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Facebook Will Harass You Mercilessly If You Try To Break Up (slate.com)
schwit1 shares a summary from PJ Media: Breaking up with Facebook is apparently as difficult as breaking up with a bad boyfriend or girlfriend who won't accept your decision. That's the experience Henry Grabar of Slate had when he stopped signing on. He stopped logging in on June 6 and stayed off Facebook for ten days. He had been a member for over ten years and this was the longest period he had remained off the social network. But Facebook didn't leave him alone. He received 17 email messages in a span of nine days urging him to return.
Grabar is not alone in trying to wean himself off Facebook for various reasons. Some do it because they realize it can be a waste of time, while others do it because of the company's inability to protect (or lack of interest in protecting) its members' personal data. The company has mistakenly released data of millions of its members and friends of members to third parties, and many of them have used the data for illicit purposes. While Facebook says they are not losing members, some recent statistics paint a different story. According to a Pew study, only 51 percent of U.S. teenagers use the service now, down from 71 percent in 2015. This was the first time the numbers have fallen. The frequent messages reinforced Grabar's decision to stay off the platform. Some of the messages included photo updates from his friends; liked posts from groups he belonged to; and comments about a news article that was posted to a group he belonged to.
Grabar is not alone in trying to wean himself off Facebook for various reasons. Some do it because they realize it can be a waste of time, while others do it because of the company's inability to protect (or lack of interest in protecting) its members' personal data. The company has mistakenly released data of millions of its members and friends of members to third parties, and many of them have used the data for illicit purposes. While Facebook says they are not losing members, some recent statistics paint a different story. According to a Pew study, only 51 percent of U.S. teenagers use the service now, down from 71 percent in 2015. This was the first time the numbers have fallen. The frequent messages reinforced Grabar's decision to stay off the platform. Some of the messages included photo updates from his friends; liked posts from groups he belonged to; and comments about a news article that was posted to a group he belonged to.
I left many years ago. I keep getting the occasional reset your password email, with a link to click if I didn't request the password reset. Guess what's the first thing they ask me when I click that link... Sigin in.
dumb fucks
How hard is it? Change to a spam email address before breaking up with a service
How about returning the favor? What would cost Facebook the most money? Maybe using GDPR and send non-standard requests and questions that need to be handled manually.
Ultimately, the frequent messages reinforced Grabar's decision to stay off the platform.
Later that day I was back on my old computer... and back, with a quick Command-T, F, enter, on Facebook.
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No. Facebook is in the business of selling my/your information. No mistake at all.
Isn't there a setting where you can get update emails to those things? Cause, turning it off might be a way to stop those emails. Just saying.
I had a facebook account for like 2 weeks to keep up with a specific event. Deleted the account afterwards, and i haven't had an email from them since.
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While Facebook says they are not losing members, some recent statistics paint a different story. According to a Pew study, only 51 percent of U.S. teenagers use the service now, down from 71 percent in 2015. This was the first time the numbers have fallen.
That doesn't imply that they've lost members, just that a lesser proportion of people who have moved into their teenage years in the last three years have joined.
https://www.facebook.com/varme...
See it? I don't either.
All you got to do is to try to speak somewhat open-minded about the invasion of your country and the traitors in your parliament on 4-5 accounts of which 2 have more or less the same name. Get 20 or so month long bans in total and off the new "I'll keep this one clean!" and the old 15+ year old account goes.
Ridicule their laws and ideas and break it and you'll get out eventually :)
I never actually used Facebook for anything. And apparently never using Facebook for anything and not logging in for seemingly a decade if not longer means I'm still an "active member" because "YAY YOU HAVE NOTIFICATIONS AND FRIENDS!!!" .. Even though I never gave Facebook any identity whatsoever (except my email address......................).
Yes, it took me 2 years to get off Facebook and and all the other social media crapola. Finally the harassment from Facebook emails and all the others finally stopped--and I found a life.
I did. The emails stopped shortly after.
I haven't added facebook to my filters, they don't both me that much, but I've consigned several sites to my dust bin.
Thunderbird has levels of filtering: junk mail folder, or straight to the trash.
Meanwhile, Roderick seemed aware of how generally he had become the subject of curiosity and conjecture, and, with a morbid repugnance to such notice, or to any notice whatsoever, he estranged himself from all companionship.
Choosing not to sign in to a platform you've been steadily using, where you are a member of active groups and have friends (that you follow) who post content ... and then getting updates from that platform telling you the sorts of things that are going on with your contacts/interests - that's NOT "trying to break up." Closing your account is "breaking up." Do that, and you'll stop hearing from FB in short order. Playing coy by keeping your account active and your connections established while not visiting for a week and half - sounds like he experienced exactly what one would expect.
Don't disappoint your bird dog. Go to the range.
Fuck the Zuck. Make him suck a duck!
Even after you delete the account years ago, they still forward you requests for others wanting to be linked in...
I prefer be Anon for post this.
I was too lazy/ugly/paranoid to let people tag me in photos or upload photos of me in my Facebook account. Around a year ago, I got blocked at all to enter and I got a screen saying that I had two only options:
A. Upload a photo of me. Clear, recent (they will check date), well illuminated, looking to the camera like a drive ID and no less than 1200x1200 px.
B. Logout
After see this for a week, I opted for upload a photo... of a deceased coworker that I had from a obituary I wrote for the company website at work. Sent messages to all my friends saying goodbye; changed my email to a secondary address that I barely check (aka dumpster bin email), "remove" well hide all my public info. And "leave" for good. Their message in the last page was "We will save your page when you want to comeback, you will find it as you weren't gone".
Yes there are life after a year without Facebook, some pages are difficult and I did to quit some phone games... but for the rest I feel better.
Thank you for harass me that way Facebook, I could get back a piece of my life. ;)
Just like in real life, i found this approach to be the the most efficient while being the safest.
With Facebook, the only account i had was already pretty weak: no phone number, no picture, no real name, no phone pairing (login exclusively from a sandboxed navigator)... so they only had my behavior: likes, comments, scrolling analysis... so when i wanted out i just poked some butthurt communities and eventually they reported my profile which resulted facebook requiring me to send them an ID to verify my account in order to be able to login again.
They haven't seen me again since. but the funny thing is that I'm still receiving emails from them every now and then notifying me with the usual dumb things that happens there : "John Shmoe has updated his status"
that is, if you disable all the notifications facebook can send you via email, it won't bother you endlessly or mercilessly.
It will however remind you from time to time, when you least expect it, that it misses your input and would appreciate it if you would offer it your company once more.
That said, if you don't disable the notifications, it will send you an email almost every day for a long period of time, a bit like a clingy lover, you don't want.
oh well f**k this.
I made a FB account because my family was all on it and kept nagging me to join in. I finally relented. But politics are driving me off. I don't even like Trump, but the constant "Trump is hitler" posts are fucking nonstop and I'm getting sick and tired of seeing that shit every time I log in. What ever happened to talking about family stuff?
This evening I finally snapped and called my sister a "fucking idiot" after she posted yet another nazi reference.
-- Will program for bandwidth
Try cancelling DirecTV. I did, but - dang! - what an experience!
First, there is ZERO way to cancel online. You MUST call in to them.
Next, prepare yourself for a lengthy "we can drop your price!" pitches (which, TBH, if that's your game, consider it a freebie from me to you) all the way through - and I am not making this up! - "you're making me very sad by cancelling."
It ALMOST would have been easier just to cancel my credit card....
After abreviating my name and being reported (probably by a user of a full pseudonym) FB demanded a scan of my passport or ID.
14 days afterwards, I waslocked out of my account.
I still however get notifications, birthdays etc in my spambin and cant make it stop without handing my papers to the
Internet gestapo.
While in hindsight they did me a favour bycutting me off before they could build an identifiable profile, FB and their parners can still just zuck themselves.
This perpetual motion machine Lisa made is a joke, it just keeps getting faster and faster. - Homer
On vacation recently and the emails just kept rolling in when I wasn't able to connect to the internet.
> TFA: The company has mistakenly released data of millions of its members and friends of members to third parties
LOL. I mistakenly do things for money too.
I had a Facebook account more than 10 years ago, I used it for 2 years but when I understood where all this thing was heading I decided to get off the crazy train, but first I poisoned the well, I started with posting things that never interested me (a crap ton of false posts), I cut off most of my friends from my account and added some others strangers to my friend list. In the upcoming year I updated my status as married, then divorced then married again and I changed my gender and my profile photo with me wearing a wig. So now Facebook can keep my data I am curious to see what they will do with it.
I can't really confirm that experience.
I deleted my account, and other than one confirmation email plus one with the link to the download of all the data FB had on me I didn't get any "urgings" to reconsider... and by now it's gone for good.
Deleting your account is breaking up. Not logging in is ghosting.
Obviously he would never quit because drama is what he lives for.
Of all things? To... control Fakebook?
Head... explodes.
I still get multiple posts per day from facebook which I send to my junk folder automatically.
Facebook is not your friend. You are the product. Facebook puts you at risk.
She was like chocolate when she drank... semi-sweet at first and then increasingly bitter.
I clicked unsubscribe in the email and never heard anything again. There's no way I'm going to agree to their new 'privacy' policy. The last straw was them moving data out of Ireland to avoid having to comply with privacy legislation.
I dislike facebook with a passion, but this /. article is pushing an agenda that has nothing to do with the mentioned article.
The article is about how irrelevant and unimportant Facebook notifications really are. Not once does he talk about wanting to limit or prevent messages from facebook, and not being able to do so.
To be fair, Facebook does give you the option to both deactivate or permanently delete your profile, and in both instances, you get the option to select the option to not recieve ANY e-mails from Facebook. I did that a good while ago, and havenâ(TM)t heard from Facebook since. Simply put, it is not Facebookâ(TM)s fault that this person did not bother to check what options is available in the settings menu, in order to Âbreak up with Facebook.
Alas, thanks to the GDPR, the fine article is hidden behind a website which demands I simply agree to "the use of technologies such as cookies by Slate and our partners to deliver relevant advertising on our site, in emails and across the Internet, to personalize content and perform site analytics" as a single, lumped action before I am allowed to read it. Therefore I was unable to read it.
I very much hope most users prompted with that warning also simply felt unable to read the content rather than compelled to agree to whatever it is Slate is trying to wave off under the umbrella of a single 'Agree' button.
"Facebook will harass you mercilessly" is pretty much all that need be said.
But you do have to wonder what kind of candy ass calls 17 emails in 9 days "merciless". "OMFG! Facebook sent me an email once every 12.7 hours!!!! THE HORROR!!!"
Just before you leave facebook, then leave it. They can email that dead account as much as they want. Done.
Glad I could sort that for you.
"Inability to protect"? ROFL. Their entire business model is to spy, track, record, and SELL that data for profit. While we're at it, let's stop using their feel-good marketing term "sharing". Spybook doesn't "share" your personal information, they SELL it.
This reads like people using the web for the first time in 1995. Just how old are your contributors :/
and editors at this point? There is no here here anymore. And yes people, you can delete your Facebook account, and the emails will stop if you do it correctly. It isn't as easy as it should be, but it isn't that difficult, either. Also, forget about third parties, it's Facebook themselves that you need to protect your data from. This site has really gone to the dogs.
Seriously, how is this news to anyone?
Because not only have we had multiple stories about the way facebook works when you stop logging in daily over the years, I've personally seen the way it works when I joined back in 2010. Decided it wasn't worth the constant notifications on mobile so I kept it browser-only and would only log in about 1-3 times week and good grief did they spam your email with notifications if you went more than 3 days without logging in.
However it turns out there's a very simple fix for that. Just go into your account settings, then the notification settings and under email chose the minimal notifications option where they just send you account, security and privacy related notifications. Think I can count the emails I've gotten over the years since then on the fingers of one hand.
"Why should I want to make anything up? Life's bad enough as it is without wanting to invent any more of it."
I am now Mark Zuckerberg Sucks and suddenly Facebook decided I didn't exist.
You can tell the european companies from (rest of world) pretty easily. EU companies have a 'click here to modify what is collected about you' and there will be toggles you can disable.
Which oddly enough facebook is not doing if you are not logged in. You can click around all day on facebook in a private browser, looking at public things, and facebook is tracking and adding stuff about you all the time, including logging your IP and browser fingerprint and all the other things that can personally identify you without your real name.
Then Slate does not conform to the GDPR, and are exposing themselves to being sued by european users. Acceptance for different kinds of use of data *must* be separate, and service *may not be denied* when only the minimum required for delivery of service is accepted (e.g. the online shop 3suisses using your address for delivering goods to you and invoicing you, but denied from selling your data to 3rd parties, where they used to make most of their money).
Oh well, Slate has a lot of company that way, few have bothered to implement GDPR properly so far. Of course, they'll cry a river when the fines start coming...
On the + side: the data they are not allowed to collect can't be leaked. Or it'll seriously bite them if they collect them anyway, and they get loose.
The solution to stuff like this is:
1). Get your own domain name and run e-mail off it.
2). Use a different email address for every bullshit service you sign up for...such as facebook@yourdomain.com, twitter@yourdomain.com, etc.
3). Forward all such addresses to your REAL e-mail address - the one you check.
4). When you break up with the bullshit service you signed up for, simply stop forwarding the email.
There are other benefits to this approach as well. I'll let you decide what they are.
Having broken up with Facebook toward the end of 2016, just click Unsubscribe and they'll stop harassing you. I know one mouse click is a big commitment to ask for.
DUH!
Spam/troll much?
If "this" (this what - this report? This year?) was the first time the numbers have fallen, wouldn't it have been a larger distance between last year and this year?
Why is 2015 singled out? You can't tell me Pew hasn't studied this every single year!
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And never received a single message from them, then or since.
Then you simply delete your account, done.
I am very small, utmostly microscopic.
You canâ(TM)t complain about emails from Facebook while youâ(TM)re âoegoneâ when you opted in to getting notified about every little thing. You did not get those messages just because you were âoeoffline.â
Ublock says this page connections to 13 different domains behind the scenes. Not cool.
We should seize on this analogy. The problem isnt that facebook has your data, it is that you don't have anything that belongs to facebook to trade back for it. When you breakup IRL you also have to return each other's shit stored at your respective apartments. Meet in the ihop parking lot and move her hairbrush, potpouri, photos of her, and Duran Duran CDs to her trunk, and take back your shirts, varsity jacket, and your dog's extra bowl/mat/food. But she conveniently forgets to return your Starbucks coffee mugs. That's like Facebook hanging onto some of your data but at least you get most of it away from her.
Some drink at the fountain of knowledge. Others just gargle.
Facebook and Twitter both liked to "ping" me if I haven't visited them in the last 24 hours.
However, once I confirmed that I wanted my account to be deleted, it was the last I heard from them.
L'Idiot
Oh well, Slate has a lot of company that way, few have bothered to implement GDPR properly so far. Of course, they'll cry a river when the fines start coming...
Or just GeoBlock y'all.
The shepherds did so well protecting the flock that the sheep no longer believed that wolves existed.
Basically what I tried to do was deleting the account of my grandma, which passed away. There are ways of deleting a deceased person's account through informing Facebook that that person died. But I had the password, she kept note of it. I didn't want to tell Facebook simply because I didn't needed.
So I began searching in blogs on how to delete an Facebook account. There is no way of getting the link through the GUI, you can only "deactivate" the account, which will let it in "stand by" until you sing up again. When I finally found the link for deleting the account I was prompt the password and a super obsolete type of Captcha. I tried dozens of times and I couldn't pass the security verification and worst: it didn't even gave me an error, it just failed.
That story made me think that Facebook, as it showed us in the last outcry of revelations, is probably deliberately just not allowing users to delete their accounts, which makes me sad. This company has absolutely no respect with user data even with GDPR. Unfortunately I don't live in Europe so I have no laws to try to take this case to justice. But this platform deserves nothing other than to vanish. Hopefully we'll see this in the fallowing years.
And as soon as I can I will delete my grandma's account and mine.
Facebook harasses me, yet I have never been their customer (whatever that means). All of their mail goes to my spam box, and it is packed. I block Facebook and all of their domains in my /etc/hosts file, use uBlock Origin and first party isolation, and do not use a cell phone, yet they continue to collect information about me and my family members.
greedy and needy
... because when you disable your account there's one that allows you to allow Facebook to continue to contact you. As long as you choose to not allow that they'll never email you. Nary an email from them since I killed my account. Facebook is a mountain of suck, but so is this story.
how to quit cold turkey:
Change your password to something it finds unacceptable, like a word in the dictionary.
Leave it hanging at that Your password must have at least 1 blablabla, 1 yaddayadda... and walk away. Bonus if you forget the failed password reset attempt!
Head outdoors, and take time to smell the flowers/coffee/LA smog/whatever
You're welcome.
are you fucking stupid? turn off the email notifications you moron.
I had never seen any "join Facebook" ads before.
But since the last two days, I've seen probably a dozen "Join Facebook today!" ads, including on top of YouTube videos (little banners that pop above the video controls, that you need to close manually - PITA).
#DeleteFacebook
Glad I ditched mine a few years ago. lol. People don't realize the long term problems that they are creating for themselves using Google, youtube, f-book, etc.
But the worse is your DNA testing. Either by you or ANY family member, here in the America ( yes, that is ONLY the U.S.A. and not Canada for those clueless who think Canada is part America and can't tell the difference between a term and a continent) you are giving up your entire families Constitutional rights to privacy.
Even today when you just surf the web do you realize how many ads, news articles, etc are tailored to YOU? You see what they want you to see and it will only get worse.
Spent a couple weeks in a 3rd world country with no reliable access last year. During that time I didn't use Facebook and continued to avoid it for months after returning. Always told friends that Facebook became the jealous ex. "What are you doing?" "We miss you!" "Your friend did something, you should really log on and see what it was." "There's this thing you'd like if you would just come back." "Is it something I did?" Constant emails and pushed notifications.
"He stopped logging in on June 6 and stayed off Facebook for ten days"
If my wife suddenly didn't come home, I'd call the police in the morning.
If you want to break up with someone YOU FUCKING TELL THEM, or in the case of facebook: DELETE YOUR FUCKING ACCOUNT.
Eh, whatever. I use facebook to talk to friends around the country and share daily stuff, and people who own fieros as well. (for info sharing, parts sale/trade/etc)
There was a time I was away for 1-2 years, got emails like explained and just sent the first one or two to the spam folder. After that, no more issues.
This wasn't the first website I've had this issue with... are people new?
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17 automated form emails over nine days does not amount to merciless harassment. It's not even an annoyance or inconvenience if you just mark it as SPAM.
This is a non-issue jumping on a bandwagon.
Have gnu, will travel.
Haven't heard back from them since.
I don't use twitter often, nor linkedIn. After an extended away, the App on my phone started to show notifications from Twitter - and upon logging in there were no DMs or messages, just "missed tweets". Similar experience with LinkedIn. The notification was because twitter hadn't seen in awhile. The emails from both began too. Please login, we missed you. One of them even assumed I had forgotten my password.
When I unplugged my cable box because I don't use it Comcast noticed. I figured I'd save the power bill (dang thing gets warm). Comcast sent me a Letter in the mail with instructions on how to turn it back on. They assumed I was confused and wasn't using it, maybe even afraid to call for help. It is a nice gesture if I was 80 years old and couldn't figure out technology. But they too missed me. They wanted me to know about all of the Terrific Programming that I was missing.
It's all about engagement. Part of it is getting customers back, part is assuming there's a problem.
Wow. You really triggered on that one.
I object to power without constructive purpose. --Spock
What else can it be?
Damn_registrars has no butt-hole. Damn_registrars has no use for a butt-hole.
*ihob
It should be obvious that everyone should configure their email systems to block all email from all f*c*book domains. (On my network the entire service is blocked, but sometimes you have a f*c*book user in the household)
Tired of FB/Google censorship? Visit UNCENSORED!
So you're saying 2016 was all due to people making racist posts in an desperate attempt to get their Facebook accounts deleted?
the preceding comment is my own and in no way reflects the opinion of the Joint Chiefs of Staff
I mean, if we're going to compare this to breaking up with a "bad boyfriend or girlfriend", then let's compare apples to apples. Simply not logging in is not breaking up - at best, it could be analogous to not calling your boyfriend/girlfriend and ignoring their calls. A real "break up" would be closing your account. Did he do that? No.
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* Don't try "patronize" me BOY when I can show you are less than ZERO fucker... easily.
APK
P.S.=> Your DIM brains are blatantly inferior evidenced by your FAKE NAMES online for FAKE lives of being "ne'er-do-well" scum having the AUDACITY to even TRY "F" w/ me & ones like you you INFERIOR swine as I cast PEARLS before SWINE like you... apk
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... apk
* I've dusted the hell out of you here & am EXPOSING it elsewhere (see link above).
Thought you MIGHT like exposure in the limelight, but, then again?
Germs like YOU simply WITHER in sunlight - come, wither some more, lol!!!
APK
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I nuked my account. Haven’t heard boo.
Why the cold shoulder? Please pretty please come back to the site.
Your friend just posted a video everyone likes. Click: please sign in, ok, your friend just removed the video, you are too late, but thank you for visiting us once again.
Your friend just sent you a message, click on the email to read the message, sorry, to read your message please kindly follow this link to come back to the site, where we can better time how long it takes you to read it.
More on http://www.email-anti-patterns.com
Instagram sent me a "It looks like you're having trouble logging in" email today for an account I haven't touched in years...
I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
Because she *sold* those coffee mugs. Better analogy.
Why guess when you can know? Measure!
'Cause you can't drive over to one of their houses and view it?
Read carefully, I wrote "your FB friends!"
I haven't logged in to FB in FIVE YEARS and I am still getting 10-20 mails a day from them.
Il n'y a pas de Planet B.
Look, I despise Facebook and it's user-as-farm-animal business model as much as anyone. However, this story is contrived.
You didn't break up. You stopped logging in. If anything, I see the behavior you witnessed as expected. You were an active user. You abruptly stopped. The platform should assume you wish to receive updates.
Princess, in your analogy, you are the crazy passive-aggressive girlfriend, not Facebook. If you really want to break up with it, then break up with it. Don't whine like a little bitch and threaten to do it without doing it.
...they still mercilessly email you. When I got locked out of my account and told that my legal ID was required for account access, I didn't comply, though I did respond in hopes of getting my account back. This has been several years now, and I've not been able to stop the notifications. I still have no access. I created a filter in webmail so that their mail goes straight to a folder called Facebook Spam, and I don't have to see it in Thunderbird.
WTF why is this news, I got a fuckin QUOTE from geico and have gotten probably 20 emails in 3 days.