Because any game that treats sex "properly"

      Such as? Just out of curiosity.

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    3. Re:Easy by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      If I wanted real life, I'd go outside. Why is it so "trendy" to think that "ooh, Americans are Puritanical about sex"... blah blah blah. So? Does it hurt? No. Video games, like books and movies, are escapes from reality. if I wanted a realistic depiction of sex, I'd take a class in college. If I want to be entertained... well, that's another matter.

      People attach too much weight to having "realistic" relationship nonsense in a game where you can respawn back at a checkpoint after being mauled by a monster.

    4. Re:Easy by Ocker3 · · Score: 1

      Replies to list please

    5. Re:Easy by i+ate+my+neighbour · · Score: 1

      I have just started to develop a "relationship engine" for modelling complex relationships between characters, mostly among NPCs. Sorry, no code yet, documentation is still in my dead tree notebook, but will change soon when I have the time.
      https://github.com/embed/are-relationship-engine

  11. Escapist wondered about this was well... by mariushm · · Score: 2

    ... and created this nice presentation that's worth watching : http://www.escapistmagazine.com/videos/view/extra-credits/2505-Sex-in-Games

    1. Re:Escapist wondered about this was well... by mariushm · · Score: 1

      And of course, I hurried to post the message above and I forgot to mention this other presentation they made about Sexual diversity in games and how sexuality can influence the story and gameplay : http://www.escapistmagazine.com/videos/view/extra-credits/2520-Sexual-Diversity

  12. unprecedented evile's minions fleeing by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    some were rumored to have been seen flying out windows with rats in their mouths & flames coming out of their butts. told you?

  13. Or treat it as a reward by dimethylxanthine · · Score: 0

    Because too few people know how to use sex as a higher, richer form of communication and spiritual growth, and probably because most videogamers' (and I'm sorry if I'm making too bold of a generalization) association with sex is getting caught in the basement jerking off... Why else would one "snigger"?..

  14. Here's my take by Haedrian · · Score: 2

    Society is too 'particular' about sex. The GTA hot coffee mod is a perfect example. How dare they put sex into that game! I want to shoot prostitutes, hijack cars, murder policeman and whack civilians with a baseball bat. For some reason even the largest amount of violence is less likely to cause controversy than a sex scene.

    Now, a game usually has something which makes it fun, the main part of the game. That part is treated with the most 'respect' in a way. If its a FPS its about saving the world through shooting people or whatever. If its a city simulator then its about economics or whatever. I mean you don't hear complaints about how Mass Effect doesn't simulate a space economy well enough - because that's not the main point of the game, its a sub thing.

    If you wanted a game that was all about sex, I'm sure they exist, but they'd be 'adult' games, or so heavily rated 18+ that nobody can really get to them easily (see Paragraph 1). And even then, do you think there is enough of an audience who wants to play a game who's main gameplay involves having a realistic relationship with someone? Nope.

    1. Re:Here's my take by lgw · · Score: 1

      And even then, do you think there is enough of an audience who wants to play a game who's main gameplay involves having a realistic relationship with someone? Nope.

      There's an entire "dating sim" genre in the Japanese market that disagrees. It just seems to be a US thing that any game that in any way involves sex is seen as a "sex game" and the rest of the game stops mattering.

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    2. Re:Here's my take by Hatta · · Score: 1

      If you wanted a game that was all about sex, I'm sure they exist, but they'd be 'adult' games, or so heavily rated 18+ that nobody can really get to them easily (see Paragraph 1). And even then, do you think there is enough of an audience who wants to play a game who's main gameplay involves having a realistic relationship with someone? Nope.

      I'm pretty sure the real reason is better summed up in your last sentence than the rest of your post. Even for someone who has no puritanical hangups about sex, it's hard to imagine a game with sex as a central theme that wouldn't come off as ridiculous.

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    3. Re:Here's my take by Goaway · · Score: 1

      He said "realistic"!

    4. Re:Here's my take by Animats · · Score: 1

      The GTA hot coffee mod is a perfect example. How dare they put sex into that game! I want to shoot prostitutes, hijack cars, murder policemen and whack civilians with a baseball bat.

      The GTA controversy puzzled me. Why shouldn't GTA have sex? It fits with the GTA world. It should advance the plot, too; seduce an enemy's girlfriend and maybe she'll betray him. Some gangster game from the early 90s had that feature.

    5. Re:Here's my take by lgw · · Score: 1

      Those games are as realistic a model of relationships and dating as any game really is a realistic model of anything (with the possible exception of true flight-sims, which are actually realistic these days, but I don't consider those "games").

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    6. Re:Here's my take by Leolo · · Score: 1

      For some reason even the largest amount of violence is less likely to cause controversy than a sex scene.

      The reason is that depictions of violence are protected speech in the USA and depictions of sex aren't. If not, they would censor the violence just as thoroughly.

    7. Re:Here's my take by Haedrian · · Score: 1

      Uh What?

      Are you serious about this? How can me whacking a video game character with a baseball bat be considered SPEECH by any metric?

      And by extension, why doesn't this cover sex?

    8. Re:Here's my take by Goaway · · Score: 1

      That, and Solitaire. That's pretty realistic too.

  15. Because with current tech its laughable by Viol8 · · Score: 2

    Until photo realistic graphics and realistic movement comes of age not to mention other forms of user "input" then sex in a videogame will remain funny rather than erotic.

    1. Re:Because with current tech its laughable by royallthefourth · · Score: 1

      The point of sex in thoughtful media is to advance a story and show the feelings of the characters. Certainly excellent books including sexuality exist that do not include pictures!

      Grow up.

    2. Re:Because with current tech its laughable by Viol8 · · Score: 1

      Newsflash - a videogame isn't a book. Its a visual medium and generally the "feelings" of the characters arn't crucial the the gameplay. You know its not real, right?

      "Grow up."

      *boggle*

    3. Re:Because with current tech its laughable by Cidolfas · · Score: 1

      I couldn't disagree more with you. Games are not primarily a visual medium at all, they're an emotional medium. They invoke in you a set of feelings through any methods or dirty tricks they can use - graphics, text, narrative, music, the tactile feel and weight of a game piece, the idea that others are watching you play - and then force you to make decisions. Those decisions get weighed, and then you have the system tell you your result.

      Even when those decisions are "do I jump over this killer turtle and get that mushroom or not?"

      In games like, say, Super Mario Land 3 or Half-Life, I don't care how the characters feel. I just care how I feel about the excitement, joy, fear, tension, and frustration that the games make me feel. But in a game like Final Fantasy Tactics, how I feel about the characters is very important. It's systems make me unknowingly build up a set of heroic epics in my head for each character based upon their deeds in battle, so that when one of them dies and is removed from the game I feel sad. This technique is common, and while a lot of games *cough*MassEffect*cough* try to do this and, in my playthoughs, fail... it's still a good technique.

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    4. Re:Because with current tech its laughable by Darinbob · · Score: 1

      People don't want "realistic graphics" here. They want better-than-real-life graphics. They want women that look like hollywood airbrushed starlets, not reality. If they rescue the princess and she turns out to be 200 pounds but has a nice personality most players would write angry letters to the publishers. If the princess looks good but wants to keep the lights off and refuses to pose in high heels, there'd still be the angry letter writing campaign.

    5. Re:Because with current tech its laughable by PCM2 · · Score: 1

      People don't want "realistic graphics" here. They want better-than-real-life graphics. They want women that look like hollywood airbrushed starlets, not reality.

      I was thinking of a different problem. I can think of a number of Hollywood starlets that I wouldn't want anything to do with in real life -- and I'm talking strictly about appearance, now. If you make a videogame where one of the activities is for the player to have sex with women, the first time a woman shows up onscreen whom he doesn't find attractive, the game play grinds to a halt (pardon the pun) . The whole point of any game is to work toward goals; suddenly, there is no goal.

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    6. Re:Because with current tech its laughable by Viol8 · · Score: 1

      "Games are not primarily a visual medium at all, they're an emotional medium. They invoke in you a set of feelings through any methods or dirty tricks they can use"

      By that definition any form of media is emotional which makes your whole point meaningless. Emotions are what make people watch TV, listen to the radio, read a book , read the news etc etc.

    7. Re:Because with current tech its laughable by Vectormatic · · Score: 1

      i'm pretty sure that with todays sandbox-y games it would be pretty easy to build in a less then contrived mechanism to let the player choose which woman he ends up seeing.

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  16. Dragon Age by jimmerz28 · · Score: 1

    Dragonage has been thankfully different in this regard.

    They weren't really "rewards" and you could have same-sex interaction (although it wasn't with Alistair...).

    And since they've committed to continue this practice I'll definitely be getting Dragon Age 2, not just for the sex but because sexual encounters certainly adds another level to video games which make them feel mature if done correctly imo.

    1. Re:Dragon Age by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I wouldn't count on Bioware. Mass Effect 1 drew press criticism for its stupid Hollywood-inspired sex scenes, and as a result they were omitted in ME2.

      DA1's scenes by comparison were hilariously corny and tame.

      DA2? I doubt it'll get better. DA2 is now based more on ME than it is on BG. And this time the game is primarily targeting the console players.

    2. Re:Dragon Age by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'll be able to tell you how DA2 is in another 2 hours or so...

  17. The wait is almost over... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Funny

    Balance will be restored to Sex and Video Games with the upcoming release of Duke Nukem Forever.

  18. just sex? by Ephemeriis · · Score: 1

    Honestly, games treat pretty much everything in a two-dimensional way. Every system is a dramatic simplification. Every mechanic is there to make the game fun. You don't see a whole hell of a lot of depth or complexity to any of it.

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    1. Re:just sex? by Darinbob · · Score: 1

      So much budget is spent to make things look good that there's no time left for actual substance. And this isn't just with games it's true with movies too.

  19. Need only look at general audience and their age by rs1n · · Score: 1

    I suppose the game developers are "thinking of the children" in a very perverse sense. When your typical audience is in his teens / early college years -- of course the women with unrealistic proportions are going to be more appealing. The buyers are making their purchases partly based on their hormones at that age.

  20. Experience by mevets · · Score: 1

    .... there is no substitute.....

  21. Nothing to do with the games. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    An Entertainment Software Association report in 2009 showed that the average age of a videogame player is 35, ...

    Because people who spend all that time in front of video games (and the internet for that matter) are socially backwards, awkward, and usually lack social skills.

  22. The real answer by Conspiracy_Of_Doves · · Score: 1

    Because in order to treat sex realistically, and not as a reward at the end of a dialog tree, you would need an AI capable or responding in a realistic manner to social interactions, and we are quite simply not at that level yet.

    1. Re:The real answer by _0xd0ad · · Score: 1

      Because in order to treat sex realistically, and not as a reward at the end of a dialog tree, you would need an AI capable or responding in a realistic manner to social interactions

      Why? We already have those. They're called "women". They live outside the basement.

      and we are quite simply not at that level yet.

      Well, you got that right at least.

  23. Why does anybody "struggle" with sex? by countertrolling · · Score: 2

    Because your cultural/religious repressions are making you all crazy. What makes you think that sexual deprivation is any less harmful than sleep or sensory deprivation? You should learn to let the kids play with themselves if you don't want to raise a psychopath.

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    1. Re:Why does anybody "struggle" with sex? by PPH · · Score: 1

      You should learn to let the kids play with themselves if you don't want to raise a psychopath.

      A psychopath with skills well honed on FPS games.

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  24. Why does Modern American Society Struggle with Sex by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    'Why do videogameswe still treat sex in such a two dimensional way? Why do theywe snigger at it, or treat it as a reward?'

    Seriously? The question is why (modern) video games can't handle sex in a mature way?

    We're a culture dominated by immature views of sex. We live in a culture where we are surrounded by mixed messages, inconsistencies, and stereotypes. Where whatever sex I'm interested in is fine and normal, but whatever sex you want is deviant and wrong. A society that has never successfully grasped with the Virgin/Whore dichotomy. A culture where the dominant view is that women are not supposed to want sex and men aren't supposed to want anything but.

    Is there really any question as to why Video Games can't handle sex in a mature way, when we handle sexual issues in the the rest of our lives in such an immature manner?

    I am amused that this is posted today. Today is Mardi Gras; a day that has come to be a celebration of excesses. Take a look at the behavior in New Orleans tonight differs from the typical behavior of the residents in Baton Rouge for the other 364 days of the year. Take a look at how celebrations of diversity and sexuality, like NY or SF Pride, differ from the typical views of sex espoused by ministers and preachers every Sunday morning. Consider the language we use with regards to sex -- "Walk of Shame", "Booty Call".

    Video Games treat sex pretty much like how sex is treated in every other aspect of this society -- poorly.

  25. Age Assumptions by Kenshin · · Score: 1

    Just like with comics and animation, the west (or more specifically, North America) has this decades-long issue where it is automatically assumed that videogames are children's entertainment.

    Other parts of the world, like Japan, and parts of Europe, have gotten over this and accept that those forms of entertainment can be for mature adults, so their games, comics, and animation can be a bit more risqué.

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    1. Re:Age Assumptions by lgw · · Score: 2

      No "kenshin", games comics and animation are seen as childish in Japan too, perhaps even more so. They're just practical about the market for adults doing childish things, and not so repressed about sex as to panic about children being exposed to risque content. But "mature" adults don't do anything "for fun" - you might admit to having a hobby, but only because there's a safe pretense that a hobby can be for self-improvement.

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    2. Re:Age Assumptions by Kenshin · · Score: 1

      Passive-aggressiveness aside, even if it's not actually "accepted", they look past the age assumptions and accept that there's a sizable (even if socially undesirable) market for games with mature themes. In the US, they form senate subcommittees to investigate the brief appearance of a nipple.

      As for Europe (oh no, the "otaku" card doesn't come into play anymore), look on just about any comic rack there and there's all kinds of books with sex jokes. It's been like that for decades.

      (And perhaps you can tell by my 5 digit user ID that I've been stuck with this username for so long that I don't actually remember when I registered it.)

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    3. Re:Age Assumptions by lgw · · Score: 1

      Sure, there's a sizable market for hentai games in Japan. But there's this common misconception among American fans of anime and Japanese console titles that Japan primarily makes these games and cartoons for adults, because the content seems sophisticated compared to American fare. The reality is that most of these game as and cartoons are made for children/teens, but it's just accepted that children/teens can appreciate more sophisticated content.

      Whether the difference in sophistication between the Japanese and American markets is a real difference in consumers, or just in the minds of the marketing departments, I have no idea, but they're definitely not afraid of selling complicated plot lines and more cerebral games to the teen market in Japan.

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    4. Re:Age Assumptions by Kenshin · · Score: 1

      They didn't *used* to be afraid of selling complicated plot lines.

      Most of the stuff coming out of Japan nowadays is insipid, cookie-cutter bullshit.

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    5. Re:Age Assumptions by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      "But "mature" adults don't do anything "for fun" - you might admit to having a hobby, but only because there's a safe pretense that a hobby can be for self-improvement."

      Well, that explains the low birth rate and high suicide rate.

  26. I can think of a few reasons... by fuzzyfuzzyfungus · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Just technologically, sex is arguably pretty tricky. You can do plain porn easily enough(especially if you just use stills and video shot with real people); but simulating complex character interactions or in-engine naked-bodies-and-fluids without falling into the horrors of the uncanny valley is quite difficult. Thus, games tend either to ignore the subject, or just toss in some pin-ups at reward points.

    Then, of course, you have the US market's rather curious stance toward sex vs. violence. Violence may well get you rated M; but M is hardly the kiss of death. Sex will probably get you AO, which is.(Even if the selling point of the violence is realistic depictions of human suffering and death, and the game is all about tasteful loving relationships or something; but so it goes...) Even as the market of adult videogamers expands, you still can't get a mass-market game out the door if it won't be at least tacitly accepted by the households of millions of 14 year olds(because who else is going to scream "FAGGOT HACKER!!@!!" into the microphone all night on XBL?)

    Finally, there is the matter of competition and competitive advantage: For things like violence and empire building, most people either have no options, or only options that are actually pretty costly, and thus not competitors as entertainment(Well, let's see... I could download America's Army or I could join America's Army...). There is some competition from film; but that is about it. For things like sex, a decent percentage of gamers old enough to be interested in a serious in-game depiction are substantially more interested in real life. Failing that(because of technological limitations, as described above) the conventional pornography industry is arguably pretty superior to the video game industry in terms of efficiently titillating depictions, and the film and novel industries are substantially ahead if you want deep characters and romance and things.

    1. Re:I can think of a few reasons... by nomadic · · Score: 1

      I have never really understood this whole criticism of sex vs. violence; these are two mostly unrelated aspects of humanity. Why do slashdotters conflate the two and argue that they should be treated similarly?

    2. Re:I can think of a few reasons... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Oh, also, forgot to mention: griefers.

      In most multiplayer games, at least at some points in their life/patching cycle, there are certain unintended game mechanics that allow sophisticated users to game the game for their amusement and the suffering of other players. From a business perspective, most companies(especially in the MMORPG genre) try to avoid this, because it drives away paying customers.

      Adding sex, in addition to money and violence, would inevitably result in an extremely embarrassing incident for some game, wherein the griefer population discovers a hole in the game mechanics that allows them to go around gang-raping noobs. Bad PR. Even in a single-player game, the PR shitstorm in more puritanical markets would be something to see(look at Rockstar and Hot Coffee... That was an in-engine cutscene, not even accessible without modification, concerning PG-13 level consensual sex. Who wants to be the publisher that releases a game and finds, 4 days later, that the 'n00br4p3 wallhak krew' has released a set of deeply upsetting viral videos using gaps in your game logic? Anybody?). In multiplayer, it'd be bad PR, drive some customers away, and generally be a mess. Even if you got the consent mechanic 100% ironclad, you'd still have about a week before the first scare story about a 12-year old girl clicking her way merrily past the game's M rating and doing some in-game prostitution. Terrible PR. And God help you if your character-creation mechanism allows anybody to create a character who looks a day under 35, and you get caught up the the paedo-panic.

    3. Re:I can think of a few reasons... by fuzzyfuzzyfungus · · Score: 1

      I'm not conflating the two, or arguing that they deserve analogous treatment. I'm simply noting that the American market has a relatively high tolerance for violence in media, compared to its tolerance for sex in media, and thus making games about violence is a much better mass-market strategy.

      There is the additional fact that strong disapproval of overt pornographic content(combined with strong covert demand for it) has built up a solid parallel distribution network for sexual films and images. Since violence-related media have enjoyed much broader acceptance, there was no need for such a parallel market. This means that violent games can be stocked much more broadly(computer related stores, wal-mart, etc.) while a sex-related game would find itself in a comparatively seedy secondary channel.

      This is less of an issue now that we have the internet; but you are still going to have a much harder time moving boxed games(especially, as noted, if you are shooting for the "Officially M; but with tacit crossover down to low teens" market that shooters and the like usually go for). If you are consigned to the sex-only distribution channels, your only customers are going to be adults, or non-paying internet kiddies. If you make it into general retail, you'll have both adults, adults buying for children, and some paying children, at laxer outlets.

      Personally, I find the fact that sex-related media are treated as more damaging to children/people than violence related ones rather weird; but that is largely irrelevant to my point, which is purely about the economics of the situation: Given the culture of one of the major markets, it is much easier to move product if product is ultraviolent; but sexually tame, than the reverse, or high in both categories.(Consider, for instance, how much flack the GTA games drew for the inclusion of prostitutes and the potential for violence against them. The entire game was, as typically played, about sociopathic mayhem and spree-killer level body counts; but it was the added sex that really got people worked up...) That's the market and(given that major games have high production costs and absolutely depend on moving serious units) the market gets what it wants.

      Web-distributed Indie titles would be a much more plausible candidate for sex-related games, except that the technology is also pretty challenging to do properly.

    4. Re:I can think of a few reasons... by Locke2005 · · Score: 1

      Uncanny valley? With the massive cosmetic surgery involved, most of the porn industry crossed over into the "uncanny valley" a long time ago! Real breasts don't wrinkle when they hang down!

      The real problem is that sex only keeps you interested for long enough to wank off, whereas strategy and violence will keep you going for hours. If you're using time spent as a metric of value, killing virtual people is a lot more entertaining than seducing virtual people.

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    5. Re:I can think of a few reasons... by vawwyakr · · Score: 0

      Because they are the two things that we have in movies and other media that are measured for "audience appropriateness". It's also a pretty interesting comparison that we are more ok with our children seeing someone killed than someone having sex.

    6. Re:I can think of a few reasons... by PPH · · Score: 1

      Violence may well get you rated M; but M is hardly the kiss of death.

      The Kiss of Death. Now there's a game title I could really get into. ;-)

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    7. Re:I can think of a few reasons... by ruffled · · Score: 1

      actually imo there probably is no need for sex games, if gamers wanted to get girls (or guys) they could just walk out of their front door and chase some tail in real life i.e. real life action i dont think simulation here is necessary for sex, as opposed to other things such as city building, or fighting wars or shooting people. maybe it is possible, but theres just a lot less demand for it. oh and the whole censorship thing isnt helping. (dont know whats up with that). but then again theres games for cooking and taking care of pet dogs and farmville but i guess theyre a lot more "mainstream" activities.

  27. Only Tracy Jordan can do it by omnibit · · Score: 1

    Goregasm: The Legend of the Dong-Slayer - it sold 61m copies. The ultimate melding of violence and porn. If an egomaniac can pull it off, surely the big wigs can too.

    http://www.joystiq.com/2008/10/24/30-rock-tracy-jordans-porno-video-game-sells-61m-units/

  28. Sex in videogames isn't romantic by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    The author is seriusly asking why we can't have video games that will let him have meaning full sex?
    Seriusly Its a video game, go out and talk to girls, maybe someday you will experiance this new "sex" thing.

  29. Re:And CmdrTaco can't play it... by darkpixel2k · · Score: 1

    ...with his nubby joystick.

    Why post anonymously? It's not like a slashdot author couldn't look at the apache logs for your IP... Hell, they probably have it built in to their admin interface.

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  30. Re:And CmdrTaco can't play it... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    You're assuming they care enough to do so.

    PROTIP: They don't.

  31. Censorship. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    The rules of what you can and can't do in a medium that the rest of the media mistakenly believes is solely for children prevent it.

    It's that simple.

  32. Heh... by kitsunewarlock · · Score: 4, Funny

    From what I've seen on my friend's PC, this is another article that needs the tag "except in Japan".

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    1. Re:Heh... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'll add a link for those interested.

      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Illusion_(company)

    2. Re:Heh... by nine932038 · · Score: 1

      You're joking, but you're more right than you realize. I've visited Akihabara - supposedly Tokyo's electronics area - a few times, and by far, it seems like PC games are where the smut games are, and 'real' games are on consoles. It appears to be a very clear division.

  33. Why do videogamERs struggle with sex? by Liambp · · Score: 0

    Fixed it for you

    1. Re:Why do videogameRs struggle with sex? by Risen888 · · Score: 0

      I frankly don't think your stereotype-ridden piece of flamebait stands a snowball's chance in hell of getting modded up.

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  34. Sex and nerds by Wowsers · · Score: 0

    Why videogames "struggle" with sex?

    Because the games are written by nerds, who don't get any, so have nothing to compare with real life. Just my guess. :)

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    1. Re:Sex and nerds by donscarletti · · Score: 1

      No, most of the guys at my video games company are married and the rest have long term girlfriends. That means that we aren't getting any but know very well what we are missing out on. Since game development is considered a good career where I am, the wives and girlfriends of our team tend to be quite comely, but to a woman they all work 9-6 office jobs. Holding a beautiful, slender, naked women against your body every single night but only getting to enjoy her on Saturday and once on Sunday morning because at other times she is too tired will drive you far more insane and desperate than virginity ever could.

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    2. Re:Sex and nerds by Ironhandx · · Score: 1

      A situation in which, as evidenced by the demographics, is where many video gamers find themselves. Which also lends credibility to the choice of dev's to have the "fanservice" girls in the game.

  35. Mortal Online and frontal by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Mortal Online (MMORPG) has broached the content of full frontal nudity. There is no actual interaction between players but I don't see that the graphics have detracted from the gameplay at all.

  36. Why not? by mustPushCart · · Score: 1

    So where games today can make people play for hours on end to get virtual goods, where gamers get the sense of achievement by killing virtual monsters in a virtual world for virtual rewards (while playing real money), you DONT want to use sex as a reward? Especially sex/romantic relations with characters you have quite likely developed some sort of emotional attachment to? You want to just.. give away this ace up a designers sleeve? WHY!

    1. Re:Why not? by P.+Legba · · Score: 1

      Indeed, I have found that it's quite possible to obtain some pretty nice equipment through the cultivation of certain relationships in an MMORPG setting.

      Artisan Prostitute?

      I suppose if the developers made a few slight mods and additions, you could have Artisan Motherhood, and you could raise children that had the full run of Shattrath City or whatever. The sky's the limit.

  37. The Witcher by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    You really want "Sex as notch on the bedpost", look no further than that game. You actually collect an "achievement card" for every woman Geralt sleeps with in that game. Still though, Geralt's cavalier attitude fits the character, and the writing does convey that some of these "conquests" do develop some genuine affection for him. I guess it's not the French doing the whole juxtaposition of romance and ironic detachment anymore, it's the Czechs...

  38. obv by Gunkerty+Jeb · · Score: 1

    Probably for the same reasons that video-gamers struggle with sex. It has something to do with the intersection of infrequency and awkwardness.

  39. THIEF! FILTHY THIEF! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    http://www.gamegavel.com/reviews/2011/02/24/sex-and-videogames/

    Way to steal an article I wrote months upon months ago. I originally posted that in the summer on our community blogs, and then again on the 24th of Feb of this year. Not only is this guy late to the party, he has stolen huge elements of my original article. And to add insult to injury, I attempted to submit this to slashdot all that long ago. Jerks.

  40. 2-dimensional? by arielCo · · Score: 1

    Why do videogames still treat sex in such a two dimensional way? Why do they snigger at it, or treat it as a reward?

    I believe that's one-dimensional - love-it <--> hate-it are just opposite directions along a single axis.

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    1. Re:2-dimensional? by WaroDaBeast · · Score: 1

      I think it's rather a question of sides than actual dimensions. A sphere, being a three dimensional object, can be looked at from a huge variety of angles, while a disc can only be looked at from each side (well, breadth doesn't count, obviously). Kinda like flat versus round characters in literature.

      My €0.02.

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  41. Thank goodness by wrencherd · · Score: 1

    So, video games cannot duplicate or replace the actual living of one's own real life . . . and this is a bad thing, exactly why?

  42. Re:Need only look at general audience and their ag by Idolminds · · Score: 1

    The average game player is 34 years old and has been playing games for 12 years. At least according to the ESA. http://www.theesa.com/facts/index.asp

  43. Guns in games by WormholeFiend · · Score: 1

    ...are a metaphor for penises.

    And killing enemies is a metaphor for domination sex.

    I tried arguing this point in a Modern Warfare multiplayer game once... and *they* called me gay.

    1. Re:Guns in games by Locke2005 · · Score: 1

      And Teabagging your opponent after killing him is a metaphor for... ???

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    2. Re:Guns in games by blair1q · · Score: 1

      You have that backwards.

      People who engage in domination sex are confusing their penises for weapons.

    3. Re:Guns in games by Ant+P. · · Score: 1

      Teabagging's a metaphor for punching them in the face after you're done, obviously.

  44. mynuts won; humor lost on moderation by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    still pretty funny

  45. Boring....... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Boring article, boring convo. Who cares. Play games, kill shit, shut up.

  46. Does every biological function need game time? by GodfatherofSoul · · Score: 1

    You never see Dr. Freeman stopping to eat or rest up, either. I'd rather continue shooting zombies than watch two poorly modeled assemblies of triangles pumping each other.

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  47. Perhaps it's due to the target audience? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Maybe it is because gamers for the most part are teenagers? Seriously, is anyone at all surprised that teens either treat sex as a reward and make jokes of it?

    I'm not much older either and from my life experiences I can say that treating sex maturely and fully appreciating the non-sexual aspects of relationships takes time.

    We are starting to see games being made for older demographics due to aging gamers so I suspect more adult oriented games will be produced that can handle sex in a more mature fashion.

    1. Re:Perhaps it's due to the target audience? by thrash242 · · Score: 1

      For years, the average gamer has been in his/her 30s. Your mindset that "it's mostly for kids" is part of the problem being discussed. It's not a new trend either--many of the very earliest games were mostly for adults.

    2. Re:Perhaps it's due to the target audience? by compro01 · · Score: 1

      Maybe it is because gamers for the most part are teenagers?

      Maybe it is because that is widely believed despite being completely counter to reality. According to the ESA, the average age of videogame players is 34 and only 20% are under 18.

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  48. FFS, this isn't complicated by orphiuchus · · Score: 1

    Religion made pre-marital sex a no-no because before effective contraceptives lots of anonymous sex really was a bad thing. In 1532 if a woman was pregnant and she wasn't sure who the father was, well, there was a pretty good chance that if she survived the childbirth she and the child would starve to death over the winter.

    The reason that they still make an issue of it is also simple, it takes a really long time for religions to adjust their policies.

    There is no conspiracy against fun here, this is a relic public health policy that most religions are going to take a while to do away with. Not because they hate fun, but because they're religions.

    1. Re:FFS, this isn't complicated by LordNacho · · Score: 1

      That's interesting. I wonder what new religions think about sex. Any Scientologists out there?

    2. Re:FFS, this isn't complicated by ifiwereasculptor · · Score: 1

      That's interesting. I wonder what new religions think about sex. Any Scientologists out there?

      Yes. Way, way out there.

    3. Re:FFS, this isn't complicated by 517714 · · Score: 1

      In 1532, was this woman Australian aborigine, indigenous American, Incan, Mayan, Hawaiian, Japanese, Chinese, Indian, Watusi? What do you know about what would likely happen to women in these and a hundred other cultures? Your Eurocentric generalization is bullshit. Childbirth in most of the world did not take as heavy a toll as it did in Europe in 1532, and there were other significant differences that we cannot ignore.

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    4. Re:FFS, this isn't complicated by 517714 · · Score: 1

      Scientology is not recognized as a religion in much of the world. Hubbard stated that that pain and sex are both "invented tools of degradation" by "destructive creatures" with the intention "to shrink people and cut their alertness, knowingness, power and reach."

      Mostly they use sex as a tool for membership retention. During auditing they ask a lot of questions about sex. "Have you ever used Dianetics or Scientology to force sex on someone?", "Have you ever raped anyone?", "Have you ever been raped?", "Have you ever been involved in an abortion?", "Do you have any bastards?", "Have you ever been sexually unfaithful?", "Have you ever practiced homosexuality?", "Have you ever practiced sodomy?", "Have you ever had intercourse with a member of your family?", "Have you practiced sex with children?", "Have you ever used hypnotism to practice sex with children?", "Have you ever slept with a member of a race of another color?", "Have you ever practiced sex with animals?", "Have you ever had anything to do with pornography?", and "Have you ever masturbated?"

      When you try to leave Scientology, they threaten to expose you. They have a policy of "Fair Game" on their opponents.

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    5. Re:FFS, this isn't complicated by Vectormatic · · Score: 1

      so if i were to join them and go through the whole auditing thing, and decide to leave, their response would be to blurt out "Vectormatic looks at porn and wanks occasionally!!!!"

      That'll teach me.

      Considering that answering yes to some of the other questions (incest, pedofelia, rape) would amount to confessing a (rather serious) crime, and the social stigma on some others, why the hell would you answer yes to them? what good could come of it that overpowers the very obvious bad consequences

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    6. Re:FFS, this isn't complicated by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I don't know about the general "practitioners", but if you're in what is effectively the clergy "the sea org", you have to be married, and get consent by your "superiors" to marry. You actually have to petition them (they call it a "csw"), and only if you are approved by the higher ups can you get married. If you get caught having sex without being married, you get into really big trouble.

      It's one of the reasons the majority of the clergy there are married. And then tend to get divorced in short order Which you have to petition them to get divorced too.

  49. sheesh by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Some games try to model a believable pseudo-reality to varying degrees of detail, some don't. I don't see a reason to get hung up on it, or single out sex in particular.

    In Dwarf Fortress, if a couple of my dwarves become romantically entangled, they might get married, and they might have a baby (which means I get a new dwarf, who has very strong social ties to at least two of my older dwarfs). In Joust, my jouster never seems to have any sex at all (which is really odd since I assume he's competed in a lot of tourneys, and part of the point of that is to impress the ladies). Whoever wrote Joust was clearly sexually repressed.

    In SMAC, if you have enough food coming in to support it, the base populations abstractly grow, and you know what that's a crude model of, don't you? Why was Brian Reynolds too scared to show it? Prude!!

    In Joust, my jouster does a lot of killing, up close and personal. In SMAC, I sometimes nerve-gas opponents' cities (usually during heavy sun spot activity when communications are blacked out), killing thousands of innocent civilians (and while it irreparably harms some diplomatic relations, my soldiers don't get PTSD from doing it). In Pac Man, my dot-eater never kills anyone (who's alive).

    In Joust, is killing the reward -- the very goal itself, satiation of bloodlust -- or is it just a path to victory (elimination of threats to the peace)? Is it to be enjoyed, or a necessary evil? Who watches the Jouster to make sure he's only killing the right people?

    Why does the best Facebook game ever, Click the Cow, struggle so much with sex and violence? That game has no killing at all; I don't think the cows even have genitalia (oh please! stop living in denial!). Not to mention that Click the Cow (just like Joust) seems to shy away from, awkwardly dancing around, all questions concerning political representation, never approaches the topic of when to use marjoram instead of basil, avoids the topic of how to train your dog to not growl at visitors, and utterly ignores whether or not the Core i5 is a better deal than the Phenom II. OTOH, Click the Cow does acknowledge that there are different breeds of cows, but the way it handles these different breeds is so shallow, so wrong, so missing the point. Some are for dairy, some for meat, some are wild natural breeds; Click the Cow throws them altogether! Why does a game about cows, struggle so?

  50. LOL, what a NON PROBLEM by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    What "struggle"?

    Most games DON'T HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH SEX as part of their mechanics. What "struggle" could there be, especially when Japan has an entire SUB-GENRE where getting to that act or even PERFORMING it is a mechanic?

    But what can one expect from the uneducated who constantly pose non-problems, that have been exposed time immemorial, out of their own wretched ignorance? There is a certain shame in having donkeys and asses lead men onto lines of questioning.

    1. Re:LOL, what a NON PROBLEM by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      And expanding a bit on the non-problem bit, there is no "problem" with sex being a reward. Only a moral regime where sex is elevated only as a means of MORAL PRODUCTION (either in the fostering of "moral relationships" or in the creation of "moral life") would be so stupid as to attack that as a mechanic.

      Oh well, it was only a matter of time before the craven moralists would seek to corrupt the latest and greatest form of simulation created so far.

  51. Eh, I disagree with the premise by Labcoat+Samurai · · Score: 1

    Sure, sex is often two-dimensional in games. Sure, women are commonly objectified. But games are not particularly guilty of this compared to other media. And games objectify men a lot too, giving them Adonis good looks and excellent physiques. And finally, I disagree with some of the examples he highlighted. Is sex a reward in Mass Effect? Maybe if you're a cynic, but that wasn't the only level on which it worked for me. I felt really attached to the characters at the time and that part at the end, with Liara in my party (after romancing her) where no one is sure if Shepard survived, and she looks down, distraught, shaking her head, was a moment made more meaningful by the relationship they had previously forged.

  52. If video games would brush their teeth and bathe by hduff · · Score: 1

    they might get some sex.

    Just like video gamers.

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  53. Two Words by Fujisawa+Sensei · · Score: 1

    Protestant lawmakers.

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  54. What about Metal Gear Solid? by RyuuzakiTetsuya · · Score: 1

    In MGS3, the love making scene at the end with EVA and Naked Snake in front of the fire place was pretty decent. It was very much a throwback to Bond-era movie making. It wasn't ridiculous, it was also pretty tasteful.

    Sometimes games get sex right. MGS4's Naomi/Otacon scene was a little ridiculous... But given where the bar is, it wasn't bad.

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  55. Control by aepervius · · Score: 1

    I wonder why religions even have made sex to look like a bad thing

    Mostly out of control. But beware that some more ancient religion were not so bad on sex. Some even had temple prostitution and similar.

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  56. Not sure I agree with the premise by swordgeek · · Score: 1

    It is suggested in this article that games are different than other media for two reasons:
    1) Interactivity
    2) Sexual maturity

    I'll certainly give him (1), but point (2) is debatable. In fact, society in general has a damned immature perspective on sexuality. It's something which is kept behind closed doors (which is fine) but that we're compelled to talk about, hint at, and pump our own egos over.
    In the article, the author says "First up, lock up your daughters, sons and dependants, because we're going to talk about sex." I realise that this was a facetious comment, but the mere fact that it made sense points to society's prevailing view of sex.
    Let's restrict ourselves to the entertainment media. How many TV shows tackle sex in a mature, sophisticated, and nuanced manner versus the number that treat it as a shallow subject for adolescent sniggering? Movies might be better, but not by a lot--especially in Hollywood. We can't show naked but non-penetrative sex on screen without it (a) being labelled as softcore porn, and (b) getting an NC-17 (or whatever) rating. (Aside: We can show explicit, violent, bloody dismembering with only an R rating, though.)
    Music? Worse again.

    Yes, there are exceptions. Yes, there are more bright spots in the other media than in gaming, but how many video games are released per year, vs. hours of TV, movies, music, or...anything? Comparatively few, I'd wager.

    Add in the uncomfortable aspect of interactivity (and the ludicrous awkwardness of a keyboard or game controller as a sex controller), and it's a steep hill to climb, which doesn't really have a lot to do with anything particular to the industry.

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  57. Why even have sex in games? by DreamArcher · · Score: 1

    I don't see anything wrong with it in general, but how can it be the same for a 13 y/o (or worse a 13 y/o girl), and a 35 y/o married man with 4 kids? That's just ridiculous. I know games have ratings but doesn't magically make the understanding equal.

    1. Re:Why even have sex in games? by P.+Legba · · Score: 1

      I'd say that it pretty quickly becomes evident what kind of maturity level you're dealing with...

  58. Well, duh. by WWWWolf · · Score: 1

    We haven't yet made virtual sex with computer-controlled characters, as a form of sexual activity, very interesting. People have cybersex all the time, but they tend to do it because there's another person in the other end and who responds in a reasonably human-like manner. Sex games and minigames tend to be rubbish, because... well, if you want porn, you know where to get it easier.

    As a result, if you want to make a serious game, game devs have to make sex a part of story - it's much easier for people to make a mental connection with fictional characters that way. And, frankly, if you present sex as part of a story, the sex acts themselves suddenly become a rather irrelevant part of the story. (I've read a few good novels, for example, with great sex scenes - just 2 chapters of lead-up and 2 lines of the dirty parts.)

    Simply put: It's easier to make fascinating drama than to come up with some interesting, new and fresh ways to say "and then they had sex". Because it's been done to death. It's hard to think of ways to make sex itself interesting.

    That said, I see no reason to shy away from sex in any forms of art. It's entirely possible to put sex in most forms of art tastefully and interestingly enough - video games should be no exception. People just should figure out how to do it interestingly.

  59. Two-dimensional in Flash games. by Animats · · Score: 1

    Sure, sex is often two-dimensional in games.

    Especially the ones implemented in Flash.

  60. I thought that's why they named it the "Wii" by blair1q · · Score: 1

    You mean they makers of the Wii are never going to have a game that makes me shout out their console's name?

  61. Why do videogameRs struggle with sex? by electrosoccertux · · Score: 1

    in keeping with the theme of replying to the first post in hopes of getting your post seen and voted up,

    a more interesting question is "why do videogamers struggle with sex"?
    Either they
    a. can't find it, or
    b. find it, but don't know what to do with themselves, and so it's very awkward.

    Not to mention, B is enough reason to scare them away from attempting to A.

  62. Don't forget about gender roles by Lord_Jeremy · · Score: 2

    Take a look at the Mass Effect games. The first one wasn't a very big project compared to the second one. ME2 was an immensely hyped sequel due to the surprise popularity of the first one. They both had sexual aspects, but the second was definitely much more of a teenage-boy-pleasing game. The three female squad members in ME1 wear armor on combat missions. Makes sense considering they're usually getting shot at, dodging bone-breaking biotics, and possibly performing EVA in a vacuum. Mass Effect 2, however, has the majority of the female characters prancing around in either skin-tight body suits, epic v-necks, or next to nothing. Yeah I had a good laugh when you're wearing full armor complete with oxygen helmet and Miranda's out of proportion body is still squeezing into that flimsy spandex with a little rebreather mask. I mean come on, you could at least be a little discrete with the fan-service. My point is I find it unfortunate that such a popular game and sequel to a great game could be so misogynist. It really degraded my game experience.

  63. Religions had a reason, once by Livius · · Score: 1

    The point about religions getting so excited about sex is that 3000 years ago societies depended on population - their human capital - for their economic and military strength. Therefore the goal was to have as many people as possible. Not exactly the same as having as many babies as possible - infant mortality was high. Sex had to be within marriage, which meant a publicly known monogamous relationship, so that there was a reliable determination of paternity to identify which adults could be imposed upon to raise the child.

    Thus, male homosexuality was considered anti-social, as it was an abrogation of a man's duty to the community to produce offspring. (Female homosexuality didn't matter as long as the woman still wanted children.)

    There's nothing wrong with viewing sex as something spiritual, for those that choose to view it that way. But there is something very wrong with applying values that only made sense before there was reliable contraception, paternity testing, and prevention of sexual transmission of disease. Even worse, people will tout religious 'values' having no clue whatsoever what it is that they are actually 'valuing' or why. If a 'value' is something they've internalized and have no conscious understanding of, rational discussion is not possible.

    Now, from the perspective of biology and evolutionary psychology, you can be very sure there are associations between sex and the brain's reward mechanisms.

  64. No Leisure Suit Larry comments??? by Guiness17 · · Score: 1

    I am SO disappointed in the lack of Leisure Suit Larry references in this thread! "Hey everyone, this weirdo wants a libbed, colored, rough-cut, plaid, peppermint condom!"

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  65. Because they're video games? by Livius · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Seriously, when does a video game deal with *any* topic other than in a superficial way? What part of 'game' is confusing people?

    1. Re:Because they're video games? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      See any game which people start calling artistic, usual suspects being Passage, Ico, and Shadow of the Colossus, but there are others out there.

  66. Brumgrunt is obviously not married by Scragglykat · · Score: 1

    SEX IS A REWARD! When you have spent a few years begging and sitting and rolling over for it, you'll understand.

  67. Just like the movies. by dadelbunts · · Score: 1

    Movies also suffer from this. You can kill graphically 80,000 people but god forbid there is some breasts, vaginas, penises or butts onscreen. Its a problem with media today not videogames.

  68. Ummm... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    A: Something about penetrating an uncanny valley?

  69. Duh! Look at the Real World by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    "Why Do Videogames Struggle With Sex?"

    Software development is about experience. Just look at the creative/development folks that build video games... nuff said.


    (i.e. not that they don't get some, but they all act like kids).

  70. Lamest /. topic ever by DalDei · · Score: 1

    This has to be the lamest /. topic ever. I mean EVER. Who would ever waste their time even THINKING about video games and sex at the same time then thinking it would make a good article to post? Then again I just posted about it. Damn me ! Back to the video games.

  71. Because they are programmed by nerds by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Because they are programmed by nerds who struggle with sex.

  72. re: violence vs. sex by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I happen to agree with you, except I'm pretty sure the GTA series took plenty of criticism for the acts of violence depicted in it too. It wasn't a case of everyone being pretty much fine with the game, except for the "hot coffee" mod leaking out.

    But ultimately? I think we collectively grasp somewhere deep in our subconscious the concept that violence is a practically inescapable part of interacting with others in daily life, even as little kids. While we don't want to condone or encourage it? We have a pretty good understanding that little Johnny is going to encounter some violence first-hand, by the time he's in grade-school. There has always been the "school bully" who threatens to beat someone up over their lunch money, or the kids who decide to "meet in the parking lot after school" to settle some argument with their fists. On the other hand? Sex is something we really have been able to keep a lid on with kids. Children don't even have the hormones flowing yet in their bodies to really "get" the appeal of it. And if you expect to keep your own sexual relations private matters, it's just easier and better for you if you don't have a kid who is all "enlightened" on exactly what you've got going on at night, since kids LOVE to tell everyone else about whatever they know.

    So in that sense? Sure, there are valid reasons why we're more ok with kids playing a violent video game than a sex-laden one.

  73. Because video games are for kids by thetoadwarrior · · Score: 1

    Video games are primarily aimed at kids whether they're rated mature or not. The publishers and developers are more concerned about profits and selling to as many people as possible and that means not doing something that will stop parents from buying games for their teenage sons.

    1. Re:Because video games are for kids by Thud457 · · Score: 1

      Video games are primarily aimed at kids whether they're rated mature or not. The publishers and developers are more concerned about profits and selling to as many people as possible and that means not doing something that will stop parents from buying games for their teenage sons.

      Holy shit, you must be an American.
      Next, you're gonna tell us that animated movies have to have funny talking animals in them.
      You know who else set up enforced ghettos ?

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      the preceding comment is my own and in no way reflects the opinion of the Joint Chiefs of Staff

  74. A few things he forgot by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    1) Anytime a video game even casually mentions sexuality, it has to spend the rest of it's viable life avoiding getting banned.
    He mentions Grand Theft Auto's Hot Coffee, but fails to point out that it required a fanpatch to use, (as in, was NOT available in the game as it was released), and still got the game banned. I seem to remember a scandal with someone prominent resigning...

    Is there any real incentive to deal with sex in any way more then saucy implication?, no, because you risk getting banned... like another game he mentions, Mass Effect, it's brief, non-visible sex-scene, equivalent to what you might normally find in a movie, caused mass hysteria about what it was doing to our children.

    2) Half of the guys in fighting games are shirtless. Shirts don't get much skimpier then not actually wearing one. Most male characters are just as out-of-proportion with testosterone poisonening. Of course, female characters are typically lighter then male characters, which means, guess what?, LESS ARMOUR.

    3) Guess what happened when Fallout 3 had powered armour that covered up the feminine physique? WOMEN PROTESTED. The best explanation I've heard of is who would woman want to play?, sexy-asskicking-adventure-girl? or a frumpy librarian?
    Yeah, it's Lara Croft.
    WoW sometimes gave female characters the option of dressing up sexily. For the approriate levels, they were far more common then their rarity should have provided. Women were actually looking for the mail bikinis.

    4) While no one can doubt that some games have taken the jiggle factor WAY TOO FAR, unlike TV and movies, it doesn't actually require anyone to get breast enlargement. All of those big-breasted bimboes running around in movies?, yeah, they've actually had surgery to get that way. Video Games don't. And with all the big-breasted women running around in tv and movies and comic books and billboards, you can't single out video games as the one cause to rule them all.

    5) While Dragon Age and Mass Effect might break a relationship with one wrong dialog choice, AT LEAST THEY ARE TRYING. Modeling a relationship is a very complex thing, (many, many games have been created for that sole purpose). Sure it needs to mature, but how many games actually give you romantic choices based on your in-game interactions? Not that many. If we villainize the ones who make the attempt, then it will never get better.

  75. Dating Sims, but in general by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    They are a niche, but Japan treats them really fricking seriously. (There was a rare scandal recently when even these sexually jaded japanese found some train rape game a bit too much to bear, but rape is a common theme in their sex anime and games.)

    Japanese "eroge"and western "dating sims" are all about serious sex and little else. You just won't see them on the shelves in the USA and they are probably the first you even hear of them on /., and also are serious enough that you won't see me posting while logged in. Furthermore, there are hello kitty vibrators, xboxes that were sold with sexy fullsize pillows protraying anime characters, and the whole infatuation that japan has with [more] shamelessly exploiting women thru the dressup/cosplay fetish in their non-game adverts, magazines, coffee shops, autoshows (cat girls)/ things.

    Here is a google link for a few Wikipedia articles on Dating sims
    http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&client=opera&hs=9M3&rls=en&q=japanese+sex+simulators&aq=f&aqi=&aql=&oq=

    Newgrounds has a few, and most others you can get on the chan boards. In our Western defense, I'll say I did see American made dating sims with actors and the same multiple choice scoring back in 1995.

  76. What eez thees "sex" you spik uv? by grikdog · · Score: 1

    L R L R L L UP DN L1 R2 L2 R1 X X X doesn't do it for me.

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  77. Because of the programmers... by cyn1c77 · · Score: 1

    "Why do videogames still treat sex in such a two dimensional way? Why do they snigger at it, or treat it as a reward? Den Of Geek has been taking a look."

    I always figured it was some combination of games being made by our inner adolescent, marketed to the outer ones, and getting banned whenever they take sex seriously.

    Any computer software is an extension of its developers. The programmers either think of sex that way, or think that representing it that way will appeal to the audience.

    The article is silly though. The author keeps complaining that sex is a deep and meaningful connection between two human beings. Well, if you are playing a single player game, there is no other person to connect with. People do seem happy with the sex in multiplayer games, like Second Life, though.

  78. You are looking in the wrong place by Princeofcups · · Score: 1

    Try a Japanese dating sim some time. They are generally role playing games about relationships, family, and sex. Lots of sex. Graphic sex. Sex in every possible variation and combination. And they are marketed to teenagers, who are interested in learning about, you guessed it, sex. What a concept.

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  79. Re:And CmdrTaco can't play it... by Yvan256 · · Score: 1

    If it's anything like the other interfaces of Slashdot, half of them are broken and the other half aren't working*.

    * yes, 100%

  80. "or treat it as a reward?" by AbRASiON · · Score: 1

    As long as television shows like Friends, Everyone Loathes Raymond The Simpsons and countless other modern TV shows continue to present the man of the household as a clumsy childlike idiot with a very freudian relationship with their wives, frequently 'begging' for sex in some kind of way, then we're going to continue to have fucked up impressions of it.
    and yes, some people do get some of their mannerisms and behaviour from television.

    Stop and take a look at society, it's not just games which can't handle sex very well, most of society can't.

  81. C'Thul'Hu approaches... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    we don't know your gender and we don't know the gender of C'Thul'Hu, yet I still think that anyone who *could* "octopus" you in any way imaginable is just not right... All the sushi bars I've been in are stocked with calimari that wiggles on it's way down, and they even have a dish/fetish where you swallow a live un-beacked octopus that meets an untimely death no-doubt clinging to your intestinal walls praying it would return to planet-Earth as a parasitic intestinal worm that you ingest from a river while you were lost and thirsty in a nature hike.

    Seriously, being "octopussed" is depicted in japanese art to women/geisha (gays-huh?) so maybe you should come out of the closet on your attraction to a creature with 8 tentacles where should be tendons and shoulders to the body of a man? All octopuddies look like Creationism having it's revenge.

  82. MOD PARENT UP by cyclomedia · · Score: 1

    Spot on, if you actually go and read a bunch of religious texts you'll see that the basic rules make a fair amount of sense in this context. Including for example the "Don't work your ass of every single day, you need a day to rest every few days or you'll kill yourself" one.

    When a society is starting out, and the people in charge are simply there because of them being the smart people (teacher and/or healer being tribal leader) and there's no police force, army or judiciary, and you haven't invented chemistry and physics yet so your understanding of the planet is limited to observation on a human scale then keeping the population in check needs a different system.

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  83. WoW. by P.+Legba · · Score: 1

    It's interesting the kinds of interactions that take place in a virtual game environment like the World of Warcraft, where things can progress without the constraints of consequences. When the death, money and biology are fake, people tend, I think, to be more violent, more generous and, yes, more sexual.

    If Blizzard actually took pains to represent human sexual interaction with any degree of visual realism, people would probably never leave their homes.

  84. As a woman... by Panruru · · Score: 1

    I have huge issues with the way women are portrayed personality-wise in all relevant media. However, compared to books, television, and common societal views, games are far from the most serious offender. There's a good number of strong female characters in video games who can kick ass just as well as, if not better than, the male characters. Furthermore, romance and childrearing are generally not the top priorities of these women. Sex objects or not, these things alone set them above the majority of female characters in all media.

    On the other side of things, as a lesbian, I'm pretty okay with the way video games handle sex and sexuality. Sex sells, after all, and games are supposed to be fun. As an adolescent, I wouldn't have enjoyed Sudeki half as much if I hadn't been so enthralled with watching Buki's ass as she ran. Now, as a marginally more mature adult, the modded addition of large breasts and sexier clothing to TES4 makes an already awesome game even more entertaining. It would be a great game no matter what the women looked like, but the 10-15% fun factor added by sex appeal really makes a difference.

    I would love it if media would stop portraying all women as stereotypes who are vulnerable deep down and in need of a man to protect them, obsessed with romance and fashion and cute things. But please don't take away our sexy ladies. The sexy ladies make awesome things even more awesome, and lame things somewhat tolerable.

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    1. Re:As a woman... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The "sexy lady who doesn't need a man to protect her" is just your preferred stereotype.