Slashdot Mirror


Why Are Japanese Men Refusing To Leave Their Rooms?

fantomas writes "The BBC reports on the Japanese phenomenon of Hikikomori: young people, mainly men, who are holed up in rooms in their parents' houses, refusing to go out and engage with society. 'A conservative estimate of the number of people now affected is 200,000, but a 2010 survey for the Japanese Cabinet Office came back with a much higher figure - 700,000. Since sufferers are by definition hidden away, Saito himself places the figure higher still, at around one million. The average age of hikikomori also seems to have risen over the last two decades. Before it was 21 — now it is 32.' Why is this happening? And is it a global phenomenon or something purely due to Japanese culture? (We're all familiar with the standing slashdot joke of the geek in their mom's basement, for example.)"

770 comments

  1. Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Interesting

    Maybe they are the human versions of the "beautiful ones" from John Calhoun's mice experiments with overpopulation?

    1. Re:Universe 25 by lobiusmoop · · Score: 5, Insightful

      If I had mod points you'd get them. This is the kind of interesting stuff that keep me visiting /.

      --
      "I bless every day that I continue to live, for every day is pure profit."
    2. Re:Universe 25 by Ol+Biscuitbarrel · · Score: 5, Informative

      Mouse utopia/dystopia, as designed by John B. Calhoun: CABINET // The Behavioral Sink

    3. Re:Universe 25 by Graydyn+Young · · Score: 5, Interesting

      The results of Universe 25 were pretty obviously the result of inbreeding, so.... let's hope not?

    4. Re:Universe 25 by wulfhere · · Score: 1

      I had never heard of this. Fascinating, and a little frightening.

      --
      -- Sent from a computer.
    5. Re:Universe 25 by lobiusmoop · · Score: 1

      Possibly so, but that mirrors Japan with it's low immigration.

      --
      "I bless every day that I continue to live, for every day is pure profit."
    6. Re:Universe 25 by interkin3tic · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Few people would call Japan overpopulated. It's dense in Tokyo, and living spaces are traditionally small, but people aren't scrounging for food or trampling each other. The population is shrinking as well.

      Much simpler explanation: it's parents codling their sons. Says as much right in the summary: they live in their parent's house. You can't stay holed up in a single room unless you're being supported or have taken serious preparations. The parents are supporting the hermits and have been over sheltering of them to get them to that point. It's hardly a mystery. "Why are they refusing to leave their rooms?" Because they're weak and are being allowed to. Stop feeding them. They will find the strength within themselves to put on clothing and walk outside of their room.

    7. Re:Universe 25 by Penguinisto · · Score: 1

      Agreed with sibling. Very apt hypothesis.

      --
      Quo usque tandem abutere, Nimbus, patientia nostra?
    8. Re:Universe 25 by zerosomething · · Score: 1

      THe only problem with that possibility is the reality that Japan is in a population decline. http://www.upi.com/Top_News/World-News/2013/03/28/Japans-population-decline-highlighted/UPI-11001364445270/ I guess it's possible they are in decline because of reaching some maximum of some kind?

      --
      It all starts at 0
    9. Re: Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Nope it isn't uncommon for parents to try to drag their kids out. the kids well sometimes fight tooth and nail to stay in there. believe me, there is an INTENSE social pressure to live up to society's demands and the parents experience it as well as the kids. in fact I think it's these kids attempting to avoid this social pressure. Japanese culture is merciless to those who make mistakes or otherwise don't live up to the standards of society.

    10. Re:Universe 25 by Em+Adespoton · · Score: 2

      Much simpler explanation: it's parents codling their sons. Says as much right in the summary: they live in their parent's house. You can't stay holed up in a single room unless you're being supported or have taken serious preparations. The parents are supporting the hermits and have been over sheltering of them to get them to that point. It's hardly a mystery. "Why are they refusing to leave their rooms?" Because they're weak and are being allowed to. Stop feeding them. They will find the strength within themselves to put on clothing and walk outside of their room.

      From the summary:

      age of hikikomori also seems to have risen over the last two decades. Before it was 21 — now it is 32

      So in 20 years, the age has risen 11 years -- what that says is that in the last 20 years, many of those same individuals continued to stay where they were.

      Unfortunately, in Japanese society, I think that if some of these people stopped being fed, they'd just starve. The issue here is a collision of cultures resulting in social contradictions that can't be adequately dealt with in all situations -- so some people consciously or subconsciously choose to avoid these interactions altogether. You see this in North America too, on a much lower volume -- but because of cultural differences, it more often manifests as suicide, antisocial behaviour and criminal activity.

      So another set of data to look at might be: what is the average age of a minor offender serving time in jail? My guess is we'd have a similar demographic; 21-32 year old males holed up in rooms provided by the state.

    11. Re: Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      The Japanese Real Estate Association and the Bank of Japan would like to honor you for your fine and influential expression of "American indebtedness machismo".

      In case you don't find the "look at me compared to them" posting ego-boost sufficient, please contact whichever institution above that you prefer for your complimentary coffee cup, with tasteful Japanese logo included free of charge.

    12. Re:Universe 25 by ifiwereasculptor · · Score: 1

      Well, there are those who are functional adults that don't leave their rooms unless they have to. I think those extreme cases mentioned in TFA are more visible representations of a prevalent behaviour related to profound changes in ways of interacting with society (or not needing to anymore).

    13. Re:Universe 25 by drinkypoo · · Score: 1

      Few people would call Japan overpopulated.

      Few people would call Panama a land of fish, even though that's what its name "means".

      It's dense in Tokyo, and living spaces are traditionally small,

      Because Japan is and has long been overpopulated!

      but people aren't scrounging for food or trampling each other.

      Right, they commit suicide first.

      --
      "You're right," Fisheye says. "I should have set it on 'whip' or 'chop.'"
    14. Re:Universe 25 by Comrade+Ogilvy · · Score: 1

      The simpler explanation is that these children are victims of years and years of brutal emotional abuse, that left them too crippled to figure out how to fend for themselves. And they surely believe that outsiders will simply assume they are losers because they are weak and coddled, so they feel trapped inside their dysfunctional family away from an outside world that will show no pity.

      The parents do want their sons to go out in the world, but to simply kick them out would mean both losing control and openly admitting failure as parents. Abusers do not find such a route very attractive.

      ...about half of hikikomori are violent towards their parents...

      That is what we would expect from brutally abused children who reach adulthood. They have been coach for years about how one inflict pain on one's loved ones.

      Here is even a partial confession:

      "I think my son is losing the power or desire to do what he wants to do," she says. "Maybe he used to have something he wanted to do but I think I ruined it."

    15. Re:Universe 25 by ebno-10db · · Score: 1

      A population of 120M hardly forces inbreeding. Are you basing this on the fact that almost all of them have black hair?

    16. Re:Universe 25 by g0bshiTe · · Score: 1

      They are normally referred to as "hikkis" have you heard that term?

      --
      I am Bennett Haselton! I am Bennett Haselton!
    17. Re: Universe 25 by g0bshiTe · · Score: 1

      A nail that sticks out gets pounded!

      --
      I am Bennett Haselton! I am Bennett Haselton!
    18. Re:Universe 25 by g0bshiTe · · Score: 1

      That's a skewed analogy as I think you'd find their confinement is partially due to possession of a controlled substance, meaning minor drug offenses.

      --
      I am Bennett Haselton! I am Bennett Haselton!
    19. Re:Universe 25 by Vanderhoth · · Score: 1

      That was a very interesting read, thanks for posting it.

    20. Re:Universe 25 by Imrik · · Score: 1

      Drugs that may be used to avoid the interactions he was talking about, thus the demographic is still relevant to the discussion.

    21. Re:Universe 25 by gl4ss · · Score: 1

      interesting.

      though we're far past meaningful roles, we already had to start inventing them long ago.

      --
      world was created 5 seconds before this post as it is.
    22. Re:Universe 25 by Vanderhoth · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I think it really depends on what your definition of inbreeding is. If your talking second cousins getting married, than 120M doesn't force inbreeding. If you're talking 10+ generations it's possible to do without even knowing. How many generations removed do you have to be before it's not inbreeding any more. I'm sure at one point the population of what is Japan today was in the Thousands, maybe even in the hundreds when humans first migrated there, so if you go back far enough then at one point people were probably mating with relatively "close" relatives (pardon the pun).

      My grandfather had a family tree book for just his side of his family that was several thousand pages think. I remember flipping through it and finding all kinds of people I went to school with that were only six to seven generations removed from myself. A number of them ended up marrying and never knew the difference. At one point I moved from Nova Scotia, Canada to Laurinburg, North Carolina and there was one family living there that was related to me through my grandfathers side. It's a pretty small world.

    23. Re:Universe 25 by CrimsonAvenger · · Score: 1

      I think it really depends on what your definition of inbreeding is. If your talking second cousins getting married,

      Geneticallly speaking, second cousins are no more likely to produce defectives than perfect strangers.

      --

      "I do not agree with what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it"
    24. Re:Universe 25 by digitalhermit · · Score: 1

      The parents are supporting the hermits and have been over sheltering of them to get them to that point

      My mom goes for her pistol should I set foot on her property, thank you.

    25. Re:Universe 25 by CrimsonAvenger · · Score: 2

      Few people would call Japan overpopulated.

      About ten times the population density of the USA, as an example.

      Of countries with >10 million people, it's the number seven in population density.

      Hmm, sounds overpopulated to me.

      --

      "I do not agree with what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it"
    26. Re:Universe 25 by WOOFYGOOFY · · Score: 0

      I never knew about this and I should have. Awesome post. The way patent laws are written and enforced is seems like a self conscious attempt to induce a feeling of helplessness, passivity and ultimately withdrawal from attempting to write software outside of being someone's employee. Everything you need to write software has been patented (overcrowding). You cannot defend your creation (territory) against patent trolls. People attack you and you have to just give up. Enrollment in computer science (withdrawal) goes down. Programming doesn't seem like the free, creative and profitable endeavor it once did.

      Just because I didn't know about this effect doesn't mean the schemers in corporations didn't know about it.

      Which suggests the question .. how can we ourselves use behavioral science to demoralize the enemy?

    27. Re:Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      So like fat people who can't leave their bed then. *Who the hell brings them the food, and why isn't he in prison for attempted murder and addiction enabling??*

      So as you're prefectly combining both... who is, people of Slashdot? ;)

    28. Re: Universe 25 by interkin3tic · · Score: 3, Interesting

      I lived in Japan for some time. They're no more merciless towards mistakes than any other society is in my opinion.

    29. Re:Universe 25 by CptNerd · · Score: 1

      Go outside Tokyo or Osaka, like a few 10s of kilometers north or east, and you won't find the crowding you do in the megaplexes. Trust me, I've ridden the shinkansen from Tokyo to Hachinohe a few times, and once you're past Saitama you have endless fields, peppered with a few houses grouped together. There are a few larger towns between them, but most of Japan outside the main cities is no more crowded than Ohio or Indiana.

      --
      By the taping of my glasses, something geeky this way passes
    30. Re:Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'm going to say---fapping?

    31. Re: Universe 25 by datavirtue · · Score: 1

      I immediately thought they were avoiding Japanese societal pressures.

      --
      I object to power without constructive purpose. --Spock
    32. Re:Universe 25 by interkin3tic · · Score: 1

      You're saying Japan IS overpopulated, despite the fact that the population is shrinking? Japan still has a lot of room. The crowd is a cultural thing in Tokyo, outside of Tokyo, the cities and suburbs feel more similar to other parts of the world. There might not be the suburban sprawl of midwestern US cities, but it's not overcrowded. There's no fighting over resources, which is how most people would define "overpopulated." So aside from circular logic, what makes you say that?

    33. Re:Universe 25 by drinkypoo · · Score: 1, Interesting

      You're saying Japan IS overpopulated, despite the fact that the population is shrinking?

      That's right.

      Japan still has a lot of room.

      Japan is using all of its useful land for something.

      The crowd is a cultural thing in Tokyo, outside of Tokyo, the cities and suburbs feel more similar to other parts of the world. There might not be the suburban sprawl of midwestern US cities, but it's not overcrowded.

      You seem to believe that the carrying capacity of a nation involves every square foot being filled with apartment complexes, but this is not at all the case.

      There's no fighting over resources, which is how most people would define "overpopulated."

      Uh, what? There's a lack of jobs because there's no fighting over resources?

      So aside from circular logic, what makes you say that?

      You're not even approaching logic, and you're accusing me of using the circular kind?

      --
      "You're right," Fisheye says. "I should have set it on 'whip' or 'chop.'"
    34. Re:Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      No, I think you misunderstood the parent post. It's DENSELY populated, it is number seven in term of population density. But it can support such a population ("people aren't scrounging for food or trampling each other") such it is not OVER populated.

    35. Re: Universe 25 by Rich0 · · Score: 1

      Nope it isn't uncommon for parents to try to drag their kids out. the kids well sometimes fight tooth and nail to stay in there.

      No need to use force - just do not stock any kind of food in the house for a few months and eat with the neighbors or something. They WILL find a way out of that room, or somebody will have to cart their body out. Any closed system reaches equilibrium.

    36. Re:Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The USA has a pretty low population density. If you go out to the plains or the desert in the southwest, you can drive for hours without seeing a house in some areas.

    37. Re:Universe 25 by painandgreed · · Score: 1

      Few people would call Japan overpopulated.

      About ten times the population density of the USA, as an example.

      Of countries with >10 million people, it's the number seven in population density.

      Hmm, sounds overpopulated to me.

      He also stated it had a high population density in the sentence after what you cut (and probably didn't even read). The issue being the definition of what is "overpopulated" which the OP goes on to state is something such as having a higher population than there are resources to support, which is not the problem. Furthermore, the rest of the TFP you apparently didn't read (ya, ya, it's ./), is that as this problem is growing, the population is actually shrinking, seemingly not making this problem a function of population in any case.

    38. Re:Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I dunno, fucking my sister is the best lay I've ever been able to find. I think she feels the same. Don't want to actually breed, though...

    39. Re: Universe 25 by Joe+Tie. · · Score: 1

      Order delivery online, instructions to go around to the room's window.

      --
      Everything will be taken away from you.
    40. Re:Universe 25 by cpt+kangarooski · · Score: 1

      No, Japan really does have plenty of room for people. The big cities are quite dense, but the countryside is increasingly suffering from depopulation.

      --
      -- This and all my posts are in the public domain. I am a lawyer. I am not your lawyer, and this is not legal advice.
    41. Re:Universe 25 by drinkypoo · · Score: 1

      No, Japan really does have plenty of room for people. The big cities are quite dense, but the countryside is increasingly suffering from depopulation.

      Sigh, and also sigh. You are grossly oversimplifying this situation. Again, you are taking into account only whether there is physical room to place a person. This neglects all logistic issues, and as such it is completely meaningless. I might as well assert that a Miata is a good place to install a 7.3 liter powerstroke because you could physically attach the engine to the car, and perhaps even get most of it into the engine bay.

      Japan can't even produce enough electrical power for all of its residents to not have to ration. Japan might have space for plenty of people, but it doesn't have the room.

      --
      "You're right," Fisheye says. "I should have set it on 'whip' or 'chop.'"
    42. Re:Universe 25 by interkin3tic · · Score: 1
      You're not really providing anything to back up your claim that Japan is overpopulated. And the power issues aren't evidence of overpopulation:

      Already a leader in conservation, Japan consumes about half as much energy per capita as the United States, according to the United Nations Population Fund. But it has been pushed to even greater lengths since the nuclear disaster even as it tries to revive its economy. The accident at the Fukushima Daiichi nuclear plant and the resulting backlash against nuclear power have left only 17 out of Japan’s 54 reactors online as the nation steels itself for August, the hottest month of the year.

    43. Re:Universe 25 by drinkypoo · · Score: 1

      You're not really providing anything to back up your claim that Japan is overpopulated

      If you really want to see the many and varied arguments about this, I presume you know how to use Google.

      And the power issues aren't evidence of overpopulation:

      How much room is there for all the things that all the people need, with their given lifestyle? What happens to any kind of animal if you pack it into not enough space? How does that compare to social trends in Japan? How sustainable is Japan's economic activity?

      --
      "You're right," Fisheye says. "I should have set it on 'whip' or 'chop.'"
    44. Re:Universe 25 by handleym99 · · Score: 1

      Well, we'll have a natural experiment about this soon enough: will the same phenomenon appear in China? On the one hand China is obviously poorer, which makes this more difficult. On the other hand China (supposedly, I have no first hand experience) has the same "coddling" of children, especially sons. On the third hand, there's an even stronger driver to this in China, namely the grossly skewed sex ratios. I always though these would end in some sort of mass violence, either internal (gang fighting? extreme crackdowns by the state leading to lots of male executions?) or external (xenophobia leading to war). But another way this could play out, with Japan as an example, is with the population of males which felt most disadvantaged in high school, least able to make it with girls, simply retiring to their rooms and abandoning society.

    45. Re:Universe 25 by Pinky's+Brain · · Score: 1

      Most countries on this planet aren't energy/fuel/food/fertilizer self sufficient any more at this point, so the world would be overpopulated by that definition (which I would agree with).

    46. Re:Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      This is a silly comparison considering how the United States is spread out. There are huge swaths of rural and wilderness areas with few if any people living there. Thus, it is hard to say the United States is overpopulated or even near-overpopulated. It does not logically follow that having 10x the population density of a non-overpopulated country makes you overpopulated.

    47. Re: Universe 25 by Gramie2 · · Score: 1

      I also lived in Japan. I would say that Japan is far less tolerant of mistakes than most countries (possibly not some other ones in Asia). They are less tolerant of minorities, people on welfare, the homeless, and people who have criminals in their family. (It's quite common for a policeman to have to resign if one of his close relatives is convicted of -- or even arrested for -- a crime.)

      Why else would my ex say that if people in the neighbourhood find out that she is divorced and doesn't have custody of our children, she and her mother might well have to move?

    48. Re:Universe 25 by Sabriel · · Score: 1

      Hmm. How expensive/hard is it for a lower-to-middle-class Tokyo worker to obtain one of those fields and - just as importantly - obtain/retain a source of income adequate to maintain a permanent dwelling upon it?

      For reference, I live in Australia; we have such vast amounts of barely inhabitable land that it can be relatively cheap to migrate from the big cities to the country if you're not picky about where you end up, but you still need a source of income to maintain that living space and there are no fast trains to allow a daily commute to the cities.

    49. Re:Universe 25 by Man+Eating+Duck · · Score: 1

      [...]generations[...]

      I don't really understand your use of that term, do you mean that a shared grandparent == two generations? In that case, ten+ generations would likely include most potential spouses you are likely to meet in a very large area around your community :) But, no matter.

      Generally, if your genes regularly get mixed up with a fairly diverse input from the general population, it will not be a problem even though you might have a few common ancestors. After all, that's what have happended through the ages with human and animal populations alike. It's when you regularly interbreed too many people with common ancestors that recessive faults might show up. For examples see the Amish, and European royalty.

      For the latter group, the only politically accepted manifestation of inbreeding is hemophilia, but throughout history there are plenty of examples of mental retardation and other debilitating effects likely caused by inbreeding as well. This is easily found if you dig a little. These matters are touchy for contemporary researchers, however, as they necessarily also pertain to most of living royalty in Europe.

      --
      Are you a grammar Nazi? I'm trying to improve my English; please correct my errors! :)
    50. Re:Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Since 2 decades ago now we have the internet that has expanded the living space beyond the imaginable 40 years back, but this only bought us a little of time to figure the solution if ever we are able to find it.

    51. Re: Universe 25 by Rich0 · · Score: 1

      Order delivery online, instructions to go around to the room's window.

      And how would they pay for this delivery? I guess I wasn't explicit but I wouldn't leave piles of cash lying around either...

    52. Re:Universe 25 by CptNerd · · Score: 1

      Surprisingly little, if you're a Japanese citizen. There are fields going fallow because the children are not staying on the farms of their parents and grandparents, and Japan doesn't have the "factory farms" like they have in the US, ADM et. al. haven't managed to get a foothold there. There are likely plots of land becoming available through death or displacement of the elderly owners. I have seen ads for Western-style housing developments outside Tokyo. I also know of a couple from the US who bought a house and small plot of land in the countryside for somewhere around US$10,000, but on the condition that they repair it on their own dime. I think they were part of a Japanese government program, possibly experimental, and I don't know if they had been residents of Japan for any time prior.

      --
      By the taping of my glasses, something geeky this way passes
    53. Re:Universe 25 by interkin3tic · · Score: 1

      You're not really providing anything to back up your claim that Japan is overpopulated

      If you really want to see the many and varied arguments about this, I presume you know how to use Google.

      You made a statement I disagreed with and haven't provided any support for it, now you're telling me to do your homework for you. This is not a good way to convince people. The population of Japan is shrinking, they don't have mass starvation, and the power shortages are due to a transition from nuclear power that was caused by Fukushima, not overpopulation. Additionally, I've been to Japan three times and have seen with my own eyes that it's not overpopulated. If you want to convince me it is, show me data, not car metaphors.

    54. Re:Universe 25 by Sperbels · · Score: 1

      No, Japan really does have plenty of room for people. The big cities are quite dense

      That right there...population density. The people living within that population, become like mice/rats in a Calhoun experiment, unable to leave the confines of the box...for various reasons. People aren't just free to pickup and move out to the country. Not without the money. Not without exposing yourself to people and their critical nature. And for some, particularly those susceptible to social phobia, the social interaction required to do it is too much. You clearly don't understand social phobia, and how easy it is to feel trapped by people. As one who suffers a bit from this, I can easily see how the Hikikimori came about, especially in a place like Tokyo. I don't even feel comfortable in the suburbs on the edge of my city.

    55. Re:Universe 25 by 517714 · · Score: 1

      The problems surfaced after only five generations. With four breeding pairs initially, inbreeding would not have been a problem at that point. The real issue, and the one which modern man faces, is lack of external forces selecting against those who are not fulfilling their genetic and social roles. The name he chose for the enclosure, "Mortality-Inhibiting Environment for Mice" should be the obvious clue to the root of the problem. A couple of cats, or other form of selection, would have kept the mouse population healthy for many, many generations.

      --
      The US government have made it clear that we have no inalienable rights; any we do not defend vigorously will be taken.
    56. Re:Universe 25 by deuxm · · Score: 0

      So what i actully got from this is ... Humans society is colapsing coz we ain't aiming for the stars.

    57. Re: Universe 25 by interkin3tic · · Score: 1

      I think there's a bit more sensitivity on the individual's part towards society judging them and that is the difference. People judge other people here too, we just don't care.

      That has positive and negative consequences, I'm not saying it's better our way.

    58. Re:Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The results of Universe 25 were pretty obviously the result of inbreeding, so.... let's hope not?

      ===
      Its mom's cooking.. and she also does the beds and laundry

    59. Re:Universe 25 by minstrelmike · · Score: 1

      I think the density and population pressure does matter and that talking about how Wyoming isn't very dense doesn't matter one fucking bit to the people living in Manhattan. I would like to see a breakdown of where these holed up folks are by popn density. It's probably in the cities, not the countryside (just a guess since cities are new and countrysides are not new).

      It's kind of like the difference between Republican and Democratic counties in the USA. 885 people per square mile is the dividing line.

    60. Re:Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      Ramen is PEOPLE!

    61. Re:Universe 25 by Flere+Imsaho · · Score: 1

      You sound like the sort of person who would advise someone with depression to stop being so self-involved and get their shit together i.e, you don't have a clue.

      --
      It gripped her hand gently. 'Regret is for humans,' it said.
    62. Re:Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Then you aren't looking very hard. There's always some crazy cattle rancher about 1/2 mile from the road, at least every 45 minutes (or every 60 or so miles), on every single road I have ever been on, be it in California, Arizona, New Mexico, or Texas.

      Yeah, the really terrible roads may take you several hours to see the next house, but that's because you can't go faster than 5 mph down them without breaking your axle.

      The only places you could travel for hours without seeing any houses would be straight into the desert off of the highway. They don't put in roads that don't lead anywhere, in the desert if there is nothing there you get to go a longer route to the next place where there is something and take the road from there. It's not like the southwest is crisscrossed by random roads that go nowhere.

    63. Re:Universe 25 by CptNerd · · Score: 1

      Well, take your own stance in reverse, just because Manhattan is overly dense doesn't mean that Wyoming is overcrowded, and doesn't mean that Wyoming needs to concentrate on the issues that Manhattan does, such as public transportation and construction zoning.

      To make a blanket statement about any country based on one region of that country is irrational. Even saying something "on average" or "per capita" doesn't work since reality isn't evenly dispersed.

      --
      By the taping of my glasses, something geeky this way passes
    64. Re: Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I lived in Japan for some time. They're no more merciless towards mistakes than any other society is in my opinion.

      I agree, I've been there twice in total three months. The difference is in some culture mistakes are ok as long as you tell someone and don't make the mistake again. Where is Japan "you better fix it before anyone finds out or you have lost your honor." Hello nuclear power plant, and the thousands of people with cancer after the tsunami. The government in Japan is notorious for hiding things until they are too obvious.

    65. Re: Universe 25 by darkfeline · · Score: 1

      I lived in Japan for some time.

      There's your problem. Growing up in Japan is completely different from living there for some time. Much of it is subtext. Employees and CEOs are not fired, they "voluntarily resign". Kids do not bully each other, they just "joke" and "tease" and "teach social behavior". Everything is an act; the concept of being yourself simply doesn't exist. Of course, foreigners are not held to the same expectations, generally.

    66. Re:Universe 25 by darkfeline · · Score: 1

      If you read the article, you'd know it's not overpopulation per se, but too many people and not enough social roles. I'd say that applies in this case, especially since one of the common factors that come up in the precious few books and papers on the subject mention not feeling needed, which leads to suicide.

      Coddling is certainly one aspect of it, which is why the syndrome is more acute in Japan due to cultural reasons, but such bouts of isolation to depression and escapism sometimes culminating in suicide is not uncommon in other parts of the world either. It's important to note that this only appears in developed countries, where it is much more likely for someone to literally be useless and unneeded (see recent increases in unemployment).

    67. Re:Universe 25 by HornWumpus · · Score: 1

      Unless the family has a long history of cousin fucking. e.g. the English Royal Family.

      --
      John McAfee 'It was like that time I hired that Bangkok prostitute; to do my taxes, while I fucked my accountant'
    68. Re:Universe 25 by HornWumpus · · Score: 1

      Then you have built a 'mortality-inhibiting environment for cats'.

      --
      John McAfee 'It was like that time I hired that Bangkok prostitute; to do my taxes, while I fucked my accountant'
    69. Re:Universe 25 by HornWumpus · · Score: 1

      Post pictures of your Miata. Sounds cool.

      I'm working on putting a mouse into a Fiat 850 sport. OK, honestly, I'm going to put a fiat 850 body on top of shortened 4x4 truck frame with a small block and Danas.

      --
      John McAfee 'It was like that time I hired that Bangkok prostitute; to do my taxes, while I fucked my accountant'
    70. Re:Universe 25 by HornWumpus · · Score: 1

      Could Japan feed itself? From it's own territorial waters?

      If not it's overpopulated.

      --
      John McAfee 'It was like that time I hired that Bangkok prostitute; to do my taxes, while I fucked my accountant'
    71. Re:Universe 25 by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      So that is why I have this shiny coat!

  2. Mass Radio Based Experimentation Program by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Having people confined to a particular location reduces the load on the servers and radio systems behind the program. The AI is designed to keep people confined as long as possible to conduct analysis of the nerve endings of the human body.

  3. Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Insightful

    Parents coddle adult kids. The kids have never been encouraged to fend for themselves, and this is the natural result.

    It's similar to why adult domestic house cats are pretty much adult kittens who would die in the wild. They've simply never been encouraged in any way to fend for themselves.

    We are still just animals after all.

    1. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Hartree · · Score: 2

      "It's similar to why adult domestic house cats are pretty much adult kittens who would die in the wild."

      Nonsense. I've seen far too many of them go feral and survive long enough to have offspring afterwards (in the case they weren't neutered before going feral). And it's not just because someone is feeding them.

      Some of them have trouble as they weren't taught effective hunting by their mothers, but lots of them can and do fend for themselves just fine. Yes, they get picked off by coyotes (or coy-dogs) and such, but so do a lot of wild small predators.

    2. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      The wild New York cats beg to differ. All ex-house cats. All living rough and surviving.
       

    3. Re:Mammonis all over again. by TWiTfan · · Score: 5, Funny

      I got mugged by a New York housecat once.

      --
      The cow says "Moo." The dog says "Woof." The Timothy says "Thanks, valued customer. We appreciate your input."
    4. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Mammonis all over again? STUDY BIOLOGY you idiot.

    5. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Funny

      "It's similar to why adult domestic house cats are pretty much adult kittens who would die in the wild."

      Nonsense. I've seen far too many of them go feral and survive long enough to have offspring afterwards (in the case they weren't neutered before going feral). And it's not just because someone is feeding them.

      Some of them have trouble as they weren't taught effective hunting by their mothers, but lots of them can and do fend for themselves just fine. Yes, they get picked off by coyotes (or coy-dogs) and such, but so do a lot of wild small predators.

      Basement-dwellers? Survive outside mommy's care? I call bullshit.

      FWIW, you had me until you said "survive long enough to have offspring afterwards".

    6. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Mashiki · · Score: 5, Interesting

      Parents coddle adult kids. The kids have never been encouraged to fend for themselves, and this is the natural result.

      Actually it's much closer to the collapse of the Japanese family, more than anything. It's not the coddling, it's the disdain for people, society, and not wanting to go into the massive "grind your face into the dirt" mentality that exists in Japan.

      But we're seeing the entire thing play out here with the current generation of kids too. It's just not getting pulled up in the media.

      --
      Om, nomnomnom...
    7. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I got mugged by a New York housecat once.

      That was a New York City rat you insensitive clod.

    8. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Comrade+Ogilvy · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Parents coddle adult kids. The kids have never been encouraged to fend for themselves, and this is the natural result.

      No, the problem is parents do not ALLOW their children to fend for themselves. "For oneself" implies a definition of self that has not been set up for inevitable failure.

      Student show an iota of initiative and wants to program computers? Father lectures the child that is a way to be a failure. Now the child feels like a loser no matter what he does -- program computers and he is shamed before his family, do what his father wants instead and he is shamed before himself.

      Withdrawal is a rational short-term reaction, when one is set up failure by one's family and society. Unfortunately, withdrawal for more than a modest period of time becomes its own self-reinforcing barrier to success.

      It may look like coddling from a superficial point of view. From within the closed walls of the family, it is incessant brutal emotional abuse. The hints are there in TFA. The children are physically abusive? That kind of behavior is taught by the parents. There is a partial confession at the end of the article:

      "I think my son is losing the power or desire to do what he wants to do," she says. "Maybe he used to have something he wanted to do but I think I ruined it."

    9. Re:Mammonis all over again. by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      and not wanting to go into the massive "grind your face into the dirt" mentality that exists in Japan.

      What does that mean?

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    10. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Informative

      The karoshi stereotype exists in Japan for a reason. The whole culture seems to be built around working yourself to death. A friend of mine visited there and described life as non-stop work. Guys basically work all day, then face social pressure to go out with the boss at night. Basically, they are "on" all the time. So of course there is a large segment of the population that sees that life and goes "screw that!" and decide not to play the game.

    11. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Parents coddle adult kids. The kids have never been encouraged to fend for themselves, and this is the natural result.

      That's some fine knee-jerk thinking there. Preconceived-notion: parents should be hash with their kids. Random fact: some kids somewhere are having a poor outcome. Conclusion: the only possible explanation is that their parents haven't been harsh enough with them. Never mind that Japanese society is a harsh environment with strict social rules about everything that the kids would have been exposed to from a young age. Never mind that the psychologists don't actually know what the problem is. Truthiness forever!

    12. Re:Mammonis all over again. by elfprince13 · · Score: 1

      It means they don't want to have 84 hour work weeks for the rest of their lives.

    13. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      In Japan, employees at all levels work their asses off. It is the cultural norm there to work long hours basically all the time. "Overwork" is a common medically-pronounced cause of death.

      Insisting on a reasonable work-life balance basically leaves you without a job. So, some people who are willing to deal with the shame of being a leech to their parents will prefer that existence to the perpetual-stress-no-life existence of someone who has a job.

      At least, that is what I have been lead to believe about working in Japan. I'm an American who has never been there, so I don't know for sure.

    14. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      and not wanting to go into the massive "grind your face into the dirt" mentality that exists in Japan.

      What does that mean?

      Are you arguing that it doesn't exist? When I lived in Japan, every single damn friend I had wanted their male children to do that. It is their entire culture
      .

    15. Re:Mammonis all over again. by discord5 · · Score: 1

      Student show an iota of initiative and wants to program computers? Father lectures the child that is a way to be a failure.

      Anything that deviates from the norm as it is, is considered to be bad. There is a saying there: "The nail that sticks out gets hammered down.". I think the expression speaks for itself to be honest.

    16. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

      As an American shut-in, when I first discovered the term "hikikomori", I was extremely disturbed but also felt an intense sense of vindication. It isn't just me: many other people feel it too. That sense of realizing how unfair and how grindingly hopeless and purposeless participation in the current socio-economic scam really is.

      I don't want to spend my whole life working some shitty job to barely pay rent all while knowing perfectly well that there is absolutely no reason I must do so but that the powerful members of society (a class of individual which is powerful through no other reason than that there has always been such a class) have arranged for this situation. There is more than enough "wealth", there is more than enough resources (food, water, energy) and space (stand on Zanzibar indeed) and labor (technology is a wonderful thing, and 3D printing and robots are perfectly capable of serving my minimal needs and wants if only they would / could be designed so instead of for fabricating ever more useless crap to be sold by the rich and powerful...) to provide everything I've ever wanted and yet I still have to spend almost all of my time either working a dead-end meaningless job for cash for rent and food (did you know that Americans throw away enough food to end world hunger?) or asleep to recover and do it again tomorrow.

      The only way to win such a "game" is to not play it.

      Escape into fantasy, into an inner universe that isn't so wretchedly repulsive, soul-crushingly grinding, spitefully vicious -- is the only way to stay alive. What if we treated all illnesses the way we treat mental distress? What if we punished the wicked wealthy for hoarding and perpetuating the horror in which we now find ourselves? What if we did magically solve the waste of energy which is leading us into crisis?

      The problem isn't resources, it's the evil of those who have the resources. This isn't an immutable property of human nature -- and yet nothing is being done to solve this problem.

      So I refuse to participate in a situation that is not only apathetic toward my well-being, but actively, maliciously, greedily abusive of me.

      The state of the world is so because of mere history, nothing is being done about it by those who have the power to do so because it is not in their short-term interest.

      Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions, godlike technology.

    17. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      He told me he found that wallet! That's it Mr. Wiggles! No more tuna treats for you!

    18. Re:Mammonis all over again. by drinkypoo · · Score: 1

      If we were supposed to have wild cats the size of a house cat, they would exist. But other animals are more effective at that size. If humans went away tomorrow then housecats would probably go away in a few generations as the foxes, badgers, coyotes, and other natural predators of small felines did them in. It's worth noting that in North America, the only wild cat around the size of a housecat that we've got is the bobcat, and it's on the order of twice as massive, and it's fairly rare.

      --
      "You're right," Fisheye says. "I should have set it on 'whip' or 'chop.'"
    19. Re:Mammonis all over again. by g0bshiTe · · Score: 1

      Context context context, we don't know the context, the mother ruined it how, but being emotionally abusive, my being physically abusive, or by allowing the child to not even try or encouraging the child not to try. Which behavior are you talking about?

      --
      I am Bennett Haselton! I am Bennett Haselton!
    20. Re:Mammonis all over again. by g0bshiTe · · Score: 1

      Japanese also have a bad habit of thinking one thing then agreeing with the common ideas even if they don't agree with it in private, how do you get around that way of thinking as a psychologist trying to figure out the problem. You can see the hole in the bucket, but there is no hole in the bucket.

      --
      I am Bennett Haselton! I am Bennett Haselton!
    21. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Comrade+Ogilvy · · Score: 2

      I think the figure of 50% of these children are physically abusive to their parents speaks volumes. Outside of untreated schizophrenia, that is a pretty rare behavior...unless you have been coached for years on how to inflict pain to those you love.

      I may be less than fully correct, but careful readers will see that the picture is more complex than simple coddling, as multiple posters are so quick to assume.

    22. Re:Mammonis all over again. by jader3rd · · Score: 1

      It's similar to why adult domestic house cats are pretty much adult kittens who would die in the wild.

      You seem to have confused cats with dogs. There's plenty of research about how even domestic cats may not even be domesticated! There's no reason for humans to domesticate cats, and it probably never happened. Cats go feral all the time.
      Dogs on the other hand, have been domesticated and the vast majority would die once no longer in the care of a human.

    23. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Interesting

      I am somewhat in the same boat and I feel a lot like you do. I work, but only doing online gigs and only just enough to pay rent on my tiny, one room studio apartment and to buy food. Basically I do as little as possible to maximize my own free time. I feel absolutely no desire to become rich or famous, I just want to be left alone to enjoy life in my own way. Usually that entails a lot of reading, a lot of movies and a lot of video games. I do go out for an hour long walk every day, but only very early in the morning at a time when the fewest possible people are out and about.

      The odd thing is, I wasn't always this way. I used to have a good paying, "gold collar" job, a fairly large house, a decent car, friends and I dated a lot, but that was over ten years ago. At some point, without even realising it, I just gave up. It wasn't worth all of the hassle and I found myself slowly adapting to a new way of life. I am not at all shy, as defined by "hikikomori" and I am still quite forward (some would say blunt) when I speak to people; perhaps a holdover from my "former life".

      Some try to criticize my way of life, as if I'm not "normal" or as if I should have something to be ashamed about, but I really don't care about those people. Admittedly, I used to carry a certain amount of shame, but that disappeared long ago. Now, I focus on my own peace of mind and that suits me just fine.

    24. Re:Mammonis all over again. by datavirtue · · Score: 1

      Cats bounce back quickly. I had a domesticated house cat that had to go outside, now it won't let me within 10 feet before it darts off. Totally feral.

      --
      I object to power without constructive purpose. --Spock
    25. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      What "online gigs" are these that you can make ~$1600/mo to support this lifestyle?

      Inquiring minds want to know!

    26. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Rich0 · · Score: 2

      I'd also call it looking busy more than non-stop work. It is work to impress your boss/coworkers, not to get stuff done. I had a coworker go over there and it took them all day to do a task that could be done in 20 minutes tops.

      When I'd visit I'd leave at 5PM and when I showed up at 8AM I'd be handed printouts with colorful slides summarizing the previous day's activities. It really wasn't necessary, but it demonstrated that they were working for quite a while after I left.

    27. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I am not sure where you pulled that completely arbitrary number from, but I survive on far less than that. There is no extravagance here, just the basics.

      Try listening to people.

    28. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Where do you live (be as vague as you like, just trying to understand how to do it myself), what is your life expectancy given your diet and healthcare options, and why won't you say what it is you do to acquire whatever amount of money you do use / need for your lifestyle? And roughly how much is "far less than" $1600/mo?

    29. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      finally ... a post that i agree with.. my 5th reply on this topic as anonymous, first one that i agree with ..

    30. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I live in central Europe. My rent+utilities is about the equivalent of USD $300/month, food is about $100-$150/month, phone about $20/month, internet+TV about $35/month. My diet is vegan, I usually shop at local outdoor markets and as I have already said, I walk every morning.

      I do primarily graphics design/commission and web development. Perhaps 10-20 hours a month. I have a small, established client base but sometimes I find extra work on sites that cater to online freelance employment, such as VWorker, Guru, ELance, etc. There are a number of such sites around, you just have to look.

    31. Re:Mammonis all over again. by liquid_schwartz · · Score: 1

      I used to think that this was how the expression was translated and like many in the west I thought that it described the pressures to conform. Then when I used that exact quote a friend of mine who was studying engineering and Japanese corrected me and said that it was more properly translated as "the nail that stand up gets bent over". That the nail was hammered was implied, but since bent over has other meanings these days it made it sound even more severe. I'd stay in my room to if being non-conformist meant getting bent over. Makes getting hammered down look nice.

    32. Re:Mammonis all over again. by minstrelmike · · Score: 1

      imo, the social question to ask is: What problem do you want?
      Do you want losers hiding in their parent's houses in Japan or do you want to kick them out on the streets like in America and have them reproducing like feral cats?
      I suspect as long as poor White trash Americans keep voting for Republicans, we'll probably continue to maintain our current policies.

    33. Re:Mammonis all over again. by minstrelmike · · Score: 1

      That's what I'm thinking. A lot of folks here are saying that karoshi phenomenon is coming to America, but I don't think so.
      I think the American 1950s moved to Japan with widespread industrialism and now they are coming to their own versions of the counter-cultural 1960s where quite a few people turned on , tuned it, and dropped out instead of going corporate.

    34. Re:Mammonis all over again. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      What "online gigs" are these that you can make ~$1600/mo to support this lifestyle?

      (Not the original AC, but another AC in similar situation)

      "Having $1M liquid net worth."

      $1600/mo = $19200/year. That's a 2% yield. Put half your money in (randomly selected stocks with dividend yields over 5%), and leave the other half in cash. Philip Morris and AT&T aren't going bankrupt tomorrow, but they might drop by 30-40% if the world collapses like it did in 2008. If you only need 2% yield, it doesn't hurt to have 500K in cash to invest at an 8-10% yield after a crash. Even if PM and T cut their dividends by half, you're still making enough to live on. If the economy turns around and everyone makes money, you make $100-200K in capital gains in the first year after the crash.

    35. Re:Mammonis all over again. by HornWumpus · · Score: 1

      In practice most larger dogs and cats go feral and survive well enough to be pests.

      Little dogs, hairless cats etc are freaks and won't survive.

      --
      John McAfee 'It was like that time I hired that Bangkok prostitute; to do my taxes, while I fucked my accountant'
    36. Re:Mammonis all over again. by operagost · · Score: 1

      So I refuse to participate in a situation that is not only apathetic toward my well-being, but actively, maliciously, greedily abusive of me.

      So you allow your family-- and society, through our high taxation and socialist governments-- to work hard while you greedily consume the fruit of their efforts? I read your entire post, searching in vain for some sign this was a troll post rather than an actual narcissist screed. Indeed, I know people who don't have great jobs, but this doesn't bother them because they work to live, not live to work. They are content spending the rest of their time being creative and helping other people. I am sorry that you are crippled by your mental issues, but placing the blame on society will never help you recover.

      --

      Gamingmuseum.com: Give your 3D accelerator a rest.
    37. Re:Mammonis all over again. by operagost · · Score: 1

      You're not in the same boat, because you support yourself and rely on no one. You chose to live a minimalist lifestyle, and I greatly respect that. I have a friend who works fairly menial jobs, but works efficiently and thus has time for his music, socializing and charitable work. The person you responded to is leaning on society, expecting the same people he despises to support him.

      --

      Gamingmuseum.com: Give your 3D accelerator a rest.
  4. Read "Welcome to the N.H.K." by MickyTheIdiot · · Score: 5, Informative

    It's the best fictional account of the issue I've seen.

    1. Re:Read "Welcome to the N.H.K." by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Thanks, just ordered it.

      Also I think the portrayal of Kondo Tatsumi (Japanese computer hacker) in World War Z (the novel) was pretty good as well, and was the first thing I thought of reading this article. It was one of my favorite story lines of the book.

    2. Re:Read "Welcome to the N.H.K." by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Everybody here is assuming these guys have a computer connected to the internet. Perhaps they just like reading books?
      Of course, they can't get a job either way, and since they failed English in school they're shit out of luck getting a job overseas.

    3. Re:Read "Welcome to the N.H.K." by Russ1642 · · Score: 2

      They should have no problem. I've worked for a bunch of engineering companies and they seem to have no problem hiring people with barely any English skills.

    4. Re:Read "Welcome to the N.H.K." by Hognoxious · · Score: 2

      So you've been to Brimingham too?

      --
      Confucius say, "Find worm in apple - bad. Find half a worm - worse."
    5. Re:Read "Welcome to the N.H.K." by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      So you've been to Brimingham too?

      +1 hoist with his own petard

    6. Re:Read "Welcome to the N.H.K." by Animats · · Score: 5, Interesting

      There's an anime version of Welcome to the N.H.K. The first episode describes someone becoming hikikomori. Then it gets worse. It's so painful that when it ran on Japanese TV, a public service announcement of a help line for hikikomori ran with each episode.

    7. Re:Read "Welcome to the N.H.K." by Grishnakh · · Score: 1

      Fellow engineer here. I agree; you don't need to speak or write English very well to get a relatively high-paying engineering or programming job.

    8. Re:Read "Welcome to the N.H.K." by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Welcome to the NHK was first published 11 years ago, which interestingly corresponds to the increase in the average age of these guys.

    9. Re:Read "Welcome to the N.H.K." by philipmather · · Score: 1

      In Soviet Brummie-land the companies engineer you!

      --
      Regards, Phil
    10. Re:Read "Welcome to the N.H.K." by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Watch the hikkomori short film (last one) in TOKYO
      http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0976060/

    11. Re:Read "Welcome to the N.H.K." by Hognoxious · · Score: 1

      s/you/yow/

      --
      Confucius say, "Find worm in apple - bad. Find half a worm - worse."
  5. Because Japanese homes rarely have basements by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Funny

    Duh.

  6. helloo....? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    anyone there?

  7. Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    The Internet can provide you with almost everything you need to survive. When people become disillusioned with life they get consumed by the Internet and find it more home than reality ever was.

    How do I know this? I am one of those people.

    1. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      The Internet can provide you with almost everything you need to survive.

      lol do you actually read what you type?

    2. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      With online bill pay, grubhub, and online grocery shopping, the only real reason to leave the house is work and *gasp* IRL friends.

    3. Re:Internet by arth1 · · Score: 1

      With online bill pay, grubhub, and online grocery shopping, the only real reason to leave the house is work and *gasp* IRL friends.

      If lucky, you can get a job telecommuting.
      And one definition of a friend is someone who hasn't stabbed you in the back yet.

      Procreation will require going out, though, unless you're really rich. Which will probably select for people with a genetic predisposition to be more outgoing than these guys.

    4. Re:Internet by jones_supa · · Score: 4, Interesting

      The Internet can provide you with almost everything you need to survive.

      Actually, I'd fine-tune that point a bit: after you have arranged yourself basic survival (food, shelter, etc.), Internet can offer you everything to fill the rest of your life with.

    5. Re:Internet by Mike+Frett · · Score: 3, Interesting

      Yeah this isn't solely a Japanese issue. This is happening everywhere but perhaps not in the numbers they're seeing in Japanese culture. I'd like to see more data.

    6. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'm perfectly happy leaving the house only once per week to buy food. I work every day... but remotely. Seldom I need to go to the office. Skype is good enough for teleconferences. There is nothing "out there" that I need to see or experience.

    7. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Oh yeah, that "almost" shouldn't be there.

    8. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Actually, I'd fine-tune that point a bit: after you have arranged yourself basic survival (food, shelter, etc.), Internet can offer you everything to fill the rest of your life with.

      I hate to break your illusions, but there are real live girls if you leave the basement internet and the internet pictures/videos really aren't substitutes for the real thing.

    9. Re:Internet by cnflctd · · Score: 5, Interesting

      I was too; From 1999 through 2003, I was on disability (U.S.) and eating enough to maintain my weight at 450 pounds (sticky keyboard anyone?). I left the house only to foodshop. I don't think I could lived like that without substantial chemical assistance (booze, drugs, or ice cream).

      Overeaters Anonymous saved my ass; I'm at normal weight, married, in a 9-5 job. I'm still one shy dude, and can get antisocial at the drop of a hat, but I'm much better than I was.

      --
      I'm cool like a fool in a swimming p-p-pfft-pool
    10. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I was one of these people. There is a way out. My road to 'recovery' was long and hard. But it's so wroth it, I'm enjoying life now like I never had before.
      Captcha: downers

    11. Re:Internet by g0bshiTe · · Score: 1

      Assuming you find a genetic marker that proves one is more or less likely to become this way.

      --
      I am Bennett Haselton! I am Bennett Haselton!
    12. Re:Internet by g0bshiTe · · Score: 1

      Good for you for breaking that cycle.

      --
      I am Bennett Haselton! I am Bennett Haselton!
    13. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      the internet pictures/videos really aren't substitutes for the real thing.

      Of course, they are not even comparable. When did you ever hear about a man contracting an STD from a photo? Who was ever lied to by a video? What man got stuck with a child (maybe even his own,) and child support payments for decades, by an image on a computer screen? Were you ever beaten up by a man who looked at the photo just before you did? The answer to all that is, of course, "never" - and those would be unfortunate events that are pretty common in real life, when you deal with real humans.

    14. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I used to think like that, but I was very, very wrong.

      Your life is the richness of experience you gain while living it and there is richness in diversity.

      Don't cheat yourself out of life by doing the same comfortable things over and over again.

      Of course you may not get what I mean and will still be wondering on your deathbed, and that's ok too.

    15. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Food, work, entertainment, education, even some social contact. I'm actually quite interested now whether it's possible to survive without ever moving out.

    16. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      It's ironic that you promote diversity and yet simultaneously state that people cheat themselves out of life because they are different. Not everyone defines richness of experience the same way as you do.

    17. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I was too; From 1999 through 2003, I was on disability (U.S.) and eating enough to maintain my weight at 450 pounds (sticky keyboard anyone?). I left the house only to foodshop. I don't think I could lived like that without substantial chemical assistance (booze, drugs, or ice cream).

      Overeaters Anonymous saved my ass; I'm at normal weight, married, in a 9-5 job. I'm still one shy dude, and can get antisocial at the drop of a hat, but I'm much better than I was.

      congratulations...you seem to really have changed your life for the better... thas all we can do ...

    18. Re:Internet by arth1 · · Score: 1

      Assuming you find a genetic marker that proves one is more or less likely to become this way.

      No, you don't have to find a marker - evolution works whether you find one or not. There doesn't even have to be one - it could be a combination of several others that code for different things, but combined have a side effect.
      Or it could even be incidental - say that there's a societal bias for "geeks" to pick girls with glasses. Then a gene coding for myopia would have an effect.

      What is certain, is that as long as there is anything that differs, related or not, evolution will work with it and over surprisingly few generations, there will be a noticeable bias.

    19. Re:Internet by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      There is nothing "out there" that I need to see or experience.

      I agree 100%. And every time I do go out and something terrible happens to me it just reinforces this more and more. I think, "I should have just stayed home. If I had stayed home this wouldn't have happened."

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    20. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Sincere question: are you happier now? Were you unhappy before making the life change? I feel like we so often project values onto others and assume they must be horribly unhappy in such isolation, but I'm genuinely curious as to whether some people find the world through the lens of a computer perfectly satisfying.

    21. Re:Internet by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      but there are real live girls

      Only for those attractive enough and outgoing enough to get them. Probably most hikikomoris are neither. For everyone else just seeing a pretty girl is another form of negative reinforcement. It just tortures you by showing you what you can never ever have. It's like a homeless person who eats out of garbage cans looking into the window of an expensive restaurant. What's the point? Masochism?

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    22. Re:Internet by nanospook · · Score: 1

      Good for you! :)

      --
      Have you fscked your local propeller head today?
    23. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I am also one of those people (ish). The following things about IRL most depress me:

      - Time (and CPU Time (mental)) required for physical travel
      - Inefficiency of synchronous communication (not as much time for decoding & compression)
      - Prevalence of base human instincts/behavior over higher function (AppStore)

    24. Re:Internet by Bing+Tsher+E · · Score: 1

      They're not nearly as common as you seem to assume. Really. I've not had those experiences.

    25. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Welcome to te club.

      I am most definitely one of these as well, except that I live on my own and I am older. I am not particularly anti-social, but most definitely asocial.

      This is my choice but for near to the last ten years, I have not gone out except, as infrequently as possible, to get my essentials and to walk my dog. Getting a dog was a medical suggestion and I am now OK with that as the only problem with my lifestyle was the total lack of exercice.

      In this period, I truly have not had a single visitor, not been to visit anyone, not been to a restaurant, bar, coffee shop or visiting friends due to my own choice.

      Prior to this I never had any issues with people, was a very social person myself. No social inadequacy here. In fact, nearly the reverse I could hardly stay at home on my own.

      I simply feel that my life has become much more sensible and definitely much more peaceful and paisible.

      I very much hope that as I age I will be able to keep this up. If not, I am not sure I might not consider options that are not condoned by society, ie suicide.

      To those that think that I may miss on the richness of life, I pity you, for your lack of observation and insight. A life such as mine is absolutely as rich as any other. I have the same amount of experiences that anyone has. Experience does not stop because you stay still with your eyes closed in a silent environment, check it out. I might be able to experience these experiences more fully for being able to give them more intense attention rather than going from what seem one distraction to the next in a rapid, ceaseless and nearly maniacal fashion.

      I can't afford drugs or booze and a bit past it regarding porn or sex, on top of which I really feel that I am too busy for those distractions. I mean, if you want to not miss on the experience then you have to attend to the experiencing, imo. My experiencing only ceases to a degree when I sleep.

      Gotta go now.... going to look at the way I very richly experience things in my solitude.

    26. Re:Internet by cnflctd · · Score: 1

      As long as I was buzzing on sugar and flour, I enjoyed myself, at a price. Slashdot gave me some feeling of fellowship. But coming to in the mornings was a bitch.

      Some of us sought out sordid places, hoping to find understanding companionship
      and approval. Momentarily we did -- then would come oblivion and the awful awakening to face
      the hideous Four Horsemen -- Terror, Bewilderment, Frustration, Despair. Unhappy drinkers [eaters/isolators] who read this
      page will understand

      Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 151

      Am I happier now? Sometimes I'm good, other times I'm beat up. I got two dogs who love me; they take me for walks. I wouldn't trade places with anybody.

      --
      I'm cool like a fool in a swimming p-p-pfft-pool
    27. Re:Internet by loufoque · · Score: 1

      There is various data on Wikipedia.
      See the NEET page for example. NEET is a term invented by the UK to describe that kind of people: "not in education, employment or training". It might be slightly different, because a NEET is not necessarily a shut-in, but it usually goes together.

    28. Re:Internet by loufoque · · Score: 3, Funny

      You were living the dream and you discarded it for normalcy. How sad.

    29. Re:Internet by Hentes · · Score: 1

      You can order food on the Internet.

    30. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Seriously: Congratulations, and best wishes to you.

    31. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I've got problems that no real girl would work with. Like morbid obesity, low self-esteem, and pedophilia. Its much easier to just waste away doing web dev work remotely than go outside and face the fact that I'm garbage and constantly have to worry.

      My room is much safer.

    32. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Seems like a self-fulfilling prophesy: I prophesy something terrible happening when I leave home. Oh no! I interpret this event as something terrible! This would not be possible if I had never left home.

      It seems like a case of confirmation bias to me. I bet if one applied the same logic while staying at home, one could justify never going indoors the same way.

    33. Re:Internet by Lotana · · Score: 1

      It is very enlightening to hear such a different point of view. Could you please tell us more about things you do to fill up the free time. I would find it hard to believe that it is just Internet. What other hobbies you persue that can be fulfilled without leaving your home?

    34. Re:Internet by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      If you look at videos of Tanner Mays I will kick your ass. She is mine.

  8. Don't go out! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Maybe they follow Rodney's advice:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LF0MilNDV1I

  9. practicalities make it impossible.. by gl4ss · · Score: 4, Interesting

    it's a cultural thing involving japanese and their parents.

    I couldn't have holed up in my room if I wanted to, I would have been kicked out sooner or later, probably sooner - and after that if I wanted to hole up I would at least need a job to support that.

    practically they depend on the parents to arrange them food, but I wonder what % of these are actually able to pull in income? how active they are socially on the net?

    --
    world was created 5 seconds before this post as it is.
    1. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by CastrTroy · · Score: 4, Insightful

      While it's probably not just a Japanese thing, there's definitely a lot of something to do with the parent's allowing them to do this. I mean, it's one thing to live with your parents, but another story completely when you refuse to leave your room. I liken it to those people who end up being 800 lbs and bedridden. You don't get that way without somebody helping you out along the way. Usually it's a spouse or child that supplies these people with the buckets of fried chicken and gallons of soda that's needed to maintain such a high body weight.

      --

      Anthropic principle: We see the universe the way it is because if it were different we would not be here to see it.
    2. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by tnk1 · · Score: 4, Interesting

      I've seen some situations where these shut-ins make money with online stuff. Usually it is low income, as you would expect, but some of them are actually accomplished traders or online gamblers. One or two are actually worth millions. Those are the exceptions, of course, but there are some things you can do to make money from a computer, if you never leave your room and never want to.

      They can also probably arrange for food deliveries as well, although I imagine that family support is there for most of these people.

      I'm not going to take a high ground against these people, I could understand how they might feel. Once I left home, I couldn't bear to return, but I think that I felt very strongly I needed to make a change like that in a way that I don't know if I would now.

      It is possible that these people missed out on that stage in your life when you have a strong biological motivation to change your situation from living with parents to living independently. I know that one big reason I wanted to get out was that it was significantly easier to attract, and then have a relationship with a woman when you weren't living at home.

    3. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I think it's also possible that they've given up on "3D" (as in "real") women entirely. If you give that up you've just lost your main motivation for moving out.

    4. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Seumas · · Score: 2

      I don't think it is a cultural thing. Have you ever visited reddit? It's just a bunch of twenty-somethings whining about how hard it is to find a job, how much work sucks, how expensive things are, how little vacation Americans get, how expensive school is, blah blah blah... all while justifying to each other in lengthy circle jerks about why they're almost thirty (or, in some cases, over thirty) and still living at home with their parents...

    5. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That's just because you parent's don't love you. Other American are in different circumstances.

    6. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Nrrqshrr · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Well, am not the oldest guy around here, probably. But I think there is a growing tendency now for men/woman to spend their time/money on things other than "Socializing". Quite many of my friends spend their money collecting figurines or video games or whatever, and though they are interested and in need of meeting strangers and the other sex, they prefer to keep such interactions to a minimum and find the whole "mating ritual" too complicated. (I admit that my circle of friends is composed of rather like-minded individuals). Hell, there is an entire movement for this, provided it deals more with the rejection of society's expectations.
      So yeah, I guess it's impossible for the people aforementioned to live as shut-ins because there is no financial support from their parents for this kind of lifestyle. But they simply evolved now and kept their social interactions (and interests) to the bare minimum.
      I imagine that if they had rich parents who allowed them to do anything, they would live as hikikomoris, but if those japanese shut-ins were forced to go out and work, they would still simply work and socialize to feed their own isolation, in their own little way.

      I actually tried understanding why they do what they do, and I was met with an interesting answer, "Why not?".

    7. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by gl4ss · · Score: 2

      I don't think it is a cultural thing. Have you ever visited reddit? It's just a bunch of twenty-somethings whining about how hard it is to find a job, how much work sucks, how expensive things are, how little vacation Americans get, how expensive school is, blah blah blah... all while justifying to each other in lengthy circle jerks about why they're almost thirty (or, in some cases, over thirty) and still living at home with their parents...

      but that is entirely different. living at home is totally different from being enabled to live in one room at home. that needs room service.
      for the record I moved out so that I wouldn't need to do stuff like mow the grass and shovel the snow - essentially for laziness sake, moving away from home enabled me to be more of a shut in.

      also, maybe, even if they're your peers, you shouldn't hang around on some subreddit for italian 30 something men living with their moms, they're not a good influence you know!

      --
      world was created 5 seconds before this post as it is.
    8. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 4, Interesting

      The "mating ritual" is too complicated. Social relations too, especially when others are actually trying to eradicate you (you are mere a rival for then in the "get power and females" game). I, as example, have a job and my own house. But I do not have the slightest interest in socializing when seems to be no one worthwhile to attempt interact, and the actual females are too batshit-crazys to aproach.

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    9. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Interesting

      I can vouch for that. The ROI on 3D women versus the 2D kind is simply atrocious.

      Sure it's marginally better with a 3D woman but the price you pay is outrageous relative to slight increase in satisfaction over my hand, the screen, and some good inebriants. The amount of money saved has allowed me to buy my own place to hide out in rather than having to live with mom and dad.

    10. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by SpeZek · · Score: 0

      Socializing and the "mating ritual" isn't that hard when you treat women like people and don't act like you're superior to everyone because you've stopped trying.

    11. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      So, when will women treat men like people and not parasites?

      http://nymag.com/nymetro/news/features/n_9495/

    12. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by nedlohs · · Score: 1

      Obviously if they have a work to complain about, or a lack of vacation time to complain about, or a school to pay for then they aren't anything like what the article described, so no that isn't any evidence at all of it not being a cultural thing.

    13. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by gallondr00nk · · Score: 3

      I'm not going to take a high ground against these people, I could understand how they might feel.

      I have the same sympathy as the (thread!) parent. I feel in some ways we live in an age where traditional societal pressures about who one "should" be as an adult are deteriorating, and I'm personally glad for it. For some people of both sexes never moving out from under the wing of their parents and not engaging with society is something they would want themselves.

      It's easy to sneer and call them losers and say it's a societal issue, but at the end of the day who are they harming? I really don't see the problem.

    14. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Peaceful_Patriot · · Score: 4, Insightful

      There are female geeks out there that you would probably enjoy knowing. But internet-driven fantasies only include 'hot' women, fantasy women who require nothing socially or emotionally. As a female geek, I can tell you that generally women are welcome in the tech world, as long as they are hot and don't mind standing there in a tight sweater, watching admiringly while some guy makes the decisions.

      Why are so few women in IT? Possibly because the field in filled with young men who view women as either 'hot' or utterly invisible.

      --
      There is nothing so powerful as an idea whose time has come.
    15. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by AmazingRuss · · Score: 5, Insightful

      I think what's happening is that people find more interesting conversations on the internet than they can find among the people around them, and it makes the people around them far less interesting by comparison. I honestly don't know anybody besides my wife in meatspace that I would have a conversation with out of anything but politeness. Almost everybody simply regurgitates what they see on cable TV, or talks about their offspring.

    16. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Just go on a dating website like everyone else. Not really that hard.

    17. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 1

      It would be great if the problem was just that... No my friend, I can say - with all certainty - that I am one of the most respectful people you could ever meet. The problem is that this is not what they want, I do not wrote "is too complicated" for nothing. And, I do not claim to be "superior". I just wrote that, in my case, I just gave up after concluding that women are insane and this do not makes me "superior" to others, just different.

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    18. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Shadow99_1 · · Score: 3, Interesting

      Not all hikimori (to use the Japenese term) live with their parents. In Japan many hikimori actually go to the 'big city' (ie Tokyo in most cases) trying to get into university and when they fail some of become hikimori living on a stipend form their parents and not leaving their 1-room apartments.

      Especially in Japan, but also in other parts of the world, getting into the 'right' school can mean the difference between being 'somebody' and being 'average'. Lots of people are set up to fail if they cannot be 'somebody'.

      --
      we are all invisible unless we choose otherwise
    19. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by drinkypoo · · Score: 0

      While it's probably not just a Japanese thing, there's definitely a lot of something to do with the parent's allowing them to do this.

      I don't have any kids, but even I can imagine how hard this has to be on a Japanese parent. They know that there's simply no place in society for these men to be useful. They are simply unneeded. It's hard to tell someone "get out and get a job" when there's no job for them to get. The same thing is going on here in the USA. When there's grown men coming around with fucking lawn mower trying to feed their kids, shit is desperate. And it's going to continue to be this way until we get smart enough to recognize that capitalism is the enemy of humanism.

      --
      "You're right," Fisheye says. "I should have set it on 'whip' or 'chop.'"
    20. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      Women are people, but they are different enough. A man cannot easily understand a woman. Sometimes a woman cannot understand herself. Men are driven by facts and logic; women are driven by emotions and expectations. These are incompatible thought processes.

      Nobody is superior, neither the man nor the woman. However it is not very wise to try to combine incompatible ways of thinking, especially when each side is unable or unwilling to understand the other side. The only superiority can come out of understanding of futility of such efforts. A smart man will walk away. Perhaps a smart woman will do the same; though it's harder for a woman because she is programmed to raise children, and children need both parents. Still, the numbers show that women initiate most divorces. The society helps them to make that decision by forcing men to pay. This practice is not far away from habits of some spiders, where the female devours the male after she is through with him.

      In essence, if you are not willing to bend over backwards to understand and please your spouse, do not bother to marry. Even if you are willing to do what it takes, there is no certainty that the spouse will do the same toward you. People are fallible, very much so. It takes two good and honest people who do all they can to help each other to form a stable family; and even then they are subject to natural influences (aging, hormones, external events, random occurrences) that may unbalance the situation. Centuries ago the society helped to keep marriage bonds in place by frowning upon divorced people. Spouses took each other for what they are, and accepted that for life. Today the society is happy to tell them that they are free to divorce. A wise person would then skip the whole marriage ritual and save billions of nerve cells in the process.

    21. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by SpeZek · · Score: 0, Troll

      I just gave up after concluding that women are insane and this do not makes me "superior" to others, just different.

      Right there you're claiming that 50% of the human population is insane. Presumably, you don't count yourself among them.

      I can say - with all certainty - that I am one of the most respectful people you could ever meet.

      Clearly not, since you don't respect women.
      Oh, but wait, they don't want respect apparently, right? How's that working out?

    22. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by SpeZek · · Score: 1

      Except gender existentialism is and always has been bullshit. Different sex organs doesn't mean different thought processes.

      Contrary to popular belief, both men and women think with their brains. Maybe not AC's though.

    23. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by SpeZek · · Score: 1

      Essentialism, not existentialism. Damn autocorrect.

    24. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 3, Informative

      GASP! A... actual, real, female geek? Just one minute please, running my reality check here, I may really just dreaming about be here writting on ./

      Okay, now a detailed explanation about my opinion above:

      1) I are not, in any means, the "default guy". And this is like a "social death sentence" on my city. I are not rich, not powerfull, not beaultiful. ergo, I are a "outcast" for the average woman;

      2) I tried the "social game", I really would like to have friends and girlfriend and in a good way (no "macho" man). But, soon I figured that either you become this despicable "macho" man or nobody will want to know about me. And, I preffer to do not be that;

      3) The average woman, trust me, is know to says "A" but actually want "B", and maybe does "C". Of course not all are like that, but so far I have not found one out of this pattern, and I searched a lot;

      4) Finally, I REALLY do NOT like confusions. If a woman says "no" I'm leaving, even though she was actually saying the opposite (who said that the "mating ritual" is simple?). Because I do not want to pass in any way by the hassle of having to deal with an enraged woman.

      In short? I just weighed all variables obtained over time and came to the conclusion that in the end is not worth it.

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    25. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 2

      HAHAHAHAHAHAHA, I tried this one too... Just a big waste of my time. Lots, I mean lots, of average woman searching for some fool to feed him (bad womans carring children resulted from bad decisions with good looking but shitty man), or womans searching for a rich, "adonis" man.

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    26. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Oh, but wait, they don't want respect apparently, right? How's that working out?

      Pretty well for the people pushing "Game".

    27. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 1

      Hum... I think you is a feminist, and if this is true, as in other fanaticism there is no way I can argue with you. You win, I are a wild "macho" man! :-) I will get my tomahawk and go home to do some smashup, uga uga!

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    28. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by SpeZek · · Score: 1, Insightful

      Well gee-whiz, if not totally discounting half the people I'll ever meet just because of what's between their legs makes me a feminist, then I guess you win!

    29. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by 0111+1110 · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Possibly because the field in filled with young men who view women as either 'hot' or utterly invisible.

      Women also view men as either 'hot/cute' or utterly invisible. Welcome to the human race. And as someone who has lived in a number of different cultures let me assure you that this phenomenon is quite cross-cultural as well. Although I have noticed that American women are at least somewhat more obsessed with looks than in some of the other cultures where I've lived. I'd say the biggest difference is that women are more prone to lie about this. Men tend to be more open and honest about it.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    30. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by tftp · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Right there you're claiming that 50% of the human population is insane. Presumably, you don't count yourself among them.

      It goes both ways. I'm sure the term "insane" here means "uncorrelated to all the psychological patterns known to me." It may be perfectly normal for that other 50%, though.

      Clearly not, since you don't respect women.

      What is respect, though? Isn't leaving them alone, after acknowledging that he cannot work with them, not a sign of respect? I may respect you, and you may respect me, but we may never travel together - maybe just because we are going in opposite directions; because our goals and our ideals are incompatible. But if I take a whip and start beating you, in attempt to teach you the proper behavior as I understand it, then it wouldn't be respectful at all. Leaving other people alone is the highest form of respect, since it acknowledges that they are right on their own, and they require no "help" to get better.

    31. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I have to agree with you on this.

      Personally, I have come to the point where I feel utterly alone around the "mainstream" society. Paradoxically, it is easier for me to not feel alone, when I'm alone browsing the internets.

    32. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by SteveWP · · Score: 0

      rent the pussy , don't buy it. It's easy to find hookers online and they come right to your house. When your done kick there asses out the door, the pussy can't hurt you that way.

    33. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Except that their brains are different!

      Paradoxically estrogens make a brain male. Estrogens masculinize the brain but can't cross the brain-blood barrier. On the other hand it's the testosterone that can cross it where gets converted to estradiol in the brain throught the alpha-5-reductase and other steroidogenic enzymes.

      So coinciding with popular belief, it's a scientific fact that both men and women brains are physiologically different.

    34. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by SpeZek · · Score: 2

      If this were a matter of race, not gender, would your arguments still hold? Is it socially or morally acceptable to lump an entire demographic of people into one negative category and then refuse to acknowledge them as individuals outside of your bias?

    35. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You just don't understand them. I'll tell you buddy, there was never a woman born who cared a jot about romance or love, those are mens' vanities. A woman will weigh up partners just like a famer judges cows at a mart, and the more gestures (and the more extravagant they are) she receives the higher the bar she will set for a suitable mate. Don't kid yourself, the only thing she's interested in is what you can do for her and how much of a one way street that is - which by the way reduces the value of the particulalry intelligent, or the strong willed, they won't be as useful as a steady earner. The 'friendzone' means you have been disqualified as a partner and are now treated as a fellow woman, a non competing one, a categorisation which means you may still be useful but need to be kept at a distance.

      That's also why women go crazy for 'the bad boy', someone below their social standard who actively spurns their advances; they need to prove they can attract men like that so they won't have to mentally lower their social bar. It's not about being leader of the pack or whatever other horsehit, it's all about the woman.

      Maybe there are women out there who are the real deal, but I've never met one. I'm not exactly waiting by the phone either but using what I know to have some fun.

      I recommend you do the same thing.

    36. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Trimaxion · · Score: 1

      For some people of both sexes never moving out from under the wing of their parents and not engaging with society is something they would want themselves.

      It's easy to sneer and call them losers and say it's a societal issue, but at the end of the day who are they harming? I really don't see the problem.

      They could be harming their parents. They might prefer to live out their golden years without their dependent adult children lurking down the hall.

      Then again, if it's consensual, no big deal, I with them luck... but mom and dad will drop dead one day, and then who will pick up the tab?

    37. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by lgw · · Score: 1

      I've never seen that problem on a dev team (though I hear it's the norm for Ruby), but then dev and "IT" are different worlds.

      --
      Socialism: a lie told by totalitarians and believed by fools.
    38. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by tftp · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I presume you are talking about races within human species. The difference between individuals is stronger across genders than across races. A white man, an Indian man, a Black man and an Asian man have far better chances of forming a stable team than a white man and a white woman. As such, if there are psychological differences between races, they are entirely caused by nurture. The differences between a male and a female are genetic, formed over a long period of time to optimize the chances of survival of the species. (Nature avoids unnecessary complexity; the differences wouldn't be there unless they serve a purpose.)

      It's certainly valid to lump an entire demographic together. However I wouldn't place that group into a "negative" category. There are very few demographics, if any at all, that can be painted with such a wide brush. (Maybe some tribe of cannibals?) I don't think the OP intended to do that either. He used the word "insane," but it has meanings outside of clinical use. More commonly it is synonymous to "incomprehensible." All I read there is that the OP acknowledged his lack of ability to understand the opposite gender, and walked away. That's hardly wrong. Some men choose to correct the problem by use of force - and some women accept that. That would be far more wrong, on both sides of it.

    39. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by SpeZek · · Score: 1

      I've taken enough evo-psych in University to see right through your bullshit. You're just spewing pseudo-scientific babble. You may as well be comparing the skull shapes of men and women to make your point, while ignoring inconsistencies in your internal logic.

    40. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Ah yes, a perfect Catch-22: I do not know anyone interesting, so I refuse to try to meet new people because they will not be interesting.
      Mod +1 Autism Spectrum Disorder

      (I await your flamebait mod's on this post.)

    41. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by TeknoHog · · Score: 1

      I've seen some situations where these shut-ins make money with online stuff. Usually it is low income, as you would expect, but some of them are actually accomplished traders or online gamblers. One or two are actually worth millions.

      Would one of these millionaires, perchance, be Nakamoto Satoshi?

      --
      Escher was the first MC and Giger invented the HR department.
    42. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      ... interesting conversations on the internet ...

      I find cyber-chatting with random strangers to be absolutely boring. While face to face conversation is emotionally complex to me, it is faster, structured and more interesting than waiting for a bad typist to express some idea, which he has probably changed several times before finishes typing.

    43. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by tftp · · Score: 1

      That is a wonderful example for the whole discussion here! Thanks!

    44. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      When i say that women are bat shit crazy, I mean that they have been socialized, to focus on fears and desires. This activates the thalamus and deactivates the frontal cortex, leading to a reduced ability to reason when triggered. Furthermore, women exhibit higher sensitivity to dopamine and lower levels of serotonin.

    45. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by slew · · Score: 1

      So, when will women treat men like people and not parasites?

      Probably when men treat women like people and not objects/arm-candy... For *all* men and women, that is likely to never. For *some* men and women, that is generally when they are considered grown up.

      However, I've made an observation over the years that for some adult people, there is a dysfunctional aversion to generosity that is essentially segregationist (e.g., some men might help another man move, or a woman might take another woman to lunch, but neither would consider doing that for the opposite sex as they think that they are being taken advantage of). Basically, I correlated that type of gender segregation is simply a leading indicator of not being a grown-up.

      There is some evidence that humans go through a progression where as babies, where there's essentially no group preference, to toddlers where gender segregation starts to occur. Some theorize that it is this segregation that eventually supports opposite sex attraction and pairing in the adolecent years, by creating a training period in which a person learns the framework of gender and helping them learn about what is desirable in the opposite gender (by presumably learning group-think stereotypes of the other gender by your "clan" or "gang").

      Hopefully when a person eventually "grows-up", they can recover from the "gang" mentality and the resulting group-think and assert their own critical thinking, but obviously it's not a foregone outcome. Evolution is against us in this case as many have selected a mate based on group-think criteria and procreated prior to this time, so there isn't much evolutionary pressure against not growing up and remaining in this adolecent state in perpetuity.

      Some have theorized that this change of growing-up is merely when the original idea of a person being on a one-dimensional space with masculine and feminine directions we learn as toddlers changes to a multidimensional space of characteristics (each of which can be classified as more masculine or feminine) where people can express higher or lower amounts of that characteristic with a more complex preference profile. But of course this is merely only a theory, but one that I find quite interesting as it supports the notion that some folks can't seem to find anyone "compatible" as they seem to be looking for things in a partner that they don't actually care about (but think other folks care about) and dismiss them as not-good-enough on a seemingly linear scale (e.g. they aren't a "10"), yet they seem ignore characteristics in people you think they might like. Maybe they just haven't grown up enough yet to see past one-dimensional thinking.

      Just because a woman (in the article you reference), is the breadwinner, doesn't mean she's a grown-up. She's basically stuck with the prince-charming girl fantasy (just some guys are stuck with equivalent fantasies about girls) that she probably learned as part of the group-think aculturation. We don't all have to grow-up past that point, but at least we should admit it to ourselves rather than blame an unwitting partner for not living up to a stereotype based on group-think.

    46. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 1

      However, I've made an observation over the years that for some adult people, there is a dysfunctional aversion to generosity that is essentially segregationist (e.g., some men might help another man move, or a woman might take another woman to lunch, but neither would consider doing that for the opposite sex as they think that they are being taken advantage of). Basically, I correlated that type of gender segregation is simply a leading indicator of not being a grown-up.

      Reasonable theory, but have a flaw. Using myself as example, I do not avoid to be generous with women for being "immature". I avoid being generous with them because the very FIRST thing that most of them think when receive my generosity is that I can only be a "dangerous maniac only interested in taking advantage of her and do the most damage". How to deal with that, hum? And I'm not "imagining" this, is how they react that makes clear what they think of my attempt to be generous or polite.

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    47. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 1

      Sir, a big thanks for you. You summed up what I wanted to say in a much simpler way to those who have trouble reading what I try to write (my native language is more complex than English, so is difficult to correctly translate ideas). Exactly, I tried to understand women. I concluded that I am incapable to do this, and to no fault with respect for them so I decided to keep them away. And yes, they are insane, incomprehensible, unpredictable, just pick your favorite version of the meaning.

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    48. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You are claiming essentialism, that is, that men and women are essientially different. This is patently false to anyone who actually interacts with and respects women. The page I linked on the Geek Feminism Wiki also includes some scientific results on the topic.

    49. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 1

      More or less. Add to this that is dangerous trying to get a girl/interact with one. No kidding! Examples of outcomes:

      a) the girl have a neanderthal boyfriend;
      b) the girl is a criminal;
      c) the girl is literally lunatic (to the point of be dangerous);
      d) the girl is ok, but their parents wants you - for god knows what reason - dead;
      e) the girl is a asshole, and for his fun turn you into a "social criminal" for anyone;
      f) the girl thinks you is a "criminal" because you try to speak to she and you do not have a Rolex or BMW;


      Not enought? Think you are like me and are unable to "detect" who is the "good girl", who is the "asshole" and who will at least accept that you get close enough to talk. Still a catch-22?

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    50. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Kjella · · Score: 1

      I have the same sympathy as the (thread!) parent. I feel in some ways we live in an age where traditional societal pressures about who one "should" be as an adult are deteriorating, and I'm personally glad for it.

      Yes, but in this age of self-realization many people feel they're not accomplished enough, many of us chose to or are forced to be cogs in the machinery rather than chasing our dreams. It's not cool to be a burger flipper at McD and I don't think the social pressure is any easier than before, in the eyes of our peers it's fairly easy to fail at life and if you take that at face value you'd be pretty depressed. Choosing to avoid things to ignore how badly you suck at them is common, for example not exercising since that'd reveal just how poorly your shape is. In that sense I can in certain ways understand people who choose to recluse from life rather than deal with it, if you don't try nobody will see how badly you fail.

      --
      Live today, because you never know what tomorrow brings
    51. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Bing+Tsher+E · · Score: 1

      The way you describe the situation makes it sound like you're approaching deer or birdwatching. Have you considered just developing a rapport for some of your fellow human beings who happen to be of the opposite gender? Don't think of yourself as a bear lumbering out of the bushes in attack mode.

    52. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Bing+Tsher+E · · Score: 1

      A white man, an Indian man, a Black man and an Asian man have far better chances of forming a stable team than a white man and a white woman.

      The statistics regarding the number of successful 'teams' of the types you describe completely debunk your argument. The numbers aren't even of the same magnitude.

    53. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Bing+Tsher+E · · Score: 1

      Uh... "it puts the lotion on it's skin."

    54. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You're doing it wrong.

    55. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Sabriel · · Score: 1

      Yes, tftp's arguments would still hold. When a person does not behave as you think they "should", but is not harming anyone by doing so, is it ethically acceptable to force them to change their behaviour?

      No. If you want someone to behave a different way, offer a carrot, not a stick. Offer support. Be their "wingman", if that's the correct idiom. You don't just tell them to "be tough and jump into the deep end" and then walk away without checking whether you need to rescue them from drowning.

      And before you say "they are harming themself"... perhaps. Certainly, they may be denying themselves particular opportunities for growth and fulfillment. But those are not the only opportunities that can provide growth and fulfillment. If we want someone to go out and engage in a particular aspect of human life, even though they find it confusing and difficult, but we aren't going to offer any help, then we're out of line.

    56. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by tftp · · Score: 1

      This is patently false to anyone who actually interacts with and respects women.

      Why did you say "women," and not "men?" This is sexis. I am deeply offended :-) If A is different from B, then B is different from A. Why do you pick women as disrespected, poor victims of big, bad men? Why do you hate women so much? :-)

      Note that I am very careful to not label any one group as deficient. A typical man is just as good with a baby as a typical woman is good with cold steel. But both are needed if they want to have a baby *and* have it protected from predators. Social roles exist even among animals; it's not something that is unique to humans. One could deny that, of course, just as one could deny that water is wet or that the Pope is Catholic.

    57. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      For both genders it is a minority of the most attractive prospects that a majority is scrambling to hook up with. While a few people may find themselves drawn to or settling on the 4's and 5's, the betas (or whatever you wish to call them) for one reason or another, most people are pouring their energy into getting the 9s and 10s or alphas.

    58. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by loufoque · · Score: 1

      I do not find socializing with women, or even getting women into my bed, to be particularly difficult. Study the game, learn its rules and train, and you're good to go.
      It is, however, fairly worthless. Many women in their twenties seem to have no other goal in life than to party or go out, and have therefore very shallow interests. They do not value solitary entertainment, like reading a book or playing a video game. If they watch a movie or a TV show, it better be with other people.

      It is not something genetic, it is a matter of conditioning. Women are conditioned to be seek more social interaction, while men are conditioned to pursue things greater than life, like enlightenment or the elevation of skills. This is apparent in how the genders work differently in the job market.

    59. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by loufoque · · Score: 1

      There is a simple way to deal with this. Do not trust women, and use them as much as they'd try to use you.
      Only once you've established a relationship that has passed the test of time may she gradually earn your trust.

    60. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by loufoque · · Score: 1

      You can have bend any conversation into a good one with pretty much any guy if it's just the two of you and some beer.

    61. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      For all of the above to be true, you must live somewhere really strange.

      I are not, in any means, the "default guy".

      I am not, by any means, a 'default guy'.

      What does this even mean?

      Suggestion for you. Forget your preconceptions (" the average woman... trust me... says 'A' means 'B' does 'C'... etc = weird misogyny) and leave whichever appalling social backwater you happen to have ended up in, and travel.

    62. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      hikimori [sic] (to use the Japenese [sic] term)

      Try again.

    63. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 1

      The "game" is rigged, sir. If you are not rich and/or good looking (cinema actor like), you already lost. How you will "play" the game, if you are not even allowed to take part in it?

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    64. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 1

      English is not my native language, and Google Translator is shit to translate portuguese-brazilian (my language) to english. As for the meaning, means more or less than here the "average guy" drinks like a sponge, do not have education, only speak about sports and treats women like garbage or object.

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    65. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I know that one big reason I wanted to get out was that it was significantly easier to attract, and then have a relationship with a woman when you weren't living at home.

      This may have been true at one point, but I'm afraid it no longer is. As one of those (apparently) permanently single guys, it seems to me values are shifting towards a preference FOR the live at home do-nothings. I know I've lost more than one date to them. I'm early thirties, moderately attractive, $100k+ annual income, but women still pass me over for a 35 year old dude who has never had a job and lives with and is supported by his elderly parents.

    66. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by minstrelmike · · Score: 1

      It is true that both genders use their brains to think, just as both genders use their bodies to walk. However, the bodies are different AND SO ARE THE BRAINS. Look up "Hormones" and their effect on the body. That isn't to say all men are the same, but men and women, in general on average, have different hormones and _therefore_ have different thinking patterns.

    67. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by jonadab · · Score: 1

      > Almost everybody simply regurgitates what they see on
      > cable TV, or talks about their offspring.

      That would actually be an improvement (though, admittedly, a small one). Around here, 92.7% of all conversation, among people over age 30 or so, consists of complaining about medical problems.

      I've actually come to the conclusion that children are more interesting to talk to than adults. I don't remember that being the case when I was younger.

      --
      Cut that out, or I will ship you to Norilsk in a box.
    68. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by darkfeline · · Score: 1

      It is possible that these people missed out on that stage in your life when you have a strong biological motivation to change your situation from living with parents to living independently.

      Might want to rethink that statement. There's no biological reason for wanting to live independently or to change your life situation. Plently of peoples through history lived communally/in a large house as one family, and/or stuck in one place and one occupation throughout their lifetimes. There's no designated stage where one becomes an adult. In the past, one grew up gradually, a children of the past would be treated as much more mature than one now, but a young adult of the past would've been treated as much more immature than they are nowadays. Gradual growth in a safe environment was considered obvious, but in the modern age we have somehow lost even that bit of common sense. Now, you're a child until you hit 18/21 then poof, you're an adult, go and get out of the house and get a job and feed yourself and raise a family. I'm surprised we don't have more hikkikomoris here, but then again, I suppose they've manifested in all those nutcases/psychiatrical patients nowadays. Back in the day, who needed a psychiatrist?

    69. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by jwhitener · · Score: 1

      I think a bigger issue than 'hot or invisible', is that the two (geek or whatever) people that would probably work well together, are both likely to avoid many social interactions, so how in the world will they ever meet?

    70. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by HornWumpus · · Score: 1

      Look around you. Everybody knows an unfortunate looking person that scores like Picasso.

      He disproves your blanket assertion. Granting he might keep his bedroom totally dark.

      --
      John McAfee 'It was like that time I hired that Bangkok prostitute; to do my taxes, while I fucked my accountant'
    71. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by SteveWP · · Score: 0

      Why the hell would you want to keep the pussy around after your done with it? A dog will offer more love and companionship than any pussy will.

    72. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      It's impossible to bleed and think at the same time!

    73. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by colinrichardday · · Score: 1

      When they're not parasites?

    74. Re:practicalities make it impossible.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      No one asked about you. Maybe if you stop thinking about only yourself for a few minutes, you might meet someone up to your standards.

  10. Between the interwebs & mom's kitchen by deadlydiscs · · Score: 2

    you've got everything you need.

  11. Sounds like my kid by russbutton · · Score: 3, Interesting

    Hikikomori huh? Average age of 32?! Oh God... And I thought it was bad with my 20 year old sitting on his butt surfing the web and playing video games. His greatest professional accomplishments are getting his GED and getting an interview at Starbucks (he didn't get the job). That's it.

    1. Re:Sounds like my kid by pr0nbot · · Score: 1

      Does he not get tired of having no money? Even if he has food and a home, at some point surely he has to buy stuff, even if only video games?

    2. Re:Sounds like my kid by SirGarlon · · Score: 4, Insightful

      It sounds like your kid may need some help as well. Nobody wants to be a loser -- if he sits around all day, it could be a sign of depression or anxiety. If you have health insurance, it probably covers screening and treatment for conditions like that.

      --
      [Sir Garlon] is the marvellest knight that is now living, for he destroyeth many good knights, for he goeth invisible.
    3. Re:Sounds like my kid by some+old+guy · · Score: 5, Insightful

      I hear ya. I had a 26 year old step-daughter who did get a the job at Starbucks...and got fired for bad attendance within the month. Back to Facebook and Angry Birds, full-time.

      Funny, a week after I booted her useless ass out she had a new job at a book store, and within the month had graduated from couch surfing to her own cozy efficiency.

      Parents shouldn't whine about their sweet, precious babies laying around their house. They need to put a boot in their ass.

      --
      Scruting the inscrutable for over 50 years.
    4. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Tell him that from next month you will be charging him monthly rent, and you will not be buying him anything. You're happy for him to stay, but he has to pay his way.

      Stop letting him get away with it!

      Unless he has bad depression, in which case you should be more understanding up front.

    5. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      My 18 year-old nephew informed his parents that he was going to take a year off after he graduated from high school before he started on college. He thought taking a year off meant sitting on his ass, playing video games, watching TV and texting his friends while mom & dad went to work and paid for stuff. Boy was his bubble burst when my brother presented him with his share of the bills. I think my brother's comment was something like, "You want to act like an adult, then you have to do ALL the things that adults do, like pay for their own stuff."

      I will give him credit, though. He went down and got a job at the local Target, and has even enrolled in classes at the local community college this fall, just to get his dad off his ass. Hopefully, next year, he will be off to a 4 year university, since he missed all the chances to enroll this fall.

      I have also noticed that my brother has been subtly showing him the benefits of independence, while also helping him steer around the worst mistakes we both made as soon as we got out of our parents' house. For instance, my brother forced him to get a small secured credit card in his name and showed him how to pay off the balance each month. Way better than the $5,000 lesson I had to learn while I was in college.

      Watching him has given me insight as to how I will approach this when my kids get ready to leave the nest (they are currently 9 and 10). For instance, with my dad, we got the boot, and off to college we went. If you showed back up at home, you were welcome, but if you stayed more than the weekend, you got the boot again.

    6. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Make sure he gets out because he loses all inclination to do so. The biological processes behind independence may only be a teenage/young adult situation. If he gets too old in your house, he's not going to want to leave, even if he gets his own job. That's what happened to these kids, and that's what has happened to some people in my family.

      And remember, some animals push their kids out of the nest instead of waiting for them to leave. He won't die without that console or the TV.

    7. Re:Sounds like my kid by russbutton · · Score: 4, Interesting
      He is mildly autistic, with anxiety being a part of it. He completely lacks initiative and ambition. He's always been largely indifferent.

      Kicking him in the butt only makes him curl up into a little ball. I've tried both positive and negative motivations and there are no external means that seem to work.

      The question was asked if he ever got tired of having no money. That is beginning to motivate him a bit. When the motivation is *HIS* idea, then he acts. That's how he ended up getting the Starbucks interview. I've asked the relations to NOT give him money on his birthday and Christmas, which they have agreed to. Now all he gets is birthday cards and is learning that those two days a year are no longer paydays.

      One of his autistic qualities is an almost complete lack of common sense. Really. He is slowly maturing and seems to continue to progress, but at some point, he may become unemployable. My worst nightmare.

    8. Re:Sounds like my kid by Seumas · · Score: 3, Insightful

      I had to walk away from a conversation with a twenty-seven year old a couple weeks ago, because he wouldn't shut up about how hard it was to find a job and how expensive an apartment was and this was why he was still living with his parents and primarily on their dime . . . at almost thirty. Sadly, this doesn't seem to be uncommon at all - especially in people from teens to twenties these days.

      When I was a kid, in the 90s, the expectation was that you were out of the house by the age of 18. You're an adult and you're on your own. Hell, most kids couldn't wait -- and many (like myself) were out by the age of 16 or 17. If you had to get a shitty low-paying job that left you with no pocket money at the end of the month and you had to share a shitty apartment or rented house with five other guys and work long hours and have to make due with taking the bus downtown to meet your dates and go on cheap coffee dates or trips to the park for dates, you didn't mind. It was all worth it for the benefits of BEING ON YOUR OWN and MASTER OF YOUR OWN DESTINY.

      From discussions I've had in recent years, it sounds like kids basically throw their hands up. Life is just too hard. They're not willing to move out of mom and dad's place (or stop letting them fund their living expenses, either) until they have gone to college, paid off college, gotten a well-paying job, saved up enough money for a down on a house, and moved into said house.

    9. Re:Sounds like my kid by Seumas · · Score: 1

      The best help a parent can offer is to kick the kid out. Stop giving people things to fall back on and when the only option left is to get a job, work hard, and take care of your own damn self, you will quickly get a job, work hard, and take care of your damn self.

      Whatever happened to kicking your kids out at 18 so they can go forth on their own in life? They had to plan and prepare for it as they neared the age and didn't just figure "I'll stick around until I'm 20 or 22".

    10. Re:Sounds like my kid by gl4ss · · Score: 1

      well, as long as you don't start bringing him food to his room he's better off than hikikomoris. that's a large part of the problem.

      maybe you should get him to expensive hobbies like clubbing.

      --
      world was created 5 seconds before this post as it is.
    11. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      For the UK, having a regular bus service that goes downtown late at night is a luxury in many cities now. Not even the bus drivers want to drive around alone at night. And the parks are full of druggies and homeless mentally ill. Then the rent just for a single room is around £200/week or £800/month, which equates to a £32K salary. You can't even rent a room by yourself; you need a partner to share the rent payments for the room.

    12. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I have a 45yr old step brother that moved out of the basement and lives in a house that my father bought about 10yrs ago {because his wife didn't want to kick him out on the street} he manages to work some seasonal jobs but mostly his mom pays his bills. {This is the same woman that wanted to kick me out when I was 16 because I wanted to take my time in high school and not go to college until I was 17}

      I have a horrible fear that one of my kids will end up like my step brother. The one I worry about the most about is 21 has a girlfriend with a kid has never held a job for more than three months and still lives at home and surfs the net and plays video games most of the time. He did graduate from high school and did receive an offer of a scholarship which he declined because it was out of state.

    13. Re:Sounds like my kid by Hatta · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Comparing the 2010s to the 1990s isn't fair. The economy was booming, and we still had a middle class. We just went through the biggest recession since the great depression, and the benefits of recovery have accrued entirely to the rich. There's a reason why they call it a "jobless recovery".

      Kids may or may not be softer than they were when we were their age. But it's definitely harder out there.

      --
      Give me Classic Slashdot or give me death!
    14. Re:Sounds like my kid by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 3, Insightful

      The problem with "common sense" (or even better, social common sense) is that for an autistic (or asperger like me) that needs to be taught. And nobody realizes it because everyone automagically all born knowing it (because they are not autistic). Teach to your child social common sense he will learn, do not expect him to know alone.

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    15. Re:Sounds like my kid by sl4shd0rk · · Score: 1

      They need to put a boot in their ass.

      hah.. Good to hear from you Mr. Foreman

      --
      Join the Slashcott! Feb 10 thru Feb 17!
    16. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      A spell in the army would sort him out.

    17. Re:Sounds like my kid by Lashat · · Score: 1

      How are you using the phrase "cozy efficiency". Just wondering. Her own apartment?

      --
      For every benefit you receive a tax is levied. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
    18. Re:Sounds like my kid by MightyYar · · Score: 1

      That sounds like London. We have a similar situation in cities like DC and New York and the bay area. But there are plenty of cities with affordable housing.

      --
      W..w..W - Willy Waterloo washes Warren Wiggins who is washing Waldo Woo.
    19. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Even buying video games / consoles / a computer should be a motivating factor. Maybe you shouldn't buy him crap like that so he is more motivated to buy them himself.

    20. Re:Sounds like my kid by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      Right. Because the only way to get video games is to buy them. Food and shelter is all you need to live. The only reason I ever leave my house is to buy food, and I try to do it quickly. If I didn't need to do that I would never ever leave. The outside world is pretty awful. I've also noticed that whenever I leave my house for extended periods of time bad things tend to happen to me.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    21. Re:Sounds like my kid by jones_supa · · Score: 1

      He is mildly autistic, with anxiety being a part of it. He completely lacks initiative and ambition. He's always been largely indifferent.
      Kicking him in the butt only makes him curl up into a little ball. I've tried both positive and negative motivations and there are no external means that seem to work.

      He seems to be stuck into the mode of thinking where basically the only obligations of life are to be born and die. Ultimately that is philosophically true, but his lack of ambition clearly plays an important role here. The spark has to be lit somehow, creating interesting goals and meanings for his life.

    22. Re:Sounds like my kid by jones_supa · · Score: 1

      The best help a parent can offer is to kick the kid out. Stop giving people things to fall back on and when the only option left is to get a job, work hard, and take care of your own damn self, you will quickly get a job, work hard, and take care of your damn self.

      What if they can't find a job and begin to cope with the benefits of the social security system, continuing playing video games on the sofa? Unless you kick them all the way to Indonesia...

    23. Re:Sounds like my kid by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1
      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    24. Re:Sounds like my kid by phantomfive · · Score: 1

      Maybe you can start charging him for electricity to play video games and surf the net? Maybe start with a dollar a month, so he gets the idea but it isn't painful, then start increasing......doesn't even need to be emotional or manipulative, just an introduction to reality

      --
      "First they came for the slanderers and i said nothing."
    25. Re:Sounds like my kid by DrGamez · · Score: 1

      I took "a year off" after the first year of college.

      I never went back.

      I assume most people don't, they just need a year of space to let everyone around them forget. I have a good job as a software tester right now though, so things have worked out for the better so far.

    26. Re:Sounds like my kid by DrGamez · · Score: 1

      True, but the statistics never tell the story of what's on the ground. I moved out in 2004, bought a house in 2008 (when the market couldn't bottom out any more*) and despite coming up in an era of "no jobs" and "bad economy" I got a job in the tech field, and made enough to buy a house.

      *it did. A lot more. :( But hey! Not underwater as of last year!

    27. Re:Sounds like my kid by 0111+1110 · · Score: 4, Insightful

      OTOH, if you go to suicide discussion groups you will find that many of them are planning to kill themselves for essentially financial reasons. I would ask them, "If you didn't have to work, if you had enough money for food and shelter without working, would you still be planning suicide?" A surprisingly large numbered answered no.

      If I had to work a regular shit job and interact with people socially I would almost certainly kill myself. In order to cope with constant negative reinforcement I need at least some positive reinforcement occassionally as well or living just seems like pointless suffering.

      It's also important to remember that it is not always easy to find a job when you are antisocial or have social anxiety. It can be nearly impossible even when your standards are very low indeed. After you get rejected for the first 50 shit jobs (like bagging groceries, dishwashing at fast food restaurants etc) you apply for that doesn't exactly encourage you to want to go out into the world either. Again, the only reinforcement out there is negative.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    28. Re:Sounds like my kid by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      I have a horrible fear that one of my kids will end up like my step brother.

      Is this because your step brother is unhappy or because you don't want a slacker for a child?

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    29. Re:Sounds like my kid by russbutton · · Score: 1
      You have to understand that this kid isn't motivated by anything external. Charging him for anything would require that he have a way to pay for it. When the time comes that he has employment, then he'll be expected to do two things.

      1. Put half of his income into savings. He's living at home. He can well afford to put money into savings.

      2. He'll have to have some walking around money of course, but he'll also have to help cover his own expenses at home - power usage, food, clothing, etc.

      I believe he's going to need $5,000 in the bank before he can move out. He'll need that kind of cash up front just to get started with life outside the house. That's why he'll be putting money into savings. If there are sufficient funds, I'll also see to it that he gets started with an IRA. You can never start too soon with that sort of thing.

    30. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Know that your situation is not unique. My gf has fraternal twin daughters who are 26. One is outgoing, moving up in her job. The other one has stayed in her room as much as she possibly can since about junior year in high school -- first at her father's house and now in a cheap apartment (her father remarried and the new wife wouldn't have her). Just recently she seems to be making some changes, has gotten a minimum wage job (and held for 2 months). It's in receiving for a department store where she can work with minimal interpersonal contact.

      She has had years of various illness (hives, runs, migranes) and has been tested and medicated for many different physical illnesses--nothing was positive and most of the meds had worse side effects than any positive benefit. Recently she tried some sessions of *occupational therapy* and that did seem to make a difference.

    31. Re: Sounds like my kid by porkThreeWays · · Score: 2

      I began working in the early 2000s. I can attest that things were much easier. I got my first job programming because someone needed and entry level programmer and heard I liked programming. No one gives this generation of kids that sort of break anymore.

      --
      If an officer ever threatens to taze you, say you have a pacemaker.
    32. Re:Sounds like my kid by phantomfive · · Score: 1

      Charging him for anything would require that he have a way to pay for it.

      Then take the internet and games away from him. Then you'll see if he's motivated by something external. He'll find a way to make money; you won't always be there to make decisions for him.

      --
      "First they came for the slanderers and i said nothing."
    33. Re:Sounds like my kid by SirGarlon · · Score: 1

      The best help a parent can offer is to kick the kid out.

      *If* the kid is in good mental health, I would agree. That's a big "if."

      --
      [Sir Garlon] is the marvellest knight that is now living, for he destroyeth many good knights, for he goeth invisible.
    34. Re:Sounds like my kid by russbutton · · Score: 1

      Y'know, I tried that once. Biiiiig mistake. Drove him into a frightenly severe depression. Like I said. External motivations, both negative and positive, do not work. If any of them did, believe that I'd use it.

      I'm 62 years old and figure to work until I'm 70. By then the house will be paid for and we'll have just enough from Social Security and my wife's musician's union pension to cover our essential expenses. But it won't be enough to cover the kid. He's going to *have* to find a way to make money between now and then because we just won't have it. My wife won't let us throw him out on the street, so I don't know just how bad this could get.

      So the kid's not depressed, but I am.

    35. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      How are you using the phrase "cozy efficiency". Just wondering. Her own apartment?

      http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/efficiency%20apartment

      "Cozy" is also a real estate euphemism for "small."

    36. Re:Sounds like my kid by realityimpaired · · Score: 1

      Tell him that from next month you will be charging him monthly rent, and you will not be buying him anything. You're happy for him to stay, but he has to pay his way.

      If that was going to work, he probably would have suggested it by now. When I had to move back in at my parents' place after University (didn't want to, but took me almost a year to find a stable job and I was having some health issues at the time), I told them going into it that I'd be out as soon as I could afford it, and that in the mean time I wanted to continue paying as much of the bills as I could afford. It was a major blow to my pride to have to move back in with my folks at 26, and the next couple of years sucked until I could get my own place again, but I was still paying for my own food, the internet/phone/TV service for everybody, doing chores, and contributing what I could to the mortgage.

    37. Re:Sounds like my kid by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      Comparing the 2010s to the 1990s isn't fair. The economy was booming, and we still had a middle class. We just went through the biggest recession since the great depression, and the benefits of recovery have accrued entirely to the rich. There's a reason why they call it a "jobless recovery".

      I graduated college in '92 with a BS in Electrical Engineering. I job hunted intensively for around 5 years looking for jobs either in hardware or software. Never even had a single interview because I didn't meet the prerequisites. Eventually I just gave up looking. It was obvious that you needed to have experience to get a real job. Every single ad that I saw required a minimum of 2 years experience, but usually 3-5. Every once in a long while I'd see an ad that only required 6-12 months of experience. I had none at all. So I started working at shit jobs instead and the rest is history. My degree wasn't worth shit in the real world.

      I have found that getting a shit job is more difficult than it used to be though. But that may also have something to do with the fact that I'm a lot older than I used to be. For jobs like stocking shelves, register work, bagging groceries, washing dishes etc managers seem to prefer younger people and I can't say I blame them.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    38. Re:Sounds like my kid by drinkypoo · · Score: 1

      Push him to try to get some kind of international volunteer work while he's still young and people still want him. There's no jobs anyway, especially for the unskilled. Japan is merely ahead of us in this regard, having exported more of their actual labor to other countries. Eventually those jobs will all be done by machine, so this is a problem that every nation and every person is going to have to deal with. 80% of Americans work in service industries, for example, and those jobs are gradually being whittled away by technological and sociological changes — elevators drive themselves, valet parking is now used only when someone wants to appear classy... Of course, this is progress, but without societal progress this technological progress pushes us closer to riot.

      --
      "You're right," Fisheye says. "I should have set it on 'whip' or 'chop.'"
    39. Re:Sounds like my kid by roman_mir · · Score: 2, Interesting

      It's 'harder' out there and yet millions of people are able to LIVE without even going outside of their house? Interesting theory, so what is feeding, clothing, taking care of them if not the wealth that the generations have accumulated and they are spending?

      In reality of-course this problem has nothing to do with porn and tentacles and video games, those are just fine escape routes, the reality is that this problem started at the same time as Japan went off the competitive road into inflation driven Keynesian nightmare of an 'economy' that destroyed their real productive economy, prevented the necessary deflation (prevented prices from falling sharply and from many zombie banks and companies shutting down and restructuring). This is the result of a society that is eating itself from the inside with inflation (money printing) policies that keep an otherwise productive population from being much more productive, from being able to do with their productivity what THEY would want to do with it and instead having huge government spending programs that keep failed businesses afloat (all of which are tied to the government structures, that's Japan unfortunately) and so the productive nature of Japanese worker has been used completely inefficiently to grind gears rather than to excel in some interesting enterprises, experiments, attempts to do better than being stuck in 12 hour a day jobs that are more like military divisions rather than places where creativity drives forward the economy by increasing efficiency and creating products that actually improve people's lives.

      This is Keynesian collectivism in action.

    40. Re:Sounds like my kid by citizenr · · Score: 2

      Charging him for anything would require that he have a way to pay for it.

      Then take the internet and games away from him. Then you'll see if he's motivated by something external. He'll find a way to make money; you won't always be there to make decisions for him.

      Wont work, he will just lay on the bed 24/7. The only "easy" fix is chemistry (vitamins, antidepressants).

      --
      Who logs in to gdm? Not I, said the duck.
    41. Re:Sounds like my kid by scot4875 · · Score: 2

      Congratulations! You're one of the lucky ones on the positive side of the bell curve! But that doesn't change the fact that a lot of people are stuck on the bad side of the curve.

      Do you understand the difference between an individual outcome and "statistics"?

      --Jeremy

      --
      Jesus was a liberal
    42. Re:Sounds like my kid by Lashat · · Score: 1

      thanks for not making me look stuff up. :^)

      --
      For every benefit you receive a tax is levied. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
    43. Re: Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Hard to be a master of your own destiny, as Destiny is pre-determined by definition,no? Unless them mastering that joblessness and taking full advantage of the time playing games etc counts as being a master of the destiny that was given to them?

    44. Re:Sounds like my kid by gl4ss · · Score: 1

      A spell in the army would sort him out.

      that's funny.

      Do you know where you don't have to do your own laundry? in the army.
      Do you know where you'll learn to weasel yourself every bit of do nothing time? in the army.
      Do you know where you don't need to decide where you'll be next wednesday? in the army.
      Do you know where you don't ever need to cook yourself(maybe a week on rations excluded, that's some expensive shit so generally you don't get them)? in the army.

      Yeah, I've done my compulsory stint in the army(defensive force). Only thing I wanted to do after that was to lie on my back, get up to speed what had been happening online and drink booze for a while and avoid all busywork. Only bonus for a shut in experience would be that it was genuinely boring and you have to deal with other people(asshats).

      --
      world was created 5 seconds before this post as it is.
    45. Re:Sounds like my kid by DrGamez · · Score: 2

      Yeah, I was illustrating this for the poster above me, who was on the other end of the bell curve. We both are being a bit presumptuous in thinking that our experience dictates everyone's. I didn't mean to imply my experience is the only one.

    46. Re:Sounds like my kid by Tynin · · Score: 1

      How are you using the phrase "cozy efficiency". Just wondering. Her own apartment?

      I suspect efficiency is an American term meaning a small apartment.

    47. Re:Sounds like my kid by ebno-10db · · Score: 1

      When I was a kid, in the 90s ...

      You had to walk to school 5 miles, in the snow, uphill, both ways. Sorry sonny, but you had it easy. In the 70's we had to do it without shoes, over fields of broken glass, and if you got a cut or frostbite they beat the crap out of you for being careless. Damn whippersnappers and their newfangled "shoes".

      I do feel bad for people just starting out these days. They have it a lot tougher than you or I did. Exercising the prerogative of old fogeys, I can say that I've had a few more decades than you to observe the youngun's trying to leave the nest. Sure some of them are lazy or just looking for excuses, but that's always been the case. I also know people in their 20's who have initiative and are willing to work hard, went to decent if not top tier universities, and can't find a real job to save their lives. They're living in a kind of limbo, wanting to get on with their lives but unable to. I do not recall anything like that when I was that age or in the intervening decades. Obviously not everyone got a great job right out of college, but a few years of persistence would usually pay off. As for moving out, the rents have gotten absurd. Used to be that even with a crappy job you could find a rathole that you could afford with a roommate. Not so much anymore. I know people who have to pay as much for a semi-decent 1 or 2 bedroom apartment as I pay for my house.

    48. Re:Sounds like my kid by russbutton · · Score: 1

      Have you got any links for the kind of international volunteer work you're talking about? He's done a little volunteer work locally, with an emphasis on the word "little". At this point, I'm happy just to see him develop a life outside the house.

    49. Re:Sounds like my kid by ebno-10db · · Score: 1

      I moved out in 2004, bought a house in 2008 ... despite coming up in an era of "no jobs" and "bad economy"

      If you had a half decent entry level job before 2008 then you don't know what a bad job market is. Sure pre-2008 wasn't like the roaring 90's, but it was still a lot easier than post-2008. Welcome to the Great Recession (aka Lesser Depression).

    50. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Well he could always sell the house and move to a place where the cost of living isn't so high and then either live off that for many years or invest it and live off the interest.

    51. Re:Sounds like my kid by drinkypoo · · Score: 1

      I have no personal experience with any of these programs. I got a job without even going to college because it was at the time of the dot-com bubble, and by the time I was interested in volunteer work nobody wanted me because I was too old. 21 or so is about when they stop taking people into a lot of the programs, so it's imperative to get on this now. Google "volunteer internationally" or "volunteer abroad" to get a pretty broad selection.

      --
      "You're right," Fisheye says. "I should have set it on 'whip' or 'chop.'"
    52. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      No, he kicked her out and she ended up as a prostitute and he is proud of it.

    53. Re: Sounds like my kid by geilt999 · · Score: 1

      I began working in the early 2000s. I can attest that things were much easier. I got my first job programming because someone needed and entry level programmer and heard I liked programming. No one gives this generation of kids that sort of break anymore.

      This is not exactly true. I do this. But I have brought myself up to the point to be able to do so, and it isn't easy keeping them...not because of them, but because of economy. I love giving people a chance, especially if they are tenacious about it and see the value.

    54. Re: Sounds like my kid by geilt · · Score: 1

      This is not exactly true. I do this. But I have brought myself up to the point to be able to do so, and it isn't easy keeping them...not because of them, but because of economy. I love giving people a chance, especially if they are tenacious about it and see the value. I was once given a chance similar to what you describe and I took it. I want to be able to give the same to others.

    55. Re:Sounds like my kid by Elder+Entropist · · Score: 1

      Are you kidding?? Japan has spent over 20 years dealing with deflationary pressure, not inflationary pressure.

    56. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Wont work, he will just lay on the bed 24/7. The only "easy" fix is chemistry (vitamins, antidepressants).

      I've got a harsh truth for you. His problem is you. You're defending his right to be depressed. And if he's not on illegal drugs, he will be once you try to fix him with "chemistry". You can't fix the damage you have done overnight. If you really want to help him, throttle his internet ($100 gizmo, and a few hours to learn it), unless he exercises. Actual physical exercise, preferably in the sun. HE should be able to do 30 pushups and sit ups in one go within a month, regardless of his current condition (300# lardo's aside)

      If your reaction is "He won't do it" then you are not just enabling him to waste his life, you're crippling him. Spend the next year exercising with him. You'll all be better off for it.

    57. Re:Sounds like my kid by someSnarkyBastard · · Score: 1

      Seconded, I am one of those 20-somethings living with his parents; I am just now getting on my feet financially at a job with long term potential and I have a BSc, good resume, (all Fortune 500 companies) and numerous industry certifications. If your kid just has a GED he is pretty much gonna be guaranteed to live in poverty, the market for unskilled labor is saturated as it is and even entry-level IT jobs are hard to come by, especially fresh from college (most job posts I've seen require a minimum of 5 years experience on something. Just out of college? You're fucked) Hell, even Geek Squad is getting choosy with applicants...Us Millenials are going to be (if not already) a lost generation.

      That said, get him checked for depression, I'm an aspie and depression can be utterly crippling. I've had days where it's all I can do to get out of bed while simultaneously feeling it's all I can do to stay in bed and not go find a way to commit suicide. I decided long ago not to have kids because the idea of inflicting that kind of pain on my own flesh and blood frankly scares and horrifies the shit out of me.

      That said, I've been on medications for several years now and they do help immensely when you need them. The side effects suck at times and there still seems to be a social stigma attached to depression but it's a hell of a lot better than being a statistic.

      Shop around for a good psych, preferably one that is also able to provide talk or Cognitive Behavioral therapy; it's crucial that your son is able to bond and confide in your psych, the doc can't help if he doesn't know what's wrong.

    58. Re:Sounds like my kid by lgw · · Score: 1

      Everyone who wasn't looking for work said exactly the same thing 20 years ago. I still see help-wanted signs for shit jobs around me. I had quite a hard time finding my first coding job back then - took years of looking - but I could always find a shit job to pay my share of the rent (in the horrible multi-roomate apartment in the dangerous neighborhood). I'm frankly skeptical of these claims there are no shit jobs to be had, unless you live in a disintegrating city like Detroit. Breaking into a real job is of course nearly impossible in times like these.

      BTW, "the benefits of recovery have accrued entirely to the rich" is always the way it seems at the start of every recovery. The stock market will always pick up a few quarters before employment really starts moving. But the economy is adding new jobs at a reasonable rate now - we're just in such a deep hole it will take years to get back to normal.

      --
      Socialism: a lie told by totalitarians and believed by fools.
    59. Re:Sounds like my kid by lgw · · Score: 1

      Yup, Japan is an object lesson about "stimulus", but not at all in a way that matches the GPP. Japan is amazingly far in debt, but the debt is not their problem; their problem is that all that stimulus accomplished nothing. If Japan could get some good, healthy inflation going they'd be in a much better place.

      --
      Socialism: a lie told by totalitarians and believed by fools.
    60. Re:Sounds like my kid by lgw · · Score: 1

      In the 90s at a good school we watched the transition from "an engineering degree from this school automatically means a job, and it's a question of whether it's a good job" to "you're lucky to get anything" over the course of 5 years or so. But, yeah, a few years of trying would get you there.

      Real jobs are nearly impossible to break into right now, because of the completion from the very deep pool of unemployed skilled workers, but that's at least slowly getting better.

      --
      Socialism: a lie told by totalitarians and believed by fools.
    61. Re: Sounds like my kid by someSnarkyBastard · · Score: 1

      No shit, in this economy, working tech support with all the horrors that entails (I read BOFH posts as a form of vicarious catharsis) is considered doing pretty damn good for yourself. There are people with 5-10 years of experience in the industry scrambling for the same entry-level jobs that the kids fresh from college are gunning for. Guess which applicant most companies will go for, the one with a track record that has fallen on hard times, or the untested newbie?

    62. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Yes, and I heard that if you don't mind to move a little farther to the Nevada desert can live cheap in a tent and nobody will kick you out of there.

    63. Re:Sounds like my kid by ultranova · · Score: 1

      What if they can't find a job and begin to cope with the benefits of the social security system, continuing playing video games on the sofa?

      Well, to put it bluntly: so what? There's a huge surplus of workforce that's only going to get larger as automation continues to advance. Having the ever-increasing masses of unemployed people be content to spend their time quietly playing video games is about the best we can hope for; the alternative is civil unrest, riots, and ultimately a revolution.

      Hikikomori is simply a perfectly rational adaptation to having little, if any, hopes for the future.

      --

      Forget magic. Any technology distinguishable from divine power is insufficiently advanced.

    64. Re:Sounds like my kid by MightyYar · · Score: 1

      While I appreciate good sarcasm, there are plenty of livable cities with lower rents. Sure, everyone wants to live in NYC, but I moved away because of the cost of living.

      --
      W..w..W - Willy Waterloo washes Warren Wiggins who is washing Waldo Woo.
    65. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      i agree, but in the end its not the financial burdeng that gets you... remember: sometime the rich nordic countires have higher suicide rates then a poor underdevolped one .. why do you think that is ?

    66. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      haha.. thats a very stupid argument you got there...

      it might have worked for you and for her, and it might work some in some other times, but you cant say that is a general solution for it..

    67. Re:Sounds like my kid by jeff4747 · · Score: 3, Insightful

      You have a lovely list of buzzwords. It's too bad you think they mean the exact opposite of what they men.

      For example, Keynesian economics would require Japan to do the opposite of what they have done since the 1990s.

      Then there's the little problem of Japan has not experienced significant inflation over the last 20 years. Nor have they massively increased the money supply over the last 20 years.

      But hey, some folks who are as wrong as you are will think your post sounds good.

    68. Re:Sounds like my kid by david_thornley · · Score: 1

      Nobody's born knowing how to get along in society. Some just pick it up implicitly, and some have to learn more explicitly. When I was young, I read every etiquette book in the library, and it didn't really help that much.

      --
      "When you have eliminated the unacceptable, whatever is left, however improbable, must be the truthiness" - Holmes
    69. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'm sure she'll return the favor when you're old and too frail to care for yourself. I guarantee she'll never visit you in the old home, and you'll be long forgotten. You'll wonder where that mindset comes from, even though you ingrained the same mentality into her early on.

    70. Re:Sounds like my kid by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      Try applying for one of those shit jobs and then you will see. I also worked at shit jobs 20 years ago and was able to get them. Now I can apply at every supermarket, restaurant, and retail store in a 10-15 mile raduis willing to do anything, in addition to using every online resource and get nothing and none of them have any interest. So it does look to me as if things have gotten worse at least around here. Or maybe managers just prefer younger people. There are a lot more Brazilians and other Latin American immigrants around here than there used to be and many of them work as managers now, but I don't really know the reason. All I know is at least around here I cannot find a job, any job. Luckily I have another way to survive, but in the metropolitan area where I live finding a shit job is anything but easy. I'm guessing that pretty much every job gets way more applicants than they need. The population in my area has hugely increased in the past 20 years.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    71. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Probably because having to support yourself financially is not the only contributing factor in suicides. In my case for instance being ugly has been the main problem for most of my life. I would never want to kill myself if I had a pretty girlfriend whom I liked and who genuinely liked me back. That's just me though. Everyone has their own unique problems. There are lots of variations. Nevertheless I did once go through a website with lots of photos of people who killed themselves and 99.99999% were what I would consider unattractive. I don't think many of the beautiful people kill themselves unless they are truly mentallly ill. They may threaten to, but when it comes down to it they don't. There is just enough positive stimuli in their lives from other people to make it not worth it to them. Ugly people don't get nearly as much positive stimuli from people, but plenty of negative stimuli.

    72. Re:Sounds like my kid by elbles · · Score: 1

      While I generally agree with your points, as a 28-year-old who still lives at home, despite a well-paying job, there are some reasons for all this.

      First off, a fairly high percentage of kids going to college are just throwing their money away to begin with. How many kids are going to college now who have no business going? How many graduate without being able to think or analyze anything? They graduate with a diploma that means next to nothing, and yet, they're either in tons of debt, or mom and dad paid for it all and, in any case, there's little to be had from it. The value of a degree has gone down, and the price has skyrocketed. And, more so than ever, kids are told right from their freshman year of high school, that they need to go to college. This topic has been discussed endlessly here, and I don't want to rehash it more than is necessary to prove a point, but it's a big part of the problem that exists today with an entire generation.

      Though I'm living at home, I'm more than able to cover my living expenses. I choose to do so, because as much as I want to move out, it would take quite a while to save up for a house between paying rent, utilities, and said student loans. I made some very foolish choices straight out of high school, and I'll be paying for my degree for a number of years, when it has proven entirely unnecessary in my line of work (IT systems engineering/administration). They're my own mistakes, and no one else's, but tons of people keep making these mistakes because of societal expectations and job "requirements" that are hardly requirements. And then they're surprised when they can't find a "real" job. The kids carry a good portion of the blame, but they can't carry all of it.

      Want to be a doctor or lawyer? OK, go to college? Want to cure cancer? Go to college. Want to fix the horribly deficient infrastructure throughout the country? Go to college (but don't expect to find a job, since there's no funding for this). Want to party for 4 years and live at home for the rest of your life? Don't bother going to college, you can do that without a diploma. The distinction needs to be accepted by employers, but I doubt it ever will again.

      For the record, since I'm sure the natural inference people will make is that I'm knocking the business majors, the humanities majors, etc., I'm not. Necessarily. I think they're well worth studying, and we're all well served by doing so, but going to college to do it just for the sake of having a degree is rather pointless. Also for the record, I graduated with a "BS" in business, and not once has it proven relevant on the job. Lastly, and again for the record, I am a bit bitter about it. :-)

    73. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I agree totally, I'm 24 and from 2005-2008 I was swimming in work and job offers, i'm only more qualified and experienced now and every week is a struggle and to secure any contract work often takes more work than the job itself...

    74. Re:Sounds like my kid by Grishnakh · · Score: 1

      Contrary to the other people's advice of "kick him out", if he's really been professionally diagnosed with Autism (even a mild form), that's a mental illness, so it seems to me it's a bit much to expect him to move out, live on his own, get a good job (jobs that pay enough to live on your own are hard to find these days for normal people, let alone Autistic people), or worse, find a girlfriend. Unfortunately, he can probably forget about that last one; there simply aren't a lot of women out there into (mildly) autistic men with no ambition or initiative. If you can get him to hold down a McJob to bring a little spending money in, that'd probably be a blessing.

      How were his grades in school? Any interest in computers or programming?

    75. Re:Sounds like my kid by Grishnakh · · Score: 1

      Whatever happened to kicking your kids out at 18 so they can go forth on their own in life?

      Well, back in the days when that happened (and it still does today, it's just not the near-universal norm like it used to be), if the kid was someone who couldn't make it on his own, he simply starved to death and died. Someone who's autistic definitely qualifies as someone who can't make it on their own.

      What kind of parent wants that on their conscience?

    76. Re:Sounds like my kid by kwbauer · · Score: 1

      How could NYC have such horribly high rent with all that government regulation about rent?

    77. Re:Sounds like my kid by tftp · · Score: 1

      Try applying for one of those shit jobs and then you will see. I also worked at shit jobs 20 years ago and was able to get them. Now I can apply at every supermarket, restaurant, and retail store in a 10-15 mile raduis willing to do anything, in addition to using every online resource and get nothing and none of them have any interest. So it does look to me as if things have gotten worse at least around here.

      Part of the blame belongs to politicians. Previously, in the ages of Kings and Dukes and Barons, an innkeeper would pay one coin per day to the maid, and that maid would produce enough work to attract customers who bring one or more additional coins to the innkeeper. Thus, hiring people was a smart move because everyone benefited.

      Today the same innkeeper has to pay one coin to the maid, and one coin to the state. Maybe more than one coin to the state, with Obamacare and other mandatory employment taxes. At the same time the maid has to pay 1/3 of that coin to the state as well. We have two problems here. First, employment of the maid is effective only if her labor attracts customers who bring in at least three additional coins (for the same work as in the medieval example above.) Clearly, this is a harder goal to achieve. Secondly, the maid has less money after a day of work. Thirdly, we have social safety nets now, that can pay some people for them doing nothing. In the end, it makes more sense to NOT employ the maid - her work is not economically profitable anymore; not to the innkeeper, and not to the maid either. An innkeeper would do better if he replaces carpet floors with tile (easier to clean) - then two existing maids can do the work instead of three, or five. If that continues, we will end up with a robot hotel that requires no people to maintain. Every business would want your money, but none of them will hire you so that you can earn that money. This is a well known problem - the capitalist society will fail at that transition.

    78. Re:Sounds like my kid by russbutton · · Score: 1

      His school grades were very poor. He is unable to function in a normal classroom. He doesn't pay attention and has no idea what's going on. He has no idea what the homework assignments are and cares little. He loves video games but can't program his way out of a paper bag. He took a couple of computer classes while in high school but really didn't learn anything. I offered him $10 if he could write a program to add the numbers from 1 to 100. He couldn't do it. He can't process linear thinking apparently.

      He's very intelligent in his own way. He understood the whole alphabet when he was 17 months old. He taught himself to read before he was 3 years old. We didn't teach him. He figured it out on his own. He loved Bill Nye, the science guy when he was 4 years old and actually comprehended the concepts that were put before him. He has a very strong gift as a visual artist, but sadly has no interest in doing it. He has an excellent understanding of perspective, shading, proportion, etc. Quite gifted, but uninterested.

      He spends a lot of time reading and surfing the web, retains a lot of what he reads and comprehends most, though there are times when I catch him parroting stuff he's read and he doesn't actually understand it.

    79. Re:Sounds like my kid by Grishnakh · · Score: 1

      Wow, I'm not sure what to say, except that I don't believe someone that unique would survive at all in the work world. I'd probably try to keep encouraging him to pursue his artistic talents.

    80. Re:Sounds like my kid by GrpA · · Score: 1

      If his actions and limited motivation are a result of his autism, then I really feel for you, because there is almost nothing you can do to force him to change. I'd guess that the only action that does work is to slowly introduce small change (eg, give him tasks that he can complete readily easily ) until those tasks lead him to desensitise to whatever is keeping him from changing. If it's related to money, then it sounds like you've already taken a good first-step.

      Perhaps you can get him into trading things online? Get him into the idea of buying and selling. It's not all that different to a game when you think about it and the often-difficult parts of being self employed ( paperwork, accounts ) are things that autistic natures often lend themselves to. Help him with some small amount of stock to sell, and an online shop (eg, eBay) and a little support in business skills and he might take off?

      My own autistic son wants to have a toyshop one day, so that's in the back of my mind as a way to get him started. He's quite capable and through a lot of work and early intervention programs, he lives a pretty normal life, but I worry about how he will do when he gets a job.

      If you can help him find something that his autistic tendencies make him want to do, he'll easily outperform normal people in that role and do it perfectly.

      I wish you the both the best and hope you can help him find something he really wants to do -

      GrpA,

      --
      Enjoy science fiction? "Turing Evolved" - AI, Mecha, Androids and rail-gun battles. What more could you want?
    81. Re:Sounds like my kid by phantomfive · · Score: 1

      FWIW when I was a kid my parents started to make me pay for meals.

      --
      "First they came for the slanderers and i said nothing."
    82. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Electroshocks are the quick fix "par excellance"

    83. Re:Sounds like my kid by phantomfive · · Score: 1

      I hate to comment on a situation when I don't know the details, but depression isn't necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes people need to hit rock bottom before they start changing.

      As you say, you need to change his worldview to where he is responsible for himself (this is actually a problem that a lot of women seem to have, especially women who grew up in 'traditional' homes where the woman didn't work). He also needs to build the confidence that he CAN take care of himself. If he already understands that he should take care of himself, but doesn't believe he can take care of himself, that could easily throw him into severe depression.

      I don't know what you're doing, but have you tried taking it in small steps? For example, spend some time having him pay for electricity (possibly even give him a written bill), but also give him a fixed allowance so he starts to get the feel for what it's like taking care of himself, and managing money.

      From there, moving on to the next step will be a lot easier, and he will gain confidence, because he has that small part of the world that he is managing by himself (if he's the kind that will blow a weekly budget immediately, then you can try giving him his 'paycheck' once a week instead of once a month so that he will only be depressed for a week before he gets his next check and can get internet back).

      Just go back and forth between those two steps, finding something that will give him more confidence, then giving him more responsibility so he becomes more capable of living on his own. Once people catch the taste of freedom, and the confidence that they can survive, it's really hard to go back (would you consider going back to live with your parents? I sure wouldn't).

      --
      "First they came for the slanderers and i said nothing."
    84. Re:Sounds like my kid by MightyYar · · Score: 1

      Ya know? My base ideology tends toward Libertarian, but living in NYC made me realize a few things. Mainly, gentrification is a generally good thing, but it really presents a hardship for certain classes of people in a city as large as NYC (or London, for that matter). Gentrification in a place like Philadelphia is no big deal, because 5 blocks from the $400,000 rowhomes are "ghetto" rowhomes for 1/4 the price. New York is different. Practically the entire island of Manhattan is pretty much unaffordable to the working poor. Anything within striking distance of Midtown or Wall Street in Brooklyn or Queens is unaffordable to the lower class. They are stuck in places without decent subway service and instead take a number of buses to get to their job in Manhattan - it is no exaggeration to say that it takes over an hour for them to commute, and their job is menial.

      I can certainly see now how the people of NYC have decided to try and make living in the city affordable for lower class people. You correctly (and with admirable sarcasm) point out that their efforts are somewhat unsuccessful - but I have to admit that I can understand their intentions. Personally, I think they should probably try a limited version of the Singapore model.

      --
      W..w..W - Willy Waterloo washes Warren Wiggins who is washing Waldo Woo.
    85. Re:Sounds like my kid by russbutton · · Score: 1

      We're very much on the same page here. He's a very nice kid. People like him. Rather dorky, but nice. Not a mean bone in his body. Everything is small steps with him, but he does continually make steps that take him forward.

      Will he find gainful employment any time soon? I have no idea. I look at the people working at places like Papa Murphy's Pizza or Mrs. Field's Cookies and I'm sure he could do that kind of work. My hope is that he'll land some McJob somewhere and make a few bucks. Do that for a while and I think he'll come to the place where he'll want more than that. Probably sooner than later.

      He certainly has his gifts, but only time will tell how he'll cope with Reality.

    86. Re:Sounds like my kid by russbutton · · Score: 1

      i think we're both on the same path here. My son certainly has his gifts and he does realize that the day will come when he has to support himself. Hopefully he'll find something where he'll be able to make use of his gifts. First thing though is to get him out of the house to find a life beyond our walls, so that he will no longer be Hikikomori.

    87. Re:Sounds like my kid by phantomfive · · Score: 1

      He certainly has his gifts, but only time will tell how he'll cope with Reality.

      He will cope, and my guess is he has more actual capability than anyone realizes.

      --
      "First they came for the slanderers and i said nothing."
    88. Re:Sounds like my kid by loufoque · · Score: 1

      I don't know what's so difficult with finding a job. Assuming you're got some real skill in a valuable domain, you can easily get hired. Most companies desperately look for competent people to fulfill their needs.
      Setting up your own successful business, however, is much more difficult.

    89. Re: Sounds like my kid by loufoque · · Score: 1

      Indeed. I wouldn't hire an entry-level programmer before assessing their skills.

    90. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      nobody realizes it because everyone automagically all born knowing it

      No, it is not a thing you know from birth, even 'normal' people need to learn it. We had almost no guests and I didn't meet much people when I were a kid, ergo my social skills are bad.

    91. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Sounds like my case. Currently I am in my 8 years at university, started shutting myself in 5 years ago, felt no motivation, no dream for future, nothing, just mindlessly browse the web. I just didn't want to think about it, just want to live day in and day out reading stuff on the internet, have no responsiblity to myself or anyone else, and largely indifferent to everything.
      Well, someone helped me, a girl, my current girl friend actually. I know her via the internet, and for her now I have a motivation, I cleared 20 subjects in my last two semester, and now only 1 left, after that I can get back to society. I still don't want to get out of the house though. So maybe you should find a girl for your son.

    92. Re:Sounds like my kid by citizenr · · Score: 1

      I am not the original OP in this thread. But I know the condition and armchair "throttle the internet, this will motivate him" is bullshit.
      Have you ever motivated a plant to do something for you? Or a cat?

      --
      Who logs in to gdm? Not I, said the duck.
    93. Re:Sounds like my kid by Chelloveck · · Score: 1

      Damn, that sounds like a perfect description of *my* 20 year-old son! I know exactly what you're talking about. We think he's capable of living on his own, but we're afraid to just plain give him the boot because there's that niggling little doubt that maybe he's really not...

      We're trying a halfway situation right now. We got him an apartment and we're paying for basic necessities: rent, utilities, and enough money to avoid starvation but not enough (as he found out last month!) to eat take-out. He has to get a job if he wants anything more, like TV or internet. The apartment is 500 miles from home so there's no way we can just pop in to take care of problems for him. The location (Houghton, MI) was chosen for a bunch of reasons, but primarily because it's a small town, we know it well, and we have friends there he can call on if something does go seriously pear-shaped.

      He's been there three months, and we're going to give it a full year before deciding what to do next. Houghton has really tough winters, so I'm hoping that if nothing else he'll decide that he wants to live anywhere *but* there and will be willing to find a job back down here (or wherever) in order to escape.

      Anyway, good luck with your son!

      --
      Chelloveck
      I give up on debugging. From now on, SIGSEGV is a feature.
    94. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      At least back then you could actually get a date and ride the bus. Nowadays no female wants anything to do with you if you don't own a brand new BMW and a couple houses by the time you're 25. There are just less jobs, and even less hope for the future.

    95. Re:Sounds like my kid by minstrelmike · · Score: 1

      The plural of anecdote is not data. If 15% of people are out of work, that means 85% of people are working.
      If you yourself have a job, none of those facts above change regardless of personal gumption. sheesh.

    96. Re:Sounds like my kid by minstrelmike · · Score: 1

      I agree you are full of buzzwords

      If you want to think, try this: What do we really want for our children?
      I believe most people want their kids to have an easier life than the parents did, not have a harder life.
      So define what we mean by easier for an entire generation. Sitting around the house playing video games and smoking pot (I'm in Colorado ;-) sure looks a lot easier than working some low-wage job.

      What are our expectations for a utopia?

    97. Re:Sounds like my kid by roman_mir · · Score: 1

      That is just sad. I don't want an easier life for my children, I want a richer life, a more interesting life, life with more opportunities, more ways to apply themselves productively and more opportunities to achieve what they set out to do.

      I can subsidise a small army of children sitting around doing nothing, but why would I want that? Doing nothing? They may as well be dead at that point.

    98. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Look for night jobs. You have to deal with way less people that way.

    99. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Was she hot?

    100. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That's depression. Go with improved diet first, like salads for lunch, more sun light, a pet if you can afford it, and CBT. Antidepressants works as well as active placebos in non-industry sponsored studies.

      I've attempted suicide a couple times. I do notice a difference in mood when I eat and sleep better.

    101. Re:Sounds like my kid by HornWumpus · · Score: 1

      You can get a dog training collar for about $80. 100 levels of shock.

      Beer can serve as positive reinforcement.

      --
      John McAfee 'It was like that time I hired that Bangkok prostitute; to do my taxes, while I fucked my accountant'
    102. Re:Sounds like my kid by russbutton · · Score: 1

      Dog training collar for $80 with 100 levels of shock? Which level was your favorite? Did you enjoy it?

    103. Re:Sounds like my kid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      After you get rejected for the first 50 shit jobs
       
      ...you have gotten 50 valuable experiences that enable you to be more effective in your future attempts.

      the only reinforcement out there is negative.

      That depends on how you interpret things. If you're always ready to interpret in a way that paints a negative view of the world, then 100% of the time you will be successful. Vice versa, if you're always ready to interpret in a way that makes you happier or more effective, then that's what you will succeed in doing.

      I recently read that 40% of happiness is completely upon the individual himself. Depending on your attitude alone you're fixing 40% of any happiness issues you might ever experience. To put it another way, with an ineffective (happiness-wise) attitude you prevent yourself from ever being more than 60% happy in the long run.

      Furthermore, your attitude dictates your actions, which make all the difference regarding how much of that 60% of long-term happiness you'll be able to achieve.

      The best thing for depressed people after getting past the immediate suicidal tendencies: learn a more effective (happiness-wise) attitude to life.

  12. Anime by mZHg · · Score: 1

    There is a very good Anime about Hikikomori : N.H.K.

  13. Japanese mental illness by TWiTfan · · Score: 0

    I lived in Japan once. You would see everyday behavior there that would get you thrown into the wacky shack if you were in the U.S. It's absolutely bizarre.

    --
    The cow says "Moo." The dog says "Woof." The Timothy says "Thanks, valued customer. We appreciate your input."
    1. Re:Japanese mental illness by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      Such as?

    2. Re:Japanese mental illness by acidfast7 · · Score: 2

      As a person who travels a fair bit and have lived in many different countries including Japan (but now resides in Europe) ... I can assure you that it's the behaviour in the US that would get the rest of the planet thrown in the wacky shack. Please stay where you are ...

    3. Re:Japanese mental illness by Hognoxious · · Score: 1

      Spilling out your giblets if you broke the nightly build.

      --
      Confucius say, "Find worm in apple - bad. Find half a worm - worse."
    4. Re:Japanese mental illness by Lashat · · Score: 2

      Can you give us any examples? I live in the US and have visited many places including Japan. I disagree with the other post about putting the "wacky shack". I found that most of the Japanese behavior was clique based. Smaller groups of teens/young adults would define and create a look or sub-culture of their own. While individually it might seem extreme, it was the norm for these small groups.

      I found it wonderfully entertaining.

      --
      For every benefit you receive a tax is levied. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
    5. Re:Japanese mental illness by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      :D

    6. Re:Japanese mental illness by jones_supa · · Score: 1

      I like how in Japan and South Korea you can be a more softer and colorful man without being stamped as a homosexual. More freedom of mind.

    7. Re:Japanese mental illness by TWiTfan · · Score: 1

      Such as?

      Non-homeless people walking down the street having full-on conversations (and even, amusingly, arguments) with themselves, a manic mix of ultra-conformist and ultra-non-conformist behavior mixing in a fashion that I can only compare to manic depression, obsessive-compulsive behavior with the most bizarre manifestations, etc. It was a very strange place to get used to. The same guy who would think nothing of sexually harassing a female co-worker would become physically ill if he realized that he had worn a tie that was slightly different than everyone else's. Just a lot of people absolutely OBSESSING over the strangest shit, while thinking nothing of some of the most anti-social behavior you've ever seen.

      It's hard to even put into words. I've been to a lot of countries and most of them are pretty much the same, but none that I can really compare to Japan.

      --
      The cow says "Moo." The dog says "Woof." The Timothy says "Thanks, valued customer. We appreciate your input."
    8. Re:Japanese mental illness by Grishnakh · · Score: 1

      No, it goes both ways.

      For instance, in many places in Europe, it's perfectly legal to walk around in public buck-naked. Not that many people do, but it's perfectly legal, and sometimes people do for weird porn films or whatever. Plus, they have nude beaches where people walk around naked and it's no big deal. If you try that in the US, you'll be arrested for "indecent exposure" (in most places), and if any minors see you, you'll be charged as a sex offender and put on a sex offender registry for the rest of your life, unable to live within a half-mile or so of any school.

      Outside the US, walking around naked in public is "absolutely bizarre", so the parent is right.

      Conversely, in many parts of the US, it's perfectly legal to walk around with a gun on your hip. However, if you try that in most industrialized places outside the US, that'll get you arrested (if not shot) and thrown in the "wacky shack". Walking around with a gun in "absolutely bizarre" outside the US, but not so much inside.

  14. Simple by mfwitten · · Score: 2

    Internet access provides enough data (e.g., social interaction) to keep a sizeable proportion of human brains content; in fact, it's a lot easier to gather this data by interfacing with the Internet than by interfacing with the "real" world.

    Then, as usual, people just perpetuate the conditions that make them content.

    1. Re:Simple by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Wish I had mod points today. You would get modded up.

  15. Want to meet a Japanese woman? by LikwidCirkel · · Score: 0, Offtopic

    I've heard time and time again, that Canadian (and American) men are highly desired by women in Japan. I've also heard time and time again, that the reason is because too many Japanese men are downright useless and misogynistic assholes.

    Are you a genuinely nice North American dude with a real job? If so, it really is remarkably easy to meet wonderful women in Japan.

    1. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by SJHillman · · Score: 4, Funny

      So what you're saying is that once they go Caucasian, they never go Asian?

    2. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by dj245 · · Score: 4, Informative

      I've heard time and time again, that Canadian (and American) men are highly desired by women in Japan. I've also heard time and time again, that the reason is because too many Japanese men are downright useless and misogynistic assholes. Are you a genuinely nice North American dude with a real job? If so, it really is remarkably easy to meet wonderful women in Japan.

      You've heard. The reality is quite different however. There are about 50,000 Americans living in Japan. There are about 40,000 US military personnel in Japan at any given time. Being a military wife might be attractive to some, but for most families in Japan it would be an embarrassment. Because of the high number of US military compared to general Americans living in Japan, if you see a white guy wandering around who isn't wearing a suit, it isn't a bad guess to think he is in the military, and therefore undesirable. The stereotype bleeds over a bit into any american, even if they have nothing to do with the military.

      American men are different than Japanese men, but it would be a huge mistake to think or imply that one is more desirable in Japan than the other. And reporting that American men can find a lady in Japan with little or no effort is completely wrong.

      --
      Even those who arrange and design shrubberies are under considerable economic stress at this period in history.
    3. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by KapUSMC · · Score: 1

      I've heard time and time again, that Canadian (and American) men are highly desired by women in Japan. I've also heard time and time again, that the reason is because too many Japanese men are downright useless and misogynistic assholes. Are you a genuinely nice North American dude with a real job? If so, it really is remarkably easy to meet wonderful women in Japan.

      I spent a year stationed in Japan in the military... Being 6'3" 220 the women were very nice to me. For a 21 year old kid, it was a pretty good year.

    4. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by CastrTroy · · Score: 2

      But maybe that's just how society portrays the men, and therefore women have a natural bias against the men. When I was in university, I literally had a woman walk away after I told her I was in Engineering, even though up until that time we were having a great time, and she showed no signs of not liking me. Many women will go after strong, good looking, macho guys, who have no other good qualities, even after repeatedly having bad experiences with these types of people.

      --

      Anthropic principle: We see the universe the way it is because if it were different we would not be here to see it.
    5. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by i+kan+reed · · Score: 1

      Well, believe or not, there's some natural xenophilia in all cultures. I'm not sure your attributed causes are exactly the core of the phenomenon you describe, nor am I sure it's more accentuated in eastern cultures than western, but I'll acknowledge that I can't imagine any woman would be pleased with a misogynistic husband.

    6. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Australian women have the same problem.

    7. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      what, are you telling me there are no more japanese mail order brides

    8. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by alen · · Score: 1

      nice, because here in NYC asian women are highly desired by men. mostly because the tiger mom mentality will turn out educated kids

    9. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Hatta · · Score: 2

      Are you a genuinely nice North American dude with a real job? If so, it really is remarkably easy to meet wonderful women in Japan.

      If you're a genuinely nice North American dude with a real job, it is remarkably easy to meet wonderful women anywhere.

      --
      Give me Classic Slashdot or give me death!
    10. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Azure+Flash · · Score: 3, Funny

      Of course, they like the Cauc!

    11. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I've heard time and time again, that Canadian (and American) men are highly desired by women in Japan. I've also heard time and time again, that the reason is because too many Japanese men are downright useless and misogynistic assholes.

      Really? Hmm. You might want to watch this video to learn a bit more about something on the opposite side of the spectrum (particularly the opposite gender). Note: the 12 minute video consists of a guy rambling a bit about personal details (many of which I do not understand due to lack of context), but the story he tells -- in particular the advice/information he's given by the Japanese family he lives with -- is quite interesting. I myself had no idea such existed in Japan, I always figured it was the other way around; you'll understand what I mean after you watch it.

    12. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 1

      Exactly. If you are not rich and / or do not looks like a walking closet (strong/agressive), you're automatically a undesirable.

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    13. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      When I was in my 20s, stuff like this would get me riled up (I'm Japanese American). With age and experience, however, I have a different perspective.

      Yes, there is a subset of Japanese women who go ga-ga over white males. I have found that there are usually two classes of women who do:
      1) (for whatever reason) lower social class people who don't see a way up the very rigid social structure of Japan who see marrying a foreigner as a way out. This applies mostly to white men, but I do sometimes see women latch onto black men as well. If you walk around towns near big military bases, like Yokosuka, you see these types hanging around bars, etc.
      2) women who are "free spirits" who chafe at the rigid social structure of Japan (note the common theme) and see foreigners as a way to a more open society. They think white males are more gallant and open minded than Japanese guys and also as a ticket out of a repressed society.

      What I saw over time however were that both types more often than not would lead to break ups or divorces. Apparently they were as deluded as the white guys who think of Japanese women as subservient submissive play things. Turns out white guys arent that much kinder or gentler than Asians, and Japanese women arent that submissive either. When the illusions are broken so is the relationship.

      I do see some success stories, but frankly in those cases the white guy really is gentle, almost to an extreme.

      Bottom line, hooking up based on racial/social stereotypes is a poor way to pick a marriage partner.

      As for me, I did marry and divorce a Japanese woman, now I am happily married to a Chinese one. It was in fact the Japanese ex-wife that told me what a lot of Japanese women think. Higher class women (and she considered herself one) who don't mind living in Japan's rigid society go after higher class/wealthy Japanese men-moving up the social ladder, getting their kids into good schools, all of this is much harder with a foreigner who at best may speak a little Japanese. Much easier to get ahead with a Japanese partner.

    14. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      I've heard time and time again, that Canadian (and American) men are highly desired by women in Japan. I've also heard time and time again, that the reason is because too many Japanese men are downright useless and misogynistic assholes.

      Are you a genuinely nice North American dude with a real job? If so, it really is remarkably easy to meet wonderful women in Japan.

      Who told you this? This is 100% racist bullshit. It isn't even slightly true. It's funny though because I've heard that same story told for many different countries and it isn't any more true in those countries.

      It may be slightly easier for an unattractive guy to get a girlfriend in Japan, but only slightly, and you had better be in your twenties. Age differences of more than 2-3 years are simply not tolerated there.

      I've spent 10-15 years of my life on a research project looking for a place where an ugly guy can get a pretty girlfriend or wife. There are a few such places, but Japan is unfortunately not on the list. I say unfortunately because I think Japanese women have the best personalities. There are other countries with lots of pretty girls, but none with personalities that I find so appealing. But if you want a cute j-girl you're gonna have to be at least somewhat good looking yourself. It's also one of the most expensive and difficult places on the planet for a foreigner to live. But if I were a good looking guy and could have a pretty girlfriend or wife of any nationality a Japanese girl would be at the top of my list. A French girl would be my second choice. An American girl would be nearly dead last.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    15. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Clearly you've never been to Japan (or a foreign country for that matter).

      Just like there are people with 'yellow fever' in America, there are plenty of people in Japan who love any specific kind of person you can imagine, be they white, black, brown, green, you name it.

    16. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That was a distasteful series of replies which was blantantly racist and base. But they made me laugh nontheless. Posting anonymously becuause I am ashamed.

    17. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      I have found it to be remarkably difficult. I think whether you find it easy or difficult depends a lot on what you look like.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    18. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by ArcadeMan · · Score: 1

      There still is, but the shipping costs have gone through the roof.

    19. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Interesting video actually. The guy reminds me of an older version of my nephew. Yeah. It is true that there are some girls in Japan who have a thing for Caucasian guys in the same way that some Caucasian guys have a thing for Asian girls, but it isn't all that common. It's not that easy to find girls like that and even with those girls you still can't be ugly.

      I have a major thing for Japanese girls in particular and I'm a bit less picky about Asian girls in general than I am with Caucasian girls. Unfortunately it's much too late for me to learn Japanese and move to Japan. Age differences are simply not tolerated there. If I had a second life to live I might move to Japan as a teenager because Japanese girls are so appealing and it probably is a bit easier than it is here in the US, although I think most countries are easier than the US if you aren't the archetypal big, dumb, good looking, football player that girls favor so strongly here. The culture here is more anti-intellectual than most. Not good if you are a geek.

    20. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by gl4ss · · Score: 1

      probably easy enough to stand out then. just get a piercing or grow long hair.

      however, I have heard that women around 30's are considered too old for marrying for japanese.. so.. desirable you might get if you're into asian women in their thirties.

      --
      world was created 5 seconds before this post as it is.
    21. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by WilyCoder · · Score: 1

      Thanks for sharing with the class Timmy.

    22. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Quite often women will reject men who are too intelligent or otherwise not easy enough to control. Mens' objectifying of women is a pale shadow of the mercenary attitude women take to men.

    23. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Jerry+Smith · · Score: 1

      Of course, they like the Cauc!

      Bravo! *applauds*

      --
      All those moments will be lost in time, like tears in rain. Time to die.
    24. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Once again we find women who are obsessed about the Cauc.

    25. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I think whether you find it easy or difficult depends a lot on what you look like.

      And how resentful you are of this fact combined with your own standards of beauty for others. Believe me, both show through more than you'd think. Most "nice" guys aren't -- they're people with a sense of entitlement when it comes to love.

    26. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Grishnakh · · Score: 1

      What's interesting is that if you were an attractive Indian or Chinese guy, living in India or China (respectively), a woman would be even more interested in you after learning you were an engineer.

      Americans have been strongly trained to view engineering as a profession for men who can't get women, and a profession with very little prestige.

    27. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      What are you? Some kind of player? Sorry, but I don't need your advice, and I resent the implication that I am dumb enough to be nice to women or that I would in any way allow my true feelings about anything to show when I was talking to one.

    28. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I think the US has one of the most anti-intellectual cultures in the world. Nowhere is it more of a disadvantage to be intelligent when it comes to getting women. Although things have improved somewhat since the first time I heard the word "geek" or "nerd" being thrown around. If you were labeled either of those it pretty much meant that the only way you would ever get sex is by paying for it. Turned out to be mostly true in my case.

    29. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by loufoque · · Score: 1

      Do you mind if I re-use this?

    30. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by loufoque · · Score: 1

      There is a difference between casual sex and marriage.
      Japanese women definitely like having sex with foreigners. Japanese women however, are not really good in bed, so I wouldn't recommend them to anyone unless you have weird fetishes (they moan in a distinctive way, are more open to facial ejaculation, have more smelly vulvae and keep it unshaven and have bodies generally less developed -- most of their female appeal is the result of skin/hair care or cute fashion clothing, so seeing them naked usually leads to disappointment)

    31. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by loufoque · · Score: 1

      Not if you're black, though.

    32. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Nah, it's not just so this guy has heard. My other half could get wasted for free with the drinks women in Japan buy him just for being a tall white guy (who they probably want to fuck). Not the same as getting married to someone, but given that all of his friends from the US are married to Japanese women (they're programmers, not military guys) and most of his Japanese friends are single without a clue how to meet women... it seems obvious who has the easier time picking up in Japan.

    33. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Keyword here is meet. They still won't fuck you unless you have a wealthy family, especially in America.

    34. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by mjwx · · Score: 1

      American men are different than Japanese men, but it would be a huge mistake to think or imply that one is more desirable in Japan than the other. And reporting that American men can find a lady in Japan with little or no effort is completely wrong.

      This,

      Also the reference about Japan being misogynistic is dead wrong. If anything it's highly matriarchal with married Japanese women assuming complete control of the finances and home.

      Western men will have a much easier time with Filipino, Thai, Khmer (Cambodian) or Malay women. Especially Filipino. China, Japan and Korea have a deep culture of ultra-nationalism and marrying or even dating a different race is considered wrong. This extends to different Asian races, ethnic Chinese will be biased find Malay's or Filipino's. It's very feudal. Filipina's without a doubt will be the easiest Asian girlfriend to get, they speak decent English and have fewer cultural barriers however most Filipina's will still prefer to date a Filipino simply because that's who they're most comfortable with. It's just that the average westerner has a huge advantage in the Philippine's because our average wage is a lot higher than that of the average Filipino.

      The reason a lot of people have the delusion that western men are more desired is mainly due to the Asian obsession with light skin (and the accompanying skin lightening treatments and products) as dark/tanned skin is associated with working outdoors which is associated with poverty. Light skin is associated with wealth (I.E. they spend most of their time out of the sun because they have enough money to be able to do this).

      Having dated Thai's, Filipino's and a Korean girl. If you cant understand and accept a lot of cultural differences you'll get dumped very quickly. The concept of "face" frustrates me to no end, I know someone is lying out of their arse to me but I have to bite my tongue and listen to it because calling the twat out on his lies would make my GF lose face in front of her friends (causing conflict). This is the downside to dating a Thai, though there are plenty of upsides to compensate. It's pretty hard on an Australian as in Oz, I'm used to calling someone a twunt when they're acting like it.

      --
      Calling someone a "hater" only means you can not rationally rebut their argument.
    35. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      In Okinawa, that might very well be true since they hate anything related to the US military or US in general. But in most of mainland Japan, far away from any armed forces base, that is definitely not the case.

    36. Re:Want to meet a Japanese woman? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Are you a genuinely nice North American dude with a real job? If so, it really is remarkably easy to meet wonderful women in Japan.

      If you're a genuinely nice North American dude with a real job, it is remarkably easy to meet wonderful women anywhere.

      Bullshit.

  16. ... and seek? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    f.t.a. - The clue is in the name

  17. Not News by sandysnowbeard · · Score: 1

    I lived in Japan for several years, talks of hikikomori has been going on since at least 2006 when I first got there. This isn't really news, the figure is probably grossly exaggerated, and I'd wager you can probably point part of the finger at Japanese socialization combined with those people maybe just being the introverted types.

  18. My son... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    My son, 17, who lives with his mom, is a *prime* example of this phenomenon. Gaming all day, friends online, food upstairs. Why should he leave when my ex lets him do it! ; \

    1. Re:My son... by TWiTfan · · Score: 1

      That's most 17-year-old's. There will be plenty of time to worry if he's well into his 20's and still doing it.

      --
      The cow says "Moo." The dog says "Woof." The Timothy says "Thanks, valued customer. We appreciate your input."
    2. Re:My son... by LikwidCirkel · · Score: 1

      No he's not. He's only a prime example if his parents are still enabling him to be useless into his 30s. For 17 year olds, it's quite normal.

      I'd recommend getting him to pay rent if he's over 18 and not in school. Otherwise, kick him out. My parents did this, and I think it was a great idea.

    3. Re:My son... by starfishsystems · · Score: 3, Interesting

      This is developmentally very common in teenage boys. Although the privileges of adulthood beckon, so do the risks and expectations and responsibilities. With their hormones at war, and facing complex social pressures even within their peer group, boys can feel overwhelmed. It's easier just to hide away until the storm passes.

      I wonder whether the "walkabout" rituals in aboriginal cultures aren't specifically intended to address this phenomenon. According to Joseph Campbell, the ritual often involves a scene in which the men of the community theatrically come to capture the boy and drag him away. He instinctively hides or runs to his mother for protection, but theatrically she is unable to protect him. So off he goes to make the terrifying and irreversible transition to adulthood.

      What happens in modern urban cultures where we don't have any such ritual, indeed where the transition to adulthood is deferred until graduation from university or is completely indefinite? The status quo psychological attachment to childhood is sustained for much longer. Perhaps with long familiarity it becomes more difficult to break. But I think that the complex social norms and risk/reward pressures of modern life - acutely evident in Japan - are the biggest factor. No child in his right mind would want to sign on to them.

      --
      Parity: What to do when the weekend comes.
    4. Re:My son... by jones_supa · · Score: 1

      But 20 is right around the corner and if the situation is still present then, the parents might worry that they didn't begin steering the direction already when he was 17.

    5. Re:My son... by zugedneb · · Score: 0

      " With their hormones at war, and facing complex social pressures even within their peer group, boys can feel overwhelmed. It's easier just to hide away until the storm passes."

      Without intention to insult, you sound like a woman describing women.
      As a men, i would say, sometimes the battel is lost before it begins, and I now give 2 examples:
      1 - a money issue: the boy simply can not afford the stuff others seem to have, to BUY himself popularity. Thus, he gives up.
      2 - not a psycopath: normally, I claim, even selfrespect is earned. When he comes to his 20:ies, he sees that he can not play any music instrument, does not have black belt, is not educated, can't write poetry, can't dance... and os on.
      So, he might draw the conclusion that he trew away his life, and nothing matters anymore.

    6. Re:My son... by kwbauer · · Score: 1

      but the point is that it didn't used to describe most 17 year olds.

    7. Re:My son... by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 1

      Who, in hell, modded this -1?

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
  19. Re:LOL by tnk1 · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Porn, probably.

    And why not? They're living in Schoolgirl Tentacle Porn Central.

  20. Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Interesting

    Why is everyone expecting that everyone wants to socialise???
    Seriously. There are so many assholes out there in the meat space, sometimes even more than on Reddit or YouTube comments. So many stupid, brain dead people. So many judging people judging others for superficial stuff.

    I'm asexual, rarely meet people who interest me and share my hobbies and my interests.
    Movies are all shit nowadays. So why should I socialise more than the minimum (food shopping, deliveries/postal service) ???

    1. Re:Where is the problem? by LikwidCirkel · · Score: 3, Insightful

      This isn't just about socializing. It's about working outside the home, being able to cook for yourself, doing your own laundry, doing your own shopping, etc. These adult kids are capable of none of these things.

      Being an introvert is one thing. Being unwilling to do what's necessary to survive independently is another thing altogether.

    2. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Yeah, there are a lot of assholes. But there's probably nearly an equal number of great or kind people.

      As a human, you're part of a social species. Unless a person is interacting with the "meat space" as you call it, then how is one of these individuals any better than a meatbag that's just taking up space and oxygen and, potentially, social welfare?

      It sounds as if you have hobbies and interests you'd like to share, perhaps even contributing to those communities. You only meet people if you go to places where folks with similar interests hang out. I don't expect you'd find them in the grocery or post office.

    3. Re: Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'm not introvert. I'm funny and crazy but just not interested in most people.

      (I'm the op)

    4. Re:Where is the problem? by war4peace · · Score: 1

      Yeah, there are a lot of assholes. But there's probably nearly an equal number of great or kind people.

      Nope.
      There's a lot more assholes than kind people.
      Most apparently kind people are assholes in disguise. They are nice and outgoing until they no longer need you or can no longer use you, and then they shed their fake skin and show what and how they truly are.
      The problem is that most victims don't realize that; just check on how often are your friends calling you for no egocentric reason, just to check on you, no strings attached? I did count, when someone else opened my eyes. It's been 4 years since and the only person who contacts me without needing something from me is my sister. Everyone else contacts me because they need me for something, be it small or important.
      Furthermore, I have been checking whether my wife encounters something similar, and she does.

      Now I'm not saying all those people are assholes by design, it's just they are egocentric. It's society which makes us like that; it's the way things are.

      --
      ...gis sdrawkcab (usually not responding to ACs; don't bother posting as AC)
    5. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Ditto.
       
      Let me just leave this right here...
        A good read.

    6. Re:Where is the problem? by drinkypoo · · Score: 1

      I'm asexual, rarely meet people who interest me and share my hobbies and my interests.

      I don't care what you do or don't do with your wabbly bits so long as if anyone else is involved it is consensual, but as far as life and evolution are concerned, you're an irrelevant dead end.

      So why should I socialise more than the minimum (food shopping, deliveries/postal service) ???

      From evolution's point of view, you're not adaptable to the kind of change we are now experiencing. It's not that you should, it's that since you don't, you're removing yourself from the race.

      --
      "You're right," Fisheye says. "I should have set it on 'whip' or 'chop.'"
    7. Re:Where is the problem? by tftp · · Score: 0

      This isn't just about socializing. It's about working outside the home

      Why would a modern information worker need to work outside his home? You aren't suggesting (I hope) that a modern industrial worker needs to shovel coal into furnaces. Technology changed these jobs. Today you can be a rich ISV writing your own code in peace and quiet of your home and selling it on the Internet, or through Apple. Socializing is an instrument, not the end goal. Traditionally one needed to socialize to buy and sell, to learn and to teach. None of that is true today, this comment being just one illustration of the principle.

      being able to cook for yourself, doing your own laundry, doing your own shopping, etc.

      It takes very little effort to cook pasta or rice, especially if you have specialized cookers. Laundry is done by a washing machine. Shopping is done either online (for expensive products) or at the nearby grocery store. Where else would one need to go if his office == his home?

    8. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      > I'm asexual, rarely meet people who interest me and share my hobbies and my interests.

      Who knew Sheldon Cooper hangs out on Slashdot?!

    9. Re:Where is the problem? by tftp · · Score: 1

      I don't care what you do or don't do with your wabbly bits so long as if anyone else is involved it is consensual, but as far as life and evolution are concerned, you're an irrelevant dead end.

      Genetically - yes. But not intellectually. There aren't too many geniuses who had children who also became pretty good. (It happens more often in families of artists because it's more nurture than nature.) Do you care that Albert Einstein had family and children? (They didn't fare well.)

      From evolution's point of view, you're not adaptable to the kind of change we are now experiencing. It's not that you should, it's that since you don't, you're removing yourself from the race.

      You can also say that the race repels solitary, asexual individuals. The race is not concerned, there are plenty of men and women who are only interested in socialization and replication. Thus biological needs of survival are achieved.

      This, however, may indicate that the race, without some touch of eugenics, is doomed to mediocrity because biologically it does not select for brains (not anymore, at least.) There is no mechanism that would allow a genius to have more children and spread their genes around. Futurists imagined such mechanisms, but the society of today does not have them. To make things worse, geniuses are sidelined and often oppressed because they are different. The society favors the average, not the best.

    10. Re:Where is the problem? by 0111+1110 · · Score: 2

      I mostly agree with you. But spend some time in Colombia, Laos, Japan, and maybe Finland (not sure because I only visited briefly) before making up your mind about the whole species. The U.S. is particularly bad in terms of the asshole to nice people ratio.

      It is almost impossible for me to make friends in the U.S., but in Colombia it is difficult for me not to make friends and the people are very nice and genuinely so. Lao people are nearly as friendly and kind but the language is tonal and very difficult to learn and almost no one speaks English. Japanese people aren't quite as nice as Colombian and Lao people, but I still find them very, very likeable. Ironically I think there is a lot less cause to be a hikikimori in Japan than in the U.S, where people really are comparitively intolerant and cruel. Japan is one of the few places where I think I would actively seek out people and want to spend time with them. In fact that would be the only point in my living there (whch I would love to do). One problem though is that they work so much. Often more than just 8 hours a day. So they tend not to have a lot of time to hang out with you. Colombia unfortunately has a similar problem. Lots of people working 10-14 hour days.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    11. Re:Where is the problem? by gl4ss · · Score: 1

      the problem is that they have become essentially pets for their parents.

      that is, they don't even order their own food for a pizza parlour. so you're missing the point, they're at the state where their parents bring them food, their parents sign their packages.

      --
      world was created 5 seconds before this post as it is.
    12. Re:Where is the problem? by drinkypoo · · Score: 1

      the race, without some touch of eugenics, is doomed to mediocrity because biologically it does not select for brains

      Put aside "race", use "species". And the species is self-sustaining at a mediocre level, as you say. We DO select for intelligence, but only as one factor among many. Stupid people are more likely to breed, but people who are TOO stupid tend to wander out in the street and get hit by a bus, or run over by a hippo, or one of the usual remedies for excessive stupidity. So we select for just enough intelligence to trick people into having sex...

      --
      "You're right," Fisheye says. "I should have set it on 'whip' or 'chop.'"
    13. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Because EXTINCTION!
      Reproduction and teamwork are impossible without socialization.

      Jeez, how detached from reality can one be?

      Yeah, if you want to die out, I'm perfectly OK with that. In fact I'd welcome it, as resources are scarce, and hence you'd do us all a favor.

      But acting like it's somehow weird that it's normal and expected that a human wants to socialize? *That's /fucked-up/, mate.

      IMHO you're just too shitty as a hacker and can't handle machines as complex as a human. "Boo-hoo the human brain is too complex for me. Social networks scare me. I want my C64 and a serial cable! Waaaah!"

      Be a boss for once! Allow yourself to accept that what you're doing is actually damn cool; you've just badly sold it. This is how you do it.

    14. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I think you are depressed. I've struggled with Bipolar disorder for a while now, and when I am depressed I sound like you. Good luck,

    15. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Actually, its already been shown that the easier 'the way of life' gets, the dumber the species average gets (as the lower average gets less likely to find a way to... remove themselves). The quantity of smart people is climbing very slowly (if at all). The quantity of dumb people however. The ratio is getting more and more imbalanced.

    16. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      And don't forget the fact that only one asshole is needed to screw you badly if are unlucky enough of not being able to avoid him/her.

    17. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I guess it depends on people.
      I still live with my parents but I do my own laundry, tidy my sector, fix things here and there, cook sometime for the whole family, and have a job. I just have some vague feeling that I will be leaving the house "soon" but all I know it's that it's nearer than farther in time now.
      And for relationship, the few I had with people I fell in love with all went crash and burn and they prefer to avoid me now. All the professional (to some extent) relationship are all fine.

      Anyway.

    18. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That may be true 100 years ago when the TOO stupid people didn't have resources at all to even survive. Not now anymore. Idiocracy is the furure.

    19. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'm asexual, rarely meet people who interest me and share my hobbies and my interests.

      That brings up an interesting question: What proportion of all these hikikomori guys are still virgin?

    20. Re:Where is the problem? by Comrade+Ogilvy · · Score: 1

      This, however, may indicate that the race, without some touch of eugenics, is doomed to mediocrity because biologically it does not select for brains (not anymore, at least.) There is no mechanism that would allow a genius to have more children and spread their genes around. Futurists imagined such mechanisms, but the society of today does not have them. To make things worse, geniuses are sidelined and often oppressed because they are different. The society favors the average, not the best.

      I think you are committing a False Choice fallacy there. The species does select for manifestly above average intelligence -- there is a powerful positive correlation between an obviously healthy brain and general health. What it does not select for is goofy oddballs, which can be a problem for the extremes, at the high or low end. It is logically possible for a species to be positively selecting for intelligence on the net while selecting against the rare genius. But such geniuses are so rare, their effect on the gene pool could only be small under even the most optimistic scenarios.

      Albert is beloved by geeks as an eccentric hero, but it is vastly underestimated how attractive he was to the ladies as a witty young man. Half the great minds in physics of the first half of the 20th century were Germans, Austrians, Hungarians who were well at ease on a rough hiking trail.

    21. Re:Where is the problem? by tftp · · Score: 1

      A faimily of a medical doctor as husband and a CEO as wife is probably having one or two kids. A family of two illiterate peasants in Afghanistan is likely to have ten kids. The laws of evolution are subverted by the little fact that humans are not entirely driven by instincts. Humans formed societies that make children not only unnecessary - they make them detrimental. Better organized societies are worse in this aspect than primitive societies.

      Perhaps eugenics is not the only choice here. But the society needs to ensure that good genes propagate, even if that involves technological means. The evolution's opinion on what genes are good is different than ours. From evolution's point of view, a serial rapist with a body and brains of a WWF fighter is an excellent specimen. In the end we get more strong serial rapists. The population does increase... but the society dies. A high tech society cannot be sustained by idiots who have 99% of their thinking power in their lower brain.

    22. Re:Where is the problem? by Grishnakh · · Score: 1

      Yeah, there are a lot of assholes. But there's probably nearly an equal number of great or kind people.

      Depends on the location. In Phoenix, Arizona, most people are assholes, so if the OP lives there, I can understand why he'd never want to leave the house. I recommend moving north; I've found that people really are much friendlier the farther north you go.

      It sounds as if you have hobbies and interests you'd like to share, perhaps even contributing to those communities. You only meet people if you go to places where folks with similar interests hang out. I don't expect you'd find them in the grocery or post office.

      I wonder if the OP lives in some shitty town that doesn't have any places to meet such people. If you're like him and you live in some shitty town of 30k in the middle of nowhere, just sitting at your computer all the time would make a lot of sense.

    23. Re:Where is the problem? by Comrade+Ogilvy · · Score: 1

      This argument is not new. The fear that Those People are out breeding the Best Of Us is at least 150+ years old. Collapse is always just over the horizon. In the 19th century it was alleged those dang drunken Irish and Italians were pumping out dumb babies, who would swamp the children of those with accomplished minds and sober values.

      IMNSHO 90% of the babies born have more than enough potential mental horsepower, given good nutrition and a good educational environment, to keep a technological society thriving. Whether those key environmental ingredients are provided is a values choice that comes from the culture -- the DNA is but a minor issue.

      History suggests there is a big reservoir of potential in every population, even those populations we are inclined to look down on. Put those children of peasants in a good school, and lo! some of them make fine doctors. It has happened over and over again.

      The positive benefit of being dumb is a myth. Some degree of obvious intelligence is attractive to most women, even if being super brainy may not be, even if stupidity may be sometimes overlooked. Being above average intelligence is a big boon if you want to make babies.

    24. Re:Where is the problem? by Princeofcups · · Score: 1

      Why is everyone expecting that everyone wants to socialise???
      Seriously. There are so many assholes out there in the meat space, sometimes even more than on Reddit or YouTube comments. So many stupid, brain dead people. So many judging people judging others for superficial stuff.

      I'm asexual, rarely meet people who interest me and share my hobbies and my interests.
      Movies are all shit nowadays. So why should I socialise more than the minimum (food shopping, deliveries/postal service) ???

      What do you give to society? That house, the food you eat, the media you consume, all these things are due to people in society interacting, from the food that's grown and resources that are mined to services provided. You can't just hide away from society, and yet expect to live with the benefits of it. Now maybe there is some way that you are giving back, part of the whole working organism, but I'm not seeing it. To me you seem like a cancer in a living organism, and you should not be surprised if you are cut out and thrown into a waste basket. Just to use the "meat" metaphor that you seem to like.

      Seek help.

      --
      The only thing worse than a Democrat is a Republican.
    25. Re:Where is the problem? by war4peace · · Score: 1

      I am not from the US. I didn't even think of US when I posted.

      --
      ...gis sdrawkcab (usually not responding to ACs; don't bother posting as AC)
    26. Re:Where is the problem? by war4peace · · Score: 1

      Biggest problem is that you don't know in advance :)

      --
      ...gis sdrawkcab (usually not responding to ACs; don't bother posting as AC)
    27. Re:Where is the problem? by tftp · · Score: 1

      the DNA is but a minor issue.

      I fully agree. Children of the MD and the CEO have the same genetic chance of being smart - or stupid - as their counterparts from Afghanistan. What makes huge difference here is the fact that the former will get their chance to realize the potential, whereas the latter will not. A math genius is not of much use in the field, working the hoe or herding goats.

      Put those children of peasants in a good school, and lo! some of them make fine doctors. It has happened over and over again.

      It takes at least a miracle for a 9th child of Akhmed and Gülnara to get to a university. Even a school might be a problem, especially if the kid is of female persuasion. They poison girls in schools there.

      Being above average intelligence is a big boon if you want to make babies.

      If you are above average intelligence, you will not want to make too many babies. There is simply no reason to, and they are super expensive in the first world, and they are a huge legal liability. But a peasant needs all the children he can get because they are his old age pension, and the children are dirt cheap there (a child dies from an accident - Allah's will.)

    28. Re:Where is the problem? by ultranova · · Score: 1

      I don't care what you do or don't do with your wabbly bits so long as if anyone else is involved it is consensual, but as far as life and evolution are concerned, you're an irrelevant dead end.

      Maybe. Then again, the main thrust of human evolution is arguably cultural nowadays; even if no one carries your genes down the line, they might still carry your thoughts. And this is likely to only become more so in the future, as medicine and genetic engineering advance.

      --

      Forget magic. Any technology distinguishable from divine power is insufficiently advanced.

    29. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      See? Assholes like you are part of the problem, specially when are hard to avoid. Fortunately not like you.

    30. Re:Where is the problem? by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      Fair enough, but the advice still holds. Not every country has the same ashhole : nice person ratio. Try spending some time in a country with a better ratio.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    31. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Thanks for proving my point.

      (I'm the op)

    32. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'm not bipolar or depressed per se. I laugh a lot. I'm just seriously not interested to socialise.
      Thanks again for proving my point about expectations. As soon as you divert from the expectation of average people you are marked either mental or branded as cancer (see comment below).

      I have 2 friends who I see about every few months. That's enough. Thank you.

      (I'm the OP)

    33. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Telling the reader you do not know what countries you have been to, is a great start to making them ignore you.

    34. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      sucks to be you, you miserable sack of shit. lol.

    35. Re:Where is the problem? by minstrelmike · · Score: 1

      the problem is that they have become essentially pets for their parents.

      I disagree that they 'became pets.'
      I think they always were pets from day one and that's a major part of the problem. The parents guide their child's activities the same way you guide a dog and never encourage/force decision-making and consequences for lack of making decisions.

    36. Re:Where is the problem? by minstrelmike · · Score: 1

      If I have friends on Facebook, isn't that almost the same as having real friends? ;-)

    37. Re:Where is the problem? by war4peace · · Score: 1

      Asshole detected.
      Point proven.

      --
      ...gis sdrawkcab (usually not responding to ACs; don't bother posting as AC)
    38. Re:Where is the problem? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Speaking as a Finn, living in my native country where depression is among the highest rates in the world, I'd say that the social environment in the #1 factor contributing to depression. We're one of the most solitary nationalities and we have a high depression rate. The same goes for other Nordic welfare states. In comparison, Mediterranean and most Spanish-speaking countries have a highly social culture and very low depression rates.

      When I've heard people speak of their extended stays in the U.S. they've had both good and bad things to say about the social atmosphere. As a summary of those comments people in the U.S. tend to be more relaxed, but it's also more common to be mean in both a direct and a back-stabbing way. In balance, my theory leads me to suspect that depression and suicide rates in the U.S. (and the UK, for that matter) are higher than in Mediterranean or most Spanish-speaking countries, but lower than the Nordic states. Would my theory prove to be correct, then the long-term solution to depression in a society would rely on developing the social interactions in the culture.

      I've also been wondering how much classifying terms like "loser" and "freak" are overused in the movies and series from U.S., where their usage vastly exceeds any the use of any equivalents in Finnish. Either it's grossly exaggerated or the Finns are just less tolerant of bullies.

      As an example geeks are still called geeks here, but after reaching the age of 20 or so fewer people consider that a bad trait. In the 90s being a geek wasn't cool, but first Nokia and then one company after another made it clear for everyone that geeks are responsible for some of our best imports (Angry Birds, anyone?). Very few people dare to hurt everyone's national pride by implying anything bad about the bunch who're waving the national flag the highest. As long as we can present ourselves to international friends as being from "Finland, you know the country with Angry Birds", everyone's happy with geeks.

  21. It's not unique to Japan. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    It's not unique to Japan.
    Avoidant personality disorder(Signs and symptoms) : Avoids physical contact because it has been associated with an unpleasant or painful stimulus , In some more extreme cases — agoraphobia
    (source http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder )

  22. It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

    It's because of the girls. They are protesting bat-shit crazy. They like girls, but they've just had enough bat-shit crazy to last several lifetimes, and are protesting it. All we need to do to fix this is to get the japanese girls, and all girls in general, to just tone down the bat-shit crazy, even turn it off if possible.

    1. Re:It is protest. by buck-yar · · Score: 1, Insightful

      Indeed. I was looking through my HS yearbook from ~1998, the girls seem different from today. Girls now talk as if they were mentally retarded- "OMG," "like totally," etc. It wasn't as bad back in the 90s. Seems like the average female IQ is dropping. Just look at the average girls Facebook feed- nothing but brain dead attention whores.

    2. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I wouldn't call them retarded ... the things I've seen them do require intelligence, guile and a loose sense of ethical responsibility.

    3. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Seems like the average female IQ is dropping. Just look at the average girls Facebook feed...

      I'm not sure that that's a safe generalization. The noisiest girls on Facebook don't necessarily represent the majority of girls.

    4. Re:It is protest. by SpeZek · · Score: 1

      And yet women are set to overtake men in terms of higher education achievement (if they haven't already in your country -- they have here).

      Maybe the plural of anecdote isn't data?

    5. Re:It is protest. by phantomfive · · Score: 1

      Maybe you shouldn't compare a HS yearbook with a Facebook feed......find another HS yearbook to make it fair. Because "OMG" "like totally" were definitely around back in the 80s.

      --
      "First they came for the slanderers and i said nothing."
    6. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      It wasn't as bad back in the 90s.

      As if!

    7. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Misogynistic much? Or did I miss the sarcasm?

    8. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Interesting

      Sorry, but you're wrong. I've taught for twenty years, kids are just as vapid today as they were twenty years ago. Kids don't really change, just the styles and slang do. Today's OMG (which by the way is so yesterday) is simply an 2010s version of "gnarly dude". I recently ran across my HS yearbook from 1986 while cleaning out the garage. The girls looked incredibly young and the crap my friends wrote in them was dreadfully banal. Finally to put this in perspective while working on my MA in history I read about twenty yearbooks from 1933-1935 not only did I read the little introductions in the yearbooks but I also read the inscriptions. Guess what, they could have been written by a teen today. They were that close to the same level of stupidity. It was truly eye opening. The only thing that changed was the drug references (marijuana is bigger now), and the slang, otherwise they had the same adolescent stupidity.

    9. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Mysogyny is now considered +4 insightful now?

      Ciao Slashdot, you're outlived your usefulness.

    10. Re:It is protest. by locofungus · · Score: 4, Interesting

      I suspect you're wrong. The average intelligence hasn't really changed much at all.

      What has changed is what you're prepared to accept.

      When you were 16, the fact that she was pretty and appeared to like you was more than sufficient to keep your interest in her (at least for a while)

      Now you're finding that looks aren't nearly enough to keep your interest beyond the first time she opens her mouth.

      Give it another ten years and you'll come to realize that looks really don't matter that much at all. You can admire the hot sexy ones from a distance while listening to the intelligent interesting ones. In time you might discover that she's pretty hot and sexy as well as interesting and intelligent - especially if she starts showing more than a social interest in you - and even if you don't you'll have found a new friend.

      On the whole I find women more interesting, easier to talk to, and more intelligent than men.

      Tim.

      --
      God said, "div D = rho, div B = 0, curl E = -@B/@t, curl H = J + @D/@t," and there was light.
    11. Re:It is protest. by LearningHard · · Score: 4, Interesting

      I'll just leave this here:

      http://www.nypost.com/p/news/opinion/books/man_of_kneel_PHEDS6aPAczquQE4AgwTiP

      "Sick of being treated like the enemy, guys are dropping out of society"

    12. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Its a sad day when you realize you're now the one with the lawn, isn't it.

    13. Re:It is protest. by DrGamez · · Score: 1

      Oof, that's embarrassing to have posted on your account.

    14. Re:It is protest. by SpeZek · · Score: 0

      Whoop dee-do. Opinion pieces and anecdotes are pointless.

      Nearly all my friends are women. They adore me. I've never been treated as "the enemy" by any woman I've ever met. Am I an "Uncle Tim" because I can interact well with 50% of the human population?

      Incidentally, conflating men that are sympathetic to women with slaves that were excessively subservient to slavers is pretty much the most vile thing I've read all day. Thanks for linking that. No wonder you're treated like the enemy?

    15. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      OK, so women, overall, get better social scores (if grades aren't one, explain how a blowjob could possibly get you a better grade). Good for them. Now let's apply this to the real world, where shit has to get done. Oh, wait, that's right, we have a "service based" economy and shit never gets done. It's all talky-huggy-feely bullshit, stitched together with red tape (more talky/paperworky bullshit).

      So of course women (and men) who use social media to sharpen their attention-whoring skills are excelling in a social-only economy with deeply entrenched social structures that stomp all over non-social or anti-social ways of thinking and working.

      Meanwhile, someone has to get shit done. And that doesn't require a degree. It requires something no degree program can ever force you to learn: know-how. That's why the men and women with know-how simply learn what they need to know to get shit done, then move on and get shit done. Pieces of fancy paper mean precisely dick.

    16. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I graduated in 1998 and my wife currently has a job teaching college freshman; I can definitely state that there has been no increase in vapidity. It's still the same: many are vapid, some are not.

      Full disclosure: I went to school in the San Fernando Valley so phrases such as "like totally" have been part of the lexicon of teenage girls since long before I was born.

    17. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      When I was in high school in the early 90's, girls were all fat and had big poofy hair.

    18. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      It's not specific to girls - the general IQ is dropping. I'm guessing a large percentage of those basement dwellers associate themselves with the grass-eating crowd or the MGTOW crowd. That is they don't want glamorous jobs and they'd rather have something that just pays the bills. Some of them have probably realized they don't need any job at all and they're just staying put.

    19. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      It just so happens that "like totally" is a phrase made famous by girls in the 1980s. I'm guessing now you think that girls in the 80s may be were mentally retarded, and girls in the 00s and girls now were mentally retarded, but not those girls in the 90s. No siree.
       
      Here's the news for you: You're getting older, and one symptom is that you realize how dumb younger people are.

    20. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      girls were all fat and had big poofy hair

      AND WE LIKED IT that way. We didn't need no stinkin' self-tanner or duck face. They wore heavy eye makeup and perfume AND WE LIKED IT.

    21. Re:It is protest. by Dragonslicer · · Score: 1

      Indeed. I was looking through my HS yearbook from ~1998, the girls seem different from today. Girls now talk as if they were mentally retarded- "OMG," "like totally," etc. It wasn't as bad back in the 90s. Seems like the average female IQ is dropping. Just look at the average girls Facebook feed- nothing but brain dead attention whores.

      You must have gone to an upper-class high school or something. Most of the people in my high school class were like that. And the boys didn't seem to be any brighter overall than the girls.

    22. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Try that bullshit on someone who wasn't in school in 1998. Actually, please don't. It's still going to be bullshit if you tell it to someone who can't immediately tell you're lying.

      "Like totally"? That's a pattern of teenage speech that dates back to the sodding 80s.

    23. Re:It is protest. by ebno-10db · · Score: 1

      Sorry, but you're wrong. I've taught for twenty years, kids are just as vapid today as they were twenty years ago. Kids don't really change, just the styles and slang do. Today's OMG (which by the way is so yesterday) is simply an 2010s version of "gnarly dude". I recently ran across my HS yearbook from 1986 while cleaning out the garage. The girls looked incredibly young and the crap my friends wrote in them was dreadfully banal. Finally to put this in perspective while working on my MA in history I read about twenty yearbooks from 1933-1935 not only did I read the little introductions in the yearbooks but I also read the inscriptions. Guess what, they could have been written by a teen today. They were that close to the same level of stupidity. It was truly eye opening. The only thing that changed was the drug references (marijuana is bigger now), and the slang, otherwise they had the same adolescent stupidity.

      Thank you! We old fogeys have got to stick together on this (I think I have seniority). Seriously, when I hear somebody who graduated HS in 1998 talking about "kids these days" I have to laugh. Do they realize that's the kind of things the class of '83 was saying about the class of '98? People have been talking about "kids these days" for a long time - Socrates complained about it.

    24. Re:It is protest. by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      Or eventually you learn to have quick sex with the pretty ones and then kick them out of bed and talk to the intelligent but ugly ones. Assuming of course that you are good looking enough yourself to score with the pretty ones at all. Those of us who are less attractive have to be content with female friends and porn for a girlfriend.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    25. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      >Nearly all my friends are women. They adore me.
      Anecdotes.

    26. Re:It is protest. by JazzLad · · Score: 1

      Man, if I had a dollar for every AC that quit reading /. when they read something offensive, I'd have enough money to never leave my room & play games all day ... hmm, sounds like a kickstarter ...

      --
      "If you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to fear." - Every fascist, ever
    27. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Typical feminazi avoidance reply of calling misogynistic anything that is evident and argumented enough so that is hard to disprove otherwise.

    28. Re:It is protest. by ultranova · · Score: 1

      I was looking through my HS yearbook from ~1998, the girls seem different from today. Girls now talk as if they were mentally retarded- "OMG," "like totally," etc. It wasn't as bad back in the 90s.

      So in your youth the youth spoke proper slang, which is different than the slang of today, therefore the modern youth must be retarded?

      Seems like the average female IQ is dropping.

      Bonus points for not knowing what IQ means.

      Just look at the average girls Facebook feed- nothing but brain dead attention whores.

      So... are you a creepy middle-aged cyberstalker of teenagers, or are you pulling stuff out of your ass?

      --

      Forget magic. Any technology distinguishable from divine power is insufficiently advanced.

    29. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      On the whole I find women more interesting, easier to talk to, and more intelligent than men.

      Tim.

      Woman: have you seen her new shoes. I have to go shoe shopping soon. I want ones like that.

      Unclue Tim: Wow. How very interesting. *thinks -- maybe I need to go shoe shopping as well. How would red ones look.

    30. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You sound like a fag.

    31. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That's beause you're whiped and are a complete idiot.

      There is a reason why almost all nobel prizes and almost every single piece of technological advancement has been done by menn, Intelligence. But no worries, you do not qualify to be a man, so you don't have to worry your pretty little empty head about it (even if you have something dangling between your legs, you might as well cut it off, you're not one of us, your intelligence is closer to that of a dog).

    32. Re:It is protest. by Common+Joe · · Score: 1

      I see someone replied to you saying anecdotes are pointless. I'll give you my anecdote anyway.

      I saw a girl fall on her bike and start crying outside of my house. I sent my wife to go deal with it for fear of being labeled a perv. A moment after my wife started helping the girl, the girl's father started berating my wife for helping his kid. I can only imagine what would have happened had I gone out there.

      I love kids yet very rarely deal with them because I don't want the hassle. My life is stressful enough without the stigma of being labeled a perv by society.

    33. Re:It is protest. by loufoque · · Score: 1

      There is the theory that japanese women are so ugly that they prefer 2D ones.

    34. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Such faggotry.

    35. Re:It is protest. by Sciurus+6.487ED511 · · Score: 1

      I think the sentiment exists, but it's mostly an effect of bad news surfacing and distorting the picture. I'm a woman, but I used to be a man, and before my transition I got jobs working with kids, started taking ballet, and generally went out to test what kind of response I would get as I started to break what I perceived as the narrow role of what a man can safely do. I didn't meet any women who seemed worried about me. It is unfortunate that culture judges men. And that the judgment and fear can nudge men out of some areas of life. But I hope that if a man has his heart set on being a Kindergarten teacher, for example, he isn't made to feel he's less valuable as a teacher than a woman...

    36. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Can you give a better explanation of why men are boycotting marriage, fatherhood and the american dream and why this matter is important?

    37. Re:It is protest. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I suspect you're wrong. The average intelligence hasn't really changed much at all.

      What has changed is what you're prepared to accept.

      When you were 16, the fact that she was pretty and appeared to like you was more than sufficient to keep your interest in her (at least for a while)

      Now you're finding that looks aren't nearly enough to keep your interest beyond the first time she opens her mouth.

      Give it another ten years and you'll come to realize that looks really don't matter that much at all. You can admire the hot sexy ones from a distance while listening to the intelligent interesting ones. In time you might discover that she's pretty hot and sexy as well as interesting and intelligent - especially if she starts showing more than a social interest in you - and even if you don't you'll have found a new friend.

      On the whole I find women more interesting, easier to talk to, and more intelligent than men.

      Tim.

      On the whole, I -- along with every single one of my friends (ivy league graduates, top 2%, etc.) -- find just the opposite to be the case.

    38. Re:It is protest. by colinrichardday · · Score: 1

      Yeah, next you'll tell me that Moon Unit Zappa sang about this.

      Oh, wait . . .

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qb21lsCQ3EM

  23. Averages by Lorens · · Score: 4, Funny

    So in 20 years, the average age went up by 11 years. That probably simply means that living in your mom's basement is not immediately dangerous to your health.

    1. Re:Averages by danomac · · Score: 1

      Either that or housing is way too damn expensive...

    2. Re:Averages by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      are you running for governor again?

    3. Re:Averages by drinkypoo · · Score: 1

      Either that or housing is way too damn expensive...

      We are talking about Japan here. Their population density is incredible. What's interesting is that they chased a lot of people off their island (most of whom went to Brazil) and then they made a push to get a lot of them back, now they're overcrowded again and by the way, if you're a member of a repatriated family you'll be looked down upon for leaving in the first place.

      --
      "You're right," Fisheye says. "I should have set it on 'whip' or 'chop.'"
    4. Re:Averages by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I used to live in my mom's basement until a radon test reported 8 pCi/L. Now I live in her attic.

    5. Re:Averages by Lorens · · Score: 1

      What's interesting is that they chased a lot of people off their island (most of whom went to Brazil)

      A lot went to Peru. That brought the world Nikkei cuisine, and the world is thankful.

  24. The Virtual World by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Internet access provides enough data (e.g., social interaction) to keep a sizeable proportion of human brains content; in fact, it's a lot easier to gather this data by interfacing with the Internet than by interfacing with the "real" world.

    Then, as usual, people just perpetuate the conditions that make them content.

    "What do I care for your suffering? Pain, even agony, is no more than information before the senses, data fed to the computer of the mind. The lesson is simple: you have received the information, now act on it. Take control of the input and you shall become master of the output."

    - Chairman Sheng-Ji Yang, Essays on Mind and Matter

    (With apologies to any Japanese I've offended by quoting a fictional Chinese leader, but in my defense, said leader was a character in a video game in which I happily locked myself away for days at a time :)

  25. Isn't it obvious? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Japanese porn.

  26. Of course it's global by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Why bother going out there and dealing with the real world if you don't have to? There are plenty of men (and even women) the world over who can't be bothered with the constant bombardment of big-business bullshit and having to fight corporate entities tooth-and-nail for the right to a reasonable existence. I'm not necessarily an expert, but if you ask me we seem to be entering a phase of human existence where we are making strident reversals from our achievements in the mid-20th century, coming to rely on self-service techniques (up to and including subsistence farming) because we cannot trust capitalism to provide a fair return for the work we put in.

    Yet we as a generation continue to listen to baby boomers who were brainwashed by the Western concept of 'evil' communism. More evil than Wall Street and its cronies today? These days I feel I have reasonable grounds to doubt it.

    1. Re:Of course it's global by sjames · · Score: 2

      There is a lot to that, Japan's more rigid social structure just showed the cracks sooner.

      Like the U.S. at one time, the expectation was do well in school then get a good job and most likely work there until you retire.

      Somewhere around the '80s the kids completing their education found no such jobs waiting for them. However, in japan, hopping from one marginal dead-end job to the next is in itself a source of shame.

    2. Re:Of course it's global by epyT-R · · Score: 1

      uh right.. like socialsm and communism have such great track records.

    3. Re:Of course it's global by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      Try living in a communist or semi-communist country for a while and see what you think. I lived in Cuba for more than a year. Average wage: $12/month. A one-per-family ration card that buys you almost nothing. It's hard to be a hikikomori because computers are actually fucking illegal to own (although that has changed). Not that anyone could afford them anyway. Unemployment that is so high it is almost uncountable. Would you want to work at some boring, shitty job that pays less than 50 cents a day?

      And if you are thinking that food and other goods are cheaper there you are wrong. Well some stuff at the vegetable markets are cheaper. Like a pineapple or watermelon might cost $1 instead of $4, but it isn't anywhere near to being cheap enough for a $12/month salary. Nearly anything else that you want will cost you more than it would in the US. Sound like a utopia to you? Sound like something that would make people want to go out into the world and face reality? The fact that there are basically no shy people in the entire country is another matter.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    4. Re:Of course it's global by Grishnakh · · Score: 1

      He's not comparing to socialism and communism, if anything he's comparing to subsistence farming and the lack of any real government (except the occasional warlord) the way it was thousands of years ago.

      We've already found that communism (aka authoritarian socialism) doesn't work, we've found that feudalism doesn't work too well either (except maybe for people who manage to live far away from any nobility and can do their own thing), and now we're discovering that capitalism isn't sustainable either. What's next?

    5. Re:Of course it's global by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Try living in a communist or semi-communist country for a while and see what you think.

      Why? Capitalism is "the worst economic system, except for all the others that have been tried". What the grandparent described is the absolute polar opposite of communism, where there is no communal ownership or responsibility at all not even voluntary association (corporation), whether he realized it or not.

    6. Re:Of course it's global by Justpin · · Score: 1

      It'd be great if we lived in a capitalist society, except we don't live in a capitalist society, we have a system that superficially looks like capitalism, but is more akin to Mussolini's original principles of fascism, where corporations and the state are joined at the hip. I'm sure I don't need to remind everybody of the government assistance and bail outs up and down the economy Which is intertwined with luddite fallacy, if we had true capitalism, the natural state of things would be deflation. I'm pretty sure petrol was 56p a litre when I started driving..... But as mentioned in a number of posts, capitalism has an end game, when all the power moves from labour to capital, people have no money to buy anything therefore the reason for the corporates to exist ceases.

  27. Why is this happening? by michaelmalak · · Score: 1

    Why is this happening?

    Is this Ask Slashdot, or are we expecting this question to be answered in the comments through the scientific method of pure speculation?

    1. Re:Why is this happening? by Nrrqshrr · · Score: 1

      It's slashdot, we'r bound to have some basement-dwelling sun-haters around here somewhere.

    2. Re:Why is this happening? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Well, Slashdot is one of the leading extremely scientifically researched publications so it would be embarrassing to not continue that spirit in the comments.

    3. Re:Why is this happening? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Uh, this is a discussion board. I would expect that the question was asked in order to initiate a discussion.

  28. Re:LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Porn, probably.

    And why not? They're living in Schoolgirl Tentacle Porn Central.

    Anime fans probably. Being an anime fan carries a high social stigma in Japan. And of course being into anime means liking lolicon, shotacon and all those sexually perverse child porn manga and anime. Japan being the last civilised country where possession of child porn is legal. Go figure. These people are creepy as hell, so no wonder a subclass of those anime fans are even more creepy.
    When you account that Japan has a very conservative and group think type kind of society, being individualistic, strange is 1000 times worse than in western societies. So its no wonder this hikikimori phenomenon is so prevalent down there.

  29. Indicative of a need in young men? by wcrowe · · Score: 4, Insightful

    I don't know about Japan, but it used to be usual in Thailand for young men to be ordained as Buddhist monks, and live a life apart from the mainstream for at least a few months, or a year or two. With the rise of consumerism in Thailand this practice is starting to die away.

    In other cultures young men go off for a time to live a cloistered or semi-cloistered life. Even a two or three year stint in the military might qualify. It's not completely cut off from society, but you do live a more spartan existence, in a somewhat separate world with its own rules and protocols, and with lots of time to reflect on what you really want to do with your life.

    It could be that hikikomori in Japan is evidence of a need in young men to go off and "find themselves", or whatever. As our increasingly secular, consumerist culture removes other cloistered avenues previously found in religion, military, or school, there may be no option left but to hole up in one's room.

    I have nothing to support any of the above, it's just a hunch.

     

    --
    Proverbs 21:19
    1. Re:Indicative of a need in young men? by ClayDowling · · Score: 1

      It doesn't seem like an unreasonable hunch though. Certainly the structure of a military or monastic life would provide a safer environment for people with social anxieties, which is what this sounds like from the article.

    2. Re:Indicative of a need in young men? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I personally have a feeling it has more to do with ancient DNA triggering a process of maturation. Holing up in a room reminds me of how worker drones are bred in the honeycombs of beehives: http://science.howstuffworks.com/zoology/insects-arachnids/bee4.htm. This is a simply human realization of this process that certain classes of people go through, just like certain bees are bred in the bee colony go through a similar process to become full fledged adult workers.

    3. Re:Indicative of a need in young men? by gtirloni · · Score: 1

      1. Parents enabling it
      2. Porn
      3. Video games
      4. Porn

      --
      none
    4. Re:Indicative of a need in young men? by RevWaldo · · Score: 1

      A recent New Yorker article (paywall) on a Buddhist monk who consoles people contemplating suicide brought up this issue. (Suicide being another social phenomena Japan is dealing with.) One hikikomori he consoled said his lifestyle is not quite unlike a monk's in terms of withdrawal from society.

      .

    5. Re:Indicative of a need in young men? by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      I have a suspicion that hikikomorism is an alternative to suicide. Suicide is also an avoidance mechanism. A hikikomori can simply avoid the vast majority of negative stimuli by never venturing out into the world. Thus neatly avoiding the necessity of ending their lives completely.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    6. Re:Indicative of a need in young men? by wcrowe · · Score: 1

      Yes, I see. That is also a definite possibility. A way of killing yourself without actually killing yourself.

      --
      Proverbs 21:19
  30. Hoarder gene? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Interesting

    The picture on the BBC site immediately reminded me of a FOAF who is Japanese, raised in SoCal so there is no cultural issue. He's a hoarder. Maybe there's a hoarder gene tied to the recluse gene. Of course this is an anecdote, not data. He also has the "can't drink very much alcohol" gene. Maybe they stay inside to avoid getting sick at parties where Japanese men are required to drink even though they know 50% of the population can't stomach booze.

  31. I know why... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    ...and I'm sure the Slashdot crowd will completely and utterly disagree with me (thanks to their insanely low level of insight):

    It's negativity and criticism. The world is ripe and rank with it; everywhere you go, everyone thinks they're a fucking comedian because they can say something negative, try to pass it off as a joke, but completely miss what makes a joke a joke.

    Anyway, happy sunshine and rainbows and all that stuff.

    Oh, and uh, Internet Porn.

  32. Housing cost probably a factor... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Interesting

    ...as well. From descriptions of a college roommate well before the upswing in this phenomenon, real estate is extraordinarily expensive in Japan, to the degree that mortgage loans are often multi-generational. Combine this with Japan's long-stagnant economy, and it isn't too surprising the actual living in the homes is becoming increasingly multi-generational as well. Particularly if the internet provides an enticing alternative to moving out.

  33. I know why? by Chas · · Score: 1

    This video explains it.

    http://youtu.be/vING8M4dJDg

    --


    Chas - The one, the only.
    THANK GOD!!!
    1. Re:I know why? by loufoque · · Score: 1

      Excuse me, are you from the past?

  34. This is what happens... by Type44Q · · Score: 1

    This is what happens when imaginary and/or virtual worlds is more appealing to someone than the real one.

    (It also doesn't help that the stereotypical "manga chick" that a lot of Japanese males have been conditioned to lust after bears little resemblance to real Japanese females...)

    1. Re:This is what happens... by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      What is the stereotypical manga chick? I've watched j-dramas, but I don't know anything about manga or anime.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    2. Re:This is what happens... by Type44Q · · Score: 1

      Long legs, short waist, huge eyes and tits... basically the complete opposite of the stereotypical Japanese female.

    3. Re:This is what happens... by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      Interesting. Well many of the prettier ones do have very large eyes. I thought particularly so in Fukuoka. I think large eyes on a small face (a baby face) is considered beautiful across most cultures. The only exceptions I've seen are in parts of Southeast Asia (Laos and Cambodia) where large eyes are sometimes associated with ghosts. I've been told that Japanese men are kind of obsessed with large breasts. Even more than usual I mean. Presumably that's just a "the grass is always greener" kind of thing.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    4. Re:This is what happens... by Type44Q · · Score: 1

      Interesting. Well many of the prettier ones do have very large eyes. I thought particularly so in Fukuoka.

      I should have said "large, round eyes" - a lot of Japanese women used to have their eyelids surgically-altered though I'm not sure if that's still popular...

    5. Re:This is what happens... by someSnarkyBastard · · Score: 1

      And why shouldn't they be? The real world is messy, painful, remorselessly cruel, and, more importantly, largely beyond an individuals to control.

      Virtual worlds, by virtue of being run on finite-state machines, are simpler, more consistent, and allow the user a modicum of control. (tired of dealing with the dicks at the auction hourse or pvp arena? Move to a different server or log out, it's simple and instant, plus there's always the reset button, try that with reality)

    6. Re:This is what happens... by Type44Q · · Score: 1

      And why shouldn't they be?

      That's another matter entirely, isn't it? :)

    7. Re:This is what happens... by loufoque · · Score: 1

      That's wrong. There is not a single stereotype.
      Manga caters to all fetishes, so you can find anything from easygoing girls, shy girls, big chests, flat chests, etc.

  35. Japanese comment welcome by sl4shd0rk · · Score: 1

    But being that this is Slashdot I'm sure a mildly accurate, yet ludicrous, diagnoses can be reached without any actual input from the Japanese guys.

    --
    Join the Slashcott! Feb 10 thru Feb 17!
    1. Re:Japanese comment welcome by wcrowe · · Score: 1

      I agree it would be interesting. I would like to see some Japanese men chime in too. Of course, as you're writing your post, it is 1:14am in Japan so a lot of them may be asleep right now.

      --
      Proverbs 21:19
    2. Re:Japanese comment welcome by ebno-10db · · Score: 1

      Unfortunately I don't think there are many Japanese posters at Slashdot in general. Canadian, European, Australian, Brazilian yeah, but not Japanese.

    3. Re:Japanese comment welcome by ArcadeMan · · Score: 1

      What makes you say that, eh?

    4. Re:Japanese comment welcome by ebno-10db · · Score: 1

      Because posters will sometimes mention, or at least allude to, the country they're from. I can't recall any Japanese posters.

    5. Re:Japanese comment welcome by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That's because Japanese people go on http://slashdot.jp

    6. Re:Japanese comment welcome by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'll bite.

      I would classify as a high functional shut-in, in that I have a salaryman job at a non-"black" company with mediocre wages, which pays for the typical $1k rent for a sub 25m2 apartment where I live by myself, with gigabit home fiber. I go to work, do my job, get yelled at for not meeting deadlines I had no input in determining, stay late with no overtime pay to make up for lost progress to hit said deadlines or risk a reduced HR evaluation (which is mostly a sham as they claim merit pay raises, but implement with age gating and a fixed pay raise quota so if the quota is one guy per section per year, if 10 guys busted ass and made the company a lot of money, only one guy moves up a pay grade). I commute an hour each way to go over to the next prefecture, which ostensibly reduces my income tax, living in a "bedtown" that is largely devoid of things to do. I go home tired, so rarely have the energy to do social crap in the city (Tokyo). Burnt out, I spend a lot of my weekends sleeping, learning new stuff via e-learning or just burning time on the intarwebs. I haven't dated in years, and don't have much will for it considering all the pomp and circumstance, but my mom yells at me to go to more matchmaking parties to meet potential brides ("grandkids, hint, hint!"). Surprisingly, I don't really surf for porn or download 100's of gigs of porn vid rips (there are some terrifying grand masters in the past that had DVD-R columns reaching the ceiling), though my general TPB and Share p2p downloading is probably a little excessive since I have bandwidth to burn.

      I know a fair number of other high functionals who are more sleep deprived, but that's because they surf the intarwebs or play games after they crawl home, and get maybe 2 hours of sleep a night on weekdays. They are probably more representative of the typical high functional hikikomori's.

      The number of hiki's who have gone native and resigned from society effectively is larger than most people realize, as there has been this vicious spiral escalation of social pressures since the bubble burst. The 2ch guys all say the numbers are underreported due to the evaluation criteria and research methodologies (many studies look for self reporting or some kind of canvasing, so naturally they don't reach the god tier "fulltime home security professionals" for their opinions). The higher real suicide rates (don't forget japan is notorious for massaging statistics and marking a death differently using flimsy criteria such as non-immediate death), the more blatant physical and mental abuse by authority figures who want to give what they got, and peers looking for targets/decoys is real. The aging of the hiki population is also a reflection of the first serious generation post bubble of hiki's aging. That is also a pending problem. While parents of serious hiki's may be enablers by not kicking their children out (a semi-rational choice considering the lack of a real government social safety net and utter dependence on your personal network), most of those boomer parents are finding they got shafted on real pensions (companies hid behind retirement bonuses to mask the pension cuts), so those families are in a slow deteriorating financial savings situation that while possibly sufficient while alive, will leave nothing for their hiki children when they die. When they die, pension payments stop too, so at best a hiki might inherit a house free and clear but will lose all other assets to the taxman. Which means in another 5-10 years, the number of older hiki's killing themselves rather than re-enter society will suddenly increase as they feel they have no way out. The only bright spot in that is the reduction of potential elderly, but if guys like me aren't generating 2.6 kids, then it's basically the end of japan short of a substantial economic upswing. Though some of us have a sick sort of pride in riding this train to the inevitable trainwreck that is coming. Whether the decline will be nice and slow is another matter, but the self resignation over it all means surprisingly few preppers.

    7. Re:Japanese comment welcome by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Because posters will sometimes mention, or at least allude to, the country they're from. I can't recall any Japanese posters.

      That's because they are self isolating themselves over at http://slashdot.jp

  36. This really about porn and video games... by Roger+Wilcox · · Score: 5, Interesting

    This is really about porn and video games... these two things can by themselves provide the brain with enough entertainment, reward, and pleasure to make the real world unnecessary.

    First, there is a trauma: he fails to live up to parents expectations regarding education or career, has a heartbreak, loses his job, or whatever. Then he consoles himself with porn and video games. They feel good and he doesn't have to worry about his problems for a little while. If this goes on for long enough and he doesn't receive the right kind of social support, he may become addicted to both and lose the drive to do anything else.

    What really happens is he becomes trapped by the dopamine pathways (reward system) in his brain. He is incapacitated by fear and social anxiety when dealing with others because his brain's reward system has been overpowered by the artificial stimulation of porn and video games. The dopamine normally produced by his brain during social interactions doesn't have nature's intended positive reinforcement effects for him because his dopamine tolerance is so high thanks to his addictions.

    He becomes further and further withdrawn and does the only thing he knows how to do to feel "normal:" feed his addiction.

    This has become a serious issue for young men in other parts of the world as well. It is ultimately made possible by technology, in particular the Internet.

    1. Re:This really about porn and video games... by LikwidCirkel · · Score: 1, Insightful

      No. It's because his parents didn't kick him out for being useless.

      You can't be addicted to porn and video games if you don't have food and a roof over your head.

    2. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Or don't be a lazy parent by shunning your child. Maybe take away the computer, internet, and/or game consoles. Or, better yet, actively engage him.

    3. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That sounds more like a symptom than a cause.

    4. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Poppycock.

      This is the kind of pseudo-scientific dribble that sends Chinese youth to "correctional" camps for "addiction".

      Perhaps the reason a lot of Japanese men are living at home is because the economy has been flat since the 90s.

      Conjecture is pointless without a basis in fact.

    5. Re:This really about porn and video games... by kick6 · · Score: 4, Insightful

      This is really about porn and video games... these two things can by themselves provide the brain with enough entertainment, reward, and pleasure to make the real world unnecessary.

      First, there is a trauma: he fails to live up to parents expectations regarding education or career, has a heartbreak, loses his job, or whatever. Then he consoles himself with porn and video games. They feel good and he doesn't have to worry about his problems for a little while. If this goes on for long enough and he doesn't receive the right kind of social support, he may become addicted to both and lose the drive to do anything else.

      What really happens is he becomes trapped by the dopamine pathways (reward system) in his brain. He is incapacitated by fear and social anxiety when dealing with others because his brain's reward system has been overpowered by the artificial stimulation of porn and video games. The dopamine normally produced by his brain during social interactions doesn't have nature's intended positive reinforcement effects for him because his dopamine tolerance is so high thanks to his addictions.

      He becomes further and further withdrawn and does the only thing he knows how to do to feel "normal:" feed his addiction.

      This has become a serious issue for young men in other parts of the world as well. It is ultimately made possible by technology, in particular the Internet.

      What if, instead of it being an "addiction" involving "dopamine pathways" its something far simpler: a logic choice that society sucks ass, offers nothing to them, and isn't worth participating in. This dovetails quite nicely with another japanese problem quaintly called shoshoku danshi (herbivores): A group of men who managed to make it out of their parent's houses but choose to live in inexpensive apartments, not succeed financially, and don't bother to date. They just simply "graze."

      All the same symptoms, none of the mental disorder boogeyman.

    6. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Don't make this about you, please.

    7. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Speck'sBacon · · Score: 1

      To paraphrase Tony Stark, "Can't it be both?"

    8. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Roger+Wilcox · · Score: 1

      I agree with your assessment. I'd call your scenario and my scenario varying degrees of the same phenomenon.

    9. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      I expect this. Functionally I am in a similar spot to these people, I am nearly thirty, chose not to work, and am taking online classes. For ten years I was stuck in a burnout cycle where I was a workaholic. 80 hours a week, some of it unpaid, all to get ahead. Work hard, be smart, produce excellent results and you will be rewarded right? It may, but not for me. All I ever got from employers, significant others, family members, society as a whole is more work to do for the same pay and less respect. Now I have given up. Sitting on savings, doing as little as possible so I don't have to be part of society for as long as necessary and taking as many classes as I can bear because I am still a workaholic.

      There is a disjoint between work and reward that is growing. It has always been that way but it was rather easy to just show up everyday, do your job well, be well liked and everything will be fine. Not so much for the younger generations. The worker has become disposable and younger people don't have the wellspring of a career full of contacts to rebound when things go south. Worse, many people that have had little obstacles in life deride and blame young workers for their own plight. It is leading to people abandoning society as a whole. Men are more stubborn and less willing to conform against their will, thus most of these shut-ins will be men.

    10. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Most "normal" people are chasing goals that are just as artificial, and no one judges them though their lives are objectively pointless. Yes, turning to video games is pathetic when you could kill yourself respectably, but it doesn't really matter if you die to today when you can die tomorrow.

    11. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      > This is really about porn and video games...

      Maybe, but I think instead it is us women that are driving males towards those bad things because we do not want to interact with males. I know I certainly don't. I only have one friend that has gotten married in the past fifteen years. I certainly haven't dated a male in that time. Without women making men spend time and money on us, they have time and money for porn and video games.

      Personally I love that males don't have to bother us now. In the six years I lived in Japan and the seven in a mostly Asian area of Seattle, I haven't been approached by a single male. It's awesome. I previously lived in Dallas and Atlanta where men just thought they could approach women they don't know and start talking to us.

    12. Re:This really about porn and video games... by baka_toroi · · Score: 1

      It's actually "Soshoku danshi"

    13. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I find the social exclusion in general from several causes, mainly automation.

      And not everyone has the capability to reach a high technical skill set and so basic job in services or manual labour are ever few for so many.

      Governments/industry/capitalism does not care for these social problems(not even society as a whole, until the problem reaches "critical mass").

      So this has nothing to do with the internet providing access to pornography and games, it's not a cause, its a distraction, it's a mental escape/refuge for which basic prospects society denies to those whom could not (by whatever reasons) achieve a skill set for which the richest can exploit with delusions of upper middle class.

      They simply cannot find a job/work, an amalgamation of reasons generated by/from society/industry/capitalism denies them to be more independent from their parents/family.

    14. Re:This really about porn and video games... by gl4ss · · Score: 1

      Poppycock.

      This is the kind of pseudo-scientific dribble that sends Chinese youth to "correctional" camps for "addiction".

      Perhaps the reason a lot of Japanese men are living at home is because the economy has been flat since the 90s.

      Conjecture is pointless without a basis in fact.

      that is not really the main point with this phenomena. they are not only living at home but being 100% taken care of by their parents, starting from age 15. the parents obviously can afford it, which is part of the problem - and 15 by consequence is the age at which they can drop out of school. however it is a few years before they would need to start making money or look for work.

      --
      world was created 5 seconds before this post as it is.
    15. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Wrong! He doesn't lose the drive to anything else, he loses the will to do anything else. The result is despair and desperation.

      Wrong! The brain's reward system does not cause fear and anxiety. There are no "overpowered" pathways. It's the very thought of social interaction that generates the fear; they suffer from social anxiety. And care to point me toward a scientific paper on dopamine, dopamine overdose (not caused by taking drugs) and dopamine tolerance? And you're assuming that social interaction always generates dopamine; have you ever heard of introverts before?

      Wrong! Feeding addictions does not lead to feeling normal; it leads to feeling less normal (they feel broken inside). This leads to more feelings of hopelessness, which in turn feed back into their depression, which they compensate for by feeding addictions (always to achieve small and temporary relief), which leads to.... and so on and on and on.

      Wrong! Technology is not the issue. The issue is far more complex, and includes social anxiety, academic, professional and financial pressures, rejection, bullying, a lack of a social life, failure at love, unemployment and many other possible factors (depends on the individual case).

    16. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      While you have identified some correlating behaviour even if they were addicted to video games I don't see why that would make them stay in their rooms - you can play video games from any location. Similarly the availability of porn isn't limited to a single fixed location. There are two key causes:-
      a) Society has no liking or use for them so no incentive to persuade them to leave their rooms.
      b) Their parents are providing for them in situ.

      If either of the above was no longer the case they would likely leave their room; they may continue their additions but would likely no longer remain physically isolated.

      Point a) likely originated from them not having friends during their earlier life; a lack of friends means that there's nobody to draw them out of incentivise them leaving however it also includes things like them not getting a job early in life and therefore being approached by recruiters and similar to maintain their interaction with society for someone else's benefit. Society as a whole is extremely selfish and there's no reason to join it if you can avoid doing so - which in this case is served by point b), eliminating the requirement for joining to provide survival.

      I would say that these are most likely passive individuals, they have been bullied earlier in their lives and not established long lasting real-life friendships, not established a position in the societal hierarchy and exist purely with their parents assistance. In nature they would be kicked out of the group and eventually either die, assert themselves in another group or form a group amongst themselves.

      Therefore the best solution to this problem would be to pre-arrange and form a group of these individuals to live as a collective - in some cases this may even be occurring already, just in their rooms over the Internet. Providing them with a location to live that was physically closer would make little difference but the elimination of b) combined with physically locating them would result in natural group-assisting behaviour and they would each start helping the others with things.

      I suspect they'd no longer get talked about as any kind of special group at that point.

      Their behaviour is comparable to employees in a company, housing estate, regulars in a pub, tribe in Africa, etc. - just they don't need to leave to maintain that behaviour.

      Fundamentally human behaviour is simplistic and the addition of technology into the equation has made little or not difference yet with relatively low intelligence individuals still establishing power bases; you may find that these individuals are actually slightly higher in intelligence (though not substantially so) however their social standing is relatively nil.

      Those with substantially higher intelligence who have positioned themselves in similar situations likely do go out from their rooms but also have substantial financial reserves, plan for eventualities, are establishing long term power bases and have collaborating individuals in similar positions, most likely working in IT, intelligence gathering roles or running their own investment schemes.

    17. Re:This really about porn and video games... by jhumkey · · Score: 1

      Right . . . "symptom not cause" . . . the whole discussion hides the implicit lie . . . that if you got out of the house, . . . "You're practically guaranteed to find the perfect mate, and live happily ever after with 2.5 children in the two story house, in a good neighborhood, with the white picket fence. (And good resale value.)"

      Sure, you "fall off the horse, you get back on" . . . you, get thrown from the horse and kicked in the face 200-300 times with a shod hoof . . . even the densest person begins to realize a promising career in equestrian events, might not be in your future.

      It may be bitter but . . . you may not find the perfect mate. Even if you do . . . she may not be interested in you.

      Its not so much that its "easier" in the house . . . its that the alternative of eternal emotional self-flagellation outside the house, with no guarantee that if you "try just a little longer" you'll find what you've been waiting for . . . ultimately loses its appeal.

      ("Out of the house" for over 30 years, but no "perfect mate", no "2.5 children", and the house (inherited from two dead parents) has no picket fence.)

      After all . . . the series did end with Charlie Brown NEVER getting to kick the ball . . .

      So . . . why not just stay "in the house" where you have at least some control/guarantee of your level of happiness?

      --
      No, I don't remember your name. But the memory mapped screen on a TRS80 from 1977 is from 15360 to 16383 if that helps.
    18. Re:This really about porn and video games... by loufoque · · Score: 1

      There is no point to life. The only meaningful thing you can do is seek happiness.
      Obtaining happiness requires being entertained, and those people simply have good enough entertainment that they do not need to seek it outside.

      There is no problem to solve here.

    19. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      This explaination makes the most sense to me.

    20. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You have a layman's understanding of dopamine.

      You really don't know what you're talking about but you seem to think that you do.

      Go educate yourself.

    21. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I expect this. Functionally I am in a similar spot to these people, I am nearly thirty, chose not to work, and am taking online classes. For ten years I was stuck in a burnout cycle where I was a workaholic. 80 hours a week, some of it unpaid, all to get ahead. Work hard, be smart, produce excellent results and you will be rewarded right?

      You're not alone. 15 years in a formerly successful startup. Management had no exit strategy and never exited, and we all roundtripped it to zero. I saved enough (by living in a 1bedroom apartment, never going out, never dating, etc) that by the time it was over, I had enough that I didn't need to worry about working again.

      So now I don't. Good news was that after 15 years of it, I lost any desire to have a life. I could work for some other dot-com, but what's the point? I had it good, got what I needed, even if it wasn't what I wanted. My projected expenses are no different than what they were while I was working, but I have 8 hours a day to work on my own hobbies... To my surprise, I also discovered that quitting the industry gave me the 3-4 hours after "work" that I used to spend drinking my pain away to remain sober. Even when my "hobby" is playing Skyrim for 18 hours a day, it's still a vast improvement over working for a living.

      As the old SubGenius slogan said, "Repent. Quit your job. Slack off."

    22. Re:This really about porn and video games... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Dribble? I think you mean drivel.

    23. Re:This really about porn and video games... by readingaccount · · Score: 1

      It is, however, a very unhealthy way to be entertained when done consistently for long periods of time (excluding perhaps bouncing around with the Kinect or Wii Sports or something).

      There's more to life than just games. If that's all that it takes for a person to be satisfied, it'll only be once they get old and games don't have the same appeal anymore that they'll realize there was so much more they could have done when they were young - they were just too fucking stupid to know.

    24. Re:This really about porn and video games... by loufoque · · Score: 1

      What is unhealthy about this? It's no more unhealthy than a job where you work on a computer all day, like most office jobs. Going to parties and having a lot of alcohol is definitely not a healthy thing either.

      You appear to be biased by the fact that your inexperience with the medium causes you to believe that kind of entertainment doesn't have as much value as "going outside".

    25. Re:This really about porn and video games... by readingaccount · · Score: 1

      It's all about balance. An entire life spent on computing without something to contrast it is unhealthy. For goodness sake, so many people here have lost an appreciation for what life provides. They only see negatives in physical human interaction. I see it as an excuse for not understanding just how important social skills are.

  37. Japan - where tomorrow happens today by Zontar_Thing_From_Ve · · Score: 4, Insightful

    I've traveled some in various parts of Asia and Europe. I'm American, so keep that in mind. I've learned the following a long time ago.

    1) A lot of things get invented first or just happen first in Asia, particularly Japan. So it's a great window into what to expect tomorrow in the West before it actually gets there.
    2) South Korea and Japan seem to have bee hotspots for years of bizarre, anti-social behavior. When they're not committing suicide.
    3) I have the impression as an observer (so I have no facts and could be wrong about this) that citizens in Asia in general get less mental help to deal with problems. Possibly there's a cultural reason for this.
    4) The internet and various game systems have made it possible for young people to interact from a distance without ever having to leave their rooms.
    5) This is going to be a problem in the USA too soon enough. It's just not happening in great enough numbers yet.

    1. Re:Japan - where tomorrow happens today by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 1

      I might add that our society demands too much. Either you are a wealthy CEO who owns mansions and luxury cars or you are a "nothing", there is no middle ground. Society demands of the boys that they needs to be "macho", aggressive, attacking any woman that appears in front of them, and if they do not do all of this then they will be "little girls". I can not argue against those who decide to simply get away from all this...

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    2. Re:Japan - where tomorrow happens today by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I am not sure when was the last time yo ventured beyond the basement...
      " ...there is no middle ground..." if you can choose to be a shut in, you can also choose to live an average life. Not every one measures success as having mansions.
      "...boys that they needs to be "macho"..." maybe its because i live on the west coast... but you couldn't be farther from the situation here.

    3. Re:Japan - where tomorrow happens today by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 1

      You have not understood what I meant. You can have an very good, comfortable average life. The problem is that most women will not accept you even talk to them because they want only the "CEO" guy. And yes, here if you do not like to behave like a Caveman, the others decide that you must be gay.

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    4. Re:Japan - where tomorrow happens today by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You are way overgeneralizing. You are probably talking about American women. Not all women in the world.

    5. Re:Japan - where tomorrow happens today by TeknoHog · · Score: 1

      2) South Korea and Japan seem to have bee hotspots for years of bizarre, anti-social behavior. When they're not committing suicide.

      Sounds a lot like Finland, with notably high suicide rate and all this tech like Linux, Nokia, MySQL, IRC, Angry Birds etc.

      --
      Escher was the first MC and Giger invented the HR department.
    6. Re:Japan - where tomorrow happens today by XcepticZP · · Score: 1

      That's simply not true. You've projected your own insecurities and views of the world onto the behavior you've observed in women. Like it or not, you're also striving for some sort of ideal, and falling short because you fail to be theirs. Real life means compromising our ultimate ideals, because we ourselves are not perfect. Yes, that means lowering your standards.

      Just do what the rest of the herd does and find a suitable middle ground. Find the weird that accepts you for what you are, instead of blaming and lashing out at the women who have rejected you.

  38. One Word: by retech · · Score: 0

    Millenials.

    Welcome to the new world order Japan.

  39. Well... by Nrrqshrr · · Score: 1

    It's sadly in French, but this very interesting documentary shows things like sexless couples in Japan. Where it's considered absolutely normal by some women to have sex only once a year.

    1. Re:Well... by ArcadeMan · · Score: 1

      Wow, that's seven times as often as Vulcans!

    2. Re:Well... by jon3k · · Score: 4, Funny

      Sex once a year? We have a name for that in the US too, it's called "marriage".

    3. Re:Well... by Bigbutt · · Score: 1

      Realize women aren't wired to want sex all the time (generalization of course) but that men generate 85 million sperm a day and on average produce 500 million per ejaculation. Men generate (depending on genetics of course), 1,000,000,000,000 sperm over their lifetime. Women produce about 400 eggs over their lifetime. So men want sex. But no one wants 400 kids, so women are the gateway to their genitalia.

      So if you're a guy and only getting sex once a year, you have only yourself to blame. You have to convince her to have sex. Woo her constantly. Essentially always be on a date. It can't be the day you want sex but for days beforehand. Weeks if you've slacked off for a while. When you slack off and take her for granted, sex will taper off again and you'll be back to once a year.

      [John]

      --
      Shit better not happen!
    4. Re:Well... by jon3k · · Score: 1

      What do the number of eggs women generate in their lifetime have to do with a desire to have sex? Some women want it 10 times a day and some couldn't care less. That isn't tied to egg production.

    5. Re:Well... by Nrrqshrr · · Score: 1

      And then they wonder why people prefer porn to actual real women.

    6. Re:Well... by Turbio · · Score: 1

      It's actually related to different evolutionary strategies. Men are "parasites" and the real cost of reproduction is paid by the females. A male's genes (actually alleles) will increase in frequence in the population if it "parasites" as many females as possible. A female's alleles will increase in frequence in the population if can produce as many kids as possible, but with having sex a few times a year is enough. The main difference in behavior is due to different reproduction costs for males and females.
      This is an oversimplification, of course. Females also have sex to bond with the male and get protection, food, shelter, etc. Individuals who do not reproduce can help raise their relatives. In current societies the real cost is in money for raising each kid, and that is shared between both parents, but OTOH our brains have not adapted yet...

    7. Re:Well... by loufoque · · Score: 1

      It says 70% of couples in Japan stop having sex after 40. That doesn't really surprise me, I would have thought it was similar in the west too, or maybe only after 50.

    8. Re:Well... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Heh, yeah. Peg Bundy's insatiable appetite for sex has to be the biggest load of bullshit on television since it was invented.

  40. This is not strictly a Japanese phenomenon by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

    They're just the only culture that has a term for it.

    The interesting thing here is that the article takes its time analyzing some of the social forces that result in the isolationist behavior. In this case Japan is nearly a perfect incubator for isolationist attitudes, whether historically (they closed their borders from 1641 to 1853), financially (they have few social safety nets and the economy was devastated for decades), socially (the article calls it sekentei, the need to impress others), or culturally (the Japanese ignore problems until it is too late to do anything about them--this is as true for hikikomori as it is Fukushima).

    I'm interested to see if this phenomenon will be replicated on a large scale in countries with high youth unemployment rates, like the US, Spain, Greece, or Italy. A survey is definitely needed.

    1. Re:This is not strictly a Japanese phenomenon by MysteriousPreacher · · Score: 1

      I'd be surprised if its not an issue in Latin countries. I'm from the UK, where moving out and making my own way in the world was important. It's kind of a joke, but in my 30s I figured it was time that I started including money in birthday cards for my dad, because I should pay him back for some of what he's given me. A joke, but not entirely. Anyway, in Latin cultures its more acceptable to linger in the family home. Latin culture is a curious mixture of machismo and traits that I as an Englishman would see as being unmanly - specifically staying at home longer. There's just less of an emphasis on individualism that I'd see in the UK and Northern Europe and North America. From my perspective it'd be embarrassing as a man to have not moved out if the family home by my 30s - ideally much sooner. It's different though for women - at least in my probably biased mind.

      Curious differences. In such an environment I can see more easily how a man could fall in to the trap, and the expectations of them could drive them to the safety blanket of home.

      Most of my experience here is based on Latin Americans, North Americans and Northern Europeans. I'm told though that in Spain it's comparable to Latin America. I'd welcome corrections.

      --
      -- Using the preview button since 2005
  41. Better porn? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    That would do it.

    Prove yourself: delicacy

  42. Re:LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Right, think about all the pink pixie unicorns that might have been abused in producing these images!

  43. Re:LOL by vettemph · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Might also be due to the One Percent moving all the jobs and hope to China, India and South Korea. Lots of U.S. "twenties" are also doing this as well. Those who control the monitarty policies and jobs know very well what they are doing. I am lucky to be in the upper four percent but an increase in H1-B visas could take that all away. We will just pretend that all these things aren't linked together. oh, and it's the porn, speaking of which, I need to go now.

    --
    The government which is strong enough to protect you from everything is strong enough to take everything from you.
  44. Re:LOL by tqk · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Japan being the last civilised country where possession of child porn is legal.

    Maybe they're just not foolish enough to have fallen for the group think we have, which is what you accuse them of. Here, an X rated comic strip is considered child porn. A teenager sexting their SO can get them twenty years in prison and permanent listing on the perv roll.

    Every society makes choices on what is the acceptable ways to express individuality. Japan, historically, has been fairly excessive that way in comparison to the rest of the world, but that's the way Japanese (historically) roll; to excess. Go was invented in China. Japan raised it to an art including endowing universities to teach it. The Samurai raised warfare to an art. They even raised serving tea to an art.

    After all this time since they opened up to the west, many of us can't even begin to understand them. That's pretty amazing in itself.

    --
    "Tongue tied and twisted, just an Earth bound misfit ..." -- Pink Floyd.
  45. Re:LOL by cellurl · · Score: 2

    As you may have heard, next year the UK is requiring ISP's to block porn by default. Of course it can be turned on, but by default it is off.
    This will spread to the US. We live in the roaring-twenties right now, and prohibition is on the horizon.


    Help eliminate stupid speeding tickets.

  46. The girlfriend pillow by hawguy · · Score: 2

    I blame the Girlfriend Pillow. With parents to supply food, an internet connection, and one (or more) of those pillows, what reason is there to go out?

    1. Re:The girlfriend pillow by Bigbutt · · Score: 1

      A girlfriend pillow seems to be a pair of folded legs a guy lays on (there are others, but that seems most common in the link). But a boyfriend pillow is a chest (some muscular) and arm that goes around the girl.

      Interesting.

      [John]

      --
      Shit better not happen!
    2. Re:The girlfriend pillow by loufoque · · Score: 1

      Few people have your ridiculous pillows, dakimakura on the other hand are quite popular.

  47. well, it sounds like they need to raise the compul by gl4ss · · Score: 1

    well, it sounds like they need to raise the compulsory education age limit from 15 to 18.

    15 apparently is when the shut ins happen and 15 is now when the compulsory school ends. because of japanese culture the parents don't necessarily tell anyone. if the kid had to be enrolled in some school or another, he couldn't become a shut in without the school system checking up whats happening. if they had to leave the house for old enough to start drinking, they might not become shut ins(yeah, seriously).

    --
    world was created 5 seconds before this post as it is.
  48. Vitamin D, Omega 3s, veggies etc might help by Paul+Fernhout · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Vitamin D deficiency related to depression can be a downward spiral if people then spend more and more time indoors, like in Japan. See my many posts on halth issues and autism including about Mark Hyman and mitochondrial dysfunction and John Cannell. Also look into unschooling for interest-lead learning.

    Search also on "The Pleasure Trap" and "Supernormal Stimuli" and "The Acceleration of Addiction" for the pitfalls of 21st century living.

    And, from a positive psychology point of view, try to help him build on his strengths, whatever those are.

    Politically, lobby for a "basic income" for all. The fact is, most of us will soon be "unemployable" relative to AI, robotics, and other automation (see Marshall Brain), breaking the income-through jobs link that previously undergird the right to consume.

    Sounds like a tough situation though. Good luck. Your son is lucky to have a caring involved father like you!

    --
    A 21st century issue: the irony of technologies of abundance in the hands of those still thinking in terms of scarcity.
    1. Re:Vitamin D, Omega 3s, veggies etc might help by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      "the right to consume."

      There is no such right.

    2. Re:Vitamin D, Omega 3s, veggies etc might help by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      "the right to consume."

      There is no such right.

      Are you certain? That's a disappointment, because I got all excited that I had an entitlement right to consume all of Paul's assets. Oh, and his body too.

      Don't worry, I'm not a cannibal—I was just planning to feed him to my dog. This falls under the "transitivity of the right to consume" right. Hm, or maybe I could render his body to make fertilizer for my lawn. I have a right to consume him in order to get an emerald green yard.

      Anyhow, we digress. What about my rights?

    3. Re:Vitamin D, Omega 3s, veggies etc might help by XcepticZP · · Score: 1

      Politically, lobby for a "basic income" for all. The fact is, most of us will soon be "unemployable" relative to AI, robotics, and other automation (see Marshall Brain), breaking the income-through jobs link that previously undergird the right to consume.

      So we, the rest of the population, must pay for this demotivated and unproductive member of society? It doesn't matter if sooner or later most of us are going to start getting "unemployable" as you put it. The simple fact is that this has been happening for centuries with automation and scientific advances. People find a way to survive, that's what we do. If you put up a safety net, we will just be incentivizing non-productive consumers, that spend other people's money under some pretense of "social good".

      Your son is lucky to have a caring involved father like you!

      Yeah, the kid is very lucky to have a caregiver that can be involved and provide for him. This is contrary to what you suggest, where you'd like the rest of us to be footing the bill for this care, thereby removing the responsibility for parents such as this one to take care of their loved ones.

      Sooner or later you'll realize that the key to happy life and sustainable living is having a cohesive family. They are your safety net, not the state.

    4. Re:Vitamin D, Omega 3s, veggies etc might help by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Is "The Acceleration of Addiction" the correct book title? Couldn't find it at Amazon.com.

    5. Re:Vitamin D, Omega 3s, veggies etc might help by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Politically, lobby for a "basic income" for all.

      As many other commenters pointed out, many people avoid the hikikomori trap because they have to get out of their hole every day to work. Basic income for all would result in some of those people deciding that they can earn enough online to supplement their basic income to be never inconvenienced to leave their hole.

      The fact is, most of us will soon be "unemployable" relative to AI, robotics, and other automation"

      Every human is able to do something better than a machine. Most of us, a million things. It may require using the creative part of your brain for a moment, but that's why we have it. The moment everything you are able to do could be done better by a machine is a moment so far, far away into the future that it's fair to say we don't have enough data on the issue to make predictions with any meaningful accuracy.

  49. Modern life vs. traditional culture by OldSport · · Score: 3, Interesting

    Based on what I saw during my 10+ years living there, I'd say it's the realities of modern life clashing with the traditional culture. Japan is a collectivist society; before the Internet came along, if you were deviant/antisocial/etc. (for lack of better terms) you had to suppress that side of you and fit in. However, the Internet opened up a virtual environment where individualism could flourish more; people found an outlet, and even support, for their antisocial tendencies, and little by little it became a lot more comfortable to "live online" than actually having to put up with the social pressures of real life. (Westerners have a tough time understanding the amount of social pressure; even I am still sometimes surprised by the hoops my Japanese wife's family members jump through in order to "keep up appearances".)

    Add to this the traditional tendency for extended families to live together into adulthood and you have the perfect recipe for hikikomori: a virtual social life where you are free from judgment and pressure to fit in, and no need to work to fulfill your basic needs of food and shelter. Not the life that I want, but I understand it, anyway.

    1. Re:Modern life vs. traditional culture by Bonker · · Score: 1

      Add on to that the inability of the average Japanese person to say 'No' to someone, even family. The Japanese (and many Asian cultures in general) place a very high importance upon maintaining face.

      We're talking about people who move to a new town when family members are convicted of minor crimes so they can 'start over'. Major crimes... whew. That's only one of the reasons suicide is so damn common in Japan and SK.

      The idea of kicking your adult child out of the house for his own damn good is HORRIFYING for most families that have to deal with this.

      The idea of being KNOWN as the family who kicked your adult child out of the house for his own damn good is even worse.

      --
      The next Slashdot story will be ready soon, but subscribers can beat the rush and slashdot the links early!
  50. Re:LOL by tnk1 · · Score: 5, Funny

    Time to get me a Tommy Gun, change my name to Gatsby, and fill a warehouse up with a stack of USB drives with porn.

    Soon, Daisy will love me for who I am!

  51. Your kid is incredibly lucky by rsilvergun · · Score: 4, Interesting

    or very personable and good looking (which, since that's mostly genetics & upbringing is a kind of luck). Starbucks and bookstores are (relatively) cozy jobs. They also pay very marginally above minimum wage. Let's say she wound up at Walmart working 25 to 30 hours a week with the constant threat of firing if she didn't both stock the shelves _and_ run a cash register. Or how about an Amazon warehouse (Google it, awful, awful places to work). I don't think she'd be so cozy....

    This is the worst economy in 50 years. Outsourcing and H1-Bs have depressed wages heavily. Whether you recognize it or not your daughter has far fewer opportunities than you did. Google "wealth inequity" for a start on that topic and add 'wage surpression' and 'Union Busting' (with a side of Walmart or McDonald's) too.

    The hard part here is that you obviously care for your daughter, and so you want to have strong pride in her. You don't want to imagine that she can't overcome the challenges she faces. So you'll tell yourself it's enough to just boot her out and leave it at that, taking a sink or swim approach that ignore the polluted, radioactive water she's swimming in...

    --
    Hi! I make Firefox Plug-ins. Check 'em out @ https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/youtube-mp3-podcaster/
    1. Re:Your kid is incredibly lucky by Shark · · Score: 2

      What you refer to are symptoms more than causes. What is killing the economy is mostly the enormous barriers to wealth creation that the average individual (not the already super-rich) faces.

      The clear path to prosperity in America used to be to start and run your own business (or help in doing so). There are enormous hindrances to doing such nowadays mainly rooted in the state. In most fields just meeting regulations for your businesses is cost-prohibitive, as is hiring people to help you run that business. Then there is the enormous advantages granted to mega-corps that cozy up to government in order to protect themselves from the kind of competition that smaller businesses could offer. If competing in a market requires a multi-million dollar legal department then you've just handed that market over to the mega-corps and deserve overpriced, shitty products and services that will result.

      You can't regulate mega-corps out of their powers, they have the resources to find or even create their own loopholes. In most instances, they're actually the ones writing the regulation in the first place. What you end up doing with regulations is usually just killing any competition the bigger players might face. Fines don't mean anything to them. Jail is barely a hindrance, they just throw a convenient peon under the bus or buy their way out of it. Nationalizing maybe? Well, if handing the market to an entity that can legally force you to buy its product at whatever price it sets is your thing...

      You want to see mega-corp suffer? Let them face their own inefficiency under threat of smaller, nimbler competitors.

      --
      Mind the frickin' laser...
    2. Re:Your kid is incredibly lucky by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Anyone can learn to be "personable" and "good looks" for women means make up and treadmill and "good looks" for men means weights. Truly ugly people are as rare as truly beautiful people.

  52. evolution in action by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Our species only needs a small number of men to survive to the next generation. As a result the females compete with each other over the few men that show the most desirable qualities. The rest of the males compete to make it into the promised land of the "desirable".

    Throughout history the place of the undesirable men has been to die either competing with each other or to use their blood to grease the wheels that make society function.

    And just now in modern times the undesirable men are finally figuring it out. They can't win, mostly due to losing the genetic and familial lottery, so they are quitting the game. They refuse to waste their lives "finding a place" in a society that ultimately views them as interchangeable and disposable. They are doing things that make them happy and everyone else can go fuck themselves.

    1. Re:evolution in action by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      And just now in modern times the undesirable men are finally figuring it out. They can't win, mostly due to losing the genetic and familial lottery, so they are quitting the game. They refuse to waste their lives "finding a place" in a society that ultimately views them as interchangeable and disposable. They are doing things that make them happy and everyone else can go fuck themselves.

      Bingo!

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    2. Re:evolution in action by TheDarkMaster · · Score: 1

      +1 for you, sir. Fucking true.

      --
      Religion: The greatest weapon of mass destruction of all time
    3. Re:evolution in action by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Supported by a japanese study showing that the distribution of virginity between men and women showed that there are more virgin men than virgin women.

      This seems to support the notion that a large amount of women fucks a smaller amount of men. Haremization.

  53. Re:LOL by ciderbrew · · Score: 2

    It has nothing to do with porn, terrorism or pedophilia. These are things they are using to pass laws with. They will get the tools in place to control the internet and they will keep going until they've fucked it. Proxies will be the next illegal item and then something else. utter subversive tosh.

  54. Still same as it ever was by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Indeed. I was looking through my HS yearbook from ~1998, the girls seem different from today. Girls now talk as if they were mentally retarded- "OMG," "like totally," etc. It wasn't as bad back in the 90s. Seems like the average female IQ is dropping. Just look at the average girls Facebook feed- nothing but brain dead attention whores.

    As a child of the 90's you may have to look up this reference, but I've got two words for you: "Valley Girls".

  55. You answered the question by trailerparkcassanova · · Score: 1

    It's because Japanese homes don't have basements .

  56. Contrast with Italy by dargaud · · Score: 1

    Italy currently has the record for (not) young (anymore) people staying with their parents, at least for Europe. But the reason isn't video games or girlfriend pillows, it's simply the lack of jobs. No job means no money, and without money you can't settle down somewhere else. Many of those socialize, go out, have significant others that they see regularly.

    --
    Non-Linux Penguins ?
    1. Re:Contrast with Italy by jones_supa · · Score: 1

      This is true. The thunder of economic crisis is roaming over Europe quite badly right now, and the option of getting a job and self-dependent is simply not an option for everyone.

    2. Re:Contrast with Italy by ebno-10db · · Score: 1

      That's very different from what's being discussed in this article.

  57. Re:LOL by ADRA · · Score: 2

    Pfft... they're just jilted because no girls wanted to lick their eye-balls.

    --
    Bye!
  58. Not exactly an epidemic by Graydyn+Young · · Score: 1

    Around 700000 people, in a country with a population of 125788578. That's only %0.0056. If we measure the number of basement dwellers in any other country would we really see any better?

    1. Re:Not exactly an epidemic by shem2519 · · Score: 1

      700000 / 125788578 = 0.0056 = 0.56% -- FTFY Such percentage of a nation's population individually isolating itself seems noteworthy and possibly even significant enough to be considered an epidemic. Honestly, anything that directly negatively effects 700,000 people is pretty serious, even compared to the entire world population. I do agree that there is a possibility of similar (correctly calculated) proportions in other countries.

  59. Re:LOL by Penguinisto · · Score: 5, Interesting

    This, right here.

    I understand and feel the revulsion that a healthy adult has towards child porn, but from an objective/legal point-of-view, the West got stupid about how they enforce such laws. Here's why: The basis of laws surrounding it is that the production of child porn harms a child - something that makes perfect sense, and should have laws in place to prevent/limit as much as logically possible. OTOH, who exactly is harmed in a comic strip? One would think that it would present a means of release for those pervs who do get into such crap, and to let them do so without harming anyone in the process. A teenaged kid sexting his/her SO should get a stern talking-to by the parents, and definitely should be enlightened on why that is a monumentally stupid idea - but no, the kid should not get tossed in the slammer and stigmatized for life.

    Possession/distribution of actual photography or video depicting actual kids being sexually abused *is* illegal in Japan - because sexual abuse is just as much a crime there as it is in any other civilized country. Hell, if I remember right, distributing photographic/video porn depicting genitalia of *adults* is a crime in Japan (albeit a misdemeanor w/ a heavy fine...) OTOH, the comic/drawn ones can show whatever detail the artist feels like including.

    You (tqk) are definitely correct in that Japan is an enigma unto itself, culturally. Millennia of isolation will morph any culture into something that will likely never be understood from any POV outside of it. That said, Japan got hella creative in what their multi-faceted culture is and represents - to themselves. Anyone else could blow off an entire a lifetime trying to understand it.

    As for TFA? I can see why it would make sense for some Japanese men to simply withdraw from society... Japan isn't exactly an easy-going culture to live in, competition for anything (females, jobs, status, whatever) is incredibly intense, and there are few other routes available to the typical Japanese man that doesn't involve a shitload of money (e.g. move self and family to another country whose culture you may get on better in.) These men still have a non-negotiable duty to care for their parents, and real estate/rent is frickin' astronomical anyway. They spent nearly every waking hour of their childhood with little outside of intense study and discipline, so it's not like they learned to be social mavens in the first place - they likely only found peace when they were alone.

    Hell - even if they do find a job and a wife, they may not leave home anyway. The answer why is pretty simple; If their parents own and don't rent, they stand a better chance of inheriting their parents' home than they do of ever being able to afford one of their own - which is pretty traditional in its own right. In most cases, it's not like they have as much potential competition from siblings, what with smaller family sizes over the decades.

    --
    Quo usque tandem abutere, Nimbus, patientia nostra?
  60. Seriously. by Statharas · · Score: 1

    The part that they wonder about the average age after 2 decades finds me laughing. Seriously, some of them got over their fear, some others didn't.

    1. Re:Seriously. by White+Flame · · Score: 1

      Since Japan has one of the highest suicide rates in the world, I wouldn't make any assumptions about what percentage "got over their fear" vs other means of no longer being counted in that group.

  61. Re:LOL by Time_Ngler · · Score: 1, Insightful

    A teenager sexting their SO can get them twenty years in prison..

    Uh huh, sure...

  62. Fix your math first by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

    More like ( 700000 / 125788578 ) * 100 = %0.56 if you care to do the math right.

  63. Don't discredit it. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I have never known a word for it but this describes me perfectly. This phenomenon,if you will, happens in the USA as well.

  64. Re:LOL by Penguinisto · · Score: 2

    Lots of U.S. "twenties" are also doing this as well.

    Perhaps, but lots of "U. S. twenties" also get out of the house to socialize, find work, and many even live there along with their young wives (and perhaps kids?)

    The rest is tinfoil, IMHO - something better ascribed to incompetence (or at best apathy) than to some fanciful malicious plan.

    --
    Quo usque tandem abutere, Nimbus, patientia nostra?
  65. Re:LOL by Penguinisto · · Score: 1

    Couple o' things:

    1) A nitpick: Prohibition of alcohol (the 18th Amendment) was ratified in 1919, before the "roaring-twenties". It was repealed (the 21st Amendment) in 1933, during the Great Depression.

    2) If it is in the monetary interest of enough people to provide it, porn continue unabated online... just as (to bring up your example) alcohol was still very readily available during the 1920's.

    --
    Quo usque tandem abutere, Nimbus, patientia nostra?
  66. Re:LOL by azav · · Score: 1

    1 million of them is even creepier.

    But you can think of it as self imposed containment.

    Creepy, nonetheless.

    --
    - Zav - Imagine a Beowulf cluster of insensitive clods...
  67. Re:LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I thought it was because there were fewer women to anonymously fondle on the trains, now that there are women-only cars. I mean, the ability to molest women with impunity used to be a major selling point.

  68. You're All Missing The Point by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Economy. Economy. Economy. Everyone's quick to blame the parents for coddling kids or the kids for not having ambition, but when you have a long term trend like this, you have to wonder if it's something more than the failings of a few individuals. Look at the economy. For Japanese youth, hard work and university education is no longer a guarantee of job security and a living wage. So now, more kids have to stay at home for financial reasons.

    This happens in the west too - just look at all the 20 somethings living at home in our post-recession economy. But in the west, living at home isn't stigmatized as much. When you account for Japanese society's emphasis on social standing, and their traditional dependence on parents, it's no wonder you have youth withdrawing themselves.

    It's not the internet either. The internet enables a lot of this behavior, but the problem started before the internet was a household thing.

    1. Re:You're All Missing The Point by OldSport · · Score: 1

      But in the west, living at home isn't stigmatized as much.

      Yes it is. Living at home is stigmatized far more in the west than it is in Japan. Three or four generations living in the same household is pretty much the standard in many places in Japan, whereas in the west, "living in your mom's basement" is basically the royal crown of loserdom.

      You are right that it's not *just* the Internet, just like it's not *just* the culture and it's not *just* the economy. It's all of these things coming together. The social structure creates the base for the problem, the economy pushes people in that direction, and the Internet draws them in.

  69. Interesting. by MaizeMan · · Score: 4, Funny

    Fascinating analogy to research I was not previously familiar with. Would read comments by this AC in the future.

  70. To many people by strangeattraction · · Score: 1

    To many people not enough room. Japanese society places great pressure to conform. This is mainly due to contraints placed on individuals that need to cooperate and share limited resources. It does not seem unlikely that this would manifest itself in "societal avoidance" in certain individuals that are unable to cope with the increasing demands. But it could just as like be video game addiction - they got to be doing something in those tiny rooms:)

  71. Re:LOL by stealth_finger · · Score: 1

    Anime fans probably. Being an anime fan carries a high social stigma in Japan. And of course being into anime means liking lolicon, shotacon and all those sexually perverse child porn manga and anime. Japan being the last civilised country where possession of child porn is legal. Go figure. These people are creepy as hell, so no wonder a subclass of those anime fans are even more creepy. When you account that Japan has a very conservative and group think type kind of society, being individualistic, strange is 1000 times worse than in western societies. So its no wonder this hikikimori phenomenon is so prevalent down there.

    Just because your a fan of something no one else has to know. I smoke loads of weed at home but no one at works knows a thing about it because I don't go around telling them or talking about weed related things precisely because I know the stigma and hassle it would cause me.

    --
    Wanna buy a shirt?
    https://www.redbubble.com/people/stealthfinger/shop?asc=u
  72. Big Bang Theory on Outside vs Inside said it best! by blahbooboo · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Rajesh Koothrappali: Come on, Sheldon. The world is filled with people doing things outside; let's go outside. Outside is good.

    Sheldon Cooper: If outside is so good, why has mankind spent thousands of years trying to perfect inside?

    Rajesh Koothrappali: I don't know. It's a marketing scheme.

  73. Re:LOL by clarkn0va · · Score: 2

    The basis of laws surrounding it is that the production of child porn harms a child

    Citation needed. No doubt that's one reason, but what about the effects of conditioning people (or leaving the legal door open for them to condition themselves, if you prefer) to respond sexually to minors? There are some very good reasons not to encourage or allow child pornography which doesn't directly involve children.

    --
    I am literally 3000 tokens away from the chaotic crossbow --Stephen
  74. And yet that proves nothing by MikeRT · · Score: 0

    And yet women are set to overtake men in terms of higher education achievement (if they haven't already in your country -- they have here).

    1. Women are also typically in "fluff majors" that have lower career prospects.
    2. Women also lead the way in student loan debt making a lot of middle class girls undesirable marriage prospects. Want to get married and have a home? Fantastic. Nothing says that more than having the better part of a new mortgage in inescapable student loan debt already going into the marriage!
    3. Women in STEM fields also benefit heavily from either affirmative action programs or a mindset of "let's fast track her because we need more diversity!"
    4. Grade inflation. Nuff said.

  75. sign sign everywhere a sign by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    sign sign everywhere a sign
    barkin up the scenary breakin my mnd do this dont do that cant ya read the sign.....

    and if you stay in they arrest you less...
    SEE....
    OH BUT we get spied on the net...ok use encryption get enough to survive without and then FUCK YOU
    your laws , your rules , your stupidity can then all bite me

  76. Maybe it's too expensive to get their own place? by bAdministrator · · Score: 1

    In most countries you have to work 5-15 years, full time, to save up enough capital to get a house loan from any bank. You can rent, of course, but that's a waste of money, and you most often have to keep moving. Usually when contracts expire, the price goes up.

    Just out of school? Good luck getting any job! Student loan? Even better luck having to pay down that loan, and your bank loan, and other costs connected with your apartment.

    The system keeps a tight leash on its citizens. People who do make it on their own cling to their paychecks to make it one month at a time. What a fucked up world to live in.

    Also, to counter all the stereotype comments mentioning porn, games, everything is paid for, mom does the cooking; you can still live at home and pay rent for your 10m^2 room, do your own laundry, buy or make your own food. Who would have thought?

  77. Re:LOL by centipedes.in.my.vag · · Score: 1

    Could you please cite your assertions on the mechanism of conditioning? (i.e. Provide a demonstrable link between animated pornography and a rise in pedophilia.)

    --
    Only on /. can I lose karma with 2x "5, Funny" posts.
  78. Why not just call it what it is? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Social anxiety, or "sociophobia". It's not really THAT rare, even at this degree, and it's a condition you will find all over the world. I'm very surprised at the article wanting to paint a picture of this being something uniquely japanese.

  79. Re:LOL by ifiwereasculptor · · Score: 2

    The basis of laws surrounding it is that the production of child porn harms a child

    Citation needed. No doubt that's one reason, but what about the effects of conditioning people (or leaving the legal door open for them to condition themselves, if you prefer) to respond sexually to minors? There are some very good reasons not to encourage or allow child pornography which doesn't directly involve children.

    Surely you must realize we have already failed at curbing such conditioning. Watch an hour of random TV or leaf through a few magazines to see how incredibly youth-driven sexuality is generally portrayed and how sexually teens are usually presented. Aspects of youth are painstakingly emulated through makeup or surgery, and the norm is the younger, the better.

  80. Scale this global because it's not isolated by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I seriously doubt this is present only around Japan or a handful of countries. The more we are taught to figure out what we want to do with out own lives, the more the world around us needs to accept that what we choose may not be the satus quo, mass-produced "it's always been like this" people of the past. Take America, where IT folks here are expected to know it all, do it all, break all the rules to generate "great" things for our employers; we live, eat, and breathe our IT channels and information and we spend more time than not in IT mode. Then we are faced with world where men are expected to be total drunks, stupid, and "more balanced" (meaning liking both NASCAR and American football) in order to fit in. The result it, we don't fit the mold or requirement if you will, so we too "hole ourselves up" somewhere that is less judging and destructive to us. No one wants to admit it, but the social pieces aren't made for any of us with real talent because we understand that "the system" is screwed up and that what has been the norms may be wonderful but doesnt fit what real people are expected to be if we are to be employed. We live underground merely because what is "above" is meaningless to us and, beyond that, it tells us what we are is somehow wrong after we did what we were "supposed' to do to land good positions. They either want us or they don't ... societies need to accept some of us are not their sheep.

  81. Re:Parents! by DrGamez · · Score: 1

    Chris Chan is entertaining but way too expensive to maintain.

    Is this from the article or are you just calling them "x-chan" because they are Japanese?

  82. Re:LOL by Penguinisto · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Citation needed. No doubt that's one reason, but what about the effects of conditioning people (or leaving the legal door open for them to condition themselves, if you prefer) to respond sexually to minors? There are some very good reasons not to encourage or allow child pornography which doesn't directly involve children.

    1) Seriously - Google. It's not that hard for such a simple concept (besides, I don't feel like tripping work proxy alerts, even if I do have root access to the thing).

    2) Conditioning? Outside of a few overly-impressionable people, your hypothesis doesn't hold up. Consider: Paedophilia was once commonly accepted as late as the 17-18th centuries (see also at least half of the females in Casanova's autobiography, Histoire De Ma Vie, if you want some indication of just how common) , and pr0n wasn't exactly commonplace back then. Nowadays, the phenomenon relatively rare by comparison, or at least has declined greatly when expressed as a percentage of the population, in spite of the explosion of child porn, delivery of same via the Internet, etc.

    To semi-invoke Godwin's Law, are you saying (as equivalent) that reading Mein Kampf will make someone conditioned towards becoming a Nazi, merely because of having read the book? Doesn't really make sense.

    --
    Quo usque tandem abutere, Nimbus, patientia nostra?
  83. Re: LOL by O('_')O_Bush · · Score: 1

    That isn't true at all. You just live in areas where that is a stigma. It isn't true for NoVa or SW VA.

    --
    while(1) attack(People.Sandy);
  84. "Why?" by r2kordmaa · · Score: 1

    There are many things you can ask this question about. Why do you smoke? Why do you use drugs? Why do you cheat your wife? Why do you drink? Why do you lie? etc ad infinum. Most often the simplest answer can be borrowed from mountaineers: "Because we can!" Same with holing up in your parents house. At some point it becomes parental responsibility to throw the cub off the cliff(out the front door), alas this is not the way of the Japanese. In mostly any other society the hikkikomory would soon stop being one as he gets kicked out of the house.

    1. Re:"Why?" by 0111+1110 · · Score: 1

      In mostly any other society the hikkikomory would soon stop being one as he gets kicked out of the house.

      Actually you have it backwards. Most societies don't put so much stress on kicking the kids out of the house at 18 and the family is way, way more important. They think we are the weird ones.

      --
      Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
    2. Re:"Why?" by loufoque · · Score: 1

      You don't lie because you can, you lie to get what you want or to avoid unnecessary conflicts.

  85. Re:LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    It's that general braindead thing that's going on in the justice system - people pine for laws, get them, then the police over-apply them to create a whole new criminal class. We've got so many laws on the books now that we're effectively *all* criminals. Heck, people are getting locked up for jaywalking even if there's no traffic on a road. Law has become completely disconnected from actual wrongdoing or even a notion of "wrong" in any sense, so we all just shrug and hope to no get caught daring to walk to the shop.

    What we need is "less" law. Someone needs to go through all these definitions and start wrapping them up together and putting a bow on them. When the law states:
    1) You can't kill someone with a knife.
    2) You can't kill someone with a gun.
    3) You can't kill someone with a shovel.
    4) ...

    Why not just make that:
    1) You can't kill someone with an . (For all values of )

    Or even:
    1) You can't kill someone.

    No sense specializing these things since it just makes them ripe for gaming - e.g. imma kill someone with a sharpened grapefruit because there's no precedent.

  86. Re:LOL by clarkn0va · · Score: 2, Interesting

    Classical conditioning and generalization are pretty well understood phenomena by now. If you don't think that generalization for sexual stimulus can occur between animations and living persons, then how do you propose people are being stimulated by animations in the first place?

    --
    I am literally 3000 tokens away from the chaotic crossbow --Stephen
  87. Re:LOL by tqk · · Score: 1

    A teenager sexting their SO can get them twenty years in prison..

    Uh huh, sure...

    Fuck you and the donkey you rode in on.:

    In Connecticut, Rep. Rosa Rebimbas introduced a bill that would lessen the penalty for "sexting" between two consenting minors in 2009. The bill would make it a Class A misdemeanor for children under 18 to send or receive text messages with other minors that include nude or sexual images. It is currently a felony for children to send such messages, and violators could end up on the state's sex offender registry.
    [...]
    In 2008, a Virginia assistant principal was charged with possession of child pornography and related crimes after he had been asked to investigate a rumored sexting incident at the high school where he worked. Upon finding a student in possession of a photo on his phone that depicted the torso of a girl wearing only underpants, her arms mostly covering her breasts, the assistant principal showed the image to the principal who instructed him to preserve the photo on his computer as evidence, which he did. The court later ruled that the photo did not constitute child pornography because under Virginia law, nudity alone is not enough to qualify an image as child pornography; the image must be "sexually explicit". Loudoun County Prosecutor James Plowman stood by his initial assessment of the photo and says he would not have pursued the case if the assistant principal had agreed to resign. Instead, the assistant principal got a second mortgage on his house and spent $150,000 in attorneys' fees to clear his name.

    Asshole.

    --
    "Tongue tied and twisted, just an Earth bound misfit ..." -- Pink Floyd.
  88. Re:LOL by clarkn0va · · Score: 1

    Surely you must realize we have already failed at curbing such conditioning.

    I slept in this morning, but chose to get up and go to work anyway. I don't see one failure as justification for letting oneself go completely.

    --
    I am literally 3000 tokens away from the chaotic crossbow --Stephen
  89. 12th tradition by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Way to stay anonymous, sparky. :-/

  90. Re:LOL by Time_Ngler · · Score: 1

    Where in what you wrote says anything about anyone getting 20 years in prison? And a good ole "fuck you" to you, too!

  91. Holodeck? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Too much crackWOW, or perhaps it's the Japanese used panties that have done them in!

  92. Hell... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    ...is other people.

  93. Re: LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    It's the missing millions , referenced in the book "Ready Player One". Just wait until the O.A.S.I.S. becomes real, the number will keep on rising...

  94. Re:LOL by clarkn0va · · Score: 1

    Seriously - Google. It's not that hard for such a simple concept

    I'm not sure what you're even asserting here. That I should use Google to research the impetus of child pornography laws in nations that include animation or other non-real representations in the ban? No, I think common sense dictates that there is more than the one reason that you state.

    Paedophilia was once commonly accepted as late as the 17-18th centuries

    Again, your point is not clear. You're saying that the availability of animated child pornography has no demonstrable link with the social acceptability of the practice of paedophilia? I don't see what that has to do with the idea of conditioning and generalization.

    you saying (as equivalent) that reading Mein Kampf will make someone conditioned towards becoming a Nazi

    That's a really poor restatement of my point, and pretty much a straw man. I'm saying that training oneself to respond sexually to images that look like children will normally increase one's sexual response to children, and that's a bad thing.

    --
    I am literally 3000 tokens away from the chaotic crossbow --Stephen
  95. Re:LOL by ub3r+n3u7r4l1st · · Score: 1

    "Perhaps, but lots of "U. S. twenties" also get out of the house to socialize, find work, and many even live there along with their young wives (and perhaps kids?)"

    And also:
    - racking up student loan and credit card debt
    - divorce and lose half of your assets, potentially sticking with a lifetime child support and alimony payment
    - overweight, diabetes and stroke

    All of the above are typical American.

  96. Re:LOL by drinkypoo · · Score: 1

    The argument against cartoon depictions of child porn is that there is no such thing as getting things out of your system, only reinforcement. Nobody [credible] is arguing that cartoon CP is making people into pedos. The argument is that legitimizing cartoon CP reinforces pedo behavior by legitimizing it in turn.

    --
    "You're right," Fisheye says. "I should have set it on 'whip' or 'chop.'"
  97. Straight from the books by ub3r+n3u7r4l1st · · Score: 2

    http://www.cga.ct.gov/2010/SUM/2010SUM00191-R02HB-05533-SUM.htm

    "The felony offense of child pornography is divided into three degrees, depending on the number of visual images that the defendant knowingly possesses. The offenses range from a class B to a class D felony."

    http://www.cga.ct.gov/2005/rpt/2005-R-0192.htm

    Class B felony - 1 to 20 years up to $15,000

    1. Re:Straight from the books by Time_Ngler · · Score: 1

      No teenager in the USA has ever been thrown is prison for 20 years for sexting. His argument might be valid, but he shouldn't be supporting it with outright lies.

    2. Re:Straight from the books by tqk · · Score: 2, Insightful

      No teenager in the USA has ever been thrown is prison for 20 years for sexting. His argument might be valid, but he shouldn't be supporting it with outright lies.

      Not for lack of trying, and you shouldn't be trying to downplay the threat! Anyone needing to spend themselves into poverty just to defend themselves from this malicious insanity would love to get their hands around your throat.

      --
      "Tongue tied and twisted, just an Earth bound misfit ..." -- Pink Floyd.
    3. Re:Straight from the books by Time_Ngler · · Score: 1

      You are one depraved motherfucker

    4. Re:Straight from the books by someSnarkyBastard · · Score: 1

      Just because it hasn't happened yet does not mean it can't or won't happen in the future.Consider the incentive for incarcerating people for non-violent offenses: Big Prison is Big Business; the US has a higher percentage of the population behind bars than any other nation, including regimes we consider repressive like China. That is not an accident.

  98. Easy by jon3k · · Score: 1

    Porn and Video games. Why leave?

  99. Interesting take on the issue by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    This blog has a very interesting take on why men in Japan are dropping from society:
    http://theredpillroom.blogspot.mx/2013/04/men-2020-real-story.html

  100. Nothing wrong with it by Tough+Love · · Score: 1

    Speaking as a normally functioning male, I fully approve of this phenomenon, provided the girls don't start staying home too.

    --
    When all you have is a hammer, every problem starts to look like a thumb.
    1. Re:Nothing wrong with it by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Speaking as a non-douchebag, please kindly go fuck yourself. You're part of the problem.

    2. Re:Nothing wrong with it by loufoque · · Score: 1

      I fully agree with you.

  101. Political use by ub3r+n3u7r4l1st · · Score: 2, Informative

    Child porn laws are frequently abused to target political and business opponents, as under the U.S. federal law, possession of CP is a strict liability and there are NO affirmative defense allowed on it.

    This is a case in Sweden where CP was planted in a politicians machine using a remote desktop software, causing failed re-election, stress, and millions of dollars in legal fees:

    http://www.expressen.se/nyheter/offer-for-porrkupp/

  102. Perfect natural, healthy reaction to circumstances by Qbertino · · Score: 2

    Seriously, I don't get the fuss. The industrial world has been overdue for a change in tactics for at least 3 decades, and the problems in society around the globe reflect humanity pursuit of things that can't work the way they used to anymore.

    These are the facts (and we all know them, either intuitively or by plain analysis):

    1.) We are reaching peak capitalism.

    2.) Our jobs are going away, either to robots or the poorest of the poor on the planet ... and *then* to robots.

    3.) We are about to reach a worldwide abundance of material goods. The last pieces of production society are on the way out.

    4.) Most of our societies follow rules which, under the circumstances described above, seem bizare, arcane and silly. Each society and country has it's on set of soon to be totally pointless behaviours, but they all have them. The US has their evangelical cristian stuff, Germany spends 4.7 billion man-hours per year in traffic jams (seriously) and I don't even know where to begin in describing the bizar notions and pressures the Japanese society puts on people.

    Let's face it: Most of us here on slashdot (I consider the average IQ here on /. measurably higher than average) would do the same if they hadn't developed some sort of psychological survical skill or found a nice warm place in the 9-5 jobworld where they can play with computers all day.

    Bottom line: This is a totally normal reaction to environment, especially if you haven't had the luck to be introduced to stoic or zen philosophy or something simular in your teenages which might help you cope with the bizar theater going on around us in everyday life, including people presuring others to 'get a real job' and 'do something usefull'.

    My 2 cents.

    --
    We suffer more in our imagination than in reality. - Seneca
  103. Re:LOL by SJHiIlman · · Score: 1

    something that makes perfect sense

    But censorship does not make sense. Arresting people for looking at images/videos also does not make sense.

  104. Re:Maybe it's too expensive to get their own place by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    In Spain you must work for 30 years straight to pay the mortage for a 70m^2 flat in any average city. That if you are lucky enough to have a wife or girlfriend with a job to help with the payments. Here you need two jobs or a great paying job guaranteed almost for life, otherwise forget to emancipate before 40 and accept the fate that have no other option than stay with your parents or become a hobo.

  105. Re:LOL by SJHiIlman · · Score: 1

    There are some very good reasons not to encourage or allow child pornography which doesn't directly involve children.

    And this 'safety is more important than freedom' mentality is how we lose our freedoms. We have this mentality to thank for the TSA and various other things which violate our freedoms in the US.

    It is also nonsensical to suggest that people will go out and rape children if they view images of drawn children having sex or whatever other nonsense you were trying to imply.

  106. video games by danbuter · · Score: 1

    These guys just want to be left alone to play video games. Imagine WoW, but with the typical asian grindfest MMOs.

    1. Re:video games by loufoque · · Score: 1

      Hikikomori are usually not that casual. They'd play eroge instead.

  107. Re:LOL by SJHiIlman · · Score: 1

    I'm saying that training oneself to respond sexually to images that look like children will normally increase one's sexual response to children

    It won't. There done.

    and that's a bad thing.

    That's subjective.

  108. Re:LOL by SJHiIlman · · Score: 1

    It is also nonsensical to suggest that people will go out and rape children if they view images of drawn children having sex or whatever other nonsense you were trying to imply.

    Ah, they'll merely respond more sexually to minors. Silly me! It's the apocalypse! Run for the hills!

  109. Re:LOL by clarkn0va · · Score: 1

    And this 'safety is more important than freedom' mentality is how we lose our freedoms.

    Some freedoms are more important than others, and some safety mechanisms are more effective than others. The TSA (and arguably most or all real consequences of the Patriot Act) is a sham, and it's disingenuous to lump together baby formula and baby porn as being even remotely comparable on the danger scale.

    It is also nonsensical to suggest that people will go out and rape children if they view images of drawn children having sex

    It's perfectly reasonable to suggest that when you have a bell curve or any other spectrum of dangerous behaviour, sanctioning any activity that is known or likely to push that bell curve in the direction of more dangerous activity is socially irresponsible. We don't have to prove that "people will go out and rape children" as a result of child porn. It is sufficient to show that child pornography, in whatever form it may take, is a contributing factor to child sexual abuse.

    --
    I am literally 3000 tokens away from the chaotic crossbow --Stephen
  110. Re:LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I think it's because people got married much younger 200-300 years ago. Back in those days you were lucky to make it to 50, so being having sex with 14-15 year old girls was normal.

  111. Re:Perfect natural, healthy reaction to circumstan by ebno-10db · · Score: 0

    My english is better than most other people's german, so please point out mistakes politely.

    Like most German speakers I've encountered your English is good enough that I suspect that other language is just something you use around tourists. Ironically, having said that, I'd like to make one minor correction to your sig. It should be "My English is better than most other people's German ..." since proper nouns are capitalized.

  112. Re:LOL by jythie · · Score: 1

    Most of the 'citations' are left overs from the anti-porn congressional hearings in the 80s and the cottage industry that built up around them. I rarely hear professionals actually try to assert this argument today.

  113. Re:LOL by jythie · · Score: 1

    It is consistant nonsense though. Any time you have a sexuality that breaks from the mainstream people deal with their discomfort by assuming that the people with that sexuality will not be able to help themselves from raping everything they see. Somehow, at a gut level, they feel that only normal men can resist the raping urge and men who are somehow abnormal must indulge their preference nonconcentually.

    For some reason the reality... things like most gay men do not have 1000 partners and will rape strait men if they can, or that the vast majority of pedophiles never touch a minor, really screws with their heads.

  114. Not much changed from the wild: by Hartree · · Score: 1

    "If we were supposed to have wild cats the size of a house cat, they would exist"

    Housecats are pretty hard to distinguish from the African wildcats (Felis silvestris lybica) that they came from. At best, you're dealing with only the advantages and disadvantages that an invasive species would have in a new environment rather than major form changes. In North America you have a colder climate that may favor a different body size to some extent and existing predators filling the niche they take. The European wildcat at a similar latitude (Felis silvestris silvestris) is larger than the Arabian one as well.

    Some of the animal rights groups like to put forward the meme that the housecat is but a pale shadow of the wild form, but it's just not true. It's very close to the original type (including size) and interbreeds freely.

    See: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/African_wildcat

    The wild form is common from Africa to Arabia and across a wide part of southern Asia.

    All large predators tend to be fairly rare, and the larger, the rarer.

    We have a surfeit of feral cats due to them leaving domestic life. In fact, they have an impact on things like foxes in the urban edge environments due to competing for food like mice and such.

    Now that they're here, and in very large numbers with a changed environment (farms rather than forest for example), you can't say for sure that the original balance would return. There's been too much disruption.

    1. Re:Not much changed from the wild: by ebno-10db · · Score: 1

      In North America you have a colder climate that may favor a different body size to some extent

      A Maine Coon is much bigger than the average house cat - not much smaller than a bobcat. They also do well in Maine winters.

  115. Four Freedoms & The Triple Revolution Memorand by Paul+Fernhout · · Score: 1

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_Freedoms
    "The Four Freedoms were goals articulated by United States President Franklin D. Roosevelt on January 6, 1941. In an address known as the Four Freedoms speech (technically the 1941 State of the Union address), he proposed four fundamental freedoms that people "everywhere in the world" ought to enjoy:
    Freedom of speech
    Freedom of worship
    Freedom from want
    Freedom from fear
    In that context, he summarized the values of democracy behind the bipartisan consensus on international involvement that existed at the time. A famous quote from the speech prefaces those values: "As men do not live by bread alone, they do not fight by armaments alone." In the second half of the speech, he lists the benefits of democracy, which includes economic opportunity, employment, social security, and the promise of "adequate health care". The first two freedoms of speech and religion are protected by the First Amendment in the United States Constitution. His inclusion of the latter two freedoms went beyond the traditional Constitutional values protected by the U.S. Bill of Rights. Roosevelt endorsed a broader human right to economic security and anticipated what would become known decades later as the "human security" paradigm in social science and economic development. He also included the "freedom from fear" against national aggression before the idea of a United Nations for this protection was envisioned or discussed by world leaders and allied nations."

    Anyway, in theory, the point of constitutions and governments is to define and enforce rights in a society. Enforcing rights includes arbitrating between people with conflicting notions of boundaries, as in, "Your right to swing your fist ends where my nose begins". Such rights allow increased trust in a society, which reduces operating costs, as otherwise all your time and energy may need to go into protecting yourself against your neighbor, and that society will sicken and die relative to other societies with greater internal trust. If the USA continues to descend into distrustful paranoia, security costs go up, and the society begins to seize up.

    Look up information about "Social Credit" and C. H. Douglas:
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_Credit
    "Douglas disagreed with classical economists who recognised only three factors of production: land, labour and capital. While Douglas did not deny the role of these factors in production, he saw the "cultural inheritance of society" as the primary factor. He defined cultural inheritance as the knowledge, technique and processes that have been handed down to us incrementally from the origins of civilization."

    See also: http://www.educationanddemocracy.org/FSCfiles/C_CC2a_TripleRevolution.htm
    "The fundamental problem posed by the cybernation revolution in the U.S. is that it invalidates the general mechanism so far employed to undergird people’s rights as consumers. Up to this time economic resources have been distributed on the basis of contributions to production, with machines and men competing for employment on somewhat equal terms. In the developing cybernated system, potentially unlimited output can be achieved by systems of machines which will require little cooperation from human beings. As machines take over production from men, they absorb an increasing proportion of resources while the men who are displaced become dependent on minimal and unrelated government measures—unemployment insurance, social security, welfare payments. These measures are less and less able to disguise a historic paradox: That a substantial proportion of the population is subsisting on minimal incomes, often below the poverty line, at a time when suffi

    --
    A 21st century issue: the irony of technologies of abundance in the hands of those still thinking in terms of scarcity.
  116. Re:LOL by Penguinisto · · Score: 1

    Some freedoms are more important than others, and some safety mechanisms are more effective than others. The TSA (and arguably most or all real consequences of the Patriot Act) is a sham, and it's disingenuous to lump together baby formula and baby porn as being even remotely comparable on the danger scale.

    Actually, there are parallels - the TSA will be all over you (or deny you your paid-for flight, then probably add you to a no-fly list) if you even think about making a bomb/terrorist joke in the security line. You can run into massive legal trouble if you draw something erotic that even remotely looks like it's younger than 18 years old. Both have one very important thing in common - they're thoughtcrimes.

    --
    Quo usque tandem abutere, Nimbus, patientia nostra?
  117. Re:LOL by Penguinisto · · Score: 1

    I agree in principle. On the other hand, there are similar precedents that fall under 'aiding and abetting', for perhaps 'incitement to commit...' It's like not only arresting a killer, but also arresting the guy who got the killer drunk and egged him on to do the deed.

    (Knowing) possession of (actual, not drawn) CP is a gray area, but IMHO actively collecting the actual photographic/video variety of the crap should count as a solid misdemeanor with a fine, but (minus a lack of any credible evidence showing that you're making the stuff) not an automatic prison sentence or having a lifetime stigmata (unless it's serial, then maybe ramp things up with each successive offense). Sort of like how having a joint will get you a ticket/fine in most states, but actively making and selling the stuff in quantities will get you locked up.** Or, if you prefer, it should remain as much of a crime as 'incitement' would be (that is, treat the buyer like he's egging someone on to commit the original crime of abuse, but with a lesser punishment since it's not direct).

    There is firm and ethical precedent for doing this, and it can be done without violating or denying any innocent party's freedom.

    **mind you, the point isn't to preach for/against marijuana; I merely used it as an example of a usable gradient of punishment.

    --
    Quo usque tandem abutere, Nimbus, patientia nostra?
  118. The pressure to succeed by rossz · · Score: 2

    It starts before a child is even in school, they prepare them for the tests to get in the best preschool, and it continues every day of their lives so that eventually their child will be accepted to the only university that matters, Tokyo University. At any point along the way failure is possible, but because of constant family pressure, it is not an option. There are only so many slots available each year, so it's guaranteed that the majority who apply to the university will be rejected. Those people are failures. They were told every moment of their lives that they MUST make it into Tokyo University or they are a failure. So where else do you go when you have failed yourself and your family?

    This is a summary of an article I read over 10 years ago about this problem. It is not something new.

    --
    -- Will program for bandwidth
  119. It's Aspergers by Macchendra · · Score: 2

    I have aspergers. At the age of 15, I dropped out of school, moved in with my dad in a different city, and just shut down socially and lived in my room for 2 1/2 years. I just couldn't bear the awkwardness of social interaction. I felt like I wasn't "doing it right". I made people uncomfortable, and I guess that most people thought that I didn't like them. I'd keep my door shut, because I didn't want to be judged for my isolation. Fortunately, our house had a hot tub, jaccuzi, well-stocked library, and gymnasium. My dad was good company, but my stepmom was a b&*^%. Thank god this was before the internet. My "life" consisted of playing with my computer, reading the encyclopedia, and watching and rewatching every episode of doctor who I had recorded on betamax. Eventually, my dad forced me to go to college, and I developed the sort of vast network of friends that tends to turn one into a professional student. I turned out ok, lol. Just google Macchendra. ROFL!

    1. Re:It's Aspergers by Macchendra · · Score: 1

      Ok, because I know you are all aspiring editors, I meant sauna, not jacuzzi. Also, I meant "before the world wide web".

    2. Re:It's Aspergers by loufoque · · Score: 1

      A sauna and a jacuzzi are entirely different things. A jacuzzi is the name of a brand of hot tubs. Some people also use the word spa, though a spa can also refer to a larger water treatment installation.
      A sauna is a nordic cabin typically with a wooden interior where you experience high temperatures. It is a bit similar to the maghrebian hammam, except the latter uses steam, and therefore has wet rather than dry heat.

    3. Re:It's Aspergers by Macchendra · · Score: 1

      I know, I was accidentally referring to the hot tub as a jacuzzi and listing it twice. Good to see another aspie on here, lol. (as if that isn't half of us)

    4. Re:It's Aspergers by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Assburgers is a BS diagnosis that is thankfully getting axed as a legitimate diagnosis.

  120. Out you go! by nanospook · · Score: 1

    Every species in the world knows to kick the kids out of the nest, herd, whatever.. except maybe fish.. maybe they are eating too much fish?

    --
    Have you fscked your local propeller head today?
  121. Re:LOL by SJHiIlman · · Score: 1

    The TSA (and arguably most or all real consequences of the Patriot Act) is a sham, and it's disingenuous to lump together baby formula and baby porn as being even remotely comparable on the danger scale.

    What you advocate for is censorship. Freedom is speech and express are fundamental rights. And what the other guy said.

    It's perfectly reasonable to suggest that when you have a bell curve or any other spectrum of dangerous behaviour, sanctioning any activity that is known or likely to push that bell curve in the direction of more dangerous activity is socially irresponsible.

    I don't care for attitudes that lead to the loss of freedom for everyone.

    It is sufficient to show that child pornography, in whatever form it may take, is a contributing factor to child sexual abuse.

    You've shown no such thing. I don't believe for a yoctosecond that looking at porn (in this case, pictures of drawn children) will somehow make someone more likely to rape.

  122. Re:LOL by SJHiIlman · · Score: 1

    but also arresting the guy who got the killer drunk and egged him on to do the deed.

    No such thing must happen in order to acquire child porn. Given how freely data spreads around on the Internet, I can only imagine that it is perfectly possible to get the pictures/videos without actually dealing with the ones who made them.

    And frankly, I'd rather we use more resources to go after the actual rapists and those involved. Attempting to catch people who merely view the material is futile and hardly an accomplishment.

  123. Re:Perfect natural, healthy reaction to circumstan by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

    It's true that when writting in English, "English" and "German" are are capitalized, but these are pronoun adjectives of the missing noun "language".

  124. Hak Nam by MichaelSmith · · Score: 1

    They are all living in the walled city.

  125. It's Cultural by HungWeiLo · · Score: 1

    Reference the following article about Japan's newest crop of "Grass Eaters":

    http://gaijinchronicles.com/2010/08/31/plight-of-the-grass-eater

    Choice quote from the article: "When a guy in the developmental stages sees girls his age swooning over the [sensitive, sissy guy] type, this sets a precedent within his brain â" this is what girls like, and if you want to be what girls like, you have to be like this. It may not even be an active choice, but something that just fires subconsciously in his brain. So the seed has been planted. Granted, Japanese guys have taken this sissy seed and watered and nurtured it into a massive pussy forest, but thatâ(TM)s just the special Japanese skill of taking everything to hardcore extremes."

    But to be fair, macho Americans have their own massive crops of sissy men with a large female following.

    --
    There are a huge number of yeast infections in this county. Probably because we're downriver from the bread factory.
    1. Re:It's Cultural by loufoque · · Score: 1

      gaijin chronicles, what a funny site name.
      They should have gone full weeaboo and call it gaijin no monogatari or something.

  126. Re:LOL by clarkn0va · · Score: 1

    What you advocate for is censorship. Freedom is speech and express are fundamental rights.

    I am advocating censorship. There's is and has been a lot of bad censorship in the world, but to ban it wholesale would be foolish. Freedom of speech is a guaranteed right in the USA, but not everywhere. I assume that's what you mean by fundamental. But even fundamental rights have limits, and these limits usually occur at the boundary of safety and public health.

    I don't believe for a yoctosecond that looking at porn (in this case, pictures of drawn children) will somehow make someone more likely to rape.

    You're fixated on rape. I'm talking about sexual dysfunction and deviant behaviour, which have always been associated with the decline of civilisations. To open the door to child pornography (even the animated sort) is to consent to the poisoning of one's own society. There are worse things than metered and responsible censorship.

    --
    I am literally 3000 tokens away from the chaotic crossbow --Stephen
  127. It's called.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Mind your own fucking business nosy bitch's.

  128. Re:LOL by Areyoukiddingme · · Score: 1

    Not sure if anybody else has responded, but even a comic representation of adult genitalia is illegal in Japan. All comics, even hentai comics, are sent to a censorship board before publication. Uncensored hentai is either manually decensored outside of Japan by fans or published outside of Japan underground (which mostly means they don't get paid) by the original authors.

    Movies, photographs, comics, all censored. Not sure if uncensored sculpture of genitalia is illegal, but it wouldn't surprise me if it is.

  129. Re:LOL by CODiNE · · Score: 1

    Gee thanks for the
    **** SPOILER ****
    alert!

    I was planning to go see that.

    --
    Cwm, fjord-bank glyphs vext quiz
  130. Japanese Women? by Bensam123 · · Score: 2

    So this is curious... why does this affect men quite a bit more so then women? In Japanese culture women have even more stringent guidelines and social pressure then men do, so why aren't hikkimori almost entirely comprised of women?

    About the only thing I can think of is being married off as a 'house wife' provides a easy way out and a answer to being dependent on someone else (who then takes the blame for most everything, social, financial, burden of choice). It makes me wonder if there are actually more people that would be classified as hikkimori in Japan, but ended up being married off as codependent house wives.

  131. I always thought by roc97007 · · Score: 1

    ...it was fear of Japanese traffic. I could be wrong.

    --
    Oliver's law of assumed responsibility: If you're seen fixing it, you will be blamed for breaking it.
  132. Re:LOL by jkauzlar · · Score: 1

    Actually, I believe Mein Kampf WILL condition susceptible readers into becoming a nazi. It was written for the purpose of influencing people, and there's no reason people can't still be influenced, and many are. It's a bad example, so no need to break Godwin's Law. There are two ways to look at it, but I don't know which is more correct: 1) take poop for example.. if you see enough pictures of poop, will you eventually become a copraphiliac? Probably not. I think it requires significant tramautic events in a person's life such that they want to be debased (or debase others) into incorporating poop into their sexual habits. or 2) seeing sexualized images of preteen girls repeatedly for extended periods of time... that is, young girls depicted as capable and willing to fulfill the viewer's sexual fantasies.. this may condition a person into becoming a pedophile. The question between the two is whether traumatic experiences or some other warped mindset are a necessary prerequisite.

  133. Re:LOL by Jeeeb · · Score: 1

    I understand and feel the revulsion that a healthy adult has towards child porn, but from an objective/legal point-of-view, the West got stupid about how they enforce such laws. Here's why: The basis of laws surrounding it is that the production of child porn harms a child - something that makes perfect sense, and should have laws in place to prevent/limit as much as logically possible. OTOH, who exactly is harmed in a comic strip? One would think that it would present a means of release for those pervs who do get into such crap, and to let them do so without harming anyone in the process. A teenaged kid sexting his/her SO should get a stern talking-to by the parents, and definitely should be enlightened on why that is a monumentally stupid idea - but no, the kid should not get tossed in the slammer and stigmatized for life.

    Nice to see people speaking logically about this. Honestly I don't think youth gets sexualised any more in Japan than it does elsewhere and reading the news in my home country (Australia), I see a lot more incidents of child sexual abuse than reading/listening to the news in Japan.

    As for TFA? I can see why it would make sense for some Japanese men to simply withdraw from society... Japan isn't exactly an easy-going culture to live in, competition for anything (females, jobs, status, whatever) is incredibly intense, and there are few other routes available to the typical Japanese man that doesn't involve a shitload of money (e.g. move self and family to another country whose culture you may get on better in.) These men still have a non-negotiable duty to care for their parents, and real estate/rent is frickin' astronomical anyway. They spent nearly every waking hour of their childhood with little outside of intense study and discipline, so it's not like they learned to be social mavens in the first place - they likely only found peace when they were alone.

    I don't think this is a fair portrayal of modern life in Japan at all.

    Rent for the most part in Japan is heap. I live in central Tokyo and pay $1000 in rent a month for a 3-room + toilet/bathroom modern flat next to a large park area. I would probably pay about $700 a month living in areas surrounding Tokyo (Chiba/Saitama/Kanagawa). Housing as well is generally quite affordable. $200,000-$300,000 will get you a large flat/town-house within reasonable commute distance of central Tokyo.

    Competition for jobs is actually a lot less intense than I experienced back home in Australia. Japanese companies are much more willing to train employees, especially when they are young. Unemployment is currently at about 4% which is historically very high. Additionally in my personal experience it is a lot easier to get into fulltime employment in Japan than in Australia.

    I'm married so it is hard for me to comment on the competition for available women but most people seem to find girlfriends/wives without too much problem.

    Also your characterization of Japanese childhood is incredibly unfair. Japanese children do study more than I saw back-home but it is hardly every moment of their childhood and in exchange they get to slack off for 4 years in university

    Hell - even if they do find a job and a wife, they may not leave home anyway. The answer why is pretty simple; If their parents own and don't rent, they stand a better chance of inheriting their parents' home than they do of ever being able to afford one of their own - which is pretty traditional in its own right. In most cases, it's not like they have as much potential competition from siblings, what with smaller family sizes over the decades.

    Japan has changed a lot since the end of the bubble twenty years ago. Most young Japanese manage to go out into society and support themselves just fine.

  134. Can you name some of those regulations? by rsilvergun · · Score: 1

    because I'm starting a small software business and not having much trouble with them. I suppose there's stuff like environmental regulations are tough to deal with. But there's a reason those regulations exist. Can you name some regulations you'd be happy to see go, or do you truly believe that we can leave businesses to care of the environment. Just in case you do, China's 'Cancer Villages' and the Love Canal would beg to differ...

    As for corps (and the 1%, who are the real owners of them), I realize full well I can't take away the advantages they get from our Government. Realizing that, I propose instead to give those advantages to everyone, aka "Socialism". To paraphrase Gore Vidal: Capitalism for the poor and Socialism for the rich sucks. If I can't give the rich Capitalism I'll give the poor Socialism.

    In the end, what I need is a better economic position so the 1% mega-corp owners can't abuse me. Money is freedom. You're not free if someone controls your access to food, shelter & medicine. Dieing of starvation or selling yourself at the company store isn't 'free'.

    --
    Hi! I make Firefox Plug-ins. Check 'em out @ https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/youtube-mp3-podcaster/
    1. Re:Can you name some of those regulations? by Reziac · · Score: 1

      Try starting a restaurant, or worse yet a fast-foot cart, in a heavily-regulated area. You may find it difficult (somewhere in http://www.dnalounge.com/backstage/log/2000/03/ there's a long tale of licensing woe that's all too typical) or even impossible ( http://www.techdirt.com/articles/20121022/13153120790/george-mcgovern-why-politicians-who-havent-built-business-are-bad-regulating.shtml )

      It hasn't hit the software industry yet, because there's as yet no good way to impose "standards".

      --
      ~REZ~ #43301. Who'd fake being me anyway?
    2. Re:Can you name some of those regulations? by Shark · · Score: 1

      What happens when you start competing with mega-corp and they slap you with a random software patent lawsuit? That is if you refused their offer to buy you outright. Of course that might leave you better off but it'll put a stop to you producing wealth (in the form of great software) that actually benefits society.

      Patents are another one of those well meaning pieces of government legislation. They're literally 'protection from competition'. Protect who from competition from who, well... That all depends on the size of your legal department/budget now doesn't it?

      --
      Mind the frickin' laser...
  135. Re:LOL by __aaltlg1547 · · Score: 1

    That's different than pedophilia. People from an age of adolescence -- roughly 12 to 15 -- become sexualized by their biology more than anything else. During the next few and I mean FEW years they reach their maximum level of sexual interest and drive. They reach their peak of innate sexual interest, drive and fertility by the time they reach the age of majority. In traditional cultures, it would have been normal for kids that age to marry. Our biology is tuned to something other than the protracted adolescence that is normal in modern industrial cultures. Biologically, the most attractive persons are naturally those who have the greatest reproductive future ahead of them, so... young adults. A person aged 30 has already used up more than half of his or her (particularly so in the case of her) reproductive potential and is not as good a mate, biologically, as a 15 year old girl. An older person maximizes his or her chance of finding the best available mate by appearing as near as possible to the ideal reproductive age.

  136. Re:LOL by manu0601 · · Score: 1

    what about the effects of conditioning people (or leaving the legal door open for them to condition themselves, if you prefer) to respond sexually to minors? There are some very good reasons not to encourage or allow child pornography which doesn't directly involve children.

    The same reasoning should cause you to call a ban on violent video games, shouldn't it?

  137. Re:LOL by SJHiIlman · · Score: 1

    and these limits usually occur at the boundary of safety and public health.

    No, I will not accept censorship just because you're a coward. Likewise, I wouldn't accept the TSA even if it worked.

    We (at least in the US) are not supposed to be the home of the sniveling cowards.

    I'm talking about sexual dysfunction and deviant behaviour, which have always been associated with the decline of civilisations.

    Oh, that's why you're talking about taking away fundamental rights? Because you're silly enough to believe that people looking at drawn children will become deviants or some other such nonsense... and that will cause the decline of civilizations? Guess what? That's nonsense. Even if it did turn people into 'deviants' (I think such a notion is absolutely absurd), I doubt there'd be much of a decline.

    You're like an alarmist puritan, only you're advocating censorship 'for the children.'

    To open the door to child pornography (even the animated sort) is to consent to the poisoning of one's own society. There are worse things than metered and responsible censorship.

    You want censorship because you're an irrational coward. What you're saying doesn't even remotely make sense.

    There is no poison. There is no problem. It's not the apocalypse.

  138. Re:LOL by SJHiIlman · · Score: 1

    And what does it matter if some people enjoy looking at drawn children having sex? If they're also attracted to real children (which not necessarily all of them are), then it's likely they were that way from the beginning; it seems unlikely that they'd just suddenly start wanting to have sex with real children just because of the drawings.

    That said, even if some people have such a desire, society is not going to fall apart. What you're speaking of is not even remotely a problem, and we shouldn't implement your disgusting censorship because of it.

  139. Increasing technological unemployment & BI by Paul+Fernhout · · Score: 1

    First, what people get paid often has very little connection with productivity. On top of that, it may even dis-incentivize them -- see Dan Pink on that. So, the assumptions implicit in your post are problematical.
    "RSA Animate - Drive: The surprising truth about what motivates us"
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6XAPnuFjJc

    Also, never before have we been automating intelligence to such a degree. The US GDP in the first decade of the 21st century grew by about 33% without adding any net new jobs, even as the population grew. That is the new reality that you and many mainstream economists are ignoring. Paul Krugman is starting to get itt, as discussed here:
    "Sympathy for the Luddites"
    https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=5882422

    Agriculture went from 90% of workers to 2% over 200 years. Manufacturing went from 35% to 15% or so over the past 50 years and continue to drop. Working hours per person have also dropped over that time, especially for children who used to be a big part of the labor force. Why should "services" not go the same way via AI and other automation and better design? Why employ a human if you don't have to?

    Based on what you write, wouldn't you automate anything the first chance you get to maximize your profits? If everyone does that, who are your customers? Well, when there is 90% unemployment (possible in 20 years or so as AI really proliferates?), it may be too late to do anything about it, so it will mean little if you say "oops"... See also Martin Ford's book, "The Lights in the Tunnel".
    http://www.thelightsinthetunnel.com/

    Anyway, you're assuming that we need most people to work to make the stuff we need. We don't. See Bob Black's "The Abolition of Work" for example.

    Yes, family is important. But so is community and related non-profit charities. (Although charity just papers over a deep issue in our society about "human rights" in an age of 21st century technology.) So is good government. So is individual effort.

    But in a capitalist consumer-oriented society it all comes to naught if you have no capital for whatever reasons and there are no jobs for you and the charities are exhausted. Your entire extended family can then be out of work and starving. Already the US food banks are overwhelmed. Food stamps you might say. But then why not a basic income instead for all, to be fairer?

    Crank up unemployment further and stuff will really start to collapse. Much of the current collapse is in the USA us now so common as to not be newsworthy anymore, where decaying infrastructure or domestic violence or rising abortions or poor child nutrition or deferred medical care and so on. So, those in the USA who don't find a way to survive just die, either right away, or through some downward spiral of self-medication via drugs or via bad nutrition and disease, and that is hardly newsworthy. (Not to say the wealthy in the USA don't eat poorly too often.) And in any case, it does not account for all the needless suffering in a land overflowing with food and material goods... Why worry about trying to get everyone to be materially productive when there is so much? And also when the other sectors of our society like the voluntary gift economy or democratically planned economy or even local subsistence skills are let wither through lack of time to engage in those areas?

    A basic income replaces a social safety net for the destitute or disabled with a human right for all to draw a small amount regularly from the productive commons. Then we don't have to have any needs based programs on things like minimum wage or SSI. It could also replace public schooling and so on with a free market for education. Already in the USA, the government (at all levels) spend an average of about US$600 a month per citizen between public schooling, health programs, and social security. Why not increase that a bit

    --
    A 21st century issue: the irony of technologies of abundance in the hands of those still thinking in terms of scarcity.
  140. WoW by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Really, World of Warcraft.

  141. Maybe by rsilvergun · · Score: 1

    But there are several things that give you an edge. A strong chin for men, nice curves for women. An extra 6" of height for either. There's tons of studies on the subject. You don't have to be truly beautiful to be enough above average to stand out and land a nicer job.

    I'm 6"1' with a cleft chin, and as silly as it sounds it's helped me interviews and negotiations.

    --
    Hi! I make Firefox Plug-ins. Check 'em out @ https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/youtube-mp3-podcaster/
  142. Not just interesting by rsilvergun · · Score: 1

    safe. Comfortable. The trouble with "Internet Friends" is you get to pick and choose at such a fine grade level that you don't learn to compromise or interact outside of that sandbox. I've got several friends who grew up with 'Internet Friends' and they have a habit of blurting out wildly inappropriate things because they never learned how not to....

    --
    Hi! I make Firefox Plug-ins. Check 'em out @ https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/youtube-mp3-podcaster/
  143. Re:LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Child porn is legal yet they censor porn in general? Such a strange dichotomy in my mind.

  144. Re:LOL by loufoque · · Score: 1

    It is not the role of the law to decide what may arouse people or not.
    Being aroused by fictional depictions of acts that would be illegal is perfectly fine. Actually, studies show people being able to enjoy such fictional works are less likely to perform such acts in real life.

    Moreover, it's not just tied to paedophilia. Fictional works can have depictions of rape, zoophilia or incest, and performing those acts might be illegal in certain countries. I would believe that making a pornographic comic book depicting rape is perfectly legal even in the US. Hell, there is plenty of live-action porn produced in the US with fictional sexual abuse.

  145. The implied answer by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    According to Betteridge's law of headlines the reason Japanese men are refusing to leave their rooms is simply no.

  146. Re:LOL by centipedes.in.my.vag · · Score: 1

    Just like BDSM relationships reinforce physically abusive relationships? No. A fantasy, kept a fantasy, is harmless. Any assertion otherwise is ludicrous.

    --
    Only on /. can I lose karma with 2x "5, Funny" posts.
  147. Re:Maybe it's too expensive to get their own place by loufoque · · Score: 1

    Just out of school? Good luck getting any job!

    If you're not getting a job as soon as you leave school (or even before you even finished your studies), then there is a big problem with your higher education.

  148. It's Happening! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Hypergamy.

    Above average is simply not good enough for the majority of women. Contrary to popular belief, mating is the genetic drive of life. Men are disillusioned with the non-benefits granted to both men and women in a lifetime of servitude. The ancient greeks had it right. "Friend" meant friend with benefits, naturally. Share common interests and have a good time? Have some sex, why not? Hell, invite your S.O. or other friends.

    The modern monogamous life-long marriage is a very recent development -- A fucking fad that's counter to human nature, but propped up by religion. Since men accumulated wealth, and their offspring were apprentices (benefiting the guy more), it benefited women to be guaranteed a man can't just ditch his wife for a younger more fertile mate. Now that the earning playing field is leveled, but the monogamy is still in play, the benefits of playing that game are gone.

    It would behoove everyone to learn that similar to chimps, we evolved from a tournament species where males competed for social standing to gain access to sex, and women competed with each other based on their good child-rearing looks -- Mm, nice hips, big boobs, make good baby. Mm, strong alpha male, protects me and kids. We're no longer slaves to our genes, but if this doesn't sound fucking familiar, then you're better at self deception than I thought.

    Guess what? In a chimp society, only a few top percentile of males end up mating. Put that in your stupid pipe and smoke it, you damned dirty ape.

  149. Re:LOL by Mr_Nitro · · Score: 1

    totally agree... some people would be shocked to know their 'children' could pop in any bookstore and buy de sade complete works..(at least here in europe, maybe in usa that's blacklisted already). Also in most serious (imo) legislation there's a strong distinction between pedophilia and underage sex. (0-12, 12-18) with the latter being illegal only if parents complain (something went wrong/forced etc). What I also find completely idiotic is to being unable to accept the fact that a teenager has a developed sexuality (after all in case of near mass extinction you would be grateful you can reproduce as soon as your partner has her period) but the classic religious-castrated western worldview just go tribal-brain over any sex related matter....

  150. Possibly a mild form of autism by Theovon · · Score: 1

    Every culture has a set of rules that they have to learn to get by in society. But some are more regimented than others, and some have more explicit training. Now, recent times are different, but for a few hundred years, American culture has been about individualism, while Japanese culture has been very regimented. Japanese children are very explicitly trained in procedures; American children are trained by their parents in ways that are less similar between families, and there seems to be an assumption that many subtleties will be picked up automatically. Japanese social behavior has always struck me as having a very heavy robotic component. Now, if you have a large segment of your population that is autistic, they're going to have an easier time learning a very mechanical system. So at a time when Japanese culture was more uniform and regimented, mild autism would go more unnoticed. Now that attitudes have changed in Japan, and people are more individualistic, autistic children are not being forced to engage in traditional social behaviors. So, ironically, in an age of individualism, to help these people get out of the house, some more rigorous training in Japanese traditions would do them some good (not that there's anything particularly wrong with Japanese traditions in the first place).

  151. Re:LOL by tqk · · Score: 1

    ... but the classic religious-castrated western worldview just go tribal-brain over any sex related matter

    You don't even need to drag that crap into it. It's just the recent (last century or so) attitude that "childhood" is a sacrosanct state and parents have a right and duty to enable (enforce) their precious snowflakes to remain in that pure and unsullied state as long as is physically possible. Me telling my nephews that there's no such thing as Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, or the Tooth Fairy is considered damned near child abuse. How dare I inform them of the true state of reality?!? Why make them grow up before they have to!?! Er, so they'll be armed with knowledge in order to defend themselves?

    Add all that to the reverence that eastern cultures have for male offspring, and the result (TFA) is inevitable.

    --
    "Tongue tied and twisted, just an Earth bound misfit ..." -- Pink Floyd.
  152. Re:LOL by couchslug · · Score: 2

    "Paedophilia was once commonly accepted as late as the 17-18th centuries (see also at least half of the females in Casanova's autobiography, Histoire De Ma Vie, if you want some indication of just how common)"

    Paedophilia or ephebophilia? The distinction matters.

    --
    "This post is an artistic work of fiction and falsehood. Only a fool would take anything posted here as fact."
  153. One of the biggest unexamined problems of society by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    This is not a failure brought about from overpopulation, it is a failure of society itself, of how it is structured and how it functions socially.

    These 'hikimori' are afraid of other people, and now that they are adults not being forced through the gauntlet of social pressure in school or college, they are not forced to overcome this fear (these environments, school/college, are often what caused the problem in the first place), and their social abilities may be so deteriorated in adulthood, that have no way to redevelop them which doesn't end in failure (it can be incredibly hard to recover from this as an adult).

    It's a catch-22 situation, to find yourself stuck like this as an adult (I know because this is how things are for me now), and it is a huge societal problem, that there is no real help for (psychologists can help only up to a point - it can be very difficult when many different things about society itself, makes facing these fears incredibly difficult).

    These are the people that, decades ago, would fall off the edge of society and be silently forgotten about, out of sight and out of mind from the rest of society, until they die alone or commit suicide.

    Today we have the Internet, and these people who are stuck (and, in my view, just need the right help psychologically and socially to overcome these issues - help which does not exist in an adequate/right mix today, as there is only so much a psych can do about a wider societal problem), these people are visible now and are more known because of the Internet, but there have always been people like this, just not as visible.

    Most people might get on fine in life and in society, but society and all the different/subtle societal pressures/expectations placed on others, are more fúcked up and harmful than anyone really appreciates, and cause a lot of people to invisibly fall through cracks in society.

    Personally I believe all of this can be changed, and society reformed to resolve these problems, but it's such an unexplored problem, that is so subtle and has so much depth, that I'm not sure where to really start with it all.

  154. Re: LOL by Fr33kd3m4n · · Score: 1

    If that were the case: why are they (pedophiles) still out there? Their are many laws tot protect the children from harm and the evil male population from the supposidly malicious influence of the afformentioned deplorable drawings. Laws that have to do with child pornography meet no resistance, even if they are only used tot jail teens who sext eachother. Security isn't gained by banning stuff.

  155. Re: LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Masturbating to their computer screens. Resulting in the highest occurance of screen bleaching due to the constant spraying.

  156. Easy - Because Women Are Generally Not Worth It by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Another comment to languish in the nether of -1 and beyond.

    Women, largely, aren't worth the effort. And that includes Japanese, Chinese, American, etc...

    "Oh" you say, indignation rising, "you must be one of those fucking guys who never get laid! Of course you hate them!"

    Actually, no.

    You only learn from something by experiencing it. And largely, most women I've come across are rather shallow pools of water when it comes to intellectual versus emotional, and I'm not even considering overall looks. I suppose this is where I'm obligated to put in the "Well, there are a few good ones"... but you know what, fuck it. All the little vapid chicks out there following celebrities with breathless gasps, all the trivial and petty things they think are so super important - it turns my stomach.

    And after a while, when a guy has bedded a few of these - and god forbid, actually reproduced - and has been raked over the coals by these obsessed harpies, who can rationalize any horrible thing they do by pointing at a celebrity or woman who has done so "I had an affair because I was unloved like and that is what she did - makes sense to me!" it just starts to make sense that you'd swear the whole thing off.

    "But what about sex?" you say, eyebrows raised, "Truly you can't exist without getting off with someone at the same time!"

    Yeah, that is why there are escorts, call girls, strippers, and other assortments of women who are at least honest about the transaction of money for the pleasure of pure fucking. Those women I can deal with - because they aren't offering anything beyond what was agreed upon. They don't throw emotional hissy fits or ask if their ass looks too big in a dress they just bought. And before you accuse me for being as superficial as the women I've just thrown overboard in my little rant, recall I didn't say I was doing this because they LOOKED better -- I'm doing it because I like to FUCK, and I would rather do it with someone who won't throw some little mistake I made a year ago in my face because they're angry with me over something.

    If the prior paragraphs make zero sense to you, then you've either never fucked a woman before in a relationship, or you're too young to realize that most women are using their pussies as bait to get whatever they want --- and they fucking know it. Equal rights my fucking ass - it never has been equal, and not skewed the way they say it is.

    Rant concluded.

    1. Re:Easy - Because Women Are Generally Not Worth It by neminem · · Score: 1

      Nice troll. Ok, yes, most girls suck. Most guys suck too. If every girl you've ever met was a vapid celebrity worshiper, an "obsessed harpy", you should probably look elsewhere. Or don't, I mean, I don't care at all whether you do or not; in fact, women would probably be happier if you didn't. But there *are* enough females out there who don't suck, if you look in the right places (and by that, I mean "the internet". Because that's where most of them hang out, which makes sense, since it's the same place the rest of us are hanging out.)

  157. Here in the boonies by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    in the U.S. there are not many places to go if you are not religious and don't drink. There are few (if any) good movies at the theaters. Going out to eat is expensive. Your best chance to actually meet and talk to other peopel is to go to a public park. People keep to themserlves much more than they used to. You can live somewhere for years and rarely see your neighbors, much less have a chance to talk to them.

    I am 53, and I can remember that when I was a young teenager my parents knew and visited with most of the neighbors within a block or so of our house. Of course back then we didn't have Internet, home computers, cell phones etc... We had an AM/FM stereo with a record player. Most homes had 1 color TV set, and maybe a 12 inch black and white set for the kids. There was no cable or satellite TV, just 3 or 4 chanels broadcsat over the air.

    I was encouraged to read, and I did (still do), but I was also encouraged to get outside and play with the neighbor kids.I was also a boy scout and liked to go camping. I was painfully shy as a child and teenager, but still managed to meet people and make friends (in person was the only way then).

    Cable tv, internet and cell phones make it possible to seldom have to leave one's house these days. Pretty much anything (including groceries) can be ordered via phone or internet and delivered. You can meet people online instead of in person. Kids play console games, and have cell phones to talk to friends on. They seldom have to leave home. Some folks take this to extremes.

    I don't get out much, but I do when I can. Not having a personal vehical and no decent public transportsation don't help though.

  158. the answer is simple - by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    watching a lot of pixelated porn

  159. They've discovered by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    wanking - not a city in China

  160. Japanese men locked away in Mum's basement? by doccus · · Score: 1

    In the most electronically saturated country in the world, with 4 man to each women.. I say.. Duh.. Can you say Playstation.. or XBOX or...?

  161. This story caught my eye by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    This story caught my eye, as I'm exactly one of those men, except African American.
    I try to go out once, and a while usually to the movies.

  162. "Saito himself" by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Who the fuck is Saito? Editors, PLEASE..!

  163. Boomerang Children? by bbsalem · · Score: 1

    Could this be but a special case of the wider phenomenon of children being forced to move back in with their parents because the economy doesn't give them enough resources to make it on their own? Couple that with stigma and you get recluses, albeit with Internet access. It is possible to be physically cloistered and yet have a wide electronic social network that includes job opportunities. These are not working out, perhaps.

    A figure that I heard for the U.S. is that there are several million people in their 20's who have been forced to move back in with their parents. This is perhaps the best metric for how the economy is NOT working.

  164. Re:LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Seriously, I look at a fair amount of stupid drawn porn online. I browse the 4chan/Hentai section from time to time. You know what I do when I come across something that appears to be drawings of children? Comics which are obviously about people who are still kids, or very early in puberty?

    I close them and go look for something else. The existence of these things isn't turning me into a pedophile. I am not being forced to read them, and because they do nothing for me I close them and look elsewhere.

    Your claim that people will suddenly become pedophiles because of being trained by this stuff ignores the fact that the only people who look at this stuff are the ones who are already interested in it. When it is freely available, no money spent, most people will either close it immediately and do something else, or browse curiously for 15 seconds, then close it and find something else to do.

    Non pedophiles aren't buying this stuff, then going "Oh shit, well, I guess I better force myself to like kids since I already paid for it! Duhuuurrrrr." That doesn't happen, and you are an idiot for suggesting that it does.

  165. Re:LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    The crazy thing is, the link with video games is basically disproven, 100%, but it holds a lot more ground as an argument. At least people go looking for violent video games. They see people playing it, having fun, and go look for one to try out.

    Nobody goes to someone's house, see's drawn kiddy porn, and goes "Oh, that looks fun! I better go find some!" buys it, says "Hrrm, I don't really like this. I better keep trying until I find it sexy!" and then suddenly sexualizes children. That doesn't happen.

  166. Re:LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    It's called fantasy. Sexual stimulation doesn't require a flesh-and-blood human. If you seriously think that it takes some sort of conditioning or generalization to be turned on by a sexualized image, then you're the one who needs a reality check.

  167. The Acceleration of Addictiveness by Paul+Fernhout · · Score: 1

    It is an essay by Paul Graham, not a book: http://www.paulgraham.com/addiction.html

    Sorry, the full title is "The Acceleration of Addictiveness" not "addiction".

    From there: "What hard liquor, cigarettes, heroin, and crack have in common is that they're all more concentrated forms of less addictive predecessors. Most if not all the things we describe as addictive are. And the scary thing is, the process that created them is accelerating. ...
        Already someone trying to live well would seem eccentrically abstemious in most of the US. That phenomenon is only going to become more pronounced. You can probably take it as a rule of thumb from now on that if people don't think you're weird, you're living badly. ...
        But if I'm right about the acceleration of addictiveness, then this kind of lonely squirming to avoid it will increasingly be the fate of anyone who wants to get things done. We'll increasingly be defined by what we say no to."

    There is an argument I've seen elewhere that it is good to get hooked on "healthy" addictions while you are younger -- for example, the joy of helping others, or the splendor of walking in nature, or some challenging "hard fun" productive enterprise like metal working or playing the piano, and so on.

    One of the values of conventional religion is it may steer us away from some self-destructive behaviors including addiction -- especially by peer pressure. One example of a such a long lived population:
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seventh-day_Adventist_Church
    "The church is also known for its emphasis on diet and health, ..."

    On "The Pleasure Trap":
    http://www.drfuhrman.com/library/article16.aspx
    http://www.healthpromoting.com/the-pleasure-trap
    http://www.amazon.com/The-Pleasure-Trap-Mastering-Undermines/dp/1570671974

    On "Supernormal Stimuli":
    http://www.amazon.com/Supernormal-Stimuli-Overran-Evolutionary-Purpose/dp/B0057DC3VY
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Supernormal_stimulus

    Thanks for asking and looking into this.

    --
    A 21st century issue: the irony of technologies of abundance in the hands of those still thinking in terms of scarcity.
    1. Re:The Acceleration of Addictiveness by kermidge · · Score: 1

      That's one of the things touched on in Rober S. De Ropp's The Master Game from back early Seventies (well, when I read it).

      The pleasure trap is a trip, and it relates well to other addictions, I think. When I look to my own experience with foods, alcohol, tobacco, caffeine, it fits pretty well. The only odd man out for me were with the psychedelics - my rate and dose did not increase over time, my enjoyment remained fairly steady; I simply reached a place where all I could get from them had been gotten. The legal stuffs... well, that's a different story.

      Interesting essay and some good links, thanks.

      Btw, I own you an apology from a little while back: you posted three lengthy replies to me which I found good but a bit overwhelming. I read some of the linked material, checked out your site(s), and kept wanting to reply but frankly didn't know where to start. And I continue to read on some of it - largely the econ-related things. (Brain I stumbled across by accident earlier this year; Manna makes a good read and a fine cautionary tale.) Anyway, my bad; I could have at least thanked you.

    2. Re:The Acceleration of Addictiveness by Paul+Fernhout · · Score: 1

      No apology needed; thanks for the thought though. Glad if you found some of the stuff I wrote interesting or useful. Probably you finding anything I wrote interesting is explained by the psychedelics? :-)

      Yeah, it's hard to know where to start sometimes, especially with complex interwoven stuff like this:
      http://slashdot.org/comments.pl?sid=3862853&cid=44084615

      Sometimes the best way to start is just to stop. :-)

      I just came off a ten day water-only fast I started the evening after visiting someone I know who is in a hospice with an inoperable brain tumor. I've been meaning to get back to fasting for a while to reset my taste buds, and that (along with some other things) was enough to get me over some threshold. Now I've moved onto vegetable juices, and this afternoon had a bit of shitake mushroom and kale soup with wakame and some brown rice miso. Most of the fast fit over weekends or holidays. I would have fasted longer, but had to get back to various obligations that require moving around more (which is not that compatible with fasting, when your body tries to conserve energy so every movement feels harder). I've done one longer fast before about three years ago (31 days) which I had built up to after five or six other much shorter fasts. I got interested in fasting mainly from reading "The Pleasure Trap" book. I actually found Fuhrman's nutrition (and fasting) stuff while already fasting. But, there are many reasons why water-only fasting is not right for everyone. And ultimately the biggest benefits come from eating well, so fasting by itself may not help much unless it is part of a general shift.

      I might continue some juice "fasting" or "feasting" for a time, but it is a totally different thing from water-only fasting.

      In water-only fasting, the body switches into fat-burning ketogenic mode and does more garbage collection like of pre-cancerous stuff it is suggested. Basically, water-only fasting boosts the immune system in otherwise healthy people, which can help destroy pre-cancerous cells, plus the body is selectively breaking down problematical tissues it is claimed, and also cancer cells run off of sugar but when your body goes ketonic, normal cells go into self-protective mode and generally burn fat, but cancer cells don't and so still need sugar and so starve. Spending some time in the sun helps too, giving vitamin D to help the immune system do its job. Lots to learn, the most important thing is to break a long fast slowly on simple water-heavy foods like vegetable juice or part of an orange:
      http://www.marksdailyapple.com/fasting-cancer/
      http://www.soilandhealth.org/02/0201hyglibcat/020127shelton.III/020127.toc.htm
      http://www.amazon.com/Fasting-Eating-Health-Medical-Conquering/dp/031218719X
      http://www.quickfasting.com/

      Fasting is not something someone on any kind of prescription medication should do without coordinating it with their doctors, as medication needs will likely change, or the medication dose may need to be tapered off beforehand. Dr. Joel Fuhrman knows a lot about that sort of thing, and his group does phone consultations. The True North Health Center in CA is another great place (the authors of the Pleasure Trap help run it).
      http://www.healthpromoting.com/

      Anyway, it's a fine balance of psychology to navigate health and our society and possible addictions. Our lower level drives (as in the Pleasure Trap) to seek pleasure, avoid pain, and minimize energy use, are generally directing us to healthy ways to be (at least in a pre-historic world). But the newer part of our brain has helped make

      --
      A 21st century issue: the irony of technologies of abundance in the hands of those still thinking in terms of scarcity.
  168. Re:LOL by Sardaukar86 · · Score: 1

    Proxies will be the next illegal item and then something else. utter subversive tosh.

    How I wish I could disregard this as the ravings of a loon. Unfortunately you are absolutely correct; the evidence we've all seen is that efforts to pressure VPN providers have already begun.

    Chilling times indeed.

    --
    ..Mullah or Pope, Preacher or Poet, who was it wrote: "Give any one species too much rope and they'll fuck it up"?
  169. Re:LOL by metaforest · · Score: 1

    The Chinese raised warfare to an art, via Sun Tzu. The Japanese raised individual (Samurai) combat to a high art via Miyazaki Musashi.

    Two great books that go together Sun Tzu's 'The Art of War', and Miyazaki Musashi's 'A Book of Five Rings' both are fascinating works that can profoundly change ones outlook on life when studied.

  170. Hikikomori since 1945 ... by Dabido · · Score: 1

    We refuse to leave our rooms unless the Emperor himself orders us to surrender!!!!

    --
    Sure enough, the cow costume was hanging up next to the superhero outfit and sailors uniform. (S,Spud)
  171. Re:LOL by tqk · · Score: 1

    I stand corrected. I'd forgotten about Sun Tzu. Thanks for the pointer to Miyazaki Musashi. I'll look for it.

    --
    "Tongue tied and twisted, just an Earth bound misfit ..." -- Pink Floyd.
  172. We created the Hikikomori's. by sim2com · · Score: 1

    Fending for oneself... is something my generation (babyboomers) had to do simply because our parents did not have the financial means to provide us with free board and lodging. Our parents' concern was what we, their children, would do to earn a life (work, cook, wash clothes etc. rather than earn a degree.) For entertainment, babyboomers had to be creative (making our own toys), and spending most of our time outdoors (TV, especially daytime TV, was boring.) We didn't have the luxury of classifying our food to likes and dislikes... we had them, but we still had to eat what was put in front of us on the dining table or go to bed hungry. Those of us babyboomers who succeeded in life (I think it's safe to assume most of us did succeed in life) then shielded our own children from the social pressures that we had to go through to earn a life (work, cook, wash clothes). So instead of teaching our children about the absolute need to earn a life, we shifted the attention to earn a degree. We gave them almost anything they want... food and drinks they like, cool electronic gadgets, and the like. We literally spoiled our children with the minimum of hands-on training in life. How many of us are guilty of not teaching our children to do home chores -- cleaning the toilet, washing dishes and clothes, washing windows... you name it? In the meantime, the means of entertainment changed drastically. 24-hour, full color TV programs for all kinds of interest, game consols, Internet (virtual realities, virtual friends, and even virtual jobs) were "free" for the asking. The youth could stay at home and enjoy anything for free, including free board and lodging. The problem is that all of them are enjoyed indoors. We have taught our own children to consider work at Starbucks, bookstores, Walmart, McDonald's lowly jobs not worth doing by giving up the freebees at home. The babyboomer generation considered any kind of work as respectful, and certainly better than remaining a leech at home; but this is no longer the case with the young we have raised. Small wonder that after graduation (high school or even university), the young think they have secured their target in life (or what we, their parents, have taught them to aim for), and never leave home where all the good things in life are free. The young can be very agressive at communcation only if it is virtual (email, texting, on-line chat), but are uterly shy and ineffective at human face-to-face communcation. Many can't look at a person eye-to-eye. They have become weak at unspoken language; they can't read body language and often take spoken language quite literally... as one normally would do with written, brief notes on social network services. They are unable to take both the good and bad of real world social life. They want only the good... something that is possible only by living virtual lives and staying at home. Certainly, not all of the young are like what I describe them to be above. But the Hikikomori's are. We can point the fault at ourselves for creating the Hikikomori's.

  173. Re:Perfect natural, healthy reaction to circumstan by MrGrey1 · · Score: 1

    It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society. Jiddu Krishnamurti

  174. umm by shiruba1067 · · Score: 1

    Well first of all, it's not just men, but people in general. People who put in long hours all week tend to have one of Two reactions. one, they want to go out and have crazy fun on the weekend's. Two, they just want to sleep and be left alone to watch tv, web browser, watch tv and whatever. They have to deal with people all week, so they want some down time. most of people get that every day, but Japan has a lot of people working 12 hours a day with 2-4 hours of train time. Add in time to get ready in the morning and time to eat and take a shower, it doesn't leave a lot of time for hobbies. when someone asks you of you want to go drinking Friday night or whatever, past of you thinks "hell yeah!", while part of you thinks "meh, maybe I'll just go home and catch up on some sleep." Add to that the fact that salary is still largely related to age at a lot of places, and you end up with cheap asses who want to stay at their parent's house and avoid going out to save money.

  175. Rejection massively reduces IQ by NewYork · · Score: 1
  176. Society sucks by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I interact with society as little as possible. It is a good policy to ensure health and sanity.

    I have an MS in CS, so why would I need to be some corporate slave? I work when I want, on what I want and live comfortably with zero debt.

    A person is a nasty, stupid creature.

    Put 10 or 50 or 5000 of them together and you have shit that is best avoided.

    Don't call me an assburger because

    1. I am not autistic
    2. Assburger's is going away as a diagnosis
    3. It is a rational and intelligent choice I made.

  177. Re: LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    If conditioning is the issue, why does depiction violent deaths rate PG-13 in a movie rating while making a baby is NC-17? Admittedly movie ratings and laws are different fameworks.

  178. Re:Parents! by Winckle · · Score: 1

    He's referring to this mess of a human being: https://encyclopediadramatica.se/Chris-chan

  179. Re:Parents! by DrGamez · · Score: 1

    I'd rather not read something off ED. Most of it's lies and the other half are people with grudge-wanks. If he's on there I assume he's just some poor soul that happened to be near a keyboard while being stupid.

  180. Women in the U.S. are extremely hostile by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    You seem to know NOTHING about what is happening in U.S. society. Women in the U.S. are extremely hostile toward men.

    1. Re:Women in the U.S. are extremely hostile by XcepticZP · · Score: 1

      Perhaps you should move to a different country, then. And judging from the english that guy was using, I don't think he's living in America, either.

  181. Re:LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    And of course being into anime means liking lolicon, shotacon and all those sexually perverse child porn manga and anime. Japan being the last civilised country where possession of child porn is legal. Go figure. These people are creepy as hell, so no wonder a subclass of those anime fans are even more creepy.
    When you account that Japan has a very conservative and group think type kind of society, being individualistic, strange is 1000 times worse than in western societies. So its no wonder this hikikimori phenomenon is so prevalent down there.

    Bigotry

  182. Proximity axiom! by HornWumpus · · Score: 1

    Proximity axiom: Pussy makes you crazy.

    Think how crazy the little bit of pussy you get makes/made you. Women are attached. Pussy makes you crazy. It's an interesting kind of crazy. Hidden states are key.

    Useful phrases related: I don't know; What do I think of that dress?

    --
    John McAfee 'It was like that time I hired that Bangkok prostitute; to do my taxes, while I fucked my accountant'
  183. Maybe not 20 by colinrichardday · · Score: 1

    Victoria this week announced an inquiry into whether the punishments for sexting — which can include 10 years in jail and registration as a sex offender — are too harsh.

    Read more: http://www.news.com.au/technology/states-lead-the-way-in-reviewing-sexting-punishments/story-e6frfro0-1226122171777#ixzz2YwsctLfK

  184. Re:LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    The basis of laws surrounding it is that the production of child porn harms a child

    I think the basis for any suggested law regarding sexuality is not that it's a beneficial law but that people have strong feelings about it. The law may be passed or not passed because of its perceived beneficial effect on society, but in suggesting the law it's often the highly emotional who beat the others to it. It's entirely possible that the reason these laws were suggested were emotional, and the reason for the law passing can be equally emotional, as I will seek to prove below.

    What http://www.the-scientist.com/?articles.view/articleNo/28803/title/Porn--Good-for-us-/ tells us is that the existence of porn reduces abuse towards the objects of desire in said porn. Porn in general decreases rapes and other abuses that are typically directed towards women; child porn decreases child abuse, especially of the sexual kind.

    So why do we have laws that criminalize the possession of child porn, when their net effect is detrimental to the society? For example if you provide the authorities with proof of child abuse by submitting a child molestation video or image to them, you're also proving your guilt with possessing said piece of evidence. Even in Finland that would get you convincted, but the U.S. has taken a step further making said "offenders" be included in a public registry, requiring to identify themselves as such and so forth. And even when a piece of child porn isn't submitted to assist in an investigation, studies show that this access to child porn reduces child abuse, so criminalizing it increases child abuse.

    Arguably the most beneficial option for a society would be to disallow the production of child porn, but allow the possession of it and to be careful not to put any stigma on the issue. Harming a person is bad, harming a child is especially bad, but we watch movies with people committing wanton murder all the time without killing anyone ourselves. We haven't banned the possession of videos where one person really harms another, except when and only when it is of sexual nature.

    It is most likely that the laws regarding child and animal porn exist for emotional reasons. The stated beneficial effects on the society are, according to the studies, a non-truth used to justify the means.

  185. Re:LOL by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Might also be due to the One Percent moving all the jobs and hope to China

    How does something like that get modded up? That's just an expression of deliberate ignorance, a term I don't use lightly.

    When a certain function is offshored, it is a temporary setback to the employee that used to do it, but it is for everyone's benefit - including his or hers. First, it saves the company money, which is always a good thing in and of itself. Second, it saves money for everyone buying from the company, because they company is now more competitive and can afford to reflect this in prices to drive more sales. Third, it is for the benefit of the person receiving the job.

    Fourth, the people who used to do lower-value jobs that are now outsourced now have the option to switch to doing a higher-value job. It usually takes a moment of retraining and sometimes means finishing the college you once dropped out of, but after the adjustment period you'll end up better off partly because you now have a better education and job, partly because your previous employer is more competetive and adds up to a society that is able to provide a higher standard of living.

    If you want to pay your lazy cousin to do a job that someone would do for half the money, you're free to do so, but if you're that lazy cousin, you have no business complaining when you got fired and the other person got hired. People complaining of jobs being offshored are not just that lazy cousin but racist, too: to them a job in, say, U.S. is a better thing than a job in, say, China. In effect: people near me are more valuable human beings than people who happen to live further away and speak a different language.

    PS. To smoothen out the Fourth benefit above, companies in Finland are required to be very nice to employees who are laid off. Offering them other jobs within the company and the training to match thos is common in big companies. The second alternative is sponsoring them with the training required to land a job outside the company. Often the society helps (hooray, welfare state!), so when you're one of the thousands fired from Nokia, you're guaranteed to get into all kinds of courses and support programs. You also get the severance package which can be huge in itself, and when you're fired, you're also entitled to unemployment benefits from the first day when you stop getting salary (not sure how severance pay is counted). Many are members of "työttömyyskassa" which you could translate as an unemployment insurance (you pay a tiny fee, and if you get unemployed, they'll pay you 60-80% of your past salary for years). If something like these missing from the U.S., it's not the fault of a company optimizing its operations, its ultimately the fault of voters not requesting their administration to develop the society in good ways.

  186. Back in the day by BenEnglishAtHome · · Score: 1

    I think the basis for any suggested law regarding sexuality is not that it's a beneficial law but that people have strong feelings about it.

    Where cp is the subject, not originally. I'm not going to bother to update an admittedly imperfect summary for this discussion; I'll just post a link: http://news.slashdot.org/comments.pl?cid=27362943&sid=1178395