Everybody whining about redirecting these fees are not looking far enough ahead.
When all these hicks finally get broadband, there will be some benefit. In the little patch of boonies where I live (rural PA), all the people who lost their jobs from manufacturing had to somehow earn a living. Namely the service industry (aka fast food jobs). There's an industrious percentage who have been going to school for information technology jobs. I'm not saying we're creating a budding tech industry of computer scientists and engineers, but having accessible broadband will create an environment where they can get OUT of the service industry. At the least someone could create freelance call centers that could possibly compete with outsourced locations. If you are a tech company who do you choose? 1) A call center script service with people who speak passable English, but don't know the culture OR 2) A call center that might cost a little more, but contains all trainable native English speakers who can relate to your customers, keep customers happy and turn them into loyal customers.
Yes, there is a Level 1 tech support field out there waiting to be harvested IF we provide the infrastructure for that change. On the other hand, if you enjoy tons of unemployed and underemployed people draining the economy then just continue to whine about improving our infrastructure. Really it doesn't really matter if the broadband improvements are FTTH or upgrading phone lines to decent DSL quality. It would be nice to have fiber, but something has to happen. Telcos right now are not going to do jack.
We fade in on a low lit smoky government war room. Many high ranking CIA operatives are seated around a circular table.
Task force chairman: Gentlemen, we have our network completely set. Operatives are in place and the funding is acquired.
All we need now is . ..a name.
[CIA Director walks in]
Director: Well Hey Howdy boys! What are we all up against this time?!
Task force chairman: Director, we just learned about the release of numerous secret diplomat cables from a website called Wikileaks.
Director: WHAT THE F@$K?!! NEOTHEONENSFWBBQ?!!
Task for chairman: Hmmmm. . . WTF. W. ..T . ..F . ..That's it! Gentlemen, we have our name! Congratulations, Director!
[Cheers go out. Scotch is poured and toasts are made. Screen fades to black.]
[Fade in on Julian Assange sitting in a British pub. A CIA operative, a couple MI5 operatives with some British Bobbies come walking in the door.]
MI5 Operative: Julian Assange?
Julian: Yes?
MI5: You are being held for extradition to Sweden under allegations of rape. Please come with us.
There are passages that state any offense that occurs either on or off campus can be cause for punishment.
This is mere speculation, but I'm betting they saw her drunken pirate picture as "Public Drunkenness" and punished her by suspending her for the semester. With no ability to complete her student teaching should couldn't get her degree. Either that or she may have been expelled. Considering the rulings are determined somewhat arbitrarily it still appears to be heavy handed. Yet again another lesson in reading and understanding what you sign.
[Hide the childrens' ears. I'm going to say bad words! : ) ]
Oh for fucks sake! It's like established authoritarian sources are trying to find something. Does listening to this cause severe dependence in a majority of users? No? Then leave it -the fuck- alone.
I saw this having beneficial uses with helping calm people down who have pre-op anxiety. Or Anxiety in general. Also in the opposite, instead of downing coffee in the morning. Crank up the tunes and wake up!
I don't think it's a mystery that music and sound have mood altering properties.
Who isn't stirred by a rousing Sousa march during a 4th of July parade? Who feels sorrow or reverence when Amazing Grace is played for a fallen hero?
Well son! That's all druuuuuugggggsss! You're usin' drugs when ya feel that way.
Tell that to every damn fundie out there who is going to get into an absolute uproar over this. Just for once, can't people find out about this themselves without the FUD slant? Maybe find some real clinical studies or perform some long term studies and find out how beneficial or detrimental this sound usage is.
BTW, I am a damn fundie. Even I think this is absolutely inane.
It was in-between all the talky talk and the ass kicking.
We Agents don't really like to talk about it. Grr. . .
But it is exactly like the quote.
There's no escaping reason, no evading purpose, because we both know, that without purpose there is no reason to exist. It is purpose that created us, purpose that connects us, purpose that pulls us, that guides us, that drives us, that defines us, it is purpose that binds us.
Good and Evil are engines of purpose that sustain people longer than purpose for a given project or timespan.
You open the borders and we might as well just annex Mexico and most of Central America. I'm not against that, but I think the people of those nations might have issue with it.
People are going to continue to pour in and pour in. There is nothing wrong with immigration, but even the most hard working illegal immigrant is still illegal.
Again, make them legal, give them something to lose and they'll care a lot more.
Like they cared about our laws in the first place and went through the legal process eh?
Before I came to my views on immigrations I actually talked to legal immigrants of all kinds. My college roommate - From Poland My coworkers - some from Delhi and New Delhi India, some from poorer locations in India I can't even pronounce. My next door neighbor - from Jamaica People in my church - some from Russia. Some from Romania My college roommate's one co-worker - from Ireland
I talked with some protesters in a suburb I lived in just outside of Philadelphia. One guy was from Mexico the other guy was from Guatemala
I even talked to a guy from Bolivia on my vacation to Utah who was travelling around the US.
I got two opinions. 1) Illegal immigration has to stop. Amnesty or lack of immigration of enforcement is a slap in the face to the time I waited and suffered to get my legal citizenship.
2) Citizenship and Amnesty should be granted to all immigrants, because they are just as hard working and law abiding as anyone else. The country will (and does) benefit from the labor they produce.
Guess how many had each opinion.
As a result, I'm of opinion 1.
The federal government has done very little to secure its borders. Citizens who are rightly concerned do not get any action. Arizona's law is frankly a band-aid to the problem. We know it's not just to profile. That law states as much, but let's not kid ourselves that any action done under this law isn't going to go under a legal microscope.
The real solution for controlling immigration. Anyone who performs a real, honest-to-God crime and is illegal should be deported. Driving-while-brown or funny lookin' doesn't count. Checking for employment of illegal workers should be done on a nationwide basis. This includes the homes of every damn rich business man and congressman along borders states (Oh sorry, my bias is showing).
Frankly, detaining and deporting illegal immigrants is only the first step. Proper and dedicated fencing and border checks need to be done on all borders. Not just the one with Mexico!
On the other side, we need to put our money where our mouth is and build up immigrations approval fast tracking. If you are a hard-working person from another country and wish to be a legal citizen then it shouldn't take 5-10 fricking years to do it! Put in the funding for more Naturalization services. Get the hard workers and thinkers in. Do it right. Make them legal! Anyone deported for non-criminal reasons should be able to immediately get in line.
If you have a problem with encouraging legal immigration within the bounds of our resources then you are a fucking racist.
Trying to provide amnesty again is wrong. It is another band-aid in the opposite direction of the current Arizona law.
OK, all arguments aside about what Apple has or hasn't done. This what you do.
Wait.
Wait until either Apple provides an iPAD with the features you require or the technology becomes more mature. This speculating and armchair techno quarterbacking makes my feet itch.
I waited until a 5th gen Video iPOD before I bought one. Why? Honestly, it was expensive as hell. I'm sure I could have bought other mp3 players, but this device could play video and had a legal content provider available in iTUNES. It gave me direct access to content until I got up to speed with getting content from other areas. Not to mention a great deal of third party support for accessories.
It could be that someone else beats Apple to the punch. Buy their offering instead and integrate it into your existing Mac or PC infrastructure.
I've been off an on with Apple since the Apple II days. When they started to jump the shark with the Performa series I looked elsewhere. When products looked more promising I bought from Apple again. One of the benefits with buying Apple is that their products usually last quite a while.
If you are trying to buy on the bleeding edge with Apple you will get cut. How bad you get cut depends on how far away the device meets your expectations.
It's not so much the driving locally as the driving to get out of town. Want to visit the relations in Burlington or New York? You have to drive out of the town. That might be solved by having parking lots at the inside edge of the dome. So the air quality problem still exists.
My big problem is when a domed town would need to expand. Unless you account for that in the initial dome build there still is the possibility of running out of room.
They're cool because the situation gives you guilt free ways to blow someone away with a shotgun, or slice them Ash style with a chainsaw.
1) They're not alive 2) It's them or me. (Usually end up being your pesky neighbor) 3) You are really doing the zombies a favor by ending their unceasing undead tormented existence which may or may not be relieved by eating the flesh or brains of the living.
What villains do modern youth have?
Vampires? Vampires are super sexy ultra beings that are oh so moody. Some teens and 20's folk want to BE vampires. But we're talking about the undead. Werewolves? Are devolved dog-like rejects that have superior senses, but don't really add much as supernatural beings. Sorry Twilight and Underworld might have helped their image a little, but werewolves just aren't that sophisticated.
Mummies? Depends on the mummy. You're still talking about the undead, but they're Egyptian.
Frankenstein? Animated corpse. Undead. Grrr arrghh. Fire bad!
Ghosts? Corporeally not there, but spiritually undead.
I see a trend here. This appears to be our unresolved angst of death. We either fear it and its mishandling or wish to embrace it.
It would be replaced with greased weasels! That's right. Greased Weasels. Weasels that would be sent in tubes. Large pneumatic tubes all across America. And you would always need to wear leather gloves or a catcher's mitt or be caught unawares that a greased weasel might fly out of a tube right next to you. A weasel could hit you at any time. Walking to the Post Office, around town or even at home.
Tubes. ..a series of pneumatic tubes. . . .
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Which is worse? The loser or the loser who misspells it to the first loser?
OK. . ..Where's John Lennon? I thought he was supposed to come back after repeating it five times. Gyp.
Remake Python? You can remake the style. Plenty of absurd comedy out there except it's all been done before. Being edgy has been trendy for quite awhile. You would almost need to completely revert to be original again.
A quick cruise on Wikipedia has Gutenberg creating the printing press around 1440, and industrial printing becoming common around 1811 and even better production in 1843.
Quite a long time to get used to the printed word. Learning all the tips and tricks to take advantage of the medium.
eReaders have been around maybe, what? ... 4 or 5 years with the first Sony offerings?
I think there will be some growing pains with the next media shift as well. Our great grandkids will be whining about that one too!
For the record I own a Kindle 1.0. I drank the Kool-Aid on it, but I'm not blind to its limitations. Each new readers attempts to resolve the complaints of the past. I can remember the Kindle 1.0 complaints of limited page space thus the Kindle 2.0 and DX. Trying to get a touch screen using eInk (hell! did I even spell that right?) might be more difficult, but possible.
But, there will be power struggles in a non-dominant marriage, and more than you like to think (especially after you've been together for several years).
And then there's kids. Be totally sure you're on the same page about kids from the start.
Uh . ..mod this one up.
Being married for 7 years with kids. I can attest.
Forget all the fluffy bunny stuff for a second and get the big things in a marriage out of the way.:
1) Money. Learn how you both deal with money. Separate accounts. Joint accounts. Whatever.
Just have mutual agreement on how you spend and how you save. Especially long term goals.
Think of it like this.
You have two kids and are saving for a house down payment. Can you resist buying that new gaming PC or can she resist buying a first edition copy of her favorite author? You might say that's part of what you are, but this is what tests a marriage. There are many ways around this, but can you communicate with your partner to find an agreeable solution. Oh also add it's winter and neither of you can get out of the house.
2) Kids. This is the biggest point of contention between my wife and myself. Our backgrounds are very different.
As the previous poster said. Learn how you want to handle kids. Not just how many, but
how you are going to raise them! Go over some of the basics. Don't know the basics?
This is where you can read some books or sites on the topics. Even if it's about discipline.
3) Life goals. Where are you going in life? It's natural to assume when kids are on the way that you are the man and will be working. Even if you don't think that way it's in the subconscious. Just talk with your partner about you career and life goals. Even the wild and crazy dreams. She may want to go back for her Master's or Doctorate. Her career may require her to move. Can you handle those changes?
4) Sex. Based on your culture and religious preference this may change. You need to be very honest, but tactful in this aspect. A perfect marriage can live or die on this alone. After 7 years, there are times when the passions tends to wane low. You have seen your partner at her low points and high points. A good marriage will be able to look back at why you got married in the first place. NEVER FORGET THAT! If you hang onto that feeling you can crank up the flames on your marriage. But that might be something you have to remind her about. : )
5) Communication. Yeah, should have put this at number one, but this ties up nicely. Talk with your partner. My wife knows what happened during my day. Where I'm going with my life and I with hers. You also have to communicate your intentions. I'll do something that my wife will consider absolutely stupid, but when I tell her I was doing it to help her then the anger lessens. Yes, lessens. It doesn't always go away. In an argument, be the man. Be able to pull back from the brink and not let emotion (especially anger) get in the way. See the truth and the logic in each argument. She might too if you are calm about. The natural reaction for someone being attacked is to defend.
Also, unless you are one of those couples in the 25% of the blissful, happy and effortless marriage let me tell you.
Marriage is work.
Not because you are unhappy, but because it's worth saving. Remember again why you got married in the first place. Let the realists have their say. Marriage might have originated from property exchange, but it has become of whole lot more than that.
There might be times when you are frustrated to hell. You might need to have some alone time, but always come back. Work it out. My father's been a lawyer for a long time. He has witnessed divorce with his siblings and been the attorney in more than his fair share. He always tells me that unless someone is being physically or mentally a
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Everybody whining about redirecting these fees are not looking far enough ahead.
When all these hicks finally get broadband, there will be some benefit. In the little patch of boonies where I live (rural PA), all the people who lost their jobs from manufacturing had to somehow earn a living. Namely the service industry (aka fast food jobs). There's an industrious percentage who have been going to school for information technology jobs. I'm not saying we're creating a budding tech industry of computer scientists and engineers, but having accessible broadband will create an environment where they can get OUT of the service industry. At the least someone could create freelance call centers that could possibly compete with outsourced locations. If you are a tech company who do you choose? 1) A call center script service with people who speak passable English, but don't know the culture OR 2) A call center that might cost a little more, but contains all trainable native English speakers who can relate to your customers, keep customers happy and turn them into loyal customers.
Yes, there is a Level 1 tech support field out there waiting to be harvested IF we provide the infrastructure for that change. On the other hand, if you enjoy tons of unemployed and underemployed people draining the economy then just continue to whine about improving our infrastructure. Really it doesn't really matter if the broadband improvements are FTTH or upgrading phone lines to decent DSL quality. It would be nice to have fiber, but something has to happen. Telcos right now are not going to do jack.
So eventually Space Shuttle maintenance will be in the domain of the amateur hobbyist? Cool.
Me 'n' Bob r goin' over te th' shed, pop a few bruskis an' work on ol' Columbia! Gonna launch her next week.
I tell you what, you buy this ship, treat her proper,
she'll be with ya for the rest of your life.
We fade in on a low lit smoky government war room.
Many high ranking CIA operatives are seated around a circular table.
Task force chairman: Gentlemen, we have our network completely set. Operatives are in place and the funding is acquired. .a name.
All we need now is . .
[CIA Director walks in]
Director: Well Hey Howdy boys! What are we all up against this time?!
Task force chairman: Director, we just learned about the release of numerous secret diplomat cables from a website called Wikileaks.
Director: WHAT THE F@$K?!! NEOTHEONENSFWBBQ?!!
Task for chairman: Hmmmm. . . WTF. W. . .T . . .F . . .That's it! Gentlemen, we have our name! Congratulations, Director!
[Cheers go out. Scotch is poured and toasts are made.
Screen fades to black.]
[Fade in on Julian Assange sitting in a British pub. A CIA operative, a couple MI5 operatives with some British Bobbies come
walking in the door.]
MI5 Operative: Julian Assange?
Julian: Yes?
MI5: You are being held for extradition to Sweden under allegations of rape. Please come with us.
Julian: WTF?!
CIA Operative: [Takes off sunglasses] Exactly.
[Fade to black. Cue Credits. Roll End Theme]
OK. I must do this.
In Soviet Russia, joke fools you!
Isn't it Ionic?
Dontcha think?
A little too Ionic.
Yeah, I really do think.
It's not Covalent boooooonds
On your Wedding Day
It's the free electrooooooon
that ya just couldn't take.
Nobody ever suspects the butterfly!
Actually, knowing a wee bit about the PA System of Higher Education. Stacy Synder had probably signed a Code of Conduct
agreement with Millersville University
http://www.millersville.edu/services/judicialaffairs/files/StudentCodeofConduct20102011.pdf
There are passages that state any offense that occurs either on or off campus can be
cause for punishment.
This is mere speculation, but I'm betting they saw her drunken pirate picture as "Public Drunkenness"
and punished her by suspending her for the semester. With no ability to complete her student teaching
should couldn't get her degree. Either that or she may have been expelled. Considering the rulings
are determined somewhat arbitrarily it still appears to be heavy handed. Yet again another lesson
in reading and understanding what you sign.
[Hide the childrens' ears. I'm going to say bad words! : ) ]
Oh for fucks sake! It's like established authoritarian sources are trying to find something.
Does listening to this cause severe dependence in a majority of users? No? Then leave it -the fuck- alone.
I saw this having beneficial uses with helping calm people down who have pre-op anxiety. Or Anxiety in general.
Also in the opposite, instead of downing coffee in the morning. Crank up the tunes and wake up!
I don't think it's a mystery that music and sound have mood altering properties.
Who isn't stirred by a rousing Sousa march during a 4th of July parade? Who feels sorrow or reverence when Amazing Grace is played for a fallen hero?
Well son! That's all druuuuuugggggsss! You're usin' drugs when ya feel that way.
Tell that to every damn fundie out there who is going to get into an absolute uproar over this.
Just for once, can't people find out about this themselves without the FUD slant?
Maybe find some real clinical studies or perform some long term studies
and find out how beneficial or detrimental this sound usage is.
BTW, I am a damn fundie. Even I think this is absolutely inane.
It was in-between all the talky talk and the ass kicking.
We Agents don't really like to talk about it. Grr. . .
But it is exactly like the quote.
Good and Evil are engines of purpose that sustain people longer than purpose for a given project or timespan.
Legalize them and their fear of cops will disappear.
Tried doing that in 1986 (actually 1985)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Immigration_Reform_and_Control_Act_of_1986
You open the borders and we might as well just annex Mexico and most of Central America.
I'm not against that, but I think the people of those nations might have issue with it.
People are going to continue to pour in and pour in.
There is nothing wrong with immigration, but even the most hard working illegal immigrant is still illegal.
Again, make them legal, give them something to lose and they'll care a lot more.
Like they cared about our laws in the first place and went through the legal process eh?
Before I came to my views on immigrations I actually talked to legal immigrants of all kinds.
My college roommate - From Poland
My coworkers - some from Delhi and New Delhi India, some from poorer locations in India I can't even pronounce.
My next door neighbor - from Jamaica
People in my church - some from Russia. Some from Romania
My college roommate's one co-worker - from Ireland
I talked with some protesters in a suburb I lived in just outside of Philadelphia. One guy was from
Mexico the other guy was from Guatemala
I even talked to a guy from Bolivia on my vacation to Utah who was travelling around the US.
I got two opinions.
1) Illegal immigration has to stop. Amnesty or lack of immigration of enforcement is a slap in the face to the
time I waited and suffered to get my legal citizenship.
2) Citizenship and Amnesty should be granted to all immigrants, because they are just as hard working and law abiding as anyone else. The country will (and does) benefit from the labor they produce.
Guess how many had each opinion.
As a result, I'm of opinion 1.
The federal government has done very little to secure its borders. Citizens who are rightly concerned do not get any action.
Arizona's law is frankly a band-aid to the problem. We know it's not just to profile. That law states as much, but let's not kid ourselves that any action done under this law isn't going to go under a legal microscope.
The real solution for controlling immigration.
Anyone who performs a real, honest-to-God crime and is illegal should be deported. Driving-while-brown or funny lookin' doesn't count. Checking for employment of illegal workers should be done on a nationwide basis. This includes the homes of every damn rich business man and congressman along borders states (Oh sorry, my bias is showing).
Frankly, detaining and deporting illegal immigrants is only the first step.
Proper and dedicated fencing and border checks need to be done on all borders. Not just the one with Mexico!
On the other side, we need to put our money where our mouth is and build up immigrations approval fast tracking.
If you are a hard-working person from another country and wish to be a legal citizen then it shouldn't take 5-10 fricking years to do it!
Put in the funding for more Naturalization services. Get the hard workers and thinkers in. Do it right. Make them legal!
Anyone deported for non-criminal reasons should be able to immediately get in line.
If you have a problem with encouraging legal immigration within the bounds of our resources then you are a fucking racist.
Trying to provide amnesty again is wrong. It is another band-aid in the opposite direction of the current Arizona law.
Personally, I'd have used a photo of a client demanding IE6 compatibility for their new web app.
AUUUUUGGHGHGHGH!! AUUUUUGGGHHH!! AAAAAAAAAHHHH!!
[Goes running down the hall. Jumps out of a window.]
Later autopsy concludes the decedent had an increased immune response.
Congratulations gentlemen! We've found the ultimate control stressor!
Woo!
Many Bothans died to get us this April Fool's joke early.
OK, all arguments aside about what Apple has or hasn't done. This what you do.
Wait.
Wait until either Apple provides an iPAD with the features you require or the technology becomes more mature.
This speculating and armchair techno quarterbacking makes my feet itch.
I waited until a 5th gen Video iPOD before I bought one. Why?
Honestly, it was expensive as hell. I'm sure I could have bought other mp3 players, but this device could play video
and had a legal content provider available in iTUNES. It gave me direct access to content until I got up to speed with getting content from other areas. Not to mention a great deal of third party support for accessories.
It could be that someone else beats Apple to the punch. Buy their offering instead and integrate it into
your existing Mac or PC infrastructure.
I've been off an on with Apple since the Apple II days. When they started to jump the shark with the Performa
series I looked elsewhere. When products looked more promising I bought from Apple again. One of the benefits
with buying Apple is that their products usually last quite a while.
If you are trying to buy on the bleeding edge with Apple you will get cut. How bad you get cut depends on
how far away the device meets your expectations.
Oh no!
The government has a glitch with an insanely complex missile system.
Good to know, but *Yawn* "Film at 11" me and wake me when it's fixed.
The Matrix will never accept Lumbergh as an Agent.
He's too . . .stuffy.
You had me until you misused 'pour' as 'pore'.
Only a unemployed Haitian astroturfing blogger would make such a mistake.
It's not so much the driving locally as the driving to get out of town. Want to visit the relations in Burlington or New York?
You have to drive out of the town. That might be solved by having parking lots at the inside edge of the dome. So the air quality problem still exists.
My big problem is when a domed town would need to expand. Unless you account for that in the initial dome build there still is the possibility of running out of room.
Zombies aren't cool because they eat people.
They're cool because the situation gives you guilt free ways to blow someone away with a shotgun, or slice them
Ash style with a chainsaw.
1) They're not alive
2) It's them or me. (Usually end up being your pesky neighbor)
3) You are really doing the zombies a favor by ending their unceasing undead tormented existence which may or may not be relieved by eating the flesh or brains of the living.
What villains do modern youth have?
Vampires? Vampires are super sexy ultra beings that are oh so moody. Some teens and 20's folk want to BE vampires. But we're talking about the undead.
Werewolves? Are devolved dog-like rejects that have superior senses, but don't really add much as supernatural beings. Sorry Twilight and Underworld might have helped their image a little, but werewolves just aren't that sophisticated.
Mummies? Depends on the mummy. You're still talking about the undead, but they're Egyptian.
Frankenstein? Animated corpse. Undead. Grrr arrghh. Fire bad!
Ghosts? Corporeally not there, but spiritually undead.
I see a trend here. This appears to be our unresolved angst of death. We either fear it and its mishandling or wish to embrace it.
show some imagination!
It would be replaced with greased weasels! That's right. Greased Weasels.
Weasels that would be sent in tubes. Large pneumatic tubes all across America.
And you would always need to wear leather gloves or a catcher's mitt or be caught unawares
that a greased weasel might fly out of a tube right next to you. A weasel could hit you at any time.
Walking to the Post Office, around town or even at home.
Tubes. . .a series of pneumatic tubes. . . .
I'm sorry to have to be the parson to say it
Which is worse? The loser or the loser who misspells it to the first loser?
Oh, BTW I roll my eyes at you.
Now go away or I shall taunt you a second time!
Global Thermonuclear Larry.
Beatle Juice
Beatle Juice
Beatle Juice
OK. . . .Where's John Lennon? I thought he was supposed to come back after repeating it five times. Gyp.
Remake Python? You can remake the style. Plenty of absurd comedy out there except it's all been done before.
Being edgy has been trendy for quite awhile. You would almost need to completely revert to be original again.
Dick Van Dyke. Here we come!
That is all true. It will come in time.
The concept of a book is hundreds of years old.
A quick cruise on Wikipedia has Gutenberg creating the printing press around 1440,
and industrial printing becoming common around 1811 and even better production in 1843.
Quite a long time to get used to the printed word. Learning all the tips and tricks to take advantage of the medium.
eReaders have been around maybe, what? . .. 4 or 5 years with the first Sony offerings?
I think there will be some growing pains with the next media shift as well. Our great grandkids will be whining about
that one too!
For the record I own a Kindle 1.0. I drank the Kool-Aid on it, but I'm not blind to its limitations. Each new readers attempts to resolve the complaints of the past. I can remember the Kindle 1.0 complaints of limited page space thus the Kindle 2.0 and DX. Trying to get a touch screen using eInk (hell! did I even spell that right?) might be more difficult, but possible.
Did you say rotating knives?
What we really wanted was a block of flats.
But, there will be power struggles in a non-dominant marriage, and more than you like to think (especially after you've been together for several years).
And then there's kids. Be totally sure you're on the same page about kids from the start.
Uh . . .mod this one up.
Being married for 7 years with kids. I can attest.
Forget all the fluffy bunny stuff for a second and get the big things in a marriage out of the way.:
1) Money. Learn how you both deal with money. Separate accounts. Joint accounts. Whatever.
Just have mutual agreement on how you spend and how you save. Especially long term goals.
Think of it like this.
You have two kids and are saving for a house down payment. Can you resist buying that new
gaming PC or can she resist buying a first edition copy of her favorite author? You might say
that's part of what you are, but this is what tests a marriage. There are many ways around this, but
can you communicate with your partner to find an agreeable solution. Oh also add it's winter and
neither of you can get out of the house.
2) Kids. This is the biggest point of contention between my wife and myself. Our backgrounds are very different.
As the previous poster said. Learn how you want to handle kids. Not just how many, but
how you are going to raise them! Go over some of the basics. Don't know the basics?
This is where you can read some books or sites on the topics. Even if it's about discipline.
3) Life goals. Where are you going in life? It's natural to assume when kids are on the way that you are the man and
will be working. Even if you don't think that way it's in the subconscious. Just talk with your partner about
you career and life goals. Even the wild and crazy dreams. She may want to go back for her Master's or Doctorate.
Her career may require her to move. Can you handle those changes?
4) Sex. Based on your culture and religious preference this may change. You need to be very honest, but tactful in this
aspect. A perfect marriage can live or die on this alone. After 7 years, there are times when the passions tends to wane low.
You have seen your partner at her low points and high points. A good marriage will be able to look back at why you got married in the first place. NEVER FORGET THAT! If you hang onto that feeling you can crank up the flames on your marriage. But that might be something you have to remind her about. : )
5) Communication. Yeah, should have put this at number one, but this ties up nicely. Talk with your partner. My wife knows what happened during my day. Where I'm going with my life and I with hers. You also have to communicate your intentions. I'll do something that my wife will consider absolutely stupid, but when I tell her I was doing it to help her then the anger lessens. Yes, lessens. It doesn't always go away.
In an argument, be the man. Be able to pull back from the brink and not let emotion (especially anger) get in the way. See the truth and the logic in each argument. She might too if you are calm about. The natural reaction for someone being attacked is to defend.
Also, unless you are one of those couples in the 25% of the blissful, happy and effortless marriage let me tell you.
Marriage is work.
Not because you are unhappy, but because it's worth saving. Remember again why you got married in the first place. Let the realists have their say. Marriage might have originated from property exchange, but it has become of whole lot more than that.
There might be times when you are frustrated to hell. You might need to have some alone time, but always come back. Work it out.
My father's been a lawyer for a long time. He has witnessed divorce with his siblings and been the attorney in more than his fair share. He always tells me that unless someone is being physically or mentally a