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90% of Gaming Addiction Patients Not Addicted

phorm writes "BBC is carrying an article which states that 90% of visitors to Europe's 'video game addiction clinic' are not, in fact, addicted. The problem is a social one rather than a psychological issue. In other words, the patients have turned to heavy gaming because they felt they didn't fit in elsewhere, or that they fit in better 'in the game' than elsewhere in 'the real world.' This has been discussed before, with arguments ranging from gaming being a good way to socialize, the clinical definition of gaming addiction, and claims than males are wired for video-game addiction."

333 comments

  1. addiction? by Janek+Kozicki · · Score: 5, Funny

    I just stopped playing ufo: enemy unknown in dosbox, to refresh slashodot.

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    1. Re:addiction? by Fluffeh · · Score: 4, Funny

      I would love to reply, but I am busy grinding my sixth level 80 toon in World of Warcraft. Only came here as I was on a loading screen. Bye - got to go grind again now.

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    2. Re:addiction? by davolfman · · Score: 1

      Why, why did you have to mention that! Now I'll be stuck hunting down crysallids for the next week!

    3. Re:addiction? by Prof.Phreak · · Score: 1

      And the only reason why I just logged in is 'cause WoW crashed, and I can't seem to login :-(

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    4. Re:addiction? by Culture20 · · Score: 1

      You too? Uncanny. My game has become tedious, 8 bases filled with workshops and living quarters making Laser Cannons for no good reason, but I can't stop. I need a UFOGlider for the grind.

    5. Re:addiction? by aliquis · · Score: 1

      Too good Blizzard didn't made the real world when. "Omg, crash, everything's gone, stay tuned while we create a new one."

    6. Re:addiction? by Godji · · Score: 1

      What do you mean, there's a world that's more real? Where do I go to download that?

    7. Re:addiction? by lavardo · · Score: 1

      And the same here...then my wife runs in..."Honey, I need the computer for a few minutes"...2 hours later, I'm yelling... "Sargeras had spoken the truth...MOVE!"

    8. Re:addiction? by aliquis · · Score: 2, Funny
    9. Re:addiction? by ikkonoishi · · Score: 1

      You fool! The Chrysalids could be coming for you as we speak. Quickly. Assure you have long site lines and a high rate of fire and damage weapon. I recommend an auto-cannon with HE rounds because you can never blow alien scum into too many pieces.

    10. Re:addiction? by Erie+Ed · · Score: 0

      Please please just do me one favor...if you ever go outside again please wear some sunblock SPF 10000000

    11. Re:addiction? by DiamondMX · · Score: 1

      Has anyone patented RL yet?

    12. Re:addiction? by aliquis · · Score: 1

      I wonder if someone some day will refused to use RL because it's "not invented here."

    13. Re:addiction? by Msbehavin · · Score: 1

      yeh that WOW thing haha i know how your feel... just finished duel boxing up 6 toons haha to get to lvl 60 with my Refer a friend bonus and now start the two from 70 to 80 today haha...if your not playing computers your watching tv whats the difference, your still sat on your bum...reading and typing this whilst in a que for WOW..im not sure if this is worse being female ..hmm:)

  2. I'm addicted to Slashdot by Abreu · · Score: 4, Funny

    ...or at least that's what I'll claim if I am ever confronted by my employers about my internet usage logs at work

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    1. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by pitchpipe · · Score: 1

      In other words, the patients have turned to heavy gaming because they felt they didn't fit in elsewhere, or that they fit in better 'in the game' than elsewhere in 'the real world.'

      Que ChongSpeak
      "Hey man, you're not addicted, just 'cuz your smokin' it all the time man doesn't mean you're addicted, you just don't fit in in the real world like all of us, man."

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    2. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by loopinvariant · · Score: 1

      What do you mean, there are logs?

    3. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by Architect_sasyr · · Score: 1

      If your admin isn't secretly keeping logs of you then (s)he is doing something very wrong. And very nice.

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    4. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by peragrin · · Score: 1

      unless of course your keeping the logs of what the admin is doing.

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    5. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by mrfriendly · · Score: 1

      WTF? Don't use my username as your pornsite bitch!

    6. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by Jarjarthejedi · · Score: 4, Funny

      Don't worry, we've logged your logging of our logs and will be discussion your logging policies in the future.

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    7. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by osu-neko · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I've been employed at several companies that kept employee net usage logs. Of course, I was always the one charged with keeping and auditing the logs. My idea of what constituted behavior worth investigating and reporting was always limited to hacking attempts, security breaches and such. None of my employers made any more specific rules regarding what they meant by "inappropriate". :)

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    8. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by lavardo · · Score: 1

      I'm an admin. so, there are no logs.

    9. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by lavardo · · Score: 1

      i'm curious...
      Is using 1/2 the company's bandwidth for FACEBOOK inappropriate?

    10. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by Architect_sasyr · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Not when you are admin for a media company or a sales firm. Both people are required to be on the cutting edge of trends. Same applies to a receptionist though that's just because I know she's bored (so long as it doesn't affect her work).

      Incidentally if you can get a job as a Digital Researcher that is justification to surf porn on the job (Porn used bluray rather than HD - as a rule not a definition - and look what "won" the market).

      Should the beancounters be on facebook? No. Should they be permitted on the Internet? Hell no.

      Just because it's a shitty site doesn't mean it's a problem.

      Just a thought.

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    11. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by rgviza · · Score: 1

      Where I work they log everything, but never look at it unless you fail as an employee and they need a reason to fire you. They'd probably also look at it if they needed to lay people off...

      -Viz

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    12. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by theaveng · · Score: 1

      >>>Porn used bluray rather than HD

      False. Every site I ever visited released their content on both Bluray and HD-DVD. And the same was true back in the 1970s - it was available on both VHS and Betamax. See? (Holds up Playboy on Betamax.) Neither war was determined by the porn industry.

      Not that I'm some kind of expert.

      (puts on trenchcoat and slinks off)

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    13. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by EvilVassago · · Score: 1

      We apologize again for the fault in the logging. Those responsible for logging the people who have just been logging your logs are being logged.

    14. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I LOL'd.

      Thanks for putting in the time to post that comment.

      Signed-

      The True Slashdotters (those who read at -1).

    15. Re:I'm addicted to Slashdot by Architect_sasyr · · Score: 1

      False

      Probably. But you don't need to tell your manager that ;)

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  3. No I'm not addicted.. by i_want_you_to_throw_ · · Score: 4, Funny
    Take your pick.....
    • Ik kan ophouden met wanneer ik wil
    • Je peux stopper quand je veux
    • Ich kann beendigen, wenn ich wünsche
    • Posso rinunciare quando voglio
    • Eu posso parar quando eu quero
    • Puedo parar cuando quiero
    1. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by ChrisMP1 · · Score: 1

      Talk about a showoff. Do you really know Dutch, French, German, Italian, Portuguese, and Spanish, or did you Babelfish it? Add "Mi povas chesighi kiam mi volas.", though I know I'll get yelled at for speaking Esperanto. For all the monoglots out there, that's "I can stop when I want to."

      - P.S. "chesighi" should be "cesigi", with a circumflex ^ over C and G. Is /. really so far behind times that it can't handle Unicode?

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    2. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by tomhudson · · Score: 2, Informative

      and "stopper" is "franglais," not french ... :-)

    3. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by mrsteveman1 · · Score: 1

      You forgot one

      Click click pop click pop click

    4. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Warhawke · · Score: 1

      Je pense que vous voulez dire "arretêr", pas stopper.

    5. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0
      Most certainly babelfished. The German would be "Ich kann aufhören, wenn ich möchte".

      P.S. ./ handles some unicode in html (3.2) if you choose "html formatted". ö would be & # 246; without the spaces, of course.

    6. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Scottar · · Score: 1

      (Doubt that worked)

    7. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Yvan256 · · Score: 1

      Je pense que vous voulez dire "arrÃter", pas "arretÃr".

    8. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Yvan256 · · Score: 2, Funny

      Godamn slashdot can't even get UTF-8 right.

      That should have been:
      Je pense que vous voulez dire "arrêter", pas "arretêr".

    9. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by jonaskoelker · · Score: 1

      For all the monoglots out there

      And also for those who only speak their native language and English. Or their native language, Russian and English. Or the seven different languages spoken natively and locally on their non-Europe continent, and English.

      Is /. really so far behind times that it can't handle Unicode?

      I'd like to confidently say that parent shows up as "wÃf¼nsche", but I don't know how that string looks to you.

    10. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by dougisfunny · · Score: 2, Funny

      or Bork bork bork, bork bork bork.

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    11. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by DrEasy · · Score: 1

      Not sure about that... In France, stop signs say "stop". (In Quebec however, stop signs say "Arret", but that's a whole other can of worms...)

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    12. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by hairyfeet · · Score: 2, Funny

      Or Durka Durka Durka JIHAD! Durka Durka!

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    13. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Thiez · · Score: 2, Informative

      Your Dutch is wrong. You're saying 'I can stop with when I want'.

    14. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Well, I'm sure, and *both* stopper and franglais were used incorrectly.

      Stopper means to block an opening, such as "put a stopper in the test
      tube so it can't spill". This specific meaning applies perfectly well
      to traffic, where a stop sign acts as a stopper to prevent side street
      traffic from spilling into a main road. But the word has nothing to do
      with "halting an activity".

      Franglais is when a word of English is used as if it were French, even
      tho the official government body, L'Academie Francaise, hasn't sanctioned
      the new word as being French. An example is "le computer", which the academy
      replaced with l'ordinator, another example is "le weekend" which hasn't been
      formally replaced. Using stopper instead of s'arreter is not franglais,
      it is merely an error.

      Some will joke, but keep in mind also that the French practically invented
      diplomacy (that alternative to war, before George Bush had us eating "freedom
      fries" and dumping perfectly good wine into the streets because France didn't want
      to go to war against Saddam before finding out whether he had any WMD's or not.)

      For centuries and still today, France's diplomats are often asked to help
      other nations negotiate peace treaties. Sometimes the treaties themselves are
      written in French even when the parties are not French-speaking nations). Computer
      folks especially understand how different languages are best suited for different
      purposes. With French it's diplomacy.

    15. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      • Ik kan ophouden wanneer ik wil

      There, fixed your Dutch for you. :)

    16. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Petersson · · Score: 1

      Not sure about that... In France, stop signs say "stop". (In Quebec however, stop signs say "Arret", but that's a whole other can of worms...)

      It also says "Alan" in Wales, but that's different story.

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    17. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by SalaSSin · · Score: 1

      Sorry do be a bore, but it is french... arreter is better and more widely used, but stopper is completely correct.

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    18. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by pjt33 · · Score: 1

      You want a subjunctive in the Spanish: puedo parar cuando quiera. It's hypothetical because I may never want to stop.

    19. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Chrisje · · Score: 1

      Incorrect.

      I can stop when I want to, would turn into "Ik kan ophouden wanneer ik wil" but more likely would be "als ik wou kon ik stoppen" given the context.

      Similarly, in German it would turn into "Ich kann aufhören wenn ich will / wünsche" but infinitely more elegant would be "Ich könnte aufhören wenn ich die Wille dazu hätte" or "Ich könnte aufhören wenn ich möchte", where "wenn" also could be stressed more by using "wann" or "wann immer".

      Now in Swedish I would say "Jag kan sluta när jag vill" but again, given the context I would probably think "Om jag hade viljan skulle jag kunna sluta när som helst" is much more elegant.

      To cut a long story short: I would argue this is a Babelfish entry. But a damn funny one.

    20. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The correct way to say it in french is:

      Je m'arrête quand je veux.

      We would never use the can/pouvoir verbe in that context (unless we were translating from English).

    21. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Lafeek · · Score: 1

      "Stopper" est français, utilisé pour la première fois en 1841 selon le Petit Robert. Il provient de l'anglais "to stop".

    22. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by aliquis · · Score: 1

      I don't know what you was hinting at but they say stop in Sweden to even though the word in swedish is stopp. It makes more sense with the same spelling in all countries for some reason ...

    23. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by aliquis · · Score: 1

      US-ASCII 'ought to be enough for everyone.

      I can also show off:
      * suka blyad
      * sobaka
      * pidoras
      * mudak
      * pushla na huy

      Oh the joy of playing wc3 with a russian :D

    24. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by aliquis · · Score: 1

      Jaja, aber Kartoffelbrei, ich bin mit der Fernsehrturm verheiraten!

    25. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Killjoy_NL · · Score: 1

      The dutch sentence should be without "met"
      So he doesn't know dutch :P

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    26. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Flipao · · Score: 1

      Puedo parar cuando quiero

      That'd be "quiera", quiero is present tense. :P

    27. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Chrisje · · Score: 2, Funny

      The French had to invent diplomacy due to the quality of their armed forces.

      After all, the 4 DEFCON Levels in France are:

      4 - Hide
      3 - Run
      2 - Surrender
      1 - Collaborate

    28. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by cp.tar · · Score: 1

      Add "Mi povas chesighi kiam mi volas.", though I know I'll get yelled at for speaking Esperanto.

      Damn straight. Geeks speak lojban.

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    29. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Cro+Magnon · · Score: 1

      Of course, the people who speak 7 languages, but not English, Esperanto, or the other languages the poster used are out of luck. :)

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    30. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by internerdj · · Score: 1

      They say stop in the US but you probably already knew that...

    31. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Cor-cor · · Score: 1

      Will this be the perfect troll that finally gets modded up to +5? I sure hope so.

    32. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Liath · · Score: 1

      Take your pick.....

      • Ik kan ophouden met wanneer ik wil
      • Je peux stopper quand je veux
      • Ich kann beendigen, wenn ich wünsche
      • Posso rinunciare quando voglio
      • Eu posso parar quando eu quero
      • Puedo parar cuando quiero

      [x] Hubacurafuto no naka ni unagi ga ippai desu

    33. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by Pescar · · Score: 1

      That's Allan, you tard :P

      If welsh nationalists were more technologically aware, they'd be one of the biggest forces in the interwebs :)

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    34. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by tomhudson · · Score: 1
      "stopper" is franglais , just as "le crankshaft", "les brake", "le windshield", "le steering" "les boys", "wat de fuck!", "ambourger", "club sammich", "le grader" (road grader), "bulldozer", "CD", "DVD", "all-dress" (all-dressed pizza or hotdog, d'oh), "drill", "driller", "LCD" (now means a monitor), "blutoot'" (pretty much exclusively used for bluetooth cell phone headsets), "'umancoke" (rum and coke), "des chip" (potato chips, as opposed to french fries)

      To framglicize a word, you have to drop any 'h' at the beginning, slur it together, and give it a bad accent.

    35. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by ld+a,b · · Score: 1

      Or Kri Jaffa, Kri!

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    36. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by dreamsofcaffeine · · Score: 1

      Ihr Deutsch ist ja wahrlich grauenhaft! Es heiÃYt `beenden', Sie Inkompetenzbolzen! Ueberhaupt: Bei `beenden' benoetigt man ein Objekt, bei `aufhoeren' aber nicht. Insofern: Setzen, Sechs!

    37. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by dreamsofcaffeine · · Score: 1

      Oh, curse /. and its nonexistent support of UTF-8 (or at least extended ASCII). It's `heißt'.

    38. Re:No I'm not addicted.. by danieltdp · · Score: 1

      Your Dutch is wrong. You're saying 'I can stop with when I want'.

      and it should be: 'I can't stop with when I want'.

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  4. No comments? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Everyone else must be addicted to video games...

  5. Really? by Darkness404 · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Why do people still listen to the media is beyond me. Every single year they come up with something that is either A) addicting and damaging to minds B) corrupting the family/children/society or C) is somehow harmful. Be it rock and roll, cell phones, video games, comic books, etc, the media always comes up with some "studies" to back them up while two months later showing studies that prove just the opposite is true, why haven't people realized that the media has cried wolf far too many times and just tune the crap out?

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    1. Re:Really? by causality · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Why do people still listen to the media is beyond me. Every single year they come up with something that is either A) addicting and damaging to minds B) corrupting the family/children/society or C) is somehow harmful. Be it rock and roll, cell phones, video games, comic books, etc, the media always comes up with some "studies" to back them up while two months later showing studies that prove just the opposite is true, why haven't people realized that the media has cried wolf far too many times and just tune the crap out?

      Because maybe the only real addiction we have is allowing self-appointed "experts" and authorities to do our thinking for us.

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    2. Re:Really? by Ethanol-fueled · · Score: 5, Insightful

      The problem is a social one rather than a psychological issue. In other words, the patients have turned to $ADDICTION because they felt they didn't fit in elsewhere,

      Fixed. A good support system is a cure for all but the most virulent psychoses, but there's a lot of money to be made on medicalizing things which are otherwise curable through a support system. Unfortunately, most addicts are given drugs and/or forced to attend $ADDICTION anonymous meetings which do more harm that good: If you were a drunk, would want to do be forced into a smoke-filled room crammed in with other folks who are just as pissed for being there as you are, probably fiending for drinks? Also, the "higher power" thing dosen't work for atheists.

    3. Re:Really? by isBandGeek() · · Score: 1

      Because many people don't know how to approach a media report with skepticism.

    4. Re:Really? by philspear · · Score: 1

      Why do people still listen to the media is beyond me.

      Well, media which is wrong even most of the time is still more accurate than ignorance.

      It's also in reality easier to tell what's crap and what's important. Professional pundits making predictions about anything, "doctors" talking about new societal diseases, economists making predictions, celebrity news, "human interest stories" that don't involve actual suffering... that's purely for entertainment purposes, or should be.

    5. Re:Really? by Captain+Splendid · · Score: 4, Funny

      Also, the "higher power" thing dosen't work for atheists.

      Doesn't really 'work' for the faithful either, but don't tell them! I like them confused.

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    6. Re:Really? by Digital+End · · Score: 1

      so do the priests and televangalists who feed off of them

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    7. Re:Really? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Addicting is not a word, you fucking douchebag.

    8. Re:Really? by morgan_greywolf · · Score: 1

      Unfortunately, most addicts are given drugs and/or forced to attend $ADDICTION anonymous meetings which do more harm that good: If you were a drunk, would want to do be forced into a smoke-filled room crammed in with other folks who are just as pissed for being there as you are, probably fiending for drinks?

      Hmmmm...have you been to $ADDICTION anonymous meetings? Most of the people there are not pissed off, at least not at the good meetings. Most aren't court ordered, either.

      Also, the "higher power" thing dosen't work for atheists.

      Sure it does. Check this guy out. Atheists just usually say something along the lines of 'higher power' == 'the power of the program' or some such.

      Really. Don't knock the 12 Step programs until you've tried them -- in earnest.

    9. Re:Really? by MindlessAutomata · · Score: 4, Insightful

      What the hell are you talking about?

      Yes, a good support system is VERY important for just about every psychological disorder or problem, but it is not a cure-all and and it not guarantee.

      If you admit that our psychology derives from brain (and body) workings and that internal states and behaviors are affected by chemical changes, then it stands to reason that many psychological problems may be due to, say, certain brain circuitry being more prone to fire and/or some abnormality or otherwise undesirable neurotransmitter activity.

      Too many people assume, "make them think positive thoughts, the problem will fix itself" and don't realize that the negative thoughts are a product of biological function and may be due to the chemical or neural activity.

      Drugs are usually not meant to be taken alone without treatment. They're supposed to be given along with therapy, often some form of cognitive-behavioral therapy. They're also given to help improve the quality of life in the short term during therapy.

      As for $ADDICTION Anonymous meetings, it is a well-known fact that recovery pretty much requires that the person actually be motivated to recover. Additionally, people being treated for addictions, usually in rehab, are usually told to avoid anything addicting; people in rehab often cannot even eat chocolate or drink coffee. AA is not the only addiction support group people can join; if a judge sentences someone to AA specifically he's an idiot.

      I suspect you're thinking of Penn & Teller's Bullshit! episode here. While they do make some good arguments, I don't think their point was more to the arbitrary nature of the 12-step programs and not the actual support groups themselves. Silly things like recognizing a higher power and other stuff, that's nonsense, but providing motivations for recovery, goalposts that they can look forward to--basically rewards--does help work.

      But, even past all this, sometimes drugs really are necessary. No single treatment is ever a true guarantee.

    10. Re:Really? by RyuuzakiTetsuya · · Score: 1

      I really do trust someone like Lancet or any number of medical journals to give me the skinny on a particular topic based on tons of clinical trials and thousands of pages of raw data and meta analyses.

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    11. Re:Really? by deraj123 · · Score: 1

      Good point. I have witnessed this as well. I attended two AA meetings a number of years ago (court ordered, I was underage). On top of being a very sobering experience, it was also a very warming experience. I was the only person required to be there, everyone else seemed truly interested in their own salvation. From all of the various people there, in different walks of life, at different stages in the program, they all wanted to be there. The support they provided each other, the encouragement, was truly amazing.

      I mentioned that I was ordered to the meetings - wasn't due to any alcoholism, just part of an underage drinking charge. I believe the intent was exposure, and it certainly had an effect on me. When I first went, I had no interest in being there, and was a little pissed. By the end of the first meeting I was simply impressed, and at the second meeting I wasn't mad at all - the meetings were too inspiring (and depressing at the same time) to be mad about.

    12. Re:Really? by andreyvul · · Score: 1

      Well, media which is wrong even most of the time is still more accurate than ignorance.

      Egad! Is Fox news really more accurate than ignorance?

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    13. Re:Really? by elloGov · · Score: 0

      Aye! Where to next captain? :)

    14. Re:Really? by megrims · · Score: 1

      I suspect that A, B and C are true of the media themselves.

      The power of mass communication is an incredibly dangerous thing that we have treated far too lightly. Television scares me.

    15. Re:Really? by osu-neko · · Score: 1

      Also, the "higher power" thing dosen't work for atheists.

      I believe the term for someone who doesn't believe in anything more powerful than themselves is not "atheist", it's "autotheist".

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    16. Re:Really? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Captain Splendid, I'm sorry to inform you that you are merely speaking your opinion. I find it amusing that people believe in the existence of extra-terrestrial intelligent life - somewhere, but fail to believe in a deity. Both you can't see, both you don't have material and scientific evidence for. I'm sure most slashdotters will believe that somewhere in a far away galaxy there is a civilization far more advanced than ours that spans their galaxy using mind-boggling technologies. Well, I believe there is a single deity who created this whole shebang and runs the show.

    17. Re:Really? by Bill,+Shooter+of+Bul · · Score: 2, Interesting

      Also, the "higher power" thing dosen't work for atheists.

      Sure it does, but then they have to stop calling themselves atheists. Its like saying fire doesn't work for gasoline, just because if it works there isn't any gasoline left.

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    18. Re:Really? by stephanruby · · Score: 1

      If you admit that our psychology derives from brain (and body) workings and that internal states and behaviors are affected by chemical changes...

      Sure, I'll admit that, but also if you admit that chemical changes within the brain can also be triggered by either external circumstances and/or internal thought patterns as well.

      Too many people assume, "make them think positive thoughts, the problem will fix itself"

      That's the problem, too many people assuming stuff.

    19. Re:Really? by Veggiesama · · Score: 1

      I know plenty of atheists who don't believe in god. It's those pesky believers of belief that make me so damn suspicious of just plain believers.

    20. Re:Really? by CarpetShark · · Score: 1

      Also, the "higher power" thing dosen't work for atheists.

      Yes it does. All that's required is gaining some sense of humility about our position in life.

    21. Re:Really? by Talla · · Score: 1

      We are solid proof that intelligent life forms can exist. There is no evidence that any deity exists, other than some peoples very strong feelings, which they seem to almost always blame on the religion that is popular in the area they were born. Whether or not either exists I don't know, but given the evidence the first seems a lot more likely than the other.

    22. Re:Really? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Most drugs to combat neurological disorders are of the very blunt effect type. The can make you feel more positive, but not make you feel more positive about the fact that Sammy fels the need to beat you up every lunchtime for your pocket money. As such they are a very crude method for dealing with something like a "WoW addiction". Far better for people to learn coping mechanisms; for most people with chronic problems of the profound or worse variety this is the best you can hope for. As an outsider looking in, the US seems to feel that technology (in this case drugs) can help any problem (in this case social re-adjustment due to exclusion). It ain't so...

    23. Re:Really? by Kjella · · Score: 1

      Why do people still listen to the media is beyond me. Every single year they come up with something that is either A) addicting and damaging to minds B) corrupting the family/children/society or C) is somehow harmful.

      It's the mental illness called "having kids", which leads to an obsessive-compulsive disorder about protecting your offspring, even though kids have been able to grow up and thrive without excessive amounts of real-world padding all throughout history. This leads to a self-induced paranoia about all the dangers of the world, that hits both good but especially bad parents, the media panders to these fears and are successful because they pretend to give simple answers instead of hard skills like good values and critical, independent thinking. Obviously to some degree you must teach children about specific threats to their well-being but trying to enumerate all the things that potentially may be bad for them is pointless symptom-treatment rather than helping them become responsible adults.

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    24. Re:Really? by phillous · · Score: 1

      We are solid proof that intelligent life forms can exist.

      [Citation Needed]

    25. Re:Really? by ciderVisor · · Score: 1

      If you were a drunk, would want to do be forced into a smoke-filled room crammed in with other folks who are just as pissed for being there as you are, probably fiending for drinks? Also, the "higher power" thing dosen't work for atheists.

      These guys don't have meetings and don't require a belief in a higher power: http://www.rational.org/

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    26. Re:Really? by famebait · · Score: 1

      Why do people still listen to the media is beyond me.

      Because the ones who stop and start listening to their navels in stead invariably start spouting preposterous junk.

      Media usage guidelines:
      1) There is no 'the media', only lots of different channels trying to make a buck
      2) The media channels are rarely the source of the information. There are actually millions of independent sources trying to get through. Some are accepted and distributed by few or many media channels.
      3) The source usually has a clear agenda, which will color the information
      4) The media channel usually has an agenda to make money, which will color the selection and presentation of stories.
      5) The media channel may have other agendas which will color selection and presentation.
      6) Your other sources of information have agendas too.

      All this is normal and known to everyone. Just consider the source, consider the messenger, factor that into what you hear, see and read, and just deal with it.

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    27. Re:Really? by rgviza · · Score: 1

      > Yes, a good support system is VERY important for just about every psychological disorder or problem, but it is not a cure-all and and it not guarantee.

      >it is a well-known fact that recovery pretty much requires that the person actually be motivated to recover

      I can vouch for this with personal experience. My brother has an awesome support system (both parents and two brothers, and a girlfriend) who bend over backwards for him, yet he can't kick his addiction (drugs). He's tried medication, rehab, even god.

      There is only one person that can cure an addiction, and you'll see them when you look in the mirror.

      The rest of it is a joke.

      Anything that works works because the person decided to kick the addiction and wants to. You have to want to fix the problem. Once you do, anything is possible. If you don't want to clean up, you may as well spend your rehab money on your addiction for all the good it will do.

      -Viz

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    28. Re:Really? by YouWantFriesWithThat · · Score: 1

      what position do you speak of?

      we live until we die. and what occurs in between is governed by either chance, our actions, or the actions of others.

    29. Re:Really? by Snaller · · Score: 1

      Because they have a point? I have seen many people sinking to the bottom, and thinking all they really needed was a life, but even though its easy for evil people to show "Get a life" it is actually very hard for some people to get one - and so they die without every having had one.

      But that's humanity for you.

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    30. Re:Really? by Snaller · · Score: 1

      Actually, studies have shown that IT DOES work - if they truly believe which of course a lot don't.

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    31. Re:Really? by Bill,+Shooter+of+Bul · · Score: 1

      I don't think you understood my previous post. If you believe in a higher power, then you really aren't an atheist. So believing in a higher power really doesn't work for atheists. If you find one that it worked for, you can no longer call that person an atheist.

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    32. Re:Really? by Woldry · · Score: 1

      Is that why those who attend religious services live longer?

      (Granted, the correlation could work the other way -- maybe overall-healthier people are more likely to feel like going to church, for instance.)

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    33. Re:Really? by mrrudge · · Score: 1

      Where do I find the trainer for [Coping Mechanisms] ?

    34. Re:Really? by Locke2005 · · Score: 1
      As it always has been and always will be.

      "The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannize their teachers."

      -- Socrates

      "What is happening to our young people? They disrespect their elders, they disobey their parents. They ignore the law. They riot in the streets inflamed with wild notions. Their morals are decaying. What is to become of them?"

      -- Plato

      "I see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on frivolous youth of today, for certainly all youth are reckless beyond words... When I was young, we were taught to be discreet and respectful of elders, but the present youth are exceedingly disrespectful and impatient of restraint"

      -- Hesiod (8th century BC)

      Now get off my lawn you damn kids!

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    35. Re:Really? by Disseminated · · Score: 1

      [chance + your actions + the actions of others] > [your actions]

      Yes?

    36. Re:Really? by genner · · Score: 1

      That's the problem, too many people assuming stuff.

      Yeah I assummed that as well.

    37. Re:Really? by Omestes · · Score: 1

      Actually there being intelligent life in the universe can have a statistical string attached, telling of a probability of its existence; Drake's equation. As far as I know, no one has quantified the possibility of the existence of a deity.

      If we accept that there is alien life out there, though, odds are it is less advanced than us. There is a cap to how young in history life can exist (need the elements, meaning need solar evolution), but no cap (AFAIK) to how recent it can have developed. So statistically most life in the universe will be close to us, or lower than us in development.

      Personally I call your theory shenanigans though. There is no proof that the average Slashdotter believes in ETs and UFOs. I'm guessing most of us are healthily skeptic on this. Also, for every one of us who think we're being visited by alien's daily, there are going to be two of us who believe in the Rare Earth hypothesis, that life is abundant, but advanced intelligent life is rare thanks to the statistical rarity of the succession of accidents leading to it.

      Being that I don't accept your first condition ("most slashdotters believe in advanced alien civilizations"), the rest of your argument doesn't follow, nor have any persuasive power. Even accepting this, there is a fallacy: advanced intelligence != deity. We are far more advanced that we were 10,000 years ago, but we are not deities. Yes, our ancestors out of ignorance might accept this as true, but it is not true. The Christian deity is unitary, where an advanced civilization is not, it is a collection. One of us (to our early ancestors) would lack the "god-like" punch of our civilization as a whole. Also, even if we are leagues above our ancestors, we still lack the essential god-like characteristics, even as a whole. We are not omnipresent, omnipotent, benevolent, or capable of creating and maintaining a full universe, and being aware of its full contents (at the same time).

      If there was an alien race suitably advanced to do this, then we wouldn't be of any interest to them. We'd be like ants are to us now, if not less so. Also being omnipresent, omnipotent (and presumably outside of time itself) and the creators of the universe, they would have no need to travel, and no will to do so.

      Actually, putting ourselves into the shoes of the alien I just described, it makes me wonder why a God-like entity (included God) would care even a small bit about us, and our petty little lives. The universe is huge, unimaginably huge, both in space and time. We are so far in capability of said God/aliens to be completely inconsequential. How could he care, much less "love" us? (love is a grasping, we love to complete us, God must be complete to be perfect, therefore he would be incapable of love, no?)

      That said. In the various Anonymous programs, higher power is not taken to be the Christian (or any other religions) God. The higher power is a stand-in for something to live for. You family, religion, community, job, health, or even cat, can be your higher power. Something above you, something you hold more important than yourself.

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    38. Re:Really? by TrekkieGod · · Score: 1

      Sure it does, but then they have to stop calling themselves atheists. Its like saying fire doesn't work for gasoline, just because if it works there isn't any gasoline left.

      Look, I'm not a religious man, but I'm not beyond admitting that there are no benefits for some people. Whether or not your religion is "true", if it helps you kick an addiction, by all means believe in something.

      However, the truly religious sometimes fail to understand that some people are completely incapable of having that type of faith. Trust me, if I really wanted to believe in God or other supernatural higher power, I'd be no more capable of doing it then you are capable of believing in the wizard Merlin if you really want to.

      That's not something I need to be pitied for. I'm perfectly happy in my current state. However, it does mean that if I'm ever in need of a support structure for an addiction problem, I'll need a different strategy.

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    39. Re:Really? by YouWantFriesWithThat · · Score: 1

      yes, but [your actions] is on both sides of the equation, so that is kind of given. A + [any positive number] > A, right?

      but i still see no reason for "humility about our position in life". bad shit can happen, or not. me being humble really isn't going to stop that chunk of satellite from hitting me in the head.

      i call that chaos, not a higher power.

    40. Re:Really? by YouWantFriesWithThat · · Score: 1

      is that a slur against atheists, or are you really not clear on that point?

      an autotheist is someone who thinks that they are a god, where an atheist thinks there are no gods, or has no belief in gods. kind of a big difference there. i would assert that there are very few sane autotheists.

    41. Re:Really? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Which is just a complicated way of saying that people are El-Ay-See-Why (as my old chem teacher said).

    42. Re:Really? by causality · · Score: 1

      I wonder if the difference is that Lancet is probably not aiming at the general public for their target audience, certainly not to the degree that CNN or Fox News is. If Lancet tried flagrant debate-framing and other propaganda techniques, or the sensationalism/yellow journalism of which Darkness404 wrote, its audience would probably call them on it.

      Either way, I appreciate the reminder and take your word for it that there are good, honest publications out there (no sarcasm intended at all). With the number and popularity of all of the bad examples, that is easy to forget from time to time.

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    43. Re:Really? by causality · · Score: 1

      Which is just a complicated way of saying that people are El-Ay-See-Why (as my old chem teacher said).

      The only reason why I don't see it that way is because I believe we are already doing things the hard way, that the effort necessary to be your own person and do your own thinking is far less than what the current mindlessness is costing us. I think laziness (i.e. the promise of less effort, however false) is a part of it but I also think that appeals to laziness are only one measure of the seductiveness of this type of culture. I think another measure of it is the subtle message that you are just fine the way you are (as opposed to being just fine because of what you are becoming), that you should not bother to know yourself, to look for your weaknesses and remedy them, to develop your knowledge and intellect and wisdom, to become tough-minded and not easily deceived.

      The consumerist culture has a message that this sort of self-directed (i.e. you do it when no one is looking, because it matters to you) personal development is somehow optional or somehow no longer necessary for a healthy human being. And we wonder why things like depression and alcoholism and suicide are increasing.

      Above all, I think most of the problems with this culture and the people in it, especially the fact that I find myself surrounded by idiots who are capable of not being idiots, is caused by a materialist/reductionist/mechanistic view of the world and our place in it. I think that's why people are so willing to meekly accept their roles as mere cogs in a social machine. What I try to point out and argue against is, to put it frankly, a dehumanizing influence. Collectively, we seem to have failed to learn the trick of having an economic model and a political model without also confusing those for the purpose of our existence. What I see everywhere are people who are subservient to systems instead of systems that are subservient to people. This even applies to the people who appear to control the systems, like the CEOs and political heavyweights of the world (not that I have much pity for the sort of person who wants those positions so badly that they are willing to sell themselves to the system to obtain them).

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    44. Re:Really? by BAM0027 · · Score: 1

      Also, the "higher power" thing dosen't work for atheists.

      That's a choice. AFAIK, a "higher power" is simply a "power greater than yourself" and all that is suggested is "a willingness to believe". People don't necessarily have to make it into a divine being or anything other than something besides themselves. A simple friendship can be enough to start. 12 step programs are a solution to "self will run riot".

      The best thing about recovery is that the only person who gets to determine if it works for them is the person themselves.

    45. Re:Really? by CarpetShark · · Score: 1

      In a sense, yes, and that's part of my point. In another sense, everything we perceive is a result of our own preconceptions and our attitude to the world.

    46. Re:Really? by Khuffie · · Score: 1

      I think he means humani-...oh, wait. I see what you mean.

    47. Re:Really? by netfool · · Score: 1

      lol

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  6. uh? by Vexorian · · Score: 2, Interesting

    The problem is a social one rather than a psychological issue. In other words, the patients have turned to heavy gaming because they felt they didn't fit in elsewhere

    So, is this saying that they are not addicted or that they are addicted because of social issues?

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    1. Re:uh? by Darkness404 · · Score: 1

      So, is this saying that they are not addicted or that they are addicted because of social issues?

      Basically, they aren't addicted because of video games they just enjoy playing them.

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    2. Re:uh? by blueg3 · · Score: 4, Insightful

      If there's no physical or psychological dependence, they're not addicted. Turning to games for social reasons doesn't constitute addiction.

    3. Re:uh? by DriedClexler · · Score: 0, Troll

      Yeah, that was kinda unclear. Let me clarify:

      It's politically incorrect to say that some ghetto druggie "isn't addicted, but just likes getting high more than working". So, to make it more palatable, ghetto druggies are classified as "psychologically addicted, beyond their control".

      On the other hand, video game addicts ... come on, man! It's just a bunch of white kids that need to get their act together and stop spending so much time on the Xbox! That's clearly not a psychological addiction! Come on, they're old enough to handle their problems on their own. They just need a good dose of "tough love"!

      "Video game addiction! *snort* You gotta be joking, right?"

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    4. Re:uh? by Keramos · · Score: 1

      "Video game addiction! *snort* You gotta be joking, right?"

      I think trying to *snort* it will just end up with a joystick stuck in your nostril, not an addiction.

    5. Re:uh? by Dhalka226 · · Score: 4, Insightful

      For starters, do you honestly believe that poor blacks are diagnosed MORE often with psychological conditions than affluent whites? Really? You really believe that someone trying to be both racist and politically correct at the same time is going to give these people an excuse for their behavior rather than simply throwing them in jail?

      Second, when your getting high takes the place of working I'm pretty sure you ARE an addict, by definition. Your "hobby" is interfering with your life. This would be true of people playing video games as well, and you'll note that the article never stated that video game addiction is not real or that nobody who came into their clinic was, in their estimation, legitimately addicted to video games. Just that the majority of them weren't. (That's also not to say that they were what psychologists would consider to be mentally well; but being unwell and being addicted are not necessarily one in the same.)

      More importantly, addiction is (among other things) an inability to stop your behavior. If that druggie really can stop doing drugs tomorrow, he's not addicted--same with a video game addict. The distinction the article seems to be drawing is that being unable to stop a behavior and not having another choice available due to other psychological issues aren't the same. These people fill their lives with video games because they have no other social interactions to fill them with. It's bad, maybe worse than addiction--but I would agree that it is not, in itself, actually addiction.

    6. Re:uh? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      On the other hand, video game addicts ... come on, man! It's just a bunch of white kids that need to get their act together and stop spending so much time on the Xbox! That's clearly not a psychological addiction! Come on, they're old enough to handle their problems on their own. They just need a good dose of "tough love"!

      "Video game addiction! *snort* You gotta be joking, right?"

      Yes, because the best way to deal with somebody with a problem is to mock them.

      Asshole.

    7. Re:uh? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Whoosh, dipshit.

    8. Re:uh? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Funny

      I'm not addicted, I just enjoy mainlining tar heroin!

    9. Re:uh? by John+Hasler · · Score: 1

      > Come on, they're old enough to handle their problems on their own. They just need a good
      > dose of "tough love"!

      Why do they need anything? If playing video games is what they want to do, just let them do it.

      Of course, in my opinion the same applies to snorting cocaine...

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    10. Re:uh? by im_thatoneguy · · Score: 4, Insightful

      In highschool I started an informal survey after getting tired of being "addicted to computers".

      "SOooo like all you do all day is like sit on computers and shit."
      "What do you usually do when you get home from school?"
      "I don't know I usually watch TV."

      That summarized about 99% of all conversations I had. Some people usually read books. Some people usually just talked on the phone. But across the board almost every single person only had one or at most two hobbies (usually an extra-curricular sports team).

      Because most people don't play video games the average game plays exponentially more games than they're used to observing and as a reslt the conclude that person is crazy addicted. In reality almost nobody does anything productive in their leisure hours and most of their time is taken up by one or two activities.

      Computers are also tricky because while an external observer may simply note someone staring at a screen for 6 hours. You may have watched a TV Show. Read the news paper. Played video games. Talked to your friends. Read Slashdot. Read up on science news. Posted a blog on something you read. Worked on an art project and read a short story.

      The variety of what I read and do on a computer vastly dwarfs what most people do in a day when broken down into activities instead of locations "Sat on couch reading and typing on keyboard."

      I get just as addicted by good books as video games but if someone gets hooked on a book its a positive thing. "Oh my Jeny was up till 3 am she was so engrossed in Twilight." Meanwhile "That Jimmy is rotting his brain playing video games he played for 2 hours yeserday and I tried to get him to put it down and do something else but would have just played till 2AM can you believe it if I hadn't pulled the power cable."

      It's a double standard perpetrated by the majority in order to shame the minority into conformity. Which usually entails sitting on the couch and watching TV till you go to bed.

    11. Re:uh? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      One thing i often noticed:

      Addiction in american media (wikipedia for a start):
      An addiction is a *recurring* compulsion by an individual to engage in some specific activity, despite harmful consequences to the individual's health, mental state or social life.

      Addiction in European (french) media:
      a behavior caracteristic recognized by a constant and irresistible need, despite will and work to escape it.
      (translation mine)

      By the first approach, you are addicted to game if it damage your health or social life, even if you are perfectly happy with the situation yourself.
      By the other approach, you are addicted only if you want to stop and can't.

      same word, 2 meaning.

    12. Re:uh? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Yeah, that was kinda unclear. Let me clarify: It's politically incorrect to say that some ghetto druggie "isn't addicted, but just likes getting high more than working". So, to make it more palatable, ghetto druggies are classified as "psychologically addicted, beyond their control".

      Wrong. Drug addiction isn't just psychologically addicted, it's physically addictive. That's the difference.

      On the other hand, video game addicts ... come on, man! It's just a bunch of white kids that need to get their act together and stop spending so much time on the Xbox! That's clearly not a psychological addiction! Come on, they're old enough to handle their problems on their own. They just need a good dose of "tough love"!

      If you think addiction to video games and, say, heroin are equally hard to stop, then you clearly have no idea what you're talking about.

    13. Re:uh? by Thiez · · Score: 2, Funny

      I'm no cocaine addict, I just like the way it smells!

    14. Re:uh? by daveime · · Score: 1

      It is known that the effect (or side effect anyway), of most drugs it to chemically alter the brain, and cause different interconnections between the synapses, or possibly too many connections, or connections that only work in the presence of certain stimuli etc ...

      Hey, guess what, that applies to every damn thing we do !!!

      Anyone who is involved in ANY mental related activity, be it reading, studying, learning a new game, is forcing some changes on his/her brain structure.

      So, why do you say that someone who plays WoW for 12 hours, and derives immense pleasure from it, ISN'T havving their brain chemically altered so that synapses respond to the pleasurable stimuli of "being online".

      It's exactly the same effect, just a different cause.

      The problem is that sensationalist media (and indeed these leech clinics), would like you to believe that EVERYONE is addicted (because that's where their money comes from).

    15. Re:uh? by Woldry · · Score: 1

      Skimming, I first read this as Basically, they aren't addicted because video games just enjoy playing them.

      ...which was a sort of chilling mental image.

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    16. Re:uh? by Jaysyn · · Score: 1

      "Computers are also tricky because while an external observer may simply note someone staring at a screen for 6 hours. You may have watched a TV Show. Read the news paper. Played video games. Talked to your friends. Read Slashdot. Read up on science news. Posted a blog on something you read. Worked on an art project and read a short story."

      With the exception of art project, I did every one of those last night.

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    17. Re:uh? by DrgnDancer · · Score: 2, Insightful

      The simple answer is that there is a clinical and non-clinical definition of the word "addicted". If I observe a person playing WoW 12-16 hours a day, I might say that person is addicted to the game. From a non-clinical standpoint I am correct. They feel compelled to play the game all of the time, regardless of the reason for their choice (because all of their friends are there, because they feel like they fit in there, or because of some true, clinical, addiction) they are displaying what a laymen would call an addictive behavior. Physiologists have a clinical definition of the word which has a more specific definition, and requires someone to repeat the same behavior over and over because of a clinical or physiological bond to the behavior itself.

      To use a more concrete, real world, example: imagine you have started smoking because all of your friend smoke, and you are up to a pack a day. Now imagine that you are, for some reason, immune to the physically addictive properties of tobacco. Now imagine that all of your friends abruptly stop smoking or you get new friends. Not being physically addicted, and only having picked up the habit because you wanted to fit in, you stop smoking as well. While you exhibited the behavior of an addict (smoking all the time) you were never really addicted to smoking, you smoked to fit in with your friends.

      Essentially what this study is saying is that the majority of gaming "addicts" aren't actually "addicted" to games, they simply play them a lot of the same reason other people might go to bars a lot, or a crochet club a lot, or talk on HAM radios a lot. They feel like they fit in there and they've built a social circle (a guild in a MMORPG, a team on a server for an online shooter, or whatever) inside in the virtual world they inhabit. They obsess over gear and min/maxing stats for the same reason that my manager at work obsesses over his scuba equipment, or a car nut might obsess over ecking one more horsepower out of their engine. It gives them status in the mini-world of hobbyists that they choose to inhabit.

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    18. Re:uh? by ukyoCE · · Score: 3, Interesting

      Nice rant :) Totally agree.

      Even gamers will try to shame gamers by claiming "no life!" and such. A guy in WOW Trade chat the other day was mocking the people who picked up the expansion on launch day and leveled up with their friends. I asked what he did that was so superior, and he said he went drinking with some friends at a football game.

      Is sitting around in-person with friends objectively better than playing with them online? Does adding voice chat make the game more competitive with "reality"? How about avatars? Is IRC worse than a voice-chatting video game?

      It's gonna take a while (possibly replacement by the next generation) to get "I'm playing WOW with my guildies" to be heard as the same level of commitment as "I'm playing poker with my buddies"

    19. Re:uh? by misterooga · · Score: 1

      +1 to parent.

    20. Re:uh? by Nick+Ives · · Score: 1

      Wrong. Drug addiction isn't just psychologically addicted, it's physically addictive. That's the difference.

      As I read that I remembered this show here in the UK called QI (for "Quite Interesting") that /.'ers might like. The host, Stephen Fry, (legendary comedian / actor / walking encyclopedia / gadget freak and longtime associate of Hugh Laurie who Americans will know about from House) ask various questions in the hope of eliciting witty, interesting and relevant facts and jokes on the topic. They have a big buzzer for the obvious and totally wrong answer so in that spirit, BZZZZZZZZZT!

      Most drugs don't cause physical dependancy. Alcohol and tranquillisers do you're addicted and then go cold turkey you can die. They work on the same bit of the brain so if your an alcoholic they'll often just shift you over to a comparable dose of Tamazepan and then start weaning you off. Most other drugs like heroin or cocaine don't do that. When you stop you'll feel like total shit but you won't actually die.

      All addiction is psychological, physical dependence is just something that has to be considered when it comes to managing and treating the addiction. You're right that comparing any video game to heroin is ridiculous though.

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    21. Re:uh? by Nick+Ives · · Score: 1

      OK, so you simplify the brain, then imagine how your simple brain interacts with drugs, then say that's just the same as how your simple brain works anyway except with bits wibbled around slightly.

      I think the problem in your understanding is your simple brain.

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    22. Re:uh? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      "Physical addiction" doesn't mean "you will die if you stop taking it". It means that there are physical withdrawal symptoms.

      It IS a blurry line - as far as I know, cocaine and WoW both work by raising the baseline serotonin(?) level so that when they are removed, your serotonin drops so low that you spiral into depression and shittiness.

      But, cocaine directly and chemically influences your brain. You might be able to grow some neurons in a petri dish, drip cocaine on them and watch as the serotonin level spikes. Video games, gambling, all those other "psychological" addictions work within the system of the brain to alter its chemistry using quite normal, routine protocols. No foreign substances, just a back door.

      My point is, there is a quantifiable difference. Physical and psychological may be bad words to use for the two types, but you can quite easily draw a line where one stops and the other starts.

    23. Re:uh? by Nick+Ives · · Score: 1

      OK, that's actually the best explanation I've seen for that distinction and I appreciate it.

      However, the serotonin model of depression is flaky at best and most probably flat out wrong. Drug companies like to push it but there's very little data to back it up. SSRIs are really only more effective than placebo for serious chronic depression and even then only marginally so. Although as you mentioned cocaine I think you might have been talking about dopamine (definitely involved in rewarding behaviour).

      Ben Goldacre raps on this (and other topics /. should love, funny I've never see links to him from here) on Bad Science, his one man crusade against bad statistics and science in mainstream journalism.

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  7. I'm sure this story is interesting and all.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    ..but I don't have time to read it because I need to get back to my quests in Lich King. All of my friends are already lvl 80 and I'm still stuck on 76.

    1. Re:I'm sure this story is interesting and all.. by fractoid · · Score: 1

      You too? It sucks having a job and a life, hey. :P

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    2. Re:I'm sure this story is interesting and all.. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Crazy, I'm at the same level. And probably about to lose my raiding spot from my Sunwell guild that started Naxx yesterday. :(

      Oh well, L4D is fun.

  8. intervention by El+Puerco+Loco · · Score: 5, Funny

    the addiction industry is out of control in this country. somebody ought to stage an intervention.

    1. Re:intervention by Eudial · · Score: 1

      the addiction industry is out of control in this country. somebody ought to stage an intervention.

      I predict that the intervention intervention industry will emerge in the near future, and escalate into a point where intervention intervention interventions are necessary.

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  9. Demise of hobby clubs by syousef · · Score: 5, Interesting

    One reason...It use to be that these people could join a club and usually a "geeky" one: A Chess club, a remote control aircraft club, a rocketry club, a science club, an electronics club. These kinds of organisations are disappearing and the activities are being labelled as dangerous or complete social death to get involved in, leaving a void which is being filled with idle gaming.

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    1. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by teh+moges · · Score: 5, Insightful

      +1 Insightful if I had mod points.

      Another contributing factor is, I have to say, laziness. It is much easier to stay at home, connect the Xbox to the net and play a game, then it was even 5 years ago to organize for all your mates to come around to play Perfect Dark multiplayer in the same room.

      People often ignore the benefits of the social interaction, and this causes problems long term, as its hard to switch 'back' once you have isolated yourself even a little from your community.

    2. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by WrongMonkey · · Score: 1

      Are those organizations disappearing and videogames are merely filling the void? Or are the potential members of those clubs spending they're time playing videogames and don't want to get involved?

    3. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by Aladrin · · Score: 5, Insightful

      You seem to be claiming that the disappearance of these clubs is causing kids to be gamers. I think it's exactly the opposite: Video games are causing kids not to be interested in those clubs, so they disappear due to lack of interest.

      I -love- math and science, but if you give me the choice between hanging out with a bunch of kids that are interested in math or playing video games, the choice is obvious.

      In addition, I can get all the info I need from the internet. I no longer have to deal with people or libraries or anything. Kids have the exact same access that I do, so it's not surprising that the smart ones choose to get their information fast and accurate, instead of wasting time. (Yes, information on the net is still far more accurate than talking to schoolkids about it.)

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    4. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by red90tsi · · Score: 1

      Playing WoW saves me money in the long run, sure I dont have much of a social life outside of close freinds, but it saves me Bar-Hopping and spending $200+ per weekend plus the gas and taxi involved. The way I look at it, it keeps me out of trouble and I can drink and Wow without getting arrested.

    5. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Insightful

      One reason...It use to be that these people could join a club and usually a "geeky" one: A Chess club, a remote control aircraft club, a rocketry club, a science club, an electronics club. These kinds of organisations are disappearing and the activities are being labelled as dangerous or complete social death to get involved in, leaving a void which is being filled with idle gaming.

      Yeah, because all the traditional, pre-internet outlets of 'geekiness' used to command so much more respect than spending all your time gaming. These activities always were 'social death'.
      I have a theory that the reason gaming gets a disproportionate amount of media attention for supposed 'violence' is because of its accessibility not to minors, but to those seen as nerds. There is a need to see the socially 'weak' retain their introverted role of passive victim. Games go against this by providing an outlet for the frustration visited upon them by the rest of society (however vicarious the aggression of a video game is), but the natural social laws wired into the human mind (at least among the non-introverted majority) do not allow this.
      If all video games were non-violent and never had been, they might still have be popular among 'nerds' but they would also by association be 'social death' as the OP describes.

    6. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by MindlessAutomata · · Score: 1

      That's very true. But gaming is not "idle". With the internet, gaming is often the greatest means by which geeks build their own particular type of social networks and otherwise can interact with people. They can find other people with the same interests with them online. Games like World of Warcraft don't (necessarily) make people socially isolated--they are actually the way a particular person may socialize! Too often we view a particular solution to some underlying symptom or problem as the problem itself because we do not understand the nature of the problem, or as is so often the case confuse cause and effect, and through ignorance and stupidity, make things worse for people.

    7. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The clubs were disappearing in 1993 when I was in junior high- you were considered the ultimate geek if you even played chess, let alone in a club- same with anything "smart". Then again, I grew up in a ritzy area where everyone was handed everything and they had their fancy clothes and no reason to be smart on their own. Peer pressure/culture is turning us into Idiocracy.

    8. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by ElectricTurtle · · Score: 1

      It sounds like you have some aggression issues that you haven't worked out and that you're trying to rationalize your personal condition by projecting it onto a class of people you identify with and believe are similarly afflicted.

      Violence has always been foundational to games in human history, far, far earlier than the transistor. The Olympics have always had events where people compete in the skills of soldiers, people forget that javelins were weapons back when the Greeks started things, and I'll bet the wrestling back then wasn't so regulated. Hell, the Mayans killed people during and after their games. Chess is a medieval battlefield with simple parameters.

      But leaving the historical violence of games aside, the vast majority of gamers I know don't have repressed violent urges any moreso than similar non-gamers I've observed. (Every normal person has some level of repressed violence, it's only by a matter of degree that you can single somebody out as 'too passive' or 'too aggressive'.)

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    9. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by syousef · · Score: 1

      I -love- math and science, but if you give me the choice between hanging out with a bunch of kids that are interested in math or playing video games, the choice is obvious.

      Then, with respect, you don't love math and science. For me I'd opt for a mix, because I do love math and science, and because video games are limited and eventually bore me to tears where the universe is full of infinite variety.

      You can't blame the games for your own laziness and/or lack of passion.

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    10. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by syousef · · Score: 1

      Games like World of Warcraft don't (necessarily) make people socially isolated--they are actually the way a particular person may socialize!

      It's not the same as face to face social contact, and it does not require the same skills or provide the same rewards. Body language isn't learnt on WoW. (Guestures by your avatar do NOT count). You don't learn to control your posture, your emotion, where your eyes look when you're talking to someone etc.

      Online gaming and making friends that way is great, but it's not a substitute for getting out into the world and learning how to enjoying having a chat face to face with someone that potentially doesn't have the same narrow interest as yourself.

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    11. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by jonaskoelker · · Score: 1

      if you give me the choice between hanging out with a bunch of kids that are interested in math or playing video games, the choice is obvious.

      Cool, let's do some math together!

      Oh, you... oh... :(

    12. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by Hognoxious · · Score: 1

      It use to be that these people could join a club and usually a "geeky" one: A Chess club, a remote control aircraft club, a rocketry club, a science club, an electronics club.

      Of those five, membership of four would probably get you labelled a terrorist these days.

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    13. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by Aladrin · · Score: 1

      I couldn't possibly love math and science because I find video games (a hobby that is changing daily) to be more interesting than math and science, which hardly change at all?

      Lack of passion? You're assuming that you can label me as someone that doesn't love math and science simply because I don't love it more than everything else. I simply have no need to sit in a room with a bunch of boring people and talk about nothing, since that's exactly what's changed in science since the last meeting.

      Video games are no more limited than reality. In fact, there are quite a few things you can experience in video games that you cannot experience in reality. When was the last space shuttle trip you took? Landed on an alien planet recently? How about you and your buddies going to war in Iraq and conquering everything? The last might even be possible, if it weren't so deadly in real life.

      Sure, reality has some things that video games don't as well... But my playing video games doesn't actually prevent me from doing those, too!

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    14. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by Snaller · · Score: 1

      "Another contributing factor is, I have to say, laziness. "

      The main problem is that too often its easier for others to say "oh they are just lazy" when in fact they aren't. Quite often, "I can't" is true and doesn't mean "I won't"

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    15. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The high school I went to was known for its apathy. Yet we had extracurricular sports teams, a chess club, a drama club and a few others. There was a late school bus run so that kids who stayed late could get home. Coaching extracurricular sports was part of the contract of the phys ed teachers. Equipment for extracurricular sports came from the school board. Teachers were encouraged to start other clubs: teachers received (admittedly minimal) compensation, and clubs could receive some (again, not much) funding from the school.

      That was more than thirty-five years ago. Consider today.

      Because of decades of school funding increases that have not kept up with inflation, the school board provides no funding of extracurricular activities. Any funding of such comes from Parent Advisory Committees (PTAs for you USians). Teachers are not paid for extracurricular activities. There is no transportation provided for after school activities.

      And due to unjustified increases in insurance premiums and fears of liability, even if some group of students were to form some sort of club, they wouldn't be allowed to use school facilities.

    16. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Sure, but many of these kids are already the "ultimate geek", and going home to play video games rather than join the chess club isn't going to change that.

    17. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by badkarmadayaccount · · Score: 1

      Dude, all I've ever heard "face-to-face" is "GTFO!", nothing more, nothing less. On /. I get to talk with particle physicists, progrmmers, alcoholics, pro-drug advocates, or all at once. I get respect even when they don't agree with me. Hell, people LAUGH at my jokes. All this feels like, loosing my virginity, or something faintly resembling what I guess it would feel like. This place IS my life. I never get anything at highschool, except smacks, "Beat it!", and the not so occasional bad grade (gee, I wonder why...). But seen as my study load is rising, I'm switching to ADHD "medication" (though tests show there could be something actually wrong), partly to get rid of actual symptoms, partly because I want to feel truly happy once in a while. I know, I'm a druggie waiting to happen, but hey, I didn't ask to be forced in the educational system, and I'm not payin' the bills, so to quote eminem - "I just don't give a fuck!". Cheers! At least for you guys.

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    18. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by syousef · · Score: 1

      Okay you're still in highschool so I'm going to cut you a little slack.

      The people who you respect and who you speak to on /. are great. I'm NOT suggesting you should give up talking to them. However if your self esteem depends on your jokes being modded up on a chat board, you're NOT going to find happiness.

      If the people at your high school tell you to beat it or beat you up you have to ask a couple of questions:
      1) Am I doing anything to antagonise them?
      2) Are they worthwhile people who are worth my time who have a reason to act like this or are they simply trash with no respect for other human beings.

      If the answer to number 2 is "they're trash" (and you've made a genuine attempt to assess the whole thing rationally) go out and find people who aren't. Even if these people are outside your age group. Sport and hobby clubs are a good source. It sounds like you DO need to get out but you need to get out doing something you actually enjoy. If hiking, fishing and camping aren't your thing try kite design, or if you can afford it r/c planes. Failing that volunteer some time to keep old people company at a nursing home. The difference in their perspective will amaze you if you open your ears.

      Trust me, you may not realize it yet but the friendships you make online are no where near as strong as you think they are. You have lots of aquaintances online, but lifelong friends are hard to make and only get harder with age. Physically relating to people is necessary for strong bonds (not just for sex either!!!). It is just the way we social animals work. We only evolved the skills you use online in the last few thousand years, whereas a smile (not a smiley!!!) is a much older thing.

      Regarding the drug thing - find a doctor you trust if you're switching meds. A good doc is EXCEEDINGLY hard to find but worth the time spent. If you start down the road of alcohol and illicit drugs DO NOT waste your time blaming others for decisions YOU are making. It simply isn't constructive. Don't waste your life because you want to rebel against a crap education system. Once you're 18 school is done with, but you MAY be around much longer IF you're lucky AND smart about it. Oh and find a better role model than Eminem. Just because some of his words and music touch you, it doesn't mean he's a good life model. (By all means enjoy the music though).

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    19. Re:Demise of hobby clubs by badkarmadayaccount · · Score: 1
      Role model? Didn't think I said that, but that head on approach to life really took me in to rap when I was 12-13, and I haven't looked back since, because all I saw was an egocentric moma's-boy prick - the me that I hate, so maybe not a roll model, but more of an inspiration, to move on, look at the big picture, some have it worse than you, etc...

      Secondly (man I hate arguing with such a nice post..., but it wouldn't be me if I didn't) I never mentioned illicit drugs, and alcohol never impressed me much. I was saying that taking pharms (note: nothing else) was the only thing left. The life(style) of a druggie isn't much different (maybe longer...he-he) whether its pills or powder, though I can't see myself go into that hellhole completely - the point isn't to really get high, it's to be able to drag my ass outta bed on to work without hating myself for it. I know, thats what all/most of them say, but this is just my side of the story, interpret it as you will.

      BTW, the only thing resembling what you proposed in the third paragraph is the public swimming pool, and, when I think about it, I get along fine with the people in the dressing room and shower, however short the time is. Thing is, I barely have the time, (okay so I'm lazy, I hate myself for not having the willpower, but that's not helping as you could guess) or the inclination to try and get into something like this. Maybe I overstated my isolation at school, but thats not the issue that pushed me to seeking amphetamine/methylphenidate (whichever they give me), and overly relying on /. for personal relations.

      Thing is, I'm a bit to emotional for my own good. As in "my first three in a row shots of whiskey were after she cut me off" emotional. It seems I can't take being rejected as when I was the boy genius with a bright future ahead. Actually, now that I'm more socially incined and open, it hurts more. And that fear of rejection, along with gnawing lonelyness (not the kind you get rid of with a beer and friends (now don't tell me /. isn't good for this), neither the one that's cured by jacking off) is pushing me to find something to entertain myself with, and being head deep into work is the only usefull way, but I'm way too burnt out from school as it is, hence - the drugs (that, and keeping decently geeky grades ;) ). I think this is simply too early for me, but I guess having an off line wikipedia mirror in your head somehow quickens other things. Thanks for the advice, and, more importantly, thanks for caring. Cheers bro'!

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  10. Males? by girlintraining · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Yeah, I'll say. I just got done having a three hour bitch fest yesterday with a friend of mine who's BF is 'addicted' to World of Warcraft. She doesn't have a lot of experience with boys (much more with girls -- no comments on this please!), and I've had to mother her a bit on why a boy can sink twenty or more hours a week into a video game and says it "helps me relax and challenges me", but afterwords can't come up with anything better to do than "go bowling" ("where"? "Umm... I'm sure there's one around somewhere"), or "go for a walk".

    I tried my best to explain how men are so much more visually oriented than girls, but it's a hard concept to really explain. It's not that they're addicted to video games, it's just that the game provides more visual action than the real world so they're more strongly attracted to it. Girls read books, boys watch movies--Boys play video games, girls play board games, that kind of thing. They really are wired different and it's damn frustrating.

    I often find myself wishing for video games that helped build social skills for these kind of boys -- the ones that are awkward and introverted in public, but if you can get them to open up they're nice teddy bears. I don't think they'd want to play it though, unless it involved blowing up or shooting something. :( Like The Sims -- awesome game, but the only people I know who play it are other girls! Am I hoping for too much here? Is there some way to use some visual medium to help boys crawl out of their shell?

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    1. Re:Males? by Taken07 · · Score: 0

      So .. does this make me different from all the guys in the world because I play the sims?

    2. Re:Males? by Yosho · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Yeah, I'll say. I just got done having a three hour bitch fest yesterday with a friend of mine who's BF is 'addicted' to World of Warcraft. She doesn't have a lot of experience with boys (much more with girls -- no comments on this please!), and I've had to mother her a bit on why a boy can sink twenty or more hours a week into a video game and says it "helps me relax and challenges me", but afterwords can't come up with anything better to do than "go bowling" ("where"? "Umm... I'm sure there's one around somewhere"), or "go for a walk".

      This may be a silly question, but -- she may have spent three hours bitching to you about it, but has she spent that much time talking to him about it? Nothing is going to change unless he wants to change, and that will not happen unless he understands and accepts that there is a problem.

      As a guy, one of the largest frustrations I've had with many (but not all, fortunately) girls is that when something is upsetting them they won't just tell me about it. They might make it obvious that they're upset about something in general, but me being unable to guess exactly what is apparently just another failure on my part. Casually saying something like, "Oh, I wish you'd spend less time playing WoW" doesn't count -- his internal reaction will be "Ok, I'll log off fifteen minutes early today," then he'll shrug and move on.

      If the amount of time he spends playing WoW is a serious problem, he needs to be told plainly that it is a serious problem. If he accepts that it's a problem, he can fix it, but otherwise his girlfriend will either have to just accept it or leave him. She's only going to make herself more frustrated if she thinks that he'll change if she just waits long enough.

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    3. Re:Males? by RuBLed · · Score: 2, Interesting

      I'd try to be serious here. XD (because this could work)

      Quest - Reward system. People (and males) do tend to work their ass off if it rewards them in the end. That is why any start of a relationship is the most "activity-filled" moments. But as time goes by, doing monotonous things for almost nothing doesn't interest as much.

      That is where the Reward system kicks in. If one wants to do something, the other one must also benefit or be rewarded in one way or another (which he/she likes). It could be in a form of a gift, homemade cookies, preparing food, etc (no matter how small in quality and quantity it is). It would gives us at least a sense of accomplishment or reward and would not view the activity as a charity work. XD

      just my 0.02

    4. Re:Males? by MaskedSlacker · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Pro-tip: If you do not want people commenting on irrelevant information, don't provide. That said, if she's unhappy with him, I'm available. *wink**wink*

    5. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      b00bi3z!!

      Sorry, it's true.

    6. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1, Insightful

      20 hours a week is probably how much time my in-laws spend watching TV. 3 hours a day... I do think it's excessive but I think the rest of America would probably disagree with me.

      The real question is: does he pay his bills? Does he take showers? Does he show up late for work? Does he spend his time at work buying magic items or some such thing instead of working?

      What my therapist told me about addiction: addicts are people who don't "show up" for life. They are "somewhere else" while life passes them by. If this describes your friend's BF then he has a problem, whether or not it is officially "addiction".

    7. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Yes.
      It makes you a girl, apparently.

    8. Re:Males? by girlintraining · · Score: 4, Interesting

      his may be a silly question, but -- she may have spent three hours bitching to you about it, but has she spent that much time talking to him about it?

      Dammit, this wasn't supposed to be about my friend, but whether games can help boys develop social skills--instead of providing an escape from socially awkward situations. And yes, she has.

      Casually saying something like, "Oh, I wish you'd spend less time playing WoW" doesn't count -- his internal reaction will be "Ok, I'll log off fifteen minutes early today," then he'll shrug and move on.

      girlspeak translation: Get off the damn computer and pay attention to me when I'm around. It's damn rude to have someone over and then leave them to entertain themselves so you can go play a video game. Homework or a few minutes of e-mail, not a big deal... Wasting four hours on a video game because you need to "relax"... It gives a clear message: I'm not wanted. And when it's my boyfriend doing that, then it's elevate to not only aren't I wanted, but that I'm less attractive than a hunk of circuits and plastic. So yeah, most girls are going to be rightly pissed about that!

      If he accepts that it's a problem, he can fix it, but otherwise his girlfriend will either have to just accept it or leave him.

      And yet they wonder why we call it an addiction...

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    9. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I tried my best to explain how men are so much more visually oriented than girls, but it's a hard concept to really explain. It's not that they're addicted to video games, it's just that the game provides more visual action than the real world so they're more strongly attracted to it. Girls read books, boys watch movies--Boys play video games, girls play board games, that kind of thing. They really are wired different and it's damn frustrating.

      Mmmmmmmm'kay. Quite a list of stereotypes minus the kitchen sink. Gee. I didn't know girls aren't visually oriented. Last time I strolled through the web design department, it was mostly female. Last time I looked at the web programming department, mostly male. Design -> pictures -> visually oriented. Programming -> words -> reading oriented. Lesson is: goofy sweeping stereotypes such as the one you provided are invalid.

    10. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Ok, I don't know how to break this to you and not sound nasty but women everywhere must be told....

      simply, and don't get offended,

      women are boring, do boring things, are hopeless at telling stories and their sole reason for existing seems to be to ruin man-fun.

      To paraphrase patrice o'neal (sp?):

      "You know what you never hear? A guy with a bunch of his friends at a party - having a great time, laughing, fooling around suddenly stop and say, you know what's missing here, what would really make tonight great... if my wife/girlfriend was here!"

    11. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Get off the damn computer and pay attention to me when I'm around. It's damn rude to have someone over and then leave them to entertain themselves so you can go play a video game.

      So what is the most probable altenative thing to do? Have a chitchat? Watch TV? etc.. Are they more appealing than video games? And remember Halo 3 > Sex.. (WoW > RL). This also applies to other fields that people would spend so much time with. (I wonder how the wives of Einstein felt?)

      Conclusion.. your friend picked the wrong BF. And apparently the guy also picked the wrong GF but as always will try to shrug the fact and hope the problem go away.

    12. Re:Males? by Yosho · · Score: 4, Interesting

      girlspeak translation: Get off the damn computer and pay attention to me when I'm around. It's damn rude to have someone over and then leave them to entertain themselves so you can go play a video game. Homework or a few minutes of e-mail, not a big deal... Wasting four hours on a video game because you need to "relax"... It gives a clear message: I'm not wanted. And when it's my boyfriend doing that, then it's elevate to not only aren't I wanted, but that I'm less attractive than a hunk of circuits and plastic. So yeah, most girls are going to be rightly pissed about that!

      Sorry, I didn't mean to sound as though I was defending the guy -- just trying to provide some insight as to why he (and many other guys) behave that way. Most guys simply do not understand "girlspeak," and, unless you've found one of the rare ones who does, expecting him to figure it out is just an exercise in frustration.

      And yet they wonder why we call it an addiction...

      Oh, I certainly don't wonder. I'm sure Blizzard has hired psychologists to figure out the optimal effort:reward ratio to keep people playing as long as possible. MMORPGs are designed to be addictive by people who understand in great detail how addictions work; that's why telling somebody to stop playing is about as effective as telling an alcoholic to stop drinking.

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    13. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      My gods, did you just tell her to go to the kitchen and bake you a pie??

    14. Re:Males? by girlintraining · · Score: 1

      Sorry, I didn't mean to sound as though I was defending the guy -- just trying to provide some insight as to why he (and many other guys) behave that way. Most guys simply do not understand "girlspeak," and, unless you've found one of the rare ones who does, expecting him to figure it out is just an exercise in frustration.

      Uhh, didn't say that you were. I was just providing a "view from the other side". And yes, it's rare. I'm just wondering if there's a way to turn their love of video games into something that develops social skills, as long as they're going to do it.

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    15. Re:Males? by kerohazel · · Score: 1

      The Sims helps to build social skills? I've never played it, but from what I've seen it looks like a god game. In other words, watch your creations live out their lives with a certain degree of indirect influence.

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    16. Re:Males? by megrims · · Score: 1

      As a man who spends more time reading and other non-visual activities than any of the above, I question the validity of your stereotypes. (And I wish I knew girls who read; my female friends are all into television and other kinds of emotional porn)

      It's easy to divide people into male and female, but personality doesn't necessarily divide down the convenient line.

    17. Re:Males? by celle · · Score: 0, Redundant

      "Homework or a few minutes of e-mail, not a big deal... Wasting four hours on a video game because you need to "relax"... It gives a clear message: I'm not wanted. And when it's my boyfriend doing that, then it's elevate to not only aren't I wanted, but that I'm less attractive than a hunk of circuits and plastic. So yeah, most girls are going to be rightly pissed about that!"

          Aren't you injecting you're views into his life? What if he started demanding you stop speaking to your friends other than hello/goodbye? Stop writing so much into it. He doesn't see that much in it which is insensitive and you're being oversensitive/overreacting, short version, you're both being selfish. If you don't tell him how you feel, don't beat-around-the-bush about it, you'll never get past it and he'll never know. You might be lucky and he'll be sensitive enough to notice later but I wouldn't count on it or him saying anything about it. Guys tend to accept point blank and not read into anything so stop playing word games and tell him bluntly what you think and why.
            Like any of us, give him something more interesting and you won't have so many problems. Just remember, he's doing his thing and you're doing yours. We're creatures of habit, let him have a reason to change the habit.

    18. Re:Males? by dhall · · Score: 1

      You can play the Sims in a "guy" way.

      You know the role, play the pimp with a harem.

      There are in game achievements for balancing as many girlfriends as possible, with bonus points for not letting them find out about each other.

      It is over simplistic to say that construction style games are purely in the purview of femmes and destruction style games are purely male. There are guys who enjoy Little Big Planet, and there are girls who enjoy blowing off heads in Fallout 3.

    19. Re:Males? by AceofSpades19 · · Score: 3, Insightful

      girlspeak translation: Get off the damn computer and pay attention to me when I'm around. It's damn rude to have someone over and then leave them to entertain themselves so you can go play a video game. Homework or a few minutes of e-mail, not a big deal... Wasting four hours on a video game because you need to "relax"... It gives a clear message: I'm not wanted. And when it's my boyfriend doing that, then it's elevate to not only aren't I wanted, but that I'm less attractive than a hunk of circuits and plastic. So yeah, most girls are going to be rightly pissed about that!

      See the thing is, unless she _actually_ gets pissed at him instead of saying "I wish you spend less time on wow", he won't know. You can't expect every guy to completely understand every word that she says, it just doesn't work that way. She needs to explain it to him in more frank terms, not wishy-washy words

    20. Re:Males? by dhall · · Score: 1

      I believe this youtube video epitomizes your concept.

      "World of Wifecraft".

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVhwwFHGEFI

      Turning real life into a reward/achievement system. I know it's cliche to say that humans prefer the skinner box treatment. It is a concept that is constantly reinforced in everyday discussion, to the point where geek/gamer-dom take pride in the stereotype.

    21. Re:Males? by Renraku · · Score: 1

      "Is there some way to use some visual medium to help boys crawl out of their shell?"

      From an evolutionary stand point, this makes a lot of sense. The men were the strong, agile, good-reflexed ones that traditionally hunted and took care of the general defense of the town. They need vision in order to do these things. And reflexes. Doing something that requires both is like that satisfaction you get when the key turns in the lock.

      We won't get into the mate-selection part of the process.

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    22. Re:Males? by ozamosi · · Score: 1

      There's something wrong with nerds: they spend all their time whining in forums like this that they can't get a girlfriend (or for the less articulate among us: "booobies!!!!1"), but when they do get a girlfriend, they're too busy being online to pay them any attention.

      (The times I refused to have sex because I was busy configuring Postfix and things like that aren't among my proudest moments)

      And just because I know how annoying it is when people get all hooked up on a minor point, instead of commenting on your main argument: I'm ignoring your main point for the single reason that I think computer games became boring about the same time they grew a third dimension.

    23. Re:Males? by Veggiesama · · Score: 1

      And when it's my boyfriend doing that, then it's elevate to not only aren't I wanted, but that I'm less attractive than a hunk of circuits and plastic. So yeah, most girls are going to be rightly pissed about that!

      No, you're less attractive than naked night elf bank-mules dancing on mailboxes. There's a clear difference. Get it right.

    24. Re:Males? by Culture20 · · Score: 1

      You mentioned in an earlier post that men are attracted to video games due to the visual action. Not always true (turn based strategy games are popular too), but in general it probably is. So, any game where the goal is fostering relationships would probably be quite boring unless it were portrayed as a complex puzzle game (Women: the Most Incredible Puzzle Known to Man). I suppose you could have an ancient Greek version of the Christian FPS games, where you're Eros (grown-up Cupid) shooting couples with love arrows, but that wouldn't really teach anything unless you had to sit invisible, waiting until the perfect female code-words were spoken.

      Of course, there's the game that every guy my age remembers from his youth, where they learned something about social interaction: Leisure Suit Larry.

    25. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I often find myself wishing for video games that helped build social skills for these kind of boys -- the ones that are awkward and introverted in public

      I didn't need a game for that... just using IM instead or RL talking allowed me to communicate much better with the people around me. Even with the people that I'd see three or four times a week.

      I don't think they'd want to play it though, unless it involved blowing up or shooting something. :( Like The Sims -- awesome game, but the only people I know who play it are other girls! Am I hoping for too much here?

      The Sims - C4 edition maybe?

      Is there some way to use some visual medium to help boys crawl out of their shell?

      that depends on what the shell is for. How about just playing with him? And if she can't, then just accept that they do not share interests and move on. He doesn't need saving, and she doesn't need to make him her "project".

    26. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Girls read books, boys watch movies--Boys play video games, girls play board games, that kind of thing. They really are wired different and it's damn frustrating.

      Hum.. not so fast. Where did you take that assumption? I know many girls that totally dislike reading books, board games, and anything that you do sitting down. Many, many girls love to watch reality-show, trash romantic movies, dancing and shopping.
      I know many boys that love to read books.

      (Btw I'm italian, maybe in the USA the things are different)

    27. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0
      If you play an MMO right it does that, at least it did it for me. I was introverted, and with all the social skill of a panicked clam when it came to meeting new ppl. While online though I found that awkwardess was gone. Maybe it was having a common goal, or it may have been the isolation layer of anonymity in the first encounters, but the (shocking to me) fact was that all of a sudden I was being considered as a fun person to be with, respected and later on counted on for leadership of the group. I had bonded with the group in a fraction of the time it took me for the rest of my social environment.

      Later when we met in person the realization that they were the same people I knew from the game took about two minutes to settle. I then slipped right back into the group... but in real life this time. I also realised that day what a breakthrough what I did was for me: I got in and got accepted in record time, and all the edge I really had was that we shared a common interest. This precident was a great help in opening up later on.

      As for your friend: Common interests go a long way. Gaming is a perfectly acceptable activity to do with your S.O. if he/she is into it. If he was for examle a rock climber and was hanging from a ledge by his fingers 20 hours a week it would be the same thing. Having common interests goes a long way, so if she gets into gaming somehow it's a Good Thing (but don't force it, you won't make it if you don't really like it) and if she gets him into one of her hobbies it's even better.

    28. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That's a result of US culture becoming almost entirely feminized. Guys aren't allowed to do guy stuff anymore - so we play video games.

    29. Re:Males? by jonaskoelker · · Score: 4, Insightful

      girlspeak translation: ...

      Thank you.

      I'm intrigued by your ideas, and wish to purchase your latest edition of your femaleish-maleish dictionary ;)

      I'm hoping you tell or have told you boyfriend what you just told us here on slashdot.

      And to all the girls, here's how guys communicate: we (almost) always interpret what is said in the most straightforward, say-what-you-mean nothing-between-the-lines way. When I say I have a headache, it's because my head hurts (dammit), not because I sad I didn't get the promotion.

      Successful communication requires one or more parties to move out of their comfort zone. It's probably for the best if both do: guys need to read between the lines a bit more, and girls need to tell the guys when and how to read between the lines.

      But speaking as a guy, understanding girls isn't made easier by the fact that "I have a headache" sometimes means "my head hurts; end of news bulletin" and sometimes means "I refuse to have sex with you due to something you did within the last month that I won't tell you about" and sometimes "my head hurts really badly; please give me an aspirin and a really big hug."

      If you talk to guys the guy way, and tell them flat out what you want, they'll either agree straight away [who doesn't want to hug and comfort their hurting girlfriend?], or at least the two of you will know that you both know that there's an issue to be addressed and what it is. In the latter case, you at least have an easier time talking about solutions than if only one party knows what the problem is.

    30. Re:Males? by ObsessiveMathsFreak · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Homework or a few minutes of e-mail, not a big deal... Wasting four hours on a video game because you need to "relax"... It gives a clear message: I'm not wanted. And when it's my boyfriend doing that, then it's elevate to not only aren't I wanted, but that I'm less attractive than a hunk of circuits and plastic.

      Yes I think that is indeed the plain truth, and people fool themselves into thinking that they either automatically deserve to be wanted by their designated *friend, or more importantly that they should desire to be wanted. The reality is that most people hook up with boyfriends or girlfriends for two reasons.

      1) Sex

      But, the plain fact of the matter is that after a few months, the novelty of sex will wear off. Now, this can be replaced by a long term emotional bond formed over the past few months of intimate contact, but only if that bond was formed. If it wasn't, then there really is no reason for people to stay together except for our other important reason.

      2) Social pressures.

      Many people in dead end relationships stay there for one primary reason. It is more painful and socially unacceptable for them to have no partner than it is to have a poor partner. The pressure, internal and external, for an adult of "marriageable" age to at least be dating is real and present. I have seen people remain in miserable relationships that are well past their sell by date, and the only reason is that they have, in the colloquial, "settled". The (minor) risk of ending up alone for ever or even for a short period of time is regarded as too frightening to justify leaving a gangrenous union.

      The single best lampooning of this behavior can be seen in the South Park episode where Satan is paralyzed with indecision because he cannot decide which boyfriend to settle on. His dilemma is resolved by consulting God, who reveals that his dilemma was a false one because he never actually needed to settle for anyone at all. The Lord of Darkness rediscovered his happiness by simply leaving relationships that were never going to work out.

      Returning to the original point, you are correct. Someone's boyfriend spending four hours a night on video game does mean that that they are not wanted, and the incorrect conclusion is to attempt to "salvage" a relationship that is almost certainly doomed anyway. As the saying goes, there are plenty of other fish in the sea and in any case, sometimes fish is not worth the the sacrifices to the rest of your diet!

      Move on. Loneliness is temporary. But misery lasts 'till death does you part.

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    31. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Casually saying something like, "Oh, I wish you'd spend less time playing WoW" doesn't count -- his internal reaction will be "Ok, I'll log off fifteen minutes early today," then he'll shrug and move on.

      girlspeak translation: Get off the damn computer and pay attention to me when I'm around. It's damn rude to have someone over and then leave them to entertain themselves so you can go play a video game. Homework or a few minutes of e-mail, not a big deal... Wasting four hours on a video game because you need to "relax"... It gives a clear message: I'm not wanted. And when it's my boyfriend doing that, then it's elevate to not only aren't I wanted, but that I'm less attractive than a hunk of circuits and plastic. So yeah, most girls are going to be rightly pissed about that!

      And he in fact called her up and said, hey why don't you come over? Or did she call him up and ask, hey mind if I come over?

      In my experience it tends to be the later.

    32. Re:Males? by daveime · · Score: 1

      I've been married 12 years, and I STILL don't understand 100% girlspeak.

    33. Re:Males? by daveime · · Score: 1

      In other words, watch your creations live out their lives with a certain degree of indirect influence.

      Sound just like the typical Parent-Child relationship - at least if my 20 year old daughter (who is driving me crazy with her choice of boyfriends), is anything to go by.

    34. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      " I tried my best to explain how men are so much more visually oriented than girls, but it's a hard concept to really explain. It's not that they're addicted to video games, it's just that the game provides more visual action than the real world so they're more strongly attracted to it. Girls read books, boys watch movies--Boys play video games, girls play board games, that kind of thing. "

      I have to completely disagree with most of this. I don't think it has much to do with "hard-wiring" male vs female, but with "hard wiring" one set of interests vs another set of interests. As a girl, I enjoy playing video games (A LOT). I'd rather sit down to a good a**-kicking fest (usually mine) on my console than get my a** kicked playing a board game. I mean, what would you rather have happen? "Ha, I just took your stupid little piece of plastic because I rolled the dice." Or "Ha! I just pulled your heart out of your chest with my bare hands?"

    35. Re:Males? by archen · · Score: 1

      Yeah I'll agree with you there. Being a sort of computer geek myself I have this tendency to anchor myself to a computer. My last girlfriend would get annoyed, yet she was watching TV. I figured it was the same thing. But often she wanted us to watch TV together. Stupid right? But you have to understand that even though you sort of zone out watching the show, when the show is over you have another thing in common. Even if you just part ways and do your own thing afterwords, when waiting in line for a movie or whatever you can discuss the show.

      It's that sort of thing that can bring people together. A game like World of Warcraft can do that as well, IF you both play. It sounds like there is a bit of a disconnect between their interests. Without seeing how things are first hand it's hard to say though. I mean if he spends 2 hours a day on WoW, I would think that's within reason, more than that; probably not. Even so it seems like the guy doesn't get the hint that his woman want's attention. That strikes me as a pitfall of youth though :P

    36. Re:Males? by D+Ninja · · Score: 1

      This may be a silly question, but -- she may have spent three hours bitching to you about it, but has she spent that much time talking to him about it? Nothing is going to change unless he wants to change, and that will not happen unless he understands and accepts that there is a problem.

      While I agree that it takes (many) women far too much time to actually vocalize their opinions to the person that needs to hear it (in this case, the boyfriend), what's the big deal about "changing" her boyfriend.

      I dated a girl who pretty much hated that I played WoW. She saw it as something for me to do while she was in class or when I had some of my guy friends over. Other than that, she expected that we would always do something else. I hate to say - I *enjoyed* WoW. I didn't play it as filler, I played it because I wanted to play. Granted, I very much enjoyed spending time with her, but why must I change my interests because she doesn't "approve?" (WoW was not the only hobby I had that she didn't like - she wasn't very fond of my sports interests as well.) Basically, she wanted me to like what she liked, and that's it.

      Screw that. Like me for who I am, not who you want me to be. It's much more attractive and appealing.

    37. Re:Males? by D+Ninja · · Score: 2, Insightful

      girlspeak translation: Get off the damn computer and pay attention to me when I'm around. It's damn rude to have someone over and then leave them to entertain themselves so you can go play a video game. Homework or a few minutes of e-mail, not a big deal... Wasting four hours on a video game because you need to "relax"... It gives a clear message: I'm not wanted. And when it's my boyfriend doing that, then it's elevate to not only aren't I wanted, but that I'm less attractive than a hunk of circuits and plastic. So yeah, most girls are going to be rightly pissed about that!

      So quit inviting yourself over when I want to come home from work and want to spend a couple hours relaxing. I'll start resenting you if you do that.

      Despite popular belief, girls can be just as selfish as guys can be. You two need to strike a balance. (And, by that, I mean a REAL balance. Not a "do what the girl wants" balance.)

    38. Re:Males? by D+Ninja · · Score: 1

      (Women: the Most Incredible Puzzle Known to Man)

      Not fun. It's not solvable. And there's very few rewards during the learning process.

    39. Re:Males? by Snaller · · Score: 1

      "girlspeak translation: Get off the damn computer and pay attention to me when I'm around. It's damn rude to have someone over and then leave them to entertain themselves so you can go play a video game. Homework or a few minutes of e-mail, not a big deal... Wasting four hours on a video game because you need to "relax"... It gives a clear message: I'm not wanted. And when it's my boyfriend doing that, then it's elevate to not only aren't I wanted, but that I'm less attractive than a hunk of circuits and plastic. So yeah, most girls are going to be rightly pissed about that!"

      Instead of being pissed they should work on being more attractive!

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    40. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      but that I'm less attractive than a hunk of circuits and plastic

      What could be beautifuler? :)

    41. Re:Males? by Culture20 · · Score: 1

      I read a review that there's eye-candy, but you get slapped for gawking.

    42. Re:Males? by Fallingcow · · Score: 1

      Like The Sims -- awesome game, but the only people I know who play it are other girls! Am I hoping for too much here? Is there some way to use some visual medium to help boys crawl out of their shell?

      My wife spends all her time in The Sims 2 implementing eugenics programs.

      I'm sorry, but I prefer to shoot Nazis in my games, rather than be them.

    43. Re:Males? by Fallingcow · · Score: 1

      Building the houses in The Sims is cool. Everything beyond that is pretty damn boring, though. Seriously, you need me to tell you to pee? Yeah, that's how I wast to spend my time *eyeroll*

    44. Re:Males? by Fallingcow · · Score: 1

      Speaking as a guy, I enjoy making up stories in my head to explain the traits of my generals or royalty in the Total War games, especially with mods that flesh out the importance of these characters, add extra traits, and give it all more depth. That can be sort of like fostering relationships, I guess.

      I'd love to see more of that in those games. Just don't take away the sieges and cavalry charges, damnit!

      Hell, I'm usually more compassionate with those very abstract characters than my wife is when she plays The Sims. You should see what she puts those people through just to get "perfect" babies... it's creepy.

    45. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      (Women: the Most Incredible Puzzle Known to Man)

      Not fun. It's not solvable.

      The problem isn't so much that women aren't solvable, but that the solution space changes on a daily, sometimes even hourly basis. What was a correct solution to a given situation in the past, may not be a solution to what appears to be the same situation in the future. Sometimes, it not only isn't a solution, but actually exacerbates the problem.

    46. Re:Males? by Jaeph · · Score: 1

      "Get off the damn computer and pay attention to me when I'm around."

      I've found in life that it goes both ways. I'm not saying the men are right for playing games (watching sports, whatever) instead of spending more time with their ladies, but the ladies are often *also* (-see that word?) at fault in their treatment of the men. Many women treat men as a comfort appendage: if the man is not attending to their comfort, then the man is at fault for neglecting them.

      -Jeff

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    47. Re:Males? by shutdown+-p+now · · Score: 1

      I don't think they'd want to play it though, unless it involved blowing up or shooting something. Like The Sims -- awesome game, but the only people I know who play it are other girls!

      Eh? Of course we males play Sims as well! Now, can I interest you with my collection of variously creative methods of killing people in that game, or disposing of the unwanted babies? How about my "concentration camp" house? Or the other one with the assortment of ghosts which serve to drive mad every next guy who chooses to settle there, and force him to commit suicide and join them (see collection of methods above)?

      No? Hm... ;(

    48. Re:Males? by girlintraining · · Score: 1

      You can't expect every guy to completely understand every word that she says, it just doesn't work that way. She needs to explain it to him in more frank terms, not wishy-washy words

      Girls aren't "frank" because girls don't want to offend or make it sound like they aren't flexible. So the wishy-washy language is more of a way of protecting the feelings of others, which girls find more important than what everyone does together (which is viewed as more of the excuse to socialize). As an example, look at how a group of girls decide where to eat:

      First, there's the question -- is anyone hungry? The usual answers are "hell yes", "yes", "a little", "not really", "just ate", and "I would but I'm on a diet." If the majority are in the positive, then the next question is about where to eat. If anyone said they're on a diet, they might be asked more to narrow the list down before... Second, where do we want to eat? Everyone throws in a suggestion and the answers again vary from "sure" to "just ate there!" to "I'm a vegetarian" (which never qualifies as a 'diet', so it comes up here -- it's also often political, but that's another story). Unlike the majority vote before, this one is about finding something that everyone can live with (so it takes longer). After about 5-10 minutes, we'll either have an answer or the driver excercises their executive override and picks the best answer she can. Hopefully, nobody pouts about it if this happens. Then, while we're driving to the place, we might see a restaurant that we hadn't considered before and everyone will shout "yeah yeah, let's go there!" which results in a u-turn, a traffic snarl, and several horns as we tear into the parking lot amidst a stream of expletives and apologies. -_-

      First guy: "I'm hungry. Wanna go to taco bell?"
      Second guy: "Yeah sure."
      Other guys: *head nod*

      Girls are all about negotiation and making everyone feel happy that they got something. That's why we use "wishy washy" language... It's so it doesn't sound like we're being a bitch about it, and that we listen and care about what others' opinions are. Guys just want a quick answer that's "good enough" in most cases... They don't like negotiation because for them it's too much like arguing. And all that "emo crap" just gets in the way of The Job(tm).

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    49. Re:Males? by AceofSpades19 · · Score: 1

      Girls are all about negotiation and making everyone feel happy that they got something. That's why we use "wishy washy" language... It's so it doesn't sound like we're being a bitch about it, and that we listen and care about what others' opinions are.

      Its pointless to use wishy washy language in this situation because it won't help anyone. Sometimes you _have_ to be a "bitch" about stuff in order to get something done, otherwise nothing will get done at all and it won't help anyone

    50. Re:Males? by MMInterface · · Score: 1

      "Girls read books, boys watch movies"

      Are we talking about a specific subset of girls here because most girls I know watch movies. Granted they don't prefer the same ones as I do but many of them watch more movies than I do? Most girls I know go shopping and watch movies.

      "girls play board games"

      How old are we talking? Most girls I know don't own a board game.

      "I tried my best to explain how men are so much more visually oriented than girls"

      If this were a guy reading books, working too much, or playing sports the result would be the same. The girl would still feel ignored and butt hurt. It's not about being more visual. And I've seen this reversed as well where the girlfriend or wife spent time doing something she liked and guy wanted her to spend more time with him or the family, especially when I'm in Japan.

      " Is there some way to use some visual medium to help boys crawl out of their shell?"

      He may just want to escape from reality for a period of time. This may include getting some space from a nagging girlfriend. The more you push him the more he might feel relief playing the game. Again it's not about being visual. You would get better results by getting him drunk, but getting drunk could become another way to escape. In the end he's probably going to feel more at ease and open with somebody who doesn't seem critical of his habits. The first thing you do when you want to get somebody to come out of their shell is make them feel comfortable. This goes for guys and girls.

    51. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Not sure I agree with males don't read or play board games but I think a question needs to be asked: Why is the BF going to games in the first place? Is he really addicted or is he making up for something missing in his life like acceptance or feeling of belonging? As you said women and men are wired a bit differently but in order for any relationship to work they have to have some sort of common ground or at the very least a common goal in mind. If the BF has nothing in common with your friend and your friend just nags him to death or shows how much she does not like his interests (games, movies, etc.) all the time then he will just run to his interests to fullfil what your friend is not giving him which is the feeling of belonging. My wife gives me that feeling of belonging and acceptance despite our differences and I don't turn to games and play for several hours anymore (played at least 30 hours on WoW before meeting my wife and getting married). Your friend needs to make him feel loved and accepted and not make him feel like he has to change everything about himself while she changes nothing about herself and making him feel obligated to be with her. Without the "belonging factor" you can expect the relationship to go sour soon since it will feel like another job to him and not a relationship. Make him feel at home and he will change on his own without the nagging. Hope this helps.

    52. Re:Males? by Timedout · · Score: 1

      You sir don't know how women work. They want someone to listen to their problems and agree with them. They do not want someone to fix their problems. -A Male

    53. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      It sounds like the problem is that your friend's boyfriend is a loser. She should dump him and find a guy who doesn't ignore her and play video games all the time. Life's too short to have to deal with shit like that.

    54. Re:Males? by Chess+Piece+Face · · Score: 1

      "If you talk to guys the guy way, and tell them flat out what you want..."

      That's the opposite of most womens' idea of romance. Men are expected to take the initiative at all stages of a relationship. Think about who usually asks for the first date, makes the first move, proposes, etc. Which leads to...

      "If he really loved me he'd":

      * figure it out on his own, or
      * already know what I want, or
      * try everything until he gets it right ...which in turn leads to a lot of wrong decisions, and guess who gets blamed for that.

    55. Re:Males? by Psychochild · · Score: 1

      Disclaimers: I'm an online game developer, but I don't speak for Blizzard, etc.

      I'm sure Blizzard has hired psychologists to figure out the optimal effort:reward ratio to keep people playing as long as possible.

      I'm sure they don't, because it would be stupid. A joke that online game devs tell is that our perfect customer subscribes to our game but never plays; that way we get all the revenue and none of the cost. Someone spending many, many hours in our game is actually a cost, and drives up the likelihood of them needing customer service (the expensive part of running an online game). So, there's less benefit to getting people hopelessly addicted to our games.

      The thing that does keep people playing our games is the one thing we're talking about here: socialization. It's the social obligations that people feel to the other players in the game that usually keep them playing long term. Honestly, the game gets a bit old after a while; it's the people that keep it interesting.

      If you're interested in some real research on this, take a look at Nick Yee's site on MMO research.

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      Brian "Psychochild" Green
      MMO developer's blog
    56. Re:Males? by MobyTurbo · · Score: 1

      Oh, I certainly don't wonder. I'm sure Blizzard has hired psychologists to figure out the optimal effort:reward ratio to keep people playing as long as possible. MMORPGs are designed to be addictive by people who understand in great detail how addictions work; that's why telling somebody to stop playing is about as effective as telling an alcoholic to stop drinking.

      Although I don't think that it is fair to classify video games as an "addiction" rather than an obsession with most people who play them excessively (few people get as addicted as people do to substances) it is true that Sony Online Entertainment hired psychologists to help design Everquest, and I'm sure Blizzard has also.

    57. Re:Males? by Psychochild · · Score: 1

      To answer your important question first:

      I often find myself wishing for video games that helped build social skills for these kind of boys -- the ones that are awkward and introverted in public, but if you can get them to open up they're nice teddy bears.

      Ignoring the argument if I'm a teddy bear or not, what worked for me were text MUDs (the predecessors to today's MMOs like World of Warcraft). I learned how to interact with people at my own pace. It really helped me understand the importance of extroverting and talking to other people. Of course, it takes a bit of introspection to really understand the benefits; for most people, they're happy if they're not forced to grow. So, there's no magical game that will make introverts come out of their shells, but social interact in online games can help them grow if they want.

      Now, a suggestion for your friend:

      I just got done having a three hour bitch fest yesterday with a friend of mine who's BF is 'addicted' to World of Warcraft.

      If she wants to be part of her BF's life, then she might want to start taking an interest in his interests. Gaming isn't just a "male" thing, and I can say from personal experience that there are few things sexier than a woman who is willing to play games; I say this as someone who met the love of my life 15 years ago at a college D&D group. :)

      The trick is to find a good cooperative game and play together. WoW is okay for this, but his other social obligations in the game may interfere with playing with her. My GF and I played a lot of Age of Empires 2: Age of Kings together. Our current interest is Titan Quest, which is just $20 on Steam for the Gold version (base + expansion). If she has a larger budget and wants to go cutting edge, the upcoming Diablo 3 might be a good game to play together.

      As I said, the important thing here is to pick a cooperative game instead of a competitive one (as most guys like). Avoid shooters, etc. And, make sure the time is special between them, not something where his friends are playing, too; otherwise it might feel that she's "crowding in" on his friends. If she gets into gaming, this is pretty much the ultimate bargaining chip for when she wants him to become interested in one of her hobbies.

      Some advice from someone who is very happily living with a gamer girl!

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      Brian "Psychochild" Green
      MMO developer's blog
    58. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0
      Despite popular belief, girls can be just as selfish as guys can be. You two need to strike a balance. (And, by that, I mean a REAL balance. Not a "do what the girl wants" balance.)

      Women are wired to be more selfish than men. The idea that men are the selfish ones only holds any credence on silly sitcoms. Look at a single guy's apartment, it's more likely than not to be very simply furnished with things the guy will use every single day. Look at a single girl's apartment and it is likely to be filled with stuff, useless stuff that is seldom if ever used - they just like having it even if they don't use it. The same thing applies to their boyfriend's attention and emotional involvement.

    59. Re:Males? by takane · · Score: 1

      Personally, I play video games mostly because i have nothing better to do. If say in the rare occurrence i have something better like a girl i could spend time with or some other musicians to jam with I'll do that instead.

    60. Re:Males? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Fuck you, feminist. I have read thousands of books starting when I was about 5 years old. Where are your preconceptions now? In the fucking trash, bitch.

  11. Nerds not addicts by camg188 · · Score: 5, Insightful

    turned to heavy gaming because they felt they didn't fit in elsewhere

    So 90% were nerds, not addicts.

    1. Re:Nerds not addicts by kerohazel · · Score: 1

      Maybe they wanted to be around fellow nerds, and figured there would be plenty of them at this addiction clinic. It must be a great place to go talk to fellow gamers... well, aside from the treatments and having to pay for it.

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  12. Gaming Addition Patents... by FunkyRider · · Score: 1

    Gaming Addition Patents... That's what I read the title. I thought oh.. ok, so game addiction has becoming patented, brilliant!
    1.Patent gaming addiction
    2.Sit on your ass and wait for people to play games
    3. ???
    4. Profit!!!

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    1. Re:Gaming Addition Patents... by LordKaT · · Score: 1

      Gaming addition? You mean the theory that 100,000 = new life?

  13. Define: addiction by WarJolt · · Score: 3, Insightful

    to devote or surrender (oneself) to something habitually or obsessively. ie. addicted to gambling

    http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/addicted

    Most people devote a great deal of their time socializing and thus become comfortable socializing. It's part of normal human development. We are social creatures. I tend to think that addiction starts when it causes problems in your life.

    The problem is few have studied the long term impact of not learning how to socialize with someone without a LCD screen and a Internet connection. I could potentially see problems arising because not learning how to socialize only makes someone feel even more alienated.

    Can you see the potential downward spiral that could apply to this situation that is typically reserved for drug abuse?

    1. Re:Define: addiction by Darkness404 · · Score: 1

      I tend to think that addiction starts when it causes problems in your life.

      Then video games are very rarely, if ever, addicting. Some people socialize in different ways, some people prefer to talk to people over the phone rather than in person, some people are the total opposite, still others prefer using text messages and e-mail. Just look at letters, today's video game and social network based society is nothing more than an extension of letters and telephones.

      Can you see the potential downward spiral that could apply to this situation that is typically reserved for drug abuse?

      No, no more than the invention of the US postal service and telephones have made us be addicted to them.

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    2. Re:Define: addiction by Thiez · · Score: 1

      > We are social creatures.

      I hear that a lot, but what does it mean? I get less than two hours of social interaction (this includes chatting) per day most days of the week, and I can't say that bothers me. I don't feel lonely. And I'm not addicted to anything. Can someone come up with a proper definition of 'social creatures'?

    3. Re:Define: addiction by SoupIsGoodFood_42 · · Score: 1

      The Webster definition is a bit different from the medical or psychological definition. Avoiding socialising can become enough of a problem to be classified as a psychological disorder, but it's quite different from addiction (psychological or medical) where the subject or substance itself has become the main problem, rather than a symptom of something else. Yeah, the distinction is small and vague, but still important in terms of treatment.

  14. In other news... by NinthAgendaDotCom · · Score: 1

    People who diagnosed their mental disorder online are not disordered.

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  15. tangent by circletimessquare · · Score: 4, Funny

    is it possible to be a sex addict?

    aren't we all sex addicts?

    isn't this the only way to ensure the survival of our species?

    show me a roomful of intelligent, platonic, perfectly personality matched non sex addicted couples, and i'l show you the extinction of homo sapiens in 1.4 generations

    show me a roomful of sex addicted drunk raving idiots, and i'll show you 6 billion homo sapiens in a couple thousand generations

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    1. Re:tangent by MaskedSlacker · · Score: 3, Informative

      Wouldn't take nearly that long. Modern humans have only existed for 10,000 generations, and were nearly wiped to extinction (to possibly as few as 1,000 breeding pairs) only 3,500 generations ago. Compare 20th century population growth to prior centuries. A roomful (say 10 breeding pairs) could reach 6 billion in less than a hundred generations easily, given sufficient available resources.

    2. Re:tangent by jwiegley · · Score: 1

      Are you presenting this as proof by example?

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    3. Re:tangent by ring-eldest · · Score: 1

      platonic, perfectly personality matched non sex addicted couples, and i'l show you the extinction of homo sapiens

      It's sad that the first thought that came to mind for me here was that it would be pretty easy to extract semen samples from those couples, storing them in a genetic database in the cryo-freezer in the closet, and then artificially inseminating the females... /facepalm

      Oh well. At least Northrend will help me through the pain.

    4. Re:tangent by w0mprat · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Your dead right. Addiction as a problem is really a manifestation of a fault in the system which also gives us our drive to survive and succeed.

      Like most human behaviors, it's a useful trait 90% of the time. 10% of time when it gets out of hand, you can consider it an illness requiring remedy.

      This is why tagging the term addiction on any problem for an individual brings up all kinds of issues. Genuine addiction is very neurological/chemical, other examples may be inaccurately labeled addiction but the fault is actually behavioral. The lay person's understanding of the clinical definition is clearly different.

      Ok so, kids who spend alot of time playing 'WoW' because they don't fit in socially, whats the problem? They'll probably learn some social skills in the game, whereas if they remain marooned in real life they will just become socially isolated as a lot of these kids do.

      If some young person was doing some useful task, with the same pattern of compulsive behavior, would it still be called addiction by the concerned parent observing?

      Further, isn't it really actually rather funny how any reasonable analysis (anything other than knee-jerk finger pointing) of issues for young people boils right down to social problems and deficient parenting?

      Scratch that, what the hell am I saying: if we didn't have bullying in schools and a social structure that marginalizes eccentrics and intellectuals we wouldn't be able to breed the sub population of scientists and engineers that make the world a better place to live. :D ... Go bully some nerds and make sure they're never invited to parties! We need smart technical people to fix our planet, we can pump gas into their Ferraris, but ahah, their still nerds!

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    5. Re:tangent by vux984 · · Score: 1

      Ok so, kids who spend alot of time playing 'WoW' because they don't fit in socially, whats the problem? They'll probably learn some social skills in the game, whereas if they remain marooned in real life they will just become socially isolated as a lot of these kids do.

      I doubt they'll learn social skills in WoW.

      WoW, despite being "massively multiplayer" isn't a terribly social game. One of the reasons it became as popular as it did is that people who played previous mmorpgs generally had to be a LOT more social to survive/get anywhere. You had to be social... to ask for help... to get into groups... to eliminate downtime...to trade items... WoW's greatly expanded the 'solo' game... and "team PvP"? Sign up into a queue and be automatically dumped into a battleground with 20 other people whom you don't have to speak to at all.

      Now that's not the universal experience... if your a social person, you -can- find other social people, and hang out and do stuff together, and be all 'social'. But if your not social to start, WoW isn't likely to change that... the only exception being if you are seriously self conscious about your appearance or something, a video game can be a social outlet that frees you from that... but that's only a small part of the "socially awkward" player base.

    6. Re:tangent by Veggiesama · · Score: 1

      show me a roomful of intelligent, platonic, perfectly personality matched non sex addicted couples, and i'l show you the extinction of homo sapiens in 1.4 generations

      Morality prescripts of puritanical Victorianism, I'm looking at you.

    7. Re:tangent by Windows_NT · · Score: 1

      show me a roomful of sex addicted drunk raving idiots, and i'll show you 6 billion homo sapiens in a couple thousand generations

      My bed rooms is over here ...

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    8. Re:tangent by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      i'l show you the extinction of homo sapiens in 0 generations

      Fixed that for you. It's a bit silly to quantify time in generations after the last set of humans to be born...

    9. Re:tangent by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      the withdrawl is a bitch

  16. Re:"the media" by maglor_83 · · Score: 3, Funny

    have you found a magical fountain of information which is omnipotent, completely unbiased, and always on topic?

    Slashdot. Duh!

  17. Flamebait? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

    This is not flamebait. It is the following

    -Funny
    -Interesting
    -Insightful
    -Off topic
    -Trolling
    -Probably not true

    But flamebait? I think not. No one likes Ann Coulter, the only person who would flame about this is Coulter herself.

    1. Re:Flamebait? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      -Probably not true

      But I just love those anonymous cowards -- Ann Coulter

  18. Diablo & WoW... AkA Slot Machines by Silentknyght · · Score: 4, Interesting
    I played World of Warcraft (heavily, until I got married). I played Diablo (I & II, pretty heavily). I played Counter Strike for hours on end, very competitively. Two-three years ago, I would classify myself as a hardcore gamer. That said... I cannot deny the striking similarities between these games and slot machines. The addiction similarities between these games and gambling addition, particularly slot machines, is strong.

    Some (admittedly anecdotal) evidence. Don't tell me you never did these things, too:
    * "farmed" mobs/bosses/instances/etc in WoW for a random, rare drop.
    * loaded and reloaded the barbarian highlands level in diablo II umpteen times to farm for random, rare, drops
    * got feelings of joy at the sight of one color triggered at a particular point in the game

    All these things seem like more "pulls" on the slot machine, waiting for the lights and sounds to let you know you won. Is there potential for gambiling-addition-like issues in videogames? Yes. Am I terribly concerned and am I going to stop gaming? No.

    1. Re:Diablo & WoW... AkA Slot Machines by socrplayr813 · · Score: 2, Insightful

      I definitely agree that there is a parallel with slots/gambling/whatever. I think it's something that more people need to acknowledge. Games are great way to entertain/challenge yourself, but there is a point where they need to be turned off. Now, I'm not saying that people shouldn't play games or that these people are necessarily addicts, but the internet should not replace all social interaction.

      We need to keep in mind that a good number of these people have turned to games as a way to escape from a feeling of helplessness or social awkwardness. They become powerful in their online world and it's difficult to leave that, especially when you don't know how to approach the 'real' world. I know this is true for at least some 'addicts' because that's exactly what my issue was/is. It took me a long time to figure it out for myself.

      What would be ideal is for someone to reach out to the 'addicts' and show them that they are interesting people in their own right and encourage them to come outside. I don't know how feasible that is as a large-scale solution, but I know that having a friend drag me out to go bowling or something would be much more effective than trying to lock me in a room with other 'defective' people. I'd actually welcome the chance to get out of the house, even if it were difficult.

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    2. Re:Diablo & WoW... AkA Slot Machines by MindlessAutomata · · Score: 1

      Anything highly rewarding can be addicting.

    3. Re:Diablo & WoW... AkA Slot Machines by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      * loaded and reloaded the barbarian highlands level in diablo II umpteen times to farm for random, rare, drops

      /me cry's
      I'm glad I'm Anonymous

    4. Re:Diablo & WoW... AkA Slot Machines by daveime · · Score: 1

      Now, I'm not saying that people shouldn't play games or that these people are necessarily addicts, but the internet should not replace all social interaction.

      Have you actually SEEN a group of teens socially interacting ?

      Just last week, myself and a couple of mates were out at a bar (bear in mind we're all late 30's) ... and on the next table were 6 tweenies ... every damn one of them with their heads down, thumbing away on their cellphones to god knows who ? The only time they'd even acknowledge the other members of the table was when their was a break in the incessant beep beep beep, and they'd be forced to actually look at each other and perhap mutter a few words.

      This isn't just the internet, it's a general symptom of technology, and maybe people's inborn lack of decency ... the minute someone interrupts you mid-sentence because they HAVE to answer a bloody text message ... it's like being told "you are not important to me, I'd much rather talk to this anonymous person" on gadget XYZ.

      If we go out, cellphones are on silent, and usually ignored ... we go out to spend time with our mates, not with our gadgets.

    5. Re:Diablo & WoW... AkA Slot Machines by socrplayr813 · · Score: 1

      Now, I'm not saying that people shouldn't play games or that these people are necessarily addicts, but the internet should not replace all social interaction.

      Have you actually SEEN a group of teens socially interacting ?

      I see them interact all the time, actually. I run a soccer program for kids in exactly that age group. The problem isn't technology in itself; it's a combination of society's pressure on the kids and how the kids are raised. The ones that are allowed (both by their parents and by their peers) to pursue their interests are much more balanced when it comes to managing their time and their interactions. When the kids are persecuted or alienated for being interested in something that isn't mainstream, some of them begin to withdraw to things that are more familiar and comfortable.

      Of course, this isn't universal. Some of them just need a kick in the ass and a parent who pays enough attention to limit text messages/data plans/whatever.

      and maybe people's inborn lack of decency

      I don't necessarily disagree with the sentiment here, but I do disagree with how you're saying it. It's not an inborn lack of decency. It's just that 'decency' as you're using it is something that's learned and it's broken down to some extent because parents have not taught it to their children.

      If we go out, cellphones are on silent, and usually ignored ... we go out to spend time with our mates, not with our gadgets.

      Mine is typically ignored as well, but I will point out that communication changes and evolves over time. The english language, for example, is becoming less and less formal as time passes. The same is true for adoption of this technology. It's less and less of an 'insult' to take a phone call in some social situations. It shouldn't dominate your time, but it's not necessarily a slap in the face either.

      Also, keep in mind that kids today have grown up with much more powerful technology than previous generations and multitasking is something that comes to them very naturally. If they're not taught to deal with people the old fashioned way, they won't think anything of switching between real people just like an IM window or text message.

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    6. Re:Diablo & WoW... AkA Slot Machines by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Yes, you're absolutely right, it's a slot machine. In behavioural psychology this is what's called a variable reinforcement schedule, which was found to be the most habit forming pattern of response to a stimulus. Basically, any RPG with a random number generator controlling the spawning of items and monsters is addictive. I'm semi-addicted to Nethack, which sort of negates the point about the primary addicting facet of games for males being visual. But unlike WoW at least nethack involves a lot of strategy and thought; compulsive, stereotyped play quickly leads to death. "Farming" type RPGs deliberately encourage boring play. The more boring the play becomes, the more strongly the player forms a habit in response to variable reinforcement and he/she never knows when they'll be rewarded, or how. It's just a psychological fact that this is addictive, as BF Skinner famously showed with animals like pigeons and rats.

    7. Re:Diablo & WoW... AkA Slot Machines by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Though I must admit getting the joyous feeling of a purple dropping for me is definitely true, the other two are not. I didn't play Diablo II enough for that and in World of Warcraft, as they say, the RNG (random number generator... the basis of the slot machine like aspect of the game) hates me.

      I suppose the drop rates that you'll get something less often than they say but I seem to always get things several extra attempts later.

      Personally I prefer gathering a group of random people (a PUG, pick up group, as they're called) and dragging them through a 'dungeon we really shouldn't be going into at this level'. This usually involves a lot of cursing as a PUG tends to not work well together or follow 'orders' (strategies) often. After an hour or more of throwing healing spells wildly, it's over and I usually have no new items to show for it.

      Due to this I believe I am addicted to cursing.
      Where can I get help? ;)

  19. Alcohol by dohzer · · Score: 2, Interesting

    I don't have an alcohol addiction, I just feel like I fit in better when I'm drunk. So that means I'm not addicted, right?

    1. Re:Alcohol by John+Hasler · · Score: 2, Funny

      Right. You're just a drunkard.

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    2. Re:Alcohol by Vegeta99 · · Score: 2, Funny

      You're not an alcoholic if you don't go to meetings, you're a drunk.

      If you're in university, you're not an alcoholic even if you go to meetings, you're a student.

  20. When it's social... by MBCook · · Score: 1

    As someone I trust quite a bit has said before, when it's a social/personality problem there isn't much that can be done.

    But once you call it a disease or an addiction, then it's something to be managed with an hour or two a week at $400 on someone's insurance for the rest of their life.

    This is one reason why there are so many new "addictions" out there.

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  21. The remainder are actually addicted? by LackThereof · · Score: 1

    So, 10% actually ARE addicted to video games?

    Sounds like video games are DANGEROUS and should be HEAVILY REGULATED as a schedule 1 drug like Marijuana.

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    1. Re:The remainder are actually addicted? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That's "the remaining 10% of those seeing an addiction specialist", not "of gamers" or "of the population".

  22. I'm a gamer myself and the prob isn't social. by bronney · · Score: 2, Interesting

    I don't know how many gamers out there share the same feeling as me, but I don't game to get away from the real world, or that I am addicted, or for other stupid reasons.

    It's sad to game! I game because it's the cheapest form of entertainment. From the days of the QEMM, a fixed money you spent on a box will last you god know how many hours.

    I have a decent job now, and I still game a lot. Not because I am addicted. If I can spend a weekend on a boat, or in the garage tuning my Skyline GTR, or even just a Golf GL, I would. But I can't, so I game.

    If I feel the urge to earn myself that Golf GL, I would. But I don't, so I game.

    Go to school.

    1. Re:I'm a gamer myself and the prob isn't social. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      If I can spend a weekend on a boat, or in the garage tuning my Skyline GTR, or even just a Golf GL, I would.

      where is the Skyline GTR in GTA IV. I haven't found it yet.

  23. Keep it simple, stupid by sleeponthemic · · Score: 1

    It is beyond my comprehension why people must insist on debating levels and context of addiction. The reality is, someone has a habit, which they feel is damaging their life in some way. Why is it necessary to spend so much time "defining" addiction. I drink too much coffee. Whether I drink it because it tastes good, makes me high, mentally or physically, I'm addicted to it. Why is necessary for endless studies to continually make assertions on the redefinition of addiction.

    Sure, go after the root cause. But this "well, we've discovered that whilst you're prostituting yourself for wow gamecards, you're actually not addicted, you're just socially gravitated towards this experience" crap is nonsense. Who cares? Addict = harming habit. Why use one word to attempt to classify the nature of someone's addiction.

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    1. Re:Keep it simple, stupid by John+Hasler · · Score: 1

      > The reality is, someone has a habit, which they feel is damaging their life in some way.
      > Why is it necessary to spend so much time "defining" addiction.

      Because once you define an addiction you can build an industry around it.

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    2. Re:Keep it simple, stupid by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      > Why is necessary for endless studies to continually make assertions on the redefinition of addiction.

      Government Grant.

    3. Re:Keep it simple, stupid by im_thatoneguy · · Score: 1

      Here is why. Because people are deluded into thinking that we have free will.

      So any time a suspicion arises that maybe we are just biological robots following basic programing and the whims of our environment people freak out.

      OMG! He lost his free will! So they label it an addiction. If a behavior is percieved to have a negative consequence then it's labeled an addiction. If it's not destructive and is equally 'addictive' such as dating, eating, creating art, video games, watching TV, hanging out with friends, talking to people or reading slashdot it's mostly ignored. Because we do those things of our own free will.

      Addiction means. "My brain doesn't make me want to do that so you must be under some 'bad' influence." In reality like you said we're addicted to all sorts of things. But people still cling to this idiotic notion of free will. That 'normal' human behavior is the result of free will and 'abnormal' 'addictive' behavior is the result of some sort of horrible loss of free will.

    4. Re:Keep it simple, stupid by sleeponthemic · · Score: 1

      Hah, excellent point.

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  24. And tell me anywhere that's worth fitting in ? by unity100 · · Score: 4, Insightful

    where should they have fit in ?

    working 7 to 19.00 every day, in a thankless job that demands way more than it pays ?

    or, they should have fit in sleazy bar corners, wasting their life away with sluts (male or female) ?

    or, they should become career bitches (male or female) and waste their life away in that manner ?

    or they should have fit in with a family. but then again, they have to create a family first, and creating a family has SO much overhead and effort in these days that you can maybe compare it to swimming across english channel.

    or, they should have fit in with the immense crowds that are sedating their brain through football spectatorship, or in front of dumb tv shows each night ?

    or maybe they could have fit in with their peers, who are entertaining themselves with the MODERN entertainment form that is called gaming ? you know, fitting in WITH YOUR PEERS, as countless generations in the history of mankind has done ?

    well. they are just doing that. i think a lot of people, but especially 'experts' need to shut their traps about it, and get to accept this as a normal stage of human civilization.

    1. Re:And tell me anywhere that's worth fitting in ? by Zwicky · · Score: 1

      or they should have fit in with a family. but then again, they have to create a family first, and creating a family has SO much overhead and effort in these days

      I believe that doesn't happen until they get to level 20 Humanoid or something.

      Seriously though, you raise an excellent point and I think you're absolutely right.

      It's odd that people analyzing gaming seem to focus so closely on it that they can't see the forest for the trees; they don't see it in the context of the 'grand scheme of things'. It actually doesn't matter all that much.

      People do waste time in other, similarly 'wasteful' ways that could in some cases be seen as addiction in just the same way ("I can't miss American Idle* tonight" etc.) and nobody says anything about those. * [sic] :)

      And since when was being a gamer a bad thing. One survey found that gamers generally aren't the social misfits they are perceived to be. I'd personally put 'addicted' gamers above 'addicted' television watchers, arguing that they are ultimately seeing more benefit (hand-eye coordination etc.) than those folk who just slob out in from of the TV. Even gamers who spend every waking hour playing.

      I suppose one could argue that gaming addiction exists when it negatively affects aspects of their real world. Family, friends, bills not getting paid, etc. I'd say that's different. What's important to realize is that it is highly unfair to categorize those 90% of gamers in the title as addicted when they just enjoy spending the majority of their free time playing them.

      People shouldn't be required to fit in with a perceived norm.

      (I'm also sad to report that I read the title as "90% of Gaming Addiction Patents" and thought this was going to be about another stupid patent.)

      --
      "Three eyes are better than one" -- Lieutenant Columbo
    2. Re:And tell me anywhere that's worth fitting in ? by DNS-and-BIND · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Come on, dispensing with human civilization and socialization as it has been practiced for millennia, in favor of sitting in your home alone pressing the buttons on a Skinner box...well it just doesn't bode well. Normal? Quite the opposite, this is extraordinary and has never happened before.

      --
      Shutting down free speech with violence isn't fighting fascism. It IS fascism!
    3. Re:And tell me anywhere that's worth fitting in ? by ion.simon.c · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Mmm.

      How is "pressing the buttons on a skinner box" different from... say, "flipping the skinner cards" [1] or "filling in the skinner puzzle" [2] or "adjusting the skinner carburettor"[3]? These are all socially acceptable activities that we have been engaging in for *ages*.

      [1] Solitaire or other single-player card game
      [2] Crossword puzzle
      [3] Um... yeah. I suck at mocking you. :/

    4. Re:And tell me anywhere that's worth fitting in ? by NiteShaed · · Score: 1

      or, they should have fit in sleazy bar corners, wasting their life away with sluts (male or female) ?

      Wait....that one sounds okay to me actually....

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      Some bring out the best in others, some the worst. Some bring out far more.
    5. Re:And tell me anywhere that's worth fitting in ? by shutdown+-p+now · · Score: 1

      Normal? Quite the opposite, this is extraordinary and has never happened before.

      In other (old) news, in early 20th century, that newfangled invention called "telephone" was found by the mass media of the time to be extremely harmful to proper development of social relations, particularly in young men and women.

      Try again?

    6. Re:And tell me anywhere that's worth fitting in ? by unity100 · · Score: 1

      but, HOW many times ?

    7. Re:And tell me anywhere that's worth fitting in ? by NiteShaed · · Score: 1

      I dunno, but if you could direct me to these sluts of which you speak I'd be willing to do all the necessary fieldwork to find the answer....

      --
      Some bring out the best in others, some the worst. Some bring out far more.
    8. Re:And tell me anywhere that's worth fitting in ? by unity100 · · Score: 1

      you're a horrible, horrible man/woman.

    9. Re:And tell me anywhere that's worth fitting in ? by NiteShaed · · Score: 1

      Consider yourself lucky. Slashdotters only have to put up with me in very small doses, and they can hide my posts. My wife on the other hand somehow deals with my assorted nonsense and idiocy on a daily basis. Poor, poor woman....

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      Some bring out the best in others, some the worst. Some bring out far more.
    10. Re:And tell me anywhere that's worth fitting in ? by DNS-and-BIND · · Score: 1

      What, it wasn't? I'd imagine it was quite disruptive to "proper development" of social relations.

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      Shutting down free speech with violence isn't fighting fascism. It IS fascism!
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  26. Try something for me... by w0mprat · · Score: 4, Insightful

    As an experiement re-read TFA substituting the terms for "games" "gamer" etc to "sports" "sports fan". Try it.

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    After logging in slashdot still does not take you back to the page you were on. It's been that way for 20 years.
    1. Re:Try something for me... by Praxx · · Score: 3, Interesting

      Ninety per cent of the young people who seek treatment for compulsive sports watching are not addicted.

      So says Keith Bakker the founder and head of Europe's first and only clinic to treat sports watching addicts.

      The Smith & Jones Centre in Amsterdam has treated hundreds of young sports fans since the clinic opened in 2006.

      But the clinic is changing its treatment as it realises that compulsive sports watching is a social rather than a psychological problem.

      Using traditional abstinence-based treatment models the clinic has had very high success rates treating people who also show other addictive behaviours such as drug taking and excessive drinking.

      But Mr Bakker believes that this kind of cross-addiction affects only 10% of sports fans. For the other 90% who may spend four hours a day or more watching games such as football, he no longer thinks addiction counselling is the way to treat these people.

      "These kids come in showing some kind of symptoms that are similar to other addictions and chemical dependencies," he says.

      "But the more we work with these kids the less I believe we can call this addiction. What many of these kids need is their parents and their school teachers - this is a social problem."

      In response to this realisation the clinic has changed its treatment programme for sports fans to focus more on developing activity-based social and communications skills to help them rejoin society.

      Social ties

      "This sports watching problem is a result of the society we live in today," Mr Bakker told BBC News. "Eighty per cent of the young people we see have been bullied at school and feel isolated. Many of the symptoms they have can be solved by going back to good old fashioned communication."

      By offering compulsive sports fans a place where they feel accepted and where their voice will be heard, the clinic has found that the vast majority have been able to leave sports watching behind and rebuild their lives.

      For Mr Bakker the root cause of the huge growth in excessive sports watching lies with parents who have failed in their duty of care.

      But he is quick to point out that 87% of online sports fans are over the age of 18 - and once they cross that line, help is something they need to seek for themselves because parents no longer have the legal right to intervene.

      For younger sports fans, intervention may be the only way to break the cycle. That means stepping in and sometimes literally taking a child away from a computer, removing them from the game for a period of time until they become aware of their habits and begin to see there are other choices.

      "It's a choice," he says. "These kids know exactly what they are doing and they just don't want to change. If no one is there to help them, then nothing will ever happen."

      Alone together

      George [not his real name] is an 18-year-old sports fan being treated at the clinic in Amsterdam. He was spending at least 10 hours a day watching NFL until he sought help at the centre.

      "NFL games were somewhere I felt accepted for the first time in my life," he says. "I was never helped by my parents or my school. At the clinic I also feel accepted and have come out of myself."

      George kept his sports watching problem a secret as much as he could but when he did tell people, he says that no-one offered him help.

      "I liked sports watching because people couldn't see me, they accepted me as my online character - I could be good at something and feel part of a group."

      Underlying that new sense of belonging was a young man who felt powerless and neglected in real life.

      "I was aware that I played too much but I didn't know what to do. But it helped me because I could be aggressive and get my anger and frustration out online," he says.

      This kind of aggression is not uncommon in young sports fans who feel frustrated with their real lives. Besides addiction, aggression and violence fo

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  27. That's not Swedish ... by LrdDimwit · · Score: 2, Funny

    Beersh de stoppen de suverde heur fleefum wantum. Bork bork bork!

  28. Good problem, wrong source by LrdDimwit · · Score: 1

    Considering that this same old bullshift has been trotted around going back all the way to when novels were invented, you can't blame the media for it (they didn't exist yet!). And yes, at first, reading fiction (of any kind) was considered lowbrow; this is why Gulliver's Travels was presented as if it were a travelogue. This has been going around for so long, about every new society-changing technology that ever came along, that you can't blame the media. They're just a mirror -- even if, more often than not, it is a kind of funhouse mirror. Without that intimate connection to all of us, the media wouldn't have such power in the first place.

    This isn't a problem with "the media". It's a problem with "the public."

  29. non-nerds and "addiction symptoms" by phorm · · Score: 1

    How many non-nerds would regularly play WOW for 20-40 hours a week?

    Seems that - whatever the cause - it's somewhat of a geek disorder.

  30. Accomplishment by phorm · · Score: 1

    But if there wasn't a sense of accomplishment, would anyone play them? Part of any engaging activity is a challenge/reward system. Video games tend to pull from a lot of different areas, including various skills (mental, dexterity, etc) and often random chance, etc.

  31. Another example by hellfire · · Score: 1

    I know you are making a joke, but let's be serious for a second.

    Is it possible to be a food addict?

    Aren't we all food addicts?

    Isn't this something we all need to ensure our survival until we spread our genes?

    And yet we know what food addiction is, it's called gluttony, and it's pretty common in the US these days.

    Not all people are sex addicts. Having sex every day is just a healthy sex life. Having sex to the point that you neglect your health, take unnecessary risks, put yourself or others in harms way, or otherwise damage your life or the lives of those around you. You can truly be clinically addicted to almost anything if this is the case. If you game 12 hours a day, sleep 2 and work and eat the rest of the time and you can interact well enough to live your own life and not bother anyone else, you aren't addicted. We call it addiction because we believe the person is connected to the inanimate object in front of them. It's usually not true, it's just that people feel more comfortable using it as the tool that it is, for entertainment and communication.

    --

    "All great wisdom is contained in .signature files"

  32. But raiding is social by smegged · · Score: 1

    Raiding is a very social activity.

    I've learned how to interact with others while raiding.

    I've learned that yelling "GET OUT OF THE FIRE YOU ABSOLUTE %#@^ING MORON" is a very good motivational speech and that "YOU STUPID LOOTWHORE!" is an acceptable way of addressing another individual who happens to have a favourable roll of the dice.

    I tried this at work the other day but it didn't work in getting me my promotion. I guess the boss is just an antisocial lootwhore.

  33. Funny? Methinks insightful by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    n/t

  34. Golf is worse by Animats · · Score: 3, Interesting

    If you want to see addiction, visit a golf course.

    It's a real problem. Successful executives have been lost to golf addiction. Forbes Magazine once commented that more executives have been lost to golf than alcohol. There are people who skip work to play golf. It's not a joke.

    1. Re:Golf is worse by ElAurian · · Score: 1

      Disclaimer: I have played two games of golf, ever. The following knowledge was passed on to me by my paternal grandfather, who lived into his 80s.

      Golf is good exercise. It's good for your heart, your lungs, your eyesight, and muscle co-ordination. All the walking (unless you use a golf cart, fatass) is great for overall fitness, which helps keep your mind in shape.

      Computer gaming is good for hand-eye co-ordination, brain-training (if you play the right games) and helping keep Alzheimer's at bay, but it's not a life-extending activity unless you intentionally seek out DDR or Wii Fit.

      This argument is not simple enough to say:
      "Well, you're addicted to golf, I'm addicted to Eve Online, what's the difference?"

      There is actually a difference. What you choose to do with your leisure time can affect your whole life. So make your gaming count; play on hard, play cerebral games more often, and you'll get the full benefits. You can even go rock-climbing or fencing or parkour or something to keep the rest of you in shape.

      If I kept following my own advice as much as I used to, I'd be a happier person.

  35. Re:I FUCKED ANN COULTER IN THE ASS, HARD by Veggiesama · · Score: 1

    Ann Coulter fan-fiction... good god, I love the Internet.

  36. Free==good by Culture20 · · Score: 1

    One of the best reasons for role playing games or computer games. I've got friends that regularly waste thousands of dollars on their hobbies, and other friends that invested $100 in a few rulebooks or game CDs, and only spend regular cash on mountain dew and cheetos.

  37. The CAUSE of the effect? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Guns don't kill; people do!
    Drugs don't consume people; people consume drugs!
    People don't use guns to kill; they use it to express themselves!
    People aren't addicted to drugs; they use them for a reason!

    DUH!

    I'm not an addict

  38. How social issues are unrelated to individuals ... by foobsr · · Score: 1

    The problem is a social one rather than a psychological issue. In other words, the patients have turned to heavy gaming because they felt they didn't fit in elsewhere, or that they fit in better 'in the game' than elsewhere in 'the real world.'

    If this statement reflects the 'status quo' of the 'real world', it might indeed be better to look for a habitat elsewhere.

    CC.

    --
    TaijiQuan (Huang, 5 loosenings)
  39. Generalizations, the Sexes, and Relationships by ion.simon.c · · Score: 1

    Meh.
    Your generalization about males may be useful but -like all generalizations [1]- it's a lie. The classic counterexample to the "visual male" notion is the world of fashionable clothes. Many, many men don't care about how what they or their SOs wear looks. Comfort and functionality are most often higher priorities than looks.
    Are men "wired" differently than women? Probably. Does this matter? Probably not. IMO, most of the evolutionarily motivated explanations of each sex's behaviour are axe-grindy pseudo-science with little to no basis in reality. [2]

    Getting back to the topic at hand... Did you also discuss the possibility that he's just not that interested in her? Some guys (and gals) are "in a relationship" just to keep the bed warm, as it were.

    [1] Even this one!
    [2] Just like most of what I have to say!

  40. If it's not addiction by SupremoMan · · Score: 1

    why are they trying to cure it?

  41. Future hobby club renaissance by AlpineR · · Score: 2, Insightful

    I'm not surprised that hobby clubs are dying. As you say, face-to-face was the best way to acquire knowledge prior to the Internet Age. But now it seems like an extraordinary waste of time - invest three hours with people you barely know to maybe get the same information you can now find with two minutes on Google. If your goal is to learn about and discuss your hobby then the Internet truly blows away the hobby club.

    But, as some of us realize, face-to-face meeting is still valuable for other reasons. You're more likely to learn something you didn't know that you wanted to know. You develop relationships that provide support outside of the narrow topic of formal interest. And humans are hyper-social creatures that thrive on the richness of face-to-face interaction.

    The desire for face-to-face relationships has already led to the Internet being used as a source to find them: online dating, flash mobs, meetup groups. Maybe, with the Internet becoming more common than the telephone and a greater appreciation for what's lost without face-to-face interaction, there will be a rebirth of hobby clubs organized and supported with the efficiency of the Internet.

    1. Re:Future hobby club renaissance by Aladrin · · Score: 1

      "But, as some of us realize, face-to-face meeting is still valuable for other reasons. You're more likely to learn something you didn't know that you wanted to know."

      You present this as a fact, but I disagree. The number of these things I've learned from forums far outweighs the number that I've learned in face-to-face meetings, even when you consider time spent in each situation.

      "And humans are hyper-social creatures that thrive on the richness of face-to-face interaction."

      Also presented as facts without proof. Personally, I'm not that kind of person. I enjoy face-time occasionally, but I'd prefer to spend the majority of my time away from other people and their annoying habits. I'm not the only one like this, either.

      To keep trying to make humans be what they have been in the past is to deny progress. If we had taken that attitude from the start, we'd never have started farming, let alone driving or flying or anything else that makes us what we are today.

      --
      "If you make people think they're thinking, they'll love you; But if you really make them think, they'll hate you." - DM
    2. Re:Future hobby club renaissance by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      But, as some of us realize, face-to-face meeting is still valuable for other reasons. You're more likely to learn something you didn't know that you wanted to know.

      That's what StumbleUpon is for :)

  42. From a psychological point of view... by Ardeaem · · Score: 1

    From a psychological point of view (yes, IIAP), you cannot separate social factors and addiction. There is no such thing as "true" addiction without a social component. This is one of the most interesting things about addiction; often, the problems that a person has with a drug, even a hard drug, work themselves out when a person changes social contexts. We are social animals, and to think of a complex thing as addiction without a social context is not reasonable.

    Whether they were "truly" addicted is a strange question, which reveals a (false) essentialist viewpoint.

  43. Let's be clear here. by hesaigo999ca · · Score: 1

    You are an addict if your life revolves around something enough that your life suffers,
    your friends do not want to be in contact any longer, you family thinks you are wasting away,
    you have trouble getting yourself proper nutrition, you fail in your responsibilities
    AND THIS IS NOT USUALLY YOUR NORMAL BEHAVIOR.

    There are some that fall under this rule, without being an addict, but those, there is nothing you can do for. I agree if you are socially more accepted in the game, it is a bit pathetic, but having
    my on WoW account, at lvl 73 I rest assured that whenever I need to do something around the house, I do it. I would rather be playing WoW...but I can easily tell you, I would never leave a baby in bathwater, and forget about it (as per a story I read somewhere on the web...too lazy for a link)

    Ok...90% are not addicted, but there exists still that 10% which is!

  44. Re:Could it be because addicts do not seek treatme by hesaigo999ca · · Score: 1

    Oh no...i think i am having a relapse....i can't stop my hand from reaching the keyboard...and stroking the keys....damn, yeah I definitely relapsed!

  45. games with limits by Master+Rux · · Score: 1

    That's why I like browser games like http://www.wittyrpg.com./ It's browser based so I can feed my game addiction from anywhere(work) but it has a limit on how much you can play in a day so I'm not wasting my entire day with games.

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    IMO the best browser game ever http://wittyrpg.com
  46. That's what SHE said! by shiba_mac · · Score: 1

    no comments on this please!

  47. The above Troll mod was brought to you by. . . by Fantastic+Lad · · Score: 1

    the satire-impaired.

    -FL

  48. Creepy crawly by Fantastic+Lad · · Score: 1

    Hm. Advising people to feel okay about self-destructive, obsessive behavior? That's something of a reversal for this clown. But I suppose it's marginally better than his advising them to kill themselves in response to social injustice. Sleep or kill yourself. Nice.

    Keep your eye on this creepy-crawly. His psychotic bullshit-storm is something to see!

    -FL

    1. Re:Creepy crawly by unity100 · · Score: 1

      you had given a link containing a lot of psychotic behaviour belonging to you. kudos. i wouldnt be able to find it myself if i had tried to, but since you havent been able to get over it and still keep the link to it handy, i dont even need to. you will be there for me, providing the link.

      thank you. oh and by the way, i loved your parent comment too, a lot of insults, a lot of aggression. trademark.

  49. And in action by phorm · · Score: 1

    My GF has a close friend who's been bitten by this. Not personally, but apparently her boyfriend - despite having rather hefty debts - decided to quit his high-paying job and enroll in a "golf school" in order to learn how to become a golf pro. Prior to that he was taking every opportunity to cut out and hit the range.

    Seems like a hobby that did indeed become an addiction.

  50. That's all well and good, but... by Plugh · · Score: 1

    it doesn't explain why I spent the majority of my waking hours for the past month in the devnull nethack tournament!

  51. Introversion by AlpineR · · Score: 1

    The number of these things I've learned from forums far outweighs the number that I've learned in face-to-face meetings.

    For technical information in the same field, yes you'll learn more on the forum than from a group of friends across town. But from the friends you'll learn about a good new restaurant, a festival this weekend, and an obscure board game that you'll love. From a face-to-face meeting with your boss you'll learn about off-the-record information that he wouldn't put in an email but could have a big impact on your career.

    I enjoy face-time occasionally, but I'd prefer to spend the majority of my time away from other people and their annoying habits.

    I'm very sympathetic to introversion. I need a lot of downtime and alone time. But if I'm alone in my apartment for days on end then I get bored and depressed no matter how much online interaction I have. It shouldn't be very controversial to say that most people would be unhappy and unhealthy if confined to a cubicle and computer screen all the time. Even a strongly introverted human is still very social compared to other species of animals that evolved to be truly solitary.

  52. another good reason not to dilute "addictive" by brre · · Score: 1
    Just another good reason not to dilute the clear meaning of the term "addictive" as in "as addictive as cocaine or heroin". The term means chemically dependent on. Although behavior is an indicant handy for making a diagnosis, the chemical dependency that drives the behavior is what you diagnose.

    There are lots of high frequency behaviors that have nothing to do with chemical dependency, and "addictive" is simply the wrong term for them. Try "habit" or "obsession" or some such.

  53. choose vs force by Riquez · · Score: 1

    If I choose to do something for long periods at a time, its called addiction.

    If I'm forced to do something for long periods at a time, its called work.

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  54. about time... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    no shit, not everyone likes to go get hammered at a lame ass bar with stupid assholes. why do that we wen can just shoot em? :), yes a bit cynical but fuck off, im sure more than 75% of you reading this know EXACTLY what im talking about..

  55. I'm not addicted... by Tastecicles · · Score: 1

    No, really, I'm not.

    I just CAN'T PUT IT DOWN!!

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    Operation Guillotine is in effect.
  56. Text book. Really. Look it up. by Fantastic+Lad · · Score: 1

    you had given a link containing a lot of psychotic behaviour belonging to you.

    Bingo! That's the text book delusion. --Anybody with interest will be able to judge accordingly for his or herself. It's actually a fascinating study of one of the most aggressive, non-repentant, logically twisted and generally stunning examples of psychotic narcissism I've ever encountered. To not keep that fly under glass would be a crime to an entire branch of social study!

    thank you. oh and by the way, i loved your parent comment too, a lot of insults, a lot of aggression. trademark.

    Aggression? Ha ha! I think the term is, "Accurate description." I'd have picked less colloquial wordings, but 'creep-crawly' fits like a glove. --As a point of interest, the narcissistic delusional always accuses others of its own pattern of violation. The linked thread is quite stunning, and it becomes more so as the psychotic's confidence increased through the belief that the forum became less and less populated and thus his behavior less likely to be observed by others over the course of several days. Psychotics prefer to do their work in the dark. Seriously; by the end, this particular subject, mistaking polite dialogue for weakness and believing I was somehow tenderized enough, actually attempted to place himself in the position of personal cultic guru. It was quite sick, and I certainly sympathize with any flesh and blood people under his sway. I encourage everybody to read through the thread and learn how to spot these types. Knowledge protects. When you see this kind of behavior in your life, you are not nuts and you should feel no shame in cutting off the leach. There are several techniques, and frank openness and community are your primary allies. Chances are, you will not be the only one who has been subject to manipulation and attack from the same source. "Forgive and Forget" and "Turn the other cheek" are false tactics, which will only allow the psychotic to continue to feed.

    And of this creep in question. . . How IS that ego doing these days? --Managed to chip any corners off? Considered even once the possibility of even a small error and adjusted thought patterns accordingly? No? Ego is the first thing which should be on the chopping block for any 'good guy'. --Also, a re-examination of the whole promoting mass suicide and self-destructive video game addiction as healthy behavior is in order. But from all indications, I very much doubt the capability exists.

    -FL

  57. Re:Text book. Really. Look it up. by unity100 · · Score: 1

    replying to a person specifically, and then talking as if s/he was third person like 'And of this creep in question. . .' is indicative of a lot of personality disorders than your entire post reeks out.

    or, do you speak of yourself in third person too, like 'Fantastic Lad hungry' or 'Fantastic Lad pee pee' ?

    check yourself. you got fixated on some long gone discussion, and typing up entire essays fixated on the same point. you have problems.

    not the cognitive perception ability problem, that causes you not to be able to understand the futility of living if you had lived in 12th century and were a feudal lord's serf, but real personality disorders.

    get a doc.

  58. Mirroring. by Fantastic+Lad · · Score: 1

    One of the most reliably indicative traits of the psychopathic personality is that of mirroring behavior. Without any internal ability to produce genuine human responses of their own, psychopaths in their attempts to mimic what to them is the incomprehensible behavior of normal humans, must rely entirely on observation. This results in a series of traits, including as previously noted, that of blaming their victims for the crimes they have themselves committed. This extends in part from a predatory element of game theory; the psychopath learns at a young age that when they mirror the behavior and emotions expressed by their target, that their target will see themselves in the psychopath, and thus believe the psychopath to be capable of compassion. The victim seeing themselves, lower their defenses due to their being in the company of a presumed 'like mind'.

    The interesting thing, however, is that the psychopath does not, cannot, grasp that there are times when this type of mirroring creates inappropriate and awkward-sounding responses. --This is the reason why psychopaths can be regularly heard to make strange comments which are out of context or 'odd' sounding; language usage which is peppered with logical flaws despite an otherwise often powerful intelligence. Even as dead a giveaway as this is, however, people find it very hard to notice. Normal people automatically attempt to justify and correct for these errors in real time even as they hear and observe them in others; people will bend over backwards to excuse the psychopath's odd behavior because they assume there is a real person behind the mask of sanity, and so in a sense, fill in the gaps, based on the assumption that they are dealing with a person with a properly working human mind. In effect, because people have compassion, they question if it is not instead their own limitations in perception which are causing the hiccups and not the other way around, especially when the psychopath appears so very confident and intelligent. It is counter-intuitive and by no means automatic to assume that one is really dealing with an alien, predatory intelligence. Because of this, the psychopath finds it very easy to remain hidden in human society. Humans are socially wired to look the other way and ignore warning signs. It is not until one endeavors to observe the psychopath from a clinical perspective that the gross errors stack up and the 'wrongness' becomes apparent.

    The example above is a good illustration of the mirroring effect; after being described as mentally damaged, (the complaint), the subject attempts to return the very same accusation, despite the obvious logical flaws in the argument. --Were this subject to have stolen money or physically abused a victim, then it would have accused the victim of that very same thing, always attempting to play the supplicant. You will notice that all other relevant points I used to support the original observation have been completely ignored; facts are seen by the psychopath as merely tools to be manipulated or ignored as necessary to advance the game. Note also the strange language construction used throughout, all items typical of the psychopathic personality.

    Note that it is entirely possible that the psychopath really does believe that there is something wrong with me in writing about it in the third person! --It's not just a broken argument on its part. The psychopath lives perpetually at the center of it's own universe; it is actually fundamentally inconceivable that it can exist in the third person to others. I'll get into more about that particular phenomenon later.

    There are numerous other elements about the psychopath which are of interest. Hopefully the one we have under glass here will jump around for us a bit more so we can observe some of those other traits as they pop up.

    -FL

    1. Re:Mirroring. by unity100 · · Score: 1

      there is also something called projection you know. research it a bit.