Slashdot Mirror


UK Schools Will Fight Cyberbullying

Plutonite writes "The BBC is running a story on UK schools being told by the education minister to fight cyberbullying, by which they mean bullying with the aid of (network-based) technology. Schools have been told to confiscate mobile phones, and, more controversially, to investigate and get material removed from personal social-networking sites. Are schools supposed to be doing this as an extension of their duty to prevent physical bullying in school, or is this is yet another example of governmental intervention where it is not due? Should kids be brought up knowing that their life on the web is being documented and controlled by people other than their parents?"

273 comments

  1. And I always thought Europe was... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0, Insightful

    ...a bastion of enlightenment. Oh, wait, it isn't.

  2. Personal experience in the UK by Ckwop · · Score: 5, Insightful

    I was bullied extensively in the early part of my school life. My parents reported it to the teacher and when that didn't work, we went to the Headmaster at the school. The abuse did not stop.

    So I changed schools - and I got yet more abuse. We went through the same procedures again and again and again and it was no use. The teachers didn't want to know.

    I finally made it to High School and then I decided this time, it wasn't going to happen again. Some kid tried it on and I opted to belt him one in the nose. His nose was thoroughly broken and he was out of school for a week.

    After that, I was set for the rest of school. Nobody really tried anything on after that. You see the athaphy that I ran in to in my earlier episodes worked to my advantage now. Precisely nothing was done to me and my schooling carried on as normal.

    It seems that these days we attach an "e-" or a "cyber-" on to a pre-existing social problem and suddenly everyone treats the issue as urgent . The problem with such initiatives is there fail to realise that this is a human problem first and a technological problem a distant second.

    The way to deal with bulling in schools is in my view is very simple. The punishment should be swift, harsh and feared. They should be charged with assault or harassment in a full criminal court and ordered to do a suitable amount of community service. Failure to comply should immediately mean jail-time which should be served in school holidays.

    It's a pity that the type of people who bully are the sorts who have violence all around them at home. As such, the only thing they understand is violence. A short, sharp shock may be enough to put them back on the straight and narrow coupled with some kind of therapy. I do not believe such people are beyond help but if left to there own devices, they will become the criminals of tomorrow.

    Simon

    1. Re:Personal experience in the UK by IcyNeko · · Score: 0, Troll

      Anyone who treats the internet more than what it truly is (a den of lies and piracy, dumptruck with a series of tubes) is only bound for a life of sadness. Anyone who is so into the internet that they stake their emotions into it need some good old fashion electroshock therapy.

    2. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Insightful

      Exactly.

      Instead of resorting to Orwellian methods, maybe they should take some basic steps to reduce actual physical bullying. Frankly, I find sending an innocent kid to a public school extremely questionable ethically.

    3. Re:Personal experience in the UK by gardyloo · · Score: 4, Funny

      Anyone who is so into the internet that they stake their emotions into it need some good old fashion electroshock therapy. That sounds fun. Can I get it online?
    4. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Nos. · · Score: 1

      The way to deal with bulling in schools is in my view is very simple. The punishment should be swift, harsh and feared. They should be charged with assault or harassment in a full criminal court and ordered to do a suitable amount of community service. Failure to comply should immediately mean jail-time which should be served in school holidays.

      I'm not sure of the extent of the punishment, but otherwise that's pretty much what we have. Any act of bullying means an immediate call to the police. Any bystanders that did not report it to the proper authorities (and those include the teachers) are also guilty.

      I was quite happy to see this bylaw get passed. As a victim of bullies for years (until I had no choice but to fight back), I was happy to see that my son (just about 2 years old) shouldn't have to deal with the same things I did.

    5. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Anyone who treats the internet more than what it truly is (a den of lies and piracy, dumptruck with a series of tubes)

      Where do you find this magical place?

    6. Re:Personal experience in the UK by cayenne8 · · Score: 2, Interesting
      "Instead of resorting to Orwellian methods, maybe they should take some basic steps to reduce actual physical bullying."

      I think we should really make it clear to kids, that what they post about themselves, and others WILL become something that is nye impossible to remove once place on the internet. It really is worse than the proverbial "permanent record" we were all threatened with growing up. In this case...it IS. And it can follow them through adulthood, possibly to haunt them in job applications, etc.

      That being said...I think education should stop AT education. Teach them, but, they are not there to enforce rules off campus. I don't feel that is within their jurisdiction.

      --
      Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.........
    7. Re:Personal experience in the UK by LiquidCoooled · · Score: 1

      There are many of us who were bullied in our school years and I commend you on the way you managed to break the cycle in your instance - I wish more stood up for themselves.
      Nowadays with mobile phones and web videos, the people involved get to relive the incident every time its rediscovered.
      In days past when anything happened it was over by the time the next big thing arrived.

      I certainly don't think it is a problem if the popular video and networking sites attempt to remove incidents of bullying or abuse towards children, it is our duty to try to help our children.

      However I don't think it should be the end of the line "look, we removed the link - what more can we do?"
      The trail must be followed and those originally doing the deed and sharing the images should be reprimanded.

      I don't think we have yet discovered a punishment big enough for the thugs roaming Britain today, but know it starts in the home.
      Perhaps if we got the grandparents or other family members involved (the parents of these louts don't seem to bother) then maybe something could change.

      --
      liqbase :: faster than paper
    8. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The above comment is a perfect example: bullying is like tango, it takes two. I, too, was bullied in my younger years and ended up being fairly "popular" going out of high school..

    9. Re:Personal experience in the UK by gstoddart · · Score: 3, Funny

      "Anyone who is so into the internet that they stake their emotions into it need some good old fashion electroshock therapy."

      That sounds fun. Can I get it online?

      Just wire your power supply to your tinfoil hat. :-P
      --
      Lost at C:>. Found at C.
    10. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0
      Why do we as society feel that there is a need to shelter every aspect of our children's lives? I think your story provides is a perfect example of why kids, to some extent, need to learn to live a little. You were so sheltered as a child -- your parents first, then you looked to the teachers to protect you. I cannot say that you were harmed or not, but you say so yourself how it stopped...

      I finally made it to High School and then I decided this time, it wasn't going to happen again. Some kid tried it on and I opted to belt him one in the nose. If only your parents taught you how to stand up for yourself you could've saved everyone a ton of trouble by not moving schools so many times. Monitoring of social websites and teaching children of implications of doing things like this is a far superior solution than your rediculous statements...

      The way to deal with bulling in schools is in my view is very simple. The punishment should be swift, harsh and feared. They should be charged with assault or harassment in a full criminal court and ordered to do a suitable amount of community service. Failure to comply should immediately mean jail-time which should be served in school holidays. I can see it now
      Girl: Teacher, he made fun of my hair!!
      Teacher: That's 20 lashes, no food for a week, and 20hrs of community service!

      Great idea....heh
    11. Re:Personal experience in the UK by ObsessiveMathsFreak · · Score: 0

      So I changed schools - and I got yet more abuse. We went through the same procedures again and again and again and it was no use. The teachers didn't want to know.
      Yet you stayed in the institution. Why? Why did you and your parents put your school attendance over your wellbeing? What compelled you to return to your place of torment day after day?

      Some kid tried it on and I opted to belt him one in the nose. His nose was thoroughly broken and he was out of school for a week.
      Sounds excessive. Try that on the street and it will be a long and painful lawsuit. It's likely the incident will follow you for the rest of your life. A big red violent tendencies on your official records. Why did you let it come to that?

      The way to deal with bulling in schools is in my view is very simple. The punishment should be swift, harsh and feared. They should be charged with assault or harassment in a full criminal court and ordered to do a suitable amount of community service. Failure to comply should immediately mean jail-time which should be served in school holidays.
      Sounds very excessive. Community service and jail time for calling someone names? Why shouldn't this apply to satirists who mercilessly torment our hard working politicians, or better yet journalists who demean and degrade celebrities? Why should this principle only be applied to citizens who can neither work nor vote?

      It's a pity that the type of people who bully are the sorts who have violence all around them at home. As such, the only thing they understand is violence.
      Is there any evidence to back this up? It's likely bullies and their targets hail from all walks of life and that idleness and lack of supervision are the true causes of torment in our public schools. A great deal of bullying nowadays involves no violence at all, so responding to it with violence is not likely to put anyone targeted on moral high ground.

      The solution for people being tormented in schools where the faculty is apathetic to the issue is to simply leave that institution. If it continues elsewhere, the solution is to leave public education outright. Second level schools are not good models of our society. They are a poor place to learn either social mores or academic subjects. There really isn't a lot of benefit in attending them, less so if it is going to result in being used as the schools collective punching bag, either literally or metaphorically speaking.

      Bullying continues because people accept that teenagers daytime is best spent in an institution modeled on military barracks, mental hospitals and prisons. If you treat your nations youth like soldiers, invalids and criminals, don't be too surprised if they begin to behave in an uncivilized manner.
      --
      May the Maths Be with you!
    12. Re:Personal experience in the UK by mangoshake · · Score: 1

      I whole-heartedly agree with your view that anything with an "e-" or "cyber-" prefix attached suddenly becomes the world's biggest problem. Your suggestion on how bullying can be dealt with, however, I almost took as joke/sarcasm. I do not believe that having authoritative figures (parents, teachers, the law) intervene is the solution to social problems. The bullied finally learning to stand up for themselves, much like the way you did, is the only way the bullying will ever stop. It's about growing up and learning to adapt to your surrounding environment. You can't call the police every time you trips over in life.

    13. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Funny

      I think we should really make it clear to kids, that what they post about themselves, and others WILL become something that is nye impossible to remove once place on the internet.

      Yes, and then tell them the dangers of drugs and unprotected sex. That should solve that problem.

    14. Re:Personal experience in the UK by OrangeTide · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I was thinking along the same lines. Solution to bullying outside of school should be dealt with by the authorities (and therefor be much more serious), or dealt with (my preference) with physical violence.

      If someone was harassing me electronically for their own amusement it would not be long before I'd jump them, sorry if it's not very politically correct for kids to beat each other up, but to a kid the unreliable PC solutions are of little help. Also some of the abuse can be dealt with electronically, someone sending you terrible message, put them on ignore. (many cell phones will let you ignore numbers too)

      Bullies tend to become corrupt police officers and abusive middle managers. bullies become criminals when they are too poor to afford the education and influence necessary to have a career where their abusive nature can be tolerated.

      --
      “Common sense is not so common.” — Voltaire
    15. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Maximum+Prophet · · Score: 1

      I think we should really make it clear to kids, that what they post about themselves, and others WILL become something that is nye impossible to remove once place on the internet.
      What they post about themselves is only half the problem. With CyberBullying, it's what other people post about them that is the problem. That stuff will also be hard to erase.

      B.t.w. There was a recent slashdot article about a company that could bury negative reviews about products, similar to search engine optimization. I imagine they could also do the same for a person. (for a fee)
      --
      All ideas^H^H^H^H^Hprocesses in this post are Patent Pending. (as well as the process of patenting all postings)
    16. Re:Personal experience in the UK by butterflysrage · · Score: 0

      I think the difference between bulling and satire is the ability of the target to defend themselves. I have yet to see a politician who was unable to defend themselves against the jibes of a witty cartoonist. This changes from one to the other when the target is defenseless / made defenseless. They are denied the ability to defend and express themselves and therefor the anger, hatred (both with themselves and the bully) and depression will only grow stronger until the bulling is forced to stop... either by the authorities or by taking into ones own hands.

      --
      the preceding post was not spell checked... suck it.
    17. Re:Personal experience in the UK by bigtangringo · · Score: 1

      What you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

      Human nature, bud. People respect strength and confidence, they'll pick on those weaker than them. Today that might get him suspended or expelled, but I wouldn't convict the bullied kid of any crime.

      --
      Yes, I am a smart ass; it's better than the alternative.
    18. Re:Personal experience in the UK by SargentDU · · Score: 1

      Are you familiar with public schools? It sounds like from your response to his story that you have no clue how government institutions work. They do not respond to loss of students like a business does to loss of customers.

    19. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Talking about hair isn't the bullying that's a problem. It's the kids that beat the shit out of others.

    20. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Lord_Sintra · · Score: 1

      Would that be the equivalent of hitting the 'cyber bully' with a massive DDoS?

    21. Re:Personal experience in the UK by GeckoX · · Score: 1

      So the answer with a broken system is to move to another system?
      He tried, multiple times, but you conveniently ignored that for some reason.

      Many people do not have the means to do so anyways. So only the elite should be free from bullying?

      So should bullying be left as is? Simply accepted as par for the course?

      I was bullied in public school. I went to a school where most of the kids were bussed in, I was amongst the minority that actually lived in the area. We all had it rough, and it was a nice neighborhood. Further, the administration DID take bullying fairly seriously. And yet, life was hell.

      Don't know what the answer is, but ignoring it or blaming those on the receiving end helps in no way whatsoever. Current technology just makes it that much easier for bullying to occur.

      Violence in children, whether verbal, physical, technological whatever...should not be tolerated. Period.

      Unfortunately all too often it's accepted as par for the course, children will be children, what have you. Some things never change...but that certainly doesn't mean that they shouldn't change.

      And if you really think this is just about name calling...you've got blinders on.

      --
      No Comment.
    22. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I think we should really make it clear to kids, that what they post about themselves, and others WILL become something that is nye impossible to remove once place on the internet.

      I don't know if my high school was exceptional in this, but the amount of kids there who actually gave any thought to life after high school were sure to be the bullied, not the bullies.

    23. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Y+Ddraig+Goch · · Score: 1

      I agree completely, I've had similar experiences with similar results. We should should do more to help those kids who are being bullied realize why, bullies are just stupid a$$holes. Lets face it, people are inherently selfish and act accordingly. Bullies do what they do because they are who they are. If you pop one in the nose they will leave you alone most of the time.

      --
      Meddle thou not in the affairs of Dragons, for thou art crunchy and with most anything.
    24. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Disseminated · · Score: 1

      What exactly do you mean by someone being or not being able to defend themselves in the distinction you make? What means does the politician have to defend himself from satire that the schoolchild does not? What has deprived the schoolchild of these means? Why can they not be granted to the schoolchild?

    25. Re:Personal experience in the UK by TheRealMindChild · · Score: 0

      I call horseshit. Not only does it sound like you got in no trouble for breaking a nose (sorry buddy, every school of every person I've ever talked about the subject to, if you are in a fight, win or lose, right or wrong, you are suspended too), but you say the picking stopped. It doesn't happen that way. They just leave it to the bigger guys.

      --

      "When life gives you lemons, don't make lemonade. Make life take the lemons back!" -- Cave Johnson
    26. Re:Personal experience in the UK by i.r.id10t · · Score: 1

      Believe it or not, a lot of us grew up without the "zero tolerance" bs...

      Personally, I can't wait to see how "zero tolerance" goes up against the castle doctrine law we have here in Florida... esp. since I have kids

      --
      Don't blame me, I voted for Kodos
    27. Re:Personal experience in the UK by chad.koehler · · Score: 1

      Since the article is about cyber-bullying, what else is it besides name calling?

    28. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Firethorn · · Score: 1

      Personally, I tended to get into a fight about once a year. It generally dropped the bullying level tremendously afterwards.

      Bullies are bullies because they go after targets of opportunity; people that they see as weak. Make yourself not weak; or at least not worth it and they'll leave you alone.

      --
      I don't read AC A human right
    29. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Sigg3.net · · Score: 0

      I think you seriously underrate the feeling of "the whole world is watching me getting beat up and crying on youtube" and what it can mean for a 12 year old, when you say there's nothing new about cyber-bullying. It adds a universal pang to it, in lack of better words.

      I agree on swift reaction from the school (this is school turf and school should take care of it). And I also promote any process which _can_ lead to realization on the bully's part of what s/he has done to another human being. In some cases it works and I think it's worth it.

    30. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Lurker2288 · · Score: 1

      You wanna know how to deal with bullies? They pull a knife, you pull a gun. He sends one of yours to the hospital, you send one of his to the morgue. That's how you deal with bullies. That's the *Chicago* way!

    31. Re:Personal experience in the UK by evil_aar0n · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Excellent points, and I agree. "Time outs" and "dialogue" don't do squat. You want to teach a kid not to do something? The judicious application of a bit of minor discomfort - aka "pain" - can go very far. Of course, you can take this to extremes, and it has been, which is why we have parents and other authority figures espousing "time outs" and other useless methods nowadays. "Hey! Teacher! Leave those kids alone!" they say.

      My own anecdote: I was a little turd in school - nothing serious, but a typical wise-ass. One teacher, one time, lifted me by the hair on the back of my head - I deserved it - and that was it for screwing around in his class. I learned. Kids today learn a different lesson: that they can do whatever they want and no one can touch them. Wrong lesson to teach, in my view.

      Sorry you had to endure that crap as a youth.

      --
      Truth, Justice. Or the American Way.
    32. Re:Personal experience in the UK by id3as · · Score: 1

      > They should be charged with assault or harassment in a full criminal court and ordered to do a
      > suitable amount of community service. Failure to comply should immediately mean jail-time which
      > should be served in school holidays.
      Nice idea, Simon. I think, seriously, this could, and should be realized in some way.

    33. Re:Personal experience in the UK by butterflysrage · · Score: 0

      well, not many schoolchildren can call a national press conference :)

      politicians can, and do, use public addresses to combat what is said about them, they have that power and thus have the ability to defend themselves from these attacks. A bullied child does not have access to the court of public opinion, they can't simply call together a large portion of the student body and get them to listen, let alone care.

      there is also a limit on what a satirist can do to a politician as if they offend the supporters of said politician then they may lose viewers/readers. Bullied children rarely have a large support base, so a bully need not worry about losing their popularity by going to far.

      --
      the preceding post was not spell checked... suck it.
    34. Re:Personal experience in the UK by pclminion · · Score: 1

      The way to deal with bulling in schools is in my view is very simple. The punishment should be swift, harsh and feared. They should be charged with assault or harassment in a full criminal court and ordered to do a suitable amount of community service. Failure to comply should immediately mean jail-time which should be served in school holidays.

      So what you're saying, if he punches you, he should go to jail. But if you punch him, you should face no consequences? If it's a self-defense argument, what are you going to do when the guy claims you hit him first? Sorry, jail time is way too extreme for most of these situations.

      I think things were just fine right where you left them. He pushed you too far, so you broke his nose. He won't do that again. End of story, really.

    35. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Arthur+B. · · Score: 3, Interesting

      Community service? The kid didn't harm "the community" he harmed you, any damage he owes he owes to you, not to the community. You should also have the option to punch him in the nose, if he believes its ok to do it, then it must be ok to receive it.

      --
      \u262D = \u5350
    36. Re:Personal experience in the UK by p0tat03 · · Score: 1

      If only your parents taught you how to stand up for yourself you could've saved everyone a ton of trouble by not moving schools so many times.

      Yes, because the bullying he suffered through was clearly *nobody's fault* except his own. Get a clue. Instead of blaming the victims, why don't you punish the guilty?

    37. Re:Personal experience in the UK by cayenne8 · · Score: 4, Insightful
      "Believe it or not, a lot of us grew up without the "zero tolerance" bs..."

      THANK YOU for the perfect answer!!

      I too remember a time when Mom sent me off to school.....with aspirins in my pocket in case my headache came back or allergy meds if I needed them. I remember taking my new pocket knife to school to show my friends...no problems there, till I got caught carving initials onto something...even then, was given back to me at the end of the day. I remember drawing flip cartoons and notebook pages full of army men, and explosions....and in HS writing about some things in creative writing classes, which back then got an "A" for originality, but, today apparently would get you sent for serious counselling, and put you on a 'watch list'.

      Yep...I remember those days. For some reason, sure we'd get into a fight...but, no one got a weapon pulled on them, and it certainly didn't occur to us to come in school with high powered guns (even though many of us had ready access to guns) and mow our classmates down.

      Funny that....

      --
      Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.........
    38. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Yeah, some bullies even become president.

    39. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Derekloffin · · Score: 2, Insightful
      I can agree with some of what you say, but not a whole lot. The first thing I really have to disagree with is the very nature of the bully. The violent bully, the stereotypical one you see on TV, is really the least of your worries. Yeah, they can beat you up, but that's easy to prove, and in most cases with competent school oversight this can be effectively neutralized (not totally mind you, you will always have people slip through). It's the psychological bully that is far more prevalent, and worst still far harder to stick it too, and really it is these psychological bullies that are the ones that cyber-bullying is about. They don't have to lay a finger on you and they can still make your school life, and even your life in general a living hell.

      Further, the 'well, stand up to them' argument fails many times in practice. Violent bullies and psychological bullies alike often target the weakest people, those the most isolated and easily intimidated. Even if you do fight them, quite often these types will lose which now may well make the situation worse as not only are they demoralized, but the bully is now even more confident that they have a power advantage. It gets worst still when you're dealing the bully grouping as they are in that much better a position to retaliate against you. What makes this even that much worse with the psychological type is that sadly it is often the victim of the bullying who receives the punishment because of this stereotyping of bullying a purely physical thing.

      I'm very cynical about authorities solving the bully problem, but at the same time I see no real other viable alternative that will work in practice. While bringing the police in may work in some cases, having personally experienced the punish the victim stupidity of same institutions, I'd rather not see it get that serious.

    40. Re:Personal experience in the UK by ultranova · · Score: 2, Insightful

      I was quite happy to see this bylaw get passed. As a victim of bullies for years (until I had no choice but to fight back), I was happy to see that my son (just about 2 years old) shouldn't have to deal with the same things I did.

      If you want to ensure that your son doesn't get bullied, then enroll him into a good martial arts class; the kind which teaches people how to beat the living crap out of people, rather than sports or philosophies. The sad fact is that not being able to defend yourself makes you a victim; and ultimately you can't trust anyone else - not the teachers, not the police, and sure as hell not some politician trying to get political points - to defend you.

      --

      Forget magic. Any technology distinguishable from divine power is insufficiently advanced.

    41. Re:Personal experience in the UK by davidsyes · · Score: 1

      "The punishment should be swift, harsh and feared."

      "A short, sharp shock may be enough to put them back on the straight and narrow coupled with some kind of therapy."

      Boy, you don't mince words.

      I infer that a 45,000v, 2,500 Watt, 256 Hz cattle prod to the forehead will swift, harsh, fearsome, short enough, sharp enough, and certainly shocking enough to jolt their asses onto a straight and narrow posture...

      --
      Previously: "Linux... Toward the Sunrise..." Now: "Linux... Toward the-- No, now, part of Every Sunrise"
    42. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Solution to bullying outside of school should be dealt with by the authorities (and therefor be much more serious),

      Why only outside? Are schools some kind of anarchy zone where laws don't apply?

    43. Re:Personal experience in the UK by davidsyes · · Score: 1

      Now if lifting a kid by the mane (hair) happens, they'll learn to retain a barrister or attorney. It would an interesting sight in the US if those excess new lawyers hit the pavement soliciting students for whom to represent.

      Then the teachers would have their own, and the schools their own.

      Then, everybody will have mics and telemetry wiring up their ass. Then, kids will hone their long-range assaults out of victim camera view. (Until they attack a geek who was "wired into the system" and every camera and mic on everybody else was protecting the geek....)

      --
      Previously: "Linux... Toward the Sunrise..." Now: "Linux... Toward the-- No, now, part of Every Sunrise"
    44. Re:Personal experience in the UK by vux984 · · Score: 3, Insightful

      the bullied finally learning to stand up for themselves, much like the way you did, is the only way the bullying will ever stop.

      Bullshit.

      I've seen plenty of kids who -tried- standing up for themselves, they took a swing at the bully, and guess what?

      Sometimes it doesn't connect. Just more fuel for the bully to mock with.

      Sometimes it connects and the bully shrugs it off. Maybe it wasn't such a great idea to haul off and hit someone who has 30 pounds and 10" of height on you, after all.

      Sometimes it connects and the bully is knocked on his ass and even humiliated and then he and his three friends return the favor at the next opportunity, and the one after that, and the one after that...

      The little guy getting bullied pulling a heroic move out of his ass and dropping the bully on his ass, ending the cycle, and being accepted by the group is a bullshit solution. Yes it happens, yes it can work, but life isn't hollywood and the little guy doesn't always get his hollywood ending when he grows a spine. Sometimes, in the real world, they just break his spine.

      The Reena Virk swarming and murder for example was believed precipitated by some of the stuff Reena had done in a misguided attempt to establish herself as tough, trying to break the cycle of victimization she was stuck in.

    45. Re:Personal experience in the UK by ultranova · · Score: 1

      Yes, because the bullying he suffered through was clearly *nobody's fault* except his own. Get a clue. Instead of blaming the victims, why don't you punish the guilty?

      Maybe he's a bully himself, and is trying to justify his actions ? Blaming the victim is a known psychological defense in violent criminals. And of course no one wants to admit that they are guilty of anything bad.

      --

      Forget magic. Any technology distinguishable from divine power is insufficiently advanced.

    46. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Ash-Fox · · Score: 1

      Simon says it should be law.

      --
      Change is certain; progress is not obligatory.
    47. Re:Personal experience in the UK by jombeewoof · · Score: 1

      Personally, I tended to get into a fight about once a year. It generally dropped the bullying level tremendously afterwards.

      Bullies are bullies because they go after targets of opportunity; people that they see as weak. Make yourself not weak; or at least not worth it and they'll leave you alone. You've got a point, I was bullied up until about the 4th grade. When I hit the bully in the face with a brick. Broke his cheek, jaw and nose in one shot.
      He never bullied anyone again after that. And I was never bullied by anyone who had even heard the story.
      --
      Linux Zealots: Smarter than Mac Zealots, but still zealots.
    48. Re:Personal experience in the UK by jombeewoof · · Score: 1

      And I also promote any process which _can_ lead to realization on the bully's part of what s/he has done to another human being. In some cases it works and I think it's worth it. Pain and humiliation will teach that bully a lesson that will never be taught by knowing what he did to another human being.
      Most bullies just need a fierce ass kicking from a peer.
      --
      Linux Zealots: Smarter than Mac Zealots, but still zealots.
    49. Re:Personal experience in the UK by OrangeTide · · Score: 1

      Because schools have their own way of enforcing much stricter anti-harassment policy. The cops don't really care unless you actually violate a law, school policy is not law. The most the cops are supposed to do is eject people who refuse to leave school property (trespassing).

      In many cases physical violence at school is assault, and real cops and real courts can become involved. But generally the victim is convinced by the school to not press charges and the school deals with the student themselves. Depending on the nature of the violence, of course. (lunch room scuffle versus all-out attack for example)

      Schools are the opposite of anarchy, at least the ones I've heard about. (and the ones I went to, but that was many years ago). There has been rather tight control in schools that has been escalating since the 80s as response to perceived (and often not actual) danger. (gang violence, drug use, weapons, etc)

      --
      “Common sense is not so common.” — Voltaire
    50. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Insightful

      Sometimes it connects and the bully is knocked on his ass and even humiliated and then he and his three friends return the favor at the next opportunity, and the one after that, and the one after that... 95% of the time this is how it works.

      The magical stories of "I was bullied until, one day, I socked the bully on the nose and then suddenly the rain stopped, the clouds broke, the sun came up, my dog filled his own food bowl, my lawn mowed itself, and Gentoo was suddenly installed on my computer" are _propagated_ by bullies who are looking to perpetuate their system. If more meek people believe that, by punching their antagonizer in the nose, everything will suddenly change then the bullies have created new targets for gang bullying.

      One must go back and re-read the entire discussion with that perspective--that every Wizard of Oz/drink of courage story is a troll specifically placed to encourage people into doing something which will cause even more problems. Quite enlightening to see that, for all of the lip service paid to the problem of wanton intimidation, bullies are quite well tolerated in society.

      The little guy getting bullied pulling a heroic move out of his ass and dropping the bully on his ass, ending the cycle, and being accepted by the group is a bullshit solution. Not just bullshit. It's an outright faery tale.

      Yes it happens My estimate is that the practice only really works if the bully is the lone vagrant type of bully. If the bully is a wealthy prick from a long-standing local family, and especially if that bully has a group of wealthy friends, and especially if the bullies' parents are esteemed local politicians or attorneys, then the target doesn't have a snowball's chance in hell.

      but life isn't hollywood and the little guy doesn't always get his hollywood ending when he grows a spine. Sometimes, in the real world, they just break his spine. That's usually what happens.

      -HiLJ
    51. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Seumas · · Score: 1

      So we have an "anti-cyber-bullying" group... but who is going to form a group to teach kids not to be such pussies?

    52. Re:Personal experience in the UK by alshithead · · Score: 1

      "If you want to ensure that your son doesn't get bullied, then enroll him into a good martial arts class; the kind which teaches people how to beat the living crap out of people, rather than sports or philosophies. The sad fact is that not being able to defend yourself makes you a victim; and ultimately you can't trust anyone else - not the teachers, not the police, and sure as hell not some politician trying to get political points - to defend you."

      I can't disagree with you at all, however, perhaps I may expand a little. Don't let your kids fall into the consumer marketing trap that says they should believe, wear, read, listen to, follow, eat, or do whatever. Reinforce that who they are and what they are is important, ultimately, to only them and the people they care the most about.

      What? You want to try and pick on me about what I wear, my religion, my political views, the color of my skin, what my daddy does for a living? Fuck you...I'm cool with all of that and if you aren't...I don't care. What? Now you want to fight me because I don't care what you think? Great, to start, here's a bloody nose and my arm around your throat until you cry "Uncle". It worked for me when I was a teen. That kid that jumped me as I got off the bus was rescued by his older sister but only after he was kneeling on the ground with me behind him, kneeling on his calves, arm locked around his throat, and him screaming "I concede, I concede". I'm not sure he even knew what the word "concede" meant but that was what I asked him once I had the upper hand and there were plenty of witnesses who knew what "concede" meant. He never bothered me again and the only one of his clique who tried it after that decided that a body slam hurts a lot more than it appears to on TV. I've never had a physical fight since 10th grade (I'm 40 now) and I owe a great portion of that to the success I had fighting bullying as a teen. The greatest thing I learned is that you can say anything you want to or about me and it really won't affect me in the long run and if you choose to go the physical route, even if I lose, I've at least stood up for myself. Self-respect will defeat any kind of bullying all of the time.

      --
      I reserve the right to think for myself. Others' opinions are optional. Puppy on lap = typos...not illiteracy.
    53. Re:Personal experience in the UK by FreekyGeek · · Score: 1
      It seems that these days we attach an "e-" or a "cyber-" on to a pre-existing social problem and suddenly everyone treats the issue as urgent . The problem with such initiatives is there fail to realise that this is a human problem first and a technological problem a distant second.

      I completely agree. "Cyberbullying" sounds hip and modern, so everyone is jumping on the bandwagon while ignoring the problem of real, physical bullying. So someone posted a picture of you on a Myspace web page? Big Fucking Deal. Why don't we see ads on TV about real bullying? Because it's not as sexy and trendy. Jocks beating up nerds, artists, and theatre geeks, well - that's old news. Ho Hum. No one cares, and it's tacitly supported by the system. But add a "cyber-" or "e-" to the beginning of something, and you've got a "phenomenon."

      I'd like to see parents, teachers, and school administrators pay half the attention to actual bullying as they're paying to this "cyberbullying" nonsense. If one kid beats up another and takes his lunch money, the bully should be suspended for a week, and expelled on a second offense whether he's captain of the football team or not. If he's lucky the victim won't also press assault charges.

      I also agree with the person who said that our culture is coming to a point where kids behave any way they want because they know no one can touch them in any way they care about. Everyone's more concerned with their "self esteem."

    54. Re:Personal experience in the UK by squoozer · · Score: 1

      While I don't completely disagree with your view I can't completely agree with it either. While at school I was messing around one time, nothing serious just being a bit loud, and a teacher just came along and pulled my ear. Trouble is he pulled it hard enough that I heard a loud pop - my ear has never been the same since and gives me some trouble, I put it down to that event. Problem is this: if nothng had gone wrong with my ear do I think his action was justified? Yes. Considering something appears to have gone wrong do I still think it was justified? Absolutely not. I'm not saying that kids don't need a whack now and then but it can have unforseen negative consequences. Saying that I'll probably give my kids a clip when they need it. I don't look forward to doing it but I can see it is necessary sometimes to focus the mind.

      --
      I used to have a better sig but it broke.
    55. Re:Personal experience in the UK by TheCowSaysMooNotBoo · · Score: 1

      The problem is that, nowadays, when you actively punch/kick a bully you are in fault. I recall an episode in my high school where I kicked a bully around (not hard ,but still enough for him to feel it). Somebody saw that and reported it. Result: i get reprimanded because I used violence, even after a lengthy explanation on my part. Especially when nobody is there to back up your statement, it is very difficult to prove that you are bullied (especially if all his friends said you "overreacted" to a "one-time friendly tease")

      So, my advice: first report the bullying and make sure more than one person hears the complaints. If the bullying continues, you have at least "proof" that you were bullied.

    56. Re:Personal experience in the UK by dintech · · Score: 1

      bullying outside of school should be dealt with by the authorities (and therefor be much more serious)

      Isn't equivalent violence inside a school just as serious? I don't think the confines of a school some kind of legal no-mans-land. Any kind of intimidation or violence of a sufficient level to warrant police attention should be dealt with regardless of where it occurs. It's their job after all.

    57. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Firethorn · · Score: 1

      Never went that extreme, though I did lose my temper and go after a classmate in front of the teacher once. Of course, he was stupid and spit on me in front of said teacher and witnesses. Took the teacher and three kids to pull me off.

      Being a midwest school, he got into more trouble than me. I got in school suspension for two days. Got caught up on my homework.

      That's part of the problem I see happening in inner cities - you have groups of supposed adults who end up forming into gangs and becoming group bullies. As adults their violence level is much higher than a kid can generally manage.

      --
      I don't read AC A human right
    58. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Das+Modell · · Score: 1

      If you want to ensure that your son doesn't get bullied, then enroll him into a good martial arts class; the kind which teaches people how to beat the living crap out of people, rather than sports or philosophies.

      Ahem, it's specifically the sports martial arts (boxing, muay thai, judo, bjj) that teach you how to beat people up.
    59. Re:Personal experience in the UK by digitig · · Score: 1

      Sure. Then the only people being bullied will be the weak and disabled. Oh, and those in a smaller gang than the bullies (who are taking the same martial arts classes, by the way). After all, bullying doesn't matter as long as it happens to somebody else, does it?

      --
      Quidnam Latine loqui modo coepi?
    60. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Das+Modell · · Score: 1

      So what exactly should you do, if violence is supposedly not an option (it is)? If you don't do anything, you'll likely end up with psychological damage and a non-existent self-esteem, possibly for the rest of your life.

    61. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Das+Modell · · Score: 1

      The magical stories of "I was bullied until, one day, I socked the bully on the nose and then suddenly the rain stopped, the clouds broke, the sun came up, my dog filled his own food bowl, my lawn mowed itself, and Gentoo was suddenly installed on my computer" are _propagated_ by bullies who are looking to perpetuate their system. If more meek people believe that, by punching their antagonizer in the nose, everything will suddenly change then the bullies have created new targets for gang bullying.

      Or maybe you're a bully who's telling people not to resist so your job becomes easier?

      My estimate is that the practice only really works if the bully is the lone vagrant type of bully. If the bully is a wealthy prick from a long-standing local family, and especially if that bully has a group of wealthy friends, and especially if the bullies' parents are esteemed local politicians or attorneys, then the target doesn't have a snowball's chance in hell.

      Wealthy people are susceptible to kicks, punches, chokes, locks and weapons the same as everyone else.
    62. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Ihlosi · · Score: 1
      Wealthy people are susceptible to kicks, punches, chokes, locks and weapons the same as everyone else.



      Sure. But they do have lots of nastier ways to make your life miserable than anything mentioned above (as long as it's not fatal, of course).

    63. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Ihlosi · · Score: 1
      If you want to ensure that your son doesn't get bullied, then enroll him into a good martial arts class;

      Want to know hell ? Imagine you're a physically handicapped geek (prime bullying target), inferior to any healthy person in a fight, and must avoid fights for medical reasons way too complex for any bully (or even anyone who's not an MD) to comprehend. ... welcome to hell.

    64. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Das+Modell · · Score: 1

      Then you hurt them even more. As much as it takes.

    65. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Inda · · Score: 1

      It's not bullshit.

      Squaring-up to someone bigger than you will never work. You have to be more premeditated than that. You have to take the risk element away too.

      Single the bully out. Get something heavy and pointy like a brick. Can of coke might be better as you have a valid reason for carrying it. From behind. All the force you can muster. Back of the head. Drop the fucker like a sack of shit. Night night... Or be prepared to follow it up with another few blows. From behind, remember? No chat. No warning. Pure violence. Draw blood. Blood scares the majority of people, no matter how 'ard they are.

      It's all about how metal you are. How far you're willing to take it. You'll only have to do it once. Your reputation will take of you after that.

      --
      This post contains benzene, nitrosamines, formaldehyde and hydrogen cyanide.
    66. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Ihlosi · · Score: 1
      You'll only have to do it once.

      In most civilized places, that approach should put you in jail for quite a while. But since you've already honed your skills, it shouldn't present too much trouble to deal with the bullies there.

    67. Re:Personal experience in the UK by GeckoX · · Score: 1

      Are you really not as creative as a bunch of grade schoolers?
      You really can think of nothing other than name calling that a group of kids with access to the internet could come up with? And kids with the tendency to be bullies aren't usually the smarter ones even.

      Never mind the fact that you can do a lot more damage to someone without ever laying a finger on them than by physically confronting them. Physical wounds heal fairly quickly.

      I so love people that had blinders on throughout their childhood and conveniently pushed reality off the plate once they got older. Were you the guy walking past quickly with your head down while someone else was having the crap beat out of them and did nothing at all about it? Pretended it didn't exist?

      Kids can be down right evil. Thinking otherwise or throwing blame at the feet of kids that are targeted just reinforces bad behavior. Take the blinders off please.

      --
      No Comment.
    68. Re:Personal experience in the UK by GeckoX · · Score: 1

      Problem is that we're dealing with minors. The laws have no teeth to direct at minors in these situations, nor at parents, or schools...whom is responsible when a pack of little pricks beat the crap out of another kid? No one wants to address that. Just look at all the 'suck it up' responses on this thread. Think of trying to confront a bullying child's parents...can be very very ugly, best to be avoided altogether right? ;)

      Thus, unless things go WAY too far or a particular child becomes more and more of a consistent problem...almost nothing is done at all.

      That is just stupid. We have this attitude that we can't hold kids responsible for their actions because they don't understand the full implications of things they do. Bull Fucking Shit. The worst abusers are the kids that know the implications so well that they are gaming the system knowing full well that NOTHING will happen to them.

      Get parents involved immediately and always. Communicate EVERYTHING. Hold kids accountable for their actions. Don't allow school systems to be complacent.

      I tell you...if even half the things that happened to me in public school happen to my kids, I'll be suing the crap out of the school involved. Being jumped on the way home from school two or three times a week for YEARS...why do we accept that kind of thing? And it happens all the time.

      --
      No Comment.
    69. Re:Personal experience in the UK by mdwh2 · · Score: 1

      That being said...I think education should stop AT education. Teach them, but, they are not there to enforce rules off campus. I don't feel that is within their jurisdiction.

      I think the particular issue is how they go about it.

      If a pupil is bullying other pupils, then even if some of that happens outside of school time, it's still within the school's jurisdiction if they decide to punish that pupil as a result (consider a work analogy - generally what I do in my own time should be my own business, but if I started harrassing fellow employees, even if I did this outside of work hours, you can bet the employer would take an interest).

      However, that only applies to disciplining the pupil. The other question is whether they should spend time trying to get material removed from Internet sites. (I guess there's no harm in them trying if they think it's best; but I would oppose new censorship laws to allow them to remove images.)

    70. Re:Personal experience in the UK by GeckoX · · Score: 1

      Can't agree with that. You do not have to be physical to teach children. Timeouts are best for younger children, and regardless, the punishment should fit the crime.

      Community service can do wonders. Detention works great when it's not just 'Here, sit in this room with a bunch of other bad influences for half an hour'. Suspensions are just free days off and all but useless, really just punishes the parents. Separating kids out of their current social cliques. Talking to them. Talking to them with their parents. Talking to the bully and the bullied at the same time. Be creative. Maybe the hair thing worked for you...but what if you were a worse kid, what if you were already getting that kind of treatment and worse a few times a week at home? You'd have taken that completely differently, that could have very easily backfired quite badly for that teacher.

      Anecdote: Public school, grade 4 maybe? Got in a bit of a fight with a kid at recess, nothing too serious...until he picked up a rusty flattened pop can and chucked it at me, opening up a rather nice gash on my forehead. Principal made us spend the rest of the day together, went to the hospital to get stitches with me and everything. We ended up being best friends through the rest of public school.

      That could have been dealt with in many different ways. Somehow, I don't think grabbing one of us by the hair would have had the same result.

      --
      No Comment.
    71. Re:Personal experience in the UK by GeckoX · · Score: 1

      Yes, because we all know two wrongs make a right every time. And it's especially important to instill this in our children as early as possible.

      Revenge and retribution is a critical skill after all.

      End Sarcasm.

      Sheesh, you'd think that on /. with at least a FEW people with higher than average intelligence we'd see a bit more creativity and reasoning. Sure seems like the actual fact is that there is a higher than average number of people that were quite damaged while growing up.

      --
      No Comment.
    72. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Ihlosi · · Score: 1
      You want to teach a kid not to do something? The judicious application of a bit of minor discomfort - aka "pain" - can go very far.



      Wonderful lesson you're teaching a kid: If you're bigger and stronger than someone, you can hurt them, make them do what you want, and get away with it. And that's not all of it - the other parts of the lesson is "If you want your parents attention (negative or positive doesn't matter, attention is attention), do something they don't want you to do.". That's a really good way to raise the next generation of bullies.

    73. Re:Personal experience in the UK by GeckoX · · Score: 1

      You sure about that?

      I was being picked on one on one for a change once instead of the usual 3-7 on one. Wasn't a wise move on his part. Just kept knocking him down until he finally stopped coming at me. Paid for it after school when the whole gang kicked the crap out of me instead of the usual petty theft and minor torment on the way home. Occurred a couple of times a week after that for the rest of public school. Worked out really well indeed.

      Now, I did get a chance at retribution in high school playing football. By that time I was much bigger than the ringleader who was playing RB for the team we were playing against. He was still a mouthy prick just like he had always been. Took him out at the knees near the end of the game. Couldn't help myself, got the opportunity, and nailed him for all I was worth. Completely wrong, but oh did it feel good. Last time I played football actually.

      So anyways, point being that revenge isn't always a good answer, though if you must, it truly is best when served cold.

      --
      No Comment.
    74. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Sigg3.net · · Score: 0

      I emphasized the "can" because most people will never realize, but that's not saying we shouldn't give them a chance to.

    75. Re:Personal experience in the UK by ultranova · · Score: 1

      Sure. Then the only people being bullied will be the weak and disabled.

      Only the weak - defined as not being able to kick the ass of whoever tries to bully them - get bullied as is. People who beat up anyone who tries to bully them are rarely choosen as targets, at least more than once. The only way to ensure you won't be bullied is to become strong, defined as capable and willing to use violence to defend yourself.

      Making snide remarks on Slashdot isn't going to change the law of the jungle.

      Oh, and those in a smaller gang than the bullies (who are taking the same martial arts classes, by the way).

      Maybe, but even gangs usually go after softer targets.

      After all, bullying doesn't matter as long as it happens to somebody else, does it?

      So, are you going to feed your children, or are you going to refuse as long as there is famine in the world ?

      But a nice strawman nonetheless.

      --

      Forget magic. Any technology distinguishable from divine power is insufficiently advanced.

    76. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Ihlosi · · Score: 1
      The only way to ensure you won't be bullied is to become strong, defined as capable and willing to use violence to defend yourself.

      ... at which point the bully is going to start playing "the system" against you. Suddenly, they'll have everyone convinced that they are the victim, you are the aggressor, and you'll be punished. That's part of the standard bully toolbox.

    77. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Arthur+B. · · Score: 1

      It's all relative, I'd rather have my nose punched than do community service.

      --
      \u262D = \u5350
    78. Re:Personal experience in the UK by digitig · · Score: 1

      Sure. Then the only people being bullied will be the weak and disabled.

      Only the weak - defined as not being able to kick the ass of whoever tries to bully them - get bullied as is. People who beat up anyone who tries to bully them are rarely choosen as targets, at least more than once. The only way to ensure you won't be bullied is to become strong, defined as capable and willing to use violence to defend yourself.

      And if there are 1000 kids in the school, the chances that there's nobody who can kick your ass is 0.1%, so chances are you're going to have to try a different strategy with them. Or get your ass kicked just like you did before you decided that violence is the only answer to everything.

      Making snide remarks on Slashdot isn't going to change the law of the jungle.

      True. But some of us choose not to live in the jungle.

      Oh, and those in a smaller gang than the bullies (who are taking the same martial arts classes, by the way).

      Maybe, but even gangs usually go after softer targets.

      Yeah, but there's always going to be a softest target. Presumably you think it's ok that the kid in the wheelchair or on crutches gets royally screwed because the last few millennia of civilisation haven't happened in your personal world?

      After all, bullying doesn't matter as long as it happens to somebody else, does it?

      So, are you going to feed your children, or are you going to refuse as long as there is famine in the world ?

      But a nice strawman nonetheless.

      Actually, I feed my kids and try to do something about world famine. As my daughter happens to be by far the smallest in her class, if I'd been clueless enough to teach her that the way to respond to bullying was with violence I'd probably have had to collect her in a box at the end of her first week at school.
      --
      Quidnam Latine loqui modo coepi?
    79. Re:Personal experience in the UK by pclminion · · Score: 1

      I'm not sure how your response pertains to what I said. At some point, the only option is to hit back. I agree with that. I just don't agree that "bullies" should all be doing jail time. Adults can have a very hard time determining who is truly the instigator in a lot of situations. Once you throw jail into the mix, you run the risk of jailing the wrong kid.

      How about this: if the damage is about the same on both sides, and there are no life-threatening injuries, then the case is closed. Some kids got in a fight and one of them probably got what he deserved.

    80. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Shajenko42 · · Score: 1

      And if there are 1000 kids in the school, the chances that there's nobody who can kick your ass is 0.1%, so chances are you're going to have to try a different strategy with them. Or get your ass kicked just like you did before you decided that violence is the only answer to everything.
      You don't have to be able to defeat them in a fight, you just have to make beating you painful enough for them that you're not an attractive target.
    81. Re:Personal experience in the UK by digitig · · Score: 1

      Sure. Then when you leave school and get bullied in the workplace, you solve it by drop-kicking your boss or shooting your commanding officer, because violence is the only strategy you have? Way to a successful life!

      --
      Quidnam Latine loqui modo coepi?
    82. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Disseminated · · Score: 1

      Thanks for the response, my questions are sincere tho I can understand they might not necessarily be seen as such.

      Ok so... The politician was publicly satirized and responds publicly. The child was mocked/tormented/whatever by the bully "publicly" (i.e. in front of all the other kids) what stops him from responding on the same stage that the bully operated on? Sure he won't have a "press conference" but can he not still stand up for himself and make a public showing to counter the bully's acts?

      It seems apparent then that the difference between the kid and the politician is that the politician was by choice a public figure before the "bullying" whereas the kid could have been FORCED by the bully into the public eye. So it seems to me not so much that the kid was bullied (since he still CAN defend himself) it's that the bully has forced him into an arena that he didn't want to be in.

      If the kid likes to operate in the public eye anyway then there is no problem IMO. But if he doesn't, I think this is where the issue that may or may not need addressing lies. So then, I say we need to ask what measures help a kid who wants to just be left alone? How much of a right does the kid even have to just being left alone? How practical is it in real life to expect to be just left alone?

    83. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Shajenko42 · · Score: 1

      No, then you have to use more political strategies than overt physical force.

      But when you're dealing with a bully beating you up, you just have to make them think other targets are more attractive than you.

    84. Re:Personal experience in the UK by ultranova · · Score: 1

      And if there are 1000 kids in the school, the chances that there's nobody who can kick your ass is 0.1%, so chances are you're going to have to try a different strategy with them. Or get your ass kicked just like you did before you decided that violence is the only answer to everything.

      Is every last one of those 1000 kids a bully ? And, like another poster said, you don't actually have to beat them, just make yourself a painful enough target that they'll pass.

      And to the best of my knowledge, there is no other strategy - you can tell the teachers and you can tell your parents, but the latter can't help you and the former can't be bothered. So you either fight back or hide somewhere. I chose the latter, not having had access to martial arts, and as a result I still, at 28 years old, feel uncomfortable near people, especially if they're between me and an escape route. Thanks to lots of good medicine it is mere uncomfort and vague feeling of threat, rather than an outright panic.

      But... I don't have a social life, since I simply can't make myself approach people. I've never have a girlfriend, and likely never will, for the same reason. I spend my Friday nights with my computer, and never go out. I underachieve in nearly everything for the simple reason that actually interacting with people makes me nervous and unable to concentrate more on what I'm supposed to be doing than on watching for signs of attack. Because of all this I have no social skills, which of course simply makes it even harder to interact, and consequently I propably seem not quite right in the head to whoever I'm interacting with - and I suppose they're right there.

      That is the price of not fighting back. I couldn't, not having the skills to, and so my life's a total wreck, and likely always will be. I don't want anyone else to have to go through that; that's why I advocate teaching the would-be-victims martial arts, so they don't have to be victims.

      Well. Didn't that come out as self-pitying rant about my personal history. Feel free to post some condescending remark about choosing to not live in the jungle. Just dont' expect the beasts there to care.

      Making snide remarks on Slashdot isn't going to change the law of the jungle.

      True. But some of us choose not to live in the jungle.

      Schoolkids don't have that option, or at least those who's parents can't afford a private tutor don't. And empty platitudes don't help them any.

      Yeah, but there's always going to be a softest target. Presumably you think it's ok that the kid in the wheelchair or on crutches gets royally screwed because the last few millennia of civilisation haven't happened in your personal world?

      Another strawman. I have never approved bullying anyone. I have simply responded to a poster who wanted to protect his children from it. Why you take this to mean that I approve of someone else getting bullied I have no idea of.

      And the last few millenia of civilization is basically a long list of one group after another being persecuted and sometimes massacred. If anything it makes clear that weakness and vulnerability are deadly.

      Actually, I feed my kids and try to do something about world famine. As my daughter happens to be by far the smallest in her class, if I'd been clueless enough to teach her that the way to respond to bullying was with violence I'd probably have had to collect her in a box at the end of her first week at school.

      So tell me: if some group of thugs decides it's great fun to punch her in the guts and watch her trying to regain breath, and makes a daily habit out of it, just what is the response you've taught her ? Because that's what bullies do. Bullying isn't namecalling, it isn't taunts, it isn't spreading nasty rumors. It is hurting the

      --

      Forget magic. Any technology distinguishable from divine power is insufficiently advanced.

    85. Re:Personal experience in the UK by digitig · · Score: 1

      And tough luck on the other targets, right? By the time it gets to being beaten up, it's already too late. Bullying needs to be dealt with long before that.

      --
      Quidnam Latine loqui modo coepi?
    86. Re:Personal experience in the UK by digitig · · Score: 1

      Is every last one of those 1000 kids a bully ? If it's the law of the jungle, yes.

      And to the best of my knowledge, there is no other strategy - you can tell the teachers and you can tell your parents, but the latter can't help you and the former can't be bothered.

      That's how it was when I was at school. The school saw bullying as a good things -- character building. When I was bullied, the school would punish me if I even tried to fight back. A lot of good martial arts would have done in that environment; they'd have got me even worse punishment from the school authorities. But, in the UK at least, schools have come on from those days.

      So you either fight back or hide somewhere. I chose the latter, not having had access to martial arts, and as a result I still, at 28 years old, feel uncomfortable near people, especially if they're between me and an escape route. Thanks to lots of good medicine it is mere uncomfort and vague feeling of threat, rather than an outright panic. Yep. Me too. In my case it's not fear, its depression, but I was still damaged by it. The difference is that I was severely asthmatic, so the martial arts route couldn't have been available to me. So everybody saying "make another target more attractive" is essentially setting the bullies onto me. If you don't mind, I don't see that as a good solution. Good for you, perhaps, but crap for me. Sorry, but the solution isn't to shuffle the bullying onto other people, it's to stop the bullying -- which is what the original article was about.

      That is the price of not fighting back. No it isn't. That makes it your fault. Blaming the victim is the bullies game. If you had fought back somebody else would have suffered the damage. The price would still have been paid, just not by you. It's not the price of not fighting back, it's the price of bullying being tolerated

      Well. Didn't that come out as self-pitying rant about my personal history. Feel free to post some condescending remark about choosing to not live in the jungle. Just dont' expect the beasts there to care. I don't mean to be condescending -- I've been damaged by bullying too. But if your answer to bullying is to crap on me, don't expect me to endorse it.

      Another strawman. I have never approved bullying anyone. I have simply responded to a poster who wanted to protect his children from it. Why you take this to mean that I approve of someone else getting bullied I have no idea of. Because the point that was made was that the bullies would go for a softer target. That softer target was me.

      So tell me: if some group of thugs decides it's great fun to punch her in the guts and watch her trying to regain breath, and makes a daily habit out of it, just what is the response you've taught her ? If it gets to that then it's a police matter. Seriously. With her build and physique there's nothing she'd be able to do physically beyond setting off an attack alarm. I've taught her not to get into that sort of situation Not guaranteed, of course, but it's worked so far.
      --
      Quidnam Latine loqui modo coepi?
    87. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Shajenko42 · · Score: 1

      If you're a target for a bully, there's very little you can do for the big picture. That's the job of adults and the school district.

      If you're a kid getting beat on, then you have to take care of yourself any way you can.

    88. Re:Personal experience in the UK by digitig · · Score: 1

      If you're the smallest or disabled then your only chance is somehow to make sure you don't get beat on.

      --
      Quidnam Latine loqui modo coepi?
    89. Re:Personal experience in the UK by digitig · · Score: 1

      I finally made it to High School and then I decided this time, it wasn't going to happen again. Some kid tried it on and I opted to belt him one in the nose. His nose was thoroughly broken and he was out of school for a week. One of the kids in my school year did something like that. Then he was knifed to death on his way home from school.
      --
      Quidnam Latine loqui modo coepi?
    90. Re:Personal experience in the UK by pclminion · · Score: 1

      You know what? Ignore my previous response. For some jackass reason my brain skipped over the actual CONTENT of your first paragraph. My bad.

      But as I said, if the damage is equal on all sides... And in your case, it wasn't. A bunch of thugs consistently ganging up and beating the crap out of you is indisputably CRIMINAL behavior and yes, they probably should have faced serious consequences for it.

    91. Re:Personal experience in the UK by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      enroll him into a good martial arts class; the kind which teaches people how to beat the living crap out of people, rather than sports or philosophies.

      My six year old spent his kinder year fighting back against kids that bullied him. The result: a visit to the school psychologist and a series of IEP meetings to resolve his problem of being so violent(he struck or wrestled another student six times in his kindergarten year, frequently more than one at a time, bullies gang up.)

      Afraid this doesn't always work.

      A bloody nose(none for my son) and a handful of black eyes(still none for my son) and a big pile of skinned knees and elbows(he got some of these though) later my guy still gets crap, plus misses out on classroom instruction in order to get special sessions on social expectations and ends up on a probation that is just a step away from expulsion. All for fighting back against bullies that were physically abusive.

    92. Re:Personal experience in the UK by rtb61 · · Score: 1
      The catch with that, is the greater the punishment, the greater the burden off proof, a dramatic unsupportable increase in cost. The real problem is children, surprise, surprise are immature and will not act always act responsibly which is why they are supervised in the first place.

      So how do you force children to act like responsible adults, think about that for just a bit more than just a knee jerk response, and before attempting to create a legal nightmare. Children are children, and they will act like children, they are not responsible adults and should not and are not treated as such. Bullying is not a failure of the child it is a failure of effective supervision, and it is in reality those adults paid to supervise the behaviour of children who should suffer the reprimand.

      As for cyber bullying, sure if it is on a school network, but beyond that for what is an adult communications network, let your children play in that environment unsupervised, and don't be surprised when they get hurt. So the real problem is the complete lack of an internet and communications network suitable for children, one that is controlled and supervised and completely separate to the adult communications network.

      --
      Chaos - everything, everywhere, everywhen
    93. Re:Personal experience in the UK by tehcyder · · Score: 1

      If you want to ensure that your son doesn't get bullied, then enroll him into a good martial arts class; the kind which teaches people how to beat the living crap out of people, rather than sports or philosophies.
      Pussy, just buy him a decent automatic pistol and teach him to aim for their knees.
      --
      To have a right to do a thing is not at all the same as to be right in doing it
  3. should they know... by spiffmastercow · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Yes, they should know it's being documented.. Because it is. Whether it be by schools, peers, google, marketers, Homeland Security, etc., it will be monitored, and it's best they know that.

    1. Re:should they know... by mmcuh · · Score: 1

      Absolutely correct. Kids should be taught at an early age that _everything_ they write on the web - in a forum, in a facebook, in an archived mailing list, anywhere else - can, and probably will, be copied, cached, indexed and indexed again and made available to everyone through search engines like Google. They should know that everything they publish under their real name, and most likely some that they don't, can be connected to them and viewed by their friends, parents, grandparents, and any future girlfriends, employers or enemies.

      The sad truth is that a very large number of adults don't understand that.

    2. Re:should they know... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Exactly. This techno-centric world is harsh, impersonal and invasive and the sooner these children know it the sooner they can decide how much they wish to participate therein.
      As for the cyber-bully, ever hear of 'sticks and stones'?

    3. Re:should they know... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      If the info is out anywhere, /b/ will find. Anonymous does not forgive. Anonymous does not forget. Anonymous is legion. Watch out for the internet hate machine!

    4. Re:should they know... by PlusFiveTroll · · Score: 1

      Even scarier are the people that understand that everything can be monitored and kept long term. Teachers and school employees are not trained investigators and will likely punish only the dumbest 'cyberbullies'. Have two people you don't like, simply 'Joe Job' the first against the second. What do you mean the internet is an anonymous medium and that anyone could have posted that, we have your picture right here on Myspace staying this! Guilty as charged. Even if the system does fix the current crop of bullies (I don't believe it will), it will create a new generation of smarter bullies.

      In the criminal proceedings I've worked on, it's very hard to get evidence from the internet admitted in court. There is too much doubt on its authenticity.

  4. Adjustments by eldavojohn · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Should kids be brought up knowing that their life on the web is being documented and controlled by people other than their parents? If people need parenting advice it shouldn't be from Slashdot. Come to think of it, if people need parenting advice, they shouldn't be having kids.

    I'm not going to tell UK people how to raise their children and they're not going to tell me how to raise mine. You can go ahead and prepare your kid for what your government is going to force onto them anyways. I personally am going to teach my kids to question everything. Question me, question the government and question any institutions. I'm going to teach them how to do it objectively and how to improve themselves as well as the said institution. And you know what? Maybe my kids will be able to reverse what my generation has let slip out of control. Maybe not. Depends on how you raise your kids. So the question I'm really interested in is how are you going to raise your kids so I know whether I have to prepare mine to be monitored their entire life or prepare them for something we all used to enjoy.
    --
    My work here is dung.
    1. Re:Adjustments by MicktheMech · · Score: 1

      Come to think of it, if people need parenting advice, they shouldn't be having kids.

      Why? Because everyone is born a child-rearing expert? I think society should be encouraging parents to seek advice, not shun them for it.
    2. Re:Adjustments by bigtangringo · · Score: 1

      Agreed, the GP is delusional if (s)he thinks everyone is born knowing how to be a proper parent. I suspect that attitude is exactly the problem in many situations.

      --
      Yes, I am a smart ass; it's better than the alternative.
    3. Re:Adjustments by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Agreed, the GP is delusional if (s)he thinks everyone is born knowing how to be a proper parent. If you had a proper parent, you know. If you don't know, don't have kids until you have a plan on how to raise them.

      You're pretty asinine to suggest that people who have plans on how to raise their kids are the problem when most of the time it's people who had kids when they weren't planning on it. If you need advice, asking Slashdot isn't going to do any good. Asking your friends might. Asking someone that loves and trusts you might. Asking everyone including the goatse trolls is just obvious proof that you don't know what you're doing.
    4. Re:Adjustments by GeckoX · · Score: 1

      Even worse, a lot of people think they ARE born knowing how to be a proper parent and simply won't seek out advice, even though they are not doing a great job of parenting themselves.

      Not saying the GGP is in that category as I do not know for sure...but they very much could be given the implied attitude towards others seeking advice.

      --
      No Comment.
    5. Re:Adjustments by bigtangringo · · Score: 1

      What makes a proper parent? How many of them are in the world? Some people have no choice when it comes to having kids, for reasons I shouldn't have to enumerate.

      I suggested no such thing, rather I said that the unwillingness to ask for input is likely one of the major contributors to poor parenting. Plugging your ears and screaming "na na na na" when someone gives you a suggestion is not the way to do things. You're far better off collecting a body of information and deciding what works best for you.

      I also think your statement, that asking Slashdot isn't going to do any good, is asinine. I'm of the opinion that there are some very smart people here, and some very dumb people here; very much like the rest of the fleshy world. I think the average person could filter though the feed them Drain-O LOL shit you might see from the trolls for the true gems of wisdom.

      --
      Yes, I am a smart ass; it's better than the alternative.
    6. Re:Adjustments by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      even though they are not doing a great job of parenting themselves. Your problem seems to be that you imply you know how to raise my children. That's a serious problem where I come from.

      You know what's right, the GGP knows what's right. Nobody should tell anyone else how to raise their kid.
    7. Re:Adjustments by ksd1337 · · Score: 1

      If people need parenting advice it shouldn't be from Slashdot. Come to think of it, if people need parenting advice, they shouldn't be having kids. Actually, if they are on Slashdot, they can't have kids, as to have kids, you have to have sex. I think that's impossible for the majority of nerds here. ;-)
    8. Re:Adjustments by iangoldby · · Score: 1

      if people need parenting advice, they shouldn't be having kids.
      If people think that they don't need any parenting advice, they shouldn't be having kids.

      There, fixed that for you.
    9. Re:Adjustments by renoX · · Score: 1

      >Come to think of it, if people need parenting advice, they shouldn't be having kids.

      That's a stupid remark, you should be ashamed of yourself..

    10. Re:Adjustments by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Come to think of it, if people need parenting advice, they shouldn't be having kids. That's a stupid remark, you should be ashamed of yourself.. Care to elaborate on that? I can probably guess that you know the right way to raise kids and people that don't think they need advice are doing it the wrong way.

      That remark may be stupid but no more stupid than yours is empty, unhelpful & unconvincing.
    11. Re:Adjustments by bigtangringo · · Score: 1

      Your problem seems to be that you think you know how best to raise your children.

      The problem is, that eventually your crotchfruit are going to be members of the society that the rest of us live in. Unfortunately, I'm not sure there's a satisfactory way to resolve that while not interfering in the parenting of others.

      --
      Yes, I am a smart ass; it's better than the alternative.
    12. Re:Adjustments by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Unfortunately, I'm not sure there's a satisfactory way to resolve that while not interfering in the parenting of others. Please provide me with instructions on how to raise my kids. I shall find it amusing.
    13. Re:Adjustments by blahplusplus · · Score: 1

      "Come to think of it, if people need parenting advice, they shouldn't be having kids. "

      This is the stupidest thing I have EVER heard. Children have minds of their own, even if you are the best parent in the world. People are born with a law of being (ala goethe)

      Goethe argued in his scientific works that a "formative impulse", which he said is operative in every organism, causes an organism to form itself according to its own distinct laws, and therefore rational laws or fiats could not be imposed at all from a higher, transcendent sphere; this placed him in direct opposition to those who attempted to form "enlightened" monarchies based on "rational" laws by, for example, Joseph II of Austria or, the subsequent Emperor of the French, Napoleon I.

    14. Re:Adjustments by Vaginal_flatulence · · Score: 1

      kill them.

    15. Re:Adjustments by renoX · · Score: 1

      Your sentence implies that parents which have trouble for raising their child shouldn't have had a child in the first place, which is quite mean: some parents have troubles, needs some help to fix the situation and then they're alright..

    16. Re:Adjustments by Plutonite · · Score: 1

      This wasn't meant to be parenting advice, it was simply an issue of unhealthy government intervention with peoples lives, at a very young age, in ways that can possibly pave the way for further tampering with our privacy and freedoms (or what is left of them). Others have already commented on your parenting advice remark, but really, I think slashdot is a *great* source of information for a whole range of people in this crazy era. Especially people with children. It's not about being a bastion of professional opinions and overwhelming maturity, it's just that matters of concern are raised and discussed pretty thoroughly, so even if you don't get the best info you are at least *aware* of the controversy.

      You may seem be very confident knowing that you're a tech-oriented person, but most people have no friggin clue what is going on in TheWorld 2.0. In order to "question" things, you need to know these things are happening in the first place. People get advice with healthcare, finance, technology, work-habits..but they shouldn't get basic information about things that change everyday around them and their kids? And by the way, raising your kids to "question everything" may sound awesome on paper, but what happens if things don't go perfectly as planned and they hit the teenage years with a little less discipline then most, due to your over-emphasized irreverence? Shouldn't you wait until slightly later before really coming down hard with the question-everything line, telling them that mathematics itself should be doubted? Ah, you see, parenting isn't such a simple thing is it :) And we don't need to wait for your kids to grow up. Some nonsense should be dealt with right away before it serves as precedence for other madness. If schools started following kids around during out-of-state visits with their families, for example, parents associations would not wait for the next generation to tell the government to go to hell.

      Now some people on this thread have talked about how everyone should assume all online information is public. This is nonsense. Information on web pages is not necessarily public no matter how bad online security gets, and even though kids should be raised with a healthy dose of security education, being responsible with what you put online is completely irrelevant here. We are not talking about what kids should do. We are talking about institutionalized stalking - breaches of privacy, where schools want to be able to violate TOS for websites and mobile operators under the veil of protecting our children. This is not in any way normal. We shouldn't have to put up with ISPs handing our packet data over to MIB(men in black) and we shouldn't come to terms with the idea that our kids are being constantly stalked online by academic institutions. When your kids are at school they are the school's responsibility; when they are with you then the school, the government, the mobile service providers and anybody else "interested" in their activities should be going through you to solve problems.

      Will everybody please stop thinking of our children?

      PS: I'm unmarried and in my 20's and have no children ["duh!" jokes not allowed].

    17. Re:Adjustments by GeckoX · · Score: 1

      Fuck you. No one was telling anyone how to raise their kids and you damned well know it. The point was that people that could use help rarely seek out help. How many people do you think actually have ANY sort of child rearing education or influence other than how their parents brought them up?

      Or are you suggesting that all parents are inherently great parents? Hmm?

      Odd that I seem to have struck a nerve when I actually stated nothing at all which could reasonably provoke your reaction.

      Are we asking for help perhaps?

      Oh, and around here, being a cock-fucker is a serious problem.

      Further response below may have the right answer in this situation, though I'm loath to lay blame at the feet of innocent children for the behavior of their parents. I'm more in the 'cut em off' crowd if you know what I mean.

      --
      No Comment.
    18. Re:Adjustments by Shajenko42 · · Score: 1

      If people need parenting advice it shouldn't be from Slashdot. Come to think of it, if people need parenting advice, they shouldn't be having kids.
      Most industrialized first-world nations have a birth rate that is below the replacement rate. We need to encourage people to have MORE kids, not fewer.
  5. Huh? by zappepcs · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Are schools supposed to be doing this as an extension of their duty to prevent physical bullying in school, or is this is yet another example of governmental intervention where it is not due? Should kids be brought up knowing that their life on the web is being documented and controlled by people other than their parents?" No, yes, and FSCK YES !

    Kids should know that the Internet is not a playground with safety bumpers on every sharp corner. It is for adults, and there are people out there that will monitor everything they can, people will take advantage of every opportunity. The sad fact is that not enough adults know this yet, so teaching kids about it is a good start at the education that should come with the purchase of Internet services.
  6. Don't Bully: Government hates competition. by Tackhead · · Score: 4, Insightful

    A survey for the union found that 70% of teachers had heard children in their schools using homophobic language.

    When there's insults to be dished out, you will only insult each other using the approved insults!

    The union is calling for pupils' mobile phones to be classed as potentially offensive weapons and for them to be banned during school sessions.

    And when there's abuse to be documented, who'll be documenting the abuse? Who'll be watching the watchers? Not you, Citizen!

    When we point the camera at you, it's for your safety. When you point the camera at us, it's an offensive weapon.

    Don't bully. Your government hates the competition.

    1. Re:Don't Bully: Government hates competition. by CommunistHamster · · Score: 1
      In UK schools, the word "gay" as an adjective is used as a synonym for "bad" by pupils. Most of the time it isn't specifically meant as a homophobic insult, but of course the association of "gay" with "bad" is indirectly negative. The figure is probably somewhere nearer 80%.

      Cyber-bullying never seemed like a real problem to me anyway, I have never met anyone who has experienced it (YMMV). Most social networking sites let you delete comments and the like from your profile, so the user already has the tools to remove annoying content. Profiles created by bullies to mock people can be reported to the social networking sites bu pupils and swiftly removed, because it's hardly in the sites interests to develop a reputation as a den of bullies.

      Extra laws aren't necessary, but it makes the politicians look as though they're fighting a perceived problem, and that's the real reason for this initiative.

    2. Re:Don't Bully: Government hates competition. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Paging Abbott Laboratories. Paging Battelle Memorial Institute.

      According to the resume you posted in your journal, you weren't at either place (or anywhere else, for that matter) long enough to achieve anything.

      Insanity can be defined as doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results. How are you sane, again?

    3. Re:Don't Bully: Government hates competition. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Yeah, well, no monopoly on that! We do it here in the US too!

      OWNED!

    4. Re:Don't Bully: Government hates competition. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I just interviewed with Abbott laboratories, and they offered me a job with a starting salary of >$100,000. During lunch after a couple of drinks, the interviewer said something strange. I read into it something to the effect of what homeless la jolla guy just said. That and a couple of other things bothered me, including the fact that they monitor your computer activity (possible every keystroke) and if they decide they want to get rid of you, they will dig up the info they've been saving and find a way to use it against you. I didn't want to have to deal with the possibility of drug tests either. Because I don't want to have to give up smoking pot. So I turned down the offer and took a much more laid-back job somewhere else for less pay.

    5. Re:Don't Bully: Government hates competition. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Log in, Stevie. It makes your bullshit far more entertaining that way.

    6. Re:Don't Bully: Government hates competition. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Oh yeah? Your mother!

    7. Re:Don't Bully: Government hates competition. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Would you have accepted that position as a research scientist at Abbott under those conditions?

    8. Re:Don't Bully: Government hates competition. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Absolutely. The Company owns the computer resources, they can log keystrokes if they want. Furthermore, I don't smoke pot or any other illegal substance, so drug tests don't bother me.

      The fact is, Stevie, that just about all companies work this way for a reason: Litigation. No company wants to be sued because someone gets hurt or killed by a high employee, and no company wants to be sued because some jack-ass misused company resources for illegal activity such as hacking.

      For such a self-proclaimed smart guy, Stevie, you sure miss the obvious things.

      Companies have to protect themselves from lawsuits, in order to keep the company afloat and provide jobs to innocent schmo's who just want to earn a living. Instead of changing your behavior to adapt, you demand a personal utopia and blame a global conspiracy against you when you don't get your way.

      Aren't you a little old to be continuing a temper tantrum like this?

      You're a research scientist - your current methods of emailing resumes (while refusing to reformat them for HR drones) aren't working. Any good research scientist would have changed his approach by now. Why haven't you?

    9. Re:Don't Bully: Government hates competition. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      THAT'S HILARIOUS!

      I wouldn't hack at work; but say on a lunch break, i surf the web and go to some leftist political blog sites they don't like. I post something, IT logs it, they decide they want to fire somebody to open a position for the boss's darling nephew. Or maybe they're just down-sizing, so they dig up my old posts and fire me for thoughtcrime.

      I have a good work ethic and would never go to work while intoxicated. I would only smoke once every couple of months on a weekend -- I would keep a clear head for my job. But they don't care. It takes up to several months to pass a drug test after smoking one joint.

      I'd rather be homeless than work in that environment.

    10. Re:Don't Bully: Government hates competition. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'd rather be homeless than work in that environment.

      Finally, an admission that you choose to be Homeless.

      How sad that you cling to an illegal activity instead of gainful employment.

    11. Re:Don't Bully: Government hates competition. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Flip off. I'd rather spend my time recompiling the newest linux kernel so it turns my cpu sprocket faster. Or maybe I'll go and slow-dance with Mr. Chronic Drunk List.

    12. Re:Don't Bully: Government hates competition. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'd rather be homeless than work

      You could have stopped right there.
      And Stevie, review your last month's worth of JE's, and count the number of times you have been clamoring for pot. This obsession is a little more than a "once a month" or a "weekend only" thing for you.

    13. Re:Don't Bully: Government hates competition. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      First of all, CPU's don't have "sprockets". You claim to be in a library, you might see if they have this book: "80X86 IBM PC and Compatible Computers: Assembly Language, Design and Interfacing Vol. I and II (3rd Edition) (Hardcover)
      by Muhammad Ali Mazidi (Author), Janice Gillispie Mazidi (Author)"

      If not, the university library probably has at least one copy you could read. It will tell you how CPU's actually work, so you can abandon your "sprocket" concept and *gasp* actually know what you're talking about for once.

      I'd rather spend my time recompiling the newest linux kernel so it turns my cpu sprocket faster. Or maybe I'll go and slow-dance with Mr. Chronic Drunk List.

      And Homeless you shall remain, assuming you are even really homeless and not just an elaborate troll.

  7. Nothing will come of it by allthefish · · Score: 2, Insightful

    No matter what the intentions behind this decree, I don't think anything will change. If J. Random Memorial School sends Facebook a message demanding that they remove a person's comment about a student of theirs, and it does not violate Facebook's TOS, then why would they do it? Most social networking sites aren't based in the UK; frankly, its unenforcible.

    Also, even if social networking sites were affected, wouldn't the "cyberbullies" just find another medium, i.e. AIM/YIM/MSN/IRC/Insert your own acronym? Or independent blogging? There's really no way to enforce this reliably.

  8. Oh yeah? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    UK schools being told by the education minister to fight cyberbullying... Oh well. Too bad the education minister is a blithering fool and wears women's stockings. We were supposed to fight the other day after school but he ran home like a baby. Ha!
  9. How far does it go? by StealthyRoid · · Score: 1

    Who gets to make the call on whether or not behavior is "cyber bullying", or just plain old fashioned, zero harm trolling? I mean, regardless of whether or not it's the school's responsibility, or even within their legitimate power, to police the actions of students after they leave the building or associated events (it's not), this is essentially enabling content censors not just of violence, but of speech. Say kid A calls kid B a "cunt nigger bitch" on a forum somewhere, and Headmaster Brothinbersonshire sees that. Now, it's clearly mean, and offensive to some, but does it cross the line of cyber bullying? Well, that's up to the whims of Headmaster Brothinbersonshire, and if he's a prick, a very real, very chilling, and very arbitrary limitation on the speech of anyone who goes to school, regardless of whether it's related in any way.

    1. Re:How far does it go? by westlake · · Score: 1
      Say kid A calls kid B a "cunt nigger bitch" on a forum somewhere, and Headmaster Brothinbersonshire sees that. Now, it's clearly mean, and offensive to some, but does it cross the line of cyber bullying?

      You have been caught pitching racial and sexual insults to kids on a public forum.

      You don't know or don't care that is inappropriate behavior? Then it is time for your Headmaster to step in.

    2. Re:How far does it go? by StealthyRoid · · Score: 1

      Why isn't it time for the PARENTS to step in? Who gave the Headmaster the authority to tell someone's child what kind of behavior is or is not appropriate outside of school? What if the kid's parents know what the kid is doing, and either a.) are permissive, or b.) outright approving. The school now has the authority to directly contradict the will of the parents on non-criminal behavior? On permissible speech? This is the head of a school we're talking about giving what amounts to POLICE powers, and making them the final arbiter of what's acceptable and not in a child's private life. Fuck, if we're going to do that, let's just cede our will over to our betters, so that they might guide us without fear of our faltering.

      For that matter, I don't know that racial or sexual insults in a public forum is necessarily that bad of a thing for "kids". Remember, anyone who's under 18 is basically a rightless entity thats considered a child. What makes it OK to say that to an 18 year old, but not to a 17 year old? That seems like a silly, arbitrary line. Or, even better, what if the student IS 18, with all the rights gained by surviving that long? Should the headmaster be able to restrict the speech of an adult?

    3. Re:How far does it go? by PitaBred · · Score: 1

      Why should kids not learn how to deal with bullshit like that? Are they somehow magically retarded and pathetic, unable to deal with any even perceived slight? Oh wait, rhetorical question given today's political climate.

      Look, kids need to have bad experiences and subsequently have guidance dealing with them themselves in order to learn. They do NOT need to be protected from every single thing that might possibly cause them to get even slightly upset. Because that raises a generation of entitled little twats with no work ethic and the strange idea that they should get promoted/praised just for showing up. I work with a lot of peers who are like that. Real life does NOT work that way in a stable, growing society.

    4. Re:How far does it go? by zantolak · · Score: 1

      "You have been caught"? You willingly posted it in the first place. "Inappropriate" is subjective. It's not illegal. It's outside the jurisdiction of the school. There's no reason for any faculty to become involved with something that isn't their business. It is not time for any of them to "step in".

    5. Re:How far does it go? by Lars83 · · Score: 1

      If the cyber- or otherwise-bullying that occurs outside of school is distressing enough to the student to have a negative impact on the school day, then the administration has the right and the DUTY to deal with the behavior. The legal precedent is long-standing that schools can enact punishment in response to behavior outside of the walls of the building.

      edit: this refers to US law

  10. Appropriate for schools? by Gothmolly · · Score: 0

    Sure, in the UK. Remember, USians, what's considered necessary and acceptable for government and municipal involvement is dramatically different than in the US. In my experience (lived in .UK and .DE) folks would find the government remiss if they weren't all over this sort of thing.

    --
    I want to delete my account but Slashdot doesn't allow it.
  11. How do you "cyberbully" someone by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I mean, if someone is being a pest you... log off.

    Maybe cyberbullying (a ridiculous concept) is nature's way of telling you that life on a computer is pretend. The real world is reality. And if you spend that much time online, then it's time to spend less time on line.

    Life goes on without constantly chatting on myspace and other entertainment pages.

    1. Re:How do you "cyberbully" someone by Boogaroo · · Score: 4, Insightful

      It's not that easy. You can't just log off.

      They're filling your inbox with spam.
      They're spamming your blog.
      They're making up websites with your picture and filling it with false "confessions."
      They're making up IM accounts and messaging your friends with the same "confessions."

      There's a dozen more ways kids can be cruel online. It doesn't have to be directed at you while you're logged in to harm you.

    2. Re:How do you "cyberbully" someone by Sparr0 · · Score: 1

      All 4 of your examples are illegal and carry both civil and criminal penalties. Why does that have anything to do with school?

    3. Re:How do you "cyberbully" someone by metrometro · · Score: 2, Insightful

      All 4 of your examples are illegal and carry both civil and criminal penalties. Why does that have anything to do with school?

      Those carry penalties IN LAW. In practice, it takes an informed victim to exercise that legal protection. Does that sound like a middle-schooler to you? I don't expect every parent to understand that, but I think it's reasonable for teachers to be aware of the rules of the game and step in as defenders of kids they see getting attacked online.

      What penalties they set is debatable, but the basic charge of the article: 'we're teaching kids that they're being supervised online' misses the point. They're teaching kids that online behavior has consequences, some of them unpleasant, just like the real world. Sounds like a useful lesson to me.

    4. Re:How do you "cyberbully" someone by crabpeople · · Score: 1

      "There's a dozen more ways kids can be cruel online. It doesn't have to be directed at you while you're logged in to harm you"

      Exactly. Just think of the horror, they could circumcise your e-peen!

      --
      I'll just use my special getting high powers one more time...
    5. Re:How do you "cyberbully" someone by Nullav · · Score: 1

      Why are you tossing out your contact information to people like that? You can always delete disruptive blog comments or even block posts from specific IP addresses, you can change your email address, and all that stuff, and the last two examples are easily rectified by simply denying you ever said anything.
      Do you regularly give your phone number out to strange people? Your email address? This is just more 'because internet' legislation made up so people can feel good about themselves.

      Do we really want governments to shelter children to this extent?

      --
      I just read Slashdot for the articles.
  12. Stupid is as stupid does... by packetmon · · Score: 1

    Schools have been told to confiscate mobile phones, and, more controversially, to investigate and get material removed from personal social-networking sites. And then what will they do? Bully the student to remove the offensive material... "If you don't remove that post about Timmy RIGHT THIS INSTANCE YOUNG MAN!!!" That's teaching them how not to bully others by bullying them.... Seriously, what about education for a change. Personally I don't think anyone carrying a phone in any school should be allowed to do so unless they're on the University level. When I was in school I never needed a phone for anything. Had I had a phone then, I'd likely be using using it to update my blog/Myspace/Facebook/Hi5/etcSpace... instead of focusing on whats more important (learning)..

    1. Re:Stupid is as stupid does... by westlake · · Score: 1
      "If you don't remove that post about Timmy RIGHT THIS INSTANCE YOUNG MAN!!!" That's teaching them how not to bully others by bullying them....

      It is not bullying a kid to stop him from bullying others.

      To warn him that his actions will have consequences. That entry into adulthood demands that you learn to respect some minimal standards of civilized behavior. That is also part of learning.

      Perhaps a more important part of learning than what you will find in the textbooks.

    2. Re:Stupid is as stupid does... by packetmon · · Score: 1

      I guess you missed the part where I mentioned education

    3. Re:Stupid is as stupid does... by stewbacca · · Score: 1

      My kids' schools don't allow cell phones either. I wouldn't have it any other way, truthfully. Those parents who clamor that their kids NEED cellphones should be directed to the front office to show them that, gasp, schools have phones too!

  13. Obviousness by Jinjuku · · Score: 0

    Should kids be brought up knowing that their life on the web is being documented and controlled by people other than their parents? Uh, is this a trick question?
  14. E-bullies? Seriously?? by Loosifur · · Score: 2, Informative

    Well, actually, their every e-move IS being documented, by Google, and people other than their parents DO control their lives, such as teachers, government officials, etc. I don't know how it is in the UK but in the US you don't really have much in the way of rights until you hit 18. But, that aside, how far do you take this? What about bullying outside of school? What about bullying when the kid's 20? IMO you do kids a great disservice by insulating them from the hard parts of life, such as the fact that some people are pricks. It's better to learn how to deal with that yourself at a young age than to learn to rely on your parents or the government to come to your rescue.

    --
    This unbiased moderation brought to you by the Porcine Aviation Group!
    1. Re:E-bullies? Seriously?? by westlake · · Score: 1
      IMO you do kids a great disservice by insulating them from the hard parts of life, such as the fact that some people are pricks. It's better to learn how to deal with that yourself at a young age than to learn to rely on your parents or the government to come to your rescue.

      You do your kids no better favor by not warning them that others may step in to protect their own.

      To defend the most vulnerable.

      That there are lines that cannot be crossed without paying a price.

    2. Re:E-bullies? Seriously?? by DM9290 · · Score: 1

      "...but in the US you don't really have much in the way of rights until you hit 18."

      do you interpret the fact that rights are being violated as evidence that the rights don't exist?

      --
      No one has a right to their *own* opinion. They have a right to the TRUTH.
  15. To the last question by Cro+Magnon · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Should kids be brought up knowing that their life on the web is being documented and controlled by people other than their parents?


    Yes, they should, because it's true. Why lie to the poor tykes?
    --
    Slow down, cowboy! It has been 4 hours since you last posted. You must wait another few hours.
  16. Derr by Soporific · · Score: 1

    Should kids be brought up knowing that their life on the web is being documented and controlled by people other than their parents?"

    No, let's lie to them and tell them that only the tooth fairy and Santa Claus knows anything about their public online info...

    ~S

  17. i by kurtis25 · · Score: 2, Interesting

    I was bullied in elementary school. By High school I was friends with the kid who bullied me, and yes we had fun with that one. We were talking about bullying in my humanities class, my friend (the ex-bully) raised his hand and said, "I used to bully people," the teacher asked how he thought that made the other kid feel. The bully said, "I dunno," he looked at me and asked, "how did you make it feel?" I said something about not remembering but that he owed me back for all the lunch money he took after he beat me up. The look on the teachers face was priceless. In a real response, it's the schools job (since parents don't seem to know) to help build some character into students. The school should help students to learn what the Internet is and what the future consequences are of action on the net. The school shouldn't play big punisher and use it's hand to punish kids for mean statement written at home. Maybe the school could help parents moniter online life if there are issues or warn parents of potential issues. They shoudl also let paretns know of problems that may be occuring. If a kid is being picked on at school he or she is probably seing the same issues online and hiding them all from parents.

  18. Is Slashdot included? by Marcion · · Score: 3, Funny

    Teachers realm the comments for signs of cyberbullying:

    Teacher: "Now young Sebastian, while I admire your interest in communist era Russia, I'm not sure that image you linked to is really relevant to technology."

    Student: "You must be new here, mod parent down, imagine a Beowulf cluster of those..."

  19. what right or responsibility? by Roadkills-R-Us · · Score: 1

    Unless it is initiated on school property, or during school hours, or is otherwise set up specifically to harass during school hours or on school property, I don't see how the school has either the right or the responsibility to intervene.

    1. Re:what right or responsibility? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Sadly this is the UK we are talking about and with regards to this issue, common sense went out the window a long time ago.

      A few months ago, one of the ZOMGTHINKOFTHECHILDREN TV shows (Panorama, I think) aired an episode about "cyber"-bullying, specifically relating to children using camera phones to record bullying and post it to YouTube. They showed the videos to a panel of "experts" which consisted of one Police officer and two bullying-related campaigners/counsellors and asked for their recommendations. They recommended that YouTube should be forced by law to actively moderate every submission (as opposed to the current user-moderation scheme).

      Shortly afterwards, one of the Teachers' unions called for YouTube to be shut down.

      Apparently, the problem is that not only are they incapable of preventing the kids bullying each other but are now being bullied by the kids due to an nation-wide inability to enforce discipline in the classroom that starts the moment kids begin primary school, and the lack of discipline itself probably starts a lot earlier than that, in the home where parenting was abandoned long ago.

      It's really all gone crazy.

    2. Re:what right or responsibility? by stewbacca · · Score: 1
      This is the stance most administrators take. At the school I worked at overseas (American Military base), people would complain about the kids at the gym or bowling alley after school. Well, these kids ARE military dependents and DO have a right to use these facilities too. How is this the school's problem again?

      Most of my fellow grad students in Education felt that the school curriculum should extend to all aspects of the local community, however, which would mean schools have to take interest in kids' wellbeing 24-7. I don't agree, but it seems to be a popular ideology in the Education field. Thankfully, most administrators deal in reality, have salaries, and can get fired, whereas your average college student just has a lot of ill-conceived ideas ;-)

  20. Yeah, Sure by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Just like regular bullying, it will be a hard thing to pin down bullies as they will use fake on-line identities, do triangulation, etc. to keep themselves away from guilt.

    But I've got a novel idea, crack down on the kids real education and give them too much to do to have the opportunity for bullying.. Wait that doesn't work for the War on Fair Use ^h^h^h^h er... I mean the Importance of Copyrights, worrying about what color clothes they wear, and other far more pressing school matters.

  21. new form of an old problem by butterflysrage · · Score: 1, Insightful

    I was bullied almost from my first day of kindergarten clean through until my last day of high school. It ranged from simple verbal abuse, to threats, violence, theft and on more then one occasion I was at risk of sexual assault. The teachers were told of course (even the near sexual assault) but, nothing was done. Despite naming the offenders the teachers told me their "hands were tied" as they had not personally witnessed anything wrong. I can tell you there is precious little in this world as heartbreaking and infuriating as finding out just what someone can get away with simply because there was no documentation.

    I welcome ANY measure that will allow victims to document their attacks and get worms like those what they deserve. Cyber-bullying is simply a new evolution to an old problem, maybe, just MAYBE if this facet of bullying is addressed then it may help draw light to how horribly badly "old fashioned" bullying has been handled.

    --
    the preceding post was not spell checked... suck it.
    1. Re:new form of an old problem by PlusFiveTroll · · Score: 1

      Yea, too bad you never executed your right as a citizen (at least in the U.S.) and contacted law enforcement or a lawyer. We have a legal system to deal with this crap... the school is there to educate, not investigate.

    2. Re:new form of an old problem by butterflysrage · · Score: 1

      with what evidence? there was no video in the washrooms, and it was just my word against 5 others.

      --
      the preceding post was not spell checked... suck it.
  22. Another well disguised troll?? by Critical+Facilities · · Score: 2, Funny

    Examples cited include threats, intimidation, harassment or "cyber-stalking", unauthorised publication of private information or images, impersonation and so-called "happy slapping". Mr Balls also called for action against anti-gay bullying -calling for schools to promote a "culture of respect" and saying that "homophobic insults should be viewed as seriously as racism"

    I dunno about an article that quotes a "Mr Balls" about "happy slapping".
  23. Can't come soon enough by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Insightful

    My sister (at school then in the UK) had a bunch of kids create a Bebo account for her, post a bunch of comments about other people at her school and totally ruined her social life. Emails, phone calls and a vist to their office in Ca by a family member later Bebo had singularly REFUSED to do anything about the issue.

    I myself was bullied extensively when I started in High School - and while perhaps I shrug off comments made by others perfectly willingly these days it was by no means the "toughening up" experience that most of the comments on here seem to view it as. It wasn't an experience I would wish on anyone and I certainly would rather it hadn't happened to me. Making comments along the lines of "its a normal part of growing up" are simply ignoring the issues rather than confronting them.

    1. Re:Can't come soon enough by pclminion · · Score: 1

      My sister (at school then in the UK) had a bunch of kids create a Bebo account for her, post a bunch of comments about other people at her school and totally ruined her social life. Emails, phone calls and a vist to their office in Ca by a family member later Bebo had singularly REFUSED to do anything about the issue.

      So a bunch of her so-called "friends" shunned her because of anonymous, unfounded, unverifiable comments on some web page somewhere? Sounds like she didn't lose much.

      "Please oh please, Bebo, take these comments down and replace them with a retraction. I want all my old asshole friends back, you know, the ones who DITCHED me based on nothing more than some bits on the Intar-Web."

      I think she's probably better off.

    2. Re:Can't come soon enough by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Ignoring the fact that she is a ton better off - and we moved her. The whole culture at the school she was at was terrible, this was just the straw that broke the camels back.

      You clearly don't have that much experience with teenage girls though.

    3. Re:Can't come soon enough by Boogaroo · · Score: 1

      You must be new here. Nobody here has experience with girls. :)

  24. My take on disciplinary reactions by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Informative

    There's two primary issues that I feel the educational system isn't dealing with very well:

    1. Disciplinary reactions that are felt appropriate in many cases and according to child-friendly literature (at least many places in Europe) simply completely fails to faze a number of extreme bullies. Especially people used to a gang culture or violence in their daily lives. If someone headbutts the teacher (happened in my country) - what can you do about it? Send them to a social worker? What if they simply enjoy being abusive, and enjoy dominating others and causing pain to those that bore and seek to constrain them? What if they regularly bring knives to school? Traditional remedies like 'lowering their behaviour grade' are completely unsuited.

    2. There are pupils who, in the extreme case of situation 1, are simply excessively violent and disturbing to other pupils. It is both hysterically funny and tragically sad (and wonderfully weird) that if any of us had someone at our workplace that we knew could at any moment grab a stapler and hurl it against our head, or punch us, it would reach the news, yet things like this would hardly get noticed in school "because it's just children" and they are somehow supposed to be violent. At one European school it was rather common for gangs of boys to print out pictures of women's genitalia and shove them in the faces of girls. I would rather say that someone who actively fears physical harm from several people at their school, beyond just a general sense of paranoia (reputation of the 'bad bully') but have actually several times seen people get kicked in the face and threatened, and feel a deep panic and fear at the very sight of other pupils, will get permanently scarred, that their daily lives should be compared to a torture chamber (how would you consider it if your workplace had knife carriers in it?), and that it's going to both hurt their confidence and trust in right and good to prevail and lead to behavioural problems later in their life.

    How to fix this? Generally two approaches;

    - Because children have different levels of sensitivity, use disciplinary measures that are likely to be felt quite strongly by that individual student. This places a lot of trust in teachers - but in e.g. the case of bullying, a teacher should literally have a long chat with and interview whoever does it, and if they persist, punish them in a way that feels negatively for the individual. I would estimate that in 95% of cases the 'punishment' for someone breaking a rule only needs to be (and even SHOULD be) as light as a feather (e.g. apologise to the principal, a person of authority, or help clean up the cantina after school), because for most children even such a symbolic act is felt very strongly.

    - For children that display violent behaviour that would be considered torture if adults were subject to it, use a progressive system of separate classes or schools. As a last-instance resort, send them to a medium-disciplinary school that take into account that many of its student will be rather "expressive". If they even in this school are violent towards other students, send them to a high-disciplinary school that has guards in the classroom. It is utterly and completely unacceptable that children should have a real fear for their physical safety just because a small number of violent 'problem' children should be included together with them while they work their mental issues out. Anything that would be a breach of human rights if it was done to an adult should similarly be so for children.

    This is written after seeing plenty of examples of students attacking teachers, bringing guns to schools, bringing knives, throwing chairs in the classrooms, forming gangs that demand "submission" and tribute from other students, habitually pin down and grope female students (no, not in the 'playful slap' way but in the 'hold while others touch' way) etc.

    1. Re:My take on disciplinary reactions by stewbacca · · Score: 1
      I worked in an American school in England for two years. I lost track of how many students transferred to our school from UK schools, parents citing "lack of discipline" on behalf of the UK system. Now, given the huge bullying problem in their schools, and the relative lack of bullying in the American schools in Europe, I would think there is some sort of correlation between administrators actually doing something about the problem and the amount of bullying that goes on. With that said, however, England has a culture of bullying that is far more prevalent in daily life than that of America, so school administrators have a much larger task at hand. I had never even heard the term "bullying" before I moved there, but it was in the news everday. It is a bit unfair to hold the English schools accountable for society's larger ills.

      Don't take this as a flame, but my wife and I 'theorize' the problem in the UK stems from a culture of loitering. Let me explain, because I know it sounds inflammatory. In Harrogate, where we lived, most kids come from very posh families (that's "rich" for my American friends) yet they dress and act like homeless people. This is cool. This is what they do. Given there is hardly anything for young people to do in Harrogate, and especially young people with money who have no concept of being productive so as to have money, they just hang around the public squares, doing, well, nothing. Eventually this nothing turns into boredom, which turns into no good. People are beat up, harrassed, bullied, etc. because the poor spoiled rich kid who doesn't actually have to do anything to pay for his cider and smokes doesn't understand the concept of accomplishment and reward. Instead, he gets handed some cash by posh mum, and he runs off and gets drunk off cider and then loiters around downtown. Not that it is much different in the US, but bored kids seem to have more avenues than just hanging around outside McDonalds in downtown Harrogate harrassing all the by-passers for fun.

  25. Simple Simon by DogDude · · Score: 0

    Here it is, Simon. You're a dork. That's obvious from your first paragraph. Kids pick on dorks. That's the way it always has been, and that's the way it always will be. Are you so utterly disconnected from reality that you're suggesting criminal courts and jail time for bullying? Jesus, kid, didn't you learn anything? You just said that the only thing to work was to punch the kid in the nose. People have understood that forever. Want somebody to stop bullying you? Kick 'em in the nuts. Be done with it. I see why you were picked on. Anybody who says that bullies should be thrown into jail is just asking for, well, one hell of a wedgie.

    --
    I don't respond to AC's.
    1. Re:Simple Simon by PunkOfLinux · · Score: 1

      Fortunately, there are people in the world who have realized that we shouldn't need brute force anymore - we evolved past that loooong ago. The only reason such a thing still happens in this world is because people let it happen. The people who don't stand up for themselves don't want to, for a variety of reasons, start a fistfight. They'd rather the people in charge, whose JOBS are to keep ORDER, do something about it. It's perfectly reasonable to expect authorities to do their damned jobs.

    2. Re:Simple Simon by DogDude · · Score: 1

      That's completely unrealistic. You can pretend that most of the world is enlightened and physical violence is unnecessary, but you've got your head in the sand. Kids are cruel to each other, and a lot of them are little bastards that only understand a sock in the nose. Society can be a bitch, but part of it is standing up for yourself against those kinds of people. I've never heard of bullying stopped by any kind of authority figure. Kids who are bullied have a few choices: run to the authorities, which may help them in the short run, but ultimately makes their lives tougher in the long term, or fight back. I'm not saying it's nice, but that's the way it is. But then again, kids don't really understand that the world doesn't revolve around them, so they might think that they can change society for the better by, oh, I dunno, switching schools like this kid did. Even he said that the only thing that worked was a broken nose. Most people on this planet aren't much smarter than your average house pet. Reasoning doesn't work with most people.

      --
      I don't respond to AC's.
    3. Re:Simple Simon by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Anybody who says that bullies should be thrown into jail is just asking for, well, one hell of a wedgie.

      Which ends up with him being sent to gaol as well, after all that punch on the nose sure sounds like 'assault occasioning actual bodily harm.'

    4. Re:Simple Simon by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You may not want to believe it, but violence actually can solve problems. It certainly has worked for me.

    5. Re:Simple Simon by Das+Modell · · Score: 1

      Why shouldn't bullying be a criminal offense? You may as well argue that assaulting someone shouldn't be a criminal offense because the intended victim can just use force to defend himself. Ridiculous.

  26. Life isn't new by pembo13 · · Score: 1

    People make it seem like life and all these problems suddenly sprung into action. People grew up and dealt with these problem before. They should be able to do so still.. or are people devolving?

    --
    "Thanks for all the money you paid to us. We've used it to buy off ISO among other things" -Microsoft
    1. Re:Life isn't new by Foolicious · · Score: 1

      or are people devolving? This is an interesting word choice. I like it a lot because the general consensus is that we're constantly advancing -- but maybe we're not. Perhaps there are/were very effective methods that we used to employ to deal with these type of ageless social problems, but they've (recently?) been deemed inappropriate, so we're left with less effective methods. Because these methods appear to be more civil or socially acceptable, this is regarded by the general public as a positive and a sign of advanced society, so we're unable to figure out why the problems seem to get worse -- a sort of corporate cognitive dissonance when the answer is right in front of our noses. Our own misguided social piety could be screwing us over.
      --
      Please don't use "umm" or "err" or "erm".
    2. Re:Life isn't new by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Or is it just getting worse? In the past, did everyone you know get instant access to what the bullies said over the 'net? Did children bring knives and guns to school in the past (in the UK)?

      There needs to be a solution to the problem, not a reaction to the effects.

  27. hmm by evwah · · Score: 1

    "Should kids be brought up knowing that their life on the web is being documented and controlled by people other than their parents"

    or even their parents?

  28. Government censorship by gsfprez · · Score: 1

    all the government wants to do is to tell you what you can say and what you can do. They'll use any tactic to stop you from thinking yourself, and any questioning of the current administration will get you put into some kind of trouble.

    Fscking George Bush.. leave us alone!

    --
    guns kill people like spoons make Rosie O'Donnell fat.
    1. Re:Government censorship by SIIHP · · Score: 1

      "The BBC is running a story on UK schools..."

      Look up what "UK" means so you'll know why your post was ridiculous.

      --
      I only go to buffets for the unlimited soft serve.
  29. The answer is simple... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    ...get some mates together and DDoS the bastards!!!

    1. Re:The answer is simple... by Gordonjcp · · Score: 1

      I knew someone who was bullied at school. Eventually one day he snapped, and went round to the house the "ringleader" stayed in, and burnt it down. Killed one of the other kid's parents too. Nothing ever happened about it, though I think the guy who was getting bullied spent most of that summer in a mental hospital.

  30. even more iBullying from iApple :( by Adult+film+producer · · Score: 1
  31. Youtube moment by JonTurner · · Score: 1

    I finally made it to High School and then I decided this time, it wasn't going to happen again. Some kid tried it on and I opted to belt him one in the nose. His nose was thoroughly broken and he was out of school for a week.

    Yeah! Now THAT'S what I call a "Youtube moment!" Post the torrent when you get a chance...

    (yes, I'm kidding.)
  32. Semantics by Sparr0 · · Score: 3, Insightful

    I have a problem with the modern vernacular using a single word, "bullying", to encompass everything from name calling to practical jokes to mild or even violent physical abuse. Doing so robs descriptions of the latter of the weight they deserve.

    1. Re:Semantics by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0
      I had the same thought about the phrase "anti-social behavior" which is so often used in the UK and I can't help but think that these labels are intentional...

      I have a problem with the modern vernacular using a single word, "bullying", to encompass everything from name calling to practical jokes to mild or even violent physical abuse. Doing so robs descriptions of the latter of the weight they deserve.
  33. educate, educate, educate by wikinerd · · Score: 1

    If children were well-educated, they wouldn't engage in cyberbullying, and they would put social networking sites into good use. Their current use of such wonderful tools as social networking clearly shows that their mental state is many orders of magnitude below the threshold required to characterise a living being as an animal, yet alone a human. This is the result of a combination of poor parentage and a broken bankrupt society. If they had good parents *and* were living in a healthy caring society, they wouldn't be like that. Children are the image of their parents and the society they were born in. The schooling systems only make the problem worse. Schools are supposed to educate, but in fact they fail to do so, and they don't help the socialisation of youth either. What we need is an active endeavour run by citizen volunteers (eg an NGO) to educate not only the youth but also their parents and other adults. Approaches such as homeschooling must be promoted more, as well. Education must be perceived as something that makes you wealthier in spirit, not something that enables you to get a job.

    1. Re:educate, educate, educate by stewbacca · · Score: 1

      I would like to turn on the time machine and take you back to 1970s American public elementary schools, just to show you that nothing is different about how many bullies are in schools and why they are bullies in the first place. The only difference is now they have cell phones and the Internet.

  34. Cyber-Bullying is absolute bollocks. by i-pwn-boys · · Score: 1

    I, being fourteen, and a fem-geek, would know, and i think its a bunch of crap, because bloacking facebook, and 'bebo' and other social networking sites is doing nothing to stop this "cyber-bullying" which happens, not only fairly rarely, but not to any large degrees. I think its stupid that the government should be focusing on this instead of focusing on the NHS or something far more important. just because they make a big deal about it doesn't mean its going to change.

    1. Re:Cyber-Bullying is absolute bollocks. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Get back to school, son.

      Oh, and learn English while you are at it.

    2. Re:Cyber-Bullying is absolute bollocks. by micpp · · Score: 1

      Son? I suggest you read grandparent a bit more closely.

  35. Couple more things they need to watch out for by Joe+Tie. · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Schools have been told to confiscate mobile phones, and, more controversially, to investigate and get material removed from personal social-networking sites.

    I've also heard there's this new fangled thing called paper that can be used to send nasty comments to people anonymously! Poo has also been known to be used in this manner, while sitting on a doorstep. So just remove paper, pens, hands, poo, and doors from the environment and our children can finally be safe!

    As much as I applaud any attempt to improve the quality of a child's education, attacking the tools they use for bulling isn't going to do anything to the root causes of it. However, sending the kids to an island and having them fight to the death for our amusement....that could work.

    --
    Everything will be taken away from you.
  36. Compulsory schools are the ultimate bullies by Paul+Fernhout · · Score: 0, Troll

    Almost all these replies miss the deeper point. School itself models bullying -- an authority figure up front all the time who can do almost anything they please they please with your time and attention -- including inflicting the torture of years of boredom.

    From:
    http://www.johntaylorgatto.com/underground/prologue.htm
    """
    Our problem in understanding forced schooling stems from an inconvenient fact: that the wrong it does from a human perspective is right from a systems perspective. You can see this in the case of six-year-old Bianca, who came to my attention because an assistant principal screamed at her in front of an assembly, "BIANCA, YOU ANIMAL, SHUT UP!" Like the wail of a banshee, this sang the school doom of Bianca. Even though her body continued to shuffle around, the voodoo had poisoned her.

    Do I make too much of this simple act of putting a little girl in her place? It must happen thousands of times every day in schools all over. I've seen it many times, and if I were painfully honest I'd admit to doing it many times. Schools are supposed to teach kids their place. That's why we have age-graded classes. In any case, it wasn't your own little Janey or mine.

    Most of us tacitly accept the pragmatic terms of public school which allow every kind of psychic violence to be inflicted on Bianca in order to fulfill the prime directive of the system: putting children in their place. It's called "social efficiency." But I get this precognition, this flash-forward to a moment far in the future when your little girl Jane, having left her comfortable home, wakes up to a world where Bianca is her enraged meter maid, or the passport clerk Jane counts on for her emergency ticket out of the country, or the strange lady who lives next door.

    I picture this animal Bianca grown large and mean, the same Bianca who didn't go to school for a month after her little friends took to whispering, "Bianca is an animal, Bianca is an animal," while Bianca, only seconds earlier a human being like themselves, sat choking back tears, struggling her way through a reading selection by guessing what the words meant.

    In my dream I see Bianca as a fiend manufactured by schooling who now regards Janey as a vehicle for vengeance. In a transport of passion she:

    1. Gives Jane's car a ticket before the meter runs out.
    2. Throws away Jane's passport application after Jane leaves the office.
    3. Plays heavy metal music through the thin partition which separates Bianca's apartment from Jane's while Jane pounds frantically on the wall for relief.
    4. All the above.

    You aren't compelled to loan your car to anyone who wants it, but you are compelled to surrender your school-age child to strangers who process children for a livelihood, even though one in every nine schoolchildren is terrified of physical harm happening to them in school, terrified with good cause; about thirty-three are murdered there every year. From 1992 through 1999, 262 children were murdered in school in the United States. Your great-great-grandmother didn't have to surrender her children. What happened?

    If I demanded you give up your television to an anonymous, itinerant repairman who needed work you'd think I was crazy; if I came with a policeman who forced you to pay that repairman even after he broke your set, you would be outraged. Why are you so docile when you give up your child to a government agent called a schoolteacher?

    I want to open up concealed aspects of modern schooling such as the deterioration it forces in the morality of parenting. You have no say at all in choosing your teachers. You know nothing about their backgrounds or families. And the state knows little more than you do. This is as radical a piece of social engineering as the human imagination can conceive. What does it mean?

    One thing you do know is how unlik

    --
    A 21st century issue: the irony of technologies of abundance in the hands of those still thinking in terms of scarcity.
  37. Remember: This is the UK, not the US. by Ungrounded+Lightning · · Score: 3, Interesting

    ... is this is yet another example of governmental intervention where it is not due?

    When considering government interference with free speech and balancing this with libel and other criminal written speech, please remember that the schools and government in question are in the UK.

    The UK government does NOT have a constitutional guarantee of a right to free speech and freedom of the press. Its libel laws are quite different from those of the US as well. (It's one of the major differences between the legal systems of the two - in the US truth is an absolute defense aganst claims of defamation, and "public figures" have an extra burden of proving deliberate malace when bringing a charge.)

    Now the question was about whether such intervention was PROPER. IMHO that doesn't vary as you cross The Pond - though others may disagree. But what's LEGAL, what's standard governmental practice, and the theoretical underpinnings behind decisions and reasoning about them DO differ drastically. So what the courts will let the government get away with, and how to go about getting them to force the government to back off, will also differ greatly.

    --
    Bantam Dominique roosters crow a four-note song. Once you've heard it as "Happy BIRTHday" you can't NOT hear it that way
  38. Or perhaps... by GoddessOfDeath · · Score: 1

    People make it seem like life and all these problems suddenly sprung into action. People grew up and dealt with these problem before. They should be able to do so still.. or are people devolving?



    Or perhaps they could be evolving? Just because people managed well enough in the past does not mean that it was better then, or that there is nothing that needs fixing. This is similar to saying "I didn't need computers when I grew up - why should people need them now? Are we devolving?".



    I personally think that the schools need to do something. However, I agree with the education side of the argument, rather than the punishment - try to teach the bullies a little humanity.

  39. You answer your own question... by starX · · Score: 1

    Should kids be brought up knowing that their life on the web is being documented and controlled by people other than their parents?"

    Yes, obviously, because it is.

  40. Are Brits becoming wimps??? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    The more I read about how the Brits are wimping out the sadder I get for them.

    In the old days people used to call each other out and settle it.

    Lucky for me I had Irish and Scottish friends that taught me how to fight. Damn I miss the good old days ;-)

    1. Re:Are Brits becoming wimps??? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      As the saying goes "don't send a brit to do the job of an Irishman". I guess a Scotsman might do if an Irishman is no where to be found. :-)

    2. Re:Are Brits becoming wimps??? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      What's the difference between a Scotsman and an Irishman?

      A Scotsman is usually either drinking or fighting, but an Irishman is usually doing both at the same time.

      {Note: I'm part Irish and part Scottish so I get to make fun of both ;-)}

  41. Why not start with physical bullying? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    You know, the thing that after ten or so years of experiencing, you start contemplating suicide on a daily basis.

  42. Shit, Piss, Fuck, Cunt, Cocksucker, Motherfucker, by samwh · · Score: 1

    and Tits :) Arrest me.

  43. I'm sorry, what? by SIIHP · · Score: 1

    "This is the result of a combination of poor parentage"

    So you think it's genetic?

    --
    I only go to buffets for the unlimited soft serve.
  44. Spare me by SIIHP · · Score: 1

    "I don't expect every parent to understand that, but I think it's reasonable for teachers to be aware of the rules of the game and step in as defenders of kids they see getting attacked online."

    As a former teacher, let me say, you are out of your fucking mind.

    The practical realities of enforcing discipline from incomplete information gathered from off campus and online sources are horrifying.

    "They're teaching kids that online behavior has consequences, some of them unpleasant, just like the real world."

    Laws exist to do that already. Why do you think the people who ignore them now will give two fucks about consequences from a a school?

    Lastly

    "In practice, it takes an informed victim to exercise that legal protection."

    That's just bullshit, plain and simple. All it requires is a victim willing to seek out help.

    --
    I only go to buffets for the unlimited soft serve.
    1. Re:Spare me by joe+155 · · Score: 1

      ""In practice, it takes an informed victim to exercise that legal protection."

      That's just bullshit, plain and simple. All it requires is a victim willing to seek out help."

      I think those two positions are pretty close to each other, why would someone not be willing to seek help? maybe because they think that they have no rights where this is concerned. Although, to be fair, you pretty much don't. I've had a few people set up a website about me saying untrue things about me (which earnt me at least one death threat). I didn't complain because what could I do? Now I know I could have sent a DMCA take-down request to the American hosts and watched as they pulled the whole site (there was almost certainly enough for me to claim copyright over to make that claim legitimate, even if it was just asserting that I own the copyright to my image (which may or may not actually be true, but would be good enough to get a site pulled easily, especially where the people accused have no way to fight back without further incriminating themselves)).

      So really, it take both willingness and knowledge.

      --
      *''I can't believe it's not a hyperlink.''
  45. Not everyone has a tinfoil hat, you insensitive cl by ColdWetDog · · Score: 1
    od

    For those of you folks so ill equipped, I suggest just taking one of the red wires from your computer's power supply and one black one, plug that puppy in and stick the leads on your tongue.

    (May void warranty, especially if it's an Apple product. Not suitable for persons under 18 years of age. YMMV.)

    --
    Faster! Faster! Faster would be better!
  46. Well... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    > They're filling your inbox with spam.

    Filter -> trash.

    > They're spamming your blog.

    Ban their IP, disable comments, get rid of the worthless blog.

    > They're making up websites with your picture and filling it with false "confessions."

    File an abuse report with the ISP.

    > They're making up IM accounts and messaging your friends with the same "confessions."

    If they're your friends, they ought to know that isn't really you (and they can block them).

    Mostly, I made it through HS by not caring what anyone thought of me.

  47. Experience in UK - my child in US by Darth_Keryx · · Score: 5, Insightful
    Having lived for 5 years in the UK I saw first hand (and to a degree experienced) bullying. I do not know if Americans realize how serious a problem it is in the UK. The kind of cruelty and abuse one reads/sees in "Harry Potter" might seem foreign and unlikely, but let me tell you that is nothing, just a sample, of what "bullying" can mean in British schools. Serious physical and long term psychological damage. There have been known cases of suicide - the only way some poor kid could escape the daily abuse. For the record my experience was mild compared to some. And yes once I started threatening bullies with "I'm taking karate, you can hurt me today, I'll get you next month" it got better. Frightening but true.

    My first point is simply that I am glad British school might be doing something about bullying. Although we can debate whether the solution is entirely legal or appropriate. But the problem is very real.

    Now to cyberbullying...

    My daughter was the very first victim of cyberbullying at her rather elite private school here in Baton Rouge, Louisiana. (Yes a personal detail.) Pretty bad, although could have been worse. Her teachers cared and tried to take action against the students involved. The administration did squat and hung us out to dry. She handled it well, but over the course of that year (because her parents took it very seriously) she was ostracized, and quickly students and administrators alike got into a "blame the victim" pattern. Her grades plummeted. Often talked about killing herself, yadda yadda yadda. Friendships (such as between us and other parents) ended over this because they would not hold their children accountable. (In a new school now, thriving, grades shot up to A's and 100's. Go figure.)

    Again - my point is simply "cyberbullying is also a serious and real problem that causes real observable damage".

    Whether such policies are legal, enforceable, and so on - that is quite debatable. The website provider (a kind of Facebook for kids) actually took the site down when we complained (we think). Good for them. Violation of policy. The school took the "well, not our network/computers, therefore we can't do anything" line. (Photos of my child were clearly taken at school. Uh...) Technically might be correct. I don't know. My final point is, "Even if schools cannot legally police and enforce every last dang website or IM or whatever... *something* needs to be done by *someone*". The problem is bloody real and so is the damage this kind of filth.

    I appreciate and sympathize with concerns about privacy and excessive government intrusion and all that. I really do. But what then shall we do? Unless we want to deny the seriousness of this problem?

    1. Re:Experience in UK - my child in US by nomadic · · Score: 1

      But what then shall we do? Unless we want to deny the seriousness of this problem?

      Sue? I know the kneejerk reaction on slashdot is lawsuits are always bad, but if the bullying reaches a severe enough status, and the school unreasonably refuses to try and fix it, there are a bunch of federal and state claims open to the bullied kids and their parents.

  48. *sigh* by xyph0r · · Score: 1

    When will you people learn? The internet is serious business!

    --
    SQL programmer goes to a bar. Walks up to two tables and says 'Excuse me, may I join you?'.
  49. I find your view a bit extreme by biscon · · Score: 1

    The way to deal with bulling in schools is in my view is very simple. The punishment should be swift, harsh and feared. They should be charged with assault or harassment in a full criminal court and ordered to do a suitable amount of community service. Failure to comply should immediately mean jail-time which should be served in school holidays.
    I understand how you came to that view being a victim yourself. But still we are talking about children and teenagers, I don't see court cases and jail punishment as a viable option.
    Besides do you really want legal resources such as judges etc allocated to a case of some kid giving another kid a wedgie?.
    We obviously need them for much more important issues, such as teenage girls downloading Justin Timberlake songs with Limewire.
  50. Not a troll, unfortunately... by Pembers · · Score: 1

    I live in the UK, and our minister in charge of education really is called Mr Balls. I have to remind myself not to snigger every time I hear about him.

    "Happy slapping" is the act of assaulting someone while one of your friends films it, usually on a camera phone, the aim being to send the recording to all your other friends to prove how tough you are (or something like that)...

  51. Should kids... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    ... "Be brought up knowing that their life on the web is being documented and controlled by people other than their parents?"

    Yes, of course. This is the UK, after all. The Panopticon Paradise. The sooner they get used to it, the better.

  52. "life on the web" is controlled anyway by dfsteen · · Score: 1

    The fact is that "life on the web" is controlled and monitored anyway by various government organizations. And while we all may not like that the current trend is toward more control not less. I don't think this is any different than a school punishing a child for any other activity done outside of school time (of which there have been a few instances lately). The only arguable difference is that this could be said to affect the kids in schools as well via mobile devices.

  53. I support this wholeheartedly. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    eBullying leads to eFisticuffs. eViolence should not be allowed to to spread across our Internets. Think of the child processes!

  54. Who took my e-lunch money? by deftones_325 · · Score: 0

    NOW AVAILABLE ... The new iBully. It has a built in camera and wi-fi. At a moments notice, if you are by a hot-spot, you can snap somebodies picture, and it will instantly photoshop the head of the person onto a picture of some sweaty, gay sex picture and upload it directly to thier myspace.

    --
    "A gentleman never strikes a lady with his hat on." - Fred Allen
  55. technological solution by fluffywuffy · · Score: 1

    Force camera manufacturers to watermark their videos with a personal camera identifier.

    So those yobs with their latest "triumphs" can then be identified and punished.

    Of course such a solution leads to privacy problems
    eg. filming of an atrocity in a dictorial regime.

    Anononymity can hide the bad as well as the good

    1. Re:technological solution by Thomas+Shaddack · · Score: 1
      Hush. Don't give them ideas. One gets reminded of Romanian state police keeping records of "fingerprints" of individual typewriters during the Ceaucescu reign.

      The individual sensitivity tolerances of the CMOS sensor pixels can be used as a kind of a watermark. They are luckily not being recorded and paired with the identity of the camera owner. Yet.

      Such solution would also effectively disallow open-firmware cameras (and open-firmware cellphones with such cameras), turning them into instruments of crime because of intentionally allowing the users to take illegal unregistered photographs.

  56. Even more powerful than punishment... by RingDev · · Score: 1

    There is a much more powerful tool than discipline, especially in high school.

    Social Acceptance. And that can be a knife and a shield. Kids who are socially accepted, even in difference social circles are significantly less likely to be bullied. And if we can teach our children that bullying is not socially acceptable, the bullies themselves will face losing their social acceptance.

    Which do you think is more terrifying to your average teenage; losing their phone, or not having anyone to call?

    -Rick

    --
    "Most people in the U.S. wouldn't know they live in a tyrannical state if it walked up and grabbed their junk." - MyFirs
    1. Re:Even more powerful than punishment... by LordSnooty · · Score: 1

      Kids who are socially accepted, even in difference social circles are significantly less likely to be bullied
      Yeah, that does makes sense... since those kids who were bullied were those who weren't socially accepted... hence GGP's point that the bullying continued when he changed school. It was olny when he punched someone on the nose that he became socially accepted, and the bullying stopped.
    2. Re:Even more powerful than punishment... by Ash-Fox · · Score: 1

      And if we can teach our children that bullying is not socially acceptable, the bullies themselves will face losing their social acceptance.
      I have seen bullies before, they're not really part of a social group, their friends are usually other bullies and that's about it. So, your plan is technically already in effect here.

      Which do you think is more terrifying to your average teenage; losing their phone, or not having anyone to call?
      Not having anyone to talk to?

      When I was a teenager: Losing the phone, since I didn't particularly enjoy the company of others in my class anyway. Phone gave me access to people who were not there (although I rarely used it because of how expensive it was).

      FYI: I was not a bully.
      --
      Change is certain; progress is not obligatory.
    3. Re:Even more powerful than punishment... by PlusFiveTroll · · Score: 1

      Err, ya, this occurs in the imaginary world you live in. In the real world the socio-economically challenged bullies form their own groups, we typically call them gangs ;).

    4. Re:Even more powerful than punishment... by RingDev · · Score: 1

      Which is kinda the point. Humans are social beasts, they will do what ever it takes to remain in a social circle. And just a heads up, bullies aren't the most likely people to join gangs. The abused are. A gang gives a sense of belonging, safety, security, and comradery. And gangs, in and of themselves are not bad things. The abused, likely having less self esteem and confidence will bow to more dominant personalities and will suspend their moral qualities if they get in the way of that social acceptance.

      When I was a kid, I got my ass kicked regularly. And much like the GP I finally had enough one day, freshman year of high school. One little tussle and a bloody lip later, and most of the bullies laid off. But, unlike the GP, I wasn't content will achieving only my own minor victory, I wanted more. So when I saw a friend get shoulder checked in the hall, I shoulder checked the bully right back. Not only did that make bullies not want to pick on me, but it made them not want to pick on my friend. Slowly, over a few more incidents, and friends, we began seeing something. We were becoming popular. Not with the jocks, or preps, and any of that 'in' crowd. But the goths, the brain children, the weak, the handicap, the gays/lesbians, etc... By the time I was a senior, bullying was not nearly the problem it was when I was a frosh for any student. Not because of what I had done, but because of how we had created a socially accepting group for those kids who had previously been left to rot in a social wasteland. What had started out as 4 kids who had been abused by bullies since the 2nd grade, turned into a social group of over a hundred students.

      Unfortunately, my close friends and I failed to realize a lot of this at the time, and we did not do enough to inspire leadership and unity in the lower class men. So years later, talking to my friends that graduated after me, I heard horror stories about how the bullying, abuse, and harassment had come back as soon as we had graduated.

      I could go on for pages retelling of specific situations that occurred, looking back at them now and seeing the social and psychological importance of them all. But it wouldn't really contribute to the point. The point being: Bullying is a social issue, punishing individuals may stem the tide, but it will not prevent the flood. Teaching our kids that bullying is wrong, that it is OK to stand up for themselves, and that protecting those that are weaker are virtuous moral qualities. I'd rather teach my son what is right than have the state/school teach him what is wrong.

      -Rick

      --
      "Most people in the U.S. wouldn't know they live in a tyrannical state if it walked up and grabbed their junk." - MyFirs
    5. Re:Even more powerful than punishment... by RingDev · · Score: 1

      I have seen bullies before, they're not really part of a social group, their friends are usually other bullies and that's about it. So, your plan is technically already in effect here. I have seen bullies before as well. I have had my ass kicked by them a number of times. And of all the bullies I knew, only 1 was not a member of some form of social circle, but he had some other issues well beyond the scope of bullying and was incarcerated before completing high school. I have also seen my plan work, I lived it. My only regrets are that I didn't follow that plan earlier in my life and that I didn't do more to teach that plan to my underclassmen friends before I left high school.

      When I was a teenager: Losing the phone, since I didn't particularly enjoy the company of others in my class anyway. Phone gave me access to people who were not there (although I rarely used it because of how expensive it was). You have my sympathy. And had you been a student at my school at the same time as me, you likely would have had protection as well.

      -Rick
      --
      "Most people in the U.S. wouldn't know they live in a tyrannical state if it walked up and grabbed their junk." - MyFirs
    6. Re:Even more powerful than punishment... by RingDev · · Score: 1

      Yeah, that does makes sense... since those kids who were bullied were those who weren't socially accepted... And how many kids are there in most US high schools that are bullied because they do not fit in? The new guy, the goths, the uber geeks, the brain kids, the fat, the gay and lesbian... All it takes is a few students with good moral character standing up for others, and the outcasts will flock to them. By uniting the week into a cohesive social group you can cut down on bullying in a few ways. First is that the targets are now more socially accepted, they will not stick out like a sore thumb (as much). Second is that since they are socially accepted, they will likely spend more time with other people. That means they are less likely to be alone, and an easy target, for bullying. And third, having a large social group to belong to means that the social group will work to protect itself and to continue its own existence. Which means that a bully would have to face reprisals not just from the intended target, but from any member of the group.

      -Rick
      --
      "Most people in the U.S. wouldn't know they live in a tyrannical state if it walked up and grabbed their junk." - MyFirs
    7. Re:Even more powerful than punishment... by Tim+C · · Score: 1

      It was olny when he punched someone on the nose that he became socially accepted

      You misspelt "feared".

  57. *cyber* bully? by nurb432 · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Kids that are effected from *virtual* bullies should get a grip. Its NOT REAL.

    Stop being a baby. Geesh.

    --
    ---- Booth was a patriot ----
    1. Re:*cyber* bully? by ChrisMP1 · · Score: 1

      No, of course it's not real. The computer makes random comments all by itself, with no real human to write them.

      --
      <sig>&nbsp;</sig>
    2. Re:*cyber* bully? by hcdejong · · Score: 1

      Why the hell is this modded insightful? Being called names/lied about online is just as real as being called names/lied about to your face/in public. There's nothing virtual about "cyberbullies", it's no more than the application of technology to a practice that's been around forever.
      It may be "just words", but let's face it, the "sticks and stones" argument never amounted to anything much, not when we were kids, and not among adults either (why do you think we have slander/libel laws?). Words DO have an effect.

    3. Re:*cyber* bully? by nurb432 · · Score: 1

      Even if you were right ( which you arent, they are just hollow words in a total vacuum ) have you ever heard of just closing the window, or ignoring the sender? ( fake ) Problem solved.

      Im sorry but anyone that is bugged by a virtual bully is a wuss and needs serious mental help and will never be able to function as a normal human in society..

      Now, if you want to talk about a person in your face screaming at you, sure, pure words can be effective against lesser people as its harder to walk away if they follow you screaming. ( I'm not discussing physical action, that is a totally different subject and that sort of bullying is real, and wrong. ).

      --
      ---- Booth was a patriot ----
    4. Re:*cyber* bully? by hcdejong · · Score: 1

      But that's not how verbal bullying works. Verbal bullying is most effective when done in front of a group: it damages the bullied person's reputation. No amount of walking away is going to solve that.

      Bullying does not have to include physical violence to be a real problem.

    5. Re:*cyber* bully? by nurb432 · · Score: 1

      If how other people think of you is a critical part of your life, i stick with my statement that you have serious emotional problems.

      --
      ---- Booth was a patriot ----
    6. Re:*cyber* bully? by Lars83 · · Score: 1

      If you don't interact with people in a social setting regularly, then you likely have serious emotional problems. Quit making stuff up. Not everyone sits in a cubicle all day, cursing society.

    7. Re:*cyber* bully? by nurb432 · · Score: 1

      Actualy, i agree with you. A lot of people dont sit in a little cubicle, and do get out in the real world, and don't really care what a handful of weirdoes think of them.

      So in effect you proved my point.

      --
      ---- Booth was a patriot ----
    8. Re:*cyber* bully? by tehcyder · · Score: 1

      Kids that are effected from *virtual* bullies should get a grip. Its NOT REAL.
      Wow, thanks for that, now fuck off back to your basement.
      --
      To have a right to do a thing is not at all the same as to be right in doing it
    9. Re:*cyber* bully? by nurb432 · · Score: 1

      Sounds to me like you are one of the insecure people I'm talking about.

      BOO! now, go shudder in your boots ya little wimp.

      --
      ---- Booth was a patriot ----
  58. Social Behavior by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Kids should be taught that some behavior is socially acceptable some is not. They learn this initially through simplistic rewards and punishments. Later, through intellectualizing.

    The internet is just a communications channel with public reach. Some things are acceptable in that forum, some are not.

    The slippery slope is *what* is socially acceptable behavior? Who's social conventions? Under what circumstances?

    Is it as simple as "intentionally causing a person mental, physical, and/or emotional pain"? People have different pain points.

    People learn a lot by pushing the boundaries. In fact, that's how you (1) verify where they are and (2) affect possibly needed change on the boundary.

    Some behavior is clearly anti-social and should be discouraged. Of course, *how* you do this is important. And governments are really bad at this. Even the one who's constitution starts with "We the people"

  59. Re:Not everyone has a tinfoil hat, you insensitive by davidsyes · · Score: 1

    Tantalus Penal Colony, anyone?

    Teacher: (turns dial up to full)
    Bully: (panting) My name IS!!!... Geyuh-hooo-hoo-hoo Simon... Van...Gelder.... HIYAM!!!... Geyuh-hooo-hoo-hoo... the resident.... booohhhleeee... Geyuh-hooo-hoo-hoo

    --
    Previously: "Linux... Toward the Sunrise..." Now: "Linux... Toward the-- No, now, part of Every Sunrise"
  60. The root problem by damburger · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Politicians are old. Tony Blair was considered to be a 'youthful' PM coming to power in his 40s. The technology that shapes our lives is young, and constantly evolving. I'm only 26, grew up nuts about computers, and already I feel as if I'm starting to slip behind the curve, its frightening to me so its probably terrifying to them.

    The country is run by technically illiterate near-pensioners who are slapping e- and cyber- prefixes on everything in a fit of desperation. The result is idiotic initiatives such as this, which aside from being a waste of time and money, present an opportunity for the more savvy political players lurking in the shadows to invade peoples privacy and crush their civil liberties.

    From a techie point of view, Gordon Brown might as well be Leonid Brezhnev. A relic of a past era making crappy decisions based on the principles of his own time, without regard for the reality of the present. Young people in the UK need to kick out the gerontocracy and start making informed technology policy.

    --
    If we can put a man on the moon, why can't we shoot people for Apollo-related non-sequiturs?
    1. Re:The root problem by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Another "young is cool, old is not" naive kid. Nobody elects an official who's still drinking his mama's milk, little boy. And when those people will be experienced enough to get into office, they'll want to take away your digital freedom like anybody else.

      The "young people" you're dreaming about is too busy playing WoW to do anything. And beside that, the young are only good at playing around and looking for trouble. The Net has not been build by teenagers, as much as you would like to believe, and neither have all those electronic toys you worship.

    2. Re:The root problem by damburger · · Score: 1

      As I mentioned above, I'm 26 and I am far from being a kid. Its not a matter of young being 'cool' its a matter of young people being the main users and the main workers in the IT industry. Drop the get-of-my-lawn attitude please.

      --
      If we can put a man on the moon, why can't we shoot people for Apollo-related non-sequiturs?
  61. Re:execute, execute, execute by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Execute them instead.

  62. Re:Well... by TheSkyIsPurple · · Score: 1

    >Mostly, I made it through HS by not caring what anyone thought of me.

    Why post AC?

  63. "Cyberbullying" by g0at · · Score: 1

    So kids are picking on robots in U.K. schools now, or something?

    -b

  64. Are you serious? by kiwioddBall · · Score: 1

    Should kids be brought up knowing that their life on the web is being documented and controlled by people other than their parents?

    Is this a serious question? Really?

    A serious question is 'How can we stop bullying?'. The above is just crap.

    Lots of love,
    Ex-bullied.

  65. Home schooling by phorm · · Score: 1

    Don't they allow home-schooling in the US?

    1. Re:Home schooling by Paul+Fernhout · · Score: 1

      Legally yes. On a practical basis, with dual income families bidding up the price of housing, cars, and services, it is hard for 95% of families in the US to get by on just one income for any length of time. Not impossible -- but the radical lifestyle shift is hard to make. That is why home schooling poses little direct threat to the compulsory schooling monopoly.

      --
      A 21st century issue: the irony of technologies of abundance in the hands of those still thinking in terms of scarcity.
  66. You lack an appreciation for how serious this is. by boggis · · Score: 1

    I'm a school teacher and my school (in Australia) has recently banned mobile phones for similar reasons to those cited in the article. The people who are making light of the problem saying 'it's only virtual, it's not real' or that the best solution to bullying is a punch in the face have no idea about the real situation on the ground in schools. The internet, mobile phone cameras, and social networking sites when added together add an altogether newly dangerous and damaging element to bullying. Students who haven't yet reached anyone's 'age of reason' are now capable of taking photographs and publishing them for the whole world to see along with defaming information and potentially misleading photomanipulation. There have been cases in Australia of filmed sexual assualts, there have been cases I know about of severe internet libel which makes it easy for bullying to transfer between schools in a local area. Better to be beaten up than to have that beating the most-watched video on youtube. Better to have someone steal your lunch money than to have lies about your sexual conduct sent to every school in your local area so that when the new kid's name gets googled you are prejudged. Schools have a responsibility to form a safe environment for everyone at them (this includes staff by the way who are also vulnerable to these kinds of reputation attacks). This means that staff can't be bullies in the way they deal with bullying. There has to be a firm line and it has to be understood by the whole school community. It has to apply to staff as well as students. Even with that firm line in place incidents are going to crop up relentlessly and have to be dealt with. Violence can never be endorsed as a solution - some of our worst bullies have been kids who think they were acting righteously against bullies. This is a complex and difficult issue and requires support from parents and a great deal of professionalism from teachers to change schools into safer places. Here in Australia we have managed to severely reduce the number of playground fights from even when I was at school 12 years ago. Homophobia still needs to be dealt with (everywhere I suspect) in a major way. This internet bullying is new and dangerous and I applaud the UK for doing what they can to stay ahead of it. This is serious and deserves to be treated as such.

    --
    - Just trying to survive until the nanobots make me immortal -
  67. zero tolerance by misanthrope101 · · Score: 1

    Many US schools have a "zero tolerance" policy to violence. If you punch someone even in self-defense, they call the police and you now have a criminal record. Unfortunately, this trigger point often isn't reached until after a long period of bullying, when the victim finally lashes out. The only conclusion I can reliably reach about schools, at least in the USA, is that the staff approve of bullying. Maybe they admire the bully for being strong, or contemn the victim for being weak. I don't know either way, but bullying is tolerated far too much for me to believe that they actually object to it.

  68. Then the dork comes back and by Travoltus · · Score: 1

    shoots up the school.

    The lesson we hear is the dork was imbalanced.

    The lesson that Darwin teaches is cause & effect. You keep fucking with someone and create a no holds barred environment, you get a no holds barred response.

    Kids shooting up schools is not good nor am I endorsing it, but then again neither am I endorsing the explosion that occurs when you smoke at a petrol station.

    --
    --- Grow a pair, liberals... stop letting the Republicans bully you!
  69. No need for big brother by HenrikE · · Score: 1

    Just make enabling technology. You can filter emails and ignore chatters, so why can't the bully victim filter the phone numbers of the bullies? You just need logging (for proof) and a filter. And it should be on the receiver's end; that way he, and not a middleman, can decide what to do with the information. Technology should be in the hands of the people that use it, not with some agency, Live Mail, or whatever.

  70. This isn't about the kids....... by Nim82 · · Score: 1

    It's funny, there's been a government report recently that accused parents/adults of sheltering their kids too much; not letting them outside, not letting them make mistakes (to learn from) and generally making them unable to function without a safety net. Now we hear the government is wanting to deal with cyber-bullying for us? Doesn't this fly in the face of the report?

    I was bullied at school both physically and mentally, was it un-pleasant - yes. But it toughened me up, looking back I can see why I was picked on. I was weak. Bullying (to an extent)is part of our development process. Psychologically weak individuals don't usually make it far in the real world. If some kid cries and panics when someone sends them an abusive email, calling them a 'cnut' (or whatever constitutes cyber-bullying), how the hell will they cope when they miss a deadline at work and the boss walks in demanding answers, are they going to run off and cry in a corner?

    Seems like we are not only dumbing down tomorrows generation, were turning them into cry babies reliant on big brother. Same way were no longer allowed to deal with trouble makers on our own - 20 years ago if someone threw a rock through your window, you could give them a hiding they wouldn't forget (and the police wouldn't bat an eyelid). Nowadays, you get done - they walk.

    This isn't about the 'well being of kids', it's all about turning us into a nation of pussies unable to think, or act for ourselves. But hey, Big brother will always be there for us - right?

  71. Re:Well... by stewbacca · · Score: 1

    Well, not caring about what idiots think of you could be the solution to this problem, for one?

  72. Documented by fozzmeister · · Score: 1

    OK if you are a cyber bully, your actions are automatically documented, which is not necessarily the case with traditional bullying. So enforcement should be easier, whether that should be by the school, or if it's out of hours, the police. Of course if its defamatory you can sue them too.

    BTW My mum is a school secretary and she says they always gets agro from parents about bullying that happens outside of school.

  73. in every school jurusdiction i ever went to by ClioCJS · · Score: 1

    getting in a fight resulted in getting an F for every class that grading period, for both people, even if you didn't start it. So no, that's not really a viable solution for most people.

    --
    -Clio
    Karma: Bad (mostly from not giving a fuck)
    Blog: http://clintjcl.wordpress.com
  74. Nice bit of leverage ... by Ihlosi · · Score: 1
    getting in a fight resulted in getting an F for every class that grading period, for both people, even if you didn't start it.

    ... for bullies (who don't care about their grades) against any student who does care about grades. Apparently, someone hasn't figured out yet that bullies are also experts in using "the system" against their victims.

  75. Sheltered children by justinlee37 · · Score: 1

    The BBC is running a story on UK schools being told by the education minister to fight cyberbullying

    What I don't get here is that "Cyberbullying" seems like the sort of thing that can't have too much of an effect on someone. I mean, if someone leaves you a "mean" comment on Myspace, you can just delete it and remove them from your friends list -- then all they can do is send you messages. Except, you can stop that too. There's a button for blocking all incoming messages from a user. It says "ignore user." "Cyberbullying" can be completely ended with a few clicks of a button; it's far less of an issue than "Physicalbullying," because in those situations the victim doesn't have a sense of control (and is sometimes in physical danger).

    Of course, if someone were harassing you online, or sending you threats, there would be a record of that and you could report it to the proper authorities -- if you chose to do so. That's how things work already -- I don't think it's the job of the proper authorities to investigate our private lives, in order to determine if there are any crimes occurring. I value my privacy, and I'm willing to take the responsibility of reporting crimes committed against me to keep it.

    Besides, deciding whether or not to report an abusive e-mail is exactly the sort of decision people are forced to make in their adult lives; depriving children or teenagers of the responsibility for making these sorts of decisions could give us adults who won't be able to handle getting a nasty e-mail from a co-worker. That would be bad.

    1. Re:Sheltered children by Ihlosi · · Score: 1
      What I don't get here is that "Cyberbullying" seems like the sort of thing that can't have too much of an effect on someone.



      You lack the imagination and cruelty to pass Bullying 101, sorry.


      Cyberbullying doesn't just consist of sending the victim mean e-mails/comments/IMs. How about web sites that tell all kinds of lies, posting photos or even movies (maybe manipulated) and so on ? There's no way a victim can deal with those by just ignoring them, because the victim is not the target audience ... everyone on the internet is.

    2. Re:Sheltered children by cdrguru · · Score: 1

      This is the same thinking that says if you ignore a bully he will leave you alone. Wrong. He will escalate.

      The problem with cyberbullying is that the victim doesn't have to respond in any way. Everyone else discovers the lies, half-truths and photos and comes to their own conclusions. Expect this to come up in 10 years or so when people start finding out they can't get a job because someone in 7th grade posted a (fake) picture of them having sex with a goat.

    3. Re:Sheltered children by justinlee37 · · Score: 1

      This is the same thinking that says if you ignore a bully he will leave you alone.

      No, it isn't. Actually, the best way to make someone stop bullying you is to hit them square in the nose. It only takes one time.

      But I don't think the school is behaving reasonably; there's no need to "baby" the kids on the internet outside of class. If they're being harassed, they can "fight back" by filing a police report, or letting a school counselor know about the issue themselves.

      I agree with you that someone could be bullied online, but I don't agree that this is the best way to deal with it. After all, learning how to deal with bullies is a part of growing up.

    4. Re:Sheltered children by justinlee37 · · Score: 1

      There's no way a victim can deal with those by just ignoring them

      You're correct here. However, let me refer you to part of my original post:

      Of course, if someone were harassing you online, or sending you threats, there would be a record of that and you could report it to the proper authorities -- if you chose to do so. That's how things work already -- I don't think it's the job of the proper authorities to investigate our private lives, in order to determine if there are any crimes occurring. I value my privacy, and I'm willing to take the responsibility of reporting crimes committed against me to keep it.

      Besides, deciding whether or not to report an abusive e-mail is exactly the sort of decision people are forced to make in their adult lives; depriving children or teenagers of the responsibility for making these sorts of decisions could give us adults who won't be able to handle getting a nasty e-mail from a co-worker. That would be bad.

      So, yes, I'd agree with you that you couldn't "simply ignore" slanderous comments made on another user's page -- but you could still report them. And it isn't like people haven't dealt with this in the past, it's just that in the past it used to be as simple as someone writing "Susie is a slut" on the bathroom wall.