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Ask Slashdot: Good Ideas For Creative Gaming With Girlfriend?
First time accepted submitter TimBur1e6 writes "Suppose you had just moved 1000 miles away from your significant other, but you wanted to continue to create shared life experiences. You could text, or talk by voice, or even video chat. And those would all be good things to do. However, there's a difference between telling someone about your day, and actually spending time together. What are some fun and constructive ways of spending time together on the net? In particular, what are good things to do with a significant other who is less into combat, and more into collaboration, exploration, creativity, and storytelling?"
Minecraft? Portal 2 Team Mode? Draw Something?
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I mean, that's what you expected to hear, right?
Minecraft, but in 2D. This actually makes it better, in my opinion. It's easier to build things. Also, it looks nicer.
Anyone can do it. Snuggles not included
Let's make like a bird... and get the flock outta here.
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Sigger than your average
Start or join an opensource project and work on it together.
Nothing like some real achievements, which actually help people who use the software for real. Some game achievements don't quite compare.
Really? No ones taken the low hanging fruit of, "Lots of people say they like to role play with their signifigant others," or "My brother says him and his wife do role playing, but he just looks at me funny when I ask what rule set they're using," yet?
"Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much." - Oscar Wilde
Portal 2 is wonderful for this.
Surprised this game hasn't been suggested yet.
"... collaboration, exploration, creativity, and storytelling?"
Suggest a 3-way?
Back when my wife and I were first dating and were apart (we met on Prodigy, and had a long distance relationship) we spent a lot of time on the phone and IMing, many times while listening to our favorite music together or watching TV shows. I suggest skipping gaming and using Skype- while making dinner, watching TV, etc. This is a lot closer approximation to togetherness than playing a game.
Always-on webcam and mic.
Some may scoff at this, but this is exactly the sort of thing SL for.
Look around in there, you'll probably find something to your liking.
Yeah, having a girlfriend is turning your back on the geek brotherhood man. Bros before hos right?
Actually the demographic of Slashdot seems to be a little older. By this stage women have worked out that they are better off with us than the jocks.
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He didn't have a lot of choice, since his parents moved 1000miles away and he is 14 and lives in their basement he *had* to move with them.
In real life, this is called "you'll keep in touch with each other until she tells you she's banging the new guy who is actually *there* and didn't move 1000 miles away from his 'significant' relationship partner."
Since most of the suggestions above me weren't actually serious, I'll add play Neverwinter. It's free to play and the people are easy going and not psycho competitive and mean like LoL or Starcraft 2. The game itself is pretty fun and some content is pretty tongue in cheek. It's really easy to hop on and just do whatever together like a raid of dungeon or pvp and there's plenty of comical pvp groups like all 5 wizards who lose horribly or something. So yeah, definitely fun, free, modern, and it's really easy to give each other free stuff in game as a present :-)
My lady likes to shoot people in the head (borderlands2!), but some games that might be more interesting to yours could be the collaborative/building style games.
Look into the x360 Kelfling (kingdom of, world of, etc) games, and branch out from there.
Just trying out new games is a great part of the experience. Have a budget, and any game that looks like it might be interesting, buy it. probably still cheaper than a movie, and some games (esp on steam) have two or four packs (for double dates - heh) for a little cheaper.
I also suggest making a specific 'game night' that you always play together. Feel free to add other nights to the mix as desired, but be sure there is a specific night set aside that no other plans are allowed to interrupt.
While not strickly a game many people find it a great way to interact with others far away., I met my partner there. She lived across the country for the first year of our relationship. Sounds strange but many of the things that can be done in real life can be done in Second Life. There are live DJ's and live musicians if you like to go dancing. There are video stores where you can purchase a video for viewing and watch it stream together from the comfort of your virtual home. There are some theaters. There is a ton to do in SL. From G rated on up. Its what you make it and its a great way to date while far away from your loved one.
http://www.second-life.com/
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World of Warcraft or similar could be a good alternative. At least that is how I remember the experience of leveling a couple characters together with good real-life friends (though not my significant other), before I eventually grew bored of the world of Azeroth and the repetitive nature of quests and game mechanics. WoW strikes a reasonably good balance between playing a game together with a shared purpose and creating collaborative experience, while at the same time having plenty of 'downtime' (traveling and quests that don't require much thinking) for chatting and being social.
This depends to some degree on your age and how long you have been together, but unless you've been married or similarly commited for a significant length of time, or you expect them to join you in a definite period of time, it's not worth trying to hold together. There are other fish in the sea.
I get the impression, given the time of year, that you may have just gone to college, in which case, generally speaking, it's already over. The only real question is how long it takes you two to realize it.
And we've worked out that we're better off with our hand than some worn out pussy that the jocks don't want.
Leave skype on all evening... Watch movies "together" and talk to each other while watching. Make the same dinners "together." Storytelling? Open up a google doc and write your own story collaboratively. If you both like games, then play whatever you like together using teamspeak. My girl and I have played Ultima Online, Everyquest, starwars and Diablo when we were working across the country. What's important is that you communicate and spend "time" together. But something important that no one will mention is this: Trust each other and give each other time alone. Good luck.
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I know it has the name wars in the title, but there's a ton of aspects of the game that involve exploring, a big part is lore, and they have hidden tons of jumping puzzles that reward you. You can level in a multitude of ways, but combat is a big aspect. If its any game that turns chicks onto mmo's its gw2, by far a larger base of female players / total population than I have seen compared to the likes of WoW, Aion, Warhammer etc
No subscription fee, just one a time purchase of $50, which is ridiculously cheap for the amount of hours you'll end up putting into it.
If this were last year, I'd have recommended City of Heroes for you. Creativity and flexibility out the ying-yang.
Unfortunately, those mental defectives at NCSoft put the kibosh on that.
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I've done this with my partner in times we've lived thousands of miles apart (the joys of academia!) Fortunately she's more amenable to playing somewhat violent games, but ones that work well are:
Civilization series. Turn based strategy, build an empire - I find it more fun if you play it like a war-craze lunatic, but you can build a nice little cultural/scientific utopia too. Bonus part: You can gang up on the computer players, form alliances etc.
Trine series: OK, somewhat combat, but it's quite beautiful, multiplayer works like a dream and it's very cooperative, and fun to explore the fairytale world.
Portal 2 - again a co-op dream, not particularly violent, all about puzzle solving and coordination.
If you can talk her into the us-vs-them violent games, ones I've found work particularly well are Left4Dead (1+2) and Orcs Must Die 2. However, both get somewhat hectic and are quite violent so might not really be what you're looking for.
What about World of Warcraft? There are lots of casual things to do besides raids or other hardcore gamer battles that involve killing things (but don't roll a toon on a pvp realm!). Of course, there's that $15/month bite. Each! Just a thought.
Collaboration: Create an online dating profile. Have your old girlfriend write a recommendation on why you're worth dating.
Exploration: Ask her to rate potential new girlfriends.
Creativity: Date new girlfriend.
Storytelling: Tell the old one about the new one.
Combat: You did say she's not into combat, right? But, just in case, hide your batleth.
This depends to some degree on your age and how long you have been together, but unless you've been married or similarly commited for a significant length of time, or you expect them to join you in a definite period of time, it's not worth trying to hold together. There are other fish in the sea.
I get the impression, given the time of year, that you may have just gone to college, in which case, generally speaking, it's already over. The only real question is how long it takes you two to realize it.
Dating advice from slashdot. Really?
Long Distance Relationships work. I was in one for over a year, and am now happily married. They are hard, but the poster isn't asking for our advice on the relationship.
All I can say is that my wife and I played lots of online games together, from Battleship to Gin. We kept it varied, and played mostly casual games, though we did rock the Diablo II for a while.
The best person to talk to about this, really, is your girlfriend.
Best of luck.
I know it's been out a long time, but FFXI can be a very enjoyable environment for two (or more) people to hang out together when they're miles apart. It's got a lot of places to explore and goals to achieve that have nothing to do with battle. (i.e. Crafting, Fishing, Exploration Quests, etc.). Just a suggestion. :)
Duh.
You never know. A few years back, I moved to Minneapolis for a couple of years while my now-fiancee stayed in Denver. We kept things going with lots and lots of phone calls and e-mails and the occasional visit until I came back. Obviously that worked out okay.
The correlation between ignorance of statistics and using "correlation is not causation" as an argument is close to 1.
When my girlfriend and I lived several hundred miles apart, we played Left 4 Dead a LOT together in campaign mode. We are now happily married and looking forward to L4D3 :)
This.
It really makes me sad how many geeks, who spend much of their adolescence and young adult lives complaining (quite justifiably) about our toxic jock-centered culture, still manage to absorb a lot of the lessons of that culture and carry them into adulthood. I understand how it happens--it's much the same reason so many children of abusive parents grow up to be abusers themselves--but that doesn't make it okay. A big part of becoming an adult is learning to move past that, to be a better person than you were conditioned to be.
The correlation between ignorance of statistics and using "correlation is not causation" as an argument is close to 1.
These are sure to impress, plenty of stories can come from just these!
Crusader Kings II
Dark Souls
Diablo 3
Dwarf Fortress, share the saves!
Europa Universalis IV
Jagged Alliance 2
Magicka
Saints Row (any of them)
My wife and I were apart for almost a year. Skype + Minecraft on a server was awesome and helped us stay connected. I highly recommend it.
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But perhaps not the 'enhanced edition', haven't tried it yet but heard it doesn't work on some laptops. Or, Neverwinter online.
As they surely will be watching/hearing (at least since 5 years ago they enjoy a lot intercepting and sharing hot phone sex calls), you can try to enjoy having spectators and have fun with them.
At least that's what we called in in high school.
I've never played it, but read enough about it to think it might be a good way to spend time on-line interacting with a physically distant significant other.
Suppose you had just moved 1000 miles away from your significant other, but you wanted to continue to create shared life experiences.
I'm sorry. I don't understand this sentence. Is this 'significant other' something that happens when I leave the basement? Can I get my mom to get one for me while she's out?
Well, there's spam egg sausage and spam, that's not got much spam in it.
Leather.
"Beware of he who would deny you access to information, for in his heart, he dreams himself your master."
But not old enough to get past promoting the silly stereotype of nerds vs. jocks.
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Everything you said is moot if she's into it as well. And, you're making some titanic deductive leaps about their relationship.
I swear to God...I swear to God! That is NOT how you treat your human!
Other than MMOs, I don't have much of an idea, because the last thing I want is a significant other that spends all their time playing videogames or surfing the net so that when I'm not busy doing those things, they are and we never spend time together. (Which is why I picked someone who spends their time as a semi-professional fashion-designer, instead).
That said, maybe a little Sexy-Wii time is in order? :P
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I really gotta know if they sell enough of those to be profitable.
Is it temporary 1000 miles from home or permanently? That makes a difference.
I would just write real letters in an envelope. she (in my case, in yours: you are very unspecific about the gender of your significant other, that information would help also not?), has to unpack it and probably will read it with care.
My penny...
His handle is Timothy and the subject line says "Girlfriend?" You can figure this out.
Honestly, unless you're over 50, sustaining a relationship with someone over a prolonged and indefinite period of time from a great distance is probably a terrible idea all around. Obviously, this might not always be true if you're just moving away for part of a year for work or one of you has to move before the other . . . but otherwise, it probably makes more sense to call it and find someone local that you can actually have a relationship with.
More young people need to heed the wisdom of Biz Markie:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9aofoBrFNdg
The game Sleep Is Death (Geisterfahrer) sounds exactly like what you're describing: "a storytelling game for two players by Jason Rohrer"
http://sleepisdeath.net/
However, you do need to be very creative to play this effectively.
So your argument is that if she is ALSO a child they have a chance? Possibly. But somehow I doubt she's "into" trading her boyfriend moving 1000 miles away for some online video games unless she's just not that into him. Regardless of what she says, this will not be a substitute for the real thing.
Parent reads like a troll, but is spot on. Unless this is a very temporary thing, your relationship will not survive the distance no matter how much "interaction" you get through a computer screen. Save money on games and food and live in a crappy studio apartment so that you can make regular trips home.
Where are mod points when I actually need them?
Well said.
Don't just game, Dungeoneer
Girlfriend? Yeah right. We need proofs of that.
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Pick a book you'll both enjoy, and take turns reading aloud to each other.
"I'm too busy to research this and form an educated opinion, but I do have time to tell everyone my uninformed opinion."
Start by developing an idea, tone, and theme for a story that you can collaborate on and write. There's a lot of fun details to flesh out to make the world feel alive (especially if the story isn't just set in modern times) like establishing kingdoms or galactic alliances and whatnot. If you one you likes to draw or doodle, you can get some fun map-making in. You can setup short term goals like "this week, we should each try and write up a character profile for someone in the world" and then share the ideas you've come up with when you're together online again.
I know it's not a straight-up game in the way you were asking, but it could easily become one that's shared between just the two of you. Most rewarding is the actual progress you make on something that will last longer than the next WoW patch cycle. And who knows, maybe you guys end up releasing the next big book series as a result, or pioneer a new pen-and-paper RPG setting. As long as you did it together, you've created unique memories with each other, despite the distance.
Ok, buddy. Hold up.
The only game you're going to enjoy is called "unpleasant few months splitting up with my girlfriend despite good internet access because moving 1000 miles away from her means the relationship is over".
You will learn a great deal in the process, mostly concerning the fact that the most important part of a relationship is lots of time spent together sharing real life experiences and, yes, good 'ol fashoined sex.
Sorry dude, but time will teach you that this just wasn't going to end well, no matter how much in denial you were when you made the decision to make this move : I've made the same mistake myself in the past when bandwidth and communiction possibilities were less advanced than they are now but the bottom line is you put a career opportunity first and this is the price you will almost certainly have to pay.
You could collude at online poker.
Just play the Cadillac of MMO's. You can make characters on a PvE realm so she doesn't have to worry about fighting so much, and it's HUGE. So much character customization, some pretty neat mounts, tons of mini games, super cute pets, it really is a beautiful world. Also, it's the only game I can think of where women are actually welcome. I don't play it anymore, but my wife is running around in Goldshire as I type this.
Why would you even do that?
Bingo.
What's the end-game here? Are you moving where she is? Is she moving back? When? If you don't have concrete plans as to how you're going to be back in the same place (e.g. "She's gone home for the summer, she'll be back in September") then just end it, cause it's doomed anyway.
Baloney. Long distance relationships are, for certain, difficult as hell. But they can work, and things as asked by TimBur1e6 are legit ways to feel together. My fiance and I watched movies together (both of us having downloaded the same file, starting it at the same time) while on Skype, and it really did engender a feeling of closeness.
as the general market for the gamers is well understood and girlfriends are not.
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In particular, what are good things to do with a significant other who is less into combat, and more into collaboration, exploration, creativity, and storytelling?"
WHAT DO YOU DO WITH A PERSON LIKE THAT? YOU DUMP THEM! BLOOD FOR THE BLO okay there are some pretty good games out there that focus on problem solving and exploration, nobody plays this anymore but if it's just you and your girl then I recommend Myst Online, it's kind of old but still pretty for an MMO, and it's all about solving rather abstract and unique puzzles. Oh and it's free.
Lot of other good games got mentioned, but I feel Myst Online deserves some love here, it's a pretty good fit for the kind of gameplay you're looking for.
what are good things to do with a significant other who is less into combat, and more into collaboration, exploration, creativity, and storytelling?
There are several muds that fit that bill nicely. Text based. No explosions. Solve puzzles. Act out a character. Contribute to a story.
Use Skype/FaceTime/Phone+SMS photos/whatever to go to real world places together: museums, parks, hiking, etc.
I took my girlfriend to quite a number of places vial cell-phone+SMS photos when we were dating-at-a-distance... Now she's my wife!
You are assuming a lot about the OP's relationship, and none of it is warranted or remotely appropriate. The only thing that's been expressed so far is that OP wants to find ways to interact with his girlfriend despite their distance. He didn't say why he was moving, for how long, when he's going to see her again, how long they've been dating, what they've liked to do together in the past, etc. etc. etc. So how about instead of being a presumptuous asshole and deriding OP for no reason, you make yourself useful and recommend some games or mod up good replies.
I've been playing around with http://roll20.net/ which is a tool for online gaming (I'm not affiliated in any way). Whilst it is aimed primarily at run web based rpg games, the framework allows you to create maps - including hex based ones. It has the ability to work with video chat, a built in dice rolling system and ways to communicate in secret between players. It also has a deck of cards mechanism which can be tailored to other card decks. So with a little effort, you can build a library of boardgames, card games or RPGs which will give some variety. You can also invite in others to play if you take the fancy. Basic membership is free but they also have a subscriber model with additionaal features
Glad to see at least one other man reads Slashdot. ;)
You're an NSA agent seeking for new material to fapp on, admit it. ;-)
The Tao of math: The numbers you can count are not the real numbers.
Game? Hide the salami in her best friend.
"Flyin' in just a sweet place,
Never been known to fail..."
It didn't start very far uphill to begin with.
"Flyin' in just a sweet place,
Never been known to fail..."
This is simply not true. Long distance relationships can be stressful and straining on the relationship but there is no guarantee it will result in failure. I had the long distance thing going on for over 6 years and there was no fire and brimstone at the end of the tunnel.
No, but what a shitty way to spend 10% or more of your adult life. It isn't like people are so hard to come by that it'll be the end of the world if people part ways amicably due to long distances.
Also, anecdotal exceptions always exist. I'm sure the OP is speaking in generalities because . . . well, that's all you can speak to if you don't know someone very closely.
No, man! You don't understand! Our love is SPECIAL and we are UNIQUE! We'll be together forever and ever and ever and that guy who is always in the background at her house when I call her is totally just her platonic friend!
Advice: Go ask a handful of deployed/formerly-deployed marines about long-distance relationships.
Man, I thought you were going to say "by this stage, we have figured out how women worked" and I was going to say ".... wut...".
Your story is an exception to the rule.
It especially works if both people are so desperate to be with someone that they'll tolerate any inconvenience and they are also so afraid of being alone and afraid that nobody else will ever want them that they better make this 1,500 mile long distance relationship with the girl/boy they met last month work out.
This is also the logic high school students (especially boys) use in their relationship. "I'll never get another girl to like me, so I'll be a loyal puppy dog, no matter what happens! And we wuuuv each other so much things will never be bad!"
Sometimes shit works out, sure . . . sometimes people can jump off a tall building and the wind catches them just right and drops them safely on the top of another nearby building. But usually, they leave a vicious dent in the ground.
Bingo.
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You sank my Battleship!
No, he's making rational generalizations.
Nothing more annoying when someone makes a generalized statement and people respond with "but but but . . . . I had a different experience!" as if there are not also some exceptions or as if those exceptions prove the generalization wrong. Or . . . worse . . . as if the person making a generalization is some how stupid, insensitive, or even evil for making generalizations. Hello, people?! It's the internet! If we don't know you very well or the specifics of your situation, personality, life, etc -- all we can do is speak in generalities!
Also, I'm sure they are unique snowflakes that will never be torn apart and their love will be eternal and they'll pass three days apart from each other in old age blah blah.
Not childish; just unrealistic.
This is why people have made statements in this thread about how it is important to have specifics. Time frames, goals, arrangements. A set limited amount of time before the distance is a thing of the past is not as difficult as an indefinite time period with nonspecific arrangements and plans for the future. Those are situations that breed uncertainty, suspicion, loneliness, and "cheating".
Try Second Life...it is a multi-user virtual environment with all the trappings of social media. However, it is an environment created by the users. You can do *anything* there, and I do mean anything, up to and including virtual sex if that is your bent. Extremely rich, immersive and even addictive (of course), virtual marriages have occurred there that led to real life marriages...and divorces.
Yeah, fuckwit! Doctor woot says you can only reply to random anonymous internet advice seekers on their own terms!
Maybe you didn't read what you posted then, because the assumptions you've made aren't exactly subtle.
You're living in a fantasy world.
This isn't going to work
(and not even really that fun)
Talking about what games you're going to play together online is what children do
your relationship is therefore doomed.
the mere fact that you're moving 1000 miles away from her speaks VOLUMES to her
If you are serious about maintaining this relationship, don't spend your time playing video games with her
his will not only show her you are *serious* about your relationship, but that you're a good provider.
She's looking for a committed man.
What you're showing her right now is an uncommitted child
I'm sure I've missed a few, but practically nothing you've said amount to anything more than needlessly demeaning garbage.
For the record, my last relationship was a 6 year long long-distance relationship. She moved away because she had no choice, and I certainly didn't view that as an act of abandonment. The most important thing that made it last for as long as it did was contact whenever possible. If OP gets a job to take up the time he'd use to interact with her when he already has the means to get to her (or her to him) when he can then that job will only serve to distance them even further. When we did have time we could spend giving each other attention, we'd talk on the phone, stream movies and watch them together (NSA Dave if you read this please don't tell the MPAA), and yes, play video games together. OP is very likely asking "what good online games are out there that focus more on exploration than combat" as opposed to "should I talk to her on my time off" or "should I show her my naughty parts on skype" because if he's above the age of 10 he's a big enough boy to have figured out the answer to those on his own.
You are right about one thing though, actions speak louder than words, and the fact that he's going around asking people for their perspective on a good time shows he's at least trying, so fuck off with your condescension.
Co-author a book or screenplay together in Google Docs.
what?!!! some girls like to play and FPS, RPG, Scrabble or something else. maybe even try http://isketch.net/ if you don't know what your girlfriend likes... YOU FAIL BY NOT ASKING HER!
From someone who has shared a similar experience:
http://www.co-optimus.com/
You will want to filter out the FPS titles, but there are dozens of good, modern recommendations there. And that doesn't even include older games.
Preferably a real life carbon based life form version.
I can tell quite a few of you pussies have never been in the military.
Some of us don't have an option, ass.
is that a word? now it is.
Remember kids, if you're not paying for the service, YOU ARE THE PRODUCT THAT IS BEING SOLD.
You both go into a same name restaurant, sit at a similar table. Using a laptop, both of you have the face of your long distance relationship on each of your laptops, have them sit opposite as a date would and talk to each other as if you were in the same room.
You have no idea what you are talking about because you don't know his situation. There are few things in life worse than giving up a girl you are deeply in love with, and living with the result 12+ years later. Haunting dreams to remind you.
If they really are spectacular together, I wouldn't suggest them being apart for any reason. The pain is just too much.
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A wife.
Have gnu, will travel.
Left 4 Dead is a great co-op game which guys and gals play.
I can tell quite a few of you pussies have never been in the military.
...or had an s/o travel on business a lot. While I don't do it long-term, I do know folks who work on remote assignment for months at a shot, or spend at least half the year cumulatively away from family, girlfriends, etc.
On occasion, I usually go off for a week or so to some remote big city on business, but the missus and I keep in daily touch by phone, online via chat, and usually even by (*gasp*) facebook just to share some weird shit we stumbled across that day (me while walking about town, her by pointing me to weird shit back home).
The big trick is communication. Talk about everything and anything, at least once a day. Watch a show together while chatting or on the phone. Do something romantic. Oh, for instance? I'd draw a heart on the beach with our initials, take a photo, and email it to her. In San Francisco there's a zillion heart sculptures - snap a photo of a different one each day and send it along with a little poem. Take a photo of yourself watching a sunset, email that, and then call her telling her about stuff on your mind while she opens that photo. The point is to let her know you still think of her, and how much you love her. She'll appreciate that a whole lot more than tchotskes or souvenirs.
Most important of all - If you're gone a long time, and if you can swing it, find a way to get back there on a periodic basis to be with her, or find a way to get her out to you.
Now this go 'round, I saved a few extra pennies and brought her along (it's our anniversary, and she'd never seen this city before) - but that gets pricey after awhile... So we adapt, and enjoy the times when we are together. No end-game involved. Maybe TFA dude is doing something similar. Maybe he expects to be reunited shortly. No business of mine, but I'm happy to help when I can.
Quo usque tandem abutere, Nimbus, patientia nostra?
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Minecraft.
Portal 2.
Better: a question for you: what do you guys like to play? Why are you asking us about games to play, when you should know what you like and what she likes - since you're both obviously gamers, right? Right? So, do you both actually play games? If so, find something that's online, that you both enjoy, and play it. There's lots of free games, free-to-try games, and games you might only have to shell out a couple bucks each to get (Humble Bundle, anyone?). But, if one of you isn't a gamer, then this is pointless. I don't know - my wife and I are pretty upfront about our gaming likes and dislikes, so I wouldn't really need to ask anyone else what we should play together. Maybe you two should talk about what kind of games you'd like to play, and then find some.
Oh, more:
Gunbound
Any variation of Catan
Call of Duty
Final Fantasy Online (LOL)
Any "old-school" emulator with networking support
Team Fortress 2
Lots of online poker services for free (Triple Jack is fun)
There are probably a few more - I mean, we are talking about games to play online, right? Yeah, probably one or two that I missed.
Beat me to it. A different perspective but growing up brat I saw a lot of separations, from TDY to duty station, from a week to a year. Most made it, one fashion or another. Never easy, takes work, no guarantees; given the alternative, one tries very hard to make it work.
you poor little soldiers.
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I had a similar situation, except it was just with friends, rather than a significant other. We knew we liked gaming, but gaming together only gets you so far, just as talking only gets you so far. You need to have a shared experience that isn't as distracting as multiplayer gaming can be.
For us, what we did was start recording Let's Play videos and uploading them to YouTube. Basically, set up some video streaming (e.g. we use TeamViewer, but Twitch.tv works for others), chat on Skype, have one of you play a single-player game, and then record everything that happens. You can talk about the game or anything else. For me, it perfectly captures the same feeling I used to have when playing a single-player game with a friend, either as the player or the viewer. We just shoot the breeze, comment on the game, look up stuff related to it, and generally just have a fun time. It facilitates conversation and ensures that you don't have awkward silences, since the game is constantly happening.
For you, uploading the videos to YouTube doesn't make much sense, since we now have 1000 subscribers with really trying, and that sort of thing is the last thing you need when having conversations with your significant other. Even so, the idea may be applicable. Don't constrain yourself to multiplayer games. Single player can work great too.
The statistics show that only about half of long distances work
The statistics show that half of all marriages (allegedly) end in divorce too. So that's about right.
Don't quote me on this.
It offers a wide array of different types of games; from card games to puzzles. You can focus on the socializing or build up your character's skills and become part of a crew. It appeals to the casual gamers more than the hard core crowd.
Puzzle Pirates
I only speak for myself, but sporadic (eg. weekly) and short (10 minutes?) phone calls and occasional exchange of short messages in Whatsapp was sufficient for us.
Needless to say there was lots of trust and understanding, and perhaps the fact that we threw away the (IMHO) childish notion that lovers need to feel the constant presence of each other. (blasphemy for some, I know...)
This goes directly against the other end of the advice spectrum of holding intimacy and sex above all else in a relationship. They're probably also right, in which case you got to ask yourself what your relationship is based on.
There's nothing wrong per se in having a relationship based primarily on sex, on the feeling of intimacy, on promises of exclusivity, promises of staying together, whatever. In which case they're absolutely right -- if those assumptions break once you're 1000 miles away, it's over.
But it really depends on the couple. If playing games together helps, good for you.
Don't quote me on this.
That's what your relationship is right now. If you think it'll hold together with that amount of distance between you, think again. It'll start out with talking nightly. Then nightly will become weekly. Then you'll be lucky if you hear much from her at all because she'll be busy attempting to have an actual social life which will likely include other guys.
If she likes music, maybe write songs together and put them on bandcamp.
I assume you're asking this question because there's nothing online that she really likes. I've dated girls like this. Dull in her interests, but good kisser. Someone earlier mentioned Travian, and I also think the FunOrb games are good (especially Arcanists).
In all honesty, you should just talk on Skype or w/e and plan your next meetup. I assume that you can afford meeting up at least few times a year. Talk once a week, maybe play a game or two during the week, and be planning your next fun adventure. You 2 don't have to meet up at each other's place; you can meet at some other exotic place.
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I think World of Warcraft is probably the most couple friendly online game. You can group together and level, run instances, figure out gear, fight other people. I played with my wife for a while, and I ran into a lot of couples in WoW who played together. It lets you be brave, and protective and helpful and accomplish goals together. There's stories and fantastical places which make it interesting to just about anyone.
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So why would you move 1000 miles away from her with no particular end-game in sight? If you're that much in love, you either stay in her area, or ask her to move with you.
No non-Aspie is ever going to be "okay" with seeing their significant other once every couple months for a weekend. Long distance relationships without clearly defined end states (i.e., "I am going to be sent to work at remote company location for 1 year, and will be back after that 1 year") are going to reach a nearly 100% failure rate. Long distance relationships WITH clearly defined end states are going to fail far more often than they succeed.
SL was hot a few years ago but then it became not hot when nobody with money could figure out how to make money with it. Lots of press. Nothing happened.
So now they're all gone and it's mostly guys who want to RP as women, which is fine if you are into that. But for this person, he can throw money at SL and build a dream house and put in furniture and baby beds and kitchen appliances and flying cars and scare the ever living crap out of his girlfriend by showing her the future of domestic bliss that awaits, if they ever solve this distance problem and get hitched.
Except the house will probably be "mom's basement with the old fold-out couch" and the flying car will be a 1995 Ford Taurus with a bad muffler and windows that don't work.
But other than that, SL is just like reality.
Right now, I am into playing Scarlet Blade where everybody's a girl and you kill monsters for no actual purpose. This is a lot like real life, where you work and do stuff for no actual purpose. Except I'm not a girl so I am not sure if the real ones kill monsters. Nonetheless your girlfriend would hate it so play something else.
I recommend buying some webcams. You'll figure out the game.
Sig for hire.
I'd suggest Barry White and Al Green in order to get her in the mood to play games.
I hadn't the slightest objection to his spending his time planning massacres for the bourgeoisie... (P.G. Wodehouse)
... like find a job for her that she would love next to your place. Safest IMHO.
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I can't believe nobody mentioned "Twister" yet. You don't even need a computer!
I was promised a flying car. Where is my flying car?
I can tell quite a few of you pussies have never been in the military.
If you end up in the military you have nobody to blame but yourself.
with my girlfriend name Aion. It's a fun way to do co-op through the quests since it's designed to be played with someone.
I know MMOs aren't sometimes the most creative game to co-op but sometimes a regular game works.
It was Oxnard, after hours (I prefer getting out there, as opposed to sitting around a hotel room or getting drunk.)
Quo usque tandem abutere, Nimbus, patientia nostra?
Get her into Ultima Online. Plenty of stuff to do there besides PVP or PVM. There are even acceptable free shards these days http://abcuo.com/home/
Minecraft with Xbox
Although my significant other simply will not engage in any online activities with me... or with anyone else, pretty much, I do have a good idea for other people.
Gary's Mod Theater Mode!
Yes, it's true, you are limited to watching stuff on Youtube, but there is a lot of good stuff on there. And it isn't as taxing as playing a real game type game.
"MIT betrayed all of its basic principles."
The only one I can think of actually would require a joystick throw back to the 80s.
The rest of the post would require lots of censorship and therefor will be left up to your imagination.
Why do something with a GF on a video game, when you can do it for real!
Stan and Kyle > ....
Stan's Dad >Hey, boys, heres something really cool....watch
Stan and Kyle > Thats lame Dad!
Stan's Dad > But I am playing for real !?!
Stan and Kyle > Mom....can you get Dad out of here!
If your SO really likes collaborative storytelling, well, that's exactly what a good pen & paper RPG is. You can hold the game over Skype, or gchat, or anything that allows you to talk or text back and forth.
If you need maps & miniatures in realtime, I'm sure there are several different solutions to that problem as well.
If you've never played a pen&paper before, the learning curve can be rather steep, depending on which system you choose to play. And I caution you that having a 1-DM, 1-PC game can also be challenging. Expect to spend as much time doing prep for the game (as DM) as you actually spend playing the game as well.
It may look like I'm doing nothing, but I'm actively waiting for my problems to go away.
--Scott Adams
I mean she is going to do it anyways when you are trying to see the TV to play a game so you might as well turn it into a game.
I haven't thought of anything clever to put here, but then again most of you haven't either.
"Strip" - [game name here]
they just fixed things so you can work with real world measurements.
btw you may want to TP to one of the NCI (new citizens Inc) sims so you can be in a "safe" area when you first start out.
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The solider volunteers for military service but the spouse and children, called military brats, get drafted. The spouse may have some say in the situation but the brats don't.
My husband and I played a lot of turn-based strategy games.
Specifically, we played Heroes of Might and Magic II and III. (available on gog.com) There isn't much storytelling here, but there's collaboration and exploration. I liked turn-based strategy games for long distance because there was no time pressure so we could be chatting about anything during the game - game related or not.
We also spent a lot of time playing Diablo II. If you want to go modern here, you could play Diablo III or Torchlight II. They're quicker, IMHO, than your average MMO.
It's called strip poker. :-)
Sure enough, the cow costume was hanging up next to the superhero outfit and sailors uniform. (S,Spud)
3Dsexgames.com or Chathouse3D to get some virtual mojo going
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Instead of watching the same file, a decent machine (and internet connection) these days can transcode video and stream out to your remote significant-other.
I used to get my girlfriend (now wife) to login to my VPN and then we'd fire up a movie with voice-chat on a different channel.
Wizard101 is the ticket for hanging out with your girl, Tim. Seriously, give it a try. I know lots of couples who share time together by playing this game. All of them are people whom I've met via the game.
It has a fanciful story line with entertaining quests, animated spells that are fun to watch, card strategy, crafting, gardening, pet hatching (pets have genomes, getting half of their traits from each parent), and various types of housing that can be furnished and a number of different themed worlds to explore.
I love this game, and I've made friends on it that I look forward to seeing/hanging with. Now if I could just get my family to give it a try... :)
Be sure to register with an adult age though. It's one of the requirements for turning on open chat. Believe me, being limited to filtered chat and menu chat will be a pain.
Wow. Cynical much?
If you have a hard time getting a date, I'm pretty sure its not your looks that's the problem.
Video strip poker! Just let me know your girlfriends e-address before starting!!!
My karma is bad. Don't get too close!!!
If we hit that bullseye, the rest of the dominoes should fall like a house of cards. Checkmate
It gripped her hand gently. 'Regret is for humans,' it said.
Well, it's rather obvious, isn't it?
-- 29A the number of the Beast
Yeah, things like Farmville aren't exactly thrilling, but you can collaborate to a degree and help each other build. Plus, you don't have to be online at the same time. I think some of the newer versions of Animal Crossing also have these sorts of features.
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So if half of long distance relationships work and half of all (first) marriages end in divorce it follows that a long distance relationship has a 25% chance of working out? Statistics class was a long time ago.
Are you willing to wager your future on a 25% chance?
If not, I'd suggest grinding GL rep together.
First, I'm really sorry you've had to deal with all the dickish responses to your post. You know that doing the long-distance thing will be hard, so you're making plans for ways to stay bonded during that time. Kudos to you and all the best.
As far as games are concerned, one thing I haven't seen suggested much are (virtual) board and card games. Especially if you both have iPads (though there's also varying levels of support for Android, PC, etc versions, depending on the game), there are a ton of good co-op and vs 2-player games that can be played remotely. My girlfriend is actually way more into these than I am, but here are a few off the top of my head:
- Hive (I love this one. It's chess-like but novel, and free on iOS and Android (the physical set is also a great travel game))
- Forbidden Island (here's a video of Wil Wheaton playing it with John Scalzi: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DxG_ahmF1uM)
- Ticket to Ride (pretty sure this one's also available for PC/Mac)
- Ascension (iOS only, afaik)
- Dominion (also iOS only, I think)
- Magic (available on everything except Android, including consoles)
The nice thing about these games is, if you find one you like, you can hit up a site like boardgamegeek.com to find more like it.
Have fun!
It's a personal view, but I don't really interpret statistics to be applicable to any individual case, because there are always circumstances that would point one way or the other. I've just had a 9 month "long distance" relationship which worked out fine (I moved back), and while people say it usually doesn't work, I've never had a doubt, because I knew myself and I knew my SO, and we're not quite the average sort of person. So, I did wager this so called "25% chance", apparently it's closer to a supposedly 50% now.
But yeah I get your point. It might add up to 25% if you look at it that way. Still, 50% isn't too bad. Most people probably wished 50% of their relationships work out -- I mean, supposedly you just need to have ONE that works in your whole life, right?
Don't quote me on this.
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