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Nerds Make Better Lovers
ultimabaka writes "The New York Daily News, fine bastion of reporting that it is, released an article today discussing the rise of nerd popularity among women in general, and famous women in particular. Detail is given into the dating exploits of Christina Aguilera and Elin Nordegren (nerdy Tiger Woods' supermodel squeeze), among a bunch of regular Janes. Apparently being a nerd is now in?"
Of course we're better lovers.. it's because (among other things):
:-D
- we don't sleep around
- we're generally good at the things we try
- we can concentrate, dammit!
- we have *excellent* finger dexterity
- and most importantly, we have imagination!
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The day is mine!
Game... blouses.
_rich_ nerds make better "lovers"
Kiss me, I'm a nerd.
So being a rich, well-televised sports figure now makes you a nerd? Interesting.
Sure, they figure it out now that I'm married and totally committed, but noooooo, 15 years ago when I was 18 and single no one figured it out.
It sucks to be a trailblazer sometimes. You young nerds got it easy. Back in my day a cute girlfriend was GIF pr0n & a bottle of lotion.
As a rock-in-roll Physicist once said, No matter where you go, there you are.
After years of hiding my computer literacy, learning to be sensistive, eye surgery to remove the glasses and working out six days a week I learn that I should have perfected my C++ programming instead to get the babes!!!
So long and thanks for all the fish . . . !!!
Only a geek knows how to fsck well.
- Just because we CAN do a thing, does not mean we SHOULD do that thing.
rich nerds are now in.
R.I.P.
OK, I really don't think that Tiger Woods (or any of the other guys mentioned in the article) fit the definition of 'nerd' the way we use it around here on /.
Saturday, May 21st 2005
Saw him in the evening and he was acting really strangely. I went shopping in the afternoon with the girls and I did turn up a bit late so thought it might be that. The bar was really crowded and loud so I suggested we go somewhere quieter to talk. He was still very subdued and distracted so I suggested we go somewhere nice to eat. All through dinner he just didn't seem himself; he hardly laughed and didn't seem to be paying any attention to me or to what I was saying. I just knew that something was wrong. He dropped me back home and I wondered if he was going to come in; he hesitated but followed. I asked him again if there was something the matter but he just half shook his head and turned the television on. After about 10 minutes of Silence, I said I was going upstairs to bed. I put my arms around him and told him that I loved him deeply. He just gave a sigh and a sad sort of smile. He didn't follow me up but later he did, and I was surprised when we made love. He still seemed distant and a bit cold, and I started to think that he was going to leave me and that he had found someone else. I cried myself to sleep.
MAN'S DIARY:
Saturday, May 21st 2005
Apple switched to Intel.
Absolutely gutted.
Got a shag though.
A feeling of having made the same mistake before: Deja Foobar
Apparently being a nerd is now in?
Let me check my messages.....
0. Nope, still the status quo here!
Bryan R.
The price of freedom is eternal vigilance, or $12.50 as seen on eBay.....
They might make better lovers for a while, but the chick will leave for a badass.
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You idiot, it's UNIX, not Eunuchs!
I will say what you did took some, er.... Nevermind.
Soko
"Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm." - Anonymous
Only in NY Daily News' bizzaro world would a 6'2" guy with rippling muscles, can hit a ball 350 yards with a driver, has WORLD-CLASS hand-eye-coordination, and was routinely named as the MOST AVAILABLE BACHELOR IN THE WORLD (before he got married) would be described as "nerdy".
Yeah, and I hear Brad Pitt is practically a hermit.
Revenge of the Nerds:
Louis: Jocks only think about sports, nerds only think about sex.
This is a generalization based upon my experiences with friends who are also female. All of them, when they were younger, dated men who were just awful, useless individuals. They all gave the same reason for it also- so that they would be able to appreciate "Mr. Right" when they found him. Granted I think logic like that's just stupid, but there you go. The offshoot is that by the time a woman is ready to settle down with a guy, she's looking for the traits that nerds have; stable, monogomous, dedicated, etc. Even though the nerds are rewarded in the end, its still going to be the same useless men who get all the women in high school and college.
If brevity is the soul of wit, then how does one explain Twitter?
In this classic (cough!) film the nerd 'hero' sleeps with the cheerleader heroine (he is in disguise as 'Darth Vader'), satisfying her mightily. She then discovers his identity, and asks how he can be such a fantastic lover, and he reveals the secret: "We nerds never have girlfriends, so all we do is think about sex." After all, it has been proven by science (scientists are nerds, remember) that the brain is the most important sexual organ. It has also recently been proven (again, by nerd scientists who sit at their computers all day) that just THINKING about exercising is almost as effective at increasing strength as actually exercising. Therefore, it makes sense that just thinking about sex must make you better at it.
Serving your airship needs since 1995.
You sir, are either a sham or an impostor.
I am sure there will be a lot of comments on this article like "Yay! I can get a hottie!" now. However, speaking as a woman who has dated several geeks, I thought I would share a woman's perspective.
1) I can't tell you how many geek guys I know who can't even take care of their most basic personal hygiene needs. You need to shower at least once a day and use deodorant to become reasonably attractive to any woman. No woman is turned on by stinky body odor.
2) Self-confidence is attractive. Unfortunately, many geeks think self-confidence is something for guys who brag about every "conquest" they have. It's not. Self-confidence is simply respect and love for who you are. Love yourself first and good relationships will follow. This is difficult, but it's the key ingredient to any successful relationship. If you know who you are and you love who you are, people will love and respect you that much more.
3) Complaining/whining is not attractive. Some geeks have very bitter personalities and spend a lot of time whining about how the world would be a better place if only this or that. (The most common one I hear is whining about a job they're in.) If you complain, do something about it! Start your own business. Program something better on the side and sell it. Take control of the situation and create something better instead of griping.
4) Being a slave isn't attractive. If you make it clear that you'll do anything for a woman, and grovel for her affection, you're going to end up attracting the wrong type of woman. Any successful relationship is a two-way street. While there's nothing wrong with showing your love and affection, groveling only means you'll get taken advantage of and perhaps become bitter about (see #3.)
5) Lead a balanced life. No one is less attractive than someone who sits on a computer all day and never gets out of the house. Plus, it doesn't make for a healthy life of your own (I should know; I work from home and often spend 12-16 hours a day in front of the computer.) Get out there, meet people, and have fun. It will make you feel better about yourself to have a good group of friends around, as well.
I have been in several great relationships with geeky guys. I find the most successful relationships I have are with guys who already have a decent level of self-confidence and several friends who respect and love them. They may be interested in computers, but they are also interested in having fun and getting out of the house on a regular basis. Take this guide to heart and you can have a good relationship with the right woman as well.
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Thus, we can conclude that IT security at the New York Daily News is lax and some "nerd" has figured out a way to post prank stories. Expect a deluge of stories about the Duke Nukem Forever release party.
"Prepare for the worst - hope for the best."
We are certain to have the biggest hard drives, and the longest uptime.
While they say they wan't a guy who is this and this. Most of the time they say they want a geek. But they don't want a geek from the start. They want to take a looser and slowly turn them into a geek. All the woman I have met have this image in their head of the perfect guy and they will only start falling for geeks after they realize that this guy in their head doesn't exist.
Sure if they fall for a geek they will probably be happer in the long run. Because we tend to have better jobs, Less violent temperments, Be being rejected for over 20 years we take a relationship much more seriously because they are so hard to get.
But I doubt that hot chicks will start knocking at our doors anytime soon. They will do what Woman have been doing for many many years. Dating with all the "Attractive" People. Then they realize that they are jerks then settle with a geek.
If something is so important that you feel the need to post it on the internet... It probably isn't that important.
And as I kiss your rosy lips My server checks my email And as I lay down by your side My syslog's piped to tail.
Gentoo Linux - another day, another USE flag.
Star Wars movie openings and Trek conventions would be known as hot singles nights.
Dressing up for movie oenings (LotR, SW, ST) would be considered "men in uniform" and be totally irresistable... unless you're Chewbacca.
Hard drive size WOULD matter, not how fragmentented it is.
I would be getting laid.
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It has also recently been proven (again, by nerd scientists who sit at their computers all day) that just THINKING about exercising is almost as effective at increasing strength as actually exercising.
... find a geek girlfriend and make austistic babies.
What? Where is this study? I'm curious because I workout regularly (for the last 10 years) and although I'm in good shape, I never really developed an athletes body. Now, some part of that is surely genetics, but I'm wondering if lack of focus has an effect. I really only think about exercising when I'm actually doing it. As a programmer I am completely focused on that for 99% of the time I am awake. I wonder if the mere fact that I don't (or can't) think about being "big musclely dude" detracts from my potential in that area.
Meh, anyway... Let me tell you guys, you don't want the supermodel girlfriend. I have been down that road many times. Attractive (in the pop-culture sense) women may make good playthings for a while but make horrible long term relationships and even worse wives. I actually prefer to have long term relationships because then I don't want to waste energy thinking about that crap. So I guess
Save one for me though as I'm still trying to find a geek girlfriend.
The ratio of people to cake is too big
Man, you've got balls.
I'm extraordinarily attractive, and a genius to boot. The great thing is, I'm not the least bit cocky about it. Women love that.
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Things to think about once my paladin hits level 60.
Now that that's out of the way, I can make a more rational response.
Women are attracted to intelligence and stability? As a femmegeek, I've known this for ages. What irks me about most of the comments is the reversion to early adolescence that marks these discussions. Using the experiences of high school as a benchmark for your entire life seems a really bass-ackwards thing to do. Almost nobody is, as a teenager, self-confident enough to choose a dating partner without regard to what your "friends" might say. And yes; women can be horribly self-absorbed and shallow. Even women who self-identify as "nerdy". Guess what, though: men can too, and in some ways, they can be even worse about it. I have, sadly, dated male geeks who wanted me around because having an attractive female on their arm supposedly raised their status, somehow. Never mind that I was at least as intelligent as they were; they wanted a trophy, and nothing more. However, I've stuck with the high-IQ set, instead of lowering my standards, because I am attracted to intelligence. I think that many, many other women out there are as well, but given the still-prevalent expectation that "girls aren't..." (good at math, interested in science, fill in your stereotype of choice), most women are more than a little reluctant to admit it. The 50s-era maternal admonition of "boys don't like girls who are too smart" still echoes today.
Luckily, I never bought into it. So I sit here, posting on Slashdot, an intelligent, fit, good-looking geek woman, who isn't ashamed to admit the fact. And I think that I speak for a number of my fellow geekettes, gentlemen, when I say that smart is sexy. If you want to engage my hormones, engage my brain first. I'm not going to make hot sweaty snugglebunnies with anyone with whom I can't have a good conversation.
Doing my level best to piss off the religious right wing...
Buhahuhahuhahuha!
Don't call it femdom. PLEASE!
I will agree that there is a feminizing of men going on (the whole Metro thing) but do not think that you will be "on top" or you ahve a right to be on top. This is largely due to the Pill. It puts power back into women's hands. They get to control if and when they reproduce. It is this finals say that allows them to take on higher education, careers and become wealthy and a huge part of the economy with all the repurcussions therein.
I also admit in societies where everyone is equal, that typically women do end up in power, due to us being baby batter cannons and always following our lower heads.
But do not think that you are superior. Each sex has its strengths and weaknesses. Do not think that any sex is more powerful than the other. We need each other to survive.
The same time you spew all that female superiority BS I can throw out sites like this
I will agree though that women's place in society has suffered since the greek civilization. This is because they were the first ones to realize 1 man+1 woman= 1 child. Previous cultres assumed that the childs paternity was proportional to who the mother had slept with up to the time of conception. Greeks realized it was 1 man, and 1 man's only. This then put women into a position of sequestered in the mans house. Women have been digging out of that ever since. I think it is a travesty that it happened, and I do welcome you as equals but do not begin ever to think you are superior.
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don't tell me you haven't yet figured out that for things to be very enjoyable for the majority of women (there are exceptions, but they are few and far between) you *do* need to use your fingers (in the manner implied) while you use the other parts you mentioned. Not to mention that having dexterous fingers is definitely an asset in 'warming things up' before 'progressing' to said parts.
-- the cake is a lie
oh yeah, and if you're a girl who is going to cheat on a nerd, you're going to get caught. Especially if you use any form of electronic communication in your filandering, duh. Honestly though, if you marry someone with incredibly strong analytical skills and you try to sneak things by them they will quietly figure it out. So if you're going to be a cheating bitch, perhaps you should marry some asshole player or just hang out at the clubs, get wasted and rub up against the other amazingly successful cooks and drunks out there. Do I sound bitter? Hope all is well in Tucson Sandra! Bitch.
Confidence is attractive. Don't confuse arrogance for self confidence. This is how the hot chicks end up with jerks.
"Self-confidence is simply respect and love for who you are."
I'll agree the respect part, but self-love == vanity and is nither confidence or attractive. Keeping a good appearance is part of self respect, checking ones self out in the mirror before having-at-it is the other.
If women could just make better distinctions between these couple things, they could weed out the jerks and not resort to nerds to avoid the A--holes.
Screw #3, I want to see #1 get married. I think RMS would need to brush his hair for the wedding, though. I just can't picture him in a Tux, though. Maybe GNUSkin coat?
Back in my day a cute girlfriend was GIF pr0n & a bottle of lotion.
I'm dating your' ex!
Is anyone watching this funny reality TV show? The second episode was aired last night on KTLA 5 (Los Angeles, CA, USA). The guys had to do massage stuff while the gals had to fine tune sport cars.
;)
I don't see how geeks and nerds can be better lovers from that show especially with Richard.
Ant(Dude) @ Quality Foraged Links (AQFL.net) & The Ant Farm (antfarm.ma.cx / antfarm.home.dhs.org).
Things I wish I had really figured out earlier:
... couple days in the hospital disabused me of that notion). Do limit beer, bread, pasta, potatoes, and sugared candy though. Rum and Diet Coke can become the standard substitute for beer, and chicken on the Foreman grill can replace random microwave food amazingly well.
1) Don't stink. Yes, I know you can't tell. Nerd types have had enough cool things happen (code compiled, game beaten, etc) while utterly reeking that we lose the automatic association between hygiene and effective living. I'm serious, everyone else has it, we don't. So just accept:
a) In the morning, you must:
i: Shower. Soap everywhere. It's better to annoy people with longer showers than to annoy them with too short ones. A shower radio can help (this one has MP3 and a mirror for shaving!).
ii: Brush your teeth and use Listerine. At least occasionally floss.
iii: Put on underarm deodorant. I recommend antiperspirant gels. If you have recurring, serious problems anywhere you sweat alot -- it's fungus, and it needs to die. Tinactin works. If you're out in public, and realize your underarms stink -- squeeze teabags under your armpits in the bathroom. Works well (thank you, worse case scenario guide to sex and dating). Oh, those new body sprays (Axe, etc) may be budget cologne, but reactions to them ain't bad. Don't wear too much of it, though, and no it's not a replacement for a shower.
iv: Wear clean clothes. Your pants and your jacket are the only thing you can re-wear. Everything else goes in the biohazard pile.
b) After school or after work, if you're going out anywhere you need to impress anyone, you are generally expected to do all the above again. Annoying, sure. But even if you don't stink by dinner, you may start ripening by bedtime.
c) Your clothes must fit. Baggy is vastly better than too tight. Can't emphasize this enough. Wear a belt; people really hate seeing asscrack. Don't wear corporate tech t-shirts you got at a trade show, except for Google. They're an exception that proves the rule. Speaking of clothes, no visible pit stains, and if it's ever really, really stunk -- it needs to be washed in hot water, generally with bleach, or the bacteria and fungi that eat your sweat will be primed and ready to excrete the stuff that actually stinks. This is the idea behind undershirts and underwear, by the way. The bleach and hot water make your colored stuff fade.
Regarding wardrobe issues -- girls do like shopping with guys (Ken doll, they're not paying, get to be useful, etc), but you actually can't say things like "I dunno, whatever." Feedback is necessary, even if you don't actually know or care. So say things like, "Bring me two or three things, and I'll tell you which is my favorite of them." You actually get to be honest here -- she'll like all three, this ain't the SAT -- but be confident in whatever you answer, and frankly, it doesn't matter that much so answer quickly.
Shoes matter an absurd amount. Exercise shoes (Nike, Reebok) are only to be worn during exercise.
Regarding diet and exercise -- Atkins does work, but alot of people do end up sick (I was the biggest defender of the program
Exercise, it sucks, I know, they lie. But there's a trick: GBA/PSP while pedaling on a stationary bike works shockingly well, especially while playing an RPG.
If you've got some cash, getting a recumbent exercise bike and plopping it in front of your PS2/Xbox works really well too. Just link gaming to pedaling, and your body will think it's enjoying pedaling while your mind is enjoying the game. Weird, but it happens.
Just remember -- exercise is indeed boring, but it's a lot better than eight hours a day of hard labor.
d) This won't fix everything. There's a world of social learning you need to do. You can't learn the social elements from a Slashdot post (though I
Talk nerdy to me.
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You're a geek, take an anthropology lesson from society.
Women are looking for providers. They can't help it. It makes sense. Who gets stuck with the baby for 15 years as it grows up? Not the bloke, he can wander off and father a dozen (a thousand?) more. It's just the same way you can't help looking for physically attractive females.
Why are men fascinated by money, cars, houses etc? Status items, evidence of their ability to provide. Why do women spend sooo much time on their appearance?
You want to be sexy to women? Look around you. Start looking and acting like someone who can provide.
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Somehow I don't think Tiger woods has ever troubleshooted a SCSI card or fired a Magic Missle (except on the greens). Ironically I recall Vin Diesel used to be a big D&D nerd.
"Outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend. Inside of a dog, it is too dark to read." -Groucho Marx
I'm sorry, but this paragraph just drips with disrespect, and I find I can't let it pass unchallenged.
You've also, I believe, got it wrong: Geeks don't crave discipline and submission (honestly, when a world-class geek faces down a computer, which do you think does the submitting?). What we do like is structure and determinism. We would like the wetware world to be just as orderly and predictable as the software and hardware worlds. So if I, for example, performed activity X, and consistently received from you response Y, I would therefore presume that Y has something to do with X, and will build my mental models accordingly. OTOH, if I perform X, and I receive response mrand48(), then I would presume you're insane, and would be incapable of forming any kind of mental structure.
Geeks are uncomfortable when they don't know what to do because they don't know what the rules are -- because they don't know the structure. In this respect, dear lady, you hold a slight advantage in that such structure is often formalized in D/S (and no, I'm not going to lowercase the 'S' because I'm not that pretentious). But I think you're failing to note an inconsistency in your position. To wit:
When reading your post, one starts to form an opinion of where your obsession lies. You decry people obsessed with themselves, yet seem to grant yourself an exception. This incongruity, not to mention apparent disrespect for your partners (by referring to them as "subs" rather than more human terms), may well come back to bite you unpleasantly on the bottom if you're not cautious.
The only reason I bother to reply at all is because D/S can be a tremendously fun space to play in, but it's enormously frustrating to see D/S abused by people trying to, "prove something," or even to reflect the abuses they themselves endured. I am not accusing you of abuse. I've never met you, and therefore grant you the benefit of the doubt. Indeed, you are probably rather charming company. But working entirely from your post paints an unflattering picture. If you don't wish to be seen that way, you should re-examine how you articulate your position.
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Geek Break Up Lines
11. (A)bort, (R)etry, (F)ail? R
(A)bort, (R)etry, (F)ail? R
(A)bort, (R)etry, (F)ail? F
Relationship failed.
10. Now that Half Life 2 is out, I need to refocus my priorities.
9. You have been unsubscribed from my dating list. Please click this link to confirm.
8. I need a lover who understands that 20 hours a day on the Internet is normal.
7. I don't think we should date any more, but we can still be on each other's buddy lists.
6. I'd like a true beauty so I don't have to spend so much time photoshopping your ugly face out of our photos.
5. It's like in X-Men number 135, where Cyclops and Jean Grey (as The Phoenix)...
4. Let's face it. You love Intel, and I'm an AMD man. It's not going to work out.
3. What do you mean your EULA says that once I've removed the shrink wrap I can't return it?
2. After you e-mailed me your full-body shot, I realized I was looking
for someone more feminine
1. So long and thanks for all the fish.
The rich get richer and the poor get poorer. The hungry don't get fed. Self-confidence and the lack thereof are self-sustaining.
These are the cruel little tricks of nature that, originally, led to the evolution of species. Great for the whole, but hell on individuals.
Now that you got your confidence pumped a bit with these news, go on and read this guide!
Seriously, it's not sarcasm, jokes or anything. It's two wpmen giving tips about relationships, building confidence, and so on, specifically for geeks.
Beware: In C++, your friends can see your privates!
Women have all sorts of tricks to get free attention. Geeks often don't have or use this skill... even if they know how. I've read Paul Graham's why geeks are geeks rant, but still you can be proactive about it.
Where a T-Shirt that says:
"If I can make a computer...
I can make you cum"
I bought one at tshirthell.com... It works.
Follow Me To Certain Death
An artist, lawyer and programmer are sitting at a pub, having a few drink and soon the conversation turns towards cheating on their wives.
:)
The lawyer pipes up. "Don't do it guys, I don't care how pretty she is. I see this every day in my profession, some fool cheats on his wife with some pretty little thing, she finds out, before you know it he's lost half his house, half his assets, half his future paycheck and can't even see his kids any more...And with all that stress, it's just not worth it."
Then the artist pipes in. "no no no no...life is for living...how can you live in fear like that. Imagine the romance...the passion...the secrecy and mystery. That is what life is about my friend, who cares if you get caught, life should be lived dangerously and passionately."
The programmer looks up over his glasses and says "yeah, I've got mistress...have had one for quite a few years now".
The lawyer and artist are shocked. The certainly wouldn't have expected that from thier geeky little friend. The artist pipes up:
"Oh my friend...tell us, what's it like. Are you always stressed out worried about what you could loose...is it passionate and wonderful...what?"
The programmer looks up again and say "It's great...best thing I've every done.........wife thinks I'm with the girlfriend, girlfriend thinks I'm with the wife, I can go get some coding done."
boom tish
there are even romance novels about nerds, so my wife informs me. Something about "Nerd in shining armor by Vicki Lewis Thompson".
Stop signs are only Suggestions
The entire article reeked of the assumption that geeks are men.
At least bother to state "male geeks" if that's what you're going to talk about.
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No, just because someone is talking about their problems doesn't mean they are looking for a solution. Every woman I've ever had a relationship who had a problem already knew how they were going to treat the solution, they just wanted to talk through the problem to get sympathy. Everytime I offer a solution when they talk about those problems, I get bad responses.
And, the women I spend my time with (particularly the one I am marrying) are not lazy or mentally underdeveloped. Typically, if a man has a lot of problems, he doesn't talk about it to anyone and just deals with the emotions involved. And typically, as the grandparent suggests, if a woman has a lot of problems, she talks about them to those close to her in order to feel better about her approach to the problem. Maturity or intelligence level have nothing to do with a woman's tendencies to follow her feelings and be sympathetic of others, be it a natural instinct or societal influence.
Besides, wouldn't the more intelligent approach be to have a fluid solution, so it can adapt to failure?
Your list of suggestions make sense, but as a self-proclaimed "geek guy" who believes he already follows most of those, I'd still have to make a few counter-points.
1. I *do* complain (or whine; your pick how you wish to label it) a lot about things I observe in the world around me. If that's too "unattractive" for a woman to deal with, so be it. But I usually point such things out to spark a conversation. I'm typically upset at something I think needs to be pointed out and addressed, rather than just swept under the rug. All too often, I think women want to avoid confrontation or discussion that might not be of the "happy, happy - joy, joy" type. You know... the types that try to end all political discussion at a table as soon as it starts, with a "can't we just talk about something ELSE?!" plea?
2. I'm not too convinced many women really want a guy that seems very "into" them at all? Practically every time I've been in a new relationship that I was really excited about (felt those "sparks" from the first time we met and all that good stuff), the thing that seemed to immediately terminate it was expressing the fact that I felt so strongly about it! My theory is, women want to feel like they're the ones who "won the guy over" themselves... They want to be the one in the "driver's seat" after the guy makes that first move and does the initial "hitting on them" and they accept. No matter how much you're falling into "like", "love" or "lust" for the woman, the only thing she wants is for you to pay attention to her on her terms, and always drop what you're doing to come over there *if you're invited*, but NOT to start doing things on your own to show how much you care. It has to be HER show, played out the way SHE wants it to play out.
3. On the "balanced life" thing, sure - everyone needs to get out in public now and then. But if you're really into computers, you can use that to your advantage rather than it working against you here. The computer is the ultimate communications tool! Get into a local IRC chat room for your city or state and organize a "get together" for the people who congregate there. Use email to invite some people out for dinner or bowling or trivia night or whatever you think they'd all enjoy. Do some searches online for recommendations of interesting things to do or see in your area. Buy a cheap hand-held GPS and get into the new hobby of GeoCaching! (www.geocaching.com)
Yesterday, while sifting through the UK version of a Cosmo, I found the most remarkable ad I think I've ever seen. It was for a soap product, I think, but the photo was that of 20 Exactly Normal Looking Women. It occured to me that I dont think I've ever actually *seen* Normal Looking Women before...
I put the ad in front of my fiance, and watched. Over about seven seconds, his face turned from daily-default expression to smelling-onions-and-old-celery. "They're all tubby" he said. I was crushed.
I was crushed because I work out three times a week, pay all the bills, get paid roughly three times as much as he does, ride a motorcycle, have fabulous hair, very often get asked out, and this all adds up to one thing.
I can't be normal. I'm not allowed. If I get to be normal, it means that I've just lost whatever it was that made me.
I listen when he's having a horrible day. I dance when there's no music for no reason. I come home and work on the house-wifey duties, and I make him laugh so hard and so often that any tone in his stomach is at least 60% to my credit. I never thought that I'd have to figure out how to be a good mate despite being pretty because now being pretty is synonymous with being ditzy.
He is an engineer, and a mechanic, and one of the most nerdy guys I've ever met. He is doting, and flattering, and patient, and as long as I continue to be nothing short of a full-blown goddess, he will continue to be wonderful.
At least pretty-boys are low maintainance. At least jocks and players they know they're worthless, it actually turned them into better people. Nerds aren't the underdogs, they're the staple, now...and they know it.
Congratulations boys, now you're the trophy.
{...reality is wrong, Dreams are for real...}
Is it the nerdliness, or just the bank account? Hot chicks hooking up with ugly rich guys is nothing new.
It's actually a skit by the Dead Alewives, which was featured on Dr. Demento YEARS before the 'Summoner movie' came around.
The skit is better, the whole thing is supposed to be a warning about D&D, 'Satan's Game'.
I remember hearing it for the first time while driving from Oklahoma City to Wichita to catch the train to Chicago...
(Hmm...reading that back...Too geeky, even for me AND this article...must make sure to click post anonymously.)
You mean my mom was right when she said they would like me when I was older? Damn....
In undeveloped countries, the consumer controls the market. In capitalist America, the market controls you.